30th Sunday In Ordinary Time by The Parish of Saint Mary

The parish of saint Mary

A Catholic Community Proclaiming the Greatness of God in our Time

OnePhalanxRoad,ColtsNeck,NJ07722

Phone:732-780-2666 Fax:732-780-0394

Bishop of the Diocese of Trenton: Most Reverend David M. O’Connell, C. M.

Pastor: Reverend Fr. Jeffrey E. Lee

Pastor Emeritus: Reverend Fr. William J. Bausch

Parish Trustees: Annette Raynor & Roger Zurro

30th Sunday in Ordinary Time

October 27, 2024

Solemnity of All Saints Mass Schedule [The Parish of Saint Mary & Church of Saint Catharine] Our Church: Thursday, October 31, 4:00 PM Mass Friday, November 1, 12:00 PM Mass Church of St. Catharine, Holmdel: Friday, November 1, 9:00 AM & 7:30 PM Mass

Mass Intentions for:

Saturday October 26 2024 - Sunday November 3 2024

Saturday, October 26– 4PM

Estelle Borowski * Family

Jennie Borowski * Family

Steven Parkes * Parkes Family

Sunday, October 27–8AM

Sharon Pellegrino * Rock Family

Eamonn Fagan * Hugh and Phyllis Murphy

Isabel Reyes de Nieves * Vanessa Nieves 10AM

Agnes Brunner * John and Molly Aiello 12PM

Pro Populo

Ryan Stevens * Joann and Robert Buhler

Irena and Zygfryd Pietrowicz * Family

Monday, October 28 - 9AM

Virginia Hamlin * Michele Telesca

Tuesday, October 29 - 9AM

Darryl Turkaly * Rorie and Jack Coppola

Wednesday, October 30 - 9AM

Roy Bannon * Dawn Burtone

Kevin J Conochan * The Burtone Family

Thursday, October 31- 9AM

Dee Dorrian * The Dorrian Family

Josehine and Paul Kopcha * Sessa Family

4PM

Anna Vispetti * Lorraine Lee

2025

The 2025 Mass Intention Book is now open for requests throughout the year.

Requests will be time & date stamped when received to provide order of entry into the book. Submit your requests online click here or by printing and filling out our PDF click hereAvailability of dates is on a first come, first served basis. Please be sure to have several options for your desired dates so that we can accommodate you properly. Make sure to choose a combination of Sunday and weekday masses for your intentions. Christmas, Easter and the Sacred Triduum are not available for intentions. The suggested stipend for a Mass Intention is $10.00 and has been set by the N.J. Bishops in the Province of Newark. Stipends are to be paid at the time of submitting your request by cash, check. or credit card. If you need assistance, please contact the Parish Office at (732) 780-2666.

Friday, November 1– 12PM

Mary Lou Smith * Barbara Saake

Jon Kopko * John Walsh

Saturday, November 2- 4PM

Pro Populo

Ed & Marge Eastman * Verga Family

Vaughn Bigelow Jr. * Jay and Joyce Flynn

Sunday November 3 - 8AM

Pam Graboski * Rock Family

Carol M. Restrick * Jay and Joyce Flynn

Raymond S. Czarnecki * Alice Ganley

10AM

Billy Gabbard * Gabbard family

Dora Meeker * Parker Family

William Donohue * Jane Slattery

12PM

Special Request * Bob Amling

Robert A. & Mary Joan McNamara * The McNamara Family Fr. Xavier Vitacolonna, C.P. * Richard and Maria Gerbino

Mass Intention Requests

Requests can be made in person by stopping at the parish office, or online HERE. Suggested stipend is $10.

All Souls Remembrance ForthemonthofNovember

It is the Church’s custom to reserve the month of November for the remembrance of all the faithful departed. Please use your All Souls envelope to write the names of those loved ones you would like to remember and kindly drop it in the collection boxes anytime by November 1st. The envelopes will be wrapped and placed near the tabernacle, and an intention will be added to the prayer of the faithful in the Masses celebrated on All Souls Day and during the month of November. Online givers can also send in their All Souls remembrance thru our online giving system at GIVE ONLINE HERE

Thank you for preserving our Catholic traditions and honoring those who have gone before us.

Msgr. Troiano 45th Anniversary of Ordination. Sunday November 24th 12 Noon Mass and Reception to follow: Narthax / Gathering Space

Lifelong Catechesis - Week of October 27– November 2

READINGS FOR THE WEEK:

30th Sunday in Ordinary Time

Jer 31:7-9/Heb 5:1-6/Mk 10:46-52

MONDAY October 28

Eph 2:19-22/Lk 6:12-16

TUESDAY October 29

Eph 5:21-33/Lk 13:18-21

WEDNESDAY October 30

Eph 6:1-9/Lk 13:22-30

THURSDAY October 31

Eph 6:10-20/Lk 13:31-35

FRIDAY November 1

Rv 7:2-4, 9-14/1 Jn 3:1-3/Mt 5:1-12a

SATURDAY November 2

(All Souls’ Day)

Any readings from no. 668 or from the Masses for the Dead

Almighty and eternal God, those who take refuge in you will be glad and forever will shout for joy. Protect these soldiers as they discharge their duties. Protect them with the shield of your strength and keep them safe from all evil and harm. May the power of your love enable them to return home in safety, that with all who love them, they may ever praise you for your loving care. We ask this through Christ our Lord.

Pray for Military & First Responders

AMT Colton Boag, USCG

Col. John Anthony Coppola, US Army

TSgt Stephen Witherow, USAF

LCpl Edward Zarzecki, USMC

FOR DEEPER REFLECTION:

Question for Children: What would you like to ask Jesus for?

Question for Youth: “Master, I want to see!” What do you most want to be able to “see” in your own life? How are you blind?

Question for Adults: What does it mean for you to “see”? Are there blind spots in your life?

Life Long Catechesis

Lt. Col. Douglas Coppola, US Army

~ Lt. Mary Herman, USN

SN Christian Houlihan, USN

LT. Jason Joseph Howe, USN

SPC Michael John Mento, US Army

LTJG Matthew Motola, USN

LCpl Bradley O’Ree, USMC

SPC Nicholas Poskonka, US Army

Captain Richard Savo, US Army

1st Lt. Adam Sjoholm, US Army

Captain Ryan Tanguay, US Army

Pleaseprayforthefollowingmembersofourparishcommunitywhoareill:

Lori Lettieri

Lauren vinci

Jack Coppola

Kaitlin Donahue Nagle

TOM JACOBSON

Dawn Reinhardt

Gerard Thompson

Rose walch

Joyce daniel

Robert a . monaco, md

Jeff McBride

Owen Shoemaker

Peter Vickers

Toaddorremoveafamilymemberfromthesicklistpleasee-mailONLY parishbulletin@stmaryscoltsneck.org. Please,also,keepusupdatedonyourlovedone’shealth. Nameswillberemovedfromthelistafter3months.ThankyouforkeepingourParishinformed.

Worship & Music

All Hallow’s Eve

Andrew J. Macirowski - Pastoral Coordinator for Worship & Music / Principal Organist

Worship@stmaryscoltsneck.org

Music@stmaryscoltsneck.org

The vigil ofAll Saints’Day,All Hallow’s Eve, or Halloween, has its roots in the older Christian traditions of holding vigils on the evening prior to a Holy Day in the Church. After a vigil service, worshipers would visit a cemetery and light candles or lay flowers in anticipation of the coming days. In some cultures, there was a belief that on this evening, the veil between the worlds of the living and the dead was weak, and people would don masks and costumes so that a departed soul would not recognize them, hence the beginnings of trick-or-treating.

All Saints’Day

The Solemnity ofAll Saints, a Holy Day of Obligation, is the day when the church celebrates all the Saints and Martyrs, including those unknown, and honors the Church Triumphant (saints and others who have entered the Kingdom of Heaven). It is a day that reminds us of our eternal reward, and of the Saints who have lived (and sometimes given) their lives in service of the Church.

The Commemoration ofAll the Faithful Departed

Commonly known asAll Souls’Day, The Commemoration ofAll the Faithful Departed is a Roman Catholic feast, in which the living faithful pray for the faithful departed who have not yet attained their heavenly reward, as their souls are purified in purgatory. Masses held on this day are in memory of all those who have died (hence the name, ALL Souls), and it is customary to visit the graves of loved ones following Mass, and to pray for the happy repose of their souls. Some worship communities have prayer services at cemeteries as well, with graveside blessings. Others choose to remember, in a special way, those who have specifically died within the past year.

Blessed Teresa of Calcutta, Religious, 1910-1997

Our saint this week provides an excellent example of obedience to Jesus’ command: “Love one another as I have loved you.”

Agnes Gonxha Bojaxhiu was born in Skopje, Macedonia, on August 27, 1910. As a young girl, Agnes developed the desire to serve God as a missionary. The desire was strengthened at age twelve when a Jesuit missionary visited her classroom and spoke of his ministry to the people of India. This inspiration led to her joining the Sisters of Loreto when she reached the age of eighteen. The sisters, an Irish community that had schools in India, sent Agnes to one of these communities soon after she joined. When the young lady took her initial vows, she chose the name of Teresa after Thérèse of Lisieux, a saint that she greatly admired. Upon taking her final vows in 1937, she became Mother Teresa.

THIRTIETHSUNDAYIN ORDINARYTIME

Almighty and everlasting God, increase in us the gifts of faith, hope, and charity; and, that we may obtain what you promise, make us love what you command; through Jesus Christ our Lord, who lives and reigns with you and the Holy Spirit, one God, for ever and ever. Amen. (LectionaryPage.net)

GROTTO CANDLES

The Grotto Candles are available for your prayer intentions. Offering is $3.00 per candle.

Jennifer Stubbs

TH - Richard Gerbino

TH - Lee Gesner

ALT– Ron Habbard

Baptismal Preparation Session

St Mary Parish is offering our next Baptismal Preparation Session on: SUNDAY, November 3, 2024

Pre-registrationisrequired aweekinadvance.

ContactUs

Sunday,November3,2024,at11AM atMadonnaHall

Attendance is mandatory for those wishing to become parishioners at the Parish of St. Mary. Please contact the Parish Office if you wish to attend (732)-780-2666

Faith Formation

Julia Cullen - Pastoral Coordinator of Faith Formation / Religion Ed

ReligiousEd@stmaryscoltsneck.org 732-780-2666 X 309

Religious Education Calendar

26 October 2024

Halloween Halls

3,5 November 2024

Confirmation Prep Class

16 November 2024 Fall Cleanup 9 AM-1 PM Sign up on page 11

16 November 2024

Nativity Play Rehearsal

2:30 - 3:30 PM Theater

16 November 2024

Thanksgiving Basket sort 8:30 AM Narthex

17,19 November 2024

Confirmation Prep Class

23 November 2024

Nativity Play Rehearsal 2:30 - 3:30 PM Theater

30 November 2024

Nativity Play Rehearsal 2:30 - 3:30 PM Theater

SERVICE HOUR OPPORTUNITIES FOR 7th & 8th GRADERS

THANKSGIVING FOOD DRIVE

Two ways to serve - No registration required

1.) Food donations: One hour of service will be awarded for two complete shopping lists and a half hour for each additional food list. (3-hour maximum). Include name, grade, and email for each complete shopping list. See page 12

2.) Food sort: Help sort, pack, and load food for delivery to charities on November 16, 2024 in the Narthex.

PASS OUT FLYERS TO EARN

SERVICE HOURS CLICK HERE TO SIGN UP

IMPORTANT RELIGIOUS ED LINKS

2024 - 2025

• 2024 - 2025 RE Calendar grades 1-8

• 24/25 Fall RE Calendar grades 1-6

• Parent - Student 24/25 Handbook

• Intergenerational List

• Intergenenerational Recording link

This weekend we welcome all to our Annual Halloween Halls INTERGENERATIONAL. Beginning at 4 PM mass in the church, we continue to Madonna Hall to enjoy our “Saints and Superhero Haunted House”. Come in costume!

We are now accepting sign-ups to be apart of our Nativity Play that will be performed on 21 December 2024 in the theater, beginning with 4 PM mass. First rehearsal is on 16 November, 2:30-3:30 in the theater, followed by 4 PM mass SIGN UP LINK HERE TO BE APART OF THE SHOW, all students in grades 1-6 are welcome

The Diocese of Trenton has partnered with NCCL on the Parents and Families at the Center of Faith

Formation This 5 year grant funded project engages 200 parishes across the country. It will focus on how to transmit the faith to families from baptism to H.S It seeks to create parish communities that intentionally support and accompany parents .

Families of children recently baptized, along with those involved in Religious Education, received an email containing a link to participate in the NCCL Survey Monkey. We encourage you to fill it out to help in collecting data for the study.

Click HERE for full description of project

CONGRATULATIONS

To Our First Communicants!

Then he took the bread, said the blessing, broke it, and gave it to them saying, “This is my body, which will be given for you; do this in memory of me This cup is the new covenant in my blood, which will be shed for you” Luke 22:19-20

Santino Alagna

Guliana Alexander

Mia Alicea

Callie Alicea

Giancarlo Amato

Alivia Annunziata

Connor Baione

Gregory Carmignani

Declan Christensen

Matthew Cicero

Daniel Clune

Quinn Coppola

Catherine Covalesky

Kelly Daly

Joseph DePierro

Louisa Dillon

Sophia Duarte

Gage Fedina

Elizabeth Galletta

Sienna Hanley

Jax Heal

Scarlett Helms

Luke Johnston

Jack LaRocca

Frank LaRocca

Jack Luthman

Mario Liberatore

Jacob Lopusznick

Gianna Minucci

Jacob Monteforte

John Novelli

Rocco Novelli

Camilla Pace

Gianluca Palmeri

Emma Perrine

Luca Pesce

Charlotte Reinfurt

Daniel Roach

Nicholas Sarapochillo

Maximus Schibell

Angelina Settineri

Eric Schrider

Faye Sette

Quinn Sweeney

Brian Toolan

Olympia Toolan

Austin Umans

Carina Williams

Brielle Young

Ketlyn Zioboro

Thank You for your Generosity For World Mission Sunday Annual Appeal Collection

HonortheLORDwithyourwealth,withthe firstfruitsofallyourproduce;Thenwill yourbarnsbefilledwithgrain,withnew wineyourvatswilloverflow.Proverbs 3:9‐10

Corporate Matching

Several firms and corporations offer matching gift programs to benefit religious organizations, charities and other nonprofits to promote philanthropy amongst their employees. St Mary Parish is a registered charitable organization with the IRS and is also listed in GuideStar which is required by some of the corporate matching gift programs. Please consult with your employer to sign up for their matching gift program. If you have any question or need help signing St Mary Parish for corporate matched contributions, please contact Edwin at the Parish Office, 732-780-2666 x312. Thank you for your support!

Please remember the Parish of Saint Mary in your will..

By naming St. Mary in your will or trust, you will provide a lasting gift that will greatly help St. Mary and our parishioners. Thank you for your consideration.

Sign-in for our Online Giving system to make your parish offerings from your bank account or Credit Card!

To set up an online giving account please visit https://giving.parishsoft.com/smcn

Alternatively, just Text SUNDAY to (732)-889-7800 and follow the instructions to complete your offering. Should you require our assistance setting up your new account, please call the parish office at (732)780-2666.

You can also download the Connect Now Giving App for Android or iOS.Thank you for your continuous support!

THANK YOU ! For all your efforts in supporting the Annual Catholic Appeal! Please continue to make your pledge payments so that our parish can receive the maximum rebate. If you haven't made a pledge yet please go to www.dioceseoftrenton.org/catholicappeal to send your gift electronically. Make sure to select St. Mary Catholic Church, Colts Neck in the Parish Affiliation box so we can receive credit for your gift.

Thank you for your prayers and support

My Dear Parishioners:

Quo vadis...

Today we celebrate the Thirtieth Sunday in Ordinary Time. Without persistence in prayer it will be impossible for us to follow Jesus faithfully on the road of selfgiving. The encounter with Jesus in prayer keeps healthy and strong our relationship to him. The prayer of petition reminds us that disciples can do nothing on their own without Jesus’ help. Only with Jesus will we disciples not stumble (see first reading). The paschal mystery rhythm of dying and rising plays itself out in many ways this Sunday in a rhythm of ministry and prayer. In practical, everyday terms this means that at times we are doing our faith reaching out to those around us in need; at other times we are being our faith taking time to let our God be present to us in prayer.

Thanks to all those who sacrificially support the Annual World Mission Sunday Collection. These resources are used to continue the mission of the Church to evangelize every corner of the earth. Our participation continues to show forth the true universality of the Catholic Church. We send our gifts to the Society for the Propagation of the Faith.

We have concluded our celebrations of First Holy Communion for 2024. It is a beautiful time to be with these children and their families. The Sacrament if Confirmation was conferred. These teens are now full members of our Catholic Church. I hope that they are courageous enough to take their place and get involved. A special thanks to Rose Farrow who completes her tenure with our RE Sacramental Program. She has been instrumental in helping us to offer the very best after a number of years of instability. Rose continues on our staff overseeing OCIA, Adult Faith Formation and Pastoral Care here and at Saint Catherine, Holmdel. Thanks also to our Parish Catechetical Leader Julia Cullen, her team and all of our catechists.

This weekend we welcome children and their families to the Saturday 4:00pm mass for the Annual Halloween Halls. Sunday we welcome those families who have buried a loved one during the past 12 months. Our prayerful support is a source of consolation for these families. Consult the electronic bulletin for more particulars. Our parish Lazarus Ministry will welcome family members who buried a loved one from our parish. This is a very important ministry for us and it is

the responsibility of all to bury the dead. Thank you for all of your support for this important ministry. They are very effective in ministering to those who experience the death of a loved one. We also thank those who help to facilitate bereavement ministry in our parish. Walking with those who have experienced the death of a loved one as they courageously continue their discipleship journey.

Next week we begin the month of November…the month of All Saints and All Souls. This is an important part of our Christian Spirituality. Each of us is called to holiness. Each of us struggles with our personal sinfulness. Let us journey through this month with a renewed sense of what it means for us to be a part of the Communion of Saints. Through the intercession of the saints may we continue to model our faith to those around us at home and in the workplace. Let us ever be mindful of the need to pray for the repose of the souls of those who have gone before us. This is a daily reminder that life is a gift and we are merely stewards; therefore, let us make the most of each and every day. Our Parish Book of Remembrance will be displayed so that we might pray for those who died in the past year. The Paschal Candle will be lit throughout the month to serve as a reminder that Christ is our light. The Solemnity of All Saints is a Holy Day of Obligation. The Mass Schedule here at Saint Mary and at Saint Catherine has been prepared for your convenience. Make time to come to honor the saints and pray for the saints of our time.

It is my hope that most of you will soon receive our 2024 Annual Parish Stewardship Report. This report is being sent to all our parishioners electronically. Many thanks to Edwin Sevillano and all those staff members and parishioners who have made this publication possible. Please take time to read it carefully and become better informed parishioners and stakeholders in the mission of our parish. Have a great week. Let us remember one another in prayer.

Happy Sunday. Peace. Father Jeff

2024 FALL CLEAN UP

The crisp Fall air has crept up on us this September, and leaves are beginning to coat the grounds... Which means we will be joining together soon in fellowship for our Fall-Clean Up on Saturday, November 16! Clean up will begin at 9:00 AM and go on until 1:00 PM Those attending will meet on the campus grounds. Don’t forget to sign-up HERE!

Tickets are being sold through November 11th at the parish office. The proceeds of which will benefit New Jersey Right to Life, the state’s oldest and largest pro-life organization, dedicated to protecting all human life from conception to natural death. Tickets are available UNTIL November 11th for $10 each in the Parish Office.

The prizes this year are:

1st Prize 2025 Volvo XC40 AWD SUV

2nd Prize $1,000 ShopRite Gift Card

3rd Prize $750 ShopRite Gift Card

4th Prize - $500 ShopRite Gift Card

Please show your support for LIFE by buying a raffle ticket. The cost is $10.00 per ticket.

DONATION DRIVE HURRICANE HELENE

We are collecting donations for victims of Hurricane Helene

Now through Sunday, November 3.

Any donations are greatly appreciated! Donations can be left in the box in the narthex

The following items are most needed:

• Non-perishable food including baby food

• Diapers and formula

• Feminine supplies

• Blankets and towels

• New or gently used warm clothing

• Coats

• Hats

• Gloves

• Extension cords

• Flashlights

• Batteries

For questions about donations or more information: Please email anthonygruenling@gmail.com or mgruenling18@gmail.com

All items will be delivered to our contact in Toms River who is working with the Jersey Aero Club to Fly donations to where road-based relief can't reach yet. Thank you for your support!

“Light Up a Memory”

Preparations for the "Memory Tree" lighting this year have already started. A $10.00 contribution signifies a light in memory of a deceased loved one, or in honor of a living person.

His/her name will be inscribed in a special "Memory Book", which will be on display in the Church Narthex.

Each $10.00 also entitles the donor to a Remembrance cards available in the Church Office during regular office hours for those who want to pick them up.

The deadline for submissions is December 2, 2024.

Submissions after deadline are included in the addendum of the Memory Book.

Participants are also invited to the joyous tree lighting ceremony, at the 4:00 pm Mass on Saturday, December 14, 2024.

Please follow link HERE to sponsor a light.

Thanksgiving

Baskets Collection

“Then Jesus declared, “I am the bread of life. Whoever comes to me will never go hungry, and whoever believes in me will never be thirsty.” John 3:65

Every year, Saint Mary Parish parishioners generously provide donations for Thanksgiving Baskets for over 200 families who are in need in the Monmouth County area.

Stuffing

Gravy

Green Beans (Canned)

Corn (Canned)

Canned Yams,

Potatoes or Rice

Macaroni & Cheese

Canned Fruit

Cranberry Sauce

Coffee or Tea Bags

Corn Muffin Mix

Pie Crust Mix & Pie

Filling OR

Cake Mix & Frosting

Please purchase items to feed a family of four

Please bring your donation to the Cry Room off the Church Narthex October 28 – November 16

Food sort will begin at 8:30am November 16

The Parish of Saint Mary provides turkeys along with the non-perishable food. We ask for monetary donations towards the purchase of turkeys HERE -or- please make a check payable to “Parish of Saint Mary” and put Thanksgiving Food Drive in the memo section.

HELP US EXCEED LAST YEAR’S DONATIONS OF 300 BAGS OF GROCERIES AND 180 TURKEYS TO GREATER SERVE THE NEEDS OF THE COMMUNITY AT LARGE.

Offerings at Francis House of Prayer Trenton Diocesan Spiritual Center and Retreat House 84 Walnford Road • Allentown, NJ 08501

609-877-0509 or FHOP@verizon.net

Please check www.FHOP.org for dates, registration, directions and for our other offerings! All programs will be offered online and in-person unless otherwise indicated.

IN-PERSON ONLY GOD BLESS AMERICA MORE THINGS ARE WROUGHT BY PRAYER

Tuesday, November 5 9:30 AM – 1:00 PM

Francis House is a House of Prayer and on this Election Day we will do just that! Without any political conversation we will spend the morning in prayer for the holiness and peace of our nation as well as for all nations. If you feel drawn by God to pray for our country, please come and join us. We will end with Liturgy and lunch and have a peaceful prayerful day for the good of the world. A morning of prayer is always good! Donation: $25, includes lunch.

ELIZABETH OF THE TRINITY “A PRAISE OF GLORY”

Tuesday, November 12 9:30 AM – 1:30 PM

We will explore the spirituality of St. Elizabeth of the Trinity using some of her major spiritual writings. There will be time to reflect and pray as St. Elizabeth shows us “the greatness of our vocation” as people made in the image and likeness of God, who “loves exceedingly.” Donation: $35, includes Liturgy and lunch. Zoom: $25

DOROTHY DAY BIG THINGS COME IN SMALL PACKAGES

Wednesday, November 20 9:30 AM – 12:00 PM

We will use a sampling of Dorothy’s essays to meet her at the heart and to learn how she lived out God’s call to serve in every small way possible. She lived and loved, following in the footsteps of her mentor, St. Thérèse of Lisieux. Donation: $20