Bulletin for October 17, 2021

The parish of saint Mary A Catholic Community Proclaiming the Greatness of God in our Time One Phalanx Road, Colts Neck, NJ 07722 Phone: 732-780-2666 Fax: 732-780-0394 parishoffice@stmaryscoltsneck.org

Bishop of the Diocese of Trenton: Most Reverend David M. O’Connell, C. M. Pastor: Reverend Fr. Jeffrey E. Lee Pastor Emeritus: Reverend Fr. William J. Bausch : Worship schedule inside.

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The 29th Sunday in Ordinary Time

October 17, 2021 October is Respect Life Month

October is the month of the Holy Rosary

Please see HERE for additional information from the Diocese of Trenton.

Please see HERE for additional information from the United States Conference of Catholic Bishops.

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Mass Intentions for: Saturday, October 16th - Sunday, October 24th For * Requested by

Saturday, October 16 – 4 PM Church Pro Populo Paul Saake * Barbara Saake Branca and Richter Families * Francine and Joe Corcoran Sunday, October 17 – Church 8 AM Robert Arcoleo * Ed Brock Margaret Mary Mahon * Maureen and Michael Staub Lues Garcia * Neil and Jane Slattery 10 AM Souls in Purgatory * Mary Soyka Peggy Horan * Hugh and Phyllis Murphy Joseph Walsh III * Freda O’Doherty and Family 12 PM Charles Bradley * Margaret Bradley Stefne Jurgielewicz * Jeanne and Matt Cerbone Raphael Canta * Donna and Frank Sikorskas Monday, October 18 – 9 AM Chapel Edward McLeod * McLeod Family Souls in Purgatory * Mary Soyka Tuesday, October 19 – 9 AM Chapel Rev. Thomas Morris, O.SS.T * Rev. Fr. Jeffrey E. Lee, Staff and Parishioners Vera Fiorelli * Lorraine Lee

Wednesday, October 20 – 9 AM Chapel Maria Concetta * Pina Valenti Elizabeth Boyle * Rorie and Jack Coppola Thursday, October 21 – 9 AM Chapel Souls in Purgatory * Mary Soyka

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Please pray for the following members of our parish family who are ill: Kathleen Amatel Janice Basilice Fr Bill Bausch Eileen Beckley Rita Bonamo John Boyle Anne Boyle Christen Chellis Blake Conley Kaitlin Donahue Nagle Sharon Evangellista Joann Feliciti Cynthia Fiedler James Fiedler Emily Gioacchini Edward Habrack Tom Hudak

Anton Kopp Bridget Korn Bob Lind Lori Lettieri Donna Lodi Melissa Love Leonidas Mavrookas Ludwig Mendola Walter Moeller Kevin O’Shea Stanley Rembisz Owen Shoemaker Victoria Slater Gerard P. Thompson Seneida Tomasetti Lauren Vinci

To add a family member to the sick list for 8 weeks, please call or e-mail the Parish Office. Thank you! 732-780-2666 or parishbulletin@stmaryscoltsneck.org

Friday, October 22 – 9 AM Chapel Giacomo Rosati * Lorraine Lee Souls in Purgatory * Mary Soyka Saturday, October 23 - 4 PM Church Kay Simone * Marilyn and Carl Simone Doug Sidun * Family Mary Resko * Donna and Frank Sikorskas Sunday, October 24 – Church 8 AM Pro Populo DeStefano/Albruno Families * Mr. and Mrs. Franceschetti 10 AM Eileen Devaney * Devaney Family Frank Baker * Farrow Family Santo Calabrese * Raynor, Geiger and Rita Bonamo Families 12PM

Richard Gerbino * Richard and Maria Gerbino Souls in Purgatory * Mary Soyka

GROTTO CANDLES The Grotto Candles are available for your prayer intentions.

Offering is $3.00 per candle.

Parish Office Hours Monday 9 am – 2 pm Tuesday 2 pm -7:30 pm Wednesday 9 am – 2 pm Thursday 9 am – 2 pm Sunday 9 am -12 noon No office hours on Friday or Saturday

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3 Lifelong Catechesis Week of October 18th-

Almighty and eternal God, those who take refuge in you will be glad and forever will shout for joy.

Protect these soldiers as they discharge their duties.

Protect them with the shield of your strength and keep them safe from all evil and harm.

May the power of your love enable them to return home in safety, that with all who love them, they may ever praise you for your loving care.

We ask this through Christ our Lord.

PRAY for Military & First Responders SN Colton Boag, USCG LCpl Devon Francis Chrzan, USMC Lt. Col. John Anthony Coppola, US Army Major Douglas Coppola, US Army Lt. Mary Herman, USN SN Christian Houlihan, USN LT. Jason Joseph Howe, USN SPC Michael John Mento, US Army SPC Nicholas Poskonka, US Army Captain Richard Savo, US Army 1st Lt. Adam Sjoholm, US Army Captain Ryan Tanguay, US Army TSgt Stephen Witherow, USAF LCpl Edward Zarzecki, USMC If there is a family member you wish to be placed on the list, please contact the Parish Bulletin at 732780-2666 or parishbulletin@stmaryscoltsneck.org.

Welcome to the newest member of our Saint Mary Parish family Luca Linden Villamagna

Please remember in your prayers those who have recently passed.

Nora Reddington

READINGS FOR THE WEEK 18 Monday: 2 Timothy 4:10-17b / Luke 10:1-9 19 Tuesday: Romans 5:12, 15b, 17-21 / Luke 12:35-38 20 Wednesday: Romans 6:12-18 / Luke 12:39-48 21 Thursday: Romans 6:19-23 / Luke 12:49-53 22 Friday: Romans 7:18-25a / Luke 12:54-59 23 Saturday: Romans 8:1-11 / Luke 13:1-9 24 Sunday: THIRTIETH SUNDAY IN ORDINARY TIME Jeremiah 31:7-9 / Hebrews 5:1-6 / Mark 10:46-52

FOR DEEPER REFLECTION: Question for Children: What would you like to ask Jesus for?

Question for Youth: “Master, I want to see!” What do you most want to be able to “see” in your own life? How are you blind?

Question for Adults: What does it mean for you to “see”? Are there blind spots in your life?

Sanctuary Lamp Consider donating the sanctuary lamp that burns in the presence of the Blessed Sacrament in the Church or in the Chapel in honor of a living or deceased loved one.

Request Envelopes available at the office.

The suggested donation is $25.

Honor a loved one Weekly Intentions are available in the Church or the Chapel. Available weeks listed below.

Chapel - 10/23, 10/30 Church - 11/6, 11/13, 11/27 The Church Sanctuary Lamp this week is burning for: Rachel and Joe Verga

Requested by: The Eastman & Verga Families The Chapel Sanctuary Lamp this week is burning for:

Special Intention

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Andrew J. Macirowski Pastoral Coordinator for Worship & Music / Principal Organist Worship@stmaryscoltsneck.org Music@stmaryscoltsneck.org

The Sacraments of Initiation Three of the seven Sacraments of the Catholic Church are considered the Sacraments of Initiation as they impart God’s grace on us in the early days of forming our commitment to the Church.

The first is Baptism, usually done in infancy or early childhood. The person has water poured over them and is baptized in the Trinitarian formula (in the name of the Father, Son, and Holy Spirit). They are also anointed with Sacred Chrism and the Oil of Catechumens.

The second is Confirmation, which in our time is celebrated as the last of the three as a child, but second if part of the RCIA (more on that below). This sacrament is generally conferred by the local bishop or his designee, in which the candidate is sealed with the Sacred Chrism and receives the seven gifts of the Holy Spirit, deepening our relationship with God. The last is Holy Communion. The Eucharist is the source and summit of our Catholic faith, the body and blood of Christ mystically uniting us with each other, and the entire body of Christ (past, present and future).

Adults who wish to become Catholic may undergo a process known as the Rite of Christian Initiation of Adults, in which they go through a period of discernment, purification and enlightenment before being welcomed into full Communion with the Church at the Easter Vigil.

Here in our parish, we regularly celebrate the Sacrament of Baptism.

During the month of October, we also celebrate the Sacraments of Confirmation and First Holy Communion.

We ask that you pray for those who receive these Sacraments in our parish, throughout our Diocese, and throughout the worldwide Church.

MESSAGE OF HIS HOLINESS POPE FRANCIS

FOR WORLD MISSION DAY 2021 “We cannot but speak about what we have seen and heard” (Acts 4:20)

Dear Brothers and Sisters,

Facts about World Mission Day October 24, 2021

Once we experience the power of God’s love, and recognize his fatherly presence in our personal and community life, we cannot help but proclaim and share what we have seen and heard. Jesus’ relationship with his disciples and his humanity, as revealed to us in the mystery of his Incarnation, Gospel and Paschal Mystery, shows us the extent to which God loves our humanity and makes his own our joys and sufferings, our hopes and our concerns (cf. Gaudium et Spes, 22). Everything about Christ reminds us that he knows well our world and its need for redemption, and calls us to become actively engaged in this mission: “Go therefore to the highways and byways, and invite everyone you find” (Mt 22:9). No one is excluded, no one need feel distant or removed from this compassionate love. Read More...

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Worship Schedule: October 23/24 Twenty Ninth Sunday in Ordinary Time Altar Server

Saturday, 4:00 PM (Church)

Sunday, 8:00 AM (Church)

Sunday, 10:00 AM (Church)

Sunday, 12:00 PM (Church)

Mark Hines

Cantor

Reader 1

Reader 2

EMHC

Taylor Kurilew

Carl Simone

Charles Young

Susan Murphy Organ Host Louise Habrack Tabernacle Host AVAILABLE Tabernacle Host Martha Cowles - Alternate

Jill Russo

Rita Duenas

Anthony Bongiorno

Justine Buzzetta Organ Host Mike LaCava Tabernacle Host Rosanne LaCava Tabernacle Host Marsha Grigoli - Alternate

Magnificat Choir

Matt Yaninas

Barbara Schaflin

Gregory Calderaro Organ Host Heide Lohn Tabernacle Host Maureen Geiger Tabernacle Host Sue Fitzpatrick - Alternate

Magnificat Choir

Jennifer Stubbs

T Mullin

Monica Barr Organ Host AVAILABLE Tabernacle Host AVAILABLE Tabernacle Host Emily Santangelo - Alternate

William Hines

Jack Schatzle

Jimmy Schatzle

Tesya Yaninas Larissa Yaninas

Jonathan Stubbs SERVER NEEDED

All Souls Remembrance For the month of November It is the Church’s custom to reserve the month of November for the remembrance of all the faithful departed. Please use your All Souls envelope to write the names of those loved ones you would like to remember and kindly drop it in the collection boxes anytime beginning in October. The envelopes will be wrapped and placed near the tabernacle, and an intention will be added to the prayer of the faithful in the Masses celebrated on All Souls Day and during the month of November.

Online givers can also send in their All Souls remembrance thru our online giving system at GIVE ONLINE HERE Thank you for preserving our Catholic traditions and honoring those who have gone before us.

Mass of Remembrance October 31, 2021 On Sunday, October 31, 2021 preceding the 12:00pm Mass, our Parish will remember in a special way those who had a funeral Mass at Saint Mary during the past year as well as any relative you may wish to remember. This Mass is an opportunity for us to assist those who grieve the death of a loved one.

If you wish the name of a loved one who has died during this past year read out at this Mass, please complete the form below and submit it to the office or complete online HERE. You are then asked to come to the table in the Gathering Space that morning at 11:30am to receive a candle to be brought to the altar when the name is called.

Name of Deceased: ________________________________________ Requester Name: __________________________________________ Relationship to Deceased: _________________________________ Email: ______________________________________________________ Phone Number: ____________________________________________

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Faith Formation Julia Cullen

Pastoral Coordinator of Religion Education Grade 1–8 ReligiousEd@stmaryscoltsneck.org 732-780-2666 X 309

Rose Farrow

Coordinator of Faith Formation for Youth & Adult Catechesis YouthRE@stmaryscoltsneck.org 732-780-2666 X 310

FIRST COMMUNION CELEBRATIONS First Communions are coming up, being held on:

Sunday, October 17, 2021 - 10am Sunday, October 17, 2021 - 12pm Sunday, October 24, 2021 -10am *Rehearsal - Wednesday, October 20th - 5:00pm*

Sunday, October 24, 2021 - 12pm *Rehearsal - Wednesday, October 20th - 6:00pm* First Communion (October 2021) is for all students who completed 2nd grade RE last year and also received the Sacraments of Penance and Reconciliation during Advent or Lent last year.

PRAYER FOR A CHILD’S FIRST COMMUNION Lord Jesus Christ, bless the children coming forward to receive Holy Communion for the first time.

May this day be the step toward a life-long love of the Eucharist.

Give them a hunger for this sacred food so that they turn to you for comfort, guidance, and wisdom as they grow into full discipleship.

Thank you for their innocence and goodness.

May their hands, extended in anticipation of your body and blood, inspire all of us to cherish this sacred Sacrament.

Amen.

Congratulations to all of our Confirmati who received the Sacrament of Confirmation on

Saturday, October 30, 2021 4:00pm Mass & Halloween Halls to follow!

The Parish of Saint Mary will be having the Halloween Halls Celebration on Saturday, October 30th starting with the 4:00pm Mass. We encourage children and parents to go to Mass in their costumes.

Halloween Halls Sign Up – Participant Sign Up

Youth Volunteers!

Sign up HERE to help with Halloween Halls on Saturday, October 30th!

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Are You Thinking About Becoming Catholic?

We are here to meet you wherever you are on your faith journey!

The Rite of Christian Initiation of Adults (RCIA) Process is a ministry that meets with persons looking to inquire into the Catholic faith. We are here and ready to share the richness of our faith with you. If you’ve been looking everywhere for answers, and still haven’t found them, we invite you to find out what the Catholic Church offers.

RCIA is a comprehensive process, in which the Church supports and encourages the spiritual journeys of those who are unbaptized and seeking to become Catholic and for those who are baptized Catholic or in another Christian denomination who wish to complete their Sacraments of Initiation (First Eucharist and Confirmation).

For more information contact: Rose Farrow at 732-780-2666 or R.Farrow@stmaryscoltsneck.org

Interested in assisting with our RCIA program?

Saint of the Week:

Do you want to help by being an Ambassador for Christ?

Priest and Martyr

The RCIA process involves not just the newcomer/inquirer but all members of the Faith community whose prayers and example help the newcomer find their place in the Church. Jesus knew that everyone has different gifts and those gifts are used best when they are shared with others.

Typical tasks and responsibilities: Listening and preparing adults in a process to be received into the Catholic faith and parish community.

Required training or skills: 1.5 hr. training session, weekly.

Approximate time commitment: This is dependent on those who are seeking initiation or welcome into the Catholic community.

For more information contact: Rose Farrow at 732-780-2666 or R.Farrow@stmaryscoltsneck.org

Isaac Jogues 1098-1179

Born in Orleans, France, the son of a wealthy merchant, Isaac Joques was sent to a Jesuit school when he was ten years old. While at first wary of the strict rules of his new school, by the time Isaac graduated, he was determined to become a Jesuit priest and a missionary. He served among the native peoples of Canada, and often suffered greatly but, he continued his work for the Gospel and through him, many people came to believe in Christ. Isaac Joques strongly felt God’s calling and, even knowing that he would suffer martyrdom if he returned to the Iroquois, he willingly did so.

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Women’s Morning Office

All women of the Parish are welcome to join as we gather in the Chapel of Saint Mary for

Song, Scripture, Reflection, Eucharist, Faith Sharing and Prayer

In person - Fridays, 7:30am-8:15 am Via Zoom - Saturdays, 10:15am-11:15am

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Men’s Morning Office The Thursday Men’s Morning Office has been meeting since 1981 when it was formed by now Pastor Emeritus William J. Bausch. As of September 2021, we have about 20 men meeting in person every Thursday morning at 7:00 am in the Chapel for prayer. We usually conclude our prayer service by 7:30 am, and then enjoy some coffee, donuts & camaraderie for 15-20 minutes before all are on their way. With an active roster of 40 or so men ranging in age from their early 20s to 90+, we welcome any men in the Parish or cohort to come join us any Thursday morning for prayer & fellowship!

Feel free to CONTACT Bob Lutkewitte for more information.

Join us in praying for our parish and community, coming together no matter where you are in your faith journey, or if you are in person or virtually with us!

Come and share faith!

Pastoral Care Spiritual Companionship Counseling Pastoral Care Spiritual Companionship Counseling is a ministry which provides spiritual consolation and recovery resource information for those who thirst for grace and healing.

Program Participants will:  Understand the spiritual dimension of the trauma, including its devastating physiological and psychological effects.  Learn to cope with current issues through motivation, interview, and listening.  Effectively work to transform their way of life by following the Will of God  Establish a recovery plan

“Together, We Make a Difference” Learn more & sign up

Speak with a Priest Struggling

with a life event and in need of spiritual assistance? Want to celebrate the Sacrament of Penance outside the normal Confession times? Trying to find your way back to engagement with the Church? Discerning vocation? Looking to complete your Sacraments of Initiation and wish to chat about the journey?

St Mary is offering the opportunity for parishioners to chat with a priest who is only indirectly engaged with the parish.

If interested please contact Fr Mike Walsh by phone 732-780-2666 x205 or email frmike.walsh@stmaryscoltsneck.org

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Quo vadis…

My Dear Parishioners: Today we celebrate the Twenty-Ninth Sunday in Ordinary Time. Much of our doing for others is simply part of our everyday circumstances, for example, parents taking care of their children or a worker cooperating with others on a team job. Being the slave of all isn’t always something extra or big; most of the time it is simply doing our everyday tasks and keeping in mind that others are the body of Christ. If we can do these everyday tasks with loving care, then if something big comes along we won’t deny Jesus like the apostles but will say “we can.”

Congratulations to all of our confirmati those having been confirmed Friday last.

We also congratulate their parents, sponsors and family members. This is a true milestone for them. We know that faith is passed on in the family. Parish clergy, catechists and formation coordinators assist parents in this essential role. It is my hope that the Eucharist will continue to nurture these families, especially the confirmati, as they continue their journey of faith. Congratulations is also extended to those families who are presenting children for their First Holy Communion this weekend at the 10am & 12 Noon masses. Christian Discipleship is about Mission, growing in Faith and embracing the call to conversion. Let us pray for these families and all those who are passing on our Catholic Faith to the next generation. Special thanks to Rose Farrow, Julia Cullen and all those who assist them as well as Andrew Macirowski and all who assist him.

This weekend, Sunday 17 October 2021 at 3:00pm in the Cathedral of Saint Mary of the Assumption His Excellency, The Most Rev-

erend Bishop of Trenton will be the Principal Celebrant and Homilist commemorating the 140th Anniversary of the establishment of the Diocese of Trenton. All are welcome and encouraged to participate. During this Eucharistic Liturgy we will inaugurate the diocesan preparations for the World Synod announced by His Holiness The Pope. The theme of this synod (walking together) is “Communion, Participation, Mission”. His Holiness has expressed a desire for broad participation from all members of the Church: Bishops, Priests & Deacons, Consecrated Religious & Lay Faithful throughout the world. There will be much more information in the coming weeks and months.

This synod is expected to be held for 2 +/years and it is customary the Holy Father issues an Apostolic Exhortation summarizing the main points of the Synod.

Later this month we will host the annual Halloween Halls with mass on Saturday at 4:00pm and an intergenerational activity followed by trick or treating throughout the campus. The annual Mass of Remembrance will also be held later this month to assist those who are grieving the death of a loved one who died during the past 12 months.

Preparations are underway for All Souls Day, the Thanksgiving Food Drive, Fall Clean Up of our 25 Acres, First Penance & Reconciliation/Advent Confessions, Light Up a Memory Tree Lighting and much more.

Check out the parish bulletin, e-blasts for activities and opportunities to get involved.

These are great ways to give back while meeting other parishioners.

Have a great week. Let us remember one another in prayer. Happy Sunday!

Peace. Father Jeff

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Temporal Administration, Stewardship & Outreach Edwin A. Sevillano TemporalAdmin@stmaryscoltsneck.org Sharing Our Treasure October 10, 2021 Weekly Sacrificial Stewardship

$15,836

Envelope Contributions

$8,485

Electronic/Online Contributions

$6,972

Loose Contributions

$379

Weekly Avg. Contribution per Household $47.71 # of Contributing Households # Registered Parishioner Households

324 1,008

"Those who want to be rich are falling into temptation and a trap. They are letting themselves be captured by foolish and harmful desires which drag men down to ruin and destruction.

The love of money is the root of all evil. Some men in their passion for it have strayed from the faith, and have come to grief amid great pain." 1 Timothy 6:9-10.

THANK YOU for the Sacrificial Stewardship Offerings as we support the ministries, programs and facilities of our parish. May God Bless you for the sacrifices that you make.

As of October 10, 2021 Goal: Pledged:

$75,000 $81,417.56

# donors: Average gift: Paid to date:

199 $409 $73,773.37

We have reached our goal this year! If you have not made your pledge yet you can do so now. Please select St Mary Catholic Church in the Parish Affiliation drop down menu so our parish can receive credit for your gift. Please continue to make your pledge payments so we can receive an ACA rebate.

Thank you for your generosity!

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Support The Parish of Saint Mary through Online Giving! https://giving.parishsoft.com/smcn

New Parishioner Orientation Sunday November 7, 2021 11:00AM Madonna Hall Attendance is mandatory for those wishing to become parishioners at the Parish of St. Mary.

Please Contact the Parish Office if you wish to attend 732-780-2666

Sign-in for our Online Giving system to make your parish offerings from your bank account or Credit Card!

You can also download the ConnectNow Giving App for Android or iOS

Thank you for your continuous support!

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Tickets are being sold through November 11th at the parish office. The proceeds of which will benefit New Jersey Right to Life, the state’s oldest and largest pro-life organization, dedicated to protecting all human life from conception to natural death.

The prizes this year are: 1st Prize—2022 Volvo XC40 AWD SUV 2nd Prize—$1,000 ShopRite Gift Card 3rd Prize—$750 ShopRite Gift Card 4th Prize - $500 ShopRite Gift Card

Please show your support for LIFE by buying a raffle ticket. The cost is $10.00 per ticket.

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Offerings at Francis House of Prayer Trenton Diocesan Spiritual Center and Retreat House 84 Walnford Road • Allentown, NJ 08501 609-877-0509 or FHOP@verizon.net

ENTERTAINING ANGELS A DAY WITH DOROTHY Wednesday, October 20 9:30 AM – 1:00 PM We will become acquainted with Dorothy Day’s life story by viewing the film Entertaining A ngels in order to notice her courage, call and fidelity. What an amazing person, with so much to tell us today. Donation: $25, includes lunch; Zoom $20.

Please check www.FHOP.org for registration, directions and for our other offerings!

All programs will be offered online and in person unless otherwise indicated.

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Free Screening of "Fatima" film Friday, October 22nd, 7:00 p.m Catholic Campus Ministry at Monmouth University is sponsoring a free screening of the 2020 film, "Fatima" in the Lower Church of St. Michael's, 800 Ocean Avenue, West End (Long Branch), NJ. Refreshments will be served and all are welcome to attend!

The film tells the story of the 1917 apparitions of Our Lady to 3 shepherd children in Fatima, Portugal and has particular significance for October, the Month of the Holy Rosary.

Please contact Cristina at cdaverso@monmouth.edu with questions.