The Little Things Magazine Issue 10

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Helping you survive the chaos of parenting

Perfectly pitched

Family. Festivals. Fun Talking to kids about puberty


What you need to know as a parent

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Perfectly pitched There’s a lot to be said about a pitched tent in this issue. Intentional innuendo? You bet. The reality is, as adults if we can't talk openly about puberty, growing up and the choices our kids are going to be faced with, how can we talk to our kids about it? Welcome to the Sex (okay, puberty), Drugs and Rock ’n’ Roll issue. We’ve packed Issue 10 with short, easy-to-read articles to help you talk to your kids about puberty, where to find out more about drugs, how to introduce kids to politics, quick and easy family picnic recipes, surviving festival season as a family, gardening with kids and more. Do we have all the answers? Nope, not a chance, but we can offer the advice and opinions of those in the know.

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The Cooking School, Emily Doherty, Jess Hellens, Suzy Howlett, Dr Helen Ross, Tamara Webster, Marina Wild

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Grubby, Green Fingers Gardener Tamara Webster gets us out in the garden. Poetry by Heart Author and educator, Suzy Howlett, on a lovely family ritual. Post SATs Post Mortem Preparation is key. What you need to know as a parent. Teenage Dirtbag Puberty and how to talk to your children about it. The Perfect Picnic The Cooking School offers three sandwich alternatives. Summer Reading Great books to get the kids reading this summer. Talking about Drugs How to talk to your kids about drugs and where to find out more. Kids + Politics Mother and blogger, Emily Doherty, on how to get your kids up-to-speed. Women and Work Founder of Frome-based Wild Coworking, Jess Hellens, on work and supporting women.

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Home & Garden | Gardening with kids

Grubby, green fingers Tamara Webster, Horticulturalist and all round outdoor lover shares her top tips for getting kids inspired in the garden with The Little Things.


know that my love of gardening started young – either helping my Grandma repot her dahlias after winter, or from visiting our neighbour who had the most spectacular cut flower patch (she used to make dried flower arrangements; very 1985!) No matter, there is no doubt in my mind that all young minds have a curiosity about nature, how things grow, bugs and “helping” around the home and garden. Creating a small area in your garden for your children to grow their own food and flowers should provide them with a place they can enjoy and learn from over the summer months.

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The Patch Firstly, you will need a suitable patch. There are many clever vegetable tables available now, but equally some pots, troughs, an old half barrel or even a corner of a flower bed will work just the same. Consider sunlight and aspect – the worst position would be north facing in the shade of a wall so try and position the patch where it will get lots of sunshine. From the beginning, get your kids to help with every stage including trying to work out which way is north facing! The sun rises in the east… The most important ingredient is your soil. It is worth investing in the best

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multi-purpose compost you can buy (or find). Starting with an enriched soil ensures your plants can perform to their best. Fill up your container or mulch the ground and break up all the lumps you can with your fingers, then smooth out. Ensure you have drainage holes if working from a container. It is useful to use a watering can with an upturned rose or hose on sprinkle mode to water the soil before you plant – that way you don’t wash the seeds away after you have sown them.

Time to decide what to grow My favourites on the salad patch are lettuce and spinach for sowing in rows and can be hand picked about 6 weeks after planting. Simply get a trowel or your hand and create a shallow trench, sprinkle the seed and finely cover with about 1 cm of compost. Remember to label your row! I always put the variety

Blooms aplenty

and date and often use a wooden ice lolly stick as a label. Leave 30 cm between rows and you might have to thin the seedlings if too many germinate. You could also opt for some herbs such as basil, oregano and coriander. For growing vertically you can make a wigwam or obelisk from bamboo canes or bean poles, tied with twine. For climbing foods, you can’t beat sugar snap peas, courgettes or runner beans. Again these can all be started as seeds in a little pot, on a sunny windowsill but you might find plug plants for sale at your market or local garden centre which do give you a head start. Bear in mind climbers do get very tall so only grow if you have enough space. Be sure to research (or read the label to find out) how tall they get so you can make your support tall enough. Watering is very important, especially if using a container. Also in dry spells, the soil can dry out very quickly. A can or two every evening, again using a gentle rose should do it. You might want to add a capful of liquid tomato fertiliser to the can every two weeks to boost your crops ever further.

Now, why not add some colour? Violas are the dearest little plants and you can eat the petals – they add a pretty touch to every BBQ salad. Pollinating insects love English marigolds which will help to pollinate your courgette flowers (which are also edible). Why not add a few sweet peas to your climbing framework as there is no greater joy than bringing the perfume of sweet peas into your house. If its cut flowers you are after that don’t take up the whole patch try Snapdragons (Antirrhinum majus) or heavely scented Stocks (Matthiola incana).

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Family| Relationships

Poetry by Heart Why learn a poem when it is always just a mouse click away, along with thousands more? Isn’t learning poems an old-fashioned chore forced on reluctant schoolchildren in the past?

Why learn a poem when it is always just a mouse click away, along with thousands more? Isn’t learning poems an old-fashioned chore forced on reluctant school children in the past?

James James Morrison Morrison Weatherby George Dupree Took great care of his mother, though he was only three. James James said to his mother, “Mother,” he said, said he, “You must never go down to the end of the town if you don’t go down with me!


hen my daughter was about three we had huge fun chanting this little AA Milne poem called Disobedience (and there are plenty more verses, believe me) as we walked about together. It’s just right for tramping along to. She learnt it as easily as my son learnt the impossibly complicated names of the more obscure dinosaurs, and sometimes, if I just began to say it, it would distract her from a potential misery and cause her to forget all about it and join in with delight. I recently reminded her of this (she is now a teacher in her twenties, by the way) and she immediately grinned, and we chanted the whole thing together,

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following it up with The Tale of Custard the Dragon. We could have done ten more, easily! Perhaps twenty or thirty. When I asked her why she had enjoyed them so much, she said that it was something to do with rhyme, rhythm and structure, which was comforting and fun to share, but it was also a bit mysterious, and made pictures in her head. Why was James James Morrison’s mother so vague? What did King John have to do with it? Why was the little boy in charge? When she was about 9, she would sometimes draw on her poems to help her sleep. By this time we had added some more grown-up ones, like The Highwayman (Alfred Noyes), with its rhythm of galloping hooves, (my son loved this one, too) and we soon went on to add poems by Charles Causley (By St Thomas’ Water and Reservoir Street), AE Houseman’s Is my Team Ploughing?, Robert Frost’s Stopping by Woods on a Snowy Evening, and all sorts of random others, old and new, funny and strange, that caught her fancy. I had kept my much-loved Golden Treasury of Poetry from my childhood, and she devoured it in delight. Now she says that those poems, which she still carries around in her head, are a link back to the person

she was when she learned them – the toddler, the little girl, the adolescent, and a rather good poet herself. No-one ever asked her to learn them – she just did – but there is hot debate about whether children should be made to learn poetry by heart in school. I reckon that being encouraged to love a poem by hearing it many, many times, and being able to join in, is a great way to go, and obviously better than forced rote learning. Just about every 6−year-old I taught seemed to enjoy it, and often had fun playing with the structures and ideas and making their own versions, using patterns, techniques and vocabulary which became part of their language store, to dip into and use. You know that your child is learning vocabulary, language skills, memory skills, grammar, and are thinking about imagery,

Relationships | Family

of you and, in a way, you own it. You might miss nuance as a seven-year-old, and get it later, when the moment comes for you to pull a few lines out of your head in response to something that has made you pay attention. Learning a poem is easy and fun. If you have ever sung nursery rhymes with them, you have already made a start. Here are some suggestions to get you going with a few family poems:

and perhaps even big abstract ideas, when they learn a poem. Your child, I hope, will mainly just know that it is interesting and fun. But what else might you get out of having a stock of poetry in your head? I find that to memorise a poem is to gradually inhabit it and understand it in a way which is rarely possible when you just read it a couple of times or hear it once. On the whole, poetry requires attention. Some poems are a bit difficult – they hold clues, almost like a cryptic crossword. Knowing a poem is more interactive than you might think, and its pleasures are enhanced. Even one chosen almost at random (I’ve tried this) usually makes me like it very much. Learning by heart becomes learning with heart. You carry the poem with you wherever you go – it has become a part

■ Choose something amusing with great rhyme and rhythm for your first one. It could be in story form, such as Each Peach Pear Plum (Ahlberg), or a Dr Seuss story like The Cat in the Hat, or a verse such as Disobedience (A A Milne). There are numerous lists of possibilities online. ■ You could try one you liked as a child. At least make sure that you like the poem too, or you will lose enthusiasm yourself! ■ Get (or borrow from the library) a simple collection of children’s poems and read a few. Ask your child which ones they like and choose one of those. ■ If it’s long (such as Custard the Dragon) get to know a couple of verses first. ■ Don’t set a task of learning a poem. Just say it to your child and see whether they like it. If they do, say it lots – every day. In the car is a good place, and so is walking along, folding the laundry, washing the dishes and tidying up. They are very likely to start joining in and will soon find themselves knowing it by heart. ■ Use an expressive voice! You can ham up amusing poems as much as you like. Have a written version on the wall if your child likes the idea, or a picture which goes with the words. You or your child could always draw one!

Stopping by Woods on a Snowy Evening Robert Frost Whose woods these are I think I know

His house is in the village though;

He will not see me stopping here To watch his woods fill up with snow.

My little horse must think it

queer without a farmhouse near Between the woods and frozen lake

The darkest evening of the year. He gives his harness bells a shake

To ask if there is some mistake. The only other sound’s the sweep Of easy wind and downy flake.

The woods are lovely, dark and deep,

But I have promises to keep,

And miles to go before I sleep,

And miles to go before I sleep.

middle verses at a later stage (and might even spot the clever rhyme pattern). Suzy Howlett is a retired teacher, and author of Return to Kirrin – a witty and nostalgic novel for grown-ups who enjoyed Enid Blyton’s Famous Five when they were children and want to meet them as adults and parents in a new and scandalous adventure. Available from The Hunting Raven and Amazon, paperback and Kindle.

Frost’s poem is well-known and one that I have have found almost everyone over seven to enjoy and learn easily. Try it when you want to move on to something more “grown-up”. If you like, just use the first and last verse. You can explore the | 9

Education | Parent Information

Testing. Testing. With SATs season over for another year, Dr Helen Ross explains what parents of learners with special educational needs and disabilities (SEND) should know before their children write their SATs.


ATs are a yearly fixture on the primary school calendar and generally take place around the middle of May. From acting as a GCSE target benchmark for young learners to determining teacher pay progression,

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sadly SATs have a significant impact on the lives of all those who are associated with them. But what of young learners? What about those whose entire experience of Year 6 may be defined by the 3 days or so of SATS testing? Young people reportedly

suffer stress and anxiety because of the pressure they feel linked to their SATs. Within this context, it's no surprise that learners with Special Educational Needs (SEN) often far worse than their peers in SATS, and their parents may be unsure how to best support them through this

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part of their educational journey.

Access Arrangements ‘Access Arrangements’ can take the form of extra time, a scribe/reader or prompter amongst other things. A key feature of any arrangement made for children in the SATs is that it must be regularly implemented in the classroom prior to SATs testing. Typically, ‘access arrangements’ are used to support learners who find reading or writing tricky, or whose concentration may wane. Schools must decide whether access arrangements are appropriate for learners and whether those learners are eligible for them before formally administering the tests. It's important to note that there is a small window between the end of January and the end of February of Year 6 for schools to make

applications for ‘access arrangements’ for learners. Schools are required to provide evidence that learners need, and regularly use, the arrangements put in place for SATs exams as a matter of course during their day-to-day learning. Learners with an ECHP or visual or hearing impairments may automatically qualify for certain access arrangements. That means getting those arrangements in place sooner, rather than later.

What do I need to do? As host of the SATs tests, the school is charged with organisation and administration of ‘access arrangements’ for learners. However, children want to know where they stand with SATS, what to expect and how they will be supported, as do their parents. If you are concerned that your child

may need extra time in their SATs, or may have difficulty reading the questions, for example, contact the SENCo sooner rather than later. The school Special Educational Needs Coordinator (SENCo) is your key contact as a parent. If your child struggles to concentrate, a prompter or rest breaks may be appropriate, but cannot be implemented without discussion with the SENCo, and most likely the class teacher, as they will have records of what support is used by your child and how they respond to it. Communication and discussion with the SENCo will help you to understand what will be in place to support your child, so that you in turn can share the information with your child and minimise the impact of stress and pressure on them at a tricky time in their school career.

Health | Puberty

Teenage Dirtbags Penis! Vagina! Periods! Boners! Boobs! Yep, we're talking puberty and so should you.


time it was probably more frightening, confusing and stress-inducing than it should've been at a time when selfesteem is already particularly low. Frank and open conversations with your children about puberty and what is happening to their bodies can make a real difference in how children cope with the changes. Your willingness to talk about puberty will help them to feel confident and secure and will help to keep the dialogue open. But first, a bit more about puberty – beyond what your teenage friends told you!

quirming yet? No, of course about puberty can be uncomfortable What actually happens during you're not, you're an adult and for some people, particularly when your you're also an adult who will the initial stages of puberty? own experience of the 'Puberty Talk' soon be using those words was silent and in the form of a leaflet left The initial stages of puberty usually starts for girls around the age of 8, and for boys when speaking to your child, in your bedroom by your parents. End. around 9 or 10 and lasts around 4 years. if you haven't already. Go on, shout out Of. Discussion. Presumably you also The hypothalamus starts off the process all the other associated words you know learned some of what you needed to by releasing a gonaodotropin-releasing for male and female body parts – after all, know through cringe-worthy sex-ed hormone (GnRH). Once GnRH is picked you're already doing it in your head. Okay, lessons delivered by the least attractive up by the pituitary gland, two more maybe when you do start talking about teacher at the school, numerous puberty hormones are released – puberty with your child you won't be pleasant, and unpleasant, surprises luteninizing hormone (LH) and follicleusing ALL the words you just reamed off. and copious amounts of stimulating hormone (FSH). Consider, however that they will hear misinformation from For boys, the hormones travel ALL those words at some point in friends and siblings. Note that all through the bloodstream to the testes their lives, likely by the time they In hindsight, it children develop beginning the production of sperm and go through puberty. differently and at different probably seems testosterone. For girls, the hormones go We all know that talking quite funny. At the ages. If you are worried about your child’s development, contact Puberty in girls Puberty in boys your doctor. Average age 11 Average age 12 • Usually between 8−13 yrs old • Usually between 10−16 yrs old • Breast ‘buds’ begin to grow – small, firm, tender lumps • Testicles and penis grow bigger under the skin • Public hair • Pubic hair • Growth spurt between 10−16 often with arms, legs, feet • Growth spurt with change in body shape, particularly growing more quickly than the rest of the body breasts and around hips and thighs – often with arms, • Shoulders broaden along with weight and muscle gain legs, feet growing more quickly than the rest of the body • Growth of breast tissue in about 50% of boys – usually • First period is often between 9−16 and around 2 years disappears in around 6 months after beginning puberty • More frequent erections and ejaculation and ‘wet dreams’ • Increased sweating • Change in voice • Variable moods including low self-esteem and anger • Increased sweating • Acne • Variable moods including low self-esteem and anger • Acne

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Puberty| Health

to the ovaries, signalling the maturation and release of eggs and the production of estrogen. The adrenal glands add a group of hormones to the mix for both

boys and girls. These adrenal androgens stimulate the production of pubic and underarm hair, often one of the first physical signs of puberty.

Some suggestions which may help support your child in the run up to puberty. Start the conversation early and talk about the changes they will be going through during puberty before the changes take place Talk little and often about puberty, rather than one big puberty talk. It’s a good way to keep the conversation going and signals to your child that the conversation remains open Let your child know that you are there for them if they want to talk or ask questions Reassure your child that everyone goes through it and it’s a natural part of growing up Explain about the need for self-care during puberty including anti-perspirants and deodorants (there are many chemical-free options available) along with shaving / hair removal if appropriate As puberty is a time when children can experience low self-esteem, helping them to avoid experiences or situations which may make them feel uncomfortable is important Similarly, it’s important to help your child develop strategies, such as talking through any problems they may be experiencing, to make feel more confi dent and assured Don’t be afraid to talk about sex and drugs as well as puberty, they’re going to fi nd out anyway. Better you help fi ll in the gaps, than fi nding questionable answers from the internet or their friends. Talk through some of the experiences, feelings and situations they may fi nd themselves in. Let them know they have choices and that they can come up with solutions. Help them to think through how they may react to or behave in a range of circumstances Aim to be tolerant and patient with your child when they are going through puberty. It’s argued that at this point in their lives they need you as much as they did when they were a toddler. Calm, composed and considered responses help to avoid going head-to-head in an argument and help to role-model appropriate behaviours. And, be sure to fi nd a good outlet, such as yoga or even kick-boxing for your pent-up rage and frustration – you’re likely to need it! Believe in them and make sure they know you’re in their corner. They’ll need a little extra belief for when they can’t fi nd it themselves | 13

Food | The Cooking School Takeover


he Cooking School is located in the beautifully rustic Old Silk Works in Warminster, offering cooking lessons and courses for all skill levels and abilities. With years of experience in the catering industry, we've drawn on our large network of award winning chefs to design and teach classes covering everything from Meat Free Moroccan to The Perfect Steak! We hope to inspire all generations to learn new skills in the kitchen and enjoy cooking together with friends. Our courses are designed to give you the

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Upcoming Classes JUNE

confidence and skills to recreate our delicious recipes at home, and inspire you to try some new ones on your own. We’re committed to using local ingredients and produce where possible which you are able to purchase in our shop, helping to support local businesses and guarantee good quality ingredients. Along with cooking classes and courses, we also offer bespoke, private bookings such as hen/ stag parties and corporate events/ team building, as well as children’s parties and private hire of our newly renovated kitchen space.

4th Meat Free Moroccan 6th South American Street Food 7th Simply Spanish 11th Simple Suppers for Busy Lives 12th Pizza and Prosecco 13th The Italian Job 15th For the Love of Brunch 18th The Perfect Steak

JULY 3rd Meat Free Moroccan 4th Thai Food Experience 5th Pizza and Prosecco 10th An Introduction to Fish 11th Simple Suppers for Busy Lives 12th South American Street Food 31st Simply Spanish

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Children’s Parties

Our children’s parties offer a unique experience to inspire children to get involved with cooking and try new flavours. Our chefs have created a fun-filled 2 hour session including:

A cooking lesson Children’s snacks and drinks on arrival A party tea of what the children have made with side dishes Tea, coffee and biscuits for attending adults A Cooking School goody bag packed full of cooking inspiration

We are able to offer a choice of dishes, depending on the age of the children and any dietary restrictions. Children’s parties are available for £25 per child, with a minimum number of 15. We require 1 adult for every 4 children attending.

To book, visit our website, or for more information about our classes, bespoke bookings or children’s parties, contact us by email or phone at | 01985 213214 | 15

Food | The Cooking School Takeover

Perfect picnic There is nothing nicer than a picnic lunch on a summer's day. Make it extra impressive with The Cooking School's three packable, make ahead picnic treats.

Sweet Potato & Black Bean Empanadas Ingredients 1 sweet potato, baked and mashed ½ white onion 2 cloves garlic 1 tsp cumin seeds 1 red chilli, fi nely chopped Small bunch fresh coriander, fi nely chopped Salt and pepper

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For the pastry 150g unsalted butter 300g plain fl our Large pinch of salt 1 egg, beaten 1 egg to fi nish, beaten

Method Filling 1 Slowly fry onion and garlic on low heat till transparent and soft 2 Add cumin seeds and fresh chilli Stir through black beans 3 Add mashed sweet potato and combine mix thoroughly 4 Add fresh coriander and season with salt and pepper

5 Cook for a few minutes till combined Remove from heat and leave to cool. Pastry 1 Melt the butter and leave to cool slightly 2 Put the flour in a large bowl and mix in the salt 3 Slowly add the butter and egg and mix till combined – add a touch of water if too dry 4 Turn out dough onto lightly floured surface and allow to rest in fridge 5 Once cooled, roll to 3−4 mm thickness and cut out 12 cm discs 6 Divide the filling between the discs, dampen the edges of the pastry to seal the parcel 7 Set parcels on tray and bake for 15–20 minutes, or until golden brown.

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Lentil & Feta Salad Ingredients 1 x 400g tin lentils 1 small red onion 175g cherry tomatoes 100g feta cheese 120g salad leaves For the dressing 2 tbsp olive oil 1 tbsp chopped, fresh oregano/ 1 tsp dried oregano 1 tbsp balsamic vinegar pinch of caster sugar

Method 1 Empty the lentils into a large salad bowl, add the onions and season with salt and pepper. 2 Add the tomatoes, feta and salad leaves and mix well. 3 For the dressing, whisk all the ingredients together and dress just before serving.

Spanish Omelette Ingredients 1 kg of potatoes, peeled and thinly sliced Salt and pepper to taste 8 large eggs, beaten with salt and pepper 1 onion, thinly sliced Extra Virgin Olive Oil

Method 1 Pat the potato slices dry and put them into a large bowl, sprinkle with salt, and mix well. 2 Heat a ½ inch of extra virgin olive oil in a large frying pan at medium low heat. 3 When the oil is hot, add the potatoes and add more oil if necessary until all are covered. 4 Cook the potatoes for 20 minutes at a low heat (it’s OK if they break apart). 5 Fry the onions in a separate frying pan for about 10 minutes until they begin to caramelize (stir often).

6 When the onions are caramelised, drain off any excess oil and add to the egg mixture. 7 When the potatoes have been frying 20 minutes, remove them with a slotted spoon into a strainer and allow to cool off while any excess oil drips away. 8 After a few minutes, add the potatoes to the egg mixture and stir well. Let the egg mixture sit for about 20 minutes. 9 In the same pan where you fried the potatoes, remove all the oil and over a medium low heat add the egg mixture. 10 Over a low heat, cook the eggs for about 6−8 minutes per side. 11 When you are sure that the bottom is cooked and you want to flip the tortilla, put a large plate over the pan and flip quickly on to the plate. 12 Finally, slide out of the pan onto a serving plate and let cool a little before diving in.

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Books | Education

Nell and the Circus of Dreams

Nell Gifford Oxford University Press £11.99 One of the very best tips for all writers – young and old – is ‘write what you know’. And Nell Gifford certainly does so in her delightfully detailed picture book Nell and the Circus of Dreams (illustrated by Bryony May Smith). Nell Gifford hails from the circus world and is the owner of Gifford’s Circus. The book takes a magical look inside the big top, as we follow little Nell around the circus site and are introduced to a cast of colourful (and talented) characters.

The Adventures of Harry Stevenson Ali Pye Simon & Schuster, £5.99

Perfect for Readers 5-8

Planet Omar: Accidental Trouble Magnet

Zanib Mian Hachette Children’s Books, £6.99

Swimming Against the Storm Jess Butterworth Orion Children's Books, £6.99 Perfect for readers 8-12

Perfect for readers 8-12

The Adventures of Harry Stevenson is about a boy called Billy and his ginger guinea pig, called Harry Stevenson. Billy moves house and Harry escapes. The book is about Harry's adventures as he follows the removal van to get to Billy's new home. I would recommend this book. It made me feel sad, happy and excited. I did not like feeling sad when Harry got left behind and I felt excited and really bouncy and like I was going to fall off the bed when he was on a dog's back chasing Billy's van! I liked the happy ending and thought it was very funny. I would like the book to have more brightly coloured pictures. Reviewed by Ginny (Aged 6)

Omar is a young Muslim boy who has a huge imagination and hates marshmallows. He has an older sister called Maryam and a younger brother called Esa. The bully at Omar's new school is really annoying him until they both get lost in the city and everything changes… I loved this book because it was full of comedy and adventure. I would recommend this book to anyone who loves funny stories with an adventurous twist. Reviewed by Ella (Aged 8)

This story is about three friends who are trying to save their sinking island. I liked how the story got exciting from the very beginning and that they have lots of problems to solve. Every chapter ends in a cliff hanger that makes you want to turn the page. I recommend this book for people who like exciting adventure stories that are a little bit scary. Reviewed by Ava (Aged 8) | 19

Education | Drugs

I’m collecting Charlie and Molly. Can U pick up some Blue Cheese?

Do U know if Ash is bringing his Horse? Who’s bringing Sensi? CU at 8.

Talk to your kids about drugs

Chances are you know a little bit about drugs (no judgement), but do you know enough to have a open and honest conversation with your child(ren)? The Little Things, with help from Talk to Frank and The Children’s Society, finds out more.


here are five illegal drugs referred to in the text above, including two of the most popular drugs in Somerset according to recent drug seizures in the area. With increased coverage of County Lines, when established gangs from large cities target young, vulnerable children to mule drugs, across a variety of media it’s increasingly important to know your blow from your base and your petrol from your pollen.

If you’re not down with the lingo, is a great place to start. The website provides non-judgemental information about each and every drug, including how it looks, tastes, smells, feels, how long it lasts, the risks associated with the drug and where the law sits on possession and supply. Short of a Top Trumps Top Drugs deck, it’s the most comprehensive and accessible drugs information resource we’ve found. You, I mean children, can even email confidentially

with any questions they might have about drugs, they don’t even have to use their real name. They also make sure that their email responses don’t contain the question asked in the subject line. The Children’s Society website ( is another great resource regarding County Lines. It also gives parents guidance how to talk to their children about drugs and alcohol (after you bone up on the info yourself, of course), potential signs of drug use and where to find extra support if you need it.

Blue Cheese = commonly known as Spice, a synthetic cannabinoid | Charlie = Cocaine | Horse = Heroin | Sensi = Cannabis or Marijuana | Molly = MDMA or Ecstasy

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Drugs | Education

Potential signs of drug use according to Talk to Frank

Mixing with new friends who may use drugs Moods swings Behaving badly or showing a bad attitude Not sleeping properly and getting up very late Being secretive or evasive about where they’re going and what they’re doing Having problems in school, like poor performance or absences

Other potential signs of drug use: Poor hygiene or appearance Staying out late Falling out with old friends, hanging out with a new crowd Loss of appetite Drowsiness

Potential signs of County Lines involvement according to The Children’s Society

Returning home late, staying out all night or going missing Being found in areas away from home Increasing drug use, or being found to have large amounts of drugs on them Being secretive about who they are talking to and where they are going Unexplained absences from school, college, training or work Unexplained money, phone(s), clothes or jewellery

Red-rimmed eyes and/or a runny nose An uncharacteristic loss of interest in school, hobbies and friends Money going missing regularly for no apparent reason Unusual equipment found in the house, such as burnt foil or torn cigarette packets

Talk to Frank recommends the following: Keep the subject broad to begin with, ask open-ended questions about your child’s friends and school. For example, “What was today like at school?” or “Why do you think people take drugs?”. Allow plenty of time, don’t rush the conversation. Listen carefully and keep the chat as two-way as possible. Be understanding – not judgmental or critical. Respect what they have to say – don’t lose your temper if you disagree with

Increasingly disruptive or aggressive behaviour Using sexual, drug-related or violent language you wouldn’t expect them to know Coming home with injuries or looking particularly dishevelled Having hotel cards or keys to unknown places. County Lines gangs groom, threaten or trick children into trafficking their drugs for them. They might threaten a young person physically, or they might threaten the young person’s family members. The gangs might also offer something in return for the young

your child’s opinions, it might make them rebel more. Don’t make assumptions about what they know or do, and don’t accuse your child of taking drugs (even if you think they have). Let them know you’re there for them – that they can talk to you about drugs. Set boundaries, make it clear what your house rules are so they know what you will and won’t accept. Be realistic: while there are some serious risks involved in drug use, most people who try drugs don’t suffer any long-term harm to their health. And if they are using, don’t confront them when they’re high. If your child refuses to talk to you, try not to panic. Remember that people who try drugs often don’t carry on using them. Support them to talk to another adult such as a school nurse, GP, youth worker or a specialist service.

person’s cooperation – it could be money, food, alcohol, clothes and jewellery, or improved status – but the giving of these gifts will usually be manipulated so that the child feels they are in debt to their exploiter. If you have information about any suspected criminal or suspicious activity in your area related to County Lines or otherwise, call the police on 101 or report it online at www. . If you don’t want to speak directly to the police, you can call Crimestoppers on 0800 555 111 anonymously.

Remember that these are POTENTIAL signs and DO NOT mean that your child is involved in County Lines or on drugs. The best thing you can do as a parent or guardian is to make sure your information is up-to-date and actually speak to your children about drugs calmly and with an open-mind (easier said than done, obviously). | 21

Real Life | Politics

Is being interested in politics genetic? Or, is it say, like possessing an inherent love of chocolate ice cream or gold high heels? Or is it something that is nurtured, like a passion for Manchester United or karate? By Emily Doherty, mother, blogger and founder of politics site for young people, Caspar the Hat.


y heart tells me that politics is something certain people just feel passionate about. They want to demonstrate, protest, get angry, get stuck in, make speeches, debate, hold their representatives to account, be interested, be engaged. But my head says that while all that can be true, being inspired by anything can start when we

asked on his breakfast radio show last week – “how do we explain what’s going on politically to our kids?”. (Hats off to the listener who texted in: “follow Caspar the hat on Instagram”).

What we should be asking is… are kids; when we are at home. If your Mum and Dad are consistently chatting animatedly about Formula One over dinner, there’s a good chance you might aspire to be the next Jenson Button (if only to get some attention). I’m a blogger. I write about and instagram simple politics and my audience is mainly young adults. I’ve also collected some parents along the way who want to know – much like Chris Evans when he

“How do we get our kids interested in politics?” The rest will follow. So, here’s some thoughts on engaging your family in what’s going on politically. You may not find yourselves with future proprietors of Number 10 but if your kids – primary, secondary, mid to late teens – are aware that there is such a thing as politics, they will know what questions to ask and eventually, where to find the answers for themselves…

Read The Week is a brilliant round up magazine of all things current, political and entertaining. And best of all, it has a junior version cunningly named The Week Junior. It’s £21.50 for 13 issues. Best for 8-14 year olds, but I have been known to take a sneak peek.

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Telly Talk at home There’s no substitute for family chat. Read the daily (online if needs be) papers together – even if it’s just the headlines. A regular game of ‘who’s that?’ (Theresa, Boris, Jeremy… you get the picture) is a great way to make it joyful. And such a hilarious party trick to roll out when five year old can spot The Donald at fifty paces.

If they are going to watch it – soother, distractor, nanny, peace-maker ALL HAIL the Telly (I write this at the tail end of the Easter holidays) – make it worthwhile and occasionally throw in a CBBC episode of Newsround. Alas, no longer graced by John Craven but still equally as engaging and a great reminder that this is not just the stuff of grown-ups. Episodes don’t always include politics but the current affairs agenda is still strong.

School So here’s the thing: if GCSE Government and Politics had been around when I was 15, and if I had been encouraged to take part in the UK Youth Parliament – anyone between 11 and 18 can stand for election to become a Member of Youth Parliament – I might now be wrestling with Brexit from the lofty heights of Downing Street rather than sitting at my kitchen table, wrestling with this article. Politics was just so remote when I was teenager. It was the realm of greying, white men in suits; the land of the aloof, the privileged, the elderly. Now, the UK Youth Parliament encourages its members to take part in debates in the actual House of Commons and Select Committees at Westminster; to meet their political heroes and aspire to a political career. I attended last year’s Commons debate and was simply bowled over by these teens, standing at the Prime Minister’s despatch box and giving their speeches with eloquence and confidence. And they weren’t kids who necessarily had political role models close to home: the UKYP had inspired them to get stuck in anyway. I would mention the European Youth Parliament here as a similar body but oh my, that would be opening a can of worms (smiley face). A-level politics is another opportunity for young adults to grasp the machinations of British politics in more depth, and usually the United States’ political systems too. Students are often encouraged to take private tours of the Houses of Parliament – you can apply by writing to your MP. Votes for 16 year olds have been mooted as a possibility in future years, encouraged partly by the teen response to Brexit (sorry, that’s twice I’ve now mentioned it) and indeed, entire lobbying groups are dedicated to is as an important cause for engaging the next generation in the political life of our country. 18-24 year olds have traditionally been the least engaged on election day, but there is a sense that that is now really changing. In Scotland, voting at 16 is now live for local elections and Wales may well follow suit.

Social Media Love it. Loathe it. Feel elevated and enriched by it. Feel threatened and bewildered. It’s here to stay. For the purposes of engaging younger people in politics it can provide global reach, easily digestible information and up to the minute fresh news. On Instagram ‘This much I know” is a new kind of media outlet, scanning the news and simplifying it down to bite size chunks. Easy to read in ten seconds and…swipe. A-level and GCSE students often have their own Instagram accounts and share their studying techniques and tips. And of course, there’s always Caspar the hat: simplifying British politics for the swipe left generation, in an unbiased and light hearted way. Caspar The Hat is mother and blogger Emily Doherty. | 23

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Tracey Smith Partner & Head of Family Law

Our family lawyers are experts in divorce and children matters, but each has their own specialist knowledge and experience. From dividing the family home, understanding financial rights, protecting the interest of a family business and settling disputes over children, we can help.

I WANT A DIVORCE, WHERE DO I START? Divorce or dissolution of a civil partnership is a life-changing decision and you will naturally want to take stock of all your options. If you haven’t yet made a decision, you can have a Separation Agreement drawn up which sets out your financial responsibilities, child care arrangements and what happens to joint assets, until you decide whether to proceed with your divorce or dissolution.

Take control Our first meetings are usually a one-off fixed cost which means you get some useful advice, and then decide whether you would like to instruct us to take on your case. This puts you in control of the costs, you’ll know where you stand legally and we’ll explain all of your options based on your individual situation. You will come away from the first meeting armed with information.

Specialist advice Meg Moss Partner

The best thing you can do at this stage is find a specialist family lawyer and make an appointment to talk everything through and get some initial advice. It’s sensible to research a couple of firms and find out more about their solicitors to ensure you make an informed decision about who you want to work with. Bear in mind their individual experience and areas of specialism, you need to be confident that they will help you achieve the best possible outcome.

Daniela Nickols Partner


Harriet Woodman Solicitor

There is a preconception that all divorces play out like the ones you see unfolding in a TV drama, filled with heated arguments, lawyers shouting across a table at each other and a bill at the end for hundreds of thousands of pounds. The reality is that most divorces are resolved without too much drama and although never a particularly positive experience for either party, can be resolved out of court if you can agree on financial and child care arrangements.

Collaborative divorce If your aim is to keep things amicable and work through your divorce with as little stress as possible, you can opt for the Collaborative Process. You each appoint a collaboratively trained lawyer and you all meet to work things out together face-to-face. You will have your lawyer by your side throughout the process and other experts such as financial advisors and counsellors can be enlisted to help if required.

Protect your family One of the many benefits of this process is that you set the agenda, so you talk about things that matter most to you and your family. It also allows for open communication which ensures both of you can express your needs for moving forward in a mutually respectful environment. If children are involved, you will both remain parents, and it will help your child cope better with your separation if they see that you are working things out together. Most importantly, the key decisions you make about your future are yours and are not made by a stranger in a courtroom.

IS AN ONLINE DIVORCE QUICKER AND MORE COST EFFECTIVE? It is possible to complete your divorce via an online service and it is tempting to try and save time and money by doing it yourself. However, there is a real danger that without input from a solicitor, it could end up costing you more in the long-run both financially and emotionally.

DIY disaster Divorce can be a highly complex matter. Even when the break up is reasonably amicable and there are no children involved or sizeable assets, the divorce can quickly become more complicated. You may have managed to agree matters with your husband or wife and know exactly how you want to divide your matrimonial assets, but it’s a very risky strategy to assume that your ex-partner will always be good on their word or has told you everything you need to know about their finances. You could miss out on what you are entitled to, such as pension provision, spousal maintenance or business-related payments.

You may not be aware of all the options open to you, the long-term implications of your choices or the tax consequences of your arrangements.

Make it official Arrangements for children and decisions about how your finances should be divided are not included as part of the administrative divorce process and will need to be dealt with separately. That’s why if you are separating or divorcing, it’s vital that any important decisions are properly thought through and recorded in a court order or deed of separation. Without finalising matters through the Court, there is nothing to stop your ex pursuing you one year, two years or even decades down the line.

I WANT TO TAKE MY CHILDREN ABROAD ON HOLIDAY THIS SUMMER, CAN MY EX-PARTNER STOP ME? As summer holidays loom, parents who are separated can face difficult and fraught decisions when it comes to taking their child on holiday.

The law Legally, if there is no Child Arrangement Order in place, either parent can take a child under the age of 16 anywhere in England and Wales without the permission of the other parent. In the same circumstances, the person with parental responsibility can decide whether a child can be taken abroad.

If this fails to resolve matters you will then need to make an application for a Specific Issue Order at Court. If a Court Order is in place to prevent you taking your child abroad without permission and you do so, intentionally or not, it will be treated as international child abduction.

Know your rights It is important to fully understand your rights and seek legal advice if you feel your ex-partner is being unfair or you are concerned that they will take your child without permission.

Intervention If the person with parental responsibility refuses to let the other parent take a child on holiday abroad, and there is no Court Order in place, you will need to attend mediation together and try to reach an agreement.

For further information about any of these issues or to contact our specialist family solicitors please call 01225 485700 or email


Family | Trouble Lounge Takeover

Family. Festival. Fun.


s fateful festival-lovers, we feared our festival summer loving antics would end when we became parents. Luckily, and thanks to a super innovative husband and wife team Rob and Joise Da Bank, the family festival scene has really blossomed in recent years. Now, there are loads of local and national family-friendly festivals to choose from. However, if you’re a festival

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Founders of Bath-based events collective Trouble Lounge and regular party people, Katy Wyatt and Sarah Baker, give us their tried and tested top tips on Family Festival Survival.

first-timer we suggest Camp Bestival - it’s reasonably close, friendly, fun and has a FULL line-up for kids and adults. Between us we have 6 kids, ranging from aged 7 through to 15. After arriving on site, and once tents and bunting have been set up, we take some time to look at the festival programme and make some lose plans for the weekend. Our top tip is to go with the flow, but do make sure that everyone gets to see at least one act they really want to - it also makes life easier when you want to sit in Caravanserai for a pinky-plonk drink :o) It’s at this time of year that we start planning our camping equipment and our outfits! This year we’re returning to Camp Bestival, families in tow, ready for music, crafting, disco dancing (dad dancing

always slips in too!), BBQ goodness from DJ BBQ and a lot of laughs. It’s at festivals that we hold our annual meet-ups. The festival scene proves a great meeting place for friends we’ve made across social media to gather, in real life, for a natter, a cheeky drink and the exchange of festival tips, fancy dress admiration and to share the love. With that in mind we asked the festival pro’s what their top tips were for surviving festivals with the family in tow •••••→

Trouble Lounge Takeover | Family

Take wet wipes. This is the number 1 rule, if you do nothing else environmentally friendly ones of course. Repeat after us, ‘I will always have wet wipes with me’. Make your home from home unique. Dress your tent in bunting, fairy lights, flags, pineapples, flamingos, whatever. It makes it easier for your kids (and you!) can find it, both during the day and after dark… Dress up! This is the time to cover yourself in glitter. Wear that superhero outfit, wear that pink wig you’ve secretly added to your Amazon basket! ANYTHING GOES. Allow it! Take bobble hats. It may be summer but take bobble hats, for everyone! And because of this you will need the dry shampoo… Double the snacks. Plan how many snacks you’ll need and double it. Make sure all your pockets (aka snack holes), are lined with snacks at all times. You’ll also save a few pennies this way. We also take diablos, they have been a godsent. Plus they can be pretty pricey at festivals so invest before you go – along with bubble sticks!

Take wellies! And welly socks. Even if it doesn’t rain, you’ll need them. Keep them to hand, especially for those midnight trips to the toilets. Take a trolley/wheelbarrow. It’ll transport your equipment and your family and will double up as a makeshift mobile bed for the small people and a seat for you! Take micro towels. Use them for bodies, for hair and for EVERYTHING ELSE in between. You’ll be amazed at how many uses they will have. It’s worth knowing that micro towels won’t cover your modesty! (We found this out the hard way.)

Alcohol and water. You’ll need plenty of both. Note; You can’t take glass into festivals so be you’ll need to be creative! There are plenty of camping shop solutions for carrying fluids that won’t break the bank and that you’ll use over and over again. Write your phone number on your kid’s arm with a marker pen. Also point out where the lost children tent is, the staff are super friendly. Forget the normal routines. The kids WILL sleep at some point. Meet with friends, or make new ones. Festival camps are super friendly environments. Wander, see the side shows, explore and get involved, wear the glitter.

Find news of Katy & Sarah’s Camp Bestival meet up and details of upcoming events on their lively Instagram feed @TroubleLounge, Facebook and Twitter @TroubleLounge #dresslikeamumatafestival #campbestival2019 | 27

Careers | Wild Coworking Takeover

Working Women Local entrepreneur and businesswoman, Jess Hellens, explains the concept of Wild Coworking, a new work space for Frome's entrepreneurial and enterprising women, and why we need to build a better future for women in business.


reelance life was meant to be so much more glamorous, right? Boozy lunches, afternoons off, not working Mondays and rolling in cash? PAH. Sure. The reality is it’s tough. It’s a series of ups and downs, all the while

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working from home with absolutely no one to make you a cup of tea. And, if you have small children at home, it means you’re always kind of working but not really. It’s actually pretty lonely and you can begin to feel extremely isolated as I found out two years ago when I started my business from my mum's kitchen table. In 2016, in a bold and unexpected move, I made a decision to resign from my highly paid and (kind of) secure job as Head of Marketing in contemporary music education. After a decade of

making money for other people, I was about to take the very scary, and very real leap, into freelance life. Moving from Brighton/London to Somerset, I suddenly found myself very alone and unsure of what the future was about to bring, just a few weeks before I turned 30. Fastforward two years and I now have two businesses; a creative PR and Marketing agency called JDH and a co-working space for women called Wild Coworking.

Building a better future for women in business When I launched JDH. I went to a lot of networking events, investment workshops and seminars. I found myself amongst other entrepreneurs who were going through the same stages of business as me, but I was also faced with a very outdated system. Most of the people with the power and money, which I needed to grow my own business, neither looked like me or shared a similar vision to me. And

Wild Coworking Takeover | Careers Life

they certainly didn’t look or think like my colleagues who are women of colour. It was obvious that there was no diversity or gender parity represented in these forums. Unsurprisingly, I wasn't the only one who noticed. Recently, a report led by Alison Rose, the Head of Royal Bank of Scotland's Corporate, Commercial and Private Banking Business, identified the need for more support for women in business. The 'Rose Report', named after Alison Rose, found that: Female-led businesses receive less funding than those headed by men at every stage of their development A survey of 1,500 men and women found that access to funding is the number one barrier to business development. This was mentioned as a barrier by almost twice as many women as men. Only 1 in 3 UK entrepreneurs is female, representing "a gender gap equivalent of 1.1 million missing businesses" The UK could add an estimated £200 billion into the economy if as many women started businesses as men To accompany the stats from The Rose Report, PeoplePerHour predicts that by 2020, 50% of the UK workforce will be self-employed. Based on my own experience of setting up a new business and research into the opportunities for women in business, I knew I had to try to be a part of the solution. I was passionate about developing a culture and environment where women are encouraged and empowered to start their own businesses. It's why I started Wild Coworking, a business network and hot-desking space for women in Frome. “This has never been and never will be against men. Empowering women doesn’t automatically mean you’re disempowering men.” Wild Coworking is located in the middle of town in the beautifully restored Frome Town Hall on Christchurch St West. The venue is fully accessible with

nearby parking, access to meeting and event rooms, a hot-desking area with adjoining kitchenette, fast and free wifi and standing desks with room for up to 10 women at a time. In the future Wild Coworking would like to develop the business to include 24/7 access, permanent desks alongside a hot-desking area and childcare services so that much-needed flexible working can become a reality for working mothers. The vision is to have enough space that will allow female founders to grow their teams. While studios and larger offices will eventually be mixgendered, hot-desking will remain a space for women only. “Women can come here to discover where they can find investment, where

they can go to get extra support, but above all it’s a place to feel less alone, a respite from the isolation you feel as a freelancer working from home.” We offer drop-in hot-desking at £10 a day, as well as different monthly membership options that start from £5 a day.

Wild Member benefits

Wild Membership options

You don’t have to be a member of Wild Coworking to use our work space, though membership offers some real benefits for local, entrepreneurial women.

Always Wild £65 p/month

• free tea and coffee • free and fast wifi • free/discount on monthly events and workshops • access to the private members-only • Facebook group • monthly newsletter • resources that will help you grow your business • option to opt-in to MOTIVATION MONDAY, a bi-weekly accountability call or text to help members set goals or prioritise workload • local supplier discounts with your Wild Card • access to the Wild community dashboard where you can connect with other members

Founding Member £65 p/month for life Sometimes Wild £55 p/month Virtually Wild £20 – no hot-desking but all the benefits that come with a membership Drop in sessions £10 per day – no membership necessary All prices are inclusive of VAT Free trial days available Current opening times: Tuesday-Thursday 9am−5pm Website: Instagram: @wild_coworking Facebook: WILD Coworking Instagram: @wild_coworking | 29

An evening of comedy

A One Woman Show Written and performed by Rose Wadham Directed by Angus Barr

Friday June 21st 7:30-8:30 Rook Lane Arts 10 Bath Street, Frome, BA11 1DN £8 Early Bird Tickets on Facebook or £10 on the door Fully Licensed Bar

Presents Frome's first ever comedy festival for kids!

13-14 July '19

A whole weekend of fantastically funny award-winning shows for kids (and their grown-ups!) at HUBnub for Frome Festival 2019 Tickets and more info from

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We are proud to announce The HUBnub Gallery has been renamed THE WHITTOX GALLERY. We are a unique, contemporary art gallery located in the heights of RISE – a beautifully restored church in the heart of Frome.

A unique collaboration of four artist/printmakers together creating dramatic large woodcut prints. 30TH March to 9TH June 2019

OPEN TUESDAY–FRIDAY 9am–5pm SATURDAY & SUNDAY 10am–5pm | WHITTOX LANE, FROME, BA11 3BY | 07712 523734 | |