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The List Magazine is a community life style magazine of the Great South Bay area. It is published six times a year. Most of our distribution is mailed from Babylon to Great River, south of Montauk Highway and all of Brightwaters. In addition, our magazines are available for pick up in shops along Montauk highway and in our coastal towns.

Must Know

6 Better Living

8 Raging Gracefully

10 Interior Design Twice as Nice Interiors

12 LI Photo Gallery Home is Where the Art Is

20 Millennial Wedding Trends

22 Creative Dates Make Together

Your Favorite Place to Be

24 Home, Sweet Crate How to Make Your Dog's Crate Feel Like Home

24 Dogma with Dr. Millie 25 Home Selling Checklist 6 Things to Do Before Selling Your House

Ramsay Realtors Office Space Gets a Fresh New Look

Go 14 What's Happening Around Town

Real Estate 28-31

Welcome to our first issue of the New Year, coined our ‘Love Issue’, which takes the topic of love way past cupid. Each year we have a different take on the topic of love. This year, we put the focus on love for where you live, as there is no place like the place you call home.

Like you, our small team at The LIST loves the vibe of the south shore…we live here too. Whether you work, play, or reside here, our charming coastal communities are just minutes from spectacular bay views and ocean beaches. To us, our iconic landmarks have a special significance because they portray ‘home’.

Our cover shot of the beloved Captree Bridge, taken by local photographer Scott Heaney, brilliantly captures this magnificent view of spring awakening. The early freeze on the bay representative of the tug of war game Mother Nature often plays with us this time of year. Despite her fickleness, we know there is promise of a new day and a new season.

Spring awakening is time to refresh our lives and our homes. Inside this issue you’ll meet two sisters who are award winning interior designers. They share some insights about decorating trends and classic designs that are always in style. I am sure like me, you will be very impressed with their work. Although their clients span from the Hamptons to the North Shore and Manhattan, they too love and live on the coastline of the south shore.

Spring is the season for new beginnings, with each day a new opportunity to live better. This year we place a whole lot of emphasis on better living and are committed to exploring and sharing various ways to create improved wellness, balance and happiness in our lives.

For those couples who recently got engaged, our vibrant young columnist, Julianne Mosher gives us an update on what’s trending in weddings.

Also, inside you’ll find all that is happening for the season. Hope we inspire you some.

Enjoy,

Meet Bill & Sharon Mitchell

On the Cover...

“It never ceases to amaze me how lucky we are to have so much beauty in our own backyard. It seems that it's all too common for people to get caught up in the hustle bustle of everyday life... work, traffic, politics, you name it. But for me, the south shore of Long Island offers such a wonderful escape from it all. The moment when the ocean comes into view as you cross the midway point of the Fire Island Inlet Bridge. The smell of salt water. The sound of waves crashing. That moment of peace as you watch the sun set, melting into the Atlantic. That moment just can't be beat. Live for the moment."

Scott Heaney

LI Landscape and Travel Photographer

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BetterLiving

Better Living is all about finding realistic solutions and authenticity for your lifestyle in order to find moments of joy and peace in a complicated world.

A healthy body, mind, and spirit are key ingredients for a better quality of life for all of us. We know many of you also feel this way, which is why Better Living will be an ongoing theme in the magazine this year.

There is an abundance of information at our fingertips and we are fortunate to have many resources and professionals available to us locally who can help us live a better life. We at the LIST are committed to explore and share various ways of incorporating small changes that might make a big difference in living better. We asked a few well-respected people in our community for their thoughts on what ‘Living Better’ or ‘Better Living’ means to them, and wanted to share their wise words with you.

ANDY TARTAGLIA, Co-owner of Verde Kitchen & Cocktails and Coastal Kitchen & Daiquiri Bar. Beginner Yogi, late night philosopher, middling author.

I am no one special, just a human being trying to enjoy the human experience as best I can. I like this phrase “Living Better” because it implies action. Feeling good takes finding a balance between effort and ease.

The EFFORT: There is such a broad range of ideas on how to live better. Most of them probably work… to some extent. The first effort, in my opinion, is to find what works for you. You’re not going to be living better if you’re torturing yourself to be on someone else’s path. I like to focus and put a little extra effort on the simple things. It’s the “little things”, such as kindness, that are basic, but also grand. Kindness is the new cool and that’s not a cliché. I make an effort to feel good internally so that I can act with hopes of creating a kind environment in my small circle. There is so much fear and anxiety inherent in the world. Millions of years of fight or flight adrenaline and survival instincts, now less necessary parts of the human condition, have not existed without consequence to the human psyche. Be it from their past, present, or future worries, people carry angst with

them. On top of that, you just never know what burden someone else is carrying. Actions based on these reflexes or anxieties can add to the craziness of our already intense LINY world. Sometimes, simple kindness begets kindness. To give myself the best opportunity for BEING “my best” I find it valuable to keep myself FEELING “my best”. I try to take time out of my busy work and personal life for self-care. For me, that’s a regular yoga practice, exercise, maybe a massage or a float session once a month, and of course time with friends and family. Insert here whatever makes you feel well, balanced, and happy! Whether you are flying a rocket ship or just walking down the street, the better you feel in your own skin, the better you can be. Feel good, play good!

THE EASE: Don’t be afraid to do things that feel easy and make you happy. Our own inner voice is often-times the harshest critic in our lives. Accept yourself. While you work on Living Better, remember to be appreciative of living at all. Then it all becomes cyclical. Feel good, feel happy; be good to others, be happy. Simple advice from someone who’s simply trying to live better. See you out there!

DONNA LORENZ, Certified Nutritional Counselor and owner of Healthy Alternatives in Babylon Village.

For me, 'Better Living' means living consciously. In a world where everything seems to be moving at ever-increasing speed, it is easy to become swept into the swirling activity of our ever-so-busy lives. We fly through days, barely aware, as we rush to "get it all done." Living consciously invites a welcome pause; pause to enjoy, to reflect, to really listen, to savor, to choose, to just breathe. Living consciously, each pause allows for the moments that will become our memories... memories of moments that will ultimately become the reflection of our life. Living consciously allows us to deliberately choose for that reflection to be of a life well lived. Better living? I think so.

TONI PANARIELLO AND SAMANTHA BUSER, Owners/ Instructors, The Welcome Mat Yoga and Wellness. Sun worshiping soul searchers.

Living better is choosing self-care which leads to self-love.

Taking time to unplug and restore is the best way to tackle all we have to handle. “You can’t pour from an empty cup.” Choosing to schedule YOU-time means living better.

We live in a world of constant stimulation. We find ourselves running on autopilot, and we’re wired to finish to-do lists and meet deadlines. Now, more than ever, we need grounding.

During the winter, our studio decided to add a Self-Care Sunday class to focus on ourselves. We incorporated yoga, relaxation, and self-care tips. We relaxed, restored, and renewed. The response was wonderful. We also held a private class for Northwell Health interns, which included one hour of restorative yoga, pampering, and essential oils. They came from work, took that well needed break, and then returned more focused. These moments define living better because they refuel you with the energy needed to accomplish all we do with a clean slate and fresh start. Namaste!

Rest and self-care are so important. When you take time to replenish your spirit, it allows you to serve others from the overflow. You cannot serve from an empty vessel."

Eleanor Brown.

RAGING GRACEFULLY

BY ANNIE NILAND

Are you fortunate enough to own one of those heart-shaped jewelry boxes that expand when needed? As seen on TV and invented by a mother, it boasts a unique design that defies the laws of nature. The more gems placed into the box, the larger and sturdier it becomes.

So, I guess size does matter. How big is yours?

Truth. Right before birth, tucked deeply within satin folds, we all have a heart-shaped jewelry box that’s maxed out in size, overflowing with all that shines. But, upon entering the world the box empties and collapses as a form of protection, relying on others, namely the adults who revolve around the newborn star, to re-fill it. When done according to plan, the Universe smiles and sighs with satisfaction.

Family Jewels. Every smile, hug, kiss, word of encouragement, pat on the head, acknowledgment, validation, teachable moment, celebration of being, and gentle steerage help to fill and fortify the interior. In best case

scenarios, children keep the chambers of their heart-shaped jewelry box open and ready to receive, trusting those who have lived longer will continue to drop trinkets inside.

Taking Inventory. Recently, I felt moved to re-examine and take stock of my own heartshaped jewelry box. It was hidden beneath the rubble of everyday demands and detours, upside down with its contents strewn across the floor. I allowed myself the luxury of time to examine the pieces as I returned them to their rightful place with newly minted mindfulness. There was a delay in my knee-jerk reaction to mourn what was lost, which allowed

me to focus on what remained. Small shifts create space for big victories.

Diamond Clarity. As I counted the gifts life and those I love had given me, it occurred to me that I wasn’t as generous in gifting myself. I couldn’t remember when I added to my own stash. Any pearls of wisdom I might have harvested over the years were buried under cheap baubles and glittery diversions. Digging deeper, I found the bad mood ring which I wore too often in my 20’s and 30’s. I kissed it, then tossed it with a grin. I actually belly laughed when I picked up my old tiara, strands of over-processed blond hair were still tangled in it.

Coronation. Heads tend to swell in youth. The tiara was too big and wouldn’t sit comfortably on my head. When it landed on the floor, I smiled and wrapped it carefully in safe keeping for the princess who already knows how to rule with love, my granddaughter, Piper. I left the hair as a keepsake. When I returned her crown to my heartshaped jewelry box it expanded

and felt sturdier as promised. Silver Linings Playbook. The upside of getting older is when we habitually count our blessing and make regular deposits to our heart-shaped jewelry boxes by gifting ourselves. The math is still challenging, but I’m committed to mastering it. Dog-eared selfhelp books about manifesting abundance have lost their sheen because I’ve learned a glittering truth. Simply by being alive and healthy, we can all accrue wealth that can’t be quantified. Eureka, what a gold rush!

Take a Bow. Each of us can stand on a podium to a round of applause by continuing to re-gift others. By living well and paying kindness forward we can earn precious metals…so what if they wind up in our teeth and knees. But, watch your back while bowing. Going low is easy, but rising with grace requires full attention and care. Try holding your expandable, heart-shaped jewelry box closely to your chest for balance. It works like a charm when you continue to practice. Namastayin’alive!

TWO SISTERS, ONE PASSION,

INFINITE IDEAS

BEAUTIFUL INTERIOR DESIGNS DO NOT HAPPEN BY CHANCE

Walk into any home and you will always notice a room that’s well-designed. You can tell it was done by a professional because of the spacing and layout. The furniture is correctly balanced and proportioned to fit the room, and its functionality works with the needs of the people who live in it.

We refreshed and brightened up this dining/ living room space dramatically by painting the walls BM White Dove. This client was not into grey tones, so we decided to use tans and chocolates. The ceiling was redesigned by us and painted all white to give it a neo-traditional feel. We used a lot of contrasting black and luxurious gold for upholstery fabrics and décor. We kept elements of the traditional living room, like the gold gilded mirror above the fireplace, and added some modern lamps and vases. We updated the traditional tufted sofa by adding gorgeous couture silk tie dye pattern pillows. Her French Bergere chair was reupholstered with a stunning black, white, and gold fabric. The result: sophisticated, elegant, timeless.

We chatted with Mary and Nancy from Twice as Nice Interiors, who offered valuable insight for design ideas and shared some of their favorite projects.

WHEN IS IT TIME TO REFRESH YOUR HOME?

MARY & NANCY: The heavy traditional look that was once very popular may just feel too dark and weighted. People are exploring a more out-of-the-box, colorful side, but it’s important your home be a reflection of who you are, not a page out of a catalog. This is how we can help. We will never tell you to ditch the stuff that speaks to your soul, but if you're longing for a design upgrade and aren't sure where to start, ask yourself if your home décor is full of looks that have worn out their welcome. You do not have to toss everything you own; you can incorporate those high ticket items in a new and interesting way. We love using a client’s furniture pieces and giving them a new life! One of the benefits of working with a designer is we know which pieces are worth investing in.

WITH HGTV AND PINTEREST FLOODING OUR FEEDS WITH GREAT IDEAS, IT CAN BE EASY TO FALL INTO THE TRAP OF BUYING INTO THE LATEST TRENDS. CAN YOU OFFER SOME ADVICE ABOUT INCORPORATING WHAT’S TRENDING?

MARY & NANCY: We get asked that question a lot. Trends come and go: we only encourage including trends in your home design if a style really resonates with you and can easily be switched out. We don’t advise our clients to invest in expensive pieces that may soon become out of date. For instance, we are saying ‘So long’ to the 2018 Pantone Color of the Year, which was Ultra Violet, and ‘Welcome!’ to Living Coral, the new color for 2019. It’s customary to want to follow all the current fads. This is where you can use fashion accent pieces for your home, like pillows and throws. They are stocking the shelves at Home Goods as we speak. However, if you invest in expensive items, like bold drapery or large, custom sofas just because it’s current in all the style blogs, you may tire of it quickly. Splurging on what’s in style for the season might also make you feel locked in to that particular style and prevent you from updating your space. That said, if you find a trendy statement piece that really calls out to you, then we are all in!

This family room in a West Islip home is perfectly polished, yet its vibrant colors make it cheerful and welcoming with plenty of space for family members of all ages.

CLASSIC DESIGNS ARE ALWAYS IN STYLE

This family room we worked on a few years ago and I love it just as much today as I did when we designed it…good designs are timeless! The color palette is very soothing in various neutral tones with a little bit of robin’s egg blue. Casual doesn’t have to mean boring, and casual can be elegant as well. We used lots of beautiful embroidered linen which makes the room feel special. Custom sheer drapery was designed to soften the large wall of windows, creating a gorgeous backdrop for this space.

Meet award winning interior designers Mary Middlemiss and Nancy LaCalamita, sisters and owners of local boutique interior design firm, Twice as Nice Interiors. Passionate about creating beautiful spaces, this dynamic duo opened their full design studio in East Islip in 2002. Although the south shore is their home base, their clients span from the Gold Coast of the north shore all the way out to the Hamptons. Specializing in residential and corporate design, their systematic approach saves both time and money while delivering gorgeous functional spaces.

“Each client has different needs, desires, and budgets that pertain to their lifestyle” says Nancy. “It is our job to extract that information and create beautiful spaces that they will enjoy for years to come. Whether it’s a 6,000 square foot estate, or small beach cottage, we work with all budgets and all styles of design. No project is too big or small. Construction, interior, exterior, outdoor living spaces… we do it all. ”

Much of their success stems from their diversity and ability to complement each other’s style. While Nancy has a love of vintage and rustic, with an eye for detail; Mary tends toward classic, elegant designs that have perennial style. Says Mary, “Our objective is to always create stylish, sophisticated interiors that will remain effortlessly timeless. It is very important to us that each project reflects the lifestyle of the homeowner. We love sharing our knowledge with clients and working together with them to create a vision, and then to bring that vision to life.”

Home is Where the Art Is

Your home will always be a place for which you feel profound affection, no matter where you are. A home is more than four walls; it's where we laugh, love, and share our deepest connections and create memories. Most memories that are encapsulated through photography often last longer than a lifetime.

However, a home without art is like a garden without flowers. Art not only improves the appearance of a space, but it also has been proven to elevate one's mood because art is therapeutic. A beautiful image of Long Island is a constant reminder of fond memories and of how beautiful the place we call home is. Joanne Henig and Jessica Lempin, Curators and Co-Founders of Long Island Photo Gallery are committed to representing award-winning professional and emerging artists in photography. Website visitors can browse through the many Long Island Photo Gallery categories by subject, location, or artist, and choose one or multiple images. Their collection of digital photography is ideal for decorating any home or office. Visitors are welcome to the Gallery, and they are happy to assist you with finding that perfect classic Long Island image.

Holly Gordon

Richard LaBella

Holly Gordon

Vicki Jauron

Hollie Miller

Mark Your Calendars for WHAT'S HAPPENING AROUND TOWN

SUNDAY, MARCH 3 • 2:00PM

East Islip AOH St. Patrick’s Day Parade

Travels west down Main St. to Irish Lane. Get ‘yer green on!

WEDNESDAY, MARCH 6 -APRIL 13

Fine Art Photography Exhibit

At Long Island Photo Gallery, 467 Main Street, Islip. This Exhibit displays select pieces by award-winning & emerging photographic artists. Gallery Hours: Tues-Fri 11a-6p, Sat10a-4p

SATURDAY, MARCH 9 • 9:00AM

St. Patrick School Run for the Shamrocks 5k

St. Patrick School, Montauk Hwy, Bay Shore. This event will raise money to provide quality education to children at an affordable cost to families. Run/walk through beautiful downtown Bay Shore and finish back at the school.

SATURDAY, MARCH 9 • 2:00PM

Bay Shore-Brightwaters

St. Patrick’s Day Parade

Steps off at Saxon Ave. and travels west down Main Street to St. Patrick’s Church. 2019 Grand Marshals will be Julia Costello, Catherine Cronin and Mary Knapp (The Doddy Sisters).

SUNDAY, MARCH 10 • 1:30PM

Jones Beach Seal Walk

Meet at Jones Beach Nature Center for short presentation, then walk about 90 mins. Dress appropriately and bring binoculars. Reservations required, visit www.nysparks.com.

SUNDAY, MARCH 10 • 11:00AM

Bayport-Blue Point

St. Patrick’s Day Parade

Parade steps off at Snedecor Ave. and Montauk Hwy. in Bayport.

THURSDAY, MARCH 14 • 6:30PM

8th Annual Babylon Village

Chinese Auction

$10.00 Admission. The Piermont, 494 Fire Island Ave., Babylon. GREAT night out!! Admission includes 25 raffle tickets, coffee, tea, and dessert donated from local Babylon merchants. Cash bar and additional food and ticket sheets will be available for purchase.

THURSDAY, MARCH 14 - APRIL 20

The Producers: A Mel Brooks Musical

The Argyle Theatre, Babylon Village. Visit argyletheatre.com for more info.

FRIDAY, MARCH 15 • 8:00PM

Big Laughs Comedy

YMCA Boulton Center for the Performing Arts. 37 West Main street, Bay Shore.

SUNDAY, MARCH 17 • 1:00-4:00PM

The Bride & Groom Show at Oheka Castle

135 West Gate Dr., Huntington. Enjoy complimentary champagne and hors d’oeuvres, tour the castle, and meet sought after professional bridal vendors. Advanced tickets $25. Register online at oheka.com.

SUNDAY, MARCH 17 • 10:30AM

May the Road Rise to Meet Ye 5K Patchogue

Finest Fitness, 208 E. Main Street, Patchogue. Optional stops at favorite downtown watering holes on final ½ mile stretch.

SUNDAY, MARCH 17 • AFTER 5K RACE Patchogue Village St. Patrick’s Day Parade

WEDNESDAY, MARCH 20 • 6:30PM FI Lighthouse Evening Tower Tour

Enjoy the beautiful sunset and the Worm Moon from the top of the tower. Bring a flashlight. Reservations required: 631-661-4879.

FRIDAY, MARCH 22 • 7:00-10:00PM

Great South Bay Whiskey & Spirits Fest

Great South Bay Brewery, Bay Shore. Great South Bay Whiskey Fest features over 100 styles of spirits. Meet the distillers, master blenders, and other experts. From moonshine to mezcal. High end rum, cognac, whiskey, vodka, gin, tequila and Great South Bay Brewery's extensive beer portfolio will be available as well.

SATURDAY, MARCH 23-APRIL 20

James and the Giant Peach

The Argyle Children’s Theatre. Visit argyletheatre.com for more info.

SATURDAY, MARCH 23, APRIL 6, SUNDAY, MARCH 10, MARCH 31

Captain Lou’s Fleet Seal Watching Cruises

31 Woodcleft Ave., Freeport. 1:00-3:00pm. Fun for the whole family. on the water in search of wintering seals. Call for Adults $30/Kids $20/Seniors $25. Reservations: 516-623-5823, captloufleet.com.

SATURDAY MARCH 23 • 8:00PM

Kerry Kearney & Jack Licitra Stripped Down

YMCA Boulton Center for the Performing Arts. Boulton Center.Org/Upcoming-Events

SUNDAY, MARCH 24 • 12:00PM

57th Annual Montauk St. Patrick’s Day Parade

Head east to enjoy New York’s second largest St. Patrick’s Day Parade!

SATURDAYS & SUNDAYS, MARCH 16, 17, 30, 31 • 9:00AM

CRESLI Seal Walks

Cupsogue Beach County Park, Westhampton Beach. Great morning out for the family. Walk is about 1.2 miles round trip. Dress warmly; wear waterproof shoes. May cancel due to weather. Registration required call: 631-319-6003 or visit cresli.org Registration will enable you to contact you regarding changes and or cancellations.

SATURDAY, APRIL 13 • 11:00AM-2:00PM

Babylon Village Easter Egg Hunt

American Legion Hall, 22 Grove Place, Babylon

SATURDAY, APRIL 13 • 8:00AM-2:30PM

Town of Babylon STOP Spring Collection Day

Town of Babylon Residential Recycling Center, 57 Field St., W. Babylon. Bring down hazardous household wastes for safe disposal.

SATURDAY, APRIL 13 • 11:00AM-4:00PM

Spring Fest at Sayville Village

Gillette Park, Sayville. Family fun - arts & crafts, petting zoo, magician, face painting & more!

SATURDAY, APRIL 20 • 7:30PM

Stars on Ice

Nassau Veterans Memorial Coliseum, Uniondale. The best of American figure skating past, present, and future.

EASTER SUNDAY, APRIL 21 • 5:30AM FI Lighthouse Early Easter Morning Tower Tour

Enjoy the beautiful scenery and sunrise from the top of the tower. Tour includes a light breakfast. Bring a flashlight for walk to lighthouse. Reservations required: 631-661-4879.

SATURDAY, APRIL 27 • 10:00AM-4:00PM

Annual Seatuck Eco Carnival

Come celebrate earth Day! Nature programs, live animals, vendors, music, art, games and food! For more information visit seatuck.org.

Allure Bridals

Maggie Sottero

Mon Cheri

Pronovias

Eddy K.

Jovani

2019 BRIDAL TRENDS

The Wedding Dress

Regal yet racy!

It’s safe to say skin is in!

High necklines with low v-backs

Plunge necklines with full coverage backs

Long sleeves with cut-out illusions

Off the shoulder

Silk, Crepe & Mikado

Antique beading and embroidery

And bridal jumpsuits!

2019 BRIDAL HAIR & MAKEUP TRENDS

Hair

A stylish mix of hair worn down with long and loose waves to waterfall braided hairstyles and fuller braids, messy updos and clean chic buns.

Natural and a bit undone is the new chic.

Crystals and pearls, hair vines and bridal hair accessories are fun alternatives to add a little shimmer.

Makeup

Natural look, healthy glowing skin

Shimmery eye shadow and nude lips

A bride’s best accessory is her smile.

Our team of Bridal Hair Designers and Makeup Artists will create looks to make every bride’s dream day come true!

BRIDAL JUMPSUIT BY MAGGIE SOTTERO

“Millennial” Wedding Trends

BY JULIANNE MOSHER – YOUR MILLENNIAL CORRESPONDENT

Using Pinterest for thrifty ideas

You really don’t need a wedding planner anymore; all you need is a smart phone, a computer, and the website Pinterest.com. On this site, there are thousands upon thousands of ideas available to young brides who literally have no idea where to start. Other couples share what they did at their weddings, and you can pick and choose what you like best. There are ideas for wedding invites, food, locations, floral arrangements, favors, and even dresses – plus so much more.

Millennials have so much information available with a simple swipe of the finger –we were practically raised on the internet. So now that young people are starting to plan their weddings, the trends and fads that were popular even just 10 years ago are long gone. Things have changed – and not in a bad way. Millennials love to pick and choose certain highlights from past generations. Don’t worry, many traditions are still valued… but here are some of our favorite things that brides-to-be are jumping on in 2019.

Making Everything

‘Instagrammable’

Social media has a huge influence over the millennial generation. Constantly connected to our phones, we document our lives on platforms like Instagram, Facebook and Snapchat. People have caught on to that virtual necessity, and have hashtags for Instagram photos dedicated to the wedding. Some include the last name of the new couple like, “HappilyEverAllen”, or something simpler like “JonesWedding2019.” The idea is to get creative, and puns or play on words are always welcomed. Hashtags are helpful because when you click on the tag, all the public photos taken at the wedding are viewable, so if you miss a moment you can see someone else’s pictures!

The

big

gaudy cakes are no more

And so are the little people that stand on top. Couples now like to monogram their initials or last name on top of the cake instead of the typical bride and groom figurines. Those giant wedding cakes with lace and over-the-top icing designs are no longer in fashion, as most young brides are actually choosing simpler cakes with fresh flowers on top. Some prefer a small cake - just for the cake cutting ceremony – and the guests get donuts or cupcakes!

WE LOVE TORTA FINA IN BABYLON FOR OUR DESSERTS.

“We try to conform to what the bride is looking for,” said Nina Wiebke of Torta Fina Bake Shoppe and Patisserie. Torta Fina offers donut walls and cupcake stands for rent for brides who prefer something a little more unconventional and fun. Some couples offer coffee bars at the end of the reception, and ask to serve some of Torta Fina’s famous biscotti at the coffee bar. Whatever the bride wants, the bride gets.

Greenery with a touch of floral design

Caroline’s Flower Shoppe in Islip told us that young brides are looking for lush arrangements nowadays. They love all different types of greenery with gentle touches of flowers that are elegant and romantic. Some brides prefer to have this look for garland on the tables, hanging greenery on the chairs lining the aisle, bouquets for both the bride and her bridesmaids, and beautifully decorated archways. The choices are endless!

BRINGing the pets along!

It’s becoming more the norm to bring man’s best friend along – and get them all fancied up, too! Who said that only the bride, groom, and wedding party have to look stunning? Our four-legged-friends make great ring bearers!

No more tacky favors

No guest wants a favor that will just sit on a shelf or in a china cabinet. So many bakeries offer edible treats for guests to take home. Manhattan Sweets Boutique Bakery in Islip offers macaroons, cupcakes, sugar cookies, and donuts all wrapped up nicely with a little bow. What sweet ways to say ‘thank you!’ for coming.

Don't worry mom...

Some traditions will never go out of style. Many of us will always want to do the father and daughter dance, throw the bouquet, and cut the cake in front of all our guests. We may just want to steer away from the Chicken Dance and Electric Slide for now.

Caroline’s Flower Shoppe

Make Together Your Favorite Place to Be

CREATIVE DATES TO GO ON LOCALLY.

If you need some fun, fresh ways to woo your significant other, look no further. Whether sparking up your marriage, or exploring a new relationship, these are some of our favorite ideas for great dates: casual, low-key, get-to-knowyou dates all the way up to book-a-baby-sitter romantic evenings.

Pack wine & cheese and walk to the FI Lighthouse. Plan to go when they are hosting an event that interests you, like an art exhibit or the evening tower tour. Bring flashlights for the walk back in the dark. Perfect opportunity to huddle close.

Take a walk on the beach. Temps may still be cool, so bundle up and stay close. Perfect time for a romantic walk and intimate talk. The beaches are desolate but beautiful. You’ll be alone, and, afterward, you will be in need of some warmth and a bite to eat. One quick turn off the causeway brings you into Babylon Village. Barrique Kitchen and Wine Bar is one of our favorite places to warm up with a nice glass of cab. Sharing their tapas-style plates are a fun way to try new dishes without the commitment of a main course.

Grab a cup of coffee together at a local coffee house. Both Babylon and Bay Shore Bean have cozy corners to nuzzle in. They have live music on Fridays and Saturdays from 6pm – 10pm. If singing makes you happy, check out Babylon Bean on Wednesdays for their open mic night.

First date? The Post Office Café has a fun, casual atmosphere with cozy booths and great pub food. Feeling comfortable? Order the big Bavarian pretzel to share. Feeling saucy? Boldly dip your pretzel into that gooey melted smoked Gouda & onion fondue.

Visit a wine bar. They are, by definition, intimate. The dimly lit, swanky ambiance of Molto Vino is a perfect place for a date.

Some patrons who have visited Italy remark, “To know good Italian food is to know Molto Vino.” The limited menu enables everything to be fresh and delicious. With over 100 wines by the glass, an assortment of authentic Italian cured meats and cheeses, their own brick oven Neapolitan pizza and breads, and their signature pasta dishes from their fabulous new chef, it’s a place to fall in love.

Enjoy an Oyster Happy Hour at Salt & Barrel Need we say more? Ok, we will. They have a really great brunch with Bacon Bloody Marys (!) and live acoustic music on Sundays from 11:30am –3:30pm.

Take a couples dance class together at Positions Dance Studio in Babylon Village and have some fun. You and your honey will be at ease and in sync out on the floor at your next gala affair. Planning your wedding? Positions offers lessons and choreography for that first dance!

Feeling a romantic evening? Book the babysitter and head to the LakeHouse in Bay Shore for romantic, fine dining by the fireplace in their beautiful, airy dining space. Then enjoy after-dinner drinks around the fire pit out on their expansive deck overlooking the Great South Bay.

Can’t get a sitter? No worries, the LakeHouse has six separate dining areas to choose from, including their more casual in-house tap room, which is family-friendly.

TIPS FOR A GREAT Date Night

j Silence your phone. Do not answer unless it’s the babysitter calling.

j Bring a present for your date’s pet.

j Bring your sense of humor. Maybe one day you will both look back and laugh at what happened.

j Listen. Ask questions. Listen.

j If you are just getting to know one another, opt to meet for coffee or drinks instead of dinner and a movie, which can get awkward if there is no love connection. This way you have the freedom to leave after the first drink, or continue the date for long as you want.

j Face-to-face time is mandatory for you married folks. Grab dinner or drinks before the movie or show; it provides time to talk and catch-up with one another. You’ll enjoy the rest of the date more if you feel connected as a couple.

j Do not allow yourself to be “over-served”. A great date can quickly turn disastrous if one of you drinks too much.

j Mind your manners; be polite and watch your language (no F-bombs!)

j Look nice. It makes a good impression when it’s obvious you want to look nice for your date.

Millie D. Yorkie, PHD

Our advice offering, wet nosed resident expert on human behavior.

Home, Sweet Crate How to Make Your Dog’s Crate Feel Like Home

By Virginia Anziani (Ginny)

Trainer/Instructor/Co-Owner of Doggie U K9 Academy, Travel Enthusiast and Pet Owner

“Just like people, pets need a place of their own. A crate provides for their own special place. It’s their room. It‘s important to make the crate a happy place so the dog will want to go in and relax.”

A dog can be taught to love the crate through positive reinforcement, resulting in the crate becoming their own safe and private place, much like a bedroom for a child. The crate is somewhere the dog can go and not be bothered; it's a perfect destination when the dog is tired or nervous, or if you have company over. Dogs have a natural instinct to be in a den. Many dogs take to a crate very easily.

Crates should not be used for direct punishment. A dog should be corrected, and then be placed in the crate to

Dear Dr. Mil,

My self-esteem needs a re-boot. Last month I made the mistake of gnawing on my human female’s Jimmy Chew calf leather ankle boots. Now she needs some re-boots too. Since then, she won’t stop calling me “BAD DOG!” in capital letters. Because I want to comply with her demands I’ve lived up to my name. Things are getting ugly.

-Bad Dog (formerly known as Good Ol’ Boy)

Dear Good Ol’ Boy,

You are not bad to the bone! We can’t help but be affected by the reflection we see of ourselves in the eyes of those we love. Your female human will come around. Your good name will be restored if you commit to rising to Great Expectations instead of poor outcomes. Going forward, avoid gnawing on your female human’s overpriced boots and, if you can’t resist the urge to clean your teeth, chew the fat with a pal.

You’re welcome.

Dr. Mil

settle down. Do not abruptly put the bad doggy in, slam the door, and then walk away. Just like a child, who you might scold and then send somewhere to calm down, the crate is that place to help pacify the dog.

Once the crate is established as a happy place for your dog, then it becomes their den. During the day the crate door should be left open; close the door at night when you are sleeping to keep your pooch safe and snug. Make the crate a happy place. Do not force your dog into the crate, introduce them to the crate gradually. Toss in a toy, throw in some cookies or treats. A

soft mat or comfy bed will help make the crate cozy.

Crates fold down easily, and most are very portable. What’s great is that once the crate is established as your dog’s “room”, you can take it with you when and wherever you bring your dog, and he will always feel at home. Even for dogs, there’s no place like home.

There are many benefits to crate training your dog. Feel free to call Doggie U K9 Academy with any questions you might have.

6 Things to Do Before Selling Your House

EXAMINE YOUR CURB APPEAL.

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• Is your front entrance welcoming?

• Plant some colorful flowers in decorative pots and add a pair of glass lanterns.

• Paint the front door and trim if needed.

• Replace outdoor light fixtures.

• Make visitors want to come in.

DECLUTTER LIVING AREAS.

• Less is definitely more when you are showing your home.

• Get rid of oversized furniture and unnecessary knickknacks.

• Remove all small appliances, toys, magazines and pet items.

KITCHENS AND BATHROOMS HAVE STARRING ROLES.

• If you have a limited budget, try to keep your focus here.

• Replace broken or outdated hardware, faucets, drawer pulls, cabinet and door knobs.

GET RID OF ANY ODORS

• Pet odors and cigarette smoke can be a huge turnoff.

• Choose a mild, yet pleasing scent in a diffuser that doesn’t overburden the senses.

MAKE IT SPARKLE.

• Cleanliness implies a home has been taken care of.

• Paint wisely. A fresh coat of paint in neutrals allows potential buyers to visualize their furniture in the room.

• Vacuum rugs, steam clean if necessary, and consider new carpeting if stains are prominent.

UPDATE ROOMS WITH NEW ACCENT PIECES.

• Pillows, candles and throw rugs are easy.

• Complement your existing décor with a splash of style or color.

I love this recipe…it’s really easy and it was delicious! -JL

Pan-Roasted White Fish with Rice and Cilantro Edamame Sauce

INGREDIENTS

• 2 limes for juice

• 1 bunch fresh cilantro

• 4 cloves garlic

• 1 10 oz. pkge. fresh shelled edamame, divided

• 3 Tbsp. olive oil

DIRECTIONS

• ¼ tsp. crushed red pepper

• 4 (about 24 oz.) firm white fish filets, such as halibut, bass, or snapper

• ½ tsp. kosher salt

• ¼ tsp. pepper

• ½ tsp. ground coriander

• 2 8 ½ oz. pkgs. Quinoa and brown rice blend

• 4 cups baby spinach

• 1 cup no-salt-added chicken broth

1. Squeeze limes for juice (about 2 Tbsp.). Remove cilantro leaves from stem.

2. Place cilantro, garlic, lime juice, ¼ cup edamame, 2 Tbsp. olive oil, and red pepper into food processor and process until smooth (2 Tbsp. water may need to be added).

3. Pre-heat large, non-stick saute’ pan on medium-high heat for 2-3 mins. Season fish with salt, pepper, and coriander. Place remaining 1 Tbsp. olive oil in pan, then add fish. Cook 3-4 minutes on each side or until golden and 145 degrees. Remove from pan and cover to keep warm.

4. Add remaining edamame, spinach, stock, and ½ cup pesto to same pan; cook until spinach wilts and edamame is hot (about 2-3 mins.) stirring well.

5. Prepare rice according to package instructions then place in serving dish; top with edamame & spinach mixture, fish, and a dollop of pesto. Serve and enjoy!

White Clam Sauce

INGREDIENTS

• 2 dozen clams, cleaned and chopped

• Large amount of fresh parsley, finely chopped

• Juice from the clams, drained through cheesecloth

• 1 large onion, finely chopped

• 3 large cloves garlic, finely chopped

• Black pepper (optional) to taste

• Pinch of crushed pepper

• Splash of white wine (optional)

• Extra virgin olive oil to coat pot (2-3 Tbsp.)

DIRECTIONS

1. Saute’ onion in the oil. Add garlic and saute’ until onion is transparent.

2. Add red pepper and splash of white wine

3. Add in clam juice and parsley. Simmer for about 10 minutes.

4. Add whole clams and simmer another 5 minutes. Be careful not to overcook the clams as they will harden. Season with pepper, if desired. Serve immediately over linguini.

RAMSAY REALTORS

OFFICE SPACE GETS A

FRESH NEW LOOK

Their newly designed office provides a comfortable and productive working environment for their team. Interior designers, Nancy LaCalamita and Mary Middlemiss of Twice as Nice Interiors, created a warm, welcoming, and inclusive office resulting in a workplace that feels like home.

“We always liked the space that we had, it just needed a fresh look. Just like any house, it should be updated” stated Tammy Ramsay, co-owner of the real estate firm.

Open and airy, the entire office space is encased in all glass walls, allowing for a beautiful view of the lake. “I wanted the new design of the office to have a coastal look and feel about it. That casual, comfortable style creates an environment that people want to work in.”

A focal point in the office, the all-glass conference room was designed for closings, contract signings, and business meetings.

“Most importantly, we use it for office Happy Hours” Tammy said, smiling. “It’s a place where we talk about potential listings, recent sales, the day to day market, and take some time to wind down and connect as a team at the end of the day.”

A leader in the real estate industry, Ramsay Realtors has helped many in our community find a house and start a home. Serving the south shore of Long Island since 1955 with the finest selection of luxury homes for sale and properties on the market, Ramsay Realtors is one of the leading real estate offices specializing in waterfront residential and commercial real estate listings, industrial properties, and rentals, as well as condominium rentals.