The Identity of She's Self-Love Workbook

YOU DESERVE SELF-LOVE SELF-LOVE WORKBOOK BY THE IDENTITY OF SHE

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On The Cover: Stella Marie, Alicia, Lanna, Eboni, Tacorey, Krysta, Kimberlee, Malik, Leighanne, Daniela, Katie, Ashlee B, Artsy Ashlee, Jennitza, Shane, Ariana, Aby

YOUR SELF-LOVE

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CONGRATULATE YOURSELF ON FIVE THINGS YOU RECENTLY ACHIEVED

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EMBRACE YOUR NATURAL STATE OF BEING LOOK AT YOURSELF NAKED AND GIVE YOURSELF A COMPLIMENT TAKE A PICTURE OF YOURSELF WITH NO MAKEUP TAKE A PICTURE OF YOURSELF WITH YOUR NATURAL HAIR TAKE A PICTURE OF YOURSELF WITHOUT A FILTER

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CREATE NEW HABITS

SUGGESTIONS: More water, more smiling, more sleep, more sex, more laughter, more movement, more stretching, more goal writing, more talks about your dreams.

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TO DO LIST LET GO

Childhood and high school insecurities sometimes haunt our adult lives. Don’t punish yourself by living in the past. You are the captain of your destiny and not the only one who’s had an awkward stage.

WHAT DO YOU NEED TO LET GO OF?

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NOTE YOUR STRENGTHS:

WRITE DOWN FIVE THINGS YOU LOVE ABOUT YOURSELF

APPRECIATE YOUR LIFE: WRITE DOWN FIVE THINGS YOU LOVE ABOUT YOUR LIFE

17 SET INTENTIONS Every two months set a new intention. What would you like to accomplish in the next 60 days?

HEALTHY HABITS TO WRITE A DAILY TASK LIST Every day text or email yourself a list of daily tasks in order of most important to least. It’s best to keep your list digital so that you can easily copy and paste, but you could also handwrite your list if you feel that it will be more helpful for you.

LIFE QUOTE

KEEP YOURSELF SURROUNDED BY POSITIVE PEOPLE The positive people in your life might not know how much you love and appreciate them. *Reach out to those close people in your life that make you feel better about yourself. Write them down to remind yourself to connect with them.

“We usually put off what is most important.”

*You may not have positive people in your life at the moment and that is okay! Email us at hello@identityofshe.com and we can help you out! Also, try connecting with people on Instagram. Even if they don’t live near you they can still bring you amazing positive energy virtually.

PRACTICE MINDFUL INTENTIONAL EATING Don’t you hate when you eat something mediocre just because you were starving?

Instead, be intentional with what you eat and be sure to take some time to enjoy each and every bite. Be aware and intentional with what is going in your body.

UNDER PROMISE OVER DELIVER We have a tendency to over commit ourselves to things which can create anxiety. Instead, allow yourself to over deliver by being more about actions and less about promises. So, when your boss asks you about that report that you haven’t started yet say you will get it to them right away, instead of giving a deadline that you’re not 100% sure that you can meet.

REMEMBER TO HALT H UNGRY The HALT method allows you to stop A NGRY and think before L ONELY tough decision T IRED making. It is a principle where you do not make decisions when you are hungry, angry, lonely or tired. It helps you in not making decisions based on impulse or because you are dealing with negative emotions.

FOCUS ON NOT OVER COMMITING What are some things you can do to prevent yourself from over committing?

PRACTICE ONE ACT OF SELF CARE EVERY DAY

Take a long bath, read your favorite book, do a little retail therapy, or perhaps a personal pamper session. Do something special for yourself every day. What does self care mean to you?

BE GRATEFUL Write down five things you are grateful for.

MAKE YOU FEEL BETTER ABOUT LIFE CHECK THEM OFF AS YOU GIVE THEM A TRY MOVE YOUR BODY

RECHARGE YOUR WILLPOWER

Get some energy flowing in your body by doing some movement. Take a nice walk or try out a new fitness class. Write down your favorite ways to move your body.

DRINK WATER & MAKE IT SEXY You’ve probably heard it over 1,000 times that you’ve got to drink more water. But that’s way easier said then done. A great trick is to make your water sexy with fruit like lemon, cucumber oranges or strawberries. Try to double your water intake by infusing your water with fruit.

BENEFITS OF DRINKING MORE WATER

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Source: Medical News Today

Water delivers oxygen throughout the body. Blood is more than 90% water, and blood carries oxygen to different parts of the body.

Sometimes your willpower needs a break just like your body and your phone. You can recharge your willpower by saying no more often, and thinking things through before deciding how to react. How can you recharge your willpower?

GET MORE SLEEP If you are not getting the recommended amount of 7-9 hours of sleep each night, focus on getting to bed a little earlier.

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It reduces the chance of a hangover.

Water and lemon alternated with alcohol helps prevent over-drinking.

It may also help with weight loss, if it is consumed instead of sweetened juices and sodas.

“Preloading” with water before meals can help prevent overeating by creating a sense of fullness.

Doing small acts of kindness like giving compliments, being a good listener, or offering help to someone can go a long way.

Write down the acts of kindness that you enjoy most.

FORGIVE YOURSELF We can be so hard on ourselves!

Write down what you need to forgive yourself for.

BENEFITS OF Source: MORE SLEEP Very Well Health

Water boosts skin health and beauty.

With dehydration, the skin can become more vulnerable to skin disorders and premature wrinkling.

Water helps maintain blood pressure.

A lack of water can cause blood to become thicker, increasing blood pressure.

SPREAD LOVE WITH ACTS OF KINDNESS

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Sleep may help prevent cancer.

People who work the late shift have a higher risk of developing breast and colon cancer.

Researchers believe light exposure reduces melatonin levels.

Melatonin, a hormone that regulates the sleep-wake cycle, is thought to protect against cancer as it appears to suppress the growth of tumors. Keep your bedroom dark and avoid using electronics before bed to help your body produce the melatonin it needs.

Sleep reduces stress and depression. When your body is sleep deficient, it goes into a state of stress. The body’s functions are put on high alert, which causes high blood pressure and the production of stress hormones. High blood pressure increases your risk for heart attack and stroke, and the stress hormones make it harder to fall asleep. Sleep impacts many of the chemicals in your body, including serotonin. People with serotonin deficiencies are more likely to suffer from depression.

GET MOST IMPORTANT STUFF DONE FIRST If you do the most important thing first each day, you’ll always get something important done.

Unresolved tasks can create internal stress. Plus research shows that decision making is better at the beginning of the day.

UNDERSTAND PEOPLE SUCK Understand that some people are out for their own agendas, as hard as that is to accept. Make sure to love yourself, validate yourself, accept yourself and put yourself first as much as possible. We are all human and people will let you down. Don’t let people take such great power over your life.

BODY ODYLOVE LOVEAND AND my body is not a democracy. it is an empire. i am its dictator. you do not get a vote and your opinion does not matter.

my self worth isn’t determined by others

HATING YOUR BODY WILL NEVER GET YOU AS FAR AS LOVING IT WILL you are enough. you are so enough it is unbelievable how enough you are.

Stretch marks are just little lightning strikes to remind you that you are a force of nature.

EMBRACE & LOVE YOUR BODY. IT IS THE LONGEST RELATIONSHIP YOU WILL EVER HAVE. In these bodies we will live.

In these bodies we will die.

Where you invest your love you invest your life.

Cut out these quotes and pull one of them out every time you have a negative thought about yourself.

SELF-LOVE QUOTES You owe your body and yourself the love you freely give to other people.

starve your self-hatred not your body

BODY LOVE IS UNCONDITIONAL.

I CAN’T BE UGLY IF BEAUTY IS A CONSTRUCT CREATED BY A CAPITALIST SYSTEM TO MAKE US SEE FLAWS THAT DON’T EXIST TO SELL US THINGS WE DONT NEED.

Be gentle.

You are meeting parts of yourself that you have been at war with.

Even if you’re in the process of trying to change your body, be happy with what it is right now. Because if you can’t be happy with yourself now you won’t be happy with yourself ever.

I am obsessed with becoming a woman comfortable in her own skin. i am striving to be more than I have ever been

make sure your worst enemy doesn’t live between your own two ears

Forgiveness is a reflection of loving yourself enough to move on.

POSITIVE AFFIRMATIONS

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What we think we believe. Even in difficult times you have to know that something great is going to happen. Think you’re destined to fail and you will. But believe you’re in charge of your own success and you’ll achieve your dreams. Flood your brain with positive thoughts through affirmations. Read some of our personal favorite affirmations and write down your personal affirmations below.

I am determined to fall in love with everything that I am.

I will not compare myself to a stranger on the Internet. I will remember that no one is posting their failures.

I will not worry about things that I can’t control.

On The Cover Credits (left to right): Stella Marie @__stellaxmarie Shot by: Leighanne @bowbowbergey Alicia @journey.tree Lanna @lovehappenstome Eboni @theidentityofshe Tacorey @tacorey.williams Krysta @iamkrystaana Shot by: Chioke @chokes101 Kimberlee @kimmykakes04 Malik @Malikeysbeat Leighanne @bowbowbergey Daniela @danii_mass_ Shot by: Chioke @chokes101 Katie @katieleuleu Ashlee B @ashlee_b_slaying Artsy Ashlee @artsyashlee Jennitza @jennitzacantres Shane @plussizetransguy Ariana @ariana.giampietro Aby @curvychicchick

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