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EVOLUTION In an article of the Harvard Business Review of Larry E. Greiner he discusses how, ‘In stressing the force of history on an organisation, I have drawn from the legacies of European psychologists who argue that the behaviour of individuals is determined primarily by past events and experiences, rather than by what lies ahead’. It also states, ‘The critical task for management in each revolutionary period is to find a new set of organisational practices that will become the basis for managing the next period of evolutionary growth. Interestingly enough, those new practices eventually sow the seeds of their own decay and lead to another period of revolution. Managers therefore experience the irony of seeing a major solution in one period become a major problem in a later period.”

BERNARDO MOYA, Editor-in-chief

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I think the same applies in life. In order to grow as an individual, you need to make some drastic decisions, and in order to do so you need to focus more on where your going, and what you want in life. At The Best You we are evolving. Exciting times lay ahead, planning to expand to the US in 2016, our Inspiring People Talks, and The Best You Exhibition with some great names already confirmed including Les Brown, Barbara DeAngelis, Jason Vale, Sir Clive Woodward and Gill Fielding, to name a few. So stay connected to us over the coming months. This issue, read our amazing interview with Baroness Tanni Grey-Thompson, a woman who has challenged the status quo in many areas of life. We’ve also fantastic advice from around the globe so make this the month you start an evolution in your life.

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Breaking world records and challenging the status quo



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Malcolm Levene ponders whether we should listen to our bodies more carefully to make the right choices



Author Cathy Lasher explores whether the route to success comes from careful thought rather than greater industry


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An interview with self-help’s rising star Benjamin Bonetti

22 TANNI GREY-THOMPSON The inspiring life story of an athlete

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Julie Foster shares how her experience of breast cancer was eased by a positive outlook



Jon Bullock offers advice on helping young people to believe in themselves and climb the ladder to life success



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42 JON BULLOCK How to mentor a child



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Meet the Dumpling Sisters, on a mission to make Chinese food more accessible via YouTube and their new family cookbook



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is deputy editor at The Best You. This issue she interviews Belinda Hall, Dave Asprey, Julie Zhang, Anjula Devi and Ben Dyer. “Our interviewees offer expert advice from the US, Australia, China, India and the UK, making this one of the most globally-inspired issues of The Best You.”



is executive director for the Redmond Proficiency Academy, a school that he founded. He has been involved in countless layers of youth and youth leadership development. Jon caught the bug for mentoring while coaching high school athletics. In his spare time, he enjoys coaching youth soccer and spending time with his teenage daughter, Katie.





has been a personal branding coach for 20 years. He teaches people how they can significantly improve their business skills, life-skills and businesses. His clients have included Tony Blair, Alastair Campbell, Michael Marks CBE, Michael Gove MP and notable individuals from the world of business, politics and entertainment.


is an American author. He speaks and trains for corporations and organisations on the topics that he also writes about. He believes that personal growth is not only easier than most people think, but can be fun as well. Visit Jim’s blog at

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is a Canadian-born freelance editor and writer who specialises in helping authors realise their full potential as writers. He believes that everybody has a story that should be told. His appearance on the acknowledgement page of dozens of titles proves that the voice he is helping budding authors to find is a precious thing indeed.


is a Fellow of the Royal Society of Medicine, and elite performance and confidence expert. He regularly appears on TV and radio, and his clients include leading names from the diverse worlds of sport, business and entertainment. He is a best-selling author and presenter.






is the founder of the DNA Coaching Programme and one of the world’s leading authorities within the self-help arena.He has been involved professionally in hypnotherapy and coaching for more than 10 years and helped thousands of people in his various clinics and over 1.8 million with his award-winning hypnosis audios.


is a champion of authentic and traditional Indian cooking. Winner of a prestigious BBC Good Food bursary, founder of a masala range and owner of a London cookery school, she provides classes for those looking to cook aithentic Indian food.


is a highly experienced business coach and personal development specialist. She works with people to enhance performance through supported self-awareness and self-development. Her clients include businesses in growth or transition – as well as blue chip corporate and professional services firms, and public sector organisations.


is founder and managing director of Curzon PR. Previously, vice chair of business relations for the Conservative Party, she is on the board of CARE, a charity providing free education for underprivileged children, editorat-large for Epicurean Life, and a contributor to The Guardian and Business Today.


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INNER GUIDE Why your gut is good


CRITICAL THINKER How to think better results

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Is it worth paying attention to intuition? A challenging question for many. It certainly continues to be so for me. In saying that, when I allow myself to listen to my intuition, it invariably serves me well. Whenever I don’t pay attention to those gut feelings, I tend to miss out on the kind of wisdom that’s neither intellectual or reasoned. Having spent many years working in the corporate arena, I’ve become accustomed to logic, structure and evidence-based reasoning. However, because I continue to trust those intuitive moments, I am as attuned as ever I was. Having been in many scenarios that defy logic and have little or no structure, it’s my intuition that has enabled me to gauge situations more accurately. That is to say, with little or no logic, no practical reasoning, I’ve made decisions accurately. Authentic intuition feels like the

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soft lapping of the tide coming in. It’s gently reminding us that it’s still there. Not, as some think, a great noisy wave, which in my experience usually emerges from a surge of emotion. Intuitive thinking evokes a kind of ‘where did that come from?’ inner response. When we ignore those gut feelings, we do ourselves a great disservice. That’s because we are ignoring what I describe as our right brain to guide us. I feel as though I’ve mentioned this before, but this time I want to emphasise how important our intuition is. A while ago, whilst coaching a CEO of a huge international recruitment consultancy, I asked, ’What encourages you to say yes, to a potential high level employee?’ The CEO replied, ‘It’s the light behind their eyes.’ Hearing this from this chap was an unusual response, in that he’s very left brained: structured, ordered, intellectual and organised. So I did some research, and what I discovered was that when we genuinely smile our eyes light up. Sometimes, the answers are right in front of us – check yourself in the mirror when you smile. You will notice


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the light behind your eyes. And the bonus... when we smile we release dopamine, known as the happiness hormone. When I talk about the relevance of intuition in business, it takes a while for some of the attendees to get it, so to speak. Most of what I teach is practical, down to earth, but I do season my presentations with a tad of the esoteric. It’s what differentiates me from other presenters and coaches. I have a raft of evidence, both personally and in business that testifies to the validity of intuition. As you might imagine, my corporate clients are not prepared to listen to anything that can’t be backed up by robust authoritative evidence. Important to remember, in-tuition, as I describe it is a combination of experiences, successes, wisdom, failures and a reminder that not everything can be rationally explained. Albert Einstein said, ”The only real valuable thing is intuition”. I totally agree.

START THE PROCESS BY FOLLOWING THESE INSTINCTS: Notice a strong feeling that just won’t dissolve Acknowledge the now well-known fact that logic isn’t our only guide Know that if it genuinely doesn’t feel right, it probably isn’t Don’t over-think, it’ll throw you off balance As with most self-development tools, it takes patience, practice and persistence to learn anything new

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Deliberate thinking, reflecting on what you have done, what you are doing, what you want to do, is an essential leadership skill that you cannot afford to be without. It underpins virtually every one of the tasks you have to do. Thinking is today’s main business task, particularly if you are at middle management level or above. In recent months and years, books, articles and blogs on ‘critical thinking’ have focused on thinking about an experience in an organised and structured way. This enables us to understand beyond the most obvious layer, in order to act with clarity, excellence and precision. In other words, focused, reflective thinking. Why is there this relatively new emphasis on critical thinking? The demands of the workplace are changing. There is greater focus on knowledge management and on thinking. Years ago, the main focus of work was physical labour, but the widespread introduction of mechanised processes largely replaced this. Mechanised processes have in turn been replaced by computerisation and outsourcing to the lowest cost labour markets.


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If ‘work hard’ is your daily mantra, critical thinking may offer the key to greater success. Author Cathy Lasher explains why

Now that ‘knowledge’ is fairly universally available, the competitive advantage will come from using that knowledge better than anyone else. Always ahead of his time in his thinking about developments in business management, the sage Peter Drucker wrote in an essay in Atlantic Monthly in 1994,

‘…how well an individual, an organisation, an industry, a country, does in acquiring and applying knowledge [emphasis added] will become the key competitive factor.’ I imagine that one reason that leaders and people in some organisations (you?) are sceptical about making time for thinking is that there has necessarily and appropriately been an emphasis on action over the past few decades.


Cathy Lasher is author of Better Thinking for Better Results, published by Panoma Press

Indeed, we are being asked to produce more, with fewer resources, and in less time and for more return on investment (ROI) than ever before. There is a fear that attention on thinking means taking the focus off action. On the contrary! It is precisely the act of reflecting, of doing good thinking that enables us to take the right actions. Efforts to increase productivity have rightly meant a focus on taking action. But people don’t always think clearly about which actions to take, and that can lead to bad decisions. Doing things the same way and expecting different results is one definition of insanity. You need to do things differently if you want to improve your results. There is a noticeable and increased emphasis on improved ROI in many organisations these days in relation to things that have never been measured before. In my line of work I notice that increasingly organisations are demanding a way to measure the benefit obtained from coaching investment, for example. It is no longer sufficient, if it ever was, to do things ‘just because they

feel good’. It isn’t hard to imagine extending this demand to increased emphasis on returns to be obtained from thinking. One way to ensure that you improve your results is to learn from what you are doing. It makes sense, both commercially and from a personal benefit perspective. Improved thinking brings improved ROI. How could it not? And applying the five-part EDGE-it model as explained in my book, Better Thinking for Better Results to your thinking gives you the structure you need to ensure that you maximise your investment in the very act of thinking. As Henry Ford once famously said,

‘Thinking is the hardest work there is, which is probably the reason why so few engage in it.’ Differentiate yourself by being one of the ones who does engage in thinking, and make it the highest quality thinking you can.

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SCHOOL’S IN World’s best universities


THE GOOD NEWS Positive stories to share


Laughter, humour, travel, love – these are the things that add the sparkle that makes life worth living. Climb a mountain, give to others, start a family, embrace life. What are the things you wish you had done but haven’t yet? Life is no rehearsal – enjoy life every day.

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TOP 6 UNIVERSITIES Back to school… but where are the world’s best universities? According to higher education data specialist QS, English universities still dominate education’s elite

1. MASSACHUSETTS INSTITUTE OF TECHNOLOGY Founded in 1861, Cambridge, Massachusetts MIT’s reputation as a tech specialist institution stems from World War II and the Cold War when researchers worked on the development of computers and radar. With 81 Nobel Laureates and 34 astronauts among its alumni, it also boasts a number of successful entrepreneurs whose companies have aggregated revenue that would collectively rank as the world’s eleventh-largest economy.

2. UNIVERSITY OF CAMBRIDGE Dating back to 1209, Cambridge is the second-oldest university in the Englishspeaking world. Its libraries hold around 15m books, 8m in Cambridge University Library alone. It has educated 15 British Prime Ministers, including Robert Walpole, nine monarchs and three signatories of the United States Declaration of Independence.

3. IMPERIAL COLLEGE LONDON Royal patron and founder Prince Albert envisioned an area of public education incorporating the Natural History Museum, Victoria and Albert Museum, Science Museum, Royal Albert Hall and the Imperial Institute. Queen Victoria laid the Imperial Institute’s first brick. Next month sees the launch of the Dyson School of Design Engineering at the university, following a £12m donation by the James Dyson Foundation.


4. HARVARD UNIVERSITY An Ivy League research university in Cambridge, Massachusetts, Harvard’s alumni includes eight US presidents, 62 living billionaires and 150 Nobel Laureates. The university has also featured in a wealth of films including Soul Man, Good Will Hunting, Legally Blonde and The Social Network.

5. UNIVERSITY OF OXFORD The world’s second-oldest surviving university with teaching at the site dating back to 1096, there are 38 colleges of the University of Oxford. Prime Minister David Cameron studied at Oxford, as did Stephen Hawking and Sir Tim Berners-Lee, inventor of the world wide web.

6. UNIVERSITY COLLEGE LONDON A relative youngster, UCL was founded in 1826 and was the first English university to admit students regardless of gender or religion. With a main campus in London’s Bloomsbury area, it also has satellite campuses in Adelaide, Australia and Doha, Qatar. This year, it established a new school of management which will move to Canary Wharf in May 2016.


CANCER RESEARCH UK Cancer Research UK pioneers research to bring forward the day when all cancers are cured. Cancer survival in the UK has doubled in the last 40 years, and we can now treat the disease more effectively than ever before. But diagnosing cancer early remains the most powerful way to give patients the best possible chance of surviving the disease. Sadly, cancer can be a difficult disease to diagnose, and we still see many patients diagnosed in the later stages – where survival is often far lower. So it’s unsurprising that ensuring more people are diagnosed early is an important part of the recently-announced Cancer Strategy for improving England’s cancer services over the next five years. 
 FIVE REASONS WE MUST DIAGNOSE CANCER EARLIER 1. People are more than three times more likely to survive if they’re diagnosed early 2. Some cancers are much less likely to be diagnosed early 3. It improves patients’ experience, not just survival 4. We want patients in the UK to have worldclass cancer care 5. All patients in this country should receive the best possible care

FOUR WAYS CANCER CAN BE DIAGNOSED EARLIER 1. Encourage the public to get unusual or persistent changes checked out by a GP 2. Increase participation in cancer screening 3. Invest in making the NHS a world leading health service 4. Support research to develop new and improved ways to diagnose cancer Diagnosing cancer earlier saves lives.

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GOOD NEWS TAKE A BREATHER While we rightly concentrate on ensuring we are the right side of the law if we’re driving after a drink or two, a new lock for bicycles aims to ensure we don’t endanger ourselves on two wheels either. The alcho-lock requires users to take a breathalyser test before it will unlock, and will even alert friends or loved ones with a mobile phone alert too, if required.

RUBBISH FLIGHT You’ve heard of bio-fuel for cars, so why not planes too? United Airlines has partnered with Fulcrum BioEnergy in a US$30m deal to create a hybrid fuel that will be used to power five flights a day between Los Angeles and San Francisco.

ADDED VALUE An innovative mattress company, MoltyFoam, has created the Bill bed to help the 500,000 homeless labourers who sleep on Pakistan’s streets. The foam bed displays local advertising by day but can be flipped to make a temporary cot by night.


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After suffering from depression, US graduate Hannah Brencher created moreloveletters.com, a site that sends heartwarming notes to those who are at a low ebb. Contributors write anonymous letters to support those in need of a little uplifting TLC, and the site has attracted more than 24,000 Facebook followers.

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Not yet a household name, Benjamin Bonetti has already made his mark in the world of self-help. With a string of books and recordings behind him, a regular blog on The Huffington Post, he was also adviser on the hit television show Celebrity Wife Swap UK. The Best You meets the industry’s rising star

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Although he’s always had an interest in what makes people tick, Benjamin Bonetti was drawn to the self-help world after getting bored with his work as an estate agent. And when Bonetti decides he wants a change, he goes for it in style.

At the same time, Bonetti is always one to listen, which means becoming the question coach. His role with his client he sees as to “start questioning them... and getting them thinking and finding the solutions for themselves.”

That’s also true about when he decided to quit full-time education at the age of 16. His schooling had been unhappy at a Catholic school which imposed many limitations and a “certain belief structure” that he disagreed with. Confrontations abounded, especially with his English teacher.

So, how does Bonetti describe the way he helps people to success? He stops for a moment to think.

“I was going to go to college and study law and I went for my entrance interview,” Bonetti smiles as he recalls thinking, “I’ve just spent five years of secondary school making the choice not to learn; why is this now the right choice for me?” Instead of academia, a stint of five years in the Royal Engineers saw him thrive, learning new skills, being pushed to his limits and supported by his peers. After that, with a wife and family to support, he took work at an estate agency, soon moving on to run his own business. But then the discontent set in. “I wasn’t happy. I was working long hours, I was stressed, I wasn’t seeing my family. All of the aspects of life which I thought were important I realised pretty quickly weren’t important. I had the nice house, car, financial abundance but there was an aspect of my internal fulfilment that was missing.” On his quest for fulfilment he explored various therapies and approaches and attended an NLP practitioner course. “When I went back to the office, I decided that wasn’t the right place for me. I actually passed over my shares to my business partner at the time and, yeah, that was it.” Bonetti then set about learning the skills he would need to become a coach and author, and over the last seven years has built up a thriving business. His work style is flexible – to listen to what his client (whom he defines as the general public) wants, and to deliver, with no fixed work pattern.

“Every day is very much different. For me, it’s about continually moving and getting my thoughts down on paper and listening to what people want,” he says.

“There are so many people out there with one track minds delivering messages whereas for me it’s about just listening to what actually people want and then delivering based on that.” Though his days may vary in style, the longer-term aim is always the same: to help people overcome their difficulties and beat unhappiness. There’s no single secret to that, he says, but a flexible approach to helping people that is about sharing his experience. “That’s what my day is; it’s about sharing my story, sharing how I overcame my obstacles, and all the time that there’s someone there to listen, I’ll keep waking up with that mission.”

“Success, the word itself is so broad. For me, it’s about combining fitness, nutrition and wellbeing, mindful wellbeing. Without looking after or looking at all those three sectors, you’ll never achieve the results that you really, really want,” he says. “I’ve worked with some people that are incredibly stressed and no matter what they do for the mindful aspect – they practise meditation, yoga and they’ve got all of the apps and they do everything – but what they’re doing is they’re consuming really unsupportive, nutritionally poor food that’s not supporting their growth and their change in the other aspects. Again, it can be that you can eat good food and you can be stressed and you don’t exercise but the body needs that exercise, it needs that movement, it needs that evolution. So for me, combining fitness, nutrition and wellbeing – mindful wellbeing – is the perfect solution.” At the same time, Benjamin is modest about his achievements with clients up to now. And he certainly doesn’t think he has all the answers.

“I learn every day. Life, to me, is a big library.” This is quite a statement for someone who had such an unhappy time at school, and he is clear about his own experiences. “Someone like myself that was creative didn’t have a place at school. I didn’t conform. I wasn’t one of those government statistics that they put a tick in the box,” he says. “For me, I think there needs to be a little bit more lateral thinking.” This, in many ways is why he feels very much at home in the self-help world, because it supports an alternative way of thinking. Education, he affirms, is important to him – but not always in the conventional sense. Bonetti is living a fascinating life that is deeply fulfilling. Able to manage his time how he wants, he is on a continuous learning track that will take him to new places.

“I’m sure the beliefs that I have today about certain aspects of life and my own life and my children’s life will change. For me it’s about continually developing as an individual and sharing that message. As I say, providing there could be one person there that’s listening, if that one person is willing to invest their time in me, then I’ll keep going, I’ll keep delivering that message.”




arys Davina Grey-Thompson was born on 26 July 1969 with spina bifida, a birth defect which left her paralysed below the waist from an early age. Brought up by a father set on empowering her physically and mentally to counter society’s limitations, she was taught to be strong enough to crawl up steps and drag her wheelchair with her. Indeed, that’s pretty much what she had to do in 2012 when no-one would help this 11 times British Paralympic Gold winner alight from a train. Despite such challenges, Tanni (her older sister called her “tiny” when she first saw her and the nickname stuck) Grey-Thompson remains positive about the way ahead for disabled people. She personally influences national policy through her parliamentary work and is staunchly committed to improving health and fitness not only for the disabled, but for the nation as a whole.

So what factors created one of the most successful disabled athletes of all times? Her story begins in Cardiff, South Wales where she attended “an ordinary school” as she calls it. Her father, an architect who knew the difficulties she would face in an environment largely designed for the able-bodied, was just one of many people to instill a can-do attitude from early on. “He very much encouraged me to be physically active and to go into sport,” she recollects, citing his desire for her to be physically strong. A strong advocate for education, he insisted learning would empower her by giving her more choices. She loved school, which provided an outlet for her competitive nature.

“For me, the balance between education and sport was really important in terms of helping me to fulfil my dreams,”

she admits, even though at the time she would roll her eyes at her father’s insistence that education would provide her with more choices.

One attribute that singles Grey-Thompson out is her early vision to be an athlete, long before the Paralympic movement had become such a powerful force. “Back then nobody knew anything about the Paralympics; there was a view that if you were disabled you couldn’t possibly be an athlete. For me I figured I needed to be good at school because I needed to get a good job to pay for the things I wanted to do in sport.”

Outstanding Paralympian, member of the House of Lords, television presenter and disability rights campaigner, Baroness Tanni GreyThompson tells Bernardo Moya how disability must never limit your aspirations

Describing herself as “annoyingly competitive” she admits she competes “over anything.” And importantly, if she’s told she can’t do something, she becomes very stubborn. She is also driven by curiosity. In her later sporting career she talks about wanting to speak with the best coaches, the best athletes, the best scientists and the best chair designers and always being willing to try something new. With that comes the ability to recognise talent where it is and see how it is useful to her.

“I might not be the expert but I know lots of people who are and it’s about making those connections and joining those people up and it’s about learning something every day,” she says. These traits – competitiveness, inquisitiveness, openmindedness and a strong dose of stubbornness combine to produce two of her key traits – resilience and determination. As a girl, her dream of being an athlete came closer when at the age of 13 she found wheelchair racing. The sport gave her a life-changing focus, enabling her to be in charge of her own destiny, while simultaneously allowing her to train with others. She knew straight away it was for her. “Every decision from 13 was based around competing for GB,” she tells me. That driving purpose dictated which university she chose; even whom she married – a fellow athlete. Competing for team GB was, “the most important thing in my life until the end of my career where I decided I wanted to do other things,” she says frankly. Hand-in-hand with focus came dedication. The training culture for Grey-Thompson was arduous. “I was training 12 to 15 times a week, 50 weeks of the year. It’s not always a very balanced lifestyle as an elite athlete because it’s seven days a week; you’re always thinking, not just of your training, but competition planning, chair design, what you eat, how much you sleep.” Her approach to the rest of her life gives another insight into her obsessive dedication to her sport.

Take for example, planning a family. “I wanted to compete in the Commonwealth Games in Manchester, England, so I counted back six months and I counted back 40 weeks because that’s how long it takes to have a baby and I said to my husband, you know, this is the date I need to be pregnant by. So we have a daughter who was born exactly six months before the Commonwealth Games.” As her experience in competing grew throughout the 1980s and 90s, so did her confidence. She deliberately sought to stretch her abilities through difficult training: “One thing that I did was race against the British men a lot and they used to push me round the road; they used to make my life really hard but then when I was racing against the best women in the world, I’d been through just about every experience you could imagine. I remember this one race – a half marathon – where my husband literally pushed me into every kerb he could find, he pushed me into every corner, you know, messed around and tried to drop me out the back of the pack. Then when you’re in a race that really matters, if that happens, you’ve got the skills to deal with it... you need to have practised everything you possibly could in the lead up to it.” Her work paid off, and she went on to win 16 Olympic medals, including 11 golds, and 13 World Championship medals, with six golds. She also won six London Marathons. Yet how high she set the bar for herself is revealed by her modest analysis: “I did 17 Londons, so winning six out of 17 – maybe not great.” But, modesty to one side, another statistic shows how powerful an athlete she was. At one point she was the holder of 30 world records. While it is true that GreyThompson has an extraordinary sense of motivation, it’s also true she didn’t do it all on her own. So who were her inspirations?

COVER STORY “My first coach, a guy called Roy Anthony, at the local athletics club was amazing, he was a volunteer coach.” She tells how he gave up much of his own time to teach “hormonal” girls who didn’t really appreciate him at the time. Another inspiration was wheelchair athlete Chris Hallam whom she watched win the London Marathon in leopard print, with long blonde flowing hair. When she was 12 she saw that win and announced to her mum that she would do the London Olympics, too. “I don’t think she thought I had any idea what I was letting myself in for, but six years later, at 18, I did my first London Marathon!” So, what was the ultimate drive for her? “You know, for me, it was always about winning as many medals as I possibly could, breaking as many world records,” she admits candidly. But there have been other rewards; being made a Dame and being asked to sit in the House of Lords have added to the sense of satisfaction in her life. Since retiring from sport, her go-getting mindset has proven transferable. She has presented television shows and she was invited to join the House of Lords, giving special insight into the 2012 Olympics and Paralympic Games, regarded as the most successful Paralympics of all time. Yet perhaps one of the most telling things about her approach to practical issues and outcomes is revealed when she is asked what she would like her legacy to be. After some thought, she says:

“What I want is for disabled people to have the same opportunities as anyone else, to be in education, to be in work, to have families and to be integrated into society so a big part of what I do now is fighting for rights for disabled people because, although we’re in a pretty good place – if you look at every other country around the world we’re incredibly fortunate as disabled people – we still have some way to go.” As for the future, she thinks it’s vital that young people, disabled or able-bodied, be allowed to dream and succeed. Her words summarise the skills needed to make it happen.

“I would like to teach people that you can do a lot of amazing things in your life. You have to be openminded, you have to be resilient but you have to have a goal and a dream. I think sometimes with young people we shut off goals and dreams. Sometimes people don’t want to say the things they want to achieve in their lives in case people laugh at them or think they’re stupid or will say well you’ll never do that. It’s about giving people the freedom to think about the opportunities that they have and to grasp the opportunities they have around them.” They’re great words that sum up her approach to life. If anyone shows it can be done, it’s Tanni Grey-Thompson.

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At just 27, Danny Cipriani is one of rugby’s best-known stars. Despite controversy off the pitch, many hope to see his talents in action at this month’s World Cup. Dr Stephen Simpson writes


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FEATURE Excitement is mounting as the Rugby World Cup returns to Great Britain this month. Will this be the year that England wins the cup on home soil? Or is the team’s emphasis on possession, strong tackling and risk averse strategies doomed to failure in the new order of world rugby? There is one England player who is never very far away from controversy and excitement. Some commentators consider him to be one of the most gifted players ever to wear an England rugby shirt. If my straw poll is an accurate reflection of current opinion then this man is the outstanding personality in the England squad. People who know very little about rugby will name him without hesitation as their favourite player, whilst many rugby pundits do not think that he should even have been selected for the squad. His name is Danny Cipriani and he is a 27-year-old English rugby union player. His current team is Sale Sharks, and he has also played for London Wasps, Melbourne Rebels and England. The Daily Telegraph sports reporter Mark Bailey wrote an insightful article about Cipriani in March, saying:

‘Rugby’s enfant terrible turned terrace idol Danny Cipriani reveals how to battle back from problems and mistakes to chosen position. Jonny Wilkinson was then the current England fly half and the first pick for the selectors. However the selectors always recognised Cipriani’s talent and so he was picked to play at fullback in 2008 against Scotland. It is never easy to reproduce top form when playing out of position, even though there are some similarities between the skills required in both positions.

successfully transform your career.’ As with many athletes, Cipriani’s talent was spotted at a young age, and he excelled in other sports too. At school he played at county level in rugby, cricket, squash and soccer. He decided that he would concentrate on rugby and joined Wasps Academy in 2003 and played for the first-team in 2007 in the fly half position. Cipriani played for England at junior levels and almost made the England squad for the 2007 Rugby World Cup. He was selected for the England squad for the 2008 Six Nations championship. Like many rugby players his problem was finding a place in a winning team in his

Cipriani was given his chance at fly half against Ireland in March 2008 and played well, scoring from all of his goal kicks and was also praised for his tactical game too. All athletes fear injury, and rugby is a ferocious contact sport with a consequent high injury rate. Cipriani fractured his ankle in 2008 playing for Wasps and so was unable to participate in England’s tour of New Zealand. He recovered from this injury much faster than expected and reappeared playing for Wasps in October 2008. Commentators believed that he was playing as well as ever, if not even better. Cipriani played again for England in the fly half position in 2008. However his form was poor and he did not keep his place. The following year Cipriani was again injured playing for Wasps and missed out

on the autumn Internationals in 2009. This injury kept him out of the game for a further two months. In February 2010 Cipriani made the unusual decision to leave Wasps and join the Melbourne Rebels in Australia. He must have realised that this would have made it more difficult to regain his England place, not least because the selectors would be unable to directly observe his playing form. At the time, England manager Martin Johnson was quite clear that any player opting to play for an overseas team would not be eligible for selection. Nevertheless Cipriani completed his move to Melbourne at the end of 2010. As the present England head coach, Stuart Lancaster also adheres to this restrictive selection procedure. This means that European player of the year Nick Abendanon and his predecessor Steffon Armitage are unavailable for selection. Many rugby fans believe this policy is wrong, unfair, and deprives England of the talent that they so badly need to compete successfully at the highest level. The only other major team still applying this policy is New Zealand. However in 2012 Cipriani returned to England and was awarded a contract with Sale Sharks and joined them the following season. After a long absence Cipriani was again called up to the England squad for the 2015 Six Nations, and played one game against Italy.

So will we be watching the genius of Cipriani in full flow playing for England in the Rugby World Cup? There is intense competition for the fly half position. Cipriani has two competitors in the squad, Owen Farrell and George Ford, who are aged 23 and 22 years respectively. So both are younger than Cipriani, and

with 290 and 109 international points to their names they have considerably more experience too. So he is unlikely to be the first pick, especially for the most important games. However with injury the ever present threat to all players his opportunity may come when least expected. There is another threat to Cipriani’s return to the international stage. His highly public misdemeanours off the pitch include being dropped from the England team prior to his debut following a nightclub visit shortly before a match in 2008, and being knocked over by a bus on a pub crawl around Leeds in 2013. When Bailey interviewed him in March, Cipriani shared the success strategies that he has used to limit the self-destructive tendencies which temper his creative genius. His efforts have been rewarded, as his recent form for Sale Sharks has been outstanding. So the last thing he needed was another potential disciplinary incident. In June 2015, Cipriani was involved in a car accident which may lead to a charge of drink driving. Cipriani claims to be innocent and if he is subsequently cleared of this offence it must still be a major distraction for him. All of his energies and mental focus should be directed at preparing for the Rugby World Cup. If he is eventually convicted it could be the end of his international career. The good news for Cipriani’s army of supporters is that he has been released on bail by the police, and no decision about him being charged is likely before November. By this time the Rugby World Cup will have finished, and therefore Cipriani is still eligible for the England squad. Before rushing to condemn Cipriani and without condoning his behaviour either, we should bear in mind that genius is a fragile flower and rarely comes without a high price. How many stupid things did we do when we were his age?


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One of the success strategies that Cipriani shared with Bailey during their interview was to surround himself with close friends and trusted advisors. One of these advisors is Steve Black, who is a mind coach. In their interview Cipriani said:

‘He is good to chat to, and we talk about rugby and all sorts of other things. He is someone I can always bounce ideas off.’ England fans are fervently hoping that Steve Black’s chats will be successful in taming the dark side of Cipriani’s undoubted genius. It is more than possible that England will desperately need his unique skills in their toughest hour. If Cipriani is playing anywhere near his best he can be a match winner. Money is the engine of international sport, and his selection will also boost the already huge international TV audience.

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For Janine Rogerson, a lifechanging moment brought her closer to her spiritual side and shaped the way she lives today

For much of my life, I truly believed that my thoughts were pretty much beyond my control. They automatically entered my mind and did whatever they wished to do. Even more so, I actually believed that I was my thoughts and thankfully, nothing could be more further from the truth. It was back in November 2005 that I had to undergo a heart procedure which should have been a routine treatment, however my ex-partner and I, including the surgeons, doctors and nurses, weren’t even prepared for what was about to take place. After two years of constantly feeling dizzy, faint and fatigued, and rigorously visiting doctors, hospitals and even a private hospital and being monitored with ECG machines both at the surgery and at home, they all still seemed to come up with the same answer that nothing was wrong. I know my own body I felt poorly and lost a lot of weight over the two years. I remember I was still working at the time, fetching and carrying heavy carpet samples for a local firm and would often sit on the big pile of carpet samples just to catch my breath and focus after having a horrible dizzy spell. It took for me to collapse while out walking at a local park with my ex-partner before the doctors would actually listen. I remember slipping in and out of consciousness and being given an injection to bring my heart rate down, as it was beating wildly and I ended up at the local hospital. I was sent home later that evening and told that I had to do nothing but rest with yet another monitor attached to me. I was also told that I had a major heart default which needed correcting. What was supposed to be a routine heart procedure in November 2005 actually turned

FEATURE out to be both drastic and unbelievable, as I lay on the operating table, slightly sedated surrounded by equipment that looked like something out of NASA. I was able to see what the surgeons were doing, I could even see my own heart beating on a huge screen. The head surgeon was supposed to do my procedure that day, however he was not able to make it and so a new up-and-coming surgeon took his place. He injected my leg quite a few times before inserting a wire that was surrounded by a white plastic tube into my vein near my artery, however instead of the wire going up into my vein to my heart it snapped and I was told to lay still and not move, because if I did the wire could float up into my main organs or my heart. I remember lying there on my own in the room looking up at the three big lights over my head saying to god, please give me another chance. I remember seeing the panic-stricken doctors and surgeons rushing up and down trying to find the right person who could operate on me straight away. I was rushed down the corridors and in and out of lifts. I lay on a bed in the side ward slipping in and out of consciousness, slightly sedated and watching all the pandemonium that took place. I only learnt after my operation that they had to find someone from a different hospital to come and operate on me, which took them an hour to arrive. By this time I felt myself slipping in and out of consciousness even more and what took place from there was an epiphany for me and a day I will never forget.

emotions create our reality, even though we are all here for a purpose we also have free will to do what we want if we choose to go down a different path.

I found myself looking down on the surgeons watching them operate on my body. I found that I was able to hear what they were saying word for word. I remember seeing my ex-partner sat on a chair in the corridor crying. I realised that I could feel people’s emotions, I could feel their thoughts. I learnt that we are all linked together and that what we call god is energy and that same energy is in each and every one of us.

I will never forget that day. I have always had a spiritual side to me, but that day changed my life forever. I became very different and withdrew from many people after what I discovered to be the truth.

I had an awareness of being linked to something much greater than I could put into words and that we are here to enjoy our lives, and I also had an awareness of my grandma telling me it was not my time and that I had to go back.

These days I’m outgoing and love living life to the full and always try to teach people the truths without them realising it. I learnt that life is for living and that other people’s beliefs and perceptions actually shape us and take us away from who we truly are – powerful spiritual beings for manifesting.

I learnt that all our beliefs and perceptions stem from this physical realm and in the spiritual realm our potential was unlimited. I realised that it is our thoughts that flow through our minds that trigger an emotion, a feeling that was bringing everything into existence and that what we perceive to be past or future was actually happening simultaneously, everything was happening all at once. I realised that we are all part of this massconsciousness and that our feelings and

I didn’t want to mix with what I perceived to be negative people at the time. I seemed to be more interested in my health and being happy in the moment rather than money and material things, which is how I am today.



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THE ART OF POSSIBLE BY KATE TOJEIRO By asking the hard questions and examining how and why we do certain things, The Art of Possible encourages you to get comfortable with discomfort daily. Written as a journal, it is set out to help you get to the heart of whatever it is that you re seeking to achieve and then find the techniques and actions that will make the difference to you.


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ONE-MINUTE MINDFULNESS: HOW TO LIVE IN THE MOMENT BY SIMON PARKE In One-Minute Mindfulness, Simon Parke uses stories and simple thoughts to help us see through clear eyes how we can return to the present moment and remain there. This subtle change can be startlingly healing, bringing peace into every area of our lives, allowing us to live freely and fully, and to honour what is true for each of us. Both inspiring and practical, this book is for anyone who wants to come home to themselves.



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SUPER BOOK Next month will see more than 500 books published in preparation for the Christmas gift season. Super Thursday, as 8 October has been dubbed, is the publishing industry’s annual release date to capture the attention of reviewers and consumers. Hotly tipped for success this year are new works from Michael Morpurgo, Dan Cruickshank,


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Tanni Grey-Thompson has performed at world-class level for the past 13 years, in distances ranging from 100m to the marathon. Her 13 Paralympic medals, eight medal placings in the London Marathon and her comprehensive set of British and World Records make her achievements second to none in the disability sport arena. Here she talks candidly about her early life and ambitions, before offering a colourful account of her success in the four Paralympic Games in which she has been involved. Tanni talks incisively about disability sporting issues and reveals how she set about becoming a world-class athlete.

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It s a fact – stress kills! Yet, so many of us find ourselves stressed out, day to day. However, if you are feeling anxious, find it hard to relax or perhaps struggle to get rid of that constant mental ache, let celebrated life coach and mentor Benjamin Bonetti show you how to chill. In his latest title, How To Stress Less, Benjamin shows you how to combat stress by taking action and intentionally rejecting it when it rears its ugly head.

”This great guide to de–junking your life is full of practical tips and solutions. There are plenty of words of wisdom, too” – The Sun


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When his excess fat started causing brain fog and food cravings sapped his energy and willpower, Asprey turned to the same hacking techniques that made his fortune to ‘hack’ his own biology, investing more than $300,000 and 15 years to uncover what was hindering his energy, performance, appearance, and happiness. The result? The Bulletproof Diet, an anti-inflammatory programme for hunger-free, rapid weight loss and peak performance.

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Dedicated to and destined to be adored by every Chinese food lover, this book is full of Asian favourites, impressive sharing dishes and even sweet treats that have been little acknowledged in a western understanding of Chinese food - until now. This is Chinese home cooking at its best.

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INNER STRENGTH Surviving breast cancer


CHILD MENTOR How to support kids What do you want to be remembered for? What are your relationships like with those around you? How does life treat you‌ and how do you treat your life? There is so much good in you. Enrich your life with the passion you feel and the connections you make.

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I wouldn’t say that surviving breast cancer is easy, but I do believe that you can choose your perspective and create an easeful experience. I love the power of thought and have used it to create the results I want in my life for many years. I believe we all have choice, every minute of the day; to choose our perspective on any situation. Wow, that still blows me away – to know I have that much power. In April this year, I received a diagnosis of breast cancer. Prognosis for me was good as it had been discovered early, in situ (non invasive) and could be removed relatively easily. Follow up radiotherapy to prevent a re-occurrence and that’s it. You see, those are the facts – only when I attached any meaning to the facts did it start to affect my emotional state and how I was feeling. I have learned that sitting in all emotions is necessary, not to deny any of them, they all have a purpose in our human experience. However, the decision not to sit in the lower energy feelings for too long is key to my success in dealing with breast cancer with ease. For many years I have studied human psychology, spirituality, trained as a coach and mentor, reading many books on the subject of mindfulness and investing a lot of time and money on self-development and self-care. I honestly believe in a ‘toolbox for life’. A pool of resources that you can draw on at any time to empower you to live your life with ease. My ‘toolbox for life’ is essential and I feel blessed to be in the position I’m in – resourceful. So, what did I draw from my toolbox when faced with the prospect of having a potentially lifethreatening disease. Trust, faith, meditation, a strong foundation of beliefs, focus and support. • Trust – trust that the universal energy field can be affected and changed by my thoughts • Faith – that spirit is always there to help us, all we need to do is ask and be ready to receive • Meditation – mindfulness, breathing and stillness • Strong foundation of beliefs – choose only the beliefs that will support me and dissolve the rest • Focus – on me • Support – surround myself with people who will respect my viewpoint, who vibrate at a high energy level, who are like-minded in the belief that we can choose how to be at ease So, how have the tools helped me so far? In the beginning, waiting for a clear diagnosis was difficult because of the uncertainty created as you wait for test results. Instead of allowing my mind to wander into the ‘what ifs’, I focused my intention on healing my cells through meditation. Every time my mind wandered off I bought it back to a few affirmation and prayers

Julie Foster writes about her experience of surviving breast cancer diagnosis and treatment with a positive outlook

LIVE LOVE LEGACY focusing on healing every atom of my being. During tests, in particular a very sensitive and potentially painful biopsy, I used meditation to take me into a pain-free zone. I did have to ask the doctor and nurse to stop talking to me, I understand they were only trying to put me at ease but actually their efforts only served to induce feelings of fear. I was amazed at the results and most grateful for the power within me to produce such results – a pain-free experience! My consultant was shocked and asked me, “How did you do that”? I need you in my waiting room!” The surgery required to remove the cancer meant that my body has changed forever. Body image can really blow your mind if you allow it to. So again, I choose not to allow it to affect me negatively but rather to learn to accept and love my new image; every day looking at myself in the mirror and loving what I see, really loving it not just saying it but feeling it at a deep level. Overall I have decided to live my life as normally as possible while respecting that my body needs time to heal and recover. Using these tools and having a clear strategy has enabled me to see this experience as an opportunity to learn and help others where I can. Perhaps this is my purpose? Perhaps the universe is giving me this opportunity to experience so that I can use it alongside all my other qualities to shine brightly in the world? So my underpinning belief will carry me through this time with ease. Surrender into the experience, go with the flow, trust that I will be supported and guided at every step of the way and ultimately will contribute to the evolution of humanity by my efforts.



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Jon Bullock is executive director for the Redmond Proficiency Academy, a school that he founded. A lifelong mentor, here he shares his insights into how to nurture a child’s potential

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A couple of weeks ago I found myself in the midst of a youth soccer tournament. As I stood on the field, observing games being played, I watched keenly as one coach instructed his team. In the course of 15 minutes, I did not hear him make a single positive comment to any of his players. I was struck in the moment by the thoughts of what it takes to be a successful mentor for children. Coaches, like teachers and others who work with children, are called upon to serve as mentors. It is important to know that it isn’t just coaches or teachers that a child could come to look to as a mentor. All children desperately need and want mentors, so you could be one without even knowing it. Now what should that mean to you? Mentors help people grow and develop. They provide strength, guidance and love.

Being a mentor is more than just spending time with a student. It requires an investment of time, energy, patience, effort and, most importantly, love. So many people question what is wrong with young people, what is flawed about this generation. ‘Kids these days’ is a popular refrain. That same refrain has been heard by us from parents, coaches, teachers and mentors as it was heard by them from theirs. Adults are quick to correct students, telling them what they did wrong, telling them what to do better. We need to allow our children to fail. From failure comes growth, strength, resilience. How else will young people learn about the way in which the world works unless we allow them to overcome their struggles? Young people receive messages of disapproval throughout the day from many of the adults around them. ‘Pull up your pants. Put down your phone.’ These are common refrains – sometimes even verbal insults – hurled at young people. A mentor does not shield a student from this, but rather a mentor provides

young people with a constant and reassuring voice of support. A mentor provides a student with a reliable ear, someone who is always available to listen. That active participation and not control is the key in how you can contribute. Our children do not want someone to sweep in and rescue them. They do not need helicopter parents that fly in at any instance of trouble to save the day. We need to allow our students to struggle, but we also need to support them. Struggling is okay if it’s met with love and turned into a learning opportunity. Young people need to understand they are not alone. They have a support structure. They have a network of people truly interested in their growth and development. Understanding that one has a supporting cast is a wonderful thing. Students are extremely intuitive and can tell when they’re engaging with someone that is sincerely invested in them. They want people who are interested in their lives and in their struggles. Sure, they want advice, but they want more than that. Rather than stories of how it used to be and how much easier teens have it today, teens want you to listen to them, to love them. Now, this is not to say that a mentor’s role is simply a permissive one. Rather, mentors should serve as an example for the young person. A mentor should demonstrate strong decision-making skills, live an exemplary life, and be there to catch them when they fall.

The P.O.P. Principle. Be Present. Be Open. Be Positive. Throughout my years of working with young people, I have tried to find a simple way in which to help them live a positive, productive life. Several years ago, I created the P.O.P. Principle. I argue that by following this simple truth that young people can make the most of any situation. I think the same holds true for mentors. This simple principle can help mentors create productive and meaningful relationships with the young people with whom they work and mentor.

Being present means far more than just being there, though that is a good start. In order to be an effective mentor and to build a strong and meaningful relationship with a young person, you have to show up. You have to be there. You have to be present. Focus your efforts and energy on your mentee and on the experience you are having. Young people can sort out sincerity rather quickly. Mentors should be completely present and engaged. While it might be tempting to share everything you know with a young person, be open to what you can learn from your mentee. Be open to new experiences. Be open to new ways of thinking. Young people are often criticised for the way they look, the clothes they wear, the amount of time they spend on their phone. Young people are often faced with negativity, and because they look to adults to learn how to handle adversity, it is critically important that mentors help young people see the bright side of situations and possible solutions rather than failure. Being a teenager is a dress rehearsal for being an adult. This means students will experiment and explore; students will make mistakes.

Students need not be reminded about their mistakes; students need not be told what they did wrong and told what they should have done. Teens need someone to listen to them work through the mistake, rather than criticise or condone it. Mistakes will happen. Students will struggle. Mentors are there to help them through this. One way in which to do this is to be consistent. Another is to be compassionate. Another is to listen. And the most important is to love.

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MEMORISED? Jim Aitkins believes that we can create results by learning from the success of experts

Some 30 years ago, my first ‘real’ job was in sales. I was hired by a life & health insurance brokerage firm to sell its insurance products to people who had requested information. It was 100 per cent commission based. If I closed sales, I got paid. If I did not… I did not. To me, all commission (no salary) was exciting because it meant there was no ceiling on how much I could earn… as long as I closed sales. I moved to a neighbouring state to follow up on leads coming from the area. Consequently, the home office of the company I was representing was a six-hour drive away. That meant that if I wanted to avail myself of sales training in order to close as many sales as possible, I had to either drive all the way to the home office or figure something else out. It did not take me long to realise I needed to figure something else out. The more time I was on the road back and forth to the home office, the less time I was able to be out in the field following up on leads and selling insurance. I was told that Tom Hopkins was the biggest name in sales training, so I found his book at the local store: How to Master the Art of Selling. I read that book like my life depended upon it because, in a very real way, it did! But I didn’t just read the book; I actually memorised the important parts. I made scripts that related to exactly what I was selling and I memorised the ‘closes’ that Hopkins taught. His book provides sales closes for all types of situation and all kinds of ways to overcome every kind of objection you can imagine. I memorised all of it. This I accomplished while going through the several-weeks-long process of studying to obtain my license in that state. So, by the time I passed the state exams to get my insurance sales license, I had also memorised a good amount of applicable sales closing know-how.

I will never forget the result of all that memorisation: my first day in sales – now mind you I was a 19-year-old kid – I made approximately $1,200, which is a very good day in today’s dollars, a figure that represented significantly more buying power back in 1986. I share this story with you for one important reason.

We go around every day reacting the way we do, relating the way we do, and getting the responses we are getting from the world around us quite literally based upon what we have memorised. Whether you consciously know it or not, you have come to the belief that there is some form of ‘payoff’ for responding to certain situations in a certain predictable way. You treat others the way you treat them because there are scripts you have memorised that tell you how to relate with others. This is true whether you treat others very well or… not. If you find that you are not getting the results you want, do what I did some three decades ago. Whether you want to improve in your ability to successfully sell a product or service, or you want to improve your life in some other way, find what an expert on that topic has written. Then literally commit to memory the key concepts, ideas and principles that promises to make the biggest impact. Do not just read it. Memorise it! What worked for me, way back then, will work for you now.

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Belinda Hall is founder of Home of Artisans, an online community marketplace that supports and promotes local artists of craft from around the world




TELL US ABOUT YOUR TRANSITION FROM AD EXEC TO CURATOR I’d worked in advertising since university, for 14 years, but I’ve always been entrepreneurial and I come from a family of business owners – my dad has a commercial furniture business, my grandfather made Chesterfields and my sister is an interior designer. I like the advertising industry but I always wanted my own business. I came to the UK in 2004 and while I was travelling for work, I came up with a concept where I reinvented the granny shopping trolley and created a posh version and associated accessories. It was from this business experience and my personal travels where I met a lot of makers. I was also forever collecting ceramics and artwork. I started to think about what I wanted to do that linked to something I was passionate about, while also using the skills I had developed in my career. I realised there was an idea there, where I could help all of these small makers who I would never have found if I hadn’t travelled to those places.

Each item is unique and crafted by hand, and Home of Artisans enables buyers to support and uphold the traditional work of craftsmen whose skills have been passed down through generations or learnt at specialist art colleges.

WHAT’S THE MOST REMARKABLE PIECE YOU’VE EVER BOUGHT, AND WHY? All the pieces that I’ve collected have their own story, but on a recent trip to South Africa I bought a Ju Ju hat, that is made on a wooden structure tightly woven with brightly coloured feathers on the top which is traditionally worn by royalty, chiefs or dignitaries in tribal communities. When you open up this hat to its fullest, you see that It’s an amazing piece that can be a wonderful and unique wall feature. It inspires me whenever I look at it.

WHAT INSPIRED YOU TO LAUNCH HOME OF ARTISANS? Companies like Etsy, Uber and Airbnb changed the game and I realised that you don’t need a physical gallery to be a curator and art seller. My passion is supporting craftsmanship and so I decided to create Home of Artisans, an online marketplace that sells one-off or limited edition pieces for the home. At the moment we represent artists and craftsmen from eight countries. We work with small studios and provide a platform to showcase and market their work. My vision is that in five years’ time we will have more than 1,000 artists from around the world making fantastic art and crafts accessible to a wide audience.

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WHAT MAKES A FANTASTIC COLLECTIBLE? We are very much curators representing artists and craftsmen who are specialists in what they do, whether they are ceramists, sculptors, artists, tapestry makers.

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JAVA JOLT Inside a raw cacao ceremony


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PARTY John Vincent shares his experience of a raw cacao ceremony that he experienced in the jungle of Koh Phangan

I find that inspiration is everywhere. Opportunity for personal development and getting more of what you want from life is abundant when you have your eyes and ears wide open and the lucidity of thought to spot opportunity. Today I want to share with you a powerful three-step NLP process that I’ve been developing since being inspired by a magical raw cacao ceremony in a remote location deep in the jungles of Koh Phangan. At its core this is about you becoming the best you! The essence of the cacao ceremony revolved around three distinct and very powerful notions… 1) Letting go of things that don’t serve you 2) Feeling grateful for what you do have 3) Setting a powerful and positive intention for the future At the heart of this sacred ceremony was a simple idea: change your experience of the world for the better. An idea that resonates with me and I hope resonates with you too. It is about YOU becoming the conscious architect of your thoughts, allowing you to shape your own future in line with your desires, so you get more of what you want from life. The focus starts on letting go of worries, stresses, anxieties and anything that doesn’t support you. Then you begin flooding your body with feelings of gratitude. Focusing on what is wonderful in your life right now and being

grateful for the wonderful people you share your time with. Finally you will be giving energy and power to your unfulfilled desires and goals. Getting to the truly breathtaking location of the ceremony that I experienced was an adventure in itself! Half the time the boat flew above the waves, the rest of the time the ocean was trying to get in the boat. It was an exercise in ‘state control’, the ‘spinning of feeling’ to remain calm while the tiny boat was buffeted by huge crashing waves as we clung to the sides trying to avoid an unplanned swimming session. Then there was an insane ride across something completely unrecognisable, what we would normally call a road, over the mountainous terrain in an open top 4x4. After trekking through hot, humid weather, up steep winding paths into the jungle, just as the last rays of the awe-inspiring sunset filtered down through the trees we came to the location for the cacao ceremony. We stood outside a large bamboo structure in the rapidly fading light as we waited to be taken inside. A small group consisting of around 15 people were all seeking more from life. Suddenly it was my turn, the door opened and I stepped inside. There was a powerful aroma of incense infused with the humidity in the air. The door closed, Daisy our host and facilitator greeted me with a warm smile, a hug and a few words that set the frame for our experience.


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feelings comes into play and that is something at the heart of NLP.

This process is about letting go of the stuff that just doesn’t serve you anymore, feeling good about where you are right now and grateful for what you do have. Then propelling yourself forward towards your goals creating more of the abundance your can see yourself enjoying in life.

I was told about this experience by a very good friend of mine who had enjoyed it on his last visit to the island. What intrigued me was how this new age idea had at its core a very solid idea that could be modelled and the same results achieved in minutes with NLP. Now, the NLP process I’ve created for you doesn’t have raw cocoa, but you can easily enjoy some before it (if you’re anything like me you will agree that lots of things in life are enhanced by good quality chocolate.) The other thing missing is the ecstatic states from all the wild dancing and movement that Daisy incorporated into our ceremony. This, however is where elicitation of good

With just a little understanding of Dr Richard Bandler’s neuro-linguistic programming you may quickly realise that the addition of double disassociation in the first step gives a reliable and effective way to actually let go of issues. Likewise you will realise that ‘spinning feelings’ during step two allows you to amplify the feelings of gratitude spreading them throughout your body and bathing your neurology in ‘feel good’ chemicals. While ‘timelines’ give you the opportunity to strategically focus your desires and give both your conscious and unconscious mind the structure of what you want to come into fruition during the third and final phase of this process. Three powerful NLP processes combined making a daily ‘ritual’ that sets you up for success.

Beginning the day in this way allows you to both feel good and get clear about the achievements you are moving towards as you continue your day. Experience this powerful three-step NLP process of letting go, feeling good and planning for more abundance in your life by downloading the short audio I’ve created for you. I hope you enjoy it and find it useful.


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Lauded by Jamie Oliver, the Dumpling Sisters – Amy and Julie Zhang – are on a mission to make homemade Chinese food accessible

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It’s not unusual to love the food of our childhood, but for the Zhang sisters cooking and eating have been a unifying factor throughout their lives. The ‘Chiwis’ whose parents emigrated from Guangzhou to New Zealand when the girls were small, grew up helping out every Sunday on their family’s food cart which sold authentic Chinese food. Although the sisters moved to the UK to study – Amy a PhD in chemistry at Cambridge University and Julie a Masters in criminology at Oxford – their memories and passion for good food inspired them to create their own YouTube channel in May 2013. With videos that debunked Asian ingredients and taught foodies how to make ‘real’ Chinese food at home, the Dumpling Sisters attracted a sizeable audience. When Jamie Oliver’s YouTube channel threw down the culinary gauntlet to find the world’s best dish containing rice later that year, the sisters entered with iceberg parcels with fried rice, boozy Hoisin chicken and satay sauce. Although their dish came second – described by Oliver as “a delicious meal” – among 250 entrants, the Dumpling Sisters had already caught the attention of a growing fan base. The next installment of the sisters’ story is a new cookbook, the eponymously titled The Dumpling Sisters Cookbook, with 100 recipes from the family’s kitchen. “We grew up cooking alongside mum and dad on their tiny little food stand in New Zealand,” says Julie Zhang. “We came to the UK to study, and education is important to us, but after a few years apart we enjoyed spending time together cooking. “Friends would ask us how we made things and so we started a blog and then videos on YouTube. We entered the Jamie Oliver competition and a book agent followed us on Twitter and suggested we do a book proposal.

“Over Christmas 13/New Year 14, we were supposed to be home but we had a really intense time meeting with our book agent and publishers who were so enthusiastic about our idea to create a family cookbook for Chinese food. It took a year to write, but the support from around the world has been overwhelming.

“It was our intention from the start to make it easy and accessible. We wanted to stay true to authentic Chinese cooking, and a lot of the dishes are simple to prepare and healthy to eat.” With the pressure of writing a book with endless recipe testing, the strength of the family bond came to the fore. “As teenagers we didn’t always get along, but through the project we became so close – it was a real labour of love,” adds Julie Zhang. “You can have an argument but with family you always come back to each other. “Our family is proud of us, and there are lots of recipes in the book that required plenty of Skype sessions home to get them absolutely right. Dad even did some videos for us to help us get some things right, so it’s a real family affair.” Despite the sisters’ success, Amy and Julie still hold down jobs, juggling their new-found culinary stardom alongside. With invites to upcoming book fairs, their fan base looks set to grow, and the Dumpling Sisters are likely to become household names that are as popular as their divine potstickers.


Celebrity chef Anjula Devi is a champion of authentic and traditional Indian cooking. Winner of a prestigious BBC Good Food bursary, founder of a masala range, Route 207, and owner of a London cookery school, here she shares her recipes for life’s physical and mental challenges I have been cooking Indian food for 45 years, having been taught by my father, and have used spices as home remedies my entire life – in fact I was 26 before I first used antibiotics. I am a true believer that natural ingredients work, here are some of my favourite spicebased solutions. 1. Ginger, used raw or as a powder (although not as strong), can be used to help digestion, joint pain or to take away nausea. It’s the first thing that most Asian mums and dads turn to when their children have a tummy or head ache, boiling it up with a little honey. If you chew on it you won’t need a paracetamol. It has fantastic nutritional benefits and is a true wonder spice. 2. Turmeric is used in so many beauty treatments. All Asian girls use it on their skin, mixed with gram flour, yoghurt, honey and lemon juice, as a face mask – I’m 51, I don’t have a single wrinkle and although genetics do play their part, I swear that turmeric has helped. 3. Papaya skin should never be wasted! Put it in the freezer until it is solid and then put it on the skin underneath your eyes and it acts like an eyelift. I’ve never shared this secret with anyone but when I do this, friends ask if I’ve had my eyes done as it works to brighten, tighten and lift – it’s amazing.



4. Paprika has so many health benefits. It boosts your metabolism, improves your eyesight and is packed with vitamin A. You can drink it, a teaspoon mixed with warm water and honey every morning – we tell our children to get it down as it’s so good with health benefits inside and out. 5. Cumin can be used as a substitute for salt which is superb if you are watching your sodium intake. It’s an essential Indian spice and a great source of vitamin B. It’s also great if you’re having trouble sleeping. Dad would always give us a teaspoon mixed in a small glass of hot water, and it was far more effective than counting sheep! 6. Saffron – even a single strand – is fantastic for digestion, reducing inflammation or arthritis and easing pain. Stir it into milk and it turns the liquid orange, then rub it onto your face and leave it for ten minutes and it is wonderful for either dry or teenage acne skin.

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YOUNG ENTERPRISE Business skills in schools


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YOUTH MOVEMENT Experts in delivering business skills, cousins Ben and Michael Dyer have experienced the highs and lows of enterprise. Born and raised on a tough housing estate in Stoke-On-Trent where, according to the cousins, “the status quo was largely unquestioned,” their own desire to get ahead is now, in turn, helping youngsters to see the opportunity to do the same. Having experienced bankruptcy after an initial business idea failed, it was while working to complete their business foundation degrees that the pair found themselves discussing how ill-prepared students were to move into business after their studies. What started as a bit of lighthearted banter inspired Ben and Michael to think about how they could make a difference to help young people entering the workforce to learn the skills they would need. Brainstorming some ideas, the cousins decided to launch a competition, open to all secondary schools, to encourage kids to come up with great business ideas and solutions. “Our parents thought we were mad,” recalls Ben Dyer. “We talked to industry contacts to try and get a figurehead to back our competition and eventually Lord Sugar got involved – in fact we used a start-up loan to pay him.

“We needed to deliver 50 enterprise workshops in schools in six months to hit our own business plan. We used social media to find an office – a room in a youth club for £20 a week – and with four of us we called every school in the country, until we signed up 58 schools in just under six months.”


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Fast-forward two years, and the National Enterprise Challenge has the backing of Ryman, along with owner Theo Paphitis, and in year two involved 110 schools with 30,000 students participating. The competition final took place as Alton Towers, which also backs the challenge. “Theo has been instrumental in the competition’s success,” adds Dyer. “He really gets the concept and has petitioned for some time for children to be better taught business skills at school. After all, these are the skills you need for life. “This year we aim to reach 200 schools and each time we are amazed at the ideas and level of sophistication of entries. This year we challenged the older kids to develop an attraction for Alton Towers – we had kids dressed up in costumes, some developed an advertising campaign, and others produced a full-scale model. They were amazing and not at all daunted by pitching to Theo Paphitis. “What’s exciting is that we’re starting to see the success stories following through. A girl from the first year of the competition suffered with terrible confidence but is now in the RAF and says that participating in the challenge completely changed her outlook and attitude.” With millennial entrepreneur Amber Atherton, whose own company, My Flash Trash, is already valued at £3.5m, now onboard with the Ryman National Enterprise Challenge, the competition looks set to develop a whole new generation of business owners. “Theo set up his first tuck shop business at school,” says Dyer, “and this year one of the challenges is to develop the ultimate school-based business. We’ve had ministerial interest in the past, but we really are looking to get some government backing and support for the challenge, as it has so much potential to transform the lives of so many young people in the years ahead.”


Dragon’s Den star Theo Paphitis and entrepreneur Amber Atherton are backing the Ryman National Enterprise Challenge’s mission to expose 500,000 kids to business skills by 2020. Co-founder Ben Dyer explains the idea behind the inter-school competition

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MY INSPIRATIONS Farzana Baduel is founder and managing director of Curzon PR, a public relations agency representing clients ranging from international government projects, to clients in the field of arts and culture. Her business is now global, with offices in London, New York, Dubai, and Delhi. She was recently awarded the Entrepreneur of the Year Award at the Asian Women of Achievement Awards 2015. Here, she shares with The Best You five things that have inspired her career and continue to do so 1) Nudge by Richard Thaler. I discovered this book during my time as vice-chair of Conservative Business Relations. A favourite among the Conservative Party, this book about choice architecture has stuck with me, and still influences me in my role as MD of Curzon PR. Many of Thaler’s insights about human nature and psychology can be applied to every day decision-making. It discusses the inherent biases that can lead to bad decisions with eye-opening examples. 2) Margaret Thatcher. “The lady’s not for turning,” is one of my favourite quotes by Margaret Thatcher. The phrase references her refusal to perform a ‘U-turn’ in response to opposition to her liberalisation of the economy. Her conviction to stick to her original plans inspires me in my business. Sometimes, the most important thing is to believe in what you’re doing and stay with it, no matter how much you are criticised for it. 3) Lunuganga in Bentota. The story of this beautiful estate in Sri Lanka is the product of architect Geoffrey Bawa not giving up on his dream, even though his original plan didn’t follow through. Geoffrey fell in love with Lake Como but he couldn’t afford to buy a piece of land near it. He worked really hard until he saved up to buy an old rubber plantation near a beautiful lake which he converted into the Lunuganga Estate, which is now run as a country house hotel. This estate, to me, is the epitome of beauty both for its story and exceptional aesthetic.

4) Sir John Soane’s Museum. During former architect Sir John Soane’s lifetime, only the elite could afford to travel. As professor of architecture at the Royal Academy, he wanted to give his students who couldn’t afford to travel the opportunity to see and have access to ancient artefacts from all over the world. As his practice prospered, Soane was able to collect objects worthy of the British Museum, in his house on Lincoln’s Inn Fields. There is nothing like this museum, which has such a strong story behind it. In PR, finding this special ‘Sir John Soane’ angle to a story is crucial in delivering successful pitches. 5) Nelson Mandela. The moment when Nelson Mandela won 252 of the 400 seats in the first democratic elections of South Africa in 1994, to me, is one of the most special moments in history. The prime example of resilience in the face of adversity, it is unbelievable that this man spent 27 years in prison for trying to overthrow the proapartheid government.

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A unique opportunity to meet some of the world’s greatest personal development experts The Best You Exhibition is a two day trade fair that will bring together the leading trainers, mentors, therapists and publishers in the personal development arena. The Best You Exhibition will take place at The Excel London on 27-28 February 2016, and will feature the best writers, speakers and innovators in the field, the combination of exhibition, workshops, seminars and networking will help thousands of delegates to be inspired to realise their full potential. Whether you’re looking to achieve your personal dreams, inject a renewed energy into your business, or are a Personal Development specialist looking to network, The Best You Exhibition is the place to be. • 30 unique workshops throughout the weekend in trans-formative spaces dedicated to Business, Health and Wellbeing and The Best Practitioners’ Onestop Shop


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FINDING THE CORE OF SUCCESS Born in 1950 in the place that would become Silicon Valley, one could say Steve ‘the Woz’ Wozniak was born with a circuit board in his brain. Far from what many would consider a model student in school, Wozniak was nevertheless fascinated by electronics as a child. His father was an engineer at Lockheed Martin, thus he was always near the influence of electronics and mechanics. In the early 1970s, Wozniak began a now famous, yet truly strange, business relationship; it was one that would forever cement his status as an icon in the early development of personal computing. Around the time he decided that college wasn’t for him, Wozniak met the late Apple CEO Steve Jobs. Together the two formed a bond over their shared interest in electronics. Serving as an early indicator of their future working relationship, Jobs enlisted Wozniak’s circuit board wizardry on a project for Jobs’ then-employer, pioneering video game company Atari. Wozniak’s work won Jobs much acclaim at Atari, however Jobs failed to disclose to Wozniak the significant bonus he also received for the success of the project. Throughout the mid-1970s, Wozniak honed his computer design prowess as a hobbyist. However, the hobby became a vision that became a reality. His design for Apple’s first-ever computer, the Apple I, wowed friends and industry insiders alike. The ultimate success of the Apple I provided the platform and funds Wozniak needed to leave his full-time job and, together with Jobs, launch Apple Computers as a fullyfledged company. Steve Wozniak eventually left Apple, but would go on to new ventures such as developing the first programmable universal remote control and becoming a computer teacher to elementary school children.


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Born with the name Norma Jane Mortenson, Marilyn Monroe came into the world via a hospital charity ward in 1926 Los Angeles. It seemed destined that Monroe’s mother would pass her hardship-prone life onto her daughter; indeed her mother became pregnant with her first child at age 15, went on to divorce her first husband soon after, and had Marilyn by a different father just a few years later. Taking a few key points into account, Monroe’s early childhood would seem to be an all-but-assured path to a successful Hollywood career. Her mother worked in film editing for top Hollywood studios, was based in Los Angeles and rubbed elbows with movie producers. However, Monroe’s mother made very little money and placed her in foster care for the first seven years of her life. Her mother, institutionalised for schizophrenia for most of the rest of her life, Monroe became a ward of the state and jumped from foster family to foster family throughout her upbringing. After marrying early in an attempt to stay in California, a stint as a housewife, and serving as a munitions factory worker during WWII, Monroe had a chance encounter with a photographer. Soon after, she began modelling full-time. Several magazine covers later, she was offered a contract by 20th Century Fox. Casting off the shackles of her bleak childhood and early adulthood, Monroe divorced her husband and focused entirely on her burgeoning acting career. After a few brief roles in small projects, Monroe broke through in key films that were buoyed by polarising photographs taken of her. All of the well-timed publicity served to push Monroe into the national zeitgeist and provide the launch platform for her legendary leading lady career.




Considered a founding father of the United States, Benjamin Franklin spent much of his life striving to find his inner entrepreneur. Born in the early 1700s in Boston, Massachusetts, Franklin’s father attempted to steward his young son into a religious career, however had little money to pay for a proper education. Franklin showed an appetite for learning, however he was mostly self-taught throughout his upbringing. While apprenticing for a newspaper founded by his brother, Franklin’s passion for free speech began to assert itself. He even went so far as to write letters, under a pseudonym, expressing opinions on political freedom of thought. His teenage years and early adulthood found young Franklin working in print shops around Philadelphia and having runins with the law. A stint in London imparted further printing experience, and also served as a means for helping him straighten his life’s course. Returning to the new world, Franklin established The Philadelphia Gazette. It quickly went into wide circulation and became a cornerstone of his printing career. Franklin slowly began to acquire political connections when he became a Freemason. In tandem with his growing influence as an essayist, the sciences were a growing area of fascination. Among Franklin’s inventions were bifocal glasses and the Franklin stove. However his biggest gift to the modern world was the invention of the lightning rod, by which he discovered the power to harness electricity. Franklin’s astute understanding of natural sciences that bettered everyday life dovetailed into his desire to see society itself bettered. His self-made man background allowed him to ascend quickly in politics. Benjamin Franklin became postmaster-general of the British colonies before going on to play an instrumental part in the American Revolution and the drafting of the Declaration of Independence.



Lynda Resnick began life with a need to do her own thing. Born in 1944, Resnick grew up in the shadow of her father, who was a distributor in the film business. Perhaps learning the grit and fortitude it took to make and launch a film, she was no stranger to rolling up her sleeves and working hard. After completing high school, Resnick found it difficult to give her full attention to higher education. She attended college for just a year before leaving to dive into the advertising world. She soon became restless at that position, and before long, despite being only 19, decided it was time to open her own advertising agency. In the ensuing years, Resnick became no stranger to controversy. She began to use her burgeoning influence and media prowess to aid the anti-Vietnam war effort. She became intensely involved after helping to distribute secret American military documents. As a result of her involvement, Resnick became an official conspirator in the eyes of the U.S. government. Ultimately, she avoided prosecution, deciding to never again flirt with the wrong side of the law. Overcoming her legal problems and a divorce from her first husband in 1969, Resnick turned her attentions to more positive ventures. After remarrying to Stewart Resnick, a man seemingly with just as much passion for startup companies as Lynda, the couple founded the Teleflora floral distribution company. After several advertising awards and the founding of subsequent successful companies, Resnick and her husband went on to found and acquire their most successful venture yet, and one of the most recognised names in the health food industry: POM Wonderful products and Fiji Water.

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MAKING A DIFFERENCE At The Best You, we recognise those who are using their digital space to educate, empower and do good for others

WHAT INSPIRED YOU TO CREATE YOUR YOUTUBE CHANNEL? I had just graduated with my Bachelor of Science in physics and wasn’t sure what I wanted to do for a career, so I uploaded a silly video called, ‘What to do with a physics degree’. In it, I declared I was going to make 101 other videos of things that I would nominally ‘use my physics degree for’.

Name: Physics Girl aka Dianna Cowern Joined YouTube: 21 October 2011 Subscribers: 125,312 Views: 7,662,479 Channel description: Physics videos for every atom and eve

emailing experts. I then write a script so that I really boil down the info to the most important parts and don’t end up rambling on camera. Then comes the typical filming, editing, creating a thumbnail, writing a description, and doing all of the social media stuff. WHAT’S BEEN YOUR MOST POPULAR VIDEO?

These were things like skydiving, learning to windsurf, things that I hadn’t had time to do during my studies. But somewhere along the way, the channel got hijacked by my desire to communicate science and the rest of the videos were about physics aimed at my friends and family who didn’t share my enthusiasm for physics, but I was hoping could be converted.

The most popular video by far has been the Crazy Pool Vortex. It’s a really unique, simple experiment that involves moving a plate through the water in a calm pool and watching the unusual half-ring vortex that it makes. I think it’s so popular because, just like the baking soda and vinegar experiment, it’s reproducible and surprising.



I just made a video for fun. It was really silly. I didn’t intend for it to get a large number of views, or gather an audience (which it didn’t), so I didn’t feel much pressure. I didn’t think much of it except that I hoped the people who had graduated and didn’t know what to do with their lives would see it and realise they are not alone. WHO WAS THE FIRST PERSON TO RESPOND? The first person who commented was endabrady100 who wished me luck in my career endeavours. Much better than the second commenter who wrote, ‘use physics skills to make awesome sammiches for me’. HOW HAVE YOUR FRIENDS AND FAMILY REACTED TO YOUR YOUTUBE FAME? My friends and family have been very supportive of the channel. My parents were a bit hesitant at first, saying: “You’re using your degree to make videos on The YouTube? Why?” But they have since become really excited about it. Many of my friends are physicists so they’re always willing to help me understand physics. My sister just wants me to stop being so busy so I can go meet her new puppy. HOW LONG DOES IT TAKE YOU TO CREATE A VIDEO? It takes anywhere from two days to two weeks to create a video. It could take longer, depending on how many revisions I go through when I don’t like the end result of a video. The creative process involves lots of research and

I really enjoyed making the follow-up video to the pool vortex because I got to take suggestions from viewers, and actually get in the pool to film the vortex underwater. I really like being outside, so I need to find more ways that I can combine physics and the outdoors. HAVE YOU HAD A RESPONSE FROM OTHER VLOGGERS? Absolutely! Veritasium, Smarter Every Day, Minute Physics, Vi Hart, the Green Brothers, they have all been incredibly supportive and have offered advice and feedback. I’ve had the opportunity to meet many of them and it’s such a nice community. WITH MORE THAN 7M VIEWS, HOW DO YOU FEEL ABOUT BEING RECOGNISED AS A VLOGSTAR? When viewers come up to me and say they love the channel and share their enthusiasm for science, it’s an incredible feeling. I took a selfie with some young female Physics Girl fans last week and I’ll probably end up framing that because it’s such an inspirational reminder of why I do what I do. WHAT ARE YOUR FUTURE PLAN FOR PHYSICS GIRL? My hope is to make videos more frequently, and to encourage people to explore science with the young people in their lives.

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Summer may be over, but as the calendar flips over into autumn, there’s a crop of new gadgets to keep us entertained

The Buckshot Pro has been referred to as the Swiss Army Knife of outdoor tech pieces, and it’s hard to disagree with this assessment. The rugged device (shock and water resistant) is meant to be mounted to your handlebars, but it also works great just lying on a picnic table or clipped to your tent. First and foremost, it’s a wireless speaker. It’s Bluetooth® compatible, so, when it’s raining, you can keep your wireless device stowed safely away in your pocket or in a waterproof bag. It’s also a flashlight, but it’s got enough settings to run the gamut from bicycle lamp to ambient camp light. Finally, it’s a power station, so you can keep your wireless devices charged (meaning that the music doesn’t have to stop when your phone runs out of juice). A must have for the tech-addicted camper or bicyclist. Suggested retail price: £59


MARSHALL LONDON Rock fans will instantly recognise the Marshall brand. Its signature has been emblazoned on the world’s most iconic musicians’ amps since the 60s. It has recently branched out into the realm of consumer electronics, and the foray has been, by nearly every measurement, a dazzling success. The Marshall London is a phone designed for music lovers. It has all the features you’d expect from a smartphone, but when it comes to music, this handsome device has you more than covered. It’s got an extremely high quality soundcard, and it boasts not one, but two stereo jacks, so you can share your music with a friend or even use the device to DJ. Perhaps most importantly, the London allows you to play not just mp3s but FLAC files as well, so you won’t have to sacrifice quality when you’re mobile. It’s also got great speakers (they call it the loudest phone on the planet) and a first-rate microphone. Music lovers, your phone has come. Suggested retail price: £399

Dubbed the smartest lights in the world, the new ilumi is an updated version of the smartbulb that ilumi introduced to the world via Kickstarter last year. The main appeal of the bulb is the ability users have to control the bulb’s dozens of features from their smartphones. The latest version of the ilumi (which has just wrapped its second Kickstarter campaign) has a beefed up feature set, including a broader range of colour choices, an ability to sync with your Spotify, turning your living room into a lounge or a nightclub, a vacation setting that makes your home look occupied to would-be burglars, and the ability to set the bulbs to go on and off at certain times of the day or even when you enter a room. The smart folks at ilumi have clearly thought long and hard about what the future of lighting looks like, and they’re determined to get ahead of the curve and to offer you tomorrow’s lighting today. It might be a while before you can get the ilumi in stores, so keep your eye on the Kickstarter page. Suggested retail price: £39


MERLIN 1 TURNTABLE Perhaps you’ve got stacks of old vinyl that just never get played, or perhaps you’re a vinyl devotee – someone who talks about the ‘warmth’ of LPs that is lost in the conversion to digital media. Perhaps you’re neither, and you just want to find out what all the vinyl fuss is about. Whatever camp you’re in, the Merlin 1 will help you get the most out of your vinyl. You can run the device into the speakers that come with it, or you can hook it up to more expensive loudspeakers if you want to get the absolute most out of the system. The Merlin 1 is definitely a nod to the past, but it’s got both feet planted firmly in the present. It features Bluetooth® compatibility, which means you can play music off your mobile device or desktop, and it has a digital output, so you can transfer some of your old vinyl onto your computer. Suggested retail price: £1,300

PININFARINA CAMBIANO PEN High-tech meets low-tech, the Pininfarina Cambiano Pen is as simple as simple gets. It’s a writing instrument that, like a pencil, leaves a trace of the material of which it’s made on the paper, but here’s the thing. The Cambiano’s tip isn’t lead; it’s Ethergraph, a metal alloy patented by, of all people, the folks at Napkin. The tip transfers small amounts of metal to the paper, and while the transfer feels like graphite, the process reduces the amount of Ethergraph only microscopically. This means that the pen will outlast you, and you’ll never be left wondering if the pen sitting on the edge of your desk will do the job when it’s called upon. The people at Pininfarina have been making luxury automobiles in collaboration with the people at Ferrari and Maserati for some time, so the limitless pen is as gorgeous as you might expect it to be. It’ll set you back far less than a top-rate fountain pen, and it’ll look smashing on your desk. Suggested retail price: £89

THE BEST YOU DIRECTORY The best professionals in personal development



Dr Stephen Simpson NLP, hypnotherapy and havening Email: doc@drstephensimpson.com Website: www.drstephensimpson.com Clients include leading names from the world of sport, business and the entertainment industries

Shayna Schulman Attitude adjuster and flexibility enhancer Email: Shayna.s@virgin.net Phone: +44 (0) 208 960 7715 Licensed trainer, coaching, consulting, yoga, nutrition

NLP TRAINERS Tina Taylor: Licensed master trainer and practitioner Email: kay@the-me-group.com Phone: +44 (0) 7946 351640 Website: tina@tina-taylor.com Tina’s experience allows her to create and provide some unique coaching services, from stopping addictions to pregnancy and pain control

Ulrika Shaw: Thrive consultant and hypnotherapist Email: enquiry@shawmind.co.uk Phone: +44 (0)7810 556029 Website: www.shawmind.co.uk Are you suffering from anxieties or depression? Maybe you’re struggling with bad habits such as overeating or smoking? I help people overcome anything that holds them back!

Geoff Rolls: Corporate coach and kinesiologist Email: geoff@geoffrolls.co.uk Phone: +44 (0)7905 056 513 Website: www.geoffrolls.co.uk Learning and development, NLP trainer, TFH kinesiology instructor

June O’Driscoll: Exec coach, business coach, trainer Email: june@thoughtitude.co.uk Phone: +44 (0)7876 657 8055 Website: www.thoughtitude.co.uk NLP, coaching and hypnotherapy training school and consultancy

LIFE COACHES Dr Andrew A Parsons Mindfulness, resilience and finding clear purpose Email: aaparsons@reciprocalminds.com Phone: +44 (0)7854 029 268 Support people, build awareness and make changes for success

Dustin Vice Personal and business development coaching Email: dustin@alliancecoachingsystem.com Website: www.alliancecoachingsystem.com Professional coaching, coaching business system for professional coaches

Gail Cherry: Torchlight coaching Email: gail@torchlightcoaching.co.uk Phone: +44 (0)1143 489 161 Website: www.torchlightcoaching.co.uk Helping people with their personal and professional development. We work together to be the best you

Ruth Hepworth: Life coach Email: ruth.hepworth@ntlworld.com Phone: +44 (0)1252 655 849

Those Life Consultant Guys: Coaching, seminars, business, goal setting and more Website: www.thoselifeconsultantguys.com A coaching company which prides itself on helping you to live your best life; every day, through one-on-one sessions and seminar programmes

Nick Nanton Career and life coaching, consultancy and public speaking Website: www.nicknanton.com Phone: (407) 215-7737 Recognised as one of the top thought-leaders in the business world

Edson Williams: Life coaching Email: edson@leadbyexample.com Phone: +44(0)7867517777 Website: www.leadbyexample.com Specialising in leadership development and sport coaching

David Owen: Life coach & NLP trainer Email: bestyou@excel-yourself.com Phone: 07900 243494 Website: www.excel-yourself.com Stop smoking, slimming, phobias, relationships, stress, confidence, self-esteem

THE BEST YOU DIRECTORY The best professionals in personal development

PHOBIA SPECIALISTS John Vincent Public speaking without fear Email: John@JohnVincent.tv Phone: +44 (0)7808 545 421 Website: www.johnvincent.tv

Paul Wright Phobias, anxieties, panic attacks Email: paul@phobiagone.com Phone: +44 (0)203 086 8444 Website: www.phobiagone.com

NLP THERAPISTS / HYPNOTHERAPISTS Linda Cameron and Gail Walshe Inspire for impact Email: say-hello@inspireforimpact.com Phone: +44 (0)845 601 7567 Website: www.inspireforimpact.com NLP trainers, NLP master practitioners, NLP life coaches, hypnotherapists

Debbie Williams Birmingham NLP Practice Group Website: www.debbiewilliams.co.uk Phone: +44 (0)121 241 0728 Life coaching, public speaking, sports coaching, all eating disorders, emotional mastery, OCD, stopping blushing, cocaine addiction, binge drinking

Edson Williams Coaching, NLP, personal development Email: say-hello@inspireforimpact.com Phone: +44 (0) 7867517777 Website: www.leadbyexample.com With an holistic approach, Edson specialises in performance coaching

Laura Spicer: Public speaking skills and confidence Email: laura.spicer@gmail.com Phone: 01752 361 576 Website: www.laura-spicer.com The only accredited sound practice trainer for the Society of NLP

EATING DISORDERS John Arroyo Coaching, personal development Email: john@johnarroyo.co.uk I have been a therapist and personal development trainer for 20 years, specialising in eating disorders for the last 10 years



Pasquale Acampora (Italy) Master trainer and mental coach, NLP, team building Website: www.blackship.it Phone: +39 (0)335 70 99 000 Pasquale’s key areas are sport and business; he has worked with top athletes and multinational companies

Alessandro Mora (Italy) Sport coaching Email: a.mora@ekis.it Phone: +39 (0)522 337 611 Website: www.pnlekis.com NLP, coaching and team building applied to sport and business all over Italy

Xavier Pirla (Spain): NLP master trainer and NLP coach Email: kay@the-me-group.com Phone: 91 002 84 44 (Madrid) 93 193 6449 (Barcelona) Website: www.the-me-group.com NLP, NLP business applications, coaching workshops and consultancy

Aleksander Sinigoj (Slovenia) Mastermind academy Email: info@itnlp.com Website: www.aleksandersinigoj.com Leadership, motivation, sales, business NLP

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