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Life Without Limits

PERWEEN WARSI Interview with the Curry Queen

WAYNE DYER Says make love your habit





















Bernardo Moya welcomes you to the latest issue of The Best You

18 WE SUPPORT… Operation Christmas Child says it's not too late to help those in need

29 BOOK REVIEWS We review some of our favourites – a small selection of what’s available

58 THE BEST YOU DIRECTORY Find the best coaches, trainers and practitioners here



The festive season is both fun and frantic, but Thomas Gagliano says "relax"



The Best You has a look at the rise and rise of Angelina Jolie

26 RECIPE FOR SUCCESS Bernardo Moya interviews Founder and Chief Executive, S&A Foods


Dr. Wayne Dyer has a story that will change the way you live

12 DIFFERENT STROKES Dr. John Grohol from PsychCentral takes us through various types of therapy




What festivities have you always wanted to indulge in? Do it this Christmas


So much of the news we read is bad. Here are some stories to lift your spirits


Leo Babauta of Zen Habits tells us that a clear home helps make a clear mind

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Emma Hammett from First Aid for Life gives us some safety tips for the festive season

38 WORLD AIDS DAY The National Aids Trust gives us someinformation on how people with HIV/Aids are living full lives

40 LIMITING BELIEFS Oscar Del Ben doesn’t believe that your beliefs should hold back your dreams




Chronic charity supporter Bernice Bowmaker-Falconer says think of others at this time of the year

46 GET YOUR COLOURS DONE According to Samantha Bell of Pixie Belle, you could drop a dress size just by wearing different colours



Robin Sharma looks at some of the weird and wonderful habits of history’s great achievers

52 BREAK THROUGH YOUR MONEY BLOCKS Kristen White chats with Dr. David Trybus about getting over what’s standing between you and wealth

54 BE A WEALTH DRAGON John Lee went from working in his parents’ Chinese take-away to owning a Lamborghini

56 THE ROCKY ROAD TO SUCCESS The Best You looks at some iinspirational historical figures who didn’t have success handed to them





Nick Robertson, the man at the forefront of online shopping

64 HAVE A GADGETY CHRISTMAS Stuck on what Christmas gifts to buy your loved ones? Here are some techy ideas






t's been an interesting, challenging but very fulfilling year. As a company The Best You Magazine is now a year old, we have learnt a lot and we feel we have provided some great content with interviews with the likes of Jacquline Gold, Bill Curbishley, Kanya King, Kubi Springer, Richard Bandler, Tim Lovejoy, John Bird and many more. And we are also very lucky to have a great selection of contributors such as Robin Sharma, Jack Canfield, T. Harv Eker, Wayne Dyer, Paul McKenna and others. This issue packed with inspirational and helpful articles, mostly centred around the festive season and being grateful for what you have. But Christmas isn’t the only thing we celebrate in December – it’s also World Aids Day, so a guest contributor from the National Aids Trust tells us about advancements made in HIV/ Aids treatment. We believe in what we do and that’s why now we have partnered up with Magazine

Cloner and Pocket Mags, world leaders in the digital distribution content. Not only that, but we have also decided to take a very big, bold and important step that will hopefully be appreciated by you all and anyone wanting to improve their lives, and that’s the fact that from December 2013 our magazine is free in every platform! That includes Apple, Android, Amazon, as well as on your PC or Mac. That is our Christmas gift to you, and becoming bigger and better is our New Year’s resolution. That’s our plan. What is yours? How do you plan on making 2014 your year? We would love to hear your stories, so please drop us a mail at any time to share them. All the people we have featured in the magazine this year have believed in themselves, no matter what others have told them. And we, as a magazine, have grown and improved because we believe in what we do. So, my final message to you for 2013 is don't let anyone; no news reporter, politician, friend or

family member, tell you what you can or can’t achieve. Have a fantastic Christmas and think big in 2014. See you next year!

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an HR consultant with a passion for giving. She takes every charitable opportunity she gets, and is particularly generous at this time of the year, making sure that she gives to people less fortunate than her.


is a qualified nurse, first aid trainer and mother. She has recently been awarded a National Award as ‘Most Inspirational Trainer.’ Emma trained and worked at St Thomas’ Hospital in the 1980s and has since worked in both clinical and managerial capacities in many hospitals.



is the guy behind Freestyle Mind, a website he created because he thinks he has something to share. He was born and raised in Italy and has always been fond of breaking the rules. He now lives in San Francisco and works for Google.



is the founder of Sharma Leadership International Inc., a global consultancy with a single focus: to help organizations develop employees who Lead Without a Title. SLI's clients include many of the best companies on the planet such as Starbucks, Nike and The Coca-Cola Company.



is a pioneer in online mental health and psychology. He is a mental health and human behaviour/ technology expert, and co-author of Self-Help That Works. He regularly writes for, edits and blogs on Psych Central and is a member of the Association of Health Care Journalists


swept the floor and washed dishes at his parent’s Chinese takeaway, dreaming of becoming a millionaire. Today, his wish is a reality. John is co-founder of Wealth Dragons and one of the UK’s most dynamic international speakers.



is a professional business and life and media coach, author, video producer, international speaker, host of The Ripple Effect and intuitive business designer. She enjoys helping entrepreneurs succeed in business and in life.


is the creator and editor of ZenHabit, one of the world’s most popular blogs with over 240,000 subscribers. He is an expert on simplifying lives, and he lives his simple life in San Francisco with his partner and six kids.





is the founder of Pixie Belle, a service that guarantees you a fabulous image that you’re comfortable with, because it comes from your personality. What’s the point of dressing in jeans and boots if you’re more of a vintage dress kinda girl?



is the communications manager at National AIDS Trust and is responsible for the public awareness and media. It is her job to educate people about the facts about HIV, to monitor the media for inaccurate reporting and to ensure the voices of people living with HIV are heard in the media.



is an entrepreneur with a proven track record in smallbusiness ventures. He has also been a high-profile leader in addiction and self-help therapy, helping develop unique methods and procedures which have helped numerous institutions and individuals in the greater New York area.


is an internationally renowned author and speaker in the field of self-development. He's the author of over 30 books, has created many audio programs and videos, and has appeared on thousands of television and radio shows.



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MAKE LOVE YOUR HABIT Dr. Wayne Dyer has a story that will change the way you live

DIFFERENT STROKES Dr. John Grohol from PsychCentral takes us through various types of therapy




It’s true that the Yuletide is a time for giving, but that doesn’t mean giving has to be confined to this time of the year. Dr. Wayne W. Dyer had an experience while in Turkey that changed his attitude to one of gratitude.



n the recent Hay House Mediterranean cruise, “In the Wake of Our Spiritual Ancestors,” we visited historic sites of the ancient civilizations of Greece and Rome. One highlight of the trip was a stop at the ruins of Ephesus on the coast of Turkey, where I was scheduled to lecture. I’ll tell you about an experience I had there that

MAIN PICTURE Giving something to someone in need shows love for humankind

RIGHT There are many people who have less than you in the world. Show them some love


illustrates the importance of our power to choose who we are. That day in Ephesus, there were many tourists in the area and, thus, a long line for the bathroom. Once inside I saw that there was a man handing out little pieces of paper to the people after they washed their hands. My first thought


was an immediate throwback to a younger version of myself. “What is this guy doing in this toilet and is he expecting me to give him a tip? I don’t want to have to give someone a tip for just going to the bathroom. I just had to pee. I don’t think I should have to pay for that. I don’t want to have to deal with this. I don’t want to have to look at him. Here’s someone who’s trying to take advantage of me. He wants a coin. I don’t have any coins.” These thoughts flew into my head spontaneously. I took the piece of paper and walked out. I got about ten feet away and then realised what I had done. “Oh my God, who knows what this man’s story is? He has decided to go into a toilet where tourists come and go all day long. (You can’t imagine what it smelled like in there.) And he stands there all day just handing out little pieces of paper perhaps to earn money to feed his family. Who knows what’s going on in his life? And here I am judging him.” Thoughts born of anger, judgment and fear are habitual memes that fill our heads if we let them. Where they came from doesn’t matter. What matters is that we recognise them. There was a time when, after thinking those habitual thoughts, I would correct them and say to myself, “the next time that happens….” But now what I did was take immediate action. I went back into the bathroom. I had a 20-euro note. I reached out and put it into the man’s hand. “God bless you,” I said. “It’s really thoughtful of you to just hand me a piece of paper after I washed my hands.” This is the healing power of divine love as we open ourselves to it. We’ve all developed mental habits of fear, judgment, getting angry at people for no reason, and

In the poor, we find Jesus in his most distressing disguises. – Mother Teresa


HOW CAN YOU MAKE LOVE YOUR HABIT? Dr. Dyer’s experience that day in Ephesus could’ve gone by unnoticed, and we all block out experiences like this everyday. So here are some tips to make love your habit.  Open your eyes. There are people all around us that need our help, so don’t block them out. Of course you can’t give everything to everybody, but be sure to buy the occasional Big Issue, or buy a cold, homeless person a coffee.  Remember you manners. You may remember to say thank you to your friend for having you over for dinner, but remember to thank strangers for small kindnesses too, like holding a door open, or saying “bless you” when you sneeze.  Do something special. Next time you leave the office for lunch, come back with some biscuits for your colleagues. They will really appreciate the gesture, and it will make them think of you fondly.

BELOW Being charitable makes you feel good as well as the person you are giving to

feeling threatened. With the working out of divine love, we start seeing these habits for what they are; then we start correcting our thoughts. Finally, we start acting on the corrections. We begin to see the unfolding of God in everyone. I slipped that day in Ephesus. The rest of that trip, when I saw people like the man I met, I had more and more of an outpouring of love. I started giving away coins to remind myself how blessed I am to even have a toilet let alone to have someone inside handing me paper. That’s the shift. You decide you are a being

of divine love and every time you have a thought that is not consistent with that assessment of who you are, you correct the thought and then you go back and correct the action. A habit is a habit until you become aware of it. Ask yourself, “Is this how I choose to react to people who are asking me for help?” Choose love over fear until it becomes your habit. This article was originally published on www.HealYourLife.com MP3 DOWNLOAD




There are probably hundreds of different types of theoretical orientations and techniques that therapists use nowadays in the field of psychotherapy. Looking at all the options can become somewhat overwhelming, so John M. Grohol simplifies.



ou, as a consumer of mental health services, want an overview of different approaches to therapy and practice. I will review the main schools of theory and the techniques they utilise in practice. Four schools of theory and therapy will be examined here: Psychodynamic (and psychoanalytic); Cognitivebehavioural (and behavioural); Humanistic (and existential); and Eclectic.

MAIN PICTURE One type of effective therapy is group therapy

a superego (what is typically referred to as your “conscience,” as in, “Your conscience tells you not to smoke!”), and an id (the devil inside us all that says, “Go ahead, what can it hurt?”)



This is one of the oldest theories of psychology in which patients are viewed within a model of illness or “what is lacking.” Individuals are seen as being made up from a “dynamic” that begins in early childhood and progresses throughout life. Psychoanalysis emphasises that all adult problems’ roots can be traced back to one’s childhood. Few therapists can afford to practice strict psychoanalysis anymore and it is typically found nowadays only in the hands of psychiatrists, who have spent extraordinary amounts of personal time being analysed themselves and attending a psychoanalytic institute. Most psychodynamic therapists believe in the theoretical constructs of the ego (a mediating sort of force, like a referee),

It is not really fair to lump these two together like this, but I did it anyway. Why? Because I’m trying to save space and time. Cognitive-behavioural theory emphasises the cognitions or thoughts a person has as an explanation as to how people develop and how they sometimes get a mental disorder. Cognitive-behaviourists


FAR RIGHT Therapy can help give you confidence


faulty thinking and behaviors by educating the person and reinforcing positive experiences that will lead to fundamental changes in the way that person copes.


Cognitive-behavioral therapy, in a nutshell, seeks to change a person’s irrational or faulty thinking generally believe in the role of social learning in childhood development, and the ideas of modelling and reinforcement. People’s personalities come from these experiences in which they are involved in critical learning, identification of appropriate (and inappropriate) thoughts and feelings, and imitation of these behaviours, thoughts, and feelings. So, in other words, if your parents act like snooty, uptight individuals all their lives, and treat other people with little dignity or respect, you, as a child, would learn to do much of the same thing. Children learn by observing and imitating. This is social learning theory. Cognitive-behavioral therapy, in a nutshell, seeks to change a person’s irrational or

Responsibility is a key ingredient of this theory, for all humans are responsible for the choices they make in their lives, with regards to their emotions, thoughts, and behaviours. Pretty tough stuff, eh? Yes, it is, because it says, in effect, that no matter what kind of childhood you suffered through, no matter what your life experiences, you are ultimately in charge of how you react to those experiences and how you will feel. No blaming it on the parents here! There are a number of major conflicts that also tend to need attention, according to this theory. These generally involve the struggle between “being” and “nonbeing” (life versus death, accepting parts of yourself, but not other parts, etc.), being authentic versus being “fake” or “fraudulent” in your day-to-day interactions with yourself and others, etc.


WHAT ARE THE ALTERNATIVES? Psychotherapy doesn’t work for everybody, but there are options out there. These are some of the most popular: Neuro-linguistic programming (NLP) is an approach to communication, personal development, and psychotherapy. The connection between the neurological processes (“neuro”), language (“linguistic”) and behavioural patterns learned through experience (“programming”) can be changed to achieve specific goals. Hypnotherapy aims to access the deeper parts of people’s minds to help them overcome a wide range of psychological and physical conditions. Acupuncture uses an ancient form of traditional Chinese medicine to help relieve symptoms. It involves inserting very fine needles into key pressure points on the body. The aim is to stimulate these pressure points to regulate the body’s healing process and restore health and energy. Art therapy helps people express difficult thoughts and feelings through creative activities. It requires creativity and imagination, but can be very helpful, especially amongst people who have difficulty communicating.

theory or therapeutic technique that they tend to use more often or fall back on, but they are willing and often use all that are available to them. After all, the key here is to help the patient as quickly and as effectively as possible. Not to pigeon-hole them into some set way of looking at all people, whether it works for them or not. This article has been adapted from http://psychcentral.com/therapy.htm

ECLECTICISM THERAPY Of course I saved the best for last. Some of my colleagues are probably saying, “Hey, eclecticism isn’t a therapy!” I’d say they’re wrong, but I’m too modest and subtle for such an absolute statement. Oh, what the hell, You’re wrong! There are many forms of eclecticism, but for you, the gentle reader, it is not really important to know or understand the differences between them all. It’s a pragmatic approach to therapy, meshing all of the above approaches together to fit the individualistic human being that sits before them for the first time with their particular problem. Eclectics use techniques from all schools of therapy. They may have a favourite



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‘TIS THE SEASON What festivities have you always wanted to indulge in? Make it this Christmas

IT’S THE GOOD NEWS So much of the news we read is bad. Here are some stories to lift your spirits

DECLUTTER YOUR LIFE Leo Babauta of Zen Habits tells us that a clear home helps make a clear mind





verybody has a bucket list, whether it’s on an official, laminated document, or just a few ideas floating around. But at this time of the year, people have pretty specific things they’d like to do, so we’ve put together a festive-themed

bucket list comprised of things to accomplish during the Yuletide. Don’t panic, you don’t have to do them all this year – keep them in mind for future Christmases. Some of them are fun and others are for the good of humankind, so spread them out, but be sure to do a couple this year.

MAKE YOUR OWN MINCE PIES One of the simple joys of Christmas is a cup of mulled wine and a mince pie. Sure, store-bought pies are acceptable, but imagine the delight of your friends and family if you welcomed them to your home with a warm, homemade mince pie. It may sound complicated, but it’s actually really simple. All you need to do is make the short crust pastry, use it to line a muffin tray, fill it with fruit mince (you could make this yourself too, but who has the time?) cover with pastry and bake.


Part of enjoying life is living for the moment, so don’t wait until you’re on your deathbed to make a list of what you should’ve done. Life is happening now, so start ticking things off that bucket list.

DO SOME CHARITY WORK We have some ideas on how you can help the less fortunate over the Christmas season scattered throughout the magazine. For example, you could fill a shoebox with goodies for a child in need, which you can find out more about in our We Support feature on page 28. Or you could donate a few hours of your time by volunteering at a soup kitchen or hospital. And if you don’t have the time, you can always donate money to a cause you care about.


HAVE A WHITE CHRISTMAS For those in the Northern Hemisphere, having a white Christmas is rather common. However, there’s a whole other hemisphere full of people who celebrate Christmas in the sunshine. This is nice, but since the media mostly associates Christmas with snow and woolly jumpers, summer Christmases just don’t feel like Christmas. So if you’re in the south, head north one Christmas and see why it’s possible to eat a real Christmas lunch there.

BUY SOMETHING EXTRAVAGANT Imagine the look on your partner or child’s face if you splashed out on something really amazing. We’re not recommending that you get yourself into debt over it, but if you can afford it, why not? The feeling you’ll get from their reaction will totally be worth it. But, extravagance is relative, so it could be a romantic getaway for you and your partner, or a car for your newly licenced teenage daughter.

CHRISTMAS CHURCH SERVICE With all the television adverts and shopping mall Santa Clauses, it’s easy to forget that Christmas is actually a Christian holiday. If you’re a practicing Christian, you probably go to a Christmas Eve service anyway, but if you’re an atheist who enjoys celebrating Christmas, find out about the service at your local church. It’s festive, as well as being educational about the historical meaning of Christmas.


LEARN A WINTER SPORT If you’re going to make your way to snowy climes, make the most of it. How about learning to ski or snowboard? It’s great fun, and a good way to burn off extra calories from all those Christmas indulgences. And you get to go back to the lodge after a day on the slopes and sip something delicious. And it doesn’t take long to learn. Get an instructor for the first day, and by the second day, swish, swish, swish.

HOST THE CHRISTMAS LUNCH If you usually go to a family member or friend for Christmas lunch, why not have a go at hosting it yourself for a change? It can be a lot of fun, and if you go all out, there’s a great sense of accomplishment. Decorate your home in tinsel and lights and remember the festive place setting. And if you really feel up to it, we refer you to item number one.

MAKE FAMILY CHRISTMAS CARDS Cheesy as they may be, Christmas cards with a portrait of the whole family is something that all your friends and family will love. You can do it properly by going to a photographic studio and getting your family portrait taken professionally, or you can use a candid shot of your family and give it to a card making company. Remember to wear your Christmas jumper!


WE SUPPORT Operation Christmas Child

It’s not too late for people across the country to help send gift filled shoeboxes to disadvantaged children around the world.


peration Christmas Child is a global children’s project of Samaritan’s Purse that uses simple gift-filled shoe boxes containing school supplies, toys, necessity items and notes of encouragement to let hurting children know God loves them and they are not forgotten. Over the past 23 years, through Operation Christmas

Child, Samaritan’s Purse has delivered 100 million giftfilled shoeboxes in over 100 countries. While the deadline for dropping off shoeboxes has now passed, people can still take part through Shoebox World – a fun and interactive way to create a shoebox online. It’s a quick and easy way to fill a shoebox gift for a child overseas. This year Shoebox World is compatible across all PC and MAC devices and Tablets. Best of all, Shoeboxes can be created online using any platform, anywhere, from as little as £15, right up until New Year’s Day! People can choose from a great selection of toys, education supplies, hygiene accessories and other items. Samaritan’s Purse volunteers will then place the chosen gifts in decorated shoeboxes

Operation Christmas Child shoebox gifts are collected in the UK, United States and many more

and send them for distribution overseas to vulnerable children between two and 14 years of age. Shoeboxes can also include a personalised message and/or a photo for the child receiving their shoebox, a simple thing to do but something that makes each shoebox so special, so memorable. Samaritan’s Purse UK Executive Director Simon Barrington said: “We want to tell children receiving these shoeboxes that, whatever their circumstances, people in the UK do care about them and are thinking about them this Christmas.” Operation Christmas Child shoebox gifts are collected in the UK, United States, Canada, Australia, Austria, Finland, Germany, New Zealand and Spain. People wanting to create a shoebox online through Shoebox World need simply go to :


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SMA Trust www.smatrust.org


Katie Piper Foundation www.katiepiperfoundation.org.uk

War Child www.warchild.org.uk

Children Of The Night www.childrenofthenight.org

The Children’s Trust www.thechildrenstrust.org.uk




The news we read in the newspapers and see on the television is so often negative that it can often feel like the media is conspiring to get you down in the dumps. That’s why The Best You is bringing you snippets of good news.

The Star in Starbucks


e all know that they make a great cup of coffee, but Starbucks is also doing great work for humankind, and we don’t just mean giving them a morning caffeine boost. The coffee conglomerate has vowed to help 10,000 war veterans and spouses of active soldiers find work within the company over the next five years. Howard Schultz, Starbucks chairman, president and chief executive officer, said,

“There are more than one million transitioning U.S. veterans and almost one and a half million military spouses. Our missiondriven sensibility can build longterm careers at Starbucks as they return home.” All of the positions available, ranging from management to logistics, require a skill set that Schultz believes these veterans possess. Former Defence Secretary Robert M. Gates said, “They represent one of the most underutilized talent pools in our country.”



early 30 million of them get bought every year in the United States, and a significant percentage of those get recycled and turned into mulch. It’s been a great success in America, and it’s something we should really try and spread across the world. We’re talking, of course, about

recycling Christmas trees. According to National Christmas Tree Association spokesman Rick Dungey, recycling your Christmas tree in the United States has becomes “easier than ever” over the past few festive seasons. For the city of San Francisco, this will be the 27th year for Christmas tree recycling. Here nearly 600 tonnes

of trees are fed into a giant wood-chipper each year and turned to mulch. New York City’s Department of Sanitation collects about 150,000 trees each year and mulches them in a joint program with the Parks Department. The mulch is used in community gardens. So, let’s make this go global. Find out how to recycle your Christmas tree.


NEW OBSESSION When Ryan Marotta wore a pair of pink sneakers in honour of his mother, who is a breast cancer survivor, he was bullied by his classmates. But his friends thought it was a great idea and followed suit, and soon the whole school was painted a lighter shade of red. Work at an animal shelter? Feed the homeless?




Studies have shown that we work better and are happier in uncluttered spaces, so Leo Babauta from Zen Habits tells us how to go about it in a manageable way, starting with the small things.


YOUR LIFE S tudies have shown that we work better and are happier in uncluttered spaces, so Leo Babauta from Zen Habits tells us how to go about it in a manageable way, starting with the small things. One of the things that gives me most peace is have a clean, simple home. When, on the other hand, I walk out into a living room cluttered with toys and books and extra things all over the place, it is chaos and my mind is frenetic. I’ve been a simplifier and a declutterer for nearly a decade and I’ve gotten pretty good at it, but I’ve found that you have to keep coming back to revisit your clutter every once in awhile.

HERE ARE MY TOP DECLUTTERING TIPS: 1. DO IT IN SMALL CHUNKS. Set aside just 15 minutes to declutter just one shelf, and when that shelf or that 15 minutes is up, celebrate your victory. Then tackle another shelf for 15 minutes the next day. Conquering an entire closet or room can be overwhelming, and you might put it off forever.

2. SET ASIDE A COUPLE HOURS TO DO IT. This contradicts the tip above, but the same decluttering strategy doesn’t work for every mess or for every person. Sometimes, for me, it’s good to set aside part of a morning to declutter a closet

MAIN PICTURE Keep you common living area organised. You never know when guests could stop by

BELOW Keep your wardrobe in check for your own peace of mind

or room. I do it all at once, and when I’m done, it feels awesome.


Whichever of the two above strategies you choose, you should focus on one drawer or shelf at a time, and empty it completely. Then clean that shelf or drawer. Then, take the pile, sort it, and put back just what you want to keep. 4. SORT THROUGH YOUR PILE, ONE ITEM AT A TIME, AND MAKE QUICK DECISIONS. Have a trash bag and a giveaway box handy. When you pull everything out of a shelf or drawer, sort through the pile one item at a time. Pick up an item, and make a decision:

THE BEST YOU trash, give away, or keep.

5. BE MERCILESS. You may be a pack rat, but the truth is, you won’t ever use most of the junk you’ve accumulated. If you haven’t used it in the last year, get rid of it. It’s as simple as that.

6. PAPERS? Be merciless, unless it’s important. Magazines, catalogues, junk mail, bills more than a year old, notes to yourself, notes from others, old work stuff … toss it! The only exception is with tax-related stuff, which should be kept for seven years, and other important documents like warranties, birth and death and marriage certificates, insurance, wills, and other important documents like that. But you’ll know those when you see them. Otherwise, toss!

7. CREAT A MAYBE BOX. If you are on the fence with a


lot of things, create a “maybe” box. If you can’t bear to toss something because you might need it later, put it in the box, then close the box, label it, and put it in storage (garage, attic, closet), out of sight. Most likely, you’ll never open that box again. If that’s the case, pull it out after six months or a year, and toss it or give it away.

8. LOOKING AHEAD Create a system to stop clutter from accumulating. There’s a reason you have tall stacks of papers all over the place, and big piles of toys and books and clothes. It’s because you don’t have a regular system to keep things in their place, and get rid of stuff you don’t need. This is a topic for another day, but it’s something to think about as you declutter. You’ll never get to perfect, but if you think more intelligently about how your house got cluttered, perhaps you can find ways to stop it

from happening again.


Create a system to stop clutter from accumulating. There’s a reason you have tall stacks of papers all over the place, and big piles of toys and books and clothes

This is actually a general rule in life: always celebrate your accomplishments, no matter how small. Even if you just decluttered one drawer, that’s great. Treat yourself to something delicious. Open that drawer (or closet, or whatever), and admire its simplicity. Breathe deeply and know that you have done a good thing. Bask in your peacefulness. b


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an ANGEL in DISGUISE Beautiful, talented, with a father nominated for Oscars and an actress mother, it's tempting to think that Angelina Jolie had it all handed to her on a plate. But that only tells half the story. The Best You reveals all.




LEFT Angelina as a baby with her mother, Marcheline


espite the apparent good fortune of being born into Hollywood glamour, Angelina Jolie grew up in a turbulent Hollywood household in which her mother hardly saw her for the first year of her life. It's said that for that year she rarely saw the same person two days in a row and was left by a string of babysitters to stare at the sky in an empty apartment above her mother's home. It was a place so lonely her babysitters nicknamed it the Ivory Tower. In 1971, her mother, Marcia Lynne Bertrand, later Marcheline Voight, had married the young and handsome film star Jon Voight, famous for his role in 1969 film Midnight Cowboy. She was a model and actress. Ostensibly a devout family man, the 37-year-old Jon Voight strayed from Marcheline just as Angelina was born in 1975, falling in with the younger theatrical student Stacey Pickren. Devastated, Angelina's mother told friends she could not bear to look at her new daughter because she reminded her of her unfaithful husband. So, as Marcheline struggled with shock and depression, Angelina's year-long sojourn in the Ivory Tower began. The years that followed were filled with strife. Jon Voight tried to be a good father to Angelina, but at the same time was haunted by his relationship with Pickren, who, as a member of the infamous sex-based cult The Children of God, had opted for an open relationship. The situation took its toll. As Voight put it, "Nobody tells you the cost of free love." Angelina made her first foray into film in the movie "Lookin' To Get Out" in 1982. Starring Jon Voight with Marcheline as his wife and Sandra Pickren as a prostitute, Angelina played the daughter. She was seven years old. With strong tensions at home, by the time she was 13 years old, Angelina was starting to go off the rails. Her mother, always more interested in being her friend than a disciplining influence, let her run wild and take drugs. When Angelina was 14, Marcheline invited Angelina's boyfriend to stay at the house many nights a week, giving up the master bedroom to the two children. Her reasoning was that Angelina was going to have sex anyway, and she felt that it would be safer for her to do so at home rather than in the back seat of a car. Her lax attitude toward her daughter's development meant Angelina had

ABOVE Angelina was, like so many of us, a gawky teenager

The years that followed were filled with strife. Jon Voight tried to be a good father to Angelina, but at the same time was haunted by his relationship with Pickren

plenty of time to go to clubs and take drugs, despite her mother's avowed intention of "containing" her at home. As a teenager, Jolie developed anorexia and started cutting herself, often on her inner thighs. An argument with her boyfriend at this time saw them both hospitalised after stabbing each other. It is fair to say that Angelina was lost and confused. After leaving school, she declared she had no interest in acting, and subsequently went into modelling. By the age of 17, this striking young woman was chosen to replace Cindy Crawford as the poster girl for a swimwear brand. Unexpectedly, Jolie turned the job down, deciding instead to go into acting. She refused to use her father's surname, opting to use her middle name to become Angelina Jolie. Impulsive, wild and sexually predatory, Jolie's life was a series of extremes. She took numerous lovers of of either sex and frequently indulged. Those extremes had other, even darker manifestations. At the end of filming for one


COVER STORY THE BEST YOU movie, Jolie fell into a post-filming low and hired a hitman to kill her. She arranged for small amounts of money to leave her account, thus not making him a suspect in her suicide. At their meeting, the hitman advised that she should call him back in a month and if she still felt the same, he would fulfil the contract. She never made the call. In typical impulsive form, Jolie fell in love with English actor, Johnny Lee Miller, immediately after she met him. They were married within six weeks, just as he was finishing filming the classic Irvine Welsh movie, Trainspotting. Within four weeks, she had been unfaithful to him, and within 18 months the marriage was dead. So her life went on through her twenties, swinging between extremes of relationships, heroin addiction and film-making. At the same time, the extremes of her life fed into her acting accomplishments. Jolie won a string of nominations and awards for her screen work, including an Academy Award for best supporting actress in the movie Girl, Interrupted. Jolie tried to find some balance by marrying US actor and musician Billy Bob Thornton in 2000. It was during her marriage to Thornton that she started to turn things around. Her heroin addiction was taking a toll on her looks, and she vowed to stop. She had landed the lead role in the film Lara Croft: Tomb Raider, which required her to be fit, focussed and upbeat. Drawing on the poised, controlled character of Croft as an inspiration, and confined by an 11:00pm curfew by the director, she kicked the heroin habit and started to take charge of her life. Filming on location in Cambodia, Jolie's insular filmstar lifestyle came into direct contact with genuine poverty. As Thornton later observed, seeing three people walking down the road, two blind and one without arms, carrying piles of wood back to their village put annoyance at the worn leather on the seat of your sports car into perspective. Returning to the US, she was due to play a wealthy socialite who becomes involved in an African refugee crisis in Beyond Borders. The role spoke to her, and when the film was shelved she decided to approach the UN and find out more about humanitarian crises unfolding around the world. 2001 was an intense period of learning for Jolie. She threw herself into her research, insisting on paying her own way, and being sure to live in the same conditions as the UNHCR workers she travelled with. Some of her research was genuinely dangerous, and her father even tried to prevent her going on one of her fact-finding missions, so concerned was he for her safety. Never one to be put off, Jolie continued to work with the UNHCR, donating large amounts of money and discovering more about those suffering throughout the world.


ABOVE Jolie with her second husband, Billy Bob Thornton

ABOVE RIGHT Jolie spending some quality time with one of her daughters

BELOW The evolution of Angelina Jolie

As she said: "We cannot close ourselves off to information and ignore the fact that millions of people are out there suffering. I honestly want to help. I don't believe I feel differently from other people. I think we all want justice and equality, a chance for a life with meaning." It was not long before the UNHCR took her on as a goodwill ambassador in 2001. Around this time, Jolie also decided to adopt a child from Cambodia, wishing to give a child the opportunity to grow up with all the advantages of the West. She and her husband Billy Bob Thornton searched the orphanages of Camobodia. This first adoption was fraught with difficulties, with questions being raised in the Press about the ethics of adopting from




 Numerous field missions around the world meeting refugees and displaced persons in more than 20 countries.  Visited earthquake victims in Haiti.  Set up the Jolie-Pitt Foundation for protecting natural resources, conserving wildlife and eradicating poverty.  Donated $1 million to Doctors Without Borders.  UNHCR Goodwill Ambassador.  Received Citizen of the World Award  Received the Global Humanitarian Award  Speaker at the World Economic Forum  Humanitarian interests lobbyist in Washington  Co-chaired the Education Partnership for Children of Conflict

overseas. Nevetheless, Jolie and Thornton finally adopted Maddox in 2002, from an orphanage in Phnom Penh. Life wasn't going to be a simple curve for Jolie, and her one-time obsessive relationship with Billy Bob Thornton abruptly foundered in 2002. A new Jolie, was emerging. From here on, her career and her passion for humanitarian causes went hand in hand. Jolie became the most highly paid actress in Hollywood, at the same time as becoming a vocal advocate for the work done by the UNHCR. Working on the film Mr and Mrs Smith in 2005, Jolie met Brad Pitt. Finding that they had so many things in common, Jolie and Pitt got together and by 2006 she was pregnant with his child. It appears that the everrestless Jolie made the right choice as to her partner. Brad Pitt has supported his wife's working endeavours as well as her charitable ones assiduously ever since. What is extraordinary about Jolie is that she brings the same single-minded obsessiveness to everything she does. In her early years this focus caused destructive relationships,

ABOVE RIGHT Family outings for the Jolie-Pitt family are always an event

It appears that the everrestless Jolie made the right choice as to her partner. Brad Pitt has supported his wife’s working endeavours as well as her charitable ones

debauchery and self-harm. In later life, that same singlemindedness has been thrown in to something genuinely positive. Alongside her extraordinary acting awards, Jolie has amassed numerous awards for her humanitarian work. From numerous humanitarian awards, a “Citizen of the World" award and an award from the International Rescue Committee in 2007, the list of recognition goes on and on. From the King of Cambodia she received Cambodian citizenship for her work in setting up a nature reserve and funding a Millennium Village in accordance with UN development goals. In Addis Ababa, Ethiopia, she funds the Zahara Children's Centre, which treats children suffering from HIV/Aids or TB, and she has built at least 10 schools in Cambodia and numerous other schools throughout the world. Her ceaseless and untiring work has undoubtedly saved lives and improved the lots of many others. It appears that Jolie has connected with something bigger than herself. Her impulsive nature that led her into heroin addiction when younger still continues to shape her actions in many ways - but she has learned to be addicted to things that are good for her – and for others. With three of her own children fathered by Brad Pitt, and three adopted children from around the world, Brad Pitt's joke that they are intending to have a "football team" looks like it might actually be true. Her restless energy is poured into the family and the charitable work she does gaining her accolades from around the world. She is co-chair of the Clinton Global Initiative's Education Partnership for Children of Conflict, which funds education for children affected by disaster, and she also co-chairs Kids In Need of Defense (KIND), providing free legal aid to unaccompanied minors in immigration proceedings across the US. Never long out of the headlines, this year a more personal story surfaced. In a surprise move in response to the death of her mother and other female relatives from cancer, Jolie announced she would have a double mastectomy. Once again her strong-mindedness and her strength of mind fed into that decision. Her life has been extraordinary tale, perhaps worthy of one of the films she has starred in. From someone who was so very lost in her early years, she has become a positive force for good throughout the world. Long may her work continue. b




SUCCESS MAIN PICTURE Perween Warsi arrived with £3 in her purse


notice as soon as Perween Warsi sits down that she has a smile that puts me immediately at ease and eyes that twinkle with quick-thinking intelligence. Perween's story of success is an impressive one. From an initial outlay of £2.50 making food on her kitchen table, she went on to become a major food producer in the UK. So, what nourished her confidence and vision to make that happen? "I had the most exciting time as a child," she tells me. Her father was a civil engineer

who was frequently transferred to different parts of India. "It was a headache for my mum because of the packing and unpacking," she says. "But for us it was absolutely great fun." The constant moving taught her three things: "One, learn to make new friends; accept, embrace and enjoy change; and also learn to adapt to new situations." These attitudes were vital to her later business life. Another ingredient lay in having a very close family – parents, five children and maternal grandmother (or


Described as Britain's "Curry Queen" Perween Warsi came to the UK aged 19 knowing nothing about Britain, but plenty about good food. Nearly 40 years on, she owns a hugely successful food manufacturer, S & A Foods, and her net worth is estimated at £70 million. Bernardo Moya asks her to share her recipe for success.

From making food on her kitchen table, became a major food producer

nana), who would always be there for one another. And her nana added another part of the mix – the all-pervasive presence of food. "She was a treasure. She was full of wisdom." A fantastic cook, despite being disabled, Perween recalls: "Every morning her cook would bring all the ingredients to her, the herbs, the spices, whatever and she would spoon it out to make sure that the dishes were absolutely perfect." This obsession with food was passed on to Perween. "So we were a foodie family.


ABOVE LEFT Bernardo Moya chats to Perween Warsi in a video interview

And a very close family as well. And the closeness in family has been our greatest strength... it was a wonderful childhood." Her schooldays also reveal something of the attitude that has guided Perween through life. She was ambitious and keen to improve herself from early on, wanting to learn English from an early age, and dreaming of going to boarding school rather than the local school. Her inspiration she puts down to two particular drives which she defines as "action" and "reaction." The action side is personified by the people who inspired and influenced her. For Perween, these were her parents. "My parents were my heroes," she recalls. She admired her father for his commitment and passion for his work as well as his integrity and commitment to family. She admired her mum for her "daring attitude, speaking her mind and challenging the norm." "They both taught me one thing, and that was just think about others and help others who are not as fortunate as you are. So they were my heroes, they are the ones who inspired me." She was also inspired by her own reaction to the people she saw for whom she felt sorry. "I saw poverty around me. I saw dependent women. I saw

uncut diamonds – that I called them – who had the capability and ability and... were very creative, who were not given the opportunity... I just wanted to be different so I could do something for those people and stand on my own two feet." Perween's opportunity came when she moved to England. Coming from a conservative Muslim background, Perween married her husband by arranged marriage when she was 17. He later travelled to the UK to train as a doctor, and Perween joined him in 1975. She had her first child when she was 19. "I was a young girl who had never been even to a corner shop on my own. And then one day I find myself at the international airport with my one-year-old child in my arms and £3 in my handbag. I was travelling 4,000 plus miles away from Delhi to Heathrow to meet my husband all on my own, no help, no support... And when I came everything was different. There was nothing familiar. The culture, the people, the language. The food." That last became a bugbear for Perween. She settled in thanks to her early experiences of constantly relocating, but the food was a problem. "Missing my family was tough enough, but missing my coriander, my chillies, aubergines all the wonderful fruit was just heartbreaking.

Perween married her husband by arranged marriage when she was 17

BELOW Spices are what Perween found British food to be lacking


And all I could get was cauliflower, potatoes and peas." It was when she tasted a supermarket samosa and was appalled with the experience that she decided to do something about it. "I wanted to change the perception of Indian food from being bland and boring, poor quality, uninspiring to really amazing Indian food that people can fall in love with. That's the food I was used to. What I saw here was just not good enough. It wasn't like mum’s cooking... That’s why I started the business." Though she had no plan, she had a vision – seeing the whole nation enjoying her food. She started selling into a local takeaway and deli and then into local shops. But Perween wanted the whole of the UK to taste great Indian food, and that's when she approached the major supermarkets. She made hundreds of calls before Asda agreed to include her offer in a blind taste panel. After weeks of waiting, Asda awarded her the business. "It was fantastic news, absolutely wonderful, something I had been waiting for. But then very quickly I realised that whoops I



Obviously the vision, the passion for the business and the product that you sell

I was still in my kitchen, I didn’t have a factory was still in my kitchen, I didn’t have a factory. But I believe that in life, in relationships, you have to be honest and upfront. That’s the way to build relationships... So we told the Asda team... You can imagine the silence in the room! But they appreciated the honesty and openness so the relationship has built on those fundamentals. We came back, quickly set up a small unit and started producing snacks from that factory." Later, Perween expanded the business into the ready-toeat meals market, and today her company produces a variety of ethnic foods; Indian, Oriental, Caribbean, and Mexican. From five ladies and her husband helping her at home, she now has 500 people working in her Derby factory. Along the way, to raise funding, she sold shares of her company to venture capital group 3i. But when 3i went bust in 2003, she was able to buy those shares back. Today, it's a massive business with a £65 million annual turnover. So, what is the secret recipe

for her success? "I wish there was a magic answer. Obviously the vision, the passion for the business and the product that you sell. You’ve got to believe in it. Knowledge is absolutely key. Knowledge about your product, about your business. I know the ins and outs of my business because I’ve worked my way up and done everything. Really knowing your people because their motivation, their engagement is vitally important. Knowing your customers and your market. Knowing your facts and figures, because they tell you a story which direction the business is going. And then obviously determination, focus. Those are the ingredients." And her drive? What makes it all worthwhile? "Designing, developing, creating wonderful food." She smiles again, with those bright eyes conveying the passion that in the end is at the heart of her success: "Taking a handful of ingredients, putting my magic spices and flavours and making it tasty. Wow!" b


ABOVE Perween got a contract with Asda to produce her meals

RIGHT Perween grew up in India with a close family

PERWEEN AT A GLANCE  Born 1956 in Bihar, India, described as "one of India's most backward states"  Grew up in India a traditional Muslim family  Moved frequently as a child  Ambition to speak English from an early age  Married at 17  Moved to England at 19  Disappointed by British ingredients and Indian food in the UK  Began to make food for sale in take aways and delis  Approached Asda with her home-cooked food  Won the contract and set up a factory  Named her company S&A Foods after her sons, Sadiq and Abid





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Reading well is one of the great pleasures that solitude can afford you. – Harold Bloom

Great reading, viewing and listening to empower, entertain, enrich, delight and enhance. The Best You rounds up classics and new books and media products that will make a positive difference in your life.




Bring the ghost of Christmas cheer back to life with Collins Little Book of Christmas Games. Classic games for getting everyone in the same room together and having fun! Everything you need to know to play these games is clearly explained, with quick reference tabs showing what number of players works best for each. You’ll find something inside for everyone – from fun-loving grannies and tedious uncles, to overexcited children. Tried and tested by times gone by, these treasures include card games, musical games, guessing games, word and memory games and more. Turn off the TV, get everyone together, and let the games begin!

Really great fun that brings the family together at the most festive time of the year.” – Annabelle Bates





In Outsource Smart, Daven Michaels gives practical advice for overworked and underpaid entrepreneurs to help achieve greater efficiency and success. Outsource Smart contains a strategy for using virtual resources and outsourcing to stop wasting time and start living a “laptop lifestyle.” This book shows business owners struggling to do it all themselves how to relinquish control and delegate the workload to qualified virtual assistants and companies. By outsourcing critical tasks, Daven explains how business owners can spend more time doing what they love and better serve their customers. Outsource Smart is for anyone who wants to start working smarter, not harder, to get more done.

This book is fantastic. It is a must-read for anyone who wants to conquer the world of business today.” – Les Brown





Self-help is big business, but alas, not always a scientific one. Selfhelp books, websites, and movies abound and are important sources of psychological advice for millions of Americans. But how can you sift through them to find the ones that work? Self-Help That Works is an indispensable guide that enables readers to identify effective self-help materials and distinguish them from those that are potentially misleading or even harmful. Six scientist-practitioners bring careful research, expertise, and a dozen national studies to the task of choosing and recommending self-help resources.

Using the book is easy and effective… I recommend this book highly.” – Psychotherapy





A motivational can-do guide to putting aside negative self-talk and taking your life to the next level. A single negative message in our childhood can carry a lifetime sentence. Unfortunately, many people experienced barrage after barrage of negative messages while growing up. Mr. Gagliano and Dr. Abraham Twerski inspire readers to silence this inner voice of self-doubt and fear and begin living proactive, satisfying lives. Moving past addictive acting out depends on right action and right thinking. With candour and humility, the authors show readers how to work an honest recovery program and break the cycle of negative thinking and addictive acting out.

This will help anyone who is confused why they repeat in their adult relationships the harms they endured as children.� – John Leadem





This book is dedicated to your mastery of the art of realising all your desires. The greatest gift you have been given is the gift of your imagination. Everything that now exists was once imagined. And everything that will ever exist must first be imagined. Wishes Fulfilled is designed to take you on a voyage of discovery, wherein you can begin to tap into the amazing manifesting powers that you possess within you and create a life in which all that you imagine for yourself becomes a present fact.

This is another in Wayne Dyer’s series of inspirational books that have had a positive impact on my life.” – Tim Larison






What do you want to be remembered for? What are your relationships like with those around you? How does life treat you - and how do you treat your life? There is so much good in you. Enrich your life with the passion you feel and the connections you make.

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Emma Hammett from First Aid for Life gives us some safety tips for the festive season

WORLD AIDS DAY The National Aids Trust gives us someinformation on how people with HIV/Aids are living full lives

LIMITING BELIEFS Oscar Del Ben doesn’t believe that your beliefs should hold back your dreams


SAFETY FIRST This Christmas

Christmas can be magical, but can also prove stressful and a time when people forget about long term consequences, and do things they later regret. Emma Hammett From First Aid for Life gives us some tips on staying safe this Christmas.


ccording to ROSPA (the Royal Society for the Prevention of Accidents), more than 80,000 people have to go to A&E and over 6,000 people are hospitalised due to accidents occurring over the Christmas period. Office parties can be wonderful, but with alcohol flowing, it is easy to lose all inhibitions and take risks. Glasses are often broken during parties and one of the most common injuries result from barefooted ladies accidently dancing over broken glass – keep your shoes on and always clear up breakages immediately!

FAMILY CHRISTMASES The kitchen at Christmas can prove exceptionally hazardous, with hot fat, boiling water and sharp knives proving a recipe for disaster! Keep extra people (especially children) out of the kitchen. Avoid alcohol until after the cooking, and wipe up spills


immediately. Ensure the turkey is well cooked. If someone is burnt: the affected area should be immediately held under cool running water for at least 10 minutes, ideally longer. Buy proper sterile burns dressing prior to Christmas to be prepared. If you haven’t got burns dressing, the burn can be loosely covered with cling film after it has been cooled for at least 20 minutes. Burns should always be seen by a medical professional. Never pop blisters or apply anything other than water or burn gel. If someone is bleeding: Immediately apply pressure and elevate the affected area, sit the casualty down, or lie them down with legs raised if bleeding is severe. Do not remove anything embedded in a wound, apply pressure around it. Keep them calm and warm and get medical help.

FAIRY LIGHTS AND DECORATIONS About 1,000 people a year



If they are conscious, keep them still. If they are unconscious, quickly check if they are breathing are hurt while decorating their homes. Glass, fragile and novelty decorations that are not toys should be out of reach of toddlers and pets. Old lights can cause fires and electrocution. Don’t balance on wobbly chairs, get out a ladder. If someone falls off a roof or ladder: Don’t panic; if they are conscious, keep them still. If they are unconscious, quickly check if they are breathing – if they are, they will need to be carefully logrolled into a position so that their tongue will fall forward and vomit can drain out. If unconscious and not breathing you will need to start CPR. Someone who has had a head injury should be monitored for the next 48 hours. Seek medical attention immediately if concerned.

KEEPING CHILDREN SAFE AT CHRISTMAS Small parts from toys or gadgets can easily become a choking hazard and the


Christmas is one of the most stressful times of the year. The combination of drink, relatives, lack of sleep and the burden of Christmas entertaining can prove too much! Try to create somewhere that people can escape for some peace. Excessive stress can trigger a heart attack. If you suspect someone might be having a heart attack, calmly sit them on the floor in an upright position to help breathing, with their legs bent slightly to help circulation. If they have a GTN spray, they should use it. Call an ambulance. If the GTN spray doesn’t help and they have been prescribed a 300mg aspirin, this should be chewed. If they collapse and are unconscious, check for breathing and if not breathing start CPR immediately. Never drink and drive and plan long journeys so you won’t be driving tired. Prior preparation is vital to a successful celebration. Ensure there is an appropriately stocked first aid kit ready for emergencies and take an online or practical First Aid course now, to ensure that you have the skills to help if there is a medical emergency. Plan ahead and have a very happy Christmas. contents of Granny’s handbag could prove lethal! Many decorative Christmas plants such as Mistletoe are poisonous; its berries contain toxins that slow the heart rate and cause hallucinations. The orange berries on the Christmas cherry cause stomach pains. The Christmas rose causes such violent diarrhoea, the ancient Greeks used it as a chemical weapon! If you suspect a child has eaten something harmful, calmly establish what they have eaten and if anything has been swallowed. Encourage them to spit out anything obvious and remain still, as running around increases their metabolism. Call 111 and they will consult the poisons database and let you know what should be done. If the child has any change in behaviour, begins to vomit, become sleepy – phone an ambulance. If they lose consciousness – check they are breathing – if so, put them in the recovery position – if not start CPR. b






t has been almost thirty years since the HIV virus was identified in 1984. Back then there was a lot of fear about HIV, as there was no treatment and at this point people with HIV could only expect to live for about ten years. Throughout the ‘80s and ‘90s scientists searched for an effective treatment as the number of people acquiring HIV and then dying from AIDSrelated illnesses shot up across the world. A major turning point came in 1997 with the discovery of antiretroviral therapy (ART) drugs. After their introduction, there was a 60-80% decline in rates of AIDS, death, and hospitalisation in the UK. This was a major victory for the activists who had campaigned

and fought to push through medical trials and treatments. Today HIV treatment has become so effective that an HIV positive person, diagnosed and treated in time, can expect to have a normal lifespan. Treatment also has preventive benefits. It reduces the amount of virus in the body and when this happens, the chances of passing HIV on are significantly reduced. The reduction of infectiousness as a result of treatment also prevents motherto-child transmission - in the UK today, almost all women with HIV will give birth to an HIV negative baby. What we know about HIV has improved vastly since the ‘80s when the condition first came to our attention. We now know that HIV is passed


MAIN PICTURE Going for an HIV test can be scary, but that’s no excuse

BELOW The Aids virus looks pretty frightening under a microscope

This 1 December is the 25th anniversary of World AIDS Day. Suzi Price, communications manager, NAT (National AIDS Trust), outlines the progress we have made in our scientific understanding of HIV, as well as the challenges that remain in the fight against HIV stigma and discrimination.

SUZI PRICE LIVE LOVE LEGACY life but the few of my colleagues who do know have warned me not to tell others.” A recent survey by IOPS Mori, commissioned by NAT, revealed that one in ten people agree that they do not have much sympathy for people with HIV. In 2010 less people felt comfortable working with a colleague who was HIV positive than in 2007. Adding to this, almost two-fifths of those surveyed believed that they had a right to know if a colleague was HIV positive. Knowing about someone’s HIV status is completely unnecessary as there is no risk of HIV transmission in everyday work situations. Such prejudicial views are examples of how stigma can undermine rights to privacy and confidentiality. It is important to challenge stigmatising views of HIV and to ensure everyone knows the facts about HIV. This World AIDS Day NAT we are asking everyone to learn five facts about living with HIV in the 21st Century, and to pass them on to others. b

To protect yourself and others from HIV always use a condom when having sex.

on through infected bodily fluids such as semen, vaginal fluids, blood, breast milk and rectal secretions. Today the most common ways HIV is transmitted is through sex without a condom and through sharing infected needles, syringes or other injecting drug equipment. To protect yourself and others from HIV always use a condom when having sex. You should also never share needles, syringes or any other injecting equipment. It is recommended that gay men, and those from African communities, have a HIV test at least once a year, and more often if they are changing partners regularly or think they may have put themselves at risk. It is recommended that the general population also test before new partners. So there is lots of good news when it comes to HIV but challenges remain. There are significant numbers of new HIV diagnoses each year. Currently 100,000 people in the UK are living with HIV; this includes one in 20 gay and bi-sexual men and one in 25 black African-born individuals. In the general population the prevalence of HIV is one in 650.

Worryingly, a quarter of people who have HIV don’t know they have it, and half of all people living with HIV are diagnosed late, which means usually having had HIV for at least four years prior to diagnosis. This is something we urgently need to tackle, as we know that around half of new infections are acquired from people who are undiagnosed. Late diagnosed HIV can have a devastating effect on your health, for example the chances of dying in the first year increase 11-fold if you are diagnosed late. People living with HIV are particularly vulnerable to discrimination, as HIV remains a highly stigmatised condition. Research has shown that one in three people diagnosed with HIV have experienced HIVrelated discrimination at some point. Amy (not her real name), who is living with HIV, told NAT: “Stigma and ignorance are for me the main issues around my diagnosis. Living in a rural area where everyone knows everyone, I don’t feel I can risk ‘coming out.’ The fallout could affect not just me but also my child and family. I would love to stop living this double

For more information about the campaign and how you can get involved visit : www.worldsaidsday.org.uk.

FIVE FACTS YOU NEED TO KNOW ABOUT LIVING WITH HIV IN THE 21ST CENTURY 1. Treatment can mean that people living

with HIV are no longer infectious.

2. Men and women living with HIV can become

parents of an HIV-free baby.

3. People living with HIV live a normal life span

if diagnosed and treated in time

4. People living with HIV can do almost any job.

However, anyone with a long-term medical condition is unable to take a frontline role in the army

5. BUT people living with HIV still face stigma and discrimination.






It seems as though the world is conspiring towards setting us up for failure by ensuring a complete lack of self-belief. Oscar Del Ben looks at some of the myths we believe as facts and explains why a knowledge adjustment is all it takes to succeed.



hen we were used try out as many things as possible, because we naturally wanted to learn how things work. That natural behaviour was soon stopped as we grew up because our parents taught us their view of the world and life and we were encouraged to follow their thoughts. They taught us how to deal with people, how to study, how to get a job, etc. This, with the addition of time, created our personality and our view of things. Unfortunately we also came up with a lot of limiting beliefs against our dreams and growth. Personally I believe that 90 per cent of our thoughts are not validated and are untrue. Take the following five examples:


on your physique at any age, you only need to get started.

Fortunately, once we realize that we have a limiting belief, it’s easy to turn it into a positive belief.

l Your brain stops growing at 20 years old. Our brain is extremely malleable and scientists have proven that the brain continues to develop new connections well into old age.

THE PROBLEM WITH LIMITING BELIEFS Let’s make this clear. It’s impossible to live a 100 per cent objective life where you personally validate everything you do or hear. And it might also not be a big deal to know that the Chinese wall can’t be seen from the moon. The problem rises when you believe something that causes you trouble. I call these beliefs limiting beliefs, because they provide no positive value to those who accept them as true. You should be well aware of them, because they are often the cause of our pain.

TURNING LIMITING BELIEFS INTO POSITIVE ONES Fortunately, once we realize that we have a limiting belief, it’s easy to turn it into a positive belief. Take the 95 per cent of business failure as an example. Once we discover that the truth is that only 23 per cent of businesses fail, and some of them are not a real failure, but rather the business was sold or the boss retired, we can easily assume that, almost four chances out of five, your business will succeed. In this particular case you can increase your chances further if you consider your preparation, determination and knowledge.

l 95 per cent of businesses fail within five years. I don’t know who said this at first, but I really believed it was true, until I saw some real statistics. Talking about the US market, only 23 per cent of business close within five years, and we must consider that not all of them are a failure. Some businesses are sold, and some are closed because the boss retired, that’s far from a failure.

There are a few simple steps you can use to turn your limiting beliefs into positive ones:

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① Validate them. Is what you think really true? Try to search for

evidence, or ask around if someone thinks different than you.

of statistic, don’t say that 30 per cent of people don’t pass an exam, but say something like 70 per cent of people pass the exam. Can you see the difference?

a negative belief, see if you can do something about it. If it’s true that you can’t do a side split right now, you can train and improve every day, until you reach your goal.

if everything before didn’t work. At this point you should simply ignore your belief. With this I don’t mean you should negate it, but rather that you shouldn’t let it hurt your feelings, this is really important. If you can’t do anything about something, let it go.

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Feeling good about yourself makes the joy shine from your eyes and your skin. It makes others respond to you in new ways and it gives you a whole new outlook on life. Looking good draws others to you and enhances your life in ways you haven’t yet imagined. It’s great to find new ways to feel and look good now!


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Some say it’s the most wonderful time of the year. People like receiving, but they like giving too. Bernice Bowmaker-Falconer, serial charity giver and all round do-gooder, tells us the benefits of giving around this time of the year.


hopping is terrifying for me. Shopping malls intimidate me: I never find what I need when I have the money to spend, and I always see what I want when I don’t. Queues for one purchase and pushing and shoving for the sale items make the insides of my stomach quiver and I would rather be ‘so last season’ instead of going through all the hassle. But, ‘tis the season to be

jolly, and I face all of the above with a hum on my lips and a skip in my step, and I do it like a pro. And I am convinced that it is because I am not doing it for me. And I don’t think that I am that different from many others. Most of us love to give, love to see the look on someone’s surprised and happy face. Love to find that ‘perfect gift’. Love to give. The gift of giving – perhaps a little bit of a clichéd sentiment, but one


Most of us love to give. Love to see the look on someone’s surprised and happy face

that I can totally relate to. One that, if the above doesn’t at all relate to you, I dare you to try. Differently. You see, the thing is that giving doesn’t only have to come in the shape of divinely wrapped purchased items. In fact your gift to most of the population could be as simple as giving. The fact is this: if you are reading this article right now from the screen on your computer, your smartphone or tablet, you are better off than more than half of the world. And I bet you’ve submitted your wish list to Santa already. What if on everyone’s letter to Santa they wrote about something for someone else. Orphaned children or homeless animals. Empty tummies are real, Santa isn’t. You are real – humanity isn’t – unless it’s about doing a little more for someone else. I guess the task of giving can be a little daunting. What


do you give? And to whom? How do you do it? Where do you send it? But the truth is that there are so many charities, homes, organisations and NGOs that have that covered for you. It really is as simple as a little bit of research, a teeny-weeny bit of organising, maybe a drop-off, but not necessarily, and voila. You have made difference.


Even being the world’s most selfish person wouldn’t give you that right. Just try it and see if you would like to do it again


that over-sized woollen jersey that you haul out once every two years only to keep the moths from nesting in could save a life this winter.  Food:

budget for an additional few pounds a month to spend it on dry food and drop it off at your nearest shelter. Or better yet, offer to help them cook and serve the meal – be part of the cause.  Time: gather some of your close friends and arrange for all of you to go to a nearby children’s hospital or shelter. Take crayons and books, read stories and play games. Time is after-all the best gift of all.  Money: not all of us have a lot of it, and sometimes it’s hard to track how it is being spent – so start a small change bank – contact a neighbouring school and ask them to accept the donation as a contribution to a promising, but struggling child’s

education fee, extra mural fee or lunch cost. Those are the simple ones. The necessities. The items most of us take for granted. I am not asking for the whole world to become heroes overnight. I am not demanding that you feel guilty for being excited at the thought of a gift under a Christmas tree. I am not suggesting that any of this is less important. I am merely saying that the other stuff, the stuff we generally turn away from, is important too. An episode of Friends once told me that there is no such thing as a selfless act of giving, because giving makes you feel good so therefore there is something in it for you too. Well, if Joey Tribbiani was right, then there really isn’t much reason not to do it, is there? Even being the world’s most selfish person wouldn’t give you that right. Just try it and see if you would like to do it again. b




COLOURS DONE Just because you pig out at Christmas doesn’t mean you have to look like a whale in your New Year’s Eve outfit. Samantha Bell of Pixie Belle tells you how to appear to drop a dress size in 30 minutes, just by wearing different colours.


hile I am, of course, an advocate of living a healthy lifestyle, I am not a fan of feeling miserable about your appearance just because you're a few inches bigger than you'd prefer. Because the truth is, you can instantly look (and feel) slimmer and younger with just a few careful tweaks to the clothes you wear. By wearing the colours that naturally harmonise with your overall appearance. Seriously! If you've heard of colour analysis, it may well be from Bridget Jones's Mum 'having her colours done' or some vague memory of it being 'de rigeur' back in the late ‘80s and early ‘90s. It's kind of got a bit of a

bad reputation for either being a bit too 'woo woo' (I'm sensing green in your aura), or being practised by slightly scary looking women who wear too much colour and put everyone else off. But here's the thing. Whether you 'believe' in colour analysis or not, you cannot deny not everyone suits the same colours and, in fact, some people look positively ill in certain colours. The truly marvellous, almost miraculous, thing about understanding which colours to wear is that you can instantly look at least one dress size smaller than you actually are and look 10 years younger. And it makes sense to follow Mother Nature's palette and work with what you've got. Once you start doing this, you are creating harmony and balance between your face and hair and


The truly marvellous, almost miraculous, thing about knowing which colours to wear is that you can instantly look at least one dress size smaller

the clothes you wear. So just how does it work, and how can you figure it yourself? Some experts in colour analysis like to complicate matters. It's called 'analysis', so it must be scientific, right? Well it is science, but not of the rocket variety. So let's get some basics covered. It starts with your hair colour. If you're a red head (ginger, strawberry blonde, auburn etc) then you suit colours with a warm undertone (browns, salmon, yellow, orange, coral, kelly green). If you have grey hair (silver, white, salt & pepper etc) you suit colours with a cool undertone (blues, raspberry, sea green, grey, violet, purple). If you have naturally blonde hair, you look great in colours that are not too dark – white, light grey, baby



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pink, sky blue. If you have dark brown or black hair, you look great in colours that are deeper in their tone, such as burgundy, black, navy, bottle green. If your hair colour is in the middle (mousey or dark blonde or light brown) then this means you suit colours that are also in the 'middle'. Colours less extreme such as lavender, jade, beige, light navy, golden brown, soft pink. There are tonnes of information about this on the web and you can, of course, book a consultation with a professional, which is definitely worth the small investment. The key is to be a tad braver with the colours you choose

and try something you normally wouldn't go for. The effect is astonishing. Wearing the right colours makes you look healthy and vibrant. And when you like what you see in the mirror you feel better on the inside. Win win, I'd say! The photos attached show Carol and Susan who looked old, unhappy and overweight. Yes – they had some make up and got their hair done, but you can see the difference wearing the right colours can make. The before and after shots were taken on the same day so everything to 'transform' them was done in one day. Carol looks drawn and sallow wearing beige – a common

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BELOW RIGHT Carol thought wearing beige was safe, but she looks better in blue

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BE AN ACHIEVEMENT ROCK STAR Robin Sharma looks at some of the weird and wonderful habits of history’s great achievers

BREAK THROUGH MONEY BLOCKS Kristen White chats with Dr. David Trybus about getting over what’s standing between you and wealth

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The great men and women of the world achieve greatness in many different ways. Self help guru and success expert, Robin Sharma, looks at some of the weird and wonderful rituals of achievement rock stars.


f you’ve been following me on Facebook, Twitter and YouTube or reading my books, you’re now familiar with my brain tattoo: “To have the results only five per cent have, you need to do the things that only five per cent are willing to do.” That insight – and the others I’ve been sharing with you recently in an effort to help you end this year strong – comes from my formula for extreme achievement that has helped millions of people do amazing things with their live. To make the ideas I’ve been sharing even more relevant to you, I set about searching for some of the powerful – and sometimes eccentric – moves that the best among us make. Ernest Hemingway woke up at 5:30am every morning to write, even if he’d been drinking the night before. He wrote as a practice, not just when he felt inspired. Benjamin Franklin sat naked every morning in fresh air for his “bath” which he claimed fuelled his energy and creativity. He also listed 13 character traits in a journal that he wanted to build and measured how he lived against each of them every night before he slept. Padmasree Warrior (Chief

Technology Officer at Cisco Systems) has regular “digital detoxes” where she unplugs from technology to reboot her brain and replenish her creative reserves. Leonardo da Vinci slept via small naps throughout the day versus sleeping 8 hours straight. The famed inventor Thomas Edison reportedly did the same thing (as does Hip-Hop mogul Sean “P. Diddy” Combs). Peter Ilyich Tchaikovsky took daily walks, which shifted his mind-set from the mundane to the original. The Great Nelson Mandela used to walk entire days for the exercise and mindclearing effects the discipline would deliver. So many extreme achievers take a walk every day; ideally, take your walk in nature. And bring a means to capture the outpouring of fresh insights that will flow. Steve Jobs would fast for extended periods of time, recognizing that it created a sense of euphoria within him that motivated his dazzling output of ideas. He also loved carrots, eating so many during one period that his skin turned to a soft orange colour. Maya Angelou writes in a cheap and Spartan hotel room she rents. She awakes at home around 5:30am each morning, has coffee with her husband

Mick Jagger exercises six days a week and includes ballet, pilates and yoga

WEALTH & RICHES and then shows up at the hotel room by 7:00am to do seriously productive work. “It’s lonely and it’s marvellous,” she says. Personally, I’ve done the most important work of my career in hotel rooms from Buenos Aires to Auckland. And on aeroplanes. The longer the flight the more I get done. Ludwig Van Beethoven loved his coffee and measured out his beans with meticulous love and care: 60 beans per cup. Many elite performers use this drink as a productivity tool. But please do so in moderation: Balzac drank 50 cups a day. Sadly, he died from a heart attack at 51. Mick Jagger exercises six days a week and includes ballet, pilates and yoga in his regimen. Sir Mick clearly gets that fitness rewires the brain to fight fear, reduces the stress response and multiplies stamina. Stephen King writes every single day of the year and does not get up from the pursuit of his craft until his daily quota of two thousand words has been met. Please also remember that: The quality of your habits defines the calibre of your performance. This article was originally published on http://www.robinsharma.com





o, what is a financial set point? “It’s a number your subconscious mind has determined feels safe,” says Dr. David Trybus. “And this number often is a result of an emotional event in your past.” You’ve probably heard emotions can impact your health. Now Dr. Trybus and his partner, Barbara Webber, say these same emotions can impact your wealth, too. For example, if you hear your father say, rich people are greedy when you’re five years old, and there are some strong emotions around his statements, as a child you may internalize this by saying ‘If I’m rich, then my father will not like me,’ says Trybus. In this case study, as a teenager with a single parent, one woman heard over and over again, “All your father thinks you are worth is the $80.10.” This was because this was the exact amount he paid in child support every month. This created a financial set

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point for this number in this individual, and no matter how much she earned as an adult, the balance at the end of the cycle was always around $80. Her mother was upset as a single parent and the emotional energy around this monthly check amount created a set point in the child, says Webber. It’s the emotion that is attached to the spoken word, which carries the energy, which is then picked up by you. As an integrative medicine expert, Dr Trybus, uses kinethesiology to test where in your body and when in your lifetime, the subconscious mind has created one of these financial set points. Once identified, Trybus and Webber have created a process to clear these set

points called the Genki Clearing Process. This process, called Genki Masters, is a blend of Eastern and Western healing philosophies combined with decades of experience in Dr. Trybus’ private practice. The Genki Clearing Process has three key steps. Firstly, you need to identify where the set point is located in the physical body and create an awareness of what organ system is related to the block and what emotion is activated by the set point. Secondly, you will identify the original time the financial set point was locked into the your energy system. Thirdly, the hidden emotions are revealed, which disconnects the pattern around money, which you keep



Once the set point is removed, the hidden block is replaced with a new message repeating, and results in keeping you from moving forward into increased prosperity. Once the set point is removed, the hidden block is replaced with a new message to your neuro-pathway designed to strengthen the new desired outcome. This is established through a series of statements. For example, if you want to make $10, 000 a month, you may create a statement that says, “ I feel happy and safe making and keeping $10,000 a month.” Barbara Webber says the change is permanent. “It’s like weeding a garden – once you pull it out by the root, its gone, but you also need to tend you mental garden and take care of the new ideas.” The clearing is related to your personal desires. It’s not simply about being free of a pattern; it’s also about where you want to direct your energy as you move into the future. This is how the desire statements are created, what is the vision of what you would like to see manifested in your finances. It’s also important to be specific. A statement like, “I want more money” is not as powerful as “I am happy and safe to receive and keep $25,000 a month,” says Trybus. How much money is possible once the financial set point is reset? Dr. Trybus says you are the one in control. “How much do you feel you deserve?” asks Trybus. “If you can be comfortable with a million dollars, then it’s absolutely possible. You determine the numbers within yourself.” So, here is the personal challenge to you as you step into the New Year. Answer this question: What is it that you really want? Then second part of this process is to be prepared to receive it. b

“I want more money” is not as powerful as I am happy and safe to receive and keep $25,000 a month.”

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BECOME a DRAGON: a WEALTH DRAGON John Lee is co-founder of Wealth Dragons and one of the UK’s most dynamic entrepreneurial leaders and international speakers. His story and passion will inspire you to start your new life, now, just in time for 2014.


y the time this article is published, some readers will be focused on Christmas Day and perhaps worrying how they are going to pay their credit card bill, come January. It seems that a lot of our life is spent worrying about paying bills. Naturally, individuals want their children and loved ones to enjoy the Christmas period, but happiness needs to start from the inside and work its way out. Some of you may well say, “What does he know, he’s a successful entrepreneur?” But I know what it is like to feel out of control of your life and without hope or will. It was only when the pain and strife became too much that I decided to take action and change my life. If I changed my life, so can you. I was in my late teens and working awful shifts in my

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BELOW John Lee used to work in his family's Chinese take-away


family’s Chinese restaurant in the northwest of England. My future lay in noodles and wok oil. But I wanted more, I knew I did, even at this young age. I dreamt of driving a Lamborghini and being selfsufficient financially. Eventually, much to my family’s distaste, I told them I

was leaving the family business to pursue education. I studied Animation at University and went on to work on some of the world’s best-known family movies, before embarking on my career as a property entrepreneur, business owner and international speaker. I owned my own yellow Lamborghini before I was 30, just as I had dreamt all those years previously. I co-founded Wealth Dragons in 2008 with my business partner Vincent Wong. Wealth Dragons shares with students inspiration, strategies and tools to help people of all ages and backgrounds change the way they think in order to change the way they live.


Mindset – many of your beliefs are self-limiting based on what your family or peers taught you. If you want success in life, you have to define what that means to you personally. To some it might be £10 million in the bank and a yacht, to others, the opportunity to own your own home, a healthy family and enough money in the bank for retirement. Education – educate yourself and learn from other experts in their field. This doesn’t mean, surfing the net and finding a few articles. Sure, this is a starting point, but go and meet like-minded people within responsible training environments. Read some fabulous books, pursue a mentor, create a power network and use your shift in mindset to help shape the ‘new you’. Action – Once you have some solid education and a positive mindset in place (and this takes time) decide what your new life looks like: if you want to start a small business, invest in property or write a book, write a plan and develop your new venture organically, while keeping your other employment going if you have to. Lifestyle – All of the above has to happen in line with you being as fit and healthy on the inside as possible. Ensure you are exercising and consuming a healthy diet that can also be extended into family life. It isn’t expensive to eat and live healthily. And the long-term benefits are infinite. Savings – Consider a family budget. What is necessary and what is superfluous to your family needs. Cut back on the daily latte or croissant and see how much you save – money that can go towards your education, new business venture or healthy recipe book

In short, changing your life is absolutely possible, at any point. This life is precious and sometimes brings unexpected challenges

collection. It is empowering to be in control of your finances, working on the premise of wealth rather than debt management. In short, changing your life is absolutely possible, at any point. This life is precious and sometimes brings unexpected challenges. So make way for roast turkey with all the trimmings and toast a new you, the best you, this Yuletide. Happy Christmas everyone (and don’t expect the roast turkey to fly into your mouth either). b For more information about how Wealth Dragons’ training can change your life please visit: http://www.wealthdragons.co.uk









The sun stands for energy and youth, which is what I thought the circus should be about.”

Tennis is what I do and is part of who I am.”

Hailing from French Canada, Guy Laliberté was born in 1959. He was enthralled by show business from a young age. He began staging performing arts events while still in school, however, these weren’t typical plays. Fire breathers and acrobats were more Laliberté’s style. After finishing school, he caught on with a traveling show and toured throughout Canada. Following a short stint back in the general workforce, he returned to his true passion of street performing. Laliberté co-founded Cirque du Soleil in 1984 with the help of a Canadian Government Grant. Literally meaning ‘Circus of the Sun,’ he wanted the organisation to be steeped in the concepts of ‘energy’ and ‘youth.’ Cirque du Soleil has become arguably the most recognizable live performing show on Earth, growing from a regional Canadian operation to an international entertainment machine with a presence on five continents. Laliberté’s interests have extended beyond the performing arena over the years. He is an avid high-stakes poker player, having finished in the top five at the World Series of Poker. He also became the first Canadian space tourist. His motivation in going to space was to fuel awareness for water issues facing the planet. His One Drop Foundation is designed to fight poverty with access to water. Guy Laliberté has journeyed all his life to create new perspectives in the arts, and in the art of giving back.

Taking the lifetime approach to her career, Jennifer Capriati never learned the meaning of throwing in the towel. Throughout her playing career, the tennis community and media alike attempted to label her. Ultimately winning a total of three tennis Grand Slam Singles titles, Capriati tore through a bevy of mental and physical barriers to to show the world that she would not be defined by the mistakes of her youth. Two important factors were at play to create Jennifer Capriati’s early celebrity. The first was that she was only thirteen years old at the time of her breakthrough, and the other was the fact that Capriati was one of the first female powerhitters of the modern era. Eventually becoming burned out by peaking so early, and with the media’s fascination of her every move, Capriati crashed out of the game when she was still a teenager. She subsequently had run-ins with the law, accruing two arrests on her record, made all the worse by the fact that she had yet to reach the age of twenty. Finding herself again through the game of tennis, Capriati regained her drive near the end of the 1990s. Recreating her image from the inside out, Jennifer Capriati finished her professional tennis career with fourteen singles titles, including two Australian Open titles and a French Open title. In 2012 she was inducted into the International Tennis Hall of Fame.












Good hairstylists never die. Vidal Sassoon and Paul Mitchell will always live on.”

Where you are is not who you are. Remember that when you’re rich and famous.”

How does a former Los Angeles gang member become a billionaire? With the right mix of hair care, tequila, various energy holdings and philanthropy. John Paul DeJoria was born in Los Angeles in 1944. His parents divorced early in his life and, after his mother found it too difficult to support DeJoria and his brother, the pair was placed in a foster home. After deciding that gang life in LA probably wasn’t the best way to spend his career, DeJoria first checked into the US Navy before bouncing through a series of menial jobs. He eventually found his way into hair care, working for Redken Laboratories. He secured a $700 loan and found a business partner in Paul Mitchell, the man with whom he would build his hair care empire. Over the years, DeJoria’s ambitions grew. He cofounded the The Patron Spirits Company, makers of the world famous Patron Ultra Premium Tequila. He also maintains interests in the oil and natural gas sectors, and was a founding partner of the House of Blues. It seems that almost everything John Paul DeJoria touches has turned to gold. He has also taken his good fortune and given back in many ways. His philanthropic efforts include involvement in the Food for Africa organization, where he has helped to feed and nourish over 17,000 orphaned children.

Ursula Burns was brought up by a single mother in a New York City housing project. Hardly the place one would associate with one of the most powerful women in the modern world. Burns’s education took her beyond her humble beginnings. She earned both a Bachelor of Science and a Master of Science in Mechanical Engineering, the latter from Columbia University. On her path to becoming the first African American female CEO to head a Fortune 500 company, Burns worked at Xerox Corporation as a summer intern. After spending several years in product development, she began to work directly under the Chairman and CEO of the company. Burns spent the first decade of the 2000s working closein-partnership with Anne Mulcahey, the previous CEO of Xerox. She then took the reigns from Mulcahey, which made her the first woman to follow another woman as the head of a Fortune 500ranked company. The very next year she added to her impressive resume the title of Chairwoman. Ursula Burns has always maintained a strong sense of community, holding seats on several boards, including the University of Rochester and the MIT Corporation. When Burns assumed the top spot at Xerox, Forbes Magazine also listed her as the 14th most powerful woman in the world.





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Ulrika Shaw: Coach, Thrive consultant, hypnotherapist and NLP trainer Email: enquiry@shawmind.co.uk Phone: +44 (0)7810 556029 Website: www.shawmind.co.uk Are you suffering from anxieties or depression? Maybe you’re struggling with bad habits such as overeating or smoking? I help people overcome anything that holds them back!

Geoff Rolls: Corporate Coach, NLP Trainer, Kinesiologist Email: geoff@geoffrolls.co.uk Phone: +44 (0)7905 056 513 Website: www.geoffrolls.co.uk Learning and development, NLP Trainer, TFH Kinesiology Instructor

June O’Driscoll: Exec Coach, Business Coach, Trainer Email: june@thoughtitude.co.uk Phone: +44 (0)7876 657 8055 Website: www.thoughtitude.co.uk NLP, Coaching and Hypnotherapy Training School and Consultancy

LIFE COACHES Dr Andrew A Parsons: Mindfulness, Resilience and Finding Clear Purpose Email: aaparsons@reciprocalminds.com Phone: +44 (0)7854 029 268 I am Neuroscientist, Executive Leader and Credentialed Coach. I support people build awareness and make changes for success

Dustin Vice: Personal and Business Development Coaching Email: dustin@alliancecoachingsystem.com Website: www.alliancecoachingsystem.com Professional Coaching, Coaching Business system for professional coaches

Gail Cherry: Torchlight Coaching Email: gail@torchlightcoaching.co.uk Phone: +44 (0)1143 489 161 Website: www.torchlightcoaching.co.uk I help people at a profound level with their personal and professional development. Together, we work on your ‘self’ to be the best you.

Ruth Hepworth: Life Coach Email: ruth.hepworth@ntlworld.com Phone: +44 (0)1252 655 849

Kamaljit Bedi: Life and Career Coaching Email: info@kambedi.co.uk Phone: +44 (0)7943 150 265 Website: www.kambedi.co.uk I work with individuals, face-face, via Telephone/Skype and email. I also work with college and university students helping them improve their confidence and motivation.

PHOBIA SPECIALISTS John Vincent: Public speaking without fear Email: John@JohnVincent.tv Website: www.johnvincent.tv

Phone: +44 (0)7808 545 421

Paul Wright: Phobias, Anxieties, Panic Attacks Email: paul@phobiagone.com Phone: +44 (0)203 086 8444 Website: www.phobiagone.com

NLP THERAPISTS / HYPNOTHERAPISTS Linda Cameron and Gail Walshe: Inspire For Impact Email: say-hello@inspireforimpact.com Phone: +44 (0)845 601 7567 Website: www.inspireforimpact.com NLP Trainers, NLP Master Practitioners, NLP Life Coaches, Hypnotherapists


Debbie Williams: Birmingham NLP Practice Group Website: www.debbiewilliams.co.uk Phone: +44 (0)121 241 0728 Life coaching, public speaking, sports coaching, all eating disorders, emotional mastery, OCD, stopping blushing, cocaine addiction, binge drinking.


Pasquale Acampora (Italy): Master Trainer and Mental Coach, NLP, Team building Website: www.blackship.it Phone: +39 (0)335 70 99 000 Pasquale’s key areas are sport and business, he has worked with top athletes and multinational companies.

Alessandro Mora (Italy): Sport Coaching Email: a.mora@ekis.it Phone: +39 (0)522 337 611 Website: www.pnlekis.com NLP, coaching and team building applied to sport and business all over Italy

Xavier Pirla (Spain): NLP Master Trainer and NLP Coach Email: kay@the-me-group.com Phone: 91 002 84 44 (Madrid) Website: www.the-me-group.com 93 193 6449 (Barcelona) NLP, NLP Business Applications, Coaching workshops and Consultancy

Aleksander Sinigoj (Slovenia): Mastermind Academy Email: info@itnlp.com Website: www.aleksandersinigoj.com Leadership, Motivation, Sales, Business NLP

LIFE COACHES Daniel Bichis (Romania): Life Coaching, Business Coaching, NLP Training Email: contact@competent.ro Phone: 040 788 294 801 Promotes NLP coaching and other business applications of neurosciences

Laura Spicer: Improve your public speaking skills and gain confidence Email: laura.spicer@gmail.com Phone: 07900 243494 Website: www.laura-spicer.com The only accredited Sound Practice Trainer for the Society of NLP

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TOP TIPS THOMAS GAGLIANO DON’T BE AN OVER-CARER Do you carry the burden of the family’s problems on your shoulders because it’s your role to take care of everything and everyone? Some of us are natural nurturers, and pampering and taking care of people feels like the right thing to do. But there is a difference between being a good host and being overbearing. Ask yourself what inner voice makes you feel so guilty when asking for help?




Thomas Gagliano talks about the holidays and the stress of going home. We play roles in our lives that were created by the messages we received in childhood. What inner voice is commanding us to play these roles and why do we listen? DON’T BE A PEOPLE PLEASER Do you say yes to family and friends because saying no is too painful? Sometimes it is really difficult to say no, especially to friends and family. You could find yourself spending more on gifts than you can afford, or preparing four different types of potatoes to satisfy everyone’s different tastes at Christmas lunch. Learn why it’s so difficult for so many people to say no

Are you allowed to make mistakes in front of your family? God forbid the family sees you stumble at times. When you made a mistake did you identify yourself as a mistake? Mistakes are good, they are how you learn. And everybody makes them, so there’s no shame in them. In my book I explain the ways to silence your oppressive bully and give yourself the compassion you deserve.

DON’T BECOME A WALLFLOWER When you return home do you to lose your voice and disappear with family members? If you have a very charismatic family, it is easy to lose yourself and blend into the background, especially if you only see your family a a few times a year. Find your voice with others and you'll find your rights to share your feelings and be heard. Speak up!





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THE BOSS OF ASOS Nick Robertson, at the forefront of online shopping

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The face of shopping has certainly changed a lot since the internet has become commonplace in our homes. What used to be a mad dash to the high street on a Saturday morning can now be done from your couch at any time of the day. We look at one of the men behind the phenomenon of online shopping. MAIN PICTURE Nick Robertson started ASOS with his partner in 2000


here’s something alluring about a successful entrepreneur who wasn’t always a hard worker. Perhaps it’s because it makes the lazier of us feel we might still hit the jackpot of success. Yes, it’s true that Mark Zuckerberg dropped out of Harvard, but it’s important to remember that he got into Harvard in the first place. Nick Robertson, co-founder of ASOS.com, may not have dropped out of college, but he

does describe his university experience as “diabolical” after getting very poor results at an elite educational institution. As the incomparable Austin Reed as Nick’s great grandfather, it may seem like all things sartorial run in Robertson’s blood, but it took him a while to fulfil his destiny in the world of fashion. After his performance at school left something to be desired, he spent some time on the slopes, skiing and not doing much else. Eventually, at the age of 20, he followed his father into the world of advertising, taking up


BELOW Sienna Miller provides stylish inspiration

a post at Young & Rubicam in 1987 as a media buyer, where he stayed for nearly four years. He left for a brief stint at Young & Rubicam’s main competition; Nick decided he was better off working for himself. In 1996, Nick teamed up with Quentin Griffiths and formed Entertainment Marketing, an advertising agency that brought product placement to the forefront of sales tactics, placing wellknown brands in TV shows. Pretty soon they were attracting

THE BEST YOU big brands such as Carlsberg, Coca-Cola and Ford. Product placement is where the idea for ASOS was born, or as it was called then, As Seen On Screen. “We read a stat back in 1999 that when the programme Friends aired,” says Nick. “NBC got 4,000 calls about some standard lamp in one of their apartments asking where it could be purchased. So that was the real idea behind the business. Anything that gets exposure in a film or TV programme creates desire among the public, so we based the shop around that.” Starting with products from the screen, it was only later that As Seen On Screen started in the world of fashion. A summarised excerpt from the ASOS chapter in the book How 25 Good Ideas Became Spectacular Digital Businesses by Georgina-Kate Adams, published by Crimson Publishing, says it best: "Nick and Quentin launched As Seen On Screen online in June 2000, just after the dot-com bubble had burst. With the good fortune of

having entrepreneurial families who were willing to back the venture, the pair raised a total of £2.4m in start-up capital and purchased a variety of celebrity-linked products to launch the business. “It was always going to be an online business, because of the amount of products that came up after being on TV. It needed to serve that function,” Nick says. One of their first hires was buyer Lorri Penn. She believed deeply in the potential of focusing the business on fashion – and they trusted her judgement. “It wasn’t until our first buyer came in, who was a fashion buyer, that we were pushed in that direction,” Nick says. “Fashion is where we got the most returns for the business. Rather than saying ‘here’s a standard top’, we could say ‘here’s a top that Jennifer Aniston wore in Friends.” Targeted initially at 18 – 24-year-olds wishing to ‘steal’ an icon’s style, the company homed in on the popularity of starlets such as Kate Moss and


Sienna Miller, selling replicas of their most-touted ensembles using smaller designers to supply the products."

Rather than saying ‘here’s a standard top’, we could say ‘here’s a top that Jennifer Aniston wore in Friends. LEFT The cast of Friends made people want what they had

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TAGG GPS PET TRACKER The Tagg Pet Tracker helps to ensure that you’ll never lose your beloved pet. The GPS-powered collar is durable and waterproof. Receive text and email alerts via a free app if your pet wanders too far outside of a certain radius. You can then track them down with on the map. The tracker also monitors your pet’s health and exercise levels. Price: £65.00

IPOD NANO SEVENTH GEN The classic music player gets an update. The newlook nano steps away from the boxshape of the sixth generation and back towards the thin and light feel of previous generations. It has a two-inch screen and is Bluetooth enabled. Perfect for fitness fans who want their favourite tunes close by without carrying something bulky around with them. Price: £129.00


CHRISTMAS One of the best things about Christmas is giving your loved ones a wonderful gift and seeing the expression on their face when they unwrap it. The challenge though is coming up with the perfect gift. We give you some gadgety ideas.


UBOOLY The cuddly Ubooly has room in its furry belly to accommodate an iPhone, iPad or Android device, which then becomes the little critter’s face. Via the free app, it'll answer questions, read stories, chat to your child and suggest creative games to play. You can customise the app to suit your child's interests and abilities. You can never have enough friends. Price: £30.00


Whenever a new generation of gaming consoles rolls around, fanboys take up arms in defence of their platform of choice even though there’s hardly ever that much between them. The PS4 gets our vote over the Xbox One by virtue of its slightly superior processing power, the promise of better exclusive games and – most importantly – a better price. Price: £349.00


FINIS SWIMP3 HEADPHONES These amazing headphones are totally waterproof and transmit music through your cheekbones via induction technology. So if you’re the kind of person who has always wanted Lady Gaga's help to propel you through those last few laps in the pool, these are the earphones for you. Price: £141.95


KINDLE PAPERWHITE An evolution of Amazon’s allconquering e-reader, the latest Kindle Paperwhite features an improved screen, a more powerful processor and new software to entice avid readers. The screen is whiter and even easier to read now and software additions like a vocabulary builder add value. The big draw remains the same though: the convenience of carrying your entire library with you in your pocket. Price: £89.00

HAMILTON BEACH COFFEE MAKER Have you always dreamt of having a good cup of coffee appear in front of you in the morning without having to fiddle with buttons? The Hamilton Beach VoiceControlled Coffee Maker is the gizmo for you. Program it to respond to specific commands and you’ll be able to talk it through how to produce your perfect brew. Price: £36.50

KODAK DIGITAL PHOTO FRAME As technology has raced along, we’ve started taking more photos with our assorted gizmos. A digital photo frame is a good way of moving them from your pocket to a place where everyone can enjoy them. Load memorable shots into a Kodak Pulse digital photo frame and give it to a loved one. You can upload and update it via USB cables, SD cards or by e-mailing pictures directly from your device. Price: £55.00

SONOS PLAY : 1 Sonos has been at the vanguard of wireless audio solutions for a while now, but it’s always been slightly out of the reach of most people’s budgets. The Play:1 aims to change that. This compact standalone speaker connects wirelessly to your network and can be controlled via your computer or handheld device. The big attraction is that you can stack these speakers around your home in a cohesive sound system the extent of which is limited only by your imagination (and budget). Price: £169.00


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