November 2013 Baltimore Beacon Edition

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Contemporary grandparenting

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By Carol Sorgen Linda Litofsky is a very different grandparent from her own grandparents. “They were elderly!” the Quarry Lakes resident exclaimed. And while Litofsky prefers not to give her age, elderly is the last word she would use to describe herself, either in terms of chronology or lifestyle. “I’m at the opposite end from my grandparents,” she said. Though Litofsky has fond memories of her grandfather taking her to the theater, her grandmother, she recalled, didn’t drive and didn’t venture out much. “We’re much more active in the outside world than our grandparents were,” Litofsky said of herself and her husband, Harvey. The couple, who has eight grandchildren ranging in age from 2 to 18 — five here in Baltimore and three in New York — take the kids shopping, out to lunch, and for “special one-on-one days.” For the local grandkids, the Litofskys are available for school carpools and extracurricular activities, too. “We’re very involved in their lives,” said Litofsky, who added that she sees her role as grandmother as that of a mentor, though she said with a laugh, “You never really know how much sinks in.”

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A special bond Grandparenting is indeed a very special role, according to Dr. Arthur Kornhaber, founder of the California-based Foundation for Grandparenting. He has written, “The grandparentgrandchild bond is a separate and unique human relationship, second only to the parent-child bond in emotional importance...The grandparent-grandchild relationship is a repository of the purest form of human love — unconditional love, nonjudgmental love, freely given simply because the person exists.” According to Kornhaber, grandchildren learn things from their grandparents that they learn nowhere else. Contact with a beloved elder enhances a child’s emotional, physical and spiritual health. At the same time, it helps grandparents maintain their own mental and physical health, fosters a positive identity, and contributes to a sense of usefulness, empowerment and meaning to later life.

Linda Litofsky is surrounded by four of her eight grandchildren, from left, Ethan and Anya Litofsky, and Leah and Noah Glaser. Many of today’s longer-living, more active older adults enjoy forging a close relationship with their grandchildren, even if they live far apart.

Like Litofsky, today’s grandparents — approximately 70 million of them in the U.S. — are relatively young. The average age of grandparents in this country is now 48 (43 percent became grandparents in their 50s, 37 percent in their 40s). They are also active: 43 percent exercise or play sports, 28 percent volunteer on a regular basis, and 18 percent dance. Six out of ten still have a full-time or parttime job, and 23 percent have started their own business. Furthermore, a significant number, 72 percent, say they take care of their grandchildren on a regular basis.

a more important role in their grandchildren’s lives,” said Christine A. Mair, assistant professor of sociology at University of Maryland, Baltimore County (UMBC). According to Mair, there are several reasons for this, including the fact that nuclear families (that is, households consisting of the father, mother and their children) are less common today than in the past. Recent census data indicate 7 percent of children under 18 today live in grandparent-headed households. And nearly 3 million grandparents in the U.S. provide all the care for their grandkids. Another reason for the more significant

Longer, closer relationships “Over time, grandparents have taken on

See GRANDPARENTING, page 15

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