August 2013 DC Beacon Edition

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Age no bar to same-sex marriage

AUGUST 2013

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By Barbara Ruben When Imani Woody met Andrea Macko 13 years ago, it was love at first sight. “She was sexy and cute. She had all the qualities I wanted in a person. She was a sweetheart. She just kind of balanced me,” Woody said. In 2005, they had a “holy union” at their church, the Metropolitan Community Church of Washington, D.C., because marriage between same-sex couples was not legal in the area at the time. Five years later, soon after same-sex marriage was legalized in the District of Columbia, they went to the courthouse and became legally wed. That simple act alleviated a chronic worry about myriad financial and legal issues, from estate taxes to healthcare power of attorney to Social Security, because they now have the same rights as heterosexual couples. “As I get older, it’s important that we’re protected just like other couples are protected,” said Imani Woody Macko (they combined both their names as part of the marriage). “But beyond all the legal terms, on a human level, I can be married to the person I love who is my life partner and soul mate.”

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A new era Change has come quickly to the marital landscape of the LGBT (lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender) community, with the Supreme Court striking down a key provision prohibiting same-sex marriage in the Defense of Marriage Act in June, and Maryland voters approving marriage equality last November. For older members of the LGBT community, it’s a seismic shift many never imagined they’d witness. Woody Macko recalls growing up in an era where being gay was thought to be a disease by the American Psychiatric Association, and sexual relations between people of the same gender was against the law. Marriage equality is one more step in moving from the margins to the mainstream, she said. “Things are happening so fast. I went to a LGBT reception at the White House this year. Just having “LGBT” and “White House” in the same sentence is so surreal,” she said. LySandra Brady, who married Barbara Goldberg in 2008 in San Francisco, has also been amazed by the rapidity of change.

ARTS & STYLE Richard Freitag, left, and Larry Shaw, of Arlington, Va., got married in Montreal in 2006. Same-sex marriages are legal in Maryland and the District of Columbia, but not in Virginia. While a recent Supreme Court decision paves the way for same-sex married couples to receive many federal benefits, spousal Social Security and Medicare benefits depend on state law. Freitag and Shaw fear they will have to move out of Virginia when they retire.

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“I always thought, ‘We’ll never see it in our lifetime,’ but we have,” said Brady Goldberg, 63, who also added her spouse’s last name to her own when they married.

Changes to laws It’s not just the growing number of states that now allow same-sex marriage — 13 from California to Maine — but the plethora of laws and benefits marriage affects. “Although there is still work to be done to make sure all legally married older same-sex couples will be entitled to the same benefits, many will, for the first time, be able to access the more than 1,100 federal benefits — from Social Security to the Family and Medical Leave Act — that can

help improve their health and economic well-being,” said Aaron Tax, director of federal government relations for the national nonprofit group SAGE (Services and Advocacy for Gay Elders). But accessing these benefits may not always be a simple matter. Sometimes it matters what state you live in, while for other statues it’s where you married that counts. That can make things complicated for couples in the metropolitan Washington area, where the District and Maryland recognize same-sex marriages, but Virginia does not. Ask Michele Zavos, a lawyer in Silver Spring, Md., whose practice focuses on See SAME-SEX MARRIAGE, page 16

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