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Editor’s note: The is the last of three articles dealing with end of life and grief. By Elma Broadfoot Rhonda O’Neill’s husband, Steve, died unexpectedly in a work-related plane accident. Two years later, her son Jordan died from a lifelong kidney disease and complications from a motorcycle-car crash. Just weeks before the crash, Jordan, 20, said he didn’t want any more dialysis treatments and wanted to go into hospice. It might be said his death was expected. Jordan was diagnosed with kidney disease at five weeks. He had his first kidney transplant (one of Rhonda’s kidneys) at 23 months; he rejected a second kidney (donated by an aunt)

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Rhonda O’Neill: ‘Grief is patient’ at age 14. He was not a candidate for another transplant. Jordan entered hospice one day after the crash. He died three days later. As a pediatric registered nurse, Rhonda had helped families through their children’s sickness and death. “I thought I understood what they were going through. I didn’t.” She tried to talk Jordan out of his decision. And she questioned all the decisions she made as a mother. “I became consumed with grief and guilt. “Grief is always very patient. It is sitting there waiting for you. You have to deal with it because you can’t outrun it.” She said her constant thoughts were, “I should have tried harder. I could have done more.” When Steve died she was sad and See Grief, page 8

By Nancy Carver Singleton Walking among the 7,000 dolls at Paradise Doll Museum and Hospital in Towanda is like visiting the dolls of your childhood — along with the dolls of your grandmother, mother and perhaps own children. You see baby dolls, china dolls, collectible dolls, television show dolls, famous people dolls, tiny dolls, big dolls, storybook dolls and of course, Barbie. There are 500 Barbies alone. Barbara Brush said her museum is unusual due to the collection’s size and because the dolls cover so many eras. Her oldest doll, from 1887, beats a drum and plays cymbals on top of a music box. The newest is from the movie Frozen. Dolls come from stores, garage sales, estate sales, private sales, gifts and donations. One man gave her 200 dolls from his mother’s collection. Because her museum is almost full, Brush now purchases mainly composition dolls made of sawdust, glue and other material. “I think they are my favorite to work with because you have to take everything clear down to the mold and fill up all the holes. That’s what’s fun

By Elma Broadfoot the active age board president 2016 was quite the roller coaster for the active age. And I do not like roller coasters! We were dangerously close to no longer being able to send you your free monthly newspaper. Our great advertisers cover the bulk of our expenses. Our grant from the Older Americans Act helps. And 4 percent of you, our readers donated. We still have a 10 percent deficit. One of our biggest expenses is the

monthly $10,000 postage cost. Did you know that in 1978 when we began the active age, it cost 18 cents to mail a 3-ounce letter? Today, it costs $2.54. We’ve cut our expenses to the bone, but we’ll keep looking. That search includes creative and less expensive ways to distribute the active age. Meanwhile, we will continue asking you for an additional donation. Yes, the Silver Campaign will continue a second year. So, if you donated last year we’re asking you to donate again this year. We’re asking you to

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about it, seeing if you can make it look like it is supposed to,” she said. Brush began buying garage sales dolls about 30 years ago to fix up for her seven granddaughters. When See Dolls, page 3

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Dolls From page 1 neck surgery kept her home bound for three months, friends brought her dolls to fix and refurbish. The numbers increased as she and her husband, Jim, made several moves around the country for his job with Boeing. She transported 600 dolls from Towanda to Minot, N.D. in a two-wheel trailer. Brush took a course in doll repair but, she said, “the best way to learn how is to do it. I did a lot of practice on my own, buying dolls and tearing them apart so I could put them back together.” By the time they retired back to Towanda, the collection numbered 1,000 dolls. In 1989 they opened a museum in

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eight rooms, doing most of the work themselves. The doll hospital brings in “patients” from all over, many coming by mail from other states. Brush said people learn about her from previous customers, her website and her Facebook page. Stacks of plastic boxes hold doll parts, wigs, shoes, etc. One thing she most enjoys Photo by Nancy Singleton is deciding how a Barbara Brush with modern Indian doll. refurbished doll will the four-room house where they lived look. early in their 63-year marriage, and “I just look at the doll and decide gradually expanded the building to her coloring and what dress I want to make. I think about if she is a young doll or an older doll.” Sometimes she takes apart a doll’s clothing to use as a guide for a new outfit. Others are created from a photo

or illustration. “If I can get a picture of it, I can get really close.” Older women and children bring in the most dolls, with children her first priority. Brush recalls a call from a man at 11:30 p.m. asking if she had “emergency” hours. She does not. The man, his granddaughter and her doll were there when Brush opened the next day. Repairs keep her busy. Brush said she works on “at least” 200 dolls a year. At one point “I got a little worried that I would fix all the dolls and the work would stop, but they keep coming.” Contact Nancy Carver Singleton at ncsingleton@att.net

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Near centenarian delivers Meals on Wheels to inquire about him, and asks Lois to share his greetings and affection. “And he brings me a cookie Courtesy Photo every day! Phil Griffith delivers. He knows I love cookies, especially oatmeal raisin. If he can’t find those, he always brings another kind and tells me he is sorry he couldn’t find what I like best.” “He’s a nice man,” says Aquinaldo “Chuck” King. “He treats me with respect and is so caring. I look for him. I go out to meet him, and he thanks me... I thank him for everything he does. “He brings out the best in people with the way he talks,” he adds. “There is something you see in his eyes that tells you he really cares. He has a lot of friends. He is truly a superb person.” “I’ve gotten to know all of them

By Debbi Elmore After nearly 100 years on this planet, Phil Griffith knows the value of service to others. Each weekday, he makes his way to Senior Services to pick up meals for his route for Meals on Wheels. He has done that since 2013, when he was 96. He drives himself to each house on his route, slowly getting out of his car, carefully balancing himself with his cane in one hand and a hot meal in the other. At each home, he greets the people who have become his friends over the past three years. His clients eagerly await his arrival each day, anticipating not only their lunch, but the chance to chat and share his joy in life. “He’s so nice and friendly!” exclaims Lois Bryant. “I can count on my meal to be right on time every day. He is so sweet and full of joy. That he is volunteering at 99 motivates me, so I get up and do something. I think it’s beautiful he still gets out and does this.” “I’ve gotta do it,” Phil says earnestly. “It keeps me going.” Lois says Phil delivered originally to both her and her husband. He is now in the VA, but Phil never forgets

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Legislative issues to watch this year By Mary Tritsch When members of the Kansas legislature gather in Topeka on Monday, Jan. 9, there will be many new faces as a result of the 2016 elections. What that means for advocacy groups is that we will be working hard to educate the new legislators, as well as their returning colleagues, about issues that impact those who are 50 and older. AARP Kansas, its Capital City Task Force and other volunteers from across the state will advocate on issues to help older Kansans remain in their homes and communities. Issues include caregiving and long-term care, keeping nursing home residents safe, helping workers save for retirement, and protecting consumers from fraud and scams. Of particular concern are the cutbacks that have already been made to the Senior Care Act, which helps older Kansans remain in their homes longer,

and cutbacks and inefficiencies in KanCare, the state’s Medicaid system. In addition to providing medical care to the disabled and those with low-incomes, KanCare provides homebased and community services and long-term care for those who qualify. The advocacy groups will fight against further funding cuts and services. Lawmakers will be urged to pass the CARE Act, in support of the more than 345,000 Kansas caregivers. This would enable hospital patients to designate a caregiver to be informed of the patient’s hospital discharge and receive instructions on how to care for the patient at home. The objective is to help prevent the patient from being readmitted to the hospital. Kansas is one of only 19 states that doesn’t have the CARE Act. Kansans who work for small businesses could get help saving for retirement through the Work and Save proposal. Legislators will be asked for

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If you dig deep enough will you be in China? By Ted Blankenship This column is about notable holes I have dug. You’re thinking, “Uh-oh, he’s finally flipped.” My first occurred when I was about 7. We lived 14 miles east of Cassoday. Still don’t know where it is, do you? I found my Dad’s shovel and thought, “why not dig a hole?” I didn’t stop until the surface was waist high when I stood in the hole (not very deep). Dad was not pleased. He filled in the hole and hung the shovel higher. The hole later came in handy. It filled with water and the loose dirt sank, leaving a depression, mostly mud. My dog Jack was part terrier and hated snakes. Eventually, a rattler bit him and he got sick (the dog). To ease the pain, he soaked his face in the mud hole (the only medical procedure he was familiar with). He got well and was then immune to the bites. He would be sick for a few days then shake it off and look for more snakes. I dug a lot of holes after that, but only a few notable ones. For example I discovered that the hydrants at our place north of Rose Hill didn’t work. The pipes were corroded so I decided to replace them. That meant digging a long, narrow hole (a ditch). I remembered that using a shovel is

a lot of work. The ditch would extend from the well to the old feed barn, then to the north side of the house then to the east end, quite a distance. I rented a motorized ditch digger. After he had my money, the rental guy was probably thinking, “I’d give him back his money if I could see the ditch he’s going to dig.” The digger had handles. You hung onto them and walked backward as the machine dug four feet into the ground. You saw where you’d been but not where you were going. It turned out that I wasn’t going very far. The rental guy said the machine had a “dead man’s switch.” I didn’t like the sound of that, but he explained that it shut itself off if something strange happened. Something strange happened. I passed the big elm tree. The engine made a mighty roar, and I found myself gazing at the clouds. I had run the machine into a root tough enough to toss the machine out of the ditch and me on my back in the dirt. Later, my son Tedd and I were building a fence. Dorothy and I had six

cows at the time, and we thought the fence would be handy to keep them inside our property. That turned out to be an erroneous assumption. We rented a motorized posthole digger that also had handlebars. We turned it on (big mistake) and each grabbed a handlebar. That was to keep the hole perpendicular to the surface. Instead, it whirled Tedd and me in a circle and dug itself several holes in random places. We were doing slant-hole drilling before the oil com-

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Arts briefs... Scholastic Art show

The Eastern Kansas Scholastic Art Awards exhibition is on display at MarkArts, 9112 E. Central, through March 5. The exhibition showcases select artwork created by middle and high school students from 70 Kansas counties. It is the largest and longest-running recognition program for young artists in the United States. Nationally, alumni include Andy Warhol, Robert Indiana and Zac Posen. Participants submit their best works of art. The art is reviewed by a panel of professionals for originality, technical skill and the emergence of personal voice or vision.

The galleries open from 1–5 p.m. Tuesday–Saturday. Admission is free.

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The Poetry of Nature: Hudson River School Landscapes from the New-York Historical Society exhibit opens at the Wichita Art Museum Saturday, Feb. 4. This selection of American landscape paintings from the 19th century is from the art movement known as the Hudson River School. It is believed that this art represented the first formulation of a specifically American artistic expression. Greats from this art movement included Thomas Cole, Albert Bierstadt, Asher B. Durand, John Kensett and others. Located at 1400 E. Museum Blvd., WAM is open from 10 a.m.–5 p.m.

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Tuesday-Saturday; noon–5 p.m. Sunday. Admission is $7 adults; $5 55+; $3 students; under 5 free. Saturday admission is free.

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O’Neill’s blog on complicated grief Complicated grief dominated Wichita author Rhonda O’Neill’s life for a good part of the last 10 years. She sought therapy, did research and found her spiritual path through grieving. She shares her journey and healing through an online blog, Facebook page and her book. The following is one of Rhonda’s blogs; it addresses complicated grief.

If you have been grieving for more than six months to a year, and you are still in the acute stages of grief, you may be experiencing complicated grief. I don’t believe this statement is meant to imply that everyone should be over their grief within a year. I believe that it’s meant to be used as a tool

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lonely. When Justin died she was angry, bitter and disillusioned. In 2011, Rhonda was diagnosed with complicated grief. Seven to 10 percent of grievers develop it, she said. It can contribute to cancer, cardiac dysfunction, chronic illness and even suicide. “If you feel stuck in intense grief more than a year after your loved ones died, and your grief interferes with your ability to deal with daily life, you may be experiencing complicated grief.” Rhonda tried professional therapy and support groups. “None of it helped,” she admitted. Her three daughters also went through therapy. Writing became her source of healing. She researched and read everything she could find on death, dying and grief. She read about near death experiences. “I wanted to know what happens after we die, and why there is suffering.” She examined her religious beliefs and sought spiritual direction and meaning by reading authors as diverse as Albert Einstein, Edgar Cayce, Elisabeth Kubler-Ross, Wayne Dwyer and Pema Chodron. “I placed each thought or idea I read as a stepping stone in my own recovery,” she said.

for recognizing complicated grief when it is happening, so that the complicated griever can be guided back onto the tracks of healthy grieving. What you should know about Complicated Grief: According to Dr. Holly G. Prigerson, Weill Cornell Medical College in New York, seven to 10 percent of grievers will end up struggling with complicated grief. They remain in the intense and acute stages of grief and loss for years, sometimes decades. Some never recover. An article by John Wilson, The Nature of Complicated Grief, helped me to differentiate complicated grief from normal grief.

“Society thinks grief is being sad. It doesn’t acknowledge the expanse of motions from rage, anxiety and fear to self-pity, hopelessness and yearning, to name a few.” A life lesson she learned on her journey with grief was that “change is the only certainty in life, and resistance to change only causes more suffering.” She’s learned that love and loss can walk side by side. “The pain of losing someone never fully goes away, but we can live with that pain and we can embrace the love we shared.” Rhonda acknowledges that while grief is universal, it is also very subjective. “Each griever will find their own path to healing,” and no one path looks the same. “The best thing to do for someone who is grieving is to be there. Listen. Ask, ‘What can I do to help?’ ” But then the griever needs to let people help them, she added. Rhonda is remarried and lives in west Wichita. She shares her journey in her book, The Other Side of Complicated Grief: Hope in the Midst of Despair. It’s available on Amazon.com. She has 12,000 followers on her Facebook grief-support page at www. facebook.com/healingcomplicatedgrief and is a blogger on www.huffingtonpost.com/author/r-oneill1-133.

Here are some factors that are known to put a griever at increased risk for complicated grief: • Death of a child or spouse • Lack of family or social support • Issues around how they found out about the death • History of anxiety or depression before the loss • The death was violent or traumatic • Long term marriage with a strong dependence on the lost spouse The complicated griever tends to be young, female, has experienced multiple losses and the death of their loved one was sudden and unexpected. Following are some of the symptoms that can indicate your grief has shifted into complicated grief if you are still experiencing them six months to a year after the death of your loved one: • Persistent and invasive thoughts of your loss that disrupt daily activities • Avoiding or feeling consumed by reminders/memories of your loved one • Unable to accept the finality of the death • Intense yearning for your lost loved one • Feeling angry about the death • Feeling numb or confused, developing a loss of trust in others • Isolating from others • Suffering physical symptoms similar to that experienced in the deceased’s final illness • Feeling that life is meaningless and hopeless without your loved one

According to Dr. Shear, “Grief is the form that love takes after someone you love dies.” In an article by the Chicago Tribune, Shear says, “The point isn’t to put these feelings behind you altogether; that’s not possible or even desirable. The point is to gain perspective and help grief find its rightful place in a person’s life.” As a medical professional, I have been impressed with the work that Dr. Katherine Shear of Columbia University in New York City has done studying and treating complicated grief. She has developed a therapy for complicated grief that is twice as effective than traditional depression therapy. I didn’t know about her treatments when I was going through my complicated grief, but if I had, I might not have lost 10 years of my life living in misery. I encourage you to look into her therapies If you believe you may have complicated grief, you don’t have to continue living with the unrelenting pain you are experiencing. If there is not a therapist that provides complicated grief treatment in your area, I encourage you to take information from the Center for Complicated Grief to your family physician and ask for help finding someone who can potentially provide the therapy. Wichita has a number of grief therapists and grief groups that meet at local churches. Formal grief group web sites include: griefshare.org, info@ goodgriefofkansas.org and kidscope.org.

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By Joe Stumpe Pat Porter still remembers her first tentative attempts at cooking. "I had no confidence at all," she said. "A good friend said if you can follow a recipe, you can cook. After that, you'll have a sense of it, and if you want to expand on it you can." These days, friends are likely to be the ones enjoying Porter's cooking. She and husband Garry, a former Wichita mayor, run with a crowd of pretty serious food and wine enthusiasts. The unpretentious Porter jokes that she can't even understand what they're talking about some of the time, "but we like hanging out with all of them." Growing up in Garden City, she admits she had little interest in the kitchen. One great cook in the family – her mother – seemed to be enough. "I grew up with homemade bread every day of my life. She would start cooking dinner at noon." Porter attended the University of Kansas and moved to Wichita to take a job as an occupational therapist at the old St. Joseph Hospital, now part of Via Christi. Her marriage in 1993 prompted her to upgrade her fruit cup and grilled cheese sandwich diet. In addition to calling friends and

and is active in the Women's Association of the Wichita Symphony. And she's confident enough in the kitchen to invite some of the best home cooks in Wichita over for dinner. She serves her Bourguignon over noodles over a hunk of good bread

(polenta and mashed potatoes are other options). "A good bottle of red wine and this, and you can't go wrong." Know a good cook? Tell Joe Stumpe at jstumpe@cox.net.

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family for advice, she pulled out the cookbooks her mom had given her. Her Beef Bourguignon recipe is nearly identical to one from Ina Garten, aka The Barefoot Contessa. To save time, Porter says she usually buys stew meat that's already cut up, pre-sliced mushrooms and frozen, peeled pearl onions. Now retired, she and her husband enjoy music, traveling abroad and spending time at Grand Lake. She volunteers with Episcopal Social Services

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Crissie From previous page Steve was concerned for her safety and would put her back into her yard. But day after day, when Steve began his route, Crissie would show up to join him. Finally he spoke with Crissie's owners. They said, "We can't keep her inside or outside so you might as well let her go with you." That was the beginning of more than 10 years of Crissie and Steve

delivering the mail. If Steve had a day off or was on vacation, Crissie took the day off or vacationed too. She was strictly a one-letter-carrier dog. After the route was carried and Steve clocked out, he put Crissie into his mail pouch and then into his car or mail jeep. He drove her home and put her back in her yard. Con Doolin's barbershop on Harry Street was a favorite rest stop for both of them. The barbershop customers enjoyed seeing Crissie prance inside

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and lay on the cool floor. As you can imagine, quite a few customers had the opportunity to see the "team" at work. The barbers (it was a three-chair shop) always gave Crissie a treat and water. No one batted an eye when Steve and Crissie came strolling through Harts drug store or Oklahoma Tire & Supply. It didn't matter; they "carried" together. The only establishment Crissie didn't go into was Don's restaurant. She waited patiently outside. Only twice did someone raise an objection to Crissie accompanying Steve on his route. One woman called the city’s complaint desk. She unknowingly spoke with the department supervisor who happened to be a customer of Doolin's barbershop. He told her, "I know that dog and I know that mailman, and I'm not going to do a damn thing about it." The other complaint was from a woman who told Steve, "That dog should be on a leash." He replied, "Lady, you ought to be on a leash." Steve carried the mail for 28 years. More than 10 of those years Crissie accompanied him. He is now 95

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Crissie, the mail dog, with her mailman Steve.

years old, and still maintains his good memories of Crissie and times gone by when it was simpler, kinder and more personable. To comment on this or other stories email fran@theactiveage.com


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New York theatre trips give fans Broadway fix By Elvira Crocker In showbiz terms it’s been “a very long run.” Playing the lead role in this annual drama is Arlo Kasper, retired head of the drama department at Bethel College in Newton. For 47 years he has organized winter trips to New York to attend Broadway shows. It started in 1970 as part of a January Interterm for students attending the six Associated Colleges of Central Kansas. Drama instructors from four of the schools organized the first trip. It was a 31-hour straight-through chartered bus trip for a weeklong student adventure, recalls Kasper, who retired in 2001. Then, as now, they stayed at the Edison Hotel just off Broadway in the theater district. Although the other schools dropped out, Bethel continued the program for about 25 more years. Kasper and his music professor wife, Kathryn, organized the events, and often relatives and friends joined the students. "When he retired, Kasper con-

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Arlo Kasper arranges NYC trips.

tinued the trips for both friends and newcomers who wanted to whet their cultural appetites. Until recently about 25 people made the trip each year. In 2016, there was a record 41participants. This year’s “66 and counting” will top that number, he says. They’re from Kansas, Oklahoma, Texas, South Dakota, Colorado, California, Indiana and Georgia. Nowadays they fly into New York City in late January for a Wednesday

through Sunday stay that includes at least three Broadway shows. Some also choose to attend an opera, symphony or other arts offering. Ambitious theater lovers have gone to as many as six productions by doing both matinee and evening performances. Some add a day or two to the trip to increase their entertainment opportunities. Trip participants have held bragging rights to some of Broadway’s hottest shows. Many of the 2016 participants saw Hamilton with the original cast. A New Yorker sharing a van to LaGuardia Airport with six Wichitans was taken aback to learn that they saw the show. Her original performance was cancelled because of weather, and she couldn’t get another ticket for seven months. An educator and businessman, Lois and Joe Friesen of Towanda have taken this trip since 2001. This year they will reunite with a woman from Germany who was a foreign exchange student they hosted while she attended Bethel College. This year, Merrill and Boots Raber

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Rachel deBenedet helps her dad. will travel with their 13-year-old granddaughter, Kate Raber, who is “big into ballet.” Their schedule includes The Lion King, which they’ve seen but she hasn’t. Raber, a retired clinical social worker from Prairie View in Newton, says he and his wife have been making the trips for about 15 years. “She’s into theater, and I’m a history buff,” he explains, so they plan their schedule to

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New York From previous page satisfy both interests. Sue and Ted Ice of Newton were regulars since 2000 until his death in 2015. This year she will rejoin the group and plans to see Hamilton. Retired educators Karen and J.C. Combs of Wichita managed to see five theater productions in 2016, their first year. Nan Porter, a retired psychotherapist from Wichita, has gone the past five years. She loves the winter schedule “because things don’t seem so crowded.” She also can connect with a daughter who travels from New Hampshire to see her. Kasper takes care of hotel and plane reservations. The phone, computer and Skype are his go-to tools to make the arrangements. His daughter, Rachel deBenedet, an actress who lives in New York City, has played a supporting role by purchasing theatre tickets. She had taken some time off from performing to take care of her young son. Broadway beckoned last year. She is understudy to the lead role in Les Liaisons Dangereuses, starring Janet McTeer and Liev Shreiber, slated to run through this month. She has numerous

credits for film and stage productions. The Kaspers spend part of their time in Asuncion, Paraguay. Since retirement, Kathryn has served as voice professor at the Universidad del Norte in Asuncion, as well as giving private lessons. She taught voice at Bethel for 34 years before retiring in 2006. She received a six-month Fulbright grant to train professional singers in Paraguay, and has continued with that work. When in Paraguay, Arlo takes on freelance theater and music projects, “still designing and directing a few productions.” Both were involved in the Kansas Paraguay Partners, part of the Partners of the Americas program launched by President Kennedy. Why does Kasper continue the New York trips? He says it’s a way for him and Kathryn to keep abreast of the current theatre scene. Plus having a daughter and son-inlaw directly involved in Broadway theatre and seeing their grandson makes it a pleasurable project. The added benefit, he adds, is “continuing with old friends and new theatergoers every year.” Contact Elvira Crocker at crockev@cox.net

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Retired professor stays involved in theatre By Elvira Crocker If there’s one thing that can be said about Arlo Kasper, it’s this: He has stage presence and knows how to make an entrance. And that’s just watching him walk into one of his natural habitats, the Luyken Fine Arts Center at Bethel College in Newton, where he’s spent a good part of his life. He’s a tall slender man of 81 years who, in his words, “came with the building.” In his younger years, he would have been tagged a “lanky lad.” The cane he uses adds to his demeanor. The Hutchinson native earned his bachelor’s in music education at Bethel in 1961. His first job was teaching choral music and German at Wichita County High School in Leoti. When the school discovered he had college theater experience, he was drafted to direct a couple of their student productions. That may have been when the die

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was cast. Kasper left Leoti to enroll at Trinity University in Texas to get his M.A. in acting and directing. He did additional graduate work in stage directing at the University of Nebraska. He returned to Bethel in 1966 to teach theater arts and retired in 2001. On sabbatical from 1971-73 he worked as a stage technician at the State Theatre of Hesse in Wiesbaden, Germany, one of the most successful German language theaters. He and a student helped modernize the Newton Community theatre, and each year did two to three productions. In one of those he played the lead in Man of La Mancha and his wife, Kathryn, played the lead female role. During one January Interterm at Bethel, Kasper, his wife, Kathryn, and professional actress daughter, Rachel, did a limited run of a three-person show. But most of his life he has directed and done stage design. Their son Michael works in construction in Winslow, Ariz.


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Pianist Cary also dental technician, dancer Editor’s Note: One in a series of stories about African American musicians in Wichita from the 1930s-50s. By Patrick O’Connor Harold Cary was born in Atlanta, Tex., in 1922, population 3,000 whites and blacks. “I came up during Hoover's days. Hoover was letting the cows rot in the field because the farmers couldn't buy any feed for them. “Roosevelt came in and bought up all those cows and had cow kills. He put it in the paper saying big cow kill. You had to find your own cooling. If you couldn't keep it cool, you didn't get very much.” As youngsters Harold and his brother, Richard, earned money doing drug store deliveries and taking tickets at the movie theater “rather than being out picking corn and peas. "I can remember...mom getting on the trucks coming around early in the morning. Everybody was crawling on with their long sacks to go pick blackeyed peas. Pea-pickers.” His mother was a widow; her husband died when Harold was 2. She played the piano in church, and that sparked Harold’s interest. He said a piano player named Jake

Harold Cary, 1922-2001 would room at their house when he was in town with the minstrel shows, and “he showed me a few things. He played in five flats (the black keys on the piano—key of D flat).” Cary graduated in 1938 and worked as a dental technologist for a year and a half. He moved to Wichita in 1941. “I worked cleaning up bowling alleys, and busting suds at the Broadview Hotel.” He was drafted in 1942, put into the medics as a dental assistant and

sent to India. “I decided I wanted to drive the Burma Road. I got tired of sitting around looking at teeth all day.” He recalled a close call driving in the mountains. “During the blackouts, you had to use blackout lights, fluorescent things about as long and big as your finger on the truck up front. That's the only way you could get to China, on the Burma Road. “When you think about thousands of trucks driving over that road every day and every night, that doggone stuff was just like talcum powder. “One night I was driving along and had a Chinese guy with me. All at once I heard him jabbering away. He was having a fit. I looked over, and I was headed right off that doggone road. I looked down and there was nothing but air." While stationed overseas Harold performed in a USO production, Hit The Road. “MacHenry Boatright was my dancing partner. He married Duke Ellington's sister. Paul Gonsalves, that great tenor man with the Duke Ellington band, was head of the band “We had singers, tap dancers, cross-dressers, so we would have skits with boys and girls.” When he left the Army in 1945, he

joined the Jay Franks Band in Texarkana, but returned to Wichita two years later. "I wanted to go to school. Not a heck of a lot of African Americans at Wichita U. You were glad to see each other. I was playing at the university in the CAC and broadcasting over KMUW twice a week during lunch hour. “The fraternities and sororities wanted me to play at their parties at their homes. Then I started playing the country clubs. First one was Wichita Country Club. This was around 1948. Harold also played on KFH radio, and at Danceland, First and Waco, and Swingland in the 2700 block of North Broadway, both white clubs. "Got to the point that school just happened to be too much. I quit and went to playing music. I played black clubs too, down on Ninth Street, like the Downbeat Club and the Dunbar Theatre. He said when he played music popular with white audiences such as Don't Get Around Much Anymore and Sometimes I'm Happy, he “could jazz it up and put a little bit of pepper on it.” He also used his dancing talent. See next page

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2017 Silver Haired Legislature elections By Annette Graham CPAAA Executive Director Would you like to be an advocate for older adults and their issues? If yes, the Kansas Silver Haired Legislature (SHL) may be the organization for you. The deadline for filing as a candidate is Thursday, Feb. 9. Any Kansan who is 60 and older and a registered voter is eligible. It is a two-year term, and members may be re-elected. Elections will be held Thursday, March 9, at sites across Kansas. The Central Plains Area Agency on Aging (CPAAA) will accept filing applications from three counties. Butler

Cary From previous page “Sometimes we had a little floor show just before the intermission at the Candle Club on East Kellogg. I used to do those flying splits.” “One of the funniest things that ever happened to me — I ended up playing in one of those joints on South Broadway, maybe the Wagon Wheel,

and Harvey counties each have one delegate; Sedgwick County has six delegates, including one designated at-large. The SHL, a unicameral legislature, has 125 representatives who are elected from their counties. It provides both an educational experience in the political process and an opportunity to identify priority concerns of Kansas’ older adults. SHL legislators develop bills and resolutions as recommendations for state policy. They are given to the Kansas Legislature and the governor.

If you choose to become an advocate for seniors in your community consider running for this organization. For specifics on becoming a candidate in the three counties contact Monica Cissell at mcissell@cpaaa.org or call 316-660-5229. For more infor-

late 1940s, early '50s. If you think that ain't redneck country down there in those days! “I'm sitting there playing along. I couldn't see behind me. All at once everybody's looking at me in the face. This woman back here was stripping buck-naked. “Instead of looking at her, they were looking at me, seeing if I was going to turn around and look at her.

You talk about somebody scared to death. Everybody's looking at me, she's coming up putting clothes on my grand piano. “I was glad to get out of that place! It's funny now, but it sure wasn't funny then.” Harold returned to dental technology, a career that lasted 39 years.

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Newton historian Brian Stucky will present Pioneer and Indian Trails in the City of Newton at 2 p.m. Sunday, Jan. 15, at the Harvey County Historical Museum, 203 N. Main. He will introduce the audience to the multitude of trails, which ran the town’s current location. Also opening

the 15th is the exhibit Up the Beaten Path: Following the Chisholm Trail. This pair of events is a tribute to the 150th anniversary of the Chisholm Trail. Admission is $5.

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January theatre options By Diana Morton Happy New Year! If you haven't yet caught the live theatre "bug," treat yourself to a new-year experience – attend a play or musical. You may get hooked, just as I did years ago. Forum Theatre, the Wilke Center, 1st United Methodist Church, 330 N. Broadway. Words and Music Concert: Broadway's Female Composers. Selections include music from The Color Purple, The Secret Garden, Thoroughly Modern Millie, Shrek and Dolly Parton 9-5. 8 pm Sat, Jan 14; 2 pm Sun, Jan 15. Tickets $23-25 Mosley Street Melodrama, 234 N. Mosley. Yee Haw: Branson or Bust by Patty Reeder. A musical review of western music. Thu–Sat, Nov 10-Dec 30. Dinner 6:15 pm. Tickets $26-$30; Show only 7:50 pm, $20. 316-2630222

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Roxy's Downtown, 412 E. Douglas, a cabaret-style theatre. The Golden Girls. That's right, it’s back by popular demand with four new episodes. 8 pm Fri–Sat, Jan 27-Mar 26. Tickets $27$30. 316-265-4400 Wichita Community Theatre, 258 N. Fountain. The Explorers Club by Nell Benjamin. A witty spoof in which the great explorers, members of a prestigious London club in 1879, experience a crisis because their acting president wants to admit a woman. 8 pm Wed– Sat, Jan 25-Feb 5, 7 pm Sun. Tickets $14, $12 for military/seniors/students. 316-686-1282 Contact Diana Morton at dianamorton12@sbcglobal.net

Historical Museum, 204 S. Main, will celebrate Kansas' birthday from 2-3 p.m. Sunday, Jan. 29. Special family activities will be from 3-4. The Prairie Rose Rangers, The Crowsons, The Home Rangers and other guests will perform “good old Kansas-style music.” The Chisholm Trail also will receive attention. This year is it’s sesquicentennial (150th birthday). Following the program visitors are invited to create Kansas Day crowns and hats decorated with the favorite symbols of Kansas. Admission is free. Museum’s hours are 11 a.m.–4 p.m. Tuesday–Friday, 1–5 p.m. Saturday–Sunday. Regular admission is $5 adults; $2 6-12; under 6 free. For information call 316-265-9314 or visit wichitahistory.org.

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www.derbyweb.com Regular activities: Exercise programs at low cost, foot care, book club, friendship club. Jan 5: 11:30 am Covered dish, with music provided by Larry & Sharon Hull. $2. Jan 11: Cooking for One by Shirley Lewis. Jan 12: 6 pm Personal Safety lecture about home security by Deputy Chief Brandon Russell. Jan 25: 1 pm Cold and flu season presentation by Angels Care Home Health. 3rd Tue: Noon Friendship Club; 1 pm Book Club. Reading list at front desk. 1st Thu: 9 am New-member orientation.

Mon, Wed, Fri: 9-9:30 am Exercise. 1st & 4th Tue: 9:30 am-noon Cards. 2nd & 4th Thu: 10 am-4 pm Covered dish, cards, dominoes.

HAYSVILLE 160 E Karla, 529-5903

Regular activities: Cards, crafts, hot lunch, exercise. Mon-Fri: 11:30 am Hot Lunch; 12 pm Cards. Tue: 12:30 pm; Fri: 9 am TX Hold'em. 1st & 3rd Wed: 12:30 pm Bingo. Tue & Thu: 10 am STEPS. Last Tue: 6-9 pm Game Night. 2nd Fri: 5:30 pm Birthday Dinner & Jingle Bell Bingo, Covered Dish. 4th Sat: 8 am Friends & Family Senior Breakfast. RSVP.

KECHI Kechi City Building, 744-0217, 744-1271

3rd Thu: 6:30-7:30 pm Meeting.

LA FAMILIA 841 W 21st, 267-1700

Mon-Fri: Dance, exercise, pool, dominoes. 11:30 am-12:15 pm Hot lunch. Mon, Wed, Fri: 10 am Exercise/Ejercicio. Mon, Fri: 9:30 am-3 pm Tax-Aide, by appt. Tue, Thu: 1 pm Exercise/Ejercicio. Mon: 10 am English Class/Clase de Ingles; 1 pm Line dancing. Tue: 10 am Nutrition class/Clase de nutricion. Thu: 10 am Bingo/loteria. Last Fri: 10 am Music/musica; monthly birthdays.

Comfortable apartments with great amenities— in a great small-town environment

Larsen Apartments at Mt. Hope Nursing Center

• One and two bedroom apartments • Weekly maid & laundry service • Meals & activities • Rent $535-$600 per month with utilities paid (except cable, phone) • Great closet space! • Carports available

704 E. Main • Mt. Hope, KS • 316-667-2431

LINWOOD 1901 S. Kansas, 263-3703

www.seniorservicesofwichita.org Regular activities: Computer classes, cards, Pickleball, exercise programs, hot lunch. Jan 4: 2:30 pm Trivia Day. Jan 6: 10:15 am Fun Ways to Exercise by Judie Dansby, Nina Good and Elaine Kinder. Jan 13: 10:15 am Get Help Through Taxpayer Advocacy by Tracy Wilnerd. Jan 27: 10:15 am Great Puzzles to Stimulate Your Brain by Cherise Langenberg. Mon: 9:30 am Dynabands; 9 am Stretching. Tue: 9 am Brain games; 9:30 am Fit & balance. 10:30 am Bingo. Tue & Thu: 9 am Pickleball.

MCADAMS GOLDEN AGE 1329 E 16th, 337-9222

Regular activities: Open gym, walking, hot lunches, dominoes, cards, pool. Sun: 1-3 pm Quilting. Fri: noon-1:30 pm Sewing. Sat: noon-4:30 pm Classes: sewing, jewelry making. 2nd & 4th Tue: 10 am-noon Blood pressure checks.

MT HOPE 105 S Ohio, 667-8956

OAKLAWN 2937 Oaklawn Dr, 524-7545

Daily: 11:30 am Red Cross meals. 1st Thu: 12:30 pm, Golden Agers meeting. 1st Thu & Fri: 8:30 am-5 pm, Commodities. 2nd Thu: 12:30-2:30 pm, Golden Agers bingo. $1. 4th Thu: 12:30-2:30 pm, Community bingo. $2. Every Fri: 12:30 pm Afternoon cards. Every Wed: 8:30 am Sweets & coffee.

ORCHARD PARK 4808 W 9th, 942-2293

seniorservicesofwichita.org Regular activities: Exercise programs, cards, pool, hot lunch, Wii bowling, dominoes, crafts. Jan 23: 11:15 am Seeing well as you grow older by Eye Care of America. Jan 24: 9 am Breakfast Out to the Village Inn. Jan 27: 11:15 am Fall Prevention by Eric Mitchell. Jan 30: 11:15 am Plant Based Diet by Shirley Lewis. Tues: 12 pm Duplicate bridge. Wed: 10:30 am-noon Computer lab.

PARK CITY 6100 N Hydraulic, 744-1199

Daily: Walk in the gym, coffee; hot lunch; computers, dominoes, puzzles, pool, book loan. Mon, Wed, Fri: 9:30 am Yoga. Mon, Wed, Fri: 9 am Zumba. 2nd Tue: 7:30-9:30 am Breakfast, $3. 2nd Wed: 11:30 am Blood pressure checks. 3rd Wed: Noon-1 pm Blood pressure checks.

Regular activities: Cards, exercise, pool, hot lunch. Call for details. Jan 3: Foot/nail care by Hermes Healthcare. Jan 5: 2 pm Renee Vermillion will provide hearing screenings and hearing aid checks and cleanings. Call 316-744-1199 to schedule an appointment. Jan 9: 2-4 pm Sedgwick County Health Department Immunization Clinic. Jan 11: 11 am Cold Weather Safety by health Back Home Health. Fri: 9:15 am Exercise. Sat: 1 pm Pinochle. Mon: 6 pm Pitch. Tue: 1 pm Pool. Tue & Thu: 8:30 am Wii Bowling; 10 am WellRep exercise. Fri: 1:30 pm Dance aerobics.

NORTHEAST 2121 E 21st, 269-4444

VALLEY CENTER 316 E. Clay, 755-7335

Mon: 7-10 am Coffee, donuts; 11:30 am-12:30 pm Lunch; 1-4 pm Cards. Tue, Wed, Fri: 9 am Exercise class. Tue, Wed: 10 am-3 pm Crafts, quilting. Thu: 9:30-10:30 am Line dancing. 1st Fri: Noon Sr Citizens’ lunch.

MULVANE 632 E Mulvane, 777-4813

www.seniorservicesofwichita.org Daily: Dominoes, cards, Wii, pool, hot lunch. library, exercise room, computer lab. Jan 3: 11 am Blood Pressure Checks. Jan 9: 10:30 am Advisory Council meeting. Jan 16: 10 am Special Events Committee. Jan 20: 2-4 pm Volunteer recognition party. Mon, Wed, Fri: 9:30 am WSU exercise. Mon: 12:30 pm TOPS; 1:30 pm Sing-a-Long. Thu: 10:30 am Jewelry class. Fri: 10 am Crochet class; 1 pm Bridge.

Mon: 1: 30 pm Line dancing. Tue: 9:30 am Free donuts, cards, games; 6:30 pm Pitch. Bring snack to share. Tue, Thu: Noon Home cooked meals. Tue $5, Thur $6. Tue, Thu: 8:30-10:30 am Pickleball at Valley Center Intermediate School, 737 N. Meridian. Use North doors when schools not in session.

Senior Wednesdays www.seniorwednesday.org

Jan 4: 10 am Water Center, Tea for Two with Denise Dias. Learn about the popular drink that has made its mark on the world. Free. Jan 11: 10 am Sedgwick County Zoo, Grocery Store Conversation. Learn ways to make environmentally friendly purchases that also may be healthier choices for you. $4. 1:30 pm Wichita Public Library - Central Library, Head 'Em Up and Move 'Em Out with Jim Gray. In celebration of the Chisolm Trail's 150th, Jim Gray will discuss the early days of ranching and trail driving. Free. Jan 18: 10 am Ulrich Museum of Art. Meet Tim Stone, 2012 graduate of WSU. Stone attended the New York Studio

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School of Painting, Drawing and Sculpture. He participated in the Drawing Marathon with Graham NIckson. Free. 1:30 pm Kansas African American Museum, The NEW Smithsonian. Discover what items in the new National Museum of African American Heritage and Culture have Kansas ties and how you can sign up to visit the museum in July. Free. Jan 25: 10 am Wichita-Sedgwick County Historical Museum, Celebrate Kansas Day. Celebrate Kansas Day and Kansas History through song and musical tributes featuring local performers. $2. 1:30 pm Exploration Place, Science of Snowflakes. Discover what makes them unique. $4 admission plus tax.


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Butler County Senior Centers

ANDOVER 410 Lioba Dr, 733-4441

www.andoverks.com Regular activities: Exercise, bingo, bridge, quilt club, dominoes, pool. Daily:11:30 am-12 Lunch (reservation preferred) 316-733-4441, $3. Mon, Wed, Fri: 10 am Exercise. Tues: Special music at lunch. Mon: 12:30 pm Movie Monday. Tue: 10 am Blood pressure check; 11 am-2 pm Memory Café; 12:30 pm Pinochle; 1 pm Pool. Wed: 1 pm Bridge. Thu: 12:30 pm Pinochle; 1 pm Quilt Club; 7-9 pm Pitch. Fri: 11:30 am Lunch meeting & program; 12:45 pm Prize bingo; 1:45 pm Pinochle. 4th Sat: 7-10am Monthly breakfast will begin again in January 2017.

AUGUSTA 640 Osage, 775-1189

Regular activities: Exercise, cards, dominoes, pool, line dancing, lunch daily at 11:30 am. Friday: 9:30 am Prize bingo. 2nd Sat: 7-10 am Biscuit/Gravy breakfast. $4 suggested donation. 3rd Mon: 8 am Casino trip. Call for reservation. $5 suggested donation. 4th Mon: 5 pm Evening meal. $5 suggested donation.

BENTON Lion’s Community Bldg, S Main St

2nd & 4th Tue: 9 am-4 pm Cards, games, occasional program. Covered dish.

CASSODAY Cassoday Senior Center 133 S. Washington, 620-735-4538

Tue: 10:30 am Round Table. Tue, Thu: 9:30 am Exercise with WSU. 1st Mon: 7 pm Game night. 3rd Mon: 6:30 pm Carry-in dinner, blood pressure checks. Last Fri: 7 pm Movie Night.

DOUGLASS 124 W 4th, 746-3227

Regular activities: Exercise, quilting, cards, home-cooked lunch, $5 (reservation required). 1st Mon: 6 pm Finger foods & cards. 3rdMon: 6 pm Birthday/anniversary covered-dish supper, bring own service. Cards. 3rd Sat: 7:00-9:30 am Biscuits/gravy, scrambled eggs, $4.

EL DORADO 210 E 2nd, 321-0142

Regular activities: Exercise, cards, bingo, hot lunch $3, support groups. Mon: 12:30 Mexican Train dominoes. Mon, Fri: 10 am Aerobics. Tue: 9 am Coffee; 12:30 pm Bingo; 2 pm Line Dance; 6 pm Prairie Port Seniors. Tue, Thu: 8:30 am Men's coffee. Wed: 10 am Back in Balance; 1 pm Pinochle. Sat: 6 pm Cards and games. 3rd Tue: 12:30 am Blood pressure checks.

Harvey County Centers

BURRTON 124 N Burrton, 620-463-3225

1st Sat: 7-9 am Community breakfast. Mon: 7-8 pm Educational film. Tue: 9 am Bible study. Mon - Fri: 7-8:30 am Early bird coffee. Fri: 7-8:30 am Breakfast. 3rd Thu: 7 pm Movie. 4th Thu: 6 pm Potluck supper.

HALSTEAD 523 Poplar, 835-2283

Mon & Wed: Games after lunch. Tue & Fri: 9 am Exercise. 2nd Thu: 7 pm Dine out/activity. 3rd Thu: 6 pm Potluck, meeting. 3rd Fri: 12:30 pm Movie in. 3rd Sun: 1:30 pm Movie out. 4th Thu: 7 pm Penny Bingo.

HESSTON Randall & Main, 620-327-5099

www.hesstonseniorcenter.com Mon, Wed, Fri: 8 am Stretch bands. Mon & Tue: 1:30 pm Pitch. Tue: 8:30 am Coffee hour; 9 am Film; 1:30 pm Pinochle. Wed: 6:30 am Men’s Bible Study; 1 pm Bridge. 1st & 3rd Tue: 6 pm Singin’ Seniors. 3rd Wed: 11:30 am Health luncheon; noon, program. Reservations by previous Fri. 1st Thu: 7 pm Bridge.

Support the active age Make a tax deductible donation to the active age and support our Silver Campaign!

Make a donation by: • Mailing a check to 125 S. West St., Ste. 105, Wichita, KS 67213 • Calling 316-942-5385 to make a secure credit card donation • Donating securely online at theactiveage.com and/or enroll in auto-pay via our paypal account.

2nd Thu: 7 pm Movie night. 1st & 3rd Fri: 1 pm Mexican Train dominoes. 1st Sat: 7:30-9:30 am Community breakfast. 4th Mon: 5:30 pm Gathering; 6 pm Potluck dinner, program follows.

GRAND CENTRAL 122 E 6th, Newton, 283-2222 www.newtonseniorcenter.org

Mon: 10-11 am Blood pressure check. Tue: 1 pm Crafts: handwork. Wed: 1 pm Pinochle/pitch/dominoes. Thu: 1 pm Wii bowling; 5:15 pm Tai Chi. 2nd & 4th Thu: 10:30 am Bingo. 1st & 3rd Fri: 6-9 pm Game night.

SEDGWICK 107 W. Fifth, 772-0393

Mon: 1 pm Games. Tue: 7-8:30 am Breakfast. Mon, Wed, Fri: 9 am Exercise. 1st Fri: 7 pm Birthday party. 2nd Thu: noon Carry-in dinner, mtg. 3rd Thu: 5 pm Dinner Night Out. 2nd Fri: 7 pm Pitch party.

Support Groups, Clubs, Dances

An up-to-date list of support groups is at supportgroupsinkansas.org. To add or correct a listing, call 316978-3566, 1-800-445-0016 or email percy.turner@wichita.edu. Clubs, Organizations and Dances are at www.theactiveage.com under the Resources category. For changes call Kaydee at 942-5345 or email kaydee@theactiveage.com.

LEON 112 S Main, 745-9200 or 742-9905

Regular activities: Lunch served Mon - Fri. Reservations required by 9 am. Wed: 10 am Exercise class; 1 pm Pinochle. 2nd & 4th Tue: 1 pm Bridge club. 3rd Sun: 11am-1 pm Lunch serving roast beef or ham, mashed potatoes, gravy, green beans, hot roll, salad and dessert bar. Drinks included. $8 donation adults/$4 children.

AARP Driver Safety Classes Eight hours of instruction. Certificate on completion for insurance discount. Class size limited; call for reservations. $15 for AARP members; $20 for non-members. Via Christi Rehab Hospital, 1151 N. Rock Road, 9am-5pm Jan 14 & 21, 316-6895700.

ROSE HILL 207 E Silknitter, 776-0170

Regular activities: Wii, pool table, shuffleboard, home-cooked lunch (reservation required). Mon & Wed: 9 am Strong Women Stay Young Exercise. Mon: 7 pm Pitch, games. Wed: 1 pm Bridge. Fri: 7 pm Card game. 1st Fri: 11 am Meeting, covered dish. 3rd Fri: Noon Covered dish. 1st Sat: 7-10 am Scrambled eggs, biscuits/gravy.

TOWANDA 317 Main, 536-8999

Open 10:30 am-5 pm Mon, Wed & Fri Thu: 7 am Breakfast/coffee at Stearman Bar & Grill, Benton.

WHITEWATER Legion Hall,Whitewater

2nd & 4th Tue: noon Potluck, program.

Transportation Sedgwick County

Sedgwick Co Transportation, 6605150 or 1-800-367-7298, transportation or services info. 8 am-5 pm, Mon-Fri; closed most holidays. www.sedgwickcounty.org/aging.

Butler County Transit

Weekday transportation in El Dorado, Augusta and Andover. Rides to Wichita on Wed, Thu. Call for information; 48-hr notice required: Augusta, 775-0500; El Dorado, 322-4321; toll free, 1-800-279-3655. $10 pass for 25 rides available. Wheelchair accessible; escorts ride free.

Harvey County

Transportation for medical appointments, shopping and recreational activities. Reservations or information: 316-284-6802 or 1-866-680-6802. Applications for reduced fares for those 60+ or disabled who meet income guidelines. Personal appointments Mon-Fri, 8 am-5 pm. Reservations, first call-first served, must be made 24 hours in advance. Vans are wheelchair accessible. Round-trip fares: $8 in Newton (wheelchair only), $12 in Harvey County, $20 outside Harvey County. Wheelchair escorts ride free. AVI Route: Tue, 8 am-4:30 pm. Transportation to Newton for Burrton, Sedgwick, Halstead, Hesston, Walton residents. $6.

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Friendship Meals

Aging Projects, Inc. serves a hot, nutritious meal weekdays for persons 60 and older at locations in Sedgwick, Harvey and Butler county communities. Reservations are necessary. For locations and reservations, call 620-669-8201. WEEK OF JANUARY 3

Tue: Ham & beans, potatoes & onions, parslied carrots, grape juice, cornbread. Wed: oven fried chicken, breaded tomatoes, cauliflower bean salad, plums, wheat roll. Thu: Tuna noodle casserole w/peas, broccoli, apricots, butterscotch pudding, garlic bread. Fri: Hot turkey sandwich, mashed potatoes w/gravy, mixed vegetables, peaches, gingersnap cookie.

WEEK OF JANUARY 9 Mon: Harvest turkey soup, broccoli/cauli-

flower/carrot salad, pears, crackers, oatmeal cookie. Tue: Pork roast w/gravy, sweet potatoes, green beans, strawberries, wheat roll. Wed: Cheesy potato & egg bake, mixed green salad w/dressing, grape juice, pineapple. Thu: Swiss steak, baked potato, spinach, applesauce, spice cake, roll. Fri: Chicken pot pie, cole slaw, plums, fruit cobbler.

WEEK OF January 16

Mon: Meatloaf, California mash, peas, Mandarin oranges, bread. Tue: Chicken or fish sandwich, tomato soup, crackers, apricots, broccoli raisin salad. Wed: Spaghetti w/meat sauce, combo salad w/dressing, pears, garlic bread. Thu: Creamed chicken over mashed potatoes, beets, mixed fruit, biscuit. Fri: Ham chowder, black eye pea salad, peaches, crackers, peanut butter cookie.

WEEK OF JANUARY 23

Mon: Scalloped potatoes & ham, broccoli, mixed fruit, roll, no bake cookie. Tue: Ham & egg casserole, green lentil salad, carrots, pineapple, sweet muffin. Wed: Chili, combo salad w/dressing, peaches, cinnamon roll. Thu: Italian baked chicken, spinach, Lima bean salad, plums. Fri: Priairie chicken soup, broccoli raisin salad, stewed apples, wheat bread, gelatin.

WEEK OF JANUARY 30

Mon: Scalloped potatoes & ham, broccoli, mixed fruit, roll, no bake cookie.. Tue: Turkey roast, mashed potatoes w/ turkey gravy, mixed vegetables, plums, wheat roll.


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Classified Advertising

F CEMETERY PROPERTY FOR SALE F

Old Mission, double side by side plots located in Last Supper; Row A section F: 23 & 24. One single plot in Arcadia, Section A; M12. Asking $2,500 for the double, $1,250 for the single. Call 316-946-5919 or 316-640-6486. White Chapel Memorial Gardens, Garden of Good Shepherd. One lot 366B, Space 4. $2,500 or best offer. Buyer pays transfer fee of $425. 316-942-8592. Two cemetery adult crypts at Walnut Valley Memorial Cemetery, El Dorado, Kansas. Two vaults included. Asking $1,500. Call 316-377-5557. Resthaven, Garden of Freedom, 3-C-4, spaces for two with marker and vaults. Value $11,000 sell for $3,500. 316-721-6462, 316-253-3980. White Chapel Memorial Gardens, Garden of Christus, two plots for $2,250, OBO (value $4500). Seller pays transfer fee of $425. Call 316-648-9785.

F ESTATE SALES F OPERTROP SALE

KC ESTATE SALES

Complete estate & moving sale services. We can do the sale at your residence or place your items with another sale. Expert pricing, selling & clean-up. Packing & moving services available. Excellent results. Free consultation. Call Carolyn Moshier. 316-634-0040

F HOME CARE CONT F

Hoveround, MPV5. Reclines, adjustable arm rests, new batteries, $3,000. Hydraulic lift for Hoveround, $500. 316-838-1112.

Foot Care in home. Home visit $40. Call Francine at 316-943-4360. Leave a message.

Lazy Boy brown lift chair. Top of the line, great condition. Paid $1,300, asking $1,000 OBO. Call 316-377-5557.

Can’t bathe yourself like you use to? Need light housekeeping? Need private-duty aide? I can accommodate all your needs. Flexible hours; 2 to 12 hour shifts available. Cynthia CNA/HHA 316-992-6711.

F FURNITURE F

Restore your antique furniture

Moving, partial or entire estate sales. Experienced and insured. Free consultation. Competitive rates. www.salebygayle.com, 316-838-3521 or 316-206-3676

Affiliated Estate Sales

We have the solution for every situation. Complete estate sales service. Free consultation. Over 30 years experience.

Paul 316-807-1209 IPK Enterprises

Complete and comprehensive estate sales. There are many options on how to do your sale. Call us for a free consultation. Irene, 316-806-3435.

FOOT CARE IN YOUR HOME Cheryl Rosine ~ The Foot Lady

• 316-312-2025 •

Quality work at a reasonable price.

$40: In-home, Sedgwick & surrounding counties Diabetic, thick toe nails, ingrown & callous care

FREE estimates. Years of expertise.

Clark Palmer Furniture Repair

250-9533

No Place Like Home, LLC In-home care services & more Meal prep • Transportation Housekeeping • Companionship

F HELP WANTED F NEEDED: in-home care service. Some cooking and light housekeeping and transportation to/ from doctors/errands. Weekends, 8 am - 5 pm. Call Mrs. Smith, 977-7027. Looking for a driver. Preferably someone retired who needs something to do on the side. Call 259-6212.

www.noplacelikehomeassistance.com

316-416-7133 F HOME IMPROVEMENTS F Dave’s Improvements

Painting—interior/exterior. Doors and windows replaced, grab bars, wheelchair ramps. All general repairs. Guaranteed lowest rates. Senior citizen discount. Lic #7904.

316-312-2177 Marv’s Home Improvements & Repair

GREATER PROFITS WITH LESS STRESS Insured with 16 years experience Free Consultation

Sale by Gayle

Independent contract position for an energetic self-starter. Must be able to meet monthly goals, set appointments and deadlines; be comfortable with cold calls; and able to work from home computer. Some established accounts will be provided. Email cover letter and resume to: teresa@theactiveage.com

Doors, trim, decks, ramps, patio covers, fences, siding, flooring. Basements, kitchens and baths. Painting. Also honey dos. Honest and dependable. Senior discounts. Free estimates. 35 years. License #8691. Insured. 316-737-4646.

In-Home Services: Personal care assistance, meal preparation, housekeeping, handymen and more! Phone Chester at the Senior Employment Program, 316-267-1771 or 316-267-0302. Prescreened, reliable help available.

Complete Estate Sale Services Including Buy-outs

FREE Consultation • 50+ Years Experience Stress-free • Insured • Professional Retired Law Enforcement & Licensed Real Estate Agent on Staff

Call/Text 316-530-3275 www.KSESTATES.com

E-mail: support@ksestates.com (Se Habla Español)

Hermes Healthcare

Foot Care for you... when you can't. We service on-site at local Senior Centers in Kansas & our Wichita Office. Call for appt. at 316-260-4110. Most insurance accepted.

GRANDPA’S PLUMBING

Repairs. Free estimates. 316-312-4391

Concrete Work

Small jobs, sidewalks, patios, steps, pads, slabs. Call Haskins Family Concrete, 806-9300.

Cowboy Construction

Remodeling, siding, decks, fences, windows, doors and more. 20 years locally owned. Free estimates. Senior discounts.

Todd Wenzel 316-393-4488

Semi-retired maintenance man. Experienced in most phases of maintenance & roofing. Light hauling. Sedgwick County only. Call Paul 316-312-9970

Brick Block & Stone

Specializing in restoration, repair, design build, tuck-pointing, custom mail boxes and columns. Troy 316-208-1105 or 316-529-4453.

PLUMBCO

Compare Our Prices Weekly Plumbing Specials

Ins/Lic #5803

316-942-1967

S & V Concrete

Steps, porches, patios, sidewalks, retaining walls, driveways & garage floors. Also 4-inch steps with 18-inch landings for seniors. Licensed, bonded, insured. Free estimates

Steve 992-6884

Bruce Smith Roofing & Siding Protect your home from the elements of the weather!

Leaky Basement Repair

FREE ESTIMATES All types of roofing, siding, & other exterior projects

Dirt Installation and Siding Repair Courteous, professional repairs. Free estimates. Concrete work. 20+ years experience. Ernie Sponsel, 316-393-5461. STILES MAINTENANCE Heating & Air • Plumbing • Light Electrical Drywall • Painting • Tile Basic Home Repairs Licensed & Insured 25% Senior Discount 316-200-6601 Wallpaper - removal, repair and installation. Tim Devine 316-208-9590 or thdevine@gmail.com

LIFT-RITE GARAGE DOORS

Scheduled maintenance, repair, sales on all garage doors. *Springs-Torsion & Extension *Garage Door Openers, Doors & More

Gracious living for seniors in a safe home setting by loving certified staff 24/7. Private/ semi-private. Daycare. Memory Care. Affordable. Medicaid certified. Evelyn Hunt RN, 316-214-3359; reflections1201@att.net.

Reflections Residential Care

F HOME IMPROVEMENTS CONT F

Wright One Home Improvements Kitchen & Bath remodeling. Painting. Windows. Doors. Siding. All types of flooring and home repairs. Free estimates. 316-409-2160.

F HOME CARE F

Cash for your Estate Items

Place an ad: 942-5385

F FOR SALE F

CUSTOMIZED ESTATE SALES & MOVING SERVICES

316-806-7360 Julie

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Paul Williams (316) 650-8807 • Free Estimates

Don’t Fix it Alone!

Our background-checked, bonded, insured, employee Handymen will fix it for you. Our work is GUARANTEED. We’re looking forward to your call…

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316-773-0303

35 Years Exp. Locally owned & operated

316-640-3155 Licensed & Insured

Stover Heating & Air Conditioning

Repair • Service All Brands Sales – Licensed Trane dealer Senior Discount SPECIAL: AC/FURNACE check-up $80* *Some restrictions, doesn’t include filters, parts

316-641-9146

Helping Hands Framing, carpentry, decorative concrete, remodeling & repairs, roofing, painting, tree services, exp. working with seniors. We do it all, give us a call! FREE ESTIMATES Matthew, 316-208-3784 Tyler, 316-518-4722

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Classified Advertising

Place an ad: 942-5385

F HOME IMPROVEMENTS CONT F

F LAWN AND GARDEN F

F SERVICES CONT F

F TREE SERVICES CONT F

Handyman. Plumbing, electrical, heating, floors, doors, windows, screens, walls and more. HVAC certified. Licensed & insured. Senior discounts. Call John 316-650-3013.

P&A Landscaping 316-708-7236 Complete lawn care, mowing starting at $25 fall cleanup, storm cleanup. Any odd job. Holidays lighting , fully insured. Senior discount.

Need a ride? Doctor appointments, ride home from hospital, court, casino, mini vacation or family reunion. You name the place, I will take you there. 316-259-6212.

Felipe Tree Service Evergreen trimming. Tree removal. Brush hauling. Splitting. Deadwooding. Insured. Free estimates. 12 years experience. 316-807-4419.

Total yard clean-up, flower beds and bushes, tree trimming and stump grinding, attics, garages and basements. LEAF cleanup and HAULING.

Sewing machine service and repair. All brands! House calls. Forty Years Experience! Reasonable! Guaranteed! Call 316-321-1619.

Molina Electric - Wichita Lic #1364 Comm. or Residential wiring. Service calls. New electric service. Troubleshooting. Business 524-0434, Cell 461-2199. Seasoned split and delivered premium firewood. Premium oak mix hedge, locust, pecan, hot stove mix. Any quanitity. 316-807-8650.

Cowboy Construction

Bathroom and kitchen remodels. Room additions. Garages and sheds. Licensed and insured.

Todd Wenzel 316-393-4488

Painting & Remodeling by Harley Worthey Interior/Exterior & Odd jobs Husband & Wife Team. BBB. 316-648-4478

Carpenter–30 Yrs Experience

Repairs & Remodeling • Trim Work Doors • Cabinets • Sheetrock • Tile Interior/Exterior Painting • Flooring

316-806-6812

Advantage Handyman and Tree Stump Services TREE SERVICE STUMP REMOVE DUMPING SERVICE HOME REPAIRS LIC. ROOF INSTALLATION

LICENSED & INSURED Stan 316-518-8553

Dave’s Improvements Painting—Interior & Exterior Doors & Windows Replaced • Siding Kitchen & Bath Remodeling Roofing • Decks • Ramps • Grab Bars Minor Electrical & Plumbing Repairs General Home Repairs • Lic. 7904 Insured • Senior Discounts!

316-312-2177 Custom Contractors

Basement & Foundation Repair

• I-Beams • Water Proofing • Drain Tile • Dirt Work • Walls Straightened • Sump Pumps • References • Lic. & Insured • Total Basement Repair •

30 years experience 316-516-9200

Classifieds in the active age work! Call Kaydee to tap into the senior market. 942-5385

Including all yard debris. 316-516-4630 or 316-838-5710

Mowing, trimming, yard and leaf cleanup. Gutter cleaning. Exterior painting. If you need any of these services call Perry, 316-619-6126.

Mike E. 316-708-1472

Garage clean out, snow removal, mowing, leaf and gutter cleanup, tree trimming, hauling, roto-tilling. Chimney repairs. Brick, block and stone repair. Dave's Hauling Services Solid waste removal, property cleanup, tree & fence line clearing, general landscape removal, other lawn and garden services. All fence, porch and patio work. Call 316-832-2201. Christian Lawn Care Mowing-$20, verti-slicing, core-aerating, overseeding, new lawns, mulching flower beds, cleanup, shrub trimming and removal, gutter cleaning, hauling. Senior discount. Steve 316-685-2145. Perry's Professional Lawn Service Leaf cleanup. Snow removal. Bush and hedge trimming, mulching, gutter cleaning, handyman work and hauling. 20 years experience. Free estimates. Perry 316-554-6409. Jason's Lawn Care Winter snow removal or any yard work weekly or bi-weekly. Call Jason. 316-469-8765. Free estimates. All Season Clean Up Lawn Care Quality Lawn Care * Yard Clean Up * Tree Trimming * Gutter Cleaning *Fall/Spring raking. Free estimates, senior discounts. 316-409-8780.

MOWING

Winter/Fall Cleanup Tree trim/removal Snow removal Brock Eastman • 316-765-1677 F PAINTING F McCoy Painting 316-516-6443 Do you need any interior or exterior painting done? I’m your man. Free estimates, affordable rates. References available.

F SERVICES F Need help on your electric scooter, power or lift chair, stair or platform lift or hand controls? Call Howard Distribution at 316-648-1694. Howard is a certified service center and dealer for Best Bath walk-in tubs, Bruno, EMC, Golden Tech, Pace Saver, Pride and Ricon. Working for you since 1987.

F THRIFT SHOP F Gently Used Resale (Thrift Shop)

2523 S. Seneca (Westway Plaza) Wichita, Ks. Store & Donation Hours Mon & Thu 9 am-7 pm Tue, Wed, Fri & Sat 9 am-5 pm Purchase with a purpose. Benefits those served by the Bethesda Lutheran Communities to enhance the lives of people with intellectual and developmental disabilities through services that share the good news of Jesus Christ. Volunteers & Donations always needed. Like us on Facebook.

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F TREE SERVICE F Fall is on the way! ALL AROUND TREE SERVICE

Stump REMOVAL & GRINDING Trimming, deadwood, tree removal. Total yard, leaf clean-up & hauling. Also rural and farm areas. Free estimates. Experienced. Good prices. Insured. Tom King, 316-516-4630, 316-838-5710. Bruce's Tree Service Haul off old appliances/metal. Firewood hardwood mix at $125/rick, no softwood. Prompt, Immediate, Professional service. Crown reduction, trimming or removal. Trees, hedgerows, evergreens & shrubs. Snow removal. Residential line clearing and roofs. Bucket truck available. We climb also. Handyman work. Over 30 years’ experience. Sr. Discounts. Insured. Call 316-207-8047.

Estrada’s Tree Service

Trimming, crown reduction, removal. Storm damage prevention. Hauling. Firewood. Free estimates. Insured. Senior discount. Felix Estrada, 316-617-4392.

Alfred's Superior Tree Service 316-522-9458 www.alfredstree.com alfredstree@pixius.net

pruning - tree removal - stump grinding - debris/ brush haul off - chemical sprays - emergency services - firewood - consultations - demolitions

Professional & Insured • Certified Arborist Residential & Commercial F WANTED F ALWAYS BUYING

Older items of all kinds including: antiques collectibles - costume and turquoise jewelry Boeing and Beech - pins - pocket knives guitars and amps - postcards - watches cigarette lighters - art glass - metal signs *Contents of attics, basements or garages* FOR FAST FRIENDLY ASSISTANCE CALL DAVE AT 316-409-0992 Over 20 years of assisting folks sell items. Want to purchase mineral and other oil/ gas interests. Send details to P.O. Box 13557, Denver, CO 80201. Collector buying: WWII GERMAN and JAPANESE MILITARY items. 316-516-2737. Donate your Durable Medical Equipment. Will pick up. Tax credit. Medical Loan Closet of Wichita. 316-200-2005.

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AARP picks its choices for top 10 movies for grownups The editors and movie critics of AARP The Magazine have announced their selections for 2016’s Top 10 Movies for Grownups. Their list spotlights

the best writing, acting and filmmaking for audiences with a grownup state of mind. The list features films that pay

homage to historical periods, life experiences and contemporary topics that appeal to grownup audiences. “The 50-plus movie audience has a unique perspective on the impact relationships have on our lives,” says Myrna Blyth, Senior Vice President and Editorial Director for AARP Media. “This year’s Top 10 list tackles the subject of complex human relationships from all angles —family ties, grownup love and longtime friendship among them. Most importantly, it’s a wonderfully eclectic mix of the year’s most appealing, entertaining, and thought-provoking films for the 50-

plus moviegoer.” In selecting the movies, the editors focused on exemplary work by filmmakers, actors and cinematic artists who are 50-plus — as well as themes and subjects of particular interest to an audience with a grownup perspective. They are: Arrival; Fences; Hello, My Name is Doris; Jackie; La La Land; Lion; Loving; Manchester by the Sea; Silence; and Sully. AARP’s movie awards are recognized as a bellwether for the Academy Awards. The winners will be honored at the Beverly Wilshire Hotel Monday, Feb. 6.

Elizabeth (Betsy) Lea Henry

Henry & Mathewson, P.A. 310 W 205 ••Wichita Wichita 449 N. Central McLeanSte Blvd.

316-201-6868 316-263-7770

Practice focusing on Wills, Trusts, Guardianships, Conservatorships, Estate Planning and Family Law. More than 30 years of practice. “If getting to us is too difficult, I will come to you.”

Elizabeth (Betsy) Lea Henry Henry & Mathewson, P.A.

449 N. McLean Blvd. • Wichita

316-263-7770

Practice focusing on Wills, Trusts, Guardianships, Conservatorships, Estate Planning and Family Law. More than 30 years of practice. “If getting to us is too difficult, I will come to you.”

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Arts briefs...

the graphic design program. He retired in 2000 as Professor Emeritus of Art and Design. He is well known for his painting, printmaking, film animation and book design, and has received many awards from various professional organizations for his work. Several decades ago he began making finely crafted paper cuts. Many of them are no bigger than an index card.

Past and Present

Past and Present: Wichita’s Legacy and Today’s Creatives features the art of the late Lester Raymer and Wichitan Clark Britton. It will be on display through July in the Wichita Art Museum’s DeVore Gallery. Raymer’s art is from the museum’s permanent collection and loans from his Red Barn Studio in Lindsborg. His eclectic subject matter spans a range of subjects from religion, to theater, to people and objects from everyday life. Raymer took ordinary things, generally discarded mundane objects, and transformed them into works of art and crafts, gifts, toys and decorative elements. Clark Britton was hired at the University of Wichita in 1957 to head

Growers’ workshop

Central Kansas Market Grower & Vendor Workshop will be held from 8:45 a.m.–4:15 p.m. Saturday, Feb. 4, at the Sedgwick County Extension Education Center, 21st and Ridge Rd. Registration deadline is Thursday, Feb. Man with Orange Crown and Green Hat, March 2016, cut paper 2. Cost is $20 by Jan. 27; $25 after. sculpture. Courtesy of the artist, Register online at http://sedgwick. ksu.edu or call 316-660-0100. Clark Britton.

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Honor Roll of Donors John Davis

DeVore Foundation Craig Gibson Heartland Cardiology

Alfred & Elizabeth James Claudia Lawn Mary McKenney James Moody Diana Wolfe

These readers have recently contributed $75 or more to the active age.

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