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The choice to abstain in an over-sexualized college culture VICTORIA EDEL Hoya Staff Writer
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ollege students have sex. Older generations shake their finger at hookup culture while students themselves grapple to make sense of it all. Maybe theyâre looking for love, connection, pleasure or some combination of the three, or maybe theyâre looking for nothing at all. Yet, for all the think pieces that focus on sex at college, most of them leave out an important demographic: virgins. According to the Guttmacher Institute, 61 percent of American 18-year-olds have had sex, and while that may be the number people focus on most, thereâs another 39 percent of that group that are virgins. By age 20, the number of people who have had sex goes up to about 72 percent, leaving a quarter of that age group sexually inexperienced. There is no major difference between the numbers for men and women. Within that population, thereâs a lot of diversity. There are those who abstain for religious or moral reasons. There are those who havenât found the right person. There are students for whom itâs simply not a priority, and there are those who have tried to lose it â with little success. With sex such a frequent topic among college students â and, in some cases, a point of pride â itâs obvious why some who fall into the minority category might feel anxious about their virgin
status. A quick Google search shows thousands of articles about the topic, ranging from adults recounting their own experiences as collegiate virgins to current undergrads explaining why retaining their V-card makes them uncomfortable. The website College Crush calls it âThe Burden of Being a Virgin.â Kate (COL â16)* identifies as a virgin, and, while she admits that her inexperience may keep her from taking risks, she doesnât consider it a âburden.â She hasnât had sex yet mostly because she hasnât found someone she wants to lose her virginity to. âThe option hasnât presented itself. I would have to get to a very comfortable state before even considering it,â she said. Kate doesnât see herself having sex before sheâs in a long-term, committed relationship, which she has yet to find at Georgetown.
Kate isnât sure how her sexual inexperience compares with her friendsâ lives, partially because the phrase âhook upâ can have so many meanings. To different people at different times, it can mean making out, oral sex or sexual intercourse. Some of Kateâs friends use the term interchangeably, making it difficult to distinguish the implications. âYou never really know what a personâs perspective is on [casual sex] because you donât know what their definition is,â she said. âPeople talk about [their hookups] all the time. ⊠What did you actually do, and what does that mean to you?â Kate personally has no interest in the hookup scene, in any sense of the word. âI donât think I would ever meet a stranger and have sex with them, not at this point,â she said. And while her friends often make out with boys
they meet at parties, sheâs not comfortable doing that with someone she just met. ---------------------------------------------------For those in the LGBTQ community at Georgetown, the matter of remaining a virgin is further complicated by certain expectations and stereotypes. Aaron* (SFS â16), like Kate, also wants to wait until he trusts his partner completely before he has sex. That means that, although he has been in three relationships, he has remained a virgin. âI donât do anything [sexual] unless Iâm in a relationship with someone because I personally like that emotional connection. I think it just heightens it,â he said. âI need to trust this person completely before I can make that jump to sex.â âThere definitely is a big pressure to have lots See VIRGINITY, B2
THIS WEEK THEATER REVIEW
LIFESTYLE
Corrupt to the Core
Folger Theatre production highlights the dark side of âRichard IIIâ VICTORIA EDEL Hoya Staff Writer
Pairing Stats and Human Rights
Alex Luta (COL â16) discusses how the success of his statistics research has contributed to a human rights project. B2
Newseum Exhibit Falls Short
The âAnchormanâ exhibit at the Newseum is more hype than substance, featuring little more than props of a cult ïŹlm. B3
FOOD & DRINK
Bowling Alley With Culinary Flair A new entertainment and dining venue on M Street is perfect for good times and good food. B5
ARTS & ENTERTAINMENT
The Drama of Love
âEndless Loveâ conveys the unique, up-and-down emotions of young romance. B6
Fusing Global Sounds
Bombay Bicycle Clubâs new album experiments with styles and techniques from around the world with mixed results. B6
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Thereâs something perversely appropriate about performing âRichard IIIâ â one of William Shakespeareâs bloodiest and most political plays â just a block from the Capitol Building. Shakespeareâs Richard, a devious, evil, masterful politician, would certainly give the men and women of the Hill a run for their money. âRichard III,â playing at the Folger Theatre until March 16, focuses on one of Englandâs most controversial kings. At the playâs beginning, heâs merely the brother of the newly crowned king, their family having just won the throne at the end of a long war. Richard (Drew Cortese) is the ugly duckling of his three brothers â crippled and generally considered the outcast â but his eyes are on revenge and the throne. He manipulates the tensions of the court in order to get what he wants. Where Richard differentiates from the typical American congressman (well, hopefully) is that he isnât afraid to murder people in order to get what he wants. At least, thatâs the way Shakespeare paints him, though historians have argued for centuries as to whether that portrait is accurate. Shakespeare hasnât written a story that is easy to perform convincingly. The audience needs to both love and hate Richard in order to be invested in the story, and have some grasp of what all the court politics are about. If one focuses too much on that second task â whose allegiances are with whom at any moment, what the charactersâ back stories are â the story becomes a little incomprehensible. I could tell that the audience was getting caught on details; Iâve never seen so many people look at the program in the middle of a show to try to remember which character is related to whom. But loving and hating Richard? Itâs easy to do that while watching the Folgerâs production. Corteseâs Richard is charming from the playâs beginning, drawing the See FOLGERS, B3
COURTESY TERESA WOOD
Lord Stanley (Richard Sheridan Willis) crowns Richard (Drew Cortese) in a performance of one of William Shakespeareâs most twisted dramas at the Folger Theatre.