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Bishop Sean O'Malley's Christ'masPastoral Letter Beloved Faithful in Christ, During the Advent season" the Church has gathered in prayerful anticipation of the coming of our Savior, Jesus Christ. Not only have we been preparing for Christmas, but more importantly, we ,have been preparing for Christ and the many moments thro~gh which we encounter Him in our lives. We recall His wondrous birth nearly 2000 years ago. We celebrate His 'presence am,ong us through His Spirit, His Ch1,lrch, His Word and Sacraments. We also prepare for His return in glory. Because our'days of Adve~t"pr:¢pa,ra­ tion have focused our minds and hearts on HIe Lord, we can joyfully welcome Him into our hearts and homes this Christma's Day. Our Holy Father, Pope John Paul II, has summoned the Church to embark upon a journey 01 spiritual preparation in anticipation of th~ Great Jubilee Year 2000. In the next thre~ y~ars, in anticipation of this Holy Year 01 praise and thanksgiving to our Triun~ God, we will join with the Churcb throughout the world as proclaimers 01 , the Good News of our redemption in Jesus Christ with deeper conviction and a rene~ed sense of faith, hope and love.

The Pope urges us to engage in a "ne~ evangelization." This effort is not new in its content. What is "new" are the presenj circumstances of our age, which must be considered in order for the Gospel ,message to be heard in today's world.

In the first year of preparation (1997), Our Holy Father urges us to focus on the, person of "Jesus Christ, the one Savior ofthe world, yesterday, today and forever" (Heb. 13:8). The mystery of the Incarnation which we celebrate on Christmas Day can only be understood in the context of God's unconditional love for humankfnd.

Christ is the "agape" ofGod in the flesh, entering our vulnerable human condition in all aspects except sin in order to walk by our side.

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. THE ST. JOSEPH Church, Attleboro, food cellar was abuzz with activity when Bishop Feehan High School students orgal.lized a free Christmas store for the needy. (Gavin photo courtesy of the Attleboro Sun Chronicle)

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By Father Kevin J. Harrington . Santa Claus came early to St. Joseph's parish, Attleboro, this Christmas when a group of stu~ dents from Bishop Feehan High School, Attleboro, organized a Christmas store for parents of children who come to St. Joseph's Food Cellar. While the Feehan' students entertained the youngsters, their parents chose two gifts 'Of h' for each chIld.' course, t e pnce ~:~! right because everything was

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meaning that the Food Cellar helps close to a thousand families. Some of the recipients are also volunteers. This discourages the "them versus us" mentality that distin~ guishes "haves" from "have-nots."

Every August there is a picnic that gives volunteers and recip.ients the opportunity to know each other better. Bishop Sean O'Malley attended the first such picnic in August of 1992.

Inthe line of statistics: since the Food Cellar is open only on Fri-

carrying a bag of grocerie:•. Each week the bulletin asks families to bring different items for the ensuing week. On Sunday, Oscar Pinault begins arranging food on the shelves, and on Monday, Drew Ward and a volunteer usually drive by van or truck to Warwick to access the Rhode Island Food Bank, where food can be bought at a fraction of grocery store prices.

Oscar spends at least two full days putting everything in order:>o that a rotating group of volunte·:rs can more easily bag on Thursday.

Meanwhile, .Irene Hanley organizes all the paper work. Thl:se are labors of love. for these two very active retirees.

In the past, on the Friday before day nights from 6:00 to 7:30, a 270Christmas, parents who came to bag nl'ght means that a bag offood the Food Cellar would receive a is given out every 20 seconds! gift-wrapped toy or game with an When the door shuts at 7:30 the shelves are usually almost bare" age amd gender tag. The Feehan . but never has anyone been sent students personalized the process. away empty-handed. Neighboring During the last IO years, the top The Food Cellar was founded parishes, La Salette Shrine, the St. 20 percent of American fa.milies by a volunteer, Drew Ward, and Vincent de Paul Society, various had an annual income of $)1)9,000 the then pastor of St. Joseph's, food drives run by schools, Scouts, or more, while the bottom ~:O perFather Paul E. Canuel, in October the post office, and Project Bread, cent made only $8,435 annually, of 1991. For the past three and a as well as donations. of bakery with the top earners enjoying a 17 half years it has had the support of goods from grocery stores are percent growth in inflation-adalmost 200 volunteers. Beginning among the many means by which justed income, while those on the with distribution of only eight bags those shelves are filled in time for bottom saw only a 2 pl:rcent of food, it now averages 250 bags each Thursday's "Bagging Night." growth. In this age of down:oizing, and on a recent night exceeded Every Advent our parishioners it is comforting to know that the 270. In the process, the cellar of St. raise more than $1,000 by way of hearts of so many at St. Joseph's Joseph's rectory comes alive every quarters saved daily in Advent have been expanded by somt:thing Friday night as people begin to folders. Many also come to church as simple as a bag of food. line up at least an hour before its 6 p.m. opening.

Each person is issued an identification card and receives a bag of food, typically including a loaf of bread, a box of cereal, cans of tuna fish, tomato sauce, soup, and vegetables, pasta,.a snack food item and toothpaste or a bar of soap.

Most Rev. Se,an O'Malley, OFM Cap., bishop of Fall River, wiU offer Everyone is greeted warmly and the IO a.m. Mass on Sunday morning, December 22, in St. Lawrence much more is given than a bag of Church, New Bedford, celebrating the l75th anniversary of the fou nding food. Friday nights see both regu- of that parish, the oldest in what is now the Fall River diocese and the . lar adult volunteers, who know fifth Catholic church in all New England. mostly everyone by name, and a Originally called St. Mary's, the church was founded by -an Irish Augustinian, Father Philip Lariscy, under the direction of Bishop John rotating group of young adult volunteers from public and pa- Cheverus of Boston. It is the only church established by Bishop Cheverochial schools and both Catholic rus in what is now the Fall River diocese. and Protestant youth groups. Most The parish has been observing its anniversary with a series of activities recipients come once a month, centered on spiritual growth and reaching out in charity to others.

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In addition to her son, she is survived by-two daughters, Mrs. Mary Thornton, Miami, FL, Mrs. Jane Colgan, Eugene, OR, and by seven grandchildren and II greatgrandchildren.

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In 1974 he was assigned to St. chon. On a visit to America, she Joseph's as administrator and . met and later married her husthereafter as pastor, remaining band. They resided in New Bedford, where their three children there until his death.

Over the years he was also cha- were born. including pictures with Santa She and her husband retired to plain for the former Mt. St. Mary Academy, Fall River, a'nd for the Florida in 1964 but after his death Fall River fire and police depart- she returned to Massachusetts, liv.or WESTPORT ments. For 23 years, from 1970 to ing in North Ea.ston. She was a ~ n ~ daily Massgoer and was active in 1993, he directed the Fall River area Catholic Youth Organization' charitable works, including fund,for reservations" raising for, Holy Cross Seminary and the Catholic Young Adult in North Easton. In appreciation Organization; and in 1970 he was each week from 9 12 of her efforts, her picture was also named to head the diocesan placed in the seminary cornerstone.

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Father McCarrick served on the Attorney General's Task Force on Drugs and was also instrumental in forming a drug clinic at St. Anne's Hospital, Fall River. While in Taunton he was active in tQe ,Established 1964 pre-Cana marriage prep~ration program.

He is survived by two sisters, (MERRY CHRISTMAS) (TO YOU ALL) ).

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Father Paul McCarrick Bishop Sean O'Malley was principal celebrant, Very Rev. Francis L. Mahoney was homilist and some 80 priests of the diocese were concelebrants at the Dec. 16 Mass of Christian Burial offered at St. Joseph's Church, Fall River, for Father Paul F. McCa.rrick, 65, who died Dec. 12 after a long illness. He had been pastor of St. Joseph's since 1974.

Born April I, 1931, in Malden, the son of the late Patrick H. and Mary A. (Kilroy) McCarrick, he graduated from Boston College in 1952 and thereafter studied for the priesthood'for the Fall River diocese at St. Mary's Seminary, Baltimore. He was ordained March 17, 1956, by the late Bishop James L. Connolly.

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Bishop Sean u Malley will offer Mass at 4:00 p.m. Christmas Eve at St. Anne's Church, Fall River. It will be telecast at 9 a.m. Christmas Day on WLNE Channel Six. The bishop will also offer the Midnight Mass of Christmas at Espirito Santo Church, Fall River, to be telecast at 4:30' p.m. Christmas Day on the Portuguese Channel.

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Bishop 0 'Malley's Christmas Pastoral Letter Continued from Page One

on whic;h to begin this year of prayer and reflection, for·it was on that Christmas night in Bethlehem that God "so loved the world, that He sent His only Son so that everyone who believes in Him might not perish, but might have eternal life" (In. 3: 15).

God's inclusive embrace reaches out to every single person made "in the image and likeness of God" (Gen. 1:26). Through our baptism, we express our desire to welcome Him into our lives and thus are drawn into the mystery of salvation in Christ. Christ is born in'us on the day of our baptism; and in our growth in holiness He is reborn again and again through the presence of His Holy Spirit. In this way we are strengthened to bear witness in the world to Christ, the Way, the Truth and the Life (In. 14:6). Our joume:y of faith requires of us a commitment to a personal ongoing conversion as we seek to deepen our love for Christ and tum from anything which might separate us from Him. . During this coming year, I invite all members of our Catholic family throughout'the Fall River Diocese to suppoit one another in their search for the Incarnate Word among us. Le,t us seek Christ in His Word, encounter Him through His grace-ftlled sacraments and ponder the great mystery of our faith through the ongoing study of Scripture and the teachings of the Church..

I particularly wish to invoke Christ's healing love on those who, for <;me reason or another, have experienced a sense of alienation from Christ and His Church. I invite you to use this grace-filled time of preparation to rediscover the powerful love of God which pulsates through the Body of Christ, His Church. May your search for the Risen Lord lead you back to the warm embrace ofyour parish community for, as Jesus promised: "For where two or three are gathered together in my name,there am I in the midHt of them" (Matt. 18:20). Christmas is a time to come home and reconnect with our spiritual family. It is a time to forgive old hurts and rebuild our relationships with one another.

It is my prayer that this season of Christmas and the approaching New Year will' be for us a time of new hope and new beginnings. As we prepare for the third millennium, may we recommit ourselves to Christ, the Savior of the World, may we ponder the mystery of Christmas in our hearts so that we can live the Good' News and share it with others.

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Hong Kong'chiJrch'schoo.ls try: to' counter Christmas consumerism HONG KONG (CNS) - A sin-' cere and environmentally friendly Christmas is the message Hong Kong teachers in church-run schools wish ~o convey to students, to soften the effect of ,consumerism in this commercialized society.

As shops began to display all kinds of Christmas-theme products in November, teachers told their students not to buy Christmas cards, which cost from' H K$I (US$0.13) to tens of Hong Kong dollars, just for Christmas' sake, reported UCA News, an Asian church news aency bas(;d in Thailand.

In late November, UCA News approached about 20 students from church and secular schools and asked each of them to draw a Christmas picture. Most of them drew Christmas trees, gifts, Santa Clauses and snowmen.

Of course, it never snows in subtropical Hong Kong.

Only one student, 15-year-old Law Wang-tat, a Catholic, drew an infant Jesus, but also himself "exchanging gifts" with Santa Claus.

Only three of the children could name Joseph as Jesus' father, but all of them could des(:ribe Santa Claus in detail. One secondary school Muslim student noted that "Santa Claus is everywhere."

"We noticed this kind of commercial influence two years ago, and have asked our students not to buy cards and gifts, for they are expensive," said Chan Kit-ying, principal of St. Francis of Assisi's Caritas School.

Some schools teach children to create their own Christmas cards if they really want to show their sincerity, although making cards can be time-consuming.

Ten of the students interviewed said they understood that sending cards is not ecological, but said that for convenience they would buy any cards they do send.

Catholic-run Sin To School teacher Cheung Sin-kuen said, "We tell our students to create instead of buy cards. So some just don't write any."

Yet, she said, most of the cards she did receive from students were handmade..

As another alternative, Protestant-run Chuen Yuen Second Primary School promotes charity fundraising cards for the Christmas season.

"But we advise the students to send the cards only to those they seldom visit," said Lee Yun-sang,' the principal.

Besides promoting self-made cards, St. Peter's Catholic Primary School introduces Christmas stories during Advent at its weekly assembly.

Many church schools observe Christmas with a Mas$ or worship service before the 10-day Christmas vacation begins. The services are usually followed by variety shows with hymn singing and dramas, bazaars and parties.

The celebrations are not restricted to Christian schools: Staff from some Islamic, Taoist and government schools said that they allow decorations and Christmas parties even though the schools do not initiate them.

Traditionally, most church-run schools decorated classrooms and campuses with a nativity scene, Christmas trees and the like.

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"When students resume class after the Christmas holidays, the festival has already passed. Decorating for Just one day's party is a waste," said Lee. Yet, children are children. Law, a P~otestant school student, said he and his classmates know decorating is not ecological, "but it is a fiesta time!"

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When I was a youngster, the door-to~door milkman became particularly popular during the holiday season - and not just for his eggnog.

You see, he had access to extra milk crates. In our . less-than-affluent neighborhood those crateS were like golc;l when it came to planning for Christmas dinner. , "We don't have to use a single underwear drawer tipped on end to seat anyone this year," my dad once bragged, "because we have an 'in' with Mel the milk guy. All the. kids have their own crates/' A grand cheer greeted his announcement.

Our relatives were duly impressed, especially my little cousin Dennis who usually ended up perched at the peak of Mount Ency<;iopedia. We would stack our used American volumes (A through S) until he could just about put his elbows on the wobbly, ducttaped card table that was an auxiliary dinner table for him and three other 6- and 7-year-olds.

Uncle Darryl, however, still insisted on using his own "holiday throne." The family-famous stool consisted of three pieces of sawed-off stove pipe lashed "together with bailing twine. On this he regally placed an authentic; fake crushed-velvet horse blanket folded square. .

Our current folding-cha.ir rich society has lost something here. We once took pride in how many people We could jam into a house designed for three and. then seat them for Christmas dinner. " The fact that they were seated on 2-by-12s hung' between camping coolers was beside the point.

Maybe it was the·point. Attending the celebration of Jesus' birthday surrounded by love,and seated on

an ironing board laid flat between milk crates is hard to beat.

We still tell the story of how Uncle Fred flipped a forkful of pumpkin pie onto the ceiling whc:n he went over backward off his "chair" - a large: hunk of firewood standing on end; topped With, a throw pillow. .

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My 'cousin Randall actually enjoyed, I t;link, sitting atop an upside-down milking pail capped by the Webster's Collegiate Dictionary. This led to offcolor jokes about his mode of learning and future educational challenges. ' He would just smile at us as he ate pitted black· olives off his fingertips, probably knowing the whole time he was headed to becoming a successful dentist.

"Making do". was what it was all about. Come to think of it, that's pretty much what Josep:~ and his pregnant wife, Mary, did that Christmas Eve a couple thousand years ago.

Make positive changes for the new Ylear . DearDr. Kenny: Withthe new year, my wife·and I . - Start a Sunday night video club with three or would like to take advantage of the chance to make four other couples. Take turns renting a video and some changes in ou~ lives. However, w~are getting providing the popcorn. You may want to choose a . 'tired of the same old refrain of "don'ts." We want to theme, e.g. murder mysteries, adventUl:e films, add something to 'our lives, not subtract, put someco~edies, etc.. thing new in with the new year. Any ideas? (Indiana) I agree with you. Be p~sitive. Life is brief and you' don't want to miss anything. Here are a few random . thoughts that might get your own inind started. .. ·:"':"'St'frt.an indoor garden. Use a window box to plant some flowers under a bright neon light. Or pl~nt salad vegetables. " . With Dr. James ~.

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Mary Kenny And then to a children's museum: - Begin the habit of eating only veggie and fruit snacks. Start by keeping a "snack tray" i'n your. refrigeraior.:; . ~ - Start your own personal well ness program: ,- Say night prayers,.before c1imbing'into bed. . eati.ng and ex·ercise. Eat breakfast, lower fats and :'--':' Plant a'tree. . ' wal~ or jog 20.!T'inutes a day. Keep a chart on your - Apply to be·foster-parents. : -'progress. .

-. Learn to play the guitar. Commit yourself to . .,..., Visit your local library on one night ea.ch week .for an hour.~Librariestoday have become fun places, . two h'ours each week,-'Get'a beginner's'book from the library or "pkk" with a friend. Set a specific time., .:, ~ with lots to d'o and see and hear.

- Apply to be a Big Brother or a mentor ·for ~. Recycle. Crush cans, save papers and start children, or a court-appointed special advocate. composting. Love and save the earth, God':s gift to - Become a volunteer driver for Meals on us.

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- Commit two deliberate acts of kindness each· - Visit one state park on the last Saturday ofeacn week. As brief as saying hello to a stranger or month.,~ ., .involv~d as a visit to someone confined in a hospital - Open a "needy" account. P!Jt in 10 percent of or nursing home. Keep track of'your"kindnesses"'on yo.ur paycheck and keep it available for those .you the calendar. Charting helps. know who have sudden and pressing needs.

- Climb a mountain or at least a hill. Find your - Plan to plant flowers around your house. Start neatest high spot, get to the top and meditate.

- Smile more. If you don't feel like smili ng, fake now bi looking in 'the catalogues for what you will it. Have a Happy New Year.!· want to 9rder in ApriL

Plans rolling for '97 World Youth Day

By Lynne Weil . VATICAN CITY (CNS) Although eight months remain before the next World Youth Day, planners already are stirring up 'support for the material'and spiritual preparations for the event.

Local communities commemorate World Y9uth Day every year, and an international celebration is held every two years in a different location. Paris will host the next celebration in August 1997. . .The Paris archdiocese is ~n­ couraging local residents to host young people, who are expected to come mostly from Europe, but will also be traveling from faraway countries, according to Msgr.

Renato Boccardo, an official in charge of yOlIth affairs at the Pontifical Council for the Laity.

"Above all, the idea is that the

young people can lodge with families, sharing in this way the daily life of .a family, promoting dialogue, mutual understanding and the exchange 'of experience," Msgr.

Boccardo said in an interview with Vatican Radio Dec. 9.

Pope John Paul I I is expected to .appear.at least twice in the fiveday event; at a prayer vigil on the last day. Leading up to these occasions will be Masses led by church officials in France and from various o~her parts of the world, getacquainted meetings and projects to support the poor. .

Organizers said they anticipate more than 200,000 young people will participate in World Youth

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Day 1997. Attendance in previous years has ranged from lon,ooo to 250,000.

Msgr. Boccardo said logistical preparations are under way, but they are overshadowed in importance by spiritual preparati,)'ns that the pope asked participants to undertake when he announced the theme of the next World Youth Day: the question posed by the disciples to Jesus in the Gospel of St. John, "Master, where do you live?" and his response, "Come and see."

"And so, in accepting this invitation of the pope, the young people will come to Paris reflecting, p'raying, searching fOf the way through their own action from the point of view of personal encounte_~ w,it.I!,_God," M.~gr. Be'eca,rdo said.

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PRAISE mE LORD In my recent illness, I sincerely thank Bishop Sean O'Malley for his kindness and support; Father Thomas O'Dea for assuming administration of Sacred Heart Parish in my absence; to the Clergy, Deacons, Nuns, Relatives and Friends for their prayers, and the members of the many parishes who sent Get-Well cards; the staff at the Saint Anne's Hospital Oncology Center and the staff at Our Lady's Haven for their excellent care, the Cardinal Medeiros Residence, and the Priests' Hoster personnel for a comfortable convalescence. I am now in good health and have resumed my ministry at Sacred Heart Church due to the power of your prayers and the Holy Spirit working through the expert m,~dical assistance. You have enabled me to continue celebrating life.

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It was so much easier for me to meditate this Advent because 1had a beautiful chant tape to listen to. I received a pre-release edition of a most unusual 'CD called "Women in Chant- Gregorian Chants for the Festal Celebrations of the Virgin Martyrs and Our Lady of Sorrows." It is sung by the choir of Benedictine nuns, at the Abbey of Regina Laudis in Bethlehem, COl1n., directed by noted chant instructor Theodore Marier.

The idea for recording this music originated with Tom Pomposello, a New York City music producer, two years ago ~fter he put on a production at the abbey in which the nuns sang a requiem. "This music, was too beautiful not to have a record of it," Pompo'sello told me. He approached the abbess; Mother Benedict Duss, foundress of this Bene,dictine'monastery.

While she supported the idea, Mother Duss had her own thoughts on what music they would sing.

"I was always devoted to the four virgin martyrs, Agnes, Lucia, Cecilia and Agatha. They all have a different Mass with original, basic liturgies. I thought if we tried to make a CD incorporating the liturgies of these four women, it would be interesting to present them to the public," said the abbess.

"And because we are a women's community, we thoughtit woul:d be good to choose texts that exem-' , plify what we are trying, in our own way, to actually live," she adde,d. "The virgin martyrs all share a common response to Christ, yet each one is an original woman, and her music is original."

Mother Duss explained that Gregorian chant was named after St.iGregory the Great. He was the sixthcentury pope who'is credited with wanting music in the service of Pod to be distinctly sacred, sounding a harmonic view of the universe that reflects the divine order of creation.

Pomposello's wife, Pat, said that working on the CD became "a love affair for all of us. We have no . words to descri1;>e t~e amazing blessing it was for us."

Mother Duss. herself, now 8,6, sings the final chant blessing on the 'tape~ with responses from the nuns.

The CD is accompanied by a 40-page illustrated booklet containing an interview with Mother Duss, reflections on t'he virgin p1artyrs and Our Lady of Sorrows, and translations of the chant texts.

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Fourth week of Advent STIR UP your power and come, WI: ask you, 0 Lord, and with great might succor us; • that our deTtv·' erance, , \ . .which our sins im'- pede, may be hastened by the help •• ~ of your g r a c'! and the for~, giveness I. of your mercy, who lives and reigns 'with GO~[ the Father in the unity of the Holy Spirit/' God, world without ent. Amen.

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DETROIT (CNS) - It's time for older Catholics "to turn over 'the keys.to the car' of the church" to younger Catholics by passing on church tradition and evangelizing young people, according to the pastor of a large Chicago suburban parish.

"We who have been schooled in the tradition of the church need to pass it on. We need to collaborate and then surrender in trust," said Father Patrick Brennan, pastor of Holy Family parish in the Chicago suburb of Inverness.

He noted that 75 percent of Catholics worldwide are what he called functionally unchurched":' they have beeri baptized and confirmed but are inactive except to attend Mass about twice a year, usually at Christmas and Easter.

In the United States, he added, the church population is aging and not being replaced by members of the younger generations. . In a talk on "Tradition and McChurch: Baby Busters and Generation Xers" at the Call to Action Conference in Detroit iii November, Father Brennan challenged active Catholics to reach out and evangelize, especially to the young.

His own parish has a inembership of 3,200 households and a large lay staff made up of people who are in their 20s and 30s.

Father Brennan is the only ordained priest on the fulltime staff.

An estimated 1,900 adult parish-" ioners are involved in social action or small faith communities. The parish produces a quarterly newspaper delivered to 3,900 households, a cable TV Mass aired in six nearby. towns, and a radio program heard on four local stations.

But even in his active parish, Father Brennan said, "we are preaching to the choir." The staff estimates 60 percent of Catholics in the parish are functionally unchurched.

"We are a very articulate maintenance churc~, reaching a small

, part of the alienated and un- energy today" was one of baffle. ment and annoyance be,:ause they churched," he added.

Using psychoanalyst Erik Erik- seemed to imply that worship has son's description of lifelong psy- to be entertainment, he added.

But by applying the process of chological maturing in adults, Father "Brennan called the U.S. inculturation, one would ask "what Catholic Church a "midlife church" are the human cries that might be undergoing a "corporate conver- . inherent in these comme:nts?"

"I hear them cry, 'Don't bore sion story" in which the challenge is to "get beyond self-nurture and me.... Capture me with worship that helps me feel the loving presself-concern."

Again using Erikson's terms, ence of a higher power.... Capture the p~iest said that "a group locked me with community in which I can in self-nurture is' an immature feel connection; reverence and regroup" and a. mark of maturity is sponsibility,''' he said. being generative, having the abilThe church, Father BreDnan ity to reach out and include others said~ clearly articulates to its memin the group. . . . . bers a seven-step proc(:ss for reFather Brennan likened the task cruiting.new members . of reaching out to the young to the "Someone you know needs work of missionaries who bring Christ, connect with them," Father the message of the Gospel to a for- Brennan said, describing their first eign culture. ' step. Then comes telling that perMissionaries seek to "incultu- son "about the difference Christ rate" the Gospel, he said, but treat has made in your life." the culture they are entering with Next comes inviting people to a respect. They also look at the cul- service and Scripture Btudy, inture, he said, and ask: "What is 0'[ volving them in a small Christian Jesus? What is congruent with the community, helping them "discern Gospel? What is Christ and what is their gifts" and use their gifts, and anti-Christ? What structures and finally, inviting them "t:> steward strategies in the culture can be their talents and treasure," he said. used to bring the richness of our Father Brennan suggl:sted that tradition to (the) now and the Catholic parishes devise and evalfuture?" uate pilot programs for outreach, According to Father Brennan, so that parishes can learn from active Catholics need the same each other. He suggeBted that approach when they enter the cul- Catholics also could learn from . ture of those under age 40 the active programs of thl: evangelknown as the "baby busters," those ical churches, who "care (:nough to - born after the baby boom, and the evangelize."

Generation Xers, the children of Speaking of the early Christian the baby boomers. church, Father Brennan noted that He said the church needs to be the first Christians con:llected in able to ·listen to the language of relational groups around values to young adults, which he described change society. as a psychologized language, the "We need to get away from prolanguage of the business and com- grams and into groups,''' he said. puter world.

"We need to work on vocation, Young adults, he noted, often formation and training of the faithcomment on the "energy" of the ful to do the work. That is what liturgy: His first reaction to com- God is calling us to do. Read the ments about "low energy" or "good tea leaves." .

Shoppers shy ~from sweatshop products WASHINGTON (CNS) - For the second year in a row, consumers told pollsters they would be willing to pay extra for goods they know were r,nade without sweatshop labor and that they would avoid shopping at retailers they know sell items made under undesirable conditions. Six out of every 10 people surveyed in the study for Catholic-run Marymount University in Arlington, Va., said they would be more likely to do their holiday buying at stftres that cooperate to end abuse of garment workers. Seventy-nine percent of the survey respondents said they would avoid retailers that they' knew sold garments made insweat~ shops, while 63 percent said they would be more inclined to patronize' a store that cooperates. with labor law enforcement efforts.

THE NATIONAL Christmas tree stands aglow n~ar the White House Dec. 5. President Clinton along with a group of children flipped the switch on the garland-draped 40-foot tree.

Thousands of people gathered in Washington for the annual Pageant .of Peace. (CNS/ Reuters photo)

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By Father Eugene Hemrick May the active participation of all the church's people in its mission. inspired by Vatican Council II, blossom to the fullest in 1997!

My wish for the new year is that less attention will be focused on how clergy differ from laity and more emphasis placed on how we can work side by side .. , Dramatic realitie~ cry out for this. We have fewer priests in America. Coupled with that is the fact that managing a parish is a complex job. Other challenging realities include the church's loss of members to other faith groups and the impact of societal problems on families and individuals.

"Stretched' is an adjective commonly used to describe today's priesthood. A growing number of priests cannot take a day off because there aren't other priests to fill in for them. Some celebrate as many as five Masses a day, with t«to or three being funerals or weddings needing 'extra-special care. In rural a{eas it is becoming more common for a priest to be pastor of two parishc:s.

Many ask how much longer this can continue? But docs it have to continue?

When I was in Argentina recently, an archbishop gave me a book of prayers lIsed when a priest cannot be present to cc:lebrate Mass.

The book, in itself, was an admission that if the 'Church is to continue to be effective, it needs the work of the laity and that priests should not see themselves doing everything on their own.

One of the beauties of.Vatican Council II is that it faced. t~e real-

ity that it is detrimental to the church if we view prieSts as the ones responsible for everything. This deters active participation by the people, which is necessary for a more vital church.

If 1 look to 1997 for greater lay participation, my wish for this new year also is that we will more actively encourage evangelization efforts by all our diyerse cultural groups. We are losing Catholic Hispanics and Asi~ns to other faith groups. But does this have to be? 1 think not - not if we can come up with inspiring programs that encourage Hispanic and Asian Catholics to take an even more active role in reaching out to those who feel isolated, oppressed or forgotten.

Another wish I have for 1997 is that pastors who spend a considerable amount of time on nonpastoral work willlaunch a relentless talent hunt for others to tend the books and make the repairs.

Managing a parish has become a business which requires special skills the laity possess. Ifthis talent is sought out more vigorously, pastors will be more able to be good "pastors."

Finally, my wish is that in 1997 many more parishioners will become active in performing the spiritual and corporal works of mercy needed to give support to people wht> suffer. PariShe$ are in a position to serve AIDS victims and their families, and' pa'rents who need support groups to help in coping with their children's actions, and whose wounded by alcoholism and its effects.

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'A MISSIONARY of Charity holds up a baby to, a portrait of Mother Teresa Dec. 7 at the nuns' home for children in eastern Calcutta, India. (CNS/ Reuters photo)

Mother Teresa has second shock treatmt~nt ,CALCUTTA, India (CNS) ::The hospital said she experienced Doctors successfully performed a breathing problems around 2:30 a.m'. Dec:I?, the morning after the second electric shock treatment . Dec. 16 to correct Mother-Teresa's procedure. heart rhythm, said a hospital "It lasted for a few minutes and spokesman. she w~s put on an oxygen m~sk," A medical bulletin said Mother the. hospital said in a medical bulTeresa's heart "went back into letin. "She is all right riow. She had ---::=::::::: ~. .' ,~.~-". ' jrregular rhythm ... this happened her m.orning tea around ?:4~ a.m. arid her prayer." ,, spontaneously during the night."

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Indian Prime Minister H.D. "Last evening she was"in a better position and we thought it was , De~e Gowda visited Mother Teresa . wise to 'conduct cardiovascular . and presented her with a bouquet therapy on her. We cannot do this of roses on the afternoon of Dec. 17.. . _= -;:" ,- ". i;:'. ,f)ZLP.-i>~;'I.LJli'c .//., - ,. .. ,. ", unless she is perfectly well," said ' C I V t.:::"'B~C/ . .' ~.

A. K. Chatterjee, hospital spokes"She is doing better," Gowda man. "It involves some amount of told reporters. "I gave her roses Divin~'Will risk .... It was a success."

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The 86-year-old Nobel laureate threatened' to stop' taking food Dec. 16 if she were not allowed to go home.

"Mother Teresa didn't have anytl1ing throughout the mbrning, saying 'that she would not have anything to· eat unless ,she was released," 'said ·<;:hatterjee. "But ultimately the doctors could convince her and in the afternoon she had a late lunch.:" . That evening, d'octors, said, Mother Teresa called sisten of her Missionaries of Charity order and playfully-asked them to s€:nd an ambulance to pick her up.

Mother Teresa underwent angioplasty at the Birla center Nov. 29 to remove blockages in two of her major coronary arteries.

MASS CITIZENS FOR LIFE The Fall River chapter is sponsoring a musical pro-life video presentation produced by St. John"s Productions. It will be aired on Fall River cable channel ,13 at 1:30 p.m. on 12/24, 1/7, 1/14, and 1{21.

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to me the doors and make me enter into It to form my life, all in You, Divine Will. Therefore, oh adorable Will, prostrate before CATHEDRAL, FR The Cathedral choir and its handYour Light, I, the least of all creatures, put myself into the little bell choir will perform old favorite group of the sons and daughters of Your Supreme FIAT. Proscarols Dec. 29 at 3 p.m. at St. Mary's trate in my nothin'gness, I invoke Your Light and beg that It Cathedral, Spring St., Fall River. clothe me and eclipse all"that does not pertain to You"Divine Everyone is welcome to this free December 23 concert and there will be special Will. It will be my Life,' the center of my, intelligence, the 1901, Rev. Owen J. Kiernan, arrangements sung by the guest cham- . enrapturer of my heart and of my whole being. I do not want Pastor, Immaculate Conception, HOLY TRINITY, W. HARWICH ber chorus "Sine Nomine."

Perpetual adoration will begin on Fall River the human will to have life in this heart any longer. I will cast it DAUGHTERS OF ISABELLA Jan.'19 after the noon Mass. This , Charles P. Trainor, 1947, Rev. away, from me and thus form the new Eden of Peace, of bappiThe Benedict Circle #61 Daugh- will be a regional effort and needs , SS., cSt. Edward Seminary, Seatness and of love: With It I shall be always happy. I shall have a ters of Isabella will sponsor a memo- th~ support of all believers, Call tle, Washington rial Mass for Rev. Justin Quinn on coordinators Jan or John Jllnnell, singular strength anda holiness that sanctifies all things and 1970, Rev. Msgr. John A. SilDec. 21 at the 10:15 a.m. Mass at tel. 430-0014, to cOl1}mit yourself to conducts them t6 Go~f., . . via, Pastor Emeritus, St. John Madonna Manor in Attleboro. a specific hour weekly. ' , 'Here, prostrate, Jiri.voke th~' helpof,the Mo~t Holy Trinity, , Baptist, New Bedford 1986, Rev. William E. Collard, that They permit me to liveJn, the' cloister of the Divine Will ' Daily Readings ,Cochaplain, Catholic Memorial \ arid thus return"'in 'm~ ~he'"fi~?t ~.rder of crea~io!l, just as tl:te Home, Fall, Ri~er Dec. 23: Mai 3: 1-4, 23-24; Dec. 29: Gn i5: 176; 21: I, creature was created. - ., '. "'. -. ' Lk 1:57-66 3; Ps 105:1-6,8-9; Heb 11:8,illD'ecember 24 ~ ,HeavEmlyMother, Sdv~eigria~d:'Queen of the DivinEi Rat,:' 1886, Rev. Jame~ .K. Beaven, Dec. 24: 2 Sm i:I_5,8b_12,l7-19;~k2:22-40or2:22,~19.tal<e'my hand.and introduce me into fhe Light of the Divine 12,14a,16; lk 1:67-79 40 or Sir 3:2.-6,1.2-14; Ps , Will:: You will b~ my guide" my most tender Mother, and will' , 'Pastor, Sllc.red. Hea~t, Tal/ntpn 1914, Rev. Timothy- J, Duff,· .

128: 1-5; CoI3:12-17:or 3:l2~ ... ·teach me toJive in a~d to maintain myself in the order- and ~he 'Assistant, SUoseph; W.oo?(Hole .

Dec. 25: Vigil:-Is 62':1-5;' 21; lk 2:22~40 or 2:22,39~,~0 bound$. of ,the ,Divine. Will. Heavenly Mother., I consecrate my , December 27 , Ps 89:4-,~,16-17,27.29: Acts Dec. 30': 1 In 2:12~11; lk whOle being to YoUr.Immacuiate Heart: You will teach me the 1956, Rev. Thomas). Stapleton, ,', , 13:16-17,22-~5;. Mt. 1:1-25 2:36~40 . doctrin¢ of-the Divine Will and.! !Nilllisten most 9ttentively, to Pastor, Corpus Christi, Sandwich', or 1:18-25 MIdnight Is 9:1" 1970, Rev. Msgr. Armand LevasYour leSsons. You will cover me with Your mantle so that the 6; Ps 96:1-3,11-13; Ti 2:11D~c. 3~: 1 In 2:18-21; .In seur, Pastor -Emeritus; St. Anne, infernal serpent dare not penetrate into this sacred Eden to New Bedford .

14; Lk 2:1-14 'Dawn: Is 62: 1:1-18· entice me and make me fall into the maze of the human will.

1995, Rev. Manual A. Andrade 11-12; Ps 97:1,6,11-12; Ti Jan. 1: Nm 6:22-27;, I)s Heart of my greatest Good, Jesus, You will give me Your - December 28 , flames that they may burn me, consume me, and feed me to ,'3:4:7; lk 2:15-20 Day: Is 67:2-3,5-6,8; lk 2:16-21 1955, Rev. Charles R. Smith, form in me the Life of the Divine Will.

52:7-10; Ps 98:1-6; Heb 1:1Jan. 2: Is 60:1-6; Ps 72:1Pasto'r, Immaculate Conception, Saint Joseph, you will be my protector, the guardian of my Fall River 6; In 1:1-18 or 1:1-5,9-14 2,7-8,10-13; Mt 2:1-12 heart, and will keep the keys of my will in your hands. You will 1987, Rev. Edward J. Sharpe, Dec. 26: Acts 6:8-10; 7:54Jan. 3: 1 In 3:22,4-6; I's keep my heart jealously and shall never gi"e it to me again, - Pastor, St. Patrick, Somerset 59; Mt 10:17-22 2:7-8,10-11; Mt4:12-17,23-~!5 1987, Rev. Clement Paquet, that I may be. sure of never leaving the Will of God. O. }>., Assistant, St. Anne, Fall Dec. 27: 1 In 1:1-4; In Jan. 4: 1 In 4:7-10; f's My guardian Angel, guard me; defend me; help me in everyRiver 20:2-8 .

72:1-4,7-8; Mk 6:34-44 thing so that my Egen may flourish and be the instrument that December 30 draws all men into the Kingdom of the Divine Will. Amen.

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By Dave Jolivet Anchor Stafr When she first appeared to Juan Diego in December of 1531 near Mexico City, Our Lady ofGuadalupe was wearing a black sash, a Spanish and Aztec symbol indicating she was pregnant at the time of the apparition. She also came at a time when human life was routinely sacrificed to sun and moon gods. The image she left behind on the tilma (cloak) of Juan Diego has prompted thousands through the years to convert to Christianity and others to rededicBlte their lives to Jesus. In 1945 Our Lady of Guadalupe was designated as patronness of all the Americas by Pope Pius XII. Today, Our Lady of Guadalupe is also the patroness of the pro-life movement in the United States.

Therefore, it was only 'fitting that on her feast day, Dec. 12, the students and faculty of Holy Family-Holy Name School in New Bedford, and the seventh and eighth graders at Holy Name School in Fall River were consecrated to Our Lady of Guadalupe. The idea came from Marian Desrosiers, assistant director of the Pro-Life Apostolate in the Diocese of Fall River, and leader of Faith In Action instruction at both schools.

"Our Lady of Guadalupe came as as a reminder to the people of that time to stop sacrificing babies, children and adults. Today there is a need for people to consecrate themselves to Our Lady and respect life," said Mrs. Desrosiers.

Cecilia Felix, principal at Holy Family-Holy Name School said, "The words we spoke this morning are not just empty words, rather, they are words of fB.ith, love and reverence." Not all the children gathered in one room for the consecration ceremony. A representative from each class was selected to ·attend. and the remainder of the students took part in their classrooms, while the consecration took place over the school public address system. The consecration prayer read as follows:

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Mother of God. I choose today in the presence ofmy guardian angel and all the heavenly saints. t(J consecrate myse/fto yo'ur Immaculate Heart. under the title of Our Lady of Guadalupe. I pledge that I will love and serve you always and do whatever I can do to bring others to love and serve you, I pray, most kind and loving Mother of God. that I will be your child and servant forever. Assist me in all my thoughts, words and actions at every moment of my life. May my every step and breath be directed to the greater glory of God. Through your prayers. obtain for me that I may never hurt my beloved Jesus. May I glorify Him in this life and may I someday be with you both in heaven forever.

In order to live thiS promise, as Juan Diego did, I will try to lead a life of prayer and sacrifice. I will say the rosary often and offer itfor those who offend your Immaculate Heart. Amen.

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the participants also asked Our Lady of Guadalupe to bless and protect the United States. Each child received a medal of Our Lady of Guadalupe.

"Many traditions have gone by the wayside, and we need them back," said Ms. Felix ofthe consecration ceremony.

The representatives at the consecration ceremony were: Jessica Bernier, K; Kelly Hogan, Gr. I; Adrianno Almeida III, Gr. 2; Michael Rock, Gr. 3; Jayhna Colbert, Gr. 4; Melissa Tangue and Craig Silva, Cir. 5; Sandra Adjoumani, Gr. 6; Michael Greeley, Robert Masso'ud, David Karaleka, Patrick Hogan, Meghan Brady and Joseph Morris, Gr. 7; Aaron Lavalee and .Brandon Leca, Gr. 8, Janice Machnowski, teacher in charge.

At Holy Name School in Fall River, Mrs. Desrosiers incorporated the consecration of the sev-

THE ANCHOR-Diocese of Fall River-Fri., Dec. 20, 1996 enth and eight graders as part of her Faith In Action presentation on pro-life. "I thought this was a good way of underlining the importance of life"and the importance that Our Lady places on life," said school principal Dennis Poyant.

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THE BISHOP ,Feehan High Scl1oo,l, Attlebor,o,,football team celebrated its 32-3 vi<:tory 'Also c'onside~~d ,w.ere Hispanic stu~ies, de,partir!ents,.;·campus or~ over rival Coyle-Cassidy'High School, Taunton, on Thanksgiving Day..CoachGa,ry Dohe:rty's ganiiatioris~',fa<;ulty; administra- I team earned its third Consecutiv.e Eastern Athletic Conference (EAC) ,championship. The: dog tors and other ~~Fv,ices designed to pictured is "Butkus," team mascot and Coach,:DohertY'~dog. help Hispanidttidents succeed.

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. The winter. sports schedule has served in'the schoollibrai'y follow- the Alumni and Development begun in earnest with both-the ing the liturgy. " Office, Bishop Feehan High S,:hool, boys' ,s\vim ,team 'and, the winter . 70 Holcott Drive, 'AttlebofCi, MA .track teams participating in their Nominations are being accepted "02703., conference relays at Milfo~d. T.he for the school's annual DistinNominations are also being acboys, under the direction of Coach ,guished Alumni Awards ,night to ',' cepted':for the'I997 Athletic: Hall Rod Mc Garry (Fe~han 1990) fin- , be held on February 10 at' 7:00 of Fame, Ariyo'ne having a 1I0miished a commendable second in . p.m. in the school's library. There. nation may submit that to Hall the Southern' C'6nferen'ce Relay ,are three categories: Distinguished; Fame Committee' c/o Paul, B. CarnivalheldPec.ember 14, while, Alumni (those whose lives and O'Boy, Athletic Director, 70 Holtrack, under the direction of Laurie service have had a direct irrtpact cott Drive, Attleboro, MA 02703.

Blake, finished second at the East- ~pon the school), Honorary Alum- . The annual induction will take ern Athletic Conference' (EAC) ni (those who are not graduates of place the first week of May, 1997, Bishop Feehan, but have served) Bishop Feehan High School will relays at Whe~ton College.

Th ' b k tb 11 t and the Alumni Humanitarian dismiss for the Christmas holiday ~ d bOY~ ~~ e a eam Award (given to a graduate'who' at the con,clusion of school (2:15 ~oac e y ~tOh' ar,ron, ~pe~e d t life has put service before self). p.m.)' 'December 20. CIasse:; will ItS season WI a game agams N .. 'b b' d . , B' h St' . th' D' ht" R ommatlOns may e su mltte to resume on January 2, 1997.

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By Charlie Marlin What were your favorite songs in 1996?

The year-end countdown shows have reminded us who did what in 1996. Yet you don't have to be a music guru to know what you liked best about music i,n 1996.

I was surprised to realize that so many of my columns reviewed new artists' work.

Newcomer Donna Lewis hit the top of the charts. Her "I Love You Always Forever" celebra.tes romantic infatuation.

Other new voices bdonged to teenagers LeAnn Rimes and Amanda Marshall. Rimes turned a remake of"Blue" into instant chart success. Marshall gave us "Birmingham," a haunting ballad about a woman's courage in dealing with, the truth about a relationship. In this category, I also liked Patti Rothberg's message about pretending to be OK when one really feels lonely "Inside."

Not technically a "nc:w face" on the pop music scene, Alanis Morrissette made her greatest impact on the charts in 1996. I particularly liked her chart-topping "You Learn," The song describes how most life situations can be learning situations that foster our growth, provided we pause to see the lessons offered.

The year' 1996 was especially popular for music soundtracks.

Leading the way was the multihit disc from "Waiting to Exhale," which included some of the best known black pop stars, I reviewed Brandy's "Sittin' Upin My Room," Mary J. Blige's "Not Gon' Cry" and Whitney Houston's and CeCe Winans' "Count on Me." These songs prompted reflection on taking care of oneself wh~n romance fails.

Disney gave us its newest animation, "The Hunchback of Notre Dame," and from it AII-4-0ne's hit "Someday." The song p~om­ ised that "Someday, life will be fairer, need will be rarer, greed will not pay," and prayed "Godspeed this bright millennium on its way."

While it is easy to share that hope, what'teens do today, indeed, what each of us does, is what counts. The message df Jesus asks for action. The world ch~nges ,because of y'our choices, your caring. ' No matter how we classify music, we all have personal favorites ..

Here's my Top Five for 1996: 5. "Flood": The.Christian group Jars of Clay crossed over to the pop charts with this hit. Beyond the fact that the song highlighted some of the. talent in Christian rock, I appreciated its message about d~pending on and trusting in God. .

4. "Because You Loved Me": Yes, a part of me always remains a

The silent treatment

By Christopher Carstens The silent treatment will never It's one of those things that solve the problem that led to the happens: You get angry at your argument. We solve our emotional mom, or she gets mad at you. disputes with words, and stopping Maybe it's your dad. This works the flow of words makes any solution impossible. the same with males or females.

Somebody gets so mad that he or In fact, the silent treatment inevitably makes things worse. The she refuses to talk.

Usually it goes on for a few person dishing out silence has ashours and then words, - friendly sumed a position of power: the or not - are exchanged again, and power to withhold. Usually the the ordinary communication of goal is complete surrend'er - not negotiation, not a mutual solufamily life resumes.

Now and then, however, some- tion, but surrender. The victim of body won't give in, What follows the silent treatment is supposed to is "the silent treatment,"&-Often beg for mercy.

Sometimes the person does so, only one person in the argument clams up, jutting out an angry jaw in resignation. But almost as often when the other says, "'Please, just the response is an angry rage talk. I know we can work this out." and more withdrawal.

It gets pretty silly. "John," she If you have a problem with a says, "ask Margaret to pass the member of your family, and your goal is never ever to solve that butter?"

"Margaret, would you give Mom problem, the silent treatment is great. If you persist long enough, the butter?"

"OK, but I could hear her my- you can drive a wedge in the middle of your family that nobody can self."

After a few days it gets ugly. I've ever repair.

And what should you do if you seen cases where a father and son' went on for months, not speaking, are the target of the silent treatacting as if the other wasn't even in ment? ' I'd recommend that you be just the room.

On the all-time list of ways 'to as stubborn as the silent one - but ruin relationships in a family, the instead of keeping silent, you keep silent treatment ranks up there talking. Refuse to acknowledge the silent treatment. Go qn speaknear the top, just below violence.

Some Christian communities of ing as if nothing was different. Ask earlier days, not believing in tak- questions even if you get no ing human life, used a brutal form answers. Directly answer questions. of punishment for those who broke the silent partner tries asking their most important rules. They through others.

Don't say, "I can't believe you're would shun the offender.

Once the shunning was an- being so destructive."· It's probnounced, no member of the com- ably not a good idea. Rather, by munity would spe'ak to that person continuing to talk, you say again again. Wherever that person went and again, "I don't recognize this in the village, it was as if he or she division - I have a continuing did not exist. To be shunned' was relationship with you," Keep it up, and it's almostcerto cease existing in the community.

If you spoke with someon'e who tain that the silent partner will was shunned, you could be shunned relent.

Your comments are welcome. yourself.

The silent treatment is our ver- Please address: Dr. Christopher sion of shunning, and it's a really Carstens, c/o Catholic 'News Serrotten thing to do to somebody vice, 3211 Fourth ~t. N.E., Washington, D.C. 20017. you care about.

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romantic! Yet the fact remains: A healthy love for others does them a great amount of good.

3. "One Swell! Day": Mariah Carey and Boyz II Men reminded us that, always, love is stronger than death.

2. "I nsensitive": I loved Jann Arden's vocals (10 this song about being aware of, and careful toward, the other persoll when building a romance.

I. "Reach": !Even if you were tired of all the hype around the summer Olympics, Gloria Estefan offered an important message. You can discover your goals and passions. You can believe deeply in yourself: You can affirm the signif, icance of everyone's life and, most important, you'r life.

Did I leave anything out? No . doubt I did! So have fun putting together your own list.

Even more important than my above comments, I want to thank the many who wrote with comments and suggestions during 1996.

Your feedback made this column more helpful to your fellow teens.

I'm asking God to guide us all as we enter into a new year of discovery, challenges and learning. God bless you.

Your comments are always welcome. Please address: Charlie Martin,RR 3, Box 182, Rockport, Ind. 47635.

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