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Pope calls for healing SO ROn, Uganda (CNS) During his 10th trip to Africa Feb. 3-10, Pope John Paul II called for healing of'ethnic and religious div~ isions, peace efforts and international cooperation, and compassion for the continent's many AIDS victims. In Uganda, on the second leg of the three-nation trip, he blessed AIDS sufferers, held separate meetings with the nation's Catholic and Anglican bishops, and prayed at a shrine to the Ugandan martyrs. The pope flew to Uganda Feb. 5 after two days in Benin, where he urged Christians, Muslims and followers of traditional African religions to show respect for each others' beliefs. In Cotonou, Benin, the pope met the chief of Benin's vodun cult, the ancient animist religion that was translated, after mixing with some Catholic practice, into Caribbean voodoo. Concluding the trip, the pope was to make a oneday stop in wartorn Sudan Feb. 10. ' At a youth gathering in Kampala, Uganda, Feb. 6, where the pope listened to young AIDS victims, the roar of the crowd of 30,000 turned quiet when a 13year-old girl told the pope she had been raped and now has the AIDS vIrus. Veronica Chansa, dressed in her blue and white school uniform, told the pope, "Holy Father, your little daughter Veronica stands here as a challenge to others" to follow "good behavior." "Chastity is the only safe and virtuous way to put an end to the tragic plague of AIDS," the pope told the young people. An estimated 1.5 million Ugandans have the human immunodeficiency virus that causes AIDS. The country has reported 35,000 full-blown cases of the disease, the largest number on the African continent. At St. Francis Hospital in Nsambya, on the outskirts of Kampala Feb. 7, the pope kissed 4-year-old Solomon on the cheek. The beaming little boy in a new white satin suit with gold cummerbund and bow tie has the human immunodeficiency virus which causes AIDS. Father Steve Collins, a Scottish member of the Missionaries of Africa, bought Solomon's new suit and made sure the pope blessed the little boy. During the hospital visit, the pope blessed dozens of sick people, many of whom have AIDS and most of whom have tested HIV positive. Others had advanced cases of Hansen's disease. The pope left a written message addressed to all the sick of Uganda. He said the challenge of AIDS must be faced by everyone with "much love and care for the vic-

tims, with much generosity to the orphans and with much commitment to a renewed way of Christian moral living." Father Collins runs, the AIDS Widow and Orphan Family support program with funding from the U.S. Agency for International Development's World Learning program. Solomon's mother, 32-year-old Immaculata, is the sales manager for the project's cottage industries. Immaculata, who did not want her last name used, said she was thrown ,out of her family's house after her husband died of AIDS in 1991; She said "behavior change" is the only way to stop the spread of the disease in Uganda. But "the women are more willing to change then the men," she said. "Here polygamy is taken as a sign of status," she said, adding that her husband had two other wives. More than 400 families, with an average of six children each, are involved with Father Collins' proJ·ect. In addition to helping the widows support themselves, the project has encouraged each one to set up a savings account in her children's name for after her death.

too sick to work or they die, the' program gives the oldest child vocational training and prepares him or her to head the family. The women "are a ray of hope in this tragedy of AIDS," Father Collins said. "They keep on working and loving their children" although "they know they are going to die within five years." . Healing Divisions The divisions between Ugandan Anglicans and Catholics, reflected even in the country's political parties, was the focus of the pope's Feb. 7 meeting with Anglican bishops at the Anglican shrine to the Ugandan martyrs at Nakiyanja. The pope began the meeting with 10 minutes of prayer before a statue of the 13 Catholics and nine Anglicans who were burned alive there in 1886. Dying together, the Anglican and Catholic martyrs show Ugandans the power of the faith they share, the pope said. After the meeting the pope went to the Catholic shrine to the martyrs at Namugongo, less than a ml'le away. From the altar on a platform extending into an artificial lake, the pope said, "Christ's light shone bright in the great fire which consumed St. Charles Lwanga and his

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Highest ranking military woman has area roots By Pat McGowan Once a student at t he former Sacred Hearts Academy grammar S school in Fall River, wh en U.. Navy Rear Admiral Roberta Hazard retired last September at age . . 58, she was the highest rankmg . woman in any military service 10

she f was I' A two-star I h admiral, b Iteral y . a eart heat away t rom t promotIOn h h 'to " tree-star. s a fus w h en a pd"YSlclan b s warnmg h h t 0tha eart con ItlOn roug d .. h ... . t t er 't0 th e eClsJOn'blt ath' It" JUs wasn t t' h e responsl e t 109 0 con mue er 32 -year career. So on a steaming hot Washing-

•~W~h;e;·~~~~~~~~~llwnd~she~ood~attentionin Leutze Park at the Washington Third-graders help get vale~tines together ~e~in ';~~ ~orl;_gc;~e~f~ ~h:~ ST. JOSEPH, Minn. (CNS) Most suitors pop the question to their beloveds while on bended knee under the moonlight or during a romantic dinner with violin music playing in the background. Phil Polipnick is not most suitors. He was standing in broad daylight in ankle-deep snow sur.rounded by third-graders when he proposed marriage to Jacque Kuechle in December. When Ms. Kuechle looked out the window of her empty thirdgrade classroom at St. Joseph Lab School that day. she saw her students and those from Joan Beste's third-grade class holding up 12by-18-inch placards. each bearing a hot pink letter. spelling out "Will you marry me. Ms. Kuechlc'?" Polipnick held the question mark. Benedictine Sister Lcora Juettner. principal. then offered the flabbergasted teacher her choice of two hot-pink placards. one reading "yes." the other "no." "I must have read the words three times before they registered." said Ms. Kuechle. "When it finally did register. I backed away. put my hands on my face and said. 'Oh my God ...• The elaborate scenario leading to the proposal started when Sister Juettnerealled Ms. Kuechle out of

her classroom for a telephone call from her mother. This was not out of the ordinary. the teacher said. because her mother often calls asking her to run errands. But while Ms. Kueehle's mother was stalling her daughter. the third-graders were being hustled out of the school and handed the placards they had previously ha'ndlettered. Ms. Beste introduced Polipnick to the children. then added. "He

Who was Valentine? ROME (CNS) - Couples using Valentine's Day for extra huddling and cuddling owe their sharing of candies and kisses to a saint and some medieval bird watchers. Actually, it maybe two saints. History is unclear as to whether Feb. 14 is the martyrdom anniversary of one or two early Christians called Valentine. , According to the double Valentine theory, one was a priest in Rome and the other a bishop' of Term, a city 60 miles from Turn to Page II

wonders if you could help him ask Ms. Kuechle a question," "S he did n;t e\'en have to tell them what the question was." said Polipnick. "Kids arc smart as a whip in that way," "We kept waiting and waiting for her to come to the window." said Polipnick. "I suppose it was five minutes but it seemed like lOa,"

Meanwhile. inside. Ms. Kuechle told her mother that she had to get back to her class, When she returned. she found the room empty and a note on the door directing her to look out the window. So what was her answer'? "There was no 'Can we take some time to think about'?" card." she said. "So I grabbed the 'yes' card and slapped it smack up against the window." Below, the kids were screaming and yelling, "She said yes!" as Ms. K uechle, tears in her eyes, ran downstairs to hug and ki'ss Polipnick. "My favorite part was when I saw her crying." said Polipnick. "You know, before you propose you can be pretty confident. but \'Ou still ha\'e to sec and hear her ~nswer before you're 100 percent certain."

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concluded with the command, "Haul down Admiral Hazard's flag." But at its beginning, commenting on the "beastly hot" weather and demonstrating the concern for personnel that was a hallmark of her career, the admiral ordered the honor guard behind her to stand at ease and, if they wished, to move to a shady area. That they did not wish was probably in recognition of the fact that she too was sta nding in full sunshine. During the retirement ceremony, there was tribute after tribute to "our Bobbie," with one speaker quoting, "with gender-neutral pronouns," a description by 18thcentury naval hero John Paul Jones of the ideal naval officer and declaring that Admiral Hazard was the "absolute epitome" of such an officer. When she joined the Navy in 1960, women formed only 2 percent of its personnel; when she left, they amounted to 11.5 percent and their number included commanders of three ships, an aircraft carrier and many shore installations. Her Beginnings Admiral Hazard went to the Navy from an initially rewarding career as a high school history teacher following her magna cum Turn to Page II





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Sexual abuse by clergy. to be meeting topic WASHINGTON (<;::NS) - The problem of child sexual abuse by priests will be explored at a two-day session in St. Louis sponsored by the National Conference of Catholic Bishops' Committee on Priestly Life and Ministry. The Feb. 22-23 session will study



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the problem of child sexual abuse in society; prevention of such abuse by better selection and training of candidates for the priesthood; professional and pastoral help for victims; treatment of abusers; and the conditions under which priests who have been treated for sexual abuse can be reassigned to ministry. Church leaders, researchers, victims, priests being treated for abuse problems, and experts on various dimensions of the problem will participate. The session will be directed by Conventual Franciscan Father Canice Connors, president of St. Luke Institute, a Maryland hospital that treats clergy of all faiths for psychological and psychiatric problems. Father Connors was named chairman of a subcommittee on child sexual abuse by Bishop Robert H. Brom of San Diego, chairman 'of the priestly life committee. Sessions will be held at the national headquarters of the Daughters of Charity National Health System. At their meeting at the University of Notre Dame last June, the U.S. bishops held a daylong session on the subject of clergy sex abuse. Archbishop Daniel E. Pilarczyk of Cincinnati, then NCCB president, reviewed guidelines that have been suggested to Catholic dioceses for dealing with such cases. At the bishops' November general meeting in Washington, they adopted a resolution pledging to evaluate their response in their dioceses to sexual abuse "and to be certain that our people are aware of and confident in that response." The announcement of the upcoming session said its purpose is for participants to glean new information and insights on handling abuse cases. It added that most of the nation's 188 Catholic dioceses have adopted policies for responding to allegations of abuse and addressing the needs of victims.

CARMELITE SISTERS Julia Foraster, center left, and Fatima Uribarren are consoled by Arab ambassadors after their release from Muslim kidnappers in the southern Philippines. (CNS photo)

Nuns freed by Filipino captors JOLO, Philippines (CNS) Muslim gunmen freed two kidnapped Spanish nuns after 20 days captivity in the southern Philippines, a Muslim guerrilla spokesman said. Carmelite Sisters Julia Foraster and Fatima Uribarren were turned over to two Arab ambassadors at a guerriIIa stronghold in mountain country outside the town of Jolo Feb. 5. "I cannot express my feelings, I am confused," said Sister Uribarren, 38, as she spoke to reporters in Jolo, the main town on Jolo island in the southern Philippines. "I am happy because for 20 days I didn't know what would happen to us," she said, still shaking from her ordeal. The two nuns were snatched by renegade Muslim rebels Jan. 7 while swimming off a beach near Jolo. A spokesman for the separatist Moro National Liberation Front, or MNLF, said the renegades had handed their captives over to them and then they had been released to Libyan ambassador Rajib Abdullaziz Azzarouz and Palestinian envoy Musa Odeh. Rebel spokesman Abu Amri

Tadik confirmed the two women had been in the insurgents' care for two days before they were driven in an ambulance to the last military checkpoint outside Jolo. Sisters Uribarren and Foraster wept as they embraced Bishop Benjamin de Jesus of the Apostolic Vicariate of Jolo and fellow Carmelite nuns. "We were suffering for 20 days. I am happy and thankful to the MNLF and two ambassadors for our release," said 63-year-old Sister Foraster. Asked if they had been abused during their captivity, Sister Uribarren said they had been treated well by their kidnappers, who originally demanded an $80,000 ransom for their release. At one point, the gunmen threatened to take the nuns to the Malaysian state of Sabah on Borneo, and said one of them wanted to marry Sister Uribarren. She and Sister Foraster used to work in a clinic for victims of leprosy in J 010. But, pale and shaking after her ordeal, she said: "I am afraid to stay here." Security forces were planning to fly the two nuns to Zamboanga in Mindanao island and then to Manila. The military said the kidnappers were renegade guerrillas who had turned to banditry in J 010, an island 590 miles south of Manila: For much of the 1970s Muslim guerrillas battled the central government in the Sulu archipelago and much of the southern Philippines, but the secessionist movement has dwindled in recent years.

Youth YES retreat set for March

DCCW RETREAT: Diocesan Council of Catholic Women president Mary Mikita, third vice president Theresa Lewis and church communities chairperson Peg Leger (from left) are among planners of the annual DCCW retreat to be held March 5 to 7 at the Family Life Center, North Dartmouth. Rev. Francis McManus, SJ, chaplain at St.路 Luke's Hospital, New Bedford, will be spiritual director for the weekend, which is open to all diocesan women. Reservations are required by Feb. 24. For information contact Theresa Lewis, retreat chairperson, at 997-2405. (Lavoie photo)

The Diocesan Office for Catholic Youth Ministry is accepting applications for a YES retreat to be held March 26-28 at Cathedral Camp, East Freetown. The weekend retreat is open to junior and senior high school students who are interested in developing their relationship with God through the sharing of the sacraments, experiences and fellowship. Team members for the YES Retreat are Frank Lucca, Carl Boardman, Jim Durette, Amy Bedard, Peter McConnell, Jen Ebeling, Amy Cawston, Andrew Bennett III, Paul Robert, Kris Lucca路, Pauline Macedo and John McKenna. For information or reservations call Chris Tanguay at the youth ministry office, 763-3137.

WASHINGTON (CNS) ~ The family leave legislation signed into law Feb. 5 by President Clinton was labeled by a Catholic official as a modest step which "strikes a cord of justice." "This bill affirms family life; it demonstrates a respect for basic human dignity," said Auxiliary Bishop John H. Ricard of Baltimore, chairman of the U.S. Catholic Conference's Committee on Domestic Policy. The bishop called the Family and Medical Leave Act "a modest first step at placing workers and their families among our nation's top priorities." Bishop Ricard said U.S. Catholic bishops have been among the earliest promoters of family and medical leave and added that they welcomed this legislation "as a beginning step in shaping our society with a clear priority for families and children." "Passage of the Family and Medical Leave Act sends a message that this nation wants to support family life," he said. The family leave legislation is the first bill to be signed by the new president. Effective in six months. it requires businesses with more than 50 employees to grant up to 12 weeks of unpaid leave to employees to care for a newborn or newly adopted child or family sickness. During the leave the employers must guarantee the worker's job and provide health insurance. The measure was passed in the House Feb. 3 on a 246-152 vote. On Feb. 4 it passed the Senate 71-

27. Archb'ishop Daniel L. Pilarczyk of Cincinnati, then-president of the National Conference ofCatholie Bishops and its policy arm, the USCe. urged Bush in a September 1992 letter to sign the act into law, sa'ying it would "help send a message that children and families come first." After signing the legislatIOn, Clinton said it would strengthen businesses and families. "Now millions of people will no longer have to choose between their jobs and their families," he said. He also said it was the beginning of social legislation he wants passed, including welfare reform. tougher child support enforcement, child immunization programs and expanded earned income tax credits. Bishop Ricard said the bishops would pledge "continued support for the development of pro-family, pro-children public policies including tax reform for families with children, universal access to health care and welfare reform." Sister of St. Joseph Catherine Pinkerton, lobbyist for the Catholic social justice organization Network, attended the Rose Garden ceremony at which Clinton signed the family leave legislation and called it "a joyful end of an eightyear saga." Mercy Sister Kathy Thornton, Network's national coordinator who also witnessed the signing, said the Family Medical Leave Act "makes a significant contribution to the stability of family life and to its economic security." Sister Thornton said the new law "meets to a considerable degree one challenge of the U.S. bishops in their pastoral letter on the U.S. economy, that of examining all aspects of economic life and assessing their effects on families."

75-YEAR QUEST: Dr. Richard Mudd stands with some of the memorabilia he has collected during his 75-year effort to clear the name of his grandfather, Dr. Samuel Mudd, of a connection to the assassination of President Lincoln. (CNS photo)

Dr. Mudd's. grandson hopes to clear family name SAGINAW, Mich. (CNS) Dr. Samuel Mudd couldn't have known that the man banging on his door at 4 a.m. on April IS, 1865, was one of the most.famous assassins in history. Nor could he have imagined " that caring for the injured man later revealed to be John Wilkes Booth, assassin of President Abraham Lincoln, ~ would alter' his life forever. Or that his grandson would spend more than threequarters of a century trying to vindicate the family name. The Charles County, Md., physician was tried and convicted by a military court for setting Booth's leg and for harboring Booth and his companion for a few hours not long after Booth had fled the scene of the crime. Samuel Mudd escaped a hanging because of a strong court defense, but was sentenced to life in prison. For his grandson, Dr. Richard Mudd, a 53-year-member of St. Mary's Cathedral in Saginaw, a lengthy struggle to clear the family's tarnished name may be nearing an end.

As the nation celebrates the anniversary of Lincoln's birth, the u.S, Army Board for Correction of Military Records is in the process' of deciding whether Richard Mudd's grandfather will 'be exonerated from any fault in the 1865 assassination of the president. Richard Mudd, a 91-year-old retired physician, claims there were three reasons that his grandfather was wrongly convicted in the case. "There were three strikes against Dr. Mudd," he said. "First of all, he was a slave owner. Secondly, his name was Mudd, that's bad, and thirdly, he was a Catholic." His grandfather's story of the incident begins with the 32-yearold physician opening the door to two men early in the morning that April 15. Booth, apparently in great pain from a broken leg, was supported by his companion. The companion, David Herold, did all of the talking and explained to the physician that his friend had been hurt falling off a horse., <The physician treated the man and told them both to rest in an

upstairs bedroom because the injured man could not travel. Later in the day, he heard about the Lincoln assassination during medical rounds. When he returned home and saw the injured' man walking out the door with his companion, the physician noticed a fake beard beginnning to peel off Booth's face. The next day, after Easter Mass, the physician asked his cousin, Dr. George Dyer Mudd, to notify authorities about the two suspicious men. Soldiers were soon in pursuit of the men and Samuel Mudd was arrested for treating Booth. Samuel Mudd said he had met Booth twice <before, but claimed that he did not recognize him that night. Samuel Mudd, who was paid $25 for the medical services provided, was charged as a co-conspirator in the assassination. President Andrew Johnson pardoned the physician in 1869, reduc-< ing his life sentence to four years. Before he was released from Fort Jefferson Prison on Dry Tortuga Island in the Gulf of Mexico, Samuel Mudd battled an outbreak of yellow fever. After his pardon, the father of 'nine returned home. But Samuel <Mudd never regained his health and died in 1883 at the age of 49. '''When I realized that rny grand-


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father had been railroaded, I just couldn't get it out of my mind," said Richard Mudd, a retired plant physician for General Motors. He started his campaign to clear the family name in 1926 by helping a writer prepare a story on his grandfather for the Saturday Evening Post. Richard Mudd has a collection of letters from U.S. presidents and members of Congress who believe his grandfather was wrongly convicted.

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Now Richard Mudd awaits a verdict from an Army review board. This review is the first time in U.S. history that a military commission case will be retired by the Army corrections board. Until a verdict is reached, Richard Mudd plans to continue to lecture on the case and aspects of the assassination. He is hopeful. "I never dreamed I'd live long enough" to see the family name cleared, said Richard Mudd.

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Privacy: Does It Exist? After a dose of Oprah, Donahue and Geraldo, one wonders if anything is private, never mind sacred. This troika of trouble is but a reflection of a seemingly insatiable public craving for slander, scandal and personal revelation. Within the past decade, we Americans have collectively become the gossip mongers of calumny. Tabloid and television have sold the mentality that everyone has the right to know everything about everyone else. Such an attitude has succeeded in destroying any concept of privacy. We can buy remote phones to spy room to room in our own houses. Scanners are available to tap into police and fire calls. Debugging devices are a hot item. Spying is not only the stuff of government but of big business. Prestigious firms spend millions securing information by any means whatsoever without any thought of responsibility or accountability. Television is a prime suspect in the assassination of personal privacy. The all-seeing camcorder has invaded every aspect of life in good times and bad. Personal, heart-rending and tragic events can appear without the subjects' knowledge or consent on the national news. Conscience and feeling do not figure into the picture when the personal becomes the sensational. Collectively America couldn't get enough negative stories about the personal lives of our presidential candidates. The more scandalous the event, the more news coverage it received. For many this diet of drivel was their personal party platform. Few complained and many loved it. When people believe they have a right to know everything about everyone, those who maintain their privacy are suspect. Motives are questioned and individuals may be destroyed by outrageous claims and charges. Unfortunately a ruined reputation can not be repaired. That is the evil of gossip, be it individual or collective. But can we be so shocked at this dismantling of privacy? After all, we live in a society which considers everything disposable. We toss aside people as we do paper cups. If we can abort babies, can assassination of character be far behind? Nothing is sacred in a purely secular state. Reverence for-the human person is being lost and in the process we are self-destructing. Although understandably differences exist among us, the dignity of the person demands that we strive for a more humane and just social order. This can never be attained if we destroy human rights, including the' right to privacy. In a time when human interdependence is sorely needed, we are ignoring the value of the individual in our attempt to get the goods on- everyone. Every man, woman and child has a right to a good.reputation. To achieve this we must protect privacy and not barter it for a few moments of flashy news time. Our social order must be founded on truth, built on justice , and supported by common concern. Progress starts with each of us when we respect personal privacy.

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Why women need not be priests

By Father Kevin Harrington InN ovember,just days afterthe Church of England voted to ordain women priests, the U.S. Catholic bishops. meeting in Washington. had their first-ever public debate over issues surrounding women's ordination. The proposed national pastoral letter which occasioned the debate was voted down. Each successive draft adopted language that clearly excluded women from Editor Holy Orders and some bishops objected to what they considered undue influence from the Vatican. Letters Welcome Although a clear majority voted to Letters to the editor are welcomed. All letters should be brief and the release the document as a pastoral editor reserves the right to condense any letters if deemed necessary. All letter the final draft text did not letters most be signed and contain a home or business address. gather the necessary majority for passage. After defeating the draft text. the bishops passed a compromise proposal u l1 der which the draft text was to be published as a report of the ad hoc committee that wrote it and used as a basis for futher study, dialogue and action. I was disappointed that a signifOFFICIAL NEWSPAPER OF THE DIOCESE OF FALL RIVER icant number of our bishops would Published weekJy by The Catholic Press of the Diocese of Fall River object to what I considered a reaP.O. BOX 7 887 Highland Avenue sonably worded pastoral letter that Fall River, MA 02720 Fall River, MA 02722 condemned sexism, sexual imTelephone 508-675-7151 morality and some forms of femiFAX (508) 675-7048 nism and advocated equality for Send address changes to P.O. Box 7 or call telephone number above . women in society but said equality in dignity did not mean identical PUBLISHER treatment. The ensuing debate Most Rev. Sean P. O'Malley, OFM Cap., PhD. among the bishops indicated that some bishops had far more trouble EDITOR GENERAL MANAGER dealing with equality for women in Rev. John F. Moore Rosemary Dussault . . . .5 LEARY PRESS "- FALL RIVER the church than in society at large. The biggest error, in my opinion,


is the assumption that some opponents of the pastoral letter made that a Church that excludes women from Holy Orders cannot wit.h credibility advocate for the rights of women in society at large. The issue of women's ordination is not a new one for the Roman Catholic Church. The Sacred Congregation for the Propagation of the Doctrine of the Faith in a 1976 text entitled "Declaration on the Question of Admission of Women to the Ministerial Priesthood" convincingly argued that the exclusion by Jesus of a woman as one of the Twelve Apostles cannot be explained in the light of the sociological and cultural situation at the time and therefore assumes an intention on the part of Jesus which is not historically and sociologically conditioned. The magisterium, i.e the teaching authority of the Church, holds that the custom of ordaining only men be respected and continued. It is truly unfortunate that some advocates of the ordination of women have made this single issue the litmus test of whether the Church is serious in advocating social justice. Their desire that the Church rescind its ban on ordaining women has blinded some ardent advocates to the good the Church has accomplished in advancing the rights of women. . It would prove instructive to consider how Jesus advanced the rights of women who were down-

trodden in his time. Jesus was never afraid to indulge in eyebrowraising uncoventionality. In a society that was obsessive about ritual impurity. Jesus was unconcerned at the possibility of defilement from the woman with the hemorrhage. In a society that forbade a man from talking alone to a woman in a public place, Jesus surprised his apostles by carrying on a conversation with a Samaritan woman. In a society that gave the right to divorce solely to men, Jesus forbade divorc,e altogether and stepped between a woman caught in adultery and the angry mob of male chauvinists about to stone her, confronting the men with their own hypocrisy. Those who advocate ordination of women on the grounds that Jesus was handcuffed by his narrow social conditioning to view women as naturally inferior are clearly wrong. One would have to be blind not to n'otice the gap between the way women are treated in the West as compared to the Middle East and the Orient. One would have to be unduly prejudiced not to give some credit to the Church in the advancement that women have made in our Western civilization. What truly matters in the eyes- of God is that we are all brothers and sisters in Christ by virtue of our baptism and that we are called to be saints. Isn't that more important than whether women are called to be priests'?

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Put your heart into it! Sirach 15:15-20 1 Corinthians 2:6-10 Matthew 5:17-37 Ever dig a posthole? I clearly remember the first one I attempted - 17 years ago - helping some friends put up a barbed wire fence. Though unaccustomed to manual labor, I still figured I should take my turn with the posthole digger. So when it passed my way, . I bravely spread the handles, raised the jaws a few inches and tamely stabbed the ground, ripping up unimpressive teaspoon-sized chunks of earth. Seeing that my rate of excavation could turn a one-day project into a weeklong commitm'ent, one of my friends, Jim Zurliene, quickly offered to give me a break. He grabbed the posthole digger and, with all his weight and strength, drove it repeatedly and powerfully into the ground. Injust a few minutes he dug a 21/2 foot hole! He handed the tool back to me - along with an unforgettable comment. "You know, Rog," he smiled, "myoId man once told me you'll only dig a posthole when you really want to dig a posthole." I had been found out! I really didn't want to dig. My heart wasn't in it. I only got involved in the venture because it was the thing to do at the time. Being perceived as "one of the boys" was more important than actually digging the hole. Our biblical authors had to deal with lots of people just like me: those who profess the faith only because it's the thing to do. We don't really give ourselves over to it. We go through the prescribed rituals, say the right prayers, read the proper books, but never put all our strength and talents into the project. Sirach operates on a completely different plane. "If you choose," he writes, "you can keep the commandments; it is loyalty to do his will. There are set before you fire and water; to whichever you choose, stretch forth your hand. Before us are life and death, whichever we choose shall be given us." He presumes we profess a faith which daily challenges our lives, a faith which frequently forces us to

DAilY READINGS Feb. 15: Gn 4:1-15,25; Ps '50: 1,8,16 -17 ,20- 21; Mk 8:11-13 Feb. 16: Gn 6:5-8;7:1-5,10; Ps 29:1-4,9-10; Ps 29:1-4,910; Mk 8:14-21 Feb. 17: Gn 8:6-13;20~22; Ps 116:12-15,18~19; Mk 8:22-26 Feb. 18: Gn 9:1-13; Ps 102:16-18,19-23,29; Mk 8:27-33 Feb. 19: Gn 11:1-9; Ps 33:10-15; Mk 8:34-9:1 Feb.. 20: Heb 11:1-7; Ps 145:2-5,10-11; Mk 9:2-13 Feb. 21: Lv 19:1-2,17-18; Ps 103:1-4,8,10,12-13; 1 Cor 3:16-23; Mt 5:38-48

By FATHER ROGER KARBAN face the life and death issues of our existence, a faith which isn't for wimps. But this is mild compared to how deeply Jesus expects us to be involved. External actions mean little to him. They're only significant when they convey a real determination to accomplish what they imply. Though the Jewish author of this Jewish gospel assumes his community will always keep the Mosaic Law, he also assumes it professes the faith of Jesus, a faith which calls us to do more than just cling to external precepts. His new way is much more intense than the Judaism he experiences. When Matthew uses the phrase, "You have heard the commandment...," he's referring to Torah regulations: the laws which all Jews are called upon to follow. But when he adds, "What I say to you is... ," he's giving an interpretation of those laws which flows from his faith. In every case, Jesus calls us to go beyond appearances to reclaim the original intent of these regulations. The evangelist, taking a swipe at some of the Jewish leaders of his day, sums up the issue by having Jesus proclaim his famous warning, "Unless your holiness surpasses that of the scribes and Pharisees, you shall not enter the kingdom of God." This determination to go beyond what is expected is also behind today's I Corinthians pericope. Paul is dealing with people who have only partially given themselves over to Jesus. Because they do things just for appearance sake, their community is falling apart. He tries to help them change their attitude by reminding them of their unique gift. "There is," he writes, "a certain wisdom which we express among the spiritually mature. It is not a wisdom of this age, however... Yet God has revealed this wisdom to us through the Spirit. The Spirit scrutinizes all matters, even the deep things of God." Our faith comes with a Spirit who leads 'us to the deeper things of life. But, like digging postholes, we must decide whether we really want to put our whole selves into reaching for those deeper things, or just pretend we're doing it. In 117 A.D., Ignatius of Antioch wrote to the Magnesians, "We should not only be called Christians, we should be Christians." Scorching "Don't kindle to coals ofa sinner: you may be scorched by the flames of his fire."-Ben Sirach 111111111111111111111111111111111111111111111111111111111111111111111111 THE ANCHOR (USPS-545-020). Second Class Postage Paid at Fall River. Mass. Published weekly except the wcek.of July 4 and the week after Christmas at 887 Highland Avenue. Fall River. Mass. 02720 by the Catholic Press of the Diocese of Fall . River. Subscription price by mail. postpaid $ 11.00 per year. Postmasters send address changes to The Anchor. P.O. Box 7. Fall River. MA 02722. .

RED BUD, ILL. (CNS) - The order which lost five sisters to gunmen 'in Liberia last October has launched a "Peace in Liberia" campaign including letterwriting, prayer and charitable works. ' "We knew from the very beginning that we would be i!Dpelled to some kind of action as a response to this profound mystery that has touched our lives," said Sister Mildred' Gross, superior of the Ruma province of Adorers of the Blood of Christ, headquartered in Red Bud. Calling the five slain nuns "passionate women of action" and' "martyrs of charity," Sister Gross said it would be true to their memories "to use their tragic deaths as an opportunity to bring peace" to the Liberian people. Sisters Mary Joel Kolmer, Barbara Ann Muttra, Agnes Mueller, Shirley Kolmer and Kathleen McGuire were slain around Oct. 20 by gunmen believed to be members of the rebel National Patriotic Front of Liberia. The peace campaign, inaugurated Feb. 4, called for: - Prayer and fasting for peace. - Letters to Congress, President Clinton, the State Department and the United Nations urging a negotiated peace. - letters to the warring factions in Liberia denouncing the victimization of women and children. The order announced it had developed a background paper on Liberia for discussion groups and will make speakers available to interested groups. The order also aims to link American cities, dioceses, parishes schools and hospitals with counterpart Liberian institutions to help the West African nation recover from the civil war and develop. "We hope the many people who were touched by the lives and deaths of these sisters ... will join us in the effort," Sister Gross said.

Lenten Bible study sessions set All are welcome at Lenten Bible study sessions to be held from 7 to 9 p.m. each Wednesday of March at St. Anthony of Padua Church, 48 Sixteenth Street, Fall River. Dates, speakers and topics follow: March 3: Father George Bellenoit, "Y ou Do Not Live by Bread Alone." (Matt. 4: I-II) March 10: Mrs. Jane Wilcox, "No Cross-No Crown" (Matt. 17: 1-9)

March 17: Father Douglas Sousa, "Give Me the Living Water" (John 4:5-42) March 24: Father Raul Lagoa, "Lord, That I Might See" (John 9: 1-41) March 31: Father John Sullivan, "Lazarus, Come Out" (John II: 1-45)

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By Dr. JAMES & MARY KENNY Two recent columns have dealt with letters from wives whose husband~ display no affection or emotional support. We replied that you can do certain things to improve your marriage: focus on the positive things about your husband; change things in your own life which makes you feel like a martyr and a drudge; develop satisfying activities 6n your own. Our answer triggered many letters. Some readers chided us for failing to address the problems of the husband. The husband is at fault, they argued. Straighten him out. '









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Women respond to advice on saving marriages The husband did not ask to be straightened out. He does not even see a problem. Changing the husband appears to be beyond the wife's control. There is no surer way t9 fail in solving a problem than to try to change something over which you have no control. Other readers responded saying that they feel exactly as the reader does. "The 'petty irritations exist; but I feel as the woman in Illinois that it's the lack of Ii fulfilling emoiional relationship that's really taking its toll. I feel that I am being cheated in life by not being able to have that.... I even go to church alone or with my sons.... "I asked why he doesn't go to church with me and he said because I never invited him. Who invited me? .. I have stayed in my marriage because of the children and my religion. I don't see myself as a

martyr. I see myself as a wellhardworking, dedicated mom who needs a meaningful relationship in her life, and I believe it takes two to have one." - Wisconsin.

better yet, invite someone to share a meal, volunteer at a soup kitchen or just enjoy the time alone to think and plan.... "One person cannot make a marriage. It takes two."

This Massachusetts reader pulls no punches: "I too found myself in the sort of marriage she has., I decided to kn~ck myself out trying to make it work. What did it get me? I felt like a doormat.... after 24 years of marriage I got lucky. My husband walked out.... "Yes, things do happen. The house needs painting, the boiler dies, the car needs replacing and, surprise, each challenge met makes one stronger. "And kids don't always behave. but now we are truly a family of four equals who sit down together and work out our differences.... Dinner alone? Why not? "Take along a good book .... Or

And this from a New Jersey reader who chose another course: "My husband and I are married 54 years. I give in more to him than he does to me. I have to be extra nice to him if we are invited to a party, otherwise he won't go.... ". married him for better or for worse, and I would never leave him, so it's my own fault I'm a martyr. I guess we are from the old school. "True, he is a good provider. That's it. The rest is my worry .... If I didn't put the food on the table he wouldn't eat .... "He never compliments me. I put out his clothes to wear. Now that' we are older, he's getting more forgetful, and I get impatient. I try


to keep my mouth shut, but it's not easy. "Our friends that are widows tell me, 'Take care of your husband because you don't know how hard and sad it is without them.' So I guess I will continue catering to him and thank God we are together." The first book we wrote, published in 1976, was called, "When Your Marriage Goes Stale." It still sells regularly, and I suspect buyers are usually wives. What is going on in marriages over the long term? Are many husbands inconsiderate, inexpressive beings? Are wives somehow contributing to this situation? Is this the eternal problem of the sexes failing to understand each other? What do you readers think? Reader questions on family living or child care to be anwered in print are invited by The Kennys; 219 W. Harrison St., Suite 4; Rensselaer, IN 47978.

Marri-ages survive with healthy does of humor By DOLORES CURRAN

A gracious gentleman of about 70 approached the audience mic,rophone. "I've been married 42 years and I have a problem. I haven't been able to solve." The audience made up of elderly people tittered. "Every Sunday of those 42 years we've taken The New York Times. And every, Sunday the same thing happens. ' "We divide it up and when I finish reading a section, I turn it over to my wife exactly as it arrives, neatly in order and folded. But the

sections my wife turns over to me are a mess. Pages are out of order, some pages are turned, and the section is crumpled. What can I do to change herT' By now the audience, aware of the humor in his voice, was laughing openly. "Is your wife he reT' I asked from the podium. She was and I invited her to present her side. "The Sunday paper is to be enjoyed, not tended," she said blithely. "He's just a persnickety old man." Amid .more lau-ghter, the gentleman spread his hands skyward and asked, "What can I do to solve this problem?" "If you haven't solved it in 42 veal's," I said, "then I suggest you buy two papers." The audience roared with approval.

I love working with older audiences because they are able to put problems in perspecti,ve with humor. I wished for the hundredth time that there were young couples there to hear how older couples in healthy marriages accept and even appreciate the quirks of each other which they have experienced over many years of marriage. They just don't let them bother them. "That's the way she/ he is," is their philosophy. When we're younger marrieds, these little quirks can become real issues arid we devote ourselves to ridding our spouse of them. I think of my husband's and my experience in trying too balance the checkbook. He is an impreccable bookkeeper. I am a creative bookkeeper. When I routinely forgot to enter .

a check, it frustrated him, but I, like the wife above, attributed his attitude to persnicketiness. Eventually, we solved the problem by getting separate checking accounts. He will still spend all evening looking for II cents while I. when my ledger gets hopeless, merely change banks. It's just one more example in marriage that we don't have to understand each other to love and accept eac/:! other. Years of living together teaches us to ask the silent questions, "Is this worth a fight? Do we have to agree on this? Can we agree to disagree?" I invited the audience to share similar frustrations in early marriage that they have come to live with amiably. A wife told how her husband must always be the first in line. "He pushes himself to the

front of the line at a buffet dinner or theatre. When we go grocery shopping together. he used to grab a place in line while I shopped and keep moving back until I got there so we wouldn't have to wait in line. "It drove me crazy because I wanted to shop in relaxation. One time. in fact, I gave him a penny and told him to go ride the wooden horse." Her husband stood and said, '~The little kids wouldn't let me in line." That's the kind of response you get from older couples content ,in their relationship. .; ~ All of us have quirks that annoy o,ur partners. I have learned from older couples that instead of fighting these quirks, we celebrate them. They are part of the fabric of our lives together and when we can laugh about them we have already solved them.

Go ahead - dare to be different By ANTOI~ETTE


The idea of marching to the beat of one's own drummer began -appealing to me when I was in the ninth grade of Catholic school. We were expected to take part in activities such as school social functions, but I never could because my father was the sort of strict parent who believed that if his daughters weren't in class they' should be home.


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Sometimes this made things difficult because neither my classmates nor the nuns understood ; why I could not attend school functions. I wasl;\ccused of not having school spirit. But one nun understood, Sister Helena. I told her why I couldn't participate, and I apologized for being different. She responded so kindly and intently. "Don't be afraid to be different, Antoinette," she' said. "Dare to be different." I never forgot her words. And in . the years that followed I have always respected anyone who dares' to be different for good reason. , A few years ago I met a woman

named Lydia, in her 70s, who is "That little face looking back at Funny, but her little statement different. During World War II me down the centuries was differ- has remained with me. It expresses she worked in refugee camps help- ent from all the others. It was smil- so well the idea about being ing displaced people get settled. ing happily and joyously at all the different. She wrote me recently, telling world.", ", Jesus must have known that me about the time 'she was on a She wondered, "Was this aberbicycle trip in France. At one ration ordered by the master in the Twelve he chose to carryon point she stopped at an old stone charge of building the church? No, his teachings would have to be different·:..., courageously so, conchurch. Looking at the archway, no, not likely." sidering the radical Gospel they she noticed some 40 or 50 carved Lydia believes it was probably were preaching. They did what 'angel heads, which she said "ran like a heavenly necklace around the artisan who, one day while they knew in their hearts was feeling in good spirits, decided true. the edge." Lydia noticed that all the angel that one of those heavenly faces Now when I remember Sister faces were somber. But then, , just had to smile. Helena, somehow I'll be seeing "He created in his heart what he someone else in the back of my "unexpectedly, almost like an explosion, at about the fourth angel knew was true," she wrote, "There mind: a little smiling angel face is always' one who dares to be carved by an artisan who dared to down, I stopped in disbelief and different. " joy," she said. be different.

The p'ublishing of marriage banns bishops wish to reinstitute such laws they may. , It is not my ilflpressionthat the obligation of announcing the banns has been abrogated, since !hat would require a specific action:of the bishops' conference, which I ha ve ·not seen. (N ew Jersey) A. The 1983 Code of Canon Law (Canon 6) says that all prO\;isions of-the previous code and all laws contrary to the prescriptions of the new code are no longer in effect.

Therefore. no special action of a national conference Of bishops seems needed to nullify a pre\'ious law such as the requirement for banns, Since such a regulation is not pro\'ided in the new code it simply does not exist. unless the conferencc of bishops decides to reinstitute it. The American bishops ha\'e. in general. decided to carry out the canonical "necessary inquiries"

(Canon 1067) before marriage in other ways than publishing banns. As a pastor. 'this makes enormous sense to me, So many young people planning marriage today haye lived in half a do/en or more cities. Thus. requiring banns in the towns of t hei I' residence to uncm'er possible reasons they should not marry wouldn't proye \'ery much. Obtaining testimonies from their parents or other older family rilem-

bel'S. as we no\\ do. IS far more practical. ' According to all canonical ad\'iee I recei\'c. publication of marriage \)anns has no legal statlls in the United States. A free brochure outlining Catholic prayers, beliefs and practice is available b~' sending a stamped self-addressed e",elope to Father .John Ilietzen. Holy Trinit~' Church. 704 N. Main St .. Bloomington, III. 6170 I. Questions for this column should be sent to the same address.


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Teen~ praised Father Edward J. Byington. pastor of Sacred Heart Church. Fall River. writes in a recent parish bulletin: Every time I return from vacation there is a huge stack of mail to greet me. A lot of this, of course, is junk mail filled with advertisments brochures, and catalogues. Among the. letters this year, however, I notIced one from New Hampshire. I didn't recognize the return address and sure enough the letter was from' some couple whom I didn't know. They wrote because they had met our teenagers on the Mountain Climbing trip at Mount Monadnock in October. They were really impressed with our kids and they wanted to tell me about this great group of teenagers they had met from Sacred Heart parish! There are a lot of bad things going on with teenagers today. Drugs, casual sex, bad language and a general lack of virtue is the norm for too many of them. They are responsible for what they do or fail to do but at the same time we cannot absolve their elders from this sorry plight. Bombarded from infancy with messages from a money and pleasure oriented society, it is no wonder that some of them turn out as they do. So, when a Protestant couple from New Hampshire takes the time to write and compliment a group of Catholic kids from our parish, it is like a breath of fresh air. It helps us put things into perspective. Teenagers aren't all bad. It is just that they need our concern and especially our good example.

Program will aid mentally ill Members of the various religious communities in Greater Fall River have' been invited by Corrigan Mental Health Center in Fall River to participate in the new program "S.piritual Companions," begun thiS year by the Department of Mental Health. The project pairs volunteers with adults with longterm mental illnesses. An introductory session on mental illness and how the program works will be held 7 to 8 p.m. March I at Catholic Social Services, 783 Slade Street, Fall River. Further orientation classes will follow.


1957, Rev. James C. Conlon, Pastor, St. Mary, Norton

OurLady'sChapel Dear Editor: Prayer for Our Lady's Chapel Lord. grant that many people who have missed it will be generous in supporting it with their prayers and donations according to their means. Give Father Francis Mary the strength and health to keep it going with the help of the Holy Spirit; also the brothers and priests who will join him. Mary, Queen of Angels, pray for them to your Divine Son; may St. Michael defend them from all evil. In Jesus' precious name we pray: all praise and glory be to the Father. Son and Holy Spirit. Amen. Josephine B. Teixeira New Bedford

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Feb. 14 1932, Rev. Charles E. Clerk, Pastor, St. Roch, Fall River 1980, Rev. Msgr. Francis E. McKeon, Pastor Emeritus, Sacred Heart. Taunton

Feb. 19 1895, Rev. Andrew J. Brady, Pastor, St. Joseph, Fall River 1953, Rev. Leopold Jeurissen. SS.Cc., Pastor, Sacred Heart, Fairhaven

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Church to aid Rebuild. L.A. LOS ANGELES (CNS) -" The in an area so recently de,'astated l.os Angeles archdiocese has promby hopelessness. looting. fires and ised $20 million to help rebuild a seeming lack of futurc." CardiLos Angeles. especially by supnal Mahon~' said. porting education efforts in those The school isjust one sign of the neighborhoods affected by last archdiocesan commitment to be "here for today. tomorrow and the spring's riots. future." he safd. Officials of Rebuild L.A,. the post-riot revitalization group. He said much of the archdiocebelieve the financial commitment san investment in the central citv could be the largcst by a nonwould be in the form of educa"profit organization to the renewal tional initiatives hecause they pro"ide the most"positive and lasting effort. At a news conference on the . impact" on the community. grounds of Our Lady of LorettoAmong projects Cardinal MaBishop Conaty High School in a hony cited were: _. Tuition scholarships funded riot-torn sector of Los Angeles. Cardinal Roger M. Mahony of through the Archdiocesan EducaLos Angeles highlighted the arch- tion Foundation for 47X students diocese's economic and social pro- already enrolled in 27 Catholic elementary and six secondary high jects in the city. For many years. the Catholic schools at a total investment of Church has heen a "vihrant and $458,000. vigorous presence" in poor sectors - "Grant the Dream" scholarships by the Archdiocesan Educaof Los Angeles. said the cardinal. As evidence he pointed to the tion Foundation for the current construction site on which he was school year to 2.300 Cat holic school standing where the archdiocese is students at a cost of more than $2 building an $8.5 million education million. with a similar effort building at the downtown girls' planned for the following school high school. The high school is year. $8 million t6 be distributed located in the Los Angeles neighannuallv to 75 e1ementarv schools borhood of Pico Union. "We believe that we are making and par'ishes in riot-affec'ted areas a powerful statement of commit- and other low-income neighhorment today by being one of the hoods for operalions and imfirst groups to begin construction provement of facilities. of a new educational project here The newlv instituted Archdiocesan An~ual Appeal is to help 11111I111111111111111111111111111111111111111111111111111111111111111111 fund educational initiatives through "Spiritual Companions" is mod- the Home Mission Program. de- . eled on "Spiritual Connections," a signed to assist 75 inner-city schools similar effort pairing laypersons and parishes serving' mostly with developmentally disabled minority families. said Cardinal adults that was introduced by the Mahony. Parishioners in all 284 Department of Mental Retardaparishes of the archdiocese have tion, also located at the Corrigan heen asked to support the program. Center. The l.os Angeles archdioeL'se "In each of these programs, we're has contributed $2.8 million to the hoping to enrich the lives of both inter-denominational Nehemiah the volunteer and the person with West project. which will make a disability," said Sister Kathy a,'ailable low-cost housing. Murphy, OP, director of the DayIn addition. the cardinal hailed spring project of the Greater Fall the work of l.os Angeles Catholic River Council of Churches and a Charities and local parishes. which participant in both efforts. provide hundreds of thousands of Volunteers for both programs are asked to commit to a relation- dollars in short-term assistance in the form of food. clothing and ship of at least one year with a financial aid to people afrected h,' person who has a lifelong disabilthe rio,ting. . ity, meeting once a week for simple tasks like shopping or houseclean.............. ..........------......--....-. ing, or just to visit or go for a ride. For information or to register GOD'S ANCHOR HOLDS for orientation, call Rev. John Mueller, Pastor of Union United Methodist Church, at 676-3091.







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Assessing an aging parent's situation By Monica and Bill Dodds

Valentine's ske'wed origins By Dan Morris My wife has a wonderful little saying for Valentine's Day: "If you forget it, you die." I have not seen this catchy little ditty embossed on even one Valentine's Day card. I have looked. Still, the tone of her conviction probably has traditional roots in church history. As you undoubtedly recall, there are three saints associated with St. Valentine's Day - one was killed in Rome (circa 269), one was martyred in Africa and one was beheaded. Very few Valentine's Day cards mention this. It was the bishop of Interamma (by the name of Valentine) who was beheaded around 273 A.D. or so. While clerical celibacy was not as clearly defined then as now, it is doubtful the bishop's case had anything to do with the development of mandatory celibacy for priests, although it was a short time later (290 A. D. or so) that the monastic foundations of St. Pachomius started requiring it. There is no written record of any Valentine cards, chocolates or long-stem roses ever entering or leaving the monastery. Nor is there any mention of any of these monks being beheaded. Clearly, this does not build a case for celibacy as a way to avoid beheading. It does point out that Western culture's celebration of Valentine's Day can be traced at least in part to churcn history -

and not a corporate strategy meeting at Hallmark. Truth is, it was Pope Gelasius himself who officially proclaimed Feb. 14 St. Valentine's Day in 496. Red construction paper and chocolate commodities markets immediately jumped.' Things seem to have taken a commercial and pagan turn since then. In parts of Europe, some unmarried women are said to get up before sunrise on St. Valentine's Day. The first man they see pass their window is supposed to be the man they will marry, or at least look like him although sometimes a little taller or shorter or heavier or thinner, and maybe without the mustache and the Doberman on a leash. Our own country's celebration was greatly enhanced when Esther A. Howland of Worcester started commercially manufacturing Valentine's Day cards in 1847. The next great leap came when Merlin Olson retired from professional football and began pushing Fl D bouquets. Actually, it is Merlin who often enhances my wife's affection for the festival. "Did you hear what that 250-pound man just said on TV?" she'll inquire. "Do you suggest I succumb to the crass commercialism of a day that was originally proclaimed a part of church history?" I ask reasonably. She smiles demurely. "'Suggest' is too wcak a word. my little Valentine."

Take a step back: At times that is the first move an adult child needs to make when assessing how an aging parent is doing. Look at the situation as a concerned but objective outsider would. "Mom used to be so active." "Dad's just rattling around that big, old house." "My parents eat less than I feed my preschooler." What do I, an adult child, look for when trying to determine how my parent is doing - how my parent really is doing? The bottom line is this: Is my parent safe to live alone and do the things he or she wants to do and, if not, what steps need to be taken to make that happen? "To do the things he or she wants to do" brings up the issue of quality of life. I need to remember it is my parent, not I, not my siblings, not my parent's siblings, . not a concerned neighbor who determines what that life will be. Wait a minute! If Dad refuses to go down to the senior center anymore and prefers to stay home and watch" As the World Turns" every day, don't I need to step in and ... Maybe. Maybe not. That's what assessing is about. It is looking at

ttte entire jigsaw puzzle, not focusing on just one or two pieces. The complete picture needs to include information in four basic areas: physical, mental, emotional and social. . , Physical. It is extremely important that a doctor monitor my parent's health - even though my parent hates going to the doctor. (Who doesn't?) What are the doctor's diagnoses and recommendations? How serious is Mom's condition? Will she be homebound? How are her vision and hearing? Mental. How is my parent's memory, long and short thm? Does Dad seem confused? Does he remember Christmas 1955 but forget to eat? Can he still handle his finances? Can he make and stick to a decision, or does he seem to be able to say "yes" and "no" in the same sentence and mean both? Emotional. Everyone has ups and downs, but is Mom so depressed she doesn't want to get out of bed in the morning? Is she still grieving -- a natural process because she misses Dad, because many friends have died, because she can't do things she once did easily? Does she seem angry all the time? Is she afraid to stay alone at

night? Does she panic when I have to leave? Social. How isolated is Dad? Does he get out and see other people as much as he wants? Have telephone calls and letter writing replaced visits, and is he content with that? It could be there is a major concern that obviously needs to be addressed. Maybe nothing,stands out, but a lot of little problems, added together, may mean my parent isn't safe and so needs some kind of help now. A social worker evaluating a senior citizen's living situation considers the individual's dailyliving activities. Without help, can your parent eat, walk, use the toilet, take a bath and get dressed? And the evaluator looks at other activities that promote independence. Can your parent handle finances, go shopping, drive the car or take the bus, do housework and laundry, prepare meals and take the right amount of the right medication at the right time? Once needs are determined and sometimes it is best to do this with outside, objective help -then the adult child can investigate how those needs can begin to be met by family, friends, people in the parish or community, and professionals.

Communicating with your child's teacher By Catherine Haven "I know my son's not perfect, emotional problems that required In this corner stands the overin- but she seemed to be on him conprofessional help. The conversastantly," recalled Donna of one volved parent. tion answered many of his mothYriu know the stereotype: This teacher. "That had never happened er's questions and steered the famis a parent with high expectations before. So I finally talked to her ily toward help. for his or her children and the dis- and explained the problem as I What makes effective commucretionary income to pursue those saw it. At first she denied treating nication between a teacher and a expectations. This is the parent, him any differently, but I stated parents? Mutual respect. Listenoften well educated, who critically my case calmly and firmly. Things ing. Openness. An ability to really oversees the teacher's every move. improved, but that whole year I hear what the other is saying. In the other corner is the parent did worry she'd get back at him for Good communication swings who is intimidated by the teacher. my complaining. Fortunately, she both ways. It can be impaired by This could be a parent who is didn't." the teacher who looks down upon unaware any classroom problem Bobby's problems in school less-educated parents or by parents who make disparaging remarks exists. This could be a parent whose always bothered his mother, but about teachers in front of their tenuous juggle of work and family since she herself wasn't a good student she figured it was just one children. commitments limits availability. In either situation - the over- of those things. Besides, 'she reaCommunication entails pareninvolved and underinvolved par- soned, his teachers never expressed tal interest and involvement -and ent - what we can have is a failure any concern. not just as a volunteer and fund to communicate. And parent-teachWhen Bobby was in the fifth raiser. er communication is essential, grade, the family moved to a smaller The stakes, after all, are high, Ironically, either a lack of or school district. One day his new especially considering that each overabundance of communication teacher asked the family to come child is one among hundreds of can bode ill for the student in the in for a talk. She said Bobby had other, equally deserving children. long run. Parents sometimes practice incredible denial about their children's abilities or behavior. Or parents may place unrealistic expectations on what a parent-teacher conference can accomplish. SAN DIEGO (CNS) - When received entries from all over the As one teacher recently wrote in a newspaper column, "America Golda Council says a happy mar- country and feel strongly that has developed the habit of holding riage requires more listening than happy, successful marriages should be recognized and celebrated." the teacher accountable for the ris- talking, she knows what she means. The Tittles, who have raised seven ing tide of ignorance and medioc- The 99-year old woman and her rity in this nation." The teacher husband, Reid, recently won the children and have 35 grandchildsaid that if a child spends more "Couples Married Longest" con- ren, 68 great-grandchildren and 10 hours watching television than test sponsored by Worldwide great-great grandchildren, eloped sleeping, and definitely more than Marriage E n c o u n t e r . ' in 1913. He was 20 and she was 15. "First .of all, of course, it's "I guess we wouldn't know how studying, talk alone won't make important that you really be in to be happy if we weren'ttogether," him or her a better student. What consitutes good communi- , love and that you're truthful with said Mrs. Tittle. The Faulkners rode ,in a horsecation? Will parental underinvol- each other," she says about her 80 drawn buggy through deep snow vement cast a child adrift among years of marrillge. Golda' and Reid Council of for their wedding on Christmas the needs of other more vocal children? Will complaining or con- Maryville, Miss.; won a three-way Day in 1913. Each of their five fronting a teacher, for example. tie among couples who will mark children was born at home, costdetrimentally affect the teacher- 80 years of marriage in 1993. The ing an average of $15 per birth. other winning couples were Boyd The three co~ples will be honored child relationship? and Angie Tittle of Niles, Mich., with plaques and certificates isDebbie has straddled both sides and Lloyd and Gladys Faulkner of sued by Worldwide Marriage Enof that fence. As a teacher she can counter, a group which has been Lakeview, Ohio. distinguish between a concerned "It's exciting to see the increased .. sponsoring weekend' retreats, for parent and a meddlesome one. As a parent, she knows firsthand the "emphasis on marriage and family .married couples for nearly 2Syears. The contest was part ofthe 12th in this country," Reggie Wallace, tendency to grin and bear with a contest coordinator, said in' -anrlual World Marriage Day, celetea<:her whose behavior seems announcing the winners. ,"We bratedon.Valentine路s. Day, unfair,-

Three couples married 80 years win Marriage Encounter contest

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viding resources for parishes and on organizing community forums to help community, neighborhood, church and agency people come together for education and action on children's issues. The Alabama diocese is selling a poster designed by a local artist to publicize the children's campai~n and raise funds for some of the local initiatives, Byrd said. In a similar vein, the bishops of Wyoming and Colorado commissioned a song, called "Near to You," which combines excerpts

CAMPAIGN FOR CHILDREN: Washington Cardinal James A. Hickey blesses the child of a teenage mother as part of an archdiocesan program developed through the U.S. bishops' Catholic Campaign for Children and Families. (CNS photos)

Campaign for Children thrives WASHINGTON (CNS) -Since the U.S. bishops began their Catholic Campaign for Children and Families more than a year ago, its impact has been felt in small ways and large: - An 8-year-old girl asks guests at her first Communion to bring canned food for a local shelter instead of gifts for her. - A Catholic maternity home offers to care for children born to jailed pregnant women during their incarceration and to help the women learn parenting and job skills. - After their bishop urges concern for the "worldwide family," three-fourths of the parishes in a small, rural diocese participate in Catholic relief Services' Operation Rice Bowl. - A Midwest archdiocese turns inward tQ assess how its own personnel policies affect families. "This is not just a statement or an event, but a campaign," said John Carr, U.S. Catholic Conference secretary for social development and world peace. "And it's getting new life, new energy every day at the local level." The U.S. bishops officially kicked off their campaign on Jan. 6, 1992, the feast of the Epiphany. The campaign centers on "Putting Children and Families First: A Challenge for Our Church, Nation and World," a document approved by the bishops in November 1991. "Let us insist that the needs of

prayer\>sox On Sexuality All glory be to you, Creator-God. Into earth's clay you breathed. your Spirit. You fashioned our bodies and made of them signs of your love for us. In your Word, made flesh our humanity is lifted up in glory. Keep us one in mind and heart that all oudoving may lead us to' you, s'o that you may be prai~ed through' Christ Jesus· our Lord. Amen.


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from the children's documerit with Scripture quotes. ·A unique aspect of the Catholic campaign is the unprecedented collaboration it has brought about among a wide range of church organizations. The 84-page resource manual sent to Catholic parishes nationwide, for example, was prepared or funded by a dozen separate offices of the national bishops' conferences and nine other national groups ranging from the Catholic Golden Age Foundation to Boys Town. .

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The diocese's yearlong "Belongour children - all children, but MFANINGAND especially unborn children and ing to a Family" program is schedpoor children - take first place in uled to close April 24 with a dioPURPOSE 10 the dialogue over the values and cesewide conference for families, YOURLlFE. "I love myvocation. 1have never bejbre vision that ought to guide our with talks and workshops in Spanfelt this joy and happiness and peace. " nation," the bishops said. ish and English and activities for Jom US in caJingfor incurably But like most national bishops' all ages, said Mary Medved, direcill cancer patients Who caninitiatives, the campaign gets its tor of the diocese's social justice Sr. Mary De PaUl, life in the parishes and dioceses. and peace department. not afford nursing care. ~ Native 0/ Ideas at the local level have ranged But the effects of "Belonging to do this worlcfor /ol.e ojCod Wanninster, PA from the traditional to the in- a Family" will continue long after In making this gift to Him, novative. the conference, Ms. Medved said. "I was nineteen and One of the most comprehensive The diocese currently is studying ~ arejilled with a 1fM! and in college when 1 programs is in the Washington hundreds of surveys that asked be01fne aware ojmy inner peace that surpasses archdiocese. The more traditional local Catholics to describe their vocation. 1wasn t aU understanding. aspects of its nine-point plan families and tell the church about sure eXiletlywhere the Lord wanted me... include ecumenical efforts on chil- their &reatest needs. unll11 visited the Hawthome Dominicans. We seek. women who arefuU dren and family issues, a foster The campaign led Yakima BishThen 1knew. oj1fM!for Ctuis~ and desire family program for troubled chil- op Francis E. George to put spe"The l{fe ojaHawthorne Dom/mean dren, a program to strengthen par- cial emphasis last year on CRS' to jom a congregation with a is not easy, but it isfull ojlove and joy. ish family life committees, and Operation Rice Bowl, a familystrong \lrM-ed life oj{XM!ty, Each day 1awaken more ready and glad to establishment of a pro-life educa- based Lenten program of prayer, nurse our patienJs, jbrthe 1fM! ojGod. " chastity and obedience. tion foundation. education, fasting and almsgiving. The "Shareholders in Family Parish participation jumped from Initiatives" program also includes four parishes in 1991. to 30 establishment of safe houses for three-quarters ofthe diocesan total homeless and/ or abused Hispanic - in 1992. women and children, a project In Birmingham, Ala., another PLEASE SEND ME MORE INFORMATION ABOUT YOUR CONGREGATION. involving prisoners building and small, mostly rural diocese, Chris FOR MORE rehabilitating houses for low-in- . Byrd, director ofthe diocesan office Name 1 INFORMATION: come people, the maternity home of peace and justice, said "a dauntSr. Marie Edward Dominican Sisters Address, _ project for women prisoners and ing part of our job'~ has been to ojHawthome their children, training in parent- bring the campaign's message to 600 Linda Avenue Hawthome, NY 10532 Clty .State' Zlp _ ing skills, and a health clinic for a the diocese's many small missions. (914j 769·4794 rural community's uninsured and In an area where Catholics comPhone I underinsured families. prise only about 2 percent of the At the parish level, education population, the Birmingham dioA about the children's campaign in . cese's efforts have centered on proher first communion class prompted one 8-year-old in a Maryland suburb to write her own invitations to her first communion party, asking guests to bring canned goods instead of gifts. Mary Heidkamp, director for the Campaign for Human. Development and for urban and domestic affairs in the Chicago archdio& cese, is perhaps most proud of that 0 archdioceses's study of personnel policies affecting children and families., "The document calls for looking 0 00 at family-friendly poliCies" in employment, she said, "but we need to figure out what would .be. a t t family-friendly policy for us" in the church. Results of the study CATHOLIC DIOCESE will bl; used to revise archdiocesan of personnel policies. On the West Coast, the diocese FALL RIVER of Yakima, Wash., is adapting the . Campaign for Children and Families to its own predominantly rural 0 SO population, which is about 50 percent Spanish-speaking and has a n.A""",!~Co.'PO_7'NURi_MAOZ7ZZ



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Study' explores ;intellectual commitment of women religious WASHINGTON (CNS) - By one argument, U.S. Catholic women religious make up one of the most highly credentialed and best educated groups of people in this country or the world. How to maintain and increase this intellectual commitment of women's congregations in the midst of major changes in religious life was the topic ofa recent Washington conference. The research discussed included a survey of 1,000 members and leaders of Catholic women's orders, in which 93 percent of sisters surveyed held bachelor's degrees and 80 percent a master's degree or higher. Twenty-six percent held doctorates - a figure that was disproportionate because one seg-

ment of the survey was aimed specifically at' that group. "The educational levels of women religious are exceedingly high when compared with the total population," reported researcher Franciscan Sister Katarina Schuth. But conference participants debated how changes in women's orders and in the church would affect that commitment in the future, based on such factors as: - A major shift in emphasis among women religious from educational apostolates to other ministries, especially service of the poor. - Shifts in understanding the place of order-sponsored or orderstaffed institutions inthe work of religious congregations.

, - Demographic changes, with congregations of sisters ex periencing declines in overall numbers and a higher average age among members. - New financial constraints stemming from the demographic changes. - Feminism's influence on life in and out of the church, and possible unique role of nuns as mediators - providing both a religious critique of feminist views and a feminist critique of traditional church views. F or earlier generations of sisters, "the goal of establishing eolleges"drove the impulse of [their own) education," said Benedictine Sister Mary Collins, dean of The Catholic University of America's

school of religion and religious education. She is -also director of the "Women Religious and the Intellectual Life" project which sponsored the conference. An emphasis on educational apostolates is no longer the "principal motivating force" for maintaining high educational goals in congregations, Sister Collins said. Many congregations now make service to the poor a leading priority. The project was begun four years ago by Sister Collins and several other nuns. Funded by the Lilly Endowment and sponsored by Catholic University, they called themselves the "Brookland Commission" after the WaShington neighborhood adjacent to the university where thousands of nuns have resided while attending the university. The project focused on tracking educational achievement -among American nuns over the past cen-

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tury: academic credentials earned and resources orders de~oted to advancing members' education. The three-day conference was an invitation-only gathering of about three dozen leading Catholic theologians, researchers, educational ad ministrators and national organization heads, called together to discuss six research papers on the history and current state of intellectual life among women religious. . Two research papers, devoted to theological analysis, discussed what role intellectual life should play in a religious commitment today. Another was a report on a survey of more than 1,000 sisters by Sister Schuth. a research sociologist from St. Paul, Minn. "In theory congregations support intellectual life, but in practice convey mixed messages," Sister Schuth reported. She found that the respondents strongly affirmed the value of intellectual life for themselves personally. The respondents were divided into three groups: congregationa I leaders, members with doctorates and members without doctorates. They also generally said their congregations were supportive of intellectual pursuits. But she also found that pursuit of higher studies by members seemed to depend more on their own initiative than on encouragement by leaders or other members, and' almost all felt that overloaded work schedules and other priorities interfered with pursuing intellectual interests. She reported that older religious showed greater commit"ment to intellectual activity than their under-45 counterparts. Younger members, she said, showed less interest in working in higher education and rated lower those questionnarie items designed to indicate the importance of intellectual activities in leadership positions. In survey items de~igned to indicate spiritual life and practices, attitudes towards the church and attitudes on feminist concerns, Sister Schuth found a phenomenon she described as very faithful, practicing Catholic women who are at the same time very critical of the institutional church. More than ~hree-fourths expressed dissatisfaction with church progress on women's issues and more than two-thirds called church teachings on women "a significant obstacle to women assuming more leadership roles within the church." At the same time, seven-eighths of them said they regularly attend Mass at least several times a week. Sister Collins said that in the conference's brainstorming sessions, participants moved away from strictly academic descriptions of intellectual life to defining it more as "critical understanding of the meaning of religious life and the human orientation toward God" in the church and society. Looking at intellectual life as a capacity for "critical reflection" raised questions of the educational and intellectual resources that women religious bring to "other environments with which they interact, she said. Those environments include other segments of the church, the sciences. the social and political world, the feminist movement and the environmental and ecological movement.

You're Right "If you think you can do a thing, or think you can't do a thing, you're right." - Henry Ford

The Anchor Friday, Feb. 12, 1993

Church dedicated on Las Vegas strip LAS VEGAS (CNS) - Bishop Daniel F. Walsh of Reno-Las Vegas recently dedicated a new 2,200-seat "temple of God" in the midst of the nation's best-known gambling casinos. The Shrine of the Most Holy Redeemer, located near the southern end of the Vegas Strip, is within walking distance of more than 17,000 hotel rooms and replaces the 'I,OOO-seat Guardian Angels' Cathedral, which could no longer accommodate weekend crowds. . "Every church is a sign and symbol of the faith of the community that builds it to honor God and to worship him," Bishop Walsh said at the evening dedication. "This beautiful shrine built by the church of the diocese of Reno-Las Vegas for the visitors and tourists who come here is a sign and symbol of our faith and of our commitment to that faith. "And so for us tonight we, as individuals and as a community, by our dedication become what this building is to be - the real temple of God," he added. The Shrine of the Most Holy Redeemer is the largest church building in the state of Nevada. The diocese of Reno-Las Vegas designated $1.5 million of its own funds toward the building and has raised another $2 million in pledges from foundations, corporations and individuals. "It is important in the midst of the tourist area that we have a church open to all so that our visitors can experience the presence of God here," the bishop said in a statement. ,Bishop Walsh also was'scheduled to dedicate two other churches in February and March in the fastgrowing diocese.

Valentine Continued from Page One Rome. Both were beheaded during the third century on the road between the two cities. The single Valentine theory holds that they were the same person - a Roman priest who became bishop of Terni -but that. separate devotions developed in both cities. In any case, the martyrdom date got mixed up with loving and doving because Feb. 14 coincided with the .start of the mating season of the region's birds. So, a medieval hallmark began in which people celebrated the date by sending love notes. Historically, there is evidence that at least one Valentine existed and was martyred on the Via FIaminia between Rome and Terni during the persecutions that marked the first centuries of Christian existence in Rome. In the fourth century, Pope Julius I built a basilica on the Via Flaminia over a tomb containing inscriptions saying it was of a martyr called Valentine. Other historical records show that subsequent popes rebuilt the church on the site. Archeological digs over the centuries have turned up evidence that the site was a Christian cemetery. J:vidence includes fragments of stone inscribed with the name Valentine.



BRIDE-TO-BE Jacque Kuechle, center, is surrounded by the third-graders who helped her fiance, Phil Polipnick, propose. (eNS photo)

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ation signed by then President George Bush, Commander in Chief ofthe U.S. Armed Forces. Fall River Roots Admiral Hazard's father, Robert Louis Hazard, was a 1929 graduate of Fall River's Durfee High School and a member ofSt. Anne's parish in the city; and her greatgrandmother, Clara Leclair, also ofSt. Anne's, was a great influence in her life. The admiral is also close to a second cousin, Clement J. Dowling of Fall River's Cathedral parish, and she was interviewed during a recent visit to him. During the interview she discussed the growing role of women in the military, especially the possibility of their serving in combat. She was realistic. "Does the country want women getting captured, possibly raped, having babies... we have to make up our minds." Today on support ships, where 25 to 30 percent of the crew may be women, pregnancy presents a real problem, she pointed out, noting that among Navy women in the 18 to 24-year-old age bracket the incidence of pregnancy is 16 percent annually, the same as in the general popl,llation. Shipboard problems for pregnant women, she said, include climbing vertical ladders and the possibility of inhaling toxic fumes: and for these and other considerations, they must leave shipboard duty at five months of pregnancy. Such situations were among the hundreds with which she successfully coped in her 32 years of Navy service, as she took "care of people in the style of total quality leadership," as one of the speakers at her retirement testimonial described her.

training procedures, made needed reading, gardening and entertainContinued from Page One laude graduation from Boston Col- improvements to facilities, inaugu- ing in her McLean, Va., horne. rated a substance abuse preven- Other pleasures are traveling and lege with a bachelor's degree in tion program and expanded child driving, especially in New England. history and education and a masOn behalf of" I0,000 shipmates ter's in American history. But after care services for on-base families. and friends who couldn't be here She also made cookies for her a few years sne looked at older colleagues and noted that most staff, a touch added by few com~ today," her accomplishments were manding officers, and was wont to lauded by speaker after speaker at seemed bored by their jobs and her retirement ceremony, which were simply teaching by rote. Will chat with new Navy recruits. "I'd stop and introduce myself, was climaxed by presentation to that happen to me, she wondered. revive them, and have a chat," she her of the United States DistinIt was 1961"the year of John F. guished Service medal and a citKennedy's inauguration as pres'i- chuckled. Following a s'tint in Washington dent. His words, "Ask not what as director of manpower and peryour country can do for you - ask what you can do for your coun- sonnel for the Joint Chiefs of try," rang in her mind and deter- Staff, Admiral Hazard received mined her to seek a career of her second star and in 1989 became Navy Director for Pride, Profesgovernment service. She spoke to a Navy recruiter who happened to sionalism and Personal Excellence, Automatic Metered Delivery responsible for morale, self-delive near her "and found myself, a few hours later, a member of the velopment, education, physical fit24 Hour Customer Burner Service . ness, family and financial counselUnited States Navy." ing programs: in short, everything Throughout her career, she said, Complete Heating Systems Installed her Catholic education, both in contributing to the well-being of Navy personnel and their families. * 'Free Estimates *' Budget Plans school ("every grade but fourth") At all her assignments, the adand at horne was a strong support. She said ,she habitually worked miral was noted for her boundless You Never Had Service Until You Tried CHARLIE'S with base chaplains in a team , energy, which often,saw her'workapproach to personnel problems ing IO to 16 hours a day, seven 674-8709 675-7426 and in retirement she envisages as days a -.yeek.. When she snatched 46 Oak Grove Ave. '. Fall River, MA.02723 a dream position that of dean of time for herself, she enjoyed cooking, listening to classical music, student affairs at a small Catholic college: . As a' young ensign, the future admiral's first assignment was as a researcher and writer in the Navy:s department of history in Washington. Thereafter she served in varCAPE COD NEW BEDFORD FALL RIVER ATTLEBORO ious capacities at naval installa261 SOUTH ST. 783 SLADE ST. 59 ROCKLAND ST. tions in Jacksonville, Fla., New10 MAPLE ST. HYANNIS P.O. BOX M - SO. ST A. port, RI, several times in Washing997-7337 226-47800 ton, and in Naples, Italy, as a 771-6771 674-4681 speechwriter and advisor to the Commander in Chief of Allied .0 INFORMATION/REFERRAL • ADOPTIONS Forces in Southern Europe. H~r Italian assignment was a special • PREGNANCY SERVICES • CAMPAIGN FOR HUMAN joy, allowing her to revel in opera DEVELOPMENT • PRISON MINISTRY and become an expert in Italian cuisine. • REFUGEE RESETTLEMENT • CATHOLIC AIDS M.INISTRY By then it was 1980 and Admiral • ST. FRANCIS RESIDENCE FOR WOMEN Hazard received her first assign• COUNSELING ment as a commanding officer. • SOCIAL ADVOCACY • INFANT FOSTER CARE She was in charge of the Naval SPECIAL APOSTOLATES Technical Training Center at TreaSPONSORSHIP: sure Island, San Francisco, going APOSTOLATE FOR PERSONS ALCOHOLICS ANONYMOUS from there to head the San Diego WITH DISABILITIES Naval Training Station and then, SOUP KITCHEN having been named a one-star adAPOSTOLATE FOR SPANISH SPEAKING miral, to take command of the Navy's largest installation, its REV. PETER N. GRAZIANO, LlCSW training center at Great Lakes,IlI. Executive Director At Great Lakes, she revamped


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ANGEL IMAGES: While there may be no official church teaching on guardian angels (left), the church does celebrate a feast day for them on Oct. 2. Right: Jacob's dream, illustrated in a woodcut by Paul Gustave Dore, features a host of "God's messengers" (Genesis 28: 12). (eNS photos)

Angel lore: Vatican official says life would be less sans seraphs , VATICAN CITY (CNS) - The nounce impending births. like the archangel Gabriel's visit to Mary; desk of the Vatican's number-two bring divine inspiration, as when official may be piled high with an angel appeared to Moses in the ed icts, letters and assignments. but midst of a burning bush; and issue he leaves room in his thoughts for more unworldly things - like final warnings. like their lastminute flights over Sodom and angels. Gomorrah before the fire started Cardinal Angelo Sodano. Vatican secretary of state, took time to fall. They make frequent appearanout of his busy sched ule recently to ces in the Old Testament: driving sing the glories of an age-old but Adam and Eve out of the Garden, increasingly forgotten spiritual restraining Abraham's hand as he companion. was about to sacrifice his son, and "We thank the Lord for having setting up the wet ambush of the placed guardian angels beside us." Egyptian army in the Red Sea. the cardinal said. "The dogma of The Gospel says Christ was surthe existence of angels introduces rounded by angels at critical us to the wonders worked by God." Angels, the stuff of legends and. moments in his life: they proclaimed his birth on high. sustained him as fairy tales? A childlike belief! he fasted in the desert, comforted "The more we become simple him during the agony in the garden like a child, then the more we and rolled back the tombstone penetrate the mystery offaith" and appreciate a gift like the guardian after the Resurrection. Early church fathers argued angel, said Cardinal Sodano, a 64whether angels had free wilL year-old rising star in the Vatican administrative ranks, known as a whether they could reason and no-nonsense, hard-headed manag- whether they had bodies. (Eventual answers: yes, yes and no.) er. Despite a popular saying. there is The fact is. the Vatican takes the no evidence that any theologians heavenly host seriously. A few years ago, Pope John Paul II gave ever discussed how many angels a series of talks on angels, saying could dance on the head of a pin. At one point, though, a hier"they do exist" and have a "fun. damental role to play in the unfold- archy of angelic choirs was elaboing of human events." He warned , rated, with cherubim at the top about the bad angels. too. and said' and plain angels - the errand runners - at the bottom. , Catholics should "not give in to Late,r, $t. Thomas Aquinas , their flattery." 'The new universal catechism ex- refined church thinking on the pands' on this. In a' lengthy expla- subject. describing angels as purely spiiitual beings created. before the nation, it路states that "from faith, material universe and incapable of we know that there are angels" even though "materialists and rationalists of all times deny it." Angels are spiritual yet personal servant's of God. and "all human life. from childhood to death. is' surrounded by their guard and by 'their intercession," it said. To sum up. it quotes St. Basil: "Every, I;>eliever is accompanied by an angel: as tutor. pastor and guide." Hist,orically, angels have been ,the subject of much debate and speculation. The church. however. has made few official pronounce-...,ments on the,S'u路bject. "Angel'\'comes from 'the Greek', , word mea'ning "路'messenger." In Scripture and'traditlon they an-

appearing in any "place." That didn't prevent generations of painters and sculptors from depicting them as winged, corporeal figures that would watch over. inspire and sometimes upbraid their earthly clients. While encouraging belief in angels,' the church has always warned against overdoing devotion or expecting private revelation. Even St. Paul warned that the "worship of angels" could overshadow Christ's role as the one mediator. The notion of a guardian angel - one assigned to individuals to protect them in body and soul was common to pagan and Jewish traditions. It was not mentioned in the Old ,Testament. but shows up in Christ's ,discourse about children and "their angels in heaven." and in the account of an angel leading St. Peter to safety from a Roman prison. Aquinas held that only the lower-order angels were pressed into this service. Generations of Catholics were taught about guardian angels, but their popularity has declined in recent years. Pope John Paul has clearly tried to reverse the trend. saying the "important mission" of angcls should not be doubted. Cardinal Sodano thinks Catholics should "make room" for their guardian angels, too. Those who refuse to accept the existence of angels, he said, "really have路a hard heart" and are turning a blind eye to the'marvels of God's creation.

ROME (CNS) - As official decision a "moving act of love so figures showed that abortions are that access to life for a new human on the decline, Italy's bishops and being would not be blocked." pro-life groups pledged to conThe decision was also praised by tinue their battle to end legal Cardinal Alfonso Lopez Trujillo, abortions. president of the Pontifical Council The pledges came as Italians for the Family, and in a Page One marked Pro-Life Day Feb. 7, article in the Vatican newspaper, sponsored annually by the bishops, L'Osservatore Romano. and as pro-life groups reported Supporters oflegal abortion say that more women are seeking althe case should not be used to legternatives to abortion. islate a stricter law because it only Government statistics reported proves that women should have a that there were 224,067 legal abor- choice in childbearing matters. tions in 1981, compared to 160,532 Mrs. Ardenghi learned during in 1991. The health ministry estiher fourth month of pregnancy mated that there were 72,000 ille- that she had a cancerous skin gal abortions in 1990 and 60,000 in tumor and the cancer was quickly 1991. spreading. Anti-cancer drugs were Pro-life groups, meanwhile, prescribed, but she refused to take reported that the number of cen- them because they would have ters offering pro-life services to destroyed her unborn child. women contemplating abortion has Her doctors said that chances grown from 17 in 1978, when the were slim for her longterm surviabortion law was passed, to 211 in val even if she had taken the drugs. 1992. Cardinal Salvatore Pappalardo of Palermo, Sicily, celebrated ProLife Day by baptizing an abandoned baby girl who was found, near death, Christmas night in a trash bin shortly after her birth. "Human life is a very precious HONG KONG (CNS) - Fears gift of God. It is a social obligation of the Chinese government's plans to defend this right," said the for "undeveloped property" in Palermo cardinal. Hong Kong are leading some CathA Pro-Life Day statement issued olics to relocate deceased family last November by the Italian members' remains to non-Catholic bishops' conference called for an cemeteries. unending fight against legalized "I don't want my husband to be abortion. disturbed, because I'm afraid the The bishops said their abortion ,Chinese government will take back stand was part of an oVerall con- the cemetery for property develdemnation of "violence against opment," said a woman who plans life," which includes opposition to to relocate her husband's body euthanasia, crime, pornography, from a Catholic cemetery in Hong child abuse, drug abuse and lack Kong to mainland China before of care for the elderly, sick and 1997. weak. She is not the only one worried, Fifty Catholic and secular reported UCA News, an Asian voluntary agencies marked Pro- church news agency based in ThaiLife Day by sending a letter to top land. Ignatius Lee, superintendent government officials asking the of the five Catholic cemeteries in state to defend "the central and Hong Kong, told UCA News about decisive value of every human being 30 remains are removed each year. from conception to natural death." The land for all five Catholic Pro-life attention was focused cemeteries in the diocese' is leased on abortion, since measures have from the government. Three of the been presented to Parliament which cemeteries have 99-year leases that would restrict Italy's abortion law. began in 1898 and expire June 30, The law virtually allows abor- 1997, the day before Hong Kong's tion on demand to women at least s'overeignty reverts to Chinese rule 18 years of age during the first from Britain, Father Edward three months of pregnancy. Khong Kin-cheung told UCA Abortion is legal after three News. months if a woman has a doctor's Hong Kong's post-1997 mInIcertification that the pregnancy is constitution says all leases of land a grave risk to her physical or men- that extend beyond 1997 shall contal health. tinue to be recognized' and proBaby Dies tected. According to the Basic Law, Just before the pro-life day, a the present way of life is to remain baby who had become a central unchanged for 50 years. figure in the Italian abortion debate Father Khong, a member of the died in the northern Italian hospiDiocesan Board of Catholic Cemetal where he had been living in an teries, said he believes the postincubator since his birth Jan. 25. 1997 Hong Kong government will Stefano Ardenghi became a focus continue to approve the land for of controversy because his mother cemetery use. refused to take anti-cancer drugs But Lee noted that the future that would have destroyed him in government could decide to use the womb. At birth he weighed the land for other purposes. In the one pound, eight ounces and doc1970s, he said, the government tors gave him a 10 to 15 percent asked the diocese to return part of chance of survival. He died Feb. 4. the land from one cemetery to be Stefano's mother, Carla Levati used for a ,subway and a tunnel Ardenghi, died eight hours after nearby. the birth, which was done by CaeLee added that the authorities sarean section during her sixth compensated fonhe return of the month of pregnancy. Doctors land with a large sum of money to decided to remove the baby from relocate 800 bodies to other cemethe womb because of the mother's teries. In 1842, Hong Kong.lsland and weakened condition. Kowloon peninsula were ceded to At the time of the birth, Mrs. Britain. In 1898, the British acArdenghi's decision to have the cepted a 99-year leasehold in lieu child was support~d by pro-life of a cessiori ofthe New Territories, groups. Leading the Vatican' praise was, whi~h occupies 9\ p<;:rcent of Hong Kong's area. 'Pope John Paul II, who called the

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"Christians must make a clear left by the AIOS epidemic," he and active option for justice," he said. said in the eastern Ugandan city. "They all need your preferential The pope was met at the Soroti and practical love," the pope told airport by spear-carrying Ateso them. dancers. The dozens of cowbells The pope left Uganda Feb. 10 each man wore on his right leg and was scheduled to hold separcreated a high-decibel din. Men ate meetings in Khartoum, Sudan, wearing ostrich-plume headdresses later that day with clergy, religious accompanied the dancers with pipes and catechists; the president and made from hollowed out cattle government leaders; and leaders horns. of other religions. The Gospel procession at the Mass was performed by Ateso dancers brandishing their spears alongside the Gospel bearer who rode, bouncing, on the shoulders of another man. Soroti was one of the main cenWASHINGTON (CNS) ters of reb'el activity in the late President Clinton asked the crowd . 1980s, and sporadic fighting against at the recent annual National Praythe government of President Muse- er Breakfast to join him in asking veni still occurs. God for "the determination it takes The congregation at the Mass always to make progress in an included Karamonjong, a tra- imperfect world." ditionally cattle-rustling tribe, who The 2,000 participants at the have added to the area's poverty breakfast were a mixture of clergy by stealing the herds of the Ateso. and laymen, military leaders, forOdok Peter Woceng, district ad- eign dignitaries and members of ministrator for Soroti, said that Congress and the Supreme Court. when the papal visit was announcClinton, a Baptist, said the ed, area rebel leaders said they breakfast was a chance for particiwanted to attend the Mass and pants to restore and strengthen receive the pope's blessing. Jheir faith, adding that "in this Six leaders came to his office in town...we need that." the week before the visit and symHe asked all to pray God would bolically laid down their arms, he help them to "have the hope it said. They gave him two guns and takes to never give up" and "the humility to walk by faith and not several clubs. Pope John Paul told the people by sight." he was spending five days in Vice President AI Gore said that Uganda to encourage them in their worldwide problems today have faith and their efforts at national been caused, in part, by an underreconciliation and reconstruction. lying spiritual crisis. Gore also An essential ingredient in that is made reference to the earth's ena stepped-up effort at evangeliza- vironmental problems. tion, spreading the Christian mes"How can we continue to glorify sage to those who do not believe God if we heap contempt on God's and strengthening those who are creation?" asked Gore, who is also "lukewarm in their faith," the pope a Baptist. The annual prayer breakfast is said. Evangelization in Africa also sponsored by Congress, and dates implies listening "to the cries of all back to the Eisenhower era. Peothose in this country and through- ple from all 50 states were present, out Africa pleading to be freed along with representatives from from so many forms of slavery," 150 countries and five continents. he said. . Many Africans yearn to be freed Positive Development "from ignorance and from the "Little progress can be made by oppression that weighs so heavily on the poor, the old and lonely, the merely attempting to repress what sick, refugees, the defenseless is evil; our great hope lies in develyoung, and in particular, the oping what is good."-Calvin Coolorphans of war and the orphans idge

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IN BENIN, Pope John Paul II meets with Sossa Guedehoungue, left, chief of Benin's vodun cult, and other leaders of the animist religion. (CNS photo)

Pope calls for healing Continued from Page One . companions. May the light of that holocaust never cease to shine in Africa. With President Y oweri Museveni in attendance, the pope said u.gandans need the light of the Gospel to dispel the darkness lingering after years of civil unrest, violence and fear. ' "Today Uganda stands at the crossroads: her people need the salt of God's word to bring out the virtues of honesty, goodness, justice and concern for the dignity of others, which alone can guarantee the rebuilding of their country on a firm foundation," he said. That evening the pope asked Ugandan Catholic bishops to help their people learn the importance of solidarity. The most important ingredients in a nation's development, he said, are spiritual and moral good. Also during the meeting with the bishops, the pope announced

that he was raising the status of the church at the martyrs shrine to that of a minor basilica. According to Vatican Radio, the Basilica of the Ugandan Martyrs is only the second basilica on 'the African continent. The other is in Ivory Coast. Feb. 8, at the foot of the Mountains of the Moon, the pope called on Uganda's ethnic groups to cherish their identities but avoid ethnic division. "Now is the 'acceptable time, the day of salvation,' the day for. all Ugandans to cast aside the traces of destructive divisions based on inequality, ethnic enmity and rivalry," the pope said during an outdoor Mass in Kasese. The area is about 35 kilometers from the Zairean border in the Ruwenzori mountain range. The Bakonjo tribe's name for the forested mountains reflect their heights over the plains, reaching to the moon. The Mass choir was made up of


representatives of the main tribes - Bakonjo, Batoro, Banyankole and Bakiga - and dozens of clans living in the area. Flying in from Kampala, the pope was greeted at the grass landing strip by dancing Bakonjo and Bakiga children wearing straw skirts. The area around Kasese was the scene of tribal warfare in the late 1960s, again after the overthrow of Idi Amin in 1979 and after President M useveni, a Banyankole, came to power in a 1986 coup. In his Mass homily, the pope asked the people to allow no ethnic, social or religious difference to "stand in the way of a real solidarity in building the common good." While protecting the traditions of their tribes, Ugandans must become more aware of their belonging to a wider regional and national community, he said. "Let there be reconciliation and peace," he said. The pope addressed other regional issues the same evening during a speech to the diplomatic corps in Kampala. He focused in the civil war in Sudan, the AI OS problem in Africa and the need for international cooperation in relief and development efforts and struggles for democracy on the continent. Armed conflict, famine and the plight of refugees - inteconnected issues on the continent - must be addressed, he said. The pope praised efforts toward democracy iri Africa, especially where "they reflect a growth of respect for human dignity and for the rights and duties which flow from it." Evangelization At a Mass in Soroti Feb. 9, the pope said evangelization in Africa includes helping people trapped in modern forms of slavery.

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THE ANCHOR-Diocese of Fall River-Fri., Feb. 12,1993 "tell the truth" about what they want. Such decisions are difficult. While there are no perfect ways to measure readiness for marriage, the following questions can help you evaluate your readiness for this commitment. 1. How well do each of you communicate personal needs, feelings and questions about the relationship? You each need to verbalize what you want in the relationship. Just as important is how you feel about discussing what matters most to each of you. 2. How much have you each discussed your family backgrounds? We usually don't realize this, but in many ways you actually bring the other person's past into your life in a marriage. Consequently, your experience as a child or teen makes a significant difference in how you both interact in this new relationship. 3. How do you deal 'with conflict? If little or no conflict has occurred while you've been dating, beware! Either you don't know each other very well or there is a pattern of avoiding 'problems. Be sure you and your dating .partner can negotiate differences with fairness and respect before agreeing to a greater commitment. 4. What are your long-range goals? Obviously, you cannot know' all the details of your future. 'But when you consider getting married, it helps if you each discuss directions you want to follow in your lives. 5. Do you have lots of fun together? Every marriage goes through times of problems. Yet, when a couple has a strong . foundation of.shared likes, the problems do not become the sole focus of each person's attention. Consequently, difficulties are more likely to be navigated successfully. It's not easy to respond truthfully to such probing questions. However, it is only under the light of truth that we can see a relationship well enough to make a clear decision. Your comments are always welcomed by Charlie Martin, RR 3, Box 182, Rockport, IN 47635.

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TELL THE TRUTH By Christopher Carstens At some point things get serious. Who knows just when it happens or why, but one week you're talkingabout going to the senior prom, and the next week you're talking about getting married. As a smart teen you will do some thinking well in advance about what sort of person to marry. Then, as you date and things start taking that serious turn, you can ask yourself, "Does this person seem like somebody I'd like to marry?" . , If the answer is "no," you cill} let things cool off. If the ·answer is "yes," it's a clear sign to' keep exploring the relationship. Here are some ideas for explo- ' ration while you consider what you're looking for in a marriage partner. ' It's important that you enjoy the same things. If she's a fan of the opera and his idea of cuiture is a Monster Truck Derby. they're in for some problems. This isn't to' say that you have to agree on all your tastes or share all your activities. Still, the more interests you have in common the more fun you can have together. If there isn't a general compatibility of interests, it may be tough finding things you enjoy doing with each other. Shared values are important too. For example, if one of you is a serious Catholic and the other thinks religion is a big joke there eventually will be some big problems in this area. In the same way. if one of you daydreams about raising a big family and the other doesn't want any kids. you have a conflict. Just getting married won't make this conflict go away. Shared values are no guarafltee of compatibility, but it increases the likelihood .that you will have

common ground. Here's another clue for how you'll get along. Take a good look at how vour potential partner treats his o~ her parents. That's the best predictor of how you will probably be treated after a few years of marriage. If your boyfriend is rude and yells at his mom, you're set up for the same sort of treatment as his wife. Are your opinions and wishes respected? If your partner isn't giving you much consideration while you're dating, it's not likely that he or she will listen any more closely after reciting marriage vows. Listening isn't always the same as agreement. For example, you're excited about going to a new movie tonight and yO,ur girlfriend has her heart set on dancing. Let her know that you really want 'to see the movie. She has three choices. She can go to the movie because that's what you want, she can suggest acompromise, like seeing the movie tonight and going dancing next week, or she can say, "Look, I'm going dancing - are you coming along or not?" If your partner consistently ignores what you want, you probably want a different partner. Here's the most important thing to' remember: Never marry somebody hoping that he or she will change. Mostly they don't. Often people make concessions during courtship, but in the reality of daily married life they settle back into old patterns. It happens all the time. She says, "I married him because I saw the man he could be." He says, "I hoped being married to me would give her more self-confidence." What they both mean is "I'didn't really want to marry-this person. I wanted somebody else. Somebody different." " Don't marry somebody and hope that person w.ill change. Wait until .. you· the· one youreally want. 'Don't get ,rushed to the altar. It may be a long wait; but it's' worth it. .

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Something about the way Your eyes lately Look up and down And everywhere but me Something about tonight I know is missin~ And I know it's more than insecurity After all, all the time We've spent together Don't you think I'd feel something? If I have to read your mind Maybe we're just wasting time Tell the truth You know my heart is in your hands So give it up or make a stand Tell the truth Cmon, tell the truth There's no sense in Going on this way, baby You know it's time to say what you mean There's no sense in going out Trying to replace A love that never came clean Let's start it over Or call it over somehow (Start it over or call it over)' Just bring your love Back to me baby, somehow So if you want to be mine Baby, let's stop wasting time Just tell the truth 'Cause you know my heart Is in your hand So give it up or take a stand Just tell the truth Let's start it over, Or call it over Bring your love back To me baby, somehow (Start it over or call it over) Written by Jude Cole and James Newton Howard. Sung by Jude Cole (c) 1991 by EMI Blackwood Music, Coleision Music, BMS and MCA Music; and 1992 by Reprise Records MOST SERIOUS dating reperson realizes that something lationships arrive at this quesis missing in their love. tion: "Are we headed toward He knows that it's not just the marriage or should we look for insecurity he feels. When it a long-term commitment with comes to their love, it's time to another?" "give it up or take a stand." This appears to be the situaHe invites his girl to "start it tion for the couple in Jude over" with greater commitment Cole's "Tell the Truth." ·One or "call it over." Now they must



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QUILTS FOR HOMELESS: Schoolchildren from St. Joan of Arc School in Hershey, PA, display the two quilts they made for pomeless families at the Harrisburg Interfaith Family Shelter. Starting in November, the 29 students who worked on the project with direction from Amy Ve'nturella (center, rear) gave up part oftheir lunch time three days a week to quilt. (eNS photo) • I.'

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in our schools Fourth-graders at SS. Peter and Paul School, Fall River, recently received a visit from Todd Soares of the Los Angeles Dodgers' minor league team. At age 19, Soares has been playing baseball for 13 years, beginning in the Greater New Bedford Little League. Later, in the Southend Bronco League, .he played youth from all over the country in Little League regionals, coming within one game of the world series. In June 1991 the Dodgers chose him as a third baseman in the amateur draft. After answering children's questions and explaining that baseball is a 9 to 5 job, Soares autographed student's baseballs, bats and papers. He plans to return to SS. Peter and Paul in the spring with fellow minor leaguers for a "Take Me Out to the Ball Game" evening.

A host of fun activities marked Catholic Schools Week at Dominican Academy, Fall River: mix and match clothes, a students vs. faculty volleyball game which the teachers won for the second year in a row, and a funny hat contest won by kindergartener Elisa Silvia, who sported a tea set on her head. A basketball competition pitted the A team vs. the B team. Father Bob Oliveira was celebrant of a School Week liturgy in which he told students and faculty. to expect great things from one another. Students should recognize the gifts and talents of their teachers and fellow students, and teachers should affirm'the special gifts of their students, because Jesus truly wants us to praise the greatness of others as gifts from God, said Father Oliveira. Catholic Schools Month activities continued with a science .fair Feb. 8 and 9. Also, registration for all grades for 1993-94 is being held 8:30 to 3:30 p. m. weekdays at the school office throughout February.

St. Joseph's School On Feb, 3, St. Joseph S.chool, Fairhaven, staff and students celebrated National Appreciation Day for Catholic Schools. Joining in the celebration were Ruth Galary, selectwoman; Patrick Mullin, selectman; Stephen Foster, chief of police; Sister Michaelinda Plante and James McNamee, associate superintendents of diocesan schools; Father Patrick Killilea, St. Joseph's pastor; and Father Brian Margraff, associate pastor. Staff and students carrying banners, posters, balloons and flags marched down side streets as the Bishop Stang High School band played lively music. Parents lined the streets to wave and cheer on the parade. For information on St. Joseph's School, call 996-1983.

St. John Evangelist Eighth grade'rs at St. John the Evangelist School, Attleboro, will hold a returnable bottle and can drive 9 a.m. to noon Feb. 27. Returnables may be brought to the school cafeteria. Proceeds will benefit the class trip to Washington, DC.

Adoption: The Loving Choice Thefollowing essay, "Adoption is the Loving Choice," by Joanna M, Gallivan of A dams, in the diocese ofSpringfield, was the winner in a recent contest sponsored by Massachusetts Citizens for Life. Miss Gallivan, a student at Hoosac Valley High School, rf!ad her entry at the Assembly for Life in Boston last month.

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TODD SOARES signs autographs for, from left, Andrea Guillot, Victoria Pacheco, Geneva Szulewski and Melissa Canonizado during his visit to SS. Peter and Paul School, Fall River.

Coyle-Cassidy Coyle-Cassidy High School. Taunton, celebrated Catholic Schools Week with a liturgy on Catholic School Appreciation Day. Feb. 3. Chaplain Father William L. Boffa celebrated the Mass for the 680 st udents and 65 staff members. The school community took the opportunity to say goodbye to Father Boffa. who is leaving to assume the post of pastor at St. John Neumann Church. East Freetown. He will remain as chaplain until June. Students and faculty wrote letters of support to the priest and' placed them in a box decorated with pictures from his five years at Coyle-Cassidy. . At the end of the Mass, staff members were recommissioned in a candlelight ceremony. Music will playa big part in upcoming weeks at C-c. First, students will be dancing to music at the annual St. Valentine's Day . dance tomorrow. The Student Council will donate dance proceeds to the Francis McKeown Memorial Scholarship Fund. The school's Jazz Band will perform at the Berklee Jazz Festival Feb. 20. Then the Band will team up with the Select Choir for a performance on the road March 10. On Feb. 27, three bands. featuring Taiwar:t,. will be performing at the school in a Music Parents Association activity.

Holy Family-Holy Name 'School Students of the Month for February at Holy Family-Holy Name School, New Bedford, are, for kindergarten, Matthew Greno'n and Andrew Baptiste. For grades I through 8 they are: Melinda Nogueira, Katie Schmidt, Jennifer DiPaola, Joshua Bonneau, Heidi Lebeau and Sarah Fernandes, Cecil Robles, Elizabeth Morris, Josh Fernandes. A holiday drive netted $202 and 10 boxes of canned goods for the Missionaries of Charity.

The school's budding scientists are gearing up for the annual Science Fair. to be held Feb. 27 in the school auditorium. Meanwhile. foreign language students are preparing projects for the annual Fo.rcign l.anguage Week. March 1-5. The eighth annual Two-on-Two Basketball Tournament is March [1-10 with all the proceeds going to the St. Vincent dePaul Camp in Westport. Eighth grade students and their parents are reminded about registration for next year's classes on Thursday, March 4. The snow date is Tuesday. March II. The annual Nation'al Honor Society Talent Show is Saturday. March 13 in the school aUditorium. Three C-C students received awards in the Boston Globe Scholastic Arts Contest: sophomore Thomas Zaks for his sculpture "Rhvthm." sophom"ore Eric Rodrigu~z for his painting "Sparr's Pharmacy." andjunior Brant Jones for his painting "Par Four." Alithree are students offine arts instructor Carol Caulfield. Academic principal Dr. Donna Boyle has announced that 233 students achieved honor roll status for the second marking period. Those students will be honored at a reception hosted by Lhe National Honor Society after February vacation.

future. She loved me enough to give me up. She sacrificed her bond with me to give me a chance at life which she felt she could not offer for whatever路 reason. She gave me up for adoption. I have a mother and father who sought me out and have raised me and nurtured me with all the love. understanding and support that I'm 17, and I awake each day any biological pan;nts could ever lavish on any child. eager to face the joys and challenges that lie ahead of me. I have' . They have never attempted to already accomplished a number of hide the facts of my adoption from me. I have known from the beginthings'which have brought feelings ning, and have always been made of pride and satisfaction to me and to feel that I am very special to my my family. I have participated in the National Spelling Bee in Washparents and my extended family because of it. I participated fully in ington, won several awards for speaking and writing, played sports the adoption proceedings for my at school. and have been a cheeryounger sister. and I remember leader. I've gotten my driver's clearly the pride I felt when the license, my first job and have been judge allowed me to put my name. to my first formal dance. in a childish scrawl, on her final This year I will finish high school papers alongside my parents' sigand move on to college. I hope to natures 13 years ago. Because of the actions of these major in communications and perhaps some day to make a signifithree people. I have a life. Because cant contribution to my society. of their love and sacrifice. I have a Why. you ask, is this so special? future. Because of these three lovWhat makes me and my accomping'parents. I am! lishments any different from thouThe very fact that I can share my sands of other teenagers? experience with you at this time is Not a single thing that I have a testament to the validity and ever done. or ever will do, would importance of the thought that have been possible without the "Adoption Is the Loving Choice." love and caring of three very speTo me. it is the only choice. cial parents. I have a mother whom I have never met, and perhaps never will WASHINGTON (CNS) meet. Yet 'each morning before I Catholics need to reawaken their get out of bed Itake a moment to faith, Cardinal James A. Hickey thank this loving woman for car- of Washington said in a pastoral ing enough for me to give me the letter on Catholic schools. "Imchance to be whatever I will pressive statistics and large institubecome. This woman. about whom tions are not enough," he wrote. I know so little. loved me enough "Too many Catholics do not know to make a conscious choice to their faith and many have grown carry me from conception to birth. cold in their relationship with the S he cared enough about me and Lord. Some adopt attitudes and about my future to disregard the standards of behavior that are option of abortion, Her life, for contrary to the Gospel. There are the nine months that I was a part too few vocations to the priestof her. was changed and in essence hood and religious life. All these put aside so that I could live. She are serious indicators that the faith went through. at whatever cost to needs to be reawakened." herself. the discomfort of an unIt's Nothing planned pregnancy and the pain of "To be wronged is nothing unless birth for me. Then she had the you continue to remember courage to ml\ke the most signifiit."-Confucious cant decision of all regarding my

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Bishop Connolly Jamie Caron of Swansea. has been selected to participate in the 1993 World Scholar-Athlete Games as a scholar-soccer player. The Bishop Connolly High School, Fall River, sophomore and two-year member of the girls' varsity soccer team was chosen for her leadership qualities, scholastic record and extracurricular achievements. The World Sch9lar-Athlete Games provide participants with educational. athletic and cultural experiences over a 12-day period. Participants are selected from a large group of applicants from all fifty states and over 100 countries.

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SEPARATED/DIVORCED CATHOLICS, NB Support group meeting 7 to 9 p.m. Feb. 22, Family Life Center, 500 Slocum Rd., N. Dartmouth. Topic: tax information (rescheduled from Jan. 13.) Speaker: Betty Lee Swing of H&R Block. O.L. VICTORY, CENTERVILLE Brian Schlegel has achieved the rank of E~gle Scout. CATHEDRAL CAMP, E. FREETOWN Confirmation retreat for St. Julie's parish, North Dartmouth, tomorrow. Emmaus Galilee 7 to 10 p.m. Sunday, Neumann Hall.

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ST. JOSEPH, TAUNTON Centering prayer workshops with parishioner Ethel Fraga March 7 and 14. MCFL; CAPE COD Massachusetts Citizens for Life meeting I p.m. Feb. 20, meeting room of Burger King at junction of Routes 6 and 132, Barnstable. All Welcome. ST. ANNE, FR All welcome at Our Lady of Peace Little Rock Bible study classes held 7 p.m. each Tuesday, rectory. O.L. CAPE, BREWSTER Lower Cape Ultreya 7:30 tonight, parish center.

Missionaries of Charity The Missionaries of Charity at 782 Kempton Street, New Bedford, invite the public to 7 a.m. daily Mass Monday through Saturday and to a 6 p.m. holy hour Monday through Wednesday, Friday and Saturday. LaSALETTE CENTER FOR CHRISTIAN LIVING, ATTLEBORO "Discovery and Adjustments," a retreat for couples married I to 10 years: Feb. 12 to 14; "Singles Retreat," for 25 to 35-year-olds, Feb. 19 to 21. Both retreats begin 7:30 p.m. Friday, end I p.m. Sunday. Information on either: 2228530. ST.STEPHEN,ATTLEBORO Adult Christian Growth video series meetings 7:30 p.m. Feb. 15 and 22. AA meets 7 pm. Sundays, church hall. . ST. JOHN BAPTIST, WESTPORT Free community health fair 8 a.m. to noon, March 7, parish center. Health information for all ages will be available; free tests will include stress, blood glucose and blood pressure. Breast self-examinations will be explained. Cholesterol screening will be done for a small fee. Children may bring dolls or stuffed animals for "check-ups," and prescription medicines may be brought to check for possible reactions and side effects. Refreshments.

Support group meeting has been changed from Feb. 28 to I:30 to 3:30 p.m. Feb. 21, Christ the King parish education center library, off Rt. 151, Mashpee. Topic: ~'Finances, Taxes and Other Luxuries." Information: Dorothyann Callahan, 428-7078. DCCW District I, FR, meeting 7:30 p.m. Feb. 17, St. Patrick's School Hall, Fall River; program: "Prayer Service for Priests." District II, NB, open meeting 7 p. m. Feb. 18, Sacred Heart parish hall, NB; speaker: Bristol County Sheriff David Nelson. District III, Taunton, board meet--ing, 7:30 p.m. Feb. 17, St. Mary's, Taunton. District V, Cape and Islands, meeting 2 p.m. Feb. 21, St. Anthony's THE JUNIOR CHOIR (above) and altar servers of St. parish hall, E. Falmouth; speaker: Zara Kilmurray, a lawyer for Boston John of God Church will hold their, annual Mardi Gras Carpolice dept. and legal advisor on the subject of drugs to the Barnstable nival 1 to 4 p.m. Feb. 21 at the parish center, 1036 Brayton Ave., Somerset. sheriffs office.

LaSalette Center program to address abuse issues LaSalette Center for Christian Living, Attleboro, and Associates in Education and Prevention in Pastoral Practice will present "Keeping the Faith in Troubled Times" 7:30 to 9:30 p.m. Feb. 17 at the retreat center. The presentation will address concerns of persons wondering about their faith in light of abuse issues recently raised in the church. Presenters will be Sister Elaine Shaw, OP, MPS, and Baptist minister Rev. Patricia L. Liberty. Sister Shaw is a spiritual director, chaplain and professional nurse with advanced training in professional and sexual ethics. Rev. liberty has advanced training in professional and clergy ethics. Both have studied at the Sex Abuse Institute (RI College School of Social Work) and the Center for Prevention of Sexual and Domestic Violence in Seattle, WA. On Sept. 14, LaSalette offered a special Mass for persons in abusive situations, celebrated by Father George Brennan, MS. The Mass and upcoming workshop are part of LaSalette's effort to offer ongoing help and education in abuse issues. Workshops for clergy and other church personnel are also planned, with the first scheduled for March 29 and 30. For information call 222-8530.

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Games will be geared to children ages 4 to 14 and will include OOZE digging, a fishing pond and ring toss. Also included will be activity centers for cupcake decoration, face painting and puppet making. For information on attending call 675-5373.

Family Rosary opens African center ALBANY, N.Y. (CNS) - Family Rosary, a worldwide prayer ministry based in Albany, is creating its first African center in Nairobi, Kenya, according to Holy Cross Father David Farrell. Holy Cross Father James Rahilly of Oyster Bay. N. Y., has been named director of the center. Father Rahilly, who has served in East African ministries for 28 years, said that the prayer center will emphasize catechetical and pastoral dimension as well as prayer and family unity. Father Rahilly said the center

will use mass media to evangelize East Africans. Family Rosary, which was founded in 1942 by the late Holy Cross Father Patrick Peyton, also has offices in the Philippines, Spain, Brazil, Argentina, Peru, Ecuador and Uruguay. The Holy Cross Fathers serve in the Fall River diocese at Holy Cross Mission House, North Dartmouth; Holy Cross parish, South Easton, and Holy Cross Retreat House and Stonehill College. North Easton, where Father Peyton is buried.

Area Religious Broadcasting The following television and radio programs originate in the diocesan viewing and listening area. Their listings normally do not vary from week to week. They will be presented in the Anchor periodically and will reflect any changes that may be made. Please clip and retain for reference. EWTN can be viewed in most OnTV Each Sunday, 8:00 a.m WLNE, parts of the diocese on various Channel 6. Diocesan Television channels. Consult local listing. Mass, also broadcast on radio On Radio station 87.9 FM. The American Catholic,'; 5:45 Portuguese Masses from Our a.m. Sundays, WPXC, 102.9 FM, Lady of Mt. Carmel Church, Hyannis. New Bedford: 12:15 p.m. each St. Jude Novena, 6:45 a.m. Sunday on radio station WJFDSundays, WHTB, 1400 A.M., Fall FM,7 p.m. each Sunday on teleRiver. vision Channel 20. Charismatic programs with "Vivendo a Nossa Fe" (PortuFather John Randall are aired guese), 9:30 p.m. Saturdays Fall River/New Bedford Channel 20; from 9:30 to 10:30 a.m. Monday 2 p.m. Sundays Fall River Chan- through Friday on station WRIB, 1220 AM; Mass is broadcast at I nel13. p.m. each Sunday. "Confluence," 8:30 a.m. each "Topic Religion," presented by Sunday on Channel 6, is a panel program moderated by Truman two priests, a rabbi and a ProtTaylor and having as permanent estant minister, is broadcast at participants Father Peter N. Gra- 6:06 a.m. and 9:06 p.m. each ziano, diocesan director of social Sunday on station WEEI Bosservices; Right Rev. George Hunt, ton, 590 AM. Programs of Catholic interest Episcopal Bishop ofRhode Island, are l:iroadcast at the following and Rabbi Baruch Korff. Mass 9:30 a.m. Monday to times on station WROL Boston. 950 AM: Monday through FriFriday. WFXT,' Channel 25. "Rejoice and Hope" 6:30 a.m. day 9. 9:15,11:45 a.m.; 12:15, alternate Sundays, Channel 10, 12:30, I p.m. A Polish-language Mass is features Providence Bishop Louis heard from 7:30 to 8:30 a.m. Gelineau. "Maryson," a family puppet every Sunday ·on station WICE, show with moral and spiritual 550 AM. perspective 6 p.m. each ThursThe rosary is broadcast at 5:45 day, Fall River and New Bedford a.m. Monday through Saturday Cable Channel 13. and the St. Jude novena at 9: 15 "Spirit and the Bride," a talk p.m. each Thursday on WPLM show with William Larkin, 6 p. m. Plymouth, 1390 AM. 99.1 FM. Both programs are simulcast. Monday, cable channel 35.


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