CHAPTER 6. BORN WITH JOY
Transcendence means the disappearance of the need for the other, the disappearance of the desire to get lost into a woman or into a man. And this is possible only if you have understood. And understanding comes only through experience. So I don’t say drop out of your relationships, rather, become more meditative in your relationships. Making love, let it be a meditation too. And you will be surprised: if while making love you also move in a meditative state you will have great insights into what is happening, and the whole urge called sex will become conscious. And once it has become conscious it can disappear. And it disappears on its own; you need not cultivate, you need not practise anything for it. When it goes on its own it is beautiful. Yes, sex disappears – one transcends it – but not by fighting it. This is true, and because of this truth much misunderstanding has happened in the world. Sex disappeared in Buddha’s life, sex disappeared in Christ’s life. People have seen sex disappearing, and people have seen that when sex disappears there is great splendour. Something of the sky dances on the earth. The beyond reaches to the earth. The mundane becomes suffused with the sacred. And because people have seen these things, great desire has arisen in them too to transcend sex. But then the whole thing goes wrong: they start fighting with it. It is a secret science, and if you don’t move rightly, everything will go wrong. A man is told by a friend that he should pick a wife who is ’an economist in the kitchen, a lady in the parlour, and a prostitute in bed’. They meet sometime after the wedding and the friend asks if he is satisfied with his choice. ’Well,’ says the newly-wed, ’I did what you said, but I guess I made a mistake somewhere. The woman I married turned out to be a prostitute in the parlour, a lady in the kitchen, and an economist in bed!’ Just a little mismanagement, just a thing here and a thing there misplaced, and everything goes wrong. Transcendence is never through repression, transcendence is through awareness.
transcendence is through understanding,
Just the other night I was giving sannyas to a psychoanalyst – a beautiful man. I have given him the name: Anand Veetkam. It means bliss beyond sex. And to him I said that if you become meditative while making love you will come to know a few immensely significant things. The first and the most significant thing is that when you are going into a deep orgasm, when the climax is happening, there is great joy because in that moment sex disappears. Sex brings you to the orgasmic state, and once its purpose is fulfilled, sex disappears. In the orgasmic state there is no sexuality left in you. You are simply throbbing and there is no desire. You are utterly herenow, there is no future, no fantasy, no imagination, nothing. And when the orgasm happens, the man is alone – the woman may be there but he is not aware of the woman. And the woman is alone – the man is there but she is not aware of the mall. The Secret of Secrets, Vol 1
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