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f I have heard it from one person, I have heard a dozen say it....where has the summer gone? It seems like I was just writing that we are looking forward to a great summer break, and now here it is, over! We pack so much in to everyday and try to have as much fun as possible; it is so hard to think about being without the kids for a majority of the day. But, at the same time, my sister is chanting in my ear, "It's almost September. Can you hear that sound? {silence} No. Exactly! September is almost here."{ya, know the silence of all the kids at school!}

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So as our days wind down and slowly try to get back into the routine of early bed times and early mornings rise and shine, I know for myself, I spend all my quiet moments shooting up prayers asking for help. There is a lot of mental preparedness that goes into each school year, but more importantly, a lot of praying and a lot of Jesus. Those strategic, planned, structured days of the school year are a blessing and a curse, which is why I have to mentally get back in the game and prepare myself to crack the whip, while remembering to take the time to smell the roses. It is learning to balance walking across the tight rope. Because you want your kids to have fun and make lots of memories, but at the same time, learning is what will take them places in life.

Here is to all the other mommas out there mentally preparing for a great school year. The teachers who put in the long hours and labor to help our kids succeed. To the dads who roll up their sleeves and get in there to do what has to be done to make a family work---whether that is working long hours to support the family, picking up and dropping off at daycare, or running to the grocery store. Then to all of those alongside us, coworkers, our bosses, our families, and our friends, who will be there to lend an ear, a helping hand, or even a carpool or two. I have said it before and I will say it again, "It takes a village!" As East Texans, we are blessed to be able to lean on our brothers and sisters throughout the year. We know how to lend a helping hand.

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CONTENTS 9

YOUR HOME

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Home Tour:The Pour House

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In the Kitchen: Nutritious Meals in Minutes

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Your Pantry: Healthy Nacogdoches Kids' Expo

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The Creative Mom: Playing with Your Food

19 YOUR COMMUNITY 20

Landmarks: First Baptist Church Lufkin

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Giving Back: T he Janelle Grum Family Crisis Center of East Texas

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Community Leader: Scarlett Sloane

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Inspiring Woman: Dr. LaTonya M. Goffney

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In the News

31 YOUR LIFE 32

Something Abundant: Learning to Dance in the Rain

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Stretch Marks: Having Tea with Tina & Nancy

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Fashion: Dress It Up/Dress It Down

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Mission Statement: Haiti

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Review

39 YOUR CHILD 40

Pretty Babies

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Children's Health: T he Misunderstood Child

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Look at Me

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Birthday Bash: Splish, Splash Birthday Bash!

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Why I Love Being a Mom: April Houston

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HOME TOUR

THE POUR HOUSE

estoration projects that take place to a home are usually never seen or enjoyed by the general public. That is not the case with 207 South Raguet in Lufkin. Nigel Boyles has turned this historic home into an establishment for all to enjoy, Pour House Grill & Garden. She originally bought the home to live in and then realized it was zoned commercial.

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Her parents own a restaurant in Zavalla and are well known for their homemade, delicious cooking. With the menu already in her corner, the atmosphere was next. They all worked hard to get the "garden" ready to host seating for patrons, but the garden already had 100 year old Crepe Mrytles, Sweet Plum Trees and Pecan Trees to work with. Boyles and her team have done an excellent job creating a new eatery for East Texans to enjoy. It is the perfect blend for all to enjoy: a family atmosphere, date night, or a large g roup of friends to come and stay for hours. The Pour House Grill & Garden is open Thursday- Saturday for lunch and dinner and Sunday for lunch. L ike their facebook page for the menu, specials, and live entertainment for the week.

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NUTRITIOUS MEALS IN MINUTES Food Network Star Jamie Deen Shares Simple Tips and Tricks for Family Meal Time Success fter a chaotic day of shuttling k ids around from [KPWWT \W IXXWQV\UMV\[ \W [XWZ\[ XZIK\QKM[ ÅVLQVO time to prepare a delicious meal that the whole family will enjoy can be challenging. Getting everyone around the dinner table for a meal provides the perfect opportunity to encourage children to explore new foods and build healthy eating habits for life, but w ith busy schedules it’s often easier said than done.

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· Plan ahead: Menu-planning can also be a huge time saver. It requires more thinking at the start of the week, but w ill help you see what d ishes can be remixed for later on in t he week. Turkey and baked potatoes on Monday can be turned into turkey sliders and ranch mashed potatoes on T hursday!

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YOUR PANTRY

by Amy McLeod, RD, LD

Sponsored in part by Brookshire Brothers Families who come to t he event can expect to MOVE! T hroughout the day, students will go from station to station playing games, gathering info and trying out news ways to exercise.

Zumba a nd Yoga i nstructors w ill encourage everyone t here to try out their techniques and there will be bounce houses and an obstacle course for a ll of t he participants who complete a ll WN \PM ML]KI\QWVIT IVL Å\VM[[ IK\Q^Q\QM[ Families that play and learn together – get healthy together.

In this case, they’ll also go home with free school supplies, samples and coupons, donated by Brookshire Brothers. Jerry Johnson, P resident a nd CEO of Brookshire Brothers, I nc. adds, "Back to school is such an exciting time for kids. There is so much anticipation about the coming school year and the new beginnings t hat go a long w ith it. Brookshire Brothers is t hrilled to help Healthy Nacogdoches get our young people off to a good start. Eating the right foods and exercising daily increases a child's energy level which i n t urns helps t hem learn better. We ove more, eat better a nd choose well! T hose a re applaud Healthy Nacogdoches for everything it does and are the three thoughts Brookshire Brothers and delighted to help."

Healthy Nacogdoches want to get across at t his year’s K IDS’ E XPO on Saturday, August 17th. So join Brookshire Brothers and Healthy Nacogdoches and More t han 4 00 school age children a re expected let’s k ick start t he s chool year on S aturday, A ugust 17th at t he to descend on the CL Simon Recreation Center for a healthy CL Simon Recreation Center. The event is free and open to outing for t he entire family! Healthy Nacogdoches, a coalition anyone i n t he Nacogdoches a nd s urrounding a reas. For more of community health partners, created this Back to School information about T he K ids’ E xpo or Healthy Nacogdoches, family event. “ We at Healthy Nacogdoches recognize t he value go t o w ww.healthynacogdoches.org. T he K ids’ E xpo i s m ade of an active and healthy lifestyle. The goal of the Kids’ Expo possible from contributions from: Amerigroup, Brookshire is to provide a rea children a nd t heir parents w ith f un ways to Brothers, The Daily Sentinel, Encompass Home Health, get active, eat healthy, and live tobacco free lifestyles,” states GETCAP-Head Start, Nacogdoches Memorial Hospital, Kinnie Douglas, Healthy Nacogdoches P rogram C oordinator. Nacogdoches Parks a nd Recreation, P iney Woods Pediatrics, P.A., a nd D rs. Shaym & K avita Vyas.

Look for me at the Brookshire Brothers booth where we will provide ideas for budget-friendly family meals, a long w ith food samples, recipes and coupons. I’ll be cooking and demonstrating Amy McLeod, RD, LD is aregistered dietitian and on t he hour at 11AM, 12NOON a nd 1PM i n t he g ym!

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by Shanna Crew

THE CREATIVE MOM

P L A Y I N G W I T H Y O U R F O O D ne of the challenges of sending my kids to school MIKP LIa JM[QLM[ ÅVLQVO UI\KPQVO [WKS[ _M ZMITTa DO have a sock monster in our house!) is packing healthy, nutritious lunches. In an effort to disguise leftovers, and to break the ‘Lunchable’ rut we had found ourselves in, I started making Bentos.

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Kyaraben are typically decorated to look like popular characters from Japanese cartoons (anime), comic books (manga), or video games. Another popular bento style is ‘oekakiben’ or ‘picture bento’.

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I was all set to receive the ‘Mom of the Year’ award. Unfortunately, I did NOT pack it tightly enough and by the time he opened his lunch box it was basically a weird, mushy casserole.

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PLACES & FACES

Badges, Bags & Bingo Fundraiser for Harold's House

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LANDMARKS

Celebrating 130 Years of Ministry:

FIRST BAPTIST CHURCH LUFKIN n the first Sunday of May, members of the First Baptist Church of Lufkin were found in the church’s Family Life Center immediately following the Sunday services. Families gathered around tables, blessed the food, and then dug into a traditional southern Sunday meal of fried chicken and all the Å`QVO[ +PQTLZMV XTIaML IVL JMTTa TI]OPML _PQTM \PM OZW_V ]X[ leaned back in folding chairs with full belly and g ratitude for the comfort and conversation of a church family fellowship.

Save for the 1880’s fashion and the modern inflatable bounce houses, certainly it wasn’t a very different scene over a century ago when a young and g rowing church congregation g athered upon the same piece of soil.

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and called her first full-time pastor in 1901. Dr. Andy Pittman is the current and 23rd pastor in the church’s history.

The legacy of First Baptist Church is far reaching in East Texas. Among her long list of blessings, FBC o f L ufkin h as a history of starting new churches in Lufkin. Twelve churches in Lufkin once started as missions of First Baptist C hurch. A mission functions as a church, but has not yet constituted themselves as a self-governing church.

Currently the church sponsors three mission churches in Lufkin: Cross Timbers Cowboy Church (Pastor Ford Adkins), La Casa del Alfarero (Pastor Juan Moreno) and New Beginnings Baptist Church (Pastor Stephen Pinkney). T hese missions still function The Houston East and West Texas Railroad (HE&WT) deeded under the direction and leadership of First Baptist C hurch. two lots to “Lufkin Baptist Church” on September 8, 1882.

About ten months later, on the land donated for the purpose Pastor Andy Pittman continues the legacy of FBC L ufkin a nd of establishing a Baptist church, nine charter members says, “I enjoy working very closely with our three mission constituted themselves as an independent, autonomous Baptist churches.” He adds, “In 2007 we helped Cross Timbers Cowboy church. The charter members were: Mrs. John Crutchfield, Church finance their building on Highway 69 North. We Colonel and Mrs. W. L. Denman, Captain and Mrs. Joseph hosted La Casa del Alfarero in our church facilities from Kerr, E. H. F. McMullen, Mr. and Mrs. J. M. Smith, Mrs. Emily January 2011 to A pril 2013. In A pril, La Casa relocated to the Briscoe Walker. Today the First Baptist Church of Lufkin has old Allentown Baptist Church property. From September 2007 over 1,200 members and continues to meet on the property to April 2009, we hosted New Beginnings Baptist Church in donated in 1882. The church called her first pastor in 1886 our church facilities. In 2009, we purchased a church facility

on Pershing Avenue for them to have their own location.

Since relocating to Pershing, New Beginnings has g rown from an average Sunday attendance of 30 to 125.” New Beginnings Baptist Church is the first African-American church in Angelina County affiliated with the Baptist General Convention of Texas and the Southern Baptist Convention.

But the work of First Baptist Church Lufkin stretches beyond her own community to other cities and states and even throughout the world.

For over five years in the early 1980’s, First Baptist Church contributed financially and sent summer mission g roups to help Pastor Rick Warren start Saddleback Community Church in Mission Viejo, California. This fact is cited on page 37 of Rick Warren’s book, T he Purpose Driven Church: Growth without Compromising Your Message and M ission.

Over Spring Break 2013, the church raised $25,000 and sent 40 volunteers to build a house for a working family near McAllen, Texas. The church was able to get this work accomplished in a short period of time because of a g roup of men who do construction and mission projects to h elp people around Lufkin.

Pastor Pittman spoke of one of his proudest accomplishments, “We have developed a partnership with Buckner International in Ethiopia. First Baptist Church is one of ten East Texas churches who send short-term mission groups and ÅVIVKQIT []XXWZ\ \W I *]KSVMZ KWUU]VQ\a KMV\MZ QV \PM Ethiopian village of Bantu. We hope to start an evangelical church in a nearby village sometime in the future.”

In his seven years as pastor, he cites the church’s ongoing mission work as a personal favorite area of effort. He also states that he thinks of two phrases to describe the current vision of First Baptist Church Lufkin.

“First, we are a missional church. Our mission work involves both sharing the Gospel of Jesus and serving physical needs. Second, we are a multi-generational church. We are neither a church of “old people” nor a church of “young people.” We intentionally provide opportunities for children, youth, adults and senior adults to experience Jesus, to grow in their faith and to participate in ministry to others. Our Sunday morning worship is a blend of ancient and modern, traditional and contemporary, so we can keep all generations together in worship. In today’s world, church is the only place where children, youth, adults and senior adults can associate and build relationships. We are better together.”

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GIVING BACK

The Janelle Grum Family Crisis Center of East Texas (Women’s Shelter of East Texas, Inc.) he Janelle Grum Family Crisis Center of East Texas ( Women’s Shelter of East Texas, Inc.) .++ Q[ I VWVXZWÅ\ WZOIVQbI\QWV created to enhance the safety of women, children and men. They provide crisis intervention and advocacy services to reduce and prevent the occurrence of family v iolence and sexual assault through education and community awareness. The FCC provides support and services to the following areas: A ngelina County, Houston County, Nacogdoches County, Polk County, Sabine County, San Augustine County, San Jacinto County, Shelby County, and Trinity County.

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In fact, in 2012, their agency provided 1,154 Sexual Assault and Domestic Violence residential and non-residential clients with prevention and education is the “proactive” piece of what the agency does. On request, over 75,000 essential services. they w ill go into schools, partner agencies, Heather Kartye, Executive Director said, community groups and institutions to “If we lived in a perfect world we wouldn’t provide education programs on the effects need an agency like this because there would of Sexual A ssault and Domestic Violence. be no sexual assault or domestic v iolence. I Their hope is to create more awareness that would say that 90% of what we do is reactive will in turn change our community to and our team responds to each individual recognize the signs of violence and abuse and their personal goals.” and prevent it before it happens.

)\ .++ [INM\a Q[ \PMQZ ÅZ[\ XZQWZQ\a 0ILI[[IP Soto is the receptionist who greets everyone with respect and a smile. Hadassah is a survivor of similar situations that bring individuals to the center. She says, “I k now where these women are coming from and I want to help in any way I can. When I saw this job advertised in the paper, I felt like I had to apply and every day I have had Heather also said that they have found that the opportunity to help people who walk little things make a difference. The women, children and men respond to the generosity through our doors.” of people who bring the simple things. Some All employees at the FCC are very prepared volunteers occasionally do pedicures and to help those in need. Their job is different manicures for the women, as well as a hair from many others; it involves dealing with style. These actions are accepted w ith much crisis on a daily basis and it takes special appreciation. Volunteers are welcome to people who are committed and well trained come and share their talents and resources \W _WZS _Q\P \PM[M LQNÅK]T\ [Q\]I\QWV[ 0WXM after submitting an application and a backis what is offered here; a new start for anyone ground check. Groups are welcome to provide

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Sloane and Heather Hawkins at a Pancakes & Pajamas event for Nacogdoches Junior Forum

SCARLETT SLOANE Scarlett’s work goes far beyond the hours she [XMVL[ I[ I ÅVIVKQIT IL^Q[WZ ;PM LM[KZQJM[ herself as having conservative Christian values and enjoys every minute of life. For Scarlett, work and service have very little to do with “have to,” but rather she possesses a “get to” attitude toward her work and the community service she loves.

Nacogdoches Newcomers, with Dr. Abernathy, Lori Haupert, Sloane, Faye Tate and Terry Courtney

For starters, Scarlett has been a member of the Nacogdoches Junior Forum since 2006, where she served as President until her term ended in June of this year. The organization has its hands in many causes around the community. Her personal work is w ith the Senior Center, the Christian Women’s Job Corp, and with the organization’s fundraiser, Holiday in the Pines.

ou might have heard those words, “It is more blessed to give than to receive,” so often they sound cliché. But for Scarlett She is a lso on t he Nacogdoches Chamber Sloane, there is personal and of Commerce, serving as t he Government effectual truth in them.

Affairs Chair since 2010 and as a Team A resident of Nacogdoches, Scarlett is a Captain of t he Total Resource Campaign CERTIFIED F INANCIAL PLANNER™ Team. A member of t he Main Street Board employed by Raymond James Financial since 2006, she helps work to promote Services, Smith and Partners. However, and grow downtown Nacogdoches. Her

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commitment to the community is also evident in her involvement w ith t he L amp Lite T heatre Board, bringing l ive t heatre to East Texas. She is a lso a member of t he Nacogdoches County Republican Women since 2005 and served as their President in 2008 a nd 2009.

As a member of the Nacogdoches A&M Club, and its President from 2008 to 2013, she works to raise money to support scholarships for freshman going to Texas A&M University. Her service also includes serving those who serve. She is a Citizens Police Academy A lumni member since 2007, acting as Treasurer from 2009 to the present.

Their goal is to support t he Nacogdoches Police Department, raising money for such things as bullet-proof vests for t he canines, and ice machines for t he department. T he organization also hosts cook-outs for the WNÅKMZ[ IVL XZW^QLM[ NWWL NWZ \PW[M _WZSQVO on Christmas day. Scarlett a lso serves on the Salvation Army Board (2009-2013), and on t he Wine Swirl Committee for t he last t wo years.

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Scarlett was the President of Nacogdoches Newcomer & Friends in 2001 and 2012. This organization supports many g roups, but Scarlett particularly loves working with the Boys Ranch. “My favorite part of Christmas has always been shopping for the boys who live there,” she shares. Each year members of the organization pick a boy and buy Christmas g ifts for him. “The boys make a list of the things they want, and we get to go out and shop for the items on the list, usually adding some clothing items too. I spend a month OWQVO \W *TIKS .ZQLIa [ITM[ IVL [MIZKPQVO [ITM[ KQZK]TIZ[ \W ÅVL _PMZM 1 KIV ÅVL ITT \PM Q\MU[ WV \PMQZ TQ[\ <PM[M JWa[ PI^M [W little, but we make it a mission to make sure the boys have a good Christmas morning. The best part is they have no idea they w ill actually receive any Christmas presents or who brought them. We deliver the gifts in secret. They are just suddenly there for them to open on Christmas morning. I may be shopping for them, but those g ifts bring me so much joy during the holidays!”

Chamber of Commerce Government Affairs Committee meeting, with Donna Finley, Paul Smith IV, Sloane, Jeff Davis, and L aurie Hurst

Scarlett says that anything she does to serve others, she gets back tenfold. “In every case, I am just one of many. I am so blessed to get to work with such wonderful people in each of these organizations “...and I am t he proud mom to t he most lovable, adorable puppy, IVL 1 TMIZV [W U]KP IJW]\ [MTÆM[[ [MZ^QKM NZWU \PMU 8T][ 1 PI^M Sully!” made some amazing friends!”

Scarlett’s advice to others looking to serve and lead in their According to Scarlett, it is easy to become involved because there KWUU]VQ\a Q[ ¹AW] UIa ÅVL \PI\ aW] TQSM \W _WZS _Q\P XMWXTM IZM [W UIVa VMML[ W]\ \PMZM ;PM [Ia[ ¹<PM SMa Q[ \W ÅVL [WUM- or animals, or gardening, or politics, or theatre. Whatever thing you are passionate about because then it doesn’t even feel sparks your i nterest, t here i s something t hat you can do to serve like work. It’s just fun!” in some capacity. But it may be so much fun you don’t even realize you are serving! Philippians 2:3 tells us, ‘Do nothing With all the ways she serves, one might wonder if she has t ime for W]\ WN [MTÅ[P IUJQ\QWV WZ ^IQV KWVKMQ\ :I\PMZ QV P]UQTQ\a anything else. She does. In fact, in her free time, Scarlett loves value others above yourself.’ T hat i s what service i s a ll about!”

Aggie Football, traveling, reading, and spending time w ith, as she calls them, “the most amazing friends in the world.” Adding,

It’s never too early to start saving for an education.

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1 in 4 Kids Has a Vision Problem What You Need To Look For 1. Squinting: Squinting is much like looking through a pinhole.

This temporarily improves vision and could be a sign of your child compensating for poor vision.

2. Tilting the head: Tilting the head can be a sign of an eye muscle imbalance. A child may have double vision when looking down or in a certain direction.

3. Sitting too close to the television: Sitting very close to the television or lowering the head while reading is often a sign of nearsightedness. Nearsighted people generally have clear vision at a close range and poor vision at a distance.

4. Losing place while reading: Skipping lines or losing your place while reading can be a sign of a vision problem. Often, astigmatism or an eye muscle problem is to blame.

5. Covering one eye to read or watch television: A child who covers one eye to read is simply shutting the eye with the poorer vision off so that it does not interfere with their vision. An uncorrected vision problem in one eye can increase a child's risk of developing amblyopia.

6. Rubbing eyes: Rubbing the eyes is a sign of eye fatigue and can be a sign of all types of vision problems. Medical conditions such as allergic conjunctivitis can also cause vision problems.

7. Finger pointing while reading: Finger pointing while reading is not always a bad sign. However, it can be sign of an uncorrected vision problem such as amblyopia. When letters or words appear very close to other letters or words, it makes them difficult to recognize.

8. Frequent headaches: Uncorrected farsighted children often have frontal headaches or brow aches. This is a result of the child attempting to compensate by exerting extra effort to clear their blurry vision.

Vision and Learning Difficulties You'd think it would be easy to spot a child with a vision problem, but the signs are not always so obvious. One in four children has a vision problem, and only a complete and thorough eye exam can determine that for sure.

There is a distinct relationship between vision problems and reading and learning difficulties. 80% of all childhood learning is visual, good grades and good vision go hand in hand.

School screenings are useful;; however, they only detect distance vision difficulties. A complete eye exam measures a number of visual skills critical to a child's healthy vision.

Parents are the most effective in detecting vision problems at an early age. A child should have their first complete eye exam by age three, earlier if vision problems are suspected.

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Introducing Our New Associate AmiDemebie “Ami” D. Casis is a therapeutic optometrist and earned her Doctorate in Optometry from the University of Houston College of Optometry. She was inducted to the Gold Key International Optometric Honor Society for her leadership in her class, college, and profession. Dr. Casis was voted Outstanding Student during her first year and recog-­ nized for her outstanding performance in Family Practice Clinic and Cornea and Contact Lens Clinic. She was an active in the Student Volunteer Optometric Services to Humanity and began the “OpticNerds” student-­ organized team for the Foundation Fighting Blindness VisionWalk annual fundraiser. She was selected as teacher’s assistant for the first-­ year optics lab and for the second-­year contact lens lab.

Dr. Casis completed her clinical externship rotations at Good Neighbor Healthcare Clinic and at Houston Eye Associates in Houston, TX. Dr. Casis trained under the direct guidance of several optometrists and ophthalmologists in the management of ocular disease, refractive error, and binocular abnormalities. She regularly performed complete adult and pediatric dilated vision examinations, fitted contact lenses, and co-­managed pre-­ and post-­surgical patients while in her clinical rotations, which also included Dry Eye and Multiple Sclerosis Eye Care specialty clinics.

Dr. Casis was born in the Philippines but has been a proud Nacogdoches Dragon since elementary school. She received her Bachelors in Science from Marietta College in Ohio. In her spare time Dr. Casis enjoys being outdoors and travelling, especially to visit her relatives scattered world-­ wide. She is an active member of the Texas Optometric Association, as well as the American Optometric Association.

Please Welcome Dr. Casis to 20/20 Eye Care!

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Goffney’s teachers saw past her circumstances and encouraged her on a daily basis. She remembers, “My teachers always told me I was smart, but at the time, I didn’t know what that meant.” Year after year, her teachers invested heavily in her. As she grew older, Goffney got involved in a lot of school activities. She played volleyball and basketball, ran track, served as a cheerleader, and was a member of the National Honor Society and student council. Educators constantly reminded her, “LaTonya, you can make it.”

In the fall of her senior year, her fellow classmates made plans for the future, talking about college and their future careers. LaTonya chuckles as she recalls, “They would always ask about my plans and I would remind them, “You have money and I don’t. I can’t really make any of those plans.’” While there were many teachers who came alongside LaTonya to encourage her, one in particular took [XMKQÅK VW\QKM WN /WNNVMa¼[ WJ[\IKTM[ \W attending college. LaTonya says, “Mrs. Allen, the school counselor, was my advocate and I credit her for helping me navigate my pathway to college.”

At one point in her high school career, Goffney thought she was headed to the Navy. She reasoned the military to be the only way to pay for college, but Mrs. Allen helped her see things differently and pointed out her academic ability. She explains, “Mrs. Allen encouraged me to complete countless [KPWTIZ[PQX IXXTQKI\QWV[ IVL PMTXML UM ÅTT n the face of seemingly impossible surrounded by extreme poverty. When her out my FAFSA (Free Application for Federal circumstances, Dr. LaTonya M. Goffney step-father came into the family, he brought Student Aid). She made me believe I could PI[ RW]ZVMaML NZWU I LQNÅK]T\ KPQTL- abuse to the home and made life miserable go to college.”

PWWL QV\W I XTIKM WN QVÆ]MVKM IVL for everyone. School was her ‘safe place’. She respect. According to national statistics was fed and loved by her teachers and school On a summer afternoon, after graduating in on children of poverty and abuse, Dr. Goffney staff. While Goffney attended Herty Primary the top ten of her class, Goffney’s grandparents should not be where she is today. In our nation, School in Lufkin, her home-life was becoming loaded her belongings in the back of a small truck and headed to Sam Houston State children who have grown up in poverty are overwhelmingly unbearable.

University. They left her in Huntsville to seven times more likely to drop out of high school. If they do graduate, less than 30 percent 1V \PM ÅN\P OZILM PMZ OZIVLUW\PMZ KIUM embark on a maiden voyage for their family; of children from homes in the bottom quarter and rescued her, moving her to Coldspring 4I<WVaI _I[ \PM ÅZ[\ \W I\\MVL KWTTMOM of national incomes enroll in a four-year to experience the safety and security of a She soon realized she needed a supplemental college, and less than half of those actually family. Although her grandparents loved her income to help her make it through school. graduate. According to those statistics, deeply and worked minimum-wage jobs for Goffney smiles and laughs as she recounts, LaTonya Goffney should have never graduated long hours to provide her basic needs, they “I was 18 years old and got a job as a were still a family stricken by poverty and a eighth in her class of 120 students. lack of education. Her grandmother worked KWZZMK\QWVIT WNÅKMZ I\ \PM ?aVVM =VQ\ QV 4I<WVaI /WNNVMa _I[ JWZV \W I ÅN\MMV aMIZ as a maid for a family. She was happy to have Huntsville.” This job helped put her through old mother. From the beginning, she was LaTonya in her home and required only that college, prepared her for knowing how to get along well with others who are walking

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Joe Jr.’s situation. LaTonya became pregnant with her second child in 2003 and welcomed 0MZ ÅZ[\ \I[S I[ IV ML]KI\WZ _I[ \W \MIKP a healthy baby girl, Joslyn. writing to eighth graders in ColdspringOakhurst CISD. Their school carried the After she received her master’s degree, she label of ‘low performing’ due to the writing continued her work at C-OCISD, but she scores of African American students. So the found there weren’t many people to talk to LQ[\ZQK\ TMILMZ[ PQZML PMZ \W »Å` \PM XZWJTMU ¼ about new ideas. She says, “I decided to go ;PM [XMV\ PMZ ÅZ[\ aMIZ \MIKPQVO [XWV[WZQVO back to school for my doctorate degree for the cheerleaders, and making a difference in the single purpose of networking with other the lives of children who needed an advocate. educators.” While getting her doctorate, she IT[W OW\ PMZ []XMZQV\MVLMV\[ KMZ\QÅKI\QWV She was quickly promoted to assistant because in her words, “I had to specialize in principal at the junior high and then something.” principal at the intermediate school.

During this time, the intermediate campus It wasn’t long after receiving her doctorate was a state recognized school for two years. degree from Sam Houston that the superintendent position opened in Coldspring. A In 1998, LaTonya and Joseph became mentor named Bob Smith encouraged Goffney XZMOVIV\ _Q\P \PMQZ ÅZ[\ KPQTL -IZTa QV \PM to apply for the position, and she did. She pregnancy, they were advised their child was was hired as the superintendent in 2008. showing signs of having some developmental LQNÅK]T\QM[ ?PMV 2WM 2Z _I[ JWZV \PM This past spring, Goffney expanded her scope situation was worse than they expected. He WN QVÆ]MVKM IVL IKKMX\ML \PM WNNMZ \W [MZ^M was diagnosed with IP36 Chromosome Lufkin ISD as superintendent and looks ,MTM\QWV <PMQZ XZMKQW][ ÅZ[\ JWZV [WV _W]TL forward to investing in the community. She never talk, walk, or sit-up on his own. says, “I never wanted to be put in a box, to be the best African American or woman When Joe Jr. was only four months old, he superintendent; I just want to be the best.” _I[ PI^QVO [MQb]ZM[ M^MZa Å^M UQV]\M[ 0MZ

She cautions that she isn’t the magic pill for success, but knows that people working together can make a huge difference in the lives of thousands of children. She observes, “The human capabilities in Lufkin and Angelina County are incredible.” She knows she is surrounded by men and women who carry the same expectation, to see children reach their full potential. *MKI][M WN PMZ ÅZ[\ PIVL SVW_TMLOM WN growing up in poverty, Goffney understands that education is the only way for a child to break the cycle of poverty in their family. It doesn’t matter whether a student is poor or can’t speak English, she says, “How students come to us is no excuse for how they leave.”

She continues, “When students graduate from Lufkin High School, I want them to leave with more than a diploma.” It is Goffney’s goal that students leave high school with a plan for the future, whether technical school or college. And the stakes are high.

Her own Joe Jr. and daughter, Joslyn, are among the students in her professional charge.

You don’t have to spend much time with Dr. Goffney to see that her heart truly is for every student. She stands in this position to look hundreds of students in the eyes, who are living similar lives to those of her own childhood, and tell them they can make it.

They can rise out of poverty, be educated and make a difference in this world. She cares much more beyond giving them a good education; she wants to see them reach their greatest potential, even those that don’t yet see it in themselves.

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1 1. Nacogdoches County Chamber of Commerce ribbon cutting ceremony for Nacogdoches designation as the Garden Capital of Texas. The ceremony was held in the SFA Pineywoods Native Plant Center. Rep. Travis Clardy, Mayor Roger Van Horn, Dr. Francis E. “Ab” Abernethy welcomed sponsors, Chamber members and guests. 2. Cindy Tierney, Principal at Anderson Elementary in Lufkin ISD, will serve as District 7 President-Elect for the Texas Elementary Principals and ;]XMZ^Q[WZ[ )[[WKQI\QWV <-8;) 7NÅKMZ[ NZWU \PM <-8;) districts across the state were installed at the association’s July Leadership Conference. With this position, she will be a member on the state board for TEPSA. 3. Nacogdoches County Chamber of Commerce ribbon cutting ceremony for downtown business Rachel’s Antiques and Uniques, 418 E. Main St., 936-559-5646. Owner Rachel Underwood welcomed sponsors, Chamber members and guests. 4. After another successful Texas State Forest Festival, the Lufkin/Angelina County Chamber of Commerce brought home 24 different awards from the Texas Festivals and Events Association (TFEA). The Lufkin/Angelina County Chamber of Commerce won the Zenith award; which is presented to the best 2012 festival in the state in each budget category. The Chamber was also presented with seventeen 1st place awards, three 2nd place awards and three 3rd place awards. Seated, L-R: Melissa Wheeler (Chamber), Sally Alvis (Brookshire Bros.), Billy Ball (Justice of the Peace), Tami Jones (Townsquare Media), Susie Cardwell (Chamber). Standing, L-R: Claudia Salazar (Chamber), Jennifer McHenry (KSWP/KAVX), Shaina Strong (Chamber), Tim Alvey (East Texas Professional Credit Union), Jill West (Chamber), Burt Hairgrove (George H. Henderson Exposition Center), Kaitlin Wieseman (Texas Forestry Museum), Charlene Black (Chamber), Rachel Collins (Texas Forestry Museum), Sally Allen (Chamber).

5. Winnie Berry offers $5 sterilizations for dogs and cats living in 75904. For more information, call 936-639-1880.

6. The 2012 Power of Pink! special video project was recently designated as a Silver Winner in the National Aster Awards for Excellence in Medical Marketing. Randy Cadwell, Senior Video Production Specialist with the City of Lufkin (left) and Lindsey Mott, Community Relations Specialist at Memorial (right), created the video “Undefeated” showcasing different groups from the community to help spread breast cancer awareness. The winning video can be seen on the Memorial website, www.memorialhealth.org.

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SOMETHING ABUNDANT

by Angie Nichols

Learning to Dance in the Rain s a young mother, God taught me something important straight away. My daughter’s UW[\ XW_MZN]T IVL QVÆ]MV\QIT education would come from watching me. Despite researching the JM[\ [KPWWT[ ZMY]M[\QVO \PM ÅVM[\ \MIKPMZ[ or the paying for the most effective curriculum, children learn--good or bad, whether we like it or not--from us, their parents. I fail a thousand t imes a day, but like you, I am holding on to the God-given charge to teach her well.

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powerful goodness leaning heavy upon my soul. Flashes of lightning, rolls of thunder, Revelation 4:5 pierced my awareness. Bending to sit on the front step, I echoed back quietly, “Holy, holy, holy is the LORD God A lmighty, who was, and is, and is to come.”

Just then…one. Just one. The sloppiest, fattest, wet drop I’ve ever seen plopped down near my crossed legs. It left a mark on the hot sidewalk the size of a chicken egg. I giggled. Then slowly more fell and speckled the grey concrete. I A few years ago, I wrote the memory stretched my legs out in front of me and one of my most favorite lessons. The fell fully into His tending as He washed day we learned to dance in the rain. my weary feet. He is the First and Last Gentleman…a servant at heart.

1\ _I[ I KTQVQK LIa NWZ Ua Å^M aMIZ WTL daughter, Mycah. The oncologist Time suspended for the briefest moment determined her healthy enough to move and my baby g irl’s cancer did not hold forward with her leukemia treatment me hostage. Then Mycah walked out protocol. It took several hours for her the front door dressed in a pink froggy to receive chemo, undergo a spinal tap nightgown we put on her following a and a monthly breathing treatment she warm bath to help remove the bandages hated and in turn made me and her from her port and spinal puncture. She daddy miserable. When we got home, sat down next to me and said she heard I tended to the everyday chores of our the thunder and was afraid. I folded her household while Mycah nibbled a snack under my arm, telling her not to worry. and watched afternoon television to God was loving on us. She stretched her fully recover from anesthesia. sweet little feet in front of her to match mine. Our hot pink toenails wiggled As I had every week for the previous and we laughed at the juicy raindrops two years, I called my mom with the tickling our faces. news of our clinic visit. While recounting the burdensome routine, I walked onto Now unafraid, Mycah got up and the front porch to consider the small, walked tentatively into the yard. The dark rain cloud that, from my point of tempo of the rain sped as she t ip-toed. view, appeared to shadow just our Then she turned and mused the words home. With a heavy sigh, I mumbled, I’ve pasted to the wall of my heart’s ¹PW_ Å\\QVO º memory for eternity.

I pressed ‘end’ on the phone and “Mom, I think He wants us to dance!” stood barefoot, denying t he d ry bones of weariness I was too young to The rain drops falling on my cheeks disguised my tears, and I got up and possess. Still. twirled with my woman-child beauty.

Rolls of gentle thunder awakened my Two years into cancer treatment. On senses to an awareness of God’s scary chemo afternoon. Spinal tap day no

less. Up since 5:30am. Beat down from the stressful whipping that just is cancer clinic day. A nd we were dancing in t he rain.

In that moment, I learned if my LORD is singing over me, I wanna dance. He sings and all of creation responds.

Every day for endless millennia, the earth revolves the sun, turns in perfect harmony, pirouettes with moon’s moods and star’s years of light in time and space 1 KIVVW\ NI\PWU <PM ÅMTL[ XZWL]KM and feed the creatures who dwell there, to each every need met. The storm and lightening obey and pour where appointed to produce food for the eater and seed for the sower. He whispers: “Why would I expect anything else from you, Beloved? You are the prize of all creation. You were made—for this time and place– to k now, obey and worship Me. But the difference between you and the lightening? You are free to choose, free to accept the Bread of L ife or refuse your Creator…and that, to Me, is the beauty of your heart freely given over to Grace…and precisely why I am enthralled w ith you.”

He says I ’m lovely a nd He c an’t t ake His eyes off of me. I gotta dance in the r ain.

Life isn’t about waiting for the storm to pass; it’s about learning to dance in the rain. We taught each other, Mycah and I, to dance in the rain. And as I type this article today, I see it beginning to ZIQV NZWU Ua WNÅKM _QVLW_ 1 PWTTMZ I\ Mycah and we race to the front door.

Five years later, she is healthy, and I am still holding on. We’re still dancing.

Angie Nichols is the founder of Something Abundant Ministries, serving women through worship and Biblical teaching and the author of Something Abundant: growing from a child of God to the bride of Christ. Her passion is for women to know the beauty of an abundant life knowing Christ as Bridegroom. She is married to Chris and they have one daughter, Mycah. For more information, to read more or book speaking events visit: somethingabundantministries.org.

by Melissa Radke

heard it said once, “If it’s not one thing – it’s your mother.” I heard Wynonna Judd say it in some interview she was having alongside her mother.

And to be perfectly honest, I would think if there is one person in this entire universe who has the right to sigh deeply and roll their eyes whenever their mom talks - it would be someone who spent half their life on a t our bus w ith t heir mom. I f e very honky-tonk I ever sang in, if every truck stop bathroom I ever used the toilet in, if every Denny’s I ever ate in all had one thing i n c ommon – my mom! – t hen I would r eserve t he right t o s pend my m illions on s ome c ounseling s essions.

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mourn a nd a t ime t o d ance, a t ime t o s catter stones a nd a t ime t o g ather t hem, a t ime t o embrace a nd a t ime t o refrain from embracing, a time to search and a time to give up, a t ime t o keep a nd a t ime t o t hrow away, a t ime to t ear a nd a t ime t o mend, a t ime t o b e s ilent a nd a t ime to speak, a time to love and a time to hate, a time for war a nd a t ime for p eace.”

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The r elationship I h ad w ith my mother t hree years a go is d ifferent t han t he one you would f ind t oday. A nd t hat’s ok. It’s actually, really, really good. I don’t love her less, in fact, I love her more. I l ike her more. I appreciate her more.

I’ve seen my mom without her make-up on (literally and figuratively). I’ve seen her with her cape off, her hair down, a nd her Wonder Woman c ostume at t he c leaners.

I’ve s een my mom more a s a woman t o b e a dmired t han a presence to be revered. I’ve found her to be more human and fragile, more soft and unsure – and this makes me feel b etter for b eing about a s feeble a human a s you c an get. It makes my questions on parenting, finances and how to stay married to the same man for.ev.er much easier to ask. Because I know that a long time ago, she looked a lot l ike me.

Side n ote: I once attended a y ard s ale at Wynonna Judd’s house. ( If you k now me, t hen you k now t his i s one of my Nashville stories I like to pull out at dinner parties and barbecues.) I was t his close to buying one of her long velvet coats but I didn’t have the guts to pull it off. Instead I settled for a K rups m ixer t hat I still u se t o t his d ay. ( Why did she part with that thing? It was in perfect working condition. Oh, t he r ich.) A nyhoo, her mother w as t here that d ay a nd s he r ang up my purchase. W hen s he a sked me i f t hat was a ll I was getting, I was t his close to breaking out i nto C ow C ow B oogie, but c hickened out. T he E nd. I had lunch at MarTeres Tea Room the other day with some g irlfriends. A nd a midst t he a lmond tea a nd chocolate The last couple of years have brought many changes in cake, between t ales of our children a nd recipe exchanges my r elationship w ith my mother. Mothers a nd d aughters we d iscussed our mothers. M aybe I k new t his a rticle w as can have a pretty healthy relationship when there are due a nd m aybe I w anted a l ittle i nsight, but I a sked about two or three states in between them, but when two or each of their relationships. And what I found interesting – three states is dwindled down to two or three lawns… and a lso a l ittle startling – is t hat a side from t he a rguments things change. And it isn’t just location that changes they, t oo, h ad s hared w ith t heir moms, t he one t hing we your relationship. Age changes it. Seasons change it. could a ll a gree on w as t his: w e a re o ur m oms. We m ight do Grandbabies change it. Time changes…well…time changes our hair differently, discipline our kids differently and everything. And with change comes adjustment. And interact w ith our s pouses d ifferently, but we were (for a ll adjustment doesn’t c ome e asy. intents and purposes), our mothers. And I laughed as I said t o t hem, “ So here at t his t able s its A nnette a nd T ina I h ad a c onversation w ith my mom t he other d ay. I c ried and Nancy; t hree women who h ave never e ven met e ach and she cried. I rolled my eyes. She bit her tongue. I other, but are now having a two hour lunch together.” laughed. She s ighed. I forgave. She d id too. It w asn’t easy; We laughed at t he absurdity a nd t he t ruth of it, a ll at once. it wasn’t fun, it was, however, necessary. Ecclesiastes 3 t ells us, “There is a time for everything, and a season for We. A re. O ur. Mothers. every a ctivity u nder t he heavens: a t ime t o b e b orn a nd a t ime t o d ie, a t ime t o plant a nd a t ime t o uproot, a t ime This, four years a go, would h ave t errified me. But t oday, to k ill a nd a t ime t o heal, a t ime t o t ear down a nd a t ime just s eems r eally n ice. to build, a time to weep and a time to laugh, a time to

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Jessica (Jess) is a 28-year old brunette born and raised in Lufkin. She is in love with fashion and wearing high heels, even though she’s 5’10’’. She graduated from Stephen F. Austin with a Fashion Merchandising degree. She and her husband live in Houston with their 2 dogs, Bella and Bentley. She is an assistant buyer for a department store in Houston, Texas. She has her own fashion blog, Jess Lea where she shares her love for fashion on a budget.

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Chancey Sanders is 16 years old and made his second trip to Haiti. He says Haiti has impacted him in a way that opened his eyes to appreciate the things he has been blessed with more than he did before. “There is so much that we take for granted. Going to Haiti helped me realize that not all the technology and gadgets are really necessary to be happy,” he says. “I know we can’t look at the world as a big picture and try to get rid of all the bad at once. But individual NIUQTa Ja QVLQ^QL]IT NIUQTa IVL [UITT Å[PQVO ^QTTIOM Ja [UITT Å[PQVO ^QTTIOM _M are eventually going to make a change in the world!”

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“My child’s teacher thinks my child may be ADHD. What is ADHD?” In short, ADHD is a disorder characterized by hyperactivity, inattention, and/or impulsivity and present in multiple settings (such as school and home) and results in performance issues (low g rades, behavior problems).

ADHD cannot be diagnosed by a teacher or school counselor. Start by seeing your child’s pediatrician or a mental health professional.

“If my child is not being lazy, then what is going on?”

Your child’s mind is working really hard to organize a ton of information even though you may not see this in your child’s behavior. In all actuality the ADHD child is more likely working harder than the average child! T his is one reason why “trying harder” does not work with ADHD. Those with ADHD will take some extra “thinking” steps compared to non-ADHD peers. You will not see those steps, but they are there and your child is working!

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“What if ADHD goes untreated?”

Imagine a world in which you felt as if you could not do anything right and that nothing was good enough—this would be an extremely depressing world to live in day after day! Children with untreated ADHD may suffer from poor self-esteem, depression, mood cycles, and anger.

“My child’s teacher keeps telling me, if only my child would try harder…my child has so much untapped potential. Is my child not trying? Is my child just lazy?”

I ask parents to consider the following, “Does your child do things such as riding a bike, playing with toys, even playing video games?” If the answer is yes to any of these, then your child is not lazy! Lazy just means “not inclined to work,” but all of the above behaviors are examples of activities that require some level of work and focus. Another key way to differentiate ADHD from laziness is to consider your child’s behavior in relation to discipline.

If your child is disciplined for not remaining seated at school, does the discipline change the behavior? Does your child require frequent reminders to remain seated regardless of the negative consequence? ADHD is biologically based and not a question of willpower.

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“How can I help my ADHD child?”

First and foremost, do not pity or overindulge your child.

ADHD is manageable. Work with your physician to explore the medications available and work with a mental health professional and your child’s teacher to put structure in place. “My brain is already working really hard” is not an excuse. Be consistent in rules and discipline. Use demonstration and give short explanations. Be patient and prepared to repeat. Give one step directions and avoid multiple stimuli at one time. Give responsibility and always recognize any positive behavior, however small. If you [MIZKP NWZ OWWL \PQVO[ aW] _QTT ÅVL \PMU “As a parent, how do I embrace my ADHD child and focus on the positive?”

ADHD individuals tend to be exceptionally bright and are typically highly creative and inventive. Introduce your ADHD child to activities he might enjoy. Your child will look to you and how you choose to deal with ADHD.

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hat better way to celebrate a summer birthday than with friends and water? Tripp, Brynn, Hayes, Millie, Sean, and Journey all celebrated their birthdays together with a Splish, Splash, Birthday Bash! Everyone had a great time splashing in the water and cooling off from the hot Texas heat.

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WHY I LOVE BEING A MOM

APRILHOUSTON Our little boy was my special gift. Lord knows if I had another girl I would be in Rusk right now…lol! We now have Kristian Alexias 14, Kalyse Alexandria 13, Kyla Alexandra 8, Aaron II 7….four wonderful blessings I’m honored to be a mother to.

love c hallenges, a nd G od s aw f it t o do s o w ith my first b orn. W ith a ll t he e xtra c are a nd u ltrasounds that you do w ith your f irstborn, t he doctor d idn’t notice t hat her r ight leg w asn’t c ompletely formed until t he day I had her. She was born w ith P roximal Femoral Focal D eficiency ( PFFD). O ne i n 1,000,000 k ids have it, non-hereditary, it just h appens. O ne n ight i n t he hospital, while looking at the grey/purplish hue in her face a fter her s urgery t o a mputate her foot when s he w as 15months, I s aid, “ Why would you c hoose me for s uch a task, God?” I was 5 months pregnant with our second child as I sat beside her all day and night holding the morphine pump not w anting her t o feel a ny pain. I t hen thanked God for my mom, because she taught me how \W XZIa IVL NZWU \PI\ LIa NWZ_IZL Ua XZIaMZ TQNM QV\MV[QÅML I b egan t o pray l ike a w arrior g oing t o battle! G od k nows how to bring out our inner strength as mothers. We brought her home w ith a cast on her leg. T he next morning I woke up shocked to see she had taken off her cast, climbed out of her c rib, a nd w as s miling a nd playing a nd watching TV…as to say God’s got me, I’m good. He showed me, “ I’ve a lready g ifted her w ith t he determination and c onfidence s he needs; you just need t o b e t he Mom she needs when t he g oing g ets t ough a nd her c onfidence begins t o g et weary.”

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We decided t hree was enough, but G od had other plans.

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It’s my job a s a mom to teach t hem how to pray a nd i nstill biblical principles that will build a foundation of good character and integrity that will stick with them for a lifetime. My husband Pastors two churches, one here in Luf kin a nd t he other i n Houston; we do a lot of t raveling.

As a Master Life Coach it’s important to me to keep the balance and set the atmosphere of peace and love in our home. I let my children know to live in the moment, but plan for t he f uture. I a lso teach t hem t hat l ife happens a nd they are going to make mistakes, learn from them and move on. Yes, I would love for t hem say I t aught t hem to be super scholars or superstars i n s ports. But at t he end of the day when my son is in a locker room after a long stressful game or my d aughter i s studying for a n exam, for t hem to stop, pause a nd say, “ Lord I t hank you for my l ife, health, strength, and for a mom that taught us how to pray and for g iving us t he k nowledge of who our help comes f rom,” means more to me t han a nything.

I love b eing a mom b ecause it’s t he most r ewarding g ift.

As a mother, I w ill c ontinue t o t ackle a nd overcome l ife’s challenges w ith my c hildren a nd h ave much appreciation for t he strength g ained. W ith e very moment s hared w ith my c hildren…the l aughs, t he c ries, t he k isses, t he t ears, the fears, the tantrums, the joys, the disappointments, the s urprises, t he g entle hugs, a nd s o much more…..yes, I w ill a lways love b eing a mom!

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Please join us as we celebrate our 4th annual Pineywoods Cattle Baron's Gala. Your attendance will help us continue the fight against cancer. It is an honor to continue the work American Cancer Society began and let East Texans make their mark. T here are many ways to get involved and donate funds to find a cure; like our Facebook page, visit our website, or call American C ancer Society o ffice.

OCTOBER 12, 2013 JACK CREEK RANCH BARON TICKET -­ $225 Ticket price i ncludes exclusive p re-party o ne h our b efore event, food, entertainment with p referred s eating, a nd o pen b ar.

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