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was never that girl who dreamt of her wedding day, her ring or her dress. I did, however, dream of my prince charming coming along. I always knew because of The Prince that has promised to come back for us. My prince charming on Earth would one day come, too. Growing up, I was blessed to have many mentors and women in my life to look up to and receive godly wisdom. There were so many wonderful ideas on what to look for and how to set goals and standards for your mate and future husband. One of those was to write a list of traits and characteristics you wanted in your husband. I never did that. However, I am thankful I did not. My prince charming that came was nothing like anything I would have ever handpicked for myself. But, thankfully, God knew what he was doing. Still to this day, if I think about my journey to where I sit now, I am in awe at the events that directed my steps to lead me here. The only thing in “my plan” was I wanted a big family with 4 kids. Other than that, God has kept me on my toes! Fast forward twelve years to post rose-colored glasses, googoo gah-gah, and crazy in love with my prince charming! We are now neck deep in the reality of life, love, family, finances, stress, and career. We are in the stage of really living out those vows we so eagerly and joyously (and if we were honest, unknowingly) vowed to each other. Really, we have been in that stage since day one. There have been many days, many years, and many events where we could have thrown in the towel. Believe me when I say, did “he” deserve it! (I am completely kidding!) We have both done things that deserved each of us turning our backs on the other and walking away. Due to some great premarital counseling, we promised each other, our family and our friends, that we had no other option than to stay married. We vowed, we promised, and we committed to marriage; we committed to making this work. The main reason I go through all that is because, I too am like so many of you. I love seeing wedding pictures. I love looking at the pretty dress and all the little details that come along with a wedding. For that reason, you will flip through these pages this month and see a lot of those things. However, very few people talk about the hard times. The ugly times. The stressful times. The not so glorious post honeymoon days. I am not afraid to talk about those times. I want young couples to really know and understand what lies ahead. The more prepared you are, the stronger you will be as a couple, but have no doubt that I would not trade those hard, ugly, stressful times for anything. Those times have made our marriage what it is today. Our Savior has been with us since day one, and He has been faithful to see us through to where we are today. I want to publicly take this opportunity to say how thankful I am for my prince charming that walked in the front doors at Sterling University Village that one afternoon. We have laughed, loved, grown, and changed over the years. We have loved every moment. I have received more blessings with him by my side than I ever deserved. Here is to many years of blessings over your marriage! Stephanie oliver
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CLAIRE CUMBIE BRODY cover photo by Stephanie Davis Jim and Jennifer Cumbie had the winning bid for the cover spot donated by TJMag and Co to the Shining for a Cause
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YOUR HOME
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Home Tour: A Wedding Tour Design Tips: His Meets Hers Burlap & Besties: Chic Planning on a Dime The Wedding Planners
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In the News Giving Back: An East Texas Kid Helping Kids Inspiring Couples
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HOME TOUR
A WEDDING TOUR
Photos are from the wedding celebration of Jane and Frank Wallace. Handmade lace tents were made for the flower girl and her friends. The candy, cotton candy, and caramel popcorn bar were perfect for this child friendly wedding.
The chalk painted boards are hand made by Michelle Burgner for her upcoming wedding. These are available to purchase or rent by calling Michelle at 936.554.6913.
PLACES & FACES
Holiday in the Pines
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by Sabrina Lumpkin, owner of Bellissima Home
His Meets Hers... DESIGN TIPS
Blissful Blending
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he wedding is over and the honeymoon, too. “Let’s decorate!” she says, as the moving van pulls away.
spent. These pieces such as large mirrors, dining and living room furniture and large wall decor make a huge statement and produce a wow factor right away.
Just like marriage is a blending of two souls, hearts and minds, decorating a newlywed home is the blending of two styles, interests and activities. Combining a couple’s tastes, furniture and decorating styles can often be a challenge in a new marriage. Ultimately, and for marital harmony’s sake, the goal is to create a space representing both styles. Most newlyweds are starting their married life on a budget. Knowing where to spend and where to save can make a big impact on your newly joined home and bank account.
The new trend of an eclectic mix and match style is a real benefit to a newlywed couple. Use Pinterest and the vast array of do-ityourself websites and blogs for information on upcycling older furniture and hand me down pieces. Transforming an out of date headboard or chalk painting an old coffee table can be so much fun and a way for a couple to spend quality time together and feel like they have both created a new decor item. A beautiful accent rug is a great investment and brings a room and its furnishings and accessories together for a cohesive look.
Making the most of what you have is a smart move. Take an inventory of what each partner brings to the marriage in the way of home furnishings and accessories. Take into account the nostalgic value and history of the items. You may find his framed football jerseys are not a perfect fit for the living room, but they might fit nicely in a corner area on the wall in the bedroom or game room. It’s always important for each party to be willing to compromise and be sensitive to the other’s tastes and style. Each should bring in something of meaning and value so the home feels like a representation of both.
All items can be purchased from bellissimahome.com.
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Are new purchases necessary? Determine your budget before you begin. Once the budget is determined, try shopping together and look for similarities in decorating styles. A great way to get started is to purchase a few pivotal pieces to center the home around and set a decor style. A unique mirror and foyer table or chest are wonderful investments and will cheerfully pull guests into your home. Accessorize with vases or urns you may already have around the home. A nice pair of lamps is perfect in a foyer and can be a staple in the home for years. High impact furniture pieces are considered money well
A great piece of advice for a newlywed couple, as well as new homeowners, is to take your time. Choose decor and furnishing you really like and avoid impulse purchases. Remember, it can be a joyful experience merging two lives and styles together. Compromise is key in marriage, especially when blissfully blending your home and decor styles into yours, mine and ours! Great tip: When purchasing large decor items, measuring is key! You will definitely save time and money in the long run. Keep a tape measure in your purse or car for quick, handy measuring. Blessings,
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Sabrina Lumpkin is the creator and owner of Bellissima Home, www.bellissimahome.com, an online shopping experience offering hand selected, premium, designer inspired items for the home. Luxury you can afford!
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Chic Planning on a Dime he holiday rush is over and you think to yourself that you can finally slow down and maybe take a nap. Then you remember that shower that you said you would help with and it’s for your bestie/sister/ church friend and you want to make it look fab, but you’re just so worn out… and so is your credit card!! We want to help you! Enjoy these very simple shower decorating ideas that make a big impact! Use what you have!! Rummage through your house and/or your friend’s house and take what goes with your theme to sit around for décor; we love to junk things up! This was for Melissa’s shower and I used my son’s toys as well as items that she had for the nursery just to spruce up a corner!!
Here is an idea for a cup alternative. For my brother’s gender reveal, I used Starbucks Frappuccino bottles for the glasses, along with paper straws. The frappe bottles take a little more work; you have to soak them in soapy water for about 30 minutes and then scrub off the label. Let them dry and then scrub them again with nail polish remover. In some cases you have to repeat this step.
There are a couple of goodies in this picture that are very simple to make. If you have a reasonable amount of guests, then think about using something other than plastic cups for your drinks, people LOVE this!! For Melissa’s shower, I used baby bottles (again an item that I already had along with a few I borrowed) and fun paper straws in the shower colors. Another shower favorite of ours is ribbon banners. You can use ribbon in all sizes and cut strips of fabric to give your banner texture and color. For this banner I cut my strips 24 inches long, tied them to a long piece of jute and attached it all to my table with command strips. You could save this for other parties you may throw or you can be nice and give it to your guest of honor to use. I was nice….
I spent ZERO dollars decorating this table for Chris and Rachel’s “Twinder Reveal.” I’m telling you people, R AID your house as well as your friend/family members’ houses!! The table cloth is normally used as a curtain in my guest room. The silhouettes I found online and printed and put in frames, and I used my son’s blocks in one of my canisters.
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Here is another example of all FREE decorations! This was my first girl shower to throw for my friend, Kallie, and I was concerned that I wouldn’t have items in my color scheme to use. (The insanity that I might have to actually BUY something!) However, after thoroughly ransacking Kallie’s nursery and digging through my attic, I came up with tons of stuff ! My favorite was def initely using this onesie on the wall. I used push pins to hold the onesie up and then sat my frame around it, so simple!!
For our friend DeAndra’s shower, she wanted “Hunter Chic.” To us, that meant we got to use our stumps!! We love stumps!! We cleaned our stumps with bleach water, then sanded them and added a coat of spray varnish and polyurethane to make sure there were no critters that would come crawling out! We sat mason jars with a few scoops of dirt and taper candles on them to give the table some height and add that hunting feel. We also used acrylic paint for our deer silhouettes, which are on burlap and in embroidery hoops. Once again- free, free, and FREE!!
Melissa is a housewife who loves her husband and son, Ben and Ty, more than anything else on earth. In a previous life, she was a CPA. Her passion for serving Jesus took her and Ben to Africa for two years where, among other things, she learned she can never pack too many crafting supplies. If you want to see a happy girl, give Melissa an old piece of furniture and a paintbrush then stand back and watch the magic happen.
A great decoration that doubles as a gift for the guest of honor is to make something with their initials. We used paper mache letters from Hobby Lobby and covered the front with moss, using hot glue. We hot glued ribbon onto the side of the letters.
Tiffani Brantner is a part-time nurse and student, a constant crafter, party-thrower, "idea-comer-upper", and a richly rewarded wife and mother to Jeff and Cullen. Call her to come and get your old junk, she LOVES it! She'll turn it into something beautiful, create a theme, throw a party around it, and invite you as the guest of honor. You can reach Tiffani day or night at tifandmel@gmail.com.
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THE WEDDING PLANNERS
Breathtaking Weddings Happen When Brides Focus on Individuality
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eldom do future brides go into their first consultation with an event planner without some kind of opinion of what they like and don’t like.
“I am in love with sunflowers,” one girl told us, “And I want them everywhere.” Interestingly, the very next bride-to-be said, “I love the wildflower look, but just no sunflowers, please.” The common thread that should make all wedding planners happy is that there are no longer “rules” that have to be applied to every wedding. Today’s weddings are all about making the day special for the couple, giving them a day that ref lects everything they love and showcases the personalities of the bride and groom.
His wife leaned over and said, “Weddings aren’t what they used to be, dear.” We loved it! Planners, brides, and families should get away from the mindset of trying to outdo something they’ve seen or heard about. Rethink what is important, special, and memorable and let that be the focus of the day. When that happens, it becomes magical. As decorators, the best compliment we receive is when the bride says to us, “You got it. You understood me.” And that could be something as simple as getting the sunflowers right.
Future brides, most likely, have been thinking about their wedding day for a long time – maybe even before there was a guy in the picture! Some have scrapbooks of ideas, many visit Pinterest and start a board, their phones are usually filled with photos they have saved, and all of them have some kind of visual of what they desire. So, when they say, “Is this too weird?” or “Is it okay if I do this?” it is always our pleasure to know that there is a strong possibility they will get what they want. The wedding receptions with formal receiving lines, white cakes, punch and mints may be but a memory that only a few of us will remember. At a recent wedding we had the enjoyment of watching an elderly gentleman be amazed at the shabby chic décor, the bride’s cake presented atop an old door, and vintage glassware setting in the middle of his table.
Bella Spree Consultants are Kim Smith, Caitlyn Kirkland, Sommer Willis, and J'Nelle Short.
After ten years of working together designing, decorating, and helping people plan events (and with the encouragement of friends), Kim Smith and J’Nelle Short decided, last year, to turn their passion into a business. Joining the creative team with like-vision were Caitlyn Kirkland and Sommer Willis. Together they make up Bella Spree, Lufkin’s premier event planning firm. “The Bellas” have completed 14 weddings and events all over East Texas with eight in the planning stages. The individual talents of each consultant combine together to allow Bella Spree to provide the perfect experience for each client.
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PLACES & FACES
Downtown Lufkin Lighted Christmas Parade
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1. Nacogdoches County Chamber of Commerce held a ribbon cutting ceremony for The Liberty Bell in historic downtown 422 E. Main St., 936-622-6425, www.libertybellbar.com. Owners Kati and Grant Harris welcomed Chamber members, sponsors and guests. 2. Nacogdoches County Chamber of Commerce held a ribbon cutting ceremony for Nacogdoches Dog Park, 501 Pearl St., 936-569-4691. 3. A December 5th ribbon cutting welcomed The Pour House into the Luf kin/Angelina County Chamber of Commerce. The Pour House is situated in a century old home. It features indoor dining and an outdoor beer garden with live music. Their goal is to offer a unique environment where you can “Eat, drink and stay a while.” They are located at 207 North Raguet Street and are open Thursday-Saturday 10:30am-12:00am and Sunday 10:30am-4:00pm. Pictured is part owner Kasey Eby, employees and member of the Chamber’s Diplomats Club.
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4. Virginia Sims, second grader at Trout Primary, was honored with an award for her bravery presented by the American Legion Auxiliary in Luf kin. Virginia helped save her grandmother’s life in September by calling for help when her grandmother was having a stroke in the park where they were playing. For her efforts, the American Legion Auxiliary presented the Youth Hero Award to Virginia for “performing an act of bravery, courage and fortitude.”
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5. The Luf kin/Angelina County Chamber of Commerce held a Red Carpet Salute on December 5th for Grandough Baking Company following their remodeling of their store at 1705 Feagin Drive Suite C. Grandough Baking Company prepares cakes, cookies and other sweet treats for any event. They now offer premade desserts available for pick-up as well as gift items for purchase. They are open Monday-Friday 8:00am-5:30pm. Pictured is owner Justin Kezar, cake designer Teresa Kezar and Chamber representatives.
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6. After major renovations, a ribbon cutting for Brookshire Brothers-Gaslight was held on December 3rd to show off the changes. The store will offer a wider range of organic and gluten-free food choices as well as a larger seafood and wine selection. The store is located at 1807 West Frank Avenue and is open 6:00am10:00pm. Pictured is store manage Scott Berger along with Brookshire Brothers employees and attendees of the event.
GIVING BACK
An East Texas Kid
According to Corynne,
Helping Kids
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orynne Barone is a bright, active first grade student at Dunbar Primary School. She loves softball, gymnastics, her big sister, Caroline, and her twoyear old brother, Corbin. Corynne’s parents, Brian and Shelly Barone of Lufkin, are proud of all three of their children and are leading the family to turn personal challenges into good for others.
Shelly recalls the worst day of her life when 21 month-old Corynne was diagnosed with type 1 diabetes. She says she didn’t know much about the disease at the time, but when baby Corynne showed the classic symptoms of extreme thirst and frequent urination, they knew something was wrong. Diabetes is the name given to disorders in which the body has trouble regulating its blood glucose, or blood sugar levels. There are two major types of diabetes: type 1 diabetes and type 2 diabetes. Type 1 diabetes, also called juvenile diabetes or insulin-dependent diabetes, is a disorder of the body’s immune system. People with type 1 diabetes must take insulin in order to stay alive. This means undergoing multiple injections daily or having insulin delivered through an insulin pump and testing blood sugar levels by pricking their fingers for blood six or more times a day. People with diabetes must also carefully balance their food intake and their exercise to regulate their blood sugar levels in an attempt to avoid hypoglycemic (low blood sugar) and hyperglycemic (high blood sugar) reactions, which can be life threatening. Type 1 diabetes is generally diagnosed in children, teenagers, or young adults. Scientists do not yet know exactly what causes type 1 diabetes, but they believe that autoimmune, genetic, and environmental factors are involved (source: JDRF). “Corynne will never remember life without diabetes,” says mom Shelly. However, the Barone family refuses to allow the disease to steal their joy. Instead they have taken action. Corynne is raising money for the Junior Diabetes Research Foundation ( JDRF) to help find a cure for the disease affecting her and many other children like her. Corynne shared the following description of what life is like for a six year-old living with diabetes and why her goal for a cure is so important:
Life with diabetes means... • counting carbs EVERY time I eat. I’m getting very good at math. • changing a pump site every 3 days and crying because it hurts. Popsicles make it better. • you have to be brave! I’m VERY brave! • hesitation from Mom when a friend asks me over. Mom isn’t sure if their parents are comfortable taking care of me. • feeling bad because my blood sugar can be crazy at times. I get very grouchy! • feeling different from everyone else. Sometimes they stare. • doctor appointments every 3 months. It’s a long drive but I get to see my Nana. • eating a snack in the middle of the night because my blood sugar is low. I even have to brush my teeth, which is hard to do when you’re half asleep. • life isn’t always fun. But it’s part of me and I still smile everyday because God loves me - diabetes and all!
JDRF is the leading global organization funding type 1 diabetes research. The foundation’s goal is to progressively remove the impact of type 1 diabetes from people’s lives. As the largest charitable s upporter of type 1 diabetes research, JDRF is currently sponsoring $530 million in scientific research in 17 countries. Corynne has raised close to $11,500 of that for type 1 diabetes research by sponsoring a JDRF Kids Walk at her school and by selling t-shirts. “She’ll never stop raising money for diabetes research until there is a cure. Researchers are getting closer every day. Her desire is for
no other boys and girls to have to live with diabetes, and I’m confident she will see a cure during her lifetime,” adds Shelly. Corynne is one strong little girl who doesn’t let diabetes slow her down. She is using her challenges to challenge her community to help other kids. Corynne’s mom says she is thankful to the Lufkin community for their generous donations and support. She explains, “Together we will find a cure for this disease that affects so many children.”
T-shirts are still available for sale if you want to help Corynne in her goal. They are $15. E-mail Shelly at sbarone@suddenlink.net to get yours. For more information on juvenile diabetes and how you can help, visit www.jdrf.org. tjmag.com • 29
PLACES & FACES
Museum of East Texas Pumpkin Party
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Wiley Hotel in Garrison, TX
Monthly luncheon prepared by the Garrison Heritage Society
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The Flournoys INSPIRING COUPLES
MARRIAGE ADVICE FROM OUR COUPLES: Connie Dubose says, “Don’t ever return a gift from your husband. If you must exchange it for a different size, then be sure to get the same exact thing given to you. If he went through the trouble to pick it out for you, it means he likes it, and wearing it proudly will show him a great amount of respect.” Mark Dubose says, “Know what battles to fight and which to leave along. Be very patient and always allow God to lead.” Mark Dubose says, “Don’t sweat the little things and don’t make the little things big.” Connie Dubose says, “Mark’s grandmother once told me that Mark wouldn’t lead because I wouldn’t allow him to. She told me I was going to have to back up and let him lead even though it might not be what I thought it should be.” Annette Lee says, “Every man has a love language; it is very important to know what his is before you marry. I wasted a lot of time speaking in a language he didn’t understand or respond to.” Annette Lee says, “As I age, I’ve learned that I’m really not all that and probably never really was! And I’m good with that.” Annette Lee says, “No matter how much you love your husband, to have a healthy and happy marriage, you must establish a loving and respectful relationship with his family. This doesn’t mean that you will always agree on everything, but always respect their ideas and input. They loved him first and apparently were the ones that taught him love and respect for others.” Genie says, “Some of the best advice came from my mother; don’t date anyone you wouldn’t want to marry.” Bob says, “Make the Lord your most important point of common interest. Find your affection in Him. He will give you a greater capacity for love and patience, and that is what you need in times of struggle. Forgive quickly and makeup passionately.” Bob says, “Hard times will come and usually without warning. Prepare for them and plan to work through them together.”
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ob and Genie Flournoy have been married for 51 years. Their romance began when they were both students at Southern Methodist University in Dallas. Genie’s sorority sister was getting married, and she was asked to join the best man at the rehearsal dinner. Little did she know she was on her first date with the man who she would one day marry. Genie was a city girl from Dallas and Bob was a country boy raised in the Pineywoods. It didn’t take long for Genie to realize that Bob was the type of man she wanted to marry. She says, “He was a leader, he was confident and he was cute!” Bob proposed to her right before Christmas in 1961. They planned to marry after Bob completed law school at the University of Texas in Austin, but a trip to Bob’s parents in Manning changed their plans. Bob’s family had also fallen in love with Genie. Genie remembers, “Morgan, Bob’s dad, told us he didn’t believe in long engagements.” He urged the couple to marry sooner and their wedding date was set. Bob and Genie were married at Chapelwood Methodist Church in Houston. They spent their honeymoon in Mexico City, studying at the University of Mexico and receiving college credits. They are privileged to have raised three children, Lisa, Derek and Erin. All of their children are now married and have blessed Bob and Genie with six grandchildren. They recently welcomed their first great-granddaughter to the family. The Flournoys have built their strong marriage on a deep love for one another, a vow to commit to each other no matter what they face, and a mutual respect. They both admit that marriage is not always pretty, but sticking it out and taking the journey together is one of the most rewarding things they have done. Together, they have done many worthwhile things, both in their family and community. Bob shares, “It’s important to put each other first, but don’t wrap up your life in them. Share your life and your spouse with your family and community. Get involved in worthwhile projects and people. Give your life away.” Celebrating marriage for over fifty years is an accomplishment to be praised, and we have so much to learn from the Flournoy’s relationship. Bob advises, “Love may not always be your greatest motivator, so in those times remember the commitment you made for better or worse. Make your word the bond that always holds. Remember to guard your heart and your mind from vain imaginations. When you work it out, your marriage will be stronger and better.”
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ark and Connie Dubose will be married 30 years in June 2014. Connie grew up down the street from Mark’s grandparents and would occasionally see Mark when he came to visit in the summer. The couple re-united at Stephen F. Austin State University when Mark was a junior and Connie was a freshman. Connie explains, “I had parked my car early one morning in an empty parking lot. When I came out later that day, nothing looked the same and I got very confused. I sat on the sidewalk and was crying when Mark walked up.” Their dating relationship began, and after four years of dating, Mark proposed on Valentine’s Day after Connie graduated college. Soon after, Connie began graduate school in Fort Worth to become a nurse anesthetist and Mark was working three jobs so Connie could focus on school. Once Connie finished, the couple felt like newlyweds, having so much time together that they had never had in their marriage. Mark was in the middle of a successful coaching career. His track team won state and the football team made it to the state semi-finals. After seven years of marriage, the couple welcomed their first daughter, Madeline. Because Connie’s profession is skill-based and she must maintain a certain amount of hours each week, Mark made the decision to become a stay at home dad. Connie explains, “In that time, twenty-two years ago, this was unheard of for a dad to stay home.” The change was big for all of them. They went from not being together often to Mark being there every day, all of the time with a new baby.
Mark and Connie made a conscious decision to never give up on their marriage. They both believe that if you put God first, He can work out anything. Their marriage has developed into a deep friendship. Mark explains, “You always have someone on your side, even if they don’t agree with you.” Connie adds, “He is always on my side, but he will be the first to lovingly tell me that I was wrong.” The Duboses have two daughters, Madeline and Jennifer, who have a unique bond with their dad who chose to make sure they had one parent at home, full time. To this day, they drink Dr. Pepper for breakfast, because that is what their dad taught them to do. He also taught them to be strong and independent, an invaluable lesson to any young woman.
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ene and Annette Lee have been married for 42 years. Gene proposed to Annette while the two were cutting class to share coffee and donuts in Kiwanis Park. They were the first couple to be married in their new church, Luf kin First Assembly, and her dad shed tears the entire walk down the aisle. They were married at the young age of 19, and their youth brought its own set of challenges. On their honeymoon to Galveston, their car caught on fire and burned up. When they got back home, their apartment wasn’t ready and they had to stay their first night home with Annette’s parents. Gene remembers, “I was mortified! I wouldn’t move all night for fear someone would hear the bed squeak!” The Lees began their marriage agreeing on the common values they wanted in their home. They put God at the helm and discussed their views of important things such as parenting and the division of labor in the home. Annette advises dating and young married couples, “Be simple and clear with one another. These may seem insignificant while dating, but it can become a deal breaker very quickly in the marriage.” The couple has
THE LEES learned that forgiveness is a beautiful thing and a sense of humor is an absolute in keeping marriage real. Annette says, “I’ve learned that I don’t really have to like him all the time to love him.” Their marriage, just like any other, has not been free of trouble. They both admit that early in their marriage they were hot headed. One night after a normal newlywed argument, Gene called Annette’s dad and asked him to come and take her back; he couldn’t live another day with her. Annette was just as eager to escape the contention, but her dad had other plans. He did come, but he refused to take Annette home. Instead, he laid his hands over each one of them and prayed for their marriage. It wasn’t what they wanted at the time, but they look back on the event as a turning point; anyone can make the easy decision to leave, but they were in it to make it work. Because they married so young, Gene and Annette say they grew up together. Gene comments, ‘We became best friends along the way and absolutely love where life has taken us. There isn’t anything more we could ask for.”
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PLACES & FACES
Breakfast with Santa at St. Cyprian's
Pokeno at St. Cyprian's
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LOVE & MARRIAGE YOUR ADVICE
Kylie & Brandon White The best advice given to us: Never let the sun go down on your anger. Tomorrow is never promised so forgive quickly and love deeply:) Our advice to engaged couples: Don’t get wrapped up in the wedding planning. You only get to be engaged so long. Hold on to it and really try and enjoy it. It is such an exciting and new part of your life and It goes by too fast! What we would like to know from a couple who has been married 25+ years: How do you keep it new and fun when it doesn’t feel so new and fun?
Brianna & Bryan Harkness The best advice given to us: If you put God first then your marriage will always last. • Don’t marry a man unless you would have a son just like him. • Happy couples don’t only love each other but they like each other too! They’ve discovered the secret that a vibrant marriage is built on a healthy friendship that continues to grow richer with every passing year.” Our advice to engaged couples: The best advice I could give to engaged couples is to remember that you’re planning for a marriage, not just a wedding. Your day will be beautiful because you’re marrying your best friend, and I promise you, nothing else will matter when the day comes.
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Corrinne & Chase Sims The best advice given to us: A couple that has been married for over 50 years told us recently that the first years of marriage are comparable to two rigid stones that have to be formed together perfectly. Both of those stones must be chiseled and worked to remove selfishness, pride, and every imperfection so that you can fit more perfectly every day. Chisels hurt! But they are immensely beneficial. Our advice to engaged couples: Do things to prepare yourself for marriage, not just to prepare a wedding. ENJOY the wedding planning and celebration experience. It turns into the “dreaded checklist” so really take in every moment with the people that are surrounding you. Prepare for marriage by: A) Asking questions to married people. This will prepare and encourage you to know that the “bumps” are normal to adjusting to and growing with one another. B) Adjust expectations. Sometimes the fairy tale ending hijacks reality and we forget that two broken people are being united into one. Know that your spouse is a gift of grace from God, tell them that, thank God for that, but don’t be shocked when they do something that is not “perfect.” You’re learning, growing, and being stretched constantly. Be thankful for and grow in that! We love marriage! It is such an incredible picture and hands-on learning experience of how Christ loves His church. You learn the weight of 1 Corinthians 13 in the first year of marriage. “Love is patient, love is kind. Love does not envy, is not boastful, is not conceited, does not act improperly, is not selfish, is not provoked, and does not keep a record of wrongs. Love finds no joy in unrighteousness but rejoices in the truth. It bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things. Love never ends.” photo by Donna Quarrels
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SOMETHING ABUNDANT
by Angie Nichols
Marry Me ? “Mom, I think a boy in my class wants to marry me.” She said it reluctantly from her buckled booster in the backseat. I knew someday I would hear the words. I just didn’t expect them so soon and so suddenly. She was only in kindergarten for mercy’s sake. Initially, I wanted to laugh (mostly to keep from crying). However, I pulled myself together to seek further information as a wise and loving mother should. Like it or not, I stood no-hands on a tight rope over a proverbial abyss of mother-daughter relational consequences. “What do you think about that, Mycah? Marriage is an important decision,” I spoke calmly. “He is cute and everything. Sometimes he smiles at me. And the other day, his friends told me he likes me. But I think it’s kinda creepy. Can I have some marshmallows when we get home?” Relieved marshmallows took the place of a heart-to-heart on marriage and its intricate, complicated, and beautiful web of potential joyous mess, I drove on. Sugar trumps six-year-old puppy love any day! But I wondered how long it might be before her child-like understanding is traded for the opportunity to experience an adventure of true love. I do pray she finds a man who loves marshmallows. And God. And loves her as Christ loves the Church. Someday. The truth is, God wrote on every soul with His pen of desire. Our hearts innately long for an eternal, complete romance. Our God’s ultimate plan in time and creation includes the wedding of His beloved Son, Jesus. “Let us rejoice and be glad and give him glory. For the wedding of the Lamb has come, and his bride has made herself ready.” Rev. 19:7
Just as a six-year-old girl isn’t ready to understand that committed love and marshmallows have no reason to be discussed in the same breath, a spiritually immature child of God does not make a fitting bride of Christ. God is looking for a mature, flawless, and fitting bride for His only begotten. Don’t worry if you believe God’s holy criteria disqualify you from the position of bride. None of us are fitting on our own. In His tender mercy, God provided for your purity. The cross bought salvation, and it opened the door for spiritual intimacy. You need to know the cross buys more than your eternity. Jesus also paid your bride-price. However, maturing from a child of God to the bride of Christ isn’t always a romantic process. Suffering and sorrow, testing and trying are the growing pains of spiritual development. We are wise to take them in open hands and thank God for whatever means He uses to qualify us for holy, eternal, wedded bliss. “In that day,” declares the LORD, “you will call me ‘my husband’; you will no longer call me ‘my master.’” Hos. 2:16 From Genesis to Revelation, the Word of God is a poetic love story. Every day for endless millennia, the earth revolves the sun, turns in perfect harmony, pirouettes with moon’s moods and star’s years of light in time and space you cannot fathom. The fields produce and feed the creatures who dwell there, to each every need met. The storm and lightening pour where appointed, giving food for the eater. “Why would I expect anything else from you, beloved? You are the prize of all creation. You were made for this time and place to know, obey and worship Me. But the difference between you and the lightening? You are free to choose, free to accept the Bread of Life or refuse your Creator. And that, to Me, is the beauty of your heart freely given over to Grace... and precisely why I am enthralled with you.” He loves you. And died to hear you say those two beautiful words: “I do.”
Angie Nichols is the founder of Something Abundant Ministries, serving women through worship and Biblical teaching and the author of Something Abundant: growing from a child of God to the bride of Christ. Her passion is for women to know the beauty of an abundant life knowing Christ as Bridegroom. She is married to Chris and they have one daughter, Mycah. For more information, to read more or book speaking events, visit: somethingabundantministries.org
WEDDED BLISS Cassie Lehman & Josh Griffin September 14, 2013 Wedding Venue: Cochino Lodge in Kennard Photographer: Sean Dupr`e
Christel Phillips & Stephen Bell October 19, 2013 Hometown : Lufkin, TX Wedding venue: Sandals Resort Montego Bay in Montego Bay, Jamaica
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PLACES & FACES
Brookshire Brothers Gaslight ReGrand Opening
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JEWELRY BOX
Choosing “THE” Ring
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here are many ways to surprise someone with that most perfect ring; having that joy and surprise when they open that little box. What do you look for and how do you know?
One expert, Beard Fine Jewelers says, “Do not get overwhelmed and focus on the 4C’s.” The most important characteristics to focus on are: Cut, Color, Clarity, and Carat weight. All four of these will inf luence the diamonds appearance. * Cut: The better a diamond is cut, the more sparkle it will have. * Color: A diamond’s color grade actually refers to the lack of color. In other words, diamonds that are white in color, receive higher quality grades than those with visible color. * Clarity: Almost all diamonds have imperfections. Diamonds with few or no imperfections receive the highest clarity grades. * Carat weight: The term which most people are familiar. Carat is specifically a measure of a diamond’s weight. After focusing on the 4C’s, “beauty is in the eye of the beholder,” says Beard Fine Jewelers. “The rest is up to you!” Today, diamonds remain the most precious of all gemstones, the right sparkler for that special moment. A 48 • THE JOURNEY • JANUARY2014
diamond represents love, commitment and endurance. Once you choose your diamond, taking care of your diamond is the best thing you can do. Have your setting checked periodically by a jeweler to make sure all the prongs are in good condition. A broken or damaged prong could cause the loss of a very precious stone. Beard Fine Jewelers has been in business in Luf kin since 1981. “We try to offer our customers the biggest selection of bridal in East Texas with elegant designs, upscale styling and outstanding brilliance at exceptional value. With a master jeweler on hand, we also offer custom pieces. The name on the box makes the difference; nobody says I do, like we do. ” says Darrell Beard.
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FASHION
by Jessica Tinsley Bridges, Creator of jesslea.com
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2. DISTRESSED BOYFRIEND How to wear it: Pair them with pumps or oxfords like a celebrity. They are great dressed up with a sparkly or textural top and can be worn with a blazer for a strong contrast. Don’t be afraid to wear with an oversize sweater. Levi's Distressed Boyfriend Skinny Jeans, JCP $45.
3. HIGH WAISTED How to wear it: Show off the high waist with a tucked-in shirt or shorter blazer. They are elongating, so flats go great. The Dreamer Boot-Cut Jeans, Old Navy, $34.50.
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5. PRINTED How to wear it: Pair these with solids, especially colors, for a bold but wearable look. A denim or leather jacket keeps it casual without sacrificing polish. Mossimo Women's Denim Legging with Velvet Print, Target, $27.99.
6. GREY How to wear it: Grey is the perfect alternative to regular blue jeans. Grey jeans are on trend, incredibly chic, and so cool. Since grey is subtle, you can make it pop with a pair of leopard pumps, a statement studded belt or a bold handbag. Rockstar Super Skinny Jeans, Old Navy, $34.94.
4. FLARES How to wear it: You can go ‘70s-style and wear a slim turtleneck sweater tucked into your flares, or try a more volume-heavy look with
Jessica (Jess) is a 28-year old brunette born and raised in Lufkin. She is in love with fashion and wearing high heels, even though she’s 5’10’’. She graduated from Stephen F. Austin with a Fashion Merchandising degree. She and her husband live in Houston with their 2 dogs, Bella and Bentley. She is an assistant buyer for a department store in Houston, Texas. She has her own fashion blog, Jess Lea where she shares her love for fashion on a budget.
photo by The Silhouette Studio
PLACES & FACES
Denim & Diamonds Annual Fundraising Banquet 2013
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WEDDING TRENDS
What's in Style Here is what Rubie&Jane has seen in style at market and what girls are coming in asking for!!
Lace, Lace, Lace!! From prom to weddings, lace is in! In all different shades & styles.
(VELMA) Beaded lace, tulle gown by Maggie Sottero | Colors Available: White, Ivory, Ivory over Blush (shown)
Classic Chantilly Lace gown by Mori Lee Colors Available: White, Ivory (shown)
Wedding Color Trends: Shades of turquoise/mint and coral/blush are the most popular color that girls come in with. Rubie&Jane/Bella Spree suggests to accents with shades of gray or gold to make these colors really pop. Mori Lee - Blush or Mint
Tuxedos: Gray suits for guys are in. Mix and match the accessory colors for the style of your wedding.
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PLACES & FACES
Harold’s House Purse Bingo
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by Melissa Radke
STRETCH MARKS
Forty is Fabulous “I’ve always felt there are two things a woman should never do after the age of 35. Stand in natural light and have a baby.” – Erma Bombeck
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his past month I turned 40. I’m not embarrassed to say it. I’m 40. 40! Besides, look at my picture down below at the bottom of the page. I don’t look 40! In fact, just last month my daughter looked at me and said, “Really? I would’ve thought you were 42.” So see? I don’t look my age. Turning 40 makes you think. It makes you evaluate. It makes you take a long hard look at your life and ask some pretty serious questions. I’m now going to pose those questions to you and even give you my deep theological answers. Hopefully this will create an open place in your mind and Spirit where you can begin this new year by focusing on the new you that has yet to bloom and you can journal your…… oh, who am I kidding? You’re reading this in the bathroom, aren’t you? So here we go. Questions to ask yourself at the start of this New Year or if you’re turning 40, either one. Am I happy? My answer to this question was: “Yes. Sorta. Most times. Usually. I would say, yes. Yeah. I am. I guess. No, I know I am. Uh-huh. I am very much, sorta, usually, always, 100% happy.” (Do like me and go with your gut on this one.) Did I marry the right person? My answer: “DUH!” (Then I suggest you go into your attic, pull out your old high school yearbook or box that you kept old movie stubs in or dried roses from homecoming, and take a look at your high school boyfriend. Isn’t he cute? Wasn’t he so adorable playing varsity basketball? Look at him in that cowboy hat! What a doll! Now go find him on Facebook. Look at his gut. Look how he’s wearing the same Van Halen shirt in every single picture. Look how it’s two sizes too small. Look at his wife. Look how she’s got a look in her eye that screams, “Help me. Somebody help me.” Now climb down from the attic and go kiss your husband. You married good.) Who are these kids and why are they following me around? My answer: Those kids are yours. You prayed for them, remember? You begged God for children, remember? God answers prayers, remember?
(Now at this point you’ll want to be angry at God for a moment. But I don’t suggest that. What I suggest is this: Go and watch them for a moment. Stand at the door and just watch them. Look at them and remember what you’re life was like before them. Did you stay out late? Sure. Did you have more money to spend on yourself ? Absolutely. Was your heart as full? No, it wasn’t. It was never as full as it has been since the day you had them. Now apologize to God for your rotten attitude.) Am I doing what I should be doing? My answer: Yes, for right now, I am absolutely doing what I am supposed to be doing. How do I know? Because most days it’s hard and I want to keep my head buried under the covers. This is your sure sign that you are exactly where you are supposed to be. (Now, this is a tricky one because no matter what I write only YOU can answer this question. Are you doing what you should be doing? Here’s one way to tell. If this year were your last on, if your 40th birthday was the last one you celebrated, would you feel like you had accomplished what you were designed to do? If your answer is “no” then stop immediately and get to it! My girlfriend has a heart the size of Dallas. She wants to go to the mission field. Right now she is sitting behind a desk, but if she wants to change her life – and in the process change the world – then she had better be willing to risk it all for the kind of life that will be fulfilling, challenging and harder than she ever dreamed. After all, if you want to walk on water then you better get out of the boat!) I’m 40. Half of my life is officially over. It’s all downhill from here. So how am I doing on friends? My answer: Boy, do I have friends! Questions is: What am I doing to keep them? Am I watering them? Weeding the bad ones out and taking great care of the delicate ones? Am I making sure they are as loved as they make me feel? I certainly hope so, because the ones I’ve been able to claim during my 40 years on this earth have been better than the ones I’ve deserved. (I hope that this year you weed, water, fertilize and care for the friendships in your life. They won’t be able to answer question 2, 3 and 4, but they sure as heck can make or break question #1.) So here’s to a great year – another birthday – and the ability that we all share, looking two years older than we actually are! Mazel Tov!
Melissa Radke is married to the best looking man in town, whom she affectionately refers to as The Attorney General. They have two children, Remi and Rocco; you have probably seen their picture in the Most Wanted list at your local schools. She loves movie popcorn, telling her friends what to do with their hair and being the center of attention. You can find her anytime at melissa@lufkin.org or Chik-fil-A. You are encouraged to ask for her autograph. In fact, she insists. 54 • THE JOURNEY • JANUARY2014
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THE CREATIVE MOM
by Shanna Crew
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s a child, I remember all the older ladies in my family making beautiful tissue paper flowers. My grandmother said the tradition was started back in the 1940’s when they would all get together to play bridge, and the winner would be awarded a bouquet. I was in the 3rd grade when my octogenarian Aunt Essie taught me how to make tissue flowers. Throughout my childhood I made many to give away. Martha Stewart revived this humble art a few years ago, and I’ve seen them quite a bit on the internet as both home decor and party props. If you use a full package of tissue paper, instead of a flower you can make a pom pom. Both my girls have them hanging in their rooms. They are an easy project for kids, inexpensive and a fun pop of color. We used one package of tissue paper for each pom pom. That’s approximately ten sheets. You can use more if you want a fuller pouf. If you want smaller diameter pom poms, just trim the unfolded, stacked tissue so that the sizes vary. Ours are solid colors, but you can alternate sheets of tissue or mix colors. For supplies: ~12” piece of floral wire, scissors, and ten sheets tissue paper. 1. Spread out your stack of tissue. 2. Fold accordion, or fan style. 3. Find the center by folding in half. Then tightly twist the floral wire leaving a piece at least 1” longer than the paper. You will use this to attach the string to hang. 4. Trim the edges. We did a scallop shape for the aqua and points for the purple. 5. Gently pull and separate each sheet toward the center. For pom poms, about halfway through flip over and pull the remaining sheets to the other side. To make a GIANT flower instead, don’t flip---just pull all the tissue to one side and leave the other side flat. (The flowers look great hung on a wall!) 6. Fluff and arrange the tissue to make sure it’s spread evenly, then hang from ceiling. They would also be cute set atop an urn or clustered together on a table for party decorations.
Shanna Crew left her job training astronauts at NASA to become a full time artist and mom. She is married to her high school sweetheart, Jeremy, who is a local attorney and co-founder of Big Thicket Brewery---Lufkin’s first craft brewery. They have 3 children: Devon, Weston, and Evangeline.
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PLACES & FACES
Museum of East Texas Members' Gala
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A CHILD'S HEART
by Jason Soule
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was in second grade and it was nearing Valentine’s Day, the day of love. It seemed to be the perfect time for me to win the heart of a girl in my class. I didn’t know much about love as an eight year old boy, but I was willing to give it a try. First I just had to get her attention, and for that I had to have a plan. So one day on my way to karate class, I stopped at the local Ben Franklin Drugstore and found exactly what I was looking for. It was hanging from a spinning rack on the jewelry counter and I knew right away that it was just what I needed. I fished a few crumpled dollars out of my pocket and dropped them on the counter. I pointed to the rack and the patient clerk took down a pair of heartshaped, white and pink rhinestone earrings with a matching necklace. I held them up and watched them sparkle
in the afternoon sunlight. It would be the perfect way to win the heart of that special girl. But the dilemma… which girl would I give them to? After deliberating, I came up with a profoundly simple solution: I would give the earrings to Jennifer and the necklace to Emily. It was a wonderful plan that would surely result in the love and adoration of two girls!
If you like someone, share your candy with them.
It’s so very important that we, as parents, take the time to teach our kids about relationships. As I began to think about the best ways to advise parents in this task, I realized that the things I have to teach kids pale in comparison to the things they can teach me. After all, there are some things that I get very wrong when it comes to the relationships in my life. I have a tendency to complicate things that really aren’t that difficult with selfishness, pride, and pettiness.
If you like someone, you should just listen while they complain.
For kids, relationships are easy. In their minds, if you like someone, you hug them a lot, talk to them often and play together whenever you get a chance. I sometimes wonder what happens in our adult lives to mess that up. I hope we can learn from a child’s carefree, honest approach to relationships. Here are a few simple ways you can learn to love like a kid: If you like someone, draw them a picture with hearts on it. If you like someone, give them sneak-attack hugs.
Jason has dedicated his life to teaching kids. During his career he has been a coach, an elementary teacher, a principal and is currently the kid’s pastor at Lufkin First Assembly. He speaks the language of kids and loves to see them grow in Christ-like character. He is married to Karli, and they have three beautiful daughters, Haley, Abby, and Olivia. To see more of what he does, visit the KidWorks website at www.lufkinkids.org. You can also reach him by mail at jsoule@lufkin.org.
If you like someone, play with them. If you like someone, it is ok to tease them a little bit. If you like someone, you’ve got to tell them secrets. If you like someone, sometimes you need to play what they want to play.
If you like someone, you need to be on their side no matter what. If you like someone, it is ok to tell them when they are being a jerk. If you like someone, it is your job to cheer them up when necessary.
If you like someone, you should introduce them to other people that you like. The real lesson to be learned is found at the end of my second grade story: When Valentine’s Day finally came, I proudly presented the girls with the gifts I had selected for them. It didn’t take long for me to realize that something was wrong with my assumptions. I had assumed that both girls would be delighted by my gifts, but when Emily saw that she only received half of the jewelry set, she was not delighted at all. In fact, she was offended and refused to accept it. Confused, I turned my attention to Jennifer. She looked at me and then at the earrings I had placed on her desk. With a wide grin, she scooped them up and clipped them on to her earlobes. As I admired her across the desk, it seemed only fitting at that point that she should have the matching necklace, so I gave that to her, as well. Jennifer naturally understood that love is not perfect, but is a rare and precious gift just the same. It should be enjoyed and admired for what it is rather than dismissed for what it isn’t. After all, you never know when it may be lost and if or when it will come around again.
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LUFKIN SENIOR
CODY CARTER, L ufkin High School senior, Cody Carter is a commended National Merit Scholar and is poised to become the class of 2014 valedictorian. The all A honor student boasts a resume full of advanced placement (A.P.) classes, and recently he was ranked first in the world on QuizUp, a modern day trivia app. The app has 250 categories and randomly pairs players with an opponent from anywhere in the world to compete on a certain topic. Cody held the top spot after beating thousands of other competitors in total points in the Art category.
Naturally curious and driven, Cody needed to supplement his education with challenges beyond regular classroom objectives. His parents, Don and Dr. Kaywin Carter, enlisted the help of Mr. John Mitchell, a well-known Lufkin High School teacher of A.P. English for juniors and seniors, when Cody was just in the third grade. Cody met with his tutor, Mr. Mitchell, every Saturday to read literature, conduct author studies, and prepare for the SAT test.
Carter’s quiet confidence & humility invites small talkers to move beyond mundane details into a worldview on another level.
It doesn’t take long for one engaged in a conversation with Cody to realize he is a unique and highly intelligent young man. His knowledge and application of art, history, world culture, and literature can intimidate almost any adult many years his senior. However, he possesses a quiet confidence and humility that invites small talkers to move beyond mundane details into a worldview on another level.
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It was as a result of their Saturday tutoring sessions that Cody became deeply interested in world history, art, and cultural studies. Cody even had the opportunity to travel with Mr. Mitchell, allowing the educator to make an even greater investment in Cody’s interests. At the age of seventeen, Carter has seen more of the world than most seasoned travelers. He traveled to Germany, Austria, Egypt, France, Greece, the Greek Isles, London, Israel, Istanbul, Italy, Turkey, as well as other locations in Europe and the United States.
WORLD TRAVELER Traveling with Mr. Mitchell, his parents, and gifted and talented class groups during summers and spring break trips, Cody had the chance to connect events he read about in literature to the actual sites of historical events, political figures, and various authors and artists. Mr. Mitchell pointed out the important sites he would one day learn about in future studies and A.P. classes. Among Cody’s favorite travel sites are museums where he is able to view world famous art. It is important to note that Cody’s interests in art go beyond memorizing artists’ names, dates, and titles. His reign as world champion in QuizUp demonstrates he is certainly prof icient in those skills. Moreover though, he has a passion for analyzing paintings, noticing elements many others miss, all the while assimilating historical and cultural inf luences on the artists. Cody says the MET, The Metropolitan Museum of Art in New York, is his favorite precisely because it houses one of his favorite pieces, the Grand Manner Portraiture. However, The Art Institute of Chicago and the Louvre in France are
tied second for specif ic reason, as well. When asked if he could return to only one of the many locations he’s visited throughout the world, Cody thought long and then said, “The Red Bicycle Restaurant on the volcanic Greek Island of Santorini,” turning his smart phone displaying a photo of the majestic scenery. He spoke of how the panoramic views and food offered an experience unparalleled to any other. Like a priceless masterpiece. Cody plans to attend Stanford or the University of Chicago to pursue a career that further extends his vast knowledge of art, literature, history, and world culture. No doubt, Cody is fully capable of achieving great success, all the while taking in all the world has to offer. Sadly, Cody’s tutor, Mr. Mitchell passed away before Cody was able to have him as a high school teacher. The inf luence he had upon the young East Texas student will reach far and wide into Cody’s world and into the future forever.
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MAKING A DIFFERENCE, ONE PAIR AT A TIME
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orth Gabriel is a sixteen year-old junior at Luf kin High School who is making an important difference in the lives of people he may never meet. It started this fall when the time came, once again, to buy Worth new shoes. Worth’s mother, Deanne, says her son went through a growing spell where he literally went through two sizes of shoes in a year. “His feet were growing like a weed!”
says Deanne. In an effort to teach their son to give back to those in need, Mr. and Mrs. Gabriel encouraged their son to think about getting involved in a local or international service project.
Throughout his growth spurt, every time Worth outgrew his shoes, the family of course went shopping or hopped online and got Worth his choice of new shoes. “It was expected because he needed shoes that fit, but probably wasn’t truly appreciated because he is blessed to live in a home where we can keep him in new shoes,”
“My parents told me I needed to learn to help others and see that there are so many people that need help,” recalls Worth. At that point, he says he simply googled “shoes for charity” and happened upon several websites. “I was amazed at the need for shoes.”
In September it was time to clean out the closet. Mom Deanne jokingly told Worth to figure out something to do with all the shoes that were too small, but looked practically brand new. Worth set his feet in action to take the first step of his mission.
After reading and gathering information on a number of different websites, Worth learned many illnesses and diseases can be contracted through lesions in the foot. After assessing the projects of several organizations, Worth decided to invest his time and donate shoes to the mission of Yes! Inc., a nonprofit organization that collects shoes and helps provide basic human necessities to impoverished parts of Africa. The Center for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC) reports there are many hazards associated with going barefoot in contaminated sand, soil and dirty water. Through the efforts of “Shoes for Africa,” YES! Inc. envisions increased awareness about conditions such as hookworm and other parasites. Left untreated, parasites and the infections they cause can result in the loss of limbs, chronic illness and even death. Parasitic infections often prevent adults from being able to work and children from being able to attend school. Yes! Inc. is working to serve as a bridge between global and grassroots organizations seeking to eradicate these issues and alleviate poverty in Africa. “Having never visited Africa, I did not realize how badly the living conditions
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are in certain areas. I cannot imagine not having shoes to wear on a daily basis. I did not know that there were children that might not ever have had a pair of shoes to wear and many adults do not have shoes either. I also did not know that parasitic diseases can develop through lesions in your feet, and many people living in impoverished Africa suffer from these illnesses because they do not have shoes. I realized that this project is very important and that I can make a difference in the lives of many people that I will never know or see,” shares Worth. So far Worth has collected about 75 pairs of shoes. “I would like to at least send 200 pairs of shoes to Yes! Inc. I started the project in September of this year and would like to reach my goal by September 2014.” Worth says that collecting many pairs of shoes isn’t as easy as it sounds. His hours are limited because of school work, and he plays basketball and baseball for LHS. But Gabriel is finding service projects do not have to be a major time consumer to be effective. “People are always willing to help, but everyone has very busy schedules and sometimes forgets. My parents and I send many reminder e-mails and texts to people who said they would help. Everyone has been wonderful and very nice in wanting to help me help others.” Worth would really like to have more children’s sizes to send. He also hopes people will help spread the word for needed donations. “Since this is not a local project, I am simply using word of mouth and social media to ask for donations. Every pair helps. A donation can be one pair,” he says. Worth says you can email his mom at deannegabriel@suddenlink.net and he can pick up donations. The website for Yes! Inc. is www.yesshoesinc.org. Gabriel encourages others to start collecting on their own and personally send shoes. “You can change someone’s life for the better.”
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GIVING BACK
2013 ANGELINA WHEELIN' SPORTSMAN DEER HUNT
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wenty two excited hunters gathered for the 5th annual Angelina Wheelin’ Sportsman Deer Hunt on December 13 and 14. The rain and cold weather did not discourage any of our hunters at this year’s 2-day hunting experience for people with disabilities. Over 50 volunteers didn’t miss this opportunity to aid someone who needed a little extra help to be able to hunt. Excitement was in the air as the participants harvested 2 bucks, 7 doe and 2 hogs at this year’s event. Participants were able to experience some of the area’s best hunting locations at the SFA Experimental Forest, Angelina National Forest, Alazan WMA, and the Winston’s private property in Nacogdoches County. As we have discovered, teaming up with different organizations makes a better outcome. We would like to recognize the following groups: The National Wild Turkey Federation (NWTF), U.S. Forest Service (USFS), Texas Parks and Wildlife Department (TPWD), and US Fish & Wildlife Service. NWTF Chapters involved were Gulf Coast, April AWOL & Pineywoods Chapters. Other groups were the SFA Society of American Foresters and SFA Alpha Gamma Roe Service Fraternity. Academy Sports and Outdoors stepped up big time as sponsor again this year.
(ABOVE, TOP) Emily Penn is all smiles with this nice 9 pt. buck. Photo by Frank Wofford. (ABOVE, BOTTOM) Joshua Moorman is glad to help the Winston Deer Management program by harvesting this mature doe. Joshua will enjoy some tasty meet also. Photo by Dale Bounds.
Winston Tree Farm has served as headquarters for the annual hunt and the Winston family has been very supportive of NWTF Outreach and also sponsors our Texas State JAKES Event. First time hunter Emily Penn harvested a nice 9 point buck and was the winner of a
This group of excited deer hunters readies for the 2013 Angelina Wheelin Sportsman Deer Hunt. Photo by Dale Bounds.
donated mount by Frankie Hamby, owner of Hamby Taxidermy in Nacogdoches. According to Emily, “Not only was I the only girl hunter who shot a buck, but I had the pleasure to meet so many wonderful people with physical disabilities who loved hunting and the outdoors. The volunteers all were gracious with their time and expertise. They were always ready to help me. I had an incredible experience and will be back next year!” Chiefs Buck Doiron and John Ippolito and crew cooked chicken fried venison cutlets for the crowd Friday night with Louisiana yams and other sides. Everyone had plenty to eat and enjoyed a Texas Bar B Q Saturday at noon. Winston Tree Farm hunters, Keith Wayne Gaston and Jeff Reid and their crew harvested seven deer to feed the hungry hunters and volunteers at this year’s event. Gene Sullivan, owner of Choice Cut Meat Market, prepared the venison cutlets, smoked sausage and summer sausage rolls from Gene’s famous recipe. The USFS personnel and guides at the SFA Experimental Forest and TPWD team at Alazan WMA had some great locations staked out to hunt; the area is beautiful and has diverse habitat for wildlife. The weather for Saturday’s hunt was cold, but the rain let up and the hunting was very good for the afternoon. All our hunters had a great opportunity and the volunteers really did a fantastic job putting this hunt together. Thank you all from the NWTF! (BELOW) Craig White was Eric Hardins guide on the hunt .Erick is all smiles.
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GREAT OUTDOORS
THAT DOG WILL HUNT LONE STAR SQUIRREL DOG ASSOCIATION
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ast Texas is known for its abundance of forest, plentiful foliage, and some of the best fishing waters in the country. The natural environments of this area make for great open season on all manner of creature and beast. Each year men, women and children hope to pose proudly for photos with their record-setting buck or hog. However, a lesser known style of hunting boasts prizes of another sort. In squirrel hunting, it isn’t so much about the number or size of the kill, as it is about the ability and skill of man’s best friend. Ernest Hudgens retired from Jewell Hudgens Machine Company and is a hunting enthusiast. He spends his time breeding and training dogs to hunt and track squirrel. He is the president of the Lone Star Squirrel Dog Association based in Luf kin, attracting members in a 100 mile radius. The club promotes hunting by “tree dogs” in East Texas. Squirrel hunting has been around as long as America herself. Hudgens says there are two ways to hunt squirrel. One way is called “still hunting.” This is the way most people do it, especially in this area. In still hunting, a hunter goes into a hardwood forest area and waits to see a squirrel, takes aim, and if a good shot, has a squirrel
for dinner. The other way, is hunting with dogs. This technique is implemented after the leaves of the hardwood trees have fallen to the ground in the fall and winter months. Squirrels come down to the ground to feed. They leave a scent trail that a trained squirrel dog is able to pick up. The canine follows the scent and tacks a squirrel to the tree. The dog’s accurate tracking and barking alert the hunter so he can shoot the woodland critter. It is a dog’s ability to track and tree squirrels that is most valuable in squirrel dog hunting. Hudgens says it is a skill that comes to dogs both naturally and through training. “Good dogs are really rare. The dogs are trained but they have to have a natural instinct to begin with.” In his experience, Hudgens has found in a litter of puppies, there might be one dog with the right combination of instinct, intelligence, and teach-ability to make a quality working squirrel dog. Dogs can begin training at three months old. Hudgens turns them loose to see which ones respond by venturing out, finding critters and making their way back. “I have six dogs. Four of them, I am not embarrassed to take with me to hunt with other hunters,” he says with a laugh. The types of dogs most commonly used to track squirrel in f ield trials and squirrel hunting are called Mountain Ker squirrel dogs and Feist squirrel dogs, which are mixed-breed dogs bred over the years from the Southeast part of the country around Tennessee and surrounding areas. Another breed often used for squirrel hunting, and the personal preference of Hudgens, is the Rat Terrier. The breed originated in England and was bred for killing rats in a pit for wager. Over time, they havae been bred as hunting dogs and they make great pets, as well. A quality squirrel dog is worth quite a bit of money these days. People can expect to pay anywhere from a few hundred dollars all the way up to a few thousand dollars for a dog that will hunt. Champion squirrel dogs can bring up to $20,000. Squirrel dogs build their reputations by winning field trials sanctioned by the National Kennel Club. The Lone Star Squirrel Dog Association is under their authority for all of their sponsored field trials. Hudgens doesn’t compete with his dogs, but he does participate in the organization and administration of local f ield trials and often serves as a judge.
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In addition to field trial events, The Lone Star Squirrel Dog Association holds a few events in the fall and winter months each year. In East Texas, squirrel season generally runs from the first of October to the first weekend of February. The Association holds an annual picnic in September or October at Ratcliff Lake. Additionally, the group has an annual “Squirrel Camp” in the month of January where members spend the night out, hunt squirrel, and then cook and eat their kill. The Lone Star Squirrel Dog Association never turns down aspiring members. Yearly dues are $10. For more information, contact Ernest Hudgens at 676-2673. Opposite page, top photo: Ernest Hudgens with Nell. (7 year old Mullins Feist). Opposite page, bottom photo: Robert McDonald with Bingo and Joe. (Field trial/ Hunting dogs). This page, top photo: Ernest Hudgens with Scooter. (10 month old Mullins Feist).
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COMMUNITY LEADER
CURT FENLEY The 2013 Jack O. (Butch) McMullen Silver Spike Award
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urtis W. Fenley, III has lived most of his life in Lufkin and contributed to the community in many ways. Following the example set by his parents and grandparents, Curt believes everyone has a responsibility to help make our community a better place for everyone. There are different kinds of service, but the same Lord. Now to each one the manifestation of the Spirit is given for the common good. (1 Corinthians 5 & 7)
He is a graduate of Luf kin High School and obtained his undergraduate degree from Baylor University. He then earned his law degree from Baylor and was named Baylor’s Outstanding Advocate for fall 1982 and the recipient of the Williams Foundation Advocacy Award. After graduating from law school, he returned to Luf kin to practice with his father in the firm his grandfather founded in 1929.
Fenley’s outstanding contributions to the Luf kin community were recognized recently by the Lufkin/Angelina County Chamber of Commerce and Leadership Lufkin alumni. Mr. Fenley was the recipient of the prestigious Jack O. (Butch) McMullen Silver Spike award for 2013 at the First Friday Luncheon at Crown Colony Country Club on October 4, 2013.
For the past thirty years, he has practiced law in Lufkin at Fenley & Bate, Attorneys at Law, specializing in trucking and transportation litigation, labor and employment litigation, non-subscriber litigation and personal injury defense. He is Board Certified in Civil Trial Law by the Texas Board of Legal Specialization. He is a member of many professional legal associations but most active in the American Board of Trial Advocates, an organization dedicated to preservation of the Seventh Amendment’s right to trial by jury. He currently serves as the President of the East Texas chapter of this organization. Curt was recently named as a 2013 Texas Super Lawyer by Texas Monthly.
Since 1991, a graduate of the Leadership Lufkin program has been honored with the Jack O. (Butch) McMullen Silver Spike Award each year. Named in honor of Butch McMullen, of the Angelina and Neches River Railroad, the award is presented to an outstanding member of the alumni who has excelled in their role as a leader. Nominees demonstrate leadership in their profession, church, and/or community, and inspire others to be involved in the community and plan for the future of Angelina County. Mr. Fenley was in the Leadership Lufkin class of ’87.
A longtime member of Lufkin’s First Baptist Church, Curt has taught Sunday School for over 25 years in both the Young Adult and Youth Departments. He serves as a deacon and an active member of the choir. He has been a member of the Luf kin Rotary Club and was named a Paul Harris Fellow, one of Rotary’s highest honors. A tireless volunteer for many organizations in Luf kin and Angelina County, he served for many years on the Lufkin/ Angelina County Chamber of Commerce board and was Chairman in 2007. During his Chairmanship, he advocated for a mental health crisis
“We all have gifts that benefit the entire body. That translates to the community, as well. All of us have something we can do to help out our neighbors and the people with whom we live,” he says.
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center and coordinated efforts to make that a reality. He served on the Boards of the Lufkin Association of Downtown Development, Main Street Lufkin, the Angelina Operation Immunization Coalition, and the Lufkin Volunteer Services Council. He currently serves as Board President for the Angelina Arts Alliance. Curt married Jule Tatum Fenley, a Lufkin native, in 1987. They have three children, Anne, 23 a graduate student at George Washington University in Washington D.C., William 22, a senior at Baylor University and Mary Margret 19, a freshman at Baylor. This quote by George Bernard Shaw sums up Fenley’s attitude toward giving back to the community: “I am of the opinion that my life belongs to the community, and as long as I live, it is my privilege to do for it whatever I can. I want to be thoroughly used up when I die, for the harder I work, the more I live. Life is not a “brief candle” to me. It is a sort of splendid torch which I have got hold of for a moment, and I want to make it burn as brightly as possible before handing it on to future generations.” Fenley says, “I am just so appreciative of the example of my parents and all of the tremendous community leaders who built and invested in the community before me in order to make it a better place for all of us.” (source: Jerry Huffman, CCE Luf kin/ Angelina County Chamber of Commerce)
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TROPHY ROOM
TROPHY HUNTS
Jake Adams, 10, of Lufkin, harvested his first deer while hunting with his PawPaw in Angelina County on opening weekend.
Preston Polk. 8pt. Bow kill. Houston County.
Natalie Floyd took this 11 point on opening day in Angelina County.
Jennifer Dunkin-Hawley. Dolan Hunting Club, Zavalla, TX. First buck, killed 11-9-13. 10pt, 13.5 inches wide. Killed with a 250 rifle.
Jake Adams, 10, of Lufkin, harvested this 8’1”, 106 lb. alligator during a TPWD youth-only alligator hunt in September on Angelina Neches Dam B Wildlife Management Area. 76 • THE JOURNEY • JANUARY2014
David Steptoe killed this 13 point with three drop tines scoring 145 6/8 at Four Corners Hunting Club in Polk County.
Caroline Deaton. October 26, 2013. Trinity County.
Wyatt Wankan, 12, from Central shot this 8 point opening morning in Houston County.
Cody Pearson. Killed 11/4/2013.
Charlie Deaton. First Buck. October 26, 2013. Angelina County.
Hunter McCall, 11 years old. Huntington. 1st deer!
14. Jennifer Deaton Axis Buck Oct. 25, 2013
Send a photo of your trophy hunt & information to photos@tjmag.com. Submissions are free of charge.
Blake Buchanan
Campbell Selman, 12 yrs old, shot 10pt from a distance of 125 yds while hunting in Menard, Tx, with her dad, Mark Selman.
Bryli Lee shot this hog at the Callahan Ranch at a distance of 75 yds with a ruger 22 magnum.
Lindsey LaRue, 17, of Hudson, harvested this 11 Point Buck on November 26th while hunting with her dad on their family farm near Jefferson, Tx. Lindsey used her 7mm08 to bag him from 220 yards.
Lauren LaRue, 12, of Hudson, killed this 10 pt buck on November 25th while hunting with her dad at their family farm near Jefferson, Texas. She used a .243 from 100 yards to bag him.
Mark Nichols and his 13 point buck.
Randy Whittington killed a fallow in Angelina County on Michon Ranch.
Bryli Lee, 17, killed this 9 pt that scored 126” at the Callahan Ranch in S. Texas. She shot him 105 yds away with a browning .243.
Jerry Ray Bynum with his 10 pt, 16 & 3/4” wide. Henson Ranch. November, 2013.
Rett Smith, 5 years, shot his 2nd deer, an 8 pt with a .223 rifle from a distance of 40 yards while hunting in Menard, TX with his dad, Darren Smith.
Bryli Lee shot this javelina at the Callahan Ranch with a browning .243 at a distance of 125 yds.
James McGuire & his fiance, Kay Celestine, with an 11 pt buck he shot with a 30-30 from a distance of 40 yds at Ryan’s Lake Club, Angelina County on November 30th. It was the second largest buck killed at this hunting club for the 2013 season.
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FASHION
MENS FASHION TRENDS
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1. For the conservative dressing man! You can never go wrong with a navy jacket, tan slacks, and a sharp looking tie! /// 2. Not a bowtie guy? Thats ok! There are so many options for fun and colorful ties that express your personality! This outfit can be worn with or without a jacket. /// 3. This is our pick for a event that calls for a jacket. The shirt adds a pop of color. /// 4. This outfit is perfect for an outdoor or garden wedding. It’s ok to branch away from black or khaki pants! /// 5. This is a casual afternoon early evening wedding. This outfit will ensure that you look good, while also being comfortable. /// 6. This first picture is a close up of a patterned shirt and a patterned bow tie. Don’t be scared of mixing patterns and colors!
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All clothing pictured at Miller’s Point.Miller's Point is located at 203 E Main Street, Nacogdoches, TX /// (936) 462-1515.
PLACES & FACES
CASA Home Tour
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