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ebruary 14 is Valentine’s Day—a day to celebrate love in its many forms. But did you know that nearly 50 years ago, February was designated as American Heart Month? During this month, we raise awareness about the risks for heart disease as well as healthy lifestyle changes that can reduce cardiovascular risks and promote healthy hearts.

Quitting smoking could be the best Valentine’s Day present you can give to your family or your loved ones.

Smoking & Heart Health When you smoke or are exposed to secondhand smoke, cells that line your body's blood vessels react to the poisons in tobacco smoke almost immediately. Your heart rate and blood pressure go up. Your blood vessels grow narrower. Chemical changes caused by tobacco smoke also make blood more likely to clot. Clots can form and block blood flow to your heart.

Smoking is one cause of dangerous plaque buildup inside your arteries. Plaque clogs and narrows your arteries. This can trigger chest pain, weakness, heart attack, or stroke. Plaque can rupture and cause clots that block arteries. Completely blocked arteries can cause sudden death. Smoking is not the only cause of these problems, but it makes them much worse.

Secondhand Smoke & Heart Health Tobacco smoke hurts anyone who breathes it. When you breathe secondhand smoke, platelets in your blood get sticky and may form clots, just like in a person who smokes. Research shows that even spending time in a smoky room could trigger a heart attack. There is no risk-free level of exposure to secondhand smoke. Even brief exposure can be harmful to your health, especially if you are at risk for heart disease.

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Love Your Heart!!!

Given that February is dedicated to celebrating love, caring, and heart health, it’s a great time to improve your own heart health or encourage loved ones to improve theirs by quitting smoking. About 130,000 cardiovascular disease deaths per year in the United States are attributable to smoking. Also, approximately 26% of heart attacks and 12–19% of strokes are attributable to smoking. The Surgeon General has concluded that cigarette smoking greatly increases one's risk for heart disease. Being smoke-free and eliminating exposure to secondhand smoke is important to heart health.

Quitting Saves Lives

You have years of life to gain and love to give by quitting smoking. Your risk for heart attack drops sharply just 1 year after you quit smoking. In fact, even if you've already had a heart attack, you cut your risk of having another one by a third to a half if you quit smoking. And because secondhand smoke also affects others and can increase their risk for heart attack and death, quitting smoking can help protect your loved ones. Make an effort during this heartfelt holiday to stop smoking and/or to encourage

your loved ones to stop smoking.

Support to Quit

For free quit support, call 1-800-QUIT-NOW (1-800-784-8669). This service provides free support and advice from experienced counselors, a personalized quit plan, self-help materials, the latest information about cessation medications, and more.

Send aSmoke-Free Valentine

Millions of greeting cards are sent each year on and around Valentine's Day to express love and care. This year, use Valentine's Day to promote a smoke-free, healthy heart.

Information supplied by the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention.

MORE INFORMATION: The following Web sites provide free, accurate, evidence-based information and professional assistance to help support the immediate and long-term needs of people trying to quit smoking. www.cdc.gov/tobacco www.betobaccofree.gov www.smokefree.gov

www.women.smokefree.gov www.ahrq.gov/patients-consumers/prevention/lifestyle/tobacco/helpsmokers.html teen.smokefree.gov teen.smokefree.gov/smokefreetxt.aspx espanol.smokefree.gov www.cdc.gov/tobacco/quit_smoking/how_to_quit/index.htm www.heart.org/heartorg/ millionhearts.hhs.gov/index.html tjmag.com • 7

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hether you love or hate Valentine's Day, you have to admit, February means LOVE and Valentine's. Personally, I could take it or leave it. I do love all the "stuff" that makes up Valentine's Day. Who doesn't like chocolate, flowers, love notes, and date nights? One of the first things I made sure Clay knew when we started dating was, DO NOT waste money on buying me roses on Valentine's Day. They are rightly so marked up, and I just can fathom him spending that kind of money! But, I made sure to let him know, he is welcome to buy them just because any of the other 364 days.

Now, with kids of course, I love to share a glimpse of the love I feel for them. We all know they will never know just how much we love them until they have kids of their own. Until then, I love being silly, making them laugh, and trying to get on their level to let them know just how much I love them! Year after year, I still don't think it soaks in even a little, but we do laugh and have a good time trying.

This year, I am going to try an avenue I haven't tried before, because they are older; I think they can take in a little more. This month's issue has one very special tribute to a one-of-a-kind girl who was also loved so very much by her family, friends, and community: Lizzie Wallace. Her life motto was, "Be the change you want to see in the world." For my daughter, her world right now is friends; my older two sons' worlds are sports.

Because of Lizzie, this Valentine's Day we are going to talk about how Lizzie lived her life trying to be that change. How can we do it as a 6, 7, and 9 year old? As kinder, second, and third graders? At church? At school? At dance? At the baseball field or on the basketball court?

However you choose to celebrate this February, maybe you can be a small change in your world around you.

In memory of Lizzie Wallace.

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Happy Valentines,

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Home Tour: Beautiful 50 Acre Ranch Design Tips: Romancing the Home Burlap & Besties: Made with Love

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Cover by Lisa Crow Photography

Pines Theater Wedding: A Love Story Singing Her Heart Out: Ashley Conlon In the News Giving Back: Lufkin Dream Center Inspiring Woman: Alex Shaw Tribute: Elizabeth Wallace

EAST 65 Buckout: Cross Timbers Cowboy Church Fishing Guide: Keith Combs Small Business: Manhattan Restaurant Chasing a Dream: Chase Ford In the Kitchen: Valentine's Day Dinners Trophy Hunts: Trophy Room

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Your Advice: What Would You Tell the 17 Year Old You? Something Abundant: A Time to Love Proposals Makeup Box: What Are Your Makeup Must Haves?

Fashion: Date Night Dresses Under $50 Stretch Marks: Love Letters

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Pretty Babies The Creative Mom: A Bed for Ruckus A Child's Heart: 3 Things Parents Can't Afford to Get Wrong Why I Love Being a Mom: Leslie Ball Look at Me

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WOMEN’S HEART HEALTH

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hat’s the strongest, most important muscle in your body? It’s your heart.

Every day, your heart beats about 100,000 times and sends 2,000 gallons of blood surging through your body. Although it’s no bigger than your fist, your heart has the mighty job of keeping blood flowing through miles of blood vessels that feed your organs and tissues. Any damage to the heart, or its valves, may reduce that pumping power. This forces the heart to work harder just to keep up with the body’s demand for blood.

As we age, we all face the chance of developing heart disease, and women are often unaware of their specific risks and symptoms. Approximately 42 million American women live with cardiovascular disease, but many are unaware of the threat they face. When it comes to matters of the heart, men and women definitely aren’t on equal footing. Not only is a woman’s heart smaller than a man’s, but the signs that it’s in trouble are a lot less obvious. When women have a heart attack they’re more likely to have nausea, indigestion, and shoulder aches rather than the hallmark chest pain.

Fortunately, women can take steps to understand their unique symptoms of heart disease and begin to reduce their risk.

Although the traditional risk factors for heart disease – such as high cholesterol, high blood pressure and obesity – affect women and men equally, other factors may play a bigger role in the development of heart disease in women. For example:

• Metabolic syndrome – a combination of fat around the abdomen, high blood

pressure, high blood sugar and high triglycerides – has a greater impact on women.

• Mental stress and depression affect women’s hearts more than men’s. Depression makes it difficult to maintain a healthy lifestyle and follow recommended treatment.

• Smoking is a greater risk factor for heart disease in women than in men.

• Low levels of estrogen after menopause pose a significant risk factor for developing cardiovascular disease in the smaller blood vessels.

So how do you make sure your heart is in tip-top shape? There are positive steps you can take to keep your body in good health allowing the heart to be a more efficient organ. In other words, eat healthy, well-balanced meals, and don’t skimp on the exercise.

The American Heart Association recommends at least 150 minutes per week of moderate exercise or 75 minutes of vigorous exercise. Aim for 30 minutes a day, five days a week. Physical activity is anything that involves moving your body and burning calories. Aerobic exercises that are good for your heart include walking, jogging, swimming or riding a bicycle.

But don’t forget strength and stretching exercises that are beneficial for stamina and flexibility. Being active can help prevent and control both high blood pressure and diabetes, and maintain healthy cholesterol levels.

products, and egg whites or egg substitutes.

Don’t forget to include legumes, such as beans, peas, and lentils, which are good sources of protein that also have less fat and no cholesterol, making them good alternatives to meat. Try to limit sodium, and avoid saturated and trans fats often found in butter or margarine.

In addition, women can further reduce their chances of heart disease by taking these actions:

• Know your blood pressure.

• Avoid smoking

• Get tested for diabetes

• Keep an eye on your cholesterol and triglyceride levels.

• Maintain a healthy weight

• Find healthy ways to cope with stress. For example, try talking with your close friends, or try writing in a journal.

Most importantly, try to keep laughter in your life. Health experts now have proof that laughter really is a good medicine. A deep laugh actually promotes more blood flowing through your entire body. When you watch a funny movie, your blood flow noticeably increases. It is nice to know that laughter might just be the perfect antidote to stress.

So have a good giggle. Your heart will thank you.

Your heart needs nutritious foods to stay healthy. Start with a plenty of fruits and vegetables, add a variety of whole grains and high-fiber cereals, and opt for lean meat, poultry and fish, low-fat dairy

Dr. Deppisch graduated with a Bachelor of Science degree from Texas A&M University. In 2006, she received a doctorate of Medicine from Texas A&M Health Science Center College of Medicine in Temple, Texas. She completed her residency in Internal Medicine at Georgetown University Hospital in Washington, D.C. in 2009. Dr. Deppisch completed her Fellowship in Cardiovascular Disease at Texas A&M Health Science Center/Scott and White Memorial Hospital of Temple, Texas.

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HOME TOUR

BEAUTIFUL 50 ACRE RANCH This beautiful 50 acre ranch was completed in 2012. It is a custom built 6 bedroom, 6 bath, over 6,000 square feet home located in Central off of 2021. As you can see, the home has custom built ins and gorgeous details throughout. It is currently listed for sale

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DESIGN TIPS

by Sabrina Lumpkin, owner of Bellissima Home

Romancing the Home

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n a conversation not very long ago, a friend described the style of my home's interior as warm and romantic.

At first I thought this to be an unusual description, because when I hear the words “romantic and home” in the same sentence, my thoughts drift to a theme of Victorian and lace, which is not my home style. As we further discussed the romantic description, I realized she was describing the actual details that appealed to her senses of touch, taste, smell, sight and hearing. Creating a home environment that pleases some of the five senses can certainly be called “Romancing the home.”

It's so refreshing to pick up home magazines that focus on creating exquisite, inviting, and relaxing rooms. Many ideas can be gathered while enjoying these magazines, because many of the rooms you envy have been touched with a bit of "romance".

"How can I romance my own home?” you ask. Think of treating yourself well. What fabrics, lighting and scents make your feel special or luxurious? Adding romance to your style is not limited to the bedroom. Any indoor or outdoor space can be romanced!

• Group crystal, gold or silver candlesticks together. Grouping is impressive and makes a much better impact on a mantle or placed in front of a mirror for added effect.

• Replace ordinary, white lampshades with linen, leather or upholstery fabric shades to set the tone of a space and spice things up.

• Lavish your windows with decadent fabrics. If curtains or draping is not your style, forego the window treatments and go for bold, wide, sculptural moldings for a grand statement.

• Watch your chairs, ottoman or sofa come to life when draped with a beautiful throw. There are so many unique, comfortable throws available in today's market at astoundingly affordable prices.

• Choose pillows that make your heart skip a beat. Add effect with pillows made

from warm leather or fabrics. A touch of animal print is perfect in nearly any decor.

• Turn off the television. Play more music! Music can set the tone in a home all on its own.

• Choose a signature fragrance for your home using candles and oils.

Don't mix scents. Too much of anything isn't romantic or sensual.

• Flowers. What more can I say? A beautiful vase of dramatic flowers or small floral bouquets scattered throughout your home add a rich, romantic feel.

When creating a romantic element in your home, think of details that make you fall in love with living no matter the scale.

"Come live in my heart and pay no rent" - Samuel Lover Blessings,

Sabrina Sabrina Lumpkin is the creator and owner of Bellissima Home, www.bellissimahome.com, an online shopping experience offering hand selected, premium, designer inspired items for the home.

Luxury you can afford!

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BURLAP & BESTIES

Made with Love

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hether you are getting married, a newlywed, have been married for years or just need a wedding shower gift, these are the projects for you!

by Melissa & Tiffani

It seems that everything is all about the personalization right now, so this is a fun and easy way to spruce up some plain canvas boxes to use with side tables.

We found two canvas boxes that fit into the side tables we wanted to use at Target.

We taped on our stencils to keep them from moving and then we used foam brushes and latex paint in a matte finish to paint on our MR and MRS.

It’s always nice to have someone thank you for the little things that you do, and this frame makes it easy.

Get a frame in the size of your choosing; we used an 8x10 frame.

Then pick out the type of paper that you want and you can either hand write or print onto the paper “I love you because….”

I’m sure we all know someone who has lost a ring down the sink! This ring holder will solve that problem, and it helps to spruce up your kitchen.

Get a small frame; the one we used was 2x3. We couldn’t find a frame in the color that we wanted so we painted ours with some acrylic paint.

Remove the glass and cut your scrapbook paper to

Stick your paper in your frame and get a dry erase marker. Now you are ready to write your love notes!

fit the cardboard backing of the frame.

Then use matte finish mod podge to attach the scrapbook paper to the cardboard that fits into the frame. Let this dry and put several coats on it just in case it gets wet while sitting by the sink.

After that, screw a small hook right into the center of the cardboard and you’re done!

Most of us have seen the prints framed with important dates, we took it up a notch and combined it with our love of old wood.

I wanted this to be large because I have high ceilings, and I wanted it to go in an open area of our living room. The finished product is 22” by 30”. So I cut (and by “I” of course I’m talking about my husband!) our board into 22” pieces.

Each piece was 6” wide.

Melissa is a housewife who loves her husband and son, Ben and Ty, more than anything else on earth. In a previous life, she was a CPA. Her passion for serving Jesus took her and Ben to Africa for two years where, among other things, she learned she can never pack too many crafting supplies. If you want to see a happy girl, give Melissa an old piece of furniture and a paintbrush then stand back and watch the magic happen.

I sanded them slightly, attached them to two pieces of wood and affixed the picture hanging hardware to the back.

I free handed the words in pencil first and then used black latex paint over the writing. I used stencils for the numbers, which you could also use for your lettering. Another option would be to use stickers or the cut out your letters and numbers and mod podge them on to the boards.

After this dried, I lightly sanded the paint to age it and then coated it with some polyurethane.

Tiffani Brantner is a part-time nurse and student, a constant crafter, party-thrower, "idea-comer-upper", and a richly rewarded wife and mother to Jeff and Cullen. Call her to come and get your old junk, she LOVES it! She'll turn it into something beautiful, create a theme, throw a party around it, and invite you as the guest of honor. You can reach Tiffani day or night at tifandmel@gmail.com.

PLACES & FACES

Academy of Gymnastics and Dance Special Needs Cheer

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PINES THEATER WEDDING

photograph by Cade Wesley | cadewesley.com

A LOVE STORY Starring Shelby and Kevin Burks

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t happened one night, on New Year’s Eve, to be exact.

Shelby Vinson became the bride of Kevin Burks. Their love story began as a friendship that Shelby says, “Just blossomed into a wonderful relationship.” After Kevin proposed on the beach in the summer of 2012, plans for a winter wedding the following year began to take shape.

Luf kin is the hometown of both bride and groom. Shelby’s parents are Chastity and Jeff Vinson of Luf kin, and Kevin is the son of Tony and Edie Burks, and Kelly Burks. Shelby says, “Luf kin has and always will be my home,” even though the couple established residence in Shreveport, Louisiana after their wedding. “I wanted to incorporate something special from Luf kin in my wedding,” she shares.

Doyle Vinson, the bride’s grandfather, is the owner of Timberline Constructors. The family business renovated The Pines Theater, so Shelby had the opportunity to see the process of the historic theater’s transformation. “I hadn’t picked a venue immediately after the engagement, and I was still keeping my eye out for a special place to have our wedding. My father took my mother and me to look at the progress on The Pines Theater, and my dad made a comment about me getting married there.” Shelby and her mother fell in love with the idea of having the very first wedding at The Pines Theater.

The bride’s grandmother, Janet Windham, shared her childhood memories of attending movies at The Pines Theater when she was a girl. Shelby envisioned how wonderful it would be to watch a movie in the historic Lufkin landmark. However, instead of watching a two hour fairy tale, she and her husband-to-be starred in their own love story in the theater. “The Pines Theater is unique to Luf kin, which made it the perfect venue for my wedding day,” says the bride.

Wedding director and designer, Aleck Bridwell of Special Effects by: Aleck, set the stage with dramatic, dim lighting, candles, and his own professionally designed floral arrangements. The house lights were dimmed and a spotlight followed Shelby and her father down the aisle. Outside the theater, the couple announced their love story in lights on the marquee. Instead of a movie poster out front, engagement photos were displayed. “When Shelby and Kevin first came to me and asked me to be their wedding director and designer, she showed me a photo. It was of the word LOVE. That one word became the inspiration around the whole wedding,” says Bridwell. As the only exclusive wedding designer in Lufkin, Bridwell says he makes a bride’s dream a reality from start to finish. “I am there for wedding dress choice and even deciding and arranging gifts for bride and groom and all attendants--every shoe and every earring chosen.”

“The location set the bar high for my wedding. The Pines Theater is a very unique location and my wedding had to be unique as well,” says Shelby. The New Year’s wedding was a celebration of ringing in the New Year with a newly-wed couple. “The venue, the flowers, the decorations, and the lights were wonderful, but what truly made my wedding day memorable was the way my husband’s face lit up when he first laid eyes on me.”

As the curtain fell on the evening, Kevin and Shelby were only just beginning their “happily ever after.”

The Pines Theatre is located at 113 S 1st Street in downtown Lufkin • (936) 634-8881 • www.thepineslufkin.com.

Contact wedding director and designer, Aleck Bridwell of Special Effects by: Aleck at 936-899-2429 for your unique wedding dream.

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SINGING HER HEART OUT

Ashley Conlon

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usic has always been a part of Ashley Conlon’s life. As the daughter of long-time Lufkin music teacher, John Conlon and wife Ronna, music was a big part of her family, as well.

From singing at church as a child to her involvement in musical theater, the 2005 Lufkin High School graduate even became a member of the Angelina College Singer group in 2006 and 2007. More recently, she is focused on her career as an esthetician and make-up artist at Bella Salon & Boutique in Lufkin.

“Since finishing high school and college, I have felt that there was a part of me missing.

It always made me feel at peace when I would step on a stage and sing my heart out,” Ashley shared. Then Ashley heard of an opportunity she couldn’t resist. The Woodlands Idol is a local amateur singing

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competition produced by The Woodlands Area Chamber of Commerce. The three preliminary events for 2013 were held in September and October.

The opportunity to fuel her life-long passion, as well as, the chance to win some great prizes and cash proved tempting.

“So I took a chance. Even lacking the confidence I once had, I told myself, ‘You’re only young once, go have some fun.’ I wanted to experience something new,” Conlon said.

During each preliminary competition, thirty contestants had the opportunity to sing only three minutes of their pre-selected song. Nine judges chose one contestant each to advance to the semi-final round, and one lucky contestant would be chosen to advance by the people. The top three winners of the final competition receive cash, prizes, and amazing opportunities.

Ashley competed in the third preliminary round. Her song of choice, “One of Us”

by Joan Osborne, was one she felt had a lot of meaning and would stand out. Her insight paid off. She got a call informing her she was chosen as the People’s choice contestant and advanced to the semi-final round of competition. “I couldn’t have been happier and more thankful for all the friends and family that got together and voted for me. It really meant a lot.”

A few weeks later, Ashley made another trip to The Woodlands to perform in the semi-finals. This time she decided to sing a song with soul that everyone knew and could sing along to, “At last” by Etta James.

“It has always been one of my favorite songs to sing, and I knew my parents would enjoy it,” Conlon said. After a long night of over thirty performers, Conlon learned she did not make it to the final round.

However she said, “The experience was very fulfilling and so great; not to mention totally entertaining! I would do it all over again and I can’t wait to see what else God has in store for me.”

Ashley says she believes she should never stop using the talent God gave her. “I would even say that if I could communicate only through singing, I probably would,” Ashley laughs. For Ashley Conlon, and for all of us, finding ways to nurture a soul’s passion keeps the heart singing.

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IN THE NEWS

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1. St. Cyprian’s 4th grade students enjoy team building exercises at Camp Allen.

2. Rachel Thomas’ 1st grade class enjoys a trip to the pumpkin patch!

3. St. Cyprian’s SEEK (Special Enrichment) classes welcomed guest speakers Charlotte Henley and Alissa Boothe from the Ellen Trout Zoo.

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4. Kylie Ridings, a 3rd grade student at St. Cyprian’s School, recently enjoyed being “Mayor for the Day,” an honor that was graciously donated by Mayor Brown as a prize for the school’s spring Bayou Bash. Kylie enjoyed learning the ins/outs of the City of Luf kin and what it takes for a city to run eff iciently. The honor began with a trip to City Hall and included behind the scenes tours of the Luf kin Police Department, Luf kin Fire Department and Kurth Memorial Animal Shelter.

5. The Junior League of Luf kin’s Sprint into Spring Fun Run. March 1, 2014 at Crown Colony Country Club. 5K @ 8:45 a.m. - $30 | 10K @ 8:20 a.m. - $40 | Kids Run @ 8 a.m. - $20. Register now at: onestoprace.com. www.juniorleagueofluf kin.com. www.facebook.com/JLL FunRun. Walkers welcome! All proceeds benef it the Back to School Bonanza and other Junior League of Luf kin projects that benef it the women and children of Angelina County.

6. St. Cyprian’s 3rd grade SEEK students donate hand made toys and dog treats to the Winnie Berry Humane Society.

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The f irst parent academy was held at Burley Primary and was attended by parents of f irst graders. Junior League member Mallory Muhlbach, reading specialist for Burley Primary, gave a very informative presentation to the families on how to help their children

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read at home and other tips to help the parents with homework. The Junior League also provided dinner for the families. There will be two more Parent Academy nights this year, one in February and one in April.

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8. Nacogdoches residents will showcase their beautifully landscaped gardens at the 2nd Annual Tour of Home Gardens on Saturday, March 22 from 10 a.m. to 3 p.m. Tickets are $15 and available at the Visitor Center, 200 E. Main St., starting February 1. Tickets may also be purchased at each home the day of the tour. For more, contact the Nacogdoches Convention and Visitors Bureau at 936 -564-7351, visit www.nacogdochesazaleas.com, and friend us on facebook @ Nacogdoches Azalea Trail.

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9. Adorned with Humility. March 21-22. Women’s Bible Conference. Keltys First Baptist Church.

Tickets are $20. Register at www.keltys.org.

Contact Vercie McMullen at (936) 675-0192 for more information.

10. The Nacogdoches County Chamber of Commerce held a ribbon cutting ceremony for Harold’s House - East Texas Alliance for Children, the Burke Center Bldg., Ste. 300 located at 4632 N.E. Stallings Dr., 936 -634-1996. Deanna Wallace welcomed Chamber members, sponsors and guests.

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Women’s Bible Conference Keltys First Baptist Church

TICKETS $20

Price includes Friday dinner and Saturday lunch After February 16th, tickets will be $30

REGISTRATION

SCHEDULE FRIDAY Registration 5:30 Dinner Serve 6:00

SATURDAY 9:00 Welcome 12:00 Lunch Served

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GIVING BACK

LUFKIN DREAM CENTER “…Whenever you did one of these things to someone overlooked or ignored, that was me you did it to me.” —Jesus Matt. 25:31-46

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he Luf kin Dream Center was opened on September 4, 2012 by Jeramy and Billie Jean “BJ” Johnson, offering people a chance to rebuild broken lives, restore hopeless relationships, and redeem lost souls. The vision for the ministry came by way of BJ’s pain, hate, and confusion of watching her close family members suffer and even tragically lose their lives due to addiction. God turned those trials into passion, love, and a deep desire for those who still have a chance to rebuild their broken lives. The Lufkin Dream Center inspires others to dream again.

Located on over 81 beautiful acres on FM 2497 in Hudson, Jeramy and BJ were able to negotiate the price of the property from $900,000 down to $500,000. The bank required the couple to put $100,000 down to secure the loan and finance the remaining $400,000. “We had a vision and no idea how we were going to pay the expenses of such a God-sized dream, but we had faith that God would provide just as He promised,” recalls BJ Johnson. The location and facilities provide the perfect environment to encourage healing and growth.

A Board of Directors was established in 2013, consisting of men and women who believe in pouring back into our community and giving people a chance to rebuild their lives. The Executive Board consists of Jerry Spann, Tom Darmstadter, Father Art Callaham, Demetress Harrell, and Pastor Andy Salagaj and Jeramy and BJ Johnson.

Jeramy and BJ serve as the founders/Executive Directors of the Lufkin Dream Center.

“We focus on allowing God to rebuild lives as He restores each individual back to Him and their families by redeeming their souls so they are free to realize their Godgiven dreams. We use a proven Biblical curriculum to identify the broken areas in each life, following a structured schedule requiring individuals to submit their life, will, and rights to God and to the authority in place at the Lufkin 32 • THE JOURNEY • FEBRUARY2014

Dream Center. The program allows individuals to live on-site up to twelve months, while learning life and job skills, financial management, individual mentoring, and group counseling. Once an individual completes the program, they are ready to live independently and make a positive contribution to their community.

The Lufkin Dream Center is known for its substance abuse program, but BJ says, “You don’t have to be addicted to be broken. Many of our residents are dealing with multiple life-altering issues such as sexual, physical, and emotional abuse, abandonment, neglect, and sex trafficking. We focus on people who need someone to invest in them and teach them how to live a better life.”

BJ shared the story of one of the many people the Lufkin Dream Center served. “Dawn came to us in January of 2013 from another facility. She battled alcoholism for many years. Her addiction masked a deeper problem that stemmed from her childhood. She desperately wanted to experience real, unconditional love that she heard about. In her early days at LDC, she tested our commitment to stick with her through this healing process. We remained faithful to our commitment to God and to her and loved her enough to give her boundaries to keep her accountable yet compassion to encourage her to grow. She began to flourish and steadily moved forward and into a leadership role. She graduated this January and is entering an intern program at Lufkin

Dream Center where she will work under the direction of our full-time staff and train to be a staff member, leading our plans for a new “Take and Bake” menu to raise funds for new kitchen equipment.”

BJ says she could tell a hundred stories of lives that have been touched by God’s love at Lufkin Dream Center over the past 18 months. However, she says if there had been only one, it would have been enough. “God is so good. He continues to send those who need to be set free from a life held captive,” she adds.

In order for the Luf kin Dream Center to continue their good work and even expand, they need your help! “Do you have a skill or talent you could teach our residents? Do you have time to spend one hour each week mentoring one of our residents? Or maybe you can help purchase items off our daily needs list posted on our Facebook page? Do you, your family, or organization want to volunteer time building, repairing, or maintaining the buildings or grounds? Can you give a tax-deductible financial donation to help with the expenses of running our program?” asks BJ.

Right now the Lufkin Dream Center is in need of financial donations to be matched dollar for dollar up to $200,000 by the T.L.L. Temple Foundation. You can give a monthly gift or a one-time gift to help reach the goal. “We expect to grow and expand our programs this year and we need your help,” says Johnson.

Jeramy and BJ Johnson do not accept a sa lar y or pay any of t heir persona l expenses from Luf kin Dream Center funds.

For them, it is a labor of love, a God-sized dream, and a passion to help others. “This vision is bigger than us and consists of expanding to serve women with children, children, teens, and families,” says Johnson.

Children who have been abandoned and sex-traff icked will have a safe haven, teens will have a place to call home and an opportunity to succeed in life and prevent an adult life f illed with addiction and oppression. The center does not receive any federal funding. All expenses are met through private donations, churches who donate, and the Temple Foundation grant match. “We can’t do this alone. We need our community to help the least of these.”

The Lufkin Dream Center is open 24/7. However, office staff is available Monday through Friday from 8 am to 5 pm.

It is located at 3896 FM 2497 Lufkin, TX 75904. lufkindreamcenter.org Find them on: LufkinDreamCenter LufkinDreamCntr

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INSPIRING WOMAN

alex shaw The Journey Magazine would like to introduce you to Alex Shaw, a mother, wife, small business owner and neighbor East Texan who is on her own journey of finding hope and joy amidst the unthinkable. It is our privilege to share her words with you as she honors the lives of her mother and only child.

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was born in Nacogdoches to Gina and Carl Barron in 1987. My older sister, Jamie, and I grew up here and attended Nacogdoches schools. When I was around 10 years old, I received my first Polaroid camera from my dad for Christmas. I took pictures of random things and occasionally I would snap a picture with someone; I loved it. As the years went on, I purchased hundreds of disposable cameras then when I was 18 I got my first digital camera. I went nuts with that thing!

In high school, I met my husband, Justin. After being together for only eight months, we had already gone through so much in our little time together. On my 19th birthday, Justin’s mom passed away from a long battle of polycystic kidney disease. At that time, I couldn’t have imaged being in his shoes. I remember telling my mom soon after that I couldn’t imagine losing her. I would have never thought that seven years later, I would be doing just that.

In late April of 2008, at age 20, I found out we were expecting our son, Dane. My due date was set for December 10. After 9 long months of waiting and 2 days in labor, we welcomed our little bundle of joy on December 2, 2008 at 4:44 p.m. He was 7lbs 7oz and 19 inches long. He was the most perfect thing I’d ever seen in my whole life. I was truly in love with him.

A couple of years passed and after being engaged for 4 years and having a beautiful son, Justin and I decided

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it was time to finally tie the knot. On August 28th of 2010, we were officially “The Shaws.” I couldn’t have chosen a better partner in this life.

After several years of working at a small loan office, I decided I wanted something more for my family. I wanted my son to be proud of his momma. Justin had given me my first DSLR camera for my second Mother’s Day. I had an editing program I liked to play with, so I started taking pictures of a few friends, posting them and people were actually interested in them. I started offering a session for a small fee and from that point on I started growing. For several months, I worked at my office job and did photography on the weekends.

During that time, I received a more advanced photo editing program and lighting equipment from my mom. In October 2011, after carefully considering all my options, I finally decided I was ready to step out on my own in photography. I rented a little studio/ office downtown and started things full time. My business took off and things were “perfect” in our little world.

My mom, Gina, was known to her grandkids as Memaw.

She was an amazing mom, always there for me and my sister. She worked hard as a single parent and was a paramedic for Memorial Hospital in Nacogdoches as we were growing up. After a near death experience one Sunday morning, she decided it was time to close that chapter in her life. She began working in the oil and gas business as a ‘Landman’ and eventually ended

up working in Pecos, Texas during the week and spending every other weekend here in Nacogdoches. Most of my mom’s weekends were spent with Dane and my sister’s children. Most weekends, Dane would beg to spend the night with my mom. They were pretty much inseparable when she was in town.

As Dane grew into his own personality, he became the most electric little guy you would ever meet. His presence was so vibrant. He was the most handsome little guy you would ever lay your eyes on. I knew from the very beginning Dane was something special to this world. He had many “best friends,” mostly his cousins. They were his heroes, especially Lane. They grew up like brothers. His cousin Dixie was older, she kept them in line. Harley, Hayden and Mason were his much older cousins who he looked up to and tried being just like them. As the year went on, He was so excited to start school at NCA. He was learning and making new friends. He found another best friend, Brayden.

They often got into trouble together but they stuck together and loved each other so very much. At the last school program, Dane’s class recited Galatians 5:22, “But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, and self-control.” This will forever be my favorite verse. He worked on this for weeks, and we were so proud.

We spent Memorial Day weekend 2013 at Galveston, visiting Pleasure Pier (the ‘fair’ as Dane called it), the beach, water park and an Astros game. We went to Galveston every year and this year he wanted “KK” to come. Kaedyn and Dane have grown up together since they were first born. I just knew one day they would marry. As happy as I was that Dane was having fun, I had this heart wrenching feeling that I just wanted to hug him and just savor these moments. I guess looking back now, maybe my gut feeling was trying to tell me something. The Sunday we got back, we went to his T-ball party and he received his first trophy, a trophy he would treasure more than anything. So would we.

Saturday, June 1st, I had to shoot a wedding in Longview.

My mom offered to keep Dane that day since I wouldn’t be back until late. On the way home from the wedding, I called and talked to Dane. He told me how his day was and we talked for a couple of minutes then I told him, “I’ll see you tomorrow.” We said our “I love yous’ and ‘goodnights.’ I never thought that would be the last time I would speak to my son.

That night we had the worst lightening I have ever seen. I knowing you just talked to your son and mom not even 12 remember waking up and telling Justin that Dane was probably hours ago and they were alive and okay. Several weeks later, scared. In my mind I wanted to go get him, but it was 3 in all that could rightfully be determined about the fire was the morning so I tried going back that it was electrical and started to sleep and was hoping the lightsomewhere in the kitchen area. ening would stop soon. The next Now that it has been eight morning, I had a couple of early months since the fire, I feel like appointments, but I knew the Take your kids to the park, reality is beginning to sink in as rain would probably cancel them. even when you don’t want to.

I struggle with knowing I’ll never As I was checking facebook to get to see my son grow up. Every Take A LOT of pictures. reschedule my appointments, I minute of the day I think about saw a post that said, “I just passed Spend one on one time with them.

Dane and know our lives will by a house that was on fire and never ever be the same without Read them bedtime stories. a hearse outside, praying for the him. I’ve struggled in my weak family.” About 15 minutes later, Sit on the floor and play with their moments, but as much as I want Officer Valdez knocked on my toys; get into their imaginary world. them here with me, I know they door. I was shocked to see him. are in heaven and I will see them Watch them sleep.

He asked to come in. I asked him again someday. Dane was and if something was wrong several Pray for them multiple times a day. still will forever be my number times, but he wouldn’t say right one inspiration.

Have patience and listen. then. He sat down on the couch and finally said, “There was a Be thankful.

I would like to say this is an fire at your mom’s house.” I amazing community; everyone Kiss them every morning and night. immediately asked if Dane was has done so much for our family. okay. He looked at me, dropped When you hug them, I can’t thank you all enough for his head and said, “No.” I knew let them let go first. the prayers, support and love we right then that was the post I just are still being shown. In March, saw. You always think ‘that would Justin and I are planning to travel never happen to us,’ or ‘that only to Haiti with our church, Fredonia happens to other people.’ From Hill, to give back to those in that moment, my world changed. How could need, spread God’s word and share the this be true? Am I in a nightmare? I can encouragement we have received. never express the grief we both had that day,

alex’s advice to mothers:

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Elizabeth Wallace TRIBUTE

May 9, 1994 - January 15, 2014

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LESSONS FROM LIZZIE ineteen year-old Lizzie Wallace possessed a radiant beauty only outshined by her contagious love for and faith in God. In her short life, she lived more authentically than many who have decades upon decades of time. She challenged those around her to be braver than they believed themselves to be. Her presence and spirit inspired those honored to know her and call her friend.

Lizzie’s faith sustained her as she battled stage 4 liver cancer for the past two years.

Lizzie lost her battle with a rare form of liver cancer on Wednesday, January 15, but the lessons she taught by the way she lived will have the final say in the war of life over death. She left a legacy, a ripple-effect for generations to come. A graduate of Luf kin High School, she attended college, shared her gift for words and ideas as a writer, and was a contributor to The Journey Magazine. The lessons Lizzie taught are refined by the trials of many fires and are more valuable than any gold or silver. As a tribute to her beauty and example of love, The Journey Magazine wants to share her words again:

“I learned who I am.

I learned who I want to be. I learned where I want to be. I learned what it’s like to know you have a purpose.

I learned what it’s like to be truly happy.”

“Instead of wallowing in my own self pity and mourning my losses, I choose to focus on the positives. Without this illness, I would never have been able to make an impact on so many other people’s lives.”

“I learned that a broken heart isn’t the end of the world. I learned that the love that I want to experience with someone is the love that Jesus showed when he died for me.”

“I learned that people are suffering everywhere, no matter what age. I’ve learned to love life even if it doesn’t love me back all the time.”

“Beauty is way more than a smile, a perfectly made up face, and coiffed hair. Beauty is something that shines within, and it has taken me months of self crisis to help me realize this.”

“We are already beautiful because God made us just the way He wants us to be. We are beautiful because God loves us and He knows our true selves. He knows our “flaws” and still thinks we’re more beautiful now than we could ever be if we looked like we wanted to.”

“Cancer does steal many pieces from your life, but not as many as it bestows. This experience has given me “God had a strength and knowprepared me for ledge that I never thought this moment. The first I could possess."

thought that crossed my mind was that this must be the testimony I was praying for.”

“I am so glad that I have been able to share the lessons I’ve learned along the road.

Lessons such as not caring about what others think, actually living life and not just going through the motions and that God is so great.”

“In my mind, cancer was not a disease with a teenage face. I definitely never thought I would hear the words, 'Lizzie, you have cancer.'”

If you wish to honor Lizzie and the lessons she lived, a scholarship has been set up in her name. Make checks payable to LHS Alumni Association (LHS AA) and write “Lizzie Wallace” on the memo line.

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YOUR ADVICE

What would you tell the 17 year old you?

"I have always encouraged our girls to be confident and kind. Be a positive and independent thinker. Always stay true to yourself. Do what makes you happy and surround yourself with friends that encourage and make you a better person. There are so many issues 17 year olds have to deal with everyday. They need the confidence, self esteem and values to stand up for what they believe and make the rights choices for success."

Reesa Kingham, Nacogdoches

"Focus on your education. There is plenty of time for a relationship and marriage. Enjoy being you first so you can enjoy being US later!!!"

Christy Kile, Nacogdoches

"Wait.

Stay pure.

You're worth waiting for."

"I would tell her to be excited about her future, and that it will probably be nothing like you have planned for yourself. Take an aptitude test!!! The next few years will teach you so much about yourself, what is really important in life, and what you are truly passionate about."

Angie Nichols, Something Abundant Ministries, Lufkin

Britney McBrayer, photographer, wife, and Texas Farm Bureau Insurance agent

"First, I would say to get to know who you are and what you believe much better. Too often, I allowed others expectations and wishes for me to lead me down paths that were not what God would have chosen for me. I was not confident enough in myself or my faith to stand up for what I knew in my heart was right. For so many decisions of my life, I was too fearful to step out and be the woman I wanted to be. Instead, I allowed others to make my decisions for me or simply did not make a decision at all. The key is finding your identity in Christ and not in other people. I wish I had understood at 17 that I was loved and accepted unconditionally by Christ and that all the qualities I saw as weaknesses were actually qualities that He chose for me to shape me and make me stronger for Him. Second, and a little more "practical" advice, would be to know my family history better and understand that alcoholism and addiction were in my family for many generations. I hope this knowledge would have helped me take a proactive stance and not have allowed alcohol to be part of my life.

Who knows, that knowledge might not have changed my path, but I would have at least liked to have known it."

Ginger Stephens, Nacogdoches

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SOMETHING ABUNDANT

by Angie Nichols

A Time to Love "Mycah. Come on! It's time to get in the car or you will be late for school."

position, saying not one bird falls to the ground apart from the Father's will (Matt. 10:29).

I tried to sing the words like Cinderella and not bark them like a harried mother maniac. Both live inside me and often lock in a catfight over my attitude and tongue.

Since Boaz was eating, drinking and didn't seem to be in excessive pain or distress, we allowed Mycah to stay her course. She talked to him, sang to him, opened the window so he could look outside, fed him by hand and changed the paper in the bottom of his cage. Soon we all loved Boaz.

Just as Mycah peeled her backside off the couch and her blue eyes from Tom and Jerry, we both heard a crashing commotion on the back porch. I voted to ignore it and continue on with my no tardy slip agenda. Mycah opted to open the back door and investigate.

"Mom!" The tone of her voice led me to believe she saw a robber stealing our rusted patio furniture or a villain strangling our porch kitty.

As I arrived at the door and swung it wide, she knelt down to pick up what appeared to be a handful of gray dryer lint from the cold concrete. Upon further inspection, I realized a tardy slip was in our immediate future.

My animal-loving woman-child held an injured bird in her smooth white hands and declared, "Mom, God sent this bird to me. He is hurt. I have to take care of him."

Then about two weeks after his arrival, we returned home to find Boaz slumped in the corner of his cage. His breath was slow and shallow, his eyes almost closed. He only slightly moved when Mycah stroked his tiny head.

She picked him up gently, just as she did when she found him on the back porch, and sat down. We prayed for Boaz.

She wept and quietly begged him to be okay, but within a few minutes, Boaz died in her hands.

It is painful to watch your child come face-to-face with the fragility of life and the offense of death. My daughter wrestled with those weighty issues that day. She asked the hard questions we all ask when life seems to kill our hopes, when what is precious is lost, when we feel betrayed by Love. Love, life, and death form a tangled labyrinth that proves impossible for us to navigate on our own.

"Boaz," the yellow breasted bird with a broken wing, found refuge in the playroom of an east Texas house and in the heart of a ten year-old girl. She had him literally eating mealworms out of her hands within just a few days. However, research told us his chances of recovering from his injury were very slim, and the prospect of surviving in the wild in such condition was non-existent.

For whoever wants to save their life will lose it, but whoever loses their life for me will find it. -- Jesus (Matt. 16:25)

While Mycah understood the harsh reality, she maintained her mission. For as long as there was a breath in the creature, she would love and care for him.

"Yep. While Boaz was alive, he knew someone loved him.

I won't be sorry for that."

Her daddy and I wondered if the most merciful thing to do would be to leave Boaz in the yard and let the circle of life roll. Or maybe we should have it "put down?" Again and again our daughter pled the case of Boaz, saying she knew God sent the bird so she could take care of it. She even found Scripture to back her

Real living means dying.

I asked her as we drove to school, "Mycah, do you think is it worth it? Loving? Loving even when you end up hurt?"

I watched her walk into school with ample time before the tardy bell rang. Boaz gave her strength to learn that even when it hurts, love is what gives life, and when one chooses Love, death never gets the last word. She is living proof. There is always time to love.

Angie Nichols is the founder of Something Abundant Ministries, serving women through worship and Biblical teaching and the author of Something Abundant: growing from a child of God to the bride of Christ. Her passion is for women to know the beauty of an abundant life knowing Christ as Bridegroom. She is married to Chris and they have one daughter, Mycah. For more information, to read more or book speaking events, visit: somethingabundantministries.org

PLACES & FACES

University Interscholastic League

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PROPOSALS

Brandy & Logan Where do I begin? Logan is everything that I’ve ever wanted in a man. I figured this out not too long after we had our first conversation. It was my senior year, 2010. I’d always known him as the “principal's son” and just never thought I would have a chance with him. Little did I know I would be spending forever with him! Ever since our first conversation, everything just f lowed and worked itself out. I’ve never felt more sure of myself and my life since Logan. He’s the answer to mine and my mom's prayers. The day she met him she’s always said, “Logan is exactly the man I’ve prayed for you your whole life.”

I couldn’t be more grateful. He proposed Dec. 21, 2013, and we will begin our journey as husband and wife on June 7, 2014.

I can't wait to finally marry my high school sweetheart, the man of mine (and my mom's) dreams! My favorite trait about Logan though, is his relationship with God. He directs me in the right path and always keeps me accountable in my walk with God. He will be a great family leader, and I can’t wait to see what God has in store for us.

Kylee & Aaron Aaron proposed to me on January 4th, 2014! I’m pretty sure I said “Are you serious?!” a good 12 times! We were playing a game of washers with our friends down here in South Texas. He went down to grab my washers so I could have them to finish playing and there he was with the most beautiful ring I have ever seen! I couldn't be more thankful and blessed! God put a wonderful, hardworking man I my life who my family adores! I am very happy!

Megan & Cameron The whole thing was an awesome surprise put together by wonderful fiancé (still weird to say that) and my family. I was told that a couple was needed to take some pictures downtown to possibly use as advertisement for some of the downtown renovations. Valena Spradley met with us Saturday, January 4th and took us all over downtown taking pictures.

We eventually made our way to the Pines Theater. One side of the marquee said love story and all of the movie poster cases were filled with giant pictures of Cameron and I. He proposed and took me inside where ALL of my friends and family were waiting for a surprise engagement party. It was absolutely amazing and overwhelming in the best way to be surrounded by so much love. I still can’t believe it happened.

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MAKEUP BOX

what are your

makeup must haves?

Eye primer! It is very important in getting your eyeshadow to stay exactly where you place it. It also prevents creasing and smearing throughout the day, so there are no touch ups!

Kellsey Smitherman, Makeup Junkies

My make-up must-haves are: • Stay Flawless 15-Hour Primer by Benefit • Dior 'Diorshow' Mascara (L'oreal Extra Volume Collagen works just as well and is cheaper! ) • Two Faced Glamour to Go is always in my purse! It has 8 eye shadows that can be transformed from day wear to night wear • A highlighter and bronzer for quick contouring of your cheeks • A clear lip gloss. When in a hurry and lipstick isn't on hand, I have brushed a pink or peach blush on my lips and topped it with clear gloss and voila'— you have lip color!

Lindsay Wright

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There are several things that I have to have: • Cover up- for under the eyes, eye lids (to keep your eye shadow on longer) and touch ups • Vaseline for my lips at night

I usually carry these items: • Aveda Environmental Compact- I can carry around my customized colors (dual foundation, face accents, eyeshadow, etc.) and switch them out every day accordingly

• Cuticle oil!!

• Bath & Body Works PocketBac Hand Sanitizer

Tara Watson-Watkins

• EOS Lip Balm • A variety of Aveda Lip Colors • Perfume Ashley Conlon, Aveda Bella Salon

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by Jessica Tinsley Bridges, Creator of jesslea.com

Date Night Dresses Under $50 FASHION

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hether you’re setting out on a nerves-filled first date, celebrating a seriously romantic occasion or going out for your weekly date night with your hubby, these date night dresses will put an end to that what-do-I-wear dilemma. Nothing kills an evening quicker than frantically searching through your closet just before leaving for Friday night dinner.

To help you plan your evening ensembles, I’ve come up with a few date night dresses for wherever the night may take you. Choose from sexy bodycon silhouettes, fun embellishments in vibrant hues or basic black. Whatever your style, any of these dresses will make him do a double take.

Xhilaration Belted Lace Detail Fit and Flare Dress Target $24.99

Twill Shirt Dress Old Navy

Mossimo Colorblock Shift Dress

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Jessica (Jess) is a 28-year old brunette born and raised in Lufkin. She is in love with fashion and wearing high heels, even though she’s 5’10’’. She graduated from Stephen F. Austin with a Fashion Merchandising degree. She and her husband live in Houston with their 2 dogs, Bella and Bentley. She is an assistant buyer for a department store in Houston, Texas. She has her own fashion blog, Jess Lea where she shares her love for fashion on a budget.

photo by The Silhouette Studio

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PLACES & FACES

photography by Valena Spradley

Lufkin Rotary Club 57th Annual Waffle Bake

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STRETCH MARKS

by Melissa Radke | photography by Kylie Kristine

Love Letters

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o I wrote a letter today. Actually I wrote it around 1:00 this morning. In fact, I started it at 1 and finished it about 2:00. Why in the world would I sit up just to write a letter? Well, it was an important one, of course. One that I try to write once a year, every year.

You see, I have this friend....

And once a year I write to tell her what all has happened in our home in the past year. I tell her about the weather and the trees, our new house and how our families are doing. I write about the dogs and the cats, the horrific experience that was my 3-day juice cleanse and the funny things my Granny has said recently. But then, then I get to the important stuff.

I tell her Remi is doing well in school. I tell her that holding her back in kindergarten is the best decision we could’ve made for her and how Remi tells everyone, “Mama drug me back!” I tell her how scrappy she is in basketball - to no one’s surprise - and her daddy is coaching her team because he can’t tell her “no.” I tell her how close Remi and Rocco are and it’s as if they were, literally, made for each other. I make sure to mention that we’ve never had to pull one tooth, Remi pulls them all herself and how she keeps giving her tooth fairy money away to kids at school she thinks need it more than her. I told her how Remi accepted Jesus into her heart this year, yet every time she makes a bad choice she seems to blame it on Jesus sneaking out of her heart on occasion to grab some lunch.

I send her pictures of Remi eating her birthday cake.

Of Remi dressed up as a ninja for Halloween and with her new kitty, Mr. Jingles, at Christmas.

I send pictures of Remi playing outside, of Remi with her friends and of Remi with the dogs.

I make sure the pictures are perfect.

I send so many.

Maybe too many.

And then, because I love this precious friend of mine, I remind her that we pray for her. Every day. And that Remi hears us. And now, sometimes I overhear Remi praying for her, as well. I tell her if she ever needs us to call us, and yet I know in my heart she never will, because my friend has grown up, gotten married, and become a nurse.

My friend is doing so well....which is all we’ve ever wanted.

But just in case, I tell her to send us a letter, and that if she does I will read it to Remi forever.

And then I thank her. Because the little girl I write about, snap pictures of and hold on to came from her. And I remind her of this fact: Of all the things that she may ever have to worry about in this lifetime, that sweet child being loved, truly loved, is not one of them. I reassure her of our love for Remi. It is always. And forever.

And I thank her, one more time.

The Journey magazine asked me to write about love this month. And with the exception of The Attorney General, there is no love in my life stronger than my kids, but I also love two women very much. Two women who made a decision to be selfless. They were not selfish, not selfcentered, not self-satisfying.... but selfless. At a moment of desperation in their lives, they chose the love of the baby in their tummy over their comfort or satisfaction. And I am forever blessed. Now I have two precious friends. And two precious children.

And that, my friends, is love.

Melissa Radke is married to the best looking man in town, whom she affectionately refers to as The Attorney General. They have two children, Remi and Rocco; you have probably seen their picture in the Most Wanted list at your local schools. She loves movie popcorn, telling her friends what to do with their hair and being the center of attention. You can find her anytime at melissa@lufkin.org or Chik-fil-A. You are encouraged to ask for her autograph. In fact, she insists.

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PRETTY BABIES

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1. Happy 1st Birthday Kyler Alvarez! Mommy, Daddy & big brother love you! (Livingston, TX). 2. Rhys James Davis. 6/1/13. Proud Parents: Hayley and Eason Davis (San Francisco, CA). 3. Conley Claire Johnson. 11/23/13. Proud Parents: Dan & Brittany Johnson.

4. Asa Jacob Walker. 1/2/13. Proud Parents: Hilary & Stephen Walker (Lufkin, TX).

E-mail Pretty Babies submissions to prettybabies@tjmag.com. Please include the information seen above.

Submissions are free of charge.

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THE CREATIVE MOM

by Shanna Crew

A BED FOR RUCKUS BEFORE

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he Crew Zoo acquired a new pet this week – a toy Australian Shepherd puppy that we named Ruckus Blue. Since Ruckus needed a space of his own, we consulted the encyclopedia of D.I.Y. [Pinterest] for cool dog bed ideas.

We found several examples of old console televisions turned into pet beds that we really liked, plus it looked cheap [free!] and easy [kids did most of the work].

I had seen this beauty on the side of the road in our neighborhood, and the previous owner was all too happy to let us have it.

My hubby and oldest daughter loaded it up, and we gutted the tube and electronics – and a few spiders – and scrubbed it. A coat of paint on the inside and a stiff board covered in cloth cut to fit the back was all it needed. The bottom is f luffed with an old comforter for easy washing, and we tacked a rope light to the upper front for a soft backlit look.

We could have removed the actual frame that held the tube in place and has the buttons, but the kids liked ‘The Dog Channel’ look.

Shanna Crew left her job training astronauts at NASA to become a full time artist and mom. She is married to her high school sweetheart, Jeremy, who is a local attorney and co-founder of Big Thicket Brewery---Lufkin’s first craft brewery.

They have 3 children: Devon, Weston, and Evangeline.

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A CHILD'S HEART

by Jason Soule

3 Things Parents Can’t Afford To Get Wrong

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meet great kids every day. I’m talking about the type of kids that just have the “it” factor. They may not always make perfect choices or be the most ideally behaved, but it is obvious that there is something different about them. There is a light behind their eyes, confidence infused into their words, and poise in their posture. These are the kids that seem to be fueled by more than fruit loops.

Behind every confident, well-adjusted kid is a slightly shocked parent. We consider our kid’s great attitude to be a fluke rather than a parental victory. We tend to say to ourselves, “I’ve made too many mistakes to call myself a successful parent.” The fact is we don’t have to get everything right, but there are a few things that we cannot afford to get wrong.

#1- Nurture Their Confidence

#3- Cultivate Their Conscience

It is essential that your child knows you adore him. Contrary to popular belief, adoring him is not giving him everything he wants and thinking that he’s a perfect little angel who can do no wrong.

True adoration will bring a twinkle of pride to your eye when someone asks about him. He ought to know that you respect, think highly of, and believe in him. Simply put, you’re his biggest fan. When someone compliments him, it shouldn’t take you by surprise. Let him see the adoration in your face when you look at him, and tell him how much he is loved as often as possible.

Girls need to hear how beautiful and graceful they are daily.

Boys should be told that they are smart and capable. There is a strange phenomenon that happens when we hear the same message repeatedly – we begin to believe it. That’s why businesses spend billions of dollars on advertising each year. Kids need to believe that they are valuable to the world and priceless to you. Their character is built on that foundation.

Ever y morning when I was in elementar y school, my mom would drop me of f. As I checked my hair in the mirror and grabbed my backpack, she would remind me to listen to the “still small voice” inside me. As parents, we want our children to be self-adjust ing in their act ions and attitudes when they are away from us. The best way to nurture your child’s conscience is to hold him accountable for his choices –good and bad –from the earliest time possible. No consequence that the world can give them should be worse than the punishment they receive from mom and dad. When a kid makes a dumb move at school, they should sweat about it for hours in fear of what is going to happen when mom and dad f ind out.

#2- Foster Their Character All parents must understand that when it comes to their kids, character matters. Our character is directly related to our overall happiness and well-being in life. It affects the success in our career, contentment in marriage, quality of friendships, and many other things. But the window for moral development is not open indefinitely. Many developmental psychologists will agree that the ideal time for the formation of a child’s moral character is between the ages of 5 and 16. By the time a child is in his late teens, his moral foundation has largely been established. In other words, don’t put off developing a sense of right and wrong in your child. Parents must talk to kids about the relationship between choices and consequences.

When I was a teacher at a Middle School in Wichita KS, our principal would do the morning announcements. Each day at the end he would remind the students, “Choices made are choices lived with; make good choices so you can live with good consequences, and not the other way around.” This is the same message that parents need to relay to their children for the entirety of their lives. The message needs to go one step further; parents need to teach their children what good choices look like.

I understand that there are many people who disagree with this idea. But as a teacher, principal, and pastor I have known thousands of kids, and the most-well-adjusted kids I have ever met are the ones who have a healthy fear of their parents.

So parents, take heart –in spite of your temper tantrums and accidental cussing, even though you occasionally burn supper and forget to add money to their lunch account, and no matter how times you have forgotten to pick them up after pract ice or burst into tears in the midd le of Walmart, by getting a few things right, you can still get ever ything right.

Jason has dedicated his life to teaching kids. During his career he has been a coach, an elementary teacher, a principal and is currently the kid’s pastor at Lufkin First Assembly. He speaks the language of kids and loves to see them grow in Christ-like character. He is married to Karli, and they have three beautiful daughters, Haley, Abby, and Olivia. To see more of what he does, visit the KidWorks website at www.lufkinkids.org. You can also reach him by mail at jsoule@lufkin.org.

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WHY I LOVE BEING A MOM

LESLIE M

onday, November 4, 2013 will be a day that changed our lives forever. Our morning started out at 5:00a.m. as we prepared to leave for the hospital to have our second child, Luke Matthew, at Woodland Heights Medical Center. Due to a few minor pregnancy complications, I was scheduled for an induction at 37 weeks 3 days. Everything started out just as planned, and by 3:30p.m. I was given my epidural. While resting, my nurse adjusted my contraction belt a couple of times because she wasn’t getting a good reading on the monitor.

This would be crucial in only a few minutes when the birth of our son would take a turn for the worse. She noticed some complications with me and immediately asked for help from another nurse. From that moment, my doctor was called in for what she originally thought was my normal delivery. When she arrived, the decision was made for me to have an emergency C-section. Luke was in distress, and time was of the essence to deliver him. Within minutes, I was rushed to the operating room and prepped for surgery. Shortly after Luke was delivered, I was diagnosed with a very rare and serious pregnancy condition called Vasa Previa. This is when the vessels from the umbilical cord cross the entrance to the birth canal and are torn during labor, resulting in loss of blood to the baby causing fetal exsanguination that can lead to death. Although my obstetrician has delivered thousands of babies, this was her first case. Later, my doctor shared that she had less than 5 minutes to deliver him due to rapid blood loss. Because of the blood loss, he was still born without a heartbeat and his Apgar score was 0. He was resuscitated by my doctor and our pediatrician and was given two blood infusions.

While writing this, it brings me to tears as it has so many times in the past 10 weeks. It is hard to grasp other than to know that God’s hands were covering each one of these people who will always be known as our guardian angels. If it wasn’t for their knowledge, thoroughness to detail and quick actions, our outcome could have been so different. Words will never express our gratitude to each of them involved in saving Luke’s life. Though we have been told by several of these amazing people that they ‘were just doing their job,’ we know in our hearts they went above and beyond what

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their job description would have ever asked them to do.

That evening, Luke was life-flighted to Women’s Hospital of Texas on a ventilator. We got to say our goodbyes before the f light team left with him, not knowing then what our future would hold. Once in Houston, he received another blood infusion. He spent 10 days at Women’s Hospital in the NICU with the best team of doctors and nurses we could have ever asked for. Kris and his grandfather made the trip the night Luke was born. Family stayed behind with me until I was discharged on Wednesday, and then my parents, our oldest son, Brett, and my grandmother-in-law left that afternoon. While at Women’s Hospital, Kris and I were each given a ‘love patch’ which was a 5x5 piece of material with a poem attached. The poem read:

I hope you like this love patch, Please wear it near your heart.

Wear it up against your skin, For a few hours at the start.

Then just before you leave here, Take it off your skin and you will see.

I’ll have something that smells like you, When you can’t be here with me.

I love you, Your Baby

We took the patches to our hotel and slept with them the f irst night and returned them to Luke’s unit the next morning to place beside him in his bed. Due to the IV’s and machines he was hooked up to, we were not able to

BALL hold him for the first 7 days. It was so hard not being able to physically hold and bond with him like we had been able to experience with our f irst born, Brett.

But once the I V was removed from his belly button on day 7, which also happened to be our 8th wedding anniversar y, we were able to hold him for the ver y f irst time. This was the best anniversary gift we could have ever been g iven and a day we shared as his parents that we will never forget. Luke’s MR I and head ultrasound results have shown to be ‘remarkably perfect’ and his newborn screens show that he should continue to be a healthy, vibrant little boy without any future complications. Praise God for our little miracle!

On Wednesday, January 29, 2014 our family will be working with Kim Ogden and the Senior Circle group at Woodland Heights as well as with other family members and friends to make the love patches. We will be donating these to the Woodland Heights NICU so that any parent who has to experience what we did, will have something special to leave with their baby while there. We felt this was a perfect way to help those mommies and daddies bond with their baby and hope they are as special to them as they were to us. Knowing that Luke always had us with him gave us a peace of mind. We will also be collecting new blankets throughout the year that our family will be donating each December to the Woodland Heights Medical Center NICU. One blanket will be given to each family to take home for their baby once they are discharged from the hospital in Honor of Luke.

Luke turned 11 weeks old on Monday, January 20th and is a growing baby boy! We are forever grateful for the labor and delivery nurses and the OR team at Woodland Heights Medical Center, Janie Lee, the Woodland Heights Blood Bank, Dr. Cheryl Suiter, Dr. George Fidone, the AirCare f light crew, the doctors with the Pediatrix Medical Group-Houston, and the nurses at Women’s Hospital of Texas in Houston who all took amazing care of our family. We know God must have big, big plans for Mr. Luke and we can’t wait to see them unfold! To donate to Luke’s Love, visit: www.gofundme.com/6h3ay4 or email: lukeslove2013@gmail.com.

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Juniors and Seniors at Lufkin High School: Preston Polk, Logan Haney, Kenny Gilbert, Chase Fuller, Worth Gabriel, Zac Thompson.

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BUCKOUT

CROSS TIMBERS COWBOY CHURCH

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ross Timbers Cowboy Church, located at 4977 US Highway 69 north (2.5 miles north of loop 287) in Lufkin, Texas was established to minister to the 12,000 un-churched people of the western culture in Angelina County in 2004. The small group of founding members, along with the leadership of First Baptist Church Lufkin, had a vision for a church to serve a population that might not feel comfortable in a traditional religious setting.

National Cowboy Hall of Fame award winner and Professional Rodeo Cowboys Association (PRCA) title holder, Ford Adkins was called to be the pastor in December of 2004. Pastor Adkins says the church is based on Biblical truth, that God is with us, He is present and trustworthy through every part of life and works all things for the good of those who love Him. “Everyone is welcome. You don’t have to be cowboy, white, black, any color. There are no criteria to come to this church. Everyone can feel welcome,” he says.

The church hosts events each month that might not look like the typical church events of today. Ranch Rodeo events, Little Britches Youth Rodeo Series, Gospel music Jamborees, Christian bull riding Buckouts, and the like are just a few of the ways the church reaches out to the community and invites people to know Christ. The casual western setting, the untamed excitement of rodeo, and the wild outdoors appeal to families and singles of every walk of life.

“The church is made up of great people. Everybody is so loving and we have a heart for the un-churched.

This isn’t about a list of do’s and don’ts; it is about a relationship with Jesus. He is the way the truth

and the life. God chose the imperfect to serve Him until the day we’re perfected in heaven,” says Adkins.

Since her establishment, the church has grown from a group of about 50 to more than 350 with six different ministry teams which include men and women’s groups and a very active youth group.

Services are at 10:30 on Sunday mornings with country gospel band worship. There is also a 6:00 Bible study followed by 7:00 church service on Wednesday nights.

For more information, visit the church website: crosstimberscowboychurch.com or their facebook page: Cross Timbers Cowboy Church. Contact the church office at (936) 632-2535.

The church’s Buckout events are Christian bull riding sessions every second Monday of the month. They are held behind the church building in the arena.

The church invites everyone to come out and watch the bull riders. “It’s a pretty exciting deal,” says Chuck Griffith, a member of the church’s rodeo committee. Every Buckout features 20-25 bull riders of all ability levels. Attendees also listen to a devotional and are able to enjoy the excitement in an atmosphere with other believers. “God is moving in the cowboy industry and the change has had a positive impact,” says Pastor Adkins.

The Great Commission charges believers to make disciples of Christ, teaching them to obey God. The carrying out of that charge looks different in all areas of the world. Pastor Adkins says, “The people of this body are what make it so special. I couldn’t be prouder to lead such a loving group who serve the Lord and want to see others saved.”

Cross Timbers Cowboy Church is fulfilling a need for people in the East Texas area with open arms, the Bible, and a country heritage.

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fishing guide

Professional Angler Keith Combs Wins Texas Toyota Bass Classic

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rofessional angler, Keith Combs doesn’t remember a time in his life when he didn’t fish. Growing up in his childhood home near Killeen, Texas, Keith played sports, learned the thrill of competition, and found adventure in the outdoors while honing his skills on the water. Today he’s turned the passions of his childhood into a lucrative career.

Combs started fishing tournaments at the age of thirteen.

Finding more success with age, he was able to fish tournaments while working as a fishing guide. Now 38 years old, Combs has been fishing professionally full-time for seven years.

Three years ago, Combs made the choice to move in order to live near some of the best bass fishing waters in the country. He chose to live in Huntington to be near the lakes in the area. “When I am home, I can f ish great lakes and develop my skills. Every year I’ve lived here, I have a major tournament within an hour’s drive from my house,” Keith shares.

Combs characterizes the 2013 season as his best yet. Keith’s most recent win came just a few short months ago on Lake Conroe. On October 6, Keith lifted the Toyota Texas Bass Classic (TTBC) trophy for the second time in three years saying, “It’s an incredible feeling. I know how good the other anglers in this tournament are, and it’s very humbling to come out on top. Winning this title for the second time is definitely a major career accomplishment for me.” Combs became the first angler to earn a second TTBC championship ring after winning on Lake Conroe in 2011.

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“Winning this title for the second time is definitely a major career cash prize and a Nitro boat powered

by Mercury valued at $50,000. It accomplishment was the second big payout for for me.”

Combs on the year. He also won his f irst Bassmaster Elite Series title on Falcon Lake in March.

Combs says traveling is one of the best parts of his job as a full time tournament fisherman. He travels 40,000 miles and spends on average 300 days each year either fishing, traveling to tournaments, or working sports shows or other media events for his sponsors. “We fish south Texas all the way up to upstate New York. I have the opportunity to see a lot of the country most people only get to visit on once-in-a-lifetime vacations.” Combs says he feels very fortunate to be able to see the beautiful sights our country has to offer while getting paid to do what he loves.

However, Combs takes the responsibilities of his job to heart. It is his primary goal to continue to push himself to improve and provide positive exposure for his sponsors and their products and services. Specifically toward that end, Comb’s next goal is to fish the Bassmaster Classic on Lake Guntersville near Birmingham, Alabama in February.

The tournament is deemed the world championship of bass fishing. Combs calmly and simply says of the event, “I want to win that tournament.” Earning over one million dollars in his seven year career coupled with his most recent success, one is wise to believe he has a good shot at hooking that goal.

Combs says East Texas is a great place for his home base.

“The people here are interested in and follow bass fishing.

Every couple of days I run into someone I don’t know who recognizes me from a tournament. I enjoy being in a community that is passionate about fishing and follows the sport,” he says. In the coming season, Combs hopes he can continue to make his East Texas hometown proud.

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small business

Bottling a Dream & Feeding Those in Need Destin Sabani's Manhattan Restaurant

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estin Sabani is the owner of Manhattan Fine Dining Restaurant in downtown Lufkin.

His friendly smile and warm greeting are familiar to the many that frequent his Italian fare, fine dining establishment. Destin says with a laugh and a thick Italian accent, "I am in the restaurant business by accident, and it will take an accident to retire me." The community of Lufkin has proven to be a pleasant home to raise his family and grow his dreams. He settled here eighteen years ago by way of New York, Chicago, Dallas, and then Houston. When he began looking at the restaurant location in Lufkin, Destin says, “I experienced something I had never experienced before. The people here are so friendly, caring, trusting, and helpful. They are very hospitable."

Not only does Destin Sabani excel in serving quality, and even exotic, recipes in an elegant setting, but he expanded his culinary dreams by bottling, marketing, and selling his famous salad dressings. Destin says he worked for many years to realize this dream. It was a challenge to navigate the paperwork and regulatory process.

However, recently Destin partnered with Brookshire Brothers and now has his salad

dressings in thirty grocery stores. "Brookshire Brothers acted just as a good neighbor to partner with me," says Sabani. According to Destin, “The ten month process has had very good results." In fact, his dressings are exceeding their competitors in sales. The four varieties, Italian Tomato Vinaigrette, Tomato Blue Cheese, Tomato Chipotle Ranch, and Tomato Ranch are also available to purchase in the restaurant.

Destin's hospitable spirit and personal success in realizing his dreams motivate him to give back to the people of the community he loves. Four years ago he established a new Christmas Eve tradition. His kitchen staff and other employees labor all morning to prepare carry-out meals of spaghetti, bread, and all the fixings to give to needy families in the area. This year, Destin says the restaurant prepared meals for 500 people.

From 3 o'clock to 5 o'clock on Christmas Eve, Destin and his helpers give out the free meals. The effort has also attracted volunteers from the Pilot Club of Lufkin, who

were inspired by his efforts in previous Christmas seasons. Chick-fil-A and Grandough Baking Company donated cookies for this year's meal.

Destin states his mission simply, "I wanted to make some people happy. It is a lot of work, but we are happy to be able to do it."

He told of one family in particular who called his restaurant the day before the event. A retired veteran rang to ask Sabani if he might have extra food to help him feed the grandchildren in his care. Destin invited them to the Christmas Eve event.

"His wife was so happy; she cried and started giving me blessings over the phone.

Then it made me cry! I was deeply touched," shares Sabani.

Tolkien once wrote, "If more of us valued food and cheer and song above hoarded gold, it would be a merrier world." In Destin's Manhattan Restaurant, hospitality is on the menu, decadent food is a given, and merriment lives.

You can reach Manhattan Fine Dining Restaurant at (936) 639-8400. Located at 107 West Lufkin Avenue, the restaurant is open daily 11:00 am - 3:00 pm, 5:00 pm - 10:00 pm.

Find them on facebook: Manhattan Fine Dining Restaurant.

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CHASING A DREAM

SOME PEOPLE FOLLOW THEIR DREAMS.

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photo credit: Minnesota Vikings

CHASE FORD EAST TEXAS’ OWN CHASE FORD OF CORRIGAN MAKES NFL DEBUT

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ome people follow their dreams. Others chase them. For Chase Ford of Corrigan, the latter paid off with a chance to play under contract with the Minnesota Vikings in the National Football League.

Chase’s NFL debut came week nine of this season when he was called up from the practice team to travel with his team to “Jerry World” in Arlington and take on the Dallas Cowboys. In his first full NFL season, Chase Ford has the prototypical NFL tight end frame, measuring in at 6-6, 255 pounds. Vikings Offensive Coordinator, Bill Musgrave says Ford’s strength is as a receiver in the passing game and helps provide depth for the offense.

Ford ended the season with eleven receptions for 133 yards. At the age of 23, Ford is poised to make an even greater impact on the Vikings 2014 season.

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This hometown hero has deep roots in East Texas, living in the pineywoods his whole life. Chase played football since sixth grade, but moved to Corrigan his tenth grade year of high school where he showed great potential as a tight end for the bulldogs. However, he wasn’t just a good football player; he is a great all-around athlete. Mother, Charity Moore says, “Chase played every sport he could. He played basketball and ran track.” In fact, Chase was an all-state basketball player and won a state gold medal in the boys 1600 meter relay during his high school career.

Chase Ford is always glad to receive accolades, but they do not define him. He is the type of person who wants to help his team win. Chase’s agent, Vincent Taylor, describes Ford as a “real humble guy.” “He can have the best game he’s ever had and if his team loses, it means nothing,” shares Charity Moore, Chase’s mother.

Additionally she says, “Chase was never one to let things get in the way of his goals. He was always the underdog and had to work hard to prove himself. He excelled and was a stand-up young man.

He is the example of ‘hard work and dedication pays off.’”

Corrigan-Camden bulldog head coach, Seven Armstrong says, “When Chase moved here his sophomore year, he was just a tall, lanky kid, but he turned out to be a great tight end for us. He was undersized, but he worked hard and was a great kid to have around.” Chase is the first one of Coach Armstrong’s players to enter the NFL. When asked if he thought Chase would end up playing professionally, Armstrong said, “It’s hard to tell. I knew he was tall enough to be in the NFL, but his weight proved to be a chore to overcome. The recruiters always look at that first.”

Ford is also unselfish off the field. He maintains a good friendship with his former high school coach, Seven Armstrong.

“Chase and I stay in touch when he comes into town. Matter of fact, the day after he came back from Minnesota this season, he came by here. The kids here know him and expect to see him. You know, they flood him with questions about what the NFL is like and he takes the time to invest in their lives. It’s always good to see Chase,” says Armstrong. “It’s also nice to see a Corrigan boy on TV. You don’t see that very often. I sent him a text after one of his games and told him I had watched.

I am not one to watch a lot of pro football, but I watch the Vikings when they are on TV,” he adds.

His size wasn’t Chase’s only obstacle. Chase developed a serious staph infection at the age of fifteen. The infection originated in his knee but spread to other bones. The infection went undetected for a year before Chase and his family finally discovered the seriousness of the situation. “He spent a month in Texas Children’s Hospital. We almost lost him,” recalls his mother, Charity. “We were told he would never play football again. His bones wouldn’t be strong enough to take the hits of a physical contact sport.”

As it turned out, Chase overcame his illness, continued to pursue his dreams and honed his talent. He showed the heart to continue playing football at the college level following his graduation from Corrigan-Camden High School. With the help of a phone call made by Coach Armstrong to the coaches at Kilgore College, Chase became a Ranger. Armstrong says, “Chase went to Kilgore, gained 30 pounds and then he had some other eyes on him.” Ford was named the “Overall MVP” for the Southwest Junior College Football Conference, beating out Cam Newton who received the “Offensive MVP” award as the quarterback for Blinn. Following the 2009 season, Ford got the chance to play for the University of Miami for two years and earned a bachelor’s degree in sociology, graduating in spring 2012.

After college, Chase made his move to enter the NFL. He originally joined the Philadelphia Eagles as a rookie free agent in 2012. He spent time on three practice squads as a rookie in 2012, playing for the Philadelphia Eagles, the Dallas Cowboys, and then with the Minnesota Vikings. Bill Musgrave, Offensive Coordinator for the Vikings said, “Chase has really done well for us. From the very first game where we put him in there against Dallas and he was a part of that super fourth-down run

by Adrian [Peterson] where he literally carried Adrian into the end zone. Chase first joined our team on the practice squad.

We needed a body at tight end to get through the practices, and sure enough he just worked and worked and worked and earned more playing time and continues to impress.”

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Coach Armstrong says it makes him proud to have had the opportunity to coach Chase. “As a coaching staff, we are proud that Chase made the most of his opportunity. It is a good lesson for anybody. When you get a chance to shine or show your ability, you should take it. We are proud Chase made the most of his opportunity when he got one.”

Ford would say if he can make his dreams a reality, anyone can... if they work hard. “Being in the NFL is what I expected. It’s the best job in the word to play the sport you have loved since you were a kid and get paid to do it,” says Ford. Chase is home in Corrigan for a few months during the off-season. However, he plans to get back to work for next season soon. “I was glad to get to be on the field this season and play with my teammates, taking advantage of the opportunity that was given to me. Next season I hope to be on the field even more helping my team win.” Ford will return to Minnesota in April to continue to chase his dreams.

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IN THE KITCHEN

valentine's day dinners Balsamic Herb Lamb Chops

Grilled Lamb Chops

Recipe courtesy of Derrick Riches

Recipe courtesy of Giada De Laurentiis

This is a quick way to make delicious lamb chops. The combination of flavors will make those who don't like lamb come back for more.

Ingredients:

Prep Time: 15 minutes Cook Time: 10 minutes Total Time: 25 minutes Yield: Serves 4

2 large garlic cloves, crushed 1 tablespoon fresh rosemary leaves 1 teaspoon fresh thyme leaves Pinch cayenne pepper Coarse sea salt

Ingredients:

2 tablespoons extra-virgin olive oil

10 lamb rib chops

6 lamb chops, about 3/4-inch thick

1/2 cup olive oil

Directions:

1/4 cup balsamic vinegar

In a food processor fitted with a metal blade add the garlic, rosemary, thyme, cayenne, and salt. Pulse until combined.

Pour in olive oil and pulse into a paste. Rub the paste on both sides of the lamb chops and let them marinate for at least 1 hour in the refrigerator. Remove from refrigerator and allow the chops to come to room temperature; it will take about 20 minutes.

2 cloves garlic, minced 1 tablespoon fresh rosemary, chopped 1 tablespoon honey 2 teaspoons Dijon mustard 1 teaspoon dried oregano salt and pepper to taste Preparation: Place lamb chops in a shallow baking dish or resealable.

Combine olive oil, balsamic vinegar, garlic, rosemary, honey, mustard, oregano, salt and pepper and pour over chops. Toss to coat. Cover and refrigerate for 1 hour.

Preheat grill. Grill chops over a medium high heat for about 5 minutes per side on until browned to desired doneness.

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Heat a grill pan over high heat until almost smoking, add the chops and sear for about 2 minutes. Flip the chops over and cook for another 3 minutes for medium-rare and 3 1/2 minutes for medium.

Lobster Tail Preparation Cooking lobster is not as difficult as you may think. Lobster tails can be grilled, broiled or steamed.

Follow these simple steps and you'll be on your way to a delicious, restaurant quality meal, in the comfort of your own home!

To Grill:

To Broil:

To Steam:

1. Thaw lobster tails completely.

1. Thaw lobster tails completely.

1. Thaw lobster tails completely.

2. Lay lobster tail bottom side up on a cutting board.

2. Insert kitchen shears between shell and meat.

2. Insert kitchen shears between shell and meat.

3. Using a large, sharp knife, cut the tail in half lengthwise (you can leave it attached at the shell or separate completely).

3. Cut down center of shell leaving fan tail attached.

3. Cut down center of shell leaving fan tail attached.

4. Gently loosen and lift meat out of shell and rest on top.

4. Gently loosen and lift meat out of shell and rest on top.

5. Gently rinse the lobster tail under cool water and pat dry with paper towel.

5. Gently rinse the lobster tail under cool water and pat dry with paper towel.

6. Brush tail with melted butter.

6. To keep meat from curling while steaming, run a wooden skewer through meat.

4. Gently rinse the lobster tail under cool water and pat dry with paper towel.

5. Brush with melted butter.

6. Heat grill to medium-high heat and place lobster tails f lesh side down on oiled grates for 3 to 4 minutes.

7. Turn lobster tails over and cook for an additional 3 to 4 minutes, or until meat is no longer transparent.

7. Place tail in baking pan with small amount of water and broil 6 to 8 inches from heat for 5 to 7 minutes or until meat is no longer transparent.

8. While cooking f lesh side up, brush often with butter.

Brookshire Brothers is your resource to make your Valentine's Dinner complete. Lamb chops are available at the Chestnut and Gaslight locations in Lufkin and the University location in Nacogdoches. Lobster can be found at the Gaslight location in Lufkin.

7. Bring one quart of water to a boil.

8. Place 4 tails in top steam colander and cover pot.

9. Allow to steam for about 1 minute per ounce .

10. Once cooked, run under cold water to stop the cooking process then brush with melted butter.

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TROPHY HUNTS

Norma Steptoe killed this 8 pt buck at Four Corners Hunting Club in Polk County. The deer had a 17” spread & was was shot at 65 yds.

Barrett Bennefield, 7 yrs old, from Broaddus.

Killed 8 ft. alligator at Pecan Island, LA, in Sept. 2013.

Bradley Morris & Chris Jacobs.

Canyon Ranch. Sonora, Texas.

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Father & son, Rayburn & Cooper Horton, shot these mallard ducks on private land in East Texas.

David Steptoe killed this monster 13 pt buck with 3 drop tines at Four Corners Hunting Club in Polk County. The deer scored 143 6/8 and was shot at 60 yds.

Kaci Waggonner. Trinity County.

Joey Waggonner. Trinity County.

139”. P&Y.

Cane Yeary. Trinity County.

152 2/8”. P&Y.

Miranda Scoggin.

Lexy Lowery. Bonner Farm. 11/23/13. 169”.

Send a photo of your trophy hunt & information to photos@tjmag.com.

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PLACES & FACES

Angelina County Chamber Banquet

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