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Seabrook, WA is getting its very first Pride Celebration

Library in Republic, WA, regroups after funding cut over flag dispute

Spokane could become a Shield City for Queer People

Local Pride Organizers remain ‘Cautiously Optimistic’ as Corporate Sponsorships drop

Is “democracy” partisan?: Banner controversy continues in Ocean Shores, WA

“Everyone is welcome here”: Classroom posters spark debate in Meridian, ID

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Serving Joy in Tri-Cities’ first Trans Day of Visibility

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Tif Patterson

“Over

the years, the arts scene in Spokane has grown and blossomed and each project has had its time; I’m really excited for every next thing.”

--Tif Patterson

by Percy Laird

Tif Patterson (they/them) is a trans, multidisciplinary artist and creative based in Spokane, WA. Their work is featured this May as the Stonewall Northwest cover artist, a testament to their growing presence in the region’s vibrant art community.

Tif’s creative journey began while studying photography in college and has continually evolved since. Over the years, their practice has grown to include mural work, design, education, collaboration, and personal experimentation across multiple mediums.

Until summer 2024, Tif worked professionally as an art director in the advertising industry — a career they held for eight years while continuing to develop their personal artistic voice.

“I feel so free in art. For a long time, I didn’t want to be a working artist because I wanted to have the ability to play and fail and experiment and not take art so seriously,” they said. “I think when art becomes what you pay your bills with, it changes to less of a passion and

more of a career. I’ve been fortunate until now to not do that but now I am dipping my toes in that reality.”

Their work remains fluid and responsive, guided by intuition and a commitment to growth.

“It’s important to me to be open to when I need to stop doing something or I need to change my work if it becomes too easy. My art has evolved naturally because of that; I don’t stick to one thing.”

In 2023 and 2024, Tif served as the lead artist for the Pride Mural in downtown Spokane — not just once, but three times. The mural project, while joyful and celebratory, came with a heavy emotional cost, as each version was eventually vandalized. Still, the impact of the work remains.

The mural stands as a powerful symbol of Spokane’s support for LGBTQIA2S+ individuals and the continued visibility and strength of the queer community.

Beyond the studio, Tif has built community in another unexpected space: scooters. They are the founder of the Spokane Mild Riders Scooter Gang and lead weekly group rides around the city, blending art, joy, and motion into their everyday life.

“Over the years, the arts scene in Spokane has grown and blossomed and each project has had its time; I’m really excited for every next thing.”

As a muralist, educator, designer, collaborator, and community organizer, Tif continues to play a vital role in Spokane’s arts and culture scene. They’re passionate about reminding the community that creativity is essential to building a thriving city.

“The community must have the understanding that arts are essential to having a place with culture. It’s important to support artists and their work, and in that, we all get a more vibrant city.”

About the Artist

Front Cover Art by Tif Patterson

Photo courtesy of Tif Patterson

“Atmospheric Pressure” - 18in x 18in mixed media painting on wood panel. Mediums include acrylic ink and paint, colored pencil, and spray paint.

From the Publisher

Itwas my honor to previously publish Stonewall News Northwest 20 years ago. Now, in a very different stage of technology and news dissemination, I’m pleased to update and reboot this vehicle of dialogue and change for our rural LGBTQ+ communities of the Pacific Northwest.

This Stonewall reboot arrives at a perilous time. Volleys of executive hate-grenade edicts are being tossed out of the White House day after day, many ignoring the Constitution and due process. Over five hundred anti-LGTBQ+ bills (and counting) are now in state legislatures across the country.

This cruel crusade to erode and eliminate our equal and human rights is not just unprecedented, it’s unconscionable. The virulence of this assault, which began on day one of this presidency, is especially heinous to our Trans friends, neighbors, and loved ones, whose “crime” is the simple act of their own peaceful existence.

Silence in the face of this ferocious aggression does more than favor the aggressor; it snuffs out the flame of freedom, exterminates the heart of humanity, and kills liberty, hope, and human lives. Its toxic stench suffocates the institutions of free democracy, pillar by pillar. It brutally burns through critical systems of justice and support, and through diversely rich social structures until the colorful tapestry of a vibrant society is scorched into the ash of fear.

We are all connected as one humanity. We all bear this cross of resistance: to publicly stand up and fight this invasion of hate, to push the pendulum of humanity back toward inclusion, dignity, and equality. And we must do it now.

But this fight will not rob us of our joy. We’ll still dance, laugh, and love, celebrating the beauty of our unique selves, our diverse tribe, and our history. We’ll guard our compass of compassion, engaging our present with a facet of transcendent grace. We’ll continue to be beautiful creatures of the universe. This is what we’re fighting for.

To that end, Stonewall is privileged to work with many dedicated contributors throughout Washington, North Idaho, and Western Oregon — all to reveal, share, and celebrate LGBTQ+ news, events and information covering much of the rural Pacific Northwest.

Welcome to the monthly print reboot of Stonewall News Northwest, volume 1, issue 1.

Pacific Northwest

Stonewall News Northwest Coverage Area (Shaded Gray)

Mike Schultz

Seabrook, WA is getting its very first Pride Celebration

“ Being a beach community, it’s not surprising that it is a pretty open community. Many of the people that oftentimes come here or that own properties here also live and spend a lot of time in Seattle, Tacoma, Olympia, and Portland, so it’s not surprising that we have a lot of LGBTQ+ owners, as well as guests. I’ve always felt super embraced and welcomed … by this local community.”

by Erin Sellers

Seabrook is a small, quiet, unincorporated beach town nestled between Ocean Shores and Pacific Beach State Park on the Washington coast. Created as an urbanist development over 20 years ago, it has around a hundred permanent residents, many of whose homes serve as vacation rentals at least part of the year.

It’s got small businesses, oceanfront parks, copious walking trails, and annual events, like the Clamfest and a food and wine festival. And on Saturday, June 7 from 10 am to 3 pm, Seabrook is holding its very first Pride Celebration!

Jamie Hectus, the director of business and people at Seabrook Land Company, said the community had been considering hosting a Pride festival for a while, and “now just felt like the right time.”

“We want to celebrate love,” she said.

The celebration will be a family-friendly event, with live performances, a DJ-hosted dance party, art installations, and community connection. There will also be food trucks and booths with local vendors where people can browse crafts, art, merchandise, and more.

Seabrook is a special place for Stephen Poulakos, the vice president of planning and design at Seabrook Land Company and one of the town’s longtime residents. He moved there two decades ago, living in one of the very first houses built. Poulakos is behind the design of all the parks and public spaces that help make Seabrook special, and ten years ago, it was in one the parks he designed that he proposed to his now-husband Michael.

To be celebrating the town’s first Pride will be “a real full-circle, tug-at-your-heartstrings kind of moment,” Poulakos said.

Despite the low population of permanent residents, Poulakos and his husband aren’t alone in Seabrook either. There are LGBTQ+ business owners, like the couples who run Koko’s Restaurant and Tequila Bar and Mr. Walrus, a home goods store, and those on the development board.

“ Being a beach community, it’s not surprising that it is a pretty open community,” Poulakos said. “ Many of the people that oftentimes come here or that own properties here also live and spend a lot of time in Seattle, Tacoma, Olympia, and Portland, so it’s not surprising that we have a lot of LGBTQ+ owners, as well as guests. I’ve always felt super embraced and welcomed … by this local community.”

Land Company

--Stephen Poulakos, Vice President of Planning and Deisgn, Seabrook

The Seabrook Pride Celebration is still seeking vendors, food trucks, performers, and volunteers. Anyone interested in getting involved in the festivities can do so by emailing events@seabrookwa.com

Because only about 10–12% of Seabrook’s population at any given time are permanent residents, Hectus said it’s hoped that it can be both a destination event for vacationers and a celebration for LGBTQ+ locals who run businesses and have their homes in Seabrook.

“The first of many good years ahead”

Though it’s only the first year, Poulakos envisions a bright future for Seabrook Pride. “ I just think it’s gonna be the first of many good years ahead,” he said.

Library in Republic, WA, regroups after funding cut over flag dispute

“Our responsibility as a library district is to make sure all community members feel represented and included”

--Barbara Walters, NCW Executive Director

by Erin Sellers

The public library in Republic, Washington, missed out on a funding opportunity after a group of residents complained about a pride flag and the library board declined to remove it.

State Sen. Shelly Short, R-Addy, said she pulled her support for a state appropriations request for a new library building until the controversy is resolved.

The intersex-inclusive progress pride flag, which includes a purple circle representing intersex people, hangs vertically over a corner door in the Republic Public Library’s young adult section. The flag is left over

from a Pride Month display last June.

While the library building is owned by the city of Republic, it is managed by North Central Washington Libraries, which oversees 30 branches across five mostly rural counties. Republic is a remote mountain town with about 1,000 people about an hour south of the Canadian border.

“Our responsibility as a library district is to make sure all community members feel represented and included,” NCW Executive Director Barbara Walters said.

Other NCW libraries have

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An intersex-inclusive progress pride flag hangs over a corner door in the Republic Public Library. (Courtesy of Republic Public Library)

Photo courtesy of Seabrook

Spokane could become a Shield City for Queer People

“I have been losing a lot of sleep over the onslaught of attacks from the [presidential] admin on our community, and over the loss of many of our trans siblings in the wake of them. I saw recently that Worcester, Boston, declared themselves a sanctuary city for trans and gender-diverse people. I was wondering if that would be a possibility to bring up in City Council here?”

--Constituent email to Spokane City Council Member Paul Dillon

at https://rangemedia.co/newsletter/.

by Erin Sellers

On February 20, one of Spokane City Council Member Paul Dillon’s constituents sent him an email asking for a policy that would support queer people in Spokane.

“I have been losing a lot of sleep over the onslaught of attacks from the [presidential] admin on our community, and over the loss of many of our trans siblings in the wake of them,” the constituent wrote. “I saw recently that Worcester, Boston, declared themselves a sanctuary city for trans and genderdiverse people … I was wondering if that would be a possibility to bring up in City Council here?”

It was. Dillon had been working on a draft since January.

A month later, at the Gender Freedom March in downtown Spokane, Dillon made the official announcement: the city council would take up a Shield Law ordinance, which mirrors the standing Washington state law, to ensure no city resources are used to investigate or detain people who sought gender-affirming or reproductive healthcare.

While the city council was on winter break, Dillon had been prepping for 2025, and published a list of his intentions for the year ahead on his council member Instagram page. One of those goals was to “make Spokane Trump-proof.”

In the opening salvo of 2025, President Donald Trump’s administration moved quickly to

target transgender people with executive orders, and Dillon said he knew he needed to do something to protect transgender, nonbinary and gender-diverse people in Spokane.

Originally, the plan had been to pass a nonbinding resolution to demonstrate the council’s support for the queer community in town. But working closely on the project with the council’s intern, Dillon realized there were real things they could codify into law via an ordinance that would add material protections for the community here.

He circulated early drafts of the ordinance to stakeholder groups, like Odyssey Youth Movement, Trans Spokane, Spectrum Center, Spokane Pride and the Inland Northwest Business Alliance. He also sought feedback on the language

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Photo by Nick Bramhall via Flickr

A screenshot from Dillon’s official IG page.

Local Pride Organizers

Remain‘Cautiously Optimistic,’ as Corporate Sponsorships Drop

“There is so much fear and anxiety and just unknown surrounding the political state of the world right now. But I think that fear also inspires so much hope and so much resilience and so much push and drive to be like, ‘No, we are here and we are going to celebrate and we are going to be happy.’”

--Kenzie Budgie, Communications Chair, Tri-Cities Pride Board

This story was written in partnership between Stonewall News Northwest and RANGE, an independent, worker-owned newsroom covering the Inland Northwest. Learn more about RANGE and subscribe to their newsletter at https://rangemedia.co/newsletter/.

by Erin Sellers

Spokane Pride

If Matt Danielson would have known four months ago that Spokane Pride was losing one of the major corporate sponsorships, he would have had time to prepare, call local breweries and begin to pursue replacement sponsorships. Instead, Anheuser-Busch — the brewing company behind Budweiser, Busch Beer, Michelob Ultra and other brands — waited until March to tell Danielson, the executive director of Spokane Pride, that they wouldn’t be giving their usual $5,000 sponsorship or providing industry equipment for Pride’s beer gardens, like the mobile tap trailer Danielson said “made our lives a whole lot easier.”

“At the end of the day I was never super excited about having AnheuserBusch versus like, No-Li [Brewhouse] or something, because I would much rather have something more local, because you gotta have pride in your local beers,” Danielson said. “ It’s just hard to find the monetary contribution in addition to the beer.”

On top of the $5,000 from AnheuserBusch, Danielson estimated they are set to lose about $12,000 in $1,000 contributions from smaller organizations.

A national context

Spokane Pride isn’t alone in the financial uncertainty; Anheuser-Busch has pulled its sponsorship from other Pride festivals across the country, and other corporate donors are backing away from prior large donations. Pride Houston reported losing $100,000 in corporate sponsorships, St. Louis Pride $150,000 and San Francisco Pride more than $300,000; all financial losses that have come amidst a wave of anti-DEI rhetoric from President Donald Trump’s administration and corporate kowtowing to scale back their own Diversity, Equity and Inclusion initiatives.

“ I didn’t actually think the anti DEI stuff would trickle down so quickly. I tend to be kind of an idealist, so I was like, ‘Oh, these companies are still gonna wanna support Pride,’ because you can’t just legislate a change in the cultural feeling of a community,” Danielson said. “People don’t just suddenly hate Pride.”

Seeing how rapidly corporations have pulled back from public support has been “extremely frustrating and kind of depressing,” Danielson said.

The Spokane Pride event is going to cost around $150,000 and typically sponsorships from large corporate donors and smaller, local businesses

“Given the situation in our nation’s capital, it’s more important than ever to celebrate Pride. The LGBTQ+ community must continue to raise their voices, to be seen — to show not only that they’re not afraid to be their true selves, but that they are happier and healthier humans for it. Straight and cisgender people who give a damn need to be willing to stand publicly with the LGBTQ+ community. Allies’ voices — and actions — must be every bit as powerful as those they care for during this dreadful chapter of our nation’s history.”

--Kat Bryant, Interim President, Out & Proud Grays Harbor Coalition

cover a little more than half of those costs, he said. But with the loss of Anheuser-Busch and the lack of a firm commitment from Amazon, who was a big donor during the 2024 celebration, Spokane Pride is scrambling to make sure they can pay for the 2025 event.

“ I’m crossing my fingers and hoping people are just being flakes and not thinking about Pride yet, but also, it’s April now and it is really time to get on top of all this,” Danielson said.

And anti-DEI sentiment isn’t the only thing causing funding insecurity. It’s also a more general fear and anxiety around access to federal funding, as rolling cuts from Trump’s Department of Government Efficiency (DOGE) continuously impact regional organizations.

Danielson’s been reaching out to sponsors from last year, but “I just have a pile of unanswered emails,” he said, “And the types of organizations they are, I’m reasonably certain they’re federally-funded organizations whose funding is uncertain because of all the chaos so they’re just not able to toss Pride $1,000 dollars for their booth like they usually do.”

‘Cautiously optimistic’

Still, Danielson has found lots of reasons to hope.

Locally, Spokane Pride’s big partners — Nyne Bar & Bistro and the Davenport — are sticking by them, with similar contributions to what they gave in 2024.

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Spokane Pride Parade 2024 | Photo courtesy of Erick Doxey for RANGE Media

Is “democracy” partisan?: Banner controversy continues in Ocean Shores, WA

“ I don’t know where you grew up, but I grew up in Yakima and in Seattle, and in my civics class, democracy was not a partisan word.”

--Maria Van Horn, Spokesperson, Ocean Shores chapter of Indivisable

While two of the Indivisible chapter’s key principles are to “resist Trump’s racist, authoritarian, and corrupt agenda” and to “embrace progressive values,” the group has always kept its messaging nonpartisan at voter registration events, spokesperson Maria Van Horn told Stonewall. In fact, one of the conditions of the free booth space the event has let them use every year is that those tabling can’t wear or display any messages that favor a political party, and they can’t share their own personal political preferences when talking to people there.

In past years, the tabling has been uneventful. Volunteers ask people if they’re registered to vote, inform them of their voting rights in Washington, and help them fill out the registration paperwork if they’re interested.

But as soon as Indivisible reached out to inquire about a free table at the 2024 Sand and Sawdust Festival, which is jointly sponsored by the Ocean Shores Convention Center and the city, the situation started to look a lot different from the past seven years.

When they didn’t hear from Elduen or anyone from “the other side,” they set up their schedule as usual for the event, with two volunteers from Indivisible for each time slot, and assumed Elduen hadn’t found any takers. But on the day of the event, four people showed up, Van Horn said.

“The Mayor wanted to utilize this opportunity to get different groups to work together for a greater outcome in the community and to build respectful relationships between neighbors, regardless of their personal feelings or political opinions,” Elduen wrote in a press release. “The fact that the Republican-leaning group was there, even if they did show up unannounced, should not have come as a surprise, since this condition was agreed upon at the initial meeting.”

And from there, it went downhill when Elduen and the city clerk told the group to cover the part of the sign reading “Democracy depends on it!”

by Erin Sellers

For seven years, the local chapter of the grassroots national advocacy group Indivisible has registered voters at the Ocean Shores Sand and Sawdust Festival without issue. Each year, it’s displayed the same sign, a banner with the text “Register to Vote. Democracy depends on it!” overlaid on top of an image of the American flag.

Last summer, that changed, when representatives of Ocean Shores Mayor Frank Elduen made the chapter roll up its sign to hide the phrase “Democracy depends on it!”

This sparked a monthslong protest and a recent press release in which Elduen described the aforementioned phrase as a “partisan political talking point.”

“Everyone is welcome here”: Classroom posters spark debate in Meridian, ID

“I’m

not here to reconcile this for me personally, but I truly feel that you need to remember the basic fundamentals of public education and what this country is and what the law is for accepting and protecting all students in our schools.”

--Sarah Inama, Civics Teacher, Clark Middle School

First, Elduen insisted that the group have people from “the other side” of the political aisle present at their booth at all times.

This rankled organizers — “ We don’t have another side. It’s nonpartisan,” Van Horn said — but they agreed to take anyone who wanted to join them.

Elduen defended this decision. “A heated electoral talking point during the recent presidential campaigns was the issue of whether or not Donald Trump intended to dismantle certain democratic principles,” he wrote. “It was not the word ‘democracy’ itself that was in anyway questionable; it was one party at the booth implying that the other party would govern undemocratically. The phrase “Democracy Depends on It!” in this context was clearly a partisan BANNER - To Page 22

by Erin Sellers

Earlier this year, a civics teacher at Lewis and Clark Middle School in the West Ada School District in Meridian, Idaho, was ordered to take down her classroom poster with the message “Everyone is welcome here” and a sign that read “In this room, everyone is welcome, important, accepted, respected, encouraged, valued.” The reason? They were too political.

The teacher, Sarah Inama, initially did as she was told but then later reinstalled the posters, where they still hang — at least until the end of the year.

In an email sent to staff after Inama reinstalled her posters, the district laid

out its policy on classroom displays, which wouldn’t allow for Inama’s posters (though those with extremely similar messages throughout the school were seemingly okay). It stated that “a truly welcoming, safe, and supportive classroom is not defined by a sign on the wall but by the interactions, engagement, attitudes, and caring spirit of our staff.”

This has kicked off a firestorm in the community, with residents selling “Everyone is welcome here” Tshirts, Boise administrators chiming in to support Inama, and protestors drawing chalk art in support of Inama near the school — which was promptly washed away by the district.

On April 15, at the first public board

meeting since the controversy broke into the open, more than 150 people and two dozen speakers showed up to share their thoughts on the policy debate. The overwhelming majority were in support of Inama, with one speaker describing the district’s response as “absolutely ridiculous and utterly embarrassing.”

Inama herself spoke at the meeting, stating that she still has not been told what “political opinion” her posters were displaying.

“I’m not here to reconcile this for me personally, but I truly feel that you need to remember the basic fundamentals of public education and what this country is and what the law is for accepting and protecting all students in our schools,” Inama said. “Because this message, your response, has been very detrimental to our students, their families, and our staff.”

After public testimony, the board

members shared their opinions publicly for the first time.

Board vice chair René Ozuna said she originally supported the display material policy to “keep politics out of the classroom” but she didn’t anticipate it would be used to politicize a message of inclusion. Ozuna said she was “in full support of the posters.”

But trustee David Binetti said that “everything was done right here,” including the district asking Inama to take her posters down.

The board has not issued a final decision on Inama’s posters, which the district had formerly told her to take down by the end of the school year. They did announce they will be reviewing the policies in the coming months, in advance of the July 1 implementation of a new Idaho law requiring all displays in schools to be “content neutral.”

Photo of banner at issue in this article

Photo of poster at issue in this article

PRIDE EVENTS - RURAL PACIFIC NORTHWEST

Pride Festivities Coming Up

Visit the individual website of the organizations listed on tis page for more details, or go to the Stonewall Pride 2025 webpage for a summary overview with organization links at https://stonewallnews.net/articles-preview/pride-2025/23400/. For Seattle and Puget Sound Pride events, please visit www.sgn.org.

EASTERN WASHINGTON

IDAHO

NORTH IDAHO

North Idaho Pride To be announced

September 6-7 Boise Pride https://boisepridefest.org/

SPOKANE

June 7

Coeur d’ Alene Pride Cruise https://www.facebook.com/ events/1077950347471944/

June 14

Spokane Pride Parade & Rainbow Festival https://www.spokanepride.org

June 28

Pride in Perry https://www.odysseyyouth. org/prideinperry

WALLA WALLA

June 7

Walla Walla Pride Festival Facebook “Walla Walla Pride”

YAKIMA

June 21

Yakima Pride Festival & Parade https://www.yakimapride.org

TRI-CITIES

June 22

Tri-Cities Pride https://www.tcpridefest.org

OREGON

SALEM

June 7

Capital City Pride

https://salemcapitalpride.org/

EUGENE

June 28

Eugene Pride https://www.eugenepride.org/

WESTERN WASHINGTON

SEABROOK

June 7

Seabrook Pride Celebration https://www.seabrookwa. com/events/outdoor-activities/ seabrook-pride-celebration/

PACIFIC COUNTY - LONG BEACH

June 20-21

Pacific County Pride in Long Beach https://pacificcountypride.com/ PACIFIC COUNTYRAYMOND

June 22-23

Pacific County Pride in Raymond https://pacificcountypride.com/

OCEAN SHORES

August 1-3

Ocean Shores Pride https://www.ospride.com/ Details to be announced

GRAYS HARBOR COUNTY

September 13

Grays Harbor County Pride Details to be announced

www.stonewallnews.net

BOISE

Those for whom I march

As I march my introverted self down the street, besides alternately holding my wife’s hand, helping to carry our church’s banner, and practicing my best “Miss America” wave, I steady my nerves by reminding myself of those for whom I march.

procession down the aisle, making sure that each person was paced appropriately.

by David R Weiss

“Before we begin this Festival Mass that will open our new school year, we invite you to turn to the person next to you to introduce yourself and greet them,” said the worship leader.

I was at the back of the church sanctuary, standing in the aisle, in my black master’s academic gown, with my red velvet hood, denoting my degree in theology. It was the start of a new school year at the Catholic college where I (a Lutheran) work in campus ministry. My job was to signal the start of a very festive

I turned to the young woman standing next to me in the aisle, our Student Senate president. Claire, attired in her own black gown, was first in the procession, carrying a college banner. I knew her name from the program only; we’d never met. “Hi,” I said, “My name is David, I work in campus ministry.”

Claire smiled brightly and said, “I’m Claire, and I know who you are. This past summer I was at the Twin Cities Pride Parade with some of my friends. As we were watching the parade you walked by with your church, and I recognized you as being from our college. One of the friends with me had you for a class and

by Cara Nokes

Visibility in the Trans community is a pretty tough subject to tackle in 2025. My business, a little burger food truck in conservative-leaning Kennewick, Washington, has a decent-sized following. Enough that when I, the chef and founder, came out as a Trans woman, it caused a bit of a stir in town.

However, I was blessed with a Queer community that immediately accepted me and frequented my truck, giving me the opportunity to meet so many local Trans people. In my previous

told me who you were. David, it brought tears to my eyes to know there was a straight man from my college marching in our Pride Parade!” And her eyes welled up again with gratitude.

Then the music started, I watched for my signal from the choir director, and I sent Claire marching down the aisle, both of us – the straight Lutheran man and the lesbian Senate President – finding our most powerful moment of grace in the eyes of each other before the Catholic

I learned a powerful lesson that day.

I’ve marched with my Lutheran church (part of a larger contingent of about 24 Lutheran churches that are represented at Twin Cities Pride) for several years now. Mind you, like many writers, I have a pretty close relationship with my introversion. Marching for a mile

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Tri-Cities’ first

Trans Day of Visibility

“For the first time in a while, those scared Trans faces were joyful. Everyone was able to express themselves freely, surrounded by other members of the community. Suddenly, for one day, our visibility felt great again. Sure, we didn’t change policy, or the world’s opinions of us, but for a day at least, we all felt seen.”

vile, insulting comments about me and the food that I am so proud of making.

35 years as a cis-heteronormativepresenting white man, I had never actually had the opportunity to meet an openly Trans person before my own journey out of the closet. So that visibility has definitely had a positive impact on my life.

On the other hand, it also opened us up to the hate that comes along with being openly Queer in a conservative area. It’s an eye-opening experience to not be able to post a picture of yourself without inviting in accusations of it being a political statement, and having people who have never met me make the most

Things became tougher in January, already a rough time for a business that heavily relies on good weather. Add to that a new administration that has opened the floodgate of attacks on the Trans community, and we weren’t exactly having the best time. The hate began getting louder, and those beautiful Trans faces started coming by to tell me just how scared they all were. Suddenly any kind of visibility in the media began to feel threatening to the community as a whole.

In one moment, every Trans person was promoted to activist in some way. A group of us got together, and my friend Charm suggested that we

put on an event for Trans Day of Visibility in the parking lot where we sell burgers. A couple weeks later, the event was alive!

There were no sponsors. In fact, we asked that attendees refrain from selling anything. The burger truck, proudly draped with the Trans and Nonbinary flag, became a backdrop for the stage, on which local Queer folk punk band Porch Cat played a full set.

Just a group of local Queer people working together managed to put together a huge community closet with free clothes for anyone who needed to grow their new wardrobe. The martial arts studio Beartooth Aikido was there to give self-defense

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This article was previously published in the June 2023 issue of Coastal Pride and June 2009 issue of Q View Northwest.

Mass had even started.

Making sure volunteers were feeling the love with cookies donated by local bakery Layered Cake Artistry | Photo by Cara Nokes

LGBTQ+ Equality

Weekly National Headlines

by Fabrice Houdart

US News

World Pride 2025: Between Anxiety and Boycotts

I told our team at Koppa that I consider the IDAHOBIT in a month a test for what Pride will look like this year. As for WorldPride 2025, it’s not looking too good. LGBTQ+ organizations from Canada to South Africa are pulling out of the planned festivities in D.C., citing not just political discomfort but fear, especially for trans and nonbinary travelers. Countries including Denmark, Germany, and Ireland have issued travel advisories. At the same time, leaders like Helen Kennedy of Egale Canada warn that even valid visas may not protect trans travelers from discriminatory entry denials. Organizers, acknowledging the fraught climate, are considering issuing their travel warnings. It’s hard to call it WorldPride when swaths of the world are afraid—or unable—to come. Read more about it in The Washington Post.

LGBTQ+ Nonprofits Face New Threats to Tax-Exempt Status

LGBTQ+ nonprofits have good reasons to be concerned about their tax-exempt status following this administration’s actions, including threats to revoke Harvard University’s tax-exempt status. Legal experts warn that these moves could politicize the IRS and undermine the nonprofit sector’s role in advocating for marginalized communities.

FBI Arrests Queer Suspect in Firebombings

Jamison Wagner, 40, was arrested in a dramatic FBI raid in New Mexico, accused of firebombing both a Tesla showroom and the Republican Party’s state office. The suspect, reportedly affiliated with the LGBTQ+ group 500 Queer Scientists, was captured shirtless and charged with two counts of malicious destruction of property, each carrying up to 20 years in prison. Authorities say Wagner torched vehicles and scrawled swastikas and anti-Tesla messages at the dealership, and later vandalized the GOP office with political graffiti including “ICE = KKK.” A new FBI task force, created to address politically motivated attacks on Tesla, tracked Wagner down through surveillance footage and evidence found at his home. Officials have labeled the incidents “domestic terrorism” and vowed to prosecute without plea deals.

When the Alphabet Is a Dog Whistle

Recenlty, bathroom obsessive Rep. Nancy Mace tweeted, “I want our

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kids to learn about A-E-I-O-U instead of L-G-B-T-Q,” turning a tired anti-LGBTQ+ trope into yet another culture war punchline. The viral response from educator Zoë Rose Bryant — “Hi, pre-k teacher here... this week we’re working on S-T-F-U” — (as in “Shut the f*ck up” for our neophyte friends) got noticed. It would be more fun if LGBTQ+ people were constantly, compulsively inserted into U.S. political narratives, often as fabricated threats to children or education. That a sitting congresswoman can casually tweet such a statement speaks to how little success US LGBTQ+ organizations have had in reclaiming the pen. They might need to build an organization dedicated to holding media and public figures accountable for this kind of rhetoric.

Queer Voices in the Boardroom

To kick off the Association’s 2025 webinar series, I hosted four openly LGBTQ+ board members—Caroline Angoorly, Jace Hernandez, Holden Lee, and Richard Socarides—for a rare discussion on navigating board service as queer professionals. These “unicorns of the boardroom” generously shared their journeys into corporate governance, highlighting key themes of intentionality, strategic networking, and the power of authenticity.

Boardroom Moves

In last week’s corporate shuffle, Geoffroy van Raemdonck, openly gay former CEO of Neiman Marcus Group, joins the board of Exclusive Resorts, bringing luxury expertise and LGBTQ+ representation to the travel sector. Meanwhile, Alexander M. van Noordende, a seasoned out executive, is no longer on the Wall Street Journal CEO Council’s website.

The latest on the DEI saga

Constellation Brands —which owns the rights to sell the Mexicanmade beers Corona, Modelo, and Pacifico in the U.S.— felt the need to announce it was downsizing its DEI team, ending LGBTQ+ advocacy efforts, and withdrawing from the Human Rights Campaign’s Corporate Equality Index. Robby Starbuck

took credit. However, while weekly headlines suggest a mass retreat, the data tells a more complex story: only 19% of companies are cutting DEI funding, with many quietly shifting language and strategy rather than abandoning inclusion altogether.

London to Accenture: No Diversity, No Deal

London Mayor Sadiq Khan blocked Accenture from bidding on Transport for London’s £50 million marketing overhaul after the consulting giant scrapped its DEI commitments under pressure from U.S. executive orders. The decision, in line with TfL’s strict supplier diversity criteria, signals that the UK capital is holding firm where others are folding. Accenture’s rollback—which included ending demographic-specific career programs and halting DEI data sharing—may have helped it dodge political heat in Washington, but cost it valuable business in London.

No Website? No Problem — Out in Tech Has You Covered

Since 2017, Out in Tech has built over 250 free websites for LGBTQ+ organizations worldwide — and this year, they’re back to offer 20–30 more. The initiative, powered entirely by volunteers, prioritizes groups without an existing web presence who can clearly articulate why they need one.

Fifteen Years of Grindr

In a piece published last week, Le Monde examined how Grindr has shaped the sexuality of an entire generation of young gay men. Marking 15 years since the app’s launch, the article explores the emotional and psychological costs of a platform built on speed, body norms, and transactional desire. The article highlights the exclusionary nature of the app, from fatphobia to the marginalization of people living with HIV, echoing themes found in Thibault Lambert’s new book, Ce que Grindr a fait de nous.

What to watch? Black Mirror Season 7

Now that White Lotus is over, you have the choice between Last of Us

Season 2 on Max and Season 7 of Black Mirror, which is back with six new episodes that feel both timely and ruthless in their critique of techfueled late-stage capitalism. The standout opener, Common People, skewers subscription models and healthcare systems in a way that feels painfully close to home. But it’s Hotel Reverie that offers a rare emotional punch, especially for queer viewers. Issa Rae and Emma Corrin deliver a slow-burning love story set in a 1940s film simulation.

Eurovision as a Queer Sanctuary

With the 2025 Eurovision Song Contest set to light up Basel, Switzerland on May 10, it’s worth remembering its long-standing status as a glittering epicenter of queer culture. In his new book Queerovision, journalist Fabien Randanne traces the rainbow threads connecting Eurovision to our community, painting it as a “safe place” of expression, joy, and resistance. From Dana International’s trailblazing trans victory in 1998 to Conchita Wurst’s iconic 2014 win, Eurovision has consistently offered a platform to those too often sidelined elsewhere.

Coachella 2025 Queers the Stage

I mostly listen to Billy Joel and Supertramp, but I am told that Coachella 2025’s first weekend was super gay, bringing out Troye Sivan (in a “Protect the Dolls” tee, no less), Billie Eilish, and Lorde for a surprise power pop summit. Meanwhile, the new Q+amp Camp gave LGBTQ+ fans a VIP haven with drag shows, community events, and excellent shade—literally and metaphorically. With sets from Clairo, Japanese Breakfast, Trixie Mattel, and even punk godparents Green Day showing love, Coachella 2025 proved once again that the future of music is queer.

A Love That Went Down with the Ship?

I like this story in Out Magazine, which I think I knew and forgot: the assumptions around Archibald Butt and Francis Davis Millet’s relationship. Both prominent in Washington society, the military aide and the celebrated artist shared a home and hosted salons. They embarked on a European vacation together just before boarding the Titanic in 1912. Though they booked separate rooms on the ill-fated ship, many historians believe the two were a romantic couple—an early example of a “don’t ask, don’t tell” dynamic in high society. Their story is now honored by the National Park Service as part of LGBTQ+ history, with a fountain in D.C. memorializing the men “widely believed to have been romantically involved.”

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by Erin Reed

Anti-Trans National Risk Assessment Map

At the two-month mark of Donald Trump’s presidency, the risk for transgender people had deteriorated nationwide. The United States now carries a “Do Not Travel” rating for transgender people.

Short summary of updates: The risk level for transgender youth and adults has significantly deteriorated in the latest update. Most notably, the United States has now been designated “Do Not Travel” for foreign citizens—a designation I do not make lightly. But recent developments, including Marco Rubio’s visa directive targeting transgender applicants and the detention of lawful visa holders and resident immigrants, demand such a warning. Domestically, the national risk level has been set to “Worst Laws Passed.” While no new federal laws have been enacted, Trump’s executive orders are producing sweeping overcompliance and are being treated as de facto law across institutions. For transgender adults, many states have worsened due to newly enacted bathroom bans, ID reversions, and legal redefinitions that erase transgender recognition. For youth, even states once considered “safe” have backslid, as hospitals cut off care for new patients under 19 and comply with discriminatory sports bans.

For the full article and methodology used to compile this map please visit Erin In The Morning at https://www.erininthemorning.com

New Poll Shows Massive Opposition

To The Active US Government Censorship Of Trans People

The poll also shows heavy support for transgender youth care, opposition to the military ban, and opposition to the prosecution of teachers affirming trans youth.

by Erin Reed

This article first published on Erin In The Morning at https://www.erininthemorning.com the Trump administration’s quiet campaign to erase LGBTQ+ health information from federal websites. According to the data, 52 percent of respondents oppose the removal of information on LGBTQ+ health disparities and nondiscrimination protections, while just 26 percent support it. The numbers reflect overwhelming resistance to the administration’s censorship effort— one that has already seen some reversals in court. In one particularly egregious case, an entire national student health dataset was taken down solely because it included questions about gender identity.

In recent months, a wave of executive orders has unleashed a coordinated rollback of transgender rights across the United States. Transgender people have been scrubbed from federal websites, health resources erased, and even the Stonewall National Monument— honoring a protest led in large part by trans activists—was rewritten to celebrate only “LGB rights,” erasing the T entirely. At the same time, healthcare access has been stripped away, passport updates halted, teachers threatened with prosecution for affirming trans youth, service members purged from the military, and trans existence erased in federal protections. Now, a new poll reveals overwhelming public opposition to the Trump administration’s sweeping anti-trans agenda—from censorship to criminalizing support for trans students and more.

A new poll from Data for Progress reveals broad public rejection of

The poll also found significant public opposition to the erasure of transgender people from federal history and language. Respondents opposed removing mentions of transgender people from the Stonewall National Monument website by a 23-point margin, and opposed altering “LGBTQ+” to “LGB” in government materials by 22 points. These changes came after the Trump administration TRANS - To Page 13

From Stonewall to now: LGBTQ+ elders on navigating fear in dark times

“See what you can do without going crazy. If you can focus on one thing and you can spend one hour a week, or you can spend one day a week, that’s much better than being depressed and doing nothing, Because the person you’re going to help is yourself. This is the time for all of us to step up.”

--Karla Jay, participant

in the 1969 Stonewall prising in NYC

marriage equality.

by The th

Karla Jay remembers joining the second night of street protests during the 1969 Stonewall uprising in New York City. For her, and for so many other LGBTQ+ people, something had shifted: People were angry. They didn’t want things to go back to normal — because normal meant police raids. Normal meant living underground. It meant hiding who they were at their jobs and from their families. They wanted a radical change.

Radical change meant organizing. Jay joined a meeting with the Gay Liberation Front, which would become the incubator for the modern LGBTQ+ political movement and proliferate in chapters across the country. At those meetings, she remembers discussing what freedom could look like. Holding hands with a lover while walking down the street, without fear of getting beaten up, one person said. Another said they’d like to get married. At the time, those dreams seemed impossible.

Jay, now 78, is worried that history will repeat itself. She’s worried that LGBTQ+ people will be put in the dark again by the draconian policies of a second Trump administration.

“Are things worse than they were before Stonewall? Not yet,” she said. “It’s certainly possible that people will have to go back to underground lives, that trans people will have to flee to Canada, but it’s not worse yet.”

The 19th spoke with several LGBTQ+ elders, including Jay, about what survival looks like under a hostile political regime and what advice they would give to young LGBTQ+ people right now.

Many states protect LGBTQ+ people through nondiscrimination laws that ensure fair access to housing, public accommodations and employment. Supreme Court precedent does the same through Bostock v. Clayton County. Other states have passed shield laws to protect access to gender-affirming care for trans people. But to Jay, a cisgender lesbian, it all still feels precarious. The Trump administration is trying to make it harder for transgender Americans to live openly and safely, and lawmakers in more than a handful of states want to undermine

“We have forgotten that the laws are written to protect property and not to protect people. They’re written to protect White men and their property, and historically, women and children were their property,” she said. “To expect justice from people who write laws to protect themselves has been a fundamental error of the lesbian, gay, bisexual, trans community.”

To fight back, LGBTQ+ Americans need to organize, Jay said. That starts with thinking locally — supporting local artists, independent stores and small presses, as well as LGBTQ+ organizations taking demonstrable political action and protecting queer culture.

“See what you can do without going crazy. If you can focus on one thing and you can spend one hour a week, or you can spend one day a week, that’s much better than being depressed and doing nothing,” she said. “Because the person you’re going to help is yourself. This is the time for all of us to step up.”

Renata Ramos feels obligated to share her experiences with young people. As a 63-year-old trans Latina, she wants young people to know that so many of their elders have already been through hard times — which means that they can make it, too, including during this moment.

“I’m not scared in the least. Because we have fought so many battles — the elders. We have fought so many battles, with medicine, with HIV, with marching on Washington, with watching our friends die,” she said.

“It’s been one war after another in our community that we have always won. We have always been resilient. We have always stood strong. We have always fought for our truth, and we’re still here. They haven’t been able to erase us.”

As Ramos watches the Trump administration use the power of the federal government to target transgender Americans and erase LGBTQ+ history, she’s not afraid for herself. She’s afraid for young LGBTQ+ people, especially young trans people who now find themselves at the center of a growing political and cultural war. If someone transitioned six months ago, she said, they now have a target on their back — and little to no experience with what that feels like.

“They don’t know what it is like to

be a soldier going into war, as far as social issues. So I fear for them,” she said. “Who wouldn’t be scared?”

Criss Christoff Smith has seen firsthand what that fear can look like.

On January 28, at 3 a.m., he received a phone call from an LGBTQ+ person who was considering taking their own life. This was a stranger — someone who admired from afar Smith’s advocacy as a Black trans man and Jamaican immigrant. This was someone who had been considering a gender transition for years, Smith said, who was now feeling broken. He spoke with them for two hours.

“It’s been quite dark,” Smith said. The onslaught of policies targeting marginalized people and the turbocharged news cycle are working to keep Black and trans people in a constant state of fear and uncertainty,

he said.

“I tell everyone in my community, you have to stop responding to those alerts and just try to go inward,” he said. “Find a space of peace and spirituality.”

To Smith, who is 64, looking inward can mean reflecting on what’s still here. Although the Trump administration is going to make daily life harder for LGBTQ+ people, he said, laws can’t be undone with the stroke of a pen on an executive order. LGBTQ+ Americans need to find whatever source of strength and peace they can find right now — and try to remove themselves from the daily fray as much as possible — while still finding ways to take action.

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“I’m not scared in the least. Because we have fought so many battles — the elders. We have fought so many battles, with medicine, with HIV, with marching on Washington, with watching our friends die. It’s been one war after another in our community that we have always won. We have always been resilient. We have always stood strong. We have always fought for our truth, and we’re still here. They haven’t been able to erase us.”

--Renata Ramos

Demonstrators with the Gay Liberation Front march on Times Square in New York City in the fall of 1969. (Diana Davies/New York Public Library Digital Collections)

This story was originally reported by Orion Rummler of The 19th.

Renee Imperato (far right) poses with other demonstrators during a protest outside the Stonewall Inn, after the word transgender was erased from the National Park Service’s webpage, in New York, on February 14, 2025. (Courtesy of Renee Imperato)

revised the monument’s website to frame the Stonewall uprising as a fight solely for “LGB rights”—a revision that ignores the central role played by transgender and gender nonconforming leaders. Even Sylvia Rivera, a prominent trans activist who helped lead the uprising, had her biography altered to say she fought for “gay and rights”—a revision that’s not only historically dishonest but grammatically incoherent.

The censorship of transgender people from public-facing websites wasn’t the only executive action met with broad public disapproval. The Trump administration’s push to ban transgender healthcare is also deeply unpopular. When asked which statement they agreed with more, a clear majority—55%—said that “families and physicians should be the ones making decisions about transgender youth medical care, not the government,” while just 33% supported government bans on “gender-related care for trans youth.” Among respondents who personally know a transgender person, support for gender affirming care jumped to 65%, with only 30% favoring government intervention.

Perhaps surprisingly, even transgender sports participation rules found support in the latest poll. A plurality—45% of respondents—said they believe local school districts and sports associations, not the federal government, should determine fair participation rules, with 43% answering the opposite. That view may reflect growing unease with the sweeping nature of recent federal bans, which lump sports like darts

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and a half down a gauntlet of crowded sidewalk (we have 125,000 people turn out for our parade!) – even if the crowds are cheering those of us who march, it’s not exactly my cup of tea.

So as I march my introverted self down the street, besides alternately holding my wife’s hand, helping to carry our church’s banner, and practicing my best “Miss America” wave, I steady my nerves by reminding myself of those for whom I march. It is not a short list. I call to mind the faces of friends, like Dale, who died without ever finding a spiritual home to embrace them. And the faces of others who are still wrestling to find peace with their twin impulses of sexual and spiritual longing. And the children of same-sex couples that I’ve taught in Sunday School. And the many friends who share the pews with me at church on Sunday mornings. And the college students I’ve met through my teaching and work in campus ministry. When I march I hold lots of faces in my mind and heart.

But this is what I learned from Claire on that day in September 2007. I also march for persons I don’t know. I march to be seen by someone like Claire, whom I’d never met at the time, but whose journey became a little easier and whose day became a little brighter because she saw me.

Marching in our pride parade is hardly

and disc golf in with swimming and track. Voters may also be reacting to the potential for invasive medical testing and forced genital inspections of girls under expansive, governmentmandated bans.

The poll also found overwhelming opposition to Trump’s executive order targeting teachers who support transgender youth. The order suggests that educators who affirm a student’s gender identity could be prosecuted for “facilitating the social transition of a minor student,” framing even the simple act of using a student’s chosen name as “practicing medicine without a license.” But this legal overreach is far out of step with public sentiment: 61% of respondents opposed the policy, while just 27% supported it.

Rounding out the poll’s findings is opposition to the transgender military ban, with just 21% supporting such a policy. The ban was recently blocked in federal court, where the judge described it as “dripping with animus.” That description was no exaggeration: the ban itself asserts that transgender people are inherently lacking in “honor, dignity, and truth.”

The latest polling offers a sharp rebuke to the wave of anti-trans legislation and executive action sweeping across the country. While Trump urges Republicans to double down on targeting transgender people ahead of the next election—and dark money groups flood key races like the Wisconsin Supreme Court with anti-trans ads—these numbers tell a different story. Despite the volume of anti-trans rhetoric, the public isn’t buying the cruelty.

the biggest thing I do as an Ally, but for Claire, in June of 2007, it was pretty significant. And this year, when I march again, Claire’s shining smile will be one of the faces I have before me. But thanks to her, I will also be a little more comfortable marching my introverted self down that street, because I will remember that maybe this year, too, there will be someone watching that I’m not even thinking of yet, who will be happy to see me there.

David Weiss (he/him) is a theologian, writer, poet and hymnist, doing “public theology” around climate crisis, sexuality, justice, diversity, and peace. With master’s degrees in theology (Wartburg Seminary) and Christian ethics (Notre Dame), he taught theology and religion for twenty years at Luther College, Augsburg University, St. Catherine University, and Hamline University. Today David teaches in congregational settings and blogs at www.davidrweiss.com under the theme, “Full Frontal Faith: Erring on the Edge of Honest.” Support him in writing Community Supported Theology at www. patreon.com/fullfrontalfaith. Reach him at drw59mn@gmail.com

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“This is the time when we really have to find community, where we really have to hone in on our spiritual feelings and try to talk to someone. Don’t keep it to yourself,” he said. Joining protests or lobbying days at state capitols are great ways to find community in-person, Smith said — to be around like-minded people and to not feel so alone.

“That’s the best space to be in, not home alone and in your feelings and in your mind, because we can get lost there thinking negatively. So we have to stay positive and stay with likeminded people, and have those people constantly around you to reassure you and just hold you tight in that space,” he said.

Protests against the administration’s hostile LGBTQ+ policies have been ongoing — including outside the Stonewall National Monument. In at least one way, history is already repeating itself.

The National Park Service deleted all references to transgender and queer

people from its web page honoring the 1969 Stonewall uprising — the most well-known moment from LGBTQ+ history in the country — leaving references to only lesbian, gay and bisexual people. Hundreds gathered in New York City to protest. Among them was Renee Imperato, a 76-year-old trans woman and New York native.

“Protests like this are our survival,” she told The 19th over email. “The rhetoric of this administration is driving a violent onslaught against our community. The Stonewall Rebellion is not over. We are at war, and we are still fighting back. What other choice do we have?”

Jay, herself an old hand at joining protests and demonstrations, said that she’s been afraid before every one of them. She’s lost sleep the night before and feared for her safety — but she did it anyway.

“I’m afraid I’ll be beaten. I’m afraid I’ll be arrested. But if you don’t do something even though you’re afraid, they win,” she said.

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Thoughts from the

Hobbit House

This Pit Is Now Closed

“Like so many others right now, my husband and I have spent many an evening debating the politics, community divisions, and injustices rampant in the world around us.

I’ve been quick to fall into the pit of despair and wallow there. I’m thankful my husband has set time limits on how much time we devote to these discussions. I’m also thankful for his gentle reminders that none of the problems we face will be made any better by my spending time in that pit. Quite the opposite in fact: the problems will only be made worse.”

by Ryan Oelrich

Ilead trainings on addressing stress and trauma, and I frequently hear from participants that hopelessness around our present circumstances and the resulting despair are driving a great deal of their current stress. When chatting with a friend about what I fear for the next few years, he challenged me to share what I hope for. It was a question that caught me off guard.

Like so many others right now, my husband and I have spent many an evening debating the politics, community divisions, and injustices

rampant in the world around us.

I’ve been quick to fall into the pit of despair and wallow there. I’m thankful my husband has set time limits on how much time we devote to these discussions. I’m also thankful for his gentle reminders that none of the problems we face will be made any better by my spending time in that pit. Quite the opposite in fact: the problems will only be made worse.

In the dark depths, there is little light by which one can see potential solutions. The cold and wet at the bottom of the despair pit numbs the

David Capocci is one of the owners of the homestead campground, Paca Pride Guest Ranch, along with his husband, Glenn Budlow, and business partner, Tim Leingang. Having purchased land to build a legacy project in the mountains, they went from city boys to rural ranchers, turning their yurt camping experience into a business plan to reinvent the family farm and bring “glamping” to the public. This column shares their ongoing experience in working and living as out and proud members of their community in their guest ranch setting.

senses, making it harder to do the work to overcome problems. And down there, one’s ability to look around and see that which is still glorious and good is greatly hindered.

As a result, in our house, the pit of despair has now been closed.

Out on

THanging out there is simply no longer allowed. So, on a gray rainy day in Spokane while sipping my coffee, I pondered my friend’s question: “What do I hope for in the

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theRanch

he Sacred Act of Hospitality

“In times of chaos and cultural upheaval, hospitality becomes more than just a gesture — it becomes a form of resistance and remembrance. We are reminded of the courage of those who offered safe passage through the Underground Railroad, whose homes became havens in the face of cruelty. We recognize how sacred it is to hold space for others today, especially those who are marginalized or under threat. ”

by David Capocci

Imagine, for a moment, that your home is open to the public every single day. Your front door: an invitation. Your daily routine: subject to interruption by a stranger seeking an experience and connection. Now, add to that the responsibility of hosting overnight guests. We sometimes say teasingly that we have animal pastures and people pastures, both requiring husbandry.

This is the life of an innkeeper. This is the life we have embraced at Paca Pride Guest Ranch.

In times of chaos and cultural upheaval, hospitality becomes more than just a gesture — it becomes a form of resistance and remembrance. We are reminded of the courage of those who offered safe passage through

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Ryan and his husband built a Hobbit House that’s become a regional attraction.

Photo courtesy of David Capocci

Todd

Stephens: Trailblazer in LGBTQ+ Cinema

“ I’m proud that my films center on gay narratives and that I resisted the pressure to conform and mainstream my work. As a gay man, my purpose has always been to create authentic LGBTQ+ stories, and that’s the legacy I hope to leave behind.”

-Todd Stephens

Stephanie McVay: A Cherished Maternal Figure in LGBTQ+ Cinema

“Being a “mother figure” is an incredible honor, and I take great pride in that title. When members of the LGBTQ+ community come up to me and say, “I wish you were my mother,” my heart swells with joy. I embrace everyone with open arms and listen to their stories. ”

-Stephanie McVay

by Frank Gaimari

Todd Stephens is a trailblazer in queer cinema. Known for his influential films, he remains an unsung hero to many. This interview aims to change that, providing an opportunity to explore the visionary filmmaker and his incredible journey. As one of the first directors and producers to bring genuine LGBTQ+ stories to life on screen, Todd has played a key role in highlighting underrepresented voices. Growing up in Sandusky, Ohio, he has dedicated his career to crafting narratives celebrating the beauty of queer lives. With over two decades of experience, Todd has developed a unique style marked by heartfelt emotion, sharp humor, and unflinching honesty.

His debut feature, Edge of Seventeen (1998), is a semi-autobiographical coming-of-age story that established him as a pioneer in LGBTQ+ storytelling. He followed it with Gypsy 83 (2001), a heartfelt exploration of identity and belonging. Later, he embraced camp and humor with the cult favorite Another Gay Movie (2006) and its sequel, Another Gay Sequel: Gays Gone Wild (2008). Most recently, his film Swan Song offers a softer, more introspective narrative, earning praise for its portrayal of perseverance and selfdiscovery in queer life.

Here are the questions I asked him and his responses that shed light on his artistic journey and thoughts on representation in LGBTQ+ cinema.

Frank Gaimari: What early experiences

or influences sparked your passion for filmmaking?

Todd Stephens: My love for movies, particularly horror films, began in childhood and quickly became a lifelong passion. In high school, I took my first steps into filmmaking by writing and directing a horror project titled Rest in Peace. Later, I honed my skills at NYU’s film school, and by the time I turned thirty, I took to heart the advice of my professors: “Make a film about what you know.” Drawing from my life experiences, I created my first feature film, Edge of Seventeen

FG: What was your first big break in the film industry, and how did it happen?

TS: My break came after the release of Edge of Seventeen. My career took off in ways I couldn’t have imagined. The film garnered numerous awards and reached renowned festivals like Sundance. That success didn’t just validate my love for filmmaking; it opened doors, cementing my place in the industry and setting the stage for everything that followed.

FG: Edge of Seventeen is such a personal and iconic film. What inspired you to tell that story, and how much of it is autobiographical?

TS: Edge of Seventeen is my story—my coming-out journey. At that time, I was deeply inspired by the film Beautiful Things, which portrayed a young man

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by Frank Gaimari

Stephanie McVay is more than an actress — she’s an unexpected yet beloved maternal figure in the Gay community. Her sincerity and side-splitting charm on-screen create something magical, making her a cherished figure in LGBTQ+ cinema.

Born on November 8, 1954, McVay continues to be a vibrant and versatile actress. Her career has showcased her remarkable talent across various roles, from deeply emotional to hilariously irreverent. While her life is relatively private, her onscreen persona speaks volumes, embodying the love, acceptance, and quirky energy the Queer community celebrates.

McVay first gained recognition in Edge of Seventeen (1998), a poignant coming-ofage film about a teenager grappling with his sexuality in the 1980s. Her portrayal of a supportive yet occasionally bewildered mom was authentic and resonated deeply with viewers. Her character was genuine

— a mix of love and human imperfection that struck a chord with many.

Her rise as an icon didn’t stop there. She stepped into the realm of campy Queer comedy in Another Gay Movie (2006), playing Bonnie Hunter. In this film, which wasn’t afraid to be outrageous and overthe-top, gave McVay the chance to shine differently. Her character was hilariously brash yet refreshingly relatable, capturing the heightened absurdity of the story while remaining lovable. McVay reprised this role in Another Gay Sequel: Gays Gone Wild! (2008), solidifying her place as a Gay cultural icon with her unmatched comedic timing and heartfelt humor.

The magic of her roles lies in her ability to make audiences laugh while also providing a grounding presence. For those in the LGBTQ+ community who may not have experienced unconditional love in real life, her characters symbolize safety, support, and motherly affection. She has crafted roles that feel like home to many viewers,

Frank Gaimari: What inspired you to pursue acting, and how did you find your way into LGBTQ+ cinema?

McVay showcases her talent across a rich and diverse range of genres and formats. She has graced television with roles in shows like Mom, The Office, Superstore, and The Romanoffs. From sweet older women to scene-stealers with sharp oneliners, McVay’s ability to adapt is nothing short of impressive. Her recent role in 2021’s Swan Song, another Queer-themed project, proves that her impact continues to evolve and remains timeless.

I had the opportunity to interview McVay about her life and career. Here are our edited conversations:

Stephanie McVay: My journey in performance began in grade school when I played the Lion in The Wizard of Oz. I got the part on the condition that I learned how to roar. I went home and practiced my roar diligently and nailed it. Once on stage, the acting bug bit me, and I never looked back. Throughout high school, I participated in the drama club and, after school, engaged in community theater.

My entry into LGBTQ+ cinema was a happy accident. I was living in Manhattan

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giving them moments of solace and joy through the screen.

Photo courtesy of Stephanie McVay

Photo by Phil Smrek

Standing Together in Olympia: Ocean Shores LGBTQ+ Voices Join the Fight

“The Hands Off rally was a reminder that our voices matter, and that even in a small coastal town like Ocean Shores, we are part of a much larger movement. When we show up, we prove that no community stands alone.”

-- Catherin Caywood

by Catherin Caywood

As members of the LGBTQ+ community from Ocean Shores, WA, we felt it was crucial to stand in solidarity with others who believe in justice, autonomy, and peace—values that feel increasingly under threat. So on April 5, we joined thousands of protesters at the Washington State Capitol in Olympia for Hands Off, a rally pushing back against the current administration’s aggressive policies.

The crowd was diverse — activists, students, families, and other LGBTQ+ people — all united by a shared urgency. When asked why they came, one protester told us, “I want to stand up and show our support against the current administration and all its policies.”

Another expressed frustration over recent expansionist rhetoric: “By trying to take Greenland or Canada and claim them as part of the US, we’re doing exactly what Russia and China want to do. Why are we mimicking those guys?”

For many of us, the protest was about more than just policy; it was about resisting a growing sense of despair.

“Everything that is happening since the election, just watching everything

disintegrate around us… we have to stand up, because if we don’t, who is going to?” one attendee said.

As a member of the LGBTQ+ community, I often worry about the erosion of hard-won rights, but seeing so many allies and fellow LGBTQ+ people in Olympia was heartening.

“It’s nice to see that other people care, that we’re not in a bubble,” someone remarked — a sentiment I deeply felt.

The Hands Off rally was a reminder that our voices matter, and that even in a small coastal town like Ocean Shores, we are part of a much larger movement. When we show up, we prove that no community stands alone.

Hands Off rally in Olympia, WA

Photo provided by Walter Kostecka

Photos by Catherin Caywood and Dana Clark

by Frank Gaimari

Louie Mandrapilias, born on December 20, 1956, in Shreveport, Louisiana, has established himself as a talented author and screenwriter. Now 68 and residing in Los Angeles, Louie captivates audiences with his compelling storytelling.

Louie’s memoir, Flew Too High, is a testament to his remarkable life and narrative talent. Set against the vibrant and chaotic backdrop of 1970s New York, the book delves into the magnetic allure of Studio 54. It chronicles his journey through a captivating yet dangerous relationship that drew him into the dark underworld of drug smuggling. What begins as a story of reckless abandon in Manhattan transforms into a spiritual awakening in India. Lauded for its honesty and depth, Flew Too High has earned accolades from readers everywhere.

Reading Flew Too High was a profoundly moving experience, thanks to its raw and unflinching honesty. Louie spares no detail, delivering a story that is as captivating as it is surprising. Without giving away any spoilers, I can assure you that the twists and revelations will leave you astonished—even speechless. Once you reach the halfway mark, putting this book down will be nearly impossible.

Louie took the time to speak with me. Here are his thoughtful responses to my questions.

Frank Gaimari: Your memoir portrays the queer culture of the 1970s, highlighting Studio 54, sex, and the drug scene. What inspired you to write about this chapter of your life decades later?

Louie Mandrapilias: Initially, I set out to share the untamed adventures of my youth

Circus Animals Roars to Life as a Novel

“Transitioning from screenwriting to novel writing has been a transformative experience. In screenplays, precision is key. Every word needs to serve a specific purpose. However, novels provide the freedom to explore settings, characters, and emotions in greater depth. ”

- Frank Gaimari

Sex, Drugs, and Studio 54: Louie Mandrapilias Reflects in “Flew Too High”

“My not-so-typical mix of cultures gave me a unique perspective on life. No matter how I tried, I would never fit into anyone’s idea of a Southern gentleman or a good Greek boy. I would always be an outsider, a non-conformist who would have to chart his own path. Initially hiding, I had to find my way in the dark. As an adult, I realize my unique worldview is my source for surprising takes on life”

- Louie Mandrapilias

by Lyndal Simpson

Frank Gaimari, a Seattle-based writer, has made a striking debut in the literary scene with his novel, Circus Animals. The book is a heartfelt and imaginative tale that blends adventure, emotion, and social commentary. Set against the vibrant and mysterious backdrop of New Orleans, the story follows a group of circus animals on a brave quest to free a lioness and her cub from the clutches of ruthless carnival workers. The richly developed characters— from the courageous elephant to the flamboyant mouse—each bring charm and complexity to the narrative. At its core, Circus Animals explores friendship, unity, and resilience while shedding light on the darker realities of animal mistreatment. Gaimari’s vivid storytelling and emotional depth create an enchanting yet thoughtprovoking experience that has captivated readers of all ages.

Conceived initially as a screenplay, Gaimari’s story has evolved into a richly crafted novel, earning widespread praise from critics for its depth and compelling narrative.

However, the novel is more than just a thrilling adventure. Through a vivid exploration of life under the big top, Gaimari reveals the reality behind the glamorous facade. “The circus symbolizes so much,” he shares. “While it dazzles with lights and performances, there’s often underlying struggle, control, and exploitation.”

Gaimari’s path to turning Circus Animals into a novel was anything but traditional. His screenplay received praise on the festival circuit for its rich narrative and dialogue, yet Gaimari felt there was more to explore than a script could allow. “Screenplays put tight constraints on

as a gay man during the gay liberation movement before the arrival of the AIDS crisis. But as I reflected, I was drawn to the deeper struggles—my journey to embrace my identity and my father’s struggle to accept me. It’s a deeply relevant story for many LGBTQ+ youth today, especially in our current political climate.

FG: Studio 54 was a sanctuary for many in the LGBTQ+ community. What drew you to this environment?

LM: Being a Southern gay college kid who read Warhol’s Interview magazine, it was my entree into debauched society. Once I passed the velvet rope, I had arrived. To be accepted into that world, inhale amyl nitrate on the dance floor, and make out in the balcony as Donna Summer sang Love to Love You, Baby was my moment of becoming.

FG: You link your Southern upbringing and Greek heritage to the inner tensions

storytelling,” he reflects. “I wanted to dive deeper into the characters, the world, and the emotions driving this group of animals.”

The following are questions I had the opportunity to ask the author.

Lyndal Simpson: Circus Animals started as a screenplay. What inspired you to turn it into a novel?

Frank Gaimari: Circus Animals is one of my many screenplays. While it received high praise, the chances of selling it were slim. Therefore, I changed it into a novel, allowing more readers to discover the story. This transition felt right and marked the next step in my creative journey.

you faced about tradition, rebellion, and queerness. How has this influenced your storytelling?

LM: My not-so-typical mix of cultures gave me a unique perspective on life. No matter how I tried, I would never fit into anyone’s idea of a Southern gentleman or a good Greek boy. I would always be an outsider, a non-conformist who would have to chart his own path. Initially hiding, I had to find my way in the dark. As an adult, I realize my unique worldview is my source for surprising takes on life.

FG: While experiencing the excitement of smuggling and partying, you also go on a spiritual journey in India. How did this change you as a gay man?

LM: Growing up in a religious household, I encountered concepts like “eternal damnation” and “original sin,” which

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LS: The story follows an unusual group of circus animals on a daring adventure. What sparked the idea for this narrative?

FG: I based the main characters on my cherished pets. Some have passed away, while others are still alive. Through this story, I ensure their memories will live on forever. This book stands as a tribute to them.

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Author Louie Mandrapilias

Author Frank Gaimar

Marriage Equality and Christianity

“I want people of faith to be able to come and worship and be part of a community wholeheartedly. In worship, we are all equal as guests of God. So the idea that we are all welcome at God’s table – it is not our table, it is not our place to condemn anyone. We are all equally embraced by God’s love. And that is really the core of my belief.”

-Rev Angela Renecker Galilean Lutheran Chuch Ocean Shores

A focus on Grays Harbor County: In Christianity, biblical interpretation is key to equality.

voted to say yes.

Churches featured in this article:

Galilean Lutheran Church

Angela Renecker, Pastor 824 Ocean Shores Blvd NW, Ocean Shores, WA 98569 https://www. galileanlutheranchurch.com

South Beach United Presbyterian Church

Amanda Sullivan-Kersey, CoPastor 3707 WA-105, Westport, WA 98595 360-268-9773 438 Dolphin Avenue NE

Twin Harbors Lutheran Church

Amanda Sullivan-Kersey, CoPastor 2424 WA-105, Grayland, WA 98547 360-267-3124

Saron Lutheran/First Presbyterian Church

“It’s my firm belief that people coming to our congregation would be treated equally and welcomed warmly, no matter what their own identity is.”

-Rev

Amanda Sullivan-Kersey South Beach United Presbyterian Church, Westport

This article was previously published in the September/October 2023 issue of Coastal Pride.

by Kat Bryant

Many of us were raised with the idea that Christianity and the LGBTQ+ community just don’t mix. But a number of churches here on the Harbor are proving that belief false.

Most of the “open and affirming” (O&A) congregations here are part of the Evangelical Lutheran Church in America, or ELCA. O&A faiths have issued national statements officially welcoming those from the LGBTQ+ community as members and extending marriage rites to them.

Others are part of the Presbyterian Church (USA), or PCUSA, which is officially open and affirming – as opposed to the Presbyterian Church in America, which refuses to perform same-sex weddings.

One local congregation represents the Episcopal Church, also an O&A denomination.

And one represents the national United Methodist Church, which is not officially O&A, though many of its pastors choose to celebrate same-sex weddings despite restrictions. Kathryn Garnett, retired pastor of Hoquiam Methodist Church, is among them.

Although she’s retired, Garnett still preaches there once a month. She says Hoquiam Methodist became what’s called a “reconciling congregation” about 15 years ago. This means the members of the congregation voted to publicly welcome people of all genders and sexual orientations without restriction.

That includes performing same-sex weddings. When it was made legal in Washington, Garnett sought the backing of the church to allow it; and they

“We are strong supporters of everyone in our society with no exception, which is our call as Christians,” she says.

Most of the Harbor’s O&A pastors agree with that sentiment.

Rev. Michelle de Beauchamp, ordained by the ELCA, is pastor of Saron Lutheran-First Presbyterian Church in Hoquiam. When gay marriage became legal nationwide, the first same-sex wedding she performed was between her uncles.

“To me, that was really living out my faith as a Christian to be able to honor my uncles, who now have been together for 30-plus years,” she says. “My faith has taught me to preach love and kindness and care and grace, and that’s what the grace of God is about.”

Rev. Angela Renecker points to a plaque above the front door of Galilean Lutheran Church in Ocean Shores: “At my table, all are welcome.”

“I want people of faith to be able to come and worship and be part of a community wholeheartedly,” she says. “… In worship, we are all equal as guests of God. So the idea that we are all welcome at God’s table – it is not our table, it is not our place to condemn anyone. We are all equally embraced by God’s love. And that is really the core of my belief.”

For the Rev. Dr. Amanda SullivanKersey, co-pastor of South Beach

Michelle de Beauchamp, Pastor 708 8th St., Hoquiam, WA 98550 360-532-4611 https://sarongraysharbor.org

Hoquiam Methodist Church

Kathryn Garnett, Pastor (retired) 520 5th St, Hoquiam, WA 98550 360-533-1101 http://hoquiamumc.org

St Mark’s Episcopal Church

Bonnie Campbell, Pastor 124 N Sylvia St. Montesano, WA 98563 360-249-3281 https://www.stmarksmonte.com

United Presbyterian Church in Westport and Twin Harbors Lutheran Church in Grayland, the issue of gay marriage hits especially close to home: She is a married gay woman herself.

She was raised Southern Baptist and later was ordained in the United Church of Christ, which was one of the first to ordain members of the LGBTQ+ community. UCC has ecumenical standing with ELCA and the Presbyterian Church (USA), which allows her to preach at those churches. Neither of her congregations has adopted a fully “open and affirming” (O&A) stance, but she says both are open.

“Think of a time where you have had to ask yourself: Is it safe for me to be here? And not because of other people, but because of who you

“At My Table All Are Welcome” is engraved on a wooden plaque of The Last Supper above the front doors of Galilean Lutheran Church in Ocean Shores.

“You can’t swing a cat around here without hitting someone with a gay kid or gay grandkid. So actual acceptance is not that hard.

-Rev Amanda Sullivan-Kersey South Beach United Presbyterian Church, Westport

are,” says Sullivan-Kersey. “There are those of us – including myself as a gay pastor – who have to look at those things. I do look for the flag. I do look for the sign. I do look for the O&A because I want to know that when I enter into this space, I can be fully me – or do I have to be careful who I disclose this to? … These things are important.”

In the rural South Beach area of Grays Harbor, congregations are aging. Getting them to understand the need to project that aura of safety is a challenge, she says.

“You can’t swing a cat around here without hitting someone with a gay kid or a gay grandkid. So actual acceptance is not that hard,” she says. “It’s more about the visualization of it” – for example, the hanging of a rainbow flag, which a vocal few of her parishioners feel is unnecessary. Still, she says, the welcoming atmosphere is definitely there.

“I have relatives who won’t darken the door of a church because of the rejection they’ve received,” says Sullivan-Kersey. “It’s my firm belief that people coming to our congregation would be treated equally and welcomed warmly, no matter what their own identity is.”

Rev. Boneta Campbell has served for 14 years as the priest of St. Mark’s Episcopal Church in Montesano, an O&A congregation.

“I’ve done two [weddings] that are same-sex – one was for a priest colleague and her wife, and the other was for two parishioners,” she says. “What I’ve seen is marriages between same-sex people are pretty much the same as heterosexual relationships as far as how they treat one another and how they raise children. I don’t see a huge difference in how they relate to one another. And I won’t marry a couple if I don’t feel like they’re fully consenting, and I don’t see a fully loving and supporting relationship between the two people. ... So, I don’t

have to treat those relationships any differently than any others.”

The Harbor’s O&A pastors also agree that Scripture is largely silent on the issue of gay marriage – despite many public opinions to the contrary.

From a cultural and historical standpoint, many of the biblical passages cited by those against gay marriage are simply being read out of context, says de Beauchamp. A lot of the passages often used against the LGBT+ community, she says, are actually against sexual abuse of young boys by those in authority – not against consenting love between two individuals.

Renecker echoes that interpretation.

“I was raised in a fairly fundamentalist church and became Lutheran in college. So I’m aware of the prejudice that is out there,” she says. “But I don’t think that prejudice is warranted by the Scriptures. The verses that are often used to beat people over the head are definitely a distortion of those Scriptures. St. Paul is often quoted – but in the passage where he talks about it, he’s not talking about homosexuality at all. He’s talking about sexual abuse – pederasty, child abuse, that sort of thing.

“The word ‘homosexuality’ wasn’t even used in English translations of the Bible until 1947 or thereabouts, and definitely the passages are few and far between,” Renecker adds. “Jesus doesn’t say anything at all about the subject. But the passages from Leviticus, for example, are more about kosher law than anything else. Kosher was more than just food.”

Sullivan-Kersey concurs. “There are some things that Scripture is silent on. There are some things that people want to say – Ruth and Naomi, Jonathan and David, blah blah blah – and I don’t know that I necessarily read that into it. … But I 100 percent believe that when you have love be-

Who will and (probably) won’t...

A growing number of organized religious groups in the United States have issued statements officially welcoming LGBTQ people as members and extending marriage rites to them. If you are looking to have a religious wedding ceremony, below are denominations that have embraced marriage for loving same-sex couples:

• Alliance of Baptists

• Christian Church (Disciples of Christ) [CL]

• Episcopal Church [CL] [R]

• Evangelical Lutheran Church in America [CL]

• Metropolitan Community Churches

• Old Catholics/Independent Catholics

• Presbyterian Church (USA) [CL]

• Unitarian Universalist Association

• United Church of Christ•

CL=Clergy may refuse at their discretion

R=Clergy who refuse must refer the couple to another church or clergy member

For the denominations below, it’s less clear. For example, while the United Methodist Church officially does not sanction same-sex marriages, some individual UMC churches do perform them.

• African Methodist Episcopal Church

• American Baptist Church USA

• Church of God in Christ

• Church of the Nazarene

• Eastern Orthodox Church

• National Baptist Convention USA Inc.

• Pentecostals

• Presbyterian Church in America

• Roman Catholic Church

• Southern Baptist Convention

• United Methodist Church

Information pulled from the Human Rights Coalition’s comprehensive list. For more details, visit https://www.hrc.org/resources/positions-of-faith-on-same-sexmarriage.

tween two consenting adult persons, God can be glorified in that.”

“Jesus doesn’t say anything about it, so I don’t see that Jesus said it was wrong,” adds Campbell. “From my viewpoint, it’s more about a relationship being consensual and nonviolent – that the people are in a loving and supportive relationship.”

It’s also important to remember biblical context, notes de Beauchamp: The words were written by oppressed minorities in massive empires. “Think what it would be like to be constantly oppressed. To me, as a pastor and a Christian, the LGBT community in our country is facing a lot of scary oppression. And I think it would be un-Christian to interpret [the Bible] in a hateful way when they are the ones that Jesus would show love and care and compassion to if he came back today.”

In addition, she says, the Bible simply did not address many of today’s societal issues. One could interpret some passages as an argument for slavery or abolitionism, for example. But it’s a living text that must be interpreted with a modern view – and “with a lens of love and compassion,” she says.

The pastors all expressed hope for greater acceptance in the future.

“The church is changing, and we have got to get on board with that,” said Sullivan-Kersey. “And I don’t mean we let go of those beliefs and those ideals and everything. But we

have to recognize that maybe those things that we were holding on to weren’t actually rooted in God or any kind of scriptural foundation – maybe only in interpretation.”

“I’ve been a pastor for almost 28 years,” says Renecker. “I’ve seen our society as a whole come a long way on this issue even in my lifetime, and I think we have farther to go. But I see reasons for hope.”

De Beauchamp says it’s up to those who believe to make it happen through their actions, not just their words.

“As a pastor and a Christian, my heart breaks when I see people preaching and teaching so much hate when my faith is so rooted in love and acceptance,” she says. “That’s not my Christianity. That’s not my Jesus.

“We need to not just say it. We need to show up more for people needing the support.”

Kat Bryant, a lifelong writer and editor, has been an Out & Proud Grays Harbor Coalition board member since 0. She lives in Hoquiam.

Pastor Amanda Sullivan-Kersey of United Presbyterian Church in Westport performs a samesex wedding in 2014.

four years to come?” I put pen to paper and here’s what came to mind (below):

Desmond Tutu’s statement still rings true: “Hope is being able to see that there is light despite all of the darkness.”

What do you hope for?

1. I hope the exhaustion of always being afraid causes us to rise up against the fearmongers and reclaim our courage.

2. I hope soaring prices are the push we need to stop over consuming and look instead to sustainable sources of joy: relationships, sunsets, hikes, cool doggos, and the wind in our hair.

3. I hope the fighting, misinformation, and division moves us off our devices and back into the real world of hugs, sunrises, forest walks, and coffee conversations with other humans.

4. I hope this return reminds us we don’t have to be monsters, and that kindness is still a courageous and noble force.

5. I hope that after sampling arrogance and bullying, we instead find value in humility and listening to one another as a better choice.

6. I hope that demonizing and eliminating those who are different and bring brilliant colors to the world forces the rest to realize and mourn how sad and bleak a gray world is.

7. I hope that our starvation from having to choose between just two political dishes inspires us to place more dishes on the table and stop placing our identities solely in politics.

8. I hope after having idolized and empowered the rich, we realize their wealth does not make them smarter or more deserving to lead and we remove money from our elections.

9. I hope that after we’ve rolled in the fire and been burned, we survive and again remember the dangers of playing with fire. I hope we return stronger guard rails to protect us from the flames of power and greed.

10. I hope that after having tried on hatred, anger, and fear, we remember they are out of fashion and remember how to wear the glorious garments of love, understanding, and courage.

Ryan Oelrich is a highly regarded mental health trainer and facilitator, having trained thousands of professionals since 2008. He’s developed mental health curriculum used by Washington State, and he’s given several TED talks. He is a Robert Wood Johnson Foundation Culture of Health Fellow and has an MBA and an MA in Leadership. Oelrich was awarded the Peirone Prize for service in 2016 and has received congressional recognition for his work on poverty and homelessness issues. Oelrich has founded 3 nonprofits focused on youth issues, and he’s an advocate for increased collaboration and coordination.

824 Ocean Shores Blvd NW Ocean Shores, WA 98569 360-289-3313

churchofficeglc1419@gmail.com www.galileanlutheranchurch.com ALL are welcome. Come as you are.

Angela Renecker Pastor

“There was a time, long ago, when welcoming a stranger was an unshakable virtue. Today, that seems lost amid the noise of suspicion and fear. Our private lives have become insular, our communities fractured. But hospitality — true hospitality — can ripple outward, from the individual to the community, from the community to the world. The simple act of welcoming another without condition is, in itself, an act of radical love.”

the Underground Railroad, whose homes became havens in the face of cruelty. We recognize how sacred it is to hold space for others today, especially those who are marginalized or under threat.

As members of the LGBTQ+ community, we understand this viscerally. In an era when Queer and Trans rights are again under political attack, opening our gates at the ranch becomes a radical act of affirmation. It is a way to declare that love, dignity, and belonging are not luxuries but birthrights.

Hospitality, at its core, is about creating space — for others and for transformation. At a time when the world feels increasingly divided, when doors are locked and hearts are closed, we at the ranch strive to live by a different standard. We believe that to welcome another is to participate in something sacred, something that transcends simple human courtesy.

Henri Nouwen, a priest and writer, said, “Hospitality is not to change people but to offer them space where change can take place. The paradox of hospitality is that it wants to create emptiness — not a fearful emptiness but a friendly emptiness where strangers can enter and discover themselves as created free.”

There was a time, long ago, when welcoming a stranger was an unshakable virtue. Today, that seems lost amid the noise of suspicion and fear. Our private lives have become insular, our communities fractured. But hospitality — true hospitality — can

ripple outward, from the individual to the community, from the community to the world. The simple act of welcoming another without condition is, in itself, an act of radical love.

Here at the ranch, we witness this transformation. A traveler arrives, burdened by the weight of their world. They step onto our land, breathe the mountain air, feel the rhythm of a life more connected to the earth. In that moment, they are no longer customers to be served but guests to be honored. There is a difference, after all, between a customer and a guest: A customer expects a transaction; a guest experiences an alchemical exchange. In serving one another, we grow, we learn, we reflect.

For hospitality, at its deepest level, is a mirror. Others reflect back to us the very things we carry within ourselves: our fears, our judgments, our capacity for kindness. We cannot love, hate, or feel sensitive to another without it revealing something about our own hearts. When we judge, we are merely holding up a mirror to our own insecurities. When we offer kindness, we affirm the goodness within ourselves.

To live as a host in this world is to embrace a continuous lesson in humanity. Cherie Carter-Scott, in If Life Is a Game, Then These Are the Rules, reminds us: Every person we meet is a teacher, every experience an opportunity to grow. There are no mistakes, only lessons. Everything we need is already at hand. And above all, the answers we seek will never be found outside of us — they have been

within us all along.

In opening our home to others, we have come to understand that hospitality is not simply about offering a bed and a warm welcome. It is about creating a space for people to become more fully themselves. It is about breaking down barriers, about choosing connection over fear, about recognizing that humanity, in all its varied expressions, is sacred.

As we prepare for another summer, for another season of guests and strangersturned-friends, we are reminded once again why we do what we do. This is not just about running a guest ranch. This is about nurturing a space where transformation happens — one conversation, one night under the stars at a time. And perhaps, in doing so, we can remind the world of what it has forgotten: that to welcome another is to welcome the divine.

Paca Pride Guest Ranch is nestled on 17 acres in the rural mountains outside Granite Falls, Washington.

David Capocci, Glenn Budlow and Tim Leingang founded Paca Pride Guest Ranch in 2004.

STEPHENS - From page 15 compromise my vision or succumb to outside pressure again. Fueled by that frustration, I decided that my next film would be unapologetically gay—the biggest, boldest, and most outlandish gay movie ever conceived. And thus, Another Gay Movie was born.

grappling with his sexuality. Its honesty struck a chord, and I felt compelled to create something equally heartfelt yet distinctly my own. I poured my life, emotions, and experiences into Edge of Seventeen. It became a love letter to my younger self and anyone navigating their own messy, beautiful path toward selfdiscovery.

FG: Another Gay Movie and its sequel have become cult classics. What was your vision for these films?

TS: After Edge of Seventeen, I faced intense pressure to cross over and create a more mainstream, straight film. The industry’s push to conform felt overwhelming, but as a gay man and filmmaker, my identity is inseparable from my work. In a quiet act of defiance, I made Gypsy, the protagonist of my next film Gypsy 83, straight—but gave her a gay best friend. Ironically, when the film was released, the criticism had nothing to do with mainstream appeal. Instead, I was told it wasn’t gay enough. The whole experience was incredibly frustrating, leaving me caught between opposing expectations.

At that moment, I vowed never to

FG: Swan Song has received widespread acclaim. What drew you to this story, and how did you navigate the creative process?

TS: The inspiration for Swan Song came from a man named Mr. Pat, who lived in my hometown. He was a larger-than-life figure, a mix between David Bowie and Liberace. He would light up the dance floor at our local bar, the Universal Fruit and Nut Company. His flamboyant costumes were awe-inspiring, and he was captivating to watch. I never forgot about him.

A line from the film says, “Even though I didn’t know you, you changed my life.” That perfectly reflects what Mr. Pat meant to me. His fearless self-expression encouraged me to embrace my authenticity. The film masterfully captures his spirit, resilience, sense of identity, and steadfast dedication to being unapologetically true to himself.

FG: Out of all the films you’ve worked on, do you have a personal favorite?

TS: That’s such a hard question! But if I had to pick, it would be Gypsy 83. This film is close to my heart, partly because it’s the underdog. It didn’t receive the attention it deserved, and the version released wasn’t what I had envisioned. I was forced to cut so much during editing, and, in the process, some incredible material was left on the cutting room floor.

I’m thrilled to announce that the restoration of Gypsy 83 is almost complete, returning the film to its original vision. The rereleased version will be released this summer, and I can’t wait for audiences to experience it as I intended.

FG: Sandusky often takes center stage in your work. What makes the town such a compelling backdrop for your stories?

TS: Sandusky is my hometown. Being queer there in the 1980s was not easy. However, I’ve developed a strong connection to the place as I’ve gotten older. Sandusky appears in three of my films because I know it well, and that familiarity brings my stories to life. It serves as an ideal setting for exploring what it means to be queer in a small town.

FG: Can you share any upcoming projects or films you’re working on with us?

TS: My next project is a biopic about Mae West. Without giving too much away, she was a trailblazing queer icon. Mae was an extraordinary woman—brave, bold, and ahead of her time. She was the first to put queer people on stage and believe it or not, was arrested for writing a play featuring drag queens. Her story is rich with history and significance, and there’s so much about her that the LGBTQ+ community and the world deserve to know.

FG: Reflecting on your journey, what are you most proud of, and what legacy do you hope to leave?

TS: I’m proud that my films center on gay narratives and that I resisted the pressure to conform and mainstream my work. As a gay man, my purpose has always been to create authentic LGBTQ+ stories, and that’s the legacy I hope to leave behind.

Todd Stephens’s work is a vibrant tribute to queer identity, resilience, and the art of authentic storytelling. Through his films, he illuminates the importance of representation while capturing the beauty and complexity of LGBTQ+ lives. If you haven’t yet experienced Todd’s films, now is the perfect time to explore these powerful stories that resonate worldwide.

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political talking point …This phrase had direct political implications and was therefore asked to be covered up.”

Van Horn thinks this is laughable. “ I don’t know where you grew up, but I grew up in Yakima and in Seattle, and in my civics class, democracy was not a partisan word,” she said. The situation was made more confusing because the group has displayed the same banner for all eight years and only now has it been an issue.

The conflict only continued to escalate when convention center staff took copies of the voting pamphlets Indivisible distributed. Van Horn says this was because someone complained about the use of the word “democracy” in those too. Elduen wrote it was because the materials were “partisan” and anti-Trump. Van Horn was later told it was because the back of their clipboards, which held the voter registration paperwork, had the Indivisible logo.

It’s almost a full year since the festival, and with registration for the 2025 edition opening soon, members of the Indivisible group haven’t forgotten what they characterize as a free speech violation.

On March 25, Van Horn spoke at the Ocean Shores city council meeting and distributed a letter describing her perspective on the events from last year. On April 7, the mayor sent his press release response. Van Horn has been protesting since, holding rallies at the convention center and demanding an apology for how the group was treated last summer.

“ I don’t feel like I or anybody in our group has done anything wrong, and so we shouldn’t be the ones that have to back down,” Van Horn said. “I’m gonna follow John Lewis’ lead and make good trouble.”

She is out of town for a bit, but if the mayor doesn’t apologize before she gets back, Van Horn says they’ll continue to protest, “probably once a week until something happens.”

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LS: The novel tackles animal mistreatment and exploitation. Why was it necessary to explore these issues?

FG: Too many animals face mistreatment today, so I wanted to raise awareness through my story.

LS: What challenges did you face when transitioning from the structured format of a screenplay to a novel?

FG: Transitioning from screenwriting to novel writing has been a transformative experience. In screenplays, precision is key. Every word needs to serve a specific purpose. However, novels provide the freedom to explore settings, characters, and emotions in greater depth. My biggest challenge was retraining my mind to embrace this newfound freedom and letting go of the instinct to be overly restrained.

LS: The characters feel vivid and relatable. How did you bring them to life and give each one a distinct personality?

FG: I find great joy in creating captivating characters. Take Morton the mouse, for example—he’s dramatic, flamboyant, and impossible to ignore. His personality truly brings the story to life. Then there’s the narcissistic ringmaster, whose authoritative behavior creates havoc in the narrative. Each character I create is a vital part of the story, and their unique traits weave a memorable element into the plot.

LS: Why did you choose New Orleans as the setting for your book?

FG: I’m captivated by its charm. The music, cuisine, and history always fascinate me. The city has a unique depth. Its centuries-old roots and cultural richness create an ideal setting for a novel.

LS: Would you describe Circus Animals as a gay book?

FG: Without giving away any spoilers, one central character has strong feelings for his best friend, while another is shy and vulnerable but undergoes a remarkable transformation. The novel thoughtfully incorporates LGBTQ+ themes throughout its narrative.

LS: One last question—who is the intended audience for this book?

FG: The book targets young adult readers but appeals to all ages. Knowing that my book brings happiness to everyone fills me with joy.

Gaimari captivates readers in Circus Animals with well-developed characters and intricately woven plots. If you’re looking for an escape, this book is for you. It’s available online and at local bookstores everywhere.

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- From Page 9 demonstrations and encourage people to sign up for further education. A number of hair stylists, nail artists, and even a life coach came to give tips and tricks to those just starting their journey of having to style themselves in a whole new way. Someone donated a couple dozen doughnuts. A local political action group, Indivisible, was present to hear about the community’s fears. We even had a Queer wedding during the event!

“If you would have told me four years ago when you started a burger truck in downtown Kennewick that I’d be crying while photographing a wedding in the parking lot, I would have laughed at you,” said Jan Mennenga, a photographer and my best friend.

For the first time in a while, those scared Trans faces were joyful. Everyone was able to express themselves freely, surrounded by other members of the community. Suddenly, for one day, our visibility felt great again. Sure, we didn’t change policy, or the world’s opinions of us, but for a day at least, we all felt seen.

McVAY - From page 15 when I stumbled upon an ad in Backstage looking for an actress. I auditioned and was surprised to land the role. Todd Stephens, the director and producer of the film, told me I reminded him of his mother. That moment began my journey into this magical corner of filmmaking, and it’s been an incredible ride ever since!

FG: Many fans see you as an iconic “mother figure” in Gay films. How do you feel about this legacy, and what does it mean to you personally?

SM: Being a “mother figure” is an incredible honor, and I take great pride in that title. When members of the LGBTQ+ community come up to me and say, “I wish you were my mother,” my heart swells with joy. I embrace everyone with open arms and listen to their stories.

FG: What draws you to roles in LGBTQ+ films, and how do you

approach portraying such meaningful relationships on screen?

SM: I feel truly blessed to have Todd Stephens in my life, because he consistently reaches out to me for these roles. The characters I portray possess similar traits, so I draw inspiration from my mother, who was loving, compassionate, and very accepting.

FG: Do specific moments or scenes from your career stand out as impactful or unforgettable?

SM: One scene from Edge of Seventeen is particularly impactful for me. It’s when I’m sitting at the piano, and my son reveals to me that he’s Gay. That scene never fails to touch my heart and bring a tear to my eye.

FG: Do you have a personal connection to the LGBTQ+ community that has influenced your work or understanding of these stories?

SM: Yes. I appreciate the friendships I’ve built with the LGBTQ+ community. Their support, love, and perspectives have significantly enhanced my life.

FG: Looking back at your career, what are you most proud of? Are there any upcoming projects or roles you’re excited about?

SM: Reflecting on my career, I feel a deep pride in my journey. Every role I’ve taken in film and television has been significant. As for the future, I’m excited about what lies ahead — my career is far from over. My passion for acting will never fade.

I recently spoke with Todd Stephens about an upcoming film, and he mentioned his interest in casting me for the project. I’m hopeful the film receives the green light and can find myself in front of the camera again.

FG: The ending of Edge of Seventeen leaves much open to interpretation,

especially concerning the mother’s journey. One lingering question is whether she ultimately came to accept her son’s homosexuality.

SM: The 1980s were a challenging era for LGBTQ+ individuals and their families, marked by widespread misunderstanding and a lack of resources for parents navigating their children’s identities. Despite the complexities and emotional struggles depicted in the film, I believe there is a deep love between the mother and son. She embraces her son for who he truly is.

Talking with Stephanie McVay felt like catching up with an old friend. Her warmth and openness made the conversation enjoyable. She answered my questions with care, leaving me excited for her future and in awe of her impressive work. Stephanie is a true treasure of the Queer community. Her positive impact is unmistakable.

Cara Nokes is a Trans woman and the co-owner/chef of Hot Mess Burgers and Fries in downtown Kennewick. She is a wife, parent of five children, and occasional writer

Tri-Cities’ First Trans Day of Visibility Photos by Jan Mennenga

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from staff members at the Spokane Regional Health District and internal workgroups at the city — the Human Rights Commission and the Equity Subcommittee.

“I was surprised to learn that a lot of the language in our Title 18 Human Rights Code hadn’t been updated since 2017,” Dillon said. “ There was still outdated language mixing gender and sex and kind of swapping definitions interchangeably while not broadening to include, for example, Two-Spirit individuals.”

e final draft of the ordinance is scheduled for a first reading on April 21 and a vote on April 28.

Council Member Zack Zappone, the first openly queer candidate to be elected to the Spokane City Council and co-sponsor of the ordinance, said that as national policies have a real impact locally, it’s important for Spokane to “guarantee that you do have protections, that you do belong.”

By enshrining these protections, especially the guaranteed healthcare coverage, it ensures that “if anything were to ever change in the future, if there was a new mayor, they’d be held to the code, and if they tried to peel back these protections, it would be a more difficult public process,” Zappone said.

“We need a lot more understanding and kindness in Spokane and our society. At large, I really believe that the trans, non-binary and gender non-conforming community is beautiful and strong and they deserve support,” Dillon said. “I hope that this ordinance at least helps make a difference to those goals.

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A nice start’

Since the first official discussion of the ordinance, when it was introduced at the March 24 Finance and Administration Committee meeting, queer community leaders have been advocating for its passage.

“Hearing the proposed update to the municipal code was a relief because I feel honored that my city notices my community, upholds our rights and safeguards the care we need, which is currently being attacked federally,” Louis Stay, the director of Trans Spokane, said during the meeting.

Erin C. who did not provide her last name during the meeting, spoke about how crucial the ordinance was for queer youth.

“My son is transgender,” she said. “Since the November election, we’ve been living in fear, and since January 20, every single day there is an uncertainty or a fear that we are constantly thinking about. Is this community safe? What about our friends that live just across the border? Will we have access to healthcare?”

Knowing that there are local efforts to protect her son and his future was reassuring, she said.

As the ordinance has moved through the city’s legislative process, queer community leaders have been supportive as well.

“ This ordinance does a lot that needs to be done, and it creates a pathway for us to advocate for future policy that does even more,” said KJ January, director of advocacy at Spectrum Center. “It’s an opening. It’s a start.”

There’s a lot to like about the ordinance: January pointed to the language updates to codify LGBTQIA2S+ people’s rights within the city as a necessary change “which should have been done decades ago,” and the enhanced privacy protections for queer people who may be seeking refuge in Spokane from anti-queer laws in other states.

She’d like to see the city’s protections for her community go even further. “I feel like it could be a little bit more aggressive with it, especially when it comes to the intersectionality of it all, where it comes to BIPOC humans as well as disabled individuals.”

Jenny McCormick, a spokesperson for Trans Spokane, described the ordinance as “a nice start and a huge step in the right direction.”

“It does give some reassurance from Spokane that we’re being seen, we’re heard and this is a safe place for trans people,” she said. “One of the things that is nice is that it changes some older city codes to be in line with what’s already required by state law, such as changing the city ordinance that no city resources or employees may be used to criminally investigate someone for gender-affirming care.”

While doubling up city code with state code might seem on its face like a pointless gesture, January sees it as a necessity in a tenuous political climate.

“We are not certain about how Governor Ferguson will react to potential threats from the federal government, based on how he’s moving,” January said. “And he’s been largely silent since the executive orders started pouring in.”

There have been some affirmations of the Washington state government’s support from others technically in the Governor’s office, like the LGBTQ+ Commission’s consistent advocacy, Attorney General Nick Brown’s challenge to Trump’s threat to cut funding for any medical institution providing gender-affirming care for minors and Office of Superintendent of Public Instruction Chris Reykdal’s recommitment to DEI efforts in schools and protections for trans students.

One of the only direct communications on LGBTQ+ issues from Ferguson’s office has been to expedite gender marker changes on birth certificates. Since then, Ferguson has fought against the legislature’s attempts to pass a wealth tax, proposed cuts to state Medicaid and advocated for furloughs as a cost-saving measure, all moves that have progressives feeling wary.

Here’s a quick breakdown of exactly what the ordinance does:

• Creates a Shield Law for Spokane, which means that no city resources will be used to assist in investigating or detaining an individual for exercising their rights, which include seeking genderaffirming care. This clarifies city-specific protection, in addition to the state’s standing Shield Law, which queer community leaders have asked for amid concerns about Governor Bob Ferguson’s commitment to the LGBTQ+ community.

• Cleans up outdated language in the city’s Human Rights code, defining gender affirming care in the city’s glossary and adding “Two Spirit” — an indigenous queer identity — to the LGBTQIA2S+ community definition.

• Prohibits the city from collecting or disseminating information about anyone’s sex assigned at birth, unless it’s related to a criminal investigation.

• Guarantees health insurance for city employees and their families will cover reproductive and gender-affirming healthcare, as well as care for HIV+ people.

• Directs the Spokane Police Department to maintain an LGTBQIA2S+ liaison officer to act as a point of contact and build trust with the community.

• Requires the city to conduct regular review of policies and practices to ensure they’re equitable and affirming for LGBTQIA2S+ people.

• Directs the city to collaborate with LGBTQIA2S+ leaders and event organizers to ensure public safety and well-being for community members and event attendees.

“Our eyes are on Ferguson,” said January.

If the ordinance passes in two weeks (as it likely will with a progressive supermajority on the council), McCormick will feel like “ there’s more work that could be done, but it’s enough of a foot in the door to start heading in a better direction as a whole,” she said. “And it reaffirms that for a lot of people who are concerned in the current climate of the US right now, that Spokane is safe and people can come here.”

Dillon doesn’t see that as the end of the work that needs to be done. “This is part of a longer journey to work to uplift the voices of trans individuals in Spokane,” he said.

For Zappone, while the specifics of the law are important, it’s the bigger picture statement that matters most.

“This ordinance is about providing safety and freedom for all community members, in particular LGBTQ community members,” Zappone said. “Everybody in Spokane deserves to feel included in their community and safe in their community, and they have the right to make choices about their own body. It shouldn’t be government bureaucrats that are deciding what you can and cannot do.”

Make your voice heard

There is an opportunity to testify on this ordinance. On April 28, during the 6 pm regular Spokane City Council meeting, you can sign up to testify specifically on this ordinance, listed in the sign-up sheet as “Ordinance C36667,” for up to three minutes.

While much of the response to the ordinance has been positive,

there have been some pretty vocal naysayers, including Spokane City Council Member Jonathan Bingle. He proposed a slate of amendments to the ordinance that would have banned trans women from competing in city-funded sports events like Bloomsday and mandated that city bathrooms are segregated based on sex assigned at birth. Those amendments were voted down 5-2 by the council during an agenda review session earlier this week, but for some queer people, harm has already been done.

“To hear different harmful rhetorics, even from different council members, it makes it feel unsafe for people to be able to talk to council members and talk to the city leadership,” McCormick said.

To alleviate some of the safety concerns while still supporting people in sharing their voices, Spectrum Center is hosting watch parties during the council meetings where the ordinance is up for discussion and a vote. People will be able to watch the meetings in community and testify from a space they feel comfortable in.

Dillon hopes that this ordinance is the first step in making City Hall feel more accessible and safe for queer Spokanites.

“I think that we have a long way to go in terms of making council a more welcoming environment,” Dillon said. “ I think that given where we are at as a society, and safety being paramount, [hosting watch parties] is a wise decision, and I’m fully supportive and I look forward to joining them in celebration after this ordinance passes.”

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pride flags, but it has only been controversial in Republic, she said. The board received more comments supporting the flag than against it.

A group of residents calling themselves the Republic Library Changemakers asked the board to write a flag policy to only allow the U.S. and Washington state flags to be displayed at the library. Members of the group could not be reached or declined to comment for this article.

At previous board meetings, members of the group said the pride flag is a political statement and it makes them feel “unsafe” and “unwelcome.”

Because the library district doesn’t own its buildings and by extension their flagpoles, the board on Feb. 20 approved a general display policy rather than a flag policy, Walters said.

Republic Public Library does not have a flagpole, but an American flag prominently hangs from a wall mount on the library’s front porch.

The new policy gives library staff discretion to curate displays that represent the diversity of their communities and recognize marginalized voices. It was informed by the American Library Association’s Library Bill of Rights, Freedom to Read and Freedom to View statements.

“Displays are designed to promote intellectual freedom, reflect diverse

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turned me away from God. Even at age 10, something deep within me sensed these teachings didn’t feel right. It wasn’t until a decade later that I encountered Eastern spiritual philosophies centered on love and acceptance. This new understanding transformed my perspective. Discovering that I could cultivate a personal connection with a higher power by acknowledging its presence brought me inner peace. While this journey of self-discovery and spiritual growth has taken a lifetime, it has shaped how I seek and nurture that peace within myself.

FG: The memoir dives into the “battles of the soul” between different aspects of yourself—from desire and addiction to a longing for love and purpose. Did you find peace and self-acceptance through this book?

LM: One of the greatest gifts of this work was making peace with my father. For so long, I blamed him for my loneliness and wondered if I would ever feel complete acceptance. As I relived my childhood, I could put myself in my father’s shoes, struggling to find his way and how difficult it must have been for an immigrant in a new country. It’s not very different from what we continue to see in the U.S.

FG: Your book is a time capsule of a fleeting, permissive era that preceded the AIDS crisis, which changed everything. What lessons or inspiration do you hope young queer readers today will take from

viewpoints, and foster lifelong learning,” the policy says.

After the board approved the policy, Short announced that she would not support the $772,500 state funding request for the design phase of the library’s expansion project.

“With great reluctance, I have decided not to pursue a capital budget appropriation for the Republic Library for the 2025 legislative session,” Short said in a statement.

“I have long been a supporter of strong libraries in our communities. However, a local controversy regarding the year-round display of a ‘Gay Pride’ flag has proven extremely divisive, and until this is resolved, action on our part in Olympia to expand this facility would only deepen local frustration with library management.”

Short said there might have been a way forward if the flag had come down at the end of Pride Month and called the library district to develop a better process for the public to request policy changes. She said she believes the library “can find a way to serve marginalized communities without making a political statement that many patrons find offensive,” and she hopes to reconsider the proposal next year.

The dream to build a new library began with a land donation to the Friends of the Republic Library a few years ago. Since then, the group has spearheaded an ambitious plan to build not only a new library, but also a community center and day care in

your unforgettable odyssey in Flew Too High?

LM: Even though we’re not politically out of the woods, the LGBTQ+ community has a strong, collective voice that we did not have in the ’70s. I hope they understand the significant strides we’ve made, the advances in health and medicine that so many gay brothers and sisters gave their lives for, so that today’s queer community has a greater chance for well-being. Of course, the battle isn’t over!

FG: You’ve hinted at a sequel to Flew Too High. Can you share details about what readers can expect in the next chapter of your story?

LM: The next book delves deeper into the struggles of addiction and the oppressive grip of government control. Old criminal habits don’t disappear overnight, and the impending crisis of “gay cancer”—a term tragically coined during the early AIDS epidemic—was about to change everything. As we made progress in opening the closet door and gaining societal acceptance, suddenly, it slammed shut again. Imagine being a young, sexually active person told to stop living authentically or face dire consequences. We lost countless lives, but many of us survived. I feel profoundly grateful to share this ongoing journey and the lessons it teaches us.

Louis Mandrapilias’ book can be found online and in bookstores everywhere.

the same building.

If fully realized, it would cost about $18 million, said Friends member and building committee co-chair Emily Burt. The library alone would be about $6 million. The project has raised about $1 million so far through public and private sources.

For the last couple of years the Friends were successful in landing funding through state Rep. Jacquelin Maycumber, a Republic resident. With Maycumber’s leaving the House early this year, the Friends made a new request to Short.

Burt said Short was initially supportive until she heard complaints about the flag.

Burt said it was “disappointing” because the Friends have nothing to do with NCW Libraries policy. Members of the Friends have diverse views about the pride flag, but are united in their goal to build the new facility. They are still committed to moving forward.

The current library has everything cramped into one room. A new library would provide more space for expanding the library’s collections, adding staff rooms, and separating the children’s story time area, maker space and computer lab.

Burt said there is no licensed child care facility in the county or within an hour’s drive of Republic. The lack of child care limits an already limited local workforce, she said. The town also lacks a large community meeting space, so the meeting room could be

used for many purposes.

“We want to provide for this community what most of America has already,” Burt said.

Republic Mayor Gabe Becklin said the city is neutral about the flag issue, but is fully supportive of the new building project.

“I hope the hubbub doesn’t hold up the new library progress,” he said.

U.S. Sen. Maria Cantwell visited the library in August and has requested $2.8 million in rural development appropriations from Congress for fiscal year 2025.

Members of the Ferry County GayStraight Alliance traveled to the NCW Libraries board meeting in Wenatchee last Thursday to speak in support of the Republic library.

The gay-straight alliance had nothing to do with adding the flag to the library, but the group was formed in direct response to the Changemakers’ hateful comments against the gay community, alliance member Crystal Strong said.

“From our perspective it is not just about the flag, it is about human rights and visibility in our community,” Strong said.

The library is one of the few safe spaces for everyone, she said.

Strong has lived in Republic with her wife for 20 years. It is generally a welcoming community with a focus on tourism, she said.

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And as Anheuser-Busch backed out, Walmart stepped up. The corporation sponsored Spokane Pride with $5,000 in 2024, and told Danielson they would be donating more this year, with 15 of their stores across the Inland Northwest represented at Spokane Pride.

There has also been an uptick in individual support at local rallies and queercentric events, like the Gender Freedom March and the Trans Day of Visibility Art Show last month. Spokane Pride has had successful fundraisers, too, like the Broadway Brunch they recently threw in conjunction with West Coast Entertainment.

Spokane Pride has also stepped up in the community, taking on an active role beyond just planning the annual event to sponsor other local rallies and events. Danielson personally started a new digital organizing group to collate and share regional protests and actions, which he moderates with a few other community members. The support from and for LGBTQ+ people in Spokane has given him a lot of hope.

“ I’m cautiously optimistic we’re gonna be okay. But, it’s still looking to be a pretty rough year because we do have some rising costs in the park and a lot of other areas,” Danielson said. “ We are losing a lot of low level sponsors, like a lot of the $1,000 ones.”

Danielson added that Spokane Pride is still looking for sponsorships from businesses, as well as event registrations, which cover the remainder of the costs. Individual monthly recurring donations, which empower them to better estimate revenue, and one-off donations are also welcomed, he said. And for those who want to support Spokane Pride but can’t afford to do so monetarily, there are other options.

“We need about 250 to 300 volunteers for the weekend of Pride,” Danielson said. “So if you don’t have money, volunteer!”

Financial security for other regional Pride festivals

North Idaho Pride Alliance

Across the state border and less than an hour away, the North Idaho Pride Alliance (NIPA) organizes Coeur d’Alene’s Pride in the Park festival, which had over 2500 attendees last year.

While a few of their typical donors pulled out or scaled back their contributions from 2024 to 2025, NIPA received enough new donors to fill the funding gap, executive director Sarah Lynch wrote in an email.

“NIPA has been blown away by the community who continue coming out of the woodwork to support our vision of a North Idaho where LGBTQIA+ people belong, can connect, and are empowered to thrive,” Lynch wrote. “Whether as individuals, local businesses, or state corporations, we are deeply appreciative of the support from folks who understand, as we do,

“We see only the potential of what we might gain rather than feeling the loss of something we never had. With the constant pressure from this current presidency, we have seen the community rally and stand with us. It is heartening to see such a loving and supportive community here in the Walla Walla Valley.”

not only that they’re not afraid to be their true selves, but that they are happier and healthier humans for it,” Bryant wrote. “Straight and cisgender people who give a damn need to be willing to stand publicly with the LGBTQ+ community. Allies’ voices — and actions — must be every bit as powerful as those they care for during this dreadful chapter of our nation’s history.”

Pride

--Jeremy Mendenhall, Board Chair Walla Walla

“NIPA has been blown away by the community who continue coming out of the woodwork to support our vision of a North Idaho where LGBTQIA+ people belong, can connect, and are empowered to thrive,”

--Sarah

Lynch, Executive Director, North Idaho Pride Alliance

that Pride saves lives.”

She added that Pride planning in this cultural moment reminded her of a Chinese proverb that reads, “A crisis is an opportunity riding a dangerous wind.”

“While we acknowledge the immediate physical danger many in the LGBTQIA+ community currently face, we also recognize an opportunity for community healing through the connection and visibility that NIPA provides,” Lynch wrote.

She encouraged the community to engage with NIPA digitally, consider signing up to volunteer with the organization, work to uplift queer voices and “be a safe space for your LGBTQIA+ neighbors and family.”

Tri-Cities Pride

In Pasco, Washington, the Tri-Cities Pride Festival is planned for June 22. Organizers there said that support for Pride has mostly stayed steady. They currently have 35 exhibitors signed up for the event, and while they had 54 in 2024, it’s not a cause for concern yet: Kenzie Budgie, the Communications Chair on the Tri-Cities Pride board said that last year many of their exhibitor sign-ups came in a last minute rush.

“Something we have all noticed as a board and just as we organize this event is that you can definitely see a sense of excitement in the people that are signing up to participate from the businesses, the vendors, the exhibitors, the performers — there’s this very unified front of excitement because this community knows that we need it right now,” Budgie said.

They added that for folks looking to get involved, there’s still time to sign up to sponsor, exhibit, perform or volunteer at the event.

“There is so much fear and anxiety and just unknown surrounding the political state of the world right now,” Budgie said. “ But I think that fear also inspires so much hope and so much resilience and so much push and drive to be like, ‘No, we are here and we are going to celebrate and we are going to be happy.’”

Grays Harbor Pride

Since the Grays Harbor Pride festival isn’t scheduled until September 13 of 2025, they have more time for event planning and have yet to see any potential impact to their fundraising and sponsorships, wrote Kat Bryant, the interim president of the Out & Proud Grays Harbor Coalition — the group planning the festival.

Since they’ve never relied on big corporate sponsorships, though, they don’t anticipate any negative impacts on their planning. Locally, businesses and individuals have actually been showing more support, wrote Steven Puvogel, the chairman of the coalition’s Pride Committee.

Bryant wrote that folks can show their support by attending their local Pride events, donating money or specific skills, posting supportively on social media and volunteering to help at Pride festivals.

“Given the situation in our nation’s capital, it’s more important than ever to celebrate Pride. The LGBTQ+ community must continue to raise their voices, to be seen — to show

Walla Walla Pride

As they head into their fifth year, the Walla Walla Pride Festival hasn’t felt any hardships from loss of corporate donors, in large part because they’ve kept their past celebrations quiet and organized on a shoestring budget. Instead, they’ve been feeling the community love: this year, they’ve been asked to move the festival to downtown Walla Walla, “into the very heart of the town.”

“Because of this, we see only the potential of what we might gain rather than feeling the loss of something we never had,” wrote Jeremy Mendenhall, board chair of Walla Walla Pride. “With the constant pressure from this current presidency, we have seen the community rally and stand with us. It is heartening to see such a loving and supportive community here in the Walla Walla Valley.”

Still, it doesn’t mean the national climate hasn’t impacted queer people in the Walla Walla Valley. Mendenhall wrote that it has been “overwhelming to see so much hate directed towards the very community of people who open their arms to all the misfits and outliers, and, in my opinion, best exemplify non-judgmental love.”

National attitudes have been tempered by local love, with the Walla Walla Pride organizational team swelling from five people in 2024 to 40 in 2025, and Mendenhall has more ideas to keep the community support rolling: “One of the biggest things we need is for businesses to stand with us all year long, not just in June. If you are a business owner, hang an inclusive flag up in your shop to let people know that you are safe and they are welcome there. Convert those outdated single-user gendered restrooms to all-user restrooms. Let people know you stand with the queer community.”

We also reached out to organizers of Yakima Pride and Pacific County Pride for comment. If we receive a response, we will update this story.

Spokane Pride Parade 2024 | Photos courtesy of Erick Doxey for RANGE Media

Illustration by Ken Min