December 2019/January 2020

The Lantern December 2019/January 2020

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Welcome to St Peter’s Church, Harton and St Mark and St Cuthbert’s, Cleadon Park Priest

Rev Kate Boardman MA FHEA revkateboardman@gmail.com

0191 4554682

Hon Assistant Priest

Rev Canon Hails, JP FCMA bhails@btinternet.com

0191 5295297

Hon Assistant Priest

Rev Stan Buyers MEd LCG stanbuyers@btinternet.com

0191 5365452

Reader

Peter Cross

0191 4566047

EUCHARIST Usually sung Eucharist with children’s groups.

Tea & Coffee follows in the Green Room.

• 11.00 am

EVENING SERVICE We have a variety of evening worship styles including Taize, Songs of Praise, Quiet Meditation and Iona Worship

• 6.00 pm

Thursday

EUCHARIST

• 10.00 am

Daily Prayer

EVENING PRAYER is said each day - a quiet and contemplative service of prayer and readings

Vicarage:3 Page Avenue, South Shields, NE34 0SY

Sunday

For bookings of BAPTISMS, WEDDINGS and CALLING OF BANNS, there will be someone available at St Peter’s Church every Wednesday 6.15 pm - 6.45 pm For any queries about church services or bookings contact Rev Kate Boardman

REGULAR SERVICES AT ST MARK & ST CUTHBERT’S

Sunday

EUCHARIST Followed by coffee in the Hall

• 9.30 am

Tuesday

EUCHARIST Followed by coffee in the Hall

• 10.00 am

For bookings of BAPTISMS, WEDDINGS and CALLING OF BANNS, or for any queries about church services or bookings contact Rev Kate Boardman 3

From the Vestry

there is at stake a much bigger accountability.

Already in November, mention

Christmas in school assembly and a When we look back at our own lives at sense of palpable excitement creeps in the end, then it probably won’t be so (also elves in the Christmas story, but much about numbers, things that can hey…). Our readings in the last weeks be counted in that way. Because the leading up to Advent are full of things that really matter so often are anticipation in a different sense – full not things that numbers can be put on. of the last days and judgement, which For individuals or for church. Numbers close the church year for us to begin are important, yes (just ask the again with Advent. It is often a ‘minitreasurer as he tries to stretch out our season’ which is almost missed. This giving to make the parish share total year, as Advent carries us through for the year!) but the quality and depth beyond Christmas into 2020, we might of our relationships, with God, with like to linger a little in these weeks that each other and with others is so much can sometimes feel almost incidental. more.

The deanery resource church funding proposal will report in the early days of December and so if successful we will need then to spend some very focussed time setting out a more detailed vision, plan and costings, along with targets and accountability structures. This is set against the backdrop of a powerful message from Bishop Emma Ineson at the diocesan Waymark conference in October about not everything that can be counted mattering, and not everything that mattered being able to be counted. We shall need to identify and to state where and when and how we will be able to be counted – judged – on the resource church activities, but we are reminded by the current readings that

You may well not have noticed (yet), but our church websites have recently had an overhaul – partly in preparation for moving forwards with resource church – and they lay out the things that we do as church family and as outreach. They try to reflect honestly who we are to anyone who looks – and in fact plenty do – from ‘outside’. In taking time to explore them, one observes two things: the first is that we do do a lot and we should feel able to celebrate that, and the second is that it is indeed about relationship(s) as well as worship.

Our centre pages this issue give you a small glimpse into what we do, taken from our website – they are only the introductory invitation to go deeper, 4

but hopefully they will provide some food for thought. As we move into the new year, we shall be looking more closely at how we would describe our faith, our vision and our mission (that is: our faith, the church’s vision, God’s mission)

of Christ the King, recognition of our trust that he is Lord of all and will one day bring all things together into him in the new Jerusalem, no more pain, no more suffering, no more death.

And that is the knowledge we take into Advent, Christmas and 2020, the good news of the coming and birth of Jesus Christ as our saviour, Emmanuel.

Which of course is not only good news for us to hear again for ourselves, but also for us to invite others to experience for themselves .

That in and amongst the pain and brokenness of today’s world, where so many places and situations sound like the apocalyptic scenarios of our current readings, there is still hope, and the hope of salvation, because into all devastation and despair comes the tiny flame of life in a baby born in a stable. As we teach the children to pray:

One of the things we pray in the seasonal booklet for ordinary time, is Pour your Spirit on us, that we may love one another, work for the healing of the earth, and share the good news of Jesus, as we wait for his coming in glory.

This seems quite well to encompass some major themes which reflect us: that sense of relationship – inspiration to love God and respond to the new commandment; the urge and the need to ‘strive to safeguard creation’ – one of the Anglican 5 marks of mission and of course a key topic in news of climate change, plastic pollution etc, all those things Greta Thunberg calls us to and which ‘ecochurch’ brings to the fore; and then to think about evangelism and the bringing of good news to others. The last two phrases of the prayer bring us back to where we currently are – here in the now which is not yet, days of upheaval and violence, waiting for Christ to come in glory but reminded of the disruption that will precede it.

But we issue this edition at the feast

Lord Jesus, we thank you that you were born as a baby in Bethlehem, that you left the glory of heaven and came to live among us, like a candle shining in the darkness. Teach us to shine like lights with your love.

Love cannot be counted, but it matters most of all. How we have loved, and how we have held that light out to others is how, at the end, we will [want to] be judged.

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Durham Cathedral - ‘YEAR OF PILGRIMAGE 2020’

One of the earliest names for Christians was people of The Way. The idea of a year of Pilgrimage 2020 is that following Waymark ’19 we simply focus in 2020 on being God’s pilgrim people. A year of simple prayer and reflection what it means to talk with Jesus, invite others to walk with us, and discover personally and together more of what it means to be this pilgrim people. A year for people of all ages. The pilgrimage year has been significantly aided by the development of $ new Pilgrimage routes into Durham Cathedral.

The four new routes have been designed by Davis Pott. Their development, marking and promotion is being led by a variety of local organisations co-ordinated by Durham County Council.It is hoped that people who just enjoy walking, people who want to take time to reflect on life, and people on specific pilgrimage will all find these routes valuable.

Bishop’s Paul and Sarah will be ‘launching’ them as Pilgrimage routes by walking them during 2020.

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The Way of Life - Gainford to Durham Monday April 6th - Thursday April 9th (Holy Week - concluding with a brief walk to St Oswald’s, Durham to the Cathedral for the Chrism Eucharist) The Way of Love - Hartlepool to Durham Thursday May 21st (Ascension Day) -Saturday 23rd May The Way of Learning - Jarrow to Durham Sunday May 24th - Wednesday May 27th The Way of Light - Heavenfield / Hexham to Durham Thursday May 28th - Sunday May 31st (Pentecost) Bishops Christine and Mark will also be joining with this pilgrimage as half of it lies in Newcastle Diocese. This will conclude with a Thy Kingdom Come event in the Cathedral.

Alongside the walking each day there will be evening events reflecting on the day and specific themes. Special guests will be joining in these. Lord Michael Bates is joining us for The Way of Life and the writer and broadcaster Sheridan Voysey for the Way of Learning.

Thy Kingdom Come (May 21st - 31st) This international ecumenical 10 days of prayer is going to have a strong Pilgrimage theme to it in 2020. So it can be used well at a local level to help us all with our discovery of being pilgrims and inviting others to join us on the way.

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Prayer Our daily lives are often very full. Full of things to do. Full of meetings and deadlines. Full of places to be. Full of people to meet.

worship, and forms a pattern for prayer for Christians: • We bless God and pray for our world, our communities and our lives to be shaped by God’s will; • We pray for daily needs to be met, • F o r f o r g i v e n e s s f o r wrongdoings, strength to resist temptation and protection from danger.

For some they may be full of time on our hands. Full of hopes we would like to fulfil. Full of things we don’t want to face. Where is God during our daily lives? How do we find God in fullness, in the full-ness of life?

So what is ‘prayer’?

Prayer is simply a conversation with God. It does not need special words or a place, although people find these can help. Prayer includes asking God for help with things that trouble us. It also includes thanksgiving for the good things in our lives and the world.

The Lord’s prayer The Lord’s Prayer is the prayer that teaches us how to pray. There are two versions of this prayer recorded in the gospels: a longer form within the Sermon on the Mount in the Gospel of Matthew, and a shorter form in the Gospel of Luke when "one of his disciples said to him, 'Lord, teach us to pray, as John taught his disciples.'" (Luke 11:1 NRSV).

Praying with or without words You can use your own words to talk with God, as you would with a friend.

Sometimes we use a lot of words in prayer, at other times just a few words like, “Dear God, please help my Mum to get better” or “Please help Fred find a job” are needed.

Sitting in silence thinking about God can also be a prayer, as can weeping.

Most Christians know the prayer by heart in their own language, and it is used today by every Christian tradition, though there are sometimes minor variations in the wording. It has a place in every Anglican act of 8

Pray wherever you are Some people like to have a particular place for prayer such as a chair or by a candle or a cross on a shelf. You can also pray: • at home • at work • when walking the dog • standing at the bus stop • enjoying beautiful scenery

Christ beside me, Christ to win me, Christ to comfort and restore me.

Christ beneath me, Christ above me, Christ in quiet, Christ in danger, Christ in hearts of all that love me, Christ in mouth of friend and stranger.

Amen.

A Prayer for ending every day with God However long you have been able to give, offer this time to God with a closing prayer.

‘Before the ending of the day, Creator of the world, we pray That you, with steadfast love, would keep Your watch around us while we sleep.

From evil dreams defend our sight, From fears and terrors of the night; Tread underfoot our deadly foe That we no sinful thought may know.

O Father, that we ask be done Through Jesus Christ, your only Son; And Holy Spirit, by whose breath Our souls are raised to life from death.’

Amen.

You can pray whenever you like.

However some people find it helpful to pray at particular times such as: • when you first wake up • before a meal • before you go to bed Lighting a candle Some people like to light a candle as a visible sign of their prayer which continues to burn after they have left the church. If you like, you can write your prayer on a piece of paper and leave it in the basket or pin it to the board at the back of church. We will then read out your prayer at our regular services.

Prayers for starting your day with God Over coffee, as you’re walking or commuting, or as part of a communal prayer to start the day, invite God into your day and pray for God’s presence and guidance.

What next?

If you want more guidance on prayer, we have a daily prayer booklet at the back of church. You can also join our services, either morning or evening (see page 3 for details).

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St Peter’s Monthly Draw September 2019 1st Prize

£50

128

Chris Thornton

2nd Prize

£20

159

Karen Corbyn

3rd Prize

£10

47

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£50

110

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2nd Prize

£20

127

Joanne Thornton

3rd Prize

£10

103

Colin Brown

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Eco Bricks Help the planet, if you are not doing so start packing Eco Bricks now.

horizontally, where they are mortared together with clay or cement.

Liza writes It's a good way of recycling bits of plastic that would normally end in landfill; crisp packets carrier bags sweet wrappers etc.

Push the bits of plastic into plastic pop bottles and try to get them to a certain weight so they can then be used to build schools, houses etc in other counties.

Therefore helping 3rd world countries and saving the planet by less rubbish ending up in landfill and our oceans etc.

We send them to Bilton hall where a lady sends them abroad or uses them for crafts such as making chairs tables etc.

The brownies started it last year and have earned a badge to do with recycling. It has caught on with work colleagues and one is building the wall for a raised bed for his flowers in his allotment

Take a two-litre plastic drinks bottle, a heap of plastic bags, crisp packets and other non-biodegradable waste (roughly one week’s worth of plastic waste), and a stick. Pack the bottle full of the waste materials, packing it as tightly as you can, using the stick. That’s it. You have an EcoBrick.

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SNIPPETS, STORIES AND SOUNDBITES Last Christmas, our grandson in New When they experienced their first big Zealand announced to his parents that quake, they had to crawl their way in “next year at this time, I will be in pitch darkness, find the cat and all England, in South Shields”. True to his huddle with the boys in their lower word he is taking part in a student bunk bed till daybreak. Subsequently travel scheme to Europe (the they were more prepared and on the organisers being Kon Tiki, I hope he is occasion of one Christmastime quake, not coming on a raft!). It also happens Peter wrote, or adapted the following: to be his, and two of his cousins’ 21st - birthdays during November and “Twas two days before Christmas December so it will be ‘all systems go’ when all ‘cross the south, Tectonic in the Buyers family! I am exhausted plates stirring all shaking the house. just thinking about it, but should be The stockings were hung where the great fun. chimneys once were, in hope that St ……………………

Nicholas soon would be there.

Cameron was 5 years old when they When out from the lawn there arose went to live in New Zealand, and we such a clatter, all dropped to the floor have visited, and they have been knowing what was the matter. Away home for visits, which has helped us from the window I flew like a flash, to keep up with things. One of our Tore under the table expecting a visits took place at Christmas time ‘smash’. With 16 months counting, so when they were experiencing their lively and quick, I knew in a moment it terrible earthquakes. Our last visit to must be a ‘6’. More rapid than eagles the Cathedral, before it was so badly the wobbles they came, And I shouted damaged, was to the nativity service. and shouted and called them by Traffic barriers were placed down the name! “ centre isle so that the sheep, pigs, alpacas, cats, dogs etc led by their I won’t include the final verse as the young owners, could proceed to the reindeer names are replaced by stable. (A family of guinea pigs was in expletive symbols, but it ends with the font behind us), and proceedings ‘Now away all!!!’ were overseen by the Dean with a tea Anita Buyers towel suitably adorning his head.

Happy memories! ......................

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Hussain Manawer

S h e w a s a g r e a t w o m a n , everything she left in me taught me a lot. Growing up, my mum and I had a very good relationship.

We were able to talk about so many things, even mental health.

Being able to chat about that to a Pakistani mum is a big deal, because my culture is known to be quite closed to subjects like that.

I discovered this poet when he appeared on BBC breakfast last month, discussing mental health, his special relationship with his mother and his grief when she died. Hussain is a British poet, writer and actor from Ilford, Essex.

In 2012, after graduating from the University of Westminster with a B S C H o n o u r s i n Q u a n t i t y Surveying, Manawer was selected by the London committee to become an Olympic Torchbearer for his local charitable efforts.

At university, he had suffered depression but was able to talk about it to his mother, with whom h e ’ s a l w a y s h a d a c l o s e relationship, and was able to be honest with and talk to her about everything that was bothering h i m . J u s t h a v i n g t h o s e conversations, he says, was so powerful and healing.

He feels strongly that we are going through things, but we see so much content these days we’ve become immune to it. We need, not only, to talk about feelings but to show people, too.

In 2015, he took mental health to Oxford Street, London, in the heart of one of the world’s busiest cities, where, blindfolded and equipped with just a piece of cardboard, a pen and the words, “ I f y o u ’ v e s u f f e r e d f r o m depression or anxiety, hug me.’

Of her, he says, ‘Being my mum’s son, is my greatest achievement in the world. She was a great lady.

She ran a business – not a multimillion pound one. She ran a little restaurant, she ran a home, she ran her life, she ran our lives.

In 2017 he taught a mental health awareness lesson at the Hackney 16

Empire, London, to a total turnout of 538 individuals made up from 14 local schools for a lesson which lasted 30 minutes. As a result, he set the Guinness World Record for the World’s Largest Mental Health Lesson (single venue).

me, telling me to iron my clothes at every single show.

He continues to connect with people, either on the streets or by penning an inspiring poem, marking him out as a true mental health hero.

I think of writing letters and sending them to the sky. I think of what you’d say if you came to see me here tonight. I think of all the moments, I think of all the times and my friends say I overthink, ‘cos I’m thinking all the time.

When desire sets in, mum, you’re there at every single no and I can’t let you go, and it kills me I can’t let you know.

Best years

by Hussain Manawer

I still school knot my tie and I just ride my sentence. I’m just trying to get by.

I still walk with you by my side wearing everything you taught.

I will not hide my scars, my wounds, my broken eyes and I don’t tell anyone about the nights I cried because I know they’re going to be over soon, ‘cos, Mum, it’s you I find everywhere I go, with

And I swear, mum, no lie, you gave me the best years of my life.

Because it was the first time I ever heard somebody say, ‘Son, I love you’.

Durham Cathedral Christmas Service

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Activities at St Peter’s In Church Various days Bible Study Groups meet (see weekly service sheet for details of venue) Choir Practice (meet in church)

• 6.30 pm

Wednesday

• Craft Club meets on the last

• 2.00 pm to

Thursday

• Coffee

• after the

Thursday Green Room

Wednesday afternoon of each month from January to November 2019

4.00 pm

10.00 am service Sunday

• Coffee

• after the 11.00

Sunday

• Sing and Praise- • We organise a programme of songs

am service

and praise linked to Bible stories one Sunday afternoon every three months for all ages. Dates and times are published in the Lantern Parish Magazine

Last Saturday • Coffee morning in each month

• 10.00 am to 11.30 am

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Activities at St Mark & St Cuthbert’s Church Hall Monday

• No activities

Tuesday

• Bertie’s

• ‘Crafternoon’

• 9.15 am to 11.30 am (not held in August) • after the 10.00 am Eucharist Service • 2.30 to 3.30pm

• Brownies

• 5.30 pm to 7.00 pm

• Coffee

Wednesday

• Flower Arranging Class • 10.00 am to 12 noon • Friends Together (1st Wed • 1.30 pm to 3.00 pm every month)

Thursday

• Line Dancing • Bertie’s

• 10.00 am to 11.30 am • 12.45 pm to 2.45

Friday

• Rainbows • Line Dancing

• 5.30 pm to 6.30 pm • 7.30 to 9.30 pm

Saturday

St Mark & St Cuthbert’s Coffee Morning: - 10.30 to 12 noon (None in December) - Sat 11th January Messy Church: - 10.30 -12.30

Craft, Worship, Food & Fun for all ages (None in December) Sat 25th January

Sunday

• Coffee

• after 9.30 am Parish Eucharist

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Activities at St Peter’s Church Hall Weekly Social Activities Monday

• Parents & Toddlers

• 9.30 am to 11.00 am

Monday

• Art Club U3A • 1.30 to 3.30

Tuesday

• Pilates (Judith Briggs)

• 9.30 am to 10.30 am

• Yoga (Pat Uttridge)

• 3.00 pm to 4.30 pm

• Yoga (Gill Glozier)

• 7.00pm to 8.45pm

• T’ai Chi (Martin Thorogood)

• 5.45pm to 6.45pm

Wednesday • Art & Craft Club Carol White • 10.00 am to 12 noon • Line Dancing - Beginner (Ethel • 1.00 pm to 2.00 pm Ramsey) • Line Dancing - Improver (Ethel • 2.30 pm to 4.00 pm Ramsey) • Yoga (Carrie Kirston) • 6.45 pm to 8.45 pm Thursday

• Art Club (Tom Finch) • 10.00 am to 12 noon • Keep Fit (Ethel Ramsey) • 12.30 pm to 1.30 pm • Art Club U3A • 1.30 pm to 3.30 pm

Friday

• Parents & Toddlers

• 9.30 am to 11.00 am

• Patchwork & Quilting

• 2.00 pm to 4.00 pm

Saturday

• Irish Dance

• 9.30 am to 1.30 pm

Sunday

• Kingscote Christian Group

• 10.30 am to 1.00 pm

Uniformed Organisations’ Weekly Activities Monday

• Rainbows

• 5.00 pm to 6.30 pm

• Brownies

• 5.30pm to 7.15 pm

• Guides

• 7.00 pm to 8.15 pm

Thursday

• Cubs & Scouts

• 5.45 pm to 9.00 p.m

Friday

• Beavers

• 5.30 pm to 7.15 pm 21

CHURCH PERSONNEL ST MARK & ST CUTHBERT’S Church Warden

Anne Blair-Vincent anne.blair.vincent@gmail.com

• 0191 4203886

Treasurer

Mrs Barbara Matheson

• 0191 4260007

PCC Secretary

Vacant

PCC Members

Ms Liza Dorothy, Mis Diane Lee, Ms Sarah Lysaght, Mrs Barbara Matheson, Mrs Eileen Wraith

Deanery Synod Members Mrs June Mitchinson, Miss Jean Smith Hall Booking Secretary

Ms Liza Dorothy

• 07538 719585

Magazine Committee Representative

Mrs Anita Buyers

• 0191 5365452

Safeguarding Officer

Vacant

CHURCH PERSONNEL ST PETER’S Reader

Peter Cross

• 0191 4566047

Church Wardens Mrs Ethel Ramsey ethelramsey@hotmail.com Mrs Jean Stokes jastokes@virginmedia.com

• 0191 4542341 • 0191 4207818

Treasurer

Mr Colin Brown c.brown932@btinternet.com

PCC Secretary

Vacancy

PCC Members

Mr Phil Brown, Mrs Gill Brown, Mrs Angela Clark, Mr Ronnie Clark, Ms Diann Fox , Mrs Glenn Middleton, Mrs Janet Nichols, Mr Ernie Russell (co-opted), Mr James Scott, Mrs Linda Smithson

Deanery Synod Members Mr Peter Cross, Mrs Emma Waters Hall Booking Secretary

Mrs Ethel Ramsey ethelramsey@hotmail.com

• 0191 4542341

Magazine Editor Mrs Linda Smithson lindasmithson@hotmail.co.uk • 0191 4217634 & Committee Mrs Jean Stokes jastokes@virginmedia.com • 0191 4207818 Safeguarding Officer

Mr Phil Brown philneptune@yahoo.co.uk

HARTON CHURCHES TOGETHER REPRESENTATIVES St Mark & St Cuthbert contact Anita Buyers 0191 536 5452 Harton St Peter contact Margaret Haley 0191 454 3376 22

• 07568 172375

The St Peter’s Annual ChristmasTalk

St Nicholas and Santa Claus

Thursday 12th December 2019 (a festive alternative to the election)

7.30-9.00pm

In St Peter’s Church, Harton Mulled wine and a mince pie to accompany an illustrated talk considering whether St Nicholas has transformed over the generations into Santa Claus.

Tickets £5.00