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Are one night stands the worst mistake you can make at university?
Or just a bit of fun?
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Isideknow that by writing on this of the argument, it’s inevitable I’m go-
ing to sound prudish and old fashioned. I’m going to argue that this is not the case, and that I simply like to sleep with just one man repeatedly, rather than a few guys just the once. This is just personal choice, I don’t look down on those that have one night stands - as long as they were being safe and enjoyed it; because that’s the whole point, isn’t it? Having recently come out of a long-term relationship, I was excited to be playing the field again. So, on my first night out as a free woman, I was naturally delighted when a tall, handsome man came over and started dancing with me. However, I was somewhat unprepared for when he next started trying to eat my face. I have to say, I felt a little violated and immediately afterwards persuaded my friends to go to the next bar. I’ve watched many of my single friends do this before and it had looked so much fun. Personally, I don’t think it was a substitute for kissing someone that you’ve fancied for ages and who genuinely cares about you. So, having established that I hated even kissing a strange guy in a club, I would absolutely not want to go home with them - no matter how good looking. I think the media portrays
one-night stands as normal, making you cool, confident and sexy. Think Sex and the City’s Samantha Jones. This is how onenight stands should be, where it’s a bit of mutual fun. However, the reality is rather different. It’s potentially dangerous: you’ve just met, and you have no idea what they are really like. I know it’s unlikely that they’ll be a psycho, but do you really want to take the risk? Then there’s the serious stuff, even if you were sensible enough to use a condom, you could still contract herpes or HIV. Finally, despite being in the 21st century, women are still branded as sluts for having one-night stands, while men are praised as studs. It’s not equal, but it’s the truth. I am definitely a Carrie – the serial monogamist - and not a Samantha. If you’re after casual sex, then I suggest a friend-with-benefits scenario. They’ll be more likely to keep it to themselves, you’ll know their sexual history and they’ll hopefully care if you cum or not. Again, my friends have one-night stands and I don’t think badly of them. I just know it’s not for me.
Should we be taking a leaf out of Ms Jones’ book?