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It may feel counterintuitive not to tell the complete truth, but you’re meeting your loved one in their reality. Trying to argue and rationalize will likely cause frustration for both parties. Even if you persuade them, they may subsequently forget, and then you’ll have to relive this difficult conversation. It’s important to keep in mind that you’re not trying to get your loved one to permanently remember something. You’re simply offering comfort and reassurance in the moment.
PREVENTING TRIGGERS The family member in your care may exhibit outbursts even without any triggers. When they experience anger, agitation, and other challenging symptoms, keep track of them in a journal. Journaling their symptoms can help identify any consistent triggers. Write down what happened leading up to the outburst, and record what strategy was successful in de-escalating the symptoms. While the strategies to deal with the situation can help your senior get through a difficult moment, avoiding the trigger in the first place can keep the situation from developing or escalating. However, avoidance may not always be possible, so keep this formula in mind: validate their feelings; provide a simple (even temporary) solution; and redirect to a more pleasant activity.
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“DON’T TAKE IT PERSONALLY” Aging can cause personality changes or behaviors that can be upsetting and emotional to deal with as the caregiver. It’s not easy to provide such a high level of care for someone who may not notice or appreciate the care, or who may be resentful and angry. At times, it may be necessary to walk away after doing a quick assessment of your loved one’s safety. Whether it’s to recharge emotionally, or for your safety, having a separate space to walk into is important. If you’re providing care and meeting resistance, it’s okay to consider whether that particular task really needs to
