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By Deborah Duley, MSW, LMSW, Owner and Therapist at Empowered Connections, LLC

Where Do We Go from Here?

I don’t know about you, but I swear 2020 has been the longest DECADE of my life! Since the world shut down and we had to lock ourselves in our homes, it has been an emotional roller coaster for me and everyone I know. Our entire world is suffering from different crisis’ and we’re collectively grieving and sad.

Not only has Covid-19 changed everything, but all the cracks and fissures in our American society has come to light. This country’s systemic racial disparities have finally caught the attention of every American and it cannot be ignored any longer. The weather has been devastating, including the wildfires ravaging our beautiful communities out west, while the

hurricanes have taken their ugly anxiety and depression right toll on our south. So many people now. Lack of motivation, sleep are struggling in our country right disruptions, boredom, restlessness, now, with so many issues that it is hopelessness. We are seeing this hard to figure out where to look. among ourselves and our clients So much every day.

Realize that what connects us is way grief, so much So how do anger, so much we get back to more powerful than what divides us. fear and worry. where we were Understand that if we don’t make six months ago?

This is the first time in my life changes right now, our world is going Short answer: that all these to implode. We must start taking care WE DON’T. We societal ills can’t. Change of our planet vigorously, our neighbors is the only way are front and center, and boy fiercely, and each other with everything we can move has it taken an good we have. Vote. Use your voice. forward. emotional toll What does Donate if you can, no matter how small. this mean? It on most of us.

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By Kathleen Stark, LMSW, Inner Pathfinder Coach

Reduce Your Holiday Stress As the holiday season approaches, your stress level will probably rise. In addition to your typical schedule of work, home, and kids, you have got more shopping to do, menus to plan, and food to prepare. The good news is, even with all the extra activities and preparations, you can still reduce your holiday stress.

Here are some proven strategies to help you decrease your stress. Some of these may even be so effective that you’ll choose to use them all year long, not just during the holidays!

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Acknowledge that everything doesn’t need to be perfect.

The commercials and movies on television during the holidays really miss the mark when it comes

to realistic portrayals of family holidays. Accept that you can enjoy beautiful holiday get-togethers regardless of whether something is spilled or you’re having trouble locating your favorite dinner napkins. Furthermore, most people will hardly notice if the pies were baked a little too long or you forgot the cranberry sauce.

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Start holiday planning and preparations earlier. Can you imagine how much less stressed you would feel if you had all your gift shopping and wrapping done in October? Also, plan your holiday menus well in advance of using them. This way, you’ll have the menu set and the store lists made, and as the holidays draw closer, you

can review and make any minor adjustments you want. Spreading tasks out over longer periods of time means you will have less stress during the holiday season itself.

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Scale down your holiday plans. Because adults sometimes have an overly idealistic view of the holidays from their childhood experiences, this strategy can be tough to do. Scaling down your plans involves letting go of your “perfect dream” for the holidays; you don’t have to find the perfect gift, spend the most money, or have a room stacked with wrapped packages to show your love to others. Instead, ascribe to the theory, “It’s the thought that counts.” Most people will never remember the cool present you got them, but they will remember the warm memories of time you spent together.

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Ponder what the holidays truly mean to you and then express that meaning in your celebrations.

Let go of feeling required to plan and carry out elaborate, lavish celebrations. Maybe you would rather have smaller, more intimate gatherings with friends spread out over a month or two, rather than a big whoop-de-doo that makes it difficult to safely connect with others, especially due to COVID-19.

The best way to teach your children that the holidays are about giving

to others is to take them to visit local charities or to serve meals at a soup kitchen.

This year, make the decision to reduce your holiday stress. By shedding the urge to be perfect, beginning holiday planning earlier, scaling down expectations, and using shortcuts to save time, you’ll bring your tension level way down.

Think about what you really want the holidays to mean to you and your family. Then, you can let go of expectations based on the past and really enjoy your time together.

And ultimately, isn’t that what the holidays are for?

Kathleen Stark is a licensed social worker in the state of Maryland. She has a bachelor’s degree in Psychology from University of Maryland, University College, and is a Master of Social Work from Salisbury University, Maryland.

Kathleen combines her years as a Social Worker and a psychotherapist with her experience as a cognitive behavioral therapist. She teaches concrete skills to assist women to own their value and create a positive outcome in their personal and professional lives. Kathleen is the founder and owner of Kathleen Stark, LLC, and creator of the Inner Pathfinder online coaching program. Kathleen has 10 years of experience working with women in many capacities: trauma healing specialist, empowerment coaching and cognitive behavioral therapist.

As a therapist and life coach, she is passionate about connecting with women and guiding them through their challenges. Kathleen integrates her knowledge of women’s issues and her life experiences to guide them in increasing their overall view of self, to decrease struggles with imposter syndrome and gain a full loving relationship with self. To connect with Kathleen or learn more about her services, visit KathleenStark.com.

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By Jennifer Voorhaar, LCSW-C

Re-route Your Thoughts to Heal Your Trauma Why me? Why not me?

We often ask ourselves these two questions at some point during our life. Someone is chosen for an award – why not me? You are passed over for a promotion – why me?

These thoughts come from an idea we learn as little children that the world is just and fair. Except, it’s not. You see, we begin our lives at a very young age thinking good things happen to good people and bad things happen to bad people. This leads us to believe that if something bad happens to ourselves, then I must be a bad person and conversely, if something good

happens, I must be a good person.

However, we all know now this is not the way the world works. Sometimes bad things just happen, and sometimes good things just happen. But these early ideas influence the way we respond to traumatic events.

When a traumatic event occurs, the survivor may ask, why me?

Or sometimes, why not me? We begin to cook up thoughts in our head that feed the beliefs about our trauma or our response to the trauma. How we think about ourselves, others, and the world around us is greatly influenced by

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the way we think about our trauma.

It is also important to note that after a traumatic event, some survivors are greatly impacted by the event while others are not. The way our brain responds during the psychological “flight, fight or freeze” process determines how we react and recover after a trauma.

I’ll save you the neuroscience lesson and simply say our brains basically determine how we react, and the way we react moves along a continuum – one with “no impact” on one end and “severely impacted” on the other.

The amazing part is that we can heal from our trauma regardless of what end of the spectrum our brains might land.

While our brains are hard-wired and complex machines, we are strong and powerful agents of chance. When we focus on our thoughts, determine if they are helpful and realistic, and then change those thoughts that are not, we can change the ways our brains process the trauma. It’s kind of similar to sledding. For example, imagine you’re heading down the hill and you’ve got a great run.

It’s fast and smooth then all of a sudden, you veer off to the right.

Now, each time you go down the hill you keep veering off to the right.

The only way to change your course is to dig your feet down, push into the sled, and force the sled back on to the best snow trail. Eventually, you will reinforce a new, better path and create a blockage to avoid the other not-so-great path.

We can do the same thing in our minds while healing from trauma. We go along with life and it’s smooth as ice. Then all of a sudden, something happens (trauma), and we are veering off to the right. But getting back on the right path is possible. If we

dig down deep, engage in traumafocused therapy, and put in the hard work, before we know it, our brains will return to the reinforced, original smooth pathway with access to the negative route no longer in our way.

At Hope and Healing Psychotherapy, we offer Cognitive Processing Therapy for Post Traumatic Stress Disorder (CPT for PTSD). This model of therapy helps the trauma survivor learn how to change their unhelpful and unrealistic thoughts about themselves, others, and the world.

Chose the best sledding path. Dig deep. Let us help you do the hard work. There is hope in healing!

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the owner of and therapist at Hope and Healing Psychotherapy, LLC. Having a therapist with a heart to heal is an important place to start. While her focus is on helping children, adolescents, and adults recovering sexual trauma and other forms of abuse, Jennifer has a strong background in working with diverse populations with a variety of needs.

With over 17 years serving the mental health needs of the community, she has worked with veterans and military families, young children, teens and older adults. Her passion is helping people recover from trauma. Jennifer started her own practice to be able to better serve the community longterm and to be able to focus on the work she enjoys professionally. Her office is a safe place where you can share any thoughts, feelings, or fears you face. Nothing will shock her, and you will always feel supported. If the office setting isn’t for you, we can lace up your shoes and walk (or jog) around the streets of Leonardtown.

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By Karl Smith, DDS, MS

The Advantages of Regenerative Periodontal Therapy According to the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC), more than 50 percent of Americans over the age of 30 have periodontitis, a more advanced form of periodontal disease and don’t even know it.

In its early stages, periodontal disease is called gingivitis, with symptoms that include swollen, inflamed gums that may bleed during tooth brushing. When allowed to progress, gingivitis can turn into periodontal disease, also known as periodontitis.

How Is Periodontitis Treated?

There are a range of options available for treating periodontitis depending on the severity of the disease. Initially, a deep cleaning may be recommended to remove the infection and allow your gums

to heal. In some advanced stages, the instruments used to perform the deep cleaning may not be able to reach the actual bacteria that is leading to the problem. If the disease is more advanced, a regenerative periodontal therapy procedure may be the most effective treatment approach.

new bone and healthy gum tissue.

Eliminating existing bacteria and regenerating bone and tissue helps to reduce the pockets between your teeth and gums and restore your mouth to optimal health.

What is Regenerative Periodontal Therapy?

A regenerative periodontal therapy procedure is used to reverse the effects of advanced periodontal disease. When the infection has already begun to destroy the underlying bone that supports your teeth, this type of therapy is recommended to: • Remove bacteria from beneath your gum line • Regenerate lost bone and tissue • Reshape the bones that support your teeth • Prevent future gum damage

Periodontal disease and the inflammation that it generates within your body are associated with a number of very serious health issues, including diabetes, heart disease, osteoporosis, and even cancer. Because gum disease is progressive, early treatment is always best. If you have symptoms associated with periodontitis, you may be a candidate for regenerative periodontal therapy. Schedule a comprehensive periodontal screening right away. Gain peace of mind that you are not at risk.

My friendly team is standing by to help answer all of your questions. A referral is not necessary. Call 301-638-4867 or visit us online at www.drkarlsmith.com.

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People with severe or advanced gum disease are usually good candidates for regenerative periodontal therapy.

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Regenerative periodontal therapy can be done with local anesthesia or a comfortable sedation. During the procedure, the gum tissue is folded back to remove the disease-causing bacteria. Depending on the degree of damage, membranes, bone grafts, or tissue-stimulating proteins can also be used to stimulate your body’s natural ability to regenerate

Dr. Karl Smith has been in dental practice for more than 34 years. He received his Doctor of Dental Surgery degree from the University of California, Los Angeles in 1981 and immediately entered General Practice in the US Air Force Dental Corps. He successfully completed three years of advanced education in the specialty of Periodontics with additional training in IV Sedation and Dental Implants in 1992, at the University of Texas Health Science Center, San Antonio and Wilford Hall USAF Medical Center. He won the John Pritchard Prize for outstanding research which included looking for a vaccine against bacteria that cause periodontal disease. Year after year, Dr. Smith has been consistently voted Top Dentist

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Q: What do you love most about your profession?

Being able to empower patients to lead healthier and longer lives through education and treatment.

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There are many, but I love telling my patients to wear tighter garments at their first treatment session because they will notice their clothes will be looser after the first 32-minute treatment.

Also, we have never had anyone lose less than two and a half inches on their first visit (most lose three to five inches).

We are known for spending quality time with patients, which enables trust and correct diagnoses. My physical exams usually last 90 minutes and a follow up appointment can last up to 70 minutes.

Q: What inspired you to add cosmetic services?

My practice is based on being one of the few in the DMV area to offer the safest, immediate FDA approved, cutting edge technology for fat loss: UltraSlim®. There is nothing else like it on the market and can be used by

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anyone, from a Victoria Secret model to those who struggle with excess weight.

Q: How do you ease patients’ fears?

I love telling patients the

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UltraSlim® is the only non-invasive procedure approved by the FDA for immediate fat loss, with instant results in 32 minutes. This is guaranteed, or your money back. Patients usually lose on average 3.5 inches and 1.6 liters of fat during a 32-minute treatment. Compare this to the most popular competition, SculpSure or Coolsculpting, which take about three months to lose a stick of butter size of fat by killing fat cells and also carry the added potential for side effects such as pain and infection.

UltraSlim® is an FDA approved, non-invasive fat removal and skin rejuvenation treatment using a sophisticated, non-UV light photomodulation device designed by NASA.

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is a third-generation physician from Annapolis, Md. He now resides in Charles County with his wife and three children. Dr Cook attended Howard University for his undergraduate education and received his Bachelor of Science in Biology and minored in Chemistry. Dr. Cook graduated from the Howard University School of Medicine and completed his Internal Medicine residency at the Union Memorial/University of Maryland program in Baltimore, Maryland, which is also known for being one of the nation’s top heart institutes, a top 100 hospital ranked by US News, and the official hospital for the Baltimore Ravens football team. Currently, Dr. Cook is President of the Charles County Medical Society in Maryland and a member of the Omega Psi Phi fraternity in which he serves on the International Board of Prostate Cancer Prevention and Awareness. He has been a member of the American Medical Association, the American Association of Physician Executives, the American College of Physicians, and is a Diplomate of the American Board of Internal Medicine. Dr. Cook also serves as the official team physician for the Southern Maryland Blue Crabs professional baseball team, is an Associate Program Member at the University of Maryland Medical Center, has a Courtesy Faculty Appointment at the George Washington School of Nursing, and is a Physician Peer Member for the State of Maryland Board of Physicians.

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How to Survive the New Normal: Tele-Schooling On any given normal day, I am a teacher and a parent – separately.

Right now, in addition to my job and like many of you, I am doing both roles as a teacher-parent due to schoolfrom-home, or as I affectionally like to call it, “tele-schooling.” It is a hard balance for everyone. By now, most families have routines in place and spaces set up for virtual learning, but the question remains… How do we survive this new normal?

A teacher to one is a teacher to all. From what I am hearing and seeing every day, I thought I would offer some tips for both students and parents as we work through virtual learning together.

Take brain breaks! “Recess” is important for all ages. Get outside, read an actual paper book, and get some exercise!

Reduce surrounding distractions: Wear headphones and if possible, try to work in a comfortable, quiet place. This is especially important so students can engage in their online meetings and their online work.

Parents: Foster Independence: Parents, now that you have helped your children navigate through some of the technology challenges, try fostering some independence. Let your children have productive struggle so their teachers can see what they know and are capable of.

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Focus on time management: A schedule with assignments due each day is key. Stick to a regular schedule and get the work done that day. Focus on time management so you don’t have to deal with late assignments adding up and getting overwhelming.

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important. Try to get your children in sports for lunch time.

Celebrate the wins: Last but certainly not least, celebrate the wins! Let your children know when they are doing a good job. Try and stay positive and have patience! This is new for them, too.

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Southern Maryland native Candice Berthiaume is an Instructional Resource Teacher for St. Mary’s County Schools. She holds a Bachelor of Science in Elementary Education and a Master of Science in Human Resources Development from Towson University and a Certificate of Advanced Study in Education for College of Notre Dame. Candice lives in Calvert County with her husband and two sons.

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Move Beyond the Seat at the Table How to Fully Engage Employee Voices In this current national climate, the voices of the people are being heard. Earlier this summer, in the wake of the social injustice against George Floyd, Breonna Taylor, and others who lost their lives at the hands of those hired to protect and serve, people spoke out all over the planet. Not only were their voices heard, changes followed! We witnessed changes in how we view national holidays – Juneteenth is now a recognized holiday for many companies. We witnessed changes in sporting events with the elimination of the confederate flag at NASCAR and the addition of the Black National Anthem in major league football

games. We witnessed proposals for changing laws in policing and criminal justice system This movement fueled corporate America as well as thousands of organizations to issue public statements condemning social injustice and discriminatory treatment of minorities, standing in solidarity with the Black Lives Matter movement.

Wonderfully, many companies have moved beyond the statements to identifying action steps needed to embrace diversity, equity, and inclusion. As many companies continue to engage and create a diverse environment, the power of the employee’s voice

cannot be overlooked. Employees need a platform where they are empowered and encouraged to speak. Therefore, companies must be focused on promoting diversity and inclusion, while reducing bias.

Although this is no easy task, it can be accomplished with targeted and measurable planning.

Creating an environment that embraces diversity is great, however, it is not enough to just create an environment and leave it unattended. An unattended garden is likely to grow weeds and can adversely affect the other plants in the garden. Likewise, creating an environment that embraces diversity but does little to nothing to move the initiative forward, is likely to lose momentum and die.

Companies must embrace this often-overlooked part of inclusion – the voice of the employee.

Companies thrive because of their employees. Innovation, creativity, processes, infrastructure, technology, are just a few of the contributions provided by employees. Employees are the lifelines of the company and are critical to survival and sustainability.

If employees feel their voice does not matter to the company, they are less likely to contribute to the success of the company.

So, where do companies begin? To answer this question, you must ask another question – what do our employees need to be successful and feel valued? The answer can only come from the employees. Data is a necessary part of any company change because data can provide a great picture of where the company currently stands and allows for predictions and plans to be made around where the company wants to go. Gathering data from your employees through channels such as employee satisfaction

surveys, town halls, focus groups, and virtual suggestion boxes, is a start. Any of these channels can be effective at hearing the voices of the employees. Of course, hearing the voices of the employees is not enough. Companies must turn their employee voices into ideas, strategies, and goals. Change must be the response to hearing employees.

Companies must move beyond providing just a seat at the table to allowing employees to speak and be heard. For some companies, this may be happening organically. Yet for others, there must be an intentional effort to move the needle forward. One thing is evident though – the time is now for companies to shift to an employee-centered approach for business to remain competitive.

Tracie Daniels has more than 20 years of experience as a leader in the human capital management field. She has worked in various sectors including government, financial services, nonprofit, telecommunications, and legal services. Mrs. Daniels has managed several high-profile projects including spearheading the education and awareness initiatives for the Obama Administration’s National Making Home Affordable Program of 2009 – 2015. Mrs. Daniels is the President of Synergy Consulting, a human capital management consulting firm, which specializes in strategic planning and executive management, diversity and inclusion, organizational assessment and design, performance management, and leadership development consulting. Mrs. Daniels holds a bachelor’s degree in psychology and a master’s degree in counseling. Mrs. Daniels has served as board member for several nonprofit organizations.

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community Article submitted by MedStar St. Mary’s Hospital

MedStar St. Mary’s Hospital Unmasks Virtual Gala for 2020 MedStar St. Mary’s Hospital’s annual Gala will be going virtual this November, and there is still time to join in the fun. UnMasked Gala 2020 will culminate with a “Make Your Own Gala Night” Nov. 20 for individuals and businesses who donate to the annual fundraiser.

Donations to this year’s Gala will be used to help improve the patient experience by funding projects such as the purchase of new couches in the hospital’s inpatient units. Designed to be multi-functional, the couches convert to sleeper sofas, ave built-in trays for eating, and convenient charging stations. smaller, less urgent projects will have to wait.

Philanthropic donations such as those made to the Gala, will allow us to move forward with some of these important needs.”

“We are not able to come together in person this year due to precautions related to COVID-19, but we still wanted to find a way to thank our sponsors and supporters through some virtual fun,” said Holly Meyer, Director of Marketing, Public Relations & Philanthropy for MedStar St. Mary’s Hospital. “This year’s festivities will feature a DIY Gala experience designed to combine everything our guests love about the in-person event—the people, the raffle, the food and drinks, and the entertainment.”

Funds raised through previous MedStar St. Mary’s Galas have been used to support major hospital renovations and scholarships for individuals wishing to pursue careers in health care.

“Community support means so much to our hospital,” said Meyer. “Hospital revenues were greatly impacted due to the COVID-19 pandemic when elective procedures had to be shutdown. Most of our capital budget each year is used to replace, or purchase needed medical equipment which can be very costly. The pinch COVID has placed on our budget means

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“These couches are not like your living room furniture,” Meyer said. “They are made to withstand constant use and hold up to rigorous cleaning practices.”

The 2020 Gala is being made possible by our generous sponsors, including CMI General Contractors.

“We are so honored to have CMI as our Presenting Sponsor this year,” said Meyer. “Their excitement and willingness to be a part of our first-ever virtual event has been uplifting and greatly appreciated.”

Sponsorships are still available, and anyone can make donations to the event through the end of the year. Additionally, donors to the Gala will also have the opportunity to purchase chances to win one of three raffle items—two tickets to

next year’s Gala, a Leonardtown-themed gift basket, or an at-home, chef-prepared, five-course meal for up to 10 people offered by Ken Upton of Ken’s Creative Kitchen in Annapolis, our long-time Gala caterer. Raffle chances will be sold online to donors prior to and during the virtual event.

of MedStar St. Mary’s Hospital. “During the pandemic, our hospital staff was continually awestruck by the support from the community.

The generosity that built this hospital more than a hundred years ago continues and we were all very moved by the support.”

“More than ever we appreciate the support from individuals and our business sponsors who recognize how important our hospital is to the community,” said Christine Wray, president

Guests enjoy previous MedStar St. Mary’s Hospital Galas. This year’s Gala will include a do-it-yourself virtual Gala night.

Visit MedStarStMarys.org/Gala2020 in the weeks prior to Nov. 20th to view special videos about the hospital, the Gala, and the impact funds raised have on our community, or to donate.

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SYDNIE Collins Fifteen-year-old Sydnie Collins (aka Sydnie Chandler

Monet) believes it’s time for the youth of America to take the lead in becoming the change that needs to occur in our country. A sophomore at St. Mary’s Ryken High School, Sydnie is the founder of Live Your Future Educated, Inc. (LYFE) non-profit organizationand host of the podcast “Perfect Timing.” As an academic honor roll student, she has been the recipient of the Presidential Scholarship in Leadership and Presidential Scholarship in Fine Arts.

Sydnie is known as a daughter, sister, and friend to many.

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Tell us about your passion for giving back to the community at such a young age:

I am a 15-year-old podcaster who is hosting an international broadcast called Perfect Timing. Like other teens, I understand Generation Z is more likely to use social media to communicate, share, and shop. Perfect Timing Podcast was established for the sole purpose of serving young adults by giving them a safe place where they can feel free to use their voices to promote, educate and bring awareness to what is important to them. Youth empowerment comes in many forms and I want to use my platform to let my peers know that their voice matters and is heard. If they see me doing it, then my actions may inspire one more person to gain enough confidence to start something that they are passionate about. I once read that a man’s gift makes room for him — God has put a gift or talent in every person, one that the world can make room for. I want to be a part of God’s perfect timing story because we all have one.

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What motivated you to start Perfect Timing Podcast? What is the focus?

During the pandemic, I started to feel lost. I did not know how or what to do with all this free time. So, in mid-May, my mother challenged my sister and I to start a YouTube channel to talk with friends about how they were feeling. In early June, I kicked off my podcast and it is one of the most passionate undertakings that I have ever done. It is truly rewarding and has given me so much joy and hope for our future. Each of my episodes feature in-depth conversations about topics the youth are passionate about and occasionally guest star top experts from around the county. I want listeners to be inspired and learn how the youth are taking charge of their own dreams as they tell their stories, in their own words. I recently featured Faith Blackstone, 17-year-old activist and artist behind the iconic portrait of George Floyd and James Jobson-Larkin, 15-year-old ballet dancer and musician, who shared his experiences and love for the arts. I invited Dr. Howard Haft, Executive Director at Maryland Primary Care Program, to discuss the impacts of COVID-19 on teenagers. Recently, I also had the honor of speaking with Mrs. Julie Kent, Artistic Director of The Washington Ballet on finding hope and perseverance through dance. My fellow teens and I are breaking barriers now and will continue to do so in the future.

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What has this experience been like? Talk about your struggles and successes:

Your voice and dreams matter – do not let anyone take away your voice!”

Since starting my podcast, I have met some amazing trailblazers and had the opportunity to build new partnerships. Hearing my guests speak about things they are passionate about has given me more than one reason to continue. If one person’s voice can inspire another person, then my work is not in vein.

As far as struggles, I would say with every new venture comes obstacles we do not plan for. Finding and securing sponsors to support what you are doing is a challenge when you are confined to your home and not able to network outside of it. My reward is knowing I am using my talents to make a difference in bringing youth on my platform to discuss topics, dreams, and achievements that matter to them. Many say that they are proud of me, but my true reward comes from above.

onlessonslearned Advice to other girls looking to have their voice heard: If you believe in yourself others will believe in you, too. Keep striving and believing that you can achieve all things. Your voice and dreams matter – do not let anyone take away your voice!

onwhat’snext What do you envision for the future?

My future is so bright that I can see my name among the stars! I am still learning and growing every day and I am

Perfect Timing Podcast can be found on SoundCloud, Spotify, Apple podcasts, and IHeartRadio @ ECLifeTalkPodcast

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planning to take advantage of opportunities aligned to my core values and what I believe in, such as being a motivational speaker.

I also am seeking gift donations for baskets that I will be raffling off to help with the expenses from the managing a podcast.

A new Perfect Timing Podcast episode is released every Monday at 2 p.m. EST. In June and July, four of Perfect Timing’s episodes made the top 10 in ratings on Elite Conversation Life Talk Radio and Sydnie was honored as the #2 host for June, July and August.

In August, Perfect Timing episode 11, “The Impact of a Mother’s Love and Support,” rated #1 on their platform. Additionally, Sydnie is the only teen among 30 podcasters with Elite Conversation Life Talk Radio. She currently has Perfect Timing merchandise available for sale on her podcast website including T-shirts, masks, and jewelry.

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Calvert Author Releases Debut Novel, “The Eves” When was the last time you read a novel that was perfect for our time?

When have you experienced a novel that treats families, race, gender, sexuality, and age honestly?

When did a novel impact you and your relationships, and prompt meaningful discussions?

This summer, Calvert resident Grace Sammon, well-known educator, school reformer, consultant, speaker, entrepreneur, and author of educational books launched her debut novel, “The Eves.”

The Eves is a multi-generational novel portraying lives lived well and lives in transition. Filled with poignancy and humor, “The Eves” captures the conversations we wish we had had with our parents, if we had the opportunity, and the lessons we would want to impart to our children, if they were ready to listen. It begins in 1868, when a mule and 40 acres of rich Southern Maryland farmland were given to Tobias and Delores Thatcher, newly freed slaves. Four generations later, “The Grange” is the home of Thatcher descendants and a group of women of color determined to spend their senior years challenging themselves and others. It is an ecologically sound and emotionally explosive place. After a single visit to The Grange, the psychologically complex and damaged Jessica Barnet sets out to catalogue the oral histories of the women. Jessica has given up on her ambition and her appearance, but not her lies, vodka, or her sense of loss and guilt. What we witness, through the vividly drawn characters, is an unexpected story. Through plot twists and turns, we learn the truth of Jessica’s lies. We also come to know the women of The Grange and the meaning of being on a life-long journey. Together we learn, love, live, and let go. Experience how coming to The Grange means leaving your mark on this Earth. Learn that when our stories are told, truly, everything changes. “The Eves” helps answer the question – are we ever really “done?”

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About the author: Grace Sammon’s passion is storytelling. Writing is her voice. Communicating is her skill. The Eves is her fourth book and her debut novel. Grace grew up on Long Island, New York. She spent many years in the Washington, DC area where she raised her two children and established and owned an educational consulting firm operating in 32 states. She is also an entrepreneur, starting two non-profits and her own consulting company, GMS Partners, Inc.

“The Eves” is available on Amazon, for Nook, and at Barnes and Noble.

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By Wendy Guth, Travel Coach

Schoolcations & More: Who is Ready to Travel?

Hi, I am Wendy Guth, founder of Rebel on the Go Travel. I specialize in creating travel experiences that transform you.

Why? Because travel can be exactly that – transformational, radical, life changing.

One of the greatest takeaways from travel is building curiosity, passion, and strength, along with flexibility, tenacity, and resiliency.

It allows us to connect with our surroundings and build lasting memories from our experiences – to SAVOUR the moments on our journey.

I created SAVOUR; my system for clients who want to feel relaxed, in control, and experience joy while traveling. SAVOUR is designed to

take these elements and bring them to where travel is today: S – Step out of your comfort zone A – Align your passions and interests V – Venture under your own power O – Open yourself to connecting U – Unwind with self-care R – Ritualize your gratitude During the pandemic, a silver lining has been the ability to work and learn remotely, but not always at home. Families are savouring these opportunities by heading off to destinations outside of Maryland.

I wanted to share with you the number one question I hear these days: “Where can I go while my kids are learning virtually?” Schoolcations are popular right now! There are some fantastic hotel options for virtual schooling AND working.

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If you wish you had tech support for the Google, Zoom, Schoology, checkout out Kimpton Hotels, which has hired “Chief Virtual Learning Officers” at these locations: Winston-Salem and Charlotte in North Carolina; Austin, Texas; as well as Pittsburgh and Philadelphia in Pennsylvania.

Montage Resorts has launched the “Montage Academy” that includes a study hall and virtual tutoring for kids aged 6 through 17. With locations in Park City, Utah; Laguna Beach, California; Bluffton, South Carolina; and Cabo San Lucas, Mexico.

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Learning meets luxury by the water! Special virtual learning options are available at either The Henderson, on the Gulf of Mexico in Destin, Florida, or The Grand Hotel, on Lake Huron on Mackinac Island, Michigan.

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Need an incentive to finish the day’s lessons? Check out the Four Seasons Resort Orlando with afternoons in one of Walt Disney World’s four theme parks.

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The Four Seasons Resort Punta Mita, located north of Puerto Vallarta, Mexico, offers Spanish lessons, Mexican culture and cooking classes, and pool and beach study cabanas.

The Auberge Resorts Collection has launched “Remote with Auberge.” With hotels in Aspen, Colorado; Park City, Utah; and Napa, California, the program offers “office cabanas” for both parents and kids.

Wendy Guth is the founder of Rebel on the Go Travel. Her vision is to create REAL. RADICAL. LIFE CHANGING. TRAVEL EXPERIENCES for her clients. As a Virtuoso Travel Advisor, she focuses on gatherings clients want, whether it be adventure travel, celebrations, and wellness travel. Wendy sifts through all the information and options in order to provide insider details, exclusive amenities (like upgrades and credits), and experiences (like private tours, sold out tickets, or unattainable reservations). As a Transformational Travel Coach, she strives to: 1) get you out of your comfort zone, 2) focus on your passions and interests, 3) connect you in the way you want, 4) allow for self-care AND, 5) travel under your own power. It’s all about PERSONALIZATION. CUSTOMIZATION TRANSFORMATION.

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By Colleen Sinclair Prosser, Estate Planning Attorney

Estate Planning is Life Planning What is the first thing that leaps to most people’s minds when they think about estate planning? A will. We have all seen the dramatic scenes in films of yesteryear: the reading of the will. The truth of the matter is that the will is no longer the focal point of estate planning.

A well-rounded estate plan includes four documents: a revocable living trust, a general durable power of attorney, a health care power of attorney, a living will and a will. Probably the least important of these is the actual will. Why? Because a will is only effective at death, while the other three documents have an impact during your lifetime.

In order to be effective, a will must be admitted to probate.

Probate is a process to transfer clear title of property from the person who died to the people designated in the will. As with most legal processes, probate can be costly, time-consuming, and public.

Assets that go through this probate process are a matter of public record, open to the prying eyes of nosey neighbors and relatives, as well as con artists.

Assets which are in a trust do not have to go through the probate process. In theory, when you place your assets in your trust, the legal title is no longer vested in you as an individual, but in the trustee of

the trust. As a result, when you die, no probate process is necessary to transfer title to the property.

Thus, the trust bypasses the will and the probate process entirely.

A “revocable living trust” is a trust, which is created while you are living, and which you can revoke or amend at any time. A well-drafted trust can be extremely flexible and can facilitate management of your assets while you are well, during a period of incapacity, and long after your death. While you are alive and well, you would be the trustee and manage the assets in your trust. Upon your incapacity or death, someone designated by you would take over as trustee and would manage the trust, making investment and distribution decisions in accordance with the instructions you set forth in the trust, providing continuity in asset management.

In a general durable power of attorney, you appoint someone to make decisions for property not controlled by the trust. For example, your “agent” could file income tax returns for you, change beneficiary designations on life insurance and retirement plans, etc. The agent can also transfer any forgotten property into the trust. Again, this provides for a smoother transition during periods of incapacity.

In a health care power of attorney, you appoint someone to make medical decisions for you in the event you can no longer do so for yourself. With a living will, you may express any wishes you have regarding life-prolonging measures.

Finally, the will disposes of any property which remains titled in your name rather than the trust. The typical will simply is a “pour over” into the trust. The most important role of the will is the appointment of guardians for minor children.

A qualified estate planning attorney can help you set up a plan

that will put your mind at ease.

Sinclair Prosser Gasior focuses its practice on estate planning, elder law, and estate administration.

Attorneys Jon J. Gasior, Colleen Sinclair Prosser, Victor A. Lembo, Alexander M. Pagnotta and Laura T. Curry share more than 50 years of knowledge and experience in matters associated with protecting estates and families from issues arising from death, disability, and taxes. For more information visit us at www.spgasior.com.

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Colleen Sinclair Prosser, formerly the owner and manager of Sinclair Prosser Gasior, Colleen spent two decades at the helm of a busy practice and steered her firm with a guiding hand. Colleen continues to bring a wealth of Estate Planning and Estate Administration experience to the law firm through direct involvement with the clients of Sinclair Prosser Gasior. She has served on the Board of Governors Education Committee of the American Academy of Estate Planning Attorneys, on the Board of Trustees for By Their Side, Lifelong Advocates for Marylanders with Developmental Disabilities and as a Board Member of the Community Foundation of Anne Arundel County.

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By Kristin Kauffman

How to Lose the Rate this Holiday Season Nope, it’s not a typo! Cedar Point can help you drop some excess rate this holiday season. For one week only, we have an auto loan deal you won’t want to miss.

We know that when you’re in the market for a vehicle, many people choose to finance at the dealership because it is convenient. But that convenience can end up costing hundreds or even thousands of dollars over the life of the loan because of the high interest rate.

Did you know that by refinancing with Cedar Point, you can save money, and we may be able to reduce your monthly payment?

Let’s start with the basics. What is refinancing? In a nutshell, you’re paying off your old loan and taking out a new loan with new terms.

Refinancing can lower your monthly payment and save you interest expense. In many cases, you also have the opportunity to extend the life of the loan to reduce your monthly payment even more. This is how Cedar Point can help you save. Even better, we are dropping our auto rates for one week, from Nov. 27 though Dec. 4, 2020.

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Whatever low rate you and your vehicle would normally qualify for will be further reduced by a full 1.00% during the promotional period. For example, if you qualify for our lowest new car rate at 2.65% APR, we’ll lock you in at an actual rate of 1.65% APR for the life of the loan! After you apply, your new rate will be valid for 30 days. This allows you plenty of time to shop for that perfect car. If you refinance with Cedar Point, we can help you pay off your old loan and get you on the road to greater savings.

What’s even better? You don’t have to have an existing relationship with Cedar Point to take advantage of the savings. You simply need to live, work, worship, go to school in, or regularly conduct business in St. Mary’s, Calvert, or Charles Counties. Government and/or military affiliation is not required to do business with Cedar Point. Please stop in to see us or learn more at www.cpfcu.com/ membership.

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used autos and for refinancing auto loans which are not already financed through Cedar Point. Visit any of our five branch locations in Lexington Park, Leonardtown, Charlotte Hall, and Prince Frederick. *This offer applies to auto loans only on vehicles up to 10 years of age. APR = Annual Percentage Rate.

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Kristin Kauffman is the Marketing Manager at Cedar Point Federal Credit Union. She holds a Master of Business Administration from the University of Saint Mary and a Bachelor of Arts from Muhlenberg College. She is currently studying for her certification as a Credit Union Certified Marketing Executive through the Credit Union National Association. Recently, Kristin led the credit union through a brand discovery process, reimagining the credit union’s values and brand promise to better serve its members, employees, and the community.

Kristin is the Vice Chair of Southern Maryland Community Resources (SMCR), a non-profit which creates events, opportunities, and virtual experiences for community members with developmental differences in Southern Maryland.

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By Carlisa Kent, Financial Coach

Good Habits Make Great Budgets The definition of habit is an acquired behavior pattern regularly followed until it has become almost involuntary.

In other words, something we do repeatedly until it becomes part of us. It becomes so normal, so regular, it is almost involuntary.

People are creatures of habits. From friendships in our lives and the food we eat to our daily rhythms and our spending patterns. Some habits can obviously be unhealthy, but habits used in a positive way can help us establish great rhythms in our lives.

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A financial budget is a great habit.

A spending pattern written down monthly, so we are prepared for upcoming events. As the year comes to an end, it is time to start focusing on our 2021 budget. Let us look at what we experienced in 2020 and plan for 2021.

First, get out your pen or pencil and make a list of special occasions – the events that happen every year, but we may forget to plan for, like birthdays, anniversaries, holidays, and even “Back to School.”

These events happen in our lives annually, but they somehow sneak up on us every time. Not this year! I am going to help you plan for each special event in your life with a monthly budget.

It will start by making small adjustments, changing habits, and setting financial goals that include these annual “surprises.” I can show you how to make a zero-based monthly budget before the new year begins so you can see where your money is going and find out how much you can save each month.

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need to be stressful. It is a good habit that alleviates financial surprises. Let me guide you into financial peace!

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Financial Coach Carlisa Kent helps individuals and businesses conquer their finances in a smart and sustainable way. A graduate of Trinity College, Washington D.C., and a mother of four, Carlisa successfully lived through her own financial crisis and now wants to help others do the same. After a devastating car accident in 2008, Carlisa was able to keep her family financially secure while going through litigations and financial stress. Due to self-discipline and education, Carlisa never missed a bill and was able to continue a happy life although her family had no income for two years.

Looking back on it, Carlisa knows she was successful because she stopped and evaluated her future before the crisis hit – and you can, too.

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