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SEPTEMBER 2023 SOCOMAGAZINE.COM Magazine WE SUPPORT PEOPLE Prime SouthCoast Real Estate Continues To Attract Tourists & Investors Defining Your Romantic Relationship Is It Science or Emotional Chemistry? Our ‘Collectors’ Edition TS KENNEDY THANKS FOR THE MEMORIES

WESTPORT $2,595,000 -Westport waterfront with dock! A long lane meanders through 25 acres of woodlands to this handsome antique colonial. Paths wander through woods and across salt marsh to a private dock on the Westport River. Privacy and tranquility abound! Contact Will Milbury at 508-525-5200.

-Westport waterfront with dock! A long lane meanders through 25 acres of woodlands to this handsome antique colonial. Paths wander through woods and across salt marsh to a private dock on the Westport River. Privacy and tranquility abound! Contact Will Milbury at 508-525-5200.

WESTPORT $2,595,000

-Westport waterfront with dock! A long lane meanders through 25 acres of woodlands to this handsome antique colonial. Paths wander through woods and across salt marsh to a private dock on the Westport River. Privacy and tranquility abound! Contact Will Milbury at 508-525-5200.

WESTPORT $2,795,000 - PRIVATE WATERFRONT ESTATE - Long drive winds through twenty-five pastoral acres to this handsome, shingle-style residence, overlooking the Westport River Rolling lawns, meadows, gardens; a nature lover's paradise! Delightful country living at its best! Contact Will Milbury 508 525 5200 or Sarah Meehan 508 685 8926

WESTPORT $2,795,000 - PRIVATE WATERFRONT ESTATE - Long drive winds through twenty-five pastoral acres to this handsome, shingle-style residence, overlooking the Westport River Rolling lawns, meadows, gardens; a nature lover's paradise! Delightful country living at its best! Contact Will Milbury 508 525 5200 or Sarah Meehan 508 685 8926

DARTMOUTH $2 850 000 Absolute Perfection! Breathtaking water views from most every room of this quintessential s Bay and Beyond Contact Will Milbury a

SOUTH DARTMOUTH $2,850,000 Absolute Perfection! Breathtaking water views from most every room of this quintessential beach house set on high, overlooking Buzzards Bay and Beyond. Contact Will Milbury a

SOUTH DARTMOUTH $1,695,000 Slocum River Waterfront! A long private lane meanders through mature woodlands, past stone walls, to this contemporary cape overlooking the Slocum River. Water views are enjoyed from every room upon entering the home. The 20+/- acre property includes considerable shore frontage where one could fish, launch canoes/kayaks, etc.

The ultimate private retreat! Contact Will Milbury at 508-525-5200.

SOUTH DARTMOUTH $1,695,000 Slocum River Waterfront! A long private lane meanders through mature woodlands, past stone walls, to this contemporary cape overlooking the Slocum River. room upon entering the home. property includes considerable shore frontage where one could fish, launch canoes/kayaks, etc. The ultimate private retreat! Contact Will Milbury at 508-525-5200.

SOUTH DARTMOUTH $1,695,000 Slocum River Waterfront! A long private lane meanders through mature woodlands, past stone walls, to this contemporary cape overlooking the Slocum River. room upon entering the home. property includes considerable shore frontage where one could fish, launch canoes/kayaks, etc. The ultimate private retreat! Contact Will Milbury at 508-525-5200.

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LITTLE COMPTON $1,195,000

Casual yet sophisticated coastal living with western water views over the Sakonnet River! Custom built 3 bedroom home complete with pool, hot tub and water access. Minutes to Tiverton Four Corners and beaches! Contact Sarah Korolnek 774.644.9156

WESTPORT $1,195,000

Elegant home nestled on 1.6 manicured acres offers a fabulous, open floor plan. Tastefully renovated, design details include vaulted ceilings that allow for sundrenched rooms, chef's kitchen, floor-toceiling stone fireplace . . . Close to Westport's beautiful beaches and farmland! Contact Sarah Korolnek 774.644.9156

SOUTH DARTMOUTH $795,000

Spectacular 1.4+/- acre lot on desirable Little River Road in South Dartmouth with simple three-bedroom/two-bath ranch overlooking vast rolling lawns and distant peeks of the Little River. With some renovations, this spacious single-story home is a great opportunity... Contact Will Milbury 508.525.5200

SOUTH DARTMOUTH $1,875,000

Frank Lloyd Wright inspired, this home seamlessly integrates indoor and outdoor living on a luxurious single level, overlooking Wild Pepper Farm's pond and hills and offers gardens, Koi pond and putting green. Contact Will Milbury at 508.525.5200 or Sarah Meehan 508.685.8926.

WESTPORT POINT $1,575,000

Set on high above the harbor, replete with rolling lawn, stone walls and dazzling sunsets, this Antique Gothic Revival offers 2,800 +/- s.f. of beautifully renovated space while maintaining all the charm of yesteryear. Contact Kevin Quinn 774.319.3401

Attention Developers! Fabulous location, just off Main Road, on scenic Cornell Road. Approximately 10+/acres with five ANR lots subdivided. Perc tests in hand. Contact Will Milbury 508.525.5200.

MATTAPOISETT $3,495,000

Extraordinary Waterfront Estate with dazzling views of Buzzards Bay and private sandy beach. Contact Roberta Burke 508.498.3285

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Exquisite estate enjoys total privacy on 9 acres with a pool, nature trails, and a pond.

MARSHFIELD HILLS $3,950,000

Exquisite estate enjoys total privacy on 9 acres with a pool, nature trails, and a pond.

WAREHAM $1,150,000

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MARION $1,950,000

Beautifully crafted home in private neighborhood with association dock, boat ramp & club house.

MARION $1,950,000

Beautifully crafted home in private neighborhood with association dock, boat ramp & club house.

NEW BEDFORD $329,900

Classically elegant cape with water views, directly across from sandy beach.

WAREHAM $1,150,000

Classically elegant cape with water views, directly across from sandy beach.

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HARWICH PORT $2,950,000 Spectacular six-bedroom residence with a garage/carriage house steps from the beach.

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WELLFLEET $2,500,000

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WELCOME

“It’s not over, until it’s Over!

20 HOME

No time to waste! This month we highlight an opportunity for investors or summer people looking to own prime real estate in the heart of Padanaram Village, South Dartmouth. Enjoying all four seasons doesn’t get any better than at home on Bridge Street

27 IMPRESSIONS

Two True, it’s a magical partnership that takes two who commit and set a goal

28 RELICS

Making history and friends from around the world, the New London Ledge Lighthouse rivals all navigational beacons on the coastline of New England

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If it’s September, you’ll recall the Newport County Preservation Society is holding its muchanticipated Wine & Food Festival. Don’t be disappointed; make your reservations NOW!

31 LITERATURE

Nothing is more enjoyable than the UMass Dartmouth Library Associates’ 15th Annual Authors’ Brunch. Heralded as one of the most important literary events on the SouthCoast, it is a must-attend event

32 INTIMACY

What is ‘chemistry’ as described by people who happen to meet randomly? Is it physical, emotional, or perhaps telepathic? We take the mystery out of these chance encounters.

34 LIVING WELL

What is great sex? It can be similar to asking what a great car or house is like; everyone has a different opinion. But, when you turn to science, you might be surprised by the results when couples are asked the question

37 HEALTH

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Instead of searching for ‘the fountain of youth’ at the pharmacy, the solution for staying young longer could be found at the farm and local market

38 BUYER BEWARE

While everyone is searching for someone to work on their homes, they want to avoid being scammed by unscrupulous contractors who make false claims and promises. See what we discovered in our search for new roofs

39 TRAVEL

In May 2005, our first cover had the bold headline: Where’s The Train? There had been years of discussion about bringing one to the SouthCoast, but as most know, it took 18 years to see it to fruition. What is startling is that after all the money, time, and effort that went into the project, some feel it isn’t going to do the job that was claimed—it seems that we had been right all the time.

41 BLURRED LINES

Risking health and injury to reverse aging? The concept of repairing the human body from a cellular perspective makes sense; but, the controversy surrounding it has many wondering. Find out why!

42 FAREWELL

Thanks for the Memories! We were at the Massachusetts Maritime Academy’s christening of the TS Kennedy and in the sky above her as she made her way to New York City Harbor. With those and many other adventures we joined in, we’ll watch her last voyage from her berth in Buzzards Bay

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“It’s Not Over!”

Hold the press!

Many of you have shared your satisfaction with our efforts in the August 2023 Travel Issue; we seem to have hit a cord with those who understand summer isn’t over for another month and anticipate an extraordinary September—the last month of the summer.

We’re pleased to hear many of you intend to enjoy the gorgeous weather, enhanced by decreased traffic and crowds, discounted rates at magnificent resorts, and remarkable sales of clothing and accessories that must be sold by October 1.

These unintended gifts, shared by those who don’t enjoy the final month of summer and religiously complain, “Summer was too short,” should be thanked for rapidly moving into fall, leaving the fruit for everyone else.

For conversation, let’s break this overdue topic down.

Summer began on June 21, and for the next ten days, which are generally unpleasant due to rain or acclimating

to changing schedules—kids are allowed out of school, and parents are forced into considering this the start of the season. These final days of June are often reserved for planning the following 31 days of July. Then, we have another 31 in August and 23 in September. The total number of days stands at 95 days. But, for the nonpracticing, we need to remove the last 10 days of June and the official summer days found in September (23) from the calendars. From this calculation, those limiting their enjoyment have a mere 62 days to celebrate the season.

As for those who view the glass half-full, they have the same number of days but will probably write off the last 10 days in June while taking full advantage of September, which typically has superb weather, with hot sultry days and cool, delicious evenings. These folks find satisfaction by enjoying a summer season of 85 days and rarely claim the summer didn’t last; instead, they’ll tell you how much they look forward to the fall while enjoying the slow transition during the final week of September.

When comparing the two schools of thought, it gives some more than three additional weeks of fun and excitement. Oddly, school calendars dictate the pleasure of the population. Is there a reason we can modify the seasons? How about we change summer to fit into the following schedule: July 1 to September 30 can be considered summer? And since we don’t get snow in December, how about fall running from October 1–December 31? If such an adjustment were to happen, we could fit winter—when the weather is horrible, between January 1– March 31, leaving April 1 through June 30 to be considered spring.

The concept seems to be a good one, and it makes sense to adjust to climate uncertainty. But we better hurry because it looks like, according to some, summer could last all year long if we’re not careful. But, then again, others say we’re moving towards a new ice age; you can’t win.

If anyone knows who we can call about changing the seasons, we’d love to hear from you; and until then, enjoy this last and pleasurable month of the summer. H

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Since the revitalization of Padanaram Village, it isn’t possible to come over the bridge and not marvel at one of the first homes you meet. Sitting across from the harbor and nestled among other beautiful homes, one that sat idle for years, is now the ‘Welcome’ sign for visitors and guests to the SouthCoast.

An iconic property overlooked for years shows its intrinsic value and purpose; it’s blossomed into a rare commodity. An article in last month’s “Our Annual Travel Guide,” The SouthCoast Secret Has Been Unveiled, mentioned the region’s lack of ‘up-scale’ vacation rentals. This home runs counter to the claim.

It’s refreshing to recognize the high standard of accommodations available and that such a fine property is ready for new entrepreneurs to enjoy the potential this home offers.

Padanaram Village is bustling all year long, and the many activities found steps from the home’s deck take place during all four seasons; not surprisingly, its rental history demonstrates that 4 Bridge Street has been a successful draw to couples and families who desire an authentic seaside experience.

Boasting water views from every room while graced by natural sunlight, one would believe the word relaxing was coined for this venue.

The first floor leads to the entryway and foyer that takes you to a flanked floor plan featuring a dining room, family room, and card room with traditional-style built-ins. The updated kitchen and bathroom are also found on this level.

On the second floor, there are four bedrooms and a full bath, all tastefully blending period details with modern conveniences.

Adding to the ambiance are attractive and convenient sparkling clear sliders leading to a large 20' x 10' deck facing Water Street that enjoys fabulous sunsets. The home is zoned commercial and residential, allowing endless opportunities. Newer upgrades to the home include a heating system, central air conditioning, two wrap-around decks, a remodeled kitchen, and elegant landscaping.

Significant benefits of this home include three off-street

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BOASTING WATER VIEWS FROM EVERY ROOM WHILE GRACED BY NATURAL SUNLIGHT, ONE WOULD BELIEVE THE WORD RELAXING WAS COINED FOR THIS VENUE.

AN ICONIC PROPERTY OVERLOOKED FOR YEARS SHOWS ITS INTRINSIC VALUE AND PURPOSE; IT’S BLOSSOMED INTO A RARE COMMODITY. AN ARTICLE IN LAST MONTH’S “OUR ANNUAL TRAVEL GUIDE,” THE SOUTHCOAST SECRET HAS BEEN UNVEILED, MENTIONED THE REGION’S LACK OF ‘UP-SCALE’ VACATION RENTALS. THIS HOME RUNS COUNTER TO THE CLAIM.

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parking spaces, the comfort of knowing all furnishings and content will pass with the sale, and the potential for new owners to earn immediate income. H

4 Bridge Street, in South Dartmouth, Massachusetts, is offered at $1,595,000 and is represented by Anne Whiting Real Estate, a Division of Seaport Realty, 250 Elm Street, steps from this property.

For more information or to initiate a tour, contact the listing broker and property owner, Fatima Simas, at 508-287-0003 or fatima@annewhitingrealestate.com.

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A partner, sidekick, husband, wife

That special person in your life

The one who knows you inside out

And has your back without a doubt

There for the sadness and the joy

A bond that nothing can destroy

Some call it love, straight from the heart

Soulmates pierced by cupid’s dart

Two kindred spirits, lives aligned

It’s how together is defined

Fond affection for all to see

And something else shared privately

That sacred place where couples go

To let their inner feelings flow

Across the table minds embrace

Solving the problems that each face

Essential for our mental fitness

Love comes with its own eyewitness.

Impressions

New London’s Ledge Lighthouse Stands The Test Of Time

hile ferrying from New London, Connecticut, enduring my initial commute across Long Island Sound, a local heading with his family to Montauk for vacation, asked if I had ever seen the Ledge Lighthouse.

Unfamiliar with the ledge or the lighthouse, I asked if I should have noticed it. A bit startled but smiling, my self-appointed guide raised his hand and said, “There she is, the coolest lighthouse on the east coast.” His pride was heartfelt; I could feel his satisfaction making the introduction.

With that, I turned and, with surprise, noticed we were closing in on the massive square towering redbrick structure, seemingly, a stone’s throw away.

“Wow,” were the only words to slowly pass my lips as our ship made way by her mighty presence. Suddenly, it occurred to me I had to let my new friend from Connecticut know he was correct; the Ledge Lighthouse is a sight to see!

Along every New England coastline, rocks, reefs, and obstructions litter ports and harbors; these hazards also extend miles out at sea. But it’s because of these obstacles we have an incredible collection of ‘lights’ along our shores.

WAccording to lighthousefriends.com , the lighthouse at the outer harbor was established as the New London Ledge Harbor Lighthouse; it was to serve as a beacon to ships entering and leaving Long Island Sound. In 1761, it was the fourth ‘light’ to be built, but unfortunately, it was inadequate for the intended purpose.

In a passage from the website, I learned that “In 1853, Henry Hobart, Superintendent of Lights at New London, asked local mariners regarding the necessity of additional lights in the area, and the universal opinion was that a light instead of a buoy on Black Ledge at the entrance to New London Harbor ‘would be a great additional protection to vessels navigating Long Island and Fisher Island sounds.’ Hobart sent the Lighthouse Board a signed petition and two letters from local captains calling for a light on the ledge that October, but it would be nearly six decades before the desired aid was realized. The Lighthouse Board finally requested funds to construct a lighthouse on Black Ledge in 1890.”

Over time The Board repeated requests for upkeep and expenses until, on April 28, 1904, Congress appropriated $60,000 for a “light and fog signal at or near Black Ledge.”

Navigating politics, The Board decided the best location for the new structure would be the Southwest Ledge,

approximately a quarter-mile west of Black Ledge.

As such, alternating the spot to Southwest Ledge would increase the price by $55,000, which took Congress five years to approve. In the meantime, The Board was authorized to contract the new lighthouse but not to spend more than $115,000.

In June 1908, bids were opened, and the project was awarded to T.A. Scott Company for a winning amount of $73,000.

After tireless effort and the usual delays, the lighthouse became operational on November 10, 1909. Interestingly, before the official opening, The Lighthouse Board decided to change the name from the Southwest Ledge Lighthouse to the New London Ledge Lighthouse, not to add confusion with one off of New Haven, with the same name.

Most travelers are in awe by the structure’s design; it has no reference to a typical lighthouse in the northeast and beyond; in fact, it seems that someone may have decided they had an extra home and floated it out to a pre-made foundation in approximately 28-feet of water.

The lighthouse friends have no way of knowing for sure of this tale’s accuracy but mention it in their narrative. “The New London Ledge Light House, with its square, redbrick quarters topped with a mansard roof and a circular lantern room, is one of the most striking and unusuallooking lighthouses in the US. According to local legend, New London residents did not want to gaze out to sea at a structure that would be out of place among their large and historic homes, so Colonial and French architectural influences were used in the lighthouse.”

Since my introduction to the ‘light,’ I make it a point to watch her guard the harbor with each passage. H

There is much more to learn and appreciate than space allows; for additional insight and to learn about booking a tour, visit lighthousefriends.com/light.asp?ID=800.

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"Wow," were the only words to slowly pass my lips as our ship made way by her mighty presence. Suddenly, it occurred to me I had to let my new friend from Connecticut know he was correct; the Ledge Lighthouse is a sight to see!

NEWPORT MANSIONS WINE & FOOD FESTIVAL ANNOUNCED

Tickets for the 18th Annual Newport Mansions Wine & Food Festival, scheduled for September 22-24 at Rosecliff, are on sale. The extensively restored Rosecliff will host 21 seated tasting seminars featuring fine wines and other beverages from around the world, and a charcuterie seminar. There will also be a Vintner’s Dinner on Friday

evening and a Sunday Festival Brunch. Following each seminar, guests will be invited to spend time on the grounds of Rosecliff in the VIP Tasting Tent and enjoy a new culinary experience with samples of cuisine from chefs and restaurants and additional wines. H

Some seminars and brunch may be sold-out to members, but there is still time to inquire. To learn more or purchase tickets, visit newportmansions.org/events/ newport-mansions-wine-food-festival/.

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UMASS DARTMOUTH LIBRARY

ASSOCIATION ANNOUNCES ITS ANNUAL AUTHORS’ BRUNCH

This year’s 15th Annual Authors’ Brunch is planned for Sunday, October 15, 2023 at the campus’s University Marketplace, adjacent to parking lot 5. The event will feature three outstanding authors, Jacquelyn Mitchard, Sara Parestsky, and Adriana Trigiani, where they will share their experiences, successes, and challenges as writers and journalists.

As a sell-out event each year, the Library Associates encourage early reservations to avoid disappointment. After a delicious meal and energetic presentations, the authors will be

GUEST AUTHORS

available for book signings.

Tickets are $50 for non-Library Associate members, $45 for members, and $35 for UMass Dartmouth students. Reservations are required and can be made online at https://www. alumni2.umassd.edu/s/1355/22/interior. aspx?sid=1355&gid=2&pgid=10820&con tent_id=18138.

Proceeds will support the Library’s programs for the enhancement of student experiences. For sponsorship opportunities, please contact Maria Sanguinetti at 508-991-5096 or msanguinetti@umassd.edu. Maria will also accept reservations through October 9. H

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Jacquelyn Mitchard (left) Sara Parestsky (right) (not picturered Adriana Trigiani)

A Love Potion Called Chemistry

Most of us have experienced feelings known as ‘chemistry’ when meeting someone new. Yet, all too common, we are inadvertently left adrift when nature fails to explain the elusive phenomena that go into creating a magnetic connection.

Under the guise of romantic interactions, we use the plural of a phenomenon because science has discovered—and, in a moment, will aid in explaining—the mysterious exuberance experienced from multiple components responsible for the manifestation and unexplained allure of strangers.

The concept of human Attraction has marked differences; one is based on similarities, such as expectations, interests, and personal characteristics emanating from familiarity; these types of connections bring about closeness and comfort over time. Another form of Attraction is rooted in unexplained bursts and feelings and that of seduction, accompanied by a level of excitement, imitating a gravitational pull towards another. It’s this form of physiological and chemical interplay that brings us here. Hopefully, we can help you understand the latter form of Attraction by identifying and explaining the chemical reactions

in your brain that cause physical and emotional arousal during mating rituals.

Restricted to one of the many forms of human contact, Visual-sight, Auditory-hearing, Olfactory-smell, Tactile-touch, and Speech-sound; these senses can work alone, such as a phone call or a glance, although often, they are combined, allowing a psychological and physical connection to be established with another person. Evidence of these specialized interpersonal connections may be found in dating profiles as members request an opportunity to “meet and see if there is chemistry.”

Other physical cues attributed to the rise of intense arousal include facial expressions—eye contact, and body movements. And, while missing from the list, written communication in the form of texting or sending intimate correspondence can entice and exaggerate emotional connections, they are merely a prelude to the physical testing of natural affinity.

The plethora of personal variables we’ve mentioned will inevitably cause chemical attraction to bubble or fizzle.

WHERE THERE’S SMOKE—THERE’S FIRE

Katherine (Katie) Wu, Ph.D. in microbiology/Harvard University (2018), former science and health reporter for the New York Times, currently a journalist for The Atlantic, and winner of the Schmidt Award for Excellence in Science

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Communication (2022), a Science in Society journalism award (2021), and the Evert Clark/Seth Payne Award for Young Science Journalist (2020), penned a blog as a graduate student entitled, Love, Actually: The science behind lust, attraction, and companionship, (Valentine’s Day 2017).

Wu’s talent in understanding complex issues and deciphering them for non-scientific audiences is admirable; she eloquently addresses complicated topics, invoking humor into the specifics of relationship chemistry.

In her essay, Wu credits Dr. Helen Fisher and her team of researchers at Rutgers University for compartmentalizing “romantic love” into three components; Lust, Attraction, and Attachment.

Wu describes how various hormones drive each part of the brain, beginning with the evolutionary need to propagate. She explains that Lust, a factor in initiating a search for sexual pleasure, is the starting point. “The hypothalamus of the brain plays a big role in this, stimulating the production of the sex hormones testosterone and estrogen from the testes and ovaries. While these chemicals are often stereotyped as being ‘male’ and ‘female,’ respectively, both play a role in men and women. As it turns out, testosterone increases libido in just about everyone. The effects are less pronounced with estrogen, but some women report being more sexually motivated around the time they ovulate, when estrogen levels are highest.”

As for Attraction, a separate entity, it’s closely associated and entwined with Lust, working as a two-way street; it’s possible to experience either attribute while piqued by the other.

reaction is believed to be responsible for the increase in passion during the initial leg of a brewing relationship, another reason for the uncontrollable ‘high’ felt by new couples.

Wu concluded with comments about the “Friend Zone,” aka, Attachment; of the three categories, it’s the most serious and the reason long-term relationships are established and maintained.

The primary hormones attributed to feelings of connection and satisfaction include oxytocin and vasopressin; the blog states, “Oxytocin is often nicknamed ‘cuddle hormone’ for this reason. Like dopamine, oxytocin is produced by the hypothalamus and released in large quantities during sex, breastfeeding, and childbirth. This may seem like a very strange assortment of activities—not all of which are necessarily enjoyable—but the common factor here is that all of these events are precursors to bonding.”

We would be remiss if not coming full circle in sharing the pains of relationships.

Still unanswered, but proposed by Wu, is that if hormones are responsible for explaining the magical experiences of connections, why doesn’t it happen more often, resulting in more personal interactions?

Wu puts forth an explanation that dopamine from the hypothalamus is considered the ‘reward hormone’ creating feelings of pleasure. With a surge in dopamine levels, it’s not long before norepinephrine kicks in, causing a chemical interaction responsible for a euphoria that affects physiological homeostasis. As a physical and emotional intoxicant, couples will enjoy the elation during the first stages of attraction, lingering for months of bliss—often referred to as the ‘honeymoon’ period of a relationship.

The author presents evidence of this visible change in behavior and cognitive processes; she connects norepinephrine—the hormone involved in the ‘fight or flight’ response to fear or danger, and how falling in love shows similar actions. Wu points out that the “ventral tegmental area and the caudate nucleus, [in the brain] fire[s] like crazy when people are shown a photo of someone they are intensely attracted to, compared to when they are shown someone they feel neutral towards.”

We also discover that attraction significantly decreases serotonin levels, a regulator of satiation and disposition; this

Though hormones can be pleasant to experience at times, they are also responsible for capricious mood swings, envy, and spite. Without warning, the strength of dopamine targeting pleasure centers during Lust and Attraction mimics the same feelings an addict enjoys when using cocaine or those with an insatiable appetite for sweets.

Using the model of cocaine addiction, Wu explains that “‘dopamine signaling,’ the extension of the ‘high’ during attraction, can lead to the ‘addiction to another human being.’” This form of dependency can also extend to other compulsive behaviors.

Oxytocin also has some faults; established as a hormone for feelings of Affection and well-being when around others, at high levels, it’s been found to cause detachment from time and space, resulting in pleasure turned inward.

Subtly, Wu references how love causes blindness—no, not from that, but instead, she explains that “sexual arousal—not necessarily in attachment—appears to turn-off regions in our brain that regulate critical thinking, self-awareness, and rational behavior, including parts of the prefrontal cortex.” She wittingly suggests that “love makes us dumb,” accompanied by lamentable behaviors.

There it is, how chemistry is tied to Lust, Sex, Infatuation, Attraction, and Attachment. Still unanswered is the question proposed by Wu, if hormones are responsible for explaining the magical experiences of connections, why doesn’t it happen more often, resulting in more personal and sexual interactions?

Perhaps we are back to where we started, meaning we are left with the proposition that physical attraction is the spark that ignites the flame (and hormones) within.

All the best wishes in your search for love or lust—considering it may or may not be your choice! H

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What Is Great Sex?

Sex serves a unique role in the human experience. Its theoretical roots, amassed by religion, speak to the manifestation of a Creator’s intention for a married couple to become “one flesh,” profoundly bonded in spirit and soul through the physical act. As of today, it would take volumes to account for the cultural evolution responsible for the types of relationship humankind have evolved into and to dissect the various types of sexual relationships some participate in, and others avoid.

COMPONENTS OF EXTRAORDINARY SEX

Important for personal well-being and relationship satis -

faction, researching sexuality has long been in the interest of therapists and sexuality clinicians.

At the University of Missouri, Walker and Lutmer recently investigated what it means to have great sex, versus satisfactory or good sex, through lived experience. The pair conducted a survey of 78 adults aged 18-69 with different sexual orientations, identities, and relationship statuses.1

Several principal factors emerged as main ingredients of great sexual relations: emotion, chemistry, and orgasm. While some respondents viewed the emotion as love, most women believed that men only invest in their female partner’s sexual needs when concerned about their emotional well-being. This emotional aspect of sex helped female respondents to feel present or in the moment, so they could achieve orgasm. For others, the

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YOU MAY BE SURPRISED THERE’S MORE TO IT THAN BEING PHYSICAL

emotional factor was defined as affection and trust. Still, others said emotion wasn’t necessary for great sex, citing physical connection as more important. Chemistry, on the other hand, was viewed as beyond personal control, an intangible factor that either exists between two people or it doesn’t.1

Researchers found that men derive validation of their masculinity through a woman’s orgasms, while women were mixed on caring more about orgasaming or more about emotional connection. Both men and women believed both partners should orgasm, and both cared about emotional connection, even though many felt romantic feelings or love weren’t always needed, or needed at all, for sex to be great.1

These results partially validate an earlier Canadian study that also investigated what constitutes great sex.

Led by author Peggy Kleinplatz, Ph.D., a clinical psychologist and sexologist, researchers at the University of Ottawa conducted interviews with 44 adults and 20 sex therapists. Of the 44 adults, there were 25 older adults (11 women, 14 men) ranging in age from 62-80 years (average age 66.6), who all had long-term relationship experience. The remaining 19 adults self-identified as sexual minorities (10 women, 9 men) ranging in age from 23-59 (average age 47.8). (There were nine female and 11 male therapists.) 2

The Canadian team found similar, additional components of great sex. Eight, more specific, categories were identified: being present, focused, and embodied; connection, alignment, merging, and being in synch; deep erotic, sexual intimacy; exceptional communication and heightened empathy; mutual risk-taking, exploration, and fun; authenticity, or being genuine, uninhibited, and transparent; being vulnerable and surrendering; and transcendence, peace, bliss, healing, and transformation. Interestingly, however, two factors were found to be of lesser importance than the US study: intense physical sensation and orgasm and lust, desire, chemistry, and attraction. 2

Despite the variability in participant backgrounds, their ideas of what constitutes great sex, and their language and imagery, were mostly similar, though the sex therapists tended to be more negative. 2

The Canadian researchers say the participants’ notions of great sex were “radically different” from the mass media’s mechanistic portrayal involving novelty, variety, and myriad techniques. The results suggest that sexual fulfillment had more to do with mindset and partner intention than physiology (strong arousal or lubrication, for example) and the act itself. Sometimes, no physical contact was even needed. 2

The authors say it’s time to move from a mostly behavioral understanding of what great sex entails to include more intrapsychic (mind or psyche-related) and interpersonal factors. 2

WHAT IS CHEMISTRY?

People talk about chemistry, that special something with a romantic partner (or a friend or colleague), but participants

had a difficult time defining chemistry and connection during sex in the Walker and Lutmer’s study.

Experts say interpersonal chemistry is mostly unexplored territory in psychological research. In a basic sense, they explain that it’s more than the sum of its parts. It requires coordination between partners, sharing and matching their goals and efforts while supporting each other in doing so.3

Several researchers from the University of Rochester and the University of California, Riverside, have proposed a conceptual model of interpersonal chemistry. The concept stresses several factors. Interpersonal chemistry is emergent in that it arises from interactions and not attributes or expectations, which may explain why there’s never been any scientific proof of effectiveness for matching algorithms in online dating apps. Interpersonal chemistry is special in that the relationship feels different from the rest. And it is often embodied; it can be nonverbal; felt inside of us; at times, even be outside our awareness; and involve eye contact, mirroring of expressions, and synchronous movements.3, 4

The model also hypothesizes that chemistry involves both what it appears to us as (behavior) and how it feels (perception). It involves repeated interactions in which our feelings, desires, needs, or goals are expressed and greeted with understanding, support, and appreciation. We perceive as chemistry a sense of shared identity, pleasant feelings, and mutual attraction, and a perceived coordination of goals. As time unfolds, we can experience synchronicity in our behaviors (words, thoughts, ideas, etc.) While it’s believed chemistry can be felt quickly, it’s also believed connected moments must accumulate for chemistry to last.3, 4

The authors suggest that chemistry is easier to bring about for people that are more likable, with higher attractiveness, warmth, and perspective-taking, as well as those with personal goals. It may also be influenced by expressing one’s personal thoughts and beliefs, especially early on in a relationship.3, 4

GOING DEEPER

Clinical psychologist Gregg Henriques, Ph.D., broke down, in practical terms, the eight factors of great sex emerging from the Canadian team’s groundbreaking research.5

Being present means to be fully absorbed in the moment and feel wholly alive—to completely let go, focus, and be aware of all one’s senses.

Being in alignment and in sync with one’s partner, as described by one woman, is like “at least in one moment…the length of a heartbeat, a breath where I can’t tell where I stop and they start.” Many described it as a kind of shared energy, or electricity, between partners.

Deep erotic, sexual intimacy involves a deep sense of trust that many view as a must for great sex. Value and respect for one’s partner (outside the bedroom) and deep mutual caring in which partners feel loved and wanted were also parts of a deep erotic connection.

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Exceptional communication and heightened empathy are the ability to communicate freely through words (erotic language, for many) and touch. There is no judgment, with a deep understanding of the other person. Heightened empathy was critical to play off the other person. It’s about sensitivity, listening, and knowing, even without being told, to use that one touch that elicits a certain response. “Paying attention to the little things” is important.

Being adventurous, taking risks, and having fun were explained by participants as an ongoing process of discovery, continually expanding one’s sexual boundaries. A sense of humor and playfulness safely complemented this risk-taking process.

Being authentic, genuine, uninhibited, and transparent, in the words of one woman, means “sex where you can say anything and be anything.” It means being largely uninhibited and free from self-consciousness, permitting yourself to enjoy pleasure as completely as possible.

Being vulnerable and surrendering is more interpersonal than intrapsychic, where a person can put their being into another’s hands. Like taking a leap of faith, a partner shows themself and their desire, and it’s valued and responded to.

For many, experiencing transcendence, bliss, and transformational healing involved a “high” like meditation. Participant descriptions suggest a peak experience of heightened well-being.

‘CAUSE FOR OPTIMISM’

Henriques says the general message is “that the key to optimal sexual experiences was to unlearn many of the conventional scripts that society imposes on sexual behavior and instead find a way to connect authentically and with courage.”

The Canadian researchers say this revelation is “cause for optimism” for the public and clinicians. Being comfortable in one’s skin is essential for authenticity and being in the moment. The results point to comfort with self, interpersonal exploration, and acceptance.

With participants emphasizing the physical aspects of great sex, Walker and Lutmer’s findings point to the subjectivity of sexual experience, perhaps related to the difference in average participant age between the studies.

Of course, sex in the post-modern era is becoming increasingly open and often devalued, evidenced by the popularity of transactional relationships—friends with benefits, “body counts,” open relationships, and other trends, coupled with the rise in sexually transmitted diseases. As such, time will tell if the path society is on will lead to a satisfying destination. H

1. Walker, A. M. & Lutmer, A. (2023). Caring, Chemistry, and Orgasms: Components of Great Sexual Experiences. Sexuality & Culture.

2. Kleinplatz, P. J., Ménard, A. D., Paquet, M.-P., et al. (2009). The components of optimal sexuality: A portrait of “great sex.” The Canadian Journal of Human Sexuality, 18(1-2), 1-13.

3. Association for Psychological Science. (2022, January/February). Chemistry Between People: A Sum of Their Connections. Observer.

4. Reis, H. T., Regan, A., & Lyubomirsky, S. (2021). Interpersonal chemistry: What is it, how does it emerge, and how does it operate? Perspectives on Psychological Science, 17(2). Advance online publication.

5. Henriques, G. (2018, April 10). 8 Keys to a Greater Sex Life. Psychology Today.

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A Roadmap For Eternal Youth

Take a moment; close your eyes and clear your mind for about 4-5 minutes. Now, consider the age you feel at this moment—don’t overthink it; just experience the thought.

Open your eyes and reflect on your spirit, biological conditioning, and finally, chronological age—then ask yourself, are these three clocks congruent?

With so many paradigms attempting to address this question, it would be ludicrous to isolate or define each of them; however, it isn’t unusual for us to feel we are so much younger than what our physical image says about us.

You may have heard “40 is the new 60,” in many cases, it’s true; what used to be defined as ‘senior’ now looks like middle-aged— even younger. Advancements in medicine and self-care—both inside and out, mean we no longer have to accept or endure radical changes in the aging process. There’s no reason why it shouldn’t be this way!

Culturally, physically, and spiritually, we have advanced into a new age of self-preservation and discovery; the challenge to live a full quality life can be viewed either as a gift, unquestionably, a reward to be embraced.

New to the party are discoveries believed to have the potential to influence our lives, including rebuilding genetic material. Diet research and newly marketed supplements claiming to turn back years at the cellular level are gaining traction.

Factors relative to how we age and feel are specific to our environments; how we interact with stressors, including contaminants, diet, reaction to stress, physical activity, emotional wellness, physical appearance, and cognitive clarity, all play a vital role in living well, looking good, and increasing longevity.

Recently, in studies conducted in the US and abroad, researchers found the secret of staying the aging process. According to Northwestern Medicine in Chicago, Illinois, our biological age, also called epigenetic age, is influenced by compounds that instruct specific chromosomes on how to react. The hospital has shown that, in combination, healthy lifestyles, in-

cluding a balance of sleep and activity, plus changes in diet, stress reduction, and supplements, can actually slow and even reverse aging. Such claims are not wishful thinking but backed by science. According to a study in a journal known as Aging, researchers found that improvements in biological aging can be reversed by 11 years when adhering to a newly discovered diet regime.

A healthy daily diet to get you on the track to renewed youth should include the following:

n Dark leafy greens (skip the off-the-shelf dressings, stick with olive oil and balsamic)

n Cruciferous vegetables, such as broccoli, cabbage & cauliflower

n Vegetables possessing bright colors, like peppers

n Seeds, including pumpkin, sunflower & flax

n Beets & eggs

n Liver, although some may not be interested in organ meat, they could try a liver supplement

n Wild berries

n Onion, garlic, rosemary & turmeric

n Green tea – skip the caffeine

n At least eight cups of water daily

n Olive oil, in place of other fats, zero butter, and never chemical replacements

Other suggestions include beans and legumes, methylationtype foods that support DNA, introducing a daily probiotic, meditation, daily exercise, and seven to eight hours of sleep.

Some suggest that biological changes can be almost immediate, with results in as few as eight weeks. And, if you’re up to the challenge to re-invent yourself, here are a few more ideas to consider. Eliminate alcohol, fast for 12 hours—overnight, and avoid sugar and dairy. Eat as much food raw as possible and choose organic, followed by vigorously washing fruits and vegetables.

One thing missing from the list is fish. It is well-known to affect health positively and should be part of your diet.

As for the outside, pamper your skin, a major body organ; its care will enhance a positive outlook and inspire you to maintain your self-care program.

Stay focused on your journey—it’s worthwhile. H

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THE SUBTLETIES OF FRAUD & DECEPTION AND HOW TO SPOT THEM

Everyone is familiar with the old ‘bait & switch’ scam, made famous when automobile dealers would advertise a car with an—unrealistic price, known as ‘low-balling,’ only to disappoint consumers when they showed up to make a purchase—and learn it didn’t exist.

The tactic wasn’t only reserved for car dealers; many times, businesses would quote a price, then surprise a customer with an inflated invoice filled with excuses.

A lot has changed, with more companies playing by the rules, but then, some have become increasingly crafty at sleight-ofhand, tricking the public into believing their lies.

We stumbled upon a case involving a family needing roof repairs. They started with a list of choices, then began to narrow it down to two they wanted to quote for the project. Their primary objective was to select a familiar firm with proven credentials that would give them the very best price for quality work.

In an attempt to secure a final quote, the process left them with a choice between two companies; each well-known, the estimators that visited were polite and appeared knowledgeable and experienced.

After a short wait, they received estimates, not quotes, as initially requested.

In the building trades, it’s recommended not to rely on estimates; the word difference allows for “unforeseen increases” in the final price, removing the power of negotiation from the consumer.

But this wasn’t the problem; having a choice, they decided the one they would go with was an accredited member of the Better Business Bureau (BBB); they had seen their trucks nearby on other jobs, and the company put in writing and in all of their advertising, “We Will Beat All Roofing Estimates—Guaranteed.”

The family was sold on what appeared to be an honest pledge built on trust.

They called the well-known roofing company ready to go, prepared to hear a price less than the one they had received from a competitor—even if it was only a few dollars less; what transpired was shocking.

The nice guy suddenly turned arrogant, saying he wasn’t interested in doing the job and wouldn’t try to beat the price, adding, “No one calls about that; it’s [the guarantee] just there.”

Insult to injury, he smugly told the senior citizens, “Go to the other guy; you got a quote, be happy.”

Displeased, they referred back to his ad, pointing out all of his claims, but he wouldn’t budge and then started to accuse them of getting angry, which they said they didn’t. Instead, they kept the conversation light and friendly. Still, they asserted he was deceptive in his advertising by admitting it was a ploy because he never intended to honor his claims.

Not going any further, the couple said goodbye but still had questions.

In the world of Google, it only took them a couple of minutes to learn that the owner lied about beating other quotes and had no association with the BBB. He has been using their Federally protected trademark to falsely insinuate he was a safe and recommended business.

Thankfully, the organization takes deception seriously and allows consumers to report offenders. It’s egregious when anyone takes advantage of consumers, but in this case, it rises to a new level when older adults are financially used for personal gain.

The couple did report to the BBB; they contacted the Massachusetts Attorney General and will soon speak to District Attorney Tom Quinn, who leads the fight against those who would take advantage of our seniors through his Elder Fraud Unit.

We’ll keep you updated as things progress—‘caveat emptor.’ H

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Buyer Beware

LINGERING DOUBTS ABOUT THE SOUTHCOAST RAIL

Will The Promises Made—Be Kept?

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For over 18 years, a faction of the New Bedford community, local and state politicians, and special interests groups have been cheerleading efforts to develop a commuter train from the City’s Seaport to Boston. It appears their dream will come true by the year’s close, with a ceremonial ribbon-cutting and gratuitous back-slapping of credit seekers.

While some will celebrate, what they believe is a victory, others view it as a milestone of political ambition and a lack of conscientious representation.

Principally, opponents feel the SouthCoast Rail project has been a waste of taxpayer money—on state and federal levels. The technology was obsolete from its inception, and it’s common knowledge of dangerous levels of diesel emissions have contributed to the problem of climate change due to hydrocarbons damaging the ozone, resulting in serious human health issues. Plus, the rail system (while necessary outside of New Bedford) is a financial hamstring for the public.

Unless the SouthCoast Rail can fill its cars, as projected, the system will further burden state taxpayers with another unnecessary expense.

During public meetings, the project was touted and shouted as a solution to ease traffic, cut down on emissions (from cars) and help businesses along the SouthCoast. Additionally, the area would see significant increases in tourism after it went online.

invest is approximately 14 hours Monday-Friday, or a whopping 70 hours each week.

A VOICE OF REALITY

Surprisingly, and something few were aware of, is that a voice of reason existed but never resonated.

According to New Bedford Mayor Jon Mitchell, quoted in an interview with WBUR in March of 2022, “I’m a big supporter of the project, but I also think the public needs to be realistic about its benefits. An indirect route to Boston on the rail is not going to usher in prosperity.”

Then again, in an interview with local radio host Barry Richard of WBSM, Mayor Mitchell repeated his feelings about the train in response to the empty promises made by proponents when he explained to Richard that, “The restored rail service should not be viewed as a commuter rail service… the number of folks who will use it for that purpose will likely be low.” More surprisingly, the Mayor added, “Train service between New Bedford and Boston will most likely be for occasional day-trippers.”

It gets better. Richard states, quite accurately, “For decades. SouthCoast politicians have demanded a rail link to Boston, declaring it a matter of ‘economic justice.’”

with a multi-billion dollar project with years of rising expense?

After an estimated expense of $1.047 billion for the first phase, what has been referenced as a “white elephant” on wheels is beginning to show cracks in its shiny veneer.

Stalled, debated, but forced into existence, the New BedfordBoston run is only the beginning. According to SouthCoast Rail Project Manager Jean Fox, the full completion of the program, which extends outside of the City of New Bedford, will come in at around $3.2 billion but will not be finished until sometime in 2030.

As the clock ticks by, and anticipation bubbles, everyone is curious about the success of the SouthCoast Rail. Here’s what is shaping up as a viable transportation resource.

The new train experience is expected to clock in from station to station in about two hours. But, it is also necessary to include a traveler’s time to get to the platform and leave the station, the same when returning. Allowing thirty minutes in each case turns a daily commute into a staggering three-hour excursion, with a round trip of six total hours getting to and from work daily. For most who work an eight hour job, the time they’ll

It is beyond imagination that the SouthCoast train was spurred on the theory of economic justice rather than statistics and financial viability, raising the question, is it an acceptable reason for saddling taxpayers with a multi-billion dollar project with years of rising expense?

We searched Investopedia.com to learn what economic justice means and found its definition as “a component of social justice and welfare economics. It is a set of moral and ethical principles for building economic institutions, where the ultimate goal is to create an opportunity for each person to establish a sufficient material foundation upon which to have a dignified, productive, and creative life.”

Of course, the definition above makes complete sense when applicable. It’s difficult to pinpoint what SouthCoast representatives mean when using economic justice to initiate a train to transport people lacking a desire to waste their lives on a train.

What is evident is that practically forcing any person or community into a scenario where they have to travel six hours to work eight seems reckless, even inhumane.

To be fair, the project will need time to become operational so the result of utilization can be measured and a clear picture emerges. Only then will the logic and sincerity behind the SouthCoast Rail Project have the opportunity to be fairly judged, as well as those who advanced the idea.

All aboard? H

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TWO SIDES OF A COIN; The Jury Is Still Out On the Safety Of Antiaging Supplements

If you haven’t heard by now, the new trend in health, or rather, reversing the effects of aging, is the rage, with attention focused on a supplement called nicotinamide adenine dinucleotide (NAD). Hailed as a miracle drug, the short story of the molecule is that when taken in addition to foods containing the compound, it’s thought to cause an increase in cellular energy and repair damaged DNA.

Everyone’s cells contain NAD, but levels dramatically decrease as we age, resulting in significant depletion in our natural production—followed by cellular damage.

Widely believed to be a metabolic intermediary, some studies suggest, as a supplement, it can boost levels in the body resulting in extended life.

In animal testing, a rise in NAD has shown an invigoration in the mitochondrial function—which is responsible for cellular energy. In turn, there appears to be a link between cardiovascular improvements and muscle tissue regeneration.

Some critics shade the clamor with caution, citing US oversight of supplements is relaxed, and manufacturer’s claims are unproven.

More vital to the effort to weed-out from the headlines and promotional jargon, is that while studies show a jumpstart in increasing the body’s measures of NAD—often within 6-8 weeks, it’s been found that NAD supports cancer cells; hypothesizing, cutting down on levels of the molecule could be a means for eradicating cancer cells.

Such diametric theories confound an already confused consumer who wants the benefits of regenerating cellular function but not risking the chance of feeding cells that may be precancerous.

Nature Cell Biology, a peer-review journal, published a report that “Scientists [indicate] a newly discovered role for NAD+ metabolism at the intersection of cellular aging and cancer—specifically, in a process called cellular senescence. Senescence occurs when aging, damaged cells stop dividing. The process can help suppress cancer, but it leads cells to produce inflammatory molecules that can also promote cancer growth under certain conditions.”

It goes on to say, “Rugang Zhang of the Wistar Institute and his colleagues found that in cells entering senescence, rising levels of NAMPT (a major

NAD+-producing enzyme in mammals) encourage the release of inflammatory and potentially protumor molecules. Consistent with those findings, mice genetically predisposed toward pancreatic cancer developed more precancerous and cancerous growths when they consumed the NAD+ precursor NMN.”

Zhang advice? “More research is needed…[and] we should be cautious and bear in mind the potential downside of NAD+ supplementation.”

Even so, Zhang is feeling pushback; according to another researcher, Elysium’s Guarente, believes his study is flawed by the small sample size and lack of scientific replication at this time.

Regardless of where we find ourselves, this debate is in its infancy and more insights will come soon. H

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Soon Gone, Never Forgotten

THE TS KENNEDY SHAPED LIVES & INSTILLED CHARACTER

Farewell

For those who enjoy the stillness and turbulence the ocean delivers, find salt air calming, appreciate old ships (and believe in mermaids), do we have a story for you.

A minority of observers—likely comprised of non-sailors, can sometimes show a lack of understanding and respect for ships when reciting obscure beliefs about a historic vessel’s majestic life. Ignorance and contributions to their unbeknownst

embarrassment are compounded by statements like “out with the old, in with the new,” or arrogantly referencing an aging vessel as a “rust-bucket.” Such comments prove shocking to generations who have spent time aboard life-teaching floating classrooms that drive the economy.

Too polite to engage, a sailor will remain quiet in response to such vagrant disregard—like a secret handshake, they’ll refrain from acknowledging or explaining the error in judgment.

Soon, the country’s fleet of retired ships will make room for another; sometime in 2024, the TS Kennedy will take its place in the ranks of those before her; a replacement is on the way. Even though the ‘Patriot’ is being equipped with new technology for the needs of today’s crews, from photos released during the refitting, the lack of character and style is painfully apparent. The replacement seems more like a cruise ship than a working vessel.

The Kennedy is a hulking example of intricate yet functional design with power and might; it’s the result of thousands involved from concept to decommissioning. Their combined efforts, from design and building, maintaining and educating, to its humanitarian impact and service to the country, enable all to share in the countless journeys that passed below her keel.

THE BEGINNING

Nearly 25 years ago, under a different company title, providing consultation, documentation of historical events, and décor service for the maritime industry, we were summoned for engagement by two former classmates of the Massachusetts Maritime Academy (MMA); Rear Admiral and Academy President, Maurice Bresnahan, and Director of Placement, Captain Albert (Al) B. Wilson, who also held many other offices during his tenure, including the hiring of Rick Gurnon who later became president of MMA.

Our charge was to advise and recommend key elements in restoring and preserving the college’s archives from its beginning, and create digital files of the materials. We also designed and created displays that reflected the Academy’s proud history and introduced the college to a new generation of students.

NEXT STEPS

Over the many years we spent on campus, other assignments we were tasked with included reporting news at the Academy. We embedded in cadet life, from early morning revelry to tears shed during orientation, we gathered facts and information so we could journal every event that would eventually be reflected in a hard-cover bound coffee-table book that would be used for entertainment, research, and raise funds to support programming and special projects.

After numerous meetings, it was decided that the published account of MMA’s remarkable history, the “second oldest state maritime academy in the United States,” would honor and become a tribute to Wilson’s tireless efforts to improve and exalt the school’s reputation.

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“When all seems to be against you, remember, a ship sometimes has to sail against the current, not with it.”
Matshona Dhliwayo

TURMOIL—WHAT’S NEW?

Unexpectedly, in December 2005, news broke the MMA Board of Trustees fired then-President, Rick Gurnon.

Rumors swirled as to why the discharge from duty; unknown sources speculated that the cause may have been his possibly starting an investigation of a sex scandal on campus or requesting a probe into a student’s possible misuse of funds. The furry on campus was deafening.

For weeks the chatter remained hot, with headlines expounding theory after theory; everyone began questioning possible outcomes of an upcoming hearing to determine Gurnon’s fate.

Finally, word came down that in a surprise reversal, the Massachusetts Board of Education overturned the dismissal; Gurnon had been put on the plank but allowed to return to the safety of his ship.

ON COURSE

Once the tenor at the school calmed, we went back to recording daily operations, public relations efforts, and school protocols; we dug deeper, focusing on collecting and organizing past and present notes, letters, and personal opinions about Academy life. Hours were spent interviewing, pouring through boxes, and listening to ‘war stories’ and anecdotes that were not often repeated; difficult to believe—they made for great content.

These efforts establish a ‘timeline,’ a historical record for the public’s use and that of nautical historians.

LET THE PARTY BEGIN

We were guests on the campus at Taylor’s Point in Buzzards Bay in 2009, part of a star-studded event commemorating the renaming of the TS Enterprise to the TS Kennedy. Dignitaries, friends and neighbors, members of the Kennedy family, and the media were all in attendance.

The excitement and pride expressed by the hundreds of onlookers who took personal satisfaction and accountability for establishing a new identity for a ship that would become a symbol of greatness for the MMA, the state, and its citizenry was electrifying.

BACK TO WORK

Our publications continued to follow the tide of MMA’s journey; much of it was about politics, special events, public affairs, dinners, and sporting events—all very harmless. But then more salacious happenings discussed in private—including internal wrangling and manipulation, not typically aired—even by the media, was beginning to rear its ugly head.

Adhering to our responsibilities, we remained focused and kept all we learned close to the vest.

Some of the most pleasant memories are from times aboard the Kennedy, where parties were staged on her stern and decks; guests dined on fine foods and top-shelf liquor set upon decorative tables to impress donors, families, and friends; music and dancing usually followed.

Most of the time, the ship sat idle, except when called to service or when cadets shipped out for the ‘Annual Training Cruise.’ This valuable hands-on experience played many roles; to offer real-world challenges and to teach ‘youngies’ what sailing and running a ship of enormous size and capacity entailed. It also gave many of them a taste of international travel.

ONCE IN A LIFETIME

It was always the goal to bring our full force and expertise to the project, and we were proud to play a role in every aspect. When we learned that a never-before excursion known as a ‘Mini-Cruise’ was planned for New York Harbor, our team huddled and discussed our contribution to this all-important, once-in-a-lifetime opportunity.

We decided to place a staff member on board; she would cover life at sea—an event not more than an extended weekend. However, gathering information about training and cadets’ experiences was an ideal opportunity.

As chance would have it—the trip was an eye-opener and precursor to our future with the Academy.

Once our traveling photojournalist’s passage was confirmed and set into place, we met with our primary contact, the Vice President of Advancement. A civilian with little to no paramilitary experience, she knew good creative concepts and how to raise funds for non-profits, or in this case, a specialized college. What she didn’t seem to realize was sharks were circling; they smelled blood, or in this case, power.

We planned to deliver a fabulous idea that would shine brightly on the Academy—offered at no cost to them; it would be the cornerstone of the ‘book’ soon to be published.

Drone technology was in its infancy, and the quality of its photographic capabilities was questionable. Because of this limitation, we proposed, funded entirely by our company, to go to New York City, arrange transportation, accommodations, meals, and the rental of a helicopter to fly over New York Harbor and shoot this once-in-a-lifetime event of the TS Kennedy cruising by the Statue of Liberty! The hours involved were exhausting, but we felt worthwhile.

Making a personal investment of just over $5,000, we promised this extraordinary event wouldn’t go unnoticed; having a bona fide contract with a state agency allowed us the security to show our good faith and commitment to the project.

After reviewing the steps necessary to cover the trip and conditions regarding ownership of the images, it was agreed our company would retain copyright to the photographs, with the allowance of those we selected for publication—only to be used for the historical journal, aka the ‘Book’.

WHEELS UP!

Flying over the Kennedy was dramatic, frightening, and exhilarating! With three cameras, locked and loaded, various lenses at-

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tached, and a small flotation device, not to ensure survival, but as I was told, “to find the body,” along with a flimsy car-type seatbelt holding me in place, we lifted and flew to the harbor.

Nothing can describe the feeling of watching the young crew scramble on deck; it was like viewing a motion picture.

You see a small sample of work here, but it took countless hours to bring this together. Ships move slowly in congested harbors, and when the clock is ticking (flying services charge by the minute), conflict arises between creative need and budget restrictions; we opted for quality.

GREED & FRENZY

During weeks leading up to the departure to New York, my partner and I noticed visible tension between the Advancement Department and another, best described as an affirmative action committee, run by a former MMA grad.

Isolated in a building along the Cape Cod Canal, its role was focused on increasing women and minority enrollment at the Academy. However, we learned it wasn’t the leader’s long game; there was a hidden objective, and we were viewed as an obstacle to an agenda.

Returning to the Mini-Cruise, our photojournalist, while skeptical, was cordial to the adversary. Extremely shy, our pho -

the location just as a bellowing blow of toxic chemicals, ash, and particles were released; the poisonous fumes and atmospheric contagions blanketed the woman’s eyes, nose, and mouth—covering her in black soot. Being highly sensitive to atmospheric contagions and toxins, she took weeks to recover from the cruel and vicious antic.

At first, believing it was accidental, my partner later claimed that the look in the perpetrator’s eyes and her laughter showed true intent—the negligent action had been purposeful.

A couple of weeks later, we had completed post-production of the images and were ready to show highlights of Kennedy’s trip around Manhattan. We met with our contact and a few others; clearly, we quenched the thirst of their anticipation by sharing the results; it looked like clear skies ahead.

At the meeting, we were again issued complete confidence, reiterating that we were to continue working on the journal outline and its content; the Academy had a proposed deadline which offered plenty of time to complete the project.

SURPRISE-SURPRISE

A few weeks later, we were called in for an unplanned meeting; to our chagrin, the project members we had consummated the contract with happened to be AWOL and replaced with no other than the antagonist.

This new group, hand selected by the new leader, had no experience in design or publishing; neither did they have any information about the project’s development and progress.

Our impression, proven correct later, was the power-starved staffer believed the high-profile asset— the book, dangling like low-hanging fruit, could be extracted and controlled; the reward would not only be a feather in a white cap but also offered the chance to oversee future communication and take control of MMA’s narrative for public and political consumption. Also included was an opportunity to fold in control of the Advancement Department.

tographer did her best to be friendly and kind; it was her nature and why everyone loved her.

Shockingly, upon the return of the Kennedy to port, I was informed that during the trip, our nemesis asked her to move to another area on the ship, stating it would be of interest to her.

The photojournalist was placed in front of what she later learned was a massive exhaust outlet for the ship. Once there, oddly but abruptly, the staff member quickly side-stepped from

The meeting, which had no spoken agenda and appeared to have been strategized based on the new group’s temperaments, actions, and questions; like a lightning strike, we learned the short answer to our questions—the mystery had been solved.

“Where are the photos?” came first, followed by “How do we get copies?” The inquiry, lacking pause or civility, was not a request; they were demands, and the tone proved beyond a reasonable doubt we were being unduly pressured to release

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our property without compensation: once again, the eyes explained everything.

One would believe that sharing the prearranged agreement made before the trip to New York City would carry weight, especially when the personal investment was staggering and an act of good faith—unfortunately, for us, no one seemed interested in facts or the legality of the agreement.

We were expected to hand over our protected work—without compensation for indiscriminate use by a state-run college because we were being ordered with a veiled threat of retaliation.

It’s not that we didn’t try to negotiate, but the effort was of no interest; the value of our insight ahead of time and the importance of documenting the historic trip seemed to be an irritant— an obstruction to a plan.

Most readers won’t be surprised to learn that after a couple of weeks, the Academy breached its contract with us; they ceased communication and defaulted on scheduled payments. There were other agreements made; they, too, were defaulted upon.

We sat and discussed the matter, knowing the well was poisoned and any effort to continue would be fruitless; we allowed the Massachusetts Maritime Academy and the State of Massachusetts to escape from their signed agreements. We forfeited the remaining compensation, then learned a new group was brought in to resume the project under the watchful eye of ‘you know who.’

A LESSON LEARNED OR CHARACTER & INTEGRITY

It’s been years since we left an institution supposedly known for building leaders and instilling the qualities that make successful men and women.

Looking back at our options, then and now, we felt the correct choice was made; to us, duking it out would have taken us from other important tasks, and so we accepted the financial hit and walked away.

If it were today—things would be different; we have the documentation to prove our case.

You might ask, why now do we share the truth about a story that could be laid to rest and forgotten? Honestly, now is the right time and the proper medium to share our experiences. These events are only a few tales that should be told and preserved.

Our admiration has never been faulted as “fans” of the Academy and what it stands for; our appreciation for the people who devote their careers to the education of tomorrow’s leaders and the cadets—many whom we have followed and befriended; our commitment to them is unwavering.

At the same time, the public must be aware of the internal struggles and bitter actions of those in positions of authority.

What is most disheartening is the broken promise to Capt’n Al when he could no longer put up a fight and suddenly passed. His final wish, stepped over and thrown over the side by his so-called friends and colleagues, was never completed, or if it was, it has been sanitized to the point of becoming a propaganda tool and nowhere to be found.

Unknown to many, he developed and orchestrated the initial project to ensure a specific outcome; his lifelong dream was to leave a legacy. Capt’n Al understood our commitment to him and all who had and will set sail from the Academy docks.

Perhaps this final exposé mirrors how society treats people and ships that become old. Viewed as useless or a “dying breed’ as one news outlet recently called the TS Kennedy, we decided it was time to flush out the motivations and the extent some will go to achieve selfish career objectives.

Capt’n, we’re sorry things didn’t turn out as you planned. On the bright side, your vision of transparency is getting its due, with the sun shining brightly on your memory.

God bless.

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Soon, the TS Kennedy will take her last voyage-she’s being retired! In commemorating the end of an era, we are proud to make this Exclusive Offer, opening up our private collection to the public.

These highly collectible, one-of-a-kind prints, documenting a dramatic Mini-Cruise of the TS Kennedy through New York Harbor, can be yours today or make the perfect gift for your “Cadet.”

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