HOW TO FIND MEANING OF LIFE
Henrik XMagnusson
Henrik XMagnusson
HowtoFindMeaning of Life
Your guidetolife
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FO RE WO RD
Like you, Ihaveponderedthe meaningoflife. Thesethoughtshavecometome both during timesofadversity andatother points in my life.But this book is notabout me,itisabout you, so Iwillstoptalking nowand we will talk againat theend of thebook. Enjoyreading!
With warm regards
Henrik XMagnusson
ME AN IN GO FL IF E
Hey, you— theone sittingthere,actuallythinking. Good foryou.
If you're sittingthere rightnow with acup of coffee in your hand,staring outthe window andwondering whyyou're actually here,why thecat always lies in thesun,and what the meaningofitall is —you'reingoodcompany. Congratulations. You're notalone.Eversince humans began to think, we have pondered exactlythe same thing. It's practicallya humantradition at this point. Andjustlikemost worthwhile things,you have to be patient, becausethe answer rarely arrivesasa notification on your phone.
Searchingfor meaningcan sometimesfeel like lookingfor a missingsockinthe laundry. Youknowit must be somewhere, butitdisappearsintoa blackhole. Andjustlikewiththe sock, meaningoften pops up in themostunexpectedplaces, sometimesinthe middle of everyday chaoswhenyou're changing diapersatthree in themorning,sometimes when you're drivingthe kids to practice forthe fifthtimethisweek, sometimeswhenyou'redoing somethingyou didn't really want to do butneeded to be done.1
Andthat'sperfectly normal.You don'thavetohave everything figuredout rightnow.Lifeisnot an equation with asinglecorrect answer.Itisrathera long walk whereyou get to discover newviews alongthe way. Sometimesyou walk uphill andeverythingfeels heavy, sometimesitcarries you
1Frankl,ViktorE. Man'sSearchfor Meaning.BeaconPress, 2006.
down theother side.But what mattersisthatyou'removing —thatyou'reputting onefoot in frontofthe other, even if it is only onesmall step at atime.
Themeaning –perhaps an evolutionary shortcut
Ourancestors whocared fortheir children,cooperatedwith others,and solved problems together survived.Those whodid notcareasmuchdisappeared from history, includingtheir genes.2 This meansthatmanyofthe behaviorsweexperience as meaningful today—care,responsibility, relationships—are thesamebehaviors that have historically carriedhumanity forward.3
In short: Thesense of meaningisnot just afeeling.Ithas served as abiologicaltoolfor survival,muchlikethe feelingof hunger makesyou eatand thefeeling of tirednessmakes you sleep.
Aconcreteexample: When youtakecareofsomeone else, perhapshelping your neighbor with heavybags, showingup when afriendneedstotalk, or just taking thetimetolistento
2Dawkins, Richard. TheSelfish Gene.OxfordUniversityPress,1976.
3Pinker,Steven. TheBetterAngelsofOur Nature.Viking, 2011.
your child, youtrigger thesamesense of meaningthathelped your ancestorssurvive.And thebrain?Itloves it.Itrewards youwithdopamineand endorphins,muchlikewhenyou eat chocolate, butmorelasting.
This doesn'tmeanthateverythingyou do hastobegrand or heroic.Onthe contrary.The most meaningful momentsare oftenthe most mundane. When youholdsomeone whois crying.Whenyou stay when things gettough.Whenyou choosetocare, even when it's inconvenient.Itisinthese quiet momentsthatmeaning takesroot. This is whereitgrows steadily andwithout fanfare, theway atreewidensits roots withoutanyonewatching.
MINI EXERCISE 1: Thinkofthree things youhave done in thelastweekthathavehelpedsomeone else.
They canbereallysmall things:
•Holding thedooropenfor someonewitha stroller
•Givinga word of encouragementtoa colleague
•Agreeing to help your neighbor with something Consider howreading thelistmakes youfeel. Youmay alreadyunderstandthe meaningwithout realizingit.
Andifthe list feelsempty rightnow?That'sokaytoo. Sometimeswegothrough periodswhere everything feelsgray
andmeaningless.Thatdoesn't mean you've failed or that you're doingsomething wrong. It just meansthatyourbrain needsa little extrareminderthatactions count, even when thefeelingisn't quitethere yet. Keep doingthe little things anyway.Theyadd up to somethingbigger, even if youdon't feel it rightaway.
Philosophy's perspectiveonmeaning
Sinceancient times, philosophy hastried to answer the question "why arewehere?"The greatthinkersoffer many different answers, buthereare themostimportant ones briefly:
• Existentialism says that theuniversedoes notgiveusany ready-made meaning—we create it ourselves. Jean-PaulSartrebelieved that we are"condemnedtofreedom," whichin practice meansthatyou must take responsibility foryourlifeand create your own meaning.4 Aha! That meansthatyou toocan create meaning, even if it starts with asingle actofkindnessand doingone thingata time.
• Religions oftenoffer afixed framework: you areherefor areason, perhapstolearn,perhaps to be kind,orperhaps to worshipsomething greaterthanyourself. Thestructure provides
4Sartre,Jean-Paul. ExistentialismIsa Humanism.1946.
security,evenifyou don'tagree with everything verbatim.5
• Psychologicalmodels show that meaning oftenarisesfrom action—whatyou do affects youmorethanwhatyou feel.6 Forexample, when youdoa good deed,you feel better, whichinturnmakes life more meaningful.Soit is notthe feelingthatleads to theaction, but theother wayaround.
Allofthispointsinthe same direction: meaningismoreofa process than amoment.7 It's notsomething youfindone day andthenown forever. It's somethingyou cultivate, everyday, throughsmall actions.
This is perhapsthe most liberating insightofall:you don't have to have theanswertoeverything. Youdon't have to choosea single philosophicaldirection andfollowitblindly. Youcan take what suitsyou andleave therest. Your meaning canbea mixtureofall of this—a little existentialfreedom,a little responsibility,a little drive. Theimportant thingisnot that youhavethe rightphilosophy, butthatyou startmoving in adirection that feelsright foryou.
5Armstrong, Karen. TheCasefor God.Knopf,2009.
6Beck,Aaron T. CognitiveTherapy and theEmotional Disorders. Penguin, 1976.
7Nagel, Thomas. TheViewFromNowhere.OxfordUniversityPress, 1986.
Whywelosemeaning
Despitethe tricks of evolutionand theadviceofphilosophy, we allhavedayswhenlifefeels empty. Whydoesthishappen? Thebrain,despite allits brilliantfunctions,issometimes a really annoying companion.
• Evolutiondoesn't care if you're happy rightnow. It caresabout thesurvivalofthe species. Youmay feel empty, butbiologically speaking,you'restill doingthe rightthing by showingupinthe worldand taking care of what needstobedone.
• Social comparison: We seeotherswho seem to have meaningful livesand feel inferior.Look at Instagram, andsuddenlyeveryoneelse seemstohaveperfect jobs,relationships,and purposeinlife. Butremember: yousee their highlights,not theireverydayfailuresand piles of laundry.
• Automatedroutines: Youget up,work, scroll,sleep,justrepetitions—and meaning disappears in everyday routines.Lifebecomes like drivingthe same highwayevery day withoutnoticingthe landscapeanymore.
MINI EXERCISE 2: Thinkofthree situations when life felt meaningful in thepastweek.Then thinkofthree when it felt empty.
Is therea pattern? Often, themeaningfulmoments arewhen youactually took action –not when youwaitedfor thefeeling to come.And theempty moments? They ofteninvolve passivity,being avictimofcircumstances rather than an actor in your ownlife.
Buthere'sthe good news:losingmeaning is nota permanent state. It's more like theweather –sometimes cloudy, sometimessunny.And just like theweather,you can'tcontrol it,but youcan learntonavigateit. Youcan learntofindyour waybacktomeaning,evenwhenitfeels faraway. And sometimesyou don'tevenneedtofindyourway back sometimesit'senoughtojustkeepmovingforward,and meaningwillfindyou.
Action createsfeeling
AHAMOMENT#2: Youdon't have to wait forthe feelingof meaning. Youcan startwiththe action,and themeaning will often come alongfor theride. It canbesmall things like:
•Calling afriendyou haven'ttalkedtoina long time
•Doing ataskyou'vebeen putting offfor weeks
•Givingawaysomething youdon't useto someonewho needsit
•Sayingyes to somethingyou firstthought of saying no to
•Simplygetting up andtakingthatfirst step It almost always worksbetterthansitting andbroodingwitha cupofcoffeeinyourhand. Help someoneelse, take responsibility forsomething,orjustget moving—and suddenlyyourbrain will reward youfor your commitment.
Aconcreteexample from everydaylife: Lisa,one of the people Ispoke with whileworking on this book,saidshe felt completely emptyafter herseparation. Everything felt meaningless. Butthenshe started, somewhat reluctantly, to help herneighborwithhis garden."Ididn'tevenwanttodo it," shesaid, "but afterwards Ifeltmorealive than Ihad in months." It wasn't thefeeling of meaningthatmadeher go there. It wasthe actofgoing therethatcreated thefeeling.
Lisa's storyisnot unique.Itisrepeatedoverand over againin different forms. People whohavefeltlost, empty, or meaninglesshavefound theirway back by doingsomething oftensomething they didn't even want to do at first. It's as if thebodyknows somethingthatthe braindoesn't quite understand:thatmovementcreates feeling, that action createsmeaning,thatresponsibilitycreates context. Youdon't have to wait untilyou feel ready. Youcan startwhere youare, with what youhave, andthe meaningwillemergefromyour actions.
MINI EXERCISE 3: Make alistofthree small actionsyou candotoday that will help someoneelse or yourself.
Do them.Applaud yourself.Noticehow it affectsyou.Itcould be:
•Sending athank-you text messagetosomeone
•Cleaninga smallpartofyourhome
•Going fora walk andsayinghello to three strangers
Remember:it'snot thesizeofthe action that counts,but the fact that youdid it.A thank-youtexttakes tenseconds,but it canbethe difference betweena daythatfeelsmeaningless anda daywhere youactuallymadea difference to someone else.And when you've done it,giveyourselfcredit. Youdon't have to wait forotherstosee it.You gettocelebrate yourself fortakingthe step,nomatterhow smallitwas.
Meaningmaker
If youwant, youcan create your own"meaningmaker." Take apiece of paperand draw threecolumns:
•I did
•Influencedsomeone else
•Feltmeaningful
Fill in threeactivitiesunder each column from thepastweek. Studythe pattern: thelittlethings, such as asmile,a message, or acup of coffee fora colleague,often give more meaning than thebig achievements that everyone applauds.
Here's an exampleofwhatitmight look like:
You'veprobably asked yourself the question. Maybe late at night, maybe in the middle of everyday stress.What'sthe
Theanswer is notinanyone else'sbook. It's in you. And this
HowtoFind TheMeaning of Lifeisthe ultimate do-it-yourself book forthose who refuse to accept ready-made answers. Here youwill getpowerful exercises, provocativereflection
point? WhydoIdowhatI do? book will help youfind it. questions and concretetools thatwill help you:
Identify whatreally matterstoyou
Break free from other people's expectations
Create an everydaylifefilled with meaning, on your terms
Turn big issues into concreteaction
Look no further.Start finding. life.
This is nota book youread, it is abook youuse. Abook that changes the wayyou look at yourself,your choices andyour
This book has no ulterior motives, only humane ones.