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‘Trapped in paradise’

A new book documenting the experience of four Sisters of St. Joseph of Orange in the Solomon Islands following the outbreak of WWII is a labor of love by a local sister of the order.

interfaith memorial service for the homeless

Bishop Kevin Vann joined with several other Orange County faith leaders to memorialize those who have died living on Orange County’s streets.

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organizations glad to see end of muslim registry

The National Security Exit-Entry Registration System was launched following the 9/11 attacks and was used to register men arriving in the U.S. from Middle Eastern regions.

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editor’s note

DID YOU MISS CHRISTMAS? I f you’re like me, the day after Christmas Day has always signaled the end of the Christmas season. If the tree isn’t at the curb for trash pickup by New Year’s Day, I feel behind schedule.

And I admit to being just a little bit sad each year as I pack away another year of holiday memories.

Christmas, however, isn’t a single day.

It is a season, as Bishop Vann noted in his column in last week’s issue of OC Catholic. We were reminded of that as we returned to Mass to find that the Church’s Christmas tree and Nativity were still in place weeks after our own were already back in storage.

Second only to Easter, Christmas is one of the most important liturgical

seasons in the Church year. It doesn’t begin the day after Halloween as retailers would like you to believe. It begins with the vigil Masses on Dec. 24 and this year continues through Jan. 9, the feast of the

Baptism of Jesus.

So here’s how many of us shortchange our spiritual selves: We prepare for Christmas Day during the season of Advent, the four weeks preceding Christmas. Between going to confession, lighting the candles on the Advent Wreath and preparing our Nativity sets in our homes, we spend an entire month getting ready. Then most of us celebrate for a single day with Mass and family gatherings, and then we get on to the next holiday – the New Year. In doing so, and we actually miss Christmas!

Christmas Day was just the beginning.

During the 12 days of Christmas Catholics celebrate St. John the Evangelist,

the Holy Family, the feast of the Holy Innocents, the Solemnity of the Holy Mother of God, the Epiphany and the Baptism of our Lord. The Christmas season is packed with inspiration – the Church’s gift to us – and we miss it all if we don’t return to Mass to celebrate each of these important feasts and then continue coming each week to prepare for what’s ahead.

The beauty of the Catholic liturgical year is how it prepares us for each season. Before we know it, Lent and then the Easter season will be upon us. If we immersed ourselves in the Christmas season and truly celebrated all that it represents, the meaning of the seasons to follow will also take on greater spiritual significance.

Merry Christmas, still! C

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daily readings and reflections

TREASURES FROM OUR TRADITION

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his year, in the United States the celebration of the Epiphany falls on January 8, but the traditional date for the Epiphany is January 6. The date we know as January 6 was established as the solstice in Egypt in 1996 BC, but the Egyptian calendar lost a full day every 128 years. Twenty centuries later the actual solstice had migrated

to December 25. People still kept January 6 for the solstice celebration, but December 25, matching nicely with the Roman pagan feast of the Unconquered Sun, launched an extended solstice holiday. By the time of the early church, the whole period of twelve days was celebrated just about everywhere.

Christians began to celebrate Christ as the true light of the world in four themes: the Nativity, the manifestation to the Gentiles, the baptism of the Lord, and the wedding feast at Cana. That was entirely too much for one day to handle. A twelve-day season was ready to be adapted, so Christians borrowed from the pagan calendar for their own season of light.

Thus early Christian celebrations of the Christmas season extended from one date for the solstice, December 25, to the older date, January 6. The darkest time in the Northern Hemisphere could now be filled with the Christian observance of the arrival of the Light of the World. C —Rev. James Field, Copyright © J. S. Paluch Co.

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he famous cathedral-like Church of Sainte-Gudule in Brussels, Belgium, is dedicated to this laywoman. The daughter of Count Witger and St. Amalburga, she was brought up at the convent in Nivelles under the care of her cousin, St. Gertrude. Afterward, she lived with her parents at Hamme, and was said to spend her days in prayer and good works.

Her Carolingian dynasty kinship produced a number of saints, including her sister, Raineld. Her relics were moved from church to church, and Emperor Charlemagne reportedly prayed before them. C

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“THE NAME OF GOD IS ‘MERCY.’” —POPE FRANCIS

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CATHOLIC MOTHER WITH TERMINAL ILLNESS LEADS PROLIFE EFFORTS STEPHANIE PACKER FIGHTS FOR THE DIGNITY OF THE DYING

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by cathi douglas

rom the moment in 2012 when she was diagnosed with a terminal illness, Stephanie Packer has tried to remain realistic. She is optimistic but doesn’t attempt to give her husband and four children false hope for a cure. She realizes the best treatments for her condition, the autoimmune disease scleroderma, may take her life rather than extend it.

So when Packer followed up with her insurance company in one of many failed attempts to obtain approval for participation in a promising clinical trial, she was flummoxed when a Medicare representative said the company wouldn’t approve the UCLA-based trial, but instead would charge just $1.20 for a medication to end her life.

It was a stark reminder of the farreaching effect of the physician-assisted suicide bill signed into law in California earlier this year, a law that Packer worked hard to defeat.

“I was just dumbfounded,” Packer recalls. “You won’t give me the medication I need to live but for a buck it’s OK if I go kill myself? I immediately got off the phone and talked to my mother, husband, girlfriends and doctors. True to my generation, I got on Facebook right away.”

STEPHANIE PACKER, WHO SUFFERES FROM SCLERODERMA, WORKED HARD TO DEFEAT THE PHYSICIAN-ASSISTED SUICIDE BILL SIGNED INTO LAW IN CALIFORNIA EARLIER THIS YEAR.

After Packer shared the news of her latest medical hurdle, reporters from all over the country contacted her for comment.

As one of the handful of documented cases of terminal patients being offered lifeending medication instead of expensive medical treatment, the young mother with the oxygen tank was a dramatic example.

Indeed, Medicare relented when headlines about the denial appeared in national publications such as the Washington Times, she says.

When it comes to dying, “what the public isn’t told is that sick people have other options,” Packer notes, citing the work of palliative physicians such as

Dr. Vincent Nguyen, a Newport Beach doctor dedicated to providing end-of-life care for people with terminal diagnoses.

“In supporting the new law, they are backing something that could very easily take their lives sooner than they want.

They are making it impossible for some people to live. It’s disgusting and sad.”

Once she had grieved over her terminal diagnosis, Packer says, she adopted a ‘new normal.’ “The moments since have allowed me to look at the world in a completely new way. What a beautiful opportunity!”

Still, by the time Medicare finally granted approval – after at least five denials lodged by a variety of doctors over a

long period of time – Packer’s condition had deteriorated. At that point, her team of physicians, respiratory therapists, nurses, rheumatologists and other medical professionals were anxious for her to begin the experimental treatment.

“You have to be sick enough to need the treatment and strong enough to withstand them,” she notes. Presently, Packer and her team are preparing to begin the stem cell transplant that will set the complicated medical trial in motion.

The treatment costs about $25,000, Packer says. Even with medical insurance, not everything will be covered. Her team has launched a GoFundMe page

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catholic family living to help cover expenses, including care for her family members. “People have been more than generous,” she says.

“The most beautiful part is that I’m here today and I can spend time with my kids. It’s a bittersweet thing.”

The timeframe of treatment and recovery depends upon which organs are involved, she says. Once the plan is approved and they have the funds, preparation for the stem cell transplant will require daily injections to draw cells from her bloodstream so that they can be filtered and then returned to the body.

“Once the cells are withdrawn,” Packer says, “the most difficult and painful part of the trial will begin.” She will be given extremely toxic chemotherapy drugs in very high doses for 10 days. “They want to do a reboot of the immune system so that it operates in a cleaner, healthier way as red blood cells enter the system and, hopefully, work normally.”

Thus far, she notes, results are promising. But it won’t end there. “If I survive that, then it is on to healing, recovering and getting on the list for a double-lung transplant,” Packer adds.

Though she will still have scleroderma, if the cells are working properly, they will slow the disease so that she may survive for a significant period of time.

Packer remains a passionate pro-life spokeswoman, advocating for compassionate treatment of patients with terminal diagnoses. It’s role that began after she spoke about the proposed law for the first time at a Servite High School event. In the months since then, her position has never wavered.

“As a Catholic, I trust my faith and know there are certain ways God would want me to handle things,” she says. “I believe God is our maker and our lives are not our own. We are given our bodies and our place in the world; everything that I am and have belongs to Christ.

“It’s my privilege to have this life and acknowledge these gifts,” she adds, “but they also are a burden that I must constantly evaluate and say, ‘are these the choices God wants for me?’”

Packer’s family, friends and community of supporters can follow her story at the fundraising site fundingmorality.com and gofundme.com/StephaniePacker. C

GRANDPARENTS ARE MORE IMPORTANT THAN EVER STUDIES CONFIRM THE VALUE OF THEIR ROLE, INCLUDING HOW THEY INFLUENCE THE FAITH OF THEIR GRANDCHILDREN by cathi douglas

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hose of us fortunate enough to have grandparents have many stories that illustrate the importance of the special cross-generational relationship between Grandma, Grandpa and their grandchildren.

When I remember my grandparents, for instance, it strikes me that the virtue I learned best from them is “patience.”

My Grandpa loved orchids and had a lathe house filled with different varieties of plants, where he practiced his own brand of horticulture, patiently nurturing orchids into bloom.

As a kid I spent a great deal of time in the lathe house, as well as helping Grandma pick peaches and plums from her fruit trees. I vividly recall Grandma making buckwheat waffles on Sunday mornings.

To remember those days is to step into a time when time itself never mattered.

They had lots of time to teach me card games. I spent many happy weekends at their home.

Grandparents, however, also impart faith traditions that grandchildren learn and remember. From praying the rosary

to lighting the candles on the Advent wreath, oftentimes grandparents hold dear the traditions and rituals that their own children may no longer practice.

Pope Francis noted the role of Grandma and Grandpa when speaking at 2015 Youth Eucharistic Movement event: “…

Because the grandparents are a source of wisdom; because they have the memory of life, the memory of the faith,” The Pope encouraged young people to listen and learn from them.

Indeed, studies confirm that grandparents play an important role in all aspects of a child’s development. A survey conducted by Oxford University and the Institute of Education in London found that children are generally happier if grandparents are involved in their upbringing.

According to the Oxford study, relationships that adolescents have with their grandparents show that grandparents who are involved in the daily lives of their grandchildren can contribute to the children’s well being.

Increasing numbers of today’s adults will become grandparents, according to author and psychologist Peter K. Smith, of the University of London. Smith noted that the mean age of becoming a grandparent is currently about 54 years in Britain. “Thus, most people will be a grandparent for around a third of their lifespan,” he writes. “It’s a role that should interest a wide variety of psychologists, particularly developmental, social, clinical and educational.”

A recent study by Boston College found that “an emotionally close relationship between grandparent and grandchildren is associated with fewer symptoms of depression for both generations.” Parenting Magazine recently published 10 reasons grandparents matter.

1. grandparents make a difference. Dr. Karl Pillemer of Cornell wrote,

“Research shows that as many as 9 out of 10 adult grandchildren feel their grandparents influenced their values and behaviors. Grandparents transmit to their grandchildren the values and norms of social order.”

2. more children have grandparents. While in 1900, less than half of

American adolescents had at least two living grandparents, today there are about 80 million American grandparents.

3. intergenerational households are on the rise. According to the

latest U.S. Census figures, 7.5 million children lived with at least one grandparent, which is more than 10 percent of the under-18 population.

4. many children are raised by their grandparents. According to

the same census figures, 2.7 million grandparents provide for the basic needs of a grandchild. Even more take care of grandchildren on a regular basis but aren’t primary caregivers.

5. grandparents have spending power. Grandparents control an as-

tounding 75 percent of the wealth in the U.S. and a good deal of that spending power is put toward grandchildren. A survey

by MetLife showed grandparents spend an average of $1,700 on their grandchildren annually. That support is often used to help pay for childcare or housing.

6. grandparents give back to the community. Grandparents make 45

percent of cash donations to nonprofits organizations, according to an American Grandparents Association survey, and 28 percent volunteer on a regular basis.

7. grandparents are technologically savvy. More than 75 percent of

grandparents use the Internet and nearly half use social media regularly.

8. grandparents love their role.

The AGA survey showed 72 percent of grandparents “think being a grandparent is the single most important and satisfying thing in their life.”

9. grandparents have valuable experience. The AGA survey indicated

63 percent of grandparents “say they can do a better job caring for grandchildren than they did with their own.”

10. today’s grandparents are active and involved. Reportedly, 43

percent of grandparents exercise or play sports and 18 percent dance.

Undeniably, statistics and anecdotes confirm Dr. Karl Pillemer of Cornell University, who notes that the relationship between grandparents and their grandchildren is second in emotional importance only to the relationship between parent and child. Children benefit, Dr. Pillemer says, when grandparents are involved in their lives. Grandparents, too, enjoy benefits from the relationship with their grandchildren. C

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‘TRAPPED IN PARADISE’

NEW BOOK RECOUNTS TALE OF FOUR NUNS CAUGHT BEHIND ENEMY LINES AFTER PEARL HARBOR ATTACK

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by christopher randall

sister was recuperating from an illness in early 2016 at Regina Residence, the home for retirees of the Sisters of St. Joseph of Orange, when she felt useless and restless.

For Sister Eileen McNerney, that time turned into a months-long labor of love that, in November, resulted in the publication of a book detailing a fascinating and littleknown story connected to the Dec. 7, 1941 bombing of Pearl Harbor.

For a little more than a year after the infamous attack that plunged the U.S. into World War II, four nuns from the Sisters of St. Joseph of Orange who were doing missionary work in the Solomon Islands were trapped behind enemy lines.

Their at-times harrowing experience, which culminated in their high-risk rescue by a U.S. submarine on Jan. 1, 1943 after they spent nine months hiding in the mountains on the island of Bougainville, is detailed in “Trapped in Paradise: Catholic Nuns in the South Pacific 1940-1943.”

The book is based on the journals of Sister Hedda Jaeger, who periodically mailed handwritten dispatches to superiors back in Orange.

Back in 2012, McNerney learned about the existence of the journals while helping to compile a book marking the 100th anniversary of the Sisters of St. Joseph of Orange.

While recuperating at Regina Residence, McNerney started the Jungle Journal Reading Club in March 2016.

Every Friday, about 30 retired nuns would gather and listen to McNerney,

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feature assisted by Sister Rebecca Rodriguez, read about 10 pages from the journals.

“I thought the older nuns would enjoy the journal because they knew these four sister better than I did,” says McNerney, 77, a nun for some 60 years. “Some of them couldn’t see, some were deaf, and some needed mobility aids to get around.”

During the weekly readings, the sisters — one as old as 102 — would indulge on coconut macaroons and other South Pacific-themed treats.

The reading group participants learned how to pray in pidgin English --which the four nuns in the South Pacific used, at times, during their missionary work, which included teaching, providing health care, and much more.

McNerney says the reading group turned out to be such a hit that sisters would often ask her: Hey, is this going to be a book?

In June, McNerney enlisted the editing skills of her sister, Maureen McNerney Habel, to help her pore over the journal and shape it into a book, which begins with the three-month journey of the sisters by boat to the small island of Buka, separated from Bougainville by a channel.

Along with Sister Hedda, who was from North Dakota, the other nuns who ended up in hiding after World War II broke out in the Pacific — aged 35 to 50 at the time — were Irene Alton, from Huntington Beach; Isabelle Aubin, from Massachusetts; and Celestine Belanger, from Ontario, Canada.

Sisters Hedda and Irene were nurses, Sisters Isabelle and Celestine teachers.

After the bombing of Pearl Harbor, the nuns were warned to leave but didn’t.

As McNerney points out: “A shepherd does not leave his sheep.”

Although none of the four sisters were hurt or taken hostage during their months in hiding (some Marist priests and nuns were killed by the Japanese on nearby Guadacanal), as Americans they were in danger. And their living conditions left a lot to be desired.

“Trapped in Paradise” is laced with humorous moments, like when the sisters chased down centipedes with a stick.

“They were deathly afraid of centipedes,” McNerney says.

Or when Sister Irene, with no formal training in dentistry, excised a bishop’s molar with help from Sister Isabelle, who

SRS. IRENE, HEDDA, CELESTINE, ISABELLE & ARCHBISHOP MITTY, SEEN IN THIS 1943 PHOTO.

spoke French and translated instructions to Sister Irene from a small dentistry book in French they found: With a dexterous twist, (Sister Irene) succeeded in bringing out a three-root molar on the first attempt. Although the patient perspired, he didn’t even wince.

The natives gazed in tense silence, then clapped and laughed as the tooth was triumphantly held aloft in the forceps.

The book also is tinged with the fear the nuns felt — none stronger than when they saw Japanese warships pulling into the harbor — and poignant scenes, such as when Sister Irene became distressed after witnessing a birth in which the baby didn’t survive.

Sister Irene also contacted the potentially fatal cerebral malaria but was saved by medicine administered by an Australian doctor. She was seriously ill for about six weeks.

Despite their fear of being discovered by the Japanese, and the hardships they endured, probably the most negative line in the book is:

Things don’t look too bright right now.

The most dramatic part of “Trapped in Paradise” is the account of the sisters’ rescue by submarine, and their return home: The skyline of San Francisco gave us a feeling mere works cannot express.

Everything we held dear seemed to be wrapped up in that foggy picture. We wanted to fold it up in our arms.

Remarkably, after the war, all four sisters returned to continue missionary work in the South Pacific — Sister Irene for 23 more years.

“I think they were filled with zeal,” McNerney says.

McNerney, who sits on the board of trustees at Mission Hospital in Mission Viejo, says “Trapped in Paradise” contains many themes that remain very relevant today.

“We are here to care for each other,” McNerney says. “These people [the Solomon Islands residents] were sick and uneducated, and needed help. It’s that whole thing in Matthew 25,” she adds, referring to Matthew 25: 35-36:

For I was hungry and you gave me food, I was thirsty and you gave me drink, a stranger and you welcomed me, naked, and you clothed me, ill and you cared for me, in prison and you visited me.

“These were really corporal works of mercy they were performing,” McNerney says of the nuns.

The reception to “Trapped in Paradise” has been good, McNerney says, with more than 1,000 copies sold to date.

Over two recent weekends, McNerney and her sister sold 200 books to parishioners of Holy Family Catholic Church in Seal Beach.

“We are very happy with the great reception the book is getting,” McNerney says.

“Trapped in Paradise” is available at csjorange.org, amazon.com and the Bowers Museum in Santa Ana (bowers.org).

The cost is $15.95. Proceeds benefit The Soldiers’ Project in Los Angeles, which provides mental health services for veterans of the Iraq and Afghan wars, as well as the Sisters’ ministries in Tijuana and El Salvador. C

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diocesan news

DIOCESE HOSTS I HOMELESS PERSONS’ INTERFAITH MEMORIAL SERVICE THOSE WHO DIED ON THE STREETS OF O.C. WERE REMEMBERED AT A PRAYER SERVICE ATTENDED BY FAMILY, FRIENDS AND AID ORGANIZATIONS by staff

t was a somber evening as the souls of 193 homeless individuals who in 2016 passed away on the streets of Orange County due to illness, exposure or violence were remembered at a pray service. Most of them did not receive a proper memorial at their passing. The Dec. 21 Homeless Persons’ Interfaith Memorial Service, held in the Arboretum at Christ Cathedral, was held on the first day of winter – the longest night of the year – and was part of the National Day of Remembrance. Representatives from a number of faith communities participated in the evening.

The event was organized by the Diocese of Orange Office of Pastoral Care for Families in All Stages, the Sisters of St. Joseph, HomeAid Orange County and Our Father’s Table.

“This is the first time in Orange County that we’ve been able to do this service,” said Gina Marie Seriel, foundress and executive director of Our Father’s Table. “This is a national service that’s been going on for years, but this is the first time in Orange County that we’ve been able to come together … and we are

committed to doing it next year.”

Michael Donaldson, director of the Diocese’s Office of Pastoral Care for Families in All Stages, said, “We need to remember these individuals who died who didn’t have that moment, like others who have that funeral rite or memorial service. We’re providing that moment of honor and remembrance for these individuals.”

The service began with the reading of the names of all the people who were lost this year. A procession of volunteers carried single candles for each person being remembered that evening. Representatives from 10 different faith communities each spoke briefly, offering thoughts, poems and prayers in a variety of languages. They included Diocese of Orange Bishop Kevin Vann, Fr. Christopher Smith, Pastor Cole Beshore, Bishop Murray Finck (Lutheran), Rev. Nichelle Madrigal (Buddhist), Dr. Muzammil Siddiqi (Muslim), Dr. Jasjit Singh (Sikh), Rabbi Frank Stern, Tom Thorkelson (Mormon), Rev. Steve Tsichlis (Orthodox), and Pastor Mark Whitlock (AME). C

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health and wellness

THE RISKS OF CODEPENDENCE WHEN FAMILY AND FRIENDS OF AN ADDICT OR ALCOHOLIC PLAY A PART IN UNHEALTHY BEHAVIOR PATTERNS, NOBODY WINS. MISSION HOSPITAL PROVIDES PROGRAMS THAT HELP EVERYONE TO RECOVER by nicole gregory

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ews about the rise in addiction in the U.S. focuses mostly on the addicts — how they got hooked on pills, and the dangerous consequences of that addiction.

But as experts know, addiction doesn’t happen in a vacuum — people who are addicted to drugs and alcohol are often enabled by family and friends in a web of codependence.

“Codependence is not an official diagnosis,” says Debbie Hutchinson, Psy.D., MFT, manager of the Outpatient Behavioral Health Programs at Mission Hospital Laguna Beach.

“It’s a pattern of behavior where one person relies on another person to meet his or her needs emotionally,” Hutchinson explains. “In addiction, one person often functions in the role of enabling another person.”

She gives an example: “If a husband says to his wife, ‘I’ve been using again, but I’m going to really monitor it this time,’ the codependent wife will say, ‘Honey I understand you’ve been really trying to do a good job with this.’ She is trying to be supportive but unintentionally minimizes the problem. She feels good in the role of being helpful to him and feels good receiving his acceptance and approval. However, he may not receive the encouragement to take the active steps that are needed to obtain sobriety,” explains Hutchinson.

Codependent people tend to tolerate

the addict or alcoholic’s worst behavior, even if that means embarrassing public scenes, stealing and lying to family members or general lack of responsibility.

In this scenario, nobody gets a chance to recover.

Codependents are obsessed with other people, wrote Melanie Beattie in her groundbreaking book “Co-Dependent No More.” They can detail exactly what their addict or alcoholic friend or partner should do to improve, but they have no idea of what they need to make their own lives better.

breaking the pattern

Hutchinson says that when codependent

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spouses or partners open up, they talk about frustration and feeling drained.

They so consistently put their own needs last that they don’t even know what those needs are, she says.

“The codependent person is the caretaker,” Hutchinson explains. “And after awhile that’s draining. If you’re going through life not focusing on your needs, it’s like taking a glass water and pouring all the water out,” says Hutchinson.

“You’ll run out of energy.”

She tells of a man who came to her for help who was codependent with his mother, and even with his friends. He found himself getting into abusive relationships. “He would try to be there for his friends 24 hours a day, and ended up losing his job because of all of the chaos that caused,” says Hutchinson. In therapy, he learned how to set boundaries, how to say no appropriately to friends who wanted his help. “With new coping skills, he turned his life around, and eventually found a new career,” she says.

“When you set a boundary for a person, when you put your needs in the picture, you’re helping the other person to know how to be in a relationship with

you, that you’re not going to be walked on,” says Hutchinson. This is being assertive, not aggressive, she adds.

parents and kids

Disengaging from set behaviors is not easy, especially when the addict or alcoholic is a teenager. But programs exist to help parents and their kids with these complex problems.

Mission Hospital offers a unique program called LIFE PLAN, designed for teens in recovery who have completed their program, to help them set goals and then form a network of support — mentors, counselors and teachers, like a personal “Board of Directors” — to help them reach those goals.

“I like to think of addiction as family treatment instead of one person having the problem,” says Hutchinson. “We’re all relational beings.”

Mission Hospital provides treatment for both adults and adolescents, an in-patient detox program, a 28-day outpatient rehab program, parenting classes, cognitive therapy and family sessions. The hospital hosts a variety of 12-step group meetings. C

january 8, 2017

CALENDAR sunday

monday the world apostolate of fatima

bingo

mother of perpetual help novena

We pay tribute to the Blessed Virgin Mary in asking for her assistance, through her Son, in providing strength, comfort and even miracles to the faithful for centuries. 6 p.m.

ADDRESS: St. Bonaventure Church, 16400 Springdale St., Huntington Beach CONTACT: Parish Office, (714) 846-3359 x 0

tuesday alcoholics anonymous meeting

A.A. members share their experience with anyone seeking help with a drinking problem; they give person-to-person service or “sponsorship” to the alcoholic coming to A.A. from any source. The A.A. program, set forth in the Twelve Steps, offers the alcoholic a way to develop a satisfying life without alcohol.

This program is discussed at A.A. group meetings. 7:30 p.m.

ADDRESS: St. Irenaeus Church, Hall conference room, 5201 Evergreen Ave., Cypress CONTACT: Jay Conklin, (714) 337-6857

friday

saturday

thursday christ cathedral community outreach program

To submit an event to the calendar, contact: newscalendar@rcbo.org

legion of mary

The Legion of Mary is a group of lay people guided by our Blessed Mother and inspired by the Holy Spirit to do spiritual works of mercy. We are looking for people who want to grow spiritually.

9:15 a.m.

ADDRESS: St. Joseph School, 4th grade classroom, 727 Minter St., Santa Ana CONTACT: Rafaela at (714) 547-4345

Christian Services distributes groceries to homeless and low income families every Thursday. 10:30 a.m. to– 12:30 p.m. and 4:30 p.m. to 6:30 p.m.

ADDRESS: Christ Cathedral Parish , Building in rear of Arboretum, 13280 Chapman Ave., Garden Grove CONTACT: Parish Office, (714) 971-2141

To report sexual abuse by clergy or church personnel please call 1 (800) 364–3064 Healing and Hope After Abortion: 1 (800) 722–4356 New Hope Crisis Counseling Hot Line (24/7): 1 (714) NEW–HOPE or 1 (714) 639–4673

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Mission Statement: Follow the message of Our Lady at Fatima and promote the spiritual growth of members by providing a small cell atmosphere of prayer and reflection on the Mysteries of Our Lady’s request for prayer and sacrifice. Form small cells that provide an atmosphere to inspire members to unite in open prayer and share in the support provided by each member. Expand cell membership so that new cells can form and spread the power of this group prayer. 7 to 8 p.m.

ADDRESS: St Cecilia Church, 1301 Sycamore Ave., Tustin CONTACT: John Netherwood, (714) 832-6135

Try your luck and meet new friends. 10 a.m. to 4:30 p.m.

ADDRESS: Mater Dei High School, LeVecke,1202 W. Edinger Ave., Santa Ana CONTACT: (714) 754-7711; materdei.org

wednesday

jan 8 – jan 14

bingo

The Knights of Columbus will be holding Bingo Night every Friday and invite you to come out for an evening of fun.

5:30 p.m.

ADDRESS: St. Anthony Claret, 1450 La Palma Ave, Anaheim CONTACT: Steve Oskorus, (714) 742-1870 or soskorus@sbcglobal.net

christ cathedral tour ministry

(Monday – Saturday: 10:00 AM and 1:00 PM)

Tours for groups of 15 or more people must made by reservation.

ADDRESS: Cathedral Cultural Center, Christ Cathedral, 13280 Chapman Ave., Garden Grove CONTACT: Trudy Mazzarella, Director of Tour Ministry; trudymazz@gmail. com; (714) 620-7916

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What: Raymond Arroyo is joined by acclaimed suspense thriller author Dean Koontz, who will discuss his work as a perennial storyteller, with 28 of his books reaching the #1 position on the NY Times bestseller list. Koontz will also share how his Catholic faith has influenced his life and work and how stories can help orient people to the faith.

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catholic school news

SMCHS STUDENTS HONORED FOR COMMUNITY SERVICE THE 2017 PRUDENTIAL SPIRIT OF COMMUNITY AWARDS PROGRAM RECOGNIZES OUTSTANDING SERVICE OF YOUNG AMERICANS by smchs staff

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ydney Fredette and Isabella Zintel were named the Santa Margarita Catholic High School volunteers of the year in the 2017 Prudential Spirit of Community Awards program. In addition, Emily Caraig, Cassidy Medina and Natalie Rule received Certificates of Merit for their volunteer community service.

Sponsored by Prudential Financial and the National Association of Secondary School Principals (NASSP), the awards recognize outstanding community service by young Americans.

Sydney and Isabella are now eligible for California youth volunteer of the year awards. Two state honorees, one middle school and one high school student, will be named in February. State honorees will receive a $1,000 award and attend ceremonies with a parent or guardian in May of 2017. Other honorees will receive bronze medallions or certificates of excellence.

Sydney Fredette started out with an idea to throw tea parties for homeless children. Her idea has evolved over the past nine years into an organization that has served more than 2,000 children, gifting them with custom bears, blankets, pajamas, sleeping bags and books during the Christmas season. Sydney founded an initiative called “Beary Merry Christmas” in 2007 to make children in her community happy by gifting them custom stuffed bears. Sydney and her

SYDNEY FREDETTE (LEFT) AND ISABELLA ZINTEL

team of volunteers have distributed more than $70,000 in goods and necessities to disadvantaged children and she has expanded her “Be the Change Club” to other schools.

Isabella Zintel used her love of dance to start a dance program through the Boys and Girls Club. She is the founder of a girls’ mentorship and empowerment program that teaches academic success and leadership skills, nurtures confidence and encourages healthy living through diet and dance. She teaches dance to at-risk youth as an after school

program. She has worked with vendors to set up a voucher program to help families get healthy groceries at a discounted cost, wrote a children’s recipe book that incorporated healthy food, raised donations to purchase a hydro garden and filmed an instructional dance video so that girls can exercise and stay healthy while they learn dance from home.

The Certificate of Merit awards were presented to Emily, Cassidy and Natalie. Emily Caraig has volunteered at the Saddleback Food Pantry since the age of 6, doing everything from packing bagels

to gleaning more than 3,000 pounds of food, and serving sandwiches and soup in Santa Ana. Cassidy Medina assists children and adults with disabilities at the Shea Center in San Juan Capistrano where she helps children learn to ride horses and socializes with clients. She also volunteers with Special Olympics helping set up events and run programs for children. Natalie Rule volunteers at her local library, participates in beach cleanups, serves the homeless, helps with community concerts and assists at homes for women and children. C

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st. cecilia catholic school St. Cecilia Catholic School recognizes that all children are created in the image and likeness of God. We provide a Christ-centered Catholic education through which all students are prepared and empowered to reach their full potential-spiritually, intellectually, socially, and morally. Our faculty and parents generously support the school through gifts of time and talent, thereby modeling for the children the importance of the community.

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rosary academy Rosary Academy is a Catholic college-preparatory high school that educates & empowers young women to become integrated, holistic individuals who think critically, communicate effectively, and embody their religious faith as they serve the greater community. Our rigorous curriculum includes 35 AP & Honors courses, and over 80 electives in academics, arts, and technology. Rosary’s 11 sports teams compete in the distinguished Trinity League. Register for our Open House on November 13 at www.rosaryacademy.org/openhouse.

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Saint Joseph High School offers young women the opportunity to “become all of which woman is capable,” the vision of the Sisters of Saint Joseph of Carondelet. Through a rigorous curriculum, competitive athletics, captivating visual and performing arts, leadership, faith experiences, and more, Saint Joseph High School is able to challenge the mind and cultivate the spirit of each student.

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The Class of 2016 earned $47.3 million in college scholarships with 99 percent of the class attending college. Visit www.smhs.org and save the date for Athletic Info Night and 8th Grade Visit Day on Nov. 15.

cornelia connelly Cornelia Connelly School inspires young women to achieve academic excellence and develop into confident, articulate leaders guided by Catholic principles. Established in 1961, Connelly empowers young women leaders through academic excellence, faith development, and service. Connelly features an IDEAS Center- an interactive lab that fosters creativity and collaboration, a CIF-regulation athletic field, Visual Arts Center, science labs, and beautiful Chapel.

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in theatres now

‘COLLATERAL BEAUTY’ by john mulderig catholic news service NEW YORK (CNS) -- “Collateral Beauty” (Warner Bros.) is a strange, pretentious drama about overcoming grief.

While that’s obviously a subject about which a good film -- perhaps many of them -- might be made, the treatment of it in director David Frankel’s quirky mess of a movie is at once too bizarre and too pat to yield any insights.

The talented cast certainly do their best to redeem the proceedings, though ultimately their effort proves futile. Will Smith plays Howard, a formerly successful advertising executive so emotionally paralyzed by the death of his young daughter that he endangers the future of his firm by his neglect of clients.

In response, Howard’s three principal colleagues -- Whit (Edward Norton), Claire (Kate Winslet) and Simon (Michael Pena) -- hire a trio of actors, vain Brigitte (Helen Mirren), fetching Amy (Keira Knightley) and skateboarding street kid Raffi (Jacob Latimore), to prove that Howard’s distress has rendered him incompetent. And this is where things get rather squirrelly.

The thespians are to prove that Howard has gone off his rocker by impersonating the three abstractions -- death, love and time -- to which, as private detective Sally (Ann Dowd) has discovered, Howard has written, and mailed, angry letters. Sally will capture the resulting exchanges on her mobile phone, the players will be edited out of the footage, and Howard will be shown ranting away to himself.

Cuckoo, Q.E.D. To take the blatantly unethical nature of this maneuver on the part of Howard’s partners, who also claim to be his friends, seriously would first require a jumbo-sized suspension of disbelief.

WILL SMITH AND KEIRA KNIGHTLEY STAR IN A SCENE FROM THE MOVIE “COLLATERAL BEAUTY.” THE CATHOLIC NEWS SERVICE CLASSIFICATION IS A-III -- ADULTS. THE MOTION PICTURE ASSOCIATION OF AMERICA RATING IS PG-13 -- PARENTS STRONGLY CAUTIONED. SOME MATERIAL MAY BE INAPPROPRIATE FOR CHILDREN UNDER 13.

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The fact that the death-love-time triad also just happens to fit the life situations of these treacherous amigos similarly strains credibility.

The occasional jokes that leaven the dialogue in screenwriter Allan Loeb’s script, moreover, are far outnumbered by fortune-cookie sentiments the audience is clearly meant to receive as nuggets of wisdom. Some of these come from the picture’s moral-compass setter, Madeleine (Naomie Harris). A bereaved

mother who leads a therapy group Howard reluctantly joins, Madeleine also shares the anecdote from which “Collateral Beauty” takes its title.

If you’ve ever heard the one about “silver linings,” you pretty much know what the moral of that story is going to be.

Those willing to endure the blizzard of cliches of which the eponymous phrase forms but a flake will, however, find a warm endorsement of marital fidelity waiting for them at the wrap.

The film contains an adultery theme, at least one use of profanity as well as several crude and a couple of crass terms.

The Catholic News Service classification is A-III -- adults. The Motion Picture Association of America rating is PG-13 -- parents strongly cautioned. Some material may be inappropriate for children under 13. C Mulderig is on the staff of Catholic News Service.

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high school sports

ZERO SUM GAME by dan arritt

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he margin for error hasn’t grown much in recent seasons.

Goals usually arrive few and far between when the Rosary girls’ soccer team is on the playing field and it doesn’t seem to matter if the Royals are trying to score the ball, or keep it out of their net.

In eight of the first 13 games this

season, Rosary and its opponent combined for one goal or less, including four 0-0 ties. Only twice in that span had a game featured more than two goals.

Rosary coach Sean Melendez said the Royals have managed to limit opponent celebrations with consistently strong effort and execution from their back line, anchored by senior Amy Morikawa and junior Lauren Hansen.

They’ve teamed well with freshmen Natalie Tinkler and Emma Goggins to not only excel at keeping the ball out of their net, but do so while adjusting to a new defensive system.

“It’s taken a little bit for the girls to kind of buy in, but they’ve bought in now,” Melendez said. “They can see that,

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GRAHAM PARTON jserra soccer

by jenelyn russo

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hen it comes to playing soccer, years on the pitch have taught Graham Parton a multitude of life lessons that he feels can be summarized into one thought.

“Hard work and faith together will take you places you can’t even imagine,” says Parton. “I know God is on my side, fighting for me in whatever I do.”

The JSerra Catholic High School senior plays primarily as a forward

LAUREN HANSEN COURTESY ROSARY

for the Lions and approaches the game daily with that same mentality.

“I’m on the front lines,” says Parton.

“I enjoy…[being] able to help the team and score goals when necessary. That’s why I like to play that position best.”

Parton’s love for the sport extends to his teammates, as the two-year varsity player is also a captain on the team, a role he feels comes with great responsibility.

“I really try to be a leader to other players on the team, no matter what age level they are,” says the

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high school sports 18-year-old. “I think the way that I lead best is by example…[but] there are times that I come out and act as a vocal leader for our team. It depends on the situation. But I find it an honor to be the captain.”

JSerra’s boys soccer head coach, Erik Kirsch, sees how Parton has translated his leadership into becoming a model student athlete for the Lions.

“Graham is leader on and off the field,” says Kirsch. “He brings intensity and hard work both to his training and to each game. He represents the five pillars this program is built on—integrity, respect, excellence, community and tradition.

It’s our prayer that more student athletes such as Graham come through this school and program in the future.”

Parton admits his struggles with the game are mostly of the physical nature, as he continues to fight lingering stress fractures in his back from his football playing days. But the injury serves as motivation.

“It’s just one thing that I’ve noticed that has motivated me personally to keep on going and not let it hold me back,” says Parton.

Away from the game, Parton serves his community through the teen volunteer organization, Lion’s Heart, alongside holding down a part time job at a local restaurant.

The Coto de Caza resident plans to continue to play soccer, whether it’s for a college team or through an intramural club, and knows that the support of his parents, as well as his faith, will help guide him on the road ahead.

“My parents are my biggest role models for me,” says Parton. “They have taught me the key to success in life, which I think is hard work, along with faith in God. If you work hard at everything you do, and you trust that God is going to help you in everything that you do, you can’t be stopped.” C WATCH THE VIDEO

A conversation with Graham Parton

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no matter who we play, we just don’t give up that many good chances.”

Hansen has been especially impressive, patrolling the back middle with Morikawa, identifying potential scoring chances and snuffing them out long before they develop.

“Where most teams are doing geometry, that kid’s on calculus,” Melendez said of Hansen. “She just reads things so far ahead of everyone else.”

Hansen comes from a family with strong ties to Servite, Rosary and their athletic programs. She said her instincts and intuitiveness likely developed from watching her older sister, Mackenzie, play the sport growing up.

Mackenzie starred for four years at Rosary and now plays for Chapman University, where she recently completed her freshman season.

Lauren was a reserve on the Rosary varsity team as a freshman two years ago. An injury to another player early in her sophomore year opened the door for Lauren to join her sister in the starting lineup. Last season was more of a learning experience for Lauren, and this season she’s emerged as a standout player, both in skill and leadership.

“I like to step up to be a leader when I have to,” she said. “This is a good example for me, and a good opportunity for me to step up and be a leader.”

Being vocal is an integral part of the new defensive system adopted by Melendez and Hansen has been quick to catch on while also seamlessly adjusting to her new teammates on the back line.

“It’s a transition because we have a lot of new faces on the field,” she said. “We’re working together a lot. … We made a lot of progress, so I’m excited to see where we get once we hit league.”

The Royals open Trinity League play with back-to-back home games at Fullerton College against JSerra on Jan. 10 and Mater Dei on Jan. 12. Mater Dei and another league foe, Santa Margarita, have combined to win the last three CIFSS Division I titles.

Hansen doesn’t expect the defense to soften up for those teams.

“I like playing against the big schools, like Mater Dei or Santa Margarita, because it’s good competition for us,” Hansen said. “It’s a good opportunity for us to step up and show who we are.” C

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national news

A MAN NEAR THE REPUBLICAN NATIONAL CONVENTION IN CLEVELAND IN JULY HOLDS A PACK OF CHEWING GUM CALLED ‘”ISLAMOPHOBIN.” THE PACKAGING ATTEMPTS TO BRING ATTENTION TO THE ISSUE OF ANTIMUSLIM ATTITUDES IN THE UNITED STATES. CNS PHOTO/JUSTIN LANE, EPA

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CATHOLIC ORGANIZATIONS, FAITH GROUPS GLAD TO SEE END OF MUSLIM REGISTRY by rhina guidos catholic news service WASHINGTON (CNS) -- Catholic organizations and other faith groups say they are happy with the Obama administration’s last-minute decision to end a type of national Muslim registry.

The National Security Exit-Entry Registration System, known as NSEERS, began under the George W. Bush administration following the 9/11 attacks and asked that men from some countries in the Middle East register with the U.S. government when they arrived in the U.S. It continued during President Barack Obama’s two terms in office even as organizations, including Catholic groups, have long called for its demise.

In late December, weeks before his administration comes to a close, Obama announced that the program was ending under his watch.

“I’m glad the president took action to end a program that by all accounts wasn’t effective and undermined core American values,” said John Gehring, the Catholic program director at Faith in Public Life, an advocacy group in Washington.

Catholic Legal Immigration Network Inc., known by the acronym CLINIC and based in Silver Spring, Maryland, said the decision was a victory.

“Not only was it discriminatory” and failed to lead to the capture of terrorists, said CLINIC Executive Director Jeanne Atkinson in a Dec. 22 news release, but also it broke apart families as

people were deported, some for causes such as being a day late after having to tend to an emergency.

While the program asked that immigrants from North Korea also register, NSEERS “in effect targeted immigrant Muslims,” said Jordan Denari Duffner, a research fellow at Georgetown University’s Bridge Initiative, which seeks to educate others about Islamophobia as well as raise awareness about prejudice and discrimination toward Muslims.

Some see the end of the registry as a way to make it difficult for an incoming Donald Trump administration to target Muslims through such a program but others warn that the president-elect’s public views during the campaign signal tough days ahead for Muslims in the country, with or without a registry.

“Throughout the campaign, and since, Trump and his advisers have demonstrated that they see the religion of Islam as a primary source of violence and terrorism,” said Duffner. “But they also want to avoid charges of religious discrimination. Things like NSEERS and ‘extreme vetting,’ rather than a ‘Muslim ban,’ allow Trump’s administration to still focus on Muslims without running into constitutional issues or a major public outcry.”

The president-elect campaigned by saying his “extreme vetting” of Muslims and other immigrants would provide a way to keep the country safe. The way Duffner sees it, what’s been referred to as extreme vetting “would operate in a similar way to NSEERS in that it would target Muslims in a non-explicit way.

The immigration questionnaire that the Trump team has been discussing is based on anti-Muslim stereotypes. … The extreme vetting policy might sound more nuanced and acceptable than a Muslim ban but as it’s been discussed, it could have the same impact.”

So, even as groups hailed the decision, some said they would remain vigilant.

“People of faith and diverse religious leaders in pulpits across the country are now organizing to stand with Muslims and other vulnerable communities who feel threatened by President-elect Trump’s incoming administration,” said Gehring. C

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NEW YEAR CALLS FOR COURAGE, HOPE; NO MORE HATRED, SELFISHNESS, POPE SAYS by carol glatz catholic news service VATICAN CITY (CNS) -- Whether the new year will be good or not depends on us choosing to do good each day, Pope Francis said.

“That is how one builds peace, saying ‘no’ to hatred and violence -- with action -- and ‘yes’ to fraternity and reconciliation,” he said Jan. 1, which the church marks as the feast of Mary, Mother of God and as World Peace Day. Speaking to the some 50,000 pilgrims gathered in St. Peter’s Square for the first noon Angelus of 2017, the pope referred to his peace day message in which he asked people to adopt the “style” of nonviolence for building a politics for peace.

Lamenting the brutal act of terrorism that struck during a night of “well-wishes and hope” in Istanbul, the pope offered his prayers for the entire nation of Turkey as well as those hurt and killed. A gunman opened fire during a New Year’s Eve celebration at a popular nightclub early Jan. 1, killing at least 39 people and wounding at least 70 more.

“I ask the Lord to support all people of good will who courageously roll up their sleeves in order to confront the scourge of terrorism and this bloodstain that is enveloping the world with the shadow of fear and confusion,” he said.

Earlier in the day, the pope spoke of how maternal tenderness, hope and selfsacrifice were the “strongest antidote” to the selfishness, indifference and “lack of openness” in the world today.

Celebrating Mass in St. Peter’s Basilica, which was decorated with bright red anthuriums, evergreen boughs, white flowers and pinecones brushed with gold paint, the pope said that a community without mothers would be cold and heartless with “room only for calculation and speculation.”

The pope said he learned so much about unconditional love, hope and

belonging from seeing mothers who never stop embracing, supporting and fighting for what is best for their children incarcerated in prisons, ill in hospitals, enslaved by drugs or suffering from war.

“Where there is a mother, there is unity, there is belonging, belonging as children,” he said.

Just like all mothers of the world, Mary, Mother of God, “protects us from the corrosive disease of being ‘spiritual orphans,’” that is when the soul feels “motherless and lacking the tenderness of God, when the sense of belonging to a family, a people, a land, to our God, grows dim.”

“This attitude of spiritual orphanhood is a cancer that silently eats away at and debases the soul,” which soon “forgets that life is a gift we have received -- and owe to others -- a gift we are called to share in this common home,” he said.

A “fragmented and divided culture” makes things worse, he said, leading to feelings of emptiness and loneliness.

“The lack of physical and not virtual contact is cauterizing our hearts and making us lose the capacity for

POPE FRANCIS USES INCENSE DURING VESPERS ON NEW YEAR’S EVE IN ST. PETER’S BASILICA AT THE VATICAN DEC. 31.

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tenderness and wonder, for pity and compassion,” he said, as well as making us “forget the importance of playing, of singing, of a smile, of rest, of gratitude.”

Remembering that Jesus handed his mother over to us “makes us smile once more as we realize that we are a people, that we belong” and can grow, that we are not just mere objects to “consume and be consumed,” that we are not “merchandise” to be exchanged or inert receptacles for information. “We are children, we are family, we are God’s people.”

Mary shows that humility and tenderness aren’t virtues of the weak, but of the strong, and that we don’t have to mistreat others in order to feel important, he said.

The pope also presided over an evening prayer service with eucharistic adoration and the singing of a special hymn of thanksgiving to God Dec. 31 in St. Peter’s Basilica.

As the year ends, he said in his homily, he asked people to reflect on how God has been present in their lives and to thank the Lord for all signs of his generosity, “seen in countless way through the witness of those people who quietly took a risk.”

Gazing upon the manger, we remember how Jesus “wanted to be close to all those who felt lost, demeaned, hurt, discouraged, inconsolable and frightened.

Close to all those who in their bodies carry the burden of separation and loneliness, so that sin, shame, hurt, despair and

exclusion would not have the final word in the lives of his sons and daughters.”

His sacrifice and love challenges people “not to give up on anything or anyone,” and to find the strength to forge ahead “without complaining or being resentful, without closing in on ourselves or seeking a means of escape, looking for shortcuts in our own interest.”

“Looking at the manger means recognizing that the times ahead call for bold and hope-filled initiatives, as well as the renunciation of vain self-promotion and endless concern with appearances.”

He urged everyone to help “make room” for young people, who are often marginalized and forced to migrate or beg for undignified jobs. Everyone has a duty to help them grow and fulfill “the dreams of their ancestors” in their own nation and community.

After the prayer service, the pope walked into St. Peter’s Square instead of using the popemobile. He walked the entire periphery of the square, stopping to shake hands, receive cards and notes, offer happy New Year’s greetings, bless babies and chat with people lining the barricades.

In the center of the square, the pope prayed silently before the Vatican Nativity scene, which was created by a Maltese artist. He also stood before the twisted and crumbled spire from the St. Benedict Basilica in Norcia, which like dozens of villages and towns, was damaged in a series of earthquakes in central Italy. C

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deacon department

MEET DEACON

PETER & JAN LAUDER SAINT JULIANA CHURCH, FULLERTON YEARS MARRIED: CHILDREN:

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4

GRANDCHILDREN: YEARS IN THE DIACONATE:

6

1

HOW THEY MET:

“At a high school dance”

WHAT THEY DO FOR FUN:

“Travel, wine tasting, movies”

HIS ROLE IN THE CHURCH:

“I serve at my Bihop’s and Pastor’s beck and call.”

HIS MOST MEMORABLE EXPERIENCE:

“Three events in no particular order: my first time at the altar, baptizing two of our granddaughters, and my first wedding of my Jan’s cousin and husband.”

WHAT DREW HIM TO THE DIACONATE:

“I had a strong sense of God’s call, especially after I had turned Him down the first time, and He pursued me a second time.”

HIS GREATEST CHALLENGE: “Time management”

FAVORITE SCRIPTURE

Psalms 51 & 139 CHALLENGE RODDIE

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