Sisters in SL Magazine: September/October

SISTERS IN SL

MAGAZINE

SEPTEMBER/OCTOBER 2019

FALL FINDS Your autumn party decor style with Sienna of Modhause

Our First Issue!

Aurora Night tells us how Sisters In SL and this mag started

Care, Hope, and Good Shoes

How one woman models and creates for good

AUTUMN FASHION TRENDS

Style to renew your Fall wardrobe

ON THE COVER For our first issue, we had to use one of the first photoshoots we did, to celebrate the diversity of our Sisters In SL Group. Organized

by Giselle Chaveau, this image represents the core of who we are as a magazine and group- a diverse group of sisters who join together for fellowship and fun.

Models Top, from the left: Dinsy Al-Taweel, Violet Allyce Arkin, Jihyun Vespoli, Nyah Lane, Gem Sabra Bottom, from the left: Nisa Jewell-Goodnight, Giselle Chaveau, Keisha Lane

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in every issue Sisters Speak fav fall things

What She's Wearing our fall looks

Inner Goddess connect with your Divine Feminine

Ask Aza cuffing season questions

Jae's Jambalaya getting started with BeYou

OUT Halloween Hangouts

Autumn Fashion Trends

Sisters Connect stuff to do this month

by NakamuraMiki

features this issue

Building Sisterhood in SL with Aurora Night

Care, Hope, and Good Shoes with Morgan Whitfield

Primp and Pamper with Salon and Spa Noir

ENJOY LIVING IN THE PRESENT. Photo by Ayla Zhoy

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REVIEWS

FROM THE EDITOR

At Common Grounds, Vordun Museum

A TIME TO BE COZY Hey Sisters!

I'd like to first welcome you to our inaugural issue of Sisters In SL Magazine. What started as a dream of sisterhood and good vibes became a reality, and I'm so honored to bring you our collective vision.

Autumn is upon us and is calling for energies to focus on coziness- what makes you feel cozy? What brings you peace in the Fall season? For me, it's a warm pumpkin spice latte, my favorite socks, and a tight hug from my husband.

For our first issue, we wanted to prioritize self-love and cultivate the feeling of Fall- a time for change, renewal, and introspection to step into our highest potential. Find content to help you reclaim your inner goddess, prioritize mental health, and renew your home and wardrobe for Autumn.

We hope that you enjoy the inaugural issue of Sisters In SL magazine and find ways to step into your best You. In Love and Light,

Soul

Building

SISTERHOOD IN SL

A Conversation with Aurora Night

Ayla Zhoy | Writer

An idea that formed in real life has become a reality in Second Life.

"I came up with the idea of creating Sisters in SL based on a Facebook status from a female friend who said they found it hard making friends with other females." Aurora Night, founder of Sister's in Second Life (SISL) reveals.

She explained that a lot of people commented on that status and they all seemed to agree how difficult it is to connect with other women. After considering reasons why people felt this way, Aurora decided to create a "status" on Facebook asking if women would be interested in forming a group everyone could join and meet up with other women this way.

Going into its fifth month, SISL is over 700 members strong and is one of the fastest growing groups within the Second Life community.

"It is important as women to learn from each other. SISL gives us a place to share our experiences and knowledge, which helps us grow," said Aurora.

She feels that in the company of other women we quickly realize how similar we are and it proves we are not alone in this challenging journey called life.

"The response was instant and amazing, and I felt that a page needed to be created."

"I admire women who share stories of their trials and tribulations as I feel it is an inspiration to me and other members as well. One of the most fulfilling events that I enjoy is "Girls Talk," where we sit around a campfire sharing a bit of our lives with each other and offering advice when needed."

In RL, she has a girls group on an app called "whatsapp" and they throw in ideas and once a month get together with whomever is available. She felt the same thing could apply to Second Life through a Facebook group page.

Enter SISL Magazine. A couple of the group members approached the management team and suggested that a magazine would be another great platform for SISL, Aurora said she couldn't have agreed more.

Aurora went on to say that within days the group increased dramatically and it drew attention to actually having meetups in-world.

"After brainstorming ideas of our vision for the magazine and deciding on team members we would need in order to begin, we went through an intense interview process and we now have a group of writers and photographers, and a marketing manager."

"I decided this was going to be something bigger than I had imagined, and in April 2019 I created the in-world group, Sister's in Second Life, to help women socialize, form friendships and have fun around the SL grid."

She said there is now a great team of talented women working on the magazine who are all keen to provide this outlet to members who can benefit from the content and it is, of course, exciting to see how the magazine will do over time.

"My main goal,� Aurora mentions, “is to continue to have a platform that encourages positivity and helps to uplift women." She continued, "I don't want the group to be a sorority, and I don't want to encourage religion or politics because I feel this can, at times, create a divide."

Aurora Night wants women from all races, abilities, shapes and sizes to feel that they belong within the SISL group.

"There is so much negativity in the world and I feel that SL should be a place where we can escape that."

When asked what she saw for the future of SISL and the magazine, Aurora said, "I have various other ideas I would like us to achieve, but I will have to let you all wait and see what more is to come!"

Join Sisters in SL Looking for a group of sisters to have fun with? We're on the web, in-world, and on Discord!

Facebook: http://bit.ly/SisInSLFacebook Discord: http://bit.ly/SISLDiscord Magazine: http://bit.ly/SISLMagazine

SISTERS SPEAK

We asked: what's your favorite thing about Autumn?

we love fall!

My favorite season!

It's full of warmth, fresh fashion, and warm comfort foods!

-A Fly Sister

Visiting and exploring themed sims to see the the creativity.

-Candyxhaven

Dressed with a warm hoodie and knitted scarf, I love gathering the leaves while listening to music.

-Serenaelia

Going for walks in the woods when the leaves turn beautiful colors, dressed all snuggly in woolly leggings and a cardigan."

- Katie

Thick jumpers.

-Aurora

To add your voice, join the Sisters In SL Facebook group at http://bit.ly/SisInSLFacebook.

We OUT Here!

sisters on the move PREHISTORIC FUN

We hung out with flyers and long necks at Prehistorica and tried not to get eaten! While no sister lost a limb, we did lose some weight from the belly laughs shared!

SISTERS AT NUSANTARA FEST Nusantara Fest 1.0, a celebration of ASEAN culture and creativity in SL, invited the Sisters in SL group to party. We happily obliged and shook our booties in the moonlight!

HOMEGIRLS HIKING We went on a hiking adventure lead by the fearless Gara Beck. We sailed, climbed, and adventured while having beautiful conversations and girl talk.

Join us!

Check out the event calendar for our next event: http://bit.ly/SISLEvents

WHAT SHE'S WEARING

LAYER IT ON Sisters share their fall looks to keep it cozy and cute this Autumn

Photo by Seren Villers Credits in the back of the mag

SHOWINGÂ SOME LEG

"When you ready for the Fall but still love to show a little bare leg..."

Clothing: Kitja - Sabrina Top and Skirt Breathe-Mimika Heels-Brown Appearance: Tram- G1113 hair / HUD-A Accessories: Dirty Princess- Daddy's Babygirl Princess Necklace FLI. x Nov. - Lex Bracelet

Photo and model: Taraji Deed

la vie boheme Clothing: Amerie - Wide Pants Amerie - Looong Sleeve Knit Accessories: C'est la vie - Ella Bag Tulip - Suede Loafers Appearance: Izzie's - Daphne Glamorous Lipstick Lelutka - Key Hairbase Lelutka - Spencer Eyeliner No Match - No Point Hair

Photo and model: Catalysis

easy and breezy

"I love casual, unique, and creative fashion. Discovering new and diverse items to mix/match is one of my favorite challenges."

Clothing: Baetik - Adisa dress and vest Tetra - Lara high boots (Choco) Appearance: Maitreya Mesh Body - Lara V4.1 AK Deluxe - Elle Bento Head Argrace - Haruka II - Blondes

Photo and model: Joanee McCringleberry

AUTUMN FASHION TRENDS

The weather is getting a bit chilly- it's time to sort out your wardrobe for the coming season! Here's some up-to-date fashion ideas for you to try this Fall.

Photographer & Models: NakamuraMiki

CAPES It's a must-have fashionable item for the chilly weather alternative to Trench Coat/Jackets.

Cape from Enfant Terrible

LACE AND ASYMMETRICAL NECKLINES Feeling sexy? Show off your collarbone and shoulder to draw people’s attention.

For a more lady-like style, pair your asymmetrical dress with pretty lace gloves. Gives you a vintage look as well.

Asymmetrical Neckline Dress from Belle Mode

PUFFY OUTERWEAR Continuing from last year's Autumn and Winter Trends it keeps you warm from wind or snow.

Puffy Coat from Pixicat

ANIMAL PRINTS Feeling frisky? This season is perfect for animal prints!

You can use this print on almost everything- a jacket, shirt, skirt, shoes.. your choice!

Animal Prints Dress from District

LEATHER Not just limited to a jacket this year- rock a leather top or pants without feeling out of your element.

Leather Dress from Valentina E.

SUITS An elemental design piece that shapes you into a power woman! Go ahead, walk in your inner strength.

Model: Morgan Whitfield Suit from LIZIAAH

FLORALS No more bright yellow daisy patterns! Add a moody Floral to your top, skirts, or bag.

Florals Jacket from Bakaboo

More info and enquiries at http://bit.ly/SISMagAdvertising

A PSA from your SIS.

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SELF LOVE

spreading care, hope, and good shoes AYLA ZHOY | STAFF WRITER

“IF WHAT I PROVIDE THROUGH THE CENTER HELPS ONE PERSON IN SECOND LIFE TO SEEK HELP IN THEIR REAL LIFE DOMESTIC SITUATION, THIS IS ALL WORTH IT TO ME.”

—MORGAN WHITFIELD-FIREHAWK

Domestic violence is the leading cause of injury to women worldwide. In the US, every 9 seconds a woman is a victim of domestic abuse. For Morgan WhitfieldFirehawk, this is unacceptable.

“The idea for the center formed from when I was in my second year at the University of Virginia. My anatomy lab partner confided in me that she was a survivor of horrible abuse from her ex-husband for many years.”

A busy woman in SL, Morgan models and is the owner of HEELS, selling and designing high quality shoes to benefit The Care and Hope Center. The Care and Hope Center focuses on helping people understand and overcome domestic violence. Started in March of 2014, it is Morgan’s baby and she protects it and its reputation fiercely.

During that time, Morgan noticed that her partner never looked anyone in the eye, was very quiet, and never volunteered to answer a question. “Her story really had an impact,” Morgan mentioned, “because I could never fathom a person being beaten and treated inhumanely, especially from someone who supposedly loves them. Being in SL, I wanted to do something to spread the message of DV awareness.”

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“What better place than SL,” Morgan explains, “where thousands of people from all walks of life and all over the world log in daily. Surely, at least one person can benefit from my message.”

With HEELS, Morgan designs and sells shoes and walks the catwalks of the Second Life fashion world. She uses retail as her vehicle of choice to benefit The Care and Hope Center, where she conducts monthly educational meetings.

“I created Heels back in October 2017. My intentions were never to be the biggest shoe store in SL but just a way to provide affordable shoes while spreading the message about the Center and DV.”All proceeds from HEELS go solely to the tier for the Center. Morgan often uses her own personal expenses to offset any costs not covered. She doesn’t care about that – it is the message that drives her and all else is the means to an end.

Visit the Care and Hope Center http://maps.secondlife.com/secondlife/Dr eam%20Bay/230/150/24

Support with HEELS http://maps.secondlife.com/secondlife/Dr eam%20Bay/230/150/24

“I figured that if people notice me in the modeling world through fashion shows, print ads, commercials, and etcetera, they would correlate that to my Center.”

Everyone who knows Morgan knows she models for the purpose of supporting her Center and Domestic Violence awareness. Some understand, some think she’s crazy . . but again – if this benefits others in any way it is worth the effort.

HEELS participates regularly in the On9, SCALA Yin/Yang, and The Fashion Zone events. Weekly she is part of the $60L Secret Sale and the $55L Thursdays.

Morgan has other non-profits in SL that she supports, such as Stop Violence Against Women. She believes in bringing awareness to sexual assault, trafficking and violence toward women who suffer all over the world. Other organizations that draw her attention are Spoonful of Sugar/Doctors Without Borders and Relay for Life Second Life, Team Feed Your Soul.

“I do this especially in remembrance of my best friend's RL sister who succumbed to this deadly disease!”

That sister was mine - Morgan keeps a remembrance for her at the Center.

Primpwithand Pamper Salon and Spa Noir SOUL | EDITOR

There is something powerful about women who work together to make a difference in our world. In an experience where you could do anything that your heart desires, it speaks of a deep internal motivation to bring a smile to others.

I had the pleasure of meeting with Yasuki Noriko Holiday-Ito, owner of the Noir Brand, to chat about her inspirations, her motivations, and what drives her to provide lasting experiences for women across the grid.

Soul: Hey, sis. It’s incredible what you’re doing as a businesswoman in SL and I’ve heard so many good things about Salon Noir. Can you tell me more about it?

Yasuki: Of course! Salon Noir started Jan 2019 because I enjoyed roleplay and I felt like there were not a lot of opportunities to engage around me. To contribute to the community, I wanted to make something small. Salon Noir started for myself, to engage in roleplay with sorority sisters and family members. I began my journey with the salon by renting out a small commercial space on a family RP (roleplay) sim.

Not longer than a week later, word had spread around the greek SL community about the salon, and it was surprising to find that sorority sisters from all organizations were coming out to get services done. Lots of people started to come by and the business was booming!

We moved out of the family RP space after two months, because there were so many people coming that we outgrew the space! I expanded our staff, starting out with my sorority sisters but then opening employment to the greater community. I started the Glam Squad, employees who make sure that everyone feels safe and receives positive interactions in a friendly environment. I try to make the experience like a rl community-based space because the in the real world, the salon is a place that women come to feel empowered. At Salon Noir, men come too for mani-pedis, treatments, and more!

Soul: That’s beautiful- your story is inspiring! I love that you started with a small market, then built from there. It’s solid advice for other women looking to start a small business. You recently moved- can you tell me about the new region Salon Noir is located on?

Yasuki: Yes! We moved to Ito Tokai, a region that morphed from a family location to a roleplay experience with likeminded people who wanted to bring RP back to SL. I noticed previously we had to hunt for roleplay experiences, so I wanted a number of things to do to be on one sim.

Ito Tokai is a Japanese-inspired region that consists of Salon Noir, Spa Noir, a restaurant, Phat Headz Barbershop, Verse and Vinyl Lounge, and Opium, a private, adult lounge and club. We encourage businesses owners who want to create and uphold quality roleplay experiences to inquire about inclusion in our family of businesses.

One special thing about Ito Tokai is that it has a business organization where all of the roleplay business owners meet once a month to fellowship and increase engagement with quality RP experiences. I feel like that's a unique offering- we all help each other to thrive. In other sims, I've noticed there's no interaction among the roleplay businesses represented, so I wanted to make sure we centered cooperation in building quality experiences.

Soul: So not only do you provide for customers, but to business owners that operate on Ito Tokai! The spirit of cooperation is palpable. Shifting gears, tell me- what inspired you to create an experience promoting selfcare?

Yasuki: I think from my own experiences of wanting to make SL welcoming, special, and helpful- a true second life. When we log off of the game, women have such special roles in RL jobs, responsibilities, and household- they may not get a chance to focus on themselves in a day. I want to promote love and light through sharing the energy of helpfulness and self-care. Life is hard outside of the computer, so I wanted to provide an escape that would be beneficial for all.

One other thing- even when you think what you’re doing is small and no one sees it, you make an impact. A fingernail content creator, Chloe from Alme Nails, approached me when Salon Noir was smaller and wanted to align with us. She added to our nail salon roleplay experience- you can actually pick an Alme nail color and get the applier to place the color you choose onto your nails, at a discounted price from purchasing directly from Alme!

We also carry e-marie mesh nails in our salon, but Alme is different. Chloe, the designer, appreciated what we were trying to do by promoting RP with Salon Noir and wanted to make the roleplay more realistic. She wanted to partner in roleplay goals by providing both beautiful nails and an experience where her designs could be actively applied. We both aligned in wanting customers to enjoy the experience of getting their nails done in a salon.

Soul: Collaborations are so dope, and important as women in business thrive when working together. One last question before I let you gowhat are some things you do personally for self-care and how do you tie that into your offerings at Salon and Spa Noir?

Yasuki: I personally love working with crystals, use incense and bubble baths, and include in my routine all of the things that I make a part of the salon and spa experience. I get mani-pedis and make sure to take time out for myself, like listening to music and just relaxing. Yoga, meditation, and all the things that make me happy. Shopping, going to the mall- self-care to me is taking time out for myself, and that's what Spa and Salon Noir is all about.

Spa Noir has a pool- you can sit with your friends, get affirmations from the wall, book a couple’s massage, and look at beautiful things. Do yoga, meditate, and just relax. The spa is more than just getting a massage. Salon Noir is more than just getting your hair done. It's the experience. We talk to our clients, because that's a part of the roleplay and the experience you’d get at a real life salon. We make sure each and every client has fun and enjoys their experience with us.

Pamper at Spa Noir and Salon Noir Spa Noir is a special place to relax, open from 4pm-6pm Wednesday, 11am-1pm Sundays, SLT. Appointments are required.

Salon Noir is a full-service salon, open from 9am-11am Sundays, SLT. Appointments are required, unless there are walk-ins.

Salon Noir announces walk-ins on Facebook, and you can book directly through the Facebook page under ‘Appointments’.

Photo by Gara Beck

INNER GODDESS

5 ways to honor your

Divine Feminine SOUL | EDITOR

The world that we know is changing. Gaia is calling forth a great shift in spirit, awakening all to their true purpose and highest potential to heal and restore balance for the good of our planet.

Because we’ve lead from an assertive, logical, competitive spirit for so long, the Divine Masculine, there’s an energetic pull to reclaim our innate ability to be allowing, sensing, and cooperative, the Divine Feminine.

The Divine Feminine is a healing, sensual, renewing energy that exists within all gender expressions, teaching us that it is okay to just ‘be.’ Creating and maintaining balance of the Divine Masculine and Divine Feminine in our own energetic fields results in a collective shift toward compassion and peace for self and All. During this monumental energy shift, you may be feeling called to reconnect to your intuition, empathy, and natural ability to feel the vibration of All in a deep and impactful way. But how do you restore energetic peace for yourself? Here’s five actionable ways to embrace your Divine Feminine and reclaim balance in your daily life.

Be Mindful Mindfulness involves understanding how each moment, each breath, and each movement works together harmoniously to create and maintain balance. Examine each breath that you take, expanding your belly on each inbreath, deflating it with each out-breath. Incorporate meditation to find peace in times where you could use a bit of stillness. Find times to be still and reflective in your active daily routine, taking in the emotion of each action and augmenting it when the action brings imbalance.

Be Allowing In this patriarchal society, we’re taught to assert- to go after what we want, to press for that raise, to use persuasion and competition to achieve more and better than the next. Instead of leading with this energy, try to open yourself to all potentials and possibilities. Embracing the most feminine parts of yourself means being open and accepting of all the abundance that you are worthy of.

For example, if you’re on the hunt for a new job that will bring you joy and comfort, set the intention to get a job that will fulfill your needs, do a direct action toward improving yourself or chance to get that job (studying for the new position, reaching out to contacts in the field, etc), then allow yourself to get it. See yourself there and be open to all paths and potentials that may lead you to your manifestation. Being allowing is a practice that will help you move to acceptance of your Divine Feminine in a practical way, and help strengthen your inherent power of manifestation.

Be Creative The part of us that longs to create- to express emotionally using tools such as music, art, theater, and more- most times lay dormant within us, making way for the daily grind. Finding times throughout your week to embrace your creativity or enjoy the creativity of others without lingering feelings of ‘I should be doing something more productive’ allows you to open your Higher Self up to free expression. Set a 21-day habit toward embracing your creativity in something that brings you joy and peace. Take a painting or drawing class, visit a museum, or enjoy the beauty and creativity of nature. Building a relationship with the inner voice that drives you to express, share, and create will help strengthen your ability to naturally allow yourself to ‘be.’

Be Sensual When we hear the word sensual, often times we equate it to sex, and being sexy for the benefit of someone else.

While we can practice sensuality within sexual engagements, being sensual involves diving into your own senses and enjoying each for the feeling, emotion, or sentiment produced. Deeply smelling a rose allows you to engage in your sense of smell and take in the energy and beauty that the rose intends to share. Eating your favorite food slowly, taking in the texture, taste, smell, and emotion produced when you consume it is also a sensual act that will help you to reconnect to the essence of All. Being sensual with yourself physically is another way to tap into your Divine Feminine. Feel your curves and physical body, running your hands along your frame with the intention of sharing love with the deepest parts of yourself. Tell yourself how much you love You, and how beautiful You are. Masturbate, and enjoy the emotions and sensations that only you can give yourself through appreciating all that makes you unique and beautiful.

Dance in the mirror, run through the grass barefoot, and engage in a deep belly laugh. Connecting with your senses and being in tune with the magic of you frees you from the feeling that you have to be anything other than who you are, a principle of the Divine Feminine.

Be Free What does it mean to be free in a self-created world of rules, restrictions, order, and enforcement? Being exactly who you are without restricting your expression of emotion or allowing others to place restrictions on you to ‘fit in.’ You are worthy of being free from comparing your body, your image, your clothes, and your way of life against another woman, because we are all unique and express in our own way. You are who you are, and that person is amazing!

Being free to share this person and feeling good inside about who you are is one of the best ways to manifest your Divine Feminine.

The more we practice engaging and relating to our Divine Feminine personally, the more we collectively move toward a more open and accepting future- one that embraces all for their differences, works cooperatively towards achieving, and sets to re-balance energies to heal Mother Earth. Celebrate all that makes you feminine and you’ll honor your Divine Feminine, reclaiming your inner Goddess.

you are

WORTHY of love.

a public service announcement from your SIS.

ARE YOU IN A HEALTHY RELATIONSHIP?

For more on building healthy connections, visit https://loveisrespect.org

Scoring

Take this quiz to find out!

0 pts

If you scored one or two points, you might be noticing a couple of things in your relationship that are unhealthy, but it doesn’t necessarily mean they are warning signs. It’s still a good idea to keep an eye out.

3-4 pts If you scored three or four points, it sounds like you may be seeing some warning signs of an abusive relationship. Don’tignore these red flags. Something that starts small can grow much worse over time.

5 pts If you scored five or more points, you are definitely seeing warning signs and may be in an abusive relationship.

Remember the most important thing is your safety -- consider making a safety plan.

SIS mag

You got a score of zero?

Don’t worry -- it’s a good thing! It sounds like your relationship is on a pretty healthy track. Maintaining healthy relationships takes some work -- keep it up!

1-2 pts

SELF LOVE

ASK AZA

BY AZA GRANT

Well ladies—we’ve successfully made it through hot girl summer! This past summer I feel collectively has been a powerful time for us as women to love ourselves and one another more authentically. Whether this summer involved some self-love reflections and lessons or space for simply allowing yourself to TURN UP, I truly feel the climate of how women are being perceived has shifted into something beautiful!

“So what now, Aza,” you ask? There’s a crisp autumn breeze in the air! It’s officially sweater weather, pumpkin spice latte season, and all you can handle pumpkin and autumn-themed and scented goodies at Bath and Body Works in RL, and our fav home decor stores in SL! Oh, and who can forget—cuffing season! Whether you’re actively looking for your boo or currently boo’d up, there are complexities that come with love. Hopefully I can help you ladies navigate this season of new love more confidently!

So, let’s get into it!

Always the girl who got away

Dear ATGWGA,

Financial stability is important in I was on a date recently and relationships; because it means the question came up about balance and equality, but Rome “why did you break up with wasn’t built in a day. If you find your ex?” My answer was yourself dating someone that “financial stability.” doesn’t exactly meet your 1 standard but you click with them Immediately, I was labeled as on many different levels, it can the woman who wants a man be worthwhile to invest in them for money, when in fact I was and help them manifest to their asking for a partner who I can fullest potential. I’m sure if the build with together. I tried to roles were reversed, you’d explain this and it fell on deaf appreciate the same. But, be in ears... is it wrong to have tune with who is worthy of that financial stability as a deal investment. Be sure to pay breaker? Should we just be with attention to any red flags that someone solely for love? don’t support what you both as a partnership are trying to build.

Have a question? Ask Aza! Submit your questions here: http://bit.ly/SISMagAskAza

Master Debater I really love to masturbate. I mean, a lot. I love my flower- it's been my best friend for a long time.

Unfortunately, my love of masturbation makes my husband feel like he's not doing enough to please me when he totally is. Since I'm not going to stop masturbating, what can I do to make my husband feel like he's 'putting it down' while still enjoying my own self-love?

Dear Master Debater, This can be a bit tricky. The ego is quite the fragile thing. So here’s what I think:

1. If your husband is indeed satisfying you then there should be no need to “make him feel like he’s putting it down,” right?

If it’s been a topic that’s been brought up then maybe it’s gonna take some sexy affirmations to help encourage and reassure him.

2. If you haven’t done so already, self-love on yo’self in the heat of y’all doing the do.

It’s hot and I’m sure he’ll really appreciate it.

And if all else fails: communication. Have a lil’ pillow talk about what turns you on or drives you wild that he does, and vice versa. It will break ground for some great open convo on y’alls wants and needs as a couple.

Jae's Jambalaya Hey y’all, it’s Jae! I’m so excited to share with you BeYou, a roleplay hud system that enlivens your SL family roleplay. If you’re a family roleplayer, you’ll love it! BeYou makes my family RP more fun and interactive, and I love helping those new to BeYou dive in. In this column, I’ll share tips and tricks, recipes, and advice to enhance your BeYou and family roleplay experience.

Learn Your Stats

Getting Started Ready to get started? To get started with BeYou, you can use a BeYou kiosk or go to the BeYou region. It’s best to go to an individual market so you won’t get lost in all the things BeYou has to offer!

Most individual markets have a kiosk and hudsome of my favorites are below, so be sure to stop by and check them out! Once you get to the location of your choice, find the BeYou sign to get a hud.

Click the sign to get the hud, which will fall into your 'Objects' folder. I’d suggest that you make a beyou folder to make your life easier- you’ll be collecting a lot of stuff!When you put the hud on, you'll notice every stat at 99%, or 0%. If you had BeYou before, you may be 'dead', but don't be alarmed as you can raise your stats.

My Fav BeYou Markets Kings Domain Grocery Jackson's Supermarket Giggity's Grocery The Pantry

Registering in the BeYou System Next, go to https://beyouworld.com/me and fill in your profile. Complete the registration process, being sure to use ‘Resident’ as your last name if you don't have a legacy last name. You can't use your display name, as the BeYou system doesn't recognize you! When registering, it’s important that you use a real email address- updating your password will not work if you haven’t provided a valid email! I created a SL-flavored Gmail for this purpose. After you are registered, log into the BeYou system website using your new username and password and look around. It provides all of your stats, BeYou info, and more! Check out 'hud' 'meter' and 'help'- ‘hud’ gives you a meter that appears over your head.

The meter is important when you first start the game, and I’ll tell you why. Most times, people that don't wear it keep low stats, because they don't look at it in the hud. When you have that meter over your head and see the numbers moving, you will pay better attention to your stats! Wear the meter- you’ll thank me later!

After you get your meter on, fight the urge to shop! The first thing everyone wants to do is go shopping- I think I dropped 5K on groceries before I knew better. So before you go in a grocery store and go crazy, pause for the cause! To get started with nourishing yourself, you not only need to get recipes, you need to understand your stats! Certain ingredients are for certain recipes, and food and cooking help to increase your stats.

Here’s a quick breakdown of your stats and some tips on understanding what affects them.

Mana: spiritual wellness (usually stays in the upper range) Wellness: eating- whatever you consume as a food Energy: affected by working and doing things (cooking, planting, etc) Hygiene: taking care of body (washing, using the bathroom) Mood: energy, dedication, and hygiene affects moodif your energy is high, those are high. Mana and mood work together, too!

Reputation: how well you take care of yourself in BeYou (hygiene, chores- are you working? are you clean?)

Dedication: how often you're engaging in BeYou activities Social: being around other folks who use BeYou, interacting with the meter. You can also click the little guy to interact with others!

Starting BeYou on a Budget There’s no doubt about it- starting BeYou takes an L investment. If you want to maintain your fun on a budget, here’s some tips!

Buy a well or water hose- you’ll need it to maintain your bathroom, cooking, and more Have someone place their furniture in your home (or visit a free bathroom and shower in BeYou locations) Eat at a BeYou restaurant or grocery store to gain wellness points Hunt for almost expired food as consumables (you can get crates of apples and other veggies, cheaper!) You can live off of purchased meals and fruits and veggies- spend wisely Only put your hud on when you're doing BeYouWith food, fill yourself up so that you won't have to eat often Try to buy everything from other players- it’s less expensive!

Tips to manage your BeYou stats -One item affects the other -If you stink, your rep will go down, your energy and mood will go down -There's a cycle for every stat, so pay attention!

-For wellness, food can be cooked on your own or you can buy it -Make sure that when you purchase items to renew your stats, you stay in the store to receive

It really depends on the frequency and how you play- having on the hud doesn't do much, but when you move around and consume things, your stats will move and you’ll have to purchase more supplies. Know that if you're not wearing the hud, your stats won't do anything.

Your First Recipe- Jello!

There are 6 jello recipes- cherry, grape, lime, orange, strawberry, and snozberry. Recipes can be purchased from markets and will equip itself to your recipe book, indicating that you’re able to follow it. Make sure you have your kitchen in place before you start!

Ingredients: Water (from a well, water hose, or purchased) Snozberry (or other flavor) jello (40 lindens for 16 servings) Instructions: Sit on the stove in your kitchen.

Select your cookbook and recipe Follow the visual instructions that hover over the book- it'll walk you through each step!

If you need help, the BeYouWorld website will tell you what you have and what you need.

Need more help getting started?

Visit https://www.beyouworld.com /videoLibrary

HAUSE

fallfinds

Photo by Sienna Foxdale https://modhause.net Wanna know where to buy? Find credits in the back of the mag.

studio skye Blowing Leaves- new for fall! Add a touch of cozy with leaves that blow with the wind.

https://marketplace.secondlife. com/stores/14830

LOVELY LANDSCAPES Fall additions from your favorite stores AYLA ZHOY | WRITER

Fanatik Architecture Ponds, trees, and rocks- oh, my! Bring realism to your region with Fanatik.

https://marketplace.secondlife. com/stores/116289

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HALLOWEEN

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At All Hallows at Moochie

Looking for something spooky to do for Halloween?

Here's a few fun suggestions.

All Hallows at Moochie A wooded wonderland with lots of spooky surprises. http://maps.secondlife.com/secondlife/Moochie/170/200/23

HallowEEN DECOR SHOWCASE IN BELLISSERIA Visit the premium suburban community for spooky home decor and vote for your favorites! http://bit.ly/BCDecorContest

HallowEENtown 2019 Shop for decor items, take a carriage ride, and visit a haunted mansion! http://maps.secondlife.com/secondlife/Halloweentown/72/195/35

CREDITS

what Seren she's wearing Villers "I love wearing a semi-casual outfit- keeps me warm while maintaining a certain level of class and elegance."

Clothing: Ison – Shearling Jacket (Brown) Cog & Fleur Classic Fashion – Burgundy Turtleneck Sweater baii maii – 271 Flawless Fall January – Nylon Stocking The Original KC Couture – Teresa Jeans Boots Accessories: Rama Salon – Francesca Beret e.marie – Anya hoops Giz Seorn – Roxie Scarf GizzA Outlet /GizzA Creations II – Brown Gathered Tote Bag (part of the Valerie Outfit II) Appearance: Euphoric – Coquette Lipstick Applier Avi-Glam – Radiance Eyes (Gacha) – Catwa Applier 11 Tableau Vivant – Mariposa Hair – Colors

HAUSE where to buy

Background Building - 8f8 - No Place Of Ours Autumnal

Bicycle - What Next - Autumn Bicycle Decor Pumpkin Harvest Wreath - Apple Fall - Gallant Readers Gift Pumpkin Patch Sign - Brocante Autumns Calling Table, Bench & Chairs - Dust Bunny Autumns Calling Plates - Dust Bunny Autumn Poppy Flowers - Ariskea Silverleaf Glass Vase - TIA Mini Pumpkins - Apple Fall Pine cones & Hazelnuts - Apple Fall Apples w/ Ornamental Stand - Apple Fall Caramel Apples - Apple Fall - Fall Treats Gacha Chocolate & Cherry Tart - Apple Fall- Fall Treats Gacha Treats Platter - Apple Fall - Fall Treats Gacha Candy Corn Cauldron - Apple Fall - Fall Treats Gacha Vintage Tabletop Wreath - Nutmeg Brass Candlesticks - Nutmeg

Sisters Connect

What's going on this month in our group? Find out, participate, and meet a new sister!

Sisters in SL Carnival Party September 28th, 2pm SLT Hiring Models for our SISL Fashion Show http://bit.ly/SISFashionShow SISTERS GO BIKING October 5th, 2pm SLT SISTERS IN SL HALLOWEEN PARTY October 30th, 2pm SLT

Join us. Find your new bestie.

http://bit.ly/SisInSLFacebook

A SISTERS IN SL PUBLICATION 2019