November 2024 Show Me The Ozarks Magazine

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Falcon Lake Farm is a Neosho, Missouri, homestead, venue, farmto-table dining extravaganza, event center, artisan market and host to heartfelt activities created by sisters and owners Diane Dewitt (left) and Lisa Berberian (right) to bring their community together.

Focused Memories

47 Off the Beaten Path: Old Cedar Mill Gallery

From Small Town Dreams to Big Love Stories

Neosho Business Spotlights

52 Attention to Detail Drives Neosho Senior Golfer Camp Ramsey

53 Neosho Senior Golfer Colby Shadwick Focuses on Consistency and Work Ethic

54 Neosho Hoops Star Jazmyn Washington Follows Same Path as Her Parents

55 Neosho Senior Volleyball Standout Rylyn Moritz Enjoys Playing, Just Like Mom Said She Would

56 Neosho Senior Tennis Star Emma VanDorn Serious About Competing at High Level

57 Neosho Wildcats’ Cade Spiva is a Dual-threat Quarterback 58 Neosho Hoops Star Kanten Smith’s Love for the Game Comes from Mom

Guide

Holiday Wish List

Cover photo by Mandy Edmonson,

64 Hiring a Private Chef or Caterer for the Holidays: A Taste of Luxury and Convenience

68 The Talented Mullins Family, Not Elfin Around!

70 Ronald McDonald House Charities of the Four States Kicks off Gift of Light, Gift of Love Campaign

in every edition

What’s Happening in the Ozarks

10 Calendar of Events: Get outdoors this month for all sorts of fall activities, such as a stroll and s’mores event or any number of ways to learn about nature. You could also spruce up your home’s interior with a lesson on making a natural fall wreath or make a fall lantern to enhance your seasonal décor. Fall is in the air in the Four States!

14 Cultural Arts & Entertainment

17 Northeast Oklahoma Events

41 Faces & Places: 2024 Joplin Humane Society Fur Ball Home/Lifestyle

20 Recipe: Taco Soup

21 Tastes of the 4-States: Smokey Racks BBQ

22 Show Me Dining Guide

59 Your House … Your Home: Thanksgiving Table Decor

72 Why I Run: Few Days Off for 75-Year-Old Neosho Runner Charles Nodler

Can you find it?

76 The Great Outdoors: Don’t Let the Old Man In

79 A Naturalist Voice: Let’s Make These Deer Woods Shareable

73 Fit for Life: Juices: What Are They Good For?

74 Health Events

75 Volunteering From the Heart

80 Tips to Stay Sober During the Holiday Season

9 Pro Musica’s House Concert Provided Intimate Setting in Historical Home

12 Joplin Arts District

13 Thanksgiving Etiquette: The Host/Guest Dance

16 Connect2Culture Presents Overcoming Challenges to Let Music Shine and a Wise Spider Weaves Together Lasting Friendship

18 The Creative Edge: Jeffrey Jones

33 200 Years of Quapaw Resilience: A Commemoration of the 1824 Treaty

34 Experience Carthage

35 Spotlight on Carthage

51 Fashion Forward: Wig’N Out Boutique

Find the GREEN smiley face on one of our pages. Email wendy@showmetheozarks.com with the page number and spot where you found it. Submit your entry by the 15th of the month. A winner will be drawn from all the correct entries and will receive a gift certificate from an area retailer. One entry per household please. Good luck!

Congratulations to Leisa Harris of Oronogo, Missouri, the winner of the October edition Find the Green Smiley Face contest! Leisa wins a gift certificate to McAlister’s Deli in Joplin, Missouri. The Green Smiley was on page 73 in the picture of the kiwis.

Wendy

Joely

Dueling Turkeys and Santas: Merry Thanksgiving!

The holidays are coming in at warp speed now that we’re in November. I never want to skip over Thanksgiving and go directly to Christmas, though. I tried to find a balance in this issue with Thanksgiving-related articles, but I also know people get excited about Christmas and want to plan as soon as possible, so we also have a special section in this issue called the Holiday Guide.

Inside the Holiday Guide, you’ll find fun articles about planning your holiday meals (Thanksgiving or Christmas) and keeping the stress of those meals to a minimum. We also feature a story about a local family who keeps acting all in the family by performing in Joplin Little Theatre’s production of ELF the Musical.

Our featured town this month is Neosho, Missouri. Get to know the people, businesses and sports stars who make Neosho such a fun and unique place. And if you’re into biking, hiking or walking, read about Neosho’s ever-evolving trail system that offers unique outdoor enjoyment for both beginners and seasoned participants. Another focus for this issue is our local volunteers. I’m so amazed and proud of the volunteer spirit

in our area. It was hard to narrow down the story ideas to just a few because every volunteer or volunteer opportunity I learned about was unique and heartfelt and deserves to be shared with readers. I haven’t ironed out the details yet, but I’m going to figure out a way to share ALL the volunteer stories I heard about with you very soon. Until then, I hope you’ll enjoy reading about the volunteers on these pages.

With Veteran’s Day this month, we feature some local veterans’ organizations offering hope and healing to veterans in special ways. We salute our veterans and those currently in active duty and appreciate their sacrifice and service.

Here’s the part where I try not to be corny and cliché, but I honestly am so thankful for you--the readers, advertisers and the incredible team that works behind the scenes to make each issue beautiful and filled with amazing stories and photographs.

I hope you have a blessed Thanksgiving!

Sincerely,

Wendy Brunner, Publisher/Editor wendy@showmetheozarks.com P.O. Box 3325 • Joplin, MO 64803

Pro Musica’s House Concert Provided Intimate Setting in Historical Home

By Lee Elliff Pound, Executive Director

ProMusica held its second concert of the 2024-2025 season featuring the Catalyst Quartet. This all-string quartet had a busy Pro Musica schedule, which included an educational outreach concert performance and a house concert.

For the first time, Pro Musica provided an educational outreach program in the Carthage, Missouri, public school system. Students in the Carthage Tiger Pride 8th Grade Band had the opportunity to listen, learn and ask questions of the quartet. Opening the session with a piece called “Just a Minute,” a piece that runs one minute, many of the students were able to guess the length of the piece without any hint prior. Students were questioned about the timing of the performed pieces, where the low beat was in each measure and how the composer wanted the listener to feel at certain points.

The house concert was held at the home of Dr. Harold and Mrs. Carissa Smart and offered patrons the opportunity to meet and greet the musicians, as well as listen to a concert in an historical home with an elegant and intimate setting.

The third concert of the season will be held Thursday, Nov. 14, at 7 p.m. at First Community Church, 2007 E. 15th St. in Joplin. The concert will feature NEXUS Chamber Music. The NEXUS collective, co-directed by cellist Alexander Hersh and violinist/violist Brian Hong, features incredible prize-winning early career musicians in various chamber music combinations each season. NEXUS brings a string sextet to Pro Musica (Adé Williams and Rubén Rengel, violin; Tanner Menees and Brian Hong, viola; Ari Evan and Alexander Hersh, cello) to perform music by Mozart, Tchaikovsky and Shulamit Ran. Through their varied programming of sharing classical works alongside newer voices, Nexus aims to make the chamber music experience fun, engaging and culturally relevant for an ever-broadening audience. The program will include W.A. Mozart: Viola Quintet in D Major, K. 593; Shulamit Ran: String Sextet: Lyre of Orpheus; and Pyotr Tchaikovsky: Souvenir de Florence.

The new Meet and Greet series will continue with this concert and will be held at First Community Church. These events provide patrons of Pro Musica the opportunity to meet with the performers prior to the concert, ask questions and learn what to look for with the musical interludes. Soft drinks and charcuterie from Club 609 will be offered, free of charge. Reservations are requested due to limited seating.

For 45 years, Pro Musica has provided the highest caliber of world-class classical chamber music, at no charge to its audiences in Joplin and the surrounding communities. It is unique in the classical music scene as it is one of very few presenters in the United States of nationally and internationally touring musicians outside of a major (2 millionplus population) metro region. The organization serves as a point of pride for the Joplin community, which has sustained this organization despite many changes to the performing arts sector and the regional economy. Pro Musica relies on investment from local and national businesses, as well as corporate sponsors. Additionally, Pro Musica receives philanthropic support from family foundations, trust and public funding.

If you have attended a Pro Musica concert this season, please consider filling out the fourquestion survey at www.promusicajoplin.org/survey or use this QR code. This valuable information helps Pro Musica when setting the concert series, as well as when applying for the valuable funding that provides these world-class concerts at no expense to audience members. For additional information on how you can help with a tax-deductible donation or to obtain more information on the concert season, visit www.promusicajoplin.org or call 417.625.1822.

Dates/Times/Venues

Nexus Chamber Music

Thursday, Nov. 14, 2024

7 p.m., First Community Church, 2007 E. 15th St., Joplin Isidore Quartet

Wednesday, Feb. 5, 2025

7 p.m., First Presbyterian Church, 509 Pearl Ave., Joplin Fauré Quartet

Friday, March 21, 2025

7 p.m., Harry M. Cornell Arts & Entertainment Complex, 212 W. Seventh St., Joplin

2024-2025 Pro Musica Board of Directors:

Mr. Jud Fisher, President

Mr. Alex Curchin, Treasurer

Mr. Martin Williams, Secretary

Mrs. Lori Marble, Past President

Mr. Wally Bloss, member

Mrs. Cleo Copeland, member

Ms. Sally Currence, member

Mr. Nick Kyle, member

Mrs. Kathy Stammer, member

Mrs. Shelly Tarter, member

Mr. Justin Thomas, member

Mrs. Annette Thurston, member

Staff:

Lee Elliff Pound, Executive Director

Emlyn Johnson, Artistic Director

Emily Rose, Administrative Assistant

What’s Happening Calendar of Events

in the Ozarks

If you have an event you would like to see listed in the Calendar of Events, please email your request to: wendy@showmetheozarks.com. Events are printed on a space available basis and must be received by the 5th of the month prior to the month of the scheduled event.

Northwest Arkansas

Nov. 12: An Evening with Jane Fonda & Mary Steenburgen, 6-8 p.m., Crystal Bridges Museum of American Art, 600 Museum Way, Bentonville. Join us for an evening of conversation between Academy Award-winning actor, author and activist Jane Fonda and songwriter, Golden Globe and Academy Award-winning actor Mary Steenburgen. Moderated by Crystal Bridges board chairperson Olivia Walton, the conversation will center on wellbeing for women, highlighting Fonda’s and Steenburgen’s personal wellness journeys, climate work and advocacy for holistic wellbeing. Fonda’s career has spanned more than 50 years, accumulating a body of film work that includes more than 50 films and significant contributions to political causes such as women’s rights, Native Americans’ rights and environmental protection. Steenburgen is a Hollywood veteran, having appeared in countless roles on the big and small screen. Tickets are $30 for nonmembers and $25 for members. Reserve your spot online or with Guest Experience at 479.657.2335. More information is available at info@crystalbridges.org or 479.657.2335.

Carl Junction Community Center: 303 N. Main St., 417.649.7237

Monday, Wednesday & Friday Pickleball, 6-9 p.m. on Tuesday, noon-3 p.m. on Thursday, and 1-4 p.m. on Sunday. Yoga at 6 p.m. on Tuesday.

First Saturday of each month: Carl Junction Lions Breakfast, 8-11 a.m. The CJ Lions Club sponsors a monthly buffet breakfast with proceeds going to various community organizations and projects. Adults and children 11 and up $7; children ages 3-10 $3; children under 3 eat free.

Joplin, MO

Shoal Creek Conservation Education Center, 201 W. Riviera Drive, Joplin. Your local connection to Missouri’s fish, forests and wildlife. Check out the native plant landscaping, exhibits or hike the trails. Purchase a fishing or hunting permit, attend a nature program or watch for wildlife along the trails and banks of Shoal Creek. Enjoy a variety of free public programs throughout the year. Education Center is open Tuesday-Friday 9 a.m.-5 p.m. and Saturday 10 a.m.-3 p.m. Closed Sunday, Monday and most state holidays. Call 417.629.3434, email Shoal.Creek@mdc.mo.gov or visit mdc.mo.gov/ events for upcoming events. The parking lot, grounds and trail are open seven days a week from sunrise to sunset.

Nov. 8: Hunter Education – Skills Session, 6-10 p.m. Registration required. Ages: 12-up. This skills session will satisfy part two of the Missouri Hunter Education requirements. To enter the session, you must complete the knowledge portion and provide proof of completion by presenting either a qualifier certificate or a completed hunter education student manual the day of the event. All students must provide proof of identification and age. The final exam will be administered at the end of the skills session. To receive a free manual, contact Shoal Creek Conservation Education Center.

Nov. 9: Stroll & S’mores, 4-6 p.m. Registration required. Ages: 7-up. Autumn is an amazing time of year to enjoy the outdoors. Join Missouri Department of Conservation Naturalists on a fall stroll in Wildcat Park, then spend a cozy evening around the fire making some delectable s’mores. This walk is rated easy but be sure to dress for the weather and bring a comfy outdoor chair.

Nov. 13: Virtual Program – Where Can I Learn More About Nature? 12-2:30 p.m. Registration required. Ages: 12-up. There are many Missouri Department of Conservation Nature and Education Centers throughout the state. We will highlight each center during this program.

Nov. 13: Hunter Education – Skills Session, 6-10 p.m. Registration required. Ages: 12-up. This skills session will satisfy part two of the Missouri Hunter Education requirements. To enter the session, you must complete the knowledge portion and provide proof of completion by presenting either a qualifier certificate or a completed hunter education student manual the day of the event. All students must provide proof of identification and age. The final exam will be administered at the end of the skills session. To receive a free manual, contact Shoal Creek Conservation Education Center.

Nov. 22: Little Acorns – Bison Stampede, 10:30-11 a.m. Registration required. Recommended for ages 3-7. Hundreds of years ago, bison could be found roaming the prairies of Missouri. Join us to learn more about these fascinating larger-than-life creatures and make a craft to take home.

Nov. 23: Discovery Table – Turkey Talk, 10 a.m.-2:30 p.m. Registration required. Ages: Families. Stop by anytime to learn about wild turkeys in Missouri and make a turkey craft to take home.

George Washington Carver National Monument Visitor Center Free Programs. Two miles west of Diamond, Missouri, on Highway V, one-quarter mile south on Carver Road. Visitor center and park grounds open daily 9 a.m.-5 p.m. Call 417.325.4151 or visit www.nps. gov/gwca. *Programs will be presented outside on park grounds.

Nov. 2 & 3: African American Trailblazers, 1 p.m. George Washington Carver called himself a trailblazer, but he wasn’t the only one. Talk with a park ranger and explore contributions made by African American trailblazers and discover their pioneering achievements.

Nov. 9 & 10: Film – The Greatest Bond, 1 p.m. Join us Veteran’s Day weekend for a PBS documentary, which follows a group of disabled United States veterans who are about to be given a service dog and see their transformation as the dog expands their world and helps heal their hearts. (54 minutes)

Nov. 16 & 17: Film – The Tuskegee Airmen, 1 p.m. In 1941, with the world at war, a select group of African Americans made their way to Tuskegee, Alabama, with dreams of becoming the first black fighter pilots in the country. This PBS documentary explores the story of the Tuskegee Airmen. (60 minutes)

Nov. 23 & 24: Sweet Potato Lab, 1-2 p.m. Using George Washington Carver’s 1918 bulletin on sweet potatoes, participate in hands-on labs, making some of his sweet potato products. Learn how this work enriched the lives of families, from farm field to dinner table.

Nov. 30: Agricultural School on Wheels, 1 p.m. Learn more about this moveable school designed by George Washington Carver as an innovative solution to rural farm education.

Lamar, MO

Nov. 22: Lamar Downtown Lighting Celebration & Lighted Christmas Parade. Lighting Celebration is at 6 p.m. in Wyatt Earp Park and the Lamar Lighted Christmas Parade is at 6:15 p.m. For more information, call the Barton County Chamber of Commerce at 417.682.3595.

Pittsburg, KS

ArtForms Gallery Workshops, 620 N. Broadway, Pittsburg, KS. 620.240.0165. ArtForms Gallery is a co-op of artists offering monthly workshops ranging from acrylic painting, watercolor, glass fusing, pottery, metalsmithing, jewelry, textiles, kids’ art and more. Call ArtForms Gallery to register for any artist’s workshop. Refunds/ Cancellations: Decisions regarding refunds and cancellations are determined by the artist leading the workshop. For more information, check our Facebook page at ArtFormsGallery620/ or see our website at www.artforms-gallery.com.

Every Tuesday (Nov. 5, 11, 19 & 26): Art Explorations, 12:30-3:30 p.m. Free. Join Gallery Artist Pat Glick every Tuesday afternoon for a fun time working on your own project or art.

Nov. 5: Wood-burned Bookmarks, 4-6 p.m. Workshop fee $25, due at time of registration. Class limit of 6. Ages 12-up, unless with a parent. Artist: Ashley Denham. We will draw a design or stencil on a wooden bookmark and will then use wood-burning tools to burn the design onto your bookmark. Everyone will be provided a scrap piece of wood for practice to help get a feel for lines and shading. Paint pens available to add color. At the end, you will clear-coat the bookmarks with Mod Podge. You’ll take home your project at the end of the class.

Nov. 9: Fall Leaf Lanterns, 1-3 p.m. Workshop fee $40 for two lanterns, due at time of registration. Class limit of 16. Ages 10110. Artist: Sarah Prince. Looking for a gorgeous addition to your fall centerpiece? Are you excited about cooler weather, fall leaves and glowing lanterns? This is the workshop for you. Sarah will demonstrate how to make the lanterns and you will choose your own colors and accessories. You will take two lanterns home. All materials are provided.

Nov. 10: Experience Shibori, 1-3 p.m. Workshop fee $40, due at time of registration. Class limit of 12. Ages 10-up, unless with a parent. Artist: Nicole Meyer-Foresman. Shibori is an ancient Japanese dyeing process that involves folding, bunching or twisting material, then binding and dunking into a vat of indigo dye. No two pieces will ever be the same. The process is lighthearted, and the results are stunning. Arashi, Kanoko, Itajime and other techniques will be demonstrated. Each participant will create two tea towels in the Shibori techniques of your choice. Anyone wanting to wear their Shibori is welcome to bring a white, natural fiber shirt to dye as well.

Nov. 22: Medium Wood-burned Wall Hanger, 4-6 p.m. Workshop fee $30, due at time of registration. Class limit of 6. Ages 12-up, unless with parent. Artist: Ashley Denham. We will draw a design or stencil on a wooden wall hanger. Wood-burning tools available to burn the design onto your project. Everyone will get a scrap piece of wood for practice to help get a feel for lines and shading. At the end, the wall hangers will be clear-coated. You’ll take your completed project home with you at the end of the class.

Wildcat Glades Friends Group, 201 Riviera Dr., Joplin, Missouri. All programs are free of charge, unless otherwise noted. Registration

is requested. To register, email robin@wildcatglades.org or visit the Facebook page for online registration options. Robin Standridge, executive director, robin@wildcatglades.org. 417.291.3156.

Various dates in November, ongoing project: Wildcat Park Habitat Restoration & Student Trail Initiative. Wildcat Glades Nature Group, in partnership with Kansas City University and Missouri Southern State University continues to have work days to remove invasive species at Wildcat Park. The Restoration Plan is an ongoing project that will be carried out over the next 10 years. Workdays are held nearly every Saturday or Thursday during the year. If you are interested in becoming involved with the restoration effort, you can check out the Facebook page or reach out to colvin@ wildcatglades.org.

Nov. 8: Natural Wreaths, 6-8 p.m., Wildcat Glades Education Cottage. Ages 14-up. Prepare for a tree-mendously fun evening of making all-natural wreaths. Nature is home to a variety of wreath materials that’ll spruce up your home just in time for the holiday season. Materials will be provided by Wildcat staff and attendees will take home their wreaths. Cost: $10 per attendee. You must preregister by visiting https://bit.ly/NaturalWreaths24 or by emailing colvin@wildcatglades.org.

Nov. 13 & 16: Preschool Connections – Getting Ready for Winter, 1-2 p.m., Wildcat Glades Education Cottage. Ages 3-7, accompanied by an adult. Free. Sponsored by Calvin Cassidy. Winter is coming and our animal friends need to get ready. But how exactly do they get ready for winter? That’s the question Wildcat’s own Miss Vicki will tackle at this month’s Preschool Connections through a song, a story and a wonderful craft. You won’t want to miss this one! Must preregister by visiting https://bit.ly/PreschoolConnections1124 or by emailing colvin@wildcatglades.org.

Nov. 15: Nature Explorers – Eggs, 5:30-6:30 p.m., Wildcat Glades Education Cottage. Ages 7-14, accompanied by an adult. Free. Eggs are a staple of a good breakfast, but did you know they’re a staple of many animals’ life cycle? Tons of animals use eggs, from frogs and fish to birds and bugs and many, many more. Join us as we learn about how an egg works, the different kinds of eggs used by animals, the parts of an egg, and make tons of egg-cellent puns. If you’re wanting something more egg-citing, this program will also feature an unfertilized egg dissection. You must pre-register by visiting https:// bit.ly/NatureExplorers1124 or by emailing colvin@wildcatglades.org.

Nov. 15 & 16: Wildcat Glades Rummage Sale, 8 a.m.-5 p.m., IBEW Hall, 3316 Hearnes Blvd, Joplin. Support Wildcat Glades Nature Group at the semi-annual rummage sale. All proceeds directly support efforts at Wildcat Park by the Nature Group. We will accept donations Nov. 12-14 at IBEW from 10 a.m.-5 p.m. Items to donate could include books, household and decorative items, craft supplies, fabric, tools, kitchen stuff, costume jewelry, sports equipment, small pieces of furniture, like-new accessories, toys in good condition and jigsaw puzzles, just to mention a few categories. No large appliances, old TVs or clothing will be accepted. If you have any questions, please contact colvin@wildcatglades.org or message us via Facebook.

Nov. 16: Yoga in Nature for Kids, 10:30-11:30 a.m., Wildcat Glades Education Cottage. Ages 4-up, accompanied by an adult. Free. Led by Amanda, a registered yoga teacher, this class is designed to incorporate elements of fun, breathing and yoga poses specifically for kids. You must pre-register. Please sign up by following the instructions on the Facebook page, by visiting https://bit.ly/ YogainNature2024 or by emailing colvin@wildcatglades.org.

Where it’s ‘COOL’ to be YOU!

Visit these local establishments to experience a variety of creative events and entertainment this fall: ART EXHIBITS, THEATER AND MUSIC

Connect2Culture, Cornell Complex, 212 W. Seventh St., home of Connect2Culture and Spiva Center for the Arts:

• “Upon Closer Inspection” exhibit: Joplin Regional Artist Coalition non-profit’s membership show with various types of works less than 12 inches in size. Reception: Nov. 1 from 5:30 p.m. to 7:30 p.m.

• “Sean Fitzgibbon: What Follows is True” visual storytelling. Reception: Nov. 1 from 5:30 p.m. to 7:30 p.m.

• “The Joy Spiva Cragin 77th Annual Membership Show,” a competitive show for all age members with 2D and 3D works. Reception: Nov. 1, 5:30-7:30 p.m.

• ”Acoustic Eidolon” features Joe Scott on double neck guitjo and Hannah Alkire on cello as they captivate the audience with their signature “new acoustic” sound and boundless possibilities in blending Celtic, Americana, world and flamenco musical influences. Nov. 2 at 4 p.m. Ticket prices: $22.10-$27.30 (fees included).

• Marybeth Byrd, a featured 23-year-old singer/songwriter, appears Nov. 9 at 7 p.m. from Arkansas to perform a mix of country, Christian and pop music that helped her overcome stuttering. Ticket prices: $17-$22.

• “Charlotte’s Web,” a production of TheatreWorksUSA based on E. B. White’s loving story of a pig named Wilbur and a spider named Charlotte and their enduring friendship showing selfless love and bravery. Nov. 29 at 2 p.m. Get tickets/info by calling 417.621.9824.

Countryside in the City is one of the leading florists in Joplin for fine, quality roses, flowers, plants and gifts for every occasion. Let our experienced designers and staff create a one-of-a-kind gift you will love. We also offer beautiful custom-designed wedding flower arrangements including wedding bouquets, centerpieces and boutonnieres. Open Monday-Friday 8 a.m.-5 p.m. and Saturday 9 a.m.-1 p.m. Convenient parking.

Local Color Art Gallery, 1027 S. Main St.: Saturday paint class taught by gallery artists, 10:30 a.m.-1 p.m. Call 417.553.0835 to sign up.

Urban Art Gallery, 511 S. Main St., presents ownerphotographer Linda Teeter throughout November in her show of portraits “People, People Who Need People …” Her reception is Nov. 6, 4-6:30 p.m. Music by Olivia and Alex. Also, join the gallery Mondays 6-8 p.m. weekly to paint holiday-themed canvas with supplies furnished. Fees $22-25. See themes on Facebook.com/Urban Art GalleryJoplin under events information. For more info and RSVP, call 417.438.5931.

BAR AND RESTAURANT OFFERINGS

Blackthorn Pizza and Pub, 510 S. Joplin Ave.:

• Second Sunday: Singer/Songwriter Free Open Mic, 7 p.m.

• Nov. 3 and 17: Comedy Open Mic Night, 8:30 p.m.

• Nov. 15: Drag show hosted by Misty Meanor and Victoria Kennedy, 10 p.m.-midnight.

• Nov. 16: Brian Parton & The Domino Kings, 10 p.m.midnight. $5 cover, ages 21+.

• Nov. 29: Black Friday Blackout, 8 p.m. Free. Ages 21+. Tribute to fallen brothers Brad Jones and Nathan Burns by bands Brutally Frank and The Itch! Brew Pub & Parlour, 817 S. Main St.: Karaoke every Tuesday, Thursday and Friday at 8 p.m.

Chaos Brewing Company, 112 S. Main St.: Play free trivia Wednesdays at 7 p.m.

Club 609, 609 S. Main St., is hosting Eric Haun with his quilt-like patterns vibrantly painted on wood for exterior showing. The show is “Barn Quilts for Rt. 66: A Celebration of Rural Heritage.” Christmas décor goes up mid-month.

Joplin Avenue Coffee Company, 506 S. Joplin Ave., presents ink and watercolor paintings by Pittsburg artist Liz Darling in her show, “Paths” throughout November. The works explore the female anatomy in several surprising ways.

530 Somewhere, 530 S. Main St., features Monett artist Natalie Avondet throughout November with her abstract paintings on canvas of celebrities in “Face It Head On,” using a colorful paint layering process.

EVENTS

Nov. 30 is Small Business Saturday, where mom and pop businesses serve with loving care. Shop the specials and Christmas open houses.

Thanksgiving Etiquette: The Host/Guest Dance

BEST GUEST TIPS

Show Up with Something in Hand

Think of this as your opening number. Whether it’s a dish to share or a thoughtful gift for your host to enjoy later, arriving with something in hand sets the tone and ensures your time as a guest starts on the right foot.

Be Punctual

Timing is everything, especially for Thanksgiving. You can arrive at the start time or up to 20 minutes past, but never early. Even if you’re eager to help, showing up too soon can disrupt the host’s final preparations. You might walk in on her vacuuming in hot rollers! Stick to the scheduled time, and you’ll avoid creating unnecessary stress.

Stick to the Guest List

Thanksgiving invites are usually carefully planned, so before bringing a surprise plus-one, check with the host. It’s a simple way to keep things smooth and avoid awkward seating shuffles.

No Phubbing

Phubbing (phone snubbing) can throw off the harmony of any gathering. Your phone doesn’t belong at the table, and while we’re at it, try to keep it stashed away during the entire event. Focus on the people around you—Instagram and texts can wait.

Steer Clear of Hot Topics

We all know those subjects that can stir the pot: money, religion, politics, and now let’s add health issues and complicated relationships to the list. For the best conversations, keep things light and enjoyable. If someone tries to bring one up, gently redirect the conversation without missing a beat.

Help, but Don’t Hover

After the meal, offer to help if you can, but if the host says, “I’ve got it covered,” respect their wishes. Give them some room and time to clean up the way they prefer and avoid stepping on any toes.

If you spend time with etiquette enthusiasts like me during this time of year, you’ll often hear us talk about the “host/guest dance” that happens during holiday gatherings. If you’re wondering what dancing has to do with Thanksgiving dinner, keep reading! It’s not about doing the two-step by the turkey, but rather how we all move through the day together— whether you’re hosting or attending.

Here are a few ways to ensure your holiday flows smoothly, whether you lead as the host or follow as the guest, to help you avoid missteps.

BEST HOSTS TIPS

Invite Well

This is your opening note. If you haven’t already, send it out early (like tomorrow) and make sure to include all the information someone needs to say yes or decline, such as the date, time and what will be asked of them.

Greet Your Guests

Even if you’re in the middle of cooking, take a moment to greet your guests as they arrive. It’s a simple but meaningful way to set a warm, inviting atmosphere so everyone feels at ease.

Make Introductions

If people don’t know each other, you should introduce them. Even if they met last year, a little assist with names is always appreciated and helps set the stage for a great conversation.

Take the Lead

When guests arrive, offer them a drink and show them where to refresh it or grab an appetizer. Give guests a quick tour of the buffet or place a menu at each setting to help them decide what to put on their plate.

Expect the Unexpected

Every gathering is bound to have a few offbeat moments, and whether it’s a burnt pie or a clogged toilet, things won’t always go perfectly. How you handle these little hosting hiccups shows your grace and good manners far more than any flawless meal.

Say Thanks

As the festivities come to an end, take a moment to personally thank each guest for attending and contributing to the meal. Then, take a welldeserved bow and put your feet up—you’ve earned it!

By Kristi Spencer

She lives in Carl Junction, Missouri, with her husband and two sons, where she enjoys sharing her passion for modern manners and thoughtful living.

Kristi Spencer is the founder of The Polite Company and an etiquette expert. A graduate of the renowned Emily Post Institute, Kristi is dedicated to helping people navigate social and professional situations with confidence and grace.

This content is also available at connect2culture.org/calendar. Joplin, MO

PERFORMANCES:

Nov. 7: Bobby Rush House Concert (ages 18+), 7 p.m. (doors 6:30 p.m.), The Coda Concert House, 2120 E. 24th St. Bobby Rush is the greatest bluesman currently performing on the live circuit and has been honored with three Grammy wins for Best Traditional Blues Album and has received 46 nominations and 12 awards from the Blues Foundation, as well as induction into the Blues Hall of Fame. For reservations, email info@codaconcerthouse. com. In response, a confirmation email with the address, directions, parking etc. will be sent. Information: info@codaconcerthouse.com.

Nov. 7: Nexus Chamber Music, 7 p.m., First Community Church, 2007 E. 15th St. An artist collective featuring the country’s top young soloists who have joined together to present vibrant and culturally relevant programming that bridges the old and the new. Information: director@promusicajoplin.org, 417.625.1822.

Nov. 8-10: “Twenty-Four,” Missouri Southern State University, 3950 E. Newman Rd. Heartland Opera Theatre presents “Twenty-Four,” a new two-act opera/pastiche, based on “Twenty-Four Italian Songs & Arias of the 17th and 18th Centuries.” Information: heartlandopera@gmail.com, 417.385.1454.

Nov. 9: Marybeth Byrd, 7 p.m. (doors 6:30 p.m.), Harry M. Cornell Arts & Entertainment Complex, Beshore Performance Hall, 212 W. Seventh St. With a wheelhouse of country, Christian and pop, Byrd’s love for music is rooted in her childhood where the stage gave her a voice and helped her overcome stuttering. Tickets: connect2culture.org, 417.621.9824 or at the C2C box office inside the Cornell Complex (Tuesday-Saturday, 1-5 p.m.). Tickets: $16.90$22.10. Information: lauren@connect2culture.org, 417.621.9824.

Nov. 20: McKinley James House Concert (ages 18+), 7 p.m. (doors 6:30 p.m.), The Coda Concert House, 2120 E. 24th St. Armed with an electric guitar and sharp songwriting chops, McKinley James breathes new life into classic sounds with “Working Class Blues,” a debut album that introduces his mix of American rock and roll, amplified soul and raw rhythm and blues. For reservations, email info@codaconcerthouse.com. In response, a confirmation email with the address, directions, parking etc. will be sent. Information: info@ codaconcerthouse.com.

Nov. 20-24: “Elf the Musical,” 7:30 p.m. (Sunday 2:30 p.m.), Joplin Little Theatre, 3009 W. First St. Buddy, a young orphan child, mistakenly crawls into Santa’s bag of gifts and is transported to the North Pole. Unaware that he is human, Buddy’s enormous size and poor toy-making abilities cause him to face the truth. With Santa’s permission, Buddy embarks on a journey to New York City to find his birth father, discover his identity and help New York remember the true meaning of Christmas. Reserve tickets at joplinlittletheatre.org or by calling 417.623.3638. Tickets: Adults $18, senior citizens/students $15. Information: info@joplinlittletheatre.org, 417.623.3638.

Nov. 21-23: “Twisted: The Untold Story of a Royal Vizier,” 7:30 p.m. (doors 7 p.m.), Dream Theatre Co., 124 S. Main St. A parody of the 1992 Disney film “Aladdin,” written in the style of “Wicked,” which retells a popular story from the villain’s point of view. Mature audiences only. Reservations required; reserve your ticket at showtix4u.com/event-details/85015. General admission: $20. Information: becki.dreamtheatre@gmail.com, 417.553.3742.

Nov. 23: TheaterWorksUSA production of “Charlotte’s Web,” 2 p.m. (doors 1:30 p.m.), Harry M. Cornell Arts & Entertainment Complex, Beshore Performance Hall, 212 W. Seventh St. Based on E.B. White’s story of the friendship between a pig named Wilbur and a gray spider named Charlotte. Wilbur has a problem: how to avoid winding up as pork chops! Charlotte, a true friend, comes up with a plan to fool Farmer Zuckerman. Tickets: connect2culture.org, 417.621.9824 or at the C2C box office inside the Cornell Complex (Tuesday-Saturday, 1-5 p.m.). Tickets: Adults $16.90, kids $4.42. Information: lauren@connect2culture.org, 417.621.9824.

Nov. 30: Chris Duarte Group House Concert (ages 18+), 4:30 p.m. (doors 4 p.m.), The Coda Concert House, 2120 E. 24th St. Critically acclaimed Chris

Duarte takes the stage to perform his signature style of contemporary blues rock mixed with fusion, pop and heavy psychedelia. For reservations, email info@codaconcerthouse.com. In response, a confirmation email with the address, directions, parking etc., will be sent. Information: info@ codaconcerthouse.com.

EVENTS:

Nov. 4, 11 & 25: MSSU Choral Society Rehearsal, 7 p.m., Missouri Southern State University, 3950 E. Newman Rd. The choir is open to anyone, college age and older, and does not require auditions. Registration forms available during the first few rehearsals. Interested singers may attend the first few rehearsals at no charge. Cost: $30 per semester. Information: wbloss@gmail. com, 417.208.9654.

Nov. 6: Why Export to Canada? 9 a.m., Missouri Southern State University Cornell Auditorium, 3950 E. Newman Rd. Missouri’s International Trade and Investment Office will give an overview of the historic trade partnerships between Missouri businesses and Canadian markets. Information: stebbins-c@mssu.edu, 417.625.9736.

Nov. 6: Book Club: “Scarborough,” noon, Joplin Avenue Coffee Company, 506 S. Joplin Ave. Using one of the novel’s and movie’s most beloved characters, Ms. Hina, as a model, author Catherine Hernandez discusses how society can build sustainable and sincere bridges with those around us and continue to have hope. Information: stebbins-c@mssu.edu, 417.625.9736.

Nov. 12: “Scarborough,” 7 p.m., Missouri Southern State University Cornell Auditorium, 3950 E. Newman Rd. Experience films from Canada! Bing, Sylvie and Laura are three young children dealing with abuse and neglect, mental illness and precarious housing. But the friendship and stability formed through their participation in a local drop-in reading program stands in contrast to the various struggles they experience in a system destined to fail them. Rated PG-13. Information: stebbins-c@mssu.edu, 417.625.9736.

Nov. 13: Becoming a Lifelong Ally, noon, Missouri Southern State University Ron Richard Athletic Center, 3950 E. Newman Rd. Canadian author Catherine Hernandez will examine embodied allyship based on her renowned TEDxToronto Talk. To submit a question for Hernandez beforehand, email it to carmichael-a@mssu.edu by Nov. 6. This is a free pizza luncheon with a vegetarian option. Information: stebbins-c@mssu.edu, 417.625.9736.

Nov. 14: 12th Annual Empty Bowls 2024, 11 a.m.-2 p.m., Suzanne’s Natural Foods, 3106 Connecticut Ave. Select a handcrafted bowl from an area artist and then fill it with your choice of delicious soup. After your meal is done, keep the bowl as a reminder of your generosity and dedication to eliminating hunger in our area. Cost: $25 minimum per bowl. Information: ruth@ wateredgardens.org, 417.825.0536.

Nov. 14: Give Them Joy! for the Whole Story, noon, Missouri Southern State University Billingsly Student Center, 3950 E. Newman Rd. In this in-depth talk and literary reading, author Catherine Hernandez discusses the dangers of romanticizing resilience and how she aims to give her characters dignity and hope. Information: stebbins-c@mssu.edu, 417.625.9736.

Nov. 14: Joplin Writers’ Guild, 6 p.m., Joplin Public Library, 1901 E. 20th St. Includes a wide variety of writers. Members have published novels, nonfiction books and articles. The group focuses on supporting each other and sharing information about the publishing and writing industries. This group is open to the public. Dues are $10 for the year, but anyone interested can attend their first meeting free. Information: s.v.farnsworth@gmail.com, 417.691.0480.

Nov. 14: An Evening with Catherine Hernandez, 7 p.m., Missouri Southern State University Cornell Auditorium, 3950 E. Newman Rd. Author of the bestselling book and screenwriter of the multiple award-winning film “Scarborough,” Catherine Hernandez engages the audience in a discussion about sincere community engagement. Book signing at 6:30 p.m. and immediately following. Information: stebbins-c@mssu.edu, 417.625.9736.

Nov. 16: Just Desserts, 2 p.m. & 6 p.m., Joplin High School, 2104 S. Indiana Ave. Delicious desserts and fantastic musical performances—all for a good cause! Support Joplin High School’s show choirs during this popular, annual fundraiser. Admission: $10. Information: JHSshowchoirs@gmail.com, 417.625.5230.

Nov. 18: Downtown Poetry Reading and Open Mic, 6-8 p.m., Joplin Avenue Coffee Company, 506 S. Joplin Ave. Open mic sign-up begins at 6 p.m. Featured reader Robert Powell begins at 6:15 p.m. Open mic readings follow at 7 p.m. This event occurs on the third Monday of each month— same place, same time. Information: julieramon0802@gmail.com.

Nov. 19: “Women Talking,” 7 p.m., Missouri Southern State University Cornell Auditorium, 3950 E. Newman Rd. Experience films from Canada! Based on the 2018 novel by Canadian author Miriam Toews, Canadian writer/director Sarah Polley delves into a tight knit, cloistered religious colony in which women struggle to recover from an epidemic of abuse and discuss how to respond: do nothing, stay and fight, or leave. Rated PG-13. Information: stebbins-c@mssu.edu, 417.625.9736.

EXHIBITS:

Nov. 2-Dec. 20: 77th Annual Joy Spiva Cragin Membership Show, Harry M. Cornell Arts & Entertainment Center, Spiva Center for the Arts, 212 W. Seventh St., Joplin. The exhibition’s work is a proclamation of Spiva’s members’ hearts, minds, skills and passions. More than 100 area artists provide pieces of several mediums, including ceramics, watercolor, wood, oils, metal, photography and mixed media. Awards are presented for adults and youth categories. Information: sconroy@spivaarts.org, 417.623.0183.

Nov. 2-Dec. 21: “Upon Closer Inspection” by Joplin Regional Artist’s Coalition, Harry M. Cornell Arts & Entertainment Center, Spiva Center for the Arts, 212 W. 7th St., Joplin. Step into a realm of artistic enchantment where size is no limitation. Each creation, meticulously crafted with skill and imagination, uses a mere foot of space or less. Information: sconroy@ spivaarts.org, 417.623.0183.

Nov. 2-Dec. 21: “What Follows is True” by Sean Fitzgibbon, Harry M. Cornell Arts & Entertainment Center, Spiva Center for the Arts, 212 W. Seventh St., Joplin. This exhibition highlights artist Sean Fitzgibbon’s original, stand-alone works and original pages from his recent graphic nonfiction book, “What Follows is True: Crescent Hotel,” which blends oral histories, newspaper articles and Norman Baker’s biography to examine this historical happening. This 240-page fully painted, nonfiction graphic narrative explores one of the strangest and most controversial legends in Arkansas history. Information: sconroy@spivaarts.org, 417.623.0183.

Nov. 9-Dec. 20: Small Works, Great Wonders Silent Art Auction, artCentral Carthage, 1110 E. 13th St, Carthage. Creativity in a small package! Features the 5” x 7” mixed media works created and donated by artCentral artists. Although they may be tiny, these pieces demonstrate a wide range of skills, styles and talents possessed by some of the area’s finest artists. View all available pieces or place bids at artCentral or at artcentralcarthage.org. Information: artcentral1110@gmail.com, 417.358.4404.

CLASSES:

artCentral Carthage, 1110 E. 13th St., Carthage, MO:

Tuesdays: CAST Afterschool Art Program (ages 5-14), 3-5:30 p.m., YMCA Youth Activity Center, 400 S. Maple St., Carthage. Young budding artists can hone their cognitive abilities, critical thinking and verbal skills as they explore various art forms and a broad range of applications. Registration required; register at forms.gle/cyqb5J6qekWs1pJU7. Cost: $10 per student, per week. Information: artcentral1110@gmail.com, 417.358.4404.

Create N Sip Studio, 1505 W. 10th St., Joplin:

Wednesdays: Wine’d Down Wednesday, 5-9 p.m. A Canvas and Home Decor DIY Event. Choose the project that works for you. Cost: $28-$58. Information: coleman@creatensip.com, 417.680.5434.

Saturdays: Saturday Morning Choose Your Canvas, 10 a.m. Select the painting you want to recreate. Prices vary depending on chosen project. Cost: $28-$176. Information: coleman@creatensip.com, 417.680.5434.

Dream Theatre Co., 124 S. Main St., Joplin:

Wednesdays & Fridays, Sept. 4-Dec. 6: The Acting Academy (ages 5-14), 4-6 p.m. The perfect after-school program for young thespians! Students work with experienced instructors to adapt children’s literature into public theatrical performances and receive individualized tutoring in theatrical arts. This session includes two theatrical adaptations featuring “The Legend of Sleepy Hollow” and “The Nutcracker.” Limited spots available. Sibling discounts available. Registration required; register at forms.gle/ tqEWzuZMY1bK1vRg8. Cost: $120 per month + $25 enrollment fee. Information: becki.dreamtheatre@gmail.com, 417.622.6470.

Firehouse Pottery-Joplin, 112 S. Main St., Joplin:

Tuesdays: Ladies’ Night Out (ages 18+), until 8 p.m. Enjoy a creative evening. Information: firehousepotteryjoplin@gmail.com, 417.553.0671.

Fridays: Date Night, until 8 p.m. Friday nights are date night 2-for-1 studio fees for all couples. Information: firehousepotteryjoplin@gmail.com, 417.553.0671.

Judy’s Ballroom Dance, 3950 E. Newman Rd., Joplin:

Tuesdays, Wednesdays, Fridays: Judy’s Ballroom Dance Private Lessons. With private lessons, Judy can help transform you into a skilled, elegant dancer! Call 417.392.0215 to book your private lesson. Cost: $50 per hour. Information: schneider-j@mssu.edu, 417.392.0215.

Local Color Art Gallery & Studio, 1027 S. Main St., Joplin:

Tuesdays: Beginner Watercolor Class with Barb Hicklin (ages 8+), 11 a.m.1 p.m. Bring your own supplies. Register by calling 417.553.0835. Cost: $20.

Thursdays: Impasto Oil Painting Class with Tricia Courtney, 2-6 p.m. Learn the techniques and tricks of painting thick with a painting knife. Bring your own supplies (canvas board, oil paint, brushes and palette/painting knives). Register by calling 417.553.0835. Cost: $20.

Nov. 8: Watercolor Class with Joan Allen, 1-3 p.m. Includes all supplies. Register by calling 417.553.0835. Cost: $30.

Nov. 15: Fused Glass Class with Jane McCaulley, 3-5 p.m. Fused glass Christmas ornaments. All supplies included. Ages 8+. Register by calling 417.553.0835. Cost: $35.

Nov. 16: Saturday Paint Class with Jesse McCormick & Margie Moss, 10:30 a.m.-1 p.m. Includes all supplies and ice cream cone from Caroline’s. Ages 8+. No experience necessary. Paint a holiday painting or bring a picture of what you would like to paint. Register by calling 417.553.0835. Cost: $30.

Nov. 16: FUNdamentals of Paint Pouring with Mary Parks, 6 p.m. One 8” x 10” and one 11” x 14”. All supplies included. Ages 9+. Register by calling 417.553.0835. Cost: $40.

Nov. 23: Beaded Bracelets for Essential Oils with April Davis Brunner, noon-3 p.m. You will make three bracelets. All supplies included. Register by calling 417.553.0835. Cost: $30.

Nov. 30: Paint a Wine Glass with April Davis Brunner, noon-3 p.m. All supplies included. Register by calling 417.553.0835. Cost: $30.

Spiva Center for the Arts, 212 W. Seventh St., Joplin:

Tuesdays: Creation Station (ages 6–11), 4-5:15 p.m. Explore the galleries, enjoy fun activities and experiment with a variety of media, including painting, drawing, clay, sculpture and more. Pre-registration is recommended. Space is limited. Register at spivaarts.org/classes. Cost: In advance $6, at the door $8. Information: dhernandez@spivaarts.org, 417.621.9813.

Tanglefooter’s Round Dance Club, 1802 W. Second St., Joplin:

Mondays: Tanglefooter’s Round Dance Club, 7-8 p.m. Learn choreographed ballroom dancing with experienced teachers. Cost: Individual $7.50, couple $15. Information: mike@gfeneosho.com, 417.529.0686.

Overcoming Challenges to Let Music Shine and a Wise Spider Weaves Together Lasting Friendship

This November, Connect2Culture offers a diverse range of performances that are sure to captivate audiences. Whether you’re a fan of live music or classic children’s theater, there’s something for everyone to enjoy this season.

By Kristi Spencer

November 5 | 7 p.m.

Marybeth Byrd

Where: Cornell Complex, Beshore Performance Hall

Ticket Prices: $15-$20 (plus fees)

Get ready for an unforgettable evening with Marybeth Byrd, a 23-year-old singer-songwriter from Armorel, Arkansas. Byrd is known for her unique blend of country, Christian and pop music. Her love for performing began in childhood, when singing gave her the confidence to overcome her stutter. Now, she uses her voice not only to entertain but also to share meaningful stories.

Reality talent show fans may recognize Byrd from “The Voice,” where she made it to the top eight in 2019 under John Legend’s mentorship. In 2023, she wowed audiences again by placing in the top 10 on “American Idol.” Today, Byrd tours the country, performing her signature blend of music, allowing her truth and grace to shine.

Marybeth is thrilled to bring her music to Joplin, sharing, “I can’t wait to experience the community of Joplin, as I’ve heard how welcoming the people are there. We’re counting down the days!”

November 23 | 2 p.m.

TheaterWorksUSA Production of “Charlotte’s Web”

Where: Cornell Complex, Beshore Performance Hall

Ticket Prices: Adults $15 | Kids $3 (plus fees)

Based on E.B. White’s beloved story, “Charlotte’s Web” comes to life in a magical, heartwarming production perfect for the entire family. This classic tale follows the friendship between Wilbur, a pig facing an uncertain future, and Charlotte, a clever spider who weaves together a plan to ensure his place on the farm forever by making him a prize pig. With its powerful messages about friendship, bravery and selflessness, “Charlotte’s Web” continues to be a timeless favorite.

This production is designed to engage even the youngest theatergoers. This stage version of “Charlotte’s Web” features creative storytelling, imaginative set design and a bluegrass flair. The charming farm characters and storyline will keep audience members on the edge of their seats—and sometimes on their feet. This is a must-see event for families and is perfect for audience members ages five and up.

Grove, OK

Nov. 8-9: Grove Merchants’ Christmas Open House. Peruse and shop at various Grove retailers’ stores during the Christmas Open House for home décor, clothing, gifts and more!

Nov. 12: Fall Walk in the Park Acrylic Paint Party at Brush & Palette Art Gallery, 6-8 p.m., Brush & Palette Art Gallery, 18 W. Fourth St. Led by Karen Clary. All supplies are included. Workshops and classes are open to the public, but seating is limited so please register. Workshops are $30 for non-members, $20 for school students, and $20 for members, payable at time of registration. Veterans are free at First Saturday Workshops. Call 918.786.9698 or stop by the Gallery to register for classes. For more information, call 918.786.9698 or email bapag.Grove@gmail.com.

Miami, OK

Nov. 15 & 16: Christmas on Main Street/Coleman Holiday Market. Nov. 15: 4-8 p.m. and Nov. 16: 9 a.m.-4 p.m., Coleman Theatre, 103 N. Main St. Join us for holiday shopping with unique gifts crafted by Four State artisans. Santa will visit on Saturday from 10 a.m. to 2 pm. Bring your letters to share with him, and parents may take pictures. Shop the Coleman Shops and other unique businesses on Main Street. Stroll down beautiful Miami Main Street, which is decorated for the season, and enjoy the reindeer, food trucks and vendors. You might even hear some carolers. Admission is free. For more information, call 918.540.2425.

Nov. 22: Pam Tillis’ Belles and Bows Christmas Show, 7 p.m., Coleman Theatre, 103 N. Main St. Join country music legend Pam Tillis for a heartwarming evening filled with her greatest hits and timeless Christmas classics. Belles and Bows blends Pam’s iconic voice with the magic of the holiday season, while delivering an unforgettable performance that celebrates the spirit of a country Christmas. Her album, “Put Yourself in My Place,” yielded two number one hits, two top five singles and one top 20 hit. In its first year, the album was certified gold. Tillis followed with three platinum albums. During this time, she had six number one hits, including “Shake the Sugar Tree,” “Don’t Tell Me What To Do” and “Maybe It Was Memphis,” while 14 other singles landed in the top 10 and top 20. She is a proud member of The Grand Ole Opry, has three Country Music Association (CMA) awards, two Grammy awards (and six nominations), nine Academy of Country Music (ACM) nominations, and an AMA nomination. Pam also has a 2004 IBMA award win for Recorded Event of the Year “Livin’ Lovin’ Losin.” Tickets: VIP $59/Tier 2 $47/Tier 3 $42/Tier 4 $39/Tier 5 $29, plus fees/tax. For more information, call 918.540.2425.

Dates and times are subject to change. Please call the Miami Convention and Visitors Bureau at 918. 542.4435 to confirm. Tahlequah, OK

Nov. 21: Ladies Night Out 2024, 4:30-8:30 p.m., downtown Tahlequah. Spend the evening in downtown Tahlequah with us. Start by having dinner at your favorite restaurant and follow by enjoying promotions and sales from downtown businesses and stores. Tickets are $6 and include a promotions sheet, map and wristband. The first 100 patrons to purchase their tickets will receive a swag bag. In these bags, you will find goodies from participating area businesses and the opportunity to find a Golden Ticket. Golden Tickets are prizes valued at a minimum of $25. For more information, call 918.931.1699 or email admin@tahlequahmainstreet.com.

By Kristi Spencer

Jeffrey Jones has been working as an artist for over 37 years, exploring pottery, sculpture, painting and even toy design. He got his start at Silver Dollar City in Branson, Missouri, as a production potter. Since then, his work has taken him around the world, creating everything from sand sculptures to action figures. Art was Jones’ early passion, but it wasn’t until college that he discovered how he wanted to express it.

“I originally went to college to become an illustrator or painter,” Jones recalls. “I took a pottery class and was immediately attracted to the tactile qualities of clay, along with the science involved in glaze formulation and firing. Creating three-dimensional objects also seemed to bring my ideas into a more tangible state of being.”

JEFFREY JONES

Exploring pottery, sculpture, painting and even toy design

“Put your devices and games down and get to work. Skill acquisition and development are the key to becoming a better artist. The best way to accomplish that is to spend hours making art.”

— Jeffrey Jones

Jones established his own pottery studio in 1986, setting the foundation for what would become a diverse career. His journey took a unique turn in the late 1990s when he began traveling the world, crafting intricate sand sculptures for major corporations, sports teams and events. These experiences, along with his work as a sculptor for McFarlane Toys, where he created action figures for iconic movies like “The Terminator” and “The Matrix,” added to his range of skills that still influence his work.

When asked how his artistic vision has evolved over the years, Jones says it has been a natural progression that comes with time and practice.

“After years and years of working as an artist, I find it easier and very natural to not only conceive of more complex ideas but to actually have developed the skills to bring them to life,” he says.

In 2019, Jeffrey and his wife, Donna, purchased the historic Congregational Church building in Neosho, Missouri. They transformed the space into Northwood Arts & Event Center, a music and art venue that houses Jones’ private studios. Across the street, they run The Clay Cup - A Coffee Pottery, a coffee shop, gallery and clay studio that has become a favorite spot in the Neosho community.

“The Clay Cup definitely has a symbiotic relationship with the community,” Jones says. “We’re a vital part of each other. We work with and for the community, and it happily works with us. There’s so much opportunity in Neosho for small businesses to bring their own personal specialties to the table in the economic and cultural development of our town.”

Jones has advice for aspiring artists: “Put your devices and games down and get to work. Skill acquisition and development are the key to becoming a better artist. The best way to accomplish that is to spend hours making art. I’m twice the artist I was, but not yet half the artist I want to become.

By Kristi Spencer

While most people are looking forward to Thanksgiving with a traditional menu, I look forward to the night before when we make this soup as family arrives to celebrate the holiday. It’s hearty and full of flavor, allowing us to spice things up before it’s time for turkey.

Taco Soup

TOPPINGS & ADD-ONS

Yield: 6-8 servings

Total Time: 1 hour and 15 minutes

INGREDIENTS

1 pound extra lean ground beef

1 cup diced onion

2 (15.5 oz.) cans kidney beans, drained and rinsed

1 cup frozen corn

1 (10 oz.) can Rotel

DIRECTIONS

Tortilla chips, olives, sour cream, grated cheese, pickled or fresh jalapeños, cilantro, avocado slices, lime wedges

1 (15.5 oz.) can diced tomatoes

1 (1 oz.) package taco seasoning mix

1 (1 oz.) package ranch dressing mix

Tabasco sauce to taste

1. In a large pot or Dutch oven, brown the ground beef and onion over medium heat until the beef is fully cooked.

2. Stir in the kidney beans, corn, diced tomatoes, Rotel, taco seasoning and ranch dressing mix until well combined.

3. Bring the mixture to a simmer and turn the burner to low and cook for about an hour.

4. For a little extra kick, add Tabasco sauce—start with a teaspoon and adjust to your taste, or serve it on the side.

5. Serve hot with your favorite toppings and enjoy!

By Kristi Spencer

Smokey Racks BBQ

Smokey Racks BBQ has become a go-to destination for bold, smoky flavors and generous portions in Pittsburg, Kansas. For the past four years, Celeste Baker has owned this local hotspot, which was once a carwash and radiator shop but has been transformed into a must-visit barbecue joint. Baker made it her mission to master the art of smoking not just meats but also sides and desserts, creating a menu filled with boldly seasoned dishes, all smoked with love.

Baker’s passion for smoking shines throughout Smokey Racks’ menu. Alongside staples like brisket and pulled pork, she has introduced smoky sweet treats you don’t often find at a barbecue restaurant, such as smoked cinnamon rolls, brownies, cobblers and cookies. Smokey Racks has also expanded its original menu with options like turkey and meatloaf. Their sides include scalloped potatoes, baked beans and sweet potato casserole. Baker says the meatloaf is one of her personal favorites, and I can confirm it’s a generous serving of comforting, smoky goodness.

Baker says first-time visitors are always surprised by their portions, and many ask, “How am I going to eat all of this?” So, if you’re planning to visit Smokey Racks, come hungry.

For regulars, Thursday’s Spud Day is a highly anticipated event. For just $10, you get a massive baked potato (taters less than 1 pound need not apply) loaded with half a pound of meat, cheese, ranch and barbecue sauce. On Wednesdays, the Big J Wich special steals the show. This open-faced sandwich is piled high with pulled pork, cheddar cheese, baked beans and a hotlink, creating a barbecue masterpiece.

Smokey Racks also caters to barbecue lovers on the go, offering meats by the pound and sides in various sizes for parties and events. Smokey Racks can fill the bill, whether you’re after a full meal or just a few pounds of smoky goodness to take home.

Baker credits the Pittsburg community for its unwavering support, saying, “I couldn’t ask for a better community. They always show up when needed.”

Whether you’re a barbecue enthusiast or simply looking for a place to enjoy a satisfying meal, Smokey Racks BBQ is sure to hit the spot.

Smokey Racks BBQ

ShowMe Dining Guide

Smokey Racks BBQ

Voted Four States Finest BBQ in 2023 and 2024, Smokey Racks BBQ is your go-to for the best in smoked meats, including pulled pork, brisket, chicken and ribs. We also offer loaded spuds, sandwiches and nachos, along with mouth-watering daily specials. Let us cater your next event and make it unforgettable. Come taste the best at Smokey Racks BBQ! $$$

Hours: Tuesday-Saturday 11 a.m.-8 p.m.

Casa Montez is back in business and ready to serve you! The team at Casa

Now serving Joplin’s best brunch! Homemade beignets, pastries, biscuits and gravy, peppered bacon, eggs and parmesan fried potatoes and more! For lunch, enjoy your favorite appetizers, “out-of-this-world” salads, seasoned breads and your choice of dressing, soup du jour, sandwiches from burgers to apricot turkey and over 30 other choices! We offer a full service catering menu for private parties, business meetings and special events. $$$

Hours: Tuesday-Thursday: 11 a.m.-3 p.m.; Friday: 11 a.m.-10 p.m.; Saturday and Sunday: 9 a.m.-2 p.m.

Sam’s

Hours:

Now you can get your Ghetto Taco fix in two places: in the Ghetto Taco shop in Webb City and the Ghetto Tacos food truck around the community! We’re serving all of your favorites, including our famous tacos available in the shop and on the food truck, and burritos and nachos available at the shop only. Follow us on Facebook to see our specials and to see where the food truck will be. Named "Best Bite in Town" by Food Network! $-$$

Hours: Tuesday-Saturday 11 a.m.-8 p.m.

Red Onion Café

Casual urban dining in historic downtown Joplin since 1995. Famous for fresh salads, smoked chicken dip, burgers, pasta, grilled fish and steaks. The menu has a wide variety of gluten-free, low-carb and keto-friendly items. Extensive craft beer menu and wines by the glass. Full-service catering for groups large and small. Consistently voted “Best Restaurant” and “Best Menu” by 417 Magazine and The Joplin Globe. $-$$

Hours: Monday-Saturday 11 a.m.-9 p.m.

For the delicious authentic Mexican food you crave, there’s no place like Mis Arcos. We offer great choices, from our mouthwatering quesadillas to sizzling fajitas to massive burritos. There’s a reason we were voted Best of the Four States for Mexican food! Did we mention our two for $5 margaritas? Mis Arcos is the home of great food, fun times and lots of laughs! $-$$

Mon-Wed, 11 a.m.-9 p.m.; Fri, 11 a.m.-9:30 p.m.; Sat/Sun 11 a.m.-9 p.m.

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Opportunity for Veterans to Enjoy Peace, Solitude and Healing Outdoors

By Don Lowe

As Peterson Outdoors

Ministries remains fervent in its mission of “providing outdoor recreational therapy for injured and recovering veterans and their families, and first responders, as well as youth and adults with disabilities or serious illness,” the upcoming Heroes Hunting for Hope Fall Veterans Deer Hunt is an important event that impacts lives tremendously.

When considering what sparks interest in this inspirational initiative, Tron Peterson, executive director–Peterson Outdoors Ministries/Lodge of Hope, says, “Many veterans have injuries that keep them from enjoying the outdoors or they don’t have an opportunity to go hunting, and we offer that for them.

“Lodge of Hope is fully accessible for those with disabilities. We offer a wide range of adaptive equipment, like track chairs and specialized shooting rests, that allows individuals with the most severe injuries a chance to go hunting. Whether they are a quadriplegic, visionimpaired or an amputee, we have the equipment to help get them outdoors.”

Peterson notes, “Another benefit of this hunt, according to veterans who have attended in the past, is they’re able to fill their freezers with meat and provide food for their families. This is something that’s important to them.”

In sharing how this vision came together, Peterson says, “I felt the need to provide opportunities for veterans on a larger scale, where we could minister to more people at the same time. We were able to bring veterans from all over the United States to our farm near Nashville, Missouri, for this specific hunt.

“The goal was to bring veterans, many who had been injured in Afghanistan and Iraq, and their families to our farm to experience the beauty and solitude of the outdoors, as well as a faithbased program designed to help them with healing from the traumas of war.”

Veteran Robert Duke of St. Roberts, Missouri, who served in the Army from 1997 to 2012 and achieved a final rank of Sergeant First Class (SFC)/E7 and Infantry MOS, while working as a drill sergeant before being medically retired, benefitted from this hunt. “It helped me conquer my fears.

“It helped me understand myself again and gave me strength to keep pushing. By the end of it, you’re so much more relaxed and hugging

Peterson Outdoors Ministries/Lodge of Hope (Heroes Hunting for Hope) Fast Facts

Headquarters: Lodge of Hope is located at 26756 S. 2440 Rd., Sheldon, Missouri.

Website: www.petersonoutdoors.org

Contact: Executive Director Tron Peterson

Phone: 417.529.0115

Email: tron@petersonoutdoors.org

16th Annual Heroes Hunting for Hope Fall Veterans Deer Hunt

Dates: Starts Friday, Nov. 15, with veterans arriving between 1 p.m. and 5 p.m. and departing Sunday, Nov. 17, about 2 p.m.

everyone else like you’ve known each other forever. Everybody else there has gone through the same things as you. It’s more like a therapy session instead of a deer hunt.”

There’s a three-part process (before, during and after) to the hunt and Peterson says, “Months before, we work on logistics and sorting through hundreds of applications to choose those who could benefit most. After being selected, we contact them to let them know.

“Then we get to know a little about them, their families and their stories. We try to find out about their needs and extent of their disabilities, whether they need adaptive hunting equipment, are in wheelchairs, have food allergies or anything else we need to know so we can provide them and their families the best possible experience.”

Peterson says during the event, “Each veteran is teamed with a couple of guides that assist them in the hunting blind. Guides are selected based on their character and knowledge of hunting. They assist where needed and are a listening ear.

“Each morning starts with breakfast and a faith-based message that gives them something to think about while in the blind. Veterans hunt until noon and return to the lodge property for a homemade meal prepared by local churches or businesses. Then, it’s back to their hunting spots. And, every evening, a local speaker shares a message of hope that can be found in Jesus Christ.”

The evenings are especially endearing, and Peterson says, “The first night, veterans are given gifts that they will use on the hunt, as well as encouraging letters from Webb City and Carl Junction elementary school children.

“On the second night, the veterans are honored at a banquet, where they’re given resolutions from the Missouri State Senate and House of Representatives, as well as a handmade quilt from Quilts4Vets.

“After the hunt is over and the veterans return home, we continue to keep in contact with them and their families for the days and years to come,” says Peterson. “We want to be there when life throws them a curveball or when they just need someone to listen.”

Peterson knows events like this are life-altering and says, “Many people tell us after attending that what stuck out most is they came as an individual but left as part of a larger family with a newfound knowledge of the love of Christ for them and their situations.”

Peterson’s passion for ministry comes from a long history of military in his family as well as several who have struggled with disabilities or challenges with their health.

Number of Participants: A total of 10-12 veterans.

“I love our veterans and those who have sacrificed to help keep this great nation free.”

OurVeteransFirst:

By Amy Howe

Michelle Lee, the founder and president of the board of directors at OurVeteransFirst, has made it her mission to support local veterans in need. After spending 25 years as a probation and parole officer in Jasper County, Missouri, Michelle repeatedly witnessed veterans, particularly those not connected to the Veterans Affairs (VA) system, fall through the cracks. This realization led her to action. “I saw a need in the veteran community that wasn’t being filled,” Lee shares. In early 2019, OurVeteransFirst was established, and by September of that year, it secured its nonprofit status.

The mission of OurVeteransFirst is to assist at-risk and homeless veterans by providing them with essential resources and financial assistance. “We believe that no one is more deserving of a second chance than our veterans,” she says. While local shelters and agencies offer some support, many veterans remain underserved, particularly those who don’t qualify for VA benefits. Lee’s experience working closely with these individuals fueled her passion for creating a solution. “I have a great deal of respect for veterans, and I wanted to ensure they had access to the help they needed.”

OurVeteransFirst offers a range of services designed to meet the diverse needs of local veterans. From

financial aid for rent and utilities to essential items like food, clothing and hygiene products, the organization works to prevent homelessness before it starts. One particularly impactful initiative is the Backpack Program. “We provide veterans with backpacks filled with hygiene items, snacks, first aid supplies and seasonal necessities like gloves and emergency blankets,” Lee shares. These small but crucial supplies can make a world of difference to those struggling on the streets.

Another key offering is a short-term, no-interest loan program for eligible veterans. “It’s all about giving them a hand up, not a handout,” she says. This program is designed to help veterans who are on the path to financial stability but need immediate assistance to avoid homelessness.

Looking to the future, OurVeteransFirst has a bold vision for a Veterans Village in the Joplin area. “We want to provide 24 months of housing to eligible veterans,” Lee shares, noting the program will include personalized support plans for each resident. “We’ll address any issues that are preventing them from being self-sustaining, healthy and whole.”

The village will offer not just housing, but access to mental health and substance abuse counseling, as well as practical life skills like personal finance, job training and even gardening and beekeeping. “The goal is to give them the time and resources to heal and rebuild their lives,” Lee adds. By the end of the program, veterans will have a pathway to stable housing and employment, helping them reintegrate into society as empowered individuals.

For many veterans, OurVeteransFirst has provided more than just assistance—it has restored their hope. Veteran Aaron Kukovich shared how the organization supported his family during one of their most challenging times. In 2022, Kukovich and his family were living in a camper at a local campground when they were told they had to move.

“OurVeteransFirst paid a local towing company

to move our camper to another campground and covered the first month’s rent and electricity. We were ever so grateful,” Kukovich says.

The support didn’t stop there. As the holiday season approached, the organization reached out again. “In November, Michelle messaged me asking about our children’s clothing sizes and interests,” he shares. On a snowy morning near Christmas, Lee and her team showed up at his door, bringing presents, clothes, food and even a $150 grocery gift certificate from the local American Legion. “We were so blessed! OurVeteransFirst will always be near to my heart. We will never forget the kindness and selfless service they provided.”

Despite the significant impact OurVeteransFirst has had on local veterans, Lee acknowledges that awareness of the organization is still limited. “I don’t think the community is aware of our existence and the ways we can assist veterans,” she says. Part of this challenge comes from a small marketing budget. “We want to spend as much money as possible on assisting veterans directly, so getting the word out has been tough.”

However, the organization is taking steps to increase its visibility. In October 2024, OutVeteransFirst

moved into a new ADA-compliant office at 204 B E. 15th St. in Joplin. “This new space will allow us to meet veterans face-to-face, giving them a more formal setting to seek help,” Lee shares. The office will also serve as a hub for collaboration with other local organizations and agencies. OurVeteransFirst regularly works with the Veterans Administration, Catholic Charities, local VFW posts and the Disabled American Veterans (DAV) to ensure veterans receive comprehensive support.

Lee encourages the community to get involved in the organization’s efforts. “We are a community effort,” she says. “We welcome new members, volunteers, donations and sponsorships. If you share our passion for helping veterans, there’s a place for you at OurVeteransFirst.”

Michelle attributes much of the organization’s success to her fantastic board of directors. “We have so many great people on our board and it’s because of their selflessness and dedication to veterans that we are able to do what we do each and every day,” she shares.

As OurVeteransFirst continues to grow, Lee is hopeful more people will become aware of their mission and the critical services they provide.

“Our goal is simple: to make veterans stronger so our community becomes stronger, too,” she explains. Whether through donations, volunteering or simply spreading the word, there are many ways to support the organization’s work.

For more information or to find out how you can help, visit their website at ourveteransfirst123.org or call 417.691.7087.

By Amy Howe

Nestled in the serene landscape of Roaring River State Park, Charlie 22 Outdoors hosted its recent Operation Roaring River event, providing a unique healing experience for veterans through outdoor activities. From Sept. 27-29, 2024, veterans gathered at this Missouri state park to find solace, camaraderie and perhaps a deeper sense of personal meaning, all woven into the fabric of nature.

At its core, Charlie 22 Outdoors aims to offer more than just physical activities for veterans—it seeks to uplift them emotionally and spiritually. The organization’s mission is clear: to “provide outdoor activities to our nation’s veterans with the goal of showing them there is hope, love and a personal meaning in God’s grace.”

According to Scotty Hettinger, executive director of Charlie 22 Outdoors, this year’s event was a powerful embodiment of that mission.

Veterans attending Operation Roaring River experienced more than just fishing and hiking. They encountered a sense of peace and tranquility only nature can provide. “The peace a veteran can feel next to the river is indescribable,” Hettinger explained. “The scenery, the sounds—everything. It can’t be put into words.”

Among the many standout moments, two captured the essence of the event. One veteran chose to be baptized by another veteran, an emotional moment that reflected both personal and spiritual growth. Additionally, the presence of a 106-year-old World War II veteran and a 95-year-old Korean War veteran brought a profound sense of connection to history. Their stories, shared with the other veterans, created incredible bonds.

While the focus was on healing and connection, the event was designed to accommodate veterans with varying levels of physical ability. “Not everyone has the ability to do all activities,” Hettinger noted. “We provide activities that meet individual needs.”

The park’s infrastructure, such as sidewalks near the river, allowed those with mobility issues to participate fully, ensuring every veteran had the chance to experience the calming effects of nature.

Activities ranged from fly fishing to nature hikes, and a class on canning trout, led by a Vietnam veteran. Veterans were not just participants—they were part of a community, interacting with each other in a supportive environment. The river served as a backdrop, a constant source of peace that allowed veterans to reflect, relax and reconnect.

One of the key goals of Operation Roaring River is addressing the mental and emotional challenges veterans face. Many participants suffer from PTSD, anxiety or other emotional difficulties. Events like these give them tools to confront those issues. “The PTSD, anxiety and other emotional issues are very real to the veterans who come to our events. We’re trying to show them a way to battle those demons,” Hettinger said.

He emphasized the importance of veterans knowing they are not alone in their struggles. “We all have demons, just different than others,” he added. Events like Operation Roaring River help veterans realize they have people in their corner offering support, hope and healing.

The success of Operation Roaring River wouldn’t be possible without the incredible support of the local community. The Rib Steak House provided a fantastic meal on opening night, while the Fishers of Men Resort served as the lodging and home base for the event. Local businesses and individuals generously contributed meals, and Roaring River State Park provided fishing tags and secured a prime fishing spot for the veterans. “We also had an amazing group of volunteers,” Hettinger said. “Without them, we would not be able to do what we do.” All of these partnerships are vital to the success of Charlie 22 Outdoors, enabling them to host meaningful events and serve even more veterans in the future.

Looking ahead, Hettinger shared the organization’s plans to expand. “We hope to be able to serve more veterans in the future,” he said. With thousands of applications from veterans, Charlie 22 Outdoors is striving to reach as many as possible, offering them the life-changing experience of outdoor activities.

Charlie 22 Outdoors relies on volunteers and donations to make its mission a reality. Hettinger encourages anyone interested in supporting the organization to reach out.

“It’s simple. Contact us on the website, send me a text or email, or complete the voluntary application,” he said. There are many ways to get involved, whether through donating time, resources or financial support.

Operation Roaring River is more than just a weekend getaway for veterans—it’s a lifeline. Through the calming embrace of nature and the supportive arms of their fellow veterans, participants found hope, healing and a renewed sense of purpose. As the organization continues to grow, Charlie 22 Outdoors remains steadfast in its mission to provide a place of refuge for those who have given so much to their country, showing them the love and grace that await them by the river’s edge.

Scotty Hettinger, Charlie 22 Outdoors executive director.

Parsons, KS

Nov. 11: Veteran’s Day Parade, 9 a.m., downtown Parsons. All veterans are welcome and encouraged to walk, roll or ride on provided floats.

Nov. 11: Community Veteran’s Day Service, 11 a.m., Brown-Bishop Post 704, Veterans of Foreign Wars in Parsons.

Pittsburg, KS

Nov. 11: Community Veteran’s Day Celebration, 1 p.m., Pittsburg State University Veterans Memorial, 1909 S. Rouse. Keynote remarks by Major Callie Becraft, and newly engraved pavers honoring veterans will be unveiled during the ceremony.

Carthage, MO

Nov. 9: Veteran’s Day Parade, 2 p.m., Carthage historic square. Enjoy the inaugural Veteran’s Day Parade in Carthage.

Joplin, MO

Nov. 9: 37th Annual Joplin Community Veteran’s Day Parade, 10 a.m., Main Street.

Nov. 9: The Paws For The Cause 11K Ruck March, 8 a.m. Participants will start at Mercy Park, then walk in the Joplin Veteran’s Day Parade and will finish back at Mercy Park at 28th and St. Johns Blvd.

Pineville, MO

Nov. 11: McDonald County Veteran’s Day Ceremony, 4-7 p.m., Pineville square. Bring your veteran family members, friends and neighbors and help celebrate our McDonald County Veterans. Free dinner, keynote speakers, veteran door prizes, entertainment and fireworks.

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Nov. 11: Jay Veteran’s Day Parade, 10 a.m., Main Street. Celebrate military veterans past and present at the Jay Veteran’s Day Parade. Bring out the whole family to watch as decorated floats line the streets. The parade will feature flag twirlers and marching bands playing patriotic hymns including “The Marines’ Hymn” and “Anchors Aweigh.”

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By Amy Howe

As we approach Nov. 15, 2024, the Quapaw Nation prepares to mark a significant milestone—the 200th anniversary of the signing of the 1824 Treaty with the United States. This treaty, which profoundly changed the lives and land of the Quapaw people, is a reminder of their incredible resilience, survival and unwavering strength over the past two centuries.

The Treaty with the Quapaw of 1824 was a formal agreement between the Quapaw Nation and the United States, in which the Quapaw were forced to cede their ancestral lands in the Arkansas Territory. In return, the U.S. government agreed to pay the four head chiefs $500 each and provide the Quapaw Nation with $4,000 in goods. Additionally, the treaty promised an annual payment of $1,000 in specie (coin) for 11 years, along with provisions for the tribe’s relocation to a territory inhabited by the Caddo Indians.

However, as Executive Director of Culture for the Quapaw Nation Everett Bandy reflects, the 1824 treaty is not a celebration of its terms but a commemoration of the endurance and perseverance of the Quapaw people in the face of adversity.

“To me, the 200th anniversary of this treaty is not a celebration of this document. It is a commemoration of 200 years of Quapaw perseverance, survival and fortitude despite intentional efforts to deprive the Quapaw people of our land and birthright,” says Bandy.

A Public Display of History: The 1824 Treaty on Exhibit

In honor of this historic anniversary, The Quapaw Nation Culture Division in partnership with the Arkansas State Archives is offering the tribal community and the public a unique opportunity to view the treaty. On Nov. 15 from 1 p.m. to 3 p.m., the original treaty will be on display in the lobby of Downstream Casino Resort, and on Nov. 16, it will be showcased in the Downstream Pavilion from 1 p.m. to 5 p.m during the Quapaw Fall Gathering. This is a rare chance to see the document that marked a shift in the course of history for the Quapaw people and to reflect on its enduring impact. While the treaty represents a dark chapter of land loss and forced relocation, the exhibit is also a testament to the survival and continued sovereignty of the Quapaw Nation. Visitors will not only witness a piece of history but also celebrate the resilience of a community that has maintained its culture, language and governance for the last two centuries despite efforts to remove them.

A Legacy of Resilience

The 200th anniversary of the Treaty with the Quapaw, 1824, serves as a reminder of the strength of the Quapaw people. While the treaty may have been intended to diminish their power and presence, the tribe has shown remarkable resilience. Through its struggles, the Quapaw Nation has maintained a strong sovereign government, a thriving culture and an enduring connection to its heritage.

Today, the Quapaw Nation operates a range of enterprises, from cultural centers and casinos to agricultural ventures. These enterprises provide economic benefits to the tribe and serve as ways to preserve and promote Quapaw culture. The tribe’s ongoing success is a testament to its ability to adapt, survive and thrive despite the conditions imposed on its nation by the United States government. As Bandy so eloquently says, “This isn’t just about survival; it’s about thriving. We’ve taken what was meant to displace us and turned it into a foundation for our future.”

Looking Forward

While the anniversary of the Treaty with the Quapaw of 1824 is a moment for reflection, it is also a time to look toward the future. The Quapaw Nation continues to build on its strong foundation, ensuring that future generations will carry forward the traditions and governance.

Bandy sums up the significance of the moment: “This is a time to remember where we’ve come from and to honor those who came before us. It’s also a time to look ahead and ensure that the next 200 years will be ones of continued growth and strength for the Quapaw people.”

Join the Quapaw Nation in commemorating this remarkable milestone by visiting the treaty display at Downstream Casino Resort Nov. 15 or at the Downstream Pavilion Nov. 16. Witness the document that shaped history and be part of the ongoing story of Quapaw perseverance.

Lame Chief, who signed the treaty as “Kiahhacktetady.”

November is here, and Carthage, Missouri, has you covered for the holiday season! Embrace the magic of lights, art and fun as Carthage gets into the festive spirit. We begin with the enchanting Dia de los Muertos Festival Friday, Nov. 1, from 5 p.m. to 8 p.m. at artCentral, 1110 E. 13th St. This free event is open to all and features lively music, delicious food, exciting activities and an exhibition showcasing brilliant Latin art. It’s a vibrant celebration you won’t want to miss!

As November continues, we’re excited to present the first-ever Carthage Veterans Day Parade Nov. 9 at 2 p.m. Join us as we honor our veterans with awards for Best Band Performance, Best Marching Band and Most Patriotic Entry. Participation is free, making it a perfect way to come together in support of our community’s heroes.

Don’t forget the Holiday Business Decorating Contest hosted by the Carthage Chamber of Commerce. Businesses are invited to adorn their premises with the theme Holiday Movies, capturing the essence of the Christmas parade. There’s no cost to participate, and awards will be given to the top three businesses with the most captivating decorations. Make sure to get involved and show your support on Small Business Saturday Nov. 30, a national initiative to encourage holiday shopping at local businesses.

To wrap up, experience the glow of over 50,000 lights at the gardens of Precious Moments starting late November through Jan. 1. Also, from Nov. 8 to Dec. 21, visit the artCentral Holiday Boutique and Silent Auction. Admission is free, and proceeds benefit artCentral’s mission to support local arts and artists. Nov. 30 also features the Indoor Handmade & Vintage Market, providing a treasure trove of unique items from 8 a.m. to 3 p.m. With free admission, it’s a fantastic opportunity to explore and support local artisans and vendors. Stay connected with the Carthage community by following Experience Carthage, MO on Facebook and visiting www.VisitCarthage.com.

SP TLIGHT on Carthage

The Carthage Chamber of Commerce will promote Small Business Saturday, which is always the Saturday after Thanksgiving, throughout the Carthage community. This year, Small Business Saturday is Nov. 30. Carthage area businesses may sign up as participants and the Chamber will advertise what specials those businesses will be running for Small Business Saturday.

The Chamber’s EmPOWERing Women’s Event will collect toys for the LaVerne Williams Christmas party for the Carthage Police Department Wednesday, Nov. 13. This coincides with our women’s monthly luncheon that is held in the conference center at Leggett & Platt. This is open to all women to register and attend to network. November is Adoption Awareness month, and our keynote speaker is Debi Koelkebeck. Register at www.carthagechamber.com. Cost to attend is $12 for Carthage Chamber members and $15 for non-members.

The Business Spotlight of the Month is Maple Leaf Coffeehouse, which has two locations in Carthage and is currently the Carthage Small Business of the Year. Be sure to stop by either location soon to get a great cup of coffee, delicious goodies and “hometown love with every cup.” The Maple Leaf Coffeehouse & Creperie is located at 800 W. Central Ave., and the Maple Leaf Coffeehouse & Smootherie is located at 2206 S. Maple, Suite C-2.

Feed Our Farmers:

By Amy Howe A Community Thank You

Local FFA members at Carl Junction High School took to the fields Oct. 29 to deliver boxed meals to area farmers as part of the Feed Our Farmers initiative. This heartfelt event aimed to show appreciation for the hardworking individuals who contribute to the food supply, reminding everyone that just 2% of the world’s population is responsible for producing the products necessary to feed the other 98%.

The initiative was spearheaded by FFA member Myles Massey, who recognized the ongoing struggles faced by farmers in recent years. With increasing challenges from droughts, new regulations and fluctuating prices in cattle, feed and crops, farmers often feel underappreciated for their relentless efforts. Myles hoped this event would not only provide a meal but also serve as a reminder that their work truly matters.

A Simple Yet Meaningful Gesture

The day began at the high school, where Myles and his fellow FFA members gathered to pack meals for delivery. Each boxed meal included a simple yet satisfying selection of a sandwich, chips, a drink, dessert and candy—items that, while inexpensive, conveyed a powerful message of gratitude. The goal was to prepare at least 35-50 boxes, a modest yet impactful number, considering the current climate surrounding agriculture.

As the teens packed the meals and prepared for delivery, they were thrilled to do something small for

Myles Massey hands farmer Jamie Crow a bagged lunch in appreciation of the hard work farmers do.

the farmers who contribute so much to the community. The students set out to deliver the meals, knowing they were making a meaningful connection with the hardworking individuals who feed them all year long. Each delivery was an opportunity to express gratitude and appreciation for the vital role farmers play in their lives.

One of the recipients of the meals was Jamie Crow of Crow & Crow Farms, LLC, a local farmer who runs a cow/calf operation while his son manages the row crop harvesting. For Jamie, the Feed Our Farmers day was more than just a meal—it was an opportunity for students to gain a deeper understanding of the hard work that goes into farming.

“It’s good for the kids to get out and experience what’s going on at the farm firsthand,” Jamie shared.

Jamie also expressed his hope that the students would take what they experienced back to their classmates, helping others understand the vital role farmers play in the community. “I’m glad the ag program at CJ is giving these kids the opportunity to see what’s going on out here,” he added. For farmers like Jamie, the event not only provided a moment of relief during a hectic season but also fostered a valuable connection between the next generation and those working in agriculture.

ACKNOWLEDGING FARMERS’ HARD WORK

The Feed Our Farmers initiative highlighted the critical role farmers play in our daily lives. Despite their significance, many farmers remain unsung heroes, facing numerous challenges without sufficient recognition. By bringing food to these individuals, the students aimed to brighten their day and acknowledge the hard work they contribute throughout the year.

Myles articulated the sentiment behind the project: “Farmers have had a tough time in recent years. This small gesture is our way of saying thank you and showing that we see their struggles and appreciate their efforts.” It was a sentiment echoed by all involved in the initiative, as they understood the importance of community support in the agriculture sector.

Building a Legacy of Gratitude

Myles hopes to expand the program into a recurring volunteer service project, allowing the community to express gratitude for those in the agriculture industry on an annual basis. He envisions a future where more students participate, perhaps even reaching out to neighboring areas to spread the message further.

“This needs to happen again next year, and I want to keep this going,” Myles says. “We want to create a tradition of gratitude for our farmers, recognizing their contributions and the sacrifices they make.”

As the event concluded, it was evident the impact of Feed Our Farmers extended beyond the meals delivered. It fostered a sense of community, highlighting the interconnectedness between farmers and those they serve. The students learned and continue to learn firsthand about the importance of agriculture and the individuals behind the food on their tables.

The Crow family, l-r: Mackenzie, Jamie, Brandy, Zoey, baby Walker and Quenton.

Honoring Emma

How One Mother’s Loss Sparked a Mission to Help Others

By Amy Howe

In March 2016, Kaylee and Connor McGehee’s world changed forever when their daughter Emma was stillborn at full term. What should have been the happiest moment of their life turned into an unimaginable tragedy.

“We had a healthy pregnancy, and the loss was a huge shock,” Kaylee recalls. “We had the nursery ready. We were ready to bring our baby girl home.” Grieving her daughter’s loss was an overwhelming process, one that left her on auto pilot and trying to find a new normal. But with time came a resolve that Emma’s death would not be in vain. That determination led to the creation of The Emma Project, a nonprofit organization focused on supporting families facing the devastating loss of a child.

Navigating Loss and Offering Support

The pain of losing a child is unlike any other, and The Emma Project seeks to ease that burden for grieving families.

“The initial shock after the loss makes it very difficult to make already hard decisions,” Kaylee explains. “We want to provide an informational sheet with all of the information they need, so they don’t have to search for funeral homes and their options.”

One of The Emma Project’s goals is to ensure that grieving parents are not isolated in their suffering. The organization is working on initiatives such as memory boxes containing mementos like handprints, hair clippings and journals for grieving parents.

Kaylee emphasizes the importance of sensitivity in hospital settings, where staff may unknowingly cause harm. “It is very triggering to stay in a room close to other babies being born,” she says. One of her goals is to work with local hospitals to implement a system where families who have experienced loss are moved to a more private space, and an “Angel Elephant” symbol is placed on their door to signal the tragedy, preventing accidental inquiries about the baby.

Financial support is another key component of The Emma Project’s mission. Funerals, headstones and other expenses can be overwhelming for families who are already in deep grief. “Most employers do not allow any paid time off after a loss, but bills still need to be paid,” Kaylee says. The Emma Project seeks to help with these financial challenges, providing relief when families need it most.

Honoring Lives Gone Too Soon

One of the most moving aspects of The Emma Project is its annual candlelight vigil, where the names of lost children are read aloud. Known as the Wave of Light, the event is a solemn reminder that these children are not forgotten.

“Saying their names and honoring them in a moment of silence shares the love we have for all of the babies gone too soon,” Kaylee says. “That every single baby or child matters, and they will NOT be forgotten.”

The vigil offers a sense of community to families who often feel isolated in their grief. It’s a time for parents to remember their children and know they are not alone in their journey. “We are here to help navigate the darkness,” Kaylee adds, a sentiment that drives The Emma Project’s work year-round.

Future Vision: Growing Support for Families

While The Emma Project currently focuses on funeral costs and emotional support, Kaylee has a broader vision for the future. Beyond helping with headstones and memory keepsakes, the nonprofit hopes to expand to assist with utilities and other financial strains families

Kaylee McGehee, founder of The Emma Project.

face. “The goal is for all of these things to be up and running within the next two years, if not sooner. It all depends on donations,” she explains. Looking further ahead, Kaylee hopes to take The Emma Project national, partnering with organizations like Ronald McDonald House and ensuring that families in hospitals across the country have access to the support they need. Her dream is for no family to have to navigate the darkness of loss alone.

Breaking the Silence Around Child Loss

One of the biggest hurdles grieving families face is society’s discomfort with the topic of child loss. “In my experience, the loss of an infant or child is a taboo subject,” Kaylee says. “A lot of people walk on eggshells around those who have experienced the loss.” She encourages communities to take the time to learn how to help. “There are excellent resources online, and we will provide pamphlets with this information,” she adds. Her advice to friends and family is to remember their babies and that most of the time, you don’t have to say anything except, “I love you” and just be there for the grieving parents.

The Healing Journey

The emotional toll of running The Emma Project is immense, but Kaylee has found ways to navigate the weight of her work. “I focus a lot on selfawareness, emotional intelligence and meditation,” she says. Above all, her “rainbow babies” give her the strength she needs. The term “rainbow baby” refers to a healthy baby born after a loss and is a symbol of hope after a storm. For Kaylee, her children represent light at the end of the tunnel, a reminder that even in the darkest times, there is a way forward. Kaylee remains deeply motivated by the knowledge that her work is helping others through their grief. “Emma did not die for nothing,” she says. “The Emma Project makes her life worth something. Also, seeing how what we do helps others, and knowing how much of a need this is, keeps me going.”

A Message for Grieving Families

For families who are grieving the loss of a child, Kaylee offers words of comfort: “You are not alone. I see you. I feel your pain. I feel your grief. Even though you feel lost in the darkness, the waves of grief DO get smaller.” She encourages families to focus on whatever light they can find, whether that’s through loved ones, hobbies or nature.

Through The Emma Project, Kaylee hopes to continue honoring Emma’s memory by helping other families find their light amidst the darkness. “I have a big vision for The Emma Project,” she says, a vision built on love, support and the shared remembrance of lives gone too soon. “It can be very difficult to navigate the grief. This can affect each person differently, putting stress on relationships. We want to offer a support group within the next year for the parents, family and friends to attend to learn the tools to help them navigate the grief and be there for each other,” she shares.

How to Get Involved

The Emma Project is always looking for community support through volunteering, donations and spreading awareness. “The more we get the word out, the more of a support system we can build,” Kaylee says. Whether it’s through attending fundraising events or contributing to memory boxes, every little bit helps.

For more information on how to help grieving families, or to donate to The Emma Project, visit their Facebook page or reach out directly via email at emma@projectemma.org to be added to their volunteer list.

Volunteers Making a Difference

Chase the Chill Marks 10th Anniversary of Providing Warmth in Southwest Missouri

By Kristi Spencer

Chase the Chill is celebrating its 10th anniversary this year, marking a decade of providing warmth and comfort to anyone who might need it. The project started in Joplin, and its reach has expanded to Neosho, Webb City, McDonald County and Carthage. While it began by distributing scarves, Chase the Chill now provides scarves, gloves and hats to those in need.

Chase the Chill of Southwest Missouri is led by Jessica Tupper Moss, the project coordinator. She became acquainted with Chase the Chill after her grandmother passed away. “I wanted to continue her legacy,” Moss says. Having learned to crochet at the age of four, she found a meaningful way to give back. Moss even offers classes for those who want to participate in the project but need some help with their crochet skills.

Over 600 volunteers, from grandmothers to high school students, contribute to the cause every year. Creators knit, sew and crochet scarves, while others help with distribution. Each piece is tagged with a note that expresses warmth and care.

wanting to lend a hand. Moss says, “It’s such a humbling and heartwarming experience to be a part of. There are so many levels of generosity that go into it.”

Chase the Chill will celebrate its 10th anniversary Nov. 9 by joining forces with its original founder, Ann Leach, who now runs Snowflake’s Snack Shack, a volunteer-driven pet food pantry celebrating its fifth year, for the “Bark Away the Blizzard” event. This event will commemorate these milestones and gather items for a new initiative: pet sweaters for our furry friends in need.

“There are no requirements or forms to fill out,” Moss explains. “If you need it, take it. If you love it, take it.” The items will be tied to trees, left on park benches and placed on playgrounds around the area, making them easily accessible for those in need.

This year, Chase the Chill is excited to partner with several local businesses that will serve as collection points, including JOMO Moving, which is also helping cover costs for notes, yarn, crochet and knitting needles for those

If you’re interested in helping out, you can visit the Chase the Chill Facebook page to learn about the specific items needed and how to contribute. The page lists businesses and locations for donations until Dec. 2.

Then, Dec. 7, watch for these colorful and warm winter accessories in and around the area. Remember, it’s a race against time, as the items are typically claimed within 20 to 30 minutes. Congratulations to Chase the Chill for warming the hearts of the Four States for 10 remarkable years!

2024 Joplin Humane Society Fur Ball Over 400 animal lovers attended the 2024 Joplin Humane Society Fur Ball Sept. 28 at Downstream Casino Resort. The event is an annual fundraiser, plus it’s a fun way to thank and celebrate supporters. This year, Joplin Humane Society raised the most they’ve ever raised during Fur Ball: $168, 650! “Fur Ball was such a success, and we are so lucky to have amazing supporters,” said Executive Director Connie Andrews.

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Exploring the Neosho Trail System: A Haven for Outdoor Enthusiasts

Neosho, Missouri, has created an extensive trail system, offering big opportunities for outdoor adventures. Whether you’re a seasoned biker, a leisurely walker or a nature enthusiast, the Neosho trail system has something for everyone. Director of Parks and Recreation Kenny Balls shares insights into the trails and their impact on the community.

At the heart of the system is the High Ground Bike Preserve, which features six unique trails that cater to different levels of expertise.

By Amy Howe

“We’ve designed the trails for all types of outdoor activities, including walking, biking and hiking,” Balls shares. “The Roughrider Loop, for example, is 3.1 miles and ideal for events like 5K races.” This loop, along with the Homestead Trail, which winds through the remnants of an old homestead site, are among the most popular due to their versatility. “These trails give people the opportunity to explore Neosho’s natural beauty while engaging in healthy outdoor activities,” Balls adds.

The Preserve also features more challenging options for thrill-seeking bikers. Trails like the La-Z-Boy Downhill and Wildcat Chase provide fast-paced, downhill-only experiences. Jeff Chase, a local biking enthusiast and administrator of the Facebook page Bike Neosho, finds the variety exhilarating.

“I love that we have trails like Wildcat Chase, which offer a fun and scenic downhill ride. My favorite and most scenic

part is the Homestead Trail, which passes by the remnants of an old house,” he says. For Chase, having these trails close to home is a game-changer. “I don’t have to drive an hour to get a good ride in. It’s right here in our community, and I often meet people from neighboring towns like Joplin who come to use the trails.”

Another local rider, Adam Lett, echoes Chase’s sentiments. “One of my favorite sections is the Wildcat Chase, which passes by a cave. It’s the perfect spot for a scenic break or a photo op with my bike,” Lett says. For him, the proximity and well-maintained nature of the trails is key. “I’m out here five days a week during the fall and winter, whether it’s mountain biking or hiking. The trails are in great condition thanks to both volunteers and the Parks Department.”

In addition to the bike preserve, Morse Park offers more leisurely, family-friendly options, including a 2-mile paved walking trail along Hickory Creek. This ADA-

accessible path is ideal for those seeking a more relaxed experience, and the scenic creekside views make it a local favorite for walking and jogging.

“The paved trail is stroller-friendly, and we’ve added new ADA-accessible restrooms to ensure everyone can enjoy the park,” Balls notes.

Neosho’s parks and trails offer more than just scenic walks and bike rides—they’re also home to unique recreational activities that enhance the community experience. The city boasts an impressive 54-hole disc golf course, including an 18-hole course designed for beginners. This addition further enriches the outdoor opportunities available to visitors and locals alike.

One of Neosho’s most cherished traditions is the opening day of trout season, celebrated annually on March 1. The event begins at 6:30 a.m. with the sound of fire engine sirens, following a prayer to mark the occasion. Hickory Creek, which runs alongside the trails, is regularly stocked with trout, making it a prime location for anglers.

“It’s always a memorable day,” Balls shares. “We host a lunch cookout for everyone who comes out to fish. It’s a great way to bring the community together.”

Neosho’s trail system serves as a community hub. “We’ve worked closely with local

businesses and volunteers to enhance the trails and organize events,” Balls continues. The community’s involvement is evident through events like 5K runs, group hikes and bike rides, which bring people together for fitness and social activities. Jeff Chase organizes regular events through Bike Neosho, including Friday evening rides and a full moon bike ride. “These rides are not just about biking; they’re social events that encourage new people to get on bikes and explore the trails,” Chase says.

The trails also offer unique opportunities to experience Neosho’s natural environment. Visitors can expect to encounter native dogwood and redbud trees, along with wildlife such as deer, wild turkeys and even the occasional bald eagle.

“The trails truly immerse you in nature,” Balls says. “Plus, we’ve been actively removing invasive species, which helps preserve the natural beauty.”

Looking ahead, the city has plans to expand the trail system even further. “We’re adding two more miles to the mountain bike trails on the north end of Morse Park,” Balls reveals. “This expansion will include a pedestrian bridge over Hickory Creek, making it even easier for visitors to explore the trails.”

For first-time visitors, Balls suggests taking the time to experience each trail’s unique

features. “Every trail offers something different, whether it’s the scenic views from Roughrider and Homestead or the fastpaced downhill rides on La-Z-Boy,” he says. The trail system not only promotes fitness but also fosters a sense of community and appreciation for the outdoors.

With its diverse range of trails, accessibility features and community-driven events, the Neosho trail system is a testament to the city’s commitment to outdoor recreation and well-being. Whether you’re seeking adventure or a peaceful walk in nature, these trails offer an escape from the everyday and a connection to the beauty of Neosho’s natural landscape.

By Joely Edwards

Set far back down a long rock road, specifically located at 8250 Irene Lane in Neosho, Missouri, sits a lovely homestead called Falcon Lake Farm.

A homestead, a venue, a farm-to-table dining extravaganza, an event center, an artisan market and more, Falcon Lake Farm serves as host to heartfelt activities that put God at the center. The goal of sisters and owners Lisa Berberian and Diane Dewitt is to bring their community together for good times, to get to know one another and to support and uplift each other.

There is something very special about Falcon Lake Farm. Be it the beauty of the venue, the distance from the city or the frolicking farm animals, there is just something special about the place.

The venue itself is surrounded by nature, fields and trees with breathtaking sunsets you have to see to believe.

Falcon Lake Farm regularly hosts farm-to-table dining events that are loved by repeat attendees such as Karol Mayer. “It reminds me of some of the events that happen in Italy at wineries or agribusinesses. It is really well done,” she says.

From the exquisite decor to the multiple gourmet food options, all served family-style at a long, well-appointed table, these meals are a sight to behold. Lisa frequently visits with diners and tells stories about her family dinners and discusses the menu items and recipes handed down to her.

Lisa and Diane ensure they serve as many items as they can from local farms and they team with area vendors often. They have partnered with Evans Family Market in Neosho, Purple Chin Condiments, Bright Owl Bakery, and Farmstead Market and Kitchen. The sisters also source items from the Amish community

Chef JR from Purple Chin Condiments collaborated with the Falcon Lake Farm cookery for the first dining event hosted at Falcon Lake Farm. For the second, Nikki from Farmstead Market and Kitchen joined forces with Lisa to create a fantastic meal, showcasing her skills as both a chef and a talented decorator. Fauna and Nick from Bright Owl Bakehouse were involved in both events. Falcon Lake Farm welcomes any chef who would like to participate in this style of cooking to reach out and keep making people happy through food.

Lisa and Diane raise their own cattle, which is their focus on the farm, and they have chickens for eggs. They have also discovered a lot of mullein and elderberry on their land and will make tinctures this coming season.

A regular visitor to the farm, Dominique Lubow, says, “Lisa and Diane are very compassionate, down-to-earth people with hearts of gold. They manifest goodness and you can’t help return it.”

Yet, this is only one of the many things Falcon Lake Farm does.

Lisa says, “We host artisan markets about once a month, with a short break in winter. We’ll start again in February. We also welcome people to offer classes here. We are getting together with Marilynn from The Pie Place to do a pie-baking class. On Nov. 21, Wellspring Alpaca Acres Farm, one of our regular vendors, will be joining us. They always bring their alpacas for everyone to enjoy, and this time, Penny will teach us how to make a Christmas ornament using alpaca fur.”

Lisa also specializes in catering to small businesses, offering holiday trays that make perfect gifts for their clients. They have even worked with a local realtor who sent meals Falcon Lake Farm put together as thank-you gifts. And they also create party trays filled with delicious Baklava.

“We place God at the center of everything we do. We are dedicated to creating a beautiful space where people can make lasting memories, and we’re committed to going above and beyond to make that happen.”

– Lisa Berberian, co-owner, Falcon Lake Farm

What is even more special about Falcon

Lake Farm is that they don’t just call it a homestead for the sake of marketing. It truly is a homestead lived in and run by a large part of the family.

After living in Florida for over 30 years and driven by the impact of COVID with everything shutting down, Diane and her husband, the sisters’ mother Helen and Lisa’s son Mario were the first to move to Missouri in 2020 with Lisa following in 2021.

Lisa says: “Since Diane’s husband, Loren, was originally from Independence, Missouri, it was sort of like a ‘Go West, young man’ moment, except they were not so young anymore.”

Currently, seven family members live on the property, although others often come and go. Each person does their share to contribute to the homestead.

Lisa’s son Mario was a huge part of their start. He jumped in and learned how to do things a kid who grew up in the suburbs did not normally do. He took to driving the tractor with a bush hog on it, learned to build fences, fed livestock and cleaned out chicken coops. He split logs, built fires and shoveled snow. Diane’s son is a rugby player and loves to kite surf, which there isn’t much of around the homestead, so he pitches in with doing the books for the business.

Lisa says through this experience “we’ve come to truly appreciate the hard work

and dedication that real farmers and ranchers put into their lives—not just for their families but also the physical demands on their bodies. To us, they are true heroes.” That toll she speaks of is Lisa’s least favorite thing about farm life. Lisa says her favorite part of being a homesteader is stepping outside and feeling the openness of the land, spending time with the cows, and creating something from nature that enhances their everyday lives. These are the moments that inspire them. Lisa says when they first moved to the area, they originally wanted to offer a glamping site but that did not work out. Their true desire and intent was to create an atmosphere of family and community. So, they thought, “Why not a venue?” Lisa did the design and was the general contractor from the clearing of the land to the last detail in the commercial kitchen. She currently lives in a part of the venue they call the barndominium.

Plan now to attend a future farm-to-table event at Falcon Lake Farm. As Karol Mayer says, “I have traveled extensively and have been to many events similar to this. Falcon Lake Farm is one of the best I have been to. When you like food and you like wine, and you find a place like this in our area, you just simply have to love it! It really is a production and the food is extraordinary!”

Find out more about Falcon Lake Farm and upcoming events at www.falconlakefarm. com or find them on Facebook at Falcon Lake Farm.

By Joely Edwards

Off The Beaten Path: Off The Beaten Path: Old Cedar Mill Gallery

Old Cedar Mill Gallery is a lovely jaunt northeast of the Neosho, Missouri, city limits.

Here, you will find a creative haven and a treasure trove of handcrafted goods, along with the richness of American history. Old Cedar Mill Gallery opened in November 2022. It was built using materials from Chapman Sawmill, which was where Steven Chapman crafted items such as tables and benches, which were often donated.

When you visit, you will likely be welcomed by Easter Chapman and her son, Ryan. Modest and unassuming people, they will soon chat with you about their myriad creative arts classes and the rich, and sometimes humorous, history of the mill and items contained within it.

The mill is set in a beautiful rural area, not far from the highway, and draws visitors from Neosho, Joplin and Northwest Arkansas. People of all ages enjoy the crafts classes, and groups are encouraged to participate.

Easter said they have had businesses do team building at Old Cedar Mill, and homeschooling groups request projects in their studio.

The art studio hosts numerous ways to express oneself through arts and crafts for everyone, including those with no gift for art. There is also the retail side.

Everything in their shop is handmade by local artisans. From wood-cutting boards to hand-knitted blankets, goat milk soap to resin arts, the store is a space to take in the beauty of handcrafted wonders. Even the shop is beautifully rustic with Native American art, an antique phone booth and wood craft pens.

Ryan, a historian by education, said, “Part of the fulfillment of running Old Ceder Mill is sharing historical facts and storytelling to those who visit.”

Ryan and Easter give back by creating and collecting donated items of warmth and ensure those items get to people who will benefit from them. As a friendly challenge, they ask other crafters and businesses to contact them to participate in gifts of warmth.

The Chapmans are especially excited about their newest addition to Old Cedar Mill Gallery, a water turbine that once ran a gristmill on Shoal Creek over 100 years ago. The center of the large waterwheel was last used in the late 1800s. They hope to have this feature running by December, just in time for their holiday events. Join them Dec. 7 when they will have events for the entire family, reindeer rope making, snowball slingshot, snacks, hot cocoa, cider and photos with Santa by his sleigh.

Visit Old Cedar Mill Gallery and take in the richness of history, the slower pace of the rural landscape and the fun of creativity.

From Small Town Dreams to Big Love Stories

By Amy Howe

For Neosho, Missouri, resident Lee Ann Sontheimer Murphy, storytelling has always been in her blood. From an early age, she was enchanted by the tales her family would share. “I loved stories for as long as I can remember,” she recalls. “Family members read to me from an early age, told me family tales, and as soon as I learned to read, it became my favorite pastime.”

By the age of nine, Murphy knew she wanted to be a writer, and she hasn’t looked back since. Her love for writing began early, even earning some skepticism at home when she penned her first novel in the back of a school binder. “My mom laughed when I brought the manuscript

home, but my dad was impressed. What elementary school kid writes a novel?”

Decades later, Murphy’s passion for storytelling remains unchanged. Today, she’s the author of multiple novels, with her stories touching on themes of romance, family dynamics and extraordinary circumstances faced by ordinary people.

“I primarily write romance, so there’s going to be a love story somewhere in each novel,” Murphy says. But it’s not just about the romance. Her characters often find themselves navigating complex family relationships and life-altering events— proof of her knack for weaving relatable, heartfelt stories.

Her creative process is both structured and flexible. “I began succeeding as an author when I decided to treat writing like a paying job,” she explains. “I get up in the morning, have coffee and hit my desk.”

Her discipline is unwavering, ensuring she stays on top of edits, drafts and promotional efforts. “I don’t have a team to back me up, so if I don’t put my nose to the grindstone, nothing happens.”

Balancing creativity with the demands of the publishing industry requires effort, but Murphy’s approach keeps her moving forward, even when tackling multiple books at once.

“If I get bored or stuck, I can jump over to something else,” she says, a skill honed during her years as a newspaper editor for Gatehouse/Gannett.

Murphy’s ability to pivot and adapt extends to her subject matter. Each novel begins with a simple question: “What if?” From there, the story builds. Her 2024 holiday release, “Homeward Bound Hearts,” grew from imagining a bronc rider with a career-ending injury who must return home. To that premise, she added a home health care nurse who despises Christmas, and from there, the narrative took shape.

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Lee Ann Sontheimer Murphy’s Journey as an Author

Recurring themes of love and family are common in her books, but Murphy’s writing continues to evolve.

In her early days as an author, Murphy faced a much different publishing landscape.

“When I first submitted my book-length fiction, you had to print your full manuscript and wait endlessly,” she says. Today, the process is faster and more accessible, but Murphy has still had to adapt. Shifting from paranormal romance to sweeter stories, she reflects on the changing tastes of readers and the industry at large. “The market has shifted,” she admits, noting the growing popularity of eBooks alongside traditional paperbacks and hardcovers.

Even with a catalog of successful novels, Murphy hasn’t forgotten the challenges along the way. Her upcoming Christmas release, “The Scarred Santa,” has proven particularly demanding. “Rafe Sullivan, the hero, is a badly scarred veteran with many PTSD issues,” Murphy explains. “I wanted to be as realistic as possible, and it’s a very emotional novel in many ways.” Her grandfather, an Army veteran of World War II, provided inspiration for the character, offering a personal connection to the story’s themes of trauma and healing.

Murphy’s life experiences have shaped not just her characters but her writing as a whole. Her characters might not be autobiographical, but there are always pieces of her personal history woven into the narrative.

“None of my characters are me, and they’re not based on any actual person, but I often use someone’s mannerisms, memories or experiences,” she says. Settings, too, are drawn from places she knows well. When readers tell her she nailed a location description, it’s because she’s been there.

As she looks to the future, Murphy remains focused on her writing career. “I plan to continue writing novels,” she says. But she’s also expanding her creative horizons,

with a growing interest in editing for other authors. And like many authors, she dreams of seeing her stories on the screen.

“I think some of my stories would be a good fit for Hallmark,” she shares, “but I wouldn’t be picky if someone wanted to make a film!”

Murphy’s journey as a writer has been shaped by both the unexpected turns of life and the steadfast dedication to her craft. From her childhood in St. Joseph, Missouri, to her life in the Ozarks, she has transformed ordinary experiences into extraordinary stories that touch the hearts of her readers.

As she continues to write, her goal remains simple: “I hope readers enjoy the story and that it stays with them. I’d like to be remembered as an author penning stories that touch the heart, that share the good and bad of the human experience, and that readers will want to continue reading my work.”

Lee Ann interiviewing Gov. Mike Parson.

The author with Paul Herd, who uses the pen name Thomas S. Mulvaugh.

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Attention to Detail Drives Neosho Senior Golfer Camp Ramsey

By Don Lowe

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Neosho Wildcats senior golfer Camp

Ramsey was first introduced to this sport as a kid, he didn’t have a passion for it until another athletics adventure in baseball didn’t go well. He says, “My brother, Blake, has played golf my whole life. He let me tag along a few times when I was younger.

“I fell in love with golf after I’d made the junior high baseball team two years in a row and didn’t play a lot. I went to play golf with one of my buddies (Logan Decker). I enjoyed myself more on the golf course than I did just sitting in the dugout.”

Ramsey recognizes there are challenges on the course, and he says, “Staying mentally positive during a bad round or a slump is tough, as shots.

“Hitting bad shots is part of the game. But forgetting the bad shot and moving on is what you need to do to be successful. I like that there’s no right or wrong way to play. There are so many ways to attack a course.”

Neosho Senior High Boys Golf Head Coach Logan Shaw appreciates Ramsey’s approach and says, “Camp has a tireless work ethic and great attitude on and off the course. He can shake off a bad hole. Camp always has a great mindset and if he gets a bad break, he doesn’t get upset and let it fluster him.

“Camp’s growth from a mental aspect is what makes him so good. His attention to detail and keeping track of every shot helps him as well. Camp has a booklet of every single tournament and practices that he uses to chart many statistical things over the course of his round.”

“I feel my game on and around the greens, as well as my wedge game, stacks up against anyone,” Ramsey says. “I walk into every putt

Neosho Sports Star Camp Ramsey Fast Facts

6’1”, 175 lbs.

Grade in School: 12th

Thad and Keli Ramsey (stepmother) and Michele Ramsey (mother)

Melissa Womack, Mikayla Ramsey, Cade Ramsey and Blake

Neosho, Missouri

Favorite Subject in School: Math Seafood

Favorite Professional Golfer: Bryson DeChambeau

Favorite Golf Movie: “The Legend of Bagger Vance”

knowing it has a good chance of dropping. I have a lot of confidence on the golf course.

“Some people might call it arrogance, but I believe you need to know you’re going to hit a good shot and have a chip on your shoulder to play good golf. My mental game and confidence are my strong suits now; however, it’s something I struggled with deeply when I first started playing.

“Success in golf requires spending time working on basic mechanics and strategy. Having a good pre-round and pre-shot routine is also essential. Your pre-round, time on the hitting range and getting a good feel for the day and being able to see where you’re missing it are all important.

“Going out in a tournament and knowing it could be my day to strike it better than the other players and see my hard work pay off is the most rewarding thing in golf.”

“I expect a big year from Camp,” Coach Shaw says. “This year will be our most fun and hopefully most successful. Camp will be a huge part of it.”

Neosho Senior Golfer

Colby Shadwick Focuses on Consistency and Work Ethic

By Don Lowe

When Neosho Wildcats senior golfer Colby Shadwick first took up this sport, it wasn’t a passion for him, but over time that mindset shifted and he says, “I didn’t take golf seriously until my sophomore year in high school, which is when I decided I was going to try and play in college.

“I practice every day during the summer. During school, I practice five or six days a week. What I love about golf is preparation for tournaments. I love the grind and seeing my hard work pay off. I also love the competition. When I’m on the course, I strive to be the best of me.”

As for what brings out the best in his game, Shadwick says, “A couple of things that help

Neosho Sports Star

Colby Shadwick Fast Facts

Age: 17

Height & Weight: 6’, 170 lbs.

Grade in School: 12th

Parents: Heath and Laura Shadwick

Siblings: Wyatt Shadwick, James Shadwick and Macie Shadwick

Hometown: Neosho, Missouri

Favorite Subject in School: History

Favorite Food: Chicken

Favorite Professional Golfers: Scottie Scheffler and Rickie Fowler

Favorite Golf Movie: “Happy Gilmore”

make me a good golfer are consistency and work ethic. When I have a goal, I practice and work hard to reach it.”

In assessing Shadwick’s game more closely, Neosho Senior High Boys Golf Head Coach Logan Shaw says, “Colby is a real student of the swing. He knows so much about swing mechanics and the little tweaks to make throughout a round that can help correct small issues while he’s playing.

“Colby can hit any shot. He’s done some things on the course that shock the most successful golfers. Some of the shots he hits are jawdroppingly hard. His ability to hit the most difficult shots has always blown me away. I’ve never seen anyone other than Colby hit these types of shots consistently well.”

Shadwick understands there are highs and lows, and he says, “My main challenges are staying focused on the course and getting frustrated when I play bad. I’ve learned you’re going to have bad days.

“The great thing about the game is that it teaches you many things. Not every day is

a good day, and you can’t let the bad things affect you. Instead, you need to learn to forget it, and play on.”

Shadwick’s ‘play on’ mentality has resulted in a steady upswing in his game, and Coach Shaw says, “Colby averaged in the high 90s as a sophomore and last season (junior year) had that down to the low 80s. I believe Colby will take the next step this year with an average in the 70s.

“He’s always working to get his scores down. He puts in the work by himself and takes lessons to perfect his swing. The best part of Colby’s game is his ability to hit any shot at any time. Colby’s creativity is a huge reason for his success. He’s good at knowing what is and isn’t working.”

Coach Shaw is thrilled to have a young man with Shadwick’s character on his team and says, “I appreciate the fact that Colby is a great kid. If you could picture what you want your son to be like, Colby would be that kid.

“He works just as hard in the classroom, while keeping a solid GPA. It has been a true joy to coach Colby and I’m looking forward to seeing what he can do next spring.”

Neosho Hoops Star

Jazmyn Washington Follows Same Path as Her Parents

By Don Lowe

It makes perfect sense that Neosho Lady Wildcats senior high girls basketball star junior Jazmyn Washington decided to follow in her parents’ footsteps. She says, “My mom and dad both played when they were in high school, and basketball was their favorite sport. So, it rubbed off on me as a child to want to play.”

As for what she enjoys most about basketball, it’s not individual accolades that drives her. “I like playing with the girls on my team and making new connections every year. I also like the ups and downs that happen during a game. It makes it fun and interesting.” While “hooping” it up is fun for Washington, there are demands that come with playing basketball. “The main challenges I face

Neosho Sports Star Jazmyn Washington Fast Facts

Age: 16

Height: 6’

Grade in School: 11th

Parents: Kevin Washington and Connie Tanner

Siblings: Justin Washington and Jordyn Washington

are keeping up with the expectations and standards my parents and coaches have for me,” she says.

“The challenge of being a post player is always being in the middle of the chaos when a shot goes up from an opponent. And when our team is on offense, there are usually two or three girls right there when I get the ball in the paint.”

No matter what obstacles Washington faces from game to game, Neosho Senior High Girls Basketball Head Coach Tyler Chaney appreciates her positive approach, and he says, “She shows up willing and ready to go to work at all times. Jazmyn possesses athletic ability not everyone has at her height. She can run and jump higher than most of the girls she matches up against.”

“I believe my basketball IQ and running ability have made it a lot easier for me to be successful,” Washington says. “At the center position, my hand-eye coordination plays a big part in being able to catch the ball easier.

“My height is also a good thing to have for playing center, because it makes it easier to see inside and get better looks at the basket in the paint.

Hometown: Neosho, Missouri

Favorite Subject in School: English

Favorite Food: Seafood

Favorite Professional Basketball Star: Las Vegas Aces star center A’ja Wilson

Favorite Basketball Movie: “Love & Basketball”

“To be successful in basketball, you need to be a quick thinker, and everyone needs to play together as a team. And, playing center, defense is a main key. If you play good defense, it translates back to offense for my team, because defense wins games.”

Coach Chaney says, “Jazmyn has matured a lot over the past year, and she’s been able to get some good varsity experience during that time.”

“The best part of my game is running the floor and rebounding,” Washington says. “The hard sprints we run in practice helps my endurance in games. The aggressive rebounding drills in practice has also helped me improve my overall game.”

Whether it’s basketball or her studies, Washington is all about making necessary improvements to be successful in everything she does, and Coach Chaney says, “Jaz is top three in her class academically, which speaks to how mature she is with being a three-sport athlete and balancing her schoolwork.”

Neosho Senior Volleyball Standout

Rylyn Moritz Enjoys Playing, Just Like Mom Said She Would

By Don Lowe

Neosho Wildcats senior high volleyball standout senior outside hitter Rylyn Moritz understands the phrase “mom knows best” and says, “I started playing travel ball in fourth grade. My mom signed me up to play because she played in high school and thought I’d enjoy it as much as she did. She was right.”

While Moritz finds it enjoyable, there are challenges. “Keeping a good headspace when things don’t go as planned is tough. At my primary position, being able to hit around a big blocker isn’t easy because I’m not necessarily the tallest hitter, so I need to be smart about where I put the ball.”

No matter what obstacles come her way, Moritz says, “A specific skill that personally helps me be successful is my leadership and lifting our team when things might not be going our way and keeping a positive attitude. Individually, what helps me as an outside hitter is my vertical jump and speed.”

“Rylyn has always been a leader on our team,” says Neosho Senior High Volleyball Head Coach Martha Harper. “She worked hard this past summer and has continued working hard during the season. She leads by example. There’s never a time when I need to ask Rylyn to go harder.”

When it comes to Moritz’s athletic abilities, Coach Harper says, “I love to watch Rylyn hit. She’s not as tall as a lot of our opponents and usually sees a bigger blocker in front of her. But she always finds a way to get around the block for an aggressive hit.

“Rylyn is a quick player, and she can jump well. She’s such a consistent player. Rylyn is

Neosho Sports Star

Rylyn Moritz Fast Facts Age: 17

Height: 5’6”

Grade in School: 12th

Parents: Rudy and Amy Moritz

Siblings: Kennedy Tool and Nate Tool

Hometown: Neosho, Missouri

Favorite Subject in School: English

Favorite Food: Hot Wings

Favorite Collegiate Volleyball Star:

Nebraska Cornhuskers senior star libero Lexi Rodriguez

Favorite Volleyball Movie: “The Miracle Season”

one of our top hitters and passers. She’s just a solid all-around player.”

Coach Harper is impressed with Moritz’s approach, and she says, “I’ve only watched her since this past summer, but I can tell she has a strong work ethic.

“Rylyn warms up correctly, works hard in her drills and strives to be a better player every day in practice. She asks questions and continues to want to learn. Rylyn also listens when we need to make changes or adjustments.”

Moritz believes facing top-notch competition has helped elevate her game, and she says, “What has led me to excel is playing harder teams in our conference because that’s more of a challenge. It helps me dig the harder balls, play better with my serve, and receive, and think about ball placement.”

Whether on or off the court, Coach Harper says, “Rylyn is a good kid. She has a good heart and cares about her teammates. She works hard and wants to be the best she can every time she competes.

“Rylyn is that player everyone would want on their team. She’s positive and encouraging. I always know Rylyn will give all she has until the whistle blows. She also works hard in the classroom. School is important to her as well as keeping up with classwork.”

As for what ultimately makes competing in volleyball so rewarding for her, Moritz says it’s “seeing my own improvement as the season goes along and the bond that’s created with my teammates and coaches as well.”

Neosho Senior Tennis Star Emma VanDorn

Serious About Competing at High Level

By Don Lowe

There isn’t likely anybody who is going to outwork

Neosho Lady Wildcats senior star tennis player Emma VanDorn. She says, “I would consider my will to compete to be the best part of my game. There isn’t a ball I won’t hustle to get, and I go into every match hungry to compete.”

When it comes to the best part of her game, Neosho Senior High Girls Tennis Head Coach Nicholas Hays says, “I think it is her seriousness about competition. She truly wants herself to be a better player. But more than that, she wants our team to be better overall.

Neosho Sports Star

Emma VanDorn Fast Facts

Age: 17

Height: 5’4”

Grade in School: 12th

Parents: Calib and Julie VanDorn

Siblings: Cale VanDorn and Quinn Cosens

Hometown: Neosho, Missouri

Favorite Subject in School: English

Favorite Food: She doesn’t have a favorite food, but she eats a lot of eggs.

Favorite Professional Tennis Star: Spanish Pro Star Carlos Alcaraz

“Emma just has a drive to win at anything she does. And she’s excellent at helping all our newer and younger players, while showing them how to be successful as well.”

As VanDorn considers what makes this sport enjoyable for her to play, she says, “My favorite aspect of tennis is that it’s so technical. You can always keep improving and getting better, no matter what level you’re at.”

Even with steady improvement, VanDorn knows it’s unrealistic to expect perfection in every match. “In my opinion, one of the biggest challenges in tennis is consistency. You can play amazing one day and have an off day the next.

“I play soccer as well as tennis, so I know how to hustle all over the court. I’m also quick and have decent strength.”

Coach Hays knows there’s nothing “decent” about VanDorn’s overall game, and he says, “Emma is incredibly athletic along with her drive to win. She has excellent footwork on the court and gets to many balls that other

Favorite Tennis Movie: “Challengers”

players do not. Her work sets an example for other players on our team.

“Emma is just such a great athlete. She has continued to work hard during the off-season, and it showed as she moved up to being first on our team rankings for this season.”

It’s not simply all about winning matches for VanDorn. “Tennis is rewarding because of the connections I make with my teammates. It also gives me the ability to push myself and push my limits.”

Coach Hays believes VanDorn is the epitome of a student-athlete, and he says, “I appreciate how hard she works in the classroom and on the tennis court. She’s in multiple groups and clubs at school and excels there.

“She was in one of my Advanced Placement (AP) classes and always wanted to do her best and learn more. On the court, she’s a great leader and willing to take on any task I ask of her. She’s willing to help with anything on our team and pushes me to do more as a coach and teacher.”

Neosho Wildcats’

Cade Spiva Is a Dual-threat Quarterback

By Don Lowe

As starting quarterback of the Neosho Wildcats

Senior High School football team, senior Cade Spiva understands there are challenges from a leadership standpoint, and he says, “It’s difficult to guide everything that happens in the game through you, especially on offense. It’s my job to keep everyone even keeled and ready to go all game long.”

Spiva believes he thrives running the show for Neosho’s offense and says, “Being a good player comes not only from physical skills but mentally as well. I think I’m a good leader and I help build strong relationships with everyone on our team.

Neosho Sports Star

Cade Spiva Fast Facts Age: 17

Height & Weight: 6’, 190 lbs.

Grade in School: 12th

Parents: Mike and Jenny Spiva

Sibling: Mason Spiva

Hometown: Neosho, Missouri

Favorite Subject in School: Math

Favorite Food: Any type of pasta

Favorite Professional Football

Star: Houston Texans starting quarterback CJ Stroud

Favorite Football Movie: “When the Game Stands Tall”

“Having the trust of my teammates is important because the relationship I build with them will help make myself and everyone else around me better football players.”

In describing his style of play, Spiva says, “I’d consider myself a dual-threat quarterback, which means I can run and throw the ball.

Having that capability makes it hard as a defense to stop everything our offense can do.”

Neosho Head Coach Brandon Taute appreciates all Spiva brings to the Wildcats, and he says, “Cade has an incredible work ethic. He puts in time outside the weight room and practice to perfect his craft. His football IQ is as high as any kid I’ve coached. He has grown into a tremendous leader.

“Cade’s ability to read defenses and take what the defense gives him makes him tough to defend. He can make all the throws and beat you with his legs at the same time. The time he’s spent in the weight room getting stronger and faster has made him a dynamic player with the ball in his hands.”

While Spiva gets a lot of credit, for him it’s more about everyone else in this program. He says, “Whether it’s my teammates or coaches, there isn’t anyone out there I don’t love with all my heart. When I can play freely because my team believes in me, it makes things better for me.

“A family with a good work ethic is going to help make you successful wherever you play. I feel like we have exactly that in Neosho this year. As quarterback, I need to continue to lead and keep relationships strong with everyone here.”

“Cade is dedicated to getting better every single day,” says Coach Taute. “He spends time working on his own and leads his teammates to put in the extra work as well. His growth over the past four years has been phenomenal, and that’s a testament to the time and work he has put in to get better.

“Cade is a great student and person off the field as well. He is involved in multiple things and is a positive influence on our school as a whole.”

Neosho Hoops Star Kanten Smith’s Love for the Game Comes from Mom

By Don Lowe

Neosho Sports Star

Kanten Smith Fast Facts

It’s clear Neosho Wildcats basketball senior standout Kanten Smith’s passion for this sport is a result of his mother’s influence on him. “My mom, who played collegiately, sparked my love for the game at an early age.

“My siblings and I had a basketball in our hands right from the moment we were strong enough to hold a ball. Growing up, my mom coached me to play the game the right way.” Smith notes, “My brother and I went headto-head in the driveway growing up, which usually ended rough. But it helped shape me into who I am today.”

Neosho Senior Boys Basketball Head Coach Zane Culp says, “Kanten is the ultimate competitor. He’s also someone who cares about his coach, teammates and the athletics programs at school.

“Kanten has played several positions for us. But this year he will be our athletic big man. He has a knack for playing strong defense for us. And he brings a high level of intensity to the floor.”

Coach Culp likes Smith’s determination, dedication and drive. “Kanten has steadily improved his game from season to season. His best attribute is having that ‘never say die’ attitude every time he steps out on the floor.

“Kanten gets better every day because of his willingness to put in the hard work and never shying away from doing all the things that will help him improve.”

In describing his game, Smith says, “I play forward, and I like how I’m able to go inside and outside the perimeter on both ends of the floor. Size can be a big factor in basketball, but at the end of the day, if you play hard enough, you can make it less of a variable.

“I believe I’m an athletic player, but it’s not all been gifted to me. Back in middle school, I used to do calf raises every day in hopes of one day being able to throw one down (dunk

Age: 18

Height: 6’3”, 175 lbs.

Grade in School: 12th

Parents: Branden and Kim Smith

Siblings: Kael Smith and Kynden Smith

Hometown: Neosho, Missouri

Favorite Subject in School: Math

Favorite Food: Anything Papa and Grandma make.

Favorite Professional Basketball Star: Hall of Famer and Retired Boston Celtics star Larry Bird and current Phoenix Suns standout Kevin Durant

Favorite Basketball Movie: “Thunderstruck”

the basketball). That mindset, along with years of hard work, have helped me develop athletically.”

As far as his personal contributions in the Wildcats’ strategy at both ends of the court, Smith says, “I pride myself being strong on the defensive side, whether that’s on- or offball defending or rebounding. I’m looking to expand my game offensively as well this year, with stronger offensive rebounding, shot creating and playmaking.”

Coach Culp believes Smith shines bright on and off the court, and he says, “Kanten is the ultimate student-athlete. He’s one of the top students in his class, while competing at a high level in three sports, as well as showing compassion and empathy for his teammates and the Neosho community around him.

“I’ve been lucky over the last three years to get to be a part of his student-athlete journey, and I’m looking forward to this year.”

Table Décor

Thanksgiving is such a wonderful time of the year. It’s a great time to spend with family and friends and to add some pretty flowers, pumpkins and natural elements to decorate your table and home. And it can be inexpensive.

This table setting is all about fall. The entire setting starts with large and varied colors of pumpkins. Then smaller pumpkins and gourds and fall leaves are tucked in around the larger pumpkins. There are also beautiful white candles from pillars to slim candles in a beautiful candelabra at the end of the table. The table settings start with a wicker charger and then two different colors of plates with colorful blue napkins wrapped in natural fabric napkin rings and a scattering of pinecones and leaves. It is a very elaborate table setting for sure. So, if it is a bit much for you, decrease the number of large pumpkins but tuck in the smaller ones around the base and keep just a couple of pillar candles. I prefer battery-operated candles to real ones, especially if there are children at the table.

An evening meal needs candlelight! These wine glasses make a perfect inexpensive votive holder for the candles along with smaller votives surrounding the centerpiece running down the center of the table. The centerpieces are made up of dried flowers and pumpkins along with fall leaves. The plates are simple white plates with simple white napkins. The backdrop of twinkling lights in the background makes this a beautiful table setting.

When you decorate for your special meal do not forget to consider your place settings. The addition of colorful napkins with your silverware tucked in with a simple name tag, along with small gourds and sunflowers, make such a beautiful place setting. Add a special message on the tag to make your guests feel even more welcome.

There are so many options to pick from when decorating your Thanksgiving table. A white cake stand can be filled with leaves you bring in from outside and a large squash or gourd can be laid on top along with some pinecones and acorns. You can scatter more leaves and berries around the base for a less structured arrangement. And this can be used inside or outside and all during the season, not just Thanksgiving.

Nothing about dressing your table for Thanksgiving has to be expensive; just do it with love. Happy Thanksgiving.

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From cozy knits and chic handbags to fun statement hats, Wig’N Out Boutique has everything you need to elevate your holiday wardrobe. Whether you’re gifting or treating yourself, our trendy accessories and fall-inspired apparel will have you looking stylish for all your festive gatherings. Stop by and shop local this season—and remember “we’ve got you covered from head to toe!” Visit us downtown or shop online today!

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Hiring a Private Chef or Caterer for the Holidays: A Taste of Luxury and Convenience

By Amy Howe

The holiday season is a time for family, togetherness and, of course, indulgent meals. However, as wonderful as holiday gatherings are, they often come with a significant amount of stress, especially for the hosts. Between grocery shopping, prepping and cooking, it’s easy to miss out on quality time with loved ones. This is where hiring a private chef or having your meal catered can transform your holiday experience.

A Touch of Cass

Cassie Wilkins, owner of A Touch of Cass in Joplin, Missouri, provides a service that allows families to savor the celebration without worrying about the demands of meal preparation. Her customized approach ensures every detail of the dining experience is tailored to her client’s needs, making it the perfect solution for anyone looking to elevate their holiday gatherings.

Why Hire a Private Chef for the Holidays?

Hiring a private chef ensures everyone, including the host, can be fully present for the event. Cassie explains, “Often, the matriarch spends countless hours in the kitchen and very little time relaxing and engaging with her loved ones.” By leaving the culinary responsibilities in the hands of a professional, the entire family can enjoy the celebration together, without the stress and exhaustion of meal preparation.

Customized Culinary Experiences

One of the greatest benefits of working with a private chef is the ability to tailor the experience to fit the unique needs of each client. Cassie emphasizes the importance of personalization:

“Every experience is completely tailored to the client’s needs. We identify food allergies, preferences and discouraged ingredients. The style of service, whether individual plating or family-style, is discussed. We even consider location, seating, lighting, wine pairings and cleanup expectations. Every aspect is considered to create a truly immersive experience—the details matter.”

From an image board to visualize flavor and color profiles to budget discussions and service timelines, Cassie ensures every part of the event is thoughtfully curated to exceed her clients’ expectations.

Preparing Your Home for a Private Chef

Many may wonder what preparation is required before the chef arrives. According to Cassie, it’s all about trust. “The most important thing a client can do is allow the chef to do the work,” she says. Trusting a chef in your kitchen may be difficult for some, but it’s essential for a stress-free experience.

Additionally, she offers practical advice: “Consider cleaning out the fridge before your event. The chef will likely have several ingredients that will need to be stored. Also, inform your chef of any quirks in your kitchen and identify any heirloom dishes or items that should be off-limits.”

Crafting a Custom Holiday Menu

When creating a menu, Cassie takes inspiration from her clients’ traditions while adding her own culinary flair.

“After discussing flavor profiles, traditions and allergies, I prefer to build a custom menu. I consider every detail, from courses that naturally flow together to a variety of ingredients, flavors and textures. I also make sure the dishes are weatherappropriate and use seasonal ingredients.”

This level of customization ensures every meal reflects the preferences and traditions of the family, while also offering something fresh and exciting.

The Process: From Consultation to Event Day

Cassie outlines the entire process of working with a private chef, from the first consultation to the event itself:

1. Inquiry: Discussion of budget, date and location.

2. Initial Consultation: Number of guests, style of service and food preferences.

3. Menu Creation: Cassie builds a menu, complete with a visual representation of the event, from color profiles to the service style.

4. Kitchen Walkthrough: Before the event, Cassie conducts a kitchen walkthrough to identify any special tools or adjustments needed.

5. Event Day: She arrives early, prepares, serves and cleans.

6. Follow Up: Post-event, Cassie follows up with clients to ensure they are satisfied and welcomes feedback.

Handling the Unexpected

Even with the most meticulous planning, surprises can arise. When asked how she manages last-minute dietary requests or additional guests, Cassie responds with ease, “Being able to improvise, adapt, get creative and be light on your feet is crucial for success. Prepare for the unexpected as best as you can, and don’t be afraid to think outside the box!” This flexibility ensures every guest’s needs are met, even under changing circumstances.

Elevating Traditional Dishes

Cassie has a passion for taking traditional holiday dishes and adding her own creative touch. “Fresh ingredients executed well, with attention to detail and presentation,” she explains. She elevates the meal by adding fresh herbs, detailed knife work and a modern flair to classic recipes.

The Importance of Presentation

For Cassie, presentation is as important as taste. “You eat with your eyes first,” she says. “A delicious meal deserves the effort to look its best.” Cassie loves to play with colors and textures, creating plates that are both visually stimulating and delicious. It’s a part of the experience that makes each dish feel special and unforgettable.

A Passion for Bringing People Together

Cassie’s love for cooking stems from her childhood, where the kitchen was the heart of her home. “A home kitchen has always meant love for me,” she says. For her, cooking is about more than just feeding people—it’s about bringing them together. “You’re offering them contentment, nourishment and a moment to relax. I can’t think of a better way to bring people together than over a delicious plate of food and a bottle of wine.”

Hiring a private chef like Cassie Wilkins for your holiday event allows you to step back from the stress of preparation and fully engage in the moments that matter. By curating a menu that reflects your traditions and tastes while adding professional flair, a private chef transforms your gathering into an extraordinary experience, creating memories that last far beyond the holiday season.

The Blue Spoon, co-owned by Christina Oberle and Brenda Davis, is a full-service catering company located in the heart of downtown Pittsburg, Kansas. They specialize in catering events of all sizes from large groups to creating more intimate, personalized experiences for smaller groups. Whether you’re looking for a cozy, stress-free evening with family or a festive celebration with friends, Christina and Brenda are dedicated to crafting memorable events that leave you more time to enjoy the season. Here’s why The Blue Spoon should be your top choice for holiday catering this year.

Customized Catering for Intimate Gatherings

At The Blue Spoon, customization is key to delivering an exceptional experience. Each client’s needs are considered on an individual basis, ensuring the menu and overall service perfectly align with their vision. Whether clients have specific requests or are seeking guidance, The Blue Spoon takes the time to listen and ask the right questions to create a tailored experience.

“Listening to each customer’s needs is the most beneficial in offering the best experience for the client,” Christina shares. Whether a client knows exactly what they want or needs more direction, the team ensures their preferences are met with care and attention to detail.

Creative and Cozy Menu Ideas

For those looking for something a little different, The Blue Spoon offers unique and interactive options to make your holiday dinner unforgettable. One of their most popular offerings is a night of charcuterie or baking classes, where guests can get hands-on with food preparation. These activities not only bring people together but also create lasting memories.

“Any time you can have hands-on interaction with your food along with time spent with family, you win. Memories are made and not forgotten,” Brenda explains. These interactive dining experiences are great for cozy, intimate holiday gatherings where the focus is on family, friends and fun.

Additionally, The Blue Spoon’s holiday menu features comforting, homey dishes that are perfect for any size gatherings. Their made-from-scratch soups, paired with sandwiches or charcuterie boards, create a warm and festive atmosphere without overwhelming guests. According to Christina, “Our soups are always on our catering menu during the holiday season. It’s a simple, comforting option that makes a gathering feel relaxed and homey.”

Personalized Holiday Menus

The Blue Spoon is also known for offering pre-ordered holiday menus that make hosting even easier. These menus often include full meals, side dishes, charcuterie boards and an array of desserts.

These menus allow clients to focus on spending time with loved ones, as The Blue Spoon handles all the cooking. “Customers just let us know how many people they’re feeding, and we’ll have the entire meal ready for them to pick up and heat on their pickup date,” she adds.

Ensuring Freshness and Perfect Timing

Freshness and timing are critical for any catering event. The Blue Spoon prides itself on its ability to prepare meals that are fresh, delicious and perfectly timed for any event. Brenda explains, “It’s all about preparation, good timing and, of course, good equipment.” With their attention to detail, you can rest assured your holiday meal will be served at the perfect temperature and ready when your guests are.

To further enhance the experience, The Blue Spoon also offers the option to rent equipment that will keep food warm or cold throughout your event. This added touch ensures everything runs smoothly and so your guests enjoy a meal that feels fresh from the kitchen.

Balancing Tradition with Unique Offerings

The Blue Spoon

“The best thing we can do is listen to our customers and do all we can to fulfill their needs,” Christina explains. Whether it’s a classic dish that brings back family memories or a new creation that adds a modern twist to the holiday table, The Blue Spoon works hard to ensure every dish is a hit.

Festive Displays and Table Settings

Beyond the food, The Blue Spoon helps create a festive atmosphere with its décor and table settings. They have a collection of decor, much of which has been donated by clients who wanted to share their family heirlooms and estate pieces. This unique collection allows The Blue Spoon to create one-of-a-kind displays that make your event even more special.

“We’ve accumulated quite the collection now, and it allows us to create some of the most special displays in the area,” says Christina. Whether it’s a simple table setting or an elaborate display, The Blue Spoon ensures your holiday dinner feels festive and personal.

The Biggest Benefit: Time with Loved Ones

At the end of the day, the biggest benefit of hiring The Blue Spoon to cater your holiday meal is the opportunity to enjoy quality time with your family and friends. Hosting a holiday dinner or event can be overwhelming, but by outsourcing the meal preparation to professionals, you can focus on what really matters: spending time with your loved ones.

“Life gets busy for all of us, so when a person can order a full catered meal, they get more quality time with their families and more time to relax,” Brenda shares.

The holiday season should be about making memories, not stressing over the stove, and The Blue Spoon is here to help make that a reality.

Holiday gatherings often come with cherished family traditions, and The Blue Spoon takes pride in honoring these while also offering something new and exciting. By listening to their customers, they strike the perfect balance between traditional holiday dishes and more unique offerings.

The Blue Spoon is a full-service catering company and grabn-go storefront located in downtown Pittsburg, Kansas. For catering inquiries, contact The Blue Spoon at thebluespoonllc@ gmail.com or call 620.670.6707 to make your holiday dinner stress-free, delicious and memorable.

The Talented Mullins Family, Not Elfin Around!

By Joely Edwards

Joplin Little Theatre had a big bill to fill when casting for ELF the Musical, based on the holiday movie of the same name.

With a cast of 45 people, the theater had to find a lot of local talent. According to Director Lisa Olliges Green, there were so many characters to cast it called for talent that could play multiple roles.

Enter stage right or left, either way, the Mullins family, a multitalented group of five: Elianna (Eli), age five; MaKenna (Kenna), age 10; mother Shaina and father Josh; and his mother, Nicole. The Mullinses also have a younger child who has yet to make her debut in theater.

The Mullins family moved to Carl Junction, Missouri, from Seneca, Missouri, last year and quickly became involved in local activities, theater being one of them.

Kenna and her mother were the first to audition. Kenna is a singer and was amazing in her version of Lost Boy by Ruth B. as her audition piece. Shaina, the mom, is a dancer specializing in lyrical and hip-hop.

Dad was soon to follow with his strong gift for song. Josh has a background in singing and participated in myriad choruses, choirs and stage performances since his school days.

Then, Eli, not to be bested by her elder sister, also wanted to dip her toes into theater arts.

Josh describes their auditions as a “domino effect,” and a lucky one it was for Joplin Little Theatre!

Originally, Josh didn’t think he would be able to participate due to an upcoming work schedule change, so he didn’t audition with his wife and daughter. When that shift change was pushed back, he had the opening needed to audition and participate.

Lisa, who directs the cast, says, “Josh plays multiple roles, and we always need more men on stage. Josh plays an office worker, a Santa in Macy’s, and is in a New York City scene. Being able to do mixed roles requires a versatile actor.”

Shaina’s first experience in theater arts was in high school, where she did hair and makeup for cast members, along with some stage ensemble work. Josh did a couple of shows previously at Joplin Little Theatre, including Shrek about five years ago, which his oldest

Santa is played by Jim Lile and Buddy is played by Jeff Phillips.

daughter, Kenna, remembers watching him perform in. Both of the Mullins girls started their acting journey this year.

Dad claims to be the best singer in the family but says “the girls are pretty good,” and the youngest Mullins, Eli, proudly proclaims she is the best actor.

Josh says the decision to be involved in local community theater “is a chance to bond over common activities, get away from video games, test the kids’ skills and see what they enjoy. If you don’t try it, you won’t know. It’s also great to do something everyone in the family enjoys.”

With Eli only being 5, it stands to reason she would get bored or restless when she’s not on stage, but according to her parents, “Eli has other kids and people to hang out with when not on stage and has made a new friend. They are already looking toward play dates with each other.”

When it comes to their favorite part of being in the musical, Eli says she loves doing blocking and learning where to go on stage. She particularly enjoys looking at the city parks when strolling through the scenery. Kenna, who is in the choir, says she would have enjoyed being an elf, but she does like the singing parts.

Josh truly loves to watch his wife sing. “She has a lot of solos and singing isn’t her first talent, so I enjoy seeing her bud out in her skills. I love that.”

Shaina says, “I enjoy singing with the choir and seeing all the parts come together, and when they get it right, it sounds amazing. But I am looking forward to choreography.”

When asked about their least favorite part of being involved in theater, Josh says, “It is a lot of practice. It’s hard to drag ourselves there, but once we get there we really enjoy it.”

It’s easy to tell they fully embrace and enjoy the experience. Each of them in their own way is stretching their wings, and learning new things about themselves and each other.

ELF Director Lisa says theater is a family affair for other cast members as well, such as the Dillahay family, the Hensley family, and even Mr. And Mrs. Claus are married in real life.

The Mullins family likes to stay busy. Acting is not their only gig. They are all into sports activities. The girls are gearing up to start wrestling, which is in their father’s background. Kenna loves volleyball and can’t wait for the next season to begin. If there is an activity, the Mullinses will give it a go. They want their kids to have every experience possible.

As for participating in theater in the future, the family agrees they would probably do more, and if not together, separately. It would give the girls a chance to break out and work on their footwork, musical abilities and other important skills.

Their current director agrees. “Theater is a good way for kids to learn how to engage with all ages of people. It helps develop their memorization skills, it helps them take healthy risks, find comfort in front of a crowd, public speaking and so many other life skills.”

With the pressures of family obligations, demanding work lives and multiple activities, the Mullins family seems to have a strategic plan. They make things run as smoothly as possible. Even though Shaina and Josh work on opposite sides of town and have different shifts, they pull together and make it all happen.

Are the Mullins a super-family? Perhaps! One thing is certain: We are sure to see more of them in the future.

ELF the Musical Joplin Little Theatre

3009 W. 1st St. Joplin, Missouri

Performance dates and times: Wednesday, Nov. 20, 7:30 p.m. Thursday, Nov. 21, 7:30 p.m. Friday, Nov. 22, 7:30 p.m. Saturday, Nov. 23, 7:30 p.m. Sunday, Nov. 24, 2:30 p.m.

Purchase tickets at https:// www.showclix.com/event/ elf-the-musical-2024-25 or by calling 417.623.3638 MondayThursday 9 a.m.-2 p.m.

ELF the Musical is directed and choreographed by Lisa Olliges Green with additional choreography provided by Allyson Briley. This production is dedicated to the memory of Heather Haar-Briley.

November 9 of the Four States

Kicks Off Gift of Light, Gift of Love Campaign

By Kristi Spencer

Since 1996, the Ronald McDonald House Charities (RMHC) of the Four States has supported families during some of their most difficult times. RMHC provides more than just a place to stay. It is a place of comfort, care and togetherness. Through its two key programs, the Ronald McDonald House and the Ronald McDonald Family Room at Mercy Hospital in Joplin, families can stay close to their hospitalized children, giving them the strength to focus on what matters most.

The house can accommodate nine families and has been at capacity for several months. In 2023, RMHC served 137 families at the Ronald McDonald House (RMH) and 55 families at the Family Room inside Mercy Hospital. Families who stay at the house receive meals and transportation assistance, a private guest suite with an attached bath and access to laundry to help them through an incredibly challenging time. The house provides temporary lodging for families of seriously ill children, ages 0 to 21, as well as expecting mothers facing medical challenges. The Family Room is an oasis for families. Executive Director Lori Jones says, “Families can pop in to do a load of laundry, take a nap, get a snack or just have quiet time in a beautiful setting.”

This November, RMHC is kicking off its annual Gift of Light, Gift of Love fundraising campaign, an event that has become a cherished holiday tradition for many in the

Four States. The campaign raises a third of the charity’s yearly budget, which is crucial to keeping the House and Family Room operating year-round. Jones says, “Our House has the same needs as any home, only times nine. With the rising costs of food and supplies, we rely on this campaign to stay stocked and keep the facility up to date.”

The highlight of the campaign is the Tree Lighting Ceremony event Nov. 9, when the community is invited to come together for an evening of celebration, warmth and giving. From 4 p.m. to 7 p.m., RMHC will host an open house, and at 5:30 p.m., the spectacular 22-foot Christmas tree will be lit, symbolizing the hope and care RMHC provides. There will be photos with Santa, story time with Mrs. Claus, live entertainment from local performers and holiday crafts for kids. Adults can enjoy a signature holiday drink served in a commemorative glass, alongside plenty of hot cocoa and cookies.

“We decorate the House and light up our property to create a holiday warmth we hope brings the community together and shows the magic of our House,” Jones says. “When families drive by, I hope they feel it as our gift back to the community.”

RMHC invites you to enjoy the Gift of Light this holiday season by driving by 34th and Jackson in Joplin, Missouri, to see the stunning 22-foot Christmas tree and the beautifully lit house and grounds.

Few Days Off for 75-Year-Old

Neosho

Runner Charles Nodler

By Don Lowe

It was about five decades ago when a 30-something Charles Nodler decided to give running a try, and now this 75-year-old resident of Neosho, Missouri, simply keeps on going on.

Nodler likely had no idea he’d become such a passionate runner all those years ago, and he says, “I started in the late 1970s. A friend of mine (Jim Snyder) and I ran together several times. Now, I run about six days a week.”

Over the years, Nodler’s focus was on standard 5K runs. “I used to run about four of them every year, one for each season. Now, I run just a couple each year.”

Amongst Nodler’s favorite events are a foursome around the Southwest Missouri area that include the Neosho Dogwood 5K Run, Old Mining Town Days (Granby, Missouri) 5K Run, Missouri Southern State University Run with the Pride (Joplin, Missouri) 5K Run, and Winterfest (Anderson, Missouri) 5K Run.

“The four seasonal runs are the ones that I’ve done the most,” Nodler notes. “And all of them are fairly close to home for me.”

While Nodler doesn’t necessarily have one race that stands head and shoulders above all the others, the Dogwood 5K Run, especially before the route changed, was special for him,

and he says, “I knew that course so well. I knew the last third of it was all downhill, so you could just let gravity do the work for you.

“I always had pretty good times because I’d run it so much. It’s just such an advantage for you when you know the course.”

Although winning isn’t everything for Nodler, he says, “My best time in one of these 3.1-mile runs was probably about 21 minutes.”

Of course, it’s important to be physically fit to run and Nodler knows a lot goes into preparation as well, and he says, “You need to be in good shape. You need to do a lot of distance stuff and work on your speed. A lot of how you prepare depends on the course as well. And the weather is also a factor. Ideally, having the temperature at 40-50 degrees is the best.”

Nodler might not be in it to win it but he remains committed to running. “How far I run every day varies. I run for at least 20 minutes. My standard time is 30 minutes, or as many as 40 minutes if I feel real good.”

It’s not always easy to stay the course, but Nodler says, “I don’t believe you should quit just because something gets hard or difficult.”

Despite demands, Nodler knows the rewards make it all worthwhile. “It’s good for your health. It’s a better lifestyle. Many of the races are also for such good causes. I sleep better at night after running. Better health makes for a better life.”

Age: 75 years old

High School Alma Mater, Year

Graduated: Neosho High School, 1967

Degrees: Bachelor of Arts in History from Missouri Southern State University/Master of Arts from University of Missouri and University of Texas at Arlington

Professional Career: Served as an archivist at Missouri Southern State University for about 38 years.

Charles Nodler Fast Facts

Juices Juices

What are they good for?

By Bradley Morris

Most juices are bright and colorful, and because they typically come from fruits, it’s easy to see them as a health food packed with vitamins and antioxidants. Like most health topics when it comes to food, it’s not that simple, and fruit juices can be a nice snack in a healthy diet or something that is hurting your health depending on how much you choose to drink.

Whether juice is right for you or not depends heavily on your personal health; always consult your doctor or dietician before making dietary changes. So, is juice healthy? The short answer is not really and the long answer is in small amounts. Juice is calorically dense and high in sugar. A big argument for juice is that it tends to be nutritious, having a variety of vitamins and minerals depending on the juice, and because a variety of juice is available and easy to refrigerate, it can be a great way to get nutrients from a variety of fruit without having to prepare and potentially waste portions of those fruits.

One thing to keep in mind about the calorically dense part of that last paragraph: juices won’t fill you up like fruit will. When drinking juice, if you aren’t careful, you’ll blow your caloric budget drinking too much juice. Generally, juice is the most calorically dense part of a fruit, so a cup full of fruit sections is not the same as a cup full of juice. In whole fruits, you have a lot of fibrous parts with the juice to lower the amount of calories you’re eating, and the fiber you’re eating in whole food is also filling your stomach better and helping you feel full.

So, what are some arguments for juice? It’s healthier than a lot of other sugary drinks such as soda, so if you’re trying to ween yourself off of those, juice can be a great alternative; however, keep in mind you’re trading one sugary drink for another that happens to be healthier because it’s more nutritiously dense. The occasional glass of juice probably isn’t a problem for most people, but drinking it regularly can lead to weight gain and can increase your risks of various diseases such as heart disease and diabetes.

What about vegetable juice? Typically, it’s much healthier, but again you’ll lose a lot of the fiber from vegetables. Another thing to think about – along with fruit juice – is if you aren’t making your own juice, you need to be reading labels for the juice you buy. Some juice has so much sugar and salt added to it you might think you’re looking at the nutrition label of a candy bar.

Juice is a great occasional snack. As long as you aren’t overindulging and you’ve been cleared to drink a certain kind of juice, juice is a great way to get a little more flavor in your meals and help you feel satisfied with what you’re eating.

Joplin, MO

Every day: Alcoholics Anonymous Meetings. Call 888.740.4568.

Every Monday: Tips for Living a Healthy Life, 10 a.m.-noon, South YMCA, 3404 W. McIntosh Circle. Free; registration required. Call 417.625.2492.

Every Day: 12-Step Recovery Meetings, Alano Club, 1800 E. 30th. Call 417.623.9645.

Nov. 27: Grief Support Group meets every fourth Wednesday of each month, 6-7:30 p.m., Hospice Compassus, 2216 E. 32nd St., Ste. 201. Call 417.623.8272.

Freeman Health System

Joplin, MO

All events are free and open to the public, unless noted; support group meetings are cancelled on days Joplin R-VIII Schools close due to inclement weather.

Nov. 5: Espresso Yourself Breast Cancer Support Group, 5-6 p.m., Joplin Avenue Coffee Company, 506 S. Joplin Ave. Enjoy a coffee courtesy of Freeman Cornell-Beshore Cancer Institute. Our monthly breast cancer support group enables members to share, gain helpful information and useful tips, as well as form new friendships. Enjoy listening to a special guest from time to time. RSVP to Marcella Sowell at 417.347.2662.

Nov. 6: Freeman Cancer Support Group, 2-3 p.m., Freeman Cornell-Beshore Cancer Institute, 3415 McIntosh Circle. Call Kelley Wheeler at 417.347.4000 for more information.

Nov. 19: Freeman Bariatric Weight-loss Support Group, 5:30-6:30 p.m., Freeman Business Center Conference Rooms, 3220 McClelland Blvd (back entrance). Designed to help those who have had bariatric surgery. For more information, call Janice Drake at 417.347.1266.

Nov. 19: Ozark Center Daytime Autism Support Group, 12:30-1:30 p.m., Bill & Virginia Leffen Center for Autism, 2808 S. Picher Ave. Open to people with autism, parents and caregivers. Call 417.347.7850 for more information.

National Adult Literacy Action - For information on NALA, call 417.782.2646, email Jessica@joplinnala.org or visit www.joplinnala.org. Located at 123 S. Main St. in Joplin. Hours: Monday, Tuesday and Wednesday: 8:30 a.m.5 p.m., and Thursday and Friday: 8:30 a.m.-noon.

Nevada, MO

(NOTE: No class scheduled for November): Birth and Beyond Class, 8:30 a.m.-12:30 p.m. Meets at the NRMC Mezzanine Conference Room. This class covers childbirth, breastfeeding and infant care for women in their last trimester. Includes a tour of the NRMC Maternity Care Center (if available). $15 registration fee. Fee may be waived if cost is prohibitive. Register by calling 417.448.3801.

Nov. 26: Rich Hill Family Medical Clinic Screenings, 11 a.m.noon., Kern Senior Center. Free health screenings are offered every fourth Tuesday of the month to residents of Rich Hill.

Integris Baptist Regional Health Center, Grove, OK

INTEGRIS Baptist Regional Health Center, Miami, OK - For more information, visit www.integrisok.com/baptistregional-health-center-Miami-ok.

Every Tuesday: Free blood pressure and glucose screenings provided by INTEGRIS Regency Home Care and Hospice. First Tuesday: Commerce Nutrition Center, 10:30-11:30 a.m. Second Tuesday: Nine Tribes Tower, 10-11 a.m. Third Tuesday: Miami Senior Center, 10-11 a.m. Fourth Tuesday: INTEGRIS Baptist Village, 9-10 a.m.

Nov. 5: Alzheimer’s Support Group meets first Tuesday monthly, 11 a.m., Generations fourth floor visiting room. Call 918.542.3391.

Nov. 12 & 26: Depression Support Group meets the second and fourth Tuesday of each month, 2 p.m., Northeastern Tribal Health System Conference Room, 2301 Eight Tribes Trail. Call 918.675.2093.

Crisis Text Line Text 741741

Free 24/7 support for those in crisis to create a plan to stay safe and healthy.

National Suicide Prevention Lifeline 988 has been designated as the new three-digit dialing code.

www.suicidepreventionlifeline.org

Volunteering From the Heart

By Kevin McClintock, Freeman Health System

Avastmajority of retirees can’t wait to slow their lives down and kick things back a bit, enjoying life at both a leisurely and pleasurable pace.

Not everyone feels that way, however.

Even before she retired from a 30-plus teaching career at Crowder College in Neosho, Missouri, Sally Nichols was volunteering what precious little time she had to Freeman Health System. And since her retirement two years ago, her involvement with the Joplin-based health system has only expanded.

“I think it’s important for you give so much of yourself to volunteering,” she said.

Time and time again she referred to her desire to help others through volunteering as a “need.”

“I want to help people without any sort of compensation,” Nichols said. “I want to help them without any expectations at all. I want to truly give, and I want to do it unconditionally.”

Nichols is a familiar, friendly face inside the Gift Galleries at Freeman Hospital West and Freeman Neosho Hospital. At both locations, Nichols is at her best when it comes to improving the experiences of Freeman patients by offering them her special brand of support, comfort and companionship.

“It’s so rewarding when you’re allowed to share time with patients and you emotionally help them through some of the worst days they are having,” Nichols said, who has volunteered at Freeman for nine years.

Maybe because they are complete strangers, or due to their willingness to show kindness and patience, more times than not a distraught patient will unburden themselves completely to Nichols and the other Freeman volunteers.

“Sometimes what they tell us and what they’re going through makes me want to cry, because they are experiencing at that moment the worst day of their lives, but you can’t show (emotions) so you take it home with you,” she said.

Studies have found volunteering leads to improved physical and mental health because it provides a sense of purpose and accomplishment. For example, volunteers who are 60 or older show lower mortality rates, greater functional abilities and lower rates of depression later in life.

“The benefits you get back from volunteering – and a lot of people don’t realize this – is that it’s good for your entire well-being, for your mental health and especially for your community; it lets your community know that you care,” Nichols said.

“How do you describe it when you care about others, and they appreciate you for the help you’ve given them?” she continued. “People are so hungry for kindness. I love showing kindness and having people receive it. We need more kindness in the world.”

Freeman volunteers can be ages 16 through 60-plus, male or female, retired or employed, from all work backgrounds and any educational field. Whether it’s Freeman West, Freeman East or Freeman Neosho, volunteers can work a variety of locations – from the Gift Galleries to floorwalkers; from information desks to working as infant cuddlers inside Freeman’s neonatal intensive care unit. In all, there are more than a dozen locations available for volunteers at Freeman Health System. Because volunteers meet so many different people on a weekly basis, it can help establish new and lasting friendships.

“That’s especially important for us to have new avenues to make friends and to keep those relationships going,” Nichols said.

Also, volunteers can become Freeman Auxiliary members. The Auxiliary raises money to provide funds for hospital equipment, services, scholarships and community needs.

Volunteering certainly doesn’t have to begin at age 65.

You don’t have to wait until you’re retired, because you have

the

endurance and strength to do it when you’re younger. When you retire, you still have the heart but you may not have the endurance.

“But I’ve always had the heart,” Nichols said.

By Larry Whiteley

An award-winning magazine and newspaper writer, radio host and blogger for more than 40 years.

MDON’T LET THE old MAN IN DON’T LET THE old MAN IN

y wife and I watched “Toby Keith: American Icon” on TV recently. It was a tribute to the country music star who died of stomach cancer this past February. Toby was a country boy from Oklahoma who made it big, but he didn’t act like it. He was always just ole’ Toby.

The many country music stars who were there performed their favorite Toby Keith songs. Some shared stories about him. Many tears flowed that night. I am not ashamed to say I wiped a few away.

I knew most of the songs they sang, but in the second half of the show, Jelly Roll sang a song I was not familiar with called, “My List.” He said, “Toby inspired me to be a better American, a better human, a better songwriter and, with songs like this, he inspired me to be a better father.”

The song, he said, was Toby’s “list” of things he wanted to get done. As he sang it, he reflected on which things were important on his list and which were not.

His book, “Seasons: Stories of Family, God and the Great Outdoors,” is available on Amazon and Amazon Kindle.

Under an old brass paperweight

Is my list of things to do today

Go to the bank and the hardware store

Put a new lock on the cellar door

I cross ‘em off as I get ‘em done

But when the sun is settled

There’s still more than a few things left

I haven’t got to yet

Go for a walk, say a little prayer

Take a deep breath of mountain air

Put on my glove and play some catch

It’s time that I make time for that

Wade the shore and cast a line

Look up an old lost friend of mine

Sit on the porch and give my girl a kiss

Start livin’, that’s the next thing on my list

It wouldn’t change the course of fate

The cutting the grass just had to wait

Because I’ve got more important things

Like pushin’ my kid on the backyard swing

I won’t break my back for a million bucks

I can’t take it to my grave

So why put it off for tomorrow

What I could get done today

Raise a little hell, laugh ‘til it hurts

Put an extra five in the plate at church

Call up my folks to chat

It’s time that I make time for that

Stay up late, and oversleep

Show her what she means to me

Catch up on all the things I’ve always missed

Just start living, that’s the next thing on my list

When Toby was growing up in Oklahoma, he loved to be outdoors hunting and fishing. Fishing was his favorite. The outdoors was a stress reliever for Toby. It can be for all of us. It would have been a big part of his life after he retired from entertaining. He loved to be out in the nature God created for all of us.

Even though most of his songs were about drinking, partying and love for his country, Toby put faith and family first. Then he put his love for his country and the men and women who serve or have served next.

Throughout his career, on his personal “list,” he put a priority on performing for our troops. He played more than 280 USO shows across 18 countries. He visited 132 military bases and locations to entertain more than 250,000 service men and women. He made more visits to active combat zones than the past four presidents of the United States combined.

Toby’s daughter, Krystal Keith, also has her own career in country music. She said, “My daddy loved his family and friends. He also loved hunting, fishing and the outdoors. You might not have known this by some of the songs that made him famous, but he also had a strong faith and relationship with Jesus. He got to a point in his battle with cancer that he told us, ‘Whatever happens, I know where I am going and I am at peace with that.’”

Krystal sang the last song that night at her dad’s special tribute. It is my personal favorite of all of Toby’s songs – “Don’t Let the Old Man In.” What made it my favorite was that I, too, am getting old and doing my best to not let the old man in.

This is the true story about how he came to write the song. Toby was playing in a charity golf tournament in 2017. He was paired with legendary actor and Oscar-winning director Clint Eastwood. They played their way through the course chatting about projects both were working on.

Clint said he was about to start directing and starring in a new movie called “The Mule.” Toby was amazed and asked Clint how, at almost 90 years old, he could remain as active and involved as he was. Clint thought for a moment, looked Toby right in the eye and responded in that famous voice of his, “I don’t let the old man in.” Then he grinned.

That same day, Toby began writing a song inspired by his conversation with Clint. He was also inspired by something his grandmother told him about a friend of hers who did not know her exact age because she never had a birth certificate.

When Toby finished the song and recorded it, he sent it to Clint. When Clint heard it, he called Toby to tell him he loved it and asked if he could use it in his new movie about an old man. Of course, Toby said yes.

Toby Keith’s last television performance was last year at the People’s Choice Awards where he was presented the Country Icon award. Not many knew it then, but Toby was in great pain. Cancer was ravaging his body as he courageously walked on stage.

His wife of four decades and his kids were in the front row wiping tears. His wife knew her husband was saying goodbye to his fans. Toby sang this song for the last time that night. Not only to his fans but to all of us who are growing old. These are the words to his song:

Don’t let the old man in I want to leave this alone I can’t leave it up to him

He’s knocking on my door

And I knew all of my life That someday it would end

Get up and go outside

Don’t let the old man in Many moons I have lived

My body’s weathered and worn

Ask yourself how old would you be

If you didn’t know the day you were born

Try to love on your wife

And stay close to your friends

Toast each sundown with wine

Don’t let the old man in Many moons I have lived

My body’s weathered and worn

Ask yourself how old would you be

If you didn’t know the day you were born

When he rides up on his horse

And you feel that cold bitter wind

Look out your window and smile

Don’t let the old man in

“Don’t Let the Old Man In” is a song about how the time comes for all of us when we grow old. Age is just a number. We cannot let growing old get to us. We should not worry that we could die at any time. We should live life to the fullest while we are here.

SOMETHING TO THINK ABOUT

“Don’t apologize for being patriotic. Support the troops.” - Toby Keith

I will be celebrating my 78th birthday in a few months. I don’t know how many more years I have before the Good Lord calls me home. Until then, I will continue to enjoy the outdoors any way I can and write about it to encourage others to get outdoors, too. Doing that and other things will keep your mind and body active.

We should all work at always having a positive attitude, whether we are young or old. Doing that, and having a strong faith in God, is part of how to not let the old man or old woman in.

Like many of you, I have not always been who I am today. I messed up a lot, but God did not give up on me. I am still His work in progress. Like Toby, I know Jesus. I plan on being bold and telling as many people about Him as I can through words and actions before it is my time to go. I want others to have the peace I have of knowing where they are going when it is their time to go. How about you?

I encourage you to live each day like you were dying until tomorrow never comes. While you are doing that, don’t let the old man in.

Some people might think the craft of telling captivating stories is from a bygone era. It’s true that educators, corporate leadership and social media platforms are examining society’s declining attention spans. Screen time from gaming, laptops and phones are often conditioning many people to expect quick return and entertainment.

Nature is a natural remedy and provides entertainment at its own pace, and it’s certainly engaging, but one must first be exposed to the outdoors. Fewer people nowadays have relatives or close friends with rural land, and they may feel they don’t have access to enjoying the outdoors. Sadly, if they don’t already have some experiences in nature either currently or growing up, they may feel they don’t know how to prepare or act in the wild. The worst situation would be if someone was anxious or frightened of the outdoors.

So, to help ease any nervousness or hurdles to sharing the outdoors, I’ll offer an idea for willing sportsmen, a rural grandparent, wildlife photographers and other naturalists. The proposal is to offer some time for someone at a wildlife blind, secure tree stand or just a “long sit” in the woods. And of all situations, November is known for the movement and rut behavior of deer. So, taking some time before the state’s firearms season would be very rewarding.

Avid outdoorsy people know that if you just stop in your tracks during a brisk hike and wait a couple of moments quietly, the woods start to react with nature sounds and movement from the forest floor to the canopy. I talk to hundreds of deer hunters and turkey hunters each year

and a common thread of their conversation is they love to sit in the woods. The biggest smiles and pride-filled conversations come from the grandparent or mentor who shares the deer woods with someone. It’s autumn and acorns are at our feet in the forest. Besides the blue jays being brash, the scurrying chipmunks and squirrels on the forest floor and the occasional flock of speckle-bellied geese flying over, deer are on the move. So, everyone interested, give a “long sit in the woods” a try. Remember, during deer season, wear blaze orange for safety!

Long after deer hunting season, you may just like wildlife watching so much it becomes a hobby with a camera or binoculars. Some people get lucky enough to watch deer interact for full mornings, others may have a barred owl land close to them or see some elusive animals like a gray fox. Practically everyone gets scolded by a Carolina chickadee or tufted titmouse; those birds find us even when we are sitting as still as possible. These scenarios have people expanding their devoted attention, cherishing the environment and holding onto tradition and our ancestral ties to the beautiful outdoors. Those observations and tapping into our naturalist skills will make the most engaging stories; you may be asked to repeat the time you spent in the deer stand.

A naturalist certainly believes any time spent outside is a good time. November is often coined as the best time to enjoy the deer woods, and it’s spectacular to share! I look forward to seeing you this fall in the beautiful oak/hickory woods of the Ozarks. – Jeff

Jeff Cantrell is a MO Stream Team Biologist in the Relevancy Branch of the Missouri Deptartment of Conservation. He specializes in volunteer engagement for citizen science projects like MO Stream Team (mostreamteam.org), MO Master Naturalists and more. He may be reached at jeff.cantrell@mdc.mo.gov. Please watch for deer behavior notes on Master Naturalist Facebook and chertglades.org.

Field notes by J. Cantrell, photos courtesy of the MO Dept. of Conservation

By Bridget Bauer

While the holiday season can be joyful but also stressful, the trifecta of Thanksgiving, Christmas and New Year’s can be a time of trauma and anxiety for those in recovery.

With family gatherings, office parties and other holiday events, recovering addicts can find themselves in situations where they can slip out of sobriety. To help navigate the holidays, those in recovery need to establish their truth and figure out what will work and won’t work when it comes to social events.

Teddy Steen, executive director of ASCENT Recovery Residences, figured out a long time ago how to navigate the holiday gatherings for her sobriety. In the early years of her recovery from drugs and alcohol, she lived with a boyfriend who drank and did drugs and would go to parties with him and act like she was having a good time. Then she realized she wasn’t really enjoying herself and stopped attending.

“I was so ingrained in my recovery and enjoyed the fact I was different and didn’t have to do anything,” Steen said. “I knew I could always leave. One time, though, I was so mad and not having a good time that I carried a drink outside but did not drink. That was the closest I came to breaking my sobriety. I stay out of situations and don’t go to places where I am around drugs.”

All the time, Steen was asked if she needed anything. Her response was she was fine because she is spiritually fit. Now, Steen doesn’t mind being around alcohol. But the presence of drugs makes her sick to her stomach.

“When you are spiritually fit, you can go anywhere you want to go,” she said. “Don’t just go vicariously, though. There needs to be a reason.”

Into Action Recovery Centers has a blog post, https://www. intoactionrecovery.com/blog/ten-tips-to-stay-sober-during-theholidays/, on 10 tips to stay sober during the holidays.

Get honest – Take a good look at whether the event or gathering is healthy to attend. Recovery is the main priority.

Stay safe – Your safety in all aspects is the most important thing.

Seek extra support when experiencing extra stress – Seek out 12step programs, peer supports and other recovery groups if needed.

Create manageable holiday goals – Don’t let the lack of funds keep your family from enjoying special time together at the holidays. Also, don’t feel pressure to go overboard on gifts.

Get financial help if needed – Don’t let pride get in the way of seeking help.

Be kind to yourself – Perfect recovery is non-existent, so acknowledge your victories and don’t beat yourself up for a slip-up.

Stay connected to other recovery folks – From the blog: Look to the people you trust who will stand by your recovery program. If you know the holiday is going to be difficult, attend a meeting the night before. Schedule a call with your sponsor the morning of the holiday. Take a breather from the party and make an outreach call during the event. Schedule coffee with a recovery friend or make a counseling appointment the day after the holiday.

Don’t be too hard on yourself – If you must go to an event, set a time limit or take a friend and other props to help you get through sober.

Have an exit strategy – Is two or three hours enough? Whatever time limit is set, don’t feel bad leaving early.

Take responsibility – Put yourself first and relieve stressors to have a fun holiday.