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FAQs about Domestic Violence What is domestic violence? A pattern of physical, emotional, or sexual abuse focused on exerting power and control over the victim. Abuse can take many forms such as: Physical violence Sexual coercion/force Controlling and possessive behaviors
Manipulation & threats Financial control Humiliation & degradation
What makes something a domestic relationship? A domestic relationship includes partners who are, or previously were: In a romantic or intimate relationship Married
Living in the same household Sharing a child together as parents/legal guardians
Are women the only victims of domestic violence? No. While women are statistically the primary victims, domestic violence can be experienced by any individual regardless of age, gender identity, sexual orientation, race, ethnicity, socioeconomic status, or ability level. Additionally, individuals within the LGBTQIA+ community experience higher rates of domestic violence than their heterosexual counterparts, and children of domestic violence victims are often considered secondary victims.
What causes domestic violence, and can abusers change? Domestic violence begins as a way to exert power and control over the victim and the relationship. These unhealthy behaviors may start off mild in the beginning and worsen over time, or may become apparent immediately. Often abusers will use different forms of abuse simultaneously to manipulate the victim into staying in the relationship. It is possible for abusers to change over time, but very unlikely. Once they have established control it is hard for them to let go. Victims of domestic violence should prioritize their own safety, and the safety of their children, over waiting for their partner to let go of abusive behaviors.
How can I seek help after experiencing
Domestic Violence?
No one knows your relationship or situation better than you do, and you alone have the power to decide which choice is best for you.
Establish a Safety Plan A safety plan helps you stay safe within an abusive relationship, while you are planning to leave the relationship, and after you have left it. These plans can be tailored to fit your personal lifestyle needs (children, family support, housing, etc.). An experienced advocate can work with you to create your personalized safety plan.
Call a 24-Hour Hotline If you feel ready to take a step towards healing, call a domestic violence hotline number. A representative will be able to connect you with resources to fit your specific situation. National Domestic Abuse Hotline (1-800-799-7233)
Shelterhouse's Helpline (877-216-6383)
Michigan Domestic Violence Hotline (1-866-VOICEDV)
Enter Emergency Shelter If your abusive relationship has escalated to the point that you no longer feel safe staying with your partner, and do not have close friends or family to stay with, seek refuge. An agency like Shelterhouse will allow you, your children, and/or your pets to seek temporary shelter if you are in immediate danger.
Seek Long-term Healing Healing from the impacts of domestic violence can be tough, but it's worth it. No matter how long ago your abuse happened, your trauma is valid and you deserve to heal. Taking part in one-on-one therapy sessions or support groups can help you overcome the impacts of violence and help you live your most fulfilling life.
Asking for help can be your greatest strength.