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Using Our Vote for a Better Future By Glendon “Anna Conda” Hyde The election is over and we have piles of mail as a reminder of the cost. After all, we did just witness insane spending by people who “care” deeply about us. Every year my inner environmentalist goes out of her mind. No wonder we beat F into the ground and blame it for the deaths of baby seals. I love radical environmental ideas, but with the American public still sucking up plastics and gas, we are just a tad selfish to hear the message. Prop 35, which criminalizes associates of sex workers more than actually doing anything to protect legitimate workers and catch bad guys, was passed into legislation. This just shows that propositions are often a really bad way to have these conversations. People do not take the time to educate themselves and rhetoric can be very deceiving. As President of the Harvey Milk LGBT Democratic Club, a chartered Democratic organization, I am exposed to all the players and playing of politics on a local level. Endorsements are a place where true colors are shown and players truly exert inf luence and manipulation. For the past two years, I have seen endorsement processes willfully manipulated by straight men to control an outcome in their favor. Even with the implementation of a new system of voting called score voting, which ranks each candidate and prevents stacking the club with voters to get the endorsement, we still had behind the scenes Tom foolery. Most candidates are people with integrity and we are lucky that many of them won. Nationally I knew what would happen all along. I mean come on. I was so certain when I went to bed early Romney was ahead and I was still sure he would not win. I am amazed that all the states did not go for Obama, but that fear slinging does have an effect. It is great to have new lesbian Congresswoman Tammy Baldwin. First ever. We re-elected local heroes Ammiano, Leno, Spier and Kaplan, as well as electing Phil Ting to Assembly. My focus this year as President of the Milk Club and as a not-so-secret socialist (I voted Green for President), was local elections, and there was plenty to concentrate on. Three men whom I support locally (David Chiu, David Campos and John Avalos) were basically no brainer races and/or running unopposed. I did do some Avalos and Campos parties this year, but it was hardly the focus in San Francisco politics. Congratulations to David Campos who won by the most votes of anyone running for Supervisor. (continued on page 18)


Obama: “What Matters Above All Is the Love”

Editor’s Note: Before his historic election win earlier this month, President Barack Obama replied to a letter sent by 10-year-old Sophia Bailey Klugh. As you can read below, the young girl was bullied for having two dads. The reply, versions of which have gone to other children of gay parents, sheds light on the Obama administration’s stance concerning at least some LGBT issues. On pages 10 and 11, the Bay Times celebrates the administration’s impressive record for our community, but looks to the future on what needs to be done next.


A Lavender Sweep for the Nation By Reese Aaron Isbell Twenty years ago, the Alice B. Toklas LGBT Democratic Club led our community into historic “Lavender Sweeps,” as they were then named, in 1990 and 1994. Twenty years later, in 2012, we have had our first “National Lavender Sweep.” During the times of Harvey Milk in the 70’s and the AIDS crisis in the 80’s, the LGBT community of San Francisco began coming together like never before in history. We started coming out, speaking out, fighting against bigotry, and saving lives. From this organizing, our own LGBT power began to take hold on a citywide basis in San Francisco. In the 1990 & 1994 citywide election, these “Lavender Sweeps” elected numerous openly-LGBT candidates to citywide off ice on the Board of Supervisors, School Board, College Board and judgeships. These victories inspired and initiated the next two decades of growing strength of our own voting power and continued to bring about our own community’s activists becoming elected leaders for the City. Now in 2012, this “National Lavender Sweep” can inspire nationally. Consider these facts from the 2012 “National Lavender Sweep” election results: • The first openly LGBT candidate ever winning off ice to the United States Senate (Tammy Baldwin, WI) • The first openly LGBT candidate of color winning office to the United States House (Mark Takano, CA) • The first openly Transgender person ever elected to a seat in a state legislature • Seven openly LGBT House members from around the nation • Seven new openly LGBT officeholders in state legislatures where there were none before • Hundreds of LGBT candidates around the nation winning public offices in their communities In addition, we won four historic statewide initiatives for marriage equality. Further, we have a President, and a Democratic Party, who ran on, and won by, supporting our equal rights and having our community a welcomed and open part of the national coalition.   (continued on page 3)

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Post Election Relief and Excitement

Do Ask, Do Tell Zoe Dunning The fall election is behind us, and overall the results were great news for LGBT Americans. President Obama won re-election, a record number of out LGBT candidates were elected to national, state and local office, and we had pro-marriage equality results in all four state ballot initiatives – another first. I can’t emphasize enough how important Tammy Baldwin’s victory was in Wisconsin. She will make history as our nation’s first out LGBT Senator, and Wisconsin’s first female Senator. But there are other reasons why this race was intriguing. Wisconsin, my home state, is not a sure

win for any Democratic candidate – it has been a swing state in the last several Presidential elections. The voters in Wisconsin kept their Republican Governor in office after a bitter recall campaign last year. The Republican Party’s Vice President candidate, Paul Ryan, hails from Wisconsin. Finally, her opponent in this Senate race, Tommy Thompson, is a very popular former Governor with state-wide name recognition. In contrast, Tammy Baldwin represented a single Congressional District in the Madison area, considered one of the most progressive areas in the state. Conventional wisdom would say a Republican former Governor would win handily over a progressive, lesbian Democratic Congresswoman. But thanks to a tremendous grassroots campaign, attention from the Democratic National Committee, and very strong support from the Victory Fund, the entire state was able to get to know Tammy and her record and her vision for Wisconsin. Tammy Baldwin not only won, she won handily – 51.5% to 48.5%. My personal congratulations to an amazing woman – she will represent the LGBT community well in the U.S. Senate. Locally, Measure A passed, which will bring critically needed funds

to City College. I, like many, have been frustrated by the lack of fiscal oversight and accountability at City College over the past several years. The inability to make some tough decisions has put the college’s accreditation at risk. The opponents of Measure A questioned whether City College would use any additional funds wisely or would fritter them away. But I have seen the Board of Trustees begin to make some tough decisions, balancing student, teacher, administration, community and fiscal priorities. Without passage of Measure C, students would have suffered the brunt of the blow in reduced services, limited class offerings, higher fees and fewer admissions. So I was relieved and happy to see Measure A pass. Also on the local level, we saw the addition of a new LGBT member to the City College Board of Trustees. Rafael Mandelman, even though he entered the race later than most, had a very strong showing with the second highest vote total. Unsuccessful in his bid for the District 8 Supervisor seat in 2010, Rafael will now contribute his considerable energy, experience and expertise to help improve City College.

Christina Olague, the bisexual appointed District 5 (D5) supervisor, lost her bid to retain her seat. In perhaps the most dramatic and controversial supervisorial race this year, London Breed ended up as the top vote getter in the district. She will be the second African-American woman on the Board of Supervisors, joining Malia Cohen of District 10. I know London and I feel confident she will be a strong ally for the LGBT community. Overall, the progressive/moderate breakdown of the Board of Supervisors will remain essentially the same. Eric Mar, David Chiu, David Campos, and John Avalos all retained their seats. London Breed, perhaps the most moderate candidate in D5, will now represent the most progressive district. As of this writing, F.X. Crowley and Norman Yee are neck and neck for the seat in District 7 (D7), perhaps the most moderate district. Both men are decidedly more progressive than the outgoing Supervisor, Sean Elsbernd. Essentially those two changes in D5 and D7 will balance each other out, leaving the Board relatively similar as before. Personally, I am relieved and excited at the November 6 results. I had a

great time watching the results with fellow Stanford Pride Board members and friends at The Lookout on election night. For me it is now a chance to celebrate the results, take a breath, take care of deferred items from my personal to-do list (car wash, pedicure and other critical maintenance activities!!!), and reenergize for the next campaign cycle. I did quite a bit of public speaking, social media, phone banking, organizing, fundraising and precinct walking for a number of candidates and propositions at the local, state and national level. It is incredibly gratifying to know you contributed, especially when your candidate or initiative wins. I encourage all of you to participate actively in a campaign in the next election cycle. Not only will you get a sense of accomplishment, but you will meet fantastic people along the way and have a lot of fun in the process. As my mother used to say to me, “If you’re not part of the solution, you’re part of the problem.” Happy Thanksgiving, everyone! Zoe Dunning is a retired Navy Commander and was a lead activist in the repeal of Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell. She currently serves as the 1st Vice Chair of the San Francisco Democratic Party

(LAVENDER continued from page 1) San Francisco has had several decades to get used to these ideas of an openly LGBT candidate winning public office, LGBT leadership becoming a traditional part of our local Democratic coalition, open LGBT elected officials being part of our City Family’s elected leadership and our state representation to Sacramento. The rest of the nation is now beginning to catch up, and with such an historic elected landscape around the

country, we can excitedly be part of the forthcoming ten, twenty, thirty years and beyond when our nation increasingly views it just as we do in San Francisco-- an obvious and valued part of elected leadership throughout the country. We are San Franciscans. We are Californians. We are in every state. We are Americans. We should be quite proud of our victories from this 2012 “National Lav-

ender Sweep.” These victories came about because we, as the LGBT community past and present, came together and owned our own power-our power to come out, our power to voice our thoughts openly, our power to speak out, our power to fight for our rights, to join together, to take leadership, and to win the hearts and minds of others, one family member or friend or colleague at a time. And with our own power shining out from

within us, knowing our history and envisioning our growing power in our future, we can fully celebrate these 2012 victories as our own. Thomas Jefferson stated “eternal vigilance is the price of liberty,” and we know all too well the price. To continue to fight the good fight and own our own LGBT power in San Francisco, the Alice B. Toklas LGBT Democratic Club still organizes every day,

41 years after its founding. To join, support, and learn more about Alice, check out our website, alicebtoklas. org. And remember, to own your own part of history from the 2012 “National Lavender Sweep,” our community won these elections. You can take pride and ownership that you won them too. Reese Aaron Isbell is the Co-Chair of the Alice B. Toklas LGBT Democratic Club.

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National News Briefs compiled by Dennis McMillan

Cambridge, MN - Pastor Counseling “Ex-Gays” Charged with Sex Assaults - 11.8

New York, NY - Sandy Wiped Out Center for Homeless Queer Kids - 11.9 New York City youth who have been left homeless because of the hardship they face being gay and transgender got another knock when the Ali Forney Center was destroyed by Superstorm Sandy. The storm surge took a cruel swipe, flooding the AFC’s drop-in facility, a triage point for kids on the street who need medical care, HIV testing and housing referrals. The Center sees about 300 LGBTQ kids a day seeking medical attention, shelter and support. The Ali Forney Center estimates it will have to raise $400,000 to replace what was lost in Sandy.

A pastor who participated in a ministry devoted to helping people “put their homosexuality behind them” has been charged with sexually assaulting two men he was counseling. Lakeside Christian Church’s senior pastor, the Rev. Ryan J. Muehlhauser, 55, of Cambridge, appeared in court on eight felony counts of fourth-degree criminal sexual conduct, and remains free pending another hearing next month. Muehlhauser also was a counselor through Robbinsdale-based Outpost Ministries, whose website says it was founded more than 30 years ago to help men and women “break away from gay life” and declares that “all homosexual behavior is sin.”

“This is a disaster in a disaster,” said Executive Director Carl Siciliano. “These kids face disaster every day ... They are sleeping on rooftops, abandoned buildings, and lots ride trains at night. It’s been really rough with the subway shutting down.”

Authorities were informed of the alleged assaults from another Outpost counselor by two men. One man told investigators that Muehlhauser “blessed” him by cupping his genitals outside of his clothing several times and that Muehlhauser asked the man to masturbate in front of him for “spiritual strength.” Muehlhauser would also fondle the man at times. Their encounters occurred over a period of nearly two years. Another man told investigators of similar encounters spanning most of this year. At one encounter, Muehlhauser fondled the man, and then the two joined the pastor’s wife for a dinner outing.

The Center, founded in 2002, was named for Ali Forney, a gay 22-year-old who was murdered by a shot in the head in 1997. He had been homeless since the age of 13, thrown out by his mother, and beaten up in foster care and group homes for his feminine behavior. Resources for homeless LGBTQ youth are scarce and shelters are at capacity, especially in New York City where a study commissioned by the City Council estimated 3,800 youth are homeless - about 1,600 of them LGBTorQ. This is a tragedy! Please send checks to Ali Forney Center/ATTN: Andria Ottley, 224 West 35th Street, Suite 1500, NY,NY 10001.

The assaults of the two men occurred at the church, its prayer cabin and at a home belonging to a relative of one of the victims. The criminal complaint made a point to note that “consent by the complainant is not a defense,” given Muehlhauser is a clergy member. Apparently this hypocritical creep put his homosexuality on their behinds!



Trenton, NJ - Lawmakers Struggle with Same-Sex Marriage after Wins in Other States - 11.10 Chicago, Il - Gay Mar riage Votes Could Sway US Supreme Court - 11.9 Tempe, AZ - First Openly Bisexual Congressperson Elected to US House - 11.12 Kyrsten Sinema was declared the victor in the election to represent Arizona’s Ninth District in the US House of Representatives. Sinema will be the first openly bisexual member of Congress and joins the largest-ever class of openly lesbian and gay lawmakers on Capitol Hill, including the first openly gay Senator, Tammy Baldwin of Wisconsin. In the 113th Congress, Sinema will join incumbent Congressmen David Cicilline (D-RI) and Jared Polis (D-CO), as well as newcomers Sean Patrick Maloney (D-NY), Mark Pocan (D-WI) and Mark Takano (D-CA), who will be the first openly gay person of color in Congress. The 113th Congress will have a total of seven openly lesbian, gay and bisexual members, an increase from only four in the last Congress. “We are thrilled that Kyrsten Sinema will be bringing her passion for the needs of the people of her district, as well as those of LGBT people nationwide, to Washington,” said Human Rights Campaign President Chad Griffin. “In January, Kyrsten will make history as she joins the largest-ever class of [queer] members of Congress. I know that this incredible group of [queer] leaders will make tremendous strides toward our goal of full equality.” Sinema served in both the Arizona House and Senate, where she was a standout leader on issues of LGBTQ equality, including fighting against efforts to amend the Arizona Constitution to ban marriage for gay and lesbian couples. She has also served as a member of HRC’s Arizona Steering Committee. Putting the “B” in LGB Congress. Is “T” next? Source:

After victories for same-sex marriage initiatives in Maryland, Maine and Washington state, the two sides in the national debate over gay marriage are positioning for advantage as the issue moves toward the US Supreme Court. The votes came a few weeks before the Supreme Court justices are to meet to decide whether to review six gay rights cases that have been brought before the court. We could know more by December 3. Four of the cases test the constitutionality of the Defense of Marriage Act, or DOMA, which bars the federal government from recognizing same-sex marriages performed in states or foreign countries where they are allowed. Another seeks approval for Proposition 8, a 2008 measure that outlawed samesex marriage in California. The sixth case concerns gay rights in Arizona. A critical question for the Supreme Court is how much political clout gays and lesbians have. Under the legal analysis that applies to equal protection challenges, laws that discriminate against politically powerless groups receive greater scrutiny from the court. Some of the lower courts in the current cases found that gays and lesbians are a disadvantaged group that qualifies for more rigorous protection. Opponents of same-sex marriage argue that Tuesday’s voting results, which brought to nine the number of states that allow same-sex couples to wed, show that gays and lesbians have plenty of political power. But lawyers who have challenged DOMA say Tuesday’s ballots could have the opposite effect, helping to convince the justices that gay marriage’s time has come. And about time!

Supporters of same-sex marriage celebrated when voters in three states approved gay marriage, and those in a fourth state blocked an effort to ban it. But Tuesday’s results have not persuaded lawmakers to put the question of marriage equality on the ballot in New Jersey, a decision supported by the largest gay rights organization in the state, as well as a leading US samesex marriage advocacy organization. “It would be a terrible road for New Jersey to go down,” Evan Wolfson, president of Freedom to Marry, a national gay-marriage group, said. Campaigning for the ballot question would involve “a huge amount of work and money and time and nervousness that nobody should have to go through.” New Jersey’s Democratic-controlled Legislature in February approved a bill to legalize same-sex marriage, which Republican Gov. Christie promptly vetoed. Voters should decide the issue, he said. But legislative leaders have refused to heed his call, arguing that a voting majority should never determine the rights for a minority group. “I think a same-sex marriage referendum would have passed in this presidential election,” Senate Majority Leader Loretta Weinberg (D., Bergen) said. “But as far as I’m concerned, we don’t put civil rights issues on the ballot. . . . I just don’t believe that that’s how civil rights that should be constitutionally afforded to our citizens should be decided.” Nine states and Washington, D.C. permit gay and lesbian couples to marry, and laws in three other states will take effect soon. C’mon, Jersey, get with the program! Source:


Local News Briefs Transgender Health Care Celebrates Victory

Sit on It, Say Bench Proponents

Transgender Law Center celebrates a unanimous vote by the SF Health Commission - the governing and policy-making body of the Department of Public Health - to implement the recommendations set forth in a resolution authored by Supervisor Scott Wiener and passed by the SF Board of Supervisors that would remove transgender exclusions from the Healthy San Francisco (Healthy SF) health access program.

As of Friday Nov. 2, there are no longer public benches at Harvey Milk Plaza. Despite the fact that Harvey Milk himself supported the right to convene in public spaces, the Community Benefit District (CBD), with the support of Merchants of Upper Market and Castro (MUMC) and Supervisor Scott Wiener, decided to spend $1,800 in order to prevent the use of the plaza created in his honor. (Editor’s Note: Supervisor Wiener mentions that usage of the Plaza has changed over the past year and a half. This led to “an almost-daily ad hoc nudist colony.” Supervisor Wiener adds, “This is the only public space in the neighborhood. I’ve gotten an enormous number of complaints. People have reached the end of their rope.”)

Healthy SF currently excludes transgender patients from accessing medically necessary transition-related care that is available to non-transgender patients. Transition-related care has been deemed medically necessary by the American Medical Association and numerous other professional health organizations. The removal of these exclusions follows a growing trend in government, educational institutions and corporate America toward inclusion of health coverage for the medical needs of transgender people. The cities of San Francisco and Berkeley have already removed such exclusions for city employees. “Removing these exclusions will make a real difference in the lives of transgender San Franciscans, especially those who struggle to make ends meet,” said TLC Executive Director Masen Davis. “I am grateful for the leadership of our HEALTH Council members, Supervisor Wiener and many others who have all worked together to make this happen.” The San Francisco HEALTH Council, a group of community advocates convened by Transgender Law Center and Lyon Martin Health Services’ collaborative program Project HEALTH, has been working since 2010 to have transgender exclusions removed from Healthy SF. Once the change is implemented, which could take a few months, Healthy SF will offer a limited scope of transition-related care. Story by Dennis McMillan

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On November 18 at noon, activists will Sit-In at the Plaza by bringing chairs, benches, signs, and an unbeatable spirit to protest this move against the use of public space. Why? “Because every attack on the rights of people to congregate needs a response, and because by taking away the benches, CBD, MUMC and Scott Wiener have taken a safe space away from the homeless and queer youth, and have thus violated the unspoken contract that San Francisco provide a place of respite for our most vulnerable,” says co-organizer Tommi Avicolli Mecca. “Because every cent they spend on removing benches and other draconian acts is money that could be spent on housing and services for poor and homeless folks in our community. Because in the past, queers and especially transgender folks have been made to feel unwelcome in public space.” Story by Dennis McMillan

Round About in Photos — Election Results

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“Celebrate!” was the word on November 6th as news spread of the re-election of President Obama and the resounding defeat of Republican Party candidates. “Bay Times” photographers Rink and Steven Underhill were there with the crowd on Castro Street and at the nearby Democratic Headquarters off ice. P HO TO  BY  R IN K







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Kaushik Roy For so many of us, preparing for the holiday season, and Thanksgiving in particular, provides us with an opportunity to pause and appreciate the numerous blessings for which we are grateful. Several days removed from the election, I am still basking in the glow of our tremendous victories. The re-election of President Obama, the huge strides for marriage equality, the notable increase of women who will serve in next year’s U.S. Senate and the elections of openly gay candidates like Tammy Baldwin and Mark Takano all illustrate huge victories for those of us striving for a more equal and diverse nation. As proud as we are of our successes, we must not forget how close we came to undoing decades of progress for civil rights and equality. The fact is there was too much at stake in this election— more than there should have been—and what this means is this year’s political progress is not a stopping point for us, but, rather, a launching pad to achieve more victories in the years to come. As our nation’s journey inches closer to equality and opportunity for all, what I am personally most grateful for is living and working in the city that so often leads the national conversation on how to be a more compassionate and inclusive society. As President Clinton articulated at this year’s Democratic National Convention, the choice we must all make, as individuals, communities and a country, is whether we want a society where we are all in it

and open hearts. And there is no greater example of this than the tremendous spirit of volunteerism that thrives in San Francisco. So many wonderful organizations are able to fulfill their missions because people refuse to look away from those in need. They want to give of themselves for those who may not have anyone else. Whether it is volunteer caregivers at Shanti, chefs at Project Open Hand, or attorneys at AIDS Legal Referral Panel, San Francisco’s safety net is formed by the good will, compassion and empathy of our citizens.

Time and time again, San Francisco has demonstrated, that while many may talk about the value of being there for the most vulnerable or marginalized, we actually show up. The greatest example of this is from the 1980’s when the “San Francisco Model” was born as a response to the AIDS epidemic. Many communities around the country and world later adopted this model. Today’s new wave of challenges, created by the decreasing funds available for a greater number of people in need, call on us, as both a city and country, to broaden and strengthen that safety net of compassion and empathy. Again, I believe the power of volunteerism and San Francisco’s spirit of service can ensure that we continue to nourish each other and ourselves. One of the most life-changing moments for me was when I decided I wanted to volunteer, and I showed up for a Shanti volunteer caregiver training in 2004. That was my introduction to San Francisco’s incredible community, comprised of people from many diverse backgrounds, all coming together by their common desire to be of service to others. Each of us has a tremendous capacity to provide compassion and love to one another. If you have ever thought about volunteering, I would encourage you to consider doing so now. We are lucky to be in a community where so many causes are represented. Find one that resonates with your heart and follow that path. If you can, you may find that you are the one who gets the most from your volunteer experience. Volunteering is also the perfect way to humbly show our gratitude for the good things that have happened in our lives. President Kennedy once noted, “As we express our gratitude, we must never forget that the highest appreciation is not to utter words, but to live by them.” And I want to thank all of you for creating a community, which does just that. On behalf of everyone at the Bay Times, I hope you and your loved ones enjoy a Thanksgiving and holiday season full of peace, laughter and gratitude. Kaushik Roy has served as the Executive Director of the Shanti Project in San Francisco since 2008. He can be reached at

GGBA Offers LGBT Supplier Certification By Maureen McEvoy San Francisco’s Golden Gate Business Association, the nation’s first LGBT Chamber of Commerce, is offering help to businesses that would like to register as LGBT owned businesses. With this certification, LGBT businesses would qualify for contracts from over 130 corporate and government affiliates and gain access to those individuals making the decisions on those contracts. As a GGBA Member Benefit, the $400 registration fee is being waived by the National Gay & Lesbian Chamber of Commerce (NGLCC) that oversees the program. Programs around the country have certified businesses owned by women or minorities to connect suppliers with corporate participants. Those programs inspired the NGLCC in 2004 to create a Supplier Diversity Initiative for LGBT-owned Business Enterprises (LGBTBEs). Eleven corporations joined the program’s launch, a number that has grown to more than 130 today. IBM was NGLCC’s f irst founding partner and was joined on the initiative by Wells Fargo & Co., JPMorgan Chase & Co., Motorola Inc., Travelport, Intel Corp., Wyndham Hotels & Resorts, American Airlines, American Express Co., Ernst & Young and the former Lehman Brothers Holdings Inc. Nearly 300 businesses have been certified under criteria that include at least 51 percent ownership by

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LGBT individuals. NGLCC, which conducts the certifications, has set a goal of 400 participating suppliers by November. “Certification means access – access to corporate decision makers and access to resources for long-term business growth,” says Phil Giorgianni, NGLCC’s senior manager for supplier diversity and outreach. “Diverse suppliers have access to dedicated supplier-diversity professionals to be their advocates within large corporations.”

“It was like looking for a needle in a haystack,” says Irwin Drucker, who in 1999 became IBM’s first LGBT supplier-diversity program director. “Sometimes my ‘gaydar’ would work, but for the most part, after three years, we had only six identified LGBT suppliers.” For IBM, reaching out to the LGBT community was an easy call. “We have proven, time and again, that [diversity] enables us to of-

tens of millions of dollars with dozens of LGBTBEs.” On the supplier end, NGLCC points to many success stories. Among them, according to Giorgianni, was NGLCC’s Supplier of the Year, Neil Cerbone, who recently completed Accenture’s Diverse Supplier Development Program and was named “protégé of the year.” A certified LGBT promotions company also secured a contract with a well-known national shipping company less than one year after initial contact at a 2011 NGLCC “matchmaker meeting.” And Q&A Events, an Atlanta-based meetings company, became the first LGBT-owned firm to work for Coca-Cola Co. In recent years, the Human Rights Campaign has made LGBT supplier diversity a key component of its annual Corporate Equality Index. It’s no coincidence, then, that corporate participants in NGLCC’s diversity program rate at or near the top of the CEI.

Certification also includes a site visit by NGLCC that is intended to ensure that corporate resources dedicated to the LGBT community actually get there. IBM turned to NGLCC after having established its own diversity program but finding LGBT businesses hard to identify.

fer added value to our customers in areas such as innovation, time to market, and customer satisfaction,” Drucker says. “We are extremely proud of the fact that IBM was the first company in the world to recognize the LGBT segment in its supplier-diversity program. And since including LGBT in the program in 1999, IBM has spent

For more information on how to apply for certif ication, please call the GGBA office at 415-362-4422 or contact Daw n Ackerman at 415-234-3296, email: daw n@outsmartof f Maureen McE voy is V ice-President of the GGBA Board of Directors and Senior Account Executive of the San Francisco Chamber of Commerce.

The Week in Review Forward! By Ann Rostow I realize that the big news this time around is stuff that you already know about. Indeed, you’ve probably already read a hundred articles and blog posts about the impact of November 6, a day that will go down in history as one of the most dramatic moments in the GLBT civil rights movement. Does that mean that I can’t write about it? Does that mean that instead of wallowing in victory, I have to dig around for underreported bits of news about the gay guy in Middleof Nowhere, Ruraltown, who won a seat on the city council? Say it ain’t so! Please readers, I know it’s been over a week, but let me rehash our sweet victories. I’ve been covering GLBT news for nearly twenty years, virtually without a break and I don’t know how many times I’ve had to moan and groan and look on the bright side or find the silver lining, so you know what? I think I deserve this moment. We fucking won! As an aside, I used to sprinkle the “f ” word around quite liberally, until I came under the thumb of a rather rigid editor who initially didn’t like my column to begin with. Over time, I came to appreciate his talents and style, and I think the respect was returned. Initially, I was irritated when he deleted a few of my salty pronouncements, but he insisted that the f bomb was a weapon to be held back whenever possible, and I came to agree with him. That’s just to say that I’m using the word with particular intent. In the past, I have been overly optimistic, and loyal readers know that I approached this election with wary hope. But this is the first time in my life as a commentator that I have been too pessimistic. I did not think we’d win Minnesota, but we did. I was uncomfortable about Maryland, but we won. I thought we’d win Maine and Washington, but I steeled myself for disappointment. I needn’t have bothered. Stunningly, our champion in Iowa, Supreme Court Justice David Wiggins, survived a vote just two years after three of his comrades on the court were summarily dumped by an antimarriage electorate as punishment for their decision to legalize marriage in the Caucus State. And amid all the backslapping and congratulations that surround our marriage victories in Washington, Maine, Maryland and Minnesota, let’s not forget that our main victory last week was the reelection of the President. Just imagine if Romney had won. Our Supreme Court DOMA cases sent back to some earlier square. The justice department deciding once again to support the federal law against marriage. Binational couples living in fear once again. The specter of a new High Court justice, selected by Republicans and confirmed despite our best efforts. Our near-term legal f ight for marriage thrown into disarray and possibly set back for a generation. Finally, I know that everyone is insisting that Chris Christie’s last minute embrace was not the deciding factor in the reelection of Barack Obama. They’re probably right, but I can tell you this. I was going out of my mind in the run up to the election. I couldn’t watch TV for fear of disturbing information. Romney had good crowds. Our voters were waiting in six-hour lines in Ohio and Florida. Romney’s campaign had some secret formula for victory and an enthusiasm gap was widening.

It was only when Chris Christie told America that the President was doing a heroic job that I began to relax in some deep part of my limbic partisan soul. I know he vetoed marriage equality, but last week, Chris Christie was my friend. Marriage equality will come to New Jersey in time, either by court action or again by legislative will. But the reelection of Obama was a yes or no proposition presented to the nation for a definitive answer. I think he helped us. And I think he did it on purpose. What that purpose was, I can’t say. I suppose we’ll have to wait for the HBO movie. — Conference Call I should mention that marriages will start December 6 in Maine and Washington, while Marylanders will have to wait until January 4. But now, dear readers, we must shift our attention to the judicial front. I know that I got bent out of shape by the Supreme Court’s first conference of the session in late September. I could not wait for the Court to announce whether or not they would review Prop 8 or DOMA. But as you know, nothing happened at that conference, nor did the justices take up gay rights in subsequent weeks. Now, we have conf idence that the High Court will spend their November 30 conference huddled around the table grappling with a handful of GLBT petitions. (The Court originally scheduled the gay cases for November 20, but they just changed it the other day.) Will they accept the Prop 8 case? Or will they sidestep the litigation and allow California to return to marriage equality? Which challenge or challenges to the Defense of Marriage Act will they decide to review? We know that they have to deal with DOMA. Otherwise, the federal ban on recognizing same-sex marriage would be invalid in the First and Second Circuits, but still operational elsewhere in the nation. That’s not feasible. But it will be intensely fascinating to see if the Court accepts review of the Windsor case. A couple of weeks ago, a 2-1 Second Circuit panel ruled that sexual orientation discrimination should be subjected to heightened scrutiny, putting gay men and women on par with racial and religious minorities as a protected class under constitutional law. They did so in the case of Edie Windsor, a widow who was hit with a gigantic estate tax on the death of her wife… on her own property. If the Supremes decide to tackle this core issue of protected class status, they could wind up not just striking DOMA, but fundamentally advancing the cause of gay rights in an historic ruling. Alternatively, they could do something bad to us, but let’s not think about that. — Scrutinize This! And this brings us to another legal topic. What is the definition of a protected class? Must such a class consist of people who lack political power? Must the class be defined by an immutable characteristic like skin color or gender? And why does it matter so much? Oh stop your complaining! This is important stuff. Now that we have flexed our political muscles from Washington to Maine,

Professional Services our opponents are chir ping and squeaking, insisting that gay men and lesbians don’t qualify as a protected class because we have too much political power! And plus, being gay is just a lifestyle choice, so we shouldn’t even be considered a “class” to begin with. The definition matters because if we are not a protected class, we must prove that discriminatory laws have no relationship to any conceivable legitimate state interest. On the other hand, if we are indeed a protected class, it’s the government that must prove that discrimination serves an important or compelling purpose and that there’s no other way to achieve that goal without the discriminatory law. In effect, we can win some cases under the first formula, but we will almost certainly win all our cases under the second formula. That’s why the high legal scrutiny afforded protected classes is also called “fatal” scrutiny, because it is normally fatal to the law under review. That’s also why appellate courts are hesitant to toss sexual orientation into the limited group of covered minorities. It’s one thing to rule in our favor. It’s another to require future courts to follow suit. Thanks to the Windsor ruling for example, every federal court in the Second Circuit must now give gay plaintiffs the benefit of the doubt in every case of unequal treatment. (Yay!) Happily for our side, the definition of a protected class does not require anything more than this: A protected class is a specific group of people who have suffered a history of discrimination based on a characteristic that has no bearing on their ability to contribute to society. That’s it. That’s the whole definition. Courts have indeed looked to other factors in the past in order to decide whether or not a class fits that bill. The defining characteristic does not have to be immutable, but it cannot be superficial. Religion can be changed for example, but like sexual orientation you should not be required to change your religion in order to avoid discrimination. As for political power, one of the reasons for giving a hard look at cases that discriminate against a protected class is the notion that such groups are easily victimized by a prejudiced majority and have no recourse. But does that mean that a class must have zero political inf luemce in order to remain protected? Of course not. Women and racial minorities are still protected even though their political fortunes have steadily improved for decades. Likewise, our recent victories in Maine, Washington, Maryland and Minnesota do not mean that we suddenly have all the political power we need to combat gay bias. Yet if you listen to our opponents, our new found success at the ballot box disqualifies us from any heightened attention from a court. We gays, says NOM, have Herculean power throughout the political process, where we can achieve any and all our goals with a wave of our collective hand. Look! We ended Don’t Ask Don’t Tell. Look! We won marriage rights in Maryland! Will these notions disqualify us from protected status? The answer is no. But look for these arguments to dominate the opposition’s rhetoric nonetheless. And remember that the whole debate over immutability and power is tangential to the main definition. (continued on page 14)

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Year of the Squeaker But by 8:17 pm Tuesday PST, the clouds off icially parted and aside from one TV studio containing Karl Rove, the election was over. Obama was president. Health care reform and a woman’s right to choose and NPR would live to see another day. The Dark Side of the Force was dealt a blow and relief hung in the air like fog over Twin Peaks.

Brass Tacks Heidi Beeler On the acoustical zodiac, this must be the Year of the Squeaker. Between the Giants pulling off a World Series championship after surviving six elimination games in the playoffs and Obama clinching the election after weeks of deep purple polls, there can’t be a fingernail left unchewed in the greater Bay Area. Yes, the Giants swept the World Series once they f inally got there. And yes, now that it’s over and even Florida has committed, they’re calling Obama’s reelection a mandate. And yes, Nate Silver never blinked, even before Hurricane Sandy carved out a reminder to the electorate in seawater why the prez is the right choice. But that World Series fourth game took 10 innings to nail down. And given the number of birthers voting, it wasn’t obvious those purple polls would shade blue and not run this gut-churning election into legal extra innings.

How different this was from election night 2008 That year was the best of times. Obama’s election was like a dance into the end zone. That election’s hurricane was the f inancial meltdown, and even George W. looked like he couldn’t wait to get Republicans out of office. Tina Fey famously mocked Sarah Palin, simply by wearing extra lipstick and repeating her words verbatim. Obama hit home runs with every talking point: tighten up irresponsible deregulation, sensibly end the Iraq war, make the country safe without abandoning our values, believe in science, invest in ourselves, dare to hope. That night, it wasn’t a question of whether he’d win, but how high the pile of votes would rise. It was the worst of times. While Democrats celebrated across the continent, I stood with friends in a hotel ballroom downtown and watched as county by county Prop 8 was voted into law. I remember political pundits gushing that Obama’s election as the first black president signaled an end to prejudice, while feeling like I’d just

been voted a second-class person by my neighbors. Watching TV, I felt the glass that separated us from the celebrations on the other side. But that night was of course only the beginning. In short order, Obama showed he understood what California voters had not, inviting the Lesbian & Gay Band Association as the first openly LGBT group to march in a presidential inaugural parade, signing the UN Declaration on sexual orientation and gender identity and reinstating benefits to same-sex partners of Federal employees. That was just his first 100 days. The end of DADT, near-end of DOMA, openly acknowledging LGBT citizens in speeches, support for ENDA, extending 1964 Civil Rights protections to transgender employees, open support for same-sex marriage, etc., etc. Each year, our activists have pushed this administration to push a deeply divided government further down the road toward full inclusion. It’s four years after Obama first took office, and we’ve endured a bruiser of an election. This time we won not in a f ire-sale panic over economic free-fall, but in a rational debate for the value of slow recovery. And this time, as we wait for Prop 8 to die its slow death in the courts, voters in four other states affirmed same-sex marriage outright. The 2008 election win was only a starting point. Let’s see where we can go from 2012.

Sister Dana Sez

Sister Dana sez, “Suckit, Log Cabin, cuz Obama-Biden won! We massively queered the vote all over the nation! And here’s to Biden and/or Clinton in 2016! Yowzah!” ELECTION NIGHT started out tense for this nun pundit; but thanks to friends and several medicinal martinis, I rallied enough to join Sister Roma’s election party fundraiser at Lookout bar. Then off to Obama headquarters for additional fortification. And eventually to the huge monitor screen set up at Castro and 18th, where we Sisters were welcomed onto the stage, along with Senator Mark Leno and activist Cleve Jones. When the tally onscreen showed victory for Obama, we citizens in the streets hugged and kissed and screamed and danced for joy! The next night was the Krewe de K inque FULL MOON PARTY, held every first Wednesday at The Edge by our fundraising society made up of kinky, queer af icionados of Mardi Gras. The monthly full moon contest is a show of bare butts and probing interviews resulting in some lucky a-hole taking home $100! Judges were KdK Queen VII Sister Dana, KdK King Tony Leo, and KdK Queen Bebe Sweetbriar. Winner was Al B., with 1st runner-up (whose duties are nothing - should the winner be unable to fulfill his duties, which are nothing) was Robin, followed by Paulo. KdK King I Gary Virginia produced. King VII John Weber emceed. Queen Cockatielia taught an ass-master class of bun puns. Good fun for everyone!

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Next evening it was the NUNS ROCK FUNDR A ISER for The Sisters of Perpetual Indulgence, Inc. to install a large engraved boul-

der in the National AIDS Memorial Grove as a tribute to the Nuns of the Above - those Sisters who have died before their time. The Grove is a living tribute to all whose lives have been touched by AIDS, with the mission to provide a healing sanctuary, to increase awareness of this national treasure, and to promote learning and understanding of the human tragedy of the AIDS pandemic. Held in Supervisor Scott Wiener’s office in City Hall, people donated to the Rock and to the AIDS Memorial Grove. Sup. Wiener waxed eloquent regarding The Sisters and our service to the community. For info or to donate, browse or call (415) 765-0497.

owners got enameled metal turquoise ribbon pins.

Mark Leno then whisked us over to the PAWS (Pets Are Wonderful Support) 25th ANNIVERSARY in the Green Room, celebrating 25 years of preser v ing, supporting, and nurturing the human-animal bond. Founded in 1987, PAWS now serves more than 800 clients and their 1,000+ companion animals. President Mark Gross spoke of how PAWS works to protect and improve the health, wellbeing, and quality of life of both people and their pets, despite the tremendous financial and physical challenges they face. Leno and Wiener presented certificates of honor to PAWS. Donate or volunteer at or (415) 979-9550.

Beloved SF nat ive Nata l ie Wood was remembered by her sister Lana Wood - also a native San Franciscan - in a rare onstage interview by Marc Huestis, who produced the event, FOREVER NATALIE WOOD, at the Castro Theatre. Lana (who also stars as Plenty O’Toole in Diamonds Are Forever) gave an intimate peek into the lives of the Wood sisters and their mother - a delightfully crazy Russian gypsy type. We learned of the cause of Natalie’s divorce from Robert Wagner - when she found another man in bed with RJ - and then later remarried RJ. Lana said, regarding the reopened investigation, she did not wish any ill will towards anyone on the boat on the tragic night Natalie drowned at sea. Also included was a tribute clip reel - cleverly compiled and edited by Huestis - honoring the screen legend. Matthew Martin donned drag as Mama Rose from Natalie’s musical, Gypsy, lip-synching four different actresses that played that part - one after another, complete with odd, funny key changes. Connie Champagne sang live Natalie’s theme from Inside Daisy Clover, “You’re Gonna Hear from Me.” The gala climaxed with a screening of Elia Kazan’s 1961 smoldering sexual masterpiece  Splendor in the Grass in which Natalie received one of her t h r ee O s c a r nom i n at ion s , which also stars handsome young newcomer hunk Warren Beatty and features Phyllis Diller and (continued on page 18)

TALK DIRTY TO THE ANIMALS was a fundraiser that has gone to the dogs, held in Mudpuppy’s Tub & Scrub on 536 Castro Street. Sister Agnes Dei’after Tamara worked to the bone collecting raff le prizes and securing a photographer who snapped photos of people’s pooches for $5. We Sisters also held a “Blessing of the Animals” with proceeds benefiting the Gilda Radner Foundation against ovarian cancer. We sat in the front window (the old ‘50s song lyric came to mind: “How much is that nun in the window? The one with the waggedy veil?!”) and had doggies and their owners sit across from us to receive blessings of long life, health, and wealth (all the doggie treats a pup could ever want), as well as communion with dog biscuits. Awwwww. The dogs got blue ribbons, and the

Mike Leon, the co-owner of the new EAGLE BA R requested the Sisters help shovel dirt. Are you serious? Yes! The tree that was on the Eagle patio died, and they had to remove it. However, the soil and earth that remained contains ashes from past Eagle patrons. The soil was moved from the patio spot to the corner beneath the cedar tree near where the bootblacks were next to the stage. Our Sister energy and ornate ritual helped consecrate the space. The Eagle is scheduled to reopen mid-December.

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1. Convert an unused garage, basement or attic into a studio, workout space or media room. In some cases, you can add this remodeled space to the assessed square footage of the house, increasing the value of your property well beyond the cost of the remodel.

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2. Reimagine your dining room as a home office for weekday use and an entertaining space on the weekends. Use the dining table as a desk and a vintage side board or armoire for storing your office supplies, computer and printer. Replace that tired chandelier with a modern fixture that works for both the office and dining experience.

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5. I n st a l l c u stom stor a g e components in your pant r y, garage, basement or bed room closet s to ma x imize t he ef f iciency of your stor a g e s pa ce. I h i gh ly r ecom mend Easy Closets,, as an af fordable way to t a i lor your storage a reas to t he unique needs of your family. 6. Replace space- consuming, h inged doors w it h pocket doors that recess into the wall. You will be amazed at the dif ference this m a kes i n a s m a l l bat h r o om or bedroom.

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Most of us would like to have more space, but can’t afford the mortgage for a larger house. If trading up is not an option, make sure your home is designed and remodeled to live up to its full potential. Take a moment to evaluate how you are using the space in your house. Are there rooms designated for entertaining that only get occasional use? Does the floor plan need adjusting to open up family gathering spaces or to create a private zone for you? Is there under-utilized space in the garage, basement or attic that can be repurposed for other uses? If you answered “yes” to any of these questions, then

3. Turn your living room into a multi-purpose space for reading, enjoying music or watching TV. Add glass doors to provide the f lexibility of turning a public space into a private space when needed. (Check out the amazing assortment of doors and room dividers at the Sliding Door Company, 4. Update your kitchen by adding French doors that open to a deck or patio. This is a very cost ef fective way to make your kitchen feel larger and provide overf low space when entertaining.

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Obama Administration Record for the LGBT Community ▶ Repealing Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell: The President signed the bill to repeal Don’t Ask Don’t Tell on December 22, 2010, putting in motion the end of a discriminatory policy that ran counter to our values as Americans. As of September 20, 2011, when the repeal took effect, gay, lesbian, and bisexual Americans can serve openly in our Armed Forces and without fear of losing their jobs for who they are and who they love.

▶ Ending the Legal Defense of the Defense of Marriage Act (DOMA): In February 2011, the President and Attorney General announced that the Department of Justice would no longer defend Section 3 of DOMA against equal protection constitutional challenges brought by same-sex couples married under state law. In July 2011, the White House announced the President’s support of the Respect for Marriage Act, introduced by Senator Dianne Feinstein and Congressman Jerrold Nadler, which would repeal DOM A and uphold the principle that gay and lesbian couples should receive the same Federal rights and legal protections as straight couples. The President has long supported a legislative repeal of DOMA.

▶ Sig ning Historic Hate Crimes Leg islat ion: President Obama overcame years of partisan gridlock to pass and sign the Matthew Shepard and James Byrd, Jr. Hate Crimes Prevention Act into law, which extends the coverage of Federal hate crimes law to include attacks based on the victim’s actual or perceived sexual orientation or gender identity. ▶ Ensuring Hospital Visitation Rights for LGBT Patients and Their Loved Ones: Following a directive from the President, the Department of Health and Human Services (HHS) now requires all hospitals receiving Medicare or Medicaid funds – just about every hospital in America – to allow visitation rights for LGBT patients. The President also directed HHS to ensure that medical decision-making rights of LGBT patients are respected. ▶ Expanding Access to Health Coverage: The Affordable Care Act ensures that Americans have secure, stable, and affordable insurance. In 2014, insurance companies will no longer be able to discriminate against anyone due to a pre-existing condition, and because of the law, insurers can no longer turn someone away just because he or she is lesbian, gay, bisexual, or transgender. In addition, the federal website,, designed to help all consumers f ind the health insurance best suited to their needs, makes it easy to locate health insurers that cover domestic partners.

Sources: White House, Obama Campaign Artwork from MANIFESTHOPE:D.C.

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▶ Addressing Health Care Disparities: The Affordable Care Act is funding preventive efforts for communities, including millions of dollars to use evidence-based interventions to address tobacco control, obesity prevention, HIV-related health disparities, better nutrition and physical activity. In addition, the new health care law is making other investments that will help address health disparities. Funding is going toward building a more diverse and culturally competent health care workforce, as well as investing in community health centers to serve up to 20 million more patients. And through increased research and data collection on health disparities, policymakers will have the knowledge and tools they need to continue to address the health needs and concerns of the LGBT community. ▶ Ensuring Equality for LGBT Federal Government Employees: President Obama has taken numerous administrative actions to advance equality for LGBT Federal employees, setting an example for all employers. In response to the President’s directive, the Off ice of Personnel Management is expanding Federal benef its for same-sex partners of Federal employees to the extent possible under current law, including by allowing same-sex domestic partners to apply for long-term care insurance. The Administration’s directive on same-sex domestic partner benef its also opened the door for the State Department to extend legally available benef its and allowances to same-sex domestic partners of members of the Foreign Service serving abroad.

▶ Developing and Implementing a National HI V/A IDS Strategy: President Obama fulf illed a pledge to those with HIV by developing and releasing the Nation’s f irst comprehensive plan for responding to the domestic HIV epidemic. In 2009, President Obama signed legislation reauthorizing the Ryan White HI V/ AIDS Program for four years to provide critical health services to uninsured and underinsured people living with HIV. The Administration has also prioritized funding increases for HIV prevention, care, and research in each successive President’s budget. In FY 2011, the Administration fought for and secured a $50 million increase in appropriations for the AIDS Drug Assistance Program (ADAP) and a $31 million increase for HIV prevention. President Obama continued this commitment in FY 2012, when he announced on World AIDS Day an additional $35 million for ADAP and a $15 million increase for Ryan White Part C medical clinics. Finally, the health reform legislation that the President signed into law, the Affordable Care Act, ensures that Americans have secure, stable, and affordable insurance, which will make it easier for people living with HIV and AIDS to obtain Medicaid and private health insurance and overcome barriers to care from qualif ied providers.

▶ Taking Steps to Ensure LGBT Equality in Housing and Crime Prevention: The Administration announced the f irst ever national study of discrimination in housing against LGBT persons and, in January 2012, issued a f inal rule to ensure that the Department of Housing and Urban Development’s core housing programs are open to all persons regardless of sexual orientation or gender identity. The Justice Department also issued guidance stating that Federal prosecutors should enforce criminal provisions in the Violence Against Women Act in cases involving same-sex relationships. ▶ Advancing and Protecting the Rights of LGBT Persons around the World: The Obama Administration continues to engage systematically with governments around the world to advance the rights of LGBT persons. The Administration’s intensive and systematic leadership has included various public statements and resolutions at the UN. President Obama has also issued a presidential memorandum that directs all Federal agencies engaged abroad to ensure that U.S. diplomacy and foreign assistance promote and protect the human rights of LGBT persons. ▶ Preventing Bullying Against LGBT Students: President Obama, First Lady Michelle Obama, the Department of Education, and the Department of Health and Human Services convened students, parents, and teachers, in addition to non-prof it leaders, advocates, and policymakers, for the f irst-ever White House Conference on Bullying Prevention in March 2011. Early in the Obama Administration, six Federal agencies joined together to establish the Federal Partners in Bullying Prevention Steering Committee to explore ways to provide guidance on combating bullying to individuals and organizations. The Department of Education has issued guidance to support educators in combating bullying in schools by clarifying when student bullying may violate Federal education anti- discrimination laws. In June 2011, Secretary Duncan issued a “Dear Colleague” letter, accompanied by legal guidelines, reaff irming the rights of students to form Gay-Straight Alliances and other student groups under the Equal Access Act, noting the important role they can play in promoting safer schools and creating more welcoming learning environments. In addition, President Obama, Vice President Biden, and other Administration off icials recorded “It Gets Better” video messages to address the issue of bullying and suicide among LGBT youth.

Looking Ahead We all know that a lot of work still needs to be done in order to advance the civil rights of the LGBT community. Political activist and bestselling author David Mixner points out that we should put our efforts toward: 1. Appointments to the Supreme Court 2. Repeal of DOMA 3. Passage of ENDA 4. LGBT cabinet members and other appointments 5. More focus on transgender rights

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Here a re some of the ma ny ta lented LGBTQ artists who will be at this year’s Celebration of Craftswomen, November 24-25 & December 1-2 , 10a m-5pm Herbst Pav i l ion, For t Mason Center, San Francisco.

Smiling Dog Studio (Val Yandell and Jane Brooks)

“Our work celebrates the natural beauty that surrounds us and the la nd scape of ou r i mag i nat ions. Ja ne br i ng s her bac k g rou nd i n g r aph ic des ig n a nd f i ne a r t to t he m i x , w h i l e Va l t a k e s a n d ma kes photog r aphs i nspi red by her work as a painter and her eye for abst ract ion. Our recent collaborations include hand-framed original photography and graphic collages, ornaments and curiosit ies created f rom ou r col lected vintage imagery, re-purposed, recycled and found materials.”

Eileen Goldenberg “ I wa s 5 yea r s old when I f i r st touched clay and immediately fell in love. Clay is a very immediate a nd pla st ic med iu m t hat a l lows me to f u l ly ex press my feel i ng s and emotions. By combining textured glazes, color, and the graphic quality of sgraf f ito, I can turn ideas into forms that are a direct link to my inner landscape.”

Jeanette Monterio “I am facinated w it h edges - t he line between hard and soft, water against Earth, mountains against sky. I see edges as a metaphor for relationships - how the juxtaposition of two disparate entities creates its own chemistr y and larger existence. The materials that I use i n s pi r e me to c r eate s omet h i n g greater than what I see before me.”

Amy Faust “ B e aut i f u l c olor a nd f i ne meta lsm it h ing as wel l as ecolog ica l va lues are what I hope to share t h r ou g h my je we l r y c r e at ion s . Materials such as reclaimed vintage glass and potter y are handcut a nd set i n rec ycled sterl i ng silver and high karat gold in my Oakland, CA, studio.”

Maja “Born of art ists, always a craftswoma n, i nspi red by moder n ist s, M aja ex u lt s i n bei ng a creator. Sel f-t aught a nd cur ious, her desig ns, fabr icated i n sterl i ng a nd more, are t he result of marr y ing diverse elements, techniques, textures and colors.”

Kelly Morgen “Each of my necklaces tells a story from the world’s many mythologies and legends. I think of them as modern-day medicine pieces: e v e r y on e he l p s u s r e me m b e r and express our inner qualit ies, like the wisdom of Athena or the streng th of A r temis. I make my

nec k l aces completely by h a nd , cutt ing out t he si lver and gold, and car ving recycled piano keys to form the faces of my women. Using my apprent iceships to an It a l ia n master gold sm it h a nd a Cherokee shaman, my goal is to c r e a t e je w e l r y t h a t e m p ow e r s women t h rough creat ive stor ytelling.”

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Arts&Entertainment “Elliot Loves”: A Gem from Frameline Soon Out on DVD sisters, and Elliot is an only child,” he said. “Maybe it’s wish fulfillment?” he added, with a laugh. Terracino dedicated Elliot Loves to his two older sisters Samantha and Lisa, whom he said raised him. The filmmaker admitted that the Ma character is “one part my mother, and one part the mother in I Like It Like That,” Darnell Martin’s under-seen 1994 film. Film

Gary M. Kramer A hit at Frameline earlier this year, writer/director Terracino’s poignant comedy-drama, Elliot Loves, is out on DVD November 27. This gem about the title character—a motor-mouthed Dominican growing up in New York City—toggles back and forth between Elliot as a kid (Quentin Araujo) struggling with his f laky mother (Elena Goode) and her deadbeat boyfriends, and Elliot as a 21 year-old (Fabio Costaprado), emulating his mother by being attracted to the wrong guys. Deftly chronicling Elliot’s search for love and validation, this low-budget but heartfelt film, is just like its title character—charming, rough around the edges and totally lovable. In a Skype interview, Terracino discussed his film, which he said contains elements from his life, but is “more personal than autobiographical.” The gregarious filmmaker indicated one signif icant difference between him and his fictional alter ego right off the bat. “I have nine brothers and

He continued, “Samantha said Ma is my mother, but I think she’s much nicer than my real mother—which is a terrible thing to say!” Like Ma in the film, Terracino’s mother loved The Price Is Right, and the filmmaker recounts how angry his real mother would get if someone underbid on a Showcase Showdown. The f ilmmaker insisted that while he no longer does Elliot’s sexy and amusing “dance of clean,” he relates to Elliot and other characters, “situationally.” He explained, “Elliot’s a lot nicer and more loveable that I am. I’ve dealt a lot with dealing with anger. But we have the same journey.” That said, Elliot’s boyfriends and relationships in the film are all based on the filmmaker’s experiences. He clarified, “Maybe which end of the experience differs. I’m not Elliot. I was never the perfect guy or boyfriend, but I expected them to be perfect. There’s a word for that: Latino. I grappled my whole life with dealing with the contemporary urban gay scene. I’m very shockable and Elliot is, too. I can be really naïve about what guys’ agendas were. But I could also be really slick and untrustworthy.”

Viewers will relate to Elliot, who suffers and is heroic both in his home life with his mother, and in his experiences dating potential boyfriends. “We’ve all loved the wrong person, or couldn’t shut up on a date or didn’t see something coming,” Terracino explained about the universality of his title character who has some heartbreaking experiences. “Those are the moments where we squirm, and those are the moments that he’s most like us.” Viewers of a certain age will also relate to the various references to TV ads and shows young Elliot quotes, such as lines from the credit sequence of Rhoda. Terracino justif ied such

bits, stating that young Elliot escaped his harsh reality as his mom did— through TV, indicating, “Gay kids intuitively ingest irony and camp.” Older Elliot also lives in a fantasy world of sorts, projecting his ideal onto various guys he meets. Terracino uses animation strikingly to show adult Elliot’s dream as magical, or pre-ordained in Elliot’s mind. These moments are endearing, and viewers will root for him at every turn—even when he makes a bad decision, or something happens that forces him to face reality. Throughout the protagonist’s trials and tribulations, Elliot Loves is an appealing serio-comedy. The film was a

labor of love for the filmmaker, who shot it on a micro-budget over weekends for over a year as he found cast members and locations. Terracino admitted he wanted to make “the most Latino film possible,” and was originally going to make two films. But he wisely decided to incorporate his ideas about family, sexuality, and masculinity into one, and emphasize the Latino ethos. Elliot Loves is a film audiences should effortlessly embrace. © 2012 Gary M. Kramer

Reinaldo Arenas Challenged Ideological Dogmatism

Inspiring LGBTQ Prof iles Kathleen Archambeau “I have always considered it despicable to grovel for your life as if life were a favor. If you cannot live the way you want, there is no point in living.” Reinaldo Arenas Cuban Writer 1943 – 1990) Like many Cubans, Reinaldo Arenas grew up in rural poverty. When Arenas was 14, he joined the Communist guerillas to fight Batista’s dictatorship. Arenas, however, was disenchanted as he witnessed executions by the rebels even before Fidel Castro’s revolutionary government came to power in 1959.

It soon became clear that the State controlled Cuban life. Criticism of Castro was forbidden. Homosexuality was punished. Gays were regularly and severely beaten. By 1963, homosexuals were sent to Units for Aid to Production labor camps. Conditions were harsh as writers, homosexuals and intellectuals were forced to work 11-12 hours a day in the hot sun harvesting sugarcane. In 1970, Arenas not only had to work in these sugar mills, but he was coerced into writing a book praising Castro’s sugar program. Some “laborers” cut off their own fingers to get some rest. Arenas found out that many of his friends had contacted the Directorate

for State Security about him. In 1973, Arenas was robbed and, subsequently, arrested for being a homosexual. He was convicted of “ideological deviation” and sentenced to eight years in jail for publishing abroad without official consent. He escaped prison and hid in Lenin Park. He furiously wrote his autobiography, Before Night Falls, during daylight. State Security, however, accused him of being a rapist and returned him to prison, confiscating his autobiography. Fellow prisoners found out he was a writer and asked him to write their love letters. When the guards found out, they confined him to solitary. There, he despaired. Then he was brought to the headquarters of State Security where, after three months of death threats and interrogation, Arenas agreed to a confession, decrying homosexuality and recanting all his work.

name to Arinas so officials would not discover who he was when he left as part of the Mariel Boatlift exodus.

to be able to continue writing and struggling for the freedom of Cuba, I am ending my life…Cuba will be free. I already am.

In three years’ exile in New York, Arenas wrote or rewrote six books and founded a literary magazine. Diagnosed with AIDS in 1987, Arenas eventually committed suicide, leaving this note:

At the time of his death, Arenas had five novels under contract. His autobiography, Before Night Falls, was published posthumously in 1993 and Julian Schnabel directed a film of the same name, starring Javier Bardem, in 2000. In 2011, the United Nations reported that homosexuality is illegal in 76 countries.

Due to my delicate state of health and to the terrible emotional depression it causes me not

In 1976, Arenas was released, but closely monitored. His manuscript, Farewell to the Sea, had been confiscated. The Communists had built walls to the sea, so only those with permits could go to the ocean beaches. Arenas pressed on, completely rewriting Farewell to the Sea. In 1979, Castro decided to issue exit permits to “undesirables” without degrees or skills. Arenas managed to get a permit under the homosexuality label, but changed his BAY   T IM ES NOVEM BER 15, 2012 13

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Tom Moon, MFT Daniel, in my office for an early evening appointment, looked out the window at the leaden sky, sighed and said, “Look how dark it’s getting already.” He and his partner had been unusually tired and sluggish lately, and had been in a funk for no particular reason. Daniel is having a harder time getting to the gym and is starting to gain weight. “It seems to happen every winter,” he told me. Daniel is hardly alone. Every year around this time, many people begin to feel these symptoms of Seasonal Affective Disorder (SAD).

SAD was first identified as a medical condition in 1984 by Dr. Norman Rosenthal. He described a syndrome that included depression, hopelessness, anxiety, loss of energy, social withdrawal, oversleeping, loss of interest in activities, appetite changesespecially a craving for foods high in carbs, weight gain, and difficulty concentrating and processing information. His research suggests that the prevalence of SAD in the adult United States population is between about 1.5 percent (in Florida) and about 9 percent (in the northern US). He believes that a milder form, called Subsyndromal Seasonal Affective Disorder, which probably better describes Daniel’s condition, is experienced by up to 14% of the population. SAD can be a serious and debilitating condition, but for most people, the down feeling can be relieved by exercise and outdoor activity, especially on sunny days, when there is increased solar exposure. Antidepressant medications are sometimes helpful. Of course, a tropical vacation can also work wonders. A less expensive, if less enjoyable, treatment is light therapy, which involves sitting near a specially designed light source for 30 to 60 minutes per day. The device is typically a small, portable box that contains

f luorescent bulbs and emits a type and intensity of light that isn’t found in normal household lighting. ( Just sitting in front of a lamp in your living room won’t relieve the symptoms.) Light therapy mimics outdoor light and theoretically causes a biochemical change in the brain that lifts the mood. Many mental health professionals consider this form of therapy to be standard treatment for SAD, but it still hasn’t been officially approved by the FDA, because the clinical trials of its effectiveness yielded mixed results. In any case, the treatment is easy to do and doesn’t seem to have harmful side-effects. Those who want to try it can easily locate light boxes for sale at various online sites, usually for under $200. But for most people, the seasonal blues don’t require treatment. As the winter solstice approaches, the darkest and coldest time of the year, the body naturally slows down, the mind becomes ref lective, and the heart turns inward. If we’re a little more melancholy in the winter, it isn’t necessary to fear or resist it. For most of us, we only need to relax and f low with this natural seasonal rhythm rather than treat it as a problem. Tom Moon is a psychotherapist in San Francisco. His website is

Creatively Speaking…

Speak Up! Speak Out! Laugh Often! Karen Williams It’s a crisp fall day and I am outside of The Healing Place sweeping leaves into the street. Cars drive by hurriedly onward, with drivers occasionally glancing at me. Some folks smile sheepishly while young children unabashedly wave. I wave back, wondering what it’s like for them to see me with my broom on the city sidewalk. Today, almost everything I do feels like a meditation. That’s what I’m doing when I’m clearing the debris from in front of my storefront… a broom sweeping meditation that makes me feel connected to all that’s going on outside in the world and inside my head and heart.

My days begin with centered chanting and mindful, focused meditation, followed by a slow flow yoga class at a local center. Then I begin my work day, channeling my creative energy into growing my small business that features yoga, dance, meditation, and Tai Chi classes, as well as massage, Reiki, ear candling and other healing arts. What a challenge not only to introduce and educate people about taking care of themselves in holistic ways, but also to manage my own fears, doubts and insecurities about managing the business of healing. Yet, I am in rhythm with my universe because, after sweeping, I returned to my desk and found this card from Louise L. Hay’s “Power Thought Cards” collection: “My unique and creative talents and abilities flow through me and are expressed in deeply satisfying ways. My creativity is always in demand.” Wow! Just in time! I needed to read this quote to validate my efforts and to keep moving forward with my dreams and ambitions. After all, my creativity led me to open The Healing Place -- a healing arts storefront in Northeast Ohio -- in the middle of a recession, with no savings...just a gut full of determination and a heart filled with

love. Now in its third year, I was praying for ways to be of service to my local community when I was approached by a member of the Obama team who’d peeked inside my store and thought that it would be perfect for the local volunteer headquarters. A few weeks ago, the place was filled with young people from various parts of the country who came to Ohio to help with the Obama campaign. The Healing Place was a staging location where volunteers picked up materials to go door-to-door to make sure that folks were registered to vote, were aware of the issues, and hopefully would re-elect Barack Obama as America’s leader. Well, imagine my sense of triumph when President Obama won this grassroots campaign! I felt a part of something so big and even though my efforts were small, they mattered. My creativity allowed me to visualize my small storefront as a headquarters for politics and peace; a channel for change, education and enlightenment; and a restorative zone for the volunteers who were delighted to be in such a warm and beautiful space.  Who knows what will sweep my way next…

(ROWSTOW continued from page 7) — NOM In Wonderland Speaking of political power, we have a lesbian Senator now. Um. We have an openly lesbian Senator. We have more gay men and women in office, including a bisexual Congresswoman from Arizona. Let’s just say that the sun is shining and the brooks are babbling and the birds are singing in the meadows. Life is good.

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I was reading about the National Organization for Marriage’s reaction to the election, with glee I might add. In addition to crowing about how gay electoral victories will help them in the fight over protected class rights, the deluded activists also blamed Romney and Rove for avoiding social issues during the campaign and focusing on economics. Really guys?

My favorite part was when they whined about their need for grassroots volunteers, It seems that very few people wanted to run around from door to door convincing voters in Maryland and Maine to oppose marriage equality. On the other hand, our side had no problem in this regard. NOM? Have you checked your demographics lately? Sure you don’t have to be under thirty in order to get out the vote or pass around leaf lets. But at this point the only age group with an anti-marriage majority is the over 70 crowd. And even the seniors are getting tired of the subject. Do you really think the old folks are likely to fill the meeting halls and assemble yard signs for your next attack on same-sex families? Oh, and guess what they said about Starbucks and other corporations

that came out in favor of marriage equality. NOM is planning on trying to sabotage Starbucks’ entry into Arabian markets by reminding all the coffee drinkers in Qatar or wherever that the company has immoral politics. I know I’ve spent most of this column on yesterday’s election news when in fact we have a whole new slate of potential marriage battles to discuss. Delaware! Illinois! New Jersey! Next year’s victories should be on our news plate, but I am too hungry for November 6 leftovers to dig in. Next time. —

Dilute Your Diligence with a Heavy Dose of Imagination ARIES (March 21 – April 19) New beginnings are brewing, and you’re struggling to wrap your mind around all this unforeseen change. Consider this your cosmic cue to delve deeper, Aries. Tune in to your intuition.

LEO (July 23 – August 22) Family matters stand at the forefront now, Leo. Hidden desires reveal themselves, instilling a more acute awareness of domestic demands. As you solve problems, be very compassionate...but keep it real.



TAURUS (April 20 – May 20) You’re reconsidering where you belong now, Taurus. Radical relationships and peculiar peer associations cause you to question social criteria. Loyalty to personal goals will help clarify where you fit in.

VIRGO (August 23 – September 22) Despite your taste for mental meticulousness, you’re likely to experience spells of uncertainty now – especially surrounding close partnerships. Ask lots of questions, Virgo. Reality is open to interpretation.

GEMINI (May 21 – June 20) Consecrate your career path with more divine inspiration, Gemini. Learn new skills and optimize occupational artistry by prioritizing initiatives that successfully spur your soul. Recognize that your service is sacred.

LIBRA (September 23 – October 22) LIBRA (September 23 – October 22) Respect your vision, Libra. Fantasies won’t become facts unless you remain true to your instincts. Unusual partners could help propel ideas into action, but only you can dictate your dreams .

Gypsy Love Since childhood, society has ingrained in us countless messages promoting practical predictability. We’re taught to look before we leap, color inside the lines, and keep our feet firmly planted in the ground. While this sage advice offers important benefits, it can also instill unnecessary fear of the unknown. Astro-vibes urge us now to dilute our diligence with a heavy dose of imagination. Dig your feet out from underground... and dance.

CANCER (June 21 – July 22) As you revamp your creative process, be willing to expand your perspective now. Higher learning comes in many forms, Cancer. New and exotic philosophies are close within reach. Think big.

SCORPIO (October 23 – November 21) There’s no need to seek greener pastures, Scorpio. You are the most interesting flower in your garden now, so focus on self-sustenance. A new layer of your identity is blooming.

SAGITTARIUS (November 22 – December 21) You’re building fresh foundations now – both spiritually and physically. Take inventory of your soulful stats, Sagittarius. Examine the past, and discard over-worn baggage that could prevent exciting rebirth.

CAPRICORN (December 22 – January 19) Brace yourself, Capricorn. You’ve entered an astral wonderland where aspirations are fueled by boundless fantasies, and your innermost wishes skyrocket into realism. Achievement hinges on one question... Do you believe? AQUARIUS (January 20 – February 18) Your value system is undergoing a reboot, Aquarius. Certain codes of conduct are no longer useful for your reputation, requiring you to scan, delete, and re-write the rules. PISCES (February 19 – March 20) This is an ideal time to ponder your beliefs and formulate more novel approaches to self-improvement. Blind faith never leads to lasting fulfillment. What motivates you, and why?

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“It was a recent Thanksgiving with friends that felt like a family.”

“My family was snowed in with the power off, and we had a fine Midwest Thanksgiving by candlelight.”

“My first Thanksgiving with my wife Judy James. She truly made me feel grateful for our love and friendship.”

“The Thanksgiving I ate almost a whole pie and got sick and spent the evening on the floor.”

“Me and my lover had just moved here and we had very little money, but it was terrific because we were in San Francisco.”

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Macy’s Tree Lighting – Union Square. Free. 6 pm. (333 Post St.) Enjoy Macy’s annual tree lighting ceremony.

Dazzle Benefit – Guerrero Gallery. $75-$5,000. 6 pm to 9 pm. (2799 18th St.) www.lyon-martin. Enjoy an evening of music and dancing, food trucks, and fabulous cocktails benefitting Lyon-Martin’s Health Services.

Sissy Strut – Underground SF. Free. 10 pm to 2 am. (424 Haight St.) A dance party playing jams from the ‘50s, ‘60s and ‘70s. Happening every fourth Friday.

Goapele – Yoshi’s Oakland. $30. 8 pm and 10 pm. (510 Embarcadero West, Oakland) Bay Area native Goapele sings her soulful and sultry hits. Through November 18.

Friday Nights at the De Young – De Young Museum. $11. 6 pm to 8:45 pm. (50 Hagiwara Tea Garden Dr.) www.deyoung.famsf. org. Enjoy the museum in a fun, festive and dynamic atmosphere with live music and cocktails.

Green and Gold Gala – Conservatory of Flowers. $95$250. 7 pm to 11 pm. (100 JFK Dr.) Enjoy drinks, food, live music and silent auctions at this annual fundraising festival in Golden Gate Park.

Hayes Valley Follies – Marlena’s. Free. 10 pm. (488 Hayes St.) New weekly show featuring some of the brightest talent in the Bay.

Some Thing - The Stud. $7. 10 pm to 2 am. (399 9th St.) www. A tribute to Nina Simone with special guest DJ Robin from Odyssey.

Beach Blanket Babylon Holiday Show – Club Fugazi. $25-$59. 6:30 pm. (678 Green St.) Packed with hilarious spoofs of pop culture and political characters, this holiday show features a chorus line of tap dancing Christmas trees and parodies of traditional Christmas carols.

Nuns Rock – The Lookout. $5 donation. 9 pm to 2 am. (3600 16th St.) A fundraising event to create a memorial for the Sisters lost in the fight against HIV/AIDS.

34th Annual Celebration of Craftwomen – Fort Mason Center. $9. 10 am to 5 pm. (Fort Mason Herbst Pavillion) Enjoy the country’s largest juried women’s crafts fair and longest running art and craft show in the country.

Dragon 2.0 – Raven. $5. 9 pm to 3 am. (1151 Folsom St.) www. A monthly dance party with drink specials and go-go dancers.

Wilson Phillips – Davies Symphony Hall. $23-$75. 8 pm. (201 Van Ness Ave.) The female vocalist trio comes to San Francisco for one night only. The Bride of Death – The Hypnodrome Theatre. $25. 8 pm. (575 10th St.) www.thrillpeddlers. com. The closing night of this mysterious tale of immortal youth set in the mid 1940’s. Directed by Russell Blackwood. Beatpig – Powerhouse. $5. 9 pm to 2 am. (1347 Folsom St.) www. A kinky party happening third Saturdays of the month.

Big 5 Year Anniversary Party – The Stud. Free. 10 pm to 2 am. (399 9th St.) www.studsf. com. “Big,” a party for big men and their admirers, turns 5 with a special anniversary celebration. Youth Panel on LGBT Equality – 518 Valencia. Free. 12 pm to 2 pm. (518 Valencia St.) Family Equality Council is holding a Youth Panel to give members of the community a chance to get an inside look into the lives of LGBT families. An Iliad – Berkeley Repertory Theatre. $14-$77. 7 pm. (2025 Addison St., Berkeley) An ancient tale comes roaring back to life in Obie Awardwinner Lisa Peterson’s visceral new version of “An Iliad.”

“Beach Blanket Babylon” kicks off the holidays with themed performances throughout the winter season.

Patchwork Indie Art & Craft Festival – Jack London Square Pavilion. Free. 11 am to 5 pm. (Jack London Square Pavilion, Oakland) Shop a variety of handmade goods from hundreds of local vendors. Karaoke Mondays – Lookout. Free. 8 pm to 1 am. (2600 16th St.) KJ Paul hosts a weekly karaoke night. The Sound of Music – Julia Morgan Theatre. $17-$35. 7 pm. (2640 College Ave., Berkeley) Berkeley Playhouse opens its fifth season with Rodgers and Hammerstein’s beloved final collaboration, “The Sound of Music.” Thru December 2. Transgender Day of Remembrance – City of Refuge. Free. 5 pm. (1025 Howard St.) Remember and honor the members of the transgendered community who we lost this year. Thanksgiving Cooking Class – Central Kitchen. $250. 6:30 pm. (3000 20th St.) Join chef Matt Sigler on this Thanksgiving inspired cooking class where participants learn everything needed to prepare the perfect holiday meal.

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Piano Bar Open Mic Night – Martuni’s. Free. 9 pm. (4 Valencia St.) Jason Brock hosts an open mic night every Tuesday.

Free Quit Smoking Class – LGBT Community Center. Free. 7 pm to 9 pm. (1800 Market St.) 1-800-662-8887. A free weekly class for LGBT and HIV positive smokers. Happening every Wednesday thru December 12. BHP: Bernal History Group – Bernal Heights Library. Free. 7 pm to 8:30 pm. (500 Cortland Ave.) Discuss and share information about the history of Bernal Heights. Keith Crossan Blues – Biscuits & Blues. $10. 8 pm. (401 Mason St.) Ronnie Smith on drums, Tony Stead on keyboards, Steve Ehrmann on bass, and Tom Poole on trumpet.

Family on Demand Thanksgiving – Lone Star Saloon. Free. 5 pm to 2 am. (1354 Harrison St.) 415-863-9999. A Thanksgiving Day event for those looking for somewhere to go, or somewhere to get away from.

Throwback Thursdays – Q Bar. Free. 9 pm to 2 am. (456 Castro St.) Playing dance and house music from the ‘80s and ‘90s with 2 for 1 drinks all night. Tubesteak Connection – Aunt Charlie’s. $4. 10 pm. (133 Turk St.) Dance the night away to great music and a fun crowd at one of the best SF dive bars in town.

Feminista Comedy Night – Rebel. $10. 8 pm. (1760 Market St.) The best female comedians in the Bay gather together for a night of hilarious comedy. Donna Sachet’s 20th Annual Songs of the Season Benefit – Hotel Nikko. $50. 7 pm. (222 Mason St.) Richard Sablatura and Donna Sachet present “Songs of the Season” benefiting the AIDS Emergency Fund. Salsa Sunday – El Rio. $8. 3 pm to 8 pm. (3158 Mission St.) www. Enjoy live music from Salsa, Merengue and Cumbia bands every 2nd and 4th Sunday.

Ten Percent with David Perry – Comcast Cable Network. Free. 11:30 am and 10:30 pm. (Comcast Cable “On Demand”) David Perry interviews David Landis, President of Landis Communications. Perry also speaks with Vance George, choral conductor for the San Francisco Symphony. Gay Bowling – Mission Bowling Club. $15. 5 pm to 8 pm. (3176 17th St.) www.missionbowlingclub. com. Mix, mingle and meet new Goapele will be at Yoshi’s Oakland on November 15. (Photo:

friends at this weekly bowling social. Full bar and restaurant inside club. Monday Night Tights Ballot Series – Mills College Art Musuem. Free. 7 pm. (500 MacArthur Blvd., Oakland) www. A free performance every Monday night.

Funny Tuesdays – Harvey’s. Free. 9 pm. (500 Castro St.) www. An LGBT comedy night hosted by comedian Ronn Vigh. The Lion King – Orpheum Theatre. $70-$420. 2 pm. (1192

Market St.) Experience Disney’s “The Lion King” brought to life in an elaborate production directed by awarding-winning director, Julie Taymor. Through January 13. Easy – The Edge SF. Free. 7 pm to 2 am. (4149 18th St.) www.edgesf. com. Enjoy $1 well drink specials and a fun-loving crowd.

Mission Bay Book Club – Mission Bay Library. Free. 6:30 pm to 7:30 pm. (960 4th St.) www.sfpl. org. A lively discussion of “Behind the Beautiful Forevers” by Katherine Boo. Mission Bay book club meets bimonthly.  The William S. Paley Collection – De Young Museum. $11. 9:30 am to 5 pm. (50 Hagiwara Tea Garden Dr.) www.deyoung. See highlights of French modernism in this exhibition of more than 60 paintings, drawings, and sculptures. Thru December 30. “An Iliad” will be at the Berkeley Repertory through November 18. (Photo: Kenvin Berne) “The Sound of Music” will be at the Julia Morgan Theatre through December 2. (Photo: Jessica Palopoli)

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District 1 was the good versus evil race of the year. Downtown David Lee ran against incumbent Eric Mar. Lee had all the money in the world and he threw it around. He also threw around character assassinations of Mar and his family, accepted money from realtors (who then ran a childmob, anti-gay smear piece) to try and get developers into the Richmond and rent control out of San Francisco. It was money well spent because Mar easily took control of the situation and handily kicked Lee’s butt! The Alice club endorsed Lee and I was pretty shocked. I mean, of all races, it was evident in District 1 who was playing honest politics and who was a puppet candidate. It was weird to see and hear venom hurled at a very even and thoughtful man. Divisive politics similar to what we saw on a national level. Thankfully they did not work in either case. District 5 was the race that absorbed most of my time. Julian Davis was our endorsement in September and then, in October, several people chimed in on the nature of his character and inappropriate behavior. He lost endorsements from all corners. Julian was very aggressive when it came to getting his endorsements and really worked to secure them. I mean he REALLY wanted to win. The accusations saw the Milk Club try and rescind the endorsement of Julian unsuccessfully with 42 no, 54 yes, and 2 abstaining votes. Julian had some help from the paring of John Rizzo and eventual winner London Breed, who joined forces to block our rescinding the endorsement. Now we have an elected supervisor who also took money from the realtors that slandered Mar. Although London has some great qualities and believes in harm reduction, I would rather have seen Olague return or had Thea Selby as victor. My buddy Tom Temprano likes Breed, especially after she dropped the F bomb a hundred times in a Guardian interview after our debate. I trust Tom and think she will make a fine Supervisor and will listen to her constituents. District 7 is not declared officially but it looks like Yee will get the popular vote and FX Crowley the ranked choice boost. We at Milk really hoped Yee would be the victor and still do. There are certainly worse choices than either and Crowley had the support of Labor and that’s always good for a campaign. Crowley does not support legalizing sex work and I doubt he will jump at the chance to create Safe Use Sites in the city, but again, there were worse choices for sure in 7.

As a state and a city, we did a great job with most propositions. We passed a new tax with Prop A and I hope we can pass more taxes that produce monies needed by citizens. We also chose to have elections every 2 years, progressively tax with gross receipts, and poured yet more money into a bloated parks budget. All in all it was a good election. The worst part was the fact that the life and times of Ross Mirkarimi tainted the vision of everything. I am a supporter of Ross and we at Milk supported his reinstatement. It was not a moral fight at the Board of Supervisors, but a legal one. The part that really stings is people like Supervisors Avalos, Olague, Campos and Kim, no matter what good deeds they do, will have some that can never forgive their vote. Avalos is the generator of local hire initiatives. Campos is making sure kids get free MUNI and all of us get health care. Kim saved us from over zealous Federal Investigators and Olague helped save the Eagle. They will all have to fight to be remembered for these amazing accomplished deeds because of a case that should never have been exploited for political gains. We must remember to look at the overall candidate and not bury our heads in one issue. I have a friend who will not vote for Campos because of some argument about bike lanes. Then there are people who didn’t want to help Mar because of his Beach Chalet vote. It is narrow thinking like this that damages city politics, and we must learn to view the whole picture, not segments. This inhouse fighting has prevented us from getting our message into the world. I encourage all of us— left, right and center—to take the community’s best interest to heart and to work for creative and better solutions. Remember, even if you don’t like an idea or business or type of person, they are still your community and not something outside that community.

COMING UP! Come to a house party benef iting QUEER LIFE SPACE. You will meet the QLS board of directors and hear the founding practitioners share their vision, goals, and needs. Four members of the now defunct New Leaf counseling team vowed to not let SF LGBTQs go without lowcost mental health / substance abuse services provided by members of our own community in the Castro. These four started modestly in the summer of 2011 gaining nearly 70 clients by the end of the year. Once QLS’s nonprofit status was approved, the true need for low-cost mental health services became clear with the number of weekly clients swelling to 160 by the summer of 2012, and over 200 today, with virtually no advertising. Asking for a $100 tax-deductible donation per person, $50 for younger community members, to support Queer Life Space’s mission and growth. Saturday, November 17 from 6 to 9pm, 372 West Portal Avenue, Apt. #1. Check out 18 BAY   TIM ES NOVEMB E R 1 5 , 2 0 1 2

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DIONNE WARWICK “Now: A Celebratory 50th Anniversary Album” Iconic Dionne brings us new versions of the hits that made her a star. It’s just like a warm sip of your favorite coffee on a cold winter’s day, smooth and oh, so reassuring. To hear “I Say a Little Prayer” and “Always Something There to Remind Me” in a new light, looking back at the last time we saw her at the pulpit during Whitney’s funeral, and knowing the music goes on make this album a must-have this holiday season Best Cut: “Don’t Make Me Over” Location: Limo to Napa, Sunday Morning

JASON WALKER “Leave It All Behind” Inspiration has its best moments on this release and the single “I Am Changing” puts Jason on the slate for best inspirational release for this year’s OutMusic Awards. When he cuts into that octave rise in the second verse, we are already on our knees (in many ways, boys). So get some spirit in the beast, turn to the piano and say Halleluiah, there is a gay god and it is Jason Walker. Best Cut: “I Am Changing” Location: Glide Memorial Sunday morning

We should be especially aware with the gay vote. Remember how voting was used against us? Those memories should serve to encourage us to use our vote for a better future for all environs of San Francisco. Maybe then we can have some f^$#ing benches in Harvey Milk Plaza and a few nudies for local color instead of demanding retribution and punishment. Glendon “Anna Conda” Hyde is President of the Harvey Milk LGBT Democratic Club.

(SISTER DANA continued from page 8) Sandy Dennis. The bizarre movie’s theme is basically: horniness can drive you crazy.  


Don’t miss IN V ENTORY FOR STAINED GLASS PORNOGRAPHY, an exhibition currently on the walls at Magnet, 18th and Castro Streets, by princeHerman aka Ronald H. Symansky. His concept in the simplest terms is to marry the contradictions of fine art, pornography (explicit sexual representations), and stained glass craft. His process starts with live models or real life scenes experienced. Each piece focuses on a sexual activity, unlike much erotic art that centers on the figures involved. The original images are then processed and manipulated into something that can be created using traditional Tiffany method stained glass techniques. Image development routinely takes several months, and actual construction usually takes several more. Titillating titles include “Cruising in a Sling,” “Watersports Kiss,” “Rimming,” “Take Off Your Clothes,” and “Threeway BJ with Two Interchangeable Boy Parts,” which is a moveable sculpture of three parts that can come together or remain apart. Sister Dana wants Arch-bigot Cordileone to shut his trap and stop having sour grapes over our many same-sex marriage victories throughout Gaymerica!

VICCI MARTINEZ “Vicci” Nominated for this year’s OutMusic Okay so sometimes I do watch The Voice and this first full-length release from one of the “losers” is a winner on all four cylinders. Can’t beat the Cee Lo Green duet that opens this one. I’m thinking the LGBT community has found a true lesbian pop star that doesn’t have to have the “L” emblazoned on her chest. Ah, the new world is here. Best Cut: “Come Along” Location: Dinah, by the poolside

ANTIGONE RISING “23 Red (23 Red)” Did the Go Go’s merge with Fleetwood Mac somewhere? This is under the rock category, but I’m not feeling the rock part at all. This is highly polished and produced, major label-sounding pop country that says, “Golly gee, we want to have a hit like Taylor Swift.” One spin and then it’s gone from the playlist, save for the local Starbucks. Best Cut: “Gracefully” Location: Next Grey’s Anatomy soundtrack – K Cole has been reviewing music for major publications since it came via snail mail on cassettes. Submissions to Pop Rox by local LGBT artists encouraged. Join on Francisco or send it in to: K Cole,

Round About in Photos

Erika O’Conner, Maggie Dolan and Gina Gatta at the Damron booth, G/L World Travel Expo (Photo by Rink) Promoter Marc Huestis at the Castro Theater with Matthew Martin in character as Mama Rose (Photo by Steven Underhill)

John Bronson and Steve Shjadi at the Kimpton Hotels booth, G/L World Travel Expo (Photo by Rink)

Artist Ronald Herman Symansky at the opening of his stained glass art show at Magnet (Photo by Rink)

Grand Duke Moses Garcia and Grand Duchess Paloma Volare at the Day of the Dead Grand Ducal Investure (Photo by Rink)

Office manager Alec Bush and greeter Lucy Wood with the popular photo props at Featured star Tommy Tune welcomes Carol Channing and Faith Prince Democratic Party Headquarters in the old Tower Records site in the Castro at the Fairmont’s Venetian Room. (Photo by Steven Underhill) (Photo by Rink)

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