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page 53 TRAVEL: Part 2 of the Jewish Girona story.

page 37 FEATURE: Tikkun Olam awards three San Diego teens.

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page 40 HIGH HOLIDAYS: A Rosh Hashanah projection for 2019. page 67 THEATER: The world premiere of "THE COAST STARLIGHTâ&#x20AC;? at the La Jolla Playhouse.

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page 31 HIGH HOLIDAYS LISTINGS MONTHLY COLUMNS

12 From the Editor 22 Personal

Development and Judaism 24 Israeli Lifestyle 26 Examined Life 28 Religion AROUND TOWN

19 Our Town 86 What's Goin On IN EVERY ISSUE

16 What’s Up Online 83 Food 85 Diversions

88 News 90 Advice ALSO IN THIS ISSUE 50 FEATURE: Answer the Call: The JCC Maccabi Games Are Coming Back to San Diego 57 HIGH HOLIDAYS: When We Come Back Home, What is Waiting for Us? 61 FEATURE: Art San Diego Marks Debut at the San Diego Convention Center 65 OP ED: The Prevalence of Alcoholism in the Jewish Community 77 HIGH HOLIDAYS: Mistakes and Apologies 83 FOOD: More Ways to Use Your Rosh Hashanah Honey Elul 5779 • Tishrei 5780 SDJewishJournal.com 9

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Coming Back To Ourselves

anuary never made sense as the start of a new year to me. Growing up in Michigan, January was the dead middle of the winter and usually the coldest month. The thought of doing “New Years Resolution” activities like dragging yourself and your snow-crusted car to a new gym in the dark January evenings seemed like piling struggle on top of struggle. Fall on the other hand, that makes more sense to me. This positions summer as the finale to the year instead of the middle and that feels reasonable. In this issue, Rabbi Rupp’s article on Yom Kippur says repentance is when “we have the opportunity to come back to ourselves.” This concept I always found missing on gentile New Years. The idea of a fresh start or a clean slate is present, but without the concept of the work of cleaning it or the nuanced reflection of owning the good and the bad to arrive at this state of refreshment. The idea is presented as if our selves are dictated by the passage of time marching predictably on and when it happens to reach that turn over, we thank it for its trouble. I should say that I always wanted to like gentile New Years. I like the aesthetic with the silver or gold colors invoking “the future” and “glamour”. I like that it is a holiday without much of a set script or obligation. And as a person prone to introspection, being able to talk openly about goals and aspirations was appealing. Watch-

ing a parade of inebriated celebrities drone on to Ryan Seacrest can be at times morbidly entertaining, but the whole spectacle is quite repetitive and hollow year after year. Listening to friends give the same resolutions, the same things they want to add or subtract from their life, year after year, also seemed hollow. It is like a friend who confides in you the same red flags about their significant other without the self awareness to move forward at all. I always want to support people’s improvement, but perhaps I’m too judgemental to give a clean slate to others for free as well. I think it really is missing that sense of true reflection and really taking stock of oneself: repentance. We have to honor our misgivings before we can expect to be cleansed of them. And that nuance would add so much to one of the few holidays in mainstream culture that emphasizes self-improvement. The idea of coming back to ourselves has really stuck with me and I think I’m in agreement that our core essence is always inside ourselves and indestructible. I’m certainly not a paradigm of self compassion, but whenever I’ve found myself feeling “more like myself ” or a return to my more natural inclinations, that has always come with a sense of joy. The layers of familiarity turning to snap into place, the click of recognition and completeness brings a rush of satisfaction: Oh right, this is what it is like. It has all the comfiness and purity of coming home.

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In this issue, Rabbi Rupp’s article on Yom Kippur says repentance is when “we have the opportunity to come back to ourselves.” This concept I always found missing on gentile New Years. The idea of a fresh start or a clean slate is present, but without the concept of the work of cleaning it or the nuanced reflection of owning the good and the bad to arrive at this state of refreshment.

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Because I Grieve For Them Today I learned I had brothers and sisters in El Paso and Dayton, Because I Grieve for Them. In twenty-six moments my life has changed, Because I Grieve for Them.

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My heart stopped when the bullets cut into them, Because I Grieve for Them. Loving wives, sisters, daughters, husbands, brothers and sons are relatives, Because I Grieve for Them.

I want to stop the life robbing deaths, Because I Grieve for Them. I want to shut off the TV, but the room feels empty without the comforting voices, Because I Grieve for Them. I want to be strong, but I cannot hold back the tears, Because I Grieve for Them. All of you who grieve have my love and support, Because I Grieve for Them.

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Immigration to Israel up by nearly 30% thanks to Russian speakers Immigration by Jews and their relatives to Israel rose by nearly 30 percent in the first half of 2019 over the corresponding period last year. The 29 percent jump to 16,005 arrivals owed largely to movement by Russian speakers from countries facing financial problems, nationalism and crackdowns on civil liberties.

London Mayor Sadiq Khan supports plan to build Holocaust memorial near Parliament London Mayor Sadiq Khan called on a local council to approve plans to build a Holocaust memorial next to Parliament. Khan said in a letter to the Westminster City Council in Greater London that building the Holocaust memorial and museum in Victoria Tower Gardens would “make a powerful national statement,” Jewish News reported. The plan has been panned by UNESCO, Historic England and The Royal Parks, according to the Evening Standard. The gardens are a UNESCO heritage site and officials say the building could obstruct the view from the gardens. Opponents have called for the Holocaust memorial to be located in a more appropriate location. The Imperial War Museum is located about a mile from Parliament in London, for example. “I have previously expressed my fear however that these plans would be rejected,” Khan wrote. “I therefore urge Westminster City Council not to reject these plans and instead enable this hugely important national Memorial to take its rightful place in the heart of the capital and close to the seat of national government.” An internal letter leaked last week indicates that the council is “heading towards” recommending the rejection of the planning application, according to reports.

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Immigrants from countries that were part of the former Soviet Union or were under its influence that have not yet joined the European Union accounted for two thirds of the 12,366 immigrants in the first half of 2018. They comprised 74 percent of the figures for this year. The vast majority of Russian-speaking immigrants came from Russia, where aliyah rose by 72 percent to 7,884 arrivals this year, and Ukraine, which saw a 9 percent rise to 3,007 immigrants. Aliyah from the United States remained without major changes with 910 arrivals in the first half of 2018 and 843 in the months January to June of 2019. French aliyah dropped by 21 percent, to 795 arrivals.

For a professional athlete, Kevin Pillar is disarmingly open

Pillar, one of about a dozen Jewish players in the major leagues, spoke to the J. weekly from the San Francisco Giants clubhouse recently amid the team’s seven-game winning streak, just hours before a game against the New York Mets. Half-dressed, in compression shorts, a Superman T-shirt and horn-rimmed glasses, the Giants’ starting center fielder talked candidly about his move to a new city (and a new country) in April and his embrace of being identified in a select group fairly considered heroes to a segment of American Jews: Jewish major leaguers. “I try to take that responsibility for letting people know that there are people like myself, like [All-Star shortstop Alex] Bregman, like [veteran infielder and World Series winner] Ian Kinsler, that come from a Jewish background and have been able to be successful major leaguers,” he said. Drafted by the Toronto Blue Jays in 2011, Pillar spent all or parts of six seasons with the team, where he formed close relationships with teammates, coaches and other members of the organization. He was embraced by the local Jewish community (“They make sure I have somewhere to go for the holidays,” he told the Philadelphia Jewish Exponent in 2016). Continue reading at sdjewishjournal.com.

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Annual Luncheon at the San Diego Zoo. It was a pleasant event where Israel and San Diego Youth Exchange participants were able to meet and enjoy some time together. The program featured speaker presentations, and lovely music provided by Zeji Ozeri and Daniel Feldman. Some of those seen were Ellen & Judith Barnett, Todd Bloom, Zachary Bunshaft, Nellie & Paul Dean, Lilah DeJong (4 yrs), Elaine Dexter, Rabbi Eli Fratkin, Doreen Friedman, Lou Galper, Shor Harrison, Edie Passov, Barbara Hoffer and Leonard Hirsch, Becky Krinsky, Rabbi Moshe Levin (in from SF), Linda Luttbeg, Doug Myers (retiring head of the SD Zoo), Pamela Nathan, Marcos Ovadia, Charlotte Rand, Ellen Rofman, and Mauricio Schwartzman with Oliver (6).

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As part of The SD Center for Jewish Culture’s Arts & Ideas Series, we went to two very inter-

esting events recently. Daniel Silva's "The New Girl: A Novel," where the author was interviewed by his wife,

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Jerusalem Zoo Group.

Helena Galper, Zack Bunshaft-Community Representative for Congresswomen Susan A. Davis.

Jamie Gangal. And making their SD debut, the Emmet Cohen Trio. Some of those we ran into were Marc & Izzy Leverant, Harris Steinberg, Judy Faitek, Wayne Levin, Luanne Gross, Jordan & Masha Block, Fred & Shari Schenk, Steve & Janice Boner, Todd Kobernick, Stan Pappelbaum, Paul Arenson, Norman and Lynne Lurie, Mike Melman, Larry and Donna Dawson.

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PERSONAL DEVELOPMENT AND JUDAISM

THIS WAY TO EDEN by Rachel Eden rachel.s.eden@gmail.com

Our Minds, Our Creators

ou’re driving drunk,’’ the police officer said to my parents. As a child, the only alcohol in my house was a dusty bottle of Manischewitz wine and in later years (thanks to the influence of my husband), the odd bottle of rum or gin. My parents agreed with the officer. “Yes, and...?”, they replied. The officer’s tone grew more exasperated, “And this isn’t your first time,” he said. My parents needed to think fast. They weren’t dreaming (or having a nightmare). They were participating in an improvisational comedy exercise. In improvisation, there is a basic “Yes, and…” principle. The participant must essentially accept what his fellow participant says and then elaborate on that line of thinking. The premise is built around the constant acceptance of a new reality. My parents are in the perfect stage of life for “Yes, and…” living. The “Yes, and…” lifestyle is a constant feeling of calm and openness to accept our reality while contributing to it appropriately. While the phrase ‘youth is wasted on the young’ is popular, I can’t help but wonder if the golden years are wasted on the, er, mature. Most of my peers and I find ourselves navigating through robust jobs, growing families, and general ‘adulting’ life responsibilities. These responsibilities demand our calm focus, but juggling a hectic schedule and conflicting obligations often breeds stress. Being receptive to life with a “Yes, and…” mentality is tempting, however a life of “No, thank you…” is often more realistic. I used to clutch to an idealized image of the mikvah ritual–one where I would feel entirely serene and elevated. Each month, according to a married woman’s individual cycle, she is to immerse in a natural pool 22 SDJewishJournal.com | September 2019

The “Yes, and…” lifestyle is a constant feeling of calm and openness to accept our reality while contributing to it appropriately. of water. This immersion transitions her from one spiritual state to another. Traditionally, women prepare for this practice by taking a long bath accompanied by combing out hair, trimming nails, and removing all debris from the body. This preparation combined with a spa-like mikvah setting conjured up images of deep relaxation. Imagine my surprise when I found myself, a newlywed, frantically driving around an unfamiliar city searching for a mikvah as my appointment time crept closer and closer. By the time I finally arrived, I hurried in and felt stressed from beginning to end. So much for my serene, spiritual experience. We all have instinctive thoughts to outside stressors. Someone cuts you off while driving, and in the blink of an eye, you’re annoyed. The grocery store line can be a source of frustration while we wait for a customer to finish arguing about the price of nectarines (I’ll pay! Just leave!). A deadline or government form or visit from an inlaw (hypothetically) all might send us over the edge. These moments are tailored for “Yes, and…” responses. But how? I never

found gratitude journals or yoga to be effective in the moment. Rather, being aware of my thoughts and their power over me (a skill that requires practice) was the essential step in my quest for a life with less stress. A philosophical line most college undergrads contend with is ‘cogito, ergo sum’, as Descartes famously writes, ‘I think, therefore I am.’ We are created in the image of G-d and therefore we are all creators. Our thoughts create our interpretation of life, our reality. In a positive, relaxed setting, our thoughts naturally reflect our environment. In a chaotic, upsetting atmosphere, our thoughts become entangled with our stressors and we become reactionary. The most effective way to feel genuinely relaxed is by letting our thoughts settle and seeing them simply as our own separate creation. If I’m late for my mikvah appointment, I don’t need to rob myself of a spiritual experience. Our thoughts can weave a negative or positive outlook and the sooner we see ourselves as their creators, the sooner we can revise the script. Imagine a snow globe that’s just been shaken. With so much snow whirling around, it’s impossible to see clearly. We have to allow our thoughts to settle so we can live with clarity and focus. Then, even if a police officer is questioning us about our repeated drunk driving, we can respond productively and feel at peace. Our minds, like G-d, are our creators. Writer’s Note: This idea was first introduced to me by way of Innate Health and its Three Principles. For further reading on Innate Health with a Jewish lens, I recommend "Ride the Wave," by Aviva Barnett and "Exquisite Mind," by Terry Rubenstein. A

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Resolution & Resolve

hile much of Israel has become, in recent decades, nearly indistinguishable from other First World countries, there are still reminders that we live in both the Middle East and the only Jewish country on the planet. The weather is the first obvious, lazy indication; skiing is still not a popular local sport and our beach season stretches from April until mid-October. Clean T-shirts and sandals are acceptable wedding-guest attire and elementary-through high school teachers are called by their first names. Nevertheless, our highways are lined and smooth, malls are sophisticated and stocked with fashions and accessories that are the envy of discriminating shoppers and we are plagued with the same ills that challenge start-up nations across the globe. Disrespect, disillusionment and dysmorphia are only a few concerns that Israeli parents deal with day-in-and-day-out. And yet, when restaurants and entertainment venues are closed in respect to religious fast days, even the most secular child knows that it is Yom Kippur or Tisha B’Av. Cable television might keep to its regular schedule, but finding a bagel during the eight days of Passover takes ingenuity. And although Winter Solstice and Sylvester celebrations 24 SDJewishJournal.com | September 2019

are held in specific areas of the country such as Bat Yam, Tel Aviv and Haifa, Chabad has cornered the market of street-corner illumination, lighting every corner of the land with twelve-foot menorahs that can be viewed from balconies and wadis alike. The land of the Jews is, like the Jews who inhabit her, stubborn, shrewd, unpredictable and alive with improbable hope and drive. I have always held that the brilliantly constructed Jewish calendar serves as an antidote to the ‘spiritually-feral’ places we might go were we not refined by restrictions and requirements which serve as holy pit stops along the year’s racecourse. Suddenly mindful of the ‘leavening’ of our egos, on Passover we embrace the same humility that keeps matzoh flat and bland. Sukkot reminds us of our fragile existence, our homes and possessions mere trappings that might, when elevated to unholy importance, blind us to G-d’s sovereignty. Shavuot is about renewal and unity, a ‘second marriage’ to the source of our existence, the eternal Torah. The High Holy Days are more–much more–than new clothing, traditional foods and harbingers of chilly weather ahead. Taking stock of one’s life, relationships, dreams and regrets, offers Divinely ordained oppor-

tunities to reconnect with our Creator as a loving parent to his child. Just as a child occasionally errs but wants/needs to be accepted in the embrace of a parent, we are again rewarded with this annual opportunity to fall into His arms with the expectation that we will find our place in His orbit. Jewish doctrine stands opposed to the concept of ‘Original Sin.’ The Sages teach that a baby is born in holiness, regardless of circumstances, a tiny embodiment of unlimited good and potential. G-d’s ‘expectation’, in human terms, is that we can–and will–do better. Created in His image, we are inherently kind and this is why, standing at the cusp of Rosh Hashanah, we embrace this second (third, fourth and fifth?) chance. Circumspect and awesome, we endeavor to appear worthy and grateful, hopeful and resolved. To do better, strive further, spread light, love and kindness. Rosh Hashanah and company is not about political correctness, one-upmanship and checking for parity. This intensely personal milestone called Yomim Noraim, Days of Awe, are best not squandered. Because I, my children, neighbors and those I haven’t yet met are counting on you. And me. And most important, on us. Shanah Tovah u’metukah! A

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EXAMINED LIFE

OUR EMOTIONAL FOOTPRINT by Saul Levine, M.D., Professor Emeritus in Psychiatry at UCSD slevine@ucsd.edu

My Brother Stevie: Lessons Learned from a Life in Autism

tevie was born just as I was turning 13, having my Bar Mitzvah, and thereby “becoming a man.” He “arrived” on this earth as a beautiful infant with bright red hair (like his siblings), and an innocent sweetness about him. I know this sounds ridiculous, as one could say that about most infants, but it may have had a special meaning for us. I say this because within a few short weeks of life, his beauty and sweetness began to be overshadowed by what seemed to us to be an uncomfortable struggle within himself even when lying in his crib. We expressed these concerns to our pediatrician, but he said this was due to his “eye problems.” Stevie did have some nystagmus (‘cross-eyes’) and he stared blankly, not responding to faces/people or toys/objects situated right in front of him. We were referred to an ophthalmologist who reassured my mother (and me, see below) by saying that “Stevie will be fine” after corrective surgery, to be performed in a few months. That surgery did correct the nystagmus, and corrective lenses lessened his vision problems, but they persisted throughout his life. The basic issues, however, weren’t “eye problems.” We were more concerned that he didn’t “mold” his body or “nestle in” when he was being held by any of us. He appeared to “resist” being closely cuddled. Feeding him was also frequently a challenge, as milk and infant food were spat out, and he seemed unhappy and would cry. “He’s just colicky. Wait, you’ll see,” we were told. We waited, and didn’t see... When a few of his early developmental milestones (like turning over, sitting up, in26 SDJewishJournal.com | September 2019

Feeding him was also frequently a challenge, as milk and infant food were spat out, and he seemed unhappy and would cry. “He’s just colicky. Wait, you’ll see,” we were told. We waited, and didn’t see... When a few of his early developmental milestones (like turning over, sitting up, interacting) were delayed we again expressed concerns, another physician told us, “He’ll grow out of this phase.” He didn’t... teracting) were delayed we again expressed concerns, another physician told us, “He’ll grow out of this phase.” He didn’t... In addition to the challenges with Stevie, there were resultant problems at home. My mother was experiencing a significant postpartum depression during the first few months of Stevie’s life, and my immigrant father from a shtetl (village) in Lithuania, was working two upholstery jobs to barely make ends meet. He was emotionally stunned by his wife’s depression and his infant son’s unexpected severe challenges. I remember him exclaiming, “This was supposed to be a happy time for us!” So it fell to me at 14 or so to accompany my mother to doctors and clinics to ascer-

tain just what was going on with Stevie. He wasn’t progressing in his use of language, coordination and other skills, and he displayed behavioral rituals and automatic repetitive movements like rocking and hand flapping. The professionals were empathic, well-meaning and clearly baffled, and our family felt powerless and isolated. The mysterious ailment took multiple visits and years to be elucidated. The diagnosis was finally presented to us quite formally, I recall, in a classroom by an eminent child psychiatrist who was surrounded by a group of colleagues and students. He told us that Stevie had “a significant degree of mental retardation” (the old term), but more importantly, he said, he was suffering from “early infantile autism.” This particular diagnosis had just recently been delineated and named by Dr. Leo Kanner at Johns Hopkins University. It came with an unfortunately assumed cause attributed to “unfeeling” (“refrigerator”) mothers, a long-since disproven theory. As you might expect, the “accused” mothers, already feeling guilt-ridden at that time, were shattered, Stevie’s included. Stevie remained at home while attending some make-shift classes at the Children’s Hospital, and was given mild tranquilizers. For a few years he was mild tempered and comfortable, but although his early behavioral difficulties had subsided, he was falling further behind cognitively, physically and emotionally. As he neared the age of puberty, however, he became increasingly hard to manage. His rising testosterone levels made him frustrated and confused, which contributed to tantrums and even self-destructive behaviors, like head-banging, slapping and biting

himself. He was then admitted to a residential group home, which raised our hopes for his progress, but in truth it also provided a much-needed respite for my mother (especially) and the family at home. Stevie remained in the group home for two years, but as there was no real clinical or educational program there, there was also no significant progress in Stevie’s condition. For a significant period of time these pressures impinging on the family took a toll on my parents’ moods and relationship, and the tension and melancholy were palpable at home. Interestingly, my mother had become a strong and articulate spokesperson on behalf of other overwhelmed parents of similarly afflicted children. In trying to improve understanding of the disorder, she pushed for services and research for this population and organized other parents in similar circumstances. She became a successful activist who was instrumental in getting a dedicated agency established, and she mobilized doctors and donors to contribute services and funds for research efforts. Ironically, in this time of tribulation and ferment, she felt more motivated, energized and fulfilled in her own life. My father felt bewildered and saddened during Stevie’s first couple of years, a far cry from his previous warm and loving nature. Gradually, however, he regained his emotional footing and joie de vivre. Stevie was transferred to a regional hospital which was run by a Catholic religious order of nuns, in partnership with a medical

school investigative unit, where he remained for about a decade. He actually made some cognitive and behavioral progress there, he worked in the vegetable gardens, ran an elevator and helped in the kitchen. He became a favorite of the medical and nursing staff, especially by many of the nuns who worked there. This was followed by two long stays in a couple of progressive community-based group homes for adults in the community. In both of these residences, we were impressed by the warmth and generosity of the staff who seemed to be genuinely drawn to this “man-child.” Stevie “evolved” as an adult to that beloved sweet boy he was as a young child. He was still limited cognitively and socially, and still ritualistic, but he was warm and kind, and most important, seemed to be happy. Stevie passed away three years ago at the age of 65. When he died, the physicians were hard pressed to come up with a definitive diagnosis as causing his death. “His heart just gave out,” is what the family doctor attending to the group home said. Attending his moving funeral were friends and family members, of course, and there were also many caretakers and attendants, nuns and medical/nursing staff members, and others from his various institutional residences. What are some salient lessons I learned from the life of Stevie? It was largely because of my experiences with Stevie that I became a psychiatrist with special training in Child and Adolescent Psychiatry. Similarly, my sister became a

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master teacher-counsellor for children with special needs. With all his limitations and challenges, Stevie was appreciated as a worthy being, loved by many people in his family and by the staff members in every therapeutic setting he spent time in throughout his life. The diagnosis has now evolved to be a variant of “Autistic Spectrum Disorder,” with many research efforts around the world attempting to elucidate the underlying causes, as well as effective therapeutic and educational approaches for this enigmatic condition. We still have a long way to go, but there is now a groundswell of commitment to studies and services for the children and their families. Parents of these children still feel frightened and powerless, sometimes overwhelmed by the absence of “answers” to tough questions having to do with the causes, effective interventions and prognosis for their children. When Stevie was young, there were virtually no supportive services for the parents and family members of the children with this disorder. The situation is somewhat better today, especially insofar as the need is recognized, but parents of these children still often feel bereft and alone. Parental activism can serve as a meaningful source of gratification and fulfillment. Not only is it rewarding to the individual, but having like-minded peers, people facing the same obstacles and fears, is communally comforting and personally enhancing. My own life was profoundly enriched and ennobled by Stevie. A

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Just Stop Apologizing

fter all, as the idiom goes, it’s easier to ask for forgiveness than to ask for permission. But who likes to be the recipient of an apology when whatever action done was clearly willful? Now of course, we make mistakes. But how rarely are our mistakes really mistakes? Screaming at your spouse/children (not that anyone does that) isn’t a mistake. Wasting someone’s time or stealing intellectual property? Not a mistake. Not remembering an anniversary or taking the time to listen to someone when they need to talk? Also—if I could be so bold to suggest, isn’t a mistake. It’s easy to excuse our behavior by attributing it to acting by rote or the fact that so much of our lives are on autopilot. In this regard, that’s also a choice. Someone not being a priority isn’t bad or good, it’s just a decision we make. There’s no harm or shame in being focused on what you want, but it is shameful to think you don’t need to make such decisions simply because you can do what you want and afterwards just say you’re sorry. It is certainly easier for us to tell someone “Sorry I missed your birthday,” than the more honest, “I didn’t think it was important enough to notice.” It may even be kinder (perhaps) to the person to deceive them into thinking that they really are that important to you and they are just the unfortunate recipient of an oversight. Yet it is deeply damaging to us to think that we can be flippant and it doesn’t matter what we do because we have the catch-all to save us from all wrong decisions. Saying sorry these days is cheap–like

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credit. When a person buys on credit, they hardly consider the cost because it is a lot easier to swipe a card, get the goods, and then worry about your debt at some future date. (If a person would consider how many hours they’d have to work to procure said good or service, instead of just swipe a card, I wonder how many Americans would be in credit card debt, and how many businesses that take advantage of our short sightedness would still be in business.) Instead, if we dispense with saying we are sorry, we are forced to actually figure out what we want to do with our time, to act with more intention, and to ponder how our behavior affects people. Imagine if you could never say you were sorry to your spouse. You couldn’t fall back on “well, sorry, I was tired,” or “I had a bad day at work.” You’d have to sit with the reality that you yelled at someone you loved. You’d have to think about how painful it is when your loved ones trample on your feelings. And with that in mind, maybe we’d think more before we act. Once we set up patterns in our lives, it’s really hard to change. The more we say we are sorry, the less we have to consider changing. The more comfortable we get with giving ourselves an out to our behavior, the more we take it. The rabbis teach a profound insight about marriage that is relevant. In Jewish law, a besieging army is obligated to allow their enemy an escape route. How do you win wars in such a fashion? The Torah tells us that when given the option to fight to the death or escape, people will escape and loss

Instead, if we dispense with saying we are sorry, we are forced to actually figure out what we want to do with our time, to act with more intention, and to ponder how our behavior affects people. of life will be averted. As such, married couples are not advised to provide escape routes in their marriage as it is always easier to allow our eyes or attention to wander than it is to double down and face the issues that inevitably arise. Saying sorry is for most such an escape option. “Oops sorry!” means I won’t have to think about why what you said elicited such a violent reaction from me. To give credit where credit is due, I learned this concept from my wife, who would consistently refrain “don’t say sorry when you don’t mean it!” to me as soon as I would attempt my typical tactics to depressurize a relationship. Sometimes pressure in a relationship is good. Sometimes pressure in our lives is good. It forces us to be cognizant of our choices and own our actions. And if we can distance ourselves from the easy route of saying sorry, we can trend towards the more honest and direct approach called the truth.A

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Chabad of Chula Vista Otay Ranch Chula Vista, CA 91913 jewishchulavista.com (619) 836-0770 Rosh Hashanah Sept. 29: 6 p.m. Evening Services 6:30 p.m. Community Dinner by R.S.V.P. Sept. 30: 10 a.m. Morning Services 10:30 a.m. Children's Program 11:30 a.m. Shofar Blowing Followed by Kiddush Lunch 4:30 p.m. Tashlich @ Eastlake Village Walk Oct. 1: 10 a.m. Morning Services 10:30 a.m. Children's Program 11:30 p.m. Shofar Blowing Followed by Kiddush Lunch Yom Kippur Oct. 8: 6 p.m. Kol Nidre Services 10 a.m. Morning Services 11 a.m. Children's Program 12 p.m. Yizkor Memorial Service 4:30 p.m. Mincha Afternoon Services 5:45 p.m. Neilah Services 7 p.m. Shofar Blowing/Fast Ends Followed by Break the Fast Buffet *Yom Kippur Services will take place at the Ayres Chula Vista Hotel. R.S.V.P. at JewishChulaVista.com/HighHolidays Chabad of Coronado 1300 Orange Ave., #120-130 Coronado, CA 92118 elisd619@yahoo.com chabadcoronado.com (619) 365-4728 Rosh Hashanah Sept. 29: 6:30 p.m. Evening Services 7:30 p.m. Community Dinner Sept. 30: 10 a.m. Morning Services and Children’s Room 11:30 a.m. Shofar Blowing 1:30 p.m. Community Lunch and Sweet Room 4:30 p.m. Tashlich on the beach between the Hotel Del Coronado and Coronado shores and Kids Xtreme fun at the beach 6:30 p.m. Evening Services 7:30 p.m. Community Dinner Oct 1: 10 a.m. Morning Services and Children’s Room

11:30 a.m. Shofar Blowing 5 p.m. Adult Education 6:30 p.m. Evening Services/Havdalah Yom Kippur Oct. 8: 6:30 p.m. Kol Nidre Oct. 9: 10 a.m. Morning Service and Children’s Room 12 p.m. Yizkor Memorial Service 5 p.m. Ask the Rabbi 5:30 p.m. Mincha Service 6 p.m. Neilah Service 7 p.m. Break the fast Buffet *All Services will take place at Hotel Del Coronado, the Del Coronado Lawn and Del Coronado Shores Chabad of Downtown 419 G St. San Diego, CA 92101 info@chabaddowntown.com chabaddowntown.com (619) 289-8770 *Service information was not available by press time. Chabad of East County 7290 Navajo Rd. Suite #207 San Diego, CA 92119 rabbi@jewishec.com jewishec.com (619) 387-8770 All are welcome! No cost to attend. R.S.V.P. suggested at above contact info.

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There are so many reasons to visit us throughout the next several weeks. Visit our website or call our office for more details and, when required, reservations. Here are some highlights: Abraham and Anne Ratner Artists-in-Residence September 19th - 22nd

Creativity and entertainment, through visual and performing arts, with events for all ages to enjoy Our featured artists: •Barry Magen, representing Rosenstein Arts, will share Mordechai Rosenstein’s art and facilitate several events. •The Bible Players! Aaron Friedman and Andrew Davies are a comedy duo sweeping the nation and receiving rave reviews for their talent infusing Jewish values through their unique shows.

Selichot

Saturday, September 21st, 8:00 p.m.

This evening for adults will feature The History of Creating Jewish Art. Through a multi-media tour, we’ll explore Rosenstein pieces created for organizations, celebrities, and more. There is no charge but do RSVP by September 16th.

High Holy Days Family Fun

A wide variety of exciting programs for children and teens will be available. We’ll have engaging, entertaining, and meaningful programming for children and teens on Rosh Hashana and Yom Kippur. In addition, we have terrific family programs including:

This Rosh Hashana family-friendly event will be casual, brief, and open to all! Share music, stories and, of course, birthday cake! Who doesn’t love a birthday party?

The Bible Players After Dark: A Comedy Show That’s Rated Resh

The comedy duo will take to the stage with a show designed for a mature audience. After all, everyone could use a laugh! The evening will conclude with a Selichot service. There is no charge but do RSVP by September 16th.

Come and enjoy stories with Rabbi Josh, singing with Cantor Hanan, and the company of friends. This will be relaxed, casual, and a wonderful time…especially for children. Pack a snack or picnic. If you’re joining us for Tashlich (beginning at 5:00 p.m.), be sure to bring bread, or other more environmentally friendly items such as bird seed.

Our Location:

From Lake Murray Boulevard turn north on Kiowa Drive and continue to the gate. Look for us on the lawn next to the water.

May the one who makes peace in the heavens cause peace to descend on us, all of Israel, and all people everywhere. On behalf of the Tifereth Israel Family, Shana Tova! Our High Holy Day services will be led by Rabbi Joshua Dorsch and Cantor Hanan Leberman. Our leadership, staff, and members welcome you to join us. Please contact our office in advance if you would like to share the High Holy Days with us. Elul 5779 • Tishrei 5780 SDJewishJournal.com 33

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Rosh Hashanah Sept. 29: 6 p.m. Services 7 p.m. Community Dinner Sept. 30: 10 a.m. Services 11:15 a.m. and 4 p.m. Shofar Blowings Oct. 1: 10 a.m. Services 11:15 a.m. Shofar Blowing Yom Kippur Oct. 8: 6 p.m. Kol Nidre Oct. 9: 10 a.m. Morning Services 12 p.m. Yizkor 5:15 p.m. Afternoon and Neila Chabad at La Costa 1980 La Costa Ave. Carlsbad, CA 92009 chabadatlacosta.com (760) 943-8891 Rosh Hashanah Sept. 29: 6 p.m. Candle Lighting Ceremony 6:10 p.m. Evening Services Community Meal following Services Sept. 30: 9 a.m. Morning Services 11 a.m. Shofar Sounding Kiddush Luncheon following Services 6 p.m. Tashlich Service 7 p.m. Evening Services 7:15 p.m. Candle Lighting Service Community Meal following Services Oct 1: 9 a.m. Morning Services 11 a.m. Shofar Sounding Kiddush Luncheon following Services Yom Kippur Oct. 8: 8 a.m. Morning Services 4:30 p.m. Afternoon Services 5 p.m. Pre-Fast Community Meal 6 p.m. Candle Lighting Services 6:07 p.m. Fast Begins 6:15 p.m. Kol Nidre Services Oct. 9: 9 a.m. Morning Services 12 p.m. Yizkor Memorial Service 4:30 p.m. Afternoon Service 5:30 p.m. Neilah Closing Service 7 p.m. Fast Ends Break the Fast included Chabad of La Jolla Shores 909 Prospect St. Suite 224 La Jolla, CA 92037 chabadoflajolla@gmail.com

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chabadoflajolla.com (858) 455-5433 Rosh Hashanah Sept. 30: 10 a.m. Morning Service, Light Kiddush 11: 30 a.m. Shofar Blowing, | light Kiddush 6:30 p.m. Evening Service, light Kiddush Oct. 1: 10 a.m. Morning Service, light Kiddush 11:30 a.m. Shofar Blowing, light Kiddush Yom Kippur Oct. 8: 6:30 p.m. Kol Nidre Service Oct 9. 10 a.m. Morning Service 11:30 a.m. Yizkor 5:30 p.m. Mincha and Final Service ending with Shofar, Break Fast to follow *For R.S.V.P. and more info please contact Chabadoflajolla@gmail.com or (858) 455-5433 Chabad of Pacific Beach 4240 Gresham St. San Diego, CA 92109 chabad.pb@gmail.com chabadpb.org (619) 333-0344 Rosh Hashanah Sep. 29: 6:18 p.m. Candle Lighting 6:30 p.m. Minchah & Ma'ariv, followed by Community Rosh Hashanah Dinner (R.S.V.P. required) Sep. 30: 10 a.m. Morning Services 12:30 p.m. Shofar 2:30 p.m. Tashlich 6:30 p.m. Minchah-Evening Services Oct. 1: 10 a.m. Morning Services 12:30 p.m. Shofar 7:10 p.m. Minchah-Evening Services Yom Kippur Oct. 8: 6:07 p.m. Candle Lighting 6:15 p.m. Kol Nidre Oct. 9: 10 a.m. Morning Services 12:30 p.m. Yizkor 5 p.m. Afternoon Services 6 p.m. Neilah 7 p.m. Fast Ends *To R.S.V.P., go to chabadpb.org

Chabad of Poway 16934 Chabad Way Poway, CA 92064 info@chabadpoway.com chabadpoway.com (858) 451-0455 Rosh Hashanah Sept. 29: 6:18 p.m. Light Candles 6:30 p.m. Evening Services 7:30 p.m. Community Services Sept. 30: 8:30 a.m. Morning Services 12 p.m. Shofar Sounding 6:30 p.m. Evening Services After 7:11 p.m. Light Candles Oct. 1: 10 a.m. Morning Services 12 p.m. Shofar Sounding 6:15 p.m. Evening Services 7:09 p.m. Holiday Ends Oct. 3: 5:30 p.m. Community Tashlich Service at Lake Poway Yom Kippur Oct. 8: 7 a.m. Morning Service 1:15 p.m. Afternoon Service 6:06 p.m. Light Candles 6:24 p.m. Fast Begins 6:30 p.m. Kol Nidre Oct. 9: 9 a.m. Morning Services 12 p.m. Yizkor Memorial Service 4 p.m. Afternoon Service 5 p.m. Neilah Closing Service 6:59 p.m. Fast Ends. Followed by light refreshments Chabad Alef Center of San Marcos 649 Sandy Ln. San Marcos CA, 92078 info@alefcenter.com alefcenter.com (760) 481-7503 *Service information was not available by press time.

Chabad Scripps Ranch 10785 Pomerado Rd. San Diego, CA 92131 rabbi@chabadscrippsranch@gmail.com chabaddiego.com (858) 547-0076 Rosh Hashanah Sept. 21: 12:45 a.m. Selichot Services Sept. 29: 6:30 p.m. Evening Service,

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followed by Rosh Hashanah Community Dinner Fee: $25 Adult, $12 Child (under 12) R.S.V.P. by Sept. 17. Sept. 30: 10 a.m. Shacharit Morning Service 10:30 a.m. - 1 p.m. Children’s Service 11:30 a.m. Shofar Blowing 5 p.m. Tashlich at Scripps Ranch Pond 7 p.m. Evening Service After 7:11 p.m. Light Candles Oct. 1: 10 a.m. Shacharit Service 11:30 a.m. Shofar Blowing 6:30 p.m. Evening Service Oct. 2: 5:26 a.m. Fast of Gedalya Begins 6 p.m. Evening Service & Torah Reading 6:57 p.m. Fast Ends Yom Kippur Oct. 8: 6:06 p.m. Light Candles, Fast Begins 6:15 p.m. Kol Nidre Services Oct. 9: 10 a.m. High Holiday Services 10:30 a.m. - 1 p.m. Children’s Program 12 p.m. Yizkor Memorial Service 5 p.m. Mincha Service 5:30 p.m. Neilah Closing Service 6:59 p.m. Fast Ends, Community Break Fast No Membership Fees or Tickets No Affiliation Necessary Traditional and Inspirational Services Hebrew/English Prayer-Books Warm and Friendly Atmosphere Special Children's Program & Service Chabad of University City 3813 Governor Dr., San Diego, CA 92122 info@chabaduc.org chabaduc.org (858) 455-1670 Rosh Hashanah Sept. 29: 6:18 p.m. Erev Rosh Hashanah Candle Lighting 6:20 p.m. Afternoon & Evening Services Sept. 30: 9:30 a.m. Morning Services & Shofar 5:30 p.m. Afternoon Service & Tashlich 7:10 p.m. Evening Services Oct. 1: 9:30 a.m. Morning Services & Shofar 5:45 p.m. Afternoon Service

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7:10 p.m. Evening Services Yom Kippur Oct. 8: 6 p.m. Afternoon Service 6:10 p.m. Kol Nidre & Evening Service Oct. 9: 10 a.m. Morning Services 12:30 p.m. Yizkor 5:15 p.m. Afternoon Service 6 p.m. Neilah Chabad Jewish Center of Oceanside 1930 Sunset Dr., Vista, CA 92081 info@jewishoceanside.com jewishoceanside.com (760) 806-7765

Rosh Hashanah Location: Tabacinic Chabad Jewish Center 1930 Sunset Drive, Vista, CA 92081 Sept. 29: 6:30 p.m. Opening Service Sept. 30: 9:30 a.m. Morning Services 11:30 a.m. Shofar Sounding 5:30 p.m. Rosh Hashanah Family Experience: Oct. 1: 9:30 a.m. Morning Services 11:30 a.m. Shofar Sounding Yom Kippur Oct. 8: 6 p.m. Kol Nidrei Services Oct. 9: 9:30 a.m. Morning Services 12 p.m. Yizkor Service 5 p.m. Neilah-Closing Service 7 p.m. Havdalah and Break the Fast Buffet Tickets required: No Pricing: Suggested Donation $100.00 Exciting Children services No Membership or Affiliation Necessary! No one will be turned away due to lack of funds! Chabad Jewish Center of Rancho Santa Fe 5690 Cancha de Golf Rancho Santa Fe, CA 92091 chabadrsf@gmail.com jewishrsf.com (858) 756-7571 Rosh Hashanah Sept. 29: 6:30 p.m. Evening Service followed by dinner, by reservation only Sept. 30: 10 a.m. Morning Service 11 a.m. Children’s Farmers Market

Oct. 1: 10 a.m. Morning Service 11 a.m. Children’s Farmers Market Yom Kippur Oct. 8: 6:30 p.m. Kol Nidre Oct. 9: 10 a.m. Morning Service 11 a.m. Children’s Farmers Market 12 p.m. Yizkor Memorial Service 5 p.m. Mincha and Neilah Closing Service *Suggested donation is $180. Jewish Student Life of San Diego 6115 Montezuma Rd., San Diego, CA 92115 jewishstudentlife@gmail.com jewishstudentlife.org (619) 663-7701 *Service information was not available by press time. Call or check online for information.

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Congregation Beth Am 5050 Del Mar Heights Rd. San Diego, CA 92130 welcome@betham.com betham.com (858) 481-8454 Rosh Hashanah Sept. 29: 7:30 p.m. Erev Service at Lizerbram Family Sanctuary Sept. 30: 8:45 a.m. Rosh Hashanah Service at Lizerbram Family Sanctuary 9:30 a.m. Family Tot High Holy Day Service at Beit Midrash 10 a.m. HHD Child Care (no drop-ins) at ECC building HHD Children’s Program (no drop-ins) at JLC building 7:30 p.m. Ma’ariv Service at Beit Midrash Oct. 1: 8:45 a.m. Rosh Hashanah Service at Lizerbram Family Sanctuary 10 a.m. HHD Child Care (no drop-ins) at ECC building HHD Children’s Program (no drop-ins) at JLC building 6 p.m. Tashlich Service at Fletcher Cove Yom Kippur Oct. 8: 5:45 p.m. HHD Child Care (No drop-ins) at ECC Building HHD Children’s Program (No drop-ins) at

JLC Building 6 p.m. Kol Nidre 1st Service at Lizerbram Family Sanctuary 8:15 p.m. Kol Nidre 2nd Service at Lizerbram Family Sanctuary Oct. 9: 8:45 a.m. Yom Kippur Service at Lizerbram Family Sanctuary 9:30 a.m. Family Tot High Holy Day Service at Beit Midrash 10 a.m. HHD Child Care (no drop-ins) at ECC building HHD Children’s Program (no drop-ins) at JLC building 3:45 p.m. HHD Child Care (No drop-ins) at ECC Building 4 p.m. Yizkor Service at Lizerbram Family Sanctuary 4:30 p.m. Minha & Neila Service at Lizerbram Family Sanctuary 6 p.m. Family Neila Service at Beit Midrash *These Services are FREE and open to the community, if you are not a member, you need to contact Susan Mualim (susan@betham.com) to sign up and bring proper ID when coming to those services. If you are a member, there is no cost to your tickets. (Included with membership to the immediate family). CBA members bringing guests: $300 (ages 13+ yrs) $180 (ages 3-13). Non-Members: $360 (ages 13+ yrs) $180 (ages 3-13). Student with a current student card: FREE with proper ID. Active Military: FREE with proper ID

11 a.m. Yizkor 2 p.m. Break 5 p.m. Neila Followed by Break the Fast *Conducting Services: Rabbi Osnat Margalith Cantor Vladimir Staerman

Congregation B’nai Shalom 201 E. Broadway Vista, CA 92084 bnaishalomsd@gmail.com bnaishalomsd.org (760) 806-4766

Ner Tamid Synagogue 12348 Casa Avenida Poway, CA 92064 info@nertamidsd.org nertamidsd.org (858) 513-8330

Rosh Hashanah Sept. 29: 7:30 p.m. Erev Service Sept. 30: 9:30 a.m. Service Oct 1. 9:30 a.m. Service Yom Kippur Oct. 8: 7 p.m. Service Oct. 9: 9:30 a.m. Service

Congregation B’nai Tikvah 2510 Gateway Rd., Carlsbad, CA 92009 info@bnaitikvahsd.com bnaitikvahsd.com (760) 650-2262

Rosh Hashanah Sept. 29: 7 p.m. Evening Service Sept. 30: 9 a.m. Morning Service 11:15 a.m Children’s Service 2:30 p.m Tashlich Service Yom Kippur Oct. 8: 7 p.m. Kol Nidre Oct. 9: 9 a.m.. Morning Service 11 a.m. Yizkor and Torah Service 11:15 a.m. Children’s Service 1:30 p.m. Meditative Break 4:30 p.m. Mincha 5:30 p.m. Ne’ila

Hashanah Services Yom Kippur Oct. 8: 6:30 p.m. Kol Nidre Oct. 9: 8:45 a.m. Shacharit 10:30 a.m. - 1 p.m. Services for K-7th grade 4 p.m. Mincha 6:53 p.m. Havdallah Oct. 14: 9:30 a.m. Sukkot Services Oct. 21: 5:15 p.m. Simchat Torah Services Ohr Shalom Synagogue 2512 Third Ave. San Diego, CA 92103 office@ohrshalom.org ohrshalom.org (619) 231-1456

Rosh Hashanah Sept. 21: 7:30 p.m. Selichot Service with Ohr Shalom Choir Sept. 29: 7 p.m. Erev Rosh Hashanah Service Sept. 30: 8:30 a.m. Morning Service 5 p.m. Tashlich at Playa Pacifica, Mission Bay Oct. 1: 8:30 a.m. Morning Service

7 p.m. Break the Fast

Rosh Hashanah Sept. 29: 7 p.m. Erev Rosh Hashanah Services Sept. 30: 8:45 a.m. Rosh Hashanah Services 10:30 a.m. - 1 p.m. Services for K-7th grade Oct. 1: 8:45 a.m. Day 2 Rosh

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Yom Kippur Oct. 8: 3 p.m. Family Kol Nidre Service 5:30 p.m. Kol Nidre Service Oct. 9: 8:30 a.m. Service with Yizkor 2:30 p.m. Study and Discussion 4 p.m. Mincha and Ne'Ilah 7:04 p.m. Break the Fast Temple Beth Shalom 208 Madrona St. Chula Vista, CA 91910 arlenelagary@yahoo.com bethshalomtemple.com (619) 420-6040

Rosh Hashanah Sept. 21: 7:30 p.m. Selichot Services Sept. 28: 1:30 p.m. Yale Strom Performance Sept. 29: 7:30 p.m. Erev Service Sept. 30: 9:30 a.m. Morning Service 11:30 a.m. Children’s Service 4:30 p.m. Tashlich at the J. St. Chula Vista Bay

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6 p.m. Mincha-Ma’ariv 6:45 p.m. Dinner (Adults $30, Children $15) Oct. 1: 9:30 a.m. Morning Service 7 p.m. Open to the public MinchaMa’ariv

Tifereth Israel Synagogue 6660 Cowles Mountain Blvd. San Diego, CA 92119 program@tiferethisrael.com tiferethisrael.com (619) 697-6001

Yom Kippur Oct. 8 6:45 p.m. Erev Yom Kippur and Kol Nidre Evening Service 6:15-6:45. p.m. Musical interlude Oct 9: 10 a.m. Morning Service 11:30 a.m. Yizkor Service, Children’s Service 4:30 p.m. Healing Service 5 p.m. Study of Jonah 5:45 p.m. Mincha Service 6:30 p.m. Neilah Service 7:20 p.m. Break the Fast Social Hall *Non-member donation $150 active Military, Veterans, Students - free

Rosh Hashanah Sept. 29: 5 p.m. Rosh Hashanah Family Experience/World’s Birthday Celebration 6:15 p.m. Erev Rosh Hashanah Service Sept. 30 8:30 a.m. 1st day of Rosh Hashanah Service 5 p.m. Tashlich at Lake Murray Oct. 1: 8:30 a.m. 2nd day of Rosh Hashanah Service Oct. 6: 10 a.m. Kever Avot v’lmahot Services (at Home of Peace and Greenwood)

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Yom Kippur Oct. 8: 6 p.m. Kol Nidre Service Oct. 9: 8:30 a.m. Yom Kippur Service 3:45 p.m. Mincha Service 5:05 p.m. Neilah Service 7 p.m. Break the Fast by paid reservation (reservation deadline is Oct. 2, 12 p.m.) *Visit tiferethisrael.com or call our office (619) 697-6001 for more details. For ticket information call the office or email admin@tiferethisrael.com. For security purposes, tickets must be arranged in advance of all services.

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Congregation Adat Yeshurun 8625 La Jolla Scenic Dr., North La Jolla, CA 92037 info@adatyeshurun.org adatyeshurun.org (858) 535-1196 Rosh Hashanah Sept. 29: 6:20 p.m. Mincha Sept. 30: 8 a.m. Shacharit 11 a.m. Shofar 6:15 p.m. Mincha/Ma’ariv Oct. 1: 8 a.m. Shacharit 11 a.m. Shofar 6:15 p.m. Mincha/Ma’ariv Yom Kippur 6 a.m. Selichot/Shacharit 2 p.m. Mincha 6:05 p.m. Kol Nidre Oct. 9: 8 a.m. Shacharit 12 p.m. Yizkor 5 p.m. Neilah Our ticket costs, reservations and other important information is as follows: ·Adults $195 per person and covers all days of RH and YK. ·Teens (ages 13 – 18) and College Students are free of charge. ·Activity Duty Military are free of charge. ·We have a Children’s Program headed up by Rabbi Daniel Reich for children ages 3-12 and the cost is $54 per child with a family cap of $120, and this covers all days/nights of RH and YK (i.e. the dates listed above). ·Children ages 3-12 must either be

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enrolled in the Children’s Program or they must be inside the Shul with their parents during services. Teens are also required to be inside the shul with their parents or in the Teen Programming led by Rabbi Reich. For safety concerns we do not allow teens or young children to wander unattended around the facility. ·Reservations are required and due to increased security we must have all guests names on our attendance list to ensure entrance for Services. Our security will be checking the guest list at the gate to verify our guests’ reservations. The deadline to R.S.V.P. is 9/25/19 for RH Services and the deadline to R.S.V.P. for YK Services is 10/4/19. ·To purchase your tickets please contact the Shul office at info@adatyeshurun.org or call (858) 535-1196 and speak with either Catharine Simolari or Annette Olson. Aish San Diego 11860 Carmel Creek Road San Diego, CA 92130 info@aishsd.com aishsd.com (858) 250-0057

Rosh Hashanah Sept. 29: 6:18 p.m., Candle Lighting 6:20 p.m. Mincha-Erev Rosh Hashanah 6:45 p.m. Arvit Sept. 30: 8:30 a.m. Shacharit 10:15 a.m. Torah Reading 11:10 a.m. Kiddush 11:55 a.m. Shofar 12:10 p.m. Musaf 5:50 p.m. Mincha followed by Tashlich 6:45 p.m. Arvit After 7:11 p.m. Candle Lighting Oct 1: 8:30 a.m. Shacharit 10:15 a.m. Torah Reading 11:10 a.m. Kiddush 11:55 a.m. Shofar 12:10 p.m. Musaf 6:10 p.m. Mincha 6:50 p.m. Arvit 7:10 p.m. Havdalah Yom Kippur Oct. 8: 1:30 p.m. Mincha Yom Kippur Eve (with Tefillin)

6:08 p.m. Yom Kippur Candles 6:30 p.m. Kol Nidre 7 p.m. Arvit Oct. 9: 8:30 a.m. Shacharit 10:45 a.m. Torah Reading 12:10 p.m. Yizkor 12:30 p.m. Musaf 3 p.m. Mincha 5:30 p.m. Neilah 6:30 p.m. Shofar and Arvit 6:50 p.m. Havdalah and Blessing to the Children 7 p.m. End of Fast

Beth Jacob Congregation 4855 College Ave. San Diego, CA 92115 office@bjsd.org bjsd.org (619) 287-9890 *High Holidays’ Services 2019/5780 FMI Please Contact Us @ 619-287-9890 or email to info@bjsd.org Congregation Kehillas Torah 14133 Via Alisal, San Diego, CA 92128 Rabbi Baruch Lederman bledermansdccd@gmail.com (858) 829-9648 High Holiday Services to be held at Residence Inn: 11002 Rancho Carmel Drive; San Diego, CA 92128 Rosh Hashanah Sept. 29: 6 p.m. Service Sept. 30: 9 a.m. Service Oct. 1: 9 a.m. Service Yom Kippur Oct. 8: 6 p.m. Service Oct. 9: 9 a.m. & 5 p.m. Service *$150 per person Child care available

Young Israel of San Diego 7284 Navajo Rd. San Diego CA, 92119 info@yisandiego.org yisandiego.org (619) 589-1447 *Service information was not available by press time. Call or check online for information.

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Congregation Beth Israel 9001 Towne Centre Drive San Diego, CA 92122 cbi@cbisd.org cbisd.org (858) 535-1111 Rosh Hashanah Sept. 21: 6 p.m. - 7 p.m. Young Family Service/ Havdalah & Potluck 7 p.m. - 9:15 p.m. Selichot Nosh, Dâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;rash & Service Sept. 29: 6 p.m. Generational Service** 8:30 p.m. Late Evening Service** Sep. 30: 8 a.m. - 12 p.m. CafĂŠ Beth Israel 8:30 a.m. K-2 Program & Service, Generational Service** 11:30 a.m. Late Morning Service** 4 p.m. Rosh Hashanah 5:30 p.m. Teen Gathering at La Jolla Shores 6 p.m. Tashlich Service & Potluck at La Jolla Shores TRIBE Potluck at La Jolla Shores Oct. 1: 9:30 a.m. 2nd Day Morning Service 11:30 a.m. Light Kiddush Luncheon Yom Kippur Oct. 8: 6 p.m. Early Evening Service ** 8:30 p.m. Late Evening Service** Oct. 9: 8:30 a.m. Generational Service** K-2 Program & Service 11:30 a.m. Late Morning Service**

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2:30 p.m. - 3:45 p.m. Contemporary Confessions** 4 p.m. - 5 p.m. Afternoon Service** 5:15 p.m. Yizkor and Neilah Services 6:30 p.m. Break the Fast 8 p.m. TRIBE Break the Fast Costs & Contacts: Member: Included in membership - $200 for all services for additional tickets or $50 per Service. Ages 0-17 are included in their membership at no additional cost. Non-Member: $300 for all Services or $90 per service, $100 for all services for ages 0-17/or $40 per service. We are pleased to offer Complementary Adult and Youth Admission Tickets for active-duty military personnel & their dependents, full time college students with student ID through age 26, and reciprocal requests. High Holy Day inquiries, and assistance with tickets, please contact Lynn Sampson at Lsampson@cbisd.org or (858) 535-1111. Tickets can also be acquired the day of Services at the Solutions Table in the Price Family Courtyard. You may also request and purchase tickets online at https://cbisd.org/worship/high-holydays/ If you need special accommodations for a disability, please contact Katey Lindley at klindley@cbisd.org or (858) 900-2525. **Denotes service requiring tickets

Congregation Etz Chaim 16911 Gunn Stage Rd., Ramona, CA 92065 etzchaimramona@gmail.com etzchaimramona.org (760) 789-2781 *Service information was not available by press time. Call or check online for information.

Temple Adat Shalom 15905 Pomerado Rd. Poway, CA 92064 info@adatshalom.com adatshalom.com (858) 451-1200 *We wish the entire Jewish community a sweet, healing and peaceful new year. If you are looking for a warm and inviting spiritual home to share the holidays, we openly welcome you to join us. We invite you to celebrate the season at any or all of our full schedule of High Holy Day observances from Selichot to Neilah, Sukkot to Shimini-Atzeret/Simchat Torah. Please call our Temple office, (858) 4511200, for times, details, and to let us know to expect you. Temple Emanu-El 6299 Capri Dr., San Diego CA, 92120 temple@teesd.org teesd.org (619) 286-2555 Rosh Hashanah

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Sept. 29: 7 p.m. Erev Rosh Hashanah Service Sept. 30: 10 a.m. Rosh Hashanah Morning Service 2:30 p.m. Family Service (Must have a child to attend) 5 p.m. Tashlich at Lake Murray Yom Kippur Oct 8: 7 p.m. Erev Yom Kippur â&#x20AC;&#x201C; Kol Nidre Oct 9: 10 a.m. Yom Kippur Morning Service 2:30 p.m. Family Service (must have a child to attend) 4 p.m. Afternoon Service 5 p.m. Yizkor Service 5:45 p.m. Neilah. *Cost $360 (non-member) both holidays $180 (non-member) one holiday $180 Senior (75 and older) both holidays $90 Senior (75 and older) one holiday Yizkor FREE (must call for ticket) Students FREE (must have school ID) Active military & Immediate Family FREE (must have military ID) R.S.V.P. deadline Sept. 20 To purchase tickets visit our website at teesd.org. For all other inquiries call the temple office at (619) 286-2555 Temple Etz Rimon 2020 Chestnut Ave. Carlsbad, CA 92008 info@templeetzrimon.org templeetzrimon.org (760) 929-9503

Rosh Hashanah Sept. 21: 6:15 p.m. Ice cream social 7 p.m. Selichot Services Sept. 29: 7 p.m. Erev Rosh Hashanah Services Sept. 30: 10 a.m. Morning Services, then Kiddush 2:30 p.m. Tashlich Services @ Tamarack Beach, Carlsbad Yom Kippur Oct. 8: 7 p.m. Kol Nidre Services Oct. 9: 10 a.m. Morning Services 4 p.m. Afternoon Services

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5:15 p.m. Yizkor & Neilah *Unless otherwise noted, all services held at Pilgrim Church, 2020 Chestnut Ave., Carlsbad Temple Solel 3575 Manchester Ave. Cardiff By The Sea, CA 92007 info@templesolel.net jbricker@templesolel.net templesolel.net (760) 436-0654

Rosh Hashanah Sept. 29: 7:30 p.m. Erev Rosh Hashanah Sept. 30: 8:30 a.m. Early Service 11:45 a.m. Late Service Oct. 1: 10 a.m. 2nd Day Rosh Hashanah Yom Kippur Oct. 8: 7:30 p.m. Kol Nidre Oct. 9: 8:30 a.m. Early Service 11:30 a.m. Late Service 4 p.m. Afternoon Services 5:15 p.m. Yizkhor Service 5:45 p.m. Concluding Service *Guest tickets $360 per person. No charge for active duty military or students under the age of 24. Contact events @ templesolel.net for additional questions or visit us at templesolel.net. Congregation Havurim 29500 Via Princesa Murrieta, CA 92563 congregationhavurim@gmail.com havurim.org (951) 387-5018 *Service information was not available by press time. Call or check online for information.

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Beth Eliyahu Torah Center 5012 Central Ave. Suite C Bonita, CA 91902 rabbi@betheliyahu.com betheliyahu.org (619) 472-2144 *Service information was not available by press time. Call or check online for information. Magen Abraham Sephardic Synagogue

Inside Chabad Hebrew Academy in Scripps Ranch 10875 Pomerado Road San Diego, CA 92131 magenabraham.org (619) 277-0380 Yom Kippur Oct. 8: 6:15 p.m. Services *$100 donation per family will be appreciated to cover the cost of the event. Services at the Marriott La Jolla across from UTC mall Kehillat Shaat HaShamayim 3232 Governor Drive, Suite K San Diego, CA 92122 rabbi@rabbiyoni.com kshsd.org (858) 752-1025 *Service information was not available by press time. Call or check online for information. Rosh Hashanah Sept. 29: 7 a.m. Selichot 8 a.m. Shacharit 8:40 a.m. Annulment of Vows 6 p.m. Mincha 6:13 p.m. Candle Lighting 6:30 p.m. Arvit 8:15 p.m. Dinner, R.S.V.P. required Sept. 30: 8 a.m. Shacharit 11:15 a.m. Shofar 5:30 p.m. Mincha 6 p.m. Tashlich in Rose Canyon 7 p.m. Arvit Oct. 1: 8 p.m. Shacharit 11:15 a.m. Shofar 6 p.m. Mincha 7 p.m. Arvit 7:05 p.m. Havdalah Yom Kippur Oct. 8: 6:15 p.m. Selichot 7:15 a.m. Shacharit 8:40 a.m. Hatarat Nedarim 9 a.m. Kapparot 1:15 p.m. Early Mincha 6 p.m. Kol Nidre 6:01 p.m. Candle Lighting Oct. 9: 8 a.m. Shacharit 12:30 p.m. Hashkavah Kelalit/Yizkor 5 p.m. Neilah

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6:56 p.m. Havdalah *All services are free of charge but require R.S.V.P. to be made through the website. Rosh Hashanah dinner for members costs $42 per adult/$18 per child with a maximum $120 per family of five. Nonmembers cost $54 per adult/$26 per child with no family maximum.

JEWISH RENEWAL AND RECONSTRUCTIONIST Congregation Dor Hadash 11860 Carmel Creek Road San Diego, CA 92130 administrator1@dorhadash.org dorhadash.org (858) 268-3674

Rosh Hashanah Sept. 29: 7 p.m. Erev Rosh Hashanah Services Sept. 30; 9 a.m. Family Service Adult Services Yom Kippur Oct. 8: 6 p.m. Erev Yom Kippur Oct. 9: 9 a.m. Family Service 9 a.m.; 4:30 p.m. Adult Services *Please note that all services will be held on the San Diego Jewish Academy Campus 11860 Carmel Creek Rd. San Diego 92130. The cost for all events are complementary to first time guests to Dor Hadash, $250 for returning guests. Shir Ha-Yam 4618 Rueda Drive San Diego, CA 92124 rhondmason@aol.com sandiegojewishrenewal.org (619) 251-4618

Yom Kippur Oct. 9: 7:30 p.m. Break the Fast. *Shir Hav Yam is a lay led Jewish renewal chavurah. We celebrate Shabbat and holidays from a joyful, egalitarian and inclusive perspective. We are hosting a Break the Fast Oct 9 @7:30 pm at a location in Encinitas. For information about the Break the Fast

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or other activities please email David, davidrafsk@att.net. The Elijah Minyan 3207 Cadencia St. La Costa, CA 92009 wdosick@aol.com sandiegojewishrenewal.org (760) 943-8370

Rosh Hashanah Sept. 29: 7 p.m. Service Sept. 30: 9 a.m. Morning Service 5 p.m. Tashlich at Moonlight Beach Oct. 1: 9 a.m. Morning Service Yom Kippur Oct. 8: 6:30 p.m. Kol Nidre Oct. 9: 9 a.m. Yizkor Memorial Service 3:30 p.m. Minchah Meditation, Healing Service, Earth Ritual 5:30 p.m. Neâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;ilah Service

HUMANISTIC

Kahal Am: The Humanistic Jewish Community of San Diego P.O. Box 927751 San Diego, CA 92192 president.kahalam@gmail.com kahalam.org (858) 549-3088 Rosh Hashanah Sept. 29: 7 p.m. Erev Rosh Hashanah Evening Service in the Escala Clubhouse, 2840 Clubhouse Lane, San Diego, 92108 Sept. 30: 10:30 a.m. Tashlich at Ventura Cove, right side of 1100 block West Mission Bay Drive, San Diego Yom Kippur Oct. 9: 5:30 p.m. Yom Kippur/Kol Nidre/ Nizkor at Escala Clubhouse, 2840 Clubhouse Lane, San Diego, 92108. Break the Fast potluck to follow. *Live music and open discussion will accompany each service, and an oneg refreshment will follow the Rosh Hashanah program. Information for participating in the Yom Kippur BreakFast potluck is on the Kahal Am website. Intercultural and LGBT guests and families are most welcome. Registration and payment requested by Sept. 25. Admittance will be by reservation only

in order to ensure a required parking permit. Handicapped parking slots are available upon direct request to Gary Zarnow, gary@kahalam.org, by Sept. 25. Ticket prices are for 1, 2, or 3 celebrations: adult members $40; adult guests $50; young adults 16-28 $25; under 16 free. Reservations and payment can be made on the Kahal Am website. Bring a chair for the Tashlich event.

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San Diego Outreach Synagogue All High Holy Days Services at Morgan Run Club & Resort 5960 Cancha de Golf Rancho Santa Fe, CA 92091 cantor@sdo-synagogue.org sdo-synagogue.org (858) 280-6331 Rosh Hashanah Sept. 30: 10 a.m. Services, followed by complimentary light lunch Yom Kippur: Oct. 8: 7 p.m. Kol Nidre Oct. 9: 10 a.m. Morning Service and Yizkor Memorial Service *Requested donation: $180 Sign up for High Holy Days Services At: sdo-synagogue.org/high-holy-days

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Answer the Call: The JCC Maccabi Games Are Coming Back to San Diego BY JACQUELINE BULL

n a sunny afternoon at the Del Mar beach, a group of Jewish families was assembled. We trekked down the sand with a surfboard and three dogs. Larry Katz with his children Danielle and Adam (his son Evan Katz couldn’t make it), Gary and Jerri-Ann Jacobs with their son, Adam; and Kira Finkenberg with her fourlegged family, Jackson, Jake Dog and Kookie; are all part of the team bringing the JCC Maccabi Games to San Diego. The Olympic-style sporting juggernaut, the JCC Maccabi Games, is coming back to San Diego in 2020. Some 2200 plus Jewish Teen Participants (ages 13-16) will come together in San Diego for the event that is the largest annual gathering of Jewish teens in the world. The JCC Maccabi Games were last held in San Diego in 2008 which many of the committee chairs for 2020 participated in. Gary Jacobs was the chair of the event then and now, his son, Adam has taken the torch and is now a co-chair. “Usually we have two or three host communities every year for the games. This year was Atlanta and Detroit and next year will be San Diego and New York … We plan a couple years out where host communities want to go. And the real thing about the games is it is really not about the athletics, but it’s about bringing the community together. You need so much of the community to help put the games on. It really is an opportunity for the Jewish community to come together to do this and that is a great catapult into other things the community can do going on past the games,” Gary Jacobs said. And even though the games are next summer, planning is in full swing.

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“We’re knee-deep into it,” Kira Finkenberg said. “We have already had marketing meetings, housing meetings, event meetings … host family meetings. We’ve had meetings for everything because we are going to have so many kids in San Diego, we’ve got to plan ahead and be ready. “I just got back from Detroit last week to see the games and be prepared ... It was amazing to me to see the kids all coming together. They had met two days ago and were participating in team sports and participating in the Art Fest. It was a really neat experience that these kids didn’t know each other and now have friends for life. You don’t get that opportunity very often,” Kira added. Seeing the games in Detroit was part of a scouting mission, especially for those that hadn’t been involved in the games before. “I met some people in Detroit that they were grandparents and had no kids or anyone involved, they signed up to be host families and said it was like the most amazing experience to have kids back in their home,” Kira said. Jerri-Ann Jacobs has hosted athletes in years past. “It’s a lot of fun and it’s not that much work. You just have to feed them breakfast, drop them off to the Hub or wherever their games are and pick them up later. It’s fun. Last time when we hosted, we had a whole party. The other host families in the neighborhood came and had a party here,” Jerri-Ann Jacobs said. Larry Katz also hosted in 2008 and credited the experience for many of his kids lifelong friendships. “It is not that much work to house, but you leave a serious lasting impression on the par-

ticipants that you have. I know Larry’s kids are still in contact with the kids they hosted. And it’s just an amazing way to have an impact in a short amount of time on a young person’s life,” Adam Jacobs said. “For me, both my sons did the JCC Maccabi Games four years each, eight years total between the two, and [in] different cities around the United States. And just watching the friends they made, the connections they made in different cities is amazing. In fact, in 2008, they were too young for the JCC Maccabi Games. They were supposed to be the bat boys for the San Diego baseball team and they practiced with them and everything. Well, I hosted four Austin baseball athletes at my house and after the first day, my kids said can we be the bat boy for the Austin team instead because we like them [laughs]. They ended up being the bat boys for the Austin, Texas baseball team,” Larry Katz said. San Diego has been a big draw for participants coming from out of town with the weather and beaches as obvious highlights. “We’re fun,” Larry said to the table to a big laugh. “I mean obviously the location and the weather is the biggest part of it. I mean there are not too many cities in the United States that are beach destinations, that is a big part of it, but it is our people, too.” “We hosted in 2008 and everybody from every other city said it was the best games they’ve ever been to,” Larry added. “I think it is a great way to bring all the San Diego Jewish community together. It is a pretty spread out group, so to be able to have something for everyone can participate in,” Adam Jacobs said. “How many things can you have this experience with and continue to go back to?”

Betzy Lynch, CEO of LFJCC said. “Take Adam Jacobs for example, he was a JCC Maccabi participant, then a JCC Maccabi coach and now is a Co-Chair of San Diego’s JCC Maccabi Experience. The same is true about the JCC. We just hired two Nierman Preschool teachers who years ago started as Nierman Preschool students! It is rare that an event or a place becomes such a part of a person’s Jewish experience and connecting to community that they keep returning for more. That’s our secret sauce.” Adam added that it has been interesting to see the whole progression from the inside and now on the outside (“I’m excited to put my stamp on with the rest of the team”). “Just the wealth of experience of the people in this room who you are interviewing bring to the table, their history with the JCC, Gary’s role with the [JCC Association of North America], but also having been chair of the 2008 games, Adam passing the torch he is co-chair here, and Kira, all your work in the community–just people able to elevate the profile of the games in San Diego. And also Betzy Lynch though. Betzy has hosted games in both Alabama and Memphis and Spencer Lynch, he was games director there too, so I think that San Diego has a pretty solid team to be able to host this,” Robyn Statman, Senior Director of Marketing and Strategy for the LFJCC said.

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nd it’s not just the athletes, the whole art fest is such an amazing experience for kids that don’t play sports, but they cook together, or they created art together and to see them shine at the showcase was a really neat thing. I cried through the whole thing [laughs]. It was so neat to see these kids that you could tell don’t normally

get the spotlight,” Kira Finkeberg said. “Another story we had this year there was a young lady from Orange County who hadn’t been able to come to the games because she has a disability. And her sister had played in the games, but had aged out, so her sister, as her chaperone, brought her along as a bowling participant. And actually, she won a medal and the Orange County basketball team got on a bus, went out 20 minutes to the bowling match to watch her get her medal, support her, cheer her on, and then had to come back 20 minutes for their game. It is that kind of rachmanus that comes together for the groups that are together,” Gary Jacobs said Rachmanus, which encompasses compassion and sportsmanship, is a guiding principle for the games. “When I was coaching in one of the Maccabi games–I think it was Milwaukee. The project was to pack backpacks for underprivileged kids who normally get all of their meals in school, but in the summer: no school, no food. They challenged all of us to pack like 100 backpacks and all of my team was like, ‘100? Let’s crush that,’ so everyone else did 100 and we did like 500. And they were like even more fired up about that accomplishment than winning a baseball game,” Adam Jacobs said. “Along with the 25th year of inclusion, we are piloting the Access Games this year as part of the JCC Maccabi Games and Arts Fest. And so what that is participants with cognitive disabilities will be able to participate and this the first time in history of Maccabi, so we’re very excited about that,” Robyn Statman said.

o put on a community-wide event of this scale, they need a community-wide effort. In addition to host families, they need volunteers and sponsors. “Tons of volunteers,” Larry Katz said. “Some of the things you wouldn’t even think are very personnel intensive like water and ice–a must. And with athletes all over San Diego county, transportation, there is 75 buses going around. And coordinating that and getting them back to the hubs, so they can hang out, food, everything.” All the people on the Maccabi team for San Diego emphasized how much they got out of the experience and the joy of feeling one with the local community and also to Jews from all over. “I just love watching the camaraderie of the kids. One side is the camaraderie of the kids coming together and the other part is the community coming together. The fact that it does bring out people who wouldn’t normally be affiliated with the Jewish community or be involved in anyway and this brings them out and gets them connected,” Gary Jacobs said. “I think it is a great way to bring all the San Diego Jewish community together. It is a pretty spread out group, so [it is] to be able to have something that everyone can participate in,” Adam Jacobs said. A For those interested in becoming host families, sponsoring, or volunteering, they can fill out an interest sheet to be kept in contact. Visit sdmaccabi2020.org to fill out the interest sheet and for more information. Official registration begins in October.

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art I took the reader into a world of Jewish secrets and mysteries in Girona, Spain, and the nearby villages of Catalonia, where all the Jews were forced to convert to Catholicism or leave in 1492. Part II continues the story…) Of all the people I met in Girona, none turned out to be more secretive or mysterious than a friendly, articulate, and garrulous man named Gerard Serrat. I met him at the Dor Museum restaurant, which is part of a luxurious, dramatically situated hilltop complex that includes a hotel and a spectacular gem museum. Gerard, who said his I.Q. is 180, told us his grandmother was from the tribe of Judah, and that “information about the story of the Jewish people was passed down orally, from mouth to ear, until current times. The information had to be discreet, so it was kept close to the chest of those who carried the memories. It was a path of silence and discretion. I, myself, am descended from conversos. In the 3rd century B.C.E. there were already Jews in Tarragona, Barcelona, Lleida, Aragon, Narbonne, Montpellier, Toulouse, and, of course, Girona. And a dish Girona is known for today, escudella (a meat and vegetable stew), is Jewish. The Jewish community was very important even in the earliest times. A lot of people talk about medieval Jews, but not what

Gerard Serrat with a menorah that he built in Girona, Spain.

came before them. They lived peacefully with Iberians, Greeks, and Phoenicians. They came here on Phoenician boats.” He said that his wife is Jewish, and her people never had to go into the Diaspora. “They came from a region that had been ravaged by the Black Death and an earthquake. It had very few inhabitants left. They wrote to King Ferdinand and asked him to let them stay without converting or going into exile. They were needed to work the land. They didn’t have property. They were craftspeople and artisans. The king was lenient towards them. He wasn’t the real horror for Jews and Moors. His wife Isabel was much worse.” Gerard showed us pictures of himself in a wig, as head of protocol for the cathedral in Girona. “You have to listen and watch and keep your enemies close,” he said. “You know," he claimed, “one of the reasons the Catalans want independence from Spain is so they have a place for Jews to be safe. The Catalan leader in exile is Jewish. He has the Torah with him.” Gerard said that he disagrees with what Josep Tarrés said. “Not all Catalans are Jewish. They are Moors, Greeks, and have other origins as well." And with that, as my brain tried to surf the waves of information Gerard was imparting, we headed outside and climbed up a hill, surrounded by ancient

Iberic ruins. Gerard pointed out the Diaspora and pilgrimage routes in the distance below. It was both shocking and moving to see a path which led to exile that would change world Jewry forever. Gerard said the Jews who were expelled from Spain came from different villages, and it didn’t matter who was rich or poor. They met each other on a trail to Diaspora, united in a situation which made them a community for the first time. As we climbed higher and each revelation created more questions and more mystery, Gerard came to a nearby hill where initiations “into knowledge” still take place. He said there are circles within circles of knowledge that each person only knows part of. “They can’t think they are important just because they have a piece of the knowledge. Humility is important.” I think he was talking about secret kabbalistic initiations. On another occasion, Paul and I drove to the small town of Castelló d’Empuries, about 45 minutes from Girona. In their tourism office, where we met our guide Pol, a young woman named Yvonne Leon spoke to me in Hebrew. I thought I was hallucinating because there were no Jews left in the town after 1492. She informed me that although she is not Jewish, she takes private Hebrew lessons. Then she showed me videos produced by the tourism office

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Yvonne Leon proudly shows videos, that she participated in, of recreated Jewish life in the tourist office, Castello d’Empuries, Spain.

that recreated Jewish life. In one, she portrayed the bride in a Jewish wedding. In another, she played a Jewish woman who was celebrating Sabbath at home. “I have worked in this office for 12 years,” Yvonne said. “When a Jew comes in, I know it. I just feel it. Sometimes they cry and I cry too.” Pol joined in and said that his family was Jewish; he found it in a list of names of local Jews who converted to Catholicism under pressure. “And you?” I asked Yvonne. She does not know the facts of her family history, because they were from Leon, not Castelló d’Empúries, but she is pretty sure that she is. “And do you know what?” she added excitedly. “Every year there is a Jewish week for kids here so they learn all about Jews and the Jewish religion.” She showed us a menorah and a model of a synagogue that the children made. “In the Middle Ages,” Pol said, “200 to 300 Jewish families lived here. They were 10 percent of the population.” Pol began the tour at the Dominican church and he explained that, “the church was the seat of the Inquisition. It was first outside of the city, and then moved here. The Dominicans were the Inquisitors. When they traveled, this is where they stayed.” We saw marvelously preserved medieval Jewish headstones, and disturbing alabaster carvings in the cathedral of a Jew in France who had to wear a special pointed cap, and another Jewish man with a hooked nose. Judah, who betrayed Jesus, was depicted as having a grotesque, bestial face. Pol pointed to an area where

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How Jews were caricatured in a painting from Medieval times.

conversos were buried and explained that they were interred separately “because they had young, and not old Christian blood.” On the 18th of February 1417, more than 100 Jewish hearths (families) converted to Christianity because of psychological, financial, religious, and social pressure put on them. Pol told me a very sad story about Perfet Bonseynor, the last rabbi of Castelló d’Empuries. The Pope of Avignon, Benito XIII, gathered together all the rabbis from what was then Aragon (Catalonia was part of it) and kept them secluded in Tortosa for two years. The goal was to indoctrinate them about Christianity so they would go back home and change the minds of local Jewish citizens. They could not leave Tortosa without permission, but poor Rabbi Bonseynor could not bear it. He didn’t care if he incurred the wrath of the church. He left before two years were up, and when he arrived back home in Castelló d’Empuries, he found that his own family had converted under pressure. It broke his heart. Only 10 families didn’t convert. The rest were baptized in a stone font that still stands in the cathedral: a large basin for the adults and a small one, attached, for the children. Then Pol led us to the town square where a big party was made to celebrate their conversion. One of the most endearing parts of the day was meeting the current owners of a medieval synagogue. It has been in their family since 1827, and Vicenc Comas and his daughter Ariadna Comas took us around. Ariadna said that “the first document per-

taining to the synagogue dates from 1264, so we know it was certainly a synagogue and housed separate schools for women and men. There have been other owners before us, and each one has changed and remodeled the space. But there is one small mikvah [ritual bath] that remains and perhaps a second, larger one.” Astoundingly, the small mikvah still fills with fresh water and they don’t know where it comes from. They think there was a special water channel that flowed under the synagogue. In the 13th century, the authorities demanded that the synagogue be reduced in size by 50 percent because it had grown too large and beautiful. A wall was built to close off half the synagogue; it had no windows or doors. Ariadna said they live upstairs, where Jews lived before them, and they can still see where the windowless wall was erected. It is rare to find such an ancient synagogue that has not been fixed up for tourists. It is the way it was when the family bought it. Ariadna showed me a niche on the wall outside the synagogue, and said, “It may have held a statue of the Virgin for former converted owners to prove how Christian they were.” I was surprised to learn from Pol and Yvonne that Catalonian Jews are not Sephardic. They do not think of themselves that way and never did. They never spoke Ladino or Spanish; they spoke Catalan in the street and Hebrew in the synagogue. The Andalusian, Sephardic Jews sat on rugs on the floor. In the Catalonian synagogues, there were bench-

Sculptor Pia Crozet serves a multilayered Spanish dish to dinner guests.

es. They even have information about who owned the benches, which could be bought and sold. The cheapest seats were called “neck breakers” because you had to twist your neck to see the rabbi. A few days later, I met Gerard Serrat in the Barri Vell (historic quarter) of Girona. He parked his motorcycle, and immediately linked arms with me. “Let’s go to the Jardin Kabbalistico,” he said. The multi-tiered, secluded, verdant Garden of Angels, as it is popularly called, was designed by Josep Tarrés. Oval plaques adorn the wall to the left of the entry; each one bears the name of an angel from the Bible. “There are 27 angel plaques here, and 72 in the bible. It’s the reverse, see? 72 and 27,” Gerard explained. I recognized several familiar names, like Ariel, but the others I didn’t know–Pahalia, Lauvia, Jamabia. “Come on,” Gerard said, as he linked his arm with mine again. “I want to take you somewhere else.” I waited in the street while Gerard disappeared and returned about five minutes later with the key to what he said was the oldest Jewish residence, created from a warren of houses. They were occupied from 870 C.E. until 1492, the year of the expulsion. He led me into a sprawling, magical old stone house that was alive with energy from days long gone. We entered a room with a stone window bench and he asked me to sit on it. “This is where a young woman who was betrothed would sit and look down into the street where her novio was waiting,” he explained. “They would carry on a

An ancient, unrestored synagogue is kept intact by the Comas family who live upstairs the Castello d’Empuries.

conversation from window to street.” Then Gerard pulled his jacket over his head and hunched over, imitating an old woman. “This was her grandmother, who would sit right here so she could overhear everything the young intendeds talked about.” “But couldn’t everyone else in the street and in the houses above hear too?” I asked. Gerard smiled and said, “That’s the way it was.” Gerard showed me a replica of a medieval Jewish bed with a dark wooden headboard curved around the top protectively, about four or five feet above the sleeper. Carpets once hung from the walls to keep out the cold winter air. I followed Gerard like a little duckling as he went from one arched room to another, pointing out an old staircase here and a passageway there. “This is where the kabbalists meet now,” Gerard said as we came to a large room. “Can you tell me who they are?” I asked. “It’s very discreet,” was all he replied. Then he changed the subject and showed me a stained glass Jewish star window he had made. Behind the house, he pointed to the bottom part of his large metal tree of life installation. It was brilliant in design and water ran through it. The tree curved upward and contained lights for the key sephirot or energy centers. And then he showed me a large metal menorah he made. His passion for all things Jewish baffled me, because Gerard is not Jewish. “Is it that your ancestors were Jewish, and you are honoring them? Or do you feel Jewish, even though you aren’t?” I asked.

“We are very, very discreet,” he repeated. “I am a man of science, and I do not scare easily, but if one of the important people tells me not to do something specific, or to delve into something, I listen. I obey. The result could be very dangerous if I didn’t listen.” “May I ask who the important people are?” I inquired. He pretended he didn’t hear me, and we walked back to his motorcycle. The last night Paul and I were in Girona, Josep and Pia invited us to dinner. She prepared a delicious pasta-based meal, with hand-dipped chocolates for dessert. Then she asked me a favor. “Can you please write L’chaim for me in Hebrew?” Of course, I obliged, and I asked Pia, whose elegant, evocative, monumental statues dot the public spaces of Girona, why she wanted me to write the words of the Hebrew toast, which mean “to life.” She pretended she didn’t hear me, and she didn’t reply. She, too, was discreet. Very discreet. We hugged, and both Pia and Josep said, “Adéu.” In Catalan, the word for goodbye is not adios but adéu. Unlike the Spanish “adios,” which literally means “to g_ds,” it is singular and means “to G_d.” One God. Was this another Jewish remnant? I left Girona with many more questions than answers, and I promised myself that one day I would return and, as discreetly as possible, find out more.A For more info: en.costabrava.org girona.cat/call/eng/index.php or Spain.info

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The Call of the Shofar

By Rabbi Yeruchem Eilfort

The High Holidays are nigh and it is time to start preparing! Invitations to family meals must be issued, menus planned, supplies bought, and schedules created. It is time to think about a new Yom Tov (holiday) suit/dress, and maybe new shoes are in order as well. Oh, and of course reservations for seats in shul must be made! Speaking of shul… Everyone knows that on the High Holidays, one must go to shul. There are no ifs, ands, or buts about it. Why do Jews flock to services on the High Holidays (even if they rarely go during the year)? Is it because the Rabbi will give an over-the-top speech? Not likely. Is it because the Cantor will sing a rendition of the prayers that is entertaining? Probably not. Is it because there will be a chance to schmooze with old friends or maybe because the Kiddush will be uber delicious? I am guessing no to all of the above. My theory is that Jews flock to services on the High Holidays because of guilt. Yes, guilt. Not the sexiest of reasons to be sure, but hey, guilt can be a very powerful motivator and is grossly underrated. But what do we feel guilty about? Jews were created with an enhanced sense of guilt because Jews were created with an astonishing soul that yearns and thirsts for a profound connection with its Creator. Did you ever wonder why so many Jews sway (shuckeling in Yiddish) while praying? It’s for the very same reason; that extraordinary G-dly spark. It continually seeks to ascend and connect with its Source. And from time

to time, when it hasn’t quite received the spiritual nourishment it desires, it makes its presence known. The bad news is that many (unfortunately!) approach the Days of Awe with a sense of dread. The good news is that it doesn’t have to be that way! Instead, it is possible to approach the High Holidays with a sense of anticipation and, dare I say it? Excitement! But how is this possible? It is possible by proper preparation of course. Not the type of preparations listed above, but spiritual preparation. Learning what the High Holidays are really about (Hint: It is not about the local shul making its yearly budget or even the Rabbi giving a great speech, Cantor singing beautifully, or even an awesome Kiddush). The High Holidays are about you connecting with your Creator, Who loves you more than you can imagine (more than you love your own children even)? How do you properly prepare for such an awesome opportunity? Speak to your rabbi or do some research. You can even check online (like on Chabad.org) for some great suggestions. May you be Written and Sealed in the Book of Life! Rabbi Yeruchem Eilfort is the Director of Chabad at La Costa. Rabbi Eilfort welcomes readers’ comments and questions via email sent to

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When we come back home, what is waiting for us? BY RABBI JACOB RUPP

om Kippur is supposed to be one of the happiest days on the Jewish calendar. How could anyone who isn’t into intermittent fasting and intense meditation find Yom Kippur to be a happy day? Easy–the Talmud says that on that day we are cleansed of our sins. There is a common misperception that our suffering on the day is what cleanses, so the hungrier I get the better, right? No, that’s a different religion. The process of repentance can be a wonderful process. The reason why this seems somewhat out of touch with reality is because we fundamentally misunderstand what repentance, or “tshuvah” is and how it works. The word repentance means to ‘return,’ as in we have strayed. It doesn’t mean we can become something we aren’t or never were, nor does it mean that once we are cleansed of our sins suddenly we live a wonderful life. Rather, it means we have the opportunity to have a day when we can come back to ourselves. But sometimes we don’t know to where we are returning. I would venture to say that the root of our addiction to technology is a fear of loneliness. With our smartphone glued to our hand, we are never alone to deal with and consider our thoughts. After all, being left alone with the thoughts running around in our heads can be a terrifying experience. Beneath the anxiety and the depression, frustration and aggravation, is a feeling that somehow if something was different, we would be ‘ok.’ Is that true? Is it true that something or someone else can make us whole? Or are we simply giving our power away to an outside, uncontrollable force that we can blame when

we don’t like ourselves or don’t like how we are behaving? See, if we wait for something or someone to make us happy, it means we can’t choose to be full and happy now. But what if we were full and happy now? Perhaps we will lose our edge. If I’m happy now, would I show up at my dead end job tomorrow? Would I keep putting up with my abusive relationship? What if our self esteem was entirely up to us, and no matter what changed in our lives, we’d feel the exact same until we consciously choose to accept and love ourselves? See, when you don’t want to face yourself and your thoughts because they are full of self doubt, the concept of repentance, of returning to your true self, is terrifying. After all, why would I want to return to what I really am? I spend all my time trying to get away from myself! The Hebrew word for sin, chet, really translates to ‘miss the mark.’ The Talmud teaches that no one sins unless they go temporarily insane. Put it together in modern psychological speak as follows: In our attempt to disconnect from the reality of our lives, we do things, say things, and think things that are fundamentally out of touch with our true selves. Now if bad is not a reflection of our true selves, what can we deduce is true about our core essence? It is good! We are good people. No matter what we’ve done or what we do, the root of who we are is good and upright. As we say every morning, “The soul you have given me is pure!” We’re already perfect. This is a state of being, not a state of doing. I don’t have to do anything to be perfect. And when I get confused, and try to manifest some-

thing other than good, it’s just a mistake. So often we need or desire someone or something to tell us we’re fine. But in doing so we rob ourselves of the ability to acknowledge ourselves as being intrinsically special. And if a person does allow themselves the luxury of not being so hard on themselves, then ‘returning’ isn’t a painful experience at all. It like a nice shower after a year of rolling around in the mud. When the dirt is cleaned off, we find something refreshed. A word on Jewish guilt. Stop it! In our day and age, a general feeling that we messed up and aren’t good enough isn’t at all what G-d wants. G-d loves us and the Torah is FULL of expressions of this love. And just like in a human relationship, one partner’s lack of self esteem hurts the couple, so our lack of ability to see our good parts hurts G-d. And it hurts us because we tend to convince ourselves that we really aren’t so great and therefore shouldn’t expect much from ourselves when nothing could be further from the truth. So here is the Yom Kippur challenge. Before you start saying you’re sorry, before you start with the viduy, start asking yourself a few tough tough questions. “How do I feel about myself?” “How can I love myself?” “When G-d forgives me and lets me return to my true essence, will I have done the work to actually appreciate my essence?” These kinds of questions allow us to start the most difficult part of the repentance process. We have to cure the pain inside before we look to build a new path in our lives. And when you act from self compassion and self love, you’re already most of the way there. A

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Art San Diego Marks Debut at the San Diego Convention Center BY ALEX WEHRUNG

f you thought Comic Con was the biggest event this year at the convention center, you’d be right, but Art San Diego is a giant all its own; it’s just as dedicated to showing off an enormous palette of art and creative talent, jump-starting careers and enriching San Diego’s modern art scene by allowing people to peruse a professional gallery. The event, (Oct. 11-13) is the only modern art gallery showcase in San Diego. The event is owned and managed by Redwood Media, an organization that helps professional artists get their start. “We own Art Expo New York, which is kind of considered the granddaddy of art fairs; it’s been around for 42 years,” explained Linda Mariano, Redwood’s Managing Director of Marketing. “We own Art Santa Fe, which is done every year in July, Art San Diego in October and then two shows during Miami Art Week: Spectrum Miami and Red Dot Miami.” 2019 marks the fifth year of Art San Diego’s management under Redwood Media, and has been seeing steady growth in attendance since then. “It’s been growing by about a five to ten percent rate each year. We actually moved ... this’ll be three years ago, from the Balboa Park Activity Center to the Del Mar Fairgrounds, because it had outgrown the space in the activity center,” Linda said. Moving to the significantly larger San Diego Convention Center will allow Art San Diego another opportunity to continue growing and expanding. Moving to the convention center will facilitate this growth “in a couple of ways,” Linda explained. “The first way is by being able to partner with the community. Not only in terms of the visual arts, but in terms of the programs that we’ve created.” For instance, there’s the Palette of Desserts program, where selected chefs and bakers from the San Diego area will create concoctions that will be paired with chosen works of art. While the list of participating confection-crafters has not been nailed down just quite yet, Linda anticipates some of them will be returning from last year. “The art is selected by our curatorial committee. So let’s say there [are] twelve pieces of artwork, and then the chefs and bakers choose which piece they want to use as inspiration. And they make a dessert based on the inspiration based on that individual piece of artwork. So last year, there were cakes and you saw the artwork on display right beside the cake, and you could see how it had been interpreted into the dessert.” “So that’s really how the bakers and the chef

incorporate the artwork into their creation. And then they are also serving samples. During the show, every attendee that comes in that evening gets three voting tickets, and there’s a ballot box on each dessert table, and they get a chance to vote for their three favorites. And then they vote, and at the end of it all, there’s a declared dessert winner.” There’s also the [SOLO] Project exhibit, which allows both established and emerging independent artists–solo artists, hence the name–to showcase their work, though they must be approved by a curatorial committee first. The gallery provides these artists the opportunity to be discovered by gallery owners, fellow artists, art collectors, art publishers, etc. “One of the missions and visions of Redwood Media Group is that in every community where we have a fair, we like to really become part of the community,” Linda said. “We don’t see ourselves as just an event that comes in for a week. Rather, we partner with organizations, museums and cultural institutions, nonprofits throughout the year to really create a partnership that hopefully has an impact. And we even–for San Diego–created last year [what] we call Access to Art, where we work with local organizations and their clients: Monarch School, Rady Children’s Hospital, Art Reach, to bring an educational aspect to the visual arts world.” “One of the things that we do in Access to Art, for example, is in working with the Monarch School, we give their middle and high school students access–access to art. We bring artists into their art program to create art projects with them. They have a display space at the show and then the students are then able to not only display their art, but sell their art. We bring them in as interns to the show so they get a full, rounded idea of what being an artist is, how you can monetize being an artist, how an art show works, so that we really create a[n] opportunity of awareness for the kids at Monarch. We’ve partnered with the San Diego Film Festival, so we take them to the film festival and they see art from a different perspective there, where they’re meeting with producers and directors and the films they’ve produced.” “We’ve worked with Liberty Station and their Liberty School program, where Liberty School will be coming, actually, to Art San Diego and creating a make-and-take project for families and children that come to Art San Diego. So giving exposure to Liberty Station and Liberty School and the art and artist studios at Liberty Station, but also taking the Monarch kids to Liberty Station and Liberty School. So again, so they see another way that Elul 5779 • Tishrei 5780 SDJewishJournal.com 61

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artists are monetizing as well as working in the visual arts industry.” The event not only strives to enrich children’s education, but also help adults kick-start their own careers. Linda also explained that being a part of Art San Diego has helped more than one aspiring professional artist “in multiple ways. Number one, if they make it into the show, they are juried in by our curatorial community. So they’ve already made it through a process where their story and their artwork has been recognized. So they’ve been acknowledged. And now they’re on display with a group of 65 to 70 other exhibitors, where they’ve got the opportunity right within the framework of the exhibitors to network with galleries and other artists.” “They also get the opportunity–not dissimilar, quite frankly, to the Access to Art program–to see how they can monetize their artwork. It’s not a street fair, it’s an upscale gallery-like presentation at Art San Diego. So they are presenting in that kind of format. So they also get to see their artwork presented in that kind of format.” “Additionally, there are thousands of people that come to Art San Diego who are collectors, art aficionados, press, media, as well as the industry itself. So there are opportunities to create a collector base as well as to, once again, network with opportunities; opportunities for gallery placements, opportunities for media coverage, and all of that happens within a four-day timespan. So it’s a unique opportunity, and it’s unique in San Diego. This is the only contemporary art fair in the area.” There have been a number of artists who have gone on to be artistically successful after exhibiting at Art San Diego. “One would be Anita Lewis, she began a couple of years ago at Art San Diego and has now had gallery representation as well as been invited to some very prestigious, high-end events as the principal artist.” Others include Gedion Nyanhongo, a sculpture artist based in Phoenix, and Kris and Angela Gebhardt, who own the Gebhardt Gallery in Indiana. In addition to its mission to start off careers and provide a viewing space for modern art, Art San Diego also carries with it a dynamic agenda meant to strengthen San Diego’s art scene. “We partner with the museum of contemporary art, the San Diego Art Institute. Since the beginning of the show, we’ve been a partner with the San Diego Visual Art Network.” “And every year, the San Diego art prize winners have a booth, and do a complete exhibition at the show. So in terms of partnering with museums, we’re corporate partners with some of the museums, some of them will actually be at the show, doing exhibitions, special installations. We try to give a forum for the visual arts community in as many ways as we can.”A For more information, visit art-sandiego.com.

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Wine is a mocker and beer a brawler; whoever is led astray by them is not wise. Proverbs 20:1

n the Book of Genesis we learn that Noah cultivated grapes and produced wine. After being saved by G-d following the destruction of the world, he consumes wine and subsequently passes out. In modern times, the reality is that wine is an integral part of Jewish ritual observances. For many in the community, the challenge is how to maintain a relationship of moderation with what is considered to be an important part of our tradition. Alcohol addiction is a disease that affects people of all religions and spiritual beliefs. Traditionally there has been a tendency among Jews to deny the reality of alcoholism in both the mainstream and orthodox communities. However, it has been identified as the most common substance problem in the Jewish community. “Over the years this long legacy of denial has resulted in unnecessary pain, heart-

ache, and alienation for those suffering from addictions,” (Journal of Addictions). Alcohol abuse in the orthodox community is generally seen as a sign of moral failure rather than a disease. “The Jewish Alcoholic has yet to come out of the closet” states Lew Weiss (Sh’ma: A Jewish Journal of Ideas). According to Rabbi Nahum Simon PhD, “The Jewish community has institutionalized the concept of denial with regards to alcoholism and addiction.” Overcoming the stigma of alcohol abuse has become a major challenge in our community. In my practice, I find that a significant number of Jewish and non-Jewish clients initially present with mental health symptoms and only later reveal challenges with alcohol, prescription medications or drugs. Treatment for dual diagnosis clients (mental health and substance abuse) is often best handled in a collaboration between mental health, substance abuse, and psychiatric professionals. A good case in point is John (name changed) a 35-year old single professional who presented at my office (for an initial assessment)

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Hopping on the “COAST STARLIGHT,” a train and a world premiere musical BY PAT LAUNER

here’s something singularly powerful about train travel,” says New York-based director Tyne Rafaeli. “You abdicate any responsibility. You’re not responsible for driving. That leads to a disconnect. Seeing the landscape pass by gives a very particular reflection on your own life and your place in the universe.” Those were just the kinds of thoughts playwright Keith Bunin was having when the La Jolla Playhouse commissioned him to write a play. The result was “Coast Starlight,” which was originally developed in the 2018 DNA New Works Series at the

Playhouse, and is now having its full-fledged world premiere, under Tyne’s direction. “We asked him to write us a play,” says Christopher Ashley, the Rich Family artistic director of the Playhouse, “and he delivered an empathetic and humane tribute to all the people who–like him, and like me–came to California chasing a dream.” The Brooklyn-based Bunin was working for an animation company on the West coast for a while and, according to Tyne, “he had no community on the West coast, and on weekends, he wanted to explore, so he took multiple train journeys.” One of his favorites was the Coast

Starlight, the Amtrak train that runs from Los Angeles to Seattle, via the San Francisco Bay Area. Those train trips, says Tyne, got Bunin “thinking about the mythology of the West, the pioneers traveling through this land–then and now. As a writer, he thought about Kerouac and Didion and Steinbeck, all entrenched in the culture of the West. And he wondered, ‘Who are the travelers now?’ And ‘why aren’t we talking more?’” When Keith, who shares an agent with Tyne, sent her the result of his ruminations, she “fell head over heels with the play. We had a real meeting of the minds; it was very

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First day of rehearsal for THE COAST STARLIGHT.

It’s an extraordinary experience, looking at a tionship may be coming to an end. Another woman has “a deeply personal, landscape that’s so shockingly beautiful and complicated situation,” Tyne says. She’s just sharing that with a group of strangers. It’s a been to pick up her brother’s ashes, and has very intimate experience. We’re keeping the to figure out how to greet and deal with her focus on that. Stories of the American Experience children in the aftermath. “Keith has drawn on so many influThe play’s six characters embody different “California is a place of new beginnings,” ences,” Tyne continues. “A Greek chorus. experiences of being in America, says Tyne, playwright Bunin says. “But it’s also the The simplicity of Thornton Wilder’s ‘Our who finds the play to be “complicated and place that people who are on the run finally Town.’ It’s very clear that this kind of story nuanced.” and experience could only happen in therun out of land.” The central character, a young Navy Keith has, according to Tyne, written “a ater.” medic, has to make a seminal life decision. lot of mystery and open-endedness into the Though Tyne hasn’t taken the Coast StarOne choice could land him in significant play. And a lot of hope. The ending is not light, she did make some long train jourtrouble. He has 1000 miles to determine his conclusive, but it’s incredibly hopeful.” neys through Central and Western Europe way forward. Tyne considers the piece to be “beautiful- some years back. Onboard the train, he connects with five ly theatrical, but very actor-centric, with no It was in Europe, in fact, at the London L-R: David McBean, Omri Schein, Kevin Hafso Koppman & Noelle Marion in “A Funny Thing Happened on the Way to the Forum.” other travelers, each of whom is at a kind bells or whistles in the telling of the story.” Film School, where her parents met. Her of crossroads, reckoning with their own life One of the big challenges in telling this father was born in what was then Paleschoices. Each has a decision to make or a particular story is creating a train carriage. tine and became Israel. He grew up on a problem to solve. As they share their stories, In this production, instead of having just kibbutz. Her mother was from New York. they create a sense of community that binds one static location, Tyne says, “the space Tyne is the only one in the family with an them together. will keep surprising the audience by how English accent. “They change each other’s lives, in pow- it changes. We boil down the experience of erful ways,” Tyne says. “The core of the being in a train using lights, sound and fa- The Making of an English piece is our perennial need to connect and cial dynamics. There’s a sense of movement. Jewish Director our inability to. The transformative power Through light and sound, we’re articulating Her family was “very strongly culturally of communication and our difficulty do- the idea of movement, to convey passing Jewish.” The kids went to Hebrew school ing it. Our capacity for re-invention. Each through an extraordinary landscape.” (both she and her brother had b’nai mitzvcharacter is singular, with their own history, One might imagine extensive use of pro- ot), though her father was “intensely securhythm and cultural context.” jections, which have become ubiquitous in lar; an anti-religion socialist.” The Judaism One young woman is a first generation theater of late. But that will not be the case practiced by her family was an amalgam of American. Her immigrant parents live in here. varied influences. Both parents supported a Rhode Island, but she now lives in L.A., a “No projections could do justice to the strong Jewish education and identity. story artist at an animation studio. She’s just landscape,” says Tyne. “I’m much more in“I have absorbed and continue to deepen visited her boyfriend and realizes her rela- terested in an abstract concept of landscape. my understanding of my Jewish history,” organic and immediate.” She considers “Coast Starlight” to be “a bitingly 21st century story, told in a beautifully and surprisingly ancient way.”

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First day of rehearsal for THE COAST STARLIGHT.

she reports. “I don’t have a strong religious identity. I married a non-Jew. But I think I have a strong sense of my culture and history.” Her family was deeply changed by the Holocaust. Her father’s mother was one of seven children. Only three survived; the others perished with their parents in a shtetl “somewhere between Poland and Belarus.” That fraught history is, says Tyne, “a very, very big part of my understanding of who I am and where I come from. Growing up in London, I experienced anti-Semitism. I remember one time, walking home from school, there were boys on bikes screaming ‘Heil Hitler!’ It made me aware of being an outsider in the culture. “These kinds of experiences,” she says, “gave me insight and a great deal of empathy for any kind of marginalized community. A lot of my work is trying to shine a light on people who haven’t had their stories told or their voices heard. “Inclusion is incredibly important in my process as a director–and as a human being. Listening to other people’s stories is very important to me. I’m deeply committed to female voices, though of course, not exclusively those. I like to be as eclectic and inclusive in my body of work as I can. Right now, we’re trying to address a historical imbalance as to what’s been on our stages.” Her wide-ranging work features many plays by women, including Ming Peiffer’s “Usual Girls,” Martyna Majok’s “Ironbound,” Lauren Yee’s “In a Word” and the

world premieres of Anna Ziegler’s “Actually” and Amanda Peet’s “Our Very Own Carlin McCullough,” to name a few. She has directed at prestigious theaters throughout the country. In 2014, the Stage Directors and Choreographers Union’s granted her a Sir John Gielgud Fellowship for Classic Direction. When she became a Time-Warner Directing Fellow at the Women’s Project Theater in New York, she was part of a small group of producers, directors and playwrights who met weekly over the course of two years (2016-2018). “That was a wonderful, game-changing experience,” says Tyne. “It was an all-female, or female-identifying group, all about community-building and ongoing professional conversations.” The meetings culminated in a festival of six new plays. “Directing feels like such a good fit for me,” says Tyne. “I’m a perpetual student. I keep listening and learning. I always look for challenges: teach me, expand my craft, tell me something the world needs to hear right now.” “I’m very connected to variety,” she explains. “New works, classics and musicals. When I direct new plays, I’m looking for the why of the story. I adore the process of shaping a new piece. In working on ‘Coast Starlight,’ Keith is like a sculptor, continually chipping away.” She’s thrilled to be making her La Jolla Playhouse debut, and feels that the Potiker Theatre is “a thrilling space to transport the

audience.” She keeps coming back to the important themes in the play, which she considers to be about communication, connection and our capacity for invention and re-invention. “It’s about the transformative power of human connection and the difficulty in connecting. That’s such a timely conversation to be having. How can we reach over the aisle–literally and figuratively–and listen? “This play isn’t as much about the California Dream as it is about the mythology of the West, the idea of pioneers in the American psyche. Putting your life on your back and moving on. It’s a very common story, and relates to my own personal narrative. My family are pioneers now scattered around the globe to try and make a home. I don’t have an immediate connection to West coast pioneers, but I certainly relate to the spirit of being a stranger in a strange land and trying to make a connection, find a sense of community. “In the language of the play, Keith is not romanticizing what happened to native people that already existed here when the white settlers came. And he’s not denying the fact that there was also nation-building on the backs of slaves. But he’s examining and looking for explanations for the mythology of the West and what it means in the 21st century. Who are our pioneers now? His characters are pioneers in their own lives, trying to forge a new path.” A

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Three San Diego Teens Receive Tikkun Olam Award for Extraordinary Service BY ALEX WEHRUNG

he definition of Tikkun Olam is to ‘repair the world’–it is not as much a mandate as it is an aspiration, to leave the world a better place than one found it. Every year, the Helen Diller Family Foundation awards $36,000 to teens who facilitate this sort of change, whether it’s in their own communities or somewhere else around the globe. Of this year’s fifteen winners, three are from San Diego. John Finkelman, Beatriz De Oliveira and Ethan Hirschberg’s projects all reflected causes that each of them feel passionately about. Respectively, their projects deal with providing resources to refugees, giving children to books to promote their literacy, and creating a resource for families and children with autism. John, a first-generation American, started the Equal Voice Initiative after the Red Cross would not assist him in providing activities to refugees settling in the United States. John’s goal was to provide them with assistance and resources, so that they would not fall into poverty. The initiative also serves people in marginalized communities and those struggling with poverty. “We give donations,” John explained. “We have donation campaigns, and we donated backpacks and school supplies, like pencils, erasers, pens ... we’ve donated all sorts of stuff. Clothing as well, and we definitely hope that that has had a pretty good impact on people and that it’s helped children at under-resourced schools–the basic utilities that they need to be a successful student.” The initiative also teaches things like hands-only CPR (instructing pupils to perform chest compressions to the tune of the Bee Gee’s “Stayin’ Alive”), how to navigate public transit and English-speaking skills. John estimates that the initiative has helped between 1,000 to 2,000 people with their English. “We have people who come, maybe, to

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three or four lessons just to solidify what we teach them, and they definitely learn and their English gets better and they talk to us. They can have pretty good conversations with us and they ask us to start intermediate English lessons, so that’s what we’re working on now.” Equal Voice has served over 5,000 refugees thus far, mostly people in the City Heights area. “And City Heights of course does have a very high refugee population, but so does El Cajon. So that’s been an update target of ours, expanding to El Cajon.” “It’s definitely a great honor to have been selected [for the award],” John said, “and I can’t thank the [Diller Family] Foundation enough for the award, and all that it means. I’ll probably be using the money to further my education and go to college.” John has been accepted to Stanford University, and is interested in potentially studying humanities and technology. Beatriz was inspired to send books to children living in at-risk communities and developing countries. Her initiative, Books for a Change, has helped nearly 10,000 children from San Diego to Brazil. Thus far, Beatriz has raised $5,000 for books and materials, along with 1,000 donated books. The initiative sends bookshelves with 10 books per age group (0-3 and 3-6) to Brazilian daycare programs. She often receives requests for assistance directly from Brazilian daycares, though word of mouth amongst her initiative’s volunteers also helps spread awareness. Beatriz is also creating an educational curriculum for the daycares Books for a Change assists. “Normally we do teach in-person, you know, [to] the daycare facilitators; how to best read to the children, but we really want to release this curriculum and really see the tools that we’ve gathered for them worldwide. We’re in the process of making a video with all these steps to teach all wom-

en in Brazil, and all men, who work at these daycares how to collectively read to the children, facilitate reading and suggest activities that they can do with some of the books that we’ve given them.” “We’ve actually been working on donating the books in large containers versus bookshelves,” Beatriz said. “Doing a little combination of both, but what the large boxes have been allowing us to do–we tested it out–our

last donation was one with the box, it was two weeks ago, I think. It really is going to allow us to donate more books to more places in Brazil. A lot of daycares in Brazil aren’t really accessible by person, because they’re in really dangerous areas, they’re extremely crimefilled, and so it’s much easier to donate if we were to ship the boxes.” Ethan started a blog called The Journey Through Autism, which provides insights into his personal dealings with high-functioning autism–the blog has a readership of over 40,000. Ethan was inspired by the ‘creator versus victim theory.’ He first learned of this theory “in eighth grade, during my pre-confirmation class at my synagogue. My youth director said that when there is a situation that you cannot control and can be seen as negative, you have two options: to feel like a victim or to become a creator and create the life that you want to live. I chose to become a creator!” Thus, his blog was born. “For me,” Ethan said, “I love to blog because writing calms me down when I’m upset and allows me to express myself in ways I would not have been able to. I also like to write because it’s fun!” He also goes on speaking tours to educate about autism, decrease bullying in schools, and to educate professionals and teachers how to accommodate clients/pupils with autism. “When touring, one main piece of advice I give to children is to become the creator in their own situation. Whether it’s on the playground or in a household, they can create their own path.” To celebrate the teens’ achievements, an awards ceremony and luncheon was held on Aug. 19 at a Four Seasons Hotel in San Francisco, where John, Beatriz and Ethan met the twelve other award-winners from around the country. A

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hey’re coming. They’re coming,” I sing in my head. Because my youngest child lives far away in Philadelphia, every year I bemoan the fact that her family, especially my three grandchildren are not seated at my Rosh Hashanah dinner table. Unlike other holiday dinners celebrated at my sister’s or my sister-in-law’s, Rosh Hashanah is mine. As the days approach, I make copious lists, structure the cooking, decide what can be made fresh, but what must be frozen so that I’m not totally exhausted by the time the night arrives. Some years I plan to make kugels, sweet and savory; other times, it’s unending confections of deserts, but it is always a balance to ensure meat or chicken remain the star. A flurry of activity underscores the weeks before as I conjure the dinner, the food, the table set with my mother or grandmother’s Rosenthal China, her Rosepoint silver divided between my sister and me. I picture the flowers–fall jewel tones, or more likely my favourite pinks, purples and whites. I think of the lit candle sticks warming, enhancing and glowing on the upturned faces of my family. I foresee my husband holding up two round, twisted challahs, one with raisins, one plain, blessing them, along with the first rosy apples of the season, and pass-

ing them slathered with honey in its little honey pot shaped like a beehive. I smile to think of the children licking their stubby fingers, covering the good ivory napkins, but also their faces beaming behind streams of delicious sweetness. And this year, they’re coming: the blonde bookish six year old; the four year old who proclaims with hands at hips, “I’m just a kid”; and her baby sister who is always too busy to FaceTime, impishly grinning as she turns from the screen. Previously, because Philadelphia is an eight hour drive from our home, I’ve had to accept an incomplete table, but this year, in spite of disrupting work and school schedules, they’re coming, they’re coming. For Rosh Hashanah is about fresh starts, new beginnings, making new rituals with family. And I want my grandchildren to share in the messy fingers, the brief, but age-old prayers as we all proclaim, “Oi- men” together, tearing and passing the luscious challah, laughing and being together as a family. I want them to become aware that there is something so magical about holiday dinners, especially at the beginning of a new year. I recall my earliest days at Hebrew School, the huge book drawn in chalk on the green board and my teacher’s dark promise that some of us, quaking little girls,

would be written in the book of life, the others in death. But prayer and repentance might assuage the doom. It was a frightening moment, serious and foreboding. And of all my days in Grade One, this is the only one in which I can recapture Miss Glazer’s solemn face. I want my grandchildren’s memories to be filled with the sweetness of promise, good deeds, the warmth of their adoring grandparents, the clutch of their cousins, aunts and uncles. For me, besides the romantic idea of the mysterious dark, there is that feeling of being enclosed together in the evening with only the flicker of candles to suggest a greater sense of awe. Besides, those coming from afar will complete their journeys before nightfall. They will arrive at dusk, G-d welcoming us all. Jewish holidays commence at dusk, the skies veering towards navy and the promise of twinkling stars separates our thoughts, our prayers and rituals from ordinary workdays days. I wonder about this. Chabad says, According to the Jewish calendar, not only Jewish holidays begin at nightfall, but every day does…in Genesis: [we read], “And it was evening, and it was morning; day one … And it was evening, and it was morning; the second day etc. By mentioning evening before morning, the

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Torah defines a day as beginning with the evening, followed by the morning.” One complete day then contains both night and day, dark and light, a continuous flow that mirrors our lives of good and bad, beginnings and endings, births and deaths. I cannot help but think of those vanished forever in concentration camps, praying in secret, surreptitiously sharing their memories of Rosh Hashanah dinners, their tables covered in fine linen heaped with food: soup, lockshin, matzoh balls, brisket, chicken, cakes and sweets–a world destroyed, lost, but momentarily recaptured through images of family, the sounds, the smells, the touches, the looks. We silently greet them at our table, feeling them close, holding their memories dear. The words intoned at Yizkor during Rosh Hashanah services at temple, “At the rustling of the leaves and in the beauty of the autumn; We remember them … At the beginning of the year and when it ends; We remember them. When we have joy we crave 74 SDJewishJournal.com | September 2019

to share; For as long as we live, they too will live, for they are now a part of us as, We remember them.” And those others, our parents who came to the new world, now also sadly departed, I think on them at Rosh Hashanah: my mother with her pert scarf at her neck, her arms opening to hug us at the door; my grandmother who sat in the kitchen between delivering food courses to all of the mishpocha, to suck a chicken bone or light a cigarette in the quiet of the moment, her eyes heavy, likely missing her own parents left in Poland. I store Rosh Hashanah in my own child’s eye as thrashing about with my cousins after dinner as we played long into the night while the grownups in pearls and Borsalino hats continued their prayers in the dining room above our heads. How I cherished and longingly anticipated our reunions back then, also chanting to myself, “They’re coming. They’re coming.” My mind jumps to Marc Chagall’s wife, Bella, who in her memoir, “Burning

Lights,” describes the arrival of her relatives in Vitebsk for holiday supper, creating the clatter of pots, the aromas of food that have been cooking for days, the exhaustion of three day travel, but the coming together to celebrate Hasidic Judaism in Russia. But now a sedate 70 and more, I exchange the songs and stories in my head for a present day visit with my own grandchildren, eager to observe them at my Rosh Hashanah table, sharing the night with their own big boy cousins, aged eight and eleven, watching them put their tousled heads together or sing a blessing in perfect Hebrew that impresses all gathered at the table. We clap in unison in delight. Rosh Hashanah, about time past, our connections to Sarah and Abraham, those departed, but also those present: our mishpocha, our families, who like my mother’s welcoming hugs at her door, sing out “La Shana Tova,” blessing all with long life and good health in the year to come. A

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Mistakes and Apologies BY RABBI BEN LEINOW, CONGREGATION B’NAI TIKVAH, CARLSBAD, CA

he Jewish Holidays of Renewal are upon us. Jews throughout the world will be reminded that it is human to make mistakes. Some of our errors may have brought pain to family and friends. During the weeks of these holidays, our relationships are renewed as we ask for forgiveness from those whom we have hurt, and from G-d. It is human to err, and some people may even wonder if G-d erred in the world as it is created. I believe that it is beautiful and amazing that when we read Torah and tell the stories of our greatest leaders, we include their errors of judgement and mistaken behaviors. Among the stories about Abraham, there is the story describing a famine in the land when there is little for human or beast to eat. Now the famine did not harm Egypt, so Abraham picked up and went to Egypt for food and grazing land. On the way, Abraham becomes worried that if Pharaoh were to find Sarah attractive, he would want to put her in his harem as a concubine, and possibly harm Abraham. So Abraham told Pharaoh that Sarah was his sister thereby saving Abraham but harming Sarah. During the Rosh Hashanah Torah morning service, we read the story of G-d telling Abraham to sacrifice his son Isaac as a symbol of Abraham’s loyalty to G-d. In both cases, G-d comes to Abraham’s rescue. Another great and important leader of our people, Moses, killed an Egyptian, and had to flee Egypt to save his life. It is hard to admit that our early great leaders might have had mistaken judgement. I believe the purpose for telling these stories is to remind us that

even the great heroes of our people may have had difficult moments of judgement. Therefore, we, who are not as great as our ancestors are comforted that it did not stop them from being great. If we wish to grow and be better people, we must make mistakes and need to ask for forgiveness from people and G-d. It would be nice if we would just stop here. The child within us wants life to be a series of mistakes and forgiveness. The adult part of our behavior is the striving to not make the same mistakes; the moment we make a mistake, we feel empty and less than we want to be. We say to ourselves we should have known, and we should have behaved in a different way. Growth comes from remembering that there must be different ways of doing what made us feel unhappy. So the next time that we experience a series of ways to behave we remember what worked and didn’t work for ourselves and the people around in the past. Now I am going to contradict myself because the average person does not learn from one experience of failure. Often we learn to do what doesn’t work first, and so we continue to try to make something work that does not work until we are truly tired of failure and then we follow the path that works. Each time we fail when experiencing the needs of another person, and an apology takes place, then it is the apology that brings us closer to success. We work at it until we function in the way that it is not necessary to apologize. Our behavior then brings peace and comfort to another person and ourselves at the same time.

So, apologies are important! If they are important, then where do we learn to apologize. We learn from our parents, close friends, and the prayer book. If we look at what we are doing in Hebrew, English and in song on Rosh Hashanah and Yom Kippur, we are discovering what we have done wrong in the past year, we learn what to do correctly and how to apologize for the mistakes we have made in the past. We go through this learning process year after year hoping we might get it ‘all right someday’, and apology will not be needed. Now, I have some good news and sad news. Because we are human we never get it ‘all right someday.’ That is why we go to synagogue on Rosh Hashanah and Yom Kippur. We have to be reminded that we were not as perfect as we wanted to be during the year and we have to practice saying ‘I am sorry’ to G-d in many different ways so that during the coming year we will be able to say ‘I am sorry’ to our relatives and friends. By the end of the Yom Kippur services, we are so skillful that within a few days we can come back to the synagogue Sukkah and celebrate how well we have learned to apologize when it is called for. The sad news is that by the next year, we will have to come to the synagogue for a refresher course in recognizing when we have brought pain and discomfort into the lives of our family or friends, and how to apologize so that healing will take place between us. Chag Sameach, Shana Tovah, Happy New Year. A

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nstinctively, director-choreographer Jerome Robbins (née Rabinowitz) knew the musical that he was preparing for Broadway was something far greater than just the story of a Jewish family facing persecution in Czarist Russia. So at one of his early meetings with the creatives behind the project, he made clear the route he intended to take them on: “Fiddler on the Roof” touched on many themes, he said, but at its core it was about tradition. And thus was born one of the great opening numbers in the history of musical theater and the groundwork for one of the most important and popular plays ever. It opened in September of 1964 and became the longest-running Broadway musical of the time. It ran for a decade, spawned five Broadway revivals and has been performed everywhere from Vienna to Mexico City to Reykjavík, Iceland. A new documentary, “Fiddler: Miracle of Miracles,” digs into the show’s origin story and much more. Filmmaker Max Lewkowicz expertly combines archival footage with interviews of show participants from over the years to weave a story that is at once heart-warming, entertaining, informative and in some ways eye opening. Ironically, considering its subsequent success, “Fiddler” had a rocky start. A friend gave lyricist Sheldon Harnick a copy of the book “Wandering Stars” by Sholem Aleichem. Harnick thought it would make a great musical, and forwarded the book to his writing partner Jerry Bock who agreed and in turn sent it to playwright Joseph Stein. Stein, however, didn’t believe it would work as a musical. Instead, he suggested another Aleichem work, “Tevye the Dairyman,” a book of stories that his father had read to him in the original Yiddish. Though it had the backing of the three award-winning Broadway pros, it was still far from a sure thing. Producers were wary, afraid it was too Jewish. “What do I do once we run out of Hadassah benefits?” is what one allegedly said. It wasn’t until the late Harold Prince signed on to produce that the play achieved any momentum. Even then, success was not assured. Reviews following an out-of-town opening in Detroit were uniformly negative. Even after substantial changes, The New York Times’ influential critic at the time, Walter Kerr, offered a tepid review after its Broadway debut.

But the next day, there were lines around the block. The film is replete with fascinating anecdotes about the process: how star Zero Mostel and Robbins feuded because the latter named names before the House Un-American Activities Committee; how Robbins attending a Hasidic wedding provided the inspiration for a fun dance scene; how the play was initially intended to be called “Tevye” until someone saw Marc Chagall’s painting “The Fiddler” and renamed the play as a tribute to him. There have been at least two books written about “Fiddler,” but while both share many of these anecdotes, neither can satisfactorily describe the gleam in the eyes, the smiles on the faces and the pride in the voices of the dozens of actors interviewed here who have played a part in the “Fiddler” phenomenon. Lin Manuel-Miranda, who is interviewed in the film, first performed in a “Fiddler” production in 6th grade. He was so enchanted by the experience he and his entire wedding party rehearsed and choreographed the song “L’Chaim” as a surprise for his bride, Vanessa. The performance went viral. Harnick remembers attending an early Tokyo performance and being asked: “Do they understand it in America? It’s so Japanese.” Although there are no overt political references, ties to the current spike in anti-Semitism and hate seem obvious. As Danny Burstein, who played Tevye in the last Broadway revival, notes: “As long as human beings exist and continue to have troubles, ‘Fiddler on the Roof’ will be there.” “Fiddler: Miracle of Miracles” opens Aug. 23 in Los Angeles and New York with additional venues to be announced.A

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| By Eileen Sondak

“Kiss My Aztec” at The La Jolla Playhouse. The La Jolla Playhouse has a new musical on tap. “Kiss My Aztec!” will bring an irreverent and over-the-top brand of musical comedy to the Playhouse on Sept. 3. The story revolves around the Spanish and their attempt to procure the Aztecs’ riches in Mesoamerica. “Kiss My Aztec” will continue to mine laughs from this off-beat tale through Oct. 13.

“Romeo and Juliet” at The Old Globe Theater. featuring a bored new bride and her uptight bureaucratic husband–was extended again through Sept. 8 on the stage of the White Theater.

North Coast Repertory Theater is kicking off its 38th season with Peter Shaffer’s “Amadeus,” the Tony Award-winning masterpiece that explores the relationship between Wolfgang AmaThe Playhouse is still featuring “The Coast Starlight,” a clever deus Mozart and his jealous rival Antonio Salieri. This highly new play about six travelers aboard a train heading up the theatrical work will take over the troupe’s Solana Beach home coast of California. The group discovers a need for invention Sept. 4-29. and re-invention when life goes off the rails. The Playhouse will keep this train on track through Sept. 15–delivering an Cygnet Theater is dabbling in a racy political thriller this month, entertaining message of hope, before “The Coast Starlight” with the arrival on Sept. 11 of “The Virgin Trial.” This play feacomes to the end of the line. tures a young princess Elizabeth I, as she navigates a labyrinth of political and sexual intrigue. This is the companion piece to The San Diego Symphony’s Pops season at the Embar- the megahit, “The Last Wife,” and it promises to keep audienccadero Marina concludes on Sept. 1, with the annual 1812 es on the edge of their seats as the machinations of power play Tchaikovsky Spectacular. A fireworks display will light up the out on the Old Town Theater stage through Oct. 6. skies after the concert to end the summer season with a bang. The Old Globe will launch its season on Sept. 13 with the world The Lamb’s Players are winding down their production of “The premiere of a musical based on the Oscar-winning film, “Al- ‘80s Greatest Hits”–a sentimental journey through the music, most Famous.” Cameron Crowe wrote the book and lyrics dance, and fashions of the 1980s. The spirited and immensely (drawn from his own experiences) with classic songs and popular musical will close on Sept. 15 (after two extensions). some new tunes by Tom Kitt. Crowe grew up near the Globe Closing on Sept. 1 is “Million Dollar Quartet,” currently enTheater and saw plays on the Festival Stage, so this is some- sconced at the Avo Playhouse. thing of a homecoming for the writer/director. The story revolves around the world of rock and roll and a young man’s stint on the inside. You can catch this new musical (which has all the hallmarks of a Broadway-bound hit) through Oct. 20 on the Globe’s Main Stage. The Globe’s annual black-tie bash on Copley Plaza will take on a different look (inspired by the new musical). Held on Sept. 21, the bash is being described as “where black-tie meets tiedye.” The Old Globe’s summer Shakespeare season is showing off one of the Bard’s most romantic plays–“Romeo and Juliet.” The tragic tale of these beloved star-crossed lovers will play out on the outdoor Festival Stage through Sept. 15 directed by The Globe’s own Barry Edelstein. The Globe’s staging of Steve Martin’s “The Underpants”–a riotously funny farce,

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Coronado Playhouse will unwrap Shakespeare’s “The Winter’s Tale” on Sept. 20. You can see this ambitious production of the Bard’s masterpiece through Oct. 13. Moxie’s staging of “Dance Nation” continues through Sept. 15. This Pulitzer Prize-finalist–which deals with success, ambition, and desire–comes with a warning that it is not suitable for young audiences (although the play features pre-teen competitive dancers in the plot). San Diego Musical Theater will end its run of “All Shook Up” on Sept. 1, so Elvis fans will have to hurry to snare a seat. The Timken Museum will open “Masterpieces of Italian Drawings” on Sept. 6. The show–which features Fra Bartolemmeo’s Study for Salvator Munde and Andrea del Sarto’s The Lamen-

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tation with Four Saints–will be on display through Dec. 15.

hibit that explores the world of space science and astronomy. “Pause/Play,” is an immersive experience for mind and body The Museum of Art is winding down “Art and Empire: The Gold- that uses science in a completely new way. en Age of Spain,” a collection of more than 100 works by leading artists from Spain and its territories. Among the masters on The Fleet is offering “Dream, Design, Build”–an exhibition that display (through Sept. 2) are Velazquez, Rubens, and El Gre- explores the museum’s collection of interactive engineering acco. The museum just unveiled two new exhibitions. “Black Life: tivities, and “Taping Shape 2.0,” which uses hundreds of rolls Images of Resistance & Resilience in Southern California” will of packing tape to create a world of translucent spaces and show off 40 modern prints through Dec. 1. “Abstract Revolu- tunnels. The Fleet has several other permanent exhibitions, intion”–ensconced through Feb. 23 of 2020–will re-evaluate the cluding “Don’t Try This at Home,” “Studio X”, “Block Busters,” development of Abstract Expressionism. and “Origins in Space.” The newest is “It’s Electric,” an interactive show that explores the fundamentals of electricity. The Museum of Contemporary Art’s downtown location will feature “Marnie Weber: Songs that Never Die and Other Stories,” The Natural History Museum is captivating audiences with “Esa collection of sculptures and photographs by an artist from cape the Nat”–an escape room experience that dares you to Los Angeles’ post-punk scene. The exhibition will be on view solve puzzles and save the world. “The Backyard”–a gallery through Nov. 3. for the 5-and-under set–and “Backyard Wilderness” (a 3-D film) are also on view. “Hidden Gems” is another attraction, Birch Aquarium is highlighting a permanent exhibition, “Sead- along with “National Geographic: 50 Greatest Wildlife Photoragons & Seahorses.“Hall of Fishes,” which also serves as a graphs,” the newest photographic exhibition at the NAT. working laboratory, is also on view. Birch has an installation on light by scientist Michael Latz, and another exhibition that “Coast to Cactus in California,” and “Unshelved: Cool Stuff from helps you understand Scripps’ expeditions to discover and Storage”–a display of specimens from around the world–are protect the planet. “Expedition at Sea” includes a 33-foot long also worth checking out. The Nat’s 3-D films include “Ocean projected triptych and hands-on learning opportunities. Oasis,” the newest film, “Conquest of the Skies,” which deals Another interesting exhibition at the Birch is “Research in Ac- with flying animals, and “Flight of the Butterflies.” The museum tion: 100 Island Challenge,” an exhibit that explores the way also offers “Fossil Mysteries” and “Skulls.” reefs are adapting to our rapidly changing planet. Also on display is “Oddities: Hidden Heroes of the Scripps Collection,” a comic book-inspired exhibit that highlights amazing adaptations of ocean species.

The New Children’s Museum has a colorful new interactive textile environment to amuse the small-fry set. Dubbed Whammock, the intricate installation (designed by artist Toshiko Horiuchi MacAdam) invites kids to climb, play, and have fun.

The Reuben Fleet Science Center will be showing a new film, “Turtle Odyssey” (narrated by Russell Crowe) along with “Superpower Dogs,” (which showcases the bravery and prowess of some of the world’s most remarkable dogs) and “Volcanoes: The Fires of Creation” (which examines the contribution of volcanoes to the wildlife ecosystem and their impact on humans). Also at the Fleet is the “Renegade Science Project,” which escorts visitors through the park for a 90-minute exploration. Its newest exhibition, “Sun, Earth, Universe,” is an interactive ex-

The San Diego History Center is featuring the first exhibition in Balboa Park exploring San Diego’s LGBTQ+ community. The History Museum’s permanent exhibition, “Placed Promises,” chronicles the history of the San Diego region–and the America’s Cup Exhibition, highlights the sailing race held in San Diego three times since 1988. The Museum of Man (open during a seismic retrofit) is showcasing “Cannibals: Myth & Reality” and “PostSecret.” A

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the news Natan Sharansky Announced as New ISGAP Chair The Institute for the Study of Global Antisemitism and Policy has announced Natan Sharanksy as its new Chair. Sharansky is famous for having developed the 3D anti-Semitism test, which is designed to distinguish anti-Semitism from legitimate criticism of Israel. He is also known for his nine-year imprisonment in the Soviet Union for alleged spying on behalf of the USA. Sharansky was freed through the campaigning of his wife Avital, and immediately emigrated to Israel. “I can not think of an individual who carries a greater caliber of intellectual leadership in the fight against contemporary anti-Semitism, in combination with an extraordinary record in the struggle for human rights, including the rights of the Jewish people, as well as all groups of peoples, to be able to freely express and practice their identity. His fight and moral victory over totalitarianism is historic and legendary. Given the rise in current totalitarian movements—that rely on antisemitism—Mr. Sharansky’s leadership role in ISGAP is all the more vital,” said Dr. Charles Asher Small, the founding director of ISGAP.

Food Truck Serves Homeless, Part of the JFS Safe Parking Program Husband and wife Davinger Singh and Harisimran Khalsa started an initiative to feed homeless people and are working in cooperation with

Youth Will Founders Fundraiser Honors San Diego Youth Activists On August 15, Youth Will shall hold its Founders Fundraiser to honor young activists in the San Diego area. The ceremony will mark the announcement of the four award winners, and the proceeds raised from the event will be used to continue Youth Will’s mission of empowering youth-driven activism in San Diego. The award-winners include Huda Ahmed, member of Malala Yousafzai Youth Leadership, Ismahan Abdullahi, national deputy director for the Muslim American Society, David Baker, podcaster for ‘Homeless in San Diego: Real People, Real Stories’, and the Regional Taskforce on the Homeless. Youth Will is an organization that hopes to inspire members of Generation Z, as well as young millennials, to enact change via community organizing and advocacy programs.

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On August 15, the Duwara food truck held its ‘grand opening’ as part of JFS’s Safe Parking Program. The program provides shelter and other resources to people living out of their cars. Singh and Khalsa will serve there every Thursday evening.

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“The Jewish Writers’ Initiative is a creative endeavor for writers,” said Ari Pinchot, CEO of Crystal City Entertainment. “With the support of high-level industry professionals, leading educators, and projectThe Foundation is 100% donation-based; contributions can be made at specific resources, this is a rare opportunity for writers who want to duwara.com. create commercial scripts exploring diverse Jewish stories. We are excited about this initiative and look forward to supporting each writer in their efforts to launch their projects.” Visit jwinitiative.com for more information.

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Meetings and Events for Jewish Seniors Jewish War Veterans of San Diego, Post-185 Contact Jerome Klein (858) 521-8694 Sept. 8, 10 a.m. Veterans Association of North County, Post-385 Contact Marsha Schjolberg (760) 492-7443 Jewish War Veterans meetings Sept. 8, 11 a.m. North County Jewish Seniors Club at the Oceanside Senior Center Contact Josephine (760) 295-2564 Sept. 15, 12:30 p.m.

San Diego Symphony Will Open New Bayside Concert Venue in Summer 2020 The San Diego Symphony will begin constructing a permanent bayside concert venue in September in the Port of San Diego’s Embarcadero Marina Park South: the Bayside Performance Park, a waterfront concert venue. The first concerts are scheduled to begin in summer 2020. This new venue will include a new outdoor stage, an expanded concession area and permanent bathrooms. “The San Diego Symphony has dreamed of a permanent Bayside venue for many years and we share this historic moment with the Port of San Diego,” said San Diego Symphony CEO Martha Gilmer. “The high artistic quality of our Orchestra will now be supported by an equally superior performance venue.” The Bayside Performance Park project was made possible by private philanthropic efforts, with noted donors including Una Davis, Joan and Irwin Jacobs, and Ernest and Evelyn Rady.

JFS Balboa Avenue Older Adult Center Contact Aviva Saad (858) 550-5998 Sept. 16, 10 a.m. to 2 p.m. Mexican Fiesta to celebrate Mexico’s Independence Day, with entertainment by Mark Flores. JFS College Avenue Center at Temple Emanu-El Contact Chris Maeoka (858) 637-3260 Sept. 16, 1 p.m. See “Citizen Kane” and discuss the film with Ralph DeLauro. Lawrence Family JCC Contact Melanie Rubin (858) 362-1141 Sept. 20, 10:30 a.m. to 11:30 a.m. Rabbi Lenore Bohm will share her collection of unusual ritual objects, Judaica and beautiful fabric art and discuss their significance in Judaism. Price is $8 for members. RSVP by Sept. 13. On the Go Excursions Contact Mia Elenes at (858) 637-3012 Sept. 22, 1 p.m. Take a trip to see a production of Shakespeare’s “The Winter’s Tale.“ Payment due on Sept. 12.

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y Dear San Diegans: The High Holidays are upon us. We Jews worldwide gather together to celebrate Rosh Hashanah, the Jewish New Year, G_d’s creation of the world and Yom Kippur, the Day of Atonement, during which G_d decides the fate of each of us during the coming year. Together, they comprise the most sacred events in the Jewish Calendar. It is a time of reflection, a “marking” and as always for we Jews, hope. Today, I’d like to tell you a true story of a miracle, inspired by hope. We start with time. I’ve always thought of time like the view from the window of a moving train. When you look out directly, everything speeds by. Peer at what you’ve passed, and the world seems to slow. That’s how I remember Rebecca and Jerry (the names have been changed). Frozen in time at age 20 in Toronto, Canada, their home. They fell in love at 13. Jerry was gangly with a rapid-fire mouth, endless energy and always had a “scheme,” like his scuba diving business which he tested in the East River on one visit to New York. And for every Clyde there’s a Bonnie. His was named Rebecca. This tiny, feisty, adorable bundle with flashing blue eyes, a gazillion freckles, crowned with a glorious flame-red mane, carried up the rear like a zany and proud partner. They studied, they worked, they married. They had fun. Jerry graduated from law school. They had a daughter, then a son, and all the while, Rebecca ran Jerry’s office. Over the years, their home became Family Central for a myriad of in-laws, cousins (like me) and friends. No matter how busy they became, two 90 SDJewishJournal.com | September 2019

nights a week were “their” nights. After 20 years, they had two more children. Their life cycle was again renewed. One night, some years ago, Jerry called. Rebecca needed a heart bypass operation. This still young, vibrant woman needed heart surgery? Unthinkable. After Jerry was assured all went well following the surgery, he heard the alarm. Rebecca’s heart had stopped. The surgeon re-opened her chest and massaged her heart back to life. It finally started beating again. But she’d suffered several strokes. Her condition forced them to induce a coma to lessen the pressure to her heart. Jerry never once left her side. He had a bed moved into her room. The unthinkable happened again. The medication had so reduced her blood flow, her leg became gangrenous. Jerry had to make the decision to amputate. Two weeks later, the other leg, too, was amputated while Rebecca laid in a coma. As the weeks passed, Jerry left updates on his answering device. The news grew ever-gruesome. Her heart was weak; massive infection; strokes. His message always ended with, “Your calls mean so much. Please ... pray for Rebecca.” As she clung to life, Jerry massaged her. Talked of every year they’d shared. His life was now centered on saving hers. Every night we’d brace to hear the message. It was a Friday. There was Jerry’s voice, quiet, barely audible on the machine. “No update today. There’s somebody here ... who will do it for me.” Then we heard it. Seven words. In a small rasp. With a tiny-feisty- flashing-blueeyed- freckled-flame-red twinkle. “ Hi guys. It’s me, Rebecca ... I’m back.”

The moment I saw her, in a wheelchair, laughing, planning a mile a minute with Jerry by her side, I felt she was the most beautiful thing I had ever seen. Jerry and Rebecca, Rebecca and Jerry. We’d always used those words as if they were one. They are. She said in the coma, she felt Jerry’s touch. When she awoke, they vowed they wouldn’t let a moment go by wasted. And in that instant, they became my heroes. Today, Rebecca walks a mile a day, has “the most fashionable legs known to plastic!” is at the helm of Jerry’s practice, tends to her children, and has thrown major family celebrations. The only remnant of the strokes is “a giggle, but Jerry thinks it’s sexy!” she chirps. That’s not to say she doesn’t have moments of mourning for the physical whole of her. For some independence compromised. Time–like a passenger on a moving train. When I look at Jerry and Rebecca, I don’t see what’s been lost. I see that feisty, 20-year-old with the flashing blue eyes, and the gangly boy; the couple who were bashert at 13. But I see more. I see a radiance that only time can bestow. I see what can be borne from faith, love, and connection to ourselves, each other and the world around us. I see hope. Even today, no doctor can explain any of it. And that’s what I wish for you, my readers. The hope that dares us to dream the improbable. To face each day, without fear, joyous and satisfied in the trying. So that ultimately, we can face our last, knowing we’ll never say, “I should have.” Peace and love to you from my world, to yours. I’m so glad we touch. Chag Sameach. A

Dr. Edward Byron Buchner passed away at the age of 91 in La Mesa, CA where he lived for many years. The son of Samuel Buchner and Kate Raikow, Dr. Buchner was born in Detroit, Michigan and went to high school in Tucson, Arizona. He served in the United States Navy Reserve in World War II. A graduate of San Diego State University and the University of Southern California School of Medicine, Dr. Buchner served as Chief of Staff at College Park Hospital for several years and had his own private practice in Internal Medicine. He loved outdoor activities, especially scuba diving and sailing in his younger years, and he was an avid skier and tennis player well into his 80s. Dr. Buchner had three siblings, Hanson, Pearl, and Harold. He is survived by his daughter and son-in-law, Erica and Robert Thaler, and grandchilden Raiden and Claire. He will be remembered fondly by his many dear friends and extended family members, including several nieces and nephews.

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