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Find where to go to and when this Rosh Hashanah and Yom Kippur in our annual listing of services. Sprinkled throughout the section encounter quotes from San Diegans sharing their favorite High Holiday traditions, personal and moving memories of celebrations with family, plus rabbinic wisdom they've held onto.



Take another look at What Jewish History Forgot, from baseball lore to details about the shofar you probably weren't taught in congregational school.


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MONTHLY COLUMNS 12 Editor's Letter 22 Parenting 24 Israeli Lifestyle 26 Examined Life 28 Religion


Around Town 18 Our Town 20 The Scene 88 What's Goin On 93 Synagogue Life

When one freelance writer heard an offensive comment at an industry event, he went in search of a definition of anti-Semitism from local experts.

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THE STARTING LINE by Natalie Jacobs




t’s hard to talk about myself right now, but I’ll need to eventually. As I write, a person in Barcelona has driven a van into a crowd along the famous tourist street La Rambla. I hesitate to call this person a terrorist because I’m growing ever more confused about what constitutes big-T Terrorism and what is just run-of-the-mill murder. The car-ramming in Barcelona happened less than a week after another murderous event involving a car and a lunatic, that time in Charlottesville, Virginia. This person who drove his car directly and purposefully into a crowd of people in the United States was a white person – melanin-deficient and probably a Christian. But no one is talking about his religious affiliations or even his extremist ideologies for the most part. Instead of headlines screaming “Terrorist Attack in Charlottesville,” there are conversations about whether careful and measured investigations may reveal evidence that can support a charge of domestic terrorism. “Terrorist” headlines or none, people were terrified, are terrified that vile, ignorant, regressive views are being invited out of the caverns they have been repeatedly beaten back into since the civil rights era, the Second World War, the American Civil War and offered a place in the public square. For the week between unrelated events in August, people were mostly talking about the American president’s own deficiencies, which go much deeper than the spray-painted pigment that smears his face. That conversation was good and somewhat refreshing especially as even anchors on Fox News for once had trouble coming to the man’s defense. But as details poured out of Barcelona, the headlines were dominated with “terrorist” this and “terrorism” that. Meanwhile the same U.S. president who waited three days to condemn the events in Charlottes-

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ville only to then two days later walk back that condemnation, issued a statement condemning the “terrorist attack” mere hours after it happened in Barcelona. Although his attorney general did eventually admit that the Charlottesville attack likely meets the legal requirements to earn a definition of “domestic terrorism” the lines are still too blurry to see. As weird as it feels, I have to pivot from trying to comprehend this sick sad world for a moment to talk about myself. This issue is my last as Editor-in-Chief of the San Diego Jewish Journal. It has been incredible (and lately, heartbreaking) to watch and write about so many of the huge changes in the world of the last five years from my view at the Journal. Since taking over as editor, I’ve been constantly challenged to tell better, stronger, more powerful stories that keep the magazine relevant and relatable to the full spectrum of people who make up the community we cover. Thank you for taking me in and coming along as I explored the questions that I hoped would move you in some small way. The October issue will usher in a new editorial crew, with Brie Stimson moving from the Assistant Editor’s desk into the Editor-in-Chief chair. For the most part you should expect to see the same writers, with maybe a few additions. Derek Berghaus will hold it down on the visuals and Mark Edelstein remains publisher extraordinaire. As for September, it’s still our biggest issue of the year and fitting that it should be my last. For our High Holidays coverage we put out a call to the community to share with us favorite Holy Day traditions, most lasting memories, some advice on how to stay interested and engaged and strongest pieces of rabbinic wisdom remembered from services. What we received were intimate looks inside

Although his attorney general did eventually admit that the Charlottesville attack likely meets the legal requirements to earn a definition of "domestic terrorism," the lines are still too blurry to see. the lives and hearts of readers who were so kind to share with us their cherished stories. Find the quotes sprinkled throughout the listing of services. Looping back to the ambiguity of labels these days, later in the magazine there’s a story from a new contributor who recently had to explore the boundaries of anti-Semitism after an uncomfortable comment was made at a journalism industry event. Thank you again, and take care of each other. A

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CORRECTIONS In “Irwin Jacobs Talks Technology, Israel and a New Campus for Fostering Innovative Entrepreneurship” [August, 2017] the Joan and Irwin Jacobs Technion-Cornell Institute was incorrectly named. It was also unclear that the Institute is part of Cornell Tech, which is opening the new campus on New York’s Roosevelt Island, within which the Jacobs Technion-Cornell Institute will be housed. The issues have been clarified in the online version of the story.

what’s up on WHITE SUPREMACISTS ON THE RISE When a rally was planned in Charlottesville, Virginia, to protest the removal of a Confederate statue, JTA’s Washington correspondent headed down to cover it. Ron Kampeas covered the vitriolic Washington, D.C. meeting of another group of white supremacists lead by Richard Spencer some months before and he contrasts the scene on the streets of Charlottesville to the “airless corridors of a Washington hotel.” He finds much more to be discomforted by in this new volatile context. Read his first-person account of the scene, the anti-Semitism he faced, and the way that the President’s remarks fell flat in the wake of a tragic and disheartening afternoon.

JEWISH COMMUNITY RAISES VOICES AGAINST HATE Almost immediately following the violent weekend in Charlottesville, most major San Diego Jewish organizations pulled together an event to “stand up to hate” and to arm San Diegans with information about how to combat hate speech and violent extremism. The event included Congressman Scott Peters and local rabbis from across the religious spectrum.


SCANDAL AND FAMILIARITY WITH BENJAMIN NETANYAHU First off, Israel’s Prime Minister Benjamin Netanyahu may have a strong hold on the government but he and his family are embroiled in scandal. JTA has pulled together a handy explainer to keep up with the charges and to understand where they’re coming from. As a side note, another way to get caught up on the action is through a recent biography of Netanyahu, recently translated to English, called “The Netanyahu Years” by Israeli journalist Ben Caspit. And speaking of journalists, Netanyahu took a page straight out of Trump’s playbook when he railed against the “fake news” media at a rally attended by thousands of his Likud supporters. Also in that rant, Netanyahu called the investigations against him “an obsessive witch-hunt.” Both the stories are up on our website, just search "Benjamin Netanyahu." 16 l September 2017

Continuing our interest in the Jewish millennial set (following our July cover story), we posted a story from JTA on young Jews who are finding spirituality and community outside the synagogue but within the Jewish community. Call it a trend if you must, but expanding Jewish connection outside the organized structures of the religion is not going away. If you’re a local Jewish millennial with a similar story, or a different one, share it with us. We’re still interested in keeping up the conversation about how people connect with their Judaism. In the meantime, check out JTA’s story on the subject on our website.

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Commemoration Event in Malibu A lovely commemoration marking the 15th anniversary of the murder of Marla Ann Bennett was held at Camp JCA Shalom in Malibu, Calif., on July 30 in the Marla Bennett Garden at the camp. About 50 friends and relatives including her parents Linda and Michael Bennett were in attendance. People spoke of their wonderful memories of Marla and how much they missed her smile and helpfulness. Linda and Michael Bennett will receive the inaugural Marla Bennett Inspiration Award at the Shalom Institute Gala on Saturday, Dec. 2, to be held at Skirball Cultural Center in Los Angeles. They will be honored for their inspiration not only to Shalom Institute and Camp JCA Shalom, but also their San Diego Community, Hebrew University, Pardes and Berkeley (where Marla went to college). Rabbi Bill Kaplan, Executive Director of Shalom Institute shares, “Linda and Michael’s passion, energy, and vision for ensuring Marla’s legacy is truly an inspiration. We are grateful for their leadership and ongoing commitment to Shalom Institute and the Marla Bennett Israel Education and Discovery Garden, and honored to be a vehicle for their passion.”

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Jerusalem Zoo Comes to San Diego Supporters of the Tisch Family Zoological Gardens in Jerusalem gathered at the Treetops Room at the San Diego Zoo to salute the youth exchange students from Israel who were here to learn about animal care from experts at the San Diego Zoo. This exchange program provides an enriching experience for the young participants and the friends they make during their stay in San Diego. “We get a chance to meet kids from San Diego and interact with them. This year the group really connected with the Americans,” as Ori Ben Gigi (who is in charge of the volunteers) pointed out. In fact, Amani Alayan, one of the Israeli visitors, was excited that her new friend will be visiting her in Jerusalem.    After the lavish buffet lunch, the participants received certificates commemorating the experience from Congresswoman Susan Davis.

CLOCKWISE FROM TOP RIGHT: Delegation from the Jerusalem Zoo; Dr. Paul and Nellie Dean; Charlotte Rand and Jane Austin; Ben Gigi, and Leonard and Barbara Hirsch; Congresswoman Susan Davis.

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MUSINGS FROM MAMA by Sharon Rosen Leib


Ten Years Gone


y mother carried varying levels of manic chaos wherever she went. Think constant phone calls, loads of inexplicable paperwork related to her tour business and overall perpetual motion. This made it challenging for her nearest and dearest to cope with her. Yet she also possessed a strong Jewish mother trove of remarkable qualities – wit, intelligence, sharp observations about human nature, zest for life and a unique brand of cockeyed love for her three children. Like all of us she was a mixed bag – although with a few more nuts thrown into the trail mix. Her family developed varying stratagems for dealing with her mishegoss. My late father adopted a form of Zen detachment before this practice became fashionable. He also zoned out watching television after returning home from long days in his dental office. He taught us to be patient, tolerant and strong in the eye of the hurricane. After Dad died, we no longer had him to talk Mom down from her most irrational behaviors. It was sink or swim time. I attempted to follow my dad’s example with varying degrees of success. Sometimes I blew my lid. I struggled to model respect and not shout at her in front of my girls. Thank goodness I married a skilled humorist. My husband knew how to poke fun at Mom and inspire her to laugh along. We just observed the 10th anniversary of Mom’s death by visiting the ancestral motherland on the Palos Verdes Peninsula. This magical outcropping on the south Los Angeles County coastline looks like a bigger version of La Jolla with more dramatic, rugged geography and killer views of the Pacific Ocean, the Los Angeles basin and Catalina Island. Growing up there, I took the natural beauty, affluence and excellent public education system for granted. I lacked

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the maturity to appreciate the sacrifices my parents made to afford us the opportunity to call Palos Verdes home. My father, the son of middle-class Eastern European immigrants, put in long hours building his dental practice. But he always made time for his three kids – coaching soccer, taking us on ski trips and fighting his exhaustion from wielding a dental drill all day long to help us with homework. My mother, who grew up in Beverly Hills and became a teacher, put her own interests on hold to raise us. When I was in elementary school, she harnessed her boundless energy to co-found an after school enrichment program modeled on one her friends created in Beverly Hills. She recruited her foreign-born Palos Verdes friends to educate us about their native cultures – a Japanese friend taught us how to use Asian calligraphy brushes to create renderings of bamboo, a South African friend taught us about African goddesses and a South American friend taught us Spanish conversation. Mom enriched the lives of many Peninsula kids – mostly her own three. As I showed my daughters around the homeland, more than the tremendous sorrow and grief I experienced in years past, I felt gratitude. We visited the Point Vicente Interpretive Center atop a particularly scenic bluff adjacent to the historic lighthouse. My mother volunteered as a docent and counted gray whales there during the annual migration. A year before dying of cancer, my mother dedicated a Pacific gray whale-shaped bronze plaque embedded in the Center’s courtyard to her grandchildren. As my daughters crouched beside it to read their names, I lifted my arms up to the vast blue ocean horizon and said, “This is how Papa and Mima wanted us to remember them.” A

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The Teaching Bench


t was a Friday night like many others. Candles lit, table set, side dishes plated in my favorite pieces of pottery. The challahs were still warm, proudly sitting beneath an embroidered cloth; my damp-from-theshower hair was neatly tucked inside a colorful headscarf. The sky rapidly darkened to an inky blue-black from which stars popped out from their hiding places in rapid succession. Inhaling the mingled aromas of roast chicken, Persian rice and steamed brussels sprouts, I locked the door behind me and descended the dark stairwell toward the building’s exit. At the entrance of the parking lot sits a bench. While I’d like to report that it is rustic, permanently etched with the initials of lovers, weatherworn and reminiscent of country lanes and county fairs, I can’t because it’s not. It is the municipality’s standard issue of tempered steel mesh design and painted green, embossed with Jerusalem’s Lion of Judah logo. Thousands of these dot the city and, like ugly water tanks that pepper the roofs of the city’s skyline, one gets used to it. Wrapped in a shawl, I sit on this hard steel bench and, for the first time in a week, do nothing. No agenda, no deadline, nothing to do but watch young couples, sin24 l September 2017

gles and old men wend their respective ways toward Sabbath dinners. The only passing cars belong to Arab neighbors going to weddings and other social engagements. No one in Jerusalem is unaware of the holy Sabbath, regardless of whether or not they observe any/all of her precepts. I bask in the quiet, watching for my husband’s return from synagogue. My bench faces a winding side street that houses both the Sephardic and Ashkenazi shuls and neighborhood ritual bath: the mikvah. I always spot him in the distance because his white shirt reflects the street lamps’ glow and, often, he is holding a few papers/ booklets for me. I wait anxiously for these religious writings, a melange of essays that relate to the week’s Torah readings and related topics. Over time our meeting at the bench has morphed into an odd ballet; he sits alongside of me for a few minutes and, together, we look out at nothing. Or, perhaps, everything. Years ago I attended a lecture on the topic of “Love.” The speaker opined that when couples date, they spend an inordinate amount of time gazing into one another’s eyes. Chronic deep gazing can convince po-

tential partners that they are deeply in love because they believe they’ve seen into the other’s soul. She contended, however, that when one stares intently into the eyes of another, they most likely see a reflection of themselves. This might convince the gazer that he is on the same page as his beloved, shares the same thoughts and aspires for similar goals.  Why?  Because they have merely seen themselves.  Imagine the surprise when, after all of that co-ogling, they learn that they have less in common than once imagined.  Sadly, this can sometimes take years or decades... My teacher suggests – and I concur – that the real connection between people comes when they look in the same direction and see the same things.  The same pains, joys, desires, fears.  When they look at a like-horizon and, consequently, their two hearts beat as one, a more rooted foundation is forged for the years and potential struggles – and joys – that await.  As we either tip-toe or race into the unrealized days of the New Year ahead, my only ironclad resolution is to keep the love-lesson of my Sabbath bench close at hand, accessible on demand. A


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The Yin and Yang of Our Lives


as your life ever felt like a roller coaster? We might blissfully enjoy a period of serenity when changes suddenly occur, with twists and turns, rises and plunges. Whether pleasurable or painful, unexpected changes are part of our journeys. Life can be joyful or sorrowful, benevolent or brutal, as we weave our complex stories of love and loss, joy and sorrow, serenity and conflict. We all live unique personal dramas, with fascinating plot lines in which we are the lead actors.   We’ve been happy, yet known despair; generous, yet sometimes selfish; courageous yet tasted fear; and we’ve had successes and failures. Each of us experiences, exults and endures, as represented in the “Yin and Yang of Life.”          The Yin and Yang depicts ancient Chinese life forces believed by many as inherently opposite tendencies of all human experience, feelings and behavior. When extremes of achievement or suffering confront us, we might be prone to jump to conclusions about the quality and direction of our lives. In times of success, we can get carried away with overconfidence about ourselves, our lives and future. And when we face setbacks, we might become pessimistic and despairing. What is of more significance than our varied experiences, however, is how we deal with these changes. “Ride the waves,” we are advised, but we are sentient emotional beings. When unwelcome physical or emotional pain occurs, we might shed tears, but we must keep in mind that time and helping people will make things better. After the initial shock

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and feelings of helplessness, we regroup and gather our thoughts, and we use our strengths and our resources and relationships to overcome and recover. When we experience peace of mind or success, we enjoy the accompanying “glow,” but we should beware of hubris: Just as loss is never an ultimate defeat, success is never an ultimate triumph. The present is a mere snapshot in our varying journeys, and does not reflect how we’ll be in the future. In periods of calm, we need to cherish what we have, because blips will occur on our radar screens. How we courageously confront setbacks and graciously accept successes are good indications our self-worth and our wisdom.  While transient changes on the road of life will inevitably occur, we can be assured that our journeys will eventually return to a state of stability and calm. As Rudyard Kipling poetically (and insightfully) put it, “If you can meet with triumph and disaster, and treat those two imposters[!] just the same, you are a better man than most, my friend.” We are measured in part by whether we handle our achievements with grace and our setbacks with courage, and especially how we treat others. When we traverse periods of sadness and loss with planning and hope, we show how grounded we are within ourselves, our families and communities. When good fortune smiles upon us, it is our gratitude and generosity of spirit which determine our worthiness. Thriving entails feeling comfortable with our “Four B’s,” our senses of Being (personal), Belonging (social), Believing (spiritual),

When good fortune smiles upon us, it is our gratitude and generosity of spirit which determine our worthiness. and Benevolence (altruistic). These augment each other and enhance the quality of our lives. Together with our resilience, they enable us to create a Positive Emotional Footprint, the summation of our effects on and legacies to others. In addition to appreciating our unique journeys, thriving involves having empathy for the triumphs and tribulations of others. By sharing our humanity, we ennoble our own lives, as well as theirs.  Our personal odysseys also benefit from having a sense of awe, an awareness of our infinitesimal yet vital place in the cosmos. Life can be a meaningful journey, a quest for personal growth, stimulation, love, security, serenity and wisdom. Rather than “making the best of it,” let us instead “make it the best it can be.” A

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Coming Home


recently had the pleasure of taking 40 young people on a Birthright trip to Israel. As we sat in the circle, I felt my turn to share approaching. There was a tightness in my chest as I asked myself a question that has turned into a mantra for myself: “Can I say this?” There, in front of a room of my students, I threw down my pride and I opened up my heart. “I came on this trip for one reason; I needed to get to Israel for free so that I could extend my ticket – I wanted to go back to my old Yeshiva (rabbinical school), see my rabbis, and try to refind my inspiration. The ticket extension process got messed up and I couldn’t extend.” There was a pause. I felt my emotions well up. “But what I found was that my experience talking with all of you, of seeing you experience Judaism and Israel...well, that was all I needed to find my inspiration again.” The sages teach us that the air of the land of Israel makes us wise. For years now I felt like I had to go back to my teachers, go back to my rabbinical school, to try to find myself. But what I realized was that I didn’t need to go back to a place, but rather I needed to go back to a mindset, and to an experience – that of connecting Jews with their heritage and their homeland – to really find myself and my calling. Many of us face the High Holidays with a mix of trepidations. Some are practical, like 28 l September 2017

how many hours in synagogue and the cost of shul tickets. Rosh Hashanah is the Yom HaDin, the Day of Judgement. Judgement Day sounds like something from the New Testament or Hollywood. But surprise! It’s from us. The Talmud explains that G-d looks at us as individuals on that day and dictates the upcoming year for us. Who will live, who will die, who will have plenty, who will lack. In our western mindset we often relate to this concept with contempt, disbelief or fear. In a Jewish sense though, this is truly living. Consider the real end goal of therapy; self knowledge. Knowing deeply what motivates us and moves us so that we can practically live the most true versions of ourselves. Human beings crave wideness, freedom, space.  And unlike animals, this craving for truth, for genuine expression, isn’t primarily spacial, it is mental. The entire psychological world is awash with the understanding that our mindset alone determines our happiness. Rosh Hashanah, and the entire season of the High Holidays is about cutting through the noise and getting back to our real purpose. We spend Rosh Hashanah focusing on G-d and the idea that we don’t live in our little world, but rather are part of a massive, global concept of self expression. The fact that G-d created us demands us to be unique, to be us, and to be our best version. The 10 days or Repentance that follow are for us to recognize, based on the fact that we

Don't let the season pass where we, like sheep, just plod on through our lives. have a greater clarity on who we are, what things we need to change to become who we are. Yom Kippur is the day when G-d releases the spiritual negativity that we have brought on ourselves through our errors and mistakes. The High Holiday season is the ultimate expression of coming home to ourselves, of recognizing the change we want and need isn’t in a remote location, nor held onto by someone outside of us. Rather, it’s about putting ourselves in situations and locations that speak deeply to us and resonate with us. This year, challenge yourself. Don’t let the season pass where we, like sheep, just plod on through our lives. As yourself, “What is it that I really want.” Live life proactively, seeking out your desires, instead of reactively ticking off a to do list on a daily basis. This is the eternal gift of the High Holiday season. A



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Chabad Baja California

3830 Valley Center Dr. St 705-103 San Diego, CA 92130 (011) 521664-596-4349 (619) 726-4645 *Call for times and reservation info.

Chabad of Carmel Valley

11860 Carmel Creek Rd. San Diego, CA 92130 (858) 333-4613 Rosh Hashanah Sept. 20: 6:30 p.m. Arvit Sept. 21: 9:30 a.m. Shacharit 11 a.m. Kid’s program noon Shofar 5:30 p.m. Tashlich 6:15 p.m. Mincha Sept. 22: 9:30 a.m. Shacharit 11 a.m. Kid’s program noon Shofar 6:30 p.m. Mincha Yom Kippur Sept. 29: 6:30 p.m. Kol Nidre Sept. 30: 9:30 a.m. Shacharit 11 a.m. Kid’s program noon Yizkor 4 p.m. Mincha 5:30 p.m. Neilah *No cost to attend services. R.S.V.P. appreciated to

Chabad of Coronado

956 Orange Ave. Coronado, CA 92118 (619) 365-4728 Rosh Hashanah Sept. 20: 6:30 p.m. Evening service and community dinner, R.S.V.P. Sept. 21: 10 a.m. Morning service 11:30 a.m. Children’s service 12 p.m. Shofar sounding with community Kiddush lunch following services, R.S.V.P. required 4:30 p.m. Tashlich on the beach between the Hotel Del Coronado and Coronado shores. Full kid’s day at the beach to follow. 6:30 p.m. Evening service 7 p.m. Community dinner, R.S.V.P. 32 l September 2017

Sept. 22: 10 a.m. Morning service 11:30 Shofar sounding with community Kiddush lunch following services, R.S.V.P. required 6:30 p.m. Evening services Sept. 23: 10 a.m. Morning service, Catered lunch following services Yom Kippur Sept. 29: 6:30 p.m. Kol Nidre Sept. 30: 10 a.m. Morning service noon Memorial service 5:45 p.m. Afternoon service 6:25 p.m. Evening and closing service 6:55 p.m. Community break-fast. R.S.V.P required *Meals are $45 per person and require R.S.V.P, which can be made online. All services and meals will take place at the Hotel Del Coronado.

Chabad of Downtown

308 G St. San Diego, CA 92101 (619) 702-8518 *Service information not available by press time. Call or check online.

My favorite High Holiday tradition is: Any activity with our family together, laughing, enjoying, feeling the blessings of life and savoring healthy and tasty food. Going for walks together always puts smiles on our faces. – Michael R. Mantell

Chabad of East County

7624 Rowena St. San Diego, CA 92119 (619) 387-8770 For service times and location please visit the website, call or email *No charge for services. All are welcome, no membership or affiliation required. Services take place at San Diego Elks Lodge #168, 7430 Jackson Drive.

Chabad at La Costa

1980 La Costa Ave. Carlsbad, CA 92009 (760) 943-8891 Rosh Hashanah Sept. 20: 6:30 p.m. Evening services 7 p.m. Community dinner Sept. 21: 9 a.m. Morning services 10 a.m. Children’s services 11:30 a.m. Shofar 6 p.m. Tashlich 7 p.m. Evening services 7:30 p.m. Community dinner Sept. 22: 9 a.m. Morning services 10 a.m. Children’s service 11:30 a.m. Shofar 6:30 p.m. Evening service Sept. 23: Morning services Yom Kippur Sept. 29: 6:30 p.m. Kol Nidre Sept. 30: 9 a.m. Morning services 10 a.m. Children’s services noon Yizkor memorial service 4:30 p.m. Afternoon service 5:30 p.m. Neilah closing service 7:11 p.m. Fast ends followed by light refreshments *Chabad at La Costa does not require tickets but reservations are needed. Call (760) 943-8891. The suggested donation is $100 per adult. The cost for the community Rosh Hashanah meals are $18 per adult and $10 per child.

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Chabad of La Jolla Shores

909 Prospect St. Suite 210 La Jolla, CA 92037 (858) 455-5433 *All morning services begin at 10 a.m., evening services begin at 6 p.m. Call (858) 455-5433 or email to R.S.V.P.

Chabad of Pacific Beach

4240 Gresham St, San Diego, CA 92109 (619) 333-0344 *All services are free of charge, but R.S.V.P. is required.

Chabad of Poway

16934 Chabad Way Poway, CA 92064 (858) 451-0455 Rosh Hashanah Sept. 20: 6 p.m. Evening services Sept. 21: 8:30 a.m. Morning services 11:30 a.m. Children’s service noon Shofar

6:30 p.m. Evening services Sept. 22: 8:30 a.m. Morning services 11:30 a.m. Children’s program noon Shofar 6:30 p.m. Evening services Yom Kippur Sept. 29: 7 a.m. morning service 1 p.m. afternoon service 6:30 p.m. Kol Nidre Sept. 30: 9 a.m. Morning services noon Yizkor memorial service 4 p.m. Afternoon service 5 p.m. Neilah closing service *All are welcome regardless of background or affiliation. There is no charge to attend. Donations are appreciated.

Chabad Alef Center of San Marcos 649 Sandy Ln. San Marcos CA, 92078 (760) 481-7503

Rosh Hashanah Sept. 20: 7 p.m. Evening services followed by apples and honey, with holiday dinner. R.S.V.P. required for dinner. Sept. 21: 10 a.m. Morning services and blowing of the Shofar followed by a

Kiddush lunch and Tashlich ceremony Sept. 22: 10 a.m. Morning services and blowing of the Shofar Yom Kippur Sept. 29: 5:30 p.m. Kol Nidre Sept. 30: 10 a.m. Morning and Yizkor services 5:30 p.m. Neilah services followed by a break-the-fast *There will be children’s programming during all services. $180 suggested donation but no one will be turned away for lack of funds.

Chabad Scripps Ranch

10785 Pomerado Rd. San Diego, CA 92131 (858) 547-0076 Rosh Hashanah Sept. 20: 6:30 p.m. Erev service 7 p.m. Community dinner to welcome in the New Year. R.S.V.P. by Sept. 17. Sept. 21: 10 a.m. Morning service 10:30 a.m. Children’s program 11:30 a.m. Shofar 5:30 p.m. Tashlich Sept. 22: 10 a.m. Morning service 10:30 a.m. Children’s program 11:30 a.m. Shofar

Holiday Message from Rabbi Michael Samuel of Temple Beth Shalom


abbi Sheneir Zalman of Liadi, founder of the Chabad dynasty of Hasidim was imprisoned when critics denounced his principals and way of life to the czarist government of Russia. On one occasion, the Russian authorities arrested the old rabbi on the charges of treason. His alleged treason – sending money to Israel, which was controlled by the Ottoman Empire, an enemy of Russia. In jail, the pious man was engrossed in meditation. He had hardly noticed the visitor, who happened to be a very high official in the Russian government. He asked the Rebbe, “I have a question on the Bible, and would be most grateful to you if you could give me an adequate answer.” The Rebbe said to him: “Ask whatever you would like, and with G-d’s help, I hope to be able to answer.” “How are we to understand that G-d, the All Knowing, said to Adam: ‘Where art thou?’ (after he ate the fruit and hid with Eve.)” The Rebbe asked, “Do you believe that the Scriptures are eternal and forever relevant in any time and in any place?” The official said that he did believe that. Rabbi Zalman then explained, “The Torah teaches that G-d speaks to every individual and asks him, ‘Where are you?’ meaning, ‘Where do you stand in relationship to this world?’

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“G-d allotted a certain amount of days and years, each of which is to be utilized for the doing of good in relation with both G-d and humankind. Therefore ask yourself, ‘How many days have you lived already and how much good have you accomplished during that time?’ You, for instance have lived already 46 years, how have you utilized this time?” The official was deeply amazed and thrilled by the fact that the Rebbe had guessed his right age and put his hand on the prisoner’s shoulder as he nervously replied, “Bravo!” For us as human beings, G-d’s question is an existential one. It may well be one of the most important questions found in the Torah – “Where are you?” Just as Adam could not run away, neither can we evade our responsibilities toward one other, toward G-d, and toward ourselves. You might wonder: How does G-d speak to Adam? No, the voice of G-d doesn’t thunderously talk to Adam. It is the “still small voice” of G-d that speaks to him – and so it is with us.   Rosh Hashanah summons us to get in touch with the “still small voice,” which Philo of Alexandria and Immanuel Kant identified as the voice of conscience that demands we act with personal integrity. Learning to listen and respond marks the beginning of our personal redemption and it is also the key to getting the most of the High Holidays. A

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Yom Kippur Sept. 29: 6:15 p.m. Kol Nidre Sept. 30: 10 a.m. Morning service noon Yizkor 6 p.m. Neilah 7:10 p.m. Break-the-fast with community at shul *Services are free but donations are greatly appreciated and reservations are recommended. Prayers are traditional with Hebrew and English prayer books and lively commentary throughout.

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Rosh Hashanah Sept. 20: 6:30 p.m. Afternoon and evening services 7:45 p.m. New Year’s dinner, R.S.V.P.

required Sept. 21: 9:30 a.m. Morning service and Shofar 6 p.m. Afternoon service and Tashlich 7:15 p.m. Evening service Sept. 22: 9:30 a.m. Morning service and Shofar 6:30 p.m. Afternoon service Yom Kippur Sept. 29: 6:15 p.m. Late afternoon service 6:30 p.m. Kol Nidre and evening service Sept. 30: 10 a.m. Morning service 12:30 p.m. Yizkor 5 p.m. Afternoon service 6 p.m. Neilah *All services are free of charge and no reservation is required. There is a suggested donation of $180 that can be made online at donate. Donations are not accepted during services. For the children’s

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Chabad Jewish Center of Oceanside

1930 Sunset Drive Vista, CA 92081 (760) 806-7765 *Service information was not available by press time. Call or check online for information.

Chabad Jewish Center of Rancho Santa Fe 5690 Cancha De Golf Rancho Santa Fe, CA 92091 (858) 756-7571

Rosh Hashanah Sept. 20: 6:30 p.m. Evening service followed by dinner, by R.S.V.P. only

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My fondest memory of High Holiday observaces from my childhood is: Going to my grandparent’s home in Cleveland, with my 13 cousins and having the most memorable food and fun. – Amy Berg


Sept. 21: 10 a.m. Morning service 11 a.m. Children’s program Sept. 22: 10 a.m. Morning service 11 a.m. Children’s program Yom Kippur Sept. 29: 6:30 p.m. Kol Nidre Sept. 30: 10 a.m. Morning service 11 a.m. Children’s program noon Yizkor memorial service 5 p.m. Mincha and Neilah closing service *Suggested donation is $180.

Chabad of the College Area

6115 Montezuma Road San Diego, CA 92115 (619) 663-7701 *Call for time and location of services.




Congregation Beth Am

5050 Del Mar Heights Rd. San Diego CA, 92130 (858) 481-8454 Rosh Hashanah Sept. 20: 7:30 p.m. Erev service Sept. 21: 8:45 a.m. Morning service 9:30 a.m. Family tot service for preschool-1st grade, open to the community 10 a.m. children’s programs for grades 1-7, child care for kids 18 months-kindergarten 7:30 p.m. Evening service Sept. 22: 8:45 a.m. Morning service 10 a.m. Children’s programs for grades 1-7, child care for kids 18 months-kindergarten Sept. 24: 6 p.m.: Tashlich at Fletcher Cove, open to the community

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Yom Kippur Sept. 29: 5:45 p.m. Children’s programs for grades 1-7, child care for kids 18 months-kindergarten 6 p.m. Kol Nidre first service 8:45 p.m. Kol Nidre second service Sept. 30: 8:45 a.m. morning service 9:30 a.m. Family tot service for preschool-1st grade, open to the community 10 a.m. Children’s programs for grades 1-7, child care for kids 18 months-kindergarten 4:30 p.m. Afternoon service 5 p.m. Evening and closing service *All services are held in the Lizerbram Family Sanctuary. Membership includes High Holiday tickets. Nonmembers: $360 for ages 13 and older, $180 for ages 12 and younger. Military and university students are free with ID. Advance registration is required for child care and children’s programs, by Sept. 13. Forms available at

Congregation Beth El 8660 Gilman Drive La Jolla CA, 92037 (858) 452-1734

Rosh Hashanah Sept. 20: 6:15 p.m. Erev Rosh Hashanah Service 7:30 p.m. Chai 20s/30s Erev Rosh Hashanah Service* Sept. 21: 9 a.m. Morning service and youth programming 9:30 a.m. Teen programming 10 a.m. Family service 5 p.m. Tashlich service and potluck at

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Kellogg Park, La Jolla Shores* Sept. 22: 9 a.m. Traditional morning service, meditation, wise aging, hike 10 a.m. Torah service for youth; young family service 11 a.m. Sermon 11:45 a.m. Shofar Yom Kippur Sept 29: 6 p.m. Kol Nidre 6:45 p.m. Kol Nidre family service 8:30 p.m. Kol Nidre Chai service* 8:45 p.m. Alternative Kol Nidre* service Sept. 30: 9 a.m. Morning and memorial service plus youth programming 10:15 a.m. Family service I 11:15 a.m. Family service II 4 p.m. Afternoon service* 6:30 p.m. Evening service, Havdalah and shofar *Tickets not required

Congregation B’nai Shalom

201 E. Broadway Vista, CA 92084 (760) 806-4766 *Service information was not available by press time. Call or check online for information.

Congregation B’nai Tikvah 2510 Gateway Road Carlsbad, CA 92009 (760) 650-2262

Rosh Hashanah Sept. 20: 7 p.m. Evening service Sept. 21: 9 a.m. Morning service 11:15 a.m. Children’s service

2:30 p.m. Tashlich beach service Sept. 22: 7 p.m. Evening service Sept. 23: 10 a.m. Morning service September 24: 10 a.m. Memorial service at Eternal Hills, Oceanside Yom Kippur Sept. 29: 7 p.m. Kol Nidre Sept. 30: 9 a.m. Morning service 11 a.m. Yizkor 11:15 a.m. Children’s service 1:30 p.m. Meditative break 4:30 p.m. Minhah 5:30 p.m. Ne’ila 7:p.m. Break the fast

Ner Tamid Synagogue

15318 Pomerado Road Poway, CA 92064 (858) 513-8330 *Service information was not available by press time. Call or check online for information.

Ohr Shalom Synagogue

2512 Third Ave. San Diego, CA 92103 (619) 231-1456 *Call for times and reservation info.

Temple Beth Shalom

208 Madrona St. Chula Vista, CA 91910 (619) 420-6040 Rosh Hashanah Sept. 16: 7:30 p.m. Selichot Services Sept. 20: 7:30 p.m. Erev service Sept. 21: 9:30 a.m. Morning service




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11:30 a.m. Children’s service 4:30 p.m. Tashlich at the J. St. Chula Vista Bay 6 p.m. Afternoon and evening services 6:30 p.m. Dinner Adults $25, children $15 Sept. 22: 9:30 a.m. Morning service 6:30 p.m.: Afternoon and evening services 7:30 p.m. Shabbat Shuvah Yom Kippur Sept. 29: 6:30 p.m. Kol Nidre Sept. 30: 10 a.m. Morning service 11 a.m. Children’s services 4:30 p.m. Healing service 5 p.m. Study of Jonah 5:45 p.m. Afternoon service 6:30 p.m. Closing service 7:30 p.m. Break-the-fast *$180 per adult. Tickets required.

Tifereth Israel Synagogue

6660 Cowles Mountain Blvd. San Diego CA, 92119 (619) 697-6001 Rosh Hashanah Sept. 16: 8:30 p.m. Selichot Sept. 20: 6:30 p.m. Erev service Sept. 21: 9 a.m. Morning service 5 p.m. Tashlich at Lake Murray Sept. 22: 9 a.m. Morning service

6:15 p.m. Erev Shabbat Shuvah Sept. 23: 9:30 a.m. Shabbat Shuvah Sept. 24: Kever Avot v’lmahot services (at Home of Peace and Greenwood) Yom Kippur Sept. 29: 6:15 p.m. Kol Nidre Sept. 30: 9 a.m. Morning service 4:30 p.m. Afternoon service 5:45 p.m. Evening service 7:15 p.m. Break-the-fast by reservation *Call the office for ticket prices. Childcare and youth services are available at no charge with a reservation. Active military and their dependents, as well as students, are free with photo ID.


Congregation Adat Yeshurun

8625 La Jolla Scenic Drive North La Jolla, CA 92037 (858) 535-1196 option 2 Rosh Hashanah Sept. 20: 6 a.m. Selichot/Shacharis 6:35 p.m. Mincha Sept. 21: 8 a.m. Shacharis 11 a.m. Shofar 6:10 p.m. Mincha Sept. 22: 8 a.m. Shacharis

11 a.m. Shofar 6 p.m. Mincha Yom Kippur Sept. 29: 6 a.m. Selichot 2:30 p.m. Mincha 6:30 p.m. Kol Nidre Sept. 30: 8 a.m. Shacharis Noon Yizkor 5 p.m. Neilah *Nonmember adults cost $195, which includes both Holidays. Adult pricing is for anyone older than 18 who is not a full-time college student. College students and active duty military are free. Nonmember children ages 3-12 cost $54 per child with a family maximum of $120 (fees increase to $69 per child and family maximum of $150 if reservations for the children’s program are made after the deadline. Children ages 13-18 are free. Contact Annette Olson for tickets and information – info or (858) 535-1192, option 2. Beth Jacob Congregation 4855 College Ave San Diego, CA 92115 (619) 287-9890

Rosh Hashanah Sept. 20: 6:30 p.m. Candle lighting 6:30 p.m. Mincha/Maariv

The most memorable piece of wisdom I received from a rabbi during High Holiday services was: ‘Michael, zip your zipper – you’re on the Bima!’ Ok, more seriously, I’d say this will sound simple: ‘Michael, pay attention.’ We too often go to synagogue and pay attention to everything but what’s important, what really matters, what will make a difference in our lives. ‘Michael, pay attention,’ may not sound like deeply Jewish insight, but it sure is. – Michael R. Mantell 40 l September 2017

The Jewish Collaborative of San Diego (JCo)

cordially invites the San Diego Jewish community to visit our new home on

September 10, 2017, 3pm – 6pm.

The Jewish Collaborative of San Diego (JCo) cordially invites the San Diego Jewish community to visit our new home on September 10, 2017 from 3pm – 6pm at 7805 Centella Street, Carlsbad. There will be opportunities to tour our facility, learn about our educational programming, which is free with membership, meet members and enjoy food trucks (with food available for purchase) and beverages. Visitors will also learn about our active interest-oriented cohorts, which involve adult members of our congregation and non-members.

Our innovative school programs include:

• The Hebrew Lab is a favorite program for our families with children from Kindergarten through 8th grade. In this program, each student works at his or her own pace. Because the program is individualized, all levels are welcome. • LOMED, a new, educationally-geared group for children in Pre-K through 5th grade is our alternative to a traditional Sunday or religious school. “Lomed” in Hebrew translates as “I learn.” Children learn, observe the world, make friends, explore Judaism, and discover what it is to be Jewish.

JCo Cohorts are for both members and non-members; all are welcome.

Three of our most active cohorts are: • Book Club • Cooking Cohort • Games cohort

JCo is a home for all Jews to discover, learn and practice Judaism. We follow Jewish practices and traditions, encouraging our members to set their own course within Judaism and our Jewish community.

To RSVP please email us at: For more information about joining JCO, please contact Rabbi Gabi at

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Symbolic Wines for the New Year



n traditional circles, the Rosh Hashanah New Year meals are laden with delicious foods that all carry a symbolic meaning, designed to bode us well for the upcoming year. While most of us are familiar with apples and honey, in anticipation of a sweet year, there are other more diverse foods that can be incorporated into this ritual as well (such as squash, beans, fish, and in our family, beef tongue). Utilizing puns and poetic license, the Hebrew names of these foods will generally reference our desire for success, progeny, and dignity. While we are all looking for a happy and healthy one, perhaps there are some other wine descriptors that might carry over their meaning and similarly bid us pleasantries for the future, in their own way. As an homage to Rosh Hashanah symbolism, I’ve chosen four unique wines below which I may suggest have their own exciting attributes, for a fun way to incorporate excellent wines into a traditional new years celebration.

Zest 2016 Hagafen Sauvignon Blanc, Napa Valley – Alacrity for our daily tasks and an energetic approach for life is truly an attribute for which to strive. Represent that drive with this lively wine from Napa stalwart Hagafen Winery. Notes of lemon, tropical fruit, grapefruit zest, and fresh cut grass are truly exhilarating in the glass and on the palate. Serve on its own or with a mixed greens salad with roasted local Squash. $22

Flexibility Champagne Bonnet Ponson, Brut Premier Cru, France – Sometimes we are faced with unexpected situations, or opportunities that are outside of familiar areas, where our ability to adapt and adjust is tested. While most people associate Champagne only with celebratory moments, this is by far the most versatile wine on the planet. This wine has an elegant mousse with flavors of lemon curd and apple tart. Save the orange juice and enjoy this delectable wine with diverse cuisine from sushi to fried chicken, or even with breakfast. $59

Heritage 2014 Recanati Wild Carignan, Israel – Commitment to honoring the past is a value with which many can identify. This wine hails from a forgotten vineyard in Israel, where the farmer refused to uproot ancient vines in order to replace them with more contemporary varieties of grapes. Turns out, this commitment to the past was spot on; the grapes from this vineyard would go on to comprise critically acclaimed wines, which are some of the most

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unique and enjoyable wines from Israel I’ve had in quite some time. $49

Strength 2012 Echo Roses Camille, Bordeaux, France – Having the strength to follow your passion, dreams, and convictions, requires incredible fortitude. Tap into the full bodied structure of this small production single vineyard wine from the heart of Pomerol, the “Rodeo Drive” of Bordeaux. Made by a fifth generation Bordeaux winemaker, this layered, luscious wine has signature regional aromas of violets, cocoa and raspberry. Drink now after a couple hours of breathing, or cellar for new year's festivities to come. $79 A Andrew Breskin is a wine importer and distributor, and sells to the public via Send him a message through or call (619) 663-9613.

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6:30 p.m. Learner service Sept. 21: 7:45 a.m. Sacharis 10 a.m. Learner service, teen service and children’s program, followed by lunch. 10:45 a.m .Shofar 6:20 p.m. Mincha/Maariv 7:30 p.m. Light candles Sept. 22: 7:45 a.m. Shacharis 10 a.m. Learner service, teen service and children’s program, followed by lunch. 10:45 a.m .Shofar 6:20 p.m. Mincha/Maariv 6:28 p.m. Light Candles Sept. 23: 7:45 or 8:45 a.m. Shacharis 10 a.m. Follow-up Learner Service 5 p.m. Shabbos Shuva Drasha 6:05 p.m. Mincha 7:26 p.m. Shabbos ends Yom Kippur Sept. 29: 6 a.m. or 7 a.m. Shacharis 2 p.m. Mincha 6:10 p.m. Candle lighting 6:15 p.m. Kol Nidre Sept. 30: 8 a.m. Shacharis

When I’ve been in synagogue all day and I’m hungry and tired, I keep myself interested and engaged by: When it gets long in the afternoon and you’re tired, that’s when I suddenly realize we’re close to the end and I’m filled with focus and intensity. It becomes beautiful and to me, it’s the most beautiful part of the day. I abandon myself to the prayers, the music, the day, my worries and my hopes. – Rabbi Devorah Marcus

10:30 a.m. Learner service and children’s program 11:30 a.m. Yizkor 5:30 p.m. Neilah 7:22 p.m. Yom Kippur ends with break-fast refreshments *Tickets are complimentary. Due to security concerns, all programs, including children’s lunches, require advance registration by Sept. 10.

Congregation Kehillas Torah

14133 Via Alisal San Diego, CA 92128 (858) 829-9648 Rosh Hashanah Sept. 20: 6 p.m. Evening service Sept. 21: 9 a.m. Morning service Sept. 22: 9 a.m. Morning service Yom Kippur Sept. 29: 6 p.m. Kol Nidre Sept. 30: 9 a.m. Morning service 5 p.m. Evening service *Cost is $135 per person, free for active duty military. Childcare is available. All services take place at Residence Inn, Rancho Carmel Dr.

Orot HaCarmel

11860 Carmel Creek Road San Diego CA, 92130 (858) 633-0181 Rosh Hashanah Sept. 20: 6:30 p.m. Afternoon Service 7:10 p.m. Evening Service Sept. 21: 9 a.m. Morning Service 10:30 a.m. Youth Program 11:15 a.m. Shofar 4 p.m. Tashlich 6:35 p.m. Afternoon Service 7:20 p.m. Evening Service Sept. 22: 9 a.m. Morning Service 10:30 am. Youth Program 11:15 a.m. Shofar 6 p.m. Evening Service *Moadon at SDJA Sept. 23: 9:30 a.m. Morning Service *Moadon at SDJA 1 p.m. Teshuva Learning Program *Moadon at SDJA Yom Kippur

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Sept. 29: 5:50 p.m. Afternoon service 6:30 p.m. Kol Nidre Sept. 30: 9 a.m. Morning service 10:30 a.m. Youth program 11:15 p.m. Yizkor 2 p.m. Discussion/Q&A 4:15 p.m. Afternoon service 5:15 p.m. Neilah service 7:11 p.m. Evening service, fast ends *All services at San Diego Marriott Del Mar unless otherwise noted.

Young Israel of San Diego 7291 Navajo Rd. San Diego CA, 92119 (619) 589-1447

Rosh Hashanah Sept. 20: 6:30 p.m. Mincha/Maariv Sept. 21: 8 a.m. Shacharit 6:30 p.m. Mincha/Maariv Sept. 22: 8 a.m. Shacharit Yom Kippur Sept. 29: 6:20 p.m. Kol Nidre Sept. 30: 8 a.m. Shacharit noon Yizkor 5 p.m. Mincha 6:15 p.m. Neilah *Cost for High Holiday services for members is included in membership. Nonmembers and guests can contact or call (619) 5891447 for cost and registration.


Congregation Beth Israel 9001 Towne Centre Dr. San Diego, CA 92122 (858) 535-1111

Rosh Hashanah Sept. 16: 7 p.m. Selichot Sept. 20: 6 p.m. Early evening family service, with livestream 7:45 p.m. TRIBE Rosh Hashanah Dinner 8:30 p.m. Late evening service with livestream Sept. 21: 8 a.m. Café Beth Israel 8:30 a.m. Early morning family service 11:30 a.m. Late morning service with livestream 4 p.m. Tot Rosh Hashanah, no tickets

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needed 5:30 p.m. Teen gathering at La Jolla Shores 6 p.m. Tashlich service at La Jolla Shores beach Sept. 22: 9:30 a.m. Morning service 11:30 a.m. Light Kiddush lunch 6:15 p.m. Erev Shabbat Shuva service Sept. 24: 11 a.m. Early Memorial service at Sol Stone Chapel at Cypress View Mausoleum 12:30 p.m. Afternoon memorial service at Park Chapel at El Camino Memorial Park Yom Kippur Sept. 29: 6 p.m. Early evening service with livestream 8:30 p.m. Late evening service with livestream Sept. 30: 8:30 a.m. Early morning family service 11:30 a.m. Late morning service with livestream 2:45 p.m. Afternoon service with livestream 5:15 p.m. Memorial and closing services with livestream 6:30 p.m. Break-the-fast TRIBE Communtiy break the fast (location TBA) *Tickets are required for all services unless otherwise noted. Nonmember cost for all services is $300 for adults, $100 for children up to age 17, military and students up to age 26 are free. Nonmember cost for Rosh Hashanah or Yom Kippur only are $175 for adults, $70 for children up to age 17, and free for military and students up to age 26. Per-service cost for nonmembers is $90 for adults, $40 for children up to age 17. Childcare is available for children aged 2-6 at no cost but reservation is required. Ticket and childcare reservations can be made through Edie Winchester at ewinchester@ or (858) 535-1111.

Congregation Etz Chaim

16911 Gunn Stage Road Ramona, CA 92065 (760) 789-2781 46 l September 2017

*Congregation Etz Chaim is not holding High Holiday services this year.

Temple Adat Shalom

15905 Pomerado Rd. Poway CA, 92064 (858) 451-1200 Rosh Hashanah Sept. 20: 7:30 p.m. Evening service Sept. 21: 8:30 a.m. Morning service 11:30 a.m. Contemporary service 2:30 p.m. Children’s service, no ticket required 4 p.m. Tashlich services (Lake Poway) Sept. 22: 10 a.m. Morning service, no ticket required 7 p.m. Erev Shabbat Shuvah Yom Kippur Sept. 29: 7:30 p.m. Kol Nidre Sept. 30: 10 a.m. Morning service 1 p.m. Children’s service, no ticket required 2 p.m. Adult discussion 3:30 p.m. Afternoon service *Tickets required unless otherwise noted.

Temple Emanu-El

6299 Capri Drive San Diego CA, 92120 (619) 286-2555 Rosh Hashanah Sept. 20: 7 p.m. Erev Service Sept. 21: 10 a.m. Morning service 2:30 p.m. Family service, suitable for children of all ages 5 p.m. Tashlich ceremony and picnic at Lake Murray with Tifereth Israel Yom Kippur Sept. 29: 7 p.m. Kol Nidre Sept. 30: 10 a.m. Morning service 1:15 p.m. p.m. Yom Kippur Limmud 2:30 p.m. Family Service 3:30 p.m. Afternoon service 4:30 p.m. Memorial service 5:30 p.m. Closing service 6:30 p.m. Break-the-fast *Tickets are required for all attendees aged older than 13 except for family services (which are free.) Cost is $360 for unaffiliated guests and unaffiliated

My fondest memory of High Holiday observaces from my childhood is: My dad was Rabbi Aaron Gottesman of the Jewish Fellowship Center in San Diego. For about 25 years he did High Holiday services for the unaffiliated at various places around San Diego. I was a little girl when they started, and was in my 30s when they stopped because of my dad’s passing in 2005. They were great memories because people came from all over town, as well as from out of town for his services. All were welcome no matter their ability to pay, and a lot of the people spent a lot of years going there. So many grew up with the services too. Even those who joined synagogues along the way still came to my dad’s services for the High Holidays because they were so special and like a family. Now that my dad is gone, the memories of hearing him lead services, sing and have others join in stay with me. There were no other services like his, and there never will be. I run into people here and there who remember my dad and tell me how much he meant to them and how special he was. What a special time, and really missed.

– Ziva Gottesman

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ISRAEL family members of temple members, $180 for seniors (75 and older), $72 for young adults aged 13-25. University students and active duty military are free. URJ-affiliated families may obtain reciprocal tickets at no charge, but proof of synagogue membership is required. Break-fast is $25 per adult, $12 per child 3-12, children younger than 3 are free. Dinner reservations must be made by Sept. 26.

Temple Etz Rimon

2020 Chestnut Ave. Carlsbad CA, 92008 (760) 929-9503 Rosh Hashanah Sept. 16: S’lichot Sept. 20: 7 p.m. Erev service Sept. 21: 10 a.m. Morning service Yom Kippur Sept. 29: 7 p.m. Kol Nidre

Sept. 30: 10 a.m. Morning service 4 p.m. Yizkor *The cost for nonmembers is $210 per adult for all services (regardless of how many services are attended) which will be credited toward membership dues. R.S.V.P. by Sept. 15. Services, unless otherwise noted, take place at Pilgrim Church at 2020 Chestnut Ave, Carlsbad.

Temple Solel

3575 Manchester Ave. Cardiff-By-The-Sea CA, 92007 (760) 436-0654 Rosh Hashanah Sept. 20: Erev Rosh Hashanah Sept. 21: 8:30 a.m. Early service plus children’s programs, tickets required 11:45 a.m. Late service plus children’s programs, tickets required 3 p.m. Young family and children’s service, open to the community

My favorite High Holiday tradition is: As an incorrigible sweet tooth, my favorite High Holiday tradition would have to be everything from round raisin challah to apples and honey. – Catharaine L. Kaufman

B’nai Shalom Affiliated with United Synagogue of Conservation Judaism Serving San Diego and North County

Please Join Us For Our High Holiday Services 201 East Broadway, Vista CA 92084

Conducting Services: Rabbi Hillel Silverman and Cantor Vladimir Staerman

Rosh Hashana Service: Wednesday Sept. 20 at 7:30pm-Erev Service Thursday Sept. 21 at 9:30am Friday Sept. 22 at 9:30am Yom Kippur: Friday Sept 29 at 6:30pm Saturday Sept 30: 9:30am 11:00am Yiskor 2:00pm-5:00pm-Break 5:00pm-6:30pm-Neliah followed by break the fast

Our High Holiday tickets will be only $125.00 which includes the first year membership and privileges for new members only. For Full Service Schedule, Reservations, High Holiday Tickets or Event Inquiries

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Visit our website at: 201 E. Broadway, Vista, CA

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4:30 p.m. Tashlich and congregation picnic at Cardiff Seaside State Beach, open to the community Sept. 22: 10 a.m. Second day service, open to the community Yom Kippur Sept. 29: 7:30 p.m. Kol Nidre, tickets required Sept. 30: 8:30 a.m. Early service plus children’s programs, tickets required 11:45 a.m. Late service plus children’s programs, tickets required 3 p.m. Children’s service K-3rd grade, open to the public 4:00 p.m. Afternoon service open to the community 5:15 p.m. Afternoon service, open to the public 5:45 p.m. Concluding service, open to the public *All services require tickets unless otherwise noted. Childcare and youth services available. Active military and their immediate families receive complementary tickets. Ticket prices are available on the website.


Congregation Beth Eliyahu

5012 Central Ave., Suite C Bonita, CA 91902 (619) 472-2144 Rosh Hashanah Sept. 20: 6 p.m. Evening service Sept. 21: 8:30 a.m. Morning service 6 p.m. Evening service Sept. 22: 8:30 a.m. Morning service *All Rosh Hashanah services are held at the Chula Vista Golf Course unless otherwise noted. Yom Kippur Sept. 29: 6 p.m. Kol Nidre Sept. 30: 8:30 a.m. Services begin, and carry on until the fast ends, around 7 p.m. *All Yom Kippur services are held at the Sheraton San Diego Bay and Marina unless otherwise noted. All services are free for members. For nonmembers, cost is $350 for both services, which can be applied to next year’s membership.

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Magen Abraham Sephardic Synagogue

When I’ve been in synagogue all day and I’m hungry and tired, I keep myself interested and engaged by: Who says I keep myself interested and engaged? Ok, ok. I was Gabbai for many, many years at Beth Jacob and simply focused on my responsibilities to keep services and honors moving forward. More recently, I dig into the content and find ways to apply it to my and my family’s life, to ways I can use it to help my clients. I also talk to myself and remind myself that it takes weeks to starve from no food, days to die from no water, and minutes to die without air. I focus on breathing and being grateful that I can at least do that, and know that I’ll be eating and drinking soon enough. I tell myself it’s a purposeful and educational ‘hassle,’ and not even close to a ‘horror.’ – Michael R. Mantell

Inside Chabad Hebrew Academy 10875 Pomerado Road San Diego, CA 92131 (619) 277-0380 Yom Kippur Sept. 29: 6 p.m. Sept. 30: 7:30 a.m. to 7 p.m. *Services at the Marriott La Jolla across from UTC mall

Kehillat Shaat HaShamayim

3232 Governor Drive, Suite K San Diego, CA 92122 (858) 752-1025 Rosh Hashanah Sept. 20: 7 a.m. Selichot 8 a.m. Shacharit 8:40 a.m. Annulment of vows 6 p.m. Mincha 6:13 p.m. Candle lighting 6:30 p.m. Arvit 8:15 p.m. Dinner, R.S.V.P. required Sept. 21: 8 a.m. Shacharit 11:15 a.m. Shofar 5:30 p.m. Mincha 6 p.m. Tashlich in Rose Canyon 7 p.m. Arvit Sept. 22: 8 p.m. Shacharit 11:15 a.m. Shofar 6 p.m. Mincha 7 p.m. Arvit 7:05 p.m. Havdalah Yom Kippur Sept. 29: 6:15 a.m. Selichot 7:15 a.m. Shacharit 8:40 a.m. Hatarat Nedarim 9 a.m. Kapparot 1:15 p.m. Early Mincha 6:01 p.m. Candle lighting 6 p.m. Kol Nidre Sept. 30: 8 a.m. Shacharit 12:30 p.m. Hashkavah Kelalit/Yizkor 5 p.m. Neilah 6:56 p.m. Havdalah *All services are free of charge but require reservation to be made through the website. Rosh Hashanah dinner for members costs $42 per adult and $18 per child with a $120 maximum per family of five. Nonmembers costs $54 per adult

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11860 Carmel Creek Road San Diego, CA 92130 (858) 268-3674 Rosh Hashanah Sept. 20: 7 p.m. Adult service, childcare available for ages 3-10, potluck dessert oneg following service. Sept. 21: 9:30 a.m. Adult service. Separate family service for children ages 0-10 also happens at this time. 5 p.m. Tashlich at Playa Pacifica in Mission Bay Park Sept. 22: 9:30 a.m. We will meet at the San Diego Jewish Academy for study and conversation of the book

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“Hope Will Find You” by Rabbi Naomi Levy. We ask that you R.S.V.P. for the second-day study. Yom Kippur Sept. 29: 7 p.m. Kol Nidre, childcare available for ages 3-10 Sept. 30: 9:30 a.m. Adult service. Separate family service for children ages 0-10 also happens at this time. 4:30 p.m. Text study 5:30 p.m. Yizkor and Maryrology 6:15 p.m. Neilah 7:10 p.m. Tekiyah gedolah – final shofar blast *Cost is $225 per adult. Children younger than 18 and active duty military no charge. Students ages 1926 $36; seniors and YAD members $72. R.S.V.P. online at dorhadash. org or call (858) 268-3674. Deadline Thursday, Sept. 29. All services at Al Bahr Shrine, 5440 Kearny Mesa Rd. unless otherwise noted.

Shir Ha-Yam

4618 Rueda Drive San Diego, CA 92124 (619) 251-4618 *Shir Ha-Yam will not host High Holiday services, however a breakthe-fast will take place following Yom Kippur services. Contact Maura. for cost and details.

The Elijah Minyan

3207 Cadencia St. La Costa, CA 92009 (760) 943-8370 Rosh Hashanah Sept. 20: 7:30 p.m. Greet the new year in joy and thanksgiving Sept. 21: 9 a.m. Joyous prayer, meditation, Torah learning 5 p.m. Tashlich at Moonlight Beach

As we celebrate 5778, we reflect on how far we have come and how far we still have to go to create a world without hate.

May this New Year be filled with health, happiness and blessings. Wishing you and your families Shana Tova U’Metuka, a happy and sweet new year. The Tifereth Israel Family We’re excited to share the High Holy Days with you as we welcome our new Rabbi, Rabbi Joshua Dorsch and our visiting Cantor, Chazan Hanan Leberman.

At this time, when painful reminders of our history of persecution have resurfaced, we stand firm and determined in our century-old mission to stop the defamation of the Jewish people and secure justice and fair treatment to all.

L’Shana Tovah, ADL BoArD AnD StAff of the SAn Diego region

This year’s children’s programming is filled with fun and engaging opportunities for everyone! • 18 months – Pre-K: Daycare will be available • Grades K – 6 will enjoy a Bee Keeper Presentation, Games and Theatre, Puppet Show and Story Time, Interactive Services, Apple Dipping Bar, Social Action Program • Grades 7 – 12 will engage in a Connecting-to-Self Activity, Expressive Holiday Services, Apple Dipping Bar, Meaningful Text Study, Social Action Program

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My favorite High Holiday tradition is: “My favorite High Holiday tradition is just being together with family and friends on Erev Yom Kippur for dinner. My second favorite tradition is hearing Avinu Malkeinu. It’s so beautiful.” – Sheri Spector

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Yom Kippur Sept. 29: 6:30 p.m. The most soulful service of the Jewish year Sept. 30: 9 a.m. Prayer, meditation, Torah learning, memorial prayers, deep introspection 3:30 p.m. Mincha guided mediation and prayer, plus healing service for healing of body, soul and spirit. The Earth ritual with prayers for the healing of the planet. 5:30 p.m. Evening closing service with personal prayers, blessing of the children, sounding of the Shofar and sweet treats for the New Year *Services at The Redeemer Church (formerly North Coast Presbyterian Church) at 1831 S. El Camino Real. A small fee is required. (858) 549-3088


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Rosh Hashanah Sept. 20: 7 p.m. Erev Rosh Hashanah service in the Escala Clubhouse, 2840 Clubhouse Lane, San Diego CA 92108 Sept. 21: 10:30 a.m. Tashlich at Ventura Cove, right side of 1100 block West Mission Bay Dr. Sept. 23: 10:30 a.m. Children’s High Holiday Celebration, Encinitas Community center, 1140 Oakcrest Park Dr., Encinitas, 92024 – No charge R.S.V.P. by Thursday, Sept. 21 to Yom Kippur Sept. 30: 5:30 p.m. Kol Nidre,


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Nizkor at Escala Clubhouse, 2840 Clubhouse Lane, San Diego CA 92108. Beak-fast potluck to follow. *Live music and open discussion will accompany each service, as will an oneg refreshment for the Rosh Hashanah program. Information for break-fast potluck is on the website. Intercultural and LGBT guests and families are most welcome. Registration and payment requested by Sept. 15. Admittance will be by reservation only in order to ensure a required parking permit. Handicapped parking slots are available upon direct request to Gary Zarnow, gary@, by Sept. 19. Ticket prices are for 1, 2, or 3 celebrations: adult guests $45; young adults 16-28 $25, under 16 free. The Children’s High Holiday program is free. Reservations and payment can be made on the website. Bring a chair for Tashlich.


Congregation Havurim

29500 Via Princesa Murrieta, CA 92563 (951) 387-5018 Rosh Hashanah Sept. 20: 7 p.m. Erev service Sept. 21: 10 a.m. Morning service 4 p.m. Tashlich at the Temecula duck pond Yom Kippur Sept. 29: 7 p.m. Kol Nidre Sept. 30: 9 a.m. Young children’s service 10:30 a.m. Adult service *Services at the Temecula United Methodist Church located at 42690 Margarita Rd, Temecula, CA 92592. Tickets are $50 per person per holiday. Students and military with ID are free. To reserve tickets please contact congregationhavurim.

Congregation B’nai Chaim Cantor Joseph Lutman 29500 Via Princesa Murrieta CA, 92563

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Chabad of Palm Desert

My fondest memory of High Holiday observaces from my childhood is: Growing up in Mississippi, my parents would have the Erev Yom Kippur dinner and all of my relatives would come over and we would all be together before going to services. My mom, who was an opera singer, would sing the blessing over the candles and it was so beautiful. My dad would say the most meaningful prayers thanking G-d for our family and more. It was just a special setting with my father’s beautiful words and my mom’s gorgeous voice. – Sheri Spector

73550 Santa Rosa Way Palm Desert, CA 92260 P.O. Box 1463 Palm Desert, CA 92261 (760) 651-2424 *Service information was not available by press time. Call or check online for information.

Chabad of Palm Springs and the Desert Communities 425 Avenida Ortega Palm Springs, CA 92263 (760) 325-0774 *Service information was not available by press time. Call or check online for information.

Chabad of Rancho Mirage — The Torah Oasis 72295 Via Marta Rancho Mirage, CA 92270 (760) 272-1924 *Service information was not available by press time. Call or check online for information.

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St. Margaret’s Episcopal Church 47-535 Highway 74 Palm Desert, CA 92260 (760) 779-1691 *Service information was not available by press time. Call or check online for information.

Congregation Shalom Bayit

1320 Williams St. Banning, CA 92220 (951) 769-3678

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TRADITIONAL ROSH HASHANAH DINNER You are invited to D.Z. Akin's for a traditional dinner served for Rosh Hashanah on Wednesday, September 20 & Thursday, September 21, from 4:00-9:00p.m. Appetizers: Main Course: • Chopped Liver OR • Brisket of Beef OR Gefilte Fish Roasted Half Chicken • Challah OR Stuffed Cabbage Roll • Noodle Kugel AND Soup: Sweet Carrot Tzimmes • Matzo Ball Dessert: OR Kreplach Honey OR Sponge Cake

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Rosh Hashanah Sept. 20: 7 p.m. Erev service, apples and honey following Sept. 21: 10 a.m. Morning service, no host restaurant lunch following Yom Kippur Sept. 29: 7 p.m. Erev service Sept. 30: 10 a.m. Morning service, Break-the-Fast following Nil’ah *Hosted break-the-fast requires paid reservation. Cost for each service is $25 for nonmembers. Call Cathy at (951) 392-5380 or Carol at (951) 769-7514 for reservations and more information.

Temple Sinai of Palm Desert

73251 Hovley Lane W. Palm Desert, CA 92260 (760) 568-9699 Rosh Hashanah Sept. 16: 6:30 p.m. Dessert Program, Havdalah, and S’lichot T’fillah in the Nash Sanctuary Sept. 20: 7:30 p.m. T’fillah in the Nash Sanctuary Sept. 21: 10 a.m. Adult T’fillah in the Nash Sanctuary (includes students grades 5 and up). Youth T’fillah and program for students grades k-4 takes place in the Goodman Chapel. Parents are welcome to attend. Ages 2-pre K program and supervised childcare is available in the Hirschberg Education Center. 4 p.m. Taschlich at Eisenhower Lake Yom Kippur Sept.29 : 7:30 p.m. T’fillah in the Nash Sanctuary Sept. 30: 10 a.m. Adult T’fillah in the Nash Sanctuary (includes students grades 5 and up). Youth T’fillah and program for students grades k-4 takes place in the Goodman Chapel. Parents are welcome to attend. Ages 2-pre K program and supervised childcare is available in the Hirschberg Education Center. 1:30 p.m. Study session with Rabbi Bentley 3:30 p.m. Afternoon T’fillah in the Nash Sanctuary 5 p.m. Memorial service

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5:30 p.m. Evening service and Havdalah with break-the-fast immediately following. Reservations required. *Handicapped seating and hearing assistance devices will be available for all T’fillot.

Temple Beth Sholom of Temecula 26790 Ynez Ct. Suite B Temecula, CA 92591 (Temecula Valley Chamber of Commerce Building) (951) 679-0419

Rosh Hashanah Sept. 16: 6:30p.m. Slichot services followed by Potluck Dinner, Havdalah and special service. Sept. 22: In lieu of Erev Shabbat Shuvah services at TBS, we encourage everyone to gather with friends and family for a festive Shabbat meal at home. Sept. 23: 10 a.m. Shabbat Shuvah services. Kiddish lunch will be served. Sept. 20: 7:30 p.m. Erev Rosh Hashanah Sept. 21 9:30 a.m. Morning service 4:30 p.m. Tashlich at the Temecula Duck Pond (Corner of Ynez Road and Rancho California Road in Temecula) Sept. 22: 9:30 a.m. Morning service Yom Kippur Sept. 29: 6 p.m. Kol Nidre Sept. 30: 9 a.m. Morning service 4 p.m. Yizkor and Neilah followed by break-fast in conference room. A

The most memorable piece of wisdom I received from a rabbi during High Holiday services was: It was 1948, I was 13, still living in my hometown of Brasov, Transylvania, Romania – after having survived WWII, the German (Nazi) occupation and now trying to survive the Soviet occupation while risking life and limb to study (in secret, in the rabbi’s basement) for my Bat Mitzvah (to be held soon after the High Holidays) against Communist interdiction of all religious activities. Singing and praying during the High Holiday services were hushed in our half-bombed-out synagogue, to prevent attracting Secret Police attention and I was angry that my parents and other adults were fearful and compliant, instead of resisting and being as angry as I was. Until our brilliant rabbi began his ‘non-sermon’ with: ‘Surviving danger and difficulties is not enough – it takes wisdom and intelligence to create a patient and hopeful plan for a better future and find ways to achieve it. It takes wisdom, smarts and willpower to turn anger into generosity toward those who threaten or hurt us and to understand their fears and pain which causes them to act in mean ways against fellow human beings. So, my dears, be wise, smart, strong and above all patient with yourselves and others, as you work to achieve your desired futures. Amen.' – Dina Eliash Robinson





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What Jewish History Forgot:



oday we take a look back at some of the majestic events that took place during Rosh Hashanah and Yom Kippur. GOOD JEWISH SPORTS: KOUFAX! A HERO AMONG HE-

ROES Hank Greenberg and Ron Blomberg made an indelible impression when each refused to play ball during the High Holidays. Sandy Koufax in particular did so during the World Series. The Los Angeles Dodgers pitcher and Hall of Famer – also one of the most famous Jewish athletes in American sports – made national headlines when he refused to pitch in the first game of the 1965 World Series because it fell on Yom Kippur. Instead of pitching, he went to shul and fasted. How many know that when Koufax’s replacement Don Drysdale was pulled from the game for poor performance, he told the Los Angeles Dodgers’ manager Walter Alston, “I bet you wish I was Jewish, too.” Did you know that Casey Stengel once called Koufax: “The Jewish kid is probably the best of them” in answer to the question, “Who was the finest pitcher in baseball history?” Koufax’s father, who thought baseball “a stupid game,” was nevertheless proud of his son’s famous decision, calling him “... a good Jewish boy.” AN AWESOME PRAYER: KOL NIDRE There is scarcely a Jew anywhere who hasn’t felt the power of this mournful prayer, but did you know that Kol Nidre is actually a legal statement, in Aramaic! More, that the moving chant many regard as a voice of Jewish suffering, was also used, in part, by Bee-

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thoven in his Quartet in C Sharp Minor? SHOFAR SOUNDS While Jews worldwide are eager to hear the shofar blown during the High Holidays, did you know that there are four sounds that a tokea, which means “blaster,” makes with the hard-to-master shofar? Although many tokeas are seasoned after having blown the

There is scarcely a Jew anywhere who hasn’t felt the power of this mournful prayer, but did you know that Kol Nidre is actually a legal statement, in Aramaic! shofar for years and years, most still practice because the shofar is a difficult instrument to master. Throughout the shofar service, four different sounds are called out at which point the blaster will make the sounds on the shofar. These are the four sounds: Tekiyah: an unbroken blast lasting about three seconds, Sh’varim: a tekiyah that’s been broken into three blasts, Teruah: nine quick, rapid-fire blasts,

Tekiyah gedolah: three of the tekiyah blasts lasting at least nine seconds in total. In many communities, the tekiyah gedolah has become an epic part of the shofar service with the blaster attempting to elongate the final blast as long as possible, especially at the end of the final service on Yom Kippur. Also: The shofar sounds an amazing 100 times throughout the High Holiday service, and it’s a mitzvah to hear those blasts! More, the shofar is used to multi-task. Just as the shofar (ram’s horn), as reported in Exodus, was heard on Mount Sinai when G-d gave Moses the Ten Commandments, and is blown in the synagogue during Rosh Hashanah and Yom Kippur. In the past it was considered a musical instrument and trumpet of war. Did you know that the shofar is also sounded in modern Israel on grand occasions, for example, when the Western Wall was liberated and upon the inauguration of a president? The use of the ram’s horn reminds Jews of G-d’s reprieve, allowing Abraham to sacrifice a ram instead of his son. KREPLACH: MEATY & MEANINGFUL Kreplach, an Ashkenazi Yom Kippur Eve tradition, is a meat-filled dough, often used in soups, yet is has a deeper significance. The filling symbolizes justice, while the dough connotes compassion. Kreplach then is a metaphor meaning that G-d’s strict justice will be tempered on side of mercy. ONE VOICE NEVER TO BE FORGOTTEN [Excerpt] “We have been promising to observe the Kol Nidre ser-

vice. The rabbi prays. I look at the crematorium. And I hear the voice of the rabbi, as though it no longer came from his heart, but as if his heart itself had opened and wept: ‘And a portion of our fat and our blood.’ The congregation repeats ‘our fat and our blood.’ Louder and louder .... [Switching from Hebrew to Yiddish] ... ‘The blood and fat of our parents, children and relatives.’ Tears pour .... The weeping flows together, like a river.” – Yoysef Vaynberg, describes the scene in Auschwitz, excerpted from Yiddish, A Nation of Words (2001) IKON-ICS During the Yom Kippur war in 1973, a gentile named William Ikon wrote a letter to the Colorado Springs Gazette Telegraph that was published in 250 dailies. He wrote: “... bumper stickers read, ‘Jews go home, pack your belongings and go. We do not want Jews. We want oil. But before you leave, do us a favor?! Could you leave behind the vaccine formula of Dr. Jonas Salk before you go?! Will you leave behind the capability in politics, your good literature and your tasty food. Please have pity on us. Remember it was from you that we learned the secret of how to develop great men as Einstein and Steinmetz. We owe you for the atomic bomb, research satellites and perhaps we owe you our very existence. I’m not sure I could live a secure life in a land in which you are not found. If at any time you will have to leave, love will leave with you. Democracy will leave with you – If you pass by my house, please slow down and honk ... because I’m going with you.” A Chag Samayach and Gut Yuntiff.

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World Renowned Cantor and Musical Director from Israel to lead High Holiday Services at Congregation Adat Yeshurun

Ohad Moskowitz

For me leading the services at Adat Yeshurun is an honor & a true privilege. It is rare for an outsider chazzan to feel such a strong connection with the congregation like I feel at Adat. As a professional Jewish pop singer I travel all over the world & first La Jolla is really a paradise, but what makes it so special are the amazing people that I've come across & today are very close to my heart. I am looking forward for yet another unbelievable experience at Adat Yeshurun with all the congregation, the gabay's, the choir & of course Rabbi Jeff. – Ohad Moskowitz

How do you make Rosh Hashanah and Yom Kippur more meaningful? How do you create an inspirational experience during the long prayer services of Rosh Hashanah and Yom Kippur? Congregation Adat Yeshurun in La Jolla believes it has an answer. Ohad Moskowitz, one of the superstars of contemporary Jewish religious music, and Ofir Sobol, the conductor of the Israeli Defense Forces Choir and OrchesWe take a detailed look at your total financial picture, and start by tra, will lead Adat’s 2017 High Holy Day Services. assessing your current assets and both your short- and long-term According to Rabbi Jeffrey Wohlgelernter, “Ohad financial goals. We take the time to truly understand your objectives, and the choir bring an intensity to the service that is risk tolerance, time horizons, challenges and personal schedule to help so unique. There are moments where one is transyou build a practical and sustainable financial strategy to address: ported to the heavens and moments where you feel • Tactical Asset Allocation • Long-Term Care Insurance like clapping and dancing in the aisles. This is the • Cash Management • Life Insurance answer to a lifeless high holiday experience.” Expla• College Funding • Retirement Planning nations of prayers are provided throughout the ser• Estate Planning Strategies vices so everyone feels included. In addition, there is a full children’s program throughout the day. Michael Ingram, CFP® Financial Consultant, CERTIFIED FINANCIAL PLANNER™ professional Moskowitz and Sobol are two of Israel’s most nowned and in demand musical artists. Ohad MosTel: (619) 557-8241 / Cell: (619) 957-6588 kowitz, professionally known as Ohad, is renowned CA Insurance License #0E54363 for his impeccable musical technique, wide vocal range, uplifting tones, and deeply personal and joyLuis Strohmeier, CDFA, ChFC®, CLU® ful style. With six albums recorded, and with many CERTIFIED FINANCIAL PLANNER™ professional music rewards received, Ohad also performs at conTel: (310) 231-7753/Cell: (937) 304-7771 certs benefiting many Jewish charity organizations. CA Insurance License # 0C46410 Ofir Sobol is a leading force in all fields of Jewish music In Israel. He brings a refreshing approach Midwest Financial Partners to Jewish music by combining contemporary tech701 B Street Suite 1500 San Diego, CA 92101 niques without losing the authenticity of the music and its musical roots. Congregation Adat Yeshurun is a vibrant and inSecurities offered through AXA Advisors, LLC (NY, NY 212-554-1234), member FINRA, SIPC. Annuity and insurance products offered through AXA Network, LLC, which doesbusiness in CA clusive Orthodox Jewish community in La Jolla unas AXA Network Insurance Agency of California, LLC, in UT as AXA Network Insurance Agency of der the leadership of Rabbi Jeffrey Wohlgelernter. Utah, LLC, in TX as AXA Network Insurance Agency of Texas, Inc., and in PR as AXA Network of Now celebrating its 30th year, Adat Yeshurun is well Puerto Rico, Inc. AXA Advisors and AXA Network do not provide tax or legal advice. Certified Financial Planner Board of Standards Inc. owns the certification marks CFP®, CERTIFIED known for its beautiful sanctuary in La Jolla, for its FINANCIAL PLANNER™ and federally registered CFP (with flame design) in the U.S. Midwest wellspring of educational and spiritual activities, and Financial Partners is not owned or operated by AXA Advisors or AXA Network. it’s warm and extremely diverse community. All are welcome to attend Rosh Hashanah and Yom Kippur services at Adat Yeshurun. For information about High Holiday tickets, please contact the synagogue GE–119171 (1/17) (Exp 1/19) G30413 at 858-535-1196 or e-mail:

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fter one taste of these savory vegetarian cakes, I knew they would be making an appearance at my Rosh Hashanah table. They are a perfect vegetarian entree or side for the holiday, because they include a symbolic holiday food – beets – as well as honey. The genius behind this recipe is cookbook author and food writer Maria Speck. Maria and I have managed to become good friends online, even though we haven’t officially met in person. She is the author of “Ancient Grains for Modern Meals” and “Simply Ancient Grains.” Maria and I are kindred cooking spirits. When I flip through her cookbooks, it is like she is channeling my culinary imagination. She combines ancient ingredients into beautiful symphonies of flavor. Her healthy approach to cooking celebrates whole grains, some all but forgotten, that have been with us for centuries. If you are looking for an interesting way to bring more healthy whole grain meals into your rotation, I highly recommend both of her books. When I received a copy of Maria’s most recent cookbook, “Simply Ancient Grains,” I knew I had to make something to share with all of you. It was difficult to choose just one recipe. Between Light Lemon Custard with Blackberries and Minted Lamb Sliders with Pine Nuts and Currants, it was not an easy decision. I finally settled on Red Rice and Beet Cakes with Honey Mustard. Not only are they filled with some of my favorite ingredients, they are

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Red Rice and Beet Cakes with Honey Mustard

gluten free and have a vibrant red color. The idea behind “Simply Ancient Grains” was to make cooking with whole grains a little less intimidating for home cooks. The book includes recipes for breakfast, lunch, dinner and dessert. Though the word grains has become synonymous with gluten, many of the recipes (like this one) are naturally gluten-free. Recipes that aren’t gluten free often include suggested gluten free variations/substitutions. I have a feeling you’ll want to try every recipe in her book, but you should definitely start with these scrumptious savory Red Rice and Beet Cakes.


INGREDIENTS: 1 ½ cups water 2 cups lightly packed cooked red rice (2/3 cup dry red rice, prepared) 3 tbsp Dijon mustard 1 tbsp honey 1 ½ tbsp minced gherkins ¼-½ tsp Sriracha sauce, or more to taste (optional) 1 cup shredded raw red beets, grated with large grating holes 1 cup crumbled mild feta cheese ¼ cup quick-cooking rolled oats, plus more as needed ½ cup finely chopped green onions ½ cup finely chopped dill 2 large eggs, lightly beaten 1-2 tsp minced hot green chilies, such as serrano (optional) ¼ tsp fine sea salt ¼ tsp freshly ground black pepper 2 tbsp olive oil 1 lemon cut into wedges, for garnish You will also need: grater, mixing bowls, 2 qt saucepan with tight fitting lid, colander, shallow bowl or small sheet tray, plate or sheet tray, plastic wrap, large skillet Total Time: 1 hour 30 minutes Servings: 8 beet cakes Kosher: Dairy


DIRECTIONS: Combine rice and water in heavy two-quart saucepan with tight fitting lid. Boil, then cover and lower the heat to maintain a simmer. Cook until the rice is tender and water is almost all absorbed, about 25 minutes. Drain any remaining water and spread the rice in a layer on a baking tray to cool. While rice cools, prepare honey mustard. In a small bowl, whisk together honey and mustard, then stir in chopped gherkins and Sriracha. Cover sauce and place in refrigerator. When rice is cool, put in a mixing bowl. Add shredded beets, feta, oats, green onions, dill, eggs, chilies, salt and pepper. Mix the ingredients with your hands until well combined. No need to be gentle; if the mixture does not hold together, add more oats by the spoonful until it does. I usually end up adding about 6 more tablespoons. Moisten your hands with water. Form the mixture into 8 cakes, 1/3 cup mix each, about 2 ½ inches in diameter. Place the cakes on a baking sheet, cover with plastic wrap and chill in refrigerator for 30 minutes. When ready to cook the cakes, heat 1 tbsp of olive oil in a large skillet over medium until it shimmers. Cook the beet cakes in hot oil 4 at a time, until golden brown and crisp on the surface, about 6 minutes. Gently flip the cakes halfway through cooking time. Repeat with the remaining 4 cakes. Serve hot or at room temperature with honey mustard sauce. A

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Tzipi Meets Her Match Two Chabad Hebrew Academy teachers establish a rare bond through sickness and health BY NATALIE JACOBS


ack in March, I shared the story of Tzipi Tivon and her team of kidney transplant advocates from Chabad Hebrew Academy. That story started when Tzipi was diagnosed with end stage renal failure back in January 2016, on her birthday. This portion of Tzipi’s story starts in a second-grade classroom on an uncharacteristically overcast day, August 2, 2017. Tzipi, Rochel Smoller (in whose classroom we sit) and Sheryl Daija are gathered around a circular table in chairs made for tiny bodies.

Before we go any further, a reminder of how everyone got here. It was late 2016 when Rabbi Josef Fradkin, head of Chabad Hebrew Academy, shared details of Tzipi’s condition with a parent, Rafael James. Rafael’s son had Tzipi for Hebrew and after hearing about her illness, he felt compelled to do what he could to help her situation. The typical waiting period for a kidney through Sharp’s transplant registry is 7-10 years, Tzipi was told when she got on their list last year. Tzipi was on

dialysis by the time Rafi was informed of her condition. No one else at the school knew, and Tzipi continued to teach while receiving the treatments. When they found out, Rafi and wife Sheryl pulled together a committee to find a kidney for Tzipi. The committee included Rochel the second-grade Judaic teacher, and many others from around the community. “We spoke about it and said there is no room for failure,” Sheryl recalls. Rabbi Fradkin put the committee in

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touch with Renewal, the kidney transplant coordinating nonprofit serving Jewish populations and based in New York City. Together they began the process of organizing “awareness events” to share Tzipi’s story from here in San Diego. Now that we’re caught up, here’s what we didn’t know at the time. After the first committee meeting where Rafi explained the donation process, Rochel Smoller quietly made up her mind that she would try to donate one of her kidneys to Tzipi. “I had read an article about Renewal a few years ago in a Jewish women’s magazine,” Rochel explains. “I thought that was such a cool thing and [then] I put it in the back of my mind.” Rochel, a mother and grandmother, says at the time she read the article and was initially interested in the prospect of donating a kidney, she thought her husband would think she was crazy if she approached him with the idea. “And then when Morah Tzipi, when this whole thing came about I went back to my husband and I was like, ‘Two years ago I read this article. I didn’t bring it up to you but now I gotta go with this,’” she says with a laugh. She says he was “very nervous but very supportive” through the process. The process itself, of matching a living donor with a person in need of a transplant, can be grueling. It took Rochel five months to go through the various levels of testing, which starts with blood matching and grows from there to include psychological evaluations and an MRI at some point. Part of what the Renewal organization does is streamline the testing process with the hospital. But since this was the first transplant Renewal had facilitated in California, there were no standard procedures. Sharp had to be willing to make some adjustments to its process, while Renewal and Tzipi’s team had to find middle ground between advocating for their cause and pushing too hard with the hospital. Rochel says she stayed committed to her decision and calm through it all. “There were no roller coasters. There was no nervousness,” she reports. “I had full confidence in Sharp and in Renewal. Every time I met with them, spoke with them on the phone they did over and above what my expectations even were. It was a very smooth process, very easy.” She says it helped her to get through the harder parts of the testing, and the claus68 l September 2017

She says it’s an opportunity for mitzvot, and to set a good example for their own kids and the kids at the school. trophobia of the MRI machine to think of Tzipi. While Rochel was being tested, there were others going through the initial stages too. Sheryl says that at the peak of their awareness-raising efforts they had someone from Australia send in a test. Someone from Israel contacted them, and an older student at the school expressed interest (though the student did not meet the age requirement, the team was heartened by the thought). They didn’t tell Tzipi any of this. “It’s difficult to wait,” Tzipi, who ultimately waited 18 months for a kidney, says, “but I understand why Rafi and Sheryl didn’t share with me anything because to keep your hopes up and then to end up not doing it – it’s very hard. I had one incident when someone was tested but the hospital rejected her. The last time was very hard.” In mid-June, Tzipi got a call saying her transplant surgery was scheduled for June 28 and that Rochel was going to be the donor. A week before the surgery, the two saw each other at the hospital. Once the two women woke up from their surgeries, Rochel joined Tzipi in her hospital room to see how she was recovering. “It’s amazing,” Tzipi says, grasping for words. “It’s like she’s my angel. She’s my sister. She’s everything. It’s all because of her. I’m speechless.” “We’re amazing because she’s amazing,” Sheryl says of Rochel. Rochel sits quietly underneath the blankets of praise. I ask her how it feels to receive that. “It’s a bit uncomfortable,” she admits. “In a good way, but it’s still a bit uncomfortable. I think I said to Sheryl ‘I don’t think it’s that amazing.’ It was a very easy process for me and I think Renewal made it even so much easier. I think Sharp was very professional and very open to what Renewal’s process is.” “Yes,” Sheryl adds, “I think your words to me were, ‘This is not a big deal to me so I don’t accept how amazing I am, because this

was easy.’” “But she is amazing,” Tzipi adds with a smile. “Definitely.” The three women report that Tzipi’s transformation after the kidney was almost immediate. Tzipi says she can walk without stopping, and her vision has cleared. Sheryl and Rochel agree that her face has color again. By the time we were all gathered together in early August to talk about Tzipi, Rochel and their recovery, the kidney transplant awareness committee had already been working to find a donor for another member of the local Jewish community. They gathered together once more at the request of Rabbi Fradkin to find a donor for David Mandelbaum. At the time of our conversation, they were in the testing process for potentials. “You kind of sometimes get lost in the process of it,” Sheryl says, thinking about their second campaign. “If you think about it too much that you’re really saving somebody’s life it just becomes too overwhelming. So you focus on the process.” She says it’s an opportunity for mitzvot, and to set a good example for their own kids and the kids at the school. “It’s such a wonderful thing to be able to teach our children and have them watch the fact that a teacher donated to another teacher. All the kids know that and it’s a beautiful thing to share with them. The more that we can do and the more that we can set examples for kids I think we would say yes. Obviously if there is a need we’ll have to figure out how to help with that need.” Rochel relates it to the third book of Vayikra, which says that to save one life is to save the world. After I left the three women in the second grade classroom, Tzipi asked if she could join the committee searching for a kidney match for David Mandelbaum. To get involved, contact Sheryl at A

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Riding in Cars with Jews How to craft the best response to anti-Semitism BY COREY LEVITAN


f all the reasons someone turns Jimmy. After all that time we spent getting down a ride I offer them, none to know one another, the sum total of all I will be more memorable than “I’m was to him – all my unique thoughts, my sorry, but I can’t ride in a car with a Jew.” dreams, my wit – was a shylock. How is it Jimmy and I were shelf-stackers at the Food- that someone who acted so friendly to me town in Oceanside, Long Island. After the could actually be so anti-Semitic? grocery store closed for the night, we and I reacted quite intensely, screaming three others neatened the aisles, either “dum- at Jimmy that he was out of line and mying” (bringing items forward) or “lev- that I couldn’t be his friend anymore. eling” the decimated shelves. The job paid But that was only in my head, like when minimum wage and I was thrilled to earn it.  you drive away from the cop who pulled Jimmy, who was Irish Catholic, seemed like you over and only then work out what you a solid dude. He was funny, polite and – the should have said. In reality, I just stood there most important thing to me at the time – not in shock, asking, still only to myself, “Did I a virgin at age 16. And boy, would he regale really just hear that?” me with stories of how not a virgin he was. On that night, just before punching out at 11 p.m., I heard the pay phone receiver slam – this was before cell phones – followed by Jimmy’s voice cursing. I walked over to ask him the problem. His car wouldn’t start and no one was home to answer his call. My dad would be there in 10 minutes, so I offered Jimmy a ride home with us. I was sure my dad would be cool with it. “I’m sorry,” Jimmy said. “I can’t.”  He stared at me with dread. Then came those words, unfolding out of his mouth in slow motion, the way they continue to rattle inside my head to this day. I. CAN’T. RIDE. IN. A. CAR. WITH. A. JEW. Did Jimmy look at my nose and see Nazi caricatures? I’m a secular Jew. I identify culturally and ethnically but was raised Reform and have been agnostic since before my Bar Mitzvah. None of this mattered to 70 l September 2017

During a recent San Diego business conference, all those emotions flooded back. The conference organizer introduced me to a fellow member of the local media. Since I’m new to town and know virtually no one, I appreciated the contact. We hit it off immediately, even discovering a mutual friend. He and I discussed the “joys” of freelance work, particularly having to pester editors about unpaid invoices and new assignment pitches simultaneously. “And then,” my new friend said, choking back a laugh, “then they try to Jew you down on the amount!” It wasn’t nearly as bad as what Jimmy said. And it wasn’t directed at me personally. Nevertheless, it hit me just as hard. This is someone in the media, not some 16-yearold ignoramus but a grown-ass man charged with informing the public of current events through an impartial lens. If he harbors this prejudice, is it safe to assume that a large percentage of the rest of San Diego’s gentiles do too? The Anti-Defamation League’s latest “Audit of Anti-Semitic Incidents” report shows anti-Semitic incidents in San Diego tracking pretty much in line with the rest of the country – jumping an alarming 34 percent from 2015 to 2016 and four-fold from the first quarter of 2016 to the first quarter of 2017. “When I started at ADL 10 years ago, nobody in San Diego wanted to talk much about anti-Semitism,” said San Diego ADL Regional Director Tammy Gillies. “The community felt it was a very welcoming

place.” The uglier elements of San Diego’s history also track similarly to that of most U.S. cities. For many decades, housing sales contracts in La Jolla – which self-identified as a Christian neighborhood via the Mount Soledad Easter Cross – excluded Jews, according to myriad San Diego Union-Tribune and La Jolla Light reports dating back to the early 2000s. Housing discrimination was outlawed in 1948 by a Supreme Court decision, but La Jolla just drove it underground. Not selling to Jews became a “gentlemen’s agreement.”  The anti-Semitic covenants crumbled officially in the 1960s with the establishment of UC San Diego and the Salk Institute, whose founding scientists were mostly Jewish. But a fresh new take on the same old bullshit is back. “Over this past year or two, as it’s been on the rise across the country, people in San Diego have become concerned,” Gillies said. When I got home from the business conference, I sought Facebook’s reaction to my first taste of San Diego Jew hatred. “Someone who did that to me in a professional setting, I would say, ‘Excuse me?’” commented one Jewish friend, an editor I used to work for in New York. “Then I would smash them across the face and say, ‘Our business here is terminated. Are we clear?’” Violent confrontation is never first on my list – even if the guy wasn’t six inches taller than me and an important connection to my media network in this smallish town. I could imagine that just politely objecting to his remark, “Jew you down,” wouldn’t have been a positive step for my career here. I have a reputation to build from the ground up, starting with the need for trusted friends in a mostly non-Jewish industry. “I’m sure there were many Austrian and German Jews who echoed the same sentiments,” wrote another Jewish Facebook friend. (Isn’t social media always so much fun?) She’s an animal-rescue worker who lives in rural Arizona. Maybe we should all lighten up. That’s the advice I got from Susan Olsen, the former child actress who played Cindy on “The Brady Bunch.” (I forgot how we became Facebook friends, but I love tagging her in threads where know-it-alls try to challenge my “Brady Bunch” trivia.) “Let it go,” Olsen commented. “Everyone is so obsessed with being offended. It hasn’t done anyone any good.” Of course Olsen is going to think that. She lost her L.A. radio job last December

after a personal Facebook message came to light in which she called someone a homophobic slur. Gillies said I should have responded by saying, politely but assertively, “Tell me what you mean by that.” “Then, they have to stop and think about it and they may not know what they mean,” she said. “Most times, when I hear an expression like that, it’s really made out of ignorance and not out of anti-Semitism.” The phrase “Jewing down” is based on the offensive stereotype of the Jewish people as cheap and greedy. It traces back to the Middle Ages, when Jews were excluded from professional guilds and denied the right to own land. Since the Catholic Church forbade Christians from charging interest on loans, Jews went into one of the only industries they could and dominated moneylending. “People don’t necessarily know the origins of some things they’re saying, and don’t know that they’re offensive,” Gillies said. “People also say, ‘I feel really Gypped,’ or ‘don’t Welsh on a bet.’” I’ve said both things before – probably even once or twice after being informed that they were slurs against Gypsies and the Welsh. And I’ll admit, “Indian-giver” was a staple of my playground lexicon. Rabbi Abraham Cooper, associate dean of the Simon Wiesenthal Center in Los Angeles, not only agrees that my new media friend probably isn’t an anti-Semite, he also gives a pass to Jimmy, the grocery-store kid who wouldn’t ride in cars with Jews. W.T.F??? Cooper asked me if Jimmy continued working with me after the incident as though nothing ever happened. (Yes, for several months.) He also asked whether Jimmy ever said anything remotely anti-Semitic again. (No, never.) “Look, I’m not excusing the guy’s behavior,” Cooper said. “It’s shocking – especially since you guys got along well. But that incident reflected more on anti-Semitism at home than on the kid, who would like to get home but is too afraid to be seen by his father, his family and/or neighbors in the presence of a Jew. When he said to you, ‘I’m sorry, I can’t,’

there was probably a threat at the other end of it.” So all of those alternate scenarios where I yelled or lashed out at Jimmy were unnecessary anyway. Jimmy was most likely on my side already, trying to warn me about an irrational situation at home.  W.O.W. My case, the rabbi said, brings into focus what he considers probably the best weapon for combating anti-Semitism: personal contact. “This kid Jimmy came to the workplace fully loaded with negative stereotypes about Jews, and he was already having a different life experience,” Rabbi Cooper said. “He had a buddy who was Jewish and thought he was a nice guy, he didn’t look like a Christ-killer, and he never dared tell his father or he’d get a smack.” “There’s no single rule about what action to take,” Cooper said. “You have to measure what the nature of the incident is.” Cooper did agree with Gillies, though, that I probably should have responded to the “Jew you down” comment. “There are two things you gain in responding in the appropriate situation,” he said. “If they are an anti-Semite, it’s important to stand up as a Jew because part of the stereotype is that Jews won’t stand up for themselves. Secondly, if they’re not antiSemitic, you just had a teaching moment.” Well, it’s too late for that, obviously, but times like this make me happy to still be a journalist. Because I know one member of the San Diego media who’s about to receive a link to an article in the latest issue of the San Diego Jewish Journal. A

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Yoga, Rock Music and Challah Baking Shabbat San Diego is back BY BRIE STIMSON


habbat San Diego is going into their fourth annual year with high expectations. Last year’s crowd was around 16,000 people and the organizers are hoping to bring in at least 20,000 this year. The Shabbat event, hosted in association with 1,200 other cities in 95 countries, will be the weekend of October 26 this year. For program coordinator Simone Abelsohn, the event is a way of bringing the community together. “We have hundreds of volunteers, and it’s community members working together to unite our community,” she tells the Jewish Journal during a lunch meeting at a French café. Even though that one weekend in October is the focus of their year-long planning efforts, there are events throughout the year aimed at fostering Jewish community in San Diego. “We’re working with various partners and congregations and organizations and schools and camps, all the different Jewish organizations in the community to bring events for everybody so everybody can find their 74 l September 2017

niche,” Simone adds. Shabbat San Diego was born out of the Shabbos Project in Johannesburg, South Africa. When San Diego joined the global Shabbat weekend it was originally an Orthodox event, but “the Orthodox way wouldn’t have worked here,” Simone explains. “We wanted a way that would truly just be inclusive … It was San Diego that made it more cultural. We still have the spiritual side of it. We still are open to all … people, but it’s San Diego that created it in a way that was welcoming to everybody.” Now other cities are adopting San Diego’s more inclusive model to use in their celebrations. “South Africa’s now taken on our model as a role model for other cities and other cities are now calling us as advisers to help them create it in their cities,” she said. During this year’s event some of the rabbis have also taken a slightly unique twist on services. “Some [rabbis] will do a yoga class for their service and go through the Torah por-

tions with different yoga moves,” Simone explains. “One [rabbi] does a nature hike and then we have also the traditional Saturday morning and Friday night services and the Saturday afternoon lessons.” Simone and co-chair Michelle Lyons are excited about the new prospects that had not yet been confirmed at press time, but they assured me there’s going to be plenty that’s new this time around. “This year some of our partners are showing up with fun little extra activities at a few of our events,” Simone teases during lunch. “We do have some surprises that we’re working on to make this year different!” This year, along with the large challah bake, there will be several smaller challah bakes. The bake is on the Thursday preceding Shabbat, and with the addition of the smaller ones, “more people are able to participate because they don’t have to travel so far from home,” Michelle explains. “We really want to create an event where it’s easy for everyone to participate.” The locations for the bakes are Carmel Valley, Del Cerro,



“We really want to create an event where it’s easy for everyone to participate.”

Oceanside, South County and one near SDSU for women and girls only. The internationally acclaimed American-Israeli rock group Moshav will play after Saturday’s communal Havdalah service. The group was originally discovered by a group of American students who, after hearing them play, decided to raise money to bring the band to America for a college tour in the ’90s. Eventually the band relocated to Los Angeles where they continue to perform and record. They soon caught the eye of producer Ron Aniello, who has worked with bands like Lifehouse, The Barenaked Ladies and Guster. With Aniello, the band recorded the album “Misplaced” in 2006. They have now produced eight albums in total, most recently “Shabbat Vol. 1” and “New Sun Rising,” recorded in 2014. The band was at the first Shabbos Project in Johannesburg in 2013. Another thing that’s new this year is the video contest. Participants are asked to make a one to two-minute video explaining why they love Shabbat. Videos might include challah baking, a Moshav song as background music or show Judaism around the world. Every participant will win a prize and first place receives $250. The winners’ videos will be shown at the Shabbat dinners. More information about the contest can be found on Shabbat San Diego’s website. Four years in, the event still has room to grow and change – and the organizers want to improve the weekend every year. “We learn as we go for sure,” Lyon tells me. “We’ll see what works and what doesn’t work and what the community’s interested in and not interested in.” Emailing from a trip to Israel, fellow co-chair Tamara Klein was still completely focused on the event. “We started off with very little time to get the project going [originally], she writes. “And we have learned a lot over the past few years. We had great success our first year and have continued along the same pattern making small changes along the way.” Along with the challah bakes, she explains the other ways the celebration has grown. “Each year the community involvement including communal and home hosted Shabbat

dinners has increased. We are sure that this year will be our largest attendance to date,” Tamara says. The timing of the event isn’t random either. “It’s 100 percent intentional!” Michelle confirms. She explains that Rabbi Goldstein, who started the Shabbos Project in South Africa, deliberately scheduled the event soon after the High Holidays to keep people engaged. “It’s the same Torah portion every year,” Simone adds. “It’s the Torah portion where we were promised the Holy Land. We were told we’ll always have this community to build on.” Michelle wants the event to refocus people’s minds for the next year. “We’re hoping that this reconnect is something that doesn’t just happen on the 26th of October,” she states. “That weekend, it’s something that can energize people throughout the year. And then the following year we sort of reenergize again.” Almost every congregation has joined Shabbat San Diego as a partner, as well as Jewish schools, camps and preschools. “We have few chances in San Diego to actually come together and show our Jewish pride and show our unity and show that we are one,” Simone says. “Whether we’re affiliated, not affiliated, religious, reform, conservative, orthodox, whatever we are, we’re still Jewish.” Simone and Michelle say Shabbat San Diego is for absolutely everybody and anybody. “We have Holocaust survivors down to teens,” Simone told me. “We have a place for everybody and so there’s no reason not to come.” The challah bake starts promptly at 6:16 p.m. on Thursday, October 26. There will be services and Shabbat dinners across the county on Friday, October 27. On Saturday there will be services, lectures and study, a communal Havdalah service and a performance by Moshav. For more information go to A

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’dor v’dor: Judaism’s major tenet of passing traditions down from one generation to another. For the Wingard family, Jewish ritual is instilled and inbred. But so is a love – and talent – for music. It all started in Poland, where great-grandpa played Russian and Hebrew songs on the accordion. According to his daughter, 87 year-old Eileen Wingard, “he sang, he wrote poetry. He was brilliant, one of the sources

of my creativity.” Eileen’s mother was a lively lady, who loved to sing and dance. She sang with the Jewish People’s Institute. Eileen credits her maternal grandmother for giving her a first taste of theater: the Yiddish theater in Chicago. She still remembers a song sung by the legendary Molly Picon. In 1939, when Eileen was 9, the family moved to Los Angeles. The music moved

with them. Eileen began playing violin at age 10 (she also plays viola). For her extended artistic development, she attended the Jewish People’s Institute for tap, ballet and elocution lessons. From age 11 on, she reports, she was very active in Habonim, the Zionist youth movement. “The violin was a wonderful outlet for me,” says Eileen, who went on to spend 37 Elul 5777 • Tishrei 5778 | 77

“I played in elementary school, junior high and high school…because I had a crush on the oboist!” Adira with her mom Myla after a performance of J*Company’s Ragtime where Adira played Tateh in a “trousers role.”

years as a tenured member of the San Diego Symphony. “I played in elementary school, junior high and high school…because I had a crush on the oboist!” In her youth, she was part of the Hollywood Baby Orchestra, and later won a scholarship to study with the assistant concertmaster of the Los Angeles Philharmonic Orchestra. She began teaching violin at age 16, becoming her youngest sister’s first teacher. That sister, Zina Schiff, is now a renowned concert violinist. Middle sister Louise sang and played piano, accompanying Eileen on violin. At UCLA, Eileen earned a bachelor’s degree in music, and a master’s degree in music education. By the time she was 21, having also spent time at the Berkshire Music Festival, she had played under the baton of some of the world’s most celebrated conductors, including Serge Koussevitzky and Leonard Bernstein. In 1952, she married Hal Wingard, and six years later, Myla, the first of her four children, was born. Thanks to Eileen’s Fulbright Scholarship to Stuttgart, they spent two years in Europe. Of her childhood, Myla says, “We were all forced to play violin.” Both her sisters still play violin, but her 78 l September 2017

brother Dan was allowed to switch to cello. “We had a family quartet,” boasts Eileen. “We still do.” I can attest to that. I was invited to the Wingards’ most recent Passover seder, and before the ceremony began, a magnificent family ensemble – including Myla on violin; her husband, Lou, on cello; Eileen on viola; and Myla’s sister Harriet on violin – played beautiful string quartet arrangements of seder songs. It was breathtaking. “I come by it honestly,” says Myla, with a chuckle. “I didn’t have a chance in hell not to be a musician! My father’s family, from Romania, were klezmer and improvisational players. I got it from both sides! “ When the Wingards moved to San Diego, Myla continued on her creative path. “At home,” she says, “we played classical music, and some folk music for my father – he wrote 350 funny, quirky folk songs. I also listened to musical theater, and I’d dance around the living room.” Myla played in youth orchestras from the age of 8 on, including the San Diego Youth Symphony and the Civic Youth Orchestra. She even soloed with the La Jolla Symphony Orchestra. “Through it all,” she recalls, “my mother directed my musical life. Until college. Then I rebelled.” At UC San Diego, Myla quickly changed

majors from music to Judaic studies. She took her junior year at the Hebrew University in Israel. During a summer at Haifa University, she auditioned for an Israeli folk dance group. Later, at Beth Tefilah in San Diego, she would teach folk dancing. But for that audition, she was asked to bring her violin. Instead of dancing, she joined the band. “I wanted to dance,” says Myla. “But they made it clear, saying ‘Your fingers dance better than your feet!’” With the company, Lahakat ha-Mahol Bat-Sheva, she traveled all over Israel, playing at musical festivals, military bases, even on tv. Then she came home, graduated UCSD, and earned a scholarship to the Harvard Divinity School, where she studied world religions and the Bible, and received a master’s degree in theological studies. When she took an elective, chamber music 101, her coach was Yo-Yo Ma. While she was in Boston, Myla saw an ad for a musician for an Israeli folk dance troupe. Ironically, it was Arlene Bernstein, now cantor at Congregation Beth Israel, who answered the phone. Instead of the folk dance company, Myla and Arlene became a duo called Bat Kol. “We performed Borscht Belt music,” Myla explains. “I played guitar and violin

“I didn’t have a chance in hell not to be a musician!”

and we both sang. We even had a manager.” After a while, she returned to California, and spent four years at the Brandeis Camp Institute (BCI) in L.A. “I was able to use my musical, administrative and organizational skills, as well as my Jewish knowledge,” Myla says. Then she started working at Congregation Beth El as Rabbi Levin’s assistant, while also running the junior congregation and commuting to Hebrew Union College in L.A. She wanted to become a Rabbi. At that time, she met her first husband. The marriage didn’t last long. Myla and her son, Eitan, moved into her parents’ house. Two years later, her mother set her up with Lou Rosen. As their 18 year-old daughter, Adira, explains it, “My dad had put an ad in the Jewish Times of San Diego: ‘Musician/ physician wants to settle down.’ My grandmother asked my mother, ‘How would you feel about answering a personal ad?’” And, Myla chimes in, “I said NO!” But, Eileen went ahead and answered the ad herself, and invited Lou to a concert where Myla was playing her father’s songs, and a few of her own. It wasn’t until their fourth date that Lou told Myla her mother had contacted him. “By then,” Myla says, laughing, “it was too late.” They were married in 1996. Completing the Small (Jewish) World circle, at the time of their meeting, Lou

Myla, Adira and dad Lou. The parents met when Eileen answered a personal ad on Myla’s behalf.

was taking cello lessons from a friend of Myla’s from college, who was a colleague of Eileen’s from the San Diego Symphony. The couple plays together in the Chai band at Congregation Beth Israel, and Adira reports that they “jam together sometimes in the living room. My father plays every string instrument you can strum: mandolin, ukulele, banjo, guitar, bass guitar, and of course, cello. He also sings – but not in public!”

The Third Generation “I have a bit of my mother’s spark,” says Adira. “At 3, I was handed a violin, and I promptly handed it back. I was told, ‘You are a Wingard; you have to play an instrument!’ I wanted to play drums. They were not on board with that! I tried flute, piano and guitar. But I never practiced. That was a source of argument throughout my childhood. “I got all that musical exposure from the womb,” Adira continues. “And all through my childhood, I was carted around to theaters, as my mother played at the J*Company, the Jewish Arts Festival at the San Diego Rep, and BCI. Arts and Judaism were always linked for me. But, she adds, “this is the first time I heard that my musical theater penchant goes back to my great grandmother!”

At age 5, Adira began attending theater camp at the JCC. She still didn’t play an instrument, but she started asking for voice lessons. “But my parents and their professional musician friends didn’t think it was healthy for such a young child. I was 7,” she says. By age 9, she had her first voice lesson. “I wasn’t super into practicing that either,” she confesses, but she continued through age 13, working on the classical musical canon and Italian art songs. She also took dance classes. “I was a painfully shy, very clingy kid,” Adira admits, recalling her first performance in “The Three Bears,” when she got onstage and burst into tears. Her mother picked her up and whispered the lines in her ear and told her where to stand and move. That got her through the performance. “I thought I had stage fright,” says Adira. “We now look at that as my mother showing me the ropes of theater and directing.” When she was in fifth grade at Kate Sessions Elementary School, Adira tried out for the annual musical. “I auditioned thinking I’d be Pirate Number Five in this kids’ pirate musical,” she says. “I got the lead. And I told my mother, ‘Now that I’m in a production, I need to be reviewed – and not by Grandma; she’s related!’ So I invited you [that’d be me, Pat Elul 5777 • Tishrei 5778 | 79

Launer]. It was a really big deal that [you] actually came and wrote about me, ‘The kid’s going far, because she’s got chutzpah.’ That was pivotal for me. “I was a creative kid – dancing, singing, arts projects. But theater became my whole world.” Adira attended the Creative Media Arts Middle School, studying theater, broadcasting and dance (tap, jazz, modern, ballet and hip hop). “At one point,” she says, “I thought I’d be a dance professional.” In 8th grade, she auditioned for SCPA, the San Diego School for Creative and Performing Arts. “It wasn’t the right fit,” says Adira, “but I learned so much in my 15 months there, including that musical theater performance is not for me.” During all this time, she says, “the J*Company was my rock, my positive place. Between performing and crewing and assistant stage managing, I worked on 26 shows there in eight years.” Then she found Mt. Everest Academy, which she describes as “an independent study school, like a college setup with high

school content. I knew I didn’t want to perform, but I thought, ‘What can I do theatrically to use my organization skills and my love for theater?’” When she was a junior, she served as assistant to the director, Sam Woodhouse, at the San Diego Repertory Theatre for the musical, “Violet.” Then she returned to her old middle school to co-direct the musical “Seussical.” “I loved the co-directing experience,” Adira says. “And I also realized that I was attending a school with no theater program. So I told the principal that I’d like to start a theater company.” The school was willing and, in her second year there, she founded the Mt. Everest Academy Theatre Company (MEATCO). “I fundraised, I organized auditions, I spoke to classes. And by December, I directed my first production, on my own. I had no idea what I was doing, but there was a blazing wildfire in me. We did ‘The Snow Queen,’ based on a Hans Christian Andersen fairy tale. And I realized, ‘This is it! I love this so much!’ I’d never experienced that before, either onstage or backstage.” During her senior year, she directed two

shows, and organized and directed a talent show. Now, her professional dreams are coming true. She’s beginning her freshman year at the prestigious Carnegie Mellon University, pursuing a BFA in Directing, one of few such programs in the country. From 40-60 applicants, the CMU directing program, part of the School of Drama, only accepts four students a year. “Judaism has always been a huge part of my identity,” Adira concludes. “Jewish values and connections I learned, literally, at my mother’s feet. What I love about theater is that it’s another community, another kind of religion. It’s the chutzpah I learned from my grandmother and my mother that propelled me. The neshama, the light you bring to the world, and the art I want to create. “The arts just flow through our family.” Her half-brother, Eitan, it should be noted, just graduated Loyola Law School. He wants to be an entertainment lawyer. “My grandmother forged the way classically,” says Adira, “and my mother Jewishly. Now I’m embarking on the path theatrically.” L’dor v’dor. A

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THE DIARY OF ANNE FRANK Adapted by Wendy Kesselman from the original stage play by Frances Goodrich & Albert Hackett

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Black September An excerpt from “Dynastic, Bombastic, Fantastic. Reggie, Rollie, Catfish and Charlie Finley’s Swingin’ A’s” BY JASON TURBOW


n September 5, 1972, at the Olympic Village in Munich, Germany, eight Palestinian terrorists breached lax perimeter security and broke into two apartments being used by the Israeli Olympic team. They captured, held hostage, and eventually killed 11 athletes and coaches in what came to be known as the Black September attack, after the faction of the Palestinian Liberation Organization that carried out the act. The news was met with horror around the world. The A’s were in Chicago in advance of a series against the White Sox when the news reached them. With a rare night off, the team’s two Jewish players, Ken Holtzman and Mike Epstein, found themselves independently pacing their rooms at the Ambassador Hotel, unable to sit still. The information filled the space around them, drawing the walls in close. Neither man had been to Israel, but both felt a visceral connection to the events. Beyond even the religious connection, Epstein had participated in the Tokyo Olympics in 1964, when baseball was a demonstration sport, and couldn’t stop thinking about how proud he had been as “The Star-Spangled Banner” was played at Meiji Jingu Stadium. For such terror to happen to people representing their country, as he had, who had been bursting with pride, as he had been, was beyond his ability to reconcile. Unable to stand his solitude, Epstein went

to the lobby seeking . . . something. There he found Holtzman, who had descended from his room for the very same reason. When Holtzman joined the team at the beginning of the season, he had approached his Jewishness as something that hardly merited undue public attention. Teammates nicknamed him and Epstein “Jew” and “Super Jew,” respectively, a lighthearted homage to their heritage and respective bulk. (Rollie Fingers, Holtzman’s roommate and close friend, took to calling him “Regular Jew” to lend some heft to

the nickname.) Holtzman’s wife Michelle was all too happy to play it up. When the Oakland Tribune contacted her for a profile of her husband shortly after he was acquired, she cut right to the chase. “Is Ken a big eater?” she said. “Well, no more so than any other Jewish boy. Do you want me to go through the whole ethnic bit? You know, the chicken soup, the matzo balls and the rest? Yes. He loves chicken soup. Yes, I cook it all the time for him. No, it doesn’t help him win games. When I married him, Ken was tall and rangy. But after feeding him for the past nine months, he’s now short and fat.” Things hadn’t been so different for Epstein, who upon reaching the big leagues was labeled “a kosher Lou Gehrig” by one writer and “Mickey Mantle bred on blintzes and gefilte fish” by another. This, though, was different. Holtzman never sought to play up the differences between his own heritage and those of his teammates, but at that moment he wanted nothing more than the companionship of somebody who understood who he was. When he saw Epstein enter the lobby, neither of them had to say a thing; within moments they were out the front door, walking the streets of Chicago. “We just wanted to be with each other and bond,” said Epstein. “We tried to understand what it was all about. What did those athletes do? What is it they did that was wrong?”

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The ballplayers paced off block after block, hour after hour, hands dug deep into jacket pockets in the September chill. They weren’t just Jews but Jewish athletes, going about their professional lives in a strange city, as the Israelis had been doing a day earlier. They were down, and they wanted explanations they knew would never come. In that moment each was all the other had. It was one thing to be quietly Jewish inside a major league clubhouse, but some moments called for more. Something like the decision by Detroit Tigers Hall of Famer Hank Greenberg not to play in a tight pennant race in 1934 on the most important day on the Jewish calendar, Yom Kippur. Like Sandy Koufax doing the same thing 31 years later, only this time in the World Series. It was easy to avoid identifying as Jewish within the context of baseball . . . right up until it wasn’t. “This is who I am,” said Epstein. “I put on tefillin at different shuls in different cities. I was Bar Mitzvahed. I can read Hebrew. I’m a Jew.” The walk helped, but it wasn’t enough. Both men wanted to make a deeper statement—to themselves, to each other, and, as athletes, to the world. Much of it was personal, but part of it wasn’t; at the time there was no way to be sure that the atrocity in Munich was even an isolated incident. “Believe it or not, some people thought that the ramifications were that other Jewish athletes could be at risk,” said Holtzman. “Who’s to say it won’t happen to Jewish athletes in the United States, or that me or Mike wouldn’t become targets? We just didn’t know.” The players wanted a physical manifestation of their feelings. As they walked they hit upon the idea of armbands, black armbands, to wear in remembrance of the deceased and to acknowledge the terror. Upon returning to the hotel, they tracked down clubhouse manager Frank Ciensczyk to see if anything could be done. He said he’d get right on it. At the ballpark the following day Epstein and Holtzman arrived to find black

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strips of fabric already attached to their uniform jerseys. They also learned that they had a partner in their endeavor. Reggie Jackson had heard about the plan and asked Ciensczyk to make him one too. The action precipitated deeply held and wildly divergent feelings from the Jewish duo about the team’s most mercurial player. “Reggie had no business putting it on,” said Epstein, whose issues with Jackson had culminated with Reggie’s “no Jews in Texas” comment that led to their fistfight in May. “It had nothing to do with him. It called attention. He wanted to be known, he wanted to be seen. Kenny and I had a bond, and he was not part of that. But would we expect anything else?” Holtzman disagreed. “Everybody recognized that for me and Mike it was kind of a special situation,” he said, looking back. “And Reggie just chose to . . . it’s funny about Reggie.” With that, the pitcher launched into a story about Jackson’s father, Martinez, a tailor from the predominantly Jewish township of Wyncotte, Pennsylvania. Holtzman’s own father, Henry—who, like his father before him, dealt in industrial machinery—sat next to Martinez Jackson while watching several of their sons’ games, and the two became friendly. “Mr. Jackson knew some Hebrew and Yiddish words because he had a largely Jewish clientele, so Reggie must have been exposed to that,” said Holtzman. “He had contact with Jewish people growing up and was not entirely unaware of Jewish cultural characteristics. So when I saw Reggie with that armband, I felt that he was understand-

ing what me and Mike were going through. He didn’t have anything to do with being Jewish, but felt it appropriate to show solidarity not only with his own teammates, but with the fact that athletes were getting killed. Reggie is often accused by other players of grandstanding, of showboating, of trying to be the center of attention. Call it whatever you want, but Reggie’s a lot deeper than that, okay? A lot deeper than that.” The press immediately latched on, racing to each man for comment. Beyond statements of solidarity with the Israelis, none of them took a firm stance. This was not a political statement, they said, but a personal one. “It was sorrowful,” said Holtzman. “That’s what it was.” Four days after the tragedy, Epstein was faced with a choice similar to those encountered by Koufax and Greenberg generations earlier. Jewish holidays begin and end at sundown, and that Friday night was the beginning of Rosh Hashanah, the Jewish new year, second only to Yom Kippur in terms of importance. Holtzman, not scheduled to pitch, was excused from the ballpark. Epstein, however, opted to play and went 4-for-5 with a home run and four RBIs. With Saturday’s game scheduled at night, both men could attend synagogue in the morning, Epstein returning to the ballpark in time for the game. The armbands stayed on their uniforms all week . . . and through the next . . . and right on into the playoffs. They came off for the World Series, but by then the statement had been made. “It was an emotional period,” said Epstein, looking back. “We’re Jews. I’m just glad we did something.”A This month marks the 45th anniversary of the Black September Olympic massacre in Munich, Germany. The excerpt from “Dynastic, Bombastic, Fantastic” was re-published with permission from Jason Turbow. The book is available now. On Twitter, @DynasticBook offers day-by-day accounts of the A’s championship seasons.

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Sababa Kitchen



or an answer to that question, head out to the hills near 4S Ranch, where you’ll find Sababa Kitchen in a pristine new center on Camino Del Sur. Owner Daniel Schreiber (who calls himself the “Head Falafel”) has combined Israeli culinary delights with an innovative assortment of healthy Mediterranean dishes – all made fresh in-house from scratch. The restaurant is only a few months old – located in a growing area known as Del Sur. There’s plenty of parking right outside the door, and the contemporary atmosphere includes comfortable tables and booths inside and a huge outdoor patio for alfresco dining. The patio is dog-friendly too. Schreiber’s vision for this family-style eatery was to bring organic, sustainable, and local produce wherever possible. Even the chickpeas used in the heavenly hummus and crispy falafel are organic. Kosher diners will find plenty to like on the menu, including the delicious kosher chicken schnitzel – which we loved – and sous-vide lemon chicken breast. There’s always a fresh local fish of the day, and vegans, vegetarians, and diners with allergies or other dietary restrictions can find a plethora of excellent choices. Sababa prides itself on being a “green” (a.k.a. environmentally friendly) restaurant. You can make a meal from the starters menu alone. “Bubbie’s” matzo ball soup ($4.95 or $6.95) certainly made this Jewish grandma proud. It’s chock full of carrots, celery and other veggies, and loaded with chicken. The chicken is free-range and organic – Schreiber insists it’s the “Rolls Royce of chicken.” Another must-have from the appetizer list is the sababa ganoush, made with pureed grilled eggplant and tahina and topped with organic date syrup, mint, and pomegranate seeds. You can build your own sampler plate (three cold sides for $7.95) or select one side for $5.95. Another favorite is the beet and tahina salad. The restaurant also features pickled sweet and sour red beets and red cabbage (all pickled in-house) which are wonderful. One of the many unique items we enjoyed was the eggplant fries ($6.95). These habit-forming creations beat French fries by a mile. Sababa Kitchen makes the pita bread right in the open kitchen – and once you try these beauties you’ll never want to eat those dried-out packaged pitas from the grocery store again. Sababa’s are made Israeli style, so they’re fluffy. You can take home a pack to hold yourself over until next time you make it into the restaurant ($4.95 for a bag of six). Moving over to the larger entrée options, if you have an appetite for lamb and beef shawarma or chicken shawarma, this is the place. The restaurant offers several meal deals, where you can combine your favorites, and the kids meals are bargain priced from $5.95. 86 l September 2017

The menu tells you to pick your protein, pick your style (in a salad, on a plate, or stuffed into a pita or collard green wrap) and then to pick your sauce. Sababa makes selecting your meal almost as much fun as eating it – and you can sign up for their “Frequent Falafel Program” to get extra discounts. There are plenty of hot and cold drinks to accompany your meal, including Mediterranean horchata (a new take on the Mexican classic, with house-made almond milk, rose water and cinnamon) and craft sodas, Moroccan mint green tea, and French press coffee. The home-made desserts are unusual as well. Try the salted tahina chocolate chunk cookie ($2.95) or the Israeli smore ($3.95). A Sababa Kitchen is located at 16475 Paseo del Sur, Suite 105, San Diego, CA 92127. Food is available to-go, and catering orders are welcome. Call (858) 312-6858 or visit



La Jolla Playhouse

The La Jolla Playhouse is ready to unveil a world premiere, titled “Wild Goose Dreams,” a lyrical and darkly funny play directed by Leigh Silverman. The piece tackles the question of human relationships through the unlikely friendship of a North Korean defector and a lonely South Korean father. The play will run from Sept. 5 through Oct. 1.

North Coast Repertory Theatre

North Coast Repertory Theatre will kick off its season with Neil Simon’s “The Last of the Red Hot Lovers.” The classic comedy about a middle-aged man trying to join the sexual revolution will entertain audiences Sept. 6 through Oct. 1. Simon enthusiasts will love this side-splitting comedy – and nobody does Neil Simon better than North Coast Rep.

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Grantham Coleman as Hamlet opposite Patrick Kerr as Polonius in the Globe’s “Hamlet,” closing the outdoor theatre Sept. 10.

The Old Globe Theatre

The Old Globe’s summer season on the outdoor Festival Stage is winding down with Shakespeare’s iconic tragedy, “Hamlet.” The classic play was extended through Sept. 22, under the astute direction of Barry Edelstein. The Globe’s fall season is just getting started. It all begins on Sept. 7, with a Main Stage production of “Benny & Joon,” a brand new musical, based on a ’90s romantic comedy musical. The show is peopled by unforgettable characters and boasts a charming and tuneful score. It will remain at the Globe through Oct. 22. If you haven’t seen “Robin Hood!” at the Globe’s White Theatre yet, you’re in luck. The spoof has been extended through Sept. 3. On Sept. 30, the White will be staging “The Absolute Brightness of Leonard Pelkey,” a solo work written and performed by James Lecesne. This play about a brash New Jersey detective eager for a challenging case, will stick around in the Globe’s theater-in-the-round setting through Oct. 29. The Globe’s annual gala, featuring a one-night-only performance by Tony Award-winner Jane Krakowski, is set for Sept. 23 on the Globe plaza. 

San Diego Repertory Theatre will perform “Roz & Ray,” a two-character, history-based play about a father and a doctor dealing with the threat of aids in the 1980s. The powerful drama (set in San Diego) will inhabit the Lyceum Space Sept. 7 through Oct. 1. It was penned by Karen Hartman, one of the top playwrights in the country.

Cygnet Theatre

Cygnet Theatre is featuring “The Effect of Gamma Rays on Man-inthe Moon Marigolds,” by Paul Zindel. Rob Lutfy directs this Pulitzer Prize-winning “lyrical family drama” about a wounded family coming apart in the 1960s. The show will stay on at the Old Town Theatre through Sept. 24.  

Lamb’s Players Theatre

The Lamb’s Players will continue to showcase “The Explorer’s Club” – a hilarious send-up of a Victorian men’s club under siege from every corner. The spoof will remain at the Lamb’s Coronado home through Sept. 24, under the direction of Robert Smyth.

Coronado Playhouse

Coronado Playhouse will perform “Little Shop of Horrors” Sept. 8 through Oct. 15. This delightfully silly sci-fi spoof has clever rock songs to propel the off-beat plot.

San Diego Symphony

The San Diego Symphony’s Bayside Summer Nights series ends with a bang. “1812 Tchaikovsky Spectacular,” which plays on from Sept. Broadway-San Diego 1-3, features a booming cannon and culminates with the summer’s Broadway-San Diego is back with an exciting new season that kicks final fireworks display. off on Sept. 5 with the Broadway musical hit, “An American in Paris.” The Tony Award-winning show – about an American soldier and a San Diego Opera mysterious French girl – features songs by George and Ira Gershwin. The San Diego Opera will present a recital by Piotr Beczala at the It will remain at the Civic Theatre through Sept. 10. Following on Balboa Theatre on Sep. 17.  The Polish tenor made a hit with local auits heels is the popular family musical, “The Little Mermaid.” The diences on both of his appearances in major productions at the Civic Disney classic (based on the beloved fairytale) returns to the Civic Theatre. on Sept. 19, where it will entertain audiences through Sept. 24. 88 l September 2017

Museum of Contemporary Art

The Museum of Contemporary Art in La Jolla is closed for renovation and expansion, but the downtown facility is still going strong. “Dimensions of Black: A Collaboration with the San Diego African American Museum of Art,” is on view through next January.

Birch Aquarium

Birch Aquarium is featuring “Hall of Fishes,” which is unlike any other exhibition in the history of the aquarium. It also serves as a working laboratory. Birch also has an installation on light by scientist Michael Latz, and an exhibition that helps you understand Scripps’ expeditions to discover and protect the planet. “Expedition at Sea” immerses you in the experience by highlighting the sights and sounds of life and work aboard the Sally Ride research vessel. It includes a 33-foot long projected triptych and hands-on learning opportunities. “The Manneporte” by Claude Monet on display at the Timken Museum.

Timken Museum

The Timken Museum is welcoming a new exhibition focused around two major pieces by Claude Monet, on loan from The Metropolitan Museum of Art. Opening Sept. 8, guests of the free museum can experience “The Manneporte (Etretat)” and “The Manneporte near Etretat,” painted in 1883 and 1886 respectively. The oil paintings depict the serenity of the small fishing village on the coast of Normandy that Monet visited several times during his 86 years. He pained it from numerous angles and under varying weather conditions. Also included in the show are pieces by Willian Henry Lippincott and George Inness of the same island location.

Mingei International Museum

Mingei’s newest exhibition, “Arline Fisch: One of a Kind,” a retrospective view of jewelry and other artforms designed by this San Diego resident, will be on display through Jan. 7, 2018. Mingei International Museum is showcasing  “Kanban: Traditional Shop Signs of Japan,” an exhibition that features a variety of forms and mediums, through Oct. 8. Joining that show is “Homage to the Horse and Other Steeds,” an exhibition of objects celebrating the nobility and power of horses from all over the world. This exhibition is slated to stay on through Nov. 12.

The Fleet Science Center

The Fleet has two special exhibitions: “Dream, Design, Build” and “Game Master.” “Dream…” explores the Fleet’s collection of interactive engineering activities (and will remain on permanent display), and “Game Master” showcases the world’s best video game designers, with more than 100 playable games. The exhibition will stay on through Jan. 15, 2018. The Fleet Science Center has a new IMAX film “Island of Lemurs: Madagascar.” Narrated by Academy Award winner Morgan Freeman, this family-friendly film takes audiences on a journey through remote and wondrous stomping grounds of Madagascar’s lemur population. The feature highlights the efforts of trailblazing scientist Dr. Patricia C. Wright. Continuing in the IMAX film rotation will be “Dream Big: Engineering our World” and “National Parks Adventure.”

Natural History Museum

The Natural History Museum is featuring “Extraordinary Ideas from Ordinary People: A History of Citizen Science.” Among the items on view in this exhibition are rare books, art, and historical documents. “Ultimate Dinosaurs” features dinosaurs from the Southern Hemisphere. They include many we have never seen or heard of before, based on new groundbreaking research. Also on display is “Animals: Machines in Motion,” an exhibition that explores plants and animals as machines built for survival. Check out two films: “Whales 3D” and “A Reef Reborn.” The Nat also offers San Diego Museum of Art The San Diego Museum of Art has opened its vaults to show off a trea- “Fossil Mysteries,” “Water: A California Story,” and “Skulls.” sure trove of artwork usually kept under lock and key. “Visible Vaults,” a collection of 300 pieces, including works by Andy Warhol, Rodin, San Diego History Center Toulouse-Lautrec and other great artists, will be on view through Nov. The San Diego History Center is celebrating “The History & Heritage of the San Diego Jewish Community” in its current exhibition. 12 of next year. Also on display at the Art Museum is “Brenda Biondo: Play,” an Also on display is “Irving Gill: New Architecture for a Great Country,” exhibition of 25 photographs focusing on children’s playgrounds. The and “Art and Heritage: Maurice Braun, Belle Baranceanu, and Harry show will run through Jan. 10, 2018. “Reflections on Monet,” a small- Sternberg.” The museum’s permanent exhibition, “Placed Promises,” scale exhibition that includes the famous Water Lily painting and one chronicles the history of the San Diego region – and its newest exhibipiece on loan from the John and Toni Bloomberg Collection, will stay tion, the America’s Cup Exhibition, highlights the sailing race held in San Diego three times since 1988. put through Jan. 21. Elul 5777 • Tishrei 5778 | 89

news Jewish Family Service Receives 10th 4-Star Rating Jewish Family Service (JFS) of San Diego has received their 10th consecutive four-star rating from Charity Navigator, the country’s largest independent charity evaluator. The rating assesses how efficient a charity is with donations, the sustainability of its programs and services and their accountability and transparency. The four-star rating, which is the highest possible rating in the Charity Navigator assessment system, indicates the charity adheres to sector best practices. Michael Thatcher, president and CEO of Charity Navigator said JFS continues to exceed industry standards. Michael Hopkins, CEO of JFS said he would like to thank their donors because “their trust propels our success.”

Hackathon Teaches Students Hebrew and Tech Together Approximately 160 middle and high school students from across the country participated in the Israeli-American Council’s Eitanim program’s second annual hackathon in Los Angeles July through the beginning of August. Israeli innovators mentored the teens throughout the six-day program, helping them create and design education technologies aimed at teaching kids Hebrew and about Israel. Mentors included leading executives from Microsoft, Cisco and Amazon. Seven students participated from San Diego, including Sharon Cohen and Kevin Lebed. The hackathon was held at the American Jewish University in Bel Air.

Schusterman Visiting Israeli Artists Program Brings Talent to SDSU Nir Bergman, co-creator, director and writer of the HBO series “In Treatment,” and documentary filmmaker David Ofek will be team-teaching at San Diego State University during the fall semester as part of the Schusterman Visiting Israeli Scholars program. Ofek’s 2003 documentary “No. 17 is Anonymous” David Ofek Nir Bergman was screened at 80 festivals. The Schusterman program, based in Washington D.C., brings 13 Israeli artists to universities across the county for the 2017-18 school year. Dana Ivgy, who starred in the critically acclaimed film “Zero Motivation” taught at SDSU at the in the spring semester and sat on a panel at the Jewish Film Festival in February.

Guardians of San Diego 26th Annual Gold Tournament raises $160,000 for Charity Seacrest Village’s Guardians of San Diego and their 26th Annual Golf, Tennis and Spa Day this summer raised over $160,000 for seniors who reside at the Encinitas and Rancho Bernardo homes. The day-long event was hosted by Seacrest Foundation with the proceeds going to the Resident Assistance Fund and Seacrest Village Retirement Communities to help seniors who have depleted their savings. The Foundation hosted 100 golfers and tennis players at the Del Mar Country Club July 24. Devin Chodorow, president of Guardians of San Diego volunteer group, said requests for charitable care exceed $2.5 million annually. Tournament winners include Jared Sanderson, Chris Schweis, Todd Allen and Todd Kirschen in first place for the golf tournament. Charles Wax, Nicole Coxsey, Grant Holm, and Brian McCarville came in second. Cindy Bloch won for women’s longest drive, while Lisa Levine took home the award for closest to the pin. This year’s planning committee included Devin Chodorow, Earl Altshuler, Mary Epsten, Bob Haimsohn, Marty Ehrlich and Cindy Bloch.

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South African Jewish American Community (SAJAC) Announces First Ever Winners of Lifetime Achievement Awards The South African Jewish American Community (SAJAC) has announced the four winners of its first-ever Lifetime Achievement Awards to recognize the outstanding individuals in San Diego who have made incredible contributions to both the Jewish and secular communities since arriving in the United States. The first winners of this award are Claire Ellman, Jeffrey Essakow, Pam Nathan and Sharleen Wollach. Of Ellman, SAJAC writes “Claire’s selfless contribution to both San Diego and South African Jewry and her outstanding work in support of the State of Israel has put her in a class of her own. We owe her a huge debt of gratitude for her quiet energy that is felt throughout San Diego and abroad.” For Essakow, organizations say, “As a co-founder of the Challenged Athletes Foundation, Jeffrey’s level of dedication and commitment has overseen this organization’s rise to global stature, serving challenged athletes around the world.” Writing about Pam Nathan, SAJAC says, “For more than 30 years, Pam has often single-handedly kept SAJAC going as an energetic and vibrant organization. Her tireless efforts have not only kept the organization alive in the face of overwhelming odds, but has managed to make it thrive and become a role model for South African organizations throughout the country.” Finally, of Sharleen Wollach, the group writes, “Sharleen is one of those tireless workers that may not always be recognized but whose contribution is essential to the success of many organizations. Apart from her work for the Jewish Community Foundation, Sharleen is the strength and backbone of so many causes and organizations that it is impossible to list. Her legendary organizational skills, boundless energy and her refusal to say no make her the poster child for this year’s award.” The group will convene and awards ceremony at the San Diego History Center in Balboa Park on Sept. 17 at 6 p.m. Cocktails and small plates will be served. Cost is $20 per person, $15 for seniors. R.S.V.P to

Local Students Participate in Israeli Museum Family Story program Beit Hatfutsot the Museum of the Jewish People in Israel recently hosted its 22nd anniversary year My Family Story (MFS) program with international submissions, including some from San Diego. A fun-filled, meaningful, and multigenerational Jewish heritage journey to the past, students were invited to explore their own Jewish heritage and present their findings in an art installation. Students aged 12-15 years were invited to participate after working through the Museum’s year-long curriculum. This year, 155 institutions, and more than 20,000 students from 28 countries participated and 200 artistic displays were chosen for display. Two students from San Diego were selected for the final exhibition alongside students from Argentina, Australia, Austria, Azerbaijan, Belarus, Canada, Chile, Costa Rica, England, Estonia, France, Georgia, Germany, Greece, Hungary, Israel, Kazakhstan, Kirgizstan, Latvia, Mexico, Paraguay, Russia, South Africa, Spain, Turkey, Ukraine and Venezuela.

MEETINGS AND EVENTS FOR JEWISH SENIORS Jewish War Veterans of San Diego, Post-185 Contact Jerome Klein at (858) 521-8694 Sept. 10, 10 a.m. North County Jewish Seniors Club at the Oceanside Senior Center Contact Josephine at (760) 295-2564 Sept. 21, 12:30 p.m. Veterans Association of North County, Post - 385 Contact Marsha Schjolberg (760) 492-7443 Jewish War Veterans meetings Sept. 10, 11 a.m. Lawrence Family JCC Contact Melanie Rubin (858) 362-1141 Sept. 14, 1:30 p.m. Introduction to social media workshop. Cost is $12 for general public, $10 for members. On the Go Excursions Contact Jo Kessler (858) 637-7320 Sept. 27, 1 p.m. Watch “Little Shop of Horrors” at the Coronado Community Playhouse. Bus returns at 4:30 p.m. Cost is $43 due by Sept. 1. JFS College Avenue Center at Temple Emanu-El Contact Elissa Landsman (858) 637-3273 Sept. 20, noon. Celebrate the Jewish New Year with apples, honey and a special Rosh Hashanah luncheon. The music starts at 12:30 p.m., with Hebrew, Yiddish, Ladino and English-Jewish favorites from “Chicken Soup.” JFS Balboa Ave. Older Adult Center Contact Aviva Saad (858) 550-5998 Sept. 19, 10 a.m. Rosh Hashanah program begins the day, with chair exercise at 11 a.m. and lunch at noon. Entertainment with Cam and Dolly Vidal starts at 1 p.m. Cost is $27.

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“The Vietnam War” BY BRIE STIMSON


here is no way we could avoid telling this story,” Ken Burns says of his documentary series “The Vietnam War.” Burns, who is an icon of history documentaries and has made an art form of series like “The Civil War,” “Baseball” and “The Roosevelts: An Intimate History,” spent six years shooting the 18-hour series – traveling back and forth from America to Vietnam. Longtime creative partner Lynn Novick, who is Jewish and has worked with Burns on various films, including “The War,” “Baseball” and “Prohibition,” joined him to co-direct the film. “I think the country’s ready to have the conversation we’ve never had about the [Vietnam] war, which we really need to have,” she says. Shot in Burns’ rich, vivid style and making expert use of archival footage and more than 25,000 photos, the 10-part series is an extended look at the war from the first troops on the ground to the last man out. Burns says he and Novick did not set out to answer questions about Vietnam through their filming. Rather, he says the documentary is a “set of questions about what happened.” Vietnam, which killed 16,592 American service men in 1968 alone (2,415 just in May of that year), was the fist war to be broadcast extensively into Americans’ living rooms, giving them a first-hand look at the carnage and death their sons and brothers were fighting in. The war sparked one of the greatest protest movements in the 20th century and forever changed a generation. In total, 58,193 Americans (reportedly) died in the war – their names can be found emblazoned on the seemingly never-ending Vietnam War Memorial for those who visit Washington, D.C.

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One high school in Philadelphia lost 54 men during the war. The Vietnamese government estimates there were 3.1 million Vietnamese military and civilian deaths during the war. The film takes no sides and offers no conclusions. It simply gives the viewer a deeper understanding of what did happened more than 50 years ago now. “It’s damned easy to get in a war but it’s going to be awfully hard to ever extricate yourself,” a dubious Lyndon Johnson said in a recorded phone conversation with his national security advisor McGeorge Bundy in May 1964. Just like any of Burns’ and Novick’s other works, the documentary will surely become a definitive history, unrivaled in its scope, breadth, depth and capacity to move. The filmmakers gave an abbreviated screening of the series at San Diego’s Balboa Theatre in downtown last May. While Burns joked they were going to lock the doors and make the audience watch the entire 18 hours of footage, in actuality they showed a little less than an hour’s worth of excerpts from the 10 episodes. The power of their filmmaking showed in the awed silence of the audience. Burns says he sees Vietnam in many ways as America’s second civil war because it tore the country apart. There is attention to detail in every moment of the film – even the score was a collaboration with the celebrated cellist Yo-Yo Ma. Burns says he feels the passage of time is important for perspective on all projects – and in the half-century since troops were withdrawn from Vietnam, Americans’ (and the world’s) perspective has changed. The feelings of those who lived (and served) during Vietnam are not as clear as World War II, however. Vietnam is more complicated, less clean cut in peoples’ minds. And while Burns’ and Novick’s film may not have the answers some are looking for it will give those seeking perspective a chance to at least see what really happened. The documentary premieres on KPBS September 17 at 8 p.m. A

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Pool Party With Congregation Havurim’s New Student Rabbi Sept. 10, noon to 6 p.m. Location to be decided (Temecula) Come meet Nora Feinstein! Call (951) 676-1108 for more information. Challah Bake at Chabad of Poway Sept. 10, 7 p.m. 16934 Chabad Way, Poway, CA 92064 Join women and girls for a pre-Rosh Hashanah challah bake For more information contact Shterna at Ice Cream Social at Etz Rimon Sept. 16, 6:15 p.m. 2020 Chestnut Avenue, Carlsbad, CA 92008 Come celebrate Selichot and spend time with fellow congregants at Etz Rimon. *Interested in having your event featured? Contact Submissions are due by 15th of the month for the next issue. Elul 5777 • Tishrei 5778 | 93


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