LGBTQ San Diego County News April 2022 Volume 3 Issue 13

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Taste of Hillcrest Returns April 9 p4 TheaTer

San Diego Opera presents Romeo et Juliette’ p14

The LGbTq Masquerade Sashays into San Diego: benefiting the SD LGbT Community Center Youth Programs p18

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Conversations with niCole The Annual Children’s Easter Egg Hunt p7

Big Mike & Friends Featuring David Koehn p8

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liFe Beyond therapy The Other Vitamin C p9

City attorney news Victims, Guns, and Drunk Driving p6

distriCt attorney news Catalytic Converters Surge in Thefts p12

trans talk with Connor Transgender Day of Visibility p10

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The Journey of a broken Man:

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A Story of Hate, Love, and Success p16

Former Finance Director of La Jolla Music Society Pleads Guilty to Embezzlement p19

Ending the Sale of Flavored Tobacco p17

Gay Man Acquitted of Second-Degree Murder of Husband p19

JaCksON’s hIsTOrIC NOMINaTION also undersCores the politiCal Battles ahead Jackson’s moment to discuss her qualifications is Just open theater for politicians and presidential hopefuls Judge Ketanji brown Jackson is sworn in to testify before the Senate Judiciary Committee (Image by Saul Loeb | AFP | Getty Images)

By Allan Acevedo

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rapping up hearings on Judge Ketanji Brown Jackson’s nomination to the U.S. Supreme Court, I am left repeating the words of Sen. Cory Booker (D – New Jersey), “This is not a normal day in America.”

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an Diego Gay Men’s Chorus returns to the stage with performances of its spring concert – Broadway, Our Way! SDGMC’s Broadway, Our Way! will premiere at the Balboa Theatre Saturday, April 23, 2022, at 8 p.m. PST, with a matinee Sunday, April 24, 2022, at 3 p.m. image courtesy of San Diego Gay Men’s Chorus

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n March 23rd, LGBTQ+ bar and business owners, community leaders, members of the LGBTQ Black Coalition, Transgender and POC activists, LGBTQ+ San Diego Police Officers, a top gay FBI Agent, members of the Path to Healing and Safer Communities Plan (made up of LGBTQ+ POC community activists and leaders) as well as the cochairs of the Pride Board of Directors along with Executive Director Fernando Z. Lopez gathered at Saint Paul’s Cathedral for a meeting to discuss San Diego Pride’s banning of police officers marching with their uniforms/guns in the annual San Diego Pride Parade.

Two years ago, the San Diego Pride Board had banned all San Diego law enforcement agencies from participating in the Pride Parade in uniform (which due to the pandemic was held virtually). The request for the Pride Board to ban uniformed law enforcement came from the LGBTQ Black Coalition, Transgender activists, as well as LGBTQ+ POC activists. The San Diego LGBT Community Center quickly followed suit and banned uniformed officers from entering The Center.

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Jackson’s Historic Nomination continued from page 1 Never in our nation’s history has an imminently qualified Black woman stood before this nation’s legislative body to be evaluated for her fitness to serve on this nation’s highest court.

We must recognize and celebrate this important achievement. She will likely be confirmed by a margin more narrow than her confirmation to the D.C. Circuit Court of Appeals (53 to 44). At concern is not her confirmation (hopefully).

Like many recent Supreme Court confirmation hearings, Jackson’s moment to discuss her qualifications is just open theater for politicians and presidential hopefuls.

Historic firsts gave us more to look for, though. Undoubtedly more young Black women will be inspired to pursue the law. In her words, Jackson stated her parents were public school teachers and that to “express both pride in their heritage and hope for the future, they gave me an African name: Ketanji Onyika, which they were told means ‘lovely one’.”

Also, on display, was the roadmap for the culture wars republicans seek to leverage to electoral victory. The rhetoric indicated a strong belief that Roe’s days are numbered Dobbs v. Jackson Women’s Health Organization. In oral arguments, the Court’s 6-3 conservative majority “signaled it could uphold Mississippi’s 15-week abortion ban during oral arguments in that case in December,” according to Newsweek, which also indicated some “41 states have introduced bills to restrict abortion this year.”

The shift away from Roe as a focus during the confirmation hearing was most evident in a new wave of attacks on the Supreme Court’s decision in Obergefell v. Hodges (2015) (re-

U.S. Supreme Court nominee Ketanji brown Jackson arrives for her confirmation hearing before the Senate Judiciary Committee (Image by Doug Mills | Pool | Getty Images)

quiring states to issue marriage licenses to same-sex couples on the same basis as others).

Rather than outright attack marriage equality or LGBTQIA+ identities, the subtler fight was over the Supreme Court precedent of substantive due process analysis.

Substantive Due Process Substantive due process recognizes that Fourteenth Amendment protections are not just procedural rights (e.g., an unbiased tribunal, notice of action, right to present evidence, be represented by counsel in criminal cases).

The Constitution protects against deprivations of liberty or property without due process. A deprivation of liberty

may occur if a person loses a significant freedom of action or is denied a freedom provided by statute.

The root of substantive due process analysis of civil liberties is often cited as Meyer v. Nebraska (1923). There, the court struck down a Nebraska law banning foreign language education (context: anti-German sentiment during World War I).

In the Court’s decision, Justice McReynolds underscored that liberty “without doubt” included liberty “to contract, to engage in any of the common occupations of life, to acquire useful knowledge, to marry, establish a home and bring up children, to worship God according to the dictates of his own conscience, and generally

to enjoy those privileges long recognized at common law as essential to the orderly pursuit of happiness.”

Two years later, McReynolds again wrote the Court’s opinion in Pierce v. Society of Sisters (1925) (striking down an Oregon law requiring all children to attend public school on the ground of recognized personal civil liberties).

These precedents were relied on in the analysis of Roe v. Wade (1973) and Lawrence v. Texas (striking down Texas’ anti-sodomy laws and that was only 19 years ago in 2003) and in Obergefell.

Teeing Up the Next Fight Early on the second day of Jackson’s historic nomination

process, Sen. John Cornyn (R – Texas) attacked the Supreme Obergefell decision. He noted that 32 of 35 states which voted on marriage equality actually voted to ban rights from same-sex couples and dismissed the Court ruling as “judicial policymaking.”

In fact, during the confirmation hearing both Cornyn and Marsha Blackburn (R- Tennessee) lectured Jackson on the Constitution explicitly not mentioning the words abortion or marriage. Blackburn went on to question Jackson on the definition of “woman”, which Jackson smartly deflected by emphasizing that she was “not a biologist.”

Later, Sen. John Kennedy (R – Louisiana) complained about the lack of a formula to identify unenumerated rights protected under substantive due process, indicating that some would have to say, “Wait a minute.” I think he thinks that’s legal analysis. And then there’s Sen. Ben Sasse (R – Nebraska) who I just can’t with so we’re going to skip him, but suffice to say he tried it too, folks.

This theatre, which does little to determine Jackson’s character and fit to serve on the Supreme Court, does show us the roadmap for the fights ahead.

It might be cliché to say we live in unprecedented times, but it’s true, nonetheless. We can’t rest on the victories our communities have fought for and think our only path is forward. Often progress is met with setback and pushbacks. Things we thought were impossible losses of freedom and liberty seem more likely with the rise of fascism in America.

I’m reminded of the words of author and journalist Frank Thayer who said, “Each generation must win democracy for itself.”

proposed police in pride parade Compromise continued from page 1 The Pride Board has since changed the ban to not include all law-enforcement agencies, the exceptions being the city attorney, district attorney, FBI, etc. and will welcome San Diego Police and Sheriff officers to march without their uniforms but would be allowed to wear T-shirts identifying themselves as officers.

The San Diego Police Department and the San Diego County Sheriff’s Department have both turned down the Pride proposal and are not planning to march in this years Pride Parade for the first time in over 50 years.

Longtime businessman and community leader Chris Shaw became concerned when word spread that San Diego’s first elected Gay mayor, Todd Gloria, and other elected LGBTQ officeholders may also not march in the parade if the police and sheriff officers were banned. Shaw contacted San Diego Pride Cofounder (1974), City Commissioner Nicole Murray Ramirez to voice his serious concerns. Both Shaw

image courtesy of San Diego Pride

and Commissioner Ramirez called upon San Diego Pride for the March 23rd meeting.

At the meeting, Commissioner Ramirez brought forth a compromise (which has received the support of Mayor Todd Gloria and Police Chief David Nisleit) that the police

officers be allowed to march in this year’s Pride Parade in uniform but also carrying signs supporting LGBTQ+ equality, especially Trans rights, LGBTQ+ youth/families, and people of color. Commissioner Ramirez pointed out that no police contingent has

ever marched with individual signs being held up supporting pro LGBTQ+ equality. While Ramirez’ compromise received strong support of the LGBTQ+ business and bar owners in attendance, it was not enthusiastically received by the people of color and Transgender activ-

ists in attendance, though they appreciated the work behind the compromise, and it being brought forward.

San Diego Pride Executive Director Fernando Z. Lopez committed to present commissioner Ramirez’ proposal to the Pride Board as well as the members of the Path to Healing and Safer Communities Plan.

During the meeting it became very clear that there was a “great divide” between LGBTQ+ Caucasian/white members and community members that are POC and/or Trans. For many in the meeting it was the first time that they had ever heard personal stories of law enforcement harassment and discrimination that included terrorism of LGBTQ+ POC and Trans people. Pride Director Fernando Z. Lopez made passionate remarks calling for more dialogue and focus on the concerns and reality of those LGBTQ+ community members who are POC, Transgender, or non-binary.

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San Diego Gay men’s Chorus continued from page 1

image courtesy of San Diego Gay Men’s Chorus

Under the direction of guest Artistic Director Andy Riggs, Broadway, Our Way! will feature not just the wonderful sounds of the chorus as they present some of their own favorite Broadway songs, but also choreographed dances, awe-inspiring solo performances and arrangements that highlight the vocal talents of the chorus ensemble.

The concert will feature songs from musicals across the history of the Broadway stage, including a tribute to the music of Stephen Sondheim, who passed away late last year.

The Chorus’s Broadway concert has had a long road to the Balboa stage. The show was two months into rehearsals and production back in March 2020 before the COVID19 global pandemic forced the chorus into lockdown.

“At the time, we thought we would lose only a couple of rehearsals,” said Jeff Heine, executive director of SDGMC, when asked about the history of bringing Broadway, Our Way! to the stage. “We had no idea that the concert, as well as the rest of the season and beyond, would be cancelled.

Now, finally, Broadway, Our Way! will be live on stage!”

Broadway, Our Way will be the final concert with Guest Director Andy Riggs at the podium. “It is important to acknowledge, and honor, the considerable and organization changing contributions of Andy Riggs,” said Dr. James Marshall, President of the SDGMC Board of Directors.

“Andy successfully brought SDGMC back to the stage after a full two-year, COVID-induced absence. He has led our chorus to that outcome with a polished sound and production that clearly exceeded the expectations of members and audiences alike.”

Tickets are available through www.SDGMC.org and Ticketmaster. Ticket sales will go directly to the Chorus’ mission to provide inclusive artistic expression, community engagement and positive social change. For patrons that cannot attend but would like to support the Chorus through a financial contribution, donations are accepted on their website, www.

SDGMC.org.

All performances will continue to follow the latest COVID-19 guidelines put in place

by San Diego Theatres. The Chorus is strongly requesting that out of safety for its highrisk members all audience members wear face masks during the performance. All chorus members will be tested for COVID-19 prior to the performance weekend.

The Chorus recently announced the hiring of their new Artistic Director, Dr. Charles Beale, who will take the creative helm for the start of rehearsals and production of SDGMC’s Pride show, scheduled for July 30-31, 2022.

About the San Diego Gay Men’s Chorus: The San Diego Gay Men’s Chorus is a nonprofit 501(c)(3) voluntary community chorus. The SDGMC’s mission is to create a positive musical experience through exciting performances that engage audiences, build community support and provide a dynamic force for social change.

SDGMC has built a solid reputation for musical excellence and dynamic programming. As one of the largest gay choruses in the world, SDGMC has sung at locations including the White House, the Super Bowl and Lincoln Center.

SDGMC is a member of GALA (Gay and Lesbian Association of Choruses). The organization was formed to build community through music while pursuing musical excellence in performance.

For more information on the SDGMC or to donate, please

visit www.SDGMC.org.

About Andy Riggs; SDGMC Guest Artistic Director 2022 Andy Riggs stepped into the role of Guest Artistic Director in the Fall of 2021 for our “Jingle” show after serving as our Artistic Manager for our virtual concerts “All Together Now” and “Unmuted!” during the pandemic months in 2021.

Andy brings 15 years of choral conducting experience and 21 years of piano accompanying and singing to the San Diego Gay Men’s Chorus. Andy joined this group as a singer for Jingle 2016. Since then, he has served as the Outreach Director, a Section Leader, a member of the Artistic Team, a member of Mood Swings and the SDGMC Chamber Chorale, a soloist, a dance captain, and dancer. He is thrilled to continue as Guest Artistic Director for “Broadway, Our Way!” When Andy is not with the chorus he serves as the Workshop Coordinator for the United Church of Christ Musicians Association National Board of Directors, teaches private voice and piano lessons have worked as the Music Director for different musicals and can be seen performing throughout the city of San Diego for different shows and events. Andy would like to thank all those from the SDGMC organization who work so hard to ensure that these incredible shows are possible, and he would like to send a special thank you to his husband, Travis, for his unwavering love and support through this process and all of life’s endeavors.

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hIllCresT’s MOsT delICIOUs eveNT reTUrNs aPrIl 9 the annual taste of hillCrest will feature over 35 restaurants

By Hillcrest Business Association (HBA)

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he annual Taste of Hillcrest is back this spring with over 35 fantastic neighborhood restaurants participating, giving foodies a chance to sample some of the best dishes at participating venues.

From quaint cafes and French and Italian style bistros to five-star dining delights, this is the most anticipated selfguided culinary walking tour in San Diego! Participants will have the opportunity to sample bites such as Pad Thai, Sashimi, Italian Antipasto, Classic American comfort food, and so much! This culinary journey is sure to cause people’s taste buds to go wild!

Taste of Hillcrest 2022 is scheduled for Saturday, April 9 from 12-4 p.m. The event will take place throughout all of Hillcrest, with participating venues lining the major thoroughfares of the neighborhood. There will be two Will Call locations for participants to pick up their tickets, including outside of Rite Aid at 535 Robinson Avenue, and outside of Rich’s San Diego at 1051 University Avenue.

Taste of Hillcrest benefits the programs and services of the Hillcrest Business Association (HBA). The HBA was established in 1921, making it the oldest business association in San Diego. The HBA represents over 1,300 uptown businesses acting as a liaison between the business community and the city while encouraging economic development for the Hillcrest area through events and promotions. The Business Association also employs private security patrols in the core of our neighborhood, maintains cleanliness

on the streets and keeps the Hillcrest Sign shining bright.

As one of the premier events of its type in San Diego, Taste of Hillcrest was established as a community event designed to draw locals and tourists alike to Hillcrest to spotlight the diverse, new, and long-standing culinary options available in the neighborhood. It continues to be a regional event drawing locals and visitors from throughout Southern California. The Hillcrest Business Association produces the event and uses the funds raised for neighborhood beautification projects such as trash pick-up, sidewalk cleaning, landscaping, and flower baskets maintenance.

“Taste of Hillcrest is always an exciting - and delicious - day in the neighborhood! It’s so much fun to see hundreds of guests from all over San Diego and beyond explore and enjoy the neighborhood’s diverse culinary options. Hillcrest is one of the original dining destinations in Uptown San Diego, and has an eclectic mix of iconic restaurants, alongside new, creative dining options that pop up all the time. We look forward to welcoming you to Hillcrest and encourage those interested in attending to buy their tickets early - they will sell out!”

Benjamin Nichols, Executive Director, Hillcrest Business Association.

www.fabuloushillcrest.com/ taste-of-hillcrest

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Mara w. elliott —Mara W. Elliott was elected City Attorney of San Diego in 2016 after serving as the chief deputy attorney for the Office’s Public Services Section and legal adviser to the city’s Independent Audit Committee and Environment Committee. Elliott and the lawyers in her section held polluters accountable, reformed city contracting, cut administrative red tape, and strengthened the city’s living wage and non-discrimination in contracting ordinances.

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y focusing on three priorities – crimes involving victims, guns, and drunk driving – prosecutors in my Office stayed productive even while Covid shut down our courthouses.

Now that jury trials have resumed, the priorities we set for our Criminal Division preCovid seem almost prescient, given how America responded to the pandemic: Domestic violence rose, some gun crimes soared 60 percent in three years, and drunk-driving fatalities spiked to their highest level in 15 years.

Getting trial dates is still challenging due to the enormous backlog caused by Covid-related closures. For most of 2020, only significant cases and important felonies warranted court time. Things opened up a bit in 2021, but the backlog of cases kept growing: one Covid-related cancellation could still set

MY PrOseCUTION PrIOrITIes: viCtims, Guns, and drunk drivinG

back a case for six months.

Delays will still occur, but not because my Office isn’t prepared to prosecute. Our evidence is ready. Our witnesses are ready. And the stakes are as high as ever.

In setting our three priorities, Chief Prosecutor John Hemmerling and I chose the crimes that pose the greatest danger to innocent lives, especially children.

One of our concerns is with cases of Driving Under the Influence, or DUI, which can involve drugs, alcohol, or both.

My Office, and others, have felt pressure to go easy on any driver whose Blood Alcohol Level is than 0.16 (twice the DUI standard of 0.08) as a way to lighten the court’s caseload.

We’re saying no.

The difference between a 0.08 and a 0.15 BAC is significant. The National Highway Traffic Safety Council reports these are typical effects at 0.08: “Muscle coordination becomes poor (e.g., balance,

speech, vision, reaction time, and hearing), harder to detect danger; judgment, self-control, reasoning, and memory are impaired.”

That’s dangerous enough, but as the Council reported, at a 0.15 BAC, the effects also include a “substantial impairment” in vehicle control and attention to driving, as well as a major loss of balance and occurrences of vomiting.

A second priority for our Office is standing up for victims of hate crimes, sex crimes, domestic violence, elder abuse, and child abuse. Without advocates, victims can get lost in the criminal justice system.

Though Covid created challenges, our Domestic Violence and Sex Crimes Unit continued its work to bring abusers to justice.

Yet the trend toward lighter sentences and diversion programs – accelerated by reasonable fears that incarceration would lead to Covid – is having an impact on the

prosecution of these crimes, even domestic violence cases involving strangulation. I believe that any domestic abuse that includes strangulation – a deadly weapon used to terrorize and control victims – warrants jail time. According to the San Diego-based Training Institute on Strangulation Prevention, a woman who has suffered a nonfatal strangulation incident with her intimate partner is 750% more likely to be killed by the same person with a gun.

In addition, I’m sponsoring state legislation by Assemblymember Brian Maeinschein that will require jail time for abusers who violate protective orders by trespassing in a victim’s house. This invasion of personal space and privacy, often accompanied by ransacking and theft, creates a special type of terror for victims and their children.

Our third priority is gun crimes, and I’m pleased that Covid had no impact on my Office’s ability to obtain Gun Violence Restraining Orders to protect the public. The Superior Court made special accommodations for GVROs because they prevent bloodshed and save lives, and we’ve obtained hundreds since Covid emerged.

GVROs are one way to remove guns from bad situations. My Office has sponsored legislation (again with Assemblymember Maienschein) that will expand the list of those who are banned from owning guns to include misdemeanor child abuse and elder abuse.

Our Office receives as many as 20,000 misdemeanor cases a year, and we strive for justice in each. By prioritizing victims, guns, and drunk driving, we believe we can provide the greatest service to the community even in difficult times.

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COMversaTIONs wITh NICOle Alma Rosa Vasic

Nicole Murray ramirez

Throughout her life and as CEO of F Street Corporation, she graciously donated over $250,000 to the LGBTQ community, to assist with AIDS research.

—Nicole Murray Ramirez has been writing a column since 1973. He has been a Latino/gay activist for almost half a century and has advised and served the last seven mayors of San Diego. Named the ‘Honorary Mayor of Hillcrest’ by a city proclamation, he has received many media awards including from the prestigious San Diego Press Club. Reach Nicole at Nicolemrsd1@gmail.com and follow him on Twitter @Nmrsd2.

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years ago, I was reading the Washington Post and found out that an LGBTQ+ family organization was purposely not being invited to the White House Annual Easter Egg Roll. I thought, “Wow, many times there are a lot of children of LGBTQ+ parents who are not treated fairly,” so I contacted Carolina Ramos, then of “Family Matters”, and told her that I, along with the Imperial Court de San Diego (ICSD) wanted to hold a special Easter egg hunt on Easter Sunday for the children of LGBTQ+ parents. Then I got advice from a wonderful straight grandmother who had a Gay son who had put on a children’s Easter egg hunt; her name was Linda Childers. So that first year, about 50 children showed up with LGBTQ+ parents at Trolley Barn Park in University Heights and the ICSD, Family Matters of San Diego LGBT Community Center, Carolina, Linda and I held our first Easter Sunday event. In the last 20 years it has grown into an annual event and at times has drawn close to 600 children, and now not only children of LGBTQ+ parents, but an overwhelming number of straight parents and families (many living below the poverty line).

Every year our LGBTQ+ bars, businesses and entire community come together with the help of many organizations that assist us of the Imperial Court to put on this wonderful Easter Day event which now includes the Easter Bunny, games, snow cones, face painting, etc. Mayor Todd Gloria and California State Senate President pro Tempore Tony Atkins have been strong co-sponsors of our children’s Easter egg hunt since it began 20 years ago. The Leather Community and The Eagle always hold events that make the bicycle raffle/give away possible.

While I am proud to be the founder of this children’s event, trust me and believe “it takes a village” and at the center of this village is the Imperial Court de San Diego which takes the lead every year to organize this fun event.

The 20Th aNNUal ChIldreN’s easTer egg hUNT is CominG up!

Bob launched his first PR firm in 1977 an early predecessor to Murphy Nelson Marketing. Known for his civic commitment to and love for San Diego.

Joe Letzkus

He was an amazing person with a heart of gold. Letzkus was the owner of Flicks from 1994-2006 and was always eager to give back to the community.

Mel Marcelo

Mel was loved and adored by his friends, family and the Hillcrest community. His many gifts included graphic arts, photography and the ability to make everyone feel loved and accepted.

Stan R. Lewis

This year our 50th Emperor Karen and Empress Sasha are the co-chairs and are doing an absolutely fantastic job along with the Board of Directors headed by President Emperor Darnell Williams.

We still need children’s baskets, bikes, donations etc. you can contact Karen at (619) 654-8423 and Sasha (619) 3584130 for more information.

The 20th annual Children’s Easter Egg Hunt will be held on Easter Sunday, April 17th at Trolley Barn Park from 11AM to 3PM and all children and parents are invited.

Political and LGBTQ+ Activist and Advocate. Stan served as a co-chair of San Diego Pride, as the vice-president of the San Diego Democratic Club, and the president of Dignity/San Diego.

Thom Senzee

Thom was an award-winning veteran journalist. Former EditorIn-Chief of LGBT Weekly here in San Diego. Founder and moderator of LGBTs in the News, a nationally recognized panel discussion series.

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bIg MIke & frIeNds big Mike Phillips —big Mike Phillips is an activist, fundraiser, bartender and photographer who has lived in San Diego for 30 years.

He has helped create two nonprofits and raised hundreds of thousands of dollars for charity. He has been a photographer for more than 25 years and has recorded our LGbTq history not only in San Diego but around the country, including three LGbTq marches on Washington D.C. Contact big Mike at 619-807-7324, or bmsd1957@gmail.com.

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If the universe could grant you one wish, what would you wish for, and why?

My one wish would be that kindness and respect prevail.

Taking the time to be kind and show respect not only ones self, but others would truly make the world a better place.

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am excited to introduce our readers to amazing and caring people who live, work, play, and do business in our community and city.

Learning about people of all lifestyles, talents, and personalities who I think would be interesting for our readers to enjoy. San Diego has a wonderful diversity of individuals who make our slice of paradise the greatest place to live and enjoy each other’s uniqueness.

How did you end up in San Diego and what do you love about it?

I moved here when I was eighteen from the Midwest.

Spent a couple years living in San Diego, but it did not work out liked I had planned. I had the opportunity to move back when I was twenty-seven and jumped at the chance. Now entering my twenty-ninth year since I moved back. San Diego has changed so much over the years. It has allowed me to excel and thrive in my business and friendships that I have created.

What gets you most excited about life?

The love I have for my family and the compassion for my work.

As a businessowner what makes your business stand out and how has it changed your life?

I have been very fortunate in my business. I have had great clients who trust and appreciate my talents in design and so many creative projects.

My work has opened my mind to so many wonderful and memorable experiences. Many of my clients have become great friends and still call upon my services as well. I love my work.

What small act of kindness were you once shown that you’ll never forget?

I have been blessed with so many acts of kindness, especially from my Mom and family. It’s hard to mention just one. I will just say I cherish, have learned from, and appreciate each one.

If you were given the opportunity to travel anywhere in the world, and was able to take one person with you, where would you go, who would you take and why?

I have been very fortunate to have the opportunity to travel the world. I have been many places for both work and pleasure. I’d simply like to take my sister to Hawaii. It has been her life-long dream. I’m going to try to make that happen.

David Koehn (courtesy images)

If you had a chance to spend one million dollars on someone, or any group of people, who would it be and how would you spend that money to better them?

For starters, Big Mike. His generosity to his community and all his friends has shown me the act of kindness in ways I admire. I would definitely support the charities that I believe in.

If you could give someone advice about your art, hobby, or business, what would you tell them?

Stay true to yourself. Do what makes you happy. Work hard and have integrity. It pays endless dividends.

Loving yourself is so important to becoming the best of who you are. Please write a couple sentences to describe your loving self and how you want to live your best life?

I try to be kind to everyone first and foremost. I try to give of my time when someone needs me. Living my best life by forgiving others and myself for our mistakes. You can only grow if you realize you and others are never perfect.

Gratitude is so important in each of our lives, what are you most grateful for, and how do you pay it forward?

My family, my partner, my health. As previously mentioned, give of yourself whenever possible. Others are not always as fortunate. LOVE!!

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lIfe beYONd TheraPY Michael kimmel —Michael Kimmel is a licensed psychotherapist who specializes in helping LGbT clients achieve their goals and deal with anxiety, depression, grief, sexually addictive behavior, coming out, relationship challenges and homophobia.

Contact him at 619-955-3311 or visit lifebeyondtherapy.com.

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hile reading several books about the global acceleration of technology, it was predicted that the highest paying jobs in the future will be those that combine science and technology skills with the ability to relate well with other people. I also read that trust – not technological savvy - between two people is the key to success, both personal and professional.

As a psychotherapist, I’ve observed that profound isolation is the great pathology of modern life. And so, in a desperate attempt to feel “connected”, we turn to technology. How many people do you know who cannot tear themselves away from their phones? Even when they’re with their friends at a restaurant? Even when they want to/need to go to sleep?

Even when they are walking down the street, missing a million chances to look at and smile at real people. Why do we do this? With phones, we have a sense of being in control.

With real people, we don’t.

“We are powerfully connected electronically but increasingly disconnected interpersonally”, said Dr. Edward Hallowell, an expert in the field of Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder (ADHD). “People everywhere are starved for human connection, which I call ‘the other Vitamin C’. The beauty of this Vitamin C is that it’s free and infinite in supply; the problem is people walk right past it.”

Phones are wonderful tools: computers in our pockets. Life before phones was so different: How did you let your friends know you were running late?

How could you look up something without running home to your desktop computer or even going to the library? How could you let your bestie know you’re thinking of her/him?

Technology - like phones has much to offer to make us more productive, healthier, smarter and more secure. But we will get the best of these technologies only if we don’t let them distract us from making deep human connections and addressing our longing to feel loved, appreciated and known by other people.

The more complex the world gets, the more we each need to be anchored in at least one trusting, healthy community, a community that gives to us and that we enrich in return.

The OTher vITaMIN C eleCtroniCally ConneCted But personally isolated

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This is the “cure” for isolation.

This is the “other” Vitamin C: a connection to people who know us, love us and will kick our asses (supportively, of course) when we go off-course.

Sounds good, but how do we do it? When the speed of daily life continues to accelerate, it’s easy to feel unmoored, adrift, lonely, anxious and depressed.

COVID has exacerbated that sense of isolation, but, now that we are – today, anyway – moving back out into the world of other people, how do we get that Vitamin C and feel grounded, anchored, loved and safe?

Here are a few suggestions: 1. Make a list of people in your life that matter to you. Meet up with them in person. Talk to them.

Reconnect. (I recently did this myself and it feels great).

2. Put your phone away or turn it off on a regular basis. Notice what it’s like to relate to real people. You may have lost some of your social skills.

Not to worry, they’ll come back to you once you lessen your dependence on your phone.

3. Look at people’s faces.

Try a simple smile, “Good morning” or another simple greeting. Notice how much better you feel, how connected you can be with people on such an easy, basic level.

4. Find your community – people you trust - and focus on what you can give to them, not on what you can get. This isn’t easy when you’re feeling scared or alone, but it is a great cure for isolation.

When you focus on what you can give, you get out of your head and feel less afraid. And when you’re part of a community focused on giving to its members, everyone wins.

“PeOPle everYwhere are sTarved fOr hUMaN CONNeCTION, whICh I Call ‘The OTher vITaMIN C’”

After two years of COVID-fueled isolation, it’s time for some Vitamin C. Don’t be electronically connected but personally isolated. Find ways to enjoy being with other people again and use your phone as a tool, not a friend substitute.

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port your siblings, go places together, make sure everyone has access to support groups, social activities, and community events. Give someone a ride, if the bus is dangerous or there is no access to public transportation. Participate or create clothing and food drives.

Put on a show or attend a show. Plan a day at the beach or the park.

I ask that no one remain a bystander. It is too important right now for any of us to remain waiting for others to carry us along. Never say there is nothing you can do to help, because there is always something you can do. In person, online, in your neighborhood, and in your community.

TraNs Talk wITh CONNOr

Connor Maddocks —Connor Maddocks has been a civil rights advocate in the San Diego transgender community for years. He does trainings on legal and personal transition information.

He continues his work, even though he is now retired. Contact Conner at Neon411@gmail.com.

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he Trans community recently celebrated Transgender Day of Visibility. This is a day we remind ourselves and the world that we exist. That there are Trans folks all over the world. I would like to share the speech I gave in Oceanside.

I was so honored to be asked to speak at their event.

“Good afternoon. I am so happy to be sharing this special day with all of you up here in beautiful Oceanside. We are here today to show our greater communities who we are. To be visible, to be out and proud.

The definition of the word visible means “able to be seen”. For too long we were not seen, we were hidden away by society and by ourselves, like a dirty little secret. I am here to tell you we are NOT dirty, and we no longer have to be a secret. The world is ready for us, whether they know it or not.

We cannot change how the world feels about us if we stay hidden away. Our communities cannot know who we are if we don’t show ourselves. The medical community will never

TraNsgeNder daY Of vIsIbIlITY

OWN IT, BRING IT, EMPOWER IT

“we MUsT Take Care Of ThOse whO dO NOT have safe sPaCes TO be OUT, lOUd, aNd PrOUd”

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evolve if we don’t demand better care for all of us. Law enforcement will never be educated or change their perception of us if we remain silent.

Our schools will continue to allow bullying and disrespect if we don’t challenge them to do better. Employers will not be truly diverse without us. It is time WE take hold of our own future. It is time we demand to be treated with the dignity and respect that we deserve.

I also challenge all of you to be visible to each other. Trans folks, do you know and understand your non-binary and

intersex siblings? Do you, our non-binary and intersex folks know your Trans siblings? Are we being inclusive within our own community? Do we uplift and respect each other? How can we expect others to respect us if we are not being inclusive and respectful to each other?

And here is the biggest challenge of all. Are you visible to yourselves? Do you love and respect yourselves? Do you know who you are? Are you proud of your authentic self?

You should be.

Our road isn’t always easy, we need to give ourselves

and each other credit for our hard work. We need to forgive ourselves any wrongs and celebrate all we did right. We need to be proud that we made it to today, right now, gathered here together to celebrate us.

We have lost too many in our community; we must do better.

We must take care of those who do not have safe spaces to be out, loud, and proud.

We are fortunate in Southern California to have many cities and towns where we are free to live our lives as we please, but there are still pockets of hate everywhere. Sup-

You are all so amazing and talented, never doubt that. Together we do this… Together is a better tomorrow. Now go ahead and give yourselves a big hug and a pat on the back, because you are here being your true beautiful selves.”

A reminder, on April 8 at 6 p.m., Project Trans, at the Center, and San Diego Pride will livestream our annual Transgender Day of Empowerment. This is a day we celebrate the Trans community. We highlight amazing community people who have gone above and beyond to help make our community a better place. San Diego Pride will livestream from their webpage sdpride.org. The Center will livestream from their Project Trans Facebook Page. Please join us; all are welcome.

San Diego Pride will be looking soon for volunteers for Live Pride this July, I will keep you posted on the sign ups. You get a pass to Pride, a great T-shirt, and get to work and have fun with the most amazing crew of volunteers ever. Join us!

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summer stephan —District Attorney Summer Stephan has dedicated more than 29 years to serving justice and victims of crime as prosecutor.

She is a national leader in fighting sex crimes and human trafficking and in creating smart and fair criminal justice solutions and restorative justice practices that treat the underlying causes of addiction and mental illness and that keep young people from being incarcerated.

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hen we think of trends, it’s usually in fashion or style. But in law enforcement, there are also trending crimes.

Today, the trend is stealing catalytic converters from automobiles. The part, which aids in making exhaust pollutants less harmful, contain three precious metals: platinum, palladium and rhodium, which are sold to scrap yards.

CaTalYTIC CONverTers: an answer to the surGe in thefts

as Of deCeMber 2021,

CaTalYTIC CONverTer ThefTs UP bY 423%

A catalytic converter can be stolen in just minutes, making cars that sit higher off the ground, easy targets because of the easy access. It’s also rare to catch a thief in the act.

As of December 2021, reports of catalytic converter thefts shot up by 423% in a one-year period in San Diego County.

Last year, more than 2,000 catalytic converters were reported stolen. Since 2018, our office has filed 58 cases against catalytic converter thieves. In the last few months, we’ve filed eight new cases that represent 17 stolen converters. The cases we’ve been able to file are just a drop in the bucket compared to the thousands being stolen each year.

The problem for law enforcement is holding thieves accountable. Even though most catalytic converter thefts meet the state threshold for grand theft, since they are mostly valued above $950, current law makes it difficult to prove that they are stolen, despite how seemingly obvious it may be.

As of now, catalytic converters are practically untraceable because there is no identification number or record of legitimate possession associated with them. The lack of identification makes it easy for thieves and scrap metal businesses to avoid consequences and makes it easier for recyclers to avoid liability for purchasing a stolen converter.

Detectives are sometimes unable to match a stolen catalytic converter to the vehicle it was stolen from — which is a necessary step to pursue a criminal case.

Because of these difficulties, I am supporting SB 919 authored by Brian W. Jones, (R-Santee) that would require car dealers to permanently mark the vehicle identification number on the catalytic converter before sale. This will help law enforcement identify stolen converters and increase the likelihood that we can file a criminal case.

The bill also clarifies the responsibilities of recyclers and will require them to provide detailed records to law enforcement and the bill will make it easier to establish probable cause for arrest and prosecution. If passed into law, SB 919 will give us the tools we need to reduce catalytic converter thefts and hold thieves accountable.

In the meantime, here are steps you can take to protect your catalytic converter: 1.Etch your license plate number onto your catalytic converter. This makes the part identifiable to law enforcement.

2.Park in well-lit areas.

3. Install an anti-theft device.

As your District Attorney, I’m committed to increasing communication and accessibility between the DA’s Office and the public. I hope these consumer and public safety tips have been helpful.

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LGBTQ+ FirSTS oN SNL ACroSS 1 Circumcise clumsily, e.g.

5 family group 9 opposite of heads 14 earthenware jar 15 first-rate 16 shrek and others 17 “Brothers & sisters” producer ken 18 tara portrayer Collette 19 woody secretion 20 first out lesbian to join the cast 23 “Xanadu” band, for short 24 home, to dave pallone 25 lure into wrongdoing 29 along the back 31 hrs. in p-town 32 Charlottesville sch.

33 hand, when measuring a stallion 34 first queer host 38 kahlo’s cash 40 peter rabbit’s sisters 41 phallic swimmers 42 duck hunter’s boots 44 deviate 45 first queer musical guest 48 Sodom suffix 49 “Queen of soul” franklin 50 lack of get-up-and-go 54 ___ tai (rum cocktail) 55 first out queer host 58 Breakfast staple 60 dana of macGyver 61 errol flynn’s “the sun ___ rises” 62 nightlife district of london 63 danes of “romeo + Juliet” 64 Body passageway 65 part of mit (abbr.)

66 rubbers on rims 67 what a computer may spit out

Solutions on page 19

DoWN 1 made a romantic connection 2 irving Berlin song.

3 projection a under the hood 4 lucci in “all my Children” 5 “Boo!” from the stands, e.g.

6 they aren’t everything 7 Lennox of the Eurythmics 8 “no” to a “lesbisch” 9 City of Glad day Bookshop 10 one who often screws actors 11 apr. 15 letters 12 Bloomers worn around the neck 13 Taxpayer’s ID 21 Ceo’s degree 22 Chicken hawk pads 26 twelve-inch stick 27 st. teresa’s town 28 Family flower?

30 “oh, shut up!”

31 Bette davis feature of song 35 head output 36 sad ending for love 37 rita, in a Beatles song 39 younger daughter of michelle 43 tongue that’s a little different 44 Banana stalk 45 english king who was a queen 46 home of Bloody mary’s mom 47 sounds from a stallion 48 accustoms 50 words of empathy 51 ___-whirl (amusement park ride) 52 atlas blow-up 53 place where a Greek would speak 56 weight loss product 57 home st. of maupin 59 karen walker, perhaps

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PlaCes, PeOPle. PlaCes!

berto fernández — berto Fernandez is a Puerto Rican actor, singer, and artist currently performing in Theatre productions all over Southern California. He holds a bA in Communications, and is a proud member of the LGbTqIA+ community.

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he story of Romeo & Juliet has survived the test of time for over 400 years. Shakespeare crafted a love story ridden with tragic romance that begs to be sung in a dramatic fashion. That is perhaps why Charles Gounod’s ‘Roméo et Juliette’ makes so much sense as an opera. The tale that we all know becomes even more powerful to us Musical Theatre Queens when it includes soaring classical voices, vibrantly robust instruments from the pit, stunning elaborate costumes, and stellar sets cleverly staged.

Yes please!

Right before the curtain raised, someone sitting directly behind me said to their date, “You know, everybody dies at the end.” Spoiler alert!

Thankfully, no one around us even flinched. Of course, they all die, but there’s more to the story. San Diego Opera’s production manages to give us the magical journey that we love to get lost in when attending a live performance of this size, while re-visiting a chronicle of family, honor, and true love.

This beautiful production comes in from Minnesota Opera Shop and is jointly owned by the Minnesota Opera and the Cincinnati Opera. The 3-hour performance, including one 20-minute intermission, really flies by thanks to the engaging and seamless direction from Matthew Ozawa.

Orchestrating massive set changes and scene transitions is a challenging task, but the company succeeds effortlessly. The main set, a golden baroque art frame hanging over the action, births through its elements like color changing roses, giant drapes, and floating spades that fly in and out of the scenes remarkably, streamlining the action of the play. William Boles, the set designer, thoughtfully provides a perfect playground for the talented cast to glide through. It is also just so pretty to look at.

Another production stand out are the gorgeous costumes by Sarah Bahr, they truly set the tone and feel of the show as shades of rouge and navy blue divide the rivaling families.

The opera starts with both Romeo and Juliet in contemporary clothes, which helped the audience relate to our two leads, and in a way invited us in on a personal level before we were transported to 3 very

a NIghT IN verONa

“my night in Verona was full of loVe, deceit, fabulous gowns, glorious singing, sword fighting, ballerinas, and death”

Pene Pati is Romeo and Nicolle Cabell is Juliette in San Diego Opera’s Roméo et Juliette, March/April, 2022. Photo by Karli Cadel.

Victor Reyes, “Wedding portrait of Frida Kahlo and Diego Rivera,” 1929.

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L-R) Pene Pati is Romeo, Sarah Coit is Stephano, Andrew Konopak is Gregorio and (prone) Hadleigh Adams is Mercutio in San Diego Opera’s Roméo et Juliette, March/April, 2022. Photo by Karli Cadel.

chaotic days in Verona during the end of the 16th Century.

Notable to mention that all 3 of these creatives are making their San Diego Opera debut.

Extremely impressive.

Our star-crossed lovers are skillfully played by Samoan tenor Pene Pati (Roméo) and California native Soprano Nicole Cabell (Juliette). Pati is an absolute powerhouse vocalist who brings a vulnerability and charm to Romeo, that has us eating out of his palm. His pianissimos are particularly impressive because of his control and forward placement that cuts through, as does his neverending high C at the end of his act 2 aria. Bravisimo! Cabell’s Juliette was warm and coquettish, giving her more layers and depth, which complimented her counterpart masterfully.

Their voices together are like a warm cup of tea on a rainy day…a tragically romantic day,

but still. Both Pati and Cabell have performed the roles more than five or six times each. It is a true joy to see BIPOC artists being featured as the two principals in an unconventional casting choice, and we absolutely love to see it.

The cast is rounded up by devilishly handsome Adrian Kramer as Tybalt, Hadleigh Adams as Mercutio, Colin Ramsay as Count Capulet, standout Bass, Simon Lim, playing Friar Laurent with gusto, Sarah Coit as Stéphano, Alexandra Rodrick as Gertrude, Anthony WhitsonMartini as Count Pâris, Ted Pickell as The Duke of Verona, Andrew Konopak as Grégorio, and Adam Caughey as Benvolio. All supported by a hefty choral ensemble and ballet company that are hired locally, bringing great opportunities to San Diego talent interested in bel canto and ballet.

Yves Abel brilliantly conducts an orchestra of 70+ musicians that are the true heartbeat of this epic operation.

This is an exciting and promising time for Live Entertainment. Slowly, but surely, Theatre in all of its glorious forms is coming back after a very arduous two years. General Director of the San Diego Opera, David Bennett, led a post-show talk back for any audience members interested in learning more about any aspects of the production. To my surprise, most members of the creative team, as well as principals, took the time to stay and share experiences with us.

These casual sessions between artists and audience members are, in my opinion, the key to help connect the Opera and Theatre loving community, and bring them back inside jaw dropping houses, like the San Diego Civic Center.

As part of the pre-show, Bennett shared the company’s plans for next season which include the World premiere of El Último Sueño de Frida y Diego (The Last Dream of Frida and Diego), by Latin Grammy winning composer Gabriela Lena Frank, and Pulitzer winning playwright Nilo Cruz. This Dia de los Muertos themed new opera, explores the volatile and rocky relationship between acclaimed Mexican painters Frida Kahlo and Diego Rivera.

This work will be presented in Spanish with performances on October 29, November 1,4, & 6, 2022. The rest of the still unannounced season will be a Puccini lover’s dream, but I can’t reveal much more just yet.

So, my night in Verona was full of love, deceit, fabulous gowns, glorious singing, sword fighting, ballerinas, and death.

What more could a gal ask for?

Well, maybe it would’ve been fun to watch Mercutio and Tybalt lip-sync for their lives.

‘Romeo et Juliette’ is presented by San Diego Opera with performances March 26 and 29, and April 1 and 3 at the San Diego Civic Theater. Tickets and info: sdopera.org

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a story of hate, love, and suCCess By randall Blaum

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andemic life, work, lack of fun, worry about everything, fat, tired, and done…

That was me a year ago. Today, just about everything is different, but the questions are: How did I get that way?, when did I stop and think, now what?, and what in the hell am I going to do about it – if anything?

Let me tell you the short version of me so you have context for what you are about to read. I like to help people, many times at the cost of my own health and sanity.

I enjoy working, but I lose track of time while chasing the almighty dollar. While all this was going on over the past four years I gained 70 pounds, lost myself, and was so broken I didn’t know if I could or even

wanted to come back; I really did not know. I was tired, mad, and frankly, I hated what I had become.

A little over a year ago, I produced an award-winning short-form musical called, “Sharing the Love” and during that experience I was on TV a lot with interviews and such. One day, while at home, the story came on the news and there it was… The man I hated. The man I had allowed myself to become.

It was an amazingly shocking thing to see how far I had fallen and how little I cared about myself, yet there was the

proof on the screen in my living room. I was devistated and didn’t know what to do or who to turn to, but I knew I had to do something or I would die early, or evern worse be incapcacited for the rest of my life.

My mind was amok with great ideas… freeze my fat, surgery, the magic pill (whatever that was), and even just giving up and accepting that at 61 years old I was done and who cared anyway? It seems I actually did, and here’s my journey from a broken man to the “Me” I always knew I was and loved to be.

It took me some time to “get with it” and take action. Hang on to your hats, here’s the first thing I did… I went to a cryofreezing joint in Point Loma and spent thousands of dollars on ultra cold paddles on my belly every two weeks for two months. I’m not a doctor and I don’t play one on TV, so I’m not going to address the good or bad of this modality. What did happen, though, is the cryo guy took me down the hall to Fit Life Nutrition and introdcued me to John Rodriguez, the owner. Cryo guy told John I was ready to make a huge change and a few days later I started, “training”. I put training in quotes, because it was more like rehabilitating a dead man who couldn’t do much of anything, but it was a start.

This is how I looked that day. The eyes of a souless dead man. How was I ever going to get myself to be “unbroken” while being this far gone?

Later, I’ll get into that, but the first thing John taught me was to “Show up, do the work, and it will happen.” He was right.

This is how I look today and while I still have work to do, I’m alive, I’m happy, and I’m fit. So, how did it all happen?

Magic? – No. Luck? – No, again. It started with me accepting who and where I was healthwise at that time. I was also obligated to be honest with John, my trainer, about how I felt, what I needed, and I had to give up on my fear of not being good enough.

I began this health journey because I had to. Now it is my lifestyle not only because it’s the right thing to do, but because I love it. I love me.

Most of it was not easy, and many times I wanted to give

up because it was hard, the results weren’t happening fast enough, and insert every other rant you can here as to why I didn’t want to do this. But, I did not give up, and I am glad to say that later this year I will be in my first body building competition. What? – Yes, at 61 I’m going to do it. Wow! – A year ago this was not even a remote thought.

One of the best things about training with John is that he listened to me as I talked about injuries I’ve collected over the years. I have a bum shoulder and part of my spine is pretty shot, but that didn’t stop him, or me. John created specific exercises that worked for me, and not once was this a cookie-cutter approach. John’s like that, he offers individualized personal training at a very reasonable cost and you know you are important and not “just a number on a P and L”. I found someone who cared more about me than I did and that gave me the room to feel safe, work hard, and move through the shame, the fat, and the emotions.

This week I celebrate one year of giving me my best life and a lot of people have gone on the journey with me including my husband, my trainer John, and several friends.

Without them I am not sure I would have made it this far.

So you can see what has happened this year – here’s the proof. Like I wrote above, I have a way to go, but I have come so far, found me, and am living the life I want. Not bad for 61, I must say.

Next time I will get into the actual process, the problems, the fear, and the success. I mean it, just about anyone can do it. It’s not about being the biggest or the best. It’s about being the best you that you can be. There is no competition other than the one in your heart and brain.

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eNdINg The sale

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By Dr. Jen Campbell

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s a physician and City one pod a day. For decades, Councilmember, I strongthe science and medical comly support ending the sale of munities have been crystal flavored tobacco products in the clear about the negative effects City of San Diego. For decades, of using tobacco products. The the tobacco industry has agresearch and studies outlining gressively marketed its prodthe harms of tobacco use are ucts to youth, People of Color, countless and we have known the LGBTQ+ community, and better for many years. anyone and everyone possible.

In 2020, our State Assembly, I remember seeing cigarette State Senate, and Governor ads aimed at our LGBTQ+ proposed legislation to end the community promoting smoking sale of flavored tobacco prodas an attractive, social activucts in California. Our local ity. In fact, going LGBTQ+ leaders home from a bar or in Sacramento like club stinking like State Senate Presian ashtray, even if dent Pro Tem Toni you did not smoke, Atkins and then was not attractive.

Assemblymember, Smoking is not cool and now Mayor, and fewer people Todd Gloria voted tolerate being in favor of that around the stench important public of cigarettes and health legislation, second-hand smoke but unfortunately, can cause cancer it fell short of a and heart disease majority. Since and the tobacco then, over 100 industry knows it. cities and counties Now, the tobacco in California have Dr. Jen Campbell (courtesy image) industry is working adopted their own overtime to develop all sorts of local ordinances to protect new flavored tobacco products their residents. Los Angeles to incentivize the population and San Diego are the largest towards a new frontier of cities in the state that have addiction. With sleek, stylish not acted yet on this important devices and sweeter scents, public health issue. flavored tobacco in its many This is not acceptable for nicotine-packed forms is now San Diego or our LGBTQ+ more acceptable than classic community and I strongly cigarettes. There are so many support my colleague Councilkid-friendly tobacco products member Marni von Wilpert’s still available – candy-flaefforts to bring this legislavored vapes, smooth menthol tion to the full City Council. cigarettes, flavored cigars, and Once on the council agenda, more. The tobacco industry is I stand ready to support this laser-focused on keeping their ordinance to end the sale of profits, at the cost of their flavored tobacco products in customers’ health. the City of San Diego. As a There is also a tremendous former smoker who had to misconception that vaping is work very hard to overcome a path toward ending one’s just five years of nicotine adtobacco addiction. This is the diction, as a physician, and as tobacco industry’s bait-anda city councilmember, I know switch strategy. One vape pod that the lives and health of can have as much nicotine as ourselves and our children a pack of cigarettes, and a lot are at stake and the time for of people will smoke more than action is now.

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ewly-minted non-profit Casa Loto is bringing the LGBTQ Masquerade to town on April 23, and everyone’s invited to sashay the night away in a metallic wonderland! The ballroom fundraiser will be at the AWOL Bar and Axis San Diego, right across from the Hillcrest Pride flag, and will benefit the San Diego LGBT Community Center’s youth programs.

The masked extravaganza will feature music and dancing, raffle prizes, appetizers, a food truck (we’re keeping it classy, girl), and complimentary drinks for all guests. And if you are still wondering, the category is… Metallic! The venue will be transformed to shimmer and shine as attendees strut and dazzle in fabulous shades of gold and silver, and don their polished masks for an unforgettable fun evening for all. And don’t leave home without those dollar bills because Casa Loto is giving away over $1,000 in prizes during our raffle!

And just who is Casa Loto?

Never heard of her. That’s because they came together as a new charity just last year and the Masquerade is their grand debut! To borrow, or outright steal, from their bio, “Casa Loto is a binational 501(c)(3) non-profit charitable organization in San Diego, with a mission to strengthen LGBTQ+ youth programs and establish a community home in Mexico for displaced LGBTQ+ youth.”

So not only is the Masquerade an absolutely fun party not to be missed, but it’s all for a good cause. Specifically, it’s for the future generation of our very own community. This is the heart of Casa Loto’s mission, and the reason why founder and president Craig Thomas has brought the Masquerade to San Diego.

“To love a child is the greatest gift. They are our most precious responsibility, for we leave our futures in their custodial hands,” says Thomas. “It is imperative that we facilitate the happiness and well-being of those most in need of our community. While too many LGBTQ youth experience difficulty, we can help them experience life to its fullest.” Prior to relocating to San Diego, Casa Loto’s founder Craig Thomas produced The Masquerade in Kansas City.

The rest of Casa Loto’s volunteer board is composed of advocates and members of San Diego’s diverse LGBTQ

The lgbTQ MasQUerade sashaYs INTO saN dIegO

a faBulous fundraiser BenefitinG the san dieGo lGBt Community Center youth proGrams

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community, and combines their experience in community service, sexual and mental health education, and fundraising. In addition, the San Diego chapter of the Sisters of Perpetual Indulgence is partnering for the event.

The Center has multiple programs that support LGBTQ youth. The Sunburst Youth Housing Project is a 23-unit facility in downtown San Diego that provides safe and supportive housing for homeless youth ages 18 through 24, including LGBTQ and youth living with HIV. The program offers critical support services such as case management, health care, mental health services, benefits enrollment, HIV testing, life skills training, and educational and employment support.

The SAFE S.T.A.Y program is an overnight emergency housing for youth, seven nights a week, with case managers providing resources and help in locating permanent housing. And the San Diego’s Hillcrest Youth Center is a drop-in and recreational hub,

dedicated to the needs of LGBTQ and nonbinary youth and youth living with HIV. The Youth Center draws about 300 visits from 14 to 18-yearolds monthly. About 80 percent of the visitors are minorities, and most are low-income. A sister youth center in South Bay serves youth and families in Chula Vista.

“The Center truly appreciates the efforts of Casa Loto to help raise critical funds to support LGBTQ youth,” said Ian Johnson, Director of Development at The Center. “Many of the youth who seek our supportive housing at The Center’s Sunburst Youth Housing Project come to us as a result of unacceptance from their families. Today, 40% of all

youth experiencing homelessness identify as LGBTQ, many with no support system. Community support from organizations like Casa Loto is vital for The Center to continue to help our LGBTQ youth.”

For more information and to get tickets today (tickets not available for purchase at the door), go to https://www.eventbrite.com/e/the-lgbtq-masquerade-tickets-195420587237 All attendees will be expected to be fully vaccinated per CDC guidelines. Attendees have the option of purchasing additional drinks at AWOL’s bar. Food truck menu items are not included with ticket purchases.

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entencing for the former finance director for the La Jolla Music Society is set for May 5 after he pleaded guilty to wire fraud in an embezzlement that totaled $650,000 over 10 years.

Christopher Michael Benavides, 52, of San Diego, remains free on $20,000 bond following his guilty plea before U.S. District Court Magistrate Judge Barbara Major.

Court records say he misappropriated $650,000 between Oct., 2011 and Feb., 2021 from the non-profit organization where he began working in 2006.

His plea agreement says he devised a scheme to cause checks to be issued to himself and then deposited them to his own bank account.

There is a curious paragraph in his plea agreement that suggests that Benavides has already repaid much of the funds back to the La Jolla Music Society. Attorneys could not be reached for comment about it, but the U.S. Attorney’s office has agreed to a three-level sentencing departure based on “return of funds” and also his “expeditious resolution” with his guilty plea.

While the maximum sentence is 20 years in federal prison, Benavides is likely to receive much less time. It is possible for him to receive

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The La Jolla Music Society discovered the fraud on Feb. 22, 2021 and fired Benavides in March, 2021. They reported the embezzlement to law enforcement.

“Fraud perpetrated against non-profit organizations is particularly troubling,” said U.S. Attorney Randy Grossman in a statement.

“This defendant abused his position of trust to enrich himself and will be held accountable for his crime,” added Grossman.

The U.S. Attorney said Benavides used the stolen funds to pay his mortgage, credit cards, and other personal expenses. He will be ordered

to pay the organization back, if he has not already done so.

“Crimes such as this can have a devastating impact on both the employer and the local community, and further shake the confidence of the donors whose charitable contributions provide critical support for non-profit organizations,” said FBI Special Agent in charge Suzanne Turner in a statement.

“I hope this guilty plea provides a sense of closure and justice for the victims,” said Turner.

Court records say Benavides has been ordered to notify the U.S. Attorney’s office if he purchases any property worth more than $1,000.

He also could be fined a maximum of $250,000.

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Gay man was convicted of involuntary manslaughter March 21 after a judge acquitted him of seconddegree murder in the forced feeding of his ill husband, Blake Synowski, in their Rancho San Diego home.

Tommy Wayne Zupner, 67, waived his right to have a jury trial with his attorney, Paul Pfingst, who is the former District Attorney for two terms in San Diego.

Synowski, 62, was a dentist in El Cajon, and his obituary said he helped found a dental clinic in Hillcrest for people with HIV. Synowski and Zupner were together for 15 years before his death on Sept. 17, 2019.

El Cajon Superior Court Judge Robert Amador, who originally heard the preliminary hearing in 2020, found Zupner not guilty of seconddegree murder after Deputy District Attorney Meredith Pro rested her case after presenting 15 witnesses for six days.

Zupner then pleaded guilty to involuntary manslaughter, and Amador accepted the plea, ending the trial. Sentencing is set for April 22.

Pfingst said his client could receive probation or get a maximum term of four years in state prison. Zupner has already served 11 months in jail before his bail was reduced to $250,000 and he posted bond.

Pfingst said if Zupner were sentenced to two years in prison, he would only have to serve one more month before he would be paroled because he would be given credit for the 11 months already served.

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By Neal putnam “All I wanted was an involuntary manslaughter (charge) for two years,” said Pfingst, who argued from the start the murder charge was the wrong offense. Pfingst said this was Zupner’s first opportunity to plead guilty to involuntary manslaughter since the prosecutor was seeking a murder conviction. Pfingst said he will ask for a sentence of home detention for Zupner instead of any jail time.

The defense attorney said he thought a judge considering this evidence was better than a jury because a jury might have been bothered by testimony about forced feeding with graphic photos.

“I did not know how a jury would react,” said Pfingst.

“A judge is better able to separate reckless conduct from negligent conduct,” said Pfingst. “This is negligent conduct.” The cause of death was asphyxia, after Zupner force fed Synowski matzo crackers and water.

“Shoving food down someone’s throat could result in an obstructed airway,” argued Pro, adding that it was “unbelievable” that Zupner would not consider that dangerous.

“We all know that breathing is essential to life,” said Pro.The prosecutor said it appeared to be a power struggle between the couple, and that Synowski had tried to get away from Zupner in the couple’s kitchen.

The autopsy showed that Synowski’s frenulum under his tongue was torn, and his lips were bruised. Deputies found he had no pulse and was not breathing while lying on the kitchen floor.

The victim’s two sisters testified in the trial, as did a number of sheriff’s deputies who responded to a 911 call at 10 p.m. from Zupner at their Explorer Road home.

Zupner’s words were heard on videos from deputies in which he said Synowski had been ill and had lost 20 pounds. “I was just trying to save his life!” said Zupner approximately 10 times to deputies.

A detective testified Synowski had a blood/alcohol level of .11 at the time of his death. Zupner had no alcohol or drugs in his system.

Zupner’s comments were recorded by the deputies’ body worn cameras which were admitted as evidence and heard by Amador.

Deputies said Zupner was cooperative but also very upset. Pfingst said Zupner didn’t need to testify in the trial because his words at the scene were recorded and admitted as evidence.

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