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San Diego Men’s Chorus performs “Welcome to Burlesque” at its “Cher” concert on July 27 at the Balboa Theatre. (Photo by BIG MIKE PHOTOGRAPHY)

Gay Men’s Chorus embodies six generations of Cher

Albert H. Fulcher | Editor With her signature voice, her repertoire of Billboard charts tops and her ability to continuously adapt to a new generation of audience, taking on the musical legacy of Cher is nearly unthinkable for most musicians. But within minutes, the San

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Diego Gay Men’s Chorus undeniably established that there is nothing that this ensemble cannot accomplish, with one fierce performance after another. It was a seamless evening of fun, excitement, beauty and awe of musical excellence. With a sold-out opening night, anticipation in the

Balboa Theatre escalated quickly with “If I Could Turn Back Time,” a rousing beginning performance by the chorus. With fervor, the chorus proved that its arrangements of the chorus’s harmonies are still its first and foremost strength and they did not disappoint, with some of the best

synchronized vocals to date. Without doubt, from bass to high tenor, the one voice filling the rafters of the theatre exemplified choral mastery. In tandem with soloists, imaginative choreography and innovative arrangements this was more

see Chorus, pg 24

Uptown’s LGBTQ+ church leaders reclaim Christian faith Kendra Sitton | Uptown News [Editor’s note: This is part two of a series examining the faith of LGBTQ+ people. Part one can be found at bit. ly/2Gh1AK3]

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In February 2015, Time Magazine reported on a young evangelical leader who had been dropped from his Christian publisher after refusing to sign a statement that he did not “condone, encourage or accept the homosexual lifestyle.” The young evangelical Time publicly outed as queer was Brandan Robertson — who is now the lead pastor of Missiongathering Church in North Park. This was not the first time Robertson’s sexuality was discussed in ways he could not control. He was mentored by a prominent ex-gay author

while attending Moody Bible Institute in Chicago who eventually outed him to fellow faculty. His mentor’s hypocrisy spurred Robertson to reevaluate the faith he had held tightly since he converted as a 12-year-old. “Moody deconstructed my entire faith. By the time I graduated, I had gone through reparative therapy because I was forced to. I was outed to the faculty. They tried to expel me four times, not because I was doing drugs or anything fun. It was simply because I was questioning what they believe,” the 27-year-old said. “That made me so uninterested in Christianity's fear of difference.” The Time article was the last time Robertson did not have a say in the narrative about his own life. Since then, he has published four books and become a sought-after

Brandan Robertson in his office at North Park’s Missiongathering Church after the launch of his book “The Gospel of Inclusion” (Photo by Kendra Sitton) commentator regarding LGBTQ+ issues in the church. “That was probably one of the most transformative moments because here I was pushed to the national [and] international spotlight. My sexuality was being talked

about. It was also being critiqued by the most influential religious leaders in the country. [They] came out and wrote opeds against me and did radio shows. The people that I looked

see Queer Costs, pg 3

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QUEER COSTS up to growing up were now condemning me,” Robertson said in an interview in his office, which sported rainbow flags and copies of his latest book, “The Gospel of Inclusion.” “At that point, that was when my resiliency really emerged as a calling because I was like, everything in me says I should leave this whole world behind because I can't have my book deals anymore. They're calling me a heretic. They don't want me.” Instead of leaving, Robertson decided to use the platform he was given to “blow up the patriarchy dominating this evangelical world,” he explained with a cheeky smile. He credits his stubbornness as the deciding factor in staying with the religion that once saved his life as an adolescent. Robertson is not the only queer person in Uptown to leave conservative evangelicalism and instead work in a church that accepts and affirms their identity. While each of these queer Christians have found places in churches that go beyond just letting them take up a pew and tithe, the journey there was costly. These church leaders lost community, family, jobs, book deals, homes. Sarah Holly was in high school when she came out to her mom as a lesbian and was kicked out. Luckily, she was able to move in with her dad, but for a year she did not have a relationship with her mother. In that time, her mother reexamined her theology to the point of becoming fully affirming of queer identities. Watching her mother transform into an advocate for LGBTQ+ people in Christian spaces is one of the reasons Holly still has hope that the church can change. “The really terrible history of the relationship between LGBT [people and] the church is devastating — and it doesn't need to be the future,” Holly said in an interview at Kettle & Stone in May. A full 40% of teens who are homeless are part of the LGBTQ+ community. A quarter of those teens were kicked out on the same day they came out to their parents. San Diego Pride Executive Director Fernando Lopez was homeless for part of their youth, and they believe religion was a key factor in why they were left without shelter, which had lasting impacts on their faith. “That experience severed me a lot from my ability to navigate my own faith and spirituality because family [is] usually where your connection to faith comes from,” Lopez said in a phone interview. For Holly, to see her mother accept, embrace and even advocate for her daughter is the dream scenario for any queer person who faces excommunication from their family over their identity. Not everyone changes though. AIDS activist Susan Jester’s mother started a conference promoting conversion therapy at a local Pentecostal church in the wake of Jester coming out.

Conversion therapy, also called reparative therapy, attempts to change someone’s sexual orientation or gender identity. It has been proven to be ineffective and mainstream medical practices dismiss it, partially because of its links to suicide and self-harm among LGBTQ+ people who undergo it. Her mother’s public anti-LGBTQ+ advocacy is one of the reasons Jester left San Diego for New Jersey with plans to never come back. Decades later though, she returned to care for her mother in the last years of her life. Jester says the decision to sacrifice in this way was so she could feel at peace with herself and God, not an attempt to finally receive her mother’s approval. “I really felt the call of God, as we say in my world of Christianity, to go home. As much as I never thought I would ever return to San Diego,” 75-year-old Jester explained over tea at Peet’s Coffee. Jester wonders what her parents would have thought knowing that the child they put out was the one who stayed with them until they died. She left her career as a political advisor to return. By that time, her mother was so riddled with Alzheimer’s there was never any reconciliation between them. “I went from running around with presidents and governors to changing my mom's diapers for a few years. It was an interesting dilemma for them because my mom was completely out of it, so she didn't know. But the very person in their family that they rejected, ended up taking care of both of them until their last breath,” Jester said. The lack of strong ties to her biological family is one of the reasons she sought out a church when she came to San Diego. “We all fall onto hard times. Whether it's emotional or relationship or a job or whatever, you need that family support — especially if you don't have it from your human family. It's really important,” she said. “My heart's desire was to find a church so that I could find fellowship and acceptance in a Christian family.” She was initially drawn to St. Paul’s Cathedral in Bankers Hill when she noticed prominent gay activists in attendance at a Christmas Eve service. Of those who attend St. Paul’s, 46% are part of the LGBTQ+ community, and over two-thirds of the priests at the cathedral are part of the community. “There's a lot of Roman Catholics out there and evangelicals like myself that are really hungering and looking for spiritual fellowship but have been rejected from [the] denomination of our childhood,” Jester said. She is now attending an Episcopal seminary so she can continue her work at the cathedral. Being rejected from a family or church always carries emotional pain, but for those who are employed through a church, their situation can be particularly challenging. RC Haus, who is now the music director at University Christian Church (UCC), was the founder of a fast-growing church in National City and a televangelist headed toward

semi-retirement when his wife confronted him about his sexuality. “After 13 years of marriage and pastoring churches, my wife called me one day and was like, ‘I think you're gay,’” Haus said in a room reserved for music rehearsals at UCC. “I was a conservative Christian by faith and I had never wanted to be gay. I never dreamt about coming out and being separated from my kids.” He had always viewed samesex attraction as an external temptation testing his faith. Identifying as gay was incompatible with his fundamentalist faith. “I couldn’t even say the word when I was a preacher. I didn't preach ever on homosexuality

GAY SAN DIEGO Aug. 2-15, 2019 because I couldn’t even say that word — I was so scared of it,” Haus recalled. In the year following that phone call, he and his wife attempted to make it work. He voluntarily took part in conversion therapy and sought out support groups in a sincere attempt to change his sexual orientation. After months of trying to change himself, the couple decided he was not going to change so the best they could hope for was that Haus never "acted on" his inclinations. A lifetime of self-repression is long. The pair decided to divorce. In the aftermath, Haus said he went from having a house in Palm Springs and Texas to being homeless. He worked three


jobs to try to cobble together child support for his five kids. “I'd lost my church, my reputation, my home, my friends,” Haus said. “It was so surprising to me that people and parishioners that I had loved and pastor and vacationed with just overnight were just gone… I lost everything, I mean literally everything, to where I was crawling into an unused church Sunday school classroom with my kids when I had custody of them — hiding under Sunday school tables to sleep because we had no place to go. It was a really, really difficult time.” Haus faced another setback while trying to rebuild his life. He was attending a United

see Queer Costs, pg 23

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LGBT domestic violence Conversations with Nicole Nicole Murray Ramirez


ecently, I received a call that a friend of mine was in the hospital with a broken leg, broken arm, and a very badly beaten face. I was told that he been drunk one night and fell down a flight of stairs and asked if I would go visit him in the hospital because he was very depressed. Anytime that friends stopped by it would cheer him up, so of course I said yes, and went to see him one afternoon. I got this call from my friend's boyfriend of about a year who had recently moved in with him and who I didn't know that well. But he seemed like a nice guy, but I thought he was a bit controlling at times. Both of them were in their early 30’s and had good jobs. When I stopped by the hospital my friend looked really bad and I told him that he looked like he fell off a roof of a building rather than a flight of stairs and he should try and not drink so much. Well out of nowhere in our conversation he started to cry and told me what really happened. He begged me not to tell anyone and then began to tell me this horrible story of how he was in a violent relationship and that his boyfriend was always beating him up. But this time it had gone too far but he still really loved this guy. Though the doctors had asked him if he had really gotten beaten up but he stuck to his


story. He then told me he felt this time his boyfriend would really stop beating him up and had promised him he would and was visiting him every day. I couldn't believe my ears and asked him how long had his boyfriend been abusing him and he said for the last four months! He told me that he had told no one and only told me because when he got out of the hospital he wanted them to go to a relationship counselor and if I knew any that were good. Well I then gave him what I call a "coming to Jesus talk" and told him he had to break up with his boyfriend or the next time he could end up in the morgue. He started to cry again and said I just didn't understand that they truly loved each other and that his boyfriend just had a bad temper. He thought a good counselor could help him and he did promise that he would stop beating him up. Well needless to say I got very upset hearing all of this and told him he had to break this relationship off period. To make a long story short, my friend got out of the hospital and still with his boyfriend. They haven't gone to a counselor and I worry about him all the time. But now he refuses to talk about his relationship and says everything is “fine.” LGBT domestic violence is a real issue in our community just as it is in the heterosexual community and there is help out there and counseling. Abusers do not change and once they beat you up they will continue to do so. It never ends well. And sometimes you end up in the


Community Survey: We want your opinion!

We’ve had a great response to our community-wide survey regarding the future of The San Diego LGBT Community Center – many thanks to all of you who have participated so far. As you may know, the survey is an important part of The Center’s strategic planning process. To do the best future planning possible, we need to hear from as many people as we can to accurately capture the full diversity of ideas and hopes dreams our community has for the future of Our Center. Your voice in this planning process is crucial and will help The Center most effectively serve our community. To participate in The Center’s survey online today in either English or Spanish, use the following links: English: Spanish:

Deadline Extended – Nominations for the Benjamin F. Dillingham, III and Bridget Wilson LGBT Veterans Wall of Honor are open through August 9, 2019! Since 2011, our LGBT Veterans Wall of Honor recognizes LGB veterans who served under Don’t Ask Don’t Tell, and transgender veterans, all with ties to San Diego who have taken the oath to serve our country and have done so with distinction, acting as role models in advancing equality. This year’s LGBT Veterans Wall of Honor Induction Ceremony will take place on Thursday, November 7, 2019, at 6:30 pm at The Center. Nomination form and additional information can be found at

hospital or in the morgue. Trust me I know all about abusive relationships. I had one when I was younger and living in Hollywood. If you're in one seek help and don't be afraid to call the police if you need help as they are now trained about LGBT domestic violence when they get such a call. I remain very concerned and afraid for my friend and will continue to try and help him to see the light. But I fear there nothing I can do ... just be here for him if he ever needs me. If you are in a violent relationship, call the National Domestic Violence Hotline 800-799-SAFE. It has resources locally in San Diego that also protect those who suffer from LGBT domestic violence. —Nicole Murray Ramirez has been writing a column since 1973. He has been a Latino/gay activist for almost half a century and has advised and served the last seven mayors of San Diego. Named the “Honorary Mayor of Hillcrest” by a city proclamation, he has received many media awards including from the prestigious San Diego Press Club. Reach Nicole at and follow him on Twitter @Nmrsd2. Editor’s Note: The opinions written in this column are the author’s own and does not necessarily represent the opinions of the staff and/or publisher of Gay San Diego and/or its parent company, San Diego Community News Network (SDCNN). The newspaper and its staff should be held harmless of liability or damages. The San Diego LGBT Community Center 3909 Centre Street • 619-692-2077

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Thursday, August 22

Town Hall For The Black LGBTQ Community 6-7:30 pm, The Center As part of The Center’s plan to get input for our strategic plan in order to better serve our community, we’d like to specially invite you to an upcoming Town Hall for the Black LGBTQ Community. This event is aimed at centering Black LGBTQ voices within our community as an opportunity for The Center’s leadership and strategic planning committee to listen to the community and collect feedback on how we can better serve the Black LGBTQ community. This special evening is co-sponsored by The Gender Phluid Collective: PoC LGBTQ+Support, San Diego Black LGBTQ Coalition and Unity Fellowship Church Movement. While all are invited to attend, Black LGBTQ voices and their families’ will be centered! Please join – dinner and refreshments will be provided. For more information, visit

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I don’t want to get older


Life Beyond Therapy Michael Kimmel Dear Michael: I don’t want to get older. I look at old gay men and I don’t like what I see. I don’t want to die young (I’m 29) but I also don’t want to age. Already I see younger guys in their early 20s and feel that I’m on my way out. Who’s going to want me in 10 or 20 years? The woman who cuts my hair is having a Botox party: should I go? It says on one of your Facebook posts that you’re 66. As an old gay guy, are you happy with yourself? If so, how did you manage it? Thanks, Terrified to Get Older Dear TTGO: Sure, you can go to a Botox party. But, why are you so afraid to have some wrinkles? What about being older terrifies you so much? If you use sunscreen and take reasonable care of yourself, you’ll probably age quite nicely and gradually. This will give you time to make peace with your body as it changes. Can you learn to love yourself at every age? If you can’t, you’re likely to be fighting every physical change tooth and nail. Who’s going to want you in 10 or 20 years? Look around at your peers. Hopefully, when you’re all 40 or 50, you’ll still find each other attractive. It helps a lot to like yourself and enjoy your own company. Very few of us are extremely beautiful. If you are, good for you! I hope you’re enjoying the hell out of it! Consider, however, all your other good qualities and develop them, too. It’s very hard to sustain the body/skin/face of a 20-year-old, but you can develop your personality, intelligence, kindness, compassion, wisdom, flexibility and sense of humor until your last breath. How do I feel as an old gay guy? Most of the time, I’m pretty happy: grateful for my good health, cozy home, friends I love and work that I truly enjoy. That said, this body is definitely changing! On a good day, the changes are OK with me. On a rough day, the changes make me sigh and remember how I used to be. Gratitude helps me refocus on what’s going well and ignore the things I can’t do anything about. I go regularly

to the gym and yoga classes, but I go because it makes ME feel good. How did I manage it? I had a lot of wild adventures in my 20s and 30s. Traveling around Europe, Egypt, Yugoslavia and the Soviet Union, sleeping in youth hostels, hitchhiking, enjoying a very active sex life, working odd jobs in different countries and having lots of new experiences. I didn’t wait until retirement to travel and have fun. I suggest the same to you: enjoy your life NOW so you don’t have regrets later. For example, during the years when I lived in New York, Paris and London, I used to go to work, come home around 6 p.m., sleep until 11 p.m., go out to clubs with my friends, come home between 3 a.m., sleep some more and go to work the next day. I did this three to five nights a week. I was in my 20s and 30s and had lots of energy. Needless to say, I could never pull this off now. And that’s OK: I lived that way when if felt right; I live quite differently today. In over 50 years of working, I’ve had several careers: writer/ psychotherapist is the most recent. I enjoyed my previous careers, too — each one taught me something useful: singing in nightclubs taught me how to be comfortable in front of a crowd; being a personal shopper I learned a lot about psychology; and by teaching fashion merchandising at the Fashion Institute of Technology (in NYC), I got good at communicating ideas to large groups of people. Life can become richer and more rewarding as we grow older, wiser and truer to ourselves. Our work, friends and interests change as we do. Getting older can be really wonderful, if you’re willing to enjoy each step on the path … and when in doubt: try saying this to yourself, “I am willing to love myself and enjoy my life at every age” and see what happens! — Michael Kimmel is a licensed psychotherapist who specializes in helping LGBT clients achieve their goals and deal with anxiety, depression, grief, sexually addictive behavior, coming out, relationship challenges and homophobia. Contact him at 619-955-3311 or visit Graphic by www.

Sisterly love Restaurant Review Frank Sabatini Jr.


t was the untimely passing of her beloved sister that prompted Emily Green Lake to pursue a lifelong dream of opening a restaurant, which meant leaving her career as a high school literacy teacher. Given the siblings’ mutual passion for pizza, the establishment would pay homage to Kate Green with assorted pizzas named after some of her favorite TV show characters. And it would greet with a charming ambiance loaded with framed family photos. Sisters Pizza emerged in early June after nearly two years in the making. It occupies a 1930s-era building on a quaint corner at Fourth and Brookes avenues. The ample, canopied patio in front feels remarkably Parisian while the interior strikes a Mid-Century design with its curved-back dining chairs and kitchen subway tiles. Green Lake runs the show with her husband Trevor Lake, who applies his eye for detail to dough-making and overseeing the kitchen. Aside from pizzas, which are sold by the slice and in sizes ranging from 14 to 20 inches, the menu extends to home-style Italian dishes similar to what the Green family enjoyed regularly at a restaurant called Garden Pizza in their native New Jersey. “I tried to model Sisters Pizza after that,” she said while citing the enthusiastic welcome Hillcrest has given her venture. She also noted that on the

first Saturday of every month, from 11:30 a.m. to 12:30 p.m. beginning Aug. 3, the pizzeria will host a “drag story hour” on the patio. It will feature Miss Oona Upland reading children’s books to kids, during which the tykes can savor $1.50 slices as their parents and guardians sip on $6 mimosas. I visited for lunch with a friend who shares my backEast roots as well as my persnickety standards on Italian comfort food. We hit a winner right off the bat with the soup du jour, a Toscano-style pottage that captivates with crumbled sausage, potatoes, kale, fresh thyme, chicken broth and a splash of cream. It’s available for a few consecutive days every other week and shouldn’t be ignored. In our climactic buildup to a couple of sandwiches and several pizza slices, we opted for a Caesar salad made with charred romaine. Sisters brings the salad back to its glory days with anchovies, which played well in the company of shaved Parmesan and garlic croutons. A dish of fried calamari was jazzed up with Fresno chilis and Kalamata olives. The only problem was that the rings and tentacles ranged from tough to tender, and the batter was a bit heavy. The meatballs are of the Italian-American variety you’ll find throughout the Northeast, blending ground beef, pork and veal. We enjoyed them in a sesame hoagie roll and beneath a mantle of melted mozzarella and trusty marinara sauce. They’re also available with spaghetti or a la carte. An eggplant Parmesan sandwich using the same roll


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Sisters Pizza 3603 Fourth Ave. (Hillcrest) 619-255-4200 Prices: Salads and appetizers $8 to $14 Soups, $7; sandwiches, $11.50 to $14 Entrees, $15 to $17 Signature pizzas, $16 to $28 Pizza slices, $3 to $3.50 was equally commendable. The sliced eggplant was neither bitter or soggy—pitfalls that result from improper cooking. This was prepared just right, thus offering that elusive tinge of sweetness that further enhanced the red sauce. There are 10 signature pizzas. All of them are available in fairly large slices. The choices are playfully named in Kate’s honor. The thick-crust “Sophia Petrillo,” for example, is a Sicilian-style pie topped simply with mozzarella and red sauce. It beckons to the character who played Dorothy’s mother on The Golden Girls sitcom. “Kate loved that show,” noted Green Lake while pointing to the sauce-less “Uncle Jesse” pizza topped with olive oil, mozzarella, ricotta and fresh basil. It reflects the namesake character from Full House, another TV show Kate enjoyed. We shared four different slices by cutting each in half. The regular pepperoni pizza lived up to those we grew up with in Buffalo, N.Y., thanks to the small cup-shaped pepperoni containing modicums of their own precious, flavorful grease. The “Rooftop BBQ” is the best barbecue chicken pizza I’ve had, considering I was never a

Assorted slices that were cut in half

Grilled Caesar salad

Extra-comforting Toscano soup Meatball sub sandwich

Owners Emily Green Lake and her husband, Trevor (Photos by Frank Sabatini Jr.) big fan of such zany toppings introduced decades ago by California Pizza Kitchen. Here, the tangy barbecue sauce was applied lightly over grilled chicken breast, mozzarella, fresh cilantro, and red onions. Everything jived. My aversion to goat cheese had me skipping over the O’Becian, which is topped also with white sauce, mushrooms and pesto. But my friend gave it a firm thumbs up, noting that no one ingredient overpowered the other. In comparison, the aforementioned Uncle Jesse was drier and more understated in flavor. But that’s exactly what I expect from this type of white pizza, which sings to red pepper flakes and some type of dipping liquid on the side, such as olive oil or marinara. Regardless of toppings,

Sisters puts forth an impressive pizza crust that verges on the thin side. It offers both crunch and chew, not to mention a discernible yeast flavor—a common missing element that drives us East Coast transplants into squawking hissy fits. Draft beer and California wines are available. In addition, happy hour is held from 4 to 7 p.m., Monday through Friday, when appetizers are $3 off, select draft beers are $5 each, and wines sell for $6 per glass. —Frank Sabatini Jr. is the author of “Secret San Diego” (ECW Press), and began his local writing career more than two decades ago as a staffer for the former San Diego Tribune. You can reach him at



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Changing how we age with HIV Positive Thoughts: By Theo Smart When the dashing and magnificently bearded Dr. Giovanni Guaraldi took to the stage at last fall’s HIV and Aging conference in New York City, and described a nearly 100-year-old person living with HIV, I was more than a bit skeptical. Not of the researcher — he’s done some of the most brilliant research on aging with HIV. Guaraldi also advocates a “rethink” of care services provided for people living with HIV as we age, particularly now that about half of us are over 50 — and by 2030, as many as 40% of us will have reached the age of 65. Rather than our routine HIV care, we increasingly need comprehensive multidisciplinary services to match our more complex needs. Even in middle age, we need a more aggressive approach to screening, diagnosis, and management of many conditions associated with aging. The firebrand activist Jules Levin of the National AIDS Treatment Advocacy Project (NATAP) has been broadcasting this message for years now — sounding the alarm that we, the aging HIV community, are headed for a services gap. Based upon study after study documenting rates of frailty, aging-related complications, and disability among people living with HIV that are much higher than what is seen in people of the same chronological age in the general population, he believes that HIV care systems are totally unprepared to provide the services many of us will need. His warnings seem to be falling on deaf ears, due at least partly to ageism and denial. People don’t like to think about all the ailments associated with “growing old.” Quite possibly, there is some measure of survivor’s guilt as well. After all, when we received our diagnoses, many of us never expected to even make it to 50 (with the exception of a growing number of us who weren’t diagnosed until later in life). We’re still kicking — why should we be complaining about the natural aging process?

But it does not seem to be entirely natural. First, there’s all the damage that HIV does to the body: our brain, our gut, our other organs such as the heart and the immune system — both before we can get onto treatment, and then due to chronic inflammation caused by low levels of ongoing replication, co-infections (such as CMV and hepatitis), and other factors. In addition, the long-term survivors among us are often dealing with the legacy effects of the older, more toxic antiretrovirals. Even the new ones have side effects, some of them insidious, subtly altering our metabolism and even damaging our mitochondria — the energy generators of our cells. On top of that, many of us have had rough lives emotionally, punctuated by loss, dealing with structural inequalities and bias, internalized stigma, and depression. Consequently, we haven’t always taken the best care of ourselves, and some of our lifestyle habits are self-destructive. It’s no wonder that many of us are showing more wear and tear than is usual for our age. In fact, several years back, Dr. Guaraldi published a study showing many of the complications of aging seemed to be happening 10-15 years early in people living with HIV. That said, other studies have shown that many going to the larger HIV clinics and on the current antiretrovirals do pretty well compared to other middle-aged people, at least over the short term. And there’s a good explanation for this — simply being in routine care may allow well-trained clinicians to detect problems early and nip them in the bud. Which brings me back to this 99-year-old gentleman from Lisbon, Portugal. My initial instinct was to dismiss him as an anomaly. A case of one. But the more I thought about it, it was not so simple. He was very ill when he was diagnosed at the age of 84 — very late, with a nadir CD4 count below 100 — but has since recovered and seems to have flourished with good attentive care. There’s a good report on him online (, with a cute video clip of Dr. Guaraldi at Guaraldi-clip. At the HIV and aging conference, Dr. Guaraldi

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identified factors that could help explain why this man has done so well. First, he lives in a healthy environment. He’s never had financial difficulties (and the related stress), and he has assistance from a loving 70-year-old daughter who lives next door. Then there’s that Mediterranean lifestyle and diet, with good cardio every day walking up and down the hills of Lisbon, and, I would imagine, plenty of olives and fish. Dr. Guaraldi referred to these factors collectively as “social protection,” which based upon his research in a larger HIV-positive cohort, might be used to help predict which people might be at greater risk of frailty and age-related illness. But lest one think that such outcomes might be limited to those lucky enough to live in Portugal, another study presented by Dr. Nancy Mayo of McGill University at the HIV and Aging conference found similar factors associated with “aging well” in a cohort of over 800 Canadians living with HIV. Looking specifically at frailty, the study found that some health conditions greatly increased the risk, such as having lung disease, arthritis, or cognitive problems. But about 14% of the cohort seemed to be aging particularly well. Among modifiable factors associated with greater resilience were being physically active, not smoking, not suffering from stigma, having friends and family (not being lonely), and keeping mentally fit. “You have a big role in how you are going to age,” Dr. Todd Brown of Johns Hopkins University said at another meeting organized by NATAP’s Jules Levin last fall in New York, in a talk emphasizing what people could do for themselves to build resilience and to maintain a good quality of life as they age. I, for one, would be happy to live in good health well into my 70s and later, as my older siblings are doing. In my own life, I’ve seen how changing my diet and losing a significant amount of weight has profoundly improved my quality of health — and even my concentration. Building resilience is something we have to do both on a personal level but also in our communities and in our health

systems. At the personal level, now is not the time to be burying our heads in the sand. Knowledge is power. Many of us will recall how, back before antiretrovirals made HIV into a chronic manageable condition, we had to learn all about the various opportunistic infections and drug development — often becoming more aware of the scientific research than our own doctors. This issue takes that approach, reviewing what is currently known about the health risks we face — we need to know what our health care providers should be watching for, and what steps we can take to improve the way we age. One of the challenges is that access to quality care for aging people with HIV is uneven in this country. There is a lack of trained skilled providers and services prepared to deal with consequences of these complications and health emergencies in this population. Many of our HIV clinicians simply aren’t trained in the nuances of providing care for people who are aging, and it can be extremely difficult to get timely referrals to a specialist when we need one. Efforts are underway to address the services gap that require our communities’ full support (see “Addressing the Needs of Older Adults Living with HIV” in the Spring 2019 issue of Positively Aware). For many of us, the care we receive is limited by what Medicaid or our insurance plans will cover — and this needs to be as much a part of our national activist agenda as the current efforts around prevention. We can also build resilience for aging well into the health system and

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communities through our activism. We also focus on a few of the activists who are each responding in their own way to scale up research and improve the service package and psychosocial support for our communities — and to improve elder care in general. “It’s not just HIV. We don’t take care of our older people and that is a problem across the country and many parts of the world,” said Dr. David Wohl of the University of North Carolina at NATAP’s forum. “The problems with age transcend any one disease. But HIV is really unique in many ways. HIV and the epidemic forced the FDA to think harder and differently about how to approve drugs. The epidemic helped us think about how, as communities, to organize to push politicians and policy makers to push drug companies to do the things they ought to do. There are many examples in medicine where HIV has leapfrogged us and helped other disease states. And maybe it is HIV that can help us revolutionize geriatrics because we need a different model for how we take care of, and how we consider, older people. We can do that. We are the tip of the spear.” —Theo Smart is a contributing writer for Positively Aware; this article first appeared in the Spring 2019 issue of the magazine. This column is a project of Plus, Positively Aware, POZ, TheBody and Q Syndicate, the LGBT wire service. Visit their websites – http://hivplusmag. com, http://positivelyaware. com, and – for the latest updates on HIV/AIDS.

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CityFest volunteers needed – CityFest this year is on Aug. 11. We're really looking forward to celebrating the best of urban life! Hillcrest has it all; music, art, craft beer, excellent food, pets, diversity, and community. This year's event is from noon until 11 p.m. CityFest raises money to help clean and improve the neighborhood of Hillcrest. CityFest is looking for volunteers for the event. We have two opportunities. Vendor Loading: we need people to help with vendor load-in. Your shift will be from 7:30-10:30 a.m. We'll need between six and nine people. You'll be directing vendors to their booth space. Donation Gathering: we need some spunky and energetic people to collect donations to keep CityFest free to all. Your shift will be from 2-5 p.m. and we'll equip you with creative donation jars and spot prizes to give to donors. Volunteers needed at the bar. For your volunteering, you'll receive a “Fabuteer” T-shirt or hat, and drink tickets for the beer garden. Email Colin at wavecolin@

‘Little Shop of Horrors’ – Take a musical journey through the streets of skid row to a rundown flower shop where a bloodthirsty plant from another world eagerly awaits its next victim. Full of delightfully demented humor, this long-running off-Broadway musical comedy was inspired by Roger Corman's shockingly schlocky B-movie. Enjoy all the bloody good fun of

doo-wop inspired songs like “Somewhere That’s Green,” “Feed Me” and “Suddenly, Seymour” with this creepy, campy creature feature ... starring some of San Diego's best musical theater talent! Runs through Aug. 4 at New Village Arts Theatre. $28-$50. 2787 State St., Carlsbad.

Red Dress Party 2019 – Red Dress Party San Diego is a whimsical fundraising event where everyone is encouraged to be brave, let loose, and celebrate impact. Like the name suggests, attendees are required to wear a red dress, regardless of gender identity or sexual orientation. This serves as a powerful sign of compassion and solidarity for those affected by HIV/AIDS and as a way to unite the crowd in one radiant theme. Pre-sale tickets now available at discounted prices for this Sept. 14 event. General admission: $60. VIP admission: $160. Port Pavilion on Broadway Pier. 100 N. Harbor Drive. ‘Rock of Ages’ – Journey back to the sexy 1980s era of big: big bands, big egos, big guitar solos and big hair! Aqua Net, Lycra and liquor flow freely on the legendary Sunset Strip rock music scene. Amidst the madness, aspiring rock star Drew longs to become the next big thing in music, and longs for fresh-off-the-bus newcomer Sherrie, a Kansas kid with stars in her eyes. This musical comedy lovingly nudges the fashion of the 1980s and features some of the best rock hits from the time with music from Styx, Journey, Bon Jovi, Whitesnake and many more. Runs through Aug. 25. $45. The Old Town Theatre, 4040 Twiggs St.

‘Mystery Science Theater 3000 Live’ – Tickets are already on sale for the hilarious Peabody Award-winning hit TV comedy coming to San Diego on Jan. 25, 2020, with an all-new Mystery Science Theater 3000 Live: The Great Cheesy Movie Circus Tour! Join creator and original host, Joel Hodgson, in his final tour and the world’s greatest – and only – movie-riffing robots, Tom Servo, Crow, and Gypsy, as they take you on an exhilarating roller-coaster ride through some of the cheesiest films ever made $45.50-$65.50. Balboa Theatre, 868 Fourth Ave.

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Meet the author – J. R. Strayve, Jr., author of the “First Spouse of the United States,” will be available to discuss, sell and sign his timely and provocative fiction novel during Friday Night Liberty, from 6:30-8:30 p.m. In a story that parallels today’s political and social unrest, there are no taboo subjects. Readers will follow the sexual and political evolution of a gay activist and his husband’s quest for the White House. Washington shenanigans, rabid politicians, relentless media, social change and the remedy for today’s non-functioning legislature are fair game. In chapter one, Marine Corps fighter pilot Lt. Ricardo “Rocky” Chambers receives the Medal of Honor in the White House East

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Live performances at The Merrow – 91X Loudspeaker’s Timothy E. Pyles presents a local music showcase featuring live performances by Stay for the Fireworks, Minimum Contacts and Kitty Plague. $5. Doors open at 8 p.m., show at 9 p.m. 1271 University Ave.

Friday, Aug. 9

Women of Power – Women's rights affect all women regardless of orientation! Join the San Diego Area Chapter of NOW as we engage and test the feminist knowledge of the LGBT community on why women's rights are important not only to cis-women but to lesbians and transgender women, too. We will be engaging attendees on questions about what you might think is a constitutional right and what isn't. What rights you have in California and what you don't and how you came to have the rights as LGBT that you do today. Enjoy the Resizters as they rock out with protest music and women empowering sounds all night! $5. The Gossip Grill. 6-9 p.m. 1220 University Ave.


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Saturday, Aug. 10

PrEP Social – Come to PREP Social, a free clothing swap for trans women and the nonbinary community, hosted by Good To Go San Diego and Prizila Dajia Vidal! The event will include pop-up clothing swap, resources, entertainment, PrEP info and sexual health topics. Although not required, don't forget to bring clothes/accessories to swap! Free. Good To Go San Diego. 4-6 p.m. 3830 Park Blvd.

Sunday, Aug. 11

CityFest Art & Music Festival – San Diego's ultimate summer art and music festival takes over Fifth Avenue from noon until 11p.m. on Sunday, Aug. 11, during Hillcrest CityFest! The 36th annual celebration of community spirit features live bands, electric dance music DJs, arts, crafts, and food that attracts over 150,000-plus visitors from San Diego and Southern California! This is San Diego's largest and best art and music festival, stretching nearly half a mile in size over nine city blocks. A grand stage with live music and headliner bands will keep you entertained from noon until 7 p.m., followed by headliner DJs and wellknown talent. A massive cocktail bar and MillerCoors Beer Garden featuring Hop Valley Brewing Co.'s Reveal Pale Ale, will keep you hydrated and entertained, and over 250 vendors will give you plenty of shopping opportunities. Located in the colorful and vibrant community of Hillcrest, our quaint shops and restaurants along Fifth, Robinson, and University avenues will come alive with community spirit, giving you a place to dive into and explore.




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without the denomination backing them, Holly made the decision to attend NHUMC instead. Of the discrimination Holly has faced, these experiences do not top the list. Throughout her childhood and into high school, Holly spent each summer at a small Christian camp in Northern California with her friends. It became a sacred place for her. When she was old enough, she was hired as a counselor. Her girlfriend, the first girl she dated, also attended the camp and was set to work there that summer. When people found out about their relationship, they were asked to leave. “That was pretty hurtful. He [the camp director] just didn't know. He was uneducated and it deeply wounded us and that was really hard,” Holly said. The nondenominational camp did not have a specific policy about LGBTQ+ people according to Holly, so the decision was made partially because no one knew what to do. “It was my childhood camp, so being fired from that was absolutely devastating.” The experience made her so anxious she dropped out of PLNU after her first year. Eventually, her friends convinced her to come back and Holly became involved in LGBTQ+ advocacy on the campus. “That is discrimination and oppression at work and how can I, how can we move forward so that someone else doesn't have to experience that?” Holly said. The homophobia she faced makes painting a new picture of what the church in America can be — a place of healing, inclusion, safety — essential to the work she does now. She is also thankful for the conversations and leadership opportunities living at the intersection of Christian and gay has given her. “Growing up, I didn't even know there were other gay Christians in the world. That was really confusing for me — as it is for so many people coming out who are raised in faith traditions — you actually can be gay and Christian and that's not antithetical to the Bible. I just had no idea growing up. I wasn't exposed to it,” Holly said. Robertson had a similar experience. “I never believed gay Christians actually existed. I'd always believed if you are

homosexual, you could not be a part of the church or wouldn’t want to be,” he said. Holly has worked hard to develop herself as a whole person rather than someone with two identities that do not intersect. “It's been a real gift because [there are] a lot of needs [for] a person who is able to bridge these two communities that so often are opposing each other.” While switching to an affirming church has meant these LGBTQ+ Christians can continue forward in their ministry free from discrimination and other barriers, they also had to overcome internalized homophobia and shame. Robertson did not know it was possible to hold the identity of gay and Christian at the same time.

GAY SAN DIEGO Aug. 2-15, 2019 “I remember the first time I thought that I had same-sex attraction. I walked into the back of my Baptist church and I remember seeing a guy that I found attractive. I realized I had attraction for the first time. And I remembered hearing what the pastor had preached about homosexuality being an abomination. And I literally ran out of the church sanctuary and went into the bathroom and cried in a stall and asked God to take away this thing from me that I thought would literally cause me to go to hell and also make my calling that I felt to be a pastor invalid,” Robertson said. Queer Christians who are a part of non-affirming congregations must grapple with their theology and place in ministry


and calling — but they also must come to terms with accepting themselves. “Maybe I am gay but, oh my gosh, if I am what does that mean? Because my faith at that time was a fundamentalist faith and I couldn't accept that," Haus said. The love and grace of God drew him to faith, but he struggled with reconciling that with what he had been taught about his homosexuality. “Are you in sin or is faith a different color? I had to go through a whole reshaping and re-understanding of my faith.” — Kendra Sitton is the editor of San Diego Uptown News, a publication of San Diego Community News Group. Kendra can be reached at



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GAY MEN'S than a choral performance — it was an unequivocal musical production. There were so many stand out moments, it is impossible to mention them all, but it would be nothing short of profane not to give some high props to some of the essential elements that helped push this concert to higher level. With Joseph Dasilva as Cher and Dustyn Evans as Sonny, we took a journey back in time with “I Got You Babe.” Both delivered the early beginnings of Cher’s career with this iconic song. Dasilva captured the Cher essence and in doing so captured

the audience immediately from the first note. Evans was a perfect match, bringing the original duet to life. “Dov'e L'amore” is a stunning song. Flamenco guitarist Juan Marco, a maestro of the guitar encompassed the room with the beauty and complexity of his gift. Flamenco dancer Erika Lopez led the dance troupe with strong tradition of the dance. This powerful grouping with the chorus left the audience in awe and joy as it was truly a cultural experience that many of us are still talking about. Although his solo was short, when Jermaine Staten stepped on stage during “Walking in Memphis,” as he sang his first line, the gasps of surprise and respect of his talent were heard throughout the audience.

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AJ Bond and Jeffrey Hitchin were a wonderful combination for “Fernando’ and captured the beauty of the song with a lyrical dance of their vocals. Ross Bixler nailed it as lead vocal for “Gypsies, Tramps & Thieves,” another Cher classic that has stood the test of time. Dancers! All of you were at the top of your game, whether interpreting lyrics or performing dancing you added a flavor to the night that was sweet and powerful. Everyone involved knew their place and I have to say you set the stage for Act 2 with your performance of “Welcome to Burlesque.” By the way, the Cher fashion show of present and past was a bonus with some of her most well-known costumes. It brought a lot of personality to the show and I absolutely loved it. To the chorus, I wasn’t the only one in tears with “Song for the Lonely.” Simply beautiful in arrangement and harmony. That was a special gift and it was received with as much passion as

you put into that performance. “The Way of Love” was another moving and emotional choice. Thank you. “Believe” was an incomparable finale for this show. As always, you left us in the audience fueled, engaged and wanting more. The interactivity with the audience and the entire production on stage singing this song together was more than just a moment. It was momentous. The San Diego Gay Men’s Chorus took six decades of Cher’s iconic music, and even though I expect an excellent delivery, you always take it to the higher level. “Jingle” is considered by many your best of the season, but this performance was as good as if not better than the holiday favorite. Passion, devotion and your love of music and what you are doing in the community is formidably present. I’m a believer. — Albert Fulcher can be reached at

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San Diego Men’s Chorus performs “Walking in Memphis” with soloist Jermaine Staten (Photos by BIG MIKE PHOTOGRAPHY)

Gay San Diego is for sale Publisher David Mannis recently sold five of his six newspapers and is now ready to retire and sell Gay SD. “We appreciate the interest we’ve received but want to be sure the new owner/publisher has a demonstrated passion for/wants to be a voice for the LGBT community and is not just an investor looking for a profit,” Mannis said. “This is a great opportunity for an individual or community organization to take the helm of this important resource and communications vehicle. I’d like to make sure it continues.” Gay San Diego, the only

newspaper serving San Diego’s LGBT community, has been publishing for 10 years with copies distributed every other Friday. Gay SD also publishes the San Diego PRIDE program, which was included in the July 5 of Gay SD and July 12 issue of San Diego Uptown News. Best of Gay San Diego will be published in the August 2 issue. The sale of this hyper-local paper includes the newspaper, its website, digital media and social media platforms. Interested parties should contact Mannis at Or call (858) 750-5631.

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Gay San Diego, Vol. 10, Issue 16, Aug. 2-15, 2019 Best of Gay San Diego special edition  

Gay San Diego, Vol. 10, Issue 16, Aug. 2-15, 2019 Best of Gay San Diego special edition

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Gay San Diego, Vol. 10, Issue 16, Aug. 2-15, 2019 Best of Gay San Diego special edition

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