Gay San Diego, Vol. 10, Issue 5

Volume 10 Issue 5

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March 1-14, 2019

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San Diego Pride, in partnership with The San Diego Diplomacy Council, held the fifth annual Pride World Forum at the San Diego History Center in Balboa Park, on Feb. 13. With 25 human rights leaders from around the world, they met with local advocates for an exchange of stories and ideas as part of the International Visitors Leadership Program, a professional exchange event sponsored by the U.S. Department of State. This year, San Diego Pride hosted an open mixer after the formal meeting as a way to introduce San Diegans to the visiting leaders and also enable direct conversations.

Fernando Lopez, executive director of San Diego Pride, welcomed attendees and introduced four of the foreign leaders who took turns

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On Wednesday, Feb. 20, the Hillcrest community gathered for an emergency town hall spurred by hate crimes that have recently occurred in the neighborhood, including a shooting at The Asian Bistro on Feb. 12 and the vandalism of a plaque under the Pride flag on Feb. 6.

In response to these events, San Diego LGBT Visitors Center and SoCal Equality Business Alliance organized the town hall, which took place in The Great Hall at St.

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Suspect faces a staggering prison term if convicted

By Neal Putnam It is still not clear yet what the motivation was to fire 19 gunshots into a Hillcrest restaurant, but suspected gunman Stefano Markell Parker, 29, was charged Feb. 15 with 11 counts of pre-meditated attempted murder.

None of the 11 people inside The Asian Bistro on Feb. 12 at 7:40 p.m. were hit by bullets, and everyone remained on the floor, which was covered with shattered glass.

“It is miraculous that no one was injured,” said Deputy District Attorney Paul Reizen after Friday's arraignment.

“He was aiming at people inside the restaurant,” he continued. “The motive is unknown.

Hours before the shooting, Parker posted on his Facebook page a rambling series of comments that started with the question, “How many of us fell victim to the streets?”

An earlier Facebook post suggests that this could be considered a hate crime.

“Who told all these gayfers it was safe to come outside.....?” Parker wrote in a Facebook post on Jan. 31.

Hate crime charges were not filed in the attack, but Reizen said they would be if there is any evidence the attack was directed toward the gay community or the Asian community.

The restaurant, located at 414 University Ave., is also known as Golden Dragon, and its iconic sign still remains intact. After the shooting,

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addressing attendees. Sunbu Kwon, from South Korea, told how the Korean military had arrested and prosecuted gay soldiers by stalking them on gay dating websites. Kwon was able to advocate for the soldiers and helped introduce a bill to stop the process, but that bill has not yet been ratified.

Kimberley McLeod, of Jamaica, is vice president of the advocacy group Generation 2000. She spoke of being inspired by some of the leaders she met here in San Diego and planned on taking that energy back home to Jamaica.

Mariya Dautartaite, coordinator of the National Campaign for a Safe Lithuania, serves as an advisor to the president of Lithuania and has raised awareness on bullying and drug and alcohol abuse. She stressed that silent witnesses who say nothing only add to those problems.

Vihaan Peethambar, of India, spoke of the hardships of being a trans man in his own country. Peethambar explained that in India, the population is familiar with male, female and trans women — but not trans men. This renders trans men virtually invisible in India, and that creates difficult and dangerous atmospheres for them to live in because they have no support system.

After speaking, leaders mingled among the attendees, answering questions and posing for pictures. Many took the opportunity to explore the “LGBTQ+ San Diego: Stories of Struggles and Triumphs” exhibit at the San Diego History Center, which has been on display since last year’s Pride Festival. The exhibit features photos, videos and displays documenting San Diego’s LGBTQ+ community and its fight against discrimination.

Jessica Frank, program associate of the San Diego Diplomacy Council, explained how they work to create a dialog between local leaders and emerging foreign leaders and activists.

“Today, we’ve worked with Pride as well as the International Visitors Leadership Program in an effort to connect local with the global,” Frank said. “As a nonprofit, that’s a part of what we do and we’re thrilled at the turnout today.”

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TOWN HALL Paul’s Cathedral in Bankers Hill from 6-8 p.m. Though announced on late notice, word spread quickly on social media and the meeting drew a packed house.

Moderated by Morgan M. Hurley (former editor of Gay San Diego), the evening featured special guests such as Mayor Kevin Falconer and Councilmember Chris Ward.

San Diego Chief of Police David Nisleit commended Hillcrest for being so active in their neighborhood and its safety, exemplified with the numerous 911 calls and reports made following the incidents.

“That’s why this community is so special, because people are willing to be involved, be engaged, be a part of it,” Nisleit said, adding that his goal as chief of police is to ensure he and his team make the neighborhood feel safe and secure.

“I want to make sure everybody is comfortable walking throughout the community and doing what they want — after all, it’s what we all strive for … that you feel comfortable walking to the local restaurants and local clubs and local businesses … that’s what San Diego is about,” he continued.

Though District Attorney Summer Stephan could not discuss details of the case, she said her office has dedicated a full-time individual to solely address hate crimes. She added that hate crimes have doubled

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across the state and in San Diego, with LGBTQ+ individuals being the second most likely to be targeted, behind African American males.

“We have trouble like everywhere else, but we don’t respond to trouble in the same way … we bring it home and make sure it is shut down,” Stephan said, adding that the overwhelming public response to the incidents is not commonly seen in other cities.

A question and answer community forum featuring seven panelists followed the guest speakers. Among them were Stonewall Citizens Patrol executive director Sean Redmond; Hillcrest business owner Moe Girton, who also serves on the mayor’s LGBTQ Advisory

Council; and Deputy District Attorney Leonard Trinh.

Mike Thongchau, 26, spoke on behalf of his mother Patty, who owns The Asian Bistro.

Thongchau said he feels he grew up in the neighborhood, having worked at his mother’s Hillcrest restaurant, formerly The Golden Dragon, since the ninth grade. He and his family thanked the neighborhood and police officers for all of their support following the Feb. 12 incident.

“We reopened the doors as soon as we could a couple of days ago, and we’re looking forward to serving the community again,” Thongchau said. “We can’t wait to have a fun environment back there … We’re super excited to be back in the

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Manny Del Toro said in 2016, there were 34 documented hate crimes in the city of San Diego.

This number jumped to 41 in 2017 and 2018. Eleven (2017) and 13 (2018) of these documented were related to sexual orientation, with three occurring in Hillcrest last year.

FBI Special Agent Brett Kalina said this type of hateful behavior is intolerable and promised the crowd that diversity would not negatively influence an individual’s protection under the law.

“Whether it’s our victim assistance or whether it’s our agents within the FBI, we don’t care if you are nonbinary. If you are black. If you are Muslim. If you are trans. If you are gay. If you are undocumented. If you are a lesbian.

We don’t care — you should get the same respect, empathy and professionalism from law enforcement that you would give anybody else,” Kalina said, eliciting applause from the audience.

After the panel discussion, Hurley opened the room up to the audience to ask questions and express concerns.

Luigi, who lives on Fifth Avenue and owns a business down the street, expressed that he feels very unsafe in Hillcrest, and urged more police protection. He requested daily police surveillance to check out the streets and businesses to make sure more hateful or harmful acts do not

happen again.

A board member of Hillcrest Business Association (HBA) noted that Luigi’s side of Hillcrest is a part of the Maintenance Assessment District (MAD), which has security provided from the HBA. This includes a car patrol that is out eight to 10 hours a day.

Erik Benson, who works in Hillcrest and is involved with the Hillcrest Town Council, brought up violent homeless attacks happening in the neighborhood. He asked about outreach options with Hillcrest homeless population and how the efforts have been going.

Nisleit said they created a whole new division last March to deal with the homeless issue.

He also encouraged residents to report incidents by reaching out to the Homeless Outreach Team (HOT) at 619-446-1010.

Benson’s friend Kelsey added that many art installations are planned for Hillcrest in 2019 and asked whether vandalism to these pieces would be considered hate crimes.

Del Toro responded that yes, if there was evidence that the vandalism was even in part motivated by any category of a hate crime, the damage to the art would be classified as such. He also added that if it continues to happen, police will consider long-term solutions like security cameras and more lighting.

Resident Adrian Scott closed the evening with a concern about over-policing black and brown communities that live in Hillcrest who already don’t feel welcome. Del Toro suggested that all races “come join the patrol, come on out and help educate the community, show involvement in the community, and just be one community.”

The public is encouraged to reach out to the San Diego Police Department if they have any questions or concerns, using the nonemergency number 619-531-2000 or the Get It Done App. LGBTQ-related inquires can also be directed to Dan Meyer, LGBT liaison for SDPD, and Christine Garcia, Transgender liaison for SDPD. [Editor’s note: For more information about the Feb. 12 shooting at The Asian Bistro, read our coverage at bit.ly/ hillcrest-shooting.]

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Do I really need therapy?

Life Beyond Therapy Michael Kimmel

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ast week, at a dinner party, someone who knew that I was a therapist asked me, “Hey Doctor Kimmel, do I really need therapy? I can usually handle my problems by myself.

What do you think?”

My response was that perhaps “need” isn’t the most accurate word. No one “needs” therapy. We can all get by without it. However, most of us can sure benefit from it.

Everyone goes through rough times and while — in the past — you may have suffered alone through your pain, therapy is for people who realize they could benefit from a little professional help.

Most of us have good friends we can talk to, but a therapist is different.

Why? Because we’re not your friends, we don’t need anything from you. Therapy is a one-way relationship.

Friendships are two-way relationships.

Therapists are more objective than non-professionals.

We are trained not to give advice. Our goal is to help you improve your life in whatever way you think is best. It’s all about you; not at all about me. This is the same reason that, as a therapist, I can’t be your friend, boyfriend or business partner during and/or after therapy.

Once you’re someone’s therapist, that’s it. You can’t have any other kind of relationship with them. It’s called “ethical and professional boundaries.”

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HILLCREST SHOOTER plywood covered the broken windows and there were bullet holes in the walls inside. The restaurant plans to re-open on Monday, Feb. 18.

Witnesses reported seeing a man in a trench coat firing a high-powered rifle at the restaurant and then walking away. He was then seen changing his clothes. Parker was arrested about four blocks away and an AR-15 was found nearby along with discarded clothes.

Reizen would not disclose what offense Parker had previously been convicted of before the incident. Published reports say Parker was convicted of a felony charge when he was 16 years old in Alabama, which involved the death of another teenager.

If he is convicted of all charges, Parker faces a staggering prison term. Reizen said Parker faces 154 years plus 200 years consecutively if he receives life sentences for the attempted murder charges.

In court, Parker told San Diego Superior Court Judge

I tell my clients, “I have my own therapist, you don’t need to help me. I’m here for this hour purely to help you.”

And, it’s true. If you find a therapist who talks on and on about him/herself, then run! Run quickly and find a therapist who is focused on you. And, yes, most good therapists have therapists of their own. Surprised? Don’t be: it’s how we stay “clean” when we’re working with others. We don’t bring our own unresolved crap into our work. We take our problems to our own therapists and don’t bring them into your session.

You may not need therapy, but good therapy speeds up your personal growth/healing process. Let’s say, for example, that you have a habit of picking people to date who aren’t really good for you.

You don’t know why you’re stuck in this pattern, but you are. You could work on it on your own, which is perfectly admirable, but it may take you a long time to do so.

Therapy speeds things up.

To me, therapy is like getting personal training for your mind. Periodically, at the gym, I hire a trainer to help me get to the next level of my physical health and to “fine-tune” my workouts. As a therapist, I basically do the same thing. I help you get to the next level of your emotional health and fine-tune your life so you’re happier and more satisfied.

Why do we go to therapy, anyway? As someone who has had a lot of my own personal therapy, I go because I want to feel better. I want insight from someone else who has more objectivity than my friends. I want homework to

do outside of therapy so I can speed up my change process.

And, in my years as a client, I have received all of that, and more.

As a therapist, my intention is to help you, the client, get whatever it is that you want — a better job, strategies on handling an awful neighbor, a fulfilling relationship (with yourself and others), new ways to communicate in your marriage, a kinder way to treat yourself … that kind of stuff. It is really a privilege and an honor to be a therapist, to be entrusted with other people’s most hidden secrets and fears. And, honestly, I would do this work for free if I were a billionaire because it is so damned fulfilling to me.

I had a lot of jobs (personal shopper, singer, preschool teacher, middle school counselor) before I became a therapist about 20 years ago. And this is by far, the best.

At 65, I just feel like I am hitting my prime. I don’t plan to ever retire completely. I recently read about a woman in Los Angeles who still saw clients at age 103. Yep, God willing, that will be me!

So, do you really need therapy? No, you can probably get by without it.

Could it be useful to you?

For the vast majority of us, the answer is “Yes.”

Jay Bloom he wouldn't sign a court form acknowledging his constitutional rights, so Bloom read the form out loud to him.

Reizen asked that no bail be set for Parker. His attorney, Tom Carnessale, submitted no argument, so Bloom ordered him to be held in jail without bail.

A preliminary hearing was set for March 1, and it will last two days.

In addition to the shooting, it was a rough week for the LGBT community. An unknown individual vandalized two plaques beneath the pride flag on University Avenue and Normal Street. The pride flag was also ripped down Feb. 10 in the evening at the Metropolitan Community Church (MCC), and three masked gunmen held up a Hillcrest jewelry store the next day.

Lee Bowman, communication minister for MCC, said a hate crime report was filed with San Diego Police for the flag's removal, which was captured on video surveillance cameras. A replacement flag was put up.

The violence at the restaurant prompted condemnation

from Mayor Kevin Falconer, California Senate President Toni Atkins, and a joint statement from Council members Chris Ward, Georgette Gomez and Jennifer Campbell.

“From the cowardly vandalism of Pride Plaza to last night's shooting on University Avenue, it is clear that more must be done to address the rising public safety concerns of our residents,” said Ward, Gomez and Campbell in a press release.

“As members of the LGBTQIA community and the City Council, we stand united against these acts of violence and hate,” the press release continued. “What is meant to silence our community will only make us stronger, and we look forward to using that strength to work with the mayor's office, and the San Diego Police Department to ensure we truly are a city that is safe for all.”

“We must stand strong and repudiate these homophobic and hateful attacks,” Atkins added.

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Creep of the week: Eric Porterfield

By D’Anne Witkowski Eric Porterfield is blind, literally. According to his website, Blind Faith Ministries, he lost his eyesight in 2006.

But Porterfield is also figuratively blind, in that he apparently is either ignorant of, or refuses to see, the horrifically violent racism perpetuated thought history by the Ku Klux Klan (KKK).

Let me back up. Porterfield is a Republican delegate in West Virginia who, according to the Charleston Gazette-Mail, “went into an extended diatribe supporting legislation that would have enabled LGBTQ discrimination in cities that have passed ordinances expressly criminalizing it,” during a Feb. 6 committee meeting.

So, spoiler alert, Porterfield doesn’t like gay people. He definitely wants to see LGBTQ people get discriminated against and wants that discrimination to be legal.

His reasoning, however, is pretty ignorant.

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he said on Feb. 6. “They do not protect gays. There are many gays they persecute if they do not line up with their social ideology.”

First of all, I’m pretty sure he doesn’t know what “socialist” means. Even as a member of “the LGBTQ,” I don’t understand what he’s referring to.

Secondly, his claim that “the LGBTQ” doesn’t protect gays is odd. First of all, it’s not like he wants gays protected. Secondly, his proof of gay-on-gay persecution is Milo Yiannopoulos, a right-wing provocateur who is an enemy to the equality and justice that LGBTQ people want and deserve.

Porterfield pointed out that when Yiannopoulos went on tour “the LGBTQ stormed that building and did $200,000 worth of damage because he didn’t line up with their ideology.” He is apparently referencing a protest at UC Berkeley in 2017, though reports I have read put the damage at half that.

Porterfield then said, “We cannot allow discriminatory bigots to determine how our

citizens are going to live.” Oh, the irony.

People were upset about Porterfield’s anti-LGBTQ comments and West Virginia Democrats called him out.

Thankfully, Porterfield was able to talk to the Charleston Gazette-Mail on Feb. 8 and smooth everything over.

“The LGBTQ is a modern-day version of the Ku Klux Klan, without wearing hoods with their antics of hate,” Porterfield said, adding that gays were a “terrorist group” who were persecuting him.

There are many things wrong with this, but let’s start at the obvious. Porterfield, a white man, speaks of the KKK as if they are a thing of the past, when not only does the KKK still exist, but the white supremacy that fueled their terrorism against black people in America is currently shared by the president of the United States. The reign of racist terror in the United States never went away. Yes, cross burnings are a rare occurrence now, but racism has morphed into a more institutional framework

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that systematically oppresses people of color. White people don’t have to live with this day to day, and thus many don’t see it. Even “woke” white people are often oblivious to how long tentacles of racism are.

The KKK were, and are, terrorists. Full stop. They murdered black people and drove them out of cities and neighborhoods. They burned churches.

Calling LGBTQ people equivalent in any way to the KKK is nonsense. LGBTQ people are not murdering people who don’t agree that we deserve full and equal protection under the law.

This comparison both demonizes LGBTQ people and minimizes the KKK's past and present history as a terrorist group.

Porterfield posted on Twitter, that since his comments, “members of the LGBTQ have exercised hate crimes and threatened my safety.”

I do not condone threats or acts of violence, but please spare me the “LGBTQ people are so intolerant of my intolerance” act. When an official in power threatens to hurt LGBTQ people with legislation that would strip them of their rights or block their access to rights, that official always

seems to be surprised that LGBTQ people might react in a negative way. That some would even resort to posting nasty things on the internet or to name-calling. The audacity!

I have read comments online that attack Porterfield for being blind and for being overweight.

These comments are dumb.

What he looks like and what his physical abilities happen to be have nothing to do with his ignorant and hateful attitudes toward LGBTQ people. There is no reason to meet his bigotry with ableism or sizeism.

You want to attack Porterfield? Then attack him at the ballot box. Support his challenger in the next election. Support Fairness West Virginia at fairnesswv.org or the state’s ACLU organization at acluwv.org. Join like-minded voters and work to elect people who not only understand the difference between “LGBTQ” and “KKK,” but understand why it really, really matters.

—D'Anne Witkowski is a poet, writer and comedian living in Michigan with her wife and son. She has been writing about LGBT politics for over a decade. Follow her on Twitter @MamaDWitkowski.t

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Congratulations to Police Lt. Daniel Meyer!

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ne of San Diego's most popular and respected police officers within the LGBT community, Daniel Meyer, has been rightfully promoted. Yes, now call him Lt. Daniel Meyer. Currently Meyer is the San Diego Police Department’s liaison to our GLBT community and has been on the force for 14 years.

Among the many well-deserved awards and medals he has received are the Meritorious Service Medal, the National Burn Institute Hero Award, Blue Knight Award for Community Service and the Founders Award at the Harvey Milk Diversity Breakfast. Meyer plays in the local gay football and volleyball leagues and has an outstanding reputation and relationship with many community leaders and organizations.

In the 1960s and ‘70s, the LGBT community, and the black and brown communities were under attack, mistreated, and, yes, there was violence from police. The Downtown Police Station, then on Market Street, was known as “the Gestapo Headquarters” and the then police chief was considered a racist and homophobic and was forced to resign in

San Diego Police Department Lt. Daniel Meyer (Courtesy photo) disgrace. Our community has come a long way when it comes to our relationship with the police department with now not only open gay and lesbian police officers but transgender ones as well. Well deserved credit must be given to past police chiefs Bill Kolender, Jerry Sanders, David Bejarno, William Landsdowne, Shelley Zimmerman ... all outstanding good leaders who treated the LGBT community with respect and dignity. Police Chief David Nisleit, who promoted Meyer has gone out of his way to improve relations not only to our community but to all the people of color communities. Nisleit is a good, fair chief that truly cares for all the citizens of San Diego. Meyer is single

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The Interfaith Shelter Network (ISN) has been an effective program for the homeless throughout San Diego County, so far helping 8,000 homeless individuals gain access to resources and services to get their lives back on track.

San Diego Mayor Kevin Faulconer joined the (ISN) in asking LGBT-friendly congregations to join the network and open their doors to homeless individuals at the ISN Summit on March 5 at St. Paul’s Episcopal Cathedral.

“We know there are a number of LGBTQ individuals experiencing homelessness and they need our help. That’s why we are asking LGBTQ-friendly congregations, who understand their needs, to join our care network and provide a temporary place for them to begin turning their lives around,” said Faulconer in a press release.

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The ISN Summit discussion addressing the summit. “This panel consisted of The Very is a network that works and Rev. Penny Bridges, dean, with your help and participaSt. Paul’s Cathedral; Trisha tion, I think you will see the Brereton, ISN executive dibenefits in so many ways. That rector; Fernando Lopez, San is why I am optimistic about Diego LGBT Pride executive our opportunities to begin makdirector; Gary Owen, ISN voling a real difference.” unteer; and Jonathan Herrera, Faulconer said that combatsenior advisor on homelessne ss ting homelessness is about crecoordination for the city of San ating that safe space for those Diego. in need, regardless of someone’s “You all represent the fabrace, color, religion, gender, sexric of our city for wanting to ual orientation, national origin, do the right thing and helpage or disabilities. ing people get back on their feet,” Faulconer said when see ISN,

On June 5, San Diego County will hold primary elections for the following seats: county board of supervisors; county assessor/ recorder/county clerk; county treasurer/tax collector; district attorney; county sheriff; county board of education members; community college district members; and superior court judges.

In the first of this series, I spoke to Omar Passons and Lori Saldana, two of the six candidates I interviewed who wish to represent District 4 on the San Diego County board of supervisors .

Each candidate I spoke to agreed to focus on the challenges facing seniors, and was offered the opportunity to state their priorities, objectives, goals and plans to address and achieve those priorities, as well as share their experience and qualifications.

Following are the highlights of responses by candidates Ken Malbrough and Marcia Nordstrom.

● Opening statement “The county has $2 billion in reserve tax dollars just floating in a cloud of unknown use by county supervisors,” Malbrough said.

He said he pledges to “seek community input” on how these reserve tax dollars can best be utilized and would like to see them invested in “chronically neglected or underfunded areas,” such as housing and public safety in underserved communities.

“My priority is reducing our homelessness epidemic and addressing this issue region-wide,” he said.

“Providing access to health and human services is the primary and more affordable method to avoid the pathway to homelessness and incarceration.”

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The people of San Diego and the San Diego Police Department have given me so much and I am humbled and

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encouraged to take on this new chapter in my life and career. As the GLBT Liaison to the chief of police, I will always work closely with community groups, victims and the public to continually provide an inclusive and supportive role in the services we provide,” Meyer told me.

“The San Diego Police Department and its leadership focuses on community and neighborhood policing.

This focus provides me with the ability to make a difference in the lives of those in need. I will continue to make myself available to the community 24 hours a day, seven days a week and encourage anyone within the LGBT community to reach out to me if and when they need non-emergent law assistance.

“Thank you to the community for your support."

Join us in celebrating the rich diversity of San Diego’s transgender community. As always, this year’s program will include transgender speakers, entertainment, refreshments, community awards, and the announcement of the 5th Annual Tracie Jada O’Brien Transgender Student Scholarship recipients! This event is FREE and open to all. Visit Facebook for more information.

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uman beings do disgusting, dirt-nasty things while traveling in an airplane. Do not be these slobs. Here are 19 inflight no-nos to remember the next time you’re flying the friendly skies.

Removing footwear

This is your captain speaking: The first person to take their stank shoes or socks off on this plane will be ejected at 35,000 feet. Even if you think your feet don’t “stink,” somebody else probably will.

But besides that, what kind of adult person thinks it’s appropriate to kick their footwear off in tight quarters among strangers? Somebody didn’t raise you right, number one, and number two, if your feet hurt or your shoes are too restricting, buy more comfortable shoes. Please don’t act a fool at everyone else’s expense.

Using electronic devices without headphones

Here is the total number of scenarios where it’s appropriate to use your electronic devices on a plane without headphones: ZERO. In zero scenarios is this appropriate.

Whether you’re watching a movie, browsing cooking demonstrations, letting your children play games, listening to music, or engaging in the other hundreds of things you do that go beep, boop and screech, please do it with headphones on. If you forgot them, ask your flight attendants for a pair; they have them and they’re generally free.

Watching adult movies

Watching porn that other

passengers can view is probably illegal. In fact, I’d even suggest that you steer clear of R-rated films, even those with the most innocent nudity — while traveling on a plane. It sounds prudish, yes, but you never know how someone else is going to react to seeing those images these days, and you don’t want to get caught up in a #MeToo moment because a bare ass flashed across your screen for a split second.

Putting your feet between seats

Where do your feet belong on a plane? Repeat after me: On. The. Floor. (with your shoes on.)

Letting your kids run amok

Fair warning to all you moms and dads out there: If you’re letting your out-ofcontrol kids run screaming up and down the aisles of the plane, there’s a good chance they could get drop-kicked.

By accident, of course. My general life rule about children is that if the parents don’t discipline them, I should be able to take a stab at it. Literally. It takes a village, right?

Blowing your germs all over the place

Sneeze and cough into the bend of your elbow. Use tissues and discard them properly. You know, like somebody with common sense.

Constant rustling

When you board the plane and find your seat, this is the time to start getting comfy. Get out everything you’ll want for the flight — magazines, devices, snacks, medications (whatever you

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need to be happy for the next few hours) — and sit your ass down, buckle up and relax. Once you’re in the air, avoid the temptation to move around. Chill, wait for your free soda, choose the movie you want to watch, and stay in “your” space.

Taking a window seat if you like to get up a lot

If you like to move around or have to use the bathroom frequently, don’t opt for a window seat. You belong in an aisle seat, and that’s the seat you should choose. If you have the window seat by circumstance, do the passengers in your row a solid and let them know that you will need to get up frequently. If they choose to stay put, it’s not your problem anymore.

Reclining the seat

You’re not getting that much of a recline – about 5 degrees in economy – so why not do the courteous thing and stay upright? It’s really not fair to the person behind you who can barely move when you recline, especially considering that there’s only about 30 inches of pitch between seats to begin with. Lean against the window or your tray table for a nap or buy a neck pillow so

you can sleep upright more comfortably.

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Excessive flatulence

Wearing powerful scents

I get it — sometimes a little toot-toot sneaks out. But if you’re excessively gassy, go to the bathroom and do some business to help alleviate the issue. Or just hold it in until you explode. That’s better than toxifying the recycled air for hours on end.

Carrying on loud conversations

If I can hear you more than three rows in front of me, you’re being too loud. The person to whom you’re speaking is literally right next to you. Library voices, please.

Using your phone during takeoff

I was once on a flight with a guy who gave the person on the other end of his call a play-by-play of takeoff until we were too high in the air for the signal to continue.

Frankly, I was surprised at how long he was able to keep talking. It was pretty annoying, but it also was a source of anxiety – I’m a nervous flyer — because the airlines have convinced me that if a cell phone is on during takeoff or landing, it probably means certain death. I

Given that everyone on a plane sits extremely close to one another “and” the air is recycled on airplanes, please save your pungent colognes and perfumes for alone time with the one person who thinks you smell amazing dipped in flowery toilet water.

Trying to board strange ‘support animals’

Don’t hold up the flight for hundreds of other people because you’re trying to pass a two-headed dragon off as a support animal because you don’t want to pay the fee for it to travel separately. Dogs and cats are support animals.

Ligers, peacocks, alligators and whatever else you’re dragging through the airport on a leash are not.

Arguing

Save your lovers’ quarrel for where it belongs — your honeymoon. Don’t engage in an altercation with other passengers, either. If you’re squabbling about something on an airplane, you shouldn’t be on it.

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THE FRIVOLIST Bringing odorous food on board

Cold turkey sandwich, sure. Freshly prepared salmon, no! Honestly, even more innocuous foods like pizza and fried chicken can be offensive to others. Eat your meal before you board and then snack on the plane if you need to.

Standing up to deplane as soon as the seatbelt light goes off

Where are you gooooing?!

There’s no reason to jump out of your seat and start removing bags from overhead storage as soon as the pilot parks the plane. You don’t need to push and elbow other passengers, either. Just sit calmly until it’s your turn, get up, grab your belongings and exit. Manners 101, folks.

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Making a mess in the bathroom

A hundred and fifty people have to use that tiny space.

Keep your bodily functions in the toilet and paper towels in the trash. If you’ve made a mess in the bathroom doing you-know-what, try to clean it yourself, otherwise alert a flight attendant discreetly.

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March is Women’s History Month, and I am thrilled to devote this special edition of “The Toni Times” to celebrating the accomplishments of women in our community.

The centerpiece of our activities surrounding Women’s History Month will be recognition of Women of the Year in Senate and Assembly districts throughout California. My choice for Woman of the Year in the 39th Senate District is Charisma de los Reyes, a policy analyst for San Diego County who specializes in child sex trafficking.

Charisma will be honored on March 4 in the capitol at a Woman of the Year luncheon and on the Senate floor. She’ll also be honored in San Diego at a special event on March 16, along with dozens of other amazing women who work every day to improve the quality of life in the San Diego region.

And each day in March, I will celebrate a different local woman or group of women (on Women Crush Wednesdays – #WCW) by posting about them on Twitter (twitter.com/ SenToniAtkins) and Facebook (facebook.com/SDToni).

Throughout the month in the capitol, there will be receptions, special guests on the Senate floor and fun events (such as screening of “Captain Marvel,” starring a woman – Brie Larson!).

It’s all to recognize the impact that powerful, creative and brilliant women have had in the past and continue to have in the present. We honor the major achievements that have altered the course of history, but we also honor the unsung ways that women and girls make a difference in someone’s life that no one but the

recipient will ever know about.

In my own life, I think about the small things my mother did to prepare me for the days to come, and the quiet way in which she led by example, through her work ethic and devotion to her family. I think about my sister and her service to her country in the U.S. Navy.

I think about my professional mentor Christine Kehoe and how she created a public-service template for me to follow throughout my career – in addition to how she blazed a trail in San Diego for women in the LGBTQ community who aspired to become leaders. I think about my colleagues in the Senate and the Assembly – what a diverse array of women from all walks of life coming together to solve California’s challenges and representing their communities.

I think about all the women – from young interns to seasoned professionals – who have worked on my staff throughout the years, in San Diego and Sacramento, spending countless hours, days, weeks, months and years helping me be the best representative and leader that I can be.

I think about all the women and girls in the communities that I represent: the volunteers, the activists and advocates, the community leaders, the small business owners, the teachers and health care professionals – everyone I encounter on a regular basis who cares so much about the world and people around them and turns that caring to action.

I’m glad March is finally here – happy Women’s History Month to all!

Growing Women’s Caucus advances priorities

Before the 2018 election, women made up 25 percent of the state Legislature. After the election, we now make up 30 percent. That’s a significant gain for a segment of the population that has

Legislative Women’s Caucus grew from 30 members to 36 (Courtesy photo)

been underrepresented in Sacramento throughout the state’s history.

The Senate lost two women in 2018 but added five – Senators Anna Caballero, Melissa Hurtado, Shannon Grove, Mari Elena Durazo and Susan Rubio.

The Assembly also lost two women (one being Caballero) and added five – Buffy Wicks, Rebecca Bauer-Kahan, Christy Smith, Cottie Petrie-Norris and Tasha Boerner Horvath (from Encinitas).

This means the Legislative Women’s Caucus grew from 30 members to 36. We have a long way to go on the road to true proportional representation, but without a doubt, this was a big step forward.

In recent years, the Women’s Caucus has successfully advocated for many of its top priorities, such as equal pay, parental leave, repeal of the maximum grant for struggling families, expanded child care and sexual-harassment prevention. Last year, the governor signed Senate Bill 826, legislation I authored along with Senator Hannah-Beth Jackson that expands women’s participation on corporate boards.

This year, under the leadership of its chair, Sen. Connie Leyva, and vice chair, Assembly member Monique Limón, the Women’s Caucus will continue its determined and persistent advocacy, prioritizing access to affordable child care and equality in the workplace. We’ll also continue to support the state’s Earned Income Tax Credit, which is especially helpful to working single mothers.

It’s great to see Governor Gavin Newsom follow the Women’s Caucus lead and include funding in his draft budget for these priorities.

We’re confident that he’ll be an excellent partner as we work through the budget and legislative process in 2019.

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NOTES FROM TONI Charisma de los Reyes – 2019 Woman of the Year

Charisma de los Reyes is a policy analyst and coordinator of the Commercial Sexual Exploitation of Children Program for San Diego County Child Welfare Services. What that means is she’s a warrior on the front lines of our region’s fight against sex trafficking and a fierce protector of some of our most vulnerable and traumatized children.

For this reason, Charisma de los Reyes is my choice for 2019 Woman of the Year in the 39th Senate District.

A first generation FilipinoAmerican, Charisma is the oldest of three daughters born to parents who immigrated to the United States through her father’s service in the U.S. military. She was born in Hawaii in 1974 while her father was stationed there.

After five years, the family was relocated to San Diego, and they have remained here ever since. “We were one of those lucky military families that didn’t have to move a lot,�

Charisma says.

Initially, her family lived in military housing near the 32nd Street Naval Base, and eventually, her parents bought a house in southeastern San Diego. He mom and dad live in that house to this day. “Very proud to be from Southeast San Diego,�

Charisma says.

Charisma attended Bell Junior High and Morse High School. She earned her bachelor’s degree in social work from Point Loma Nazarene University before becoming the first in her family to receive a master’s degree – at the University of Southern California.

She laughs as she says Filipinos typically go into nursing, so her parents were taken aback by her desire for a career in social work. “There’s always been a natural calling for me in working with folks and communities, and advocacy, empowerment,� she says. “That’s always been a part of my life.�

She is proud to follow her mother’s footsteps working for county government. Her

Charisma de los Reyes – 2019 Woman of the Year (Courtesy photo) mom served the people of San Diego County for nearly 30 years before retiring. For Charisma, it was initially supposed to be just a twoyear stint to get experience after earning her degree. “I just ended up falling in love [with the job] and really have made a career in working with child welfare and working in the prevention area,� she says, noting that she recently completed her 17th year at the county.

Charisma began her career with the county as a child support officer before becoming a social worker for Child Welfare Services. After about a decade working out in the field, honing her skills with victims of human trafficking, she was promoted to policy analyst. In this role, she coordinates the Commercial Sexual Exploitation of Children Program and acts as a liaison between county and state governments; I have personally benefited from her knowledge of the issues surrounding child sex trafficking.

She points out that her work with children is not “linear.� It is often “heartbreaking� and “messy,� she says. She prefers to think of what she and others do as working alongside the children, rather than rescuing them. It’s a collaborative process, one that doesn’t happen overnight. “The most sustainable change is when it comes from within,� she says.

Much like people who are kidnapped or survivors of

domestic violence, victims of sex trafficking can suffer from Stockholm syndrome, which refers to the phenomenon of victims relating in a positive way to their abusers. “Regardless of when they may be ready, you have to be there,� she says. “You have to show up every single time.

And you plant the seeds. You never know when the seed is going to take.�

What does Charisma want people to understand about her work? Children are incredibly resilient, she says.

They endure “horrific� abuse, but they have an extraordinary capacity to recover and thrive. It just takes the right support that is individualized, culturally responsive and respectful. And it requires someone to believe in them.

How can people help?

Become educated and aware of the realities of human trafficking, she says. And avoid judgment. Social workers have long understood that children who are trafficked as prostitutes are victims, not criminals. Thankfully, state law has caught up.

Charisma says we must continue to address the demand for the sex trade.

San Diego has a promising program in place to reduce recidivism among men who buy sex, where they are introduced firsthand to those who have been victimized by this trade. She’d like to see the program duplicated in other places.

And we must continue to educate children with age-appropriate lessons, not only on the realities of human trafficking, but perhaps more importantly on dangerous gender dynamics. “The younger we can get, the better,� she says, “teaching about healthy and unhealthy relationships.�

Charisma says her work is “truly� her “purpose.� I am so grateful that she is able to do work every day that she loves.

Because there are countless vulnerable children who are on the road to recovery thanks to her dedication.

I am proud to name Charisma de los Reyes 2019 Woman of the Year in the 39th District.

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’m a stubborn judge when it comes to rating chicken wings. Having practically been born with one sticking out of my mouth in Buffalo, New York, and then becoming privy to restaurant recipes there before moving to San Diego, I know exactly what it takes for making crispy wings that no carnivore can possibly reject.

In most Buffalo joints that sell them, wings of medium size are kept in the deep fryers for a minimum of 10 minutes, even though they take only seven minutes to properly cook in oil heated to 375 degrees. If you want them extra-crispy, it’ll cost you another five minutes.

Either way, Buffalonians are well-adapted to waiting for that faintly audible crunch that pretty much disappears the moment chicken wings fly outside of the city.

Which brings me to The Blazzin’ Buffalo in Hillcrest, a quaint and bright gay-friendly eatery that is the first independently owned, wing-centric place I’ve come across in metro San Diego. Situated next door to Panda Express, and flaunting a rainbow flag on the window, it appears like a chain. But this is the singular, debut location of what could

potentially flap into other areas town if profitable. Its young, personable owner, Fahad Ibadi, loves chicken wings. He worked for several years in eateries that serve them and is a former co-owner of Legends Wings in National City.

Not from Buffalo, he follows the seven-minute method for cooking the wings, which I’ve come to expect from anyone who isn’t from my hometown.

Like his franchise competitors, he doesn’t want to risk keeping customers waiting for wing orders, especially since opening only a couple months ago.

Case in point: On Super Bowl Sunday last month, he sold 7,600 wings in a single day. I too might have cranked out the orders as fast as possible to a population that largely never experienced wings cooked to a crispy default. Their loss, his gain.

But I credit Ibadi with keeping the appendages submerged in the bubbling oil for an additional three or four minutes if customers ask for extra-crispy.

Better yet, he changes the oil in his deep fryers daily — something other restaurants here or in Buffalo rarely do. I’ve always professed that a clean-tasting wing is nearly as good as a crunchy wing.

Hubby and I got two sixcount orders of the wings — extra crispy, of course. From a choice of 15 sauces, we opted for garlic-Parmesan, which didn’t require a breath mint afterwards. On the other six we

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The Blazzin’ Buffalo 120 Washington St., Suite B (Hillcrest) 619-542-9848, blazzinbuffalo.com Prices: Salads and loaded fries, $6.99 to $9.99 Sandwiches and wraps, $5.89 to $8.99 Chicken wings and boneless chicken wings, $6.98 to $19.99 Chicken tenders, $7.49 to $14.99 Family combos, $32.99 to $69.69 chose traditional Buffalo-style sauce at the medium-heat level.

It was an accurate blend of butter and a secret equivalent to Frank’s Hot Sauce that worked just as well.

We augmented our poultry fest with four plump whitemeat chicken tenders that are dusted in flour and deep-fried.

Lime-cilantro sauce was recommended, and we weren’t disappointed. In fact it was so appealing, I’ll go for some on the side for a little extra zing next time.

Wings, tenders, and boneless wings consisting of thigh meat are served with a choice of ranch or blue cheese dressing.

(l to r) Owner Fahad Ibadi and chef Lalo Escobedo (Photos by Frank Sabatini Jr.) Like many of the sauces, they’re house-made.

The ranch tasted classic with a nice, creamy buttermilk tang. However, the blue cheese — measured against some tough Buffalo standards I have for that as well — didn’t stand up to the robust flavors of the sauces, particularly the Buffalo sauce. Despite chunks of the cheese sitting the bottom, the dressing was too milky.

House-roasted pulled pork shows up in all its juicy glory on top of french fries. It’s also generously tucked into beautifully springy buns from California Baking Co. We ordered the latter and loved the additions of coleslaw and chipotle aioli layered over the meat.

Given that the pork is marinated for a day and then gently baked for six hours, the sandwich is a steal at only $5.89.

With a plethora of fried foods dominating the menu, which

also include jalapeno poppers, zucchini sticks, cheese sticks and onion rings, there are a handful of healthy options available.

Perhaps it’s the Greek salad or grilled chicken wraps that attract the weekday lunch rush of health care employees from nearby UCSD and Mercy hospitals.

Or maybe not.

Because as we all know, crispy fried vittles are one of life’s guilty pleasures few of us go entirely without. And at The Blazzin’ Buffalo, where the oil isn’t mucky, nobody’s pointing fingers.

—Frank Sabatini Jr. is the author of ‘Secret San Diego’ (ECW Press), and began his local writing career more than two decades ago as a staffer for the former San Diego Tribune.

You can reach him at fsabatini@san.rr.com.t

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25 breweries, and more than 50 dishes representing eight world regions.

Now in its fifth year, the festival will run every Saturday and Sunday for eight consecutive weekends, from March 9 through April 28. The park’s executive chef, Dave McHugh, is presenting 33 new food items to the lineup. They include French-inspired escargot pistolet rolls; sumac-rubbed Angus kebabs from the Mediterranean station; crab causa salad of South American origin; and exotically spiced dishes in a debut section named “flavors of India.” Scattered throughout the park, each global food area will spotlight four different

This causa crab salad and other haute cuisine can be found at an international food and beer festival inside SeaWorld. (Photo by Mike Aguilera/SeaWorld San Diego)

One of our city’s most cosmopolitan culinary events is at SeaWorld, where its annual Seven Seas Craft Beer & Food Festival has grown to include 127 beer options from Point Loma’s “upper Voltaire” neighborhood has seen the arrival of Cesarina, which replaces The Point Cafe. The new venture is named after the wife of one of the native-Italian owners, Niccolo Angius. It’s billed as a restaurant that honors matriarchal women of Italian heritage.

The indoor-outdoor space offers all-day dining, an exhibition kitchen and tableside presentations. The menu includes AmericanItalian breakfast fare, eggless pastas made in house, and a variety of southern-Italian classics. 4161 Voltaire St., 619-226-6222, cesarinarestaurant.com.

After operating for nearly 20 years in a drive-through structure in Hillcrest, Los Panchos Taco Shop recently closed but will reopen next door by late spring in the space where Brazen BBQ operated. It will feature a full bar plus additional seafood options in addition to its

Pesto alla Genovese at the new Cesarina (Courtesy of H2 Public Relations)

established menu of tacos and burritos. The owners are also gearing up to open an outpost in the west Fashion Valley area, at 6110 Friars Road, Suite 101. That location is set within a small strip plaza shared

by Round Table Pizza and Mr. Peabody’s Burgers & Ale.

Small Bar’s refresh was still underway a few days before reopening. (Photo by Frank Sabatini Jr.) San Diego’s cherished Small Bar in University Heights resumed operations on Feb. 28 after a 16-day shutdown that allowed for repairs and a partial revamping of its food

dishes served in appetizer portions.

“The event utilizes all the tools in my tool box,” said McHugh, who took over the executive chef position at SeaWorld San Diego in July after working in the same capacity for seven years at San Diego State University. He is also a culinary instructor at Grossmont College.

“I want to make sure that every dish is accurate and authentic and made with handmade techniques. We have more than 100 production staff helping to execute the event.”

Admission to the festival is included with park admission.

Once inside, guests can purchase dishes a la carte, which range from $5 to $6.50 each. Or they can buy “taster sampler” cards that feature 10 items for $50 or 15 items for $65. The cards also apply to beer and wine samples. 500 SeaWorld Drive, 619-222-4732, seaworldsandiego.com.

The space Los Panchos occupied in Hillcrest at 409 Washington St. will give way to a drive-though/walk-up Dunkin’ Donuts this spring.

Its arrival will present competition to two independently owned vendors just down the street: Copper Top Coffee & Donuts, and Donut Star.

and drink programs. The effort is the result of a partnership that owner Karen Barnett recently formed with chef Brad Wise of Trust Restaurant Group and Frank McGrath, the former general manager at Polite Provisions.

Days before Small Bar’s reopening, we caught up with Wise, who adamantly discounted rumors and reports that the popular establishment is transforming into an “upscale yuppie craft cocktail bar,” per an opinion article circulating online by The Travelers Club.

Others on social media claimed the space was being gutted.

“It’s still a cave-y dive bar,” Wise insisted. “We painted the exterior black and gray, put in new tables and chairs the patio, fixed holes in the floor, and installed some new bar equipment. Basically all we did was clean it up to make sure Small Bar stays open to the community.”

Speculation also swirled that the entire staff had been fired. Wise said 20 percent of the employees were retained after conducting retraining through the transition.

Barnett will still oversee the bar’s ambitious beer program while McGrath introduces a fresh cocktail program featuring 16 new drinks using fresh ingredients. In addition, Wise’s contributions to the menu include fried cauliflower with aioli, and a new burger served in brioche buns that are fermented for 48 hours before entering the oven.

Established dishes such as chicken wings and “Karen’s famous nachos” will remain, as will the long-established Monday-night steak dinners.

“We couldn’t be more excited to keep a San Diego iconic bar open. At the end of the day, that’s all we’re doing,” Wise added. 4628 Park Blvd., 619-795-7998, smallbarsd.com.

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This Adams Avenue apartment building will soon offer rooftop and groundlevel dining. (Photo courtesy David Chau) Developer and restaurateur Louie Chau of Lotus Garden in City Heights plans on bringing a rare amenity to the Uptown restaurant scene: a rooftop space to eat and drink. Due to open in early summer, SKA Bar and Restaurant will operate on both the ground floor and fourth-floor roof of a mixeduse apartment building near

the heart of Normal Heights.

(The structure is still unnamed.) Look for a menu spotlighting Asian fare such as ramen and stir-fries, as well as traditional bar food that can truly be called “elevated.”

3250 Adams Ave. —Frank Sabatini Jr can be reached at fsabatini@san.rr.com.t

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hat do you do when you have a relationship problem you can’t solve? Back in the mid-1950s and ’60s, many people wrote to newspaper columnists like Dear Abby and Ann Landers for advice.

Some 50 years later, writer Cheryl Strayed took over the online “Dear Sugar” advice column after the man who was writing it — without much enthusiasm — offered it to her. Strayed eventually turned the results into another book, which Nia Vardalos adapted into the moving, funny and altogether engaging play “Tiny Beautiful Things,” playing through March 17 at The Old

Dorcas Sowunmi as Letter Writer #2

‘Tiny Beautiful Things’ Through March 17 The Old Globe’s Sheryl and Harvey White Theatre 1363 Old Globe Way (Balboa Park) Tuesday and Wednesday at 7 p.m.

Thursday and Friday at 8 p.m.

Saturday at 2 and 8 p.m.

Sunday at 2 and 7 p.m.

Tickets: 619-234-5623 theoldglobe.org Globe’s White Theatre.

Opal Alladin plays Sugar, who fields questions about diverse topics from being “stuck” because of a tragedy like child abuse, to whether remuneration from an “arrangement” with a married man is taxable income.

The reason the play is so engaging is that it’s about listening, empathy and that seemingly rare commodity: human connection. Sugar doesn’t just tell the three advice seekers writing letters what to do — she goes for a bigger picture, occasionally offering her own harrowing experiences to make

The cast of ‘Tiny Beautiful Things,’ which runs through March 17 at The Old Globe (Photos by Jim Cox) that connection.

We see Sugar, married with two children, puttering around in her kitchen and waiting for dings from her computer to bring her letters. Meanwhile, the ensemble of three writers (Keith Powell, Avi Roque and Dorcas Sowunmi) circle, appear and disappear, each playing several writers in this 80-minute play. Each thoroughly inhabits the writer of the moment.

Sugar talks of her work with at-risk young teens, many of whom share ghastly stories of abuse and betrayal. She promised them help and asked authorities, but they failed to show up. So she adjusted her advice, telling the girls to reach for a way to transcend the ugly

facts of their lives and find healing within. “True healing,” she told them, “is a fierce place.”

Sugar responds to Sowunmi, a woman who is trying to recover from a miscarriage, with a similar story of her own.

The question that brings tears to many is from Living Dead Dad, whose 22-year-old son was killed by a hit-and-run driver. “How do I go on?” he asks.

How, indeed.

Kudos to director James Vásquez for the flow of the staging. The writers wander through the kitchen, occasionally eating or even having a drink — another Vásquez touch that adds immediacy and

connection.

Wilson Chin’s set has a perfect lived-in look for a mother of two. Amanda Zieve and Melanie Cole Chen contribute fine lighting and sound, respectively.

This is not your usual play, and some will be put off by the lack of a typical dramatic structure. But anyone who has been in any of these difficult situations is likely to appreciate Vardalos’ attempt to create community with her writers — and her audience.

—Jean Lowerison is a long-standing member of the San Diego Theatre Critics Circle and can be reached at infodame@cox.net.t

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‘Hedwig and the Angry Inch’ – The iconic musical production makes its way to the Diversionary stage, with tickets on sale now for the spring show. A rock ‘n’ roll tinted story of personal discovery, this independent show-turned-Broadway hit is sure to leave audiences captivated. Tickets on sale for opening night, March 21. $30. 4545 Park Blvd. bit.ly/2FZPzKm 2019 San Diego Pride – San Diego Pride is July 12–14. For a limited time, early-bird tickets are on sale for the festival with a $50 savings on VIP tickets and $10 savings on general admission. $15-$150. bit.ly/2CfGwRg ‘Struggles and Triumphs’ – The San Diego History Center, in partnership with the Lambda Archives of San Diego, brings the first-ever exhibition in Balboa Park focused on the history of our local LGBTQ+ community.

Visitors will experience and learn about the struggles to overcome persecution, the battle with AIDS, bullying and intolerance, the power of the community, and the tremendous strides taken in the fight for equal rights.

The exhibit curator is noted author and historian Lillian Faderman. Runs through January 2020. 1649 El Prado, Suite 3. bit.ly/2o5PrxG

Leading with Love Gala – The North County LGBTQ Resource Center (NCRC) has announced ticket sales for its 2019 Leading with Love gala.

The signature fundraising event helps the Center keep its doors open and programs running for those in need.

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Circus Vargas – Circus Vargas presents “The Greatest of Ease,” circus as it should be seen … under the big top in San Diego at Westfield Plaza Bonita through March 4 and Westfield North County March 7–18. Join Circus Vargas in celebrating its 50th anniversary extravaganza, an homage to the golden era of circus in America!

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2019 ‘Makers of San Diego History’ – The San Diego History Center has announced its 2019 “Makers of San Diego History,” recognizing those in the San Diego region who are making history in their own time. The honorees are California Senate President pro Tempore Toni Atkins and former California Senator Christine Kehoe.

These leaders have made and continue to make a positive, lasting impact on our region. The San Diego History Center’s celebratory event, “Makers of San Diego History” is set for March 23. A hosted champagne reception will be held at the prestigious San Diego History Center in the heart of Balboa Park followed by dinner and program at The Prado. This event will recognize San Diego's LGBTQ+ community for their struggles and triumphs. The proceeds from this event support the mission of The San Diego History Center with a focus on education and community impact. Tickets to the reception and dinner are $275. bit.ly/2XsS5yb

San Diego Leather Pride 2019 – Tickets are now on sale for San Diego Leather Pride 2019 taking place March 13–17. Events include Tiger’s Pictionary Leather/ Fetish Night at #1 Fifth Avenue on March 13; Leather Pride Flag Raising at Pride Plaza, Meet & Greet with the judges and contestants on March 15; Opening Ceremonies, San Diego Bootblack and Leather 2019 contest on March 16; and the Victory Brunch with a keynote speaker and Vendor Faire on March 17 — all held at the World Beat Cultural Center. sdleatherpride.org 26th San Diego Latino Film Festival – March 14–24. Tickets on sale now.

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Saturday, March 2

Walking tour of the LGBT History of Hillcrest – Take a walking tour of history.

Learn about the amazing past of Hillcrest and how it became San Diego’s gayborhood. Sponsored by the Lambda Archives of San Diego. $20–$25. Fifth and Robinson avenues. bit.ly/2U7seJT

Tuesday, March 5

Zydeco Mass & Reception – Not your typical Mass. Enjoy dancing in the aisles, beads flying through the air and a live band. Afterwards, dance your way over to the Great Hall at St. Paul’s Episcopal Cathedral. This year’s reception honors the cathedral’s 150th anniversary, featuring Grammy award-winning salsa music of Manny Cepeda’s band and food from various cultures around the world. $25, children under age 12 free.

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‘Aladdin’ – Now playing at the San Diego Civic Theatre through March 3, “Aladdin” tickets are now on sale. This is a thrilling new production with unforgettable beauty, magic, comedy and a breathtaking spectacle. $33-$110.

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Exclusive drink deals and entry, circus performers and drag queens. $10.

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OUT at San Diego Fleet – Join San Diego Pride and San Diego American Flag Football League (SDAFFL) at the SDCCU Stadium for OUT night as they cheer on San Diego’s newest football team, San Diego Fleet as they take on the Salt Lake Stallions. First snap starts at 5 p.m. with a pregame tailgate hosted by SDAFFL starting at 3 p.m. Fireworks after the game. $5 of every ticket goes to San Diego Pride. $20–$130. 9449 Friars Road. bit.ly/2ThY9KJ

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1 Smart-ass response from the mouth 5 Spirited horse 9 “Cunt” author Muscio 13 “Take a crack ___” 14 Memory unit 15 “Lawrence of Arabia” director David 16 Start of a comment by 57-Across about homophobia all over the planet 19 Big Bang cause, briefly 20 “Six Feet Under” character 21 Athenian T 22 “Claire of the Moon” actor Todd 24 Cruises in style 26 Adverb for Lord Byron 27 Plumb, and others 30 “___ Is Nothing Like a Dame” 31 JFK's predecessor 32 Nathan and family 34 Some nest eggs, for short

Amy Armstrong – “Respect the Queen: A Tribute to the Queen of Soul – Aretha Franklin” with special guest Fernando Gonzalez. Fans can expect Amy Armstrong to bring an evening of amazing songs, hilarious storytelling and a memorable and heartfelt tribute. Martinis above Fourth Table + Stage. $30. 8 p.m. 3940 Fourth Ave. bit.ly/2T3TzR4

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Friday, March 1

Service Members in Drag! – These Military boys are trading in their boots for heels to twirl and swirl for your money. Stop by The Rail on March 1 from 7 to 10 p.m. to enjoy this great new event for the San Diego LGBT Pride Military Contingent as they begin fundraising to support our efforts for this upcoming Pride season. We have an amazing cast assembled, joined by our fantastic host Babette Schwartz. $5 (cash only). The Rail. 3796 Fifth Ave. 7–10 p.m. bit.ly/2Gb2f15

Wednesday, March 6

‘Defining Place/ Space: Contemporary Photography from Australia’ – The Museum of Photographic Arts will open a global conversation about the impact of pictures. “Defining Place/Space: Contemporary Photography from Australia” showcases the diverse scope of artwork by photographers from Australia. Many pieces are coming to the U.S. for the first time. Iranian-Australian artist Hoda Afshar is among the photographers with her collection “Behold,” which was photographed in Iran in a town which leaves gay men be, on the condition that they conduct this part of their lives in secret. On display through Sept. 22. Free admission but contributions welcomed. 1649 El Prado. bit.ly/2Sv4yO7

35 End of the comment 37 Brightly colored 40 Dreamy fruit of Greek myth 41 Navigation aid 44 Bean of “Desperate Housewives” 46 Apple invader 47 “That was good, honey!”

48 “___ and Delilah” (Saint-Saëns opera) 50 Somewhat 52 That, south of the border 53 Use a trick towel 56 Laura of “ER” 57 “Empire” star who recently was viciously attacked 60 Not a dup.

61 Superman portrayer Dean 62 Comedian Johnson 63 Top 64 Cock attachment 65 Belgian river

1 Like Peter and Mary 2 Clothed 3 Chapel with a Michelangelo ceiling 4 Paparazzi pursue them 5 Follower of Jim Buchanan 6 Homophobe Paul once of the House 7 Blade brand 8 Lili Reinhart role in “Riverdale” 9 Not in the pink 10 Answer to “Male or female?” for some 11 Nisha of “Chutney Popcorn” 12 Nobleman in “Macbeth” with a cow?

17 Like many pols, to gay causes 18 Cops, in slang 23 To no ___ (useless) 25 Like a Marc Jacobs ensemble 28 Give a large bosom, e.g.

29 Care for 33 Blue shirtless guy 35 Mireille of “World War Z” 36 Merchant of films

37 Facial event 38 Indication of a used rubber 39 Gradual absorption 41 James of “Victor/Victoria” and family 42 Board for O'Keeffe 43 Max or Leo in “The Producers” 45 “___ lay me ...”

49 Em's Dorothy 51 A dentist may stick it in your mouth 54 Exam taken in H.S. 55 Put out 58 Army NCO 59 Queen's “Another ___ Bites the Dust”

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Tantrums & Tiaras, an outrageous and fun way of raising money Albert H. Fulcher | Editor Let’s cut to the chase and just say it. This is the way to hold a proper fundraiser. “Tantrums & Tiaras — Battle of the Bar Queens” was that and much, much more. Never knowing what to expect was the highlight of the entire evening and baby draglings graced the stage in full production performances was only half the fun. All the contestants deserved a tiara for being brave enough to face the packed Observatory North Park on Feb. 17, even though the crowd did nothing but cheer the contestants on from the beginning to the very end. With a bathing suit, evening gown and [questionable] talent competitions, they all had a chance to glitter the night with dazzling performances.

Uptown Tavern’s Joey Dematteo, aka Ashley Madison, took the title of Miss Tantrums 2019, but not without some fierce competition. This had to be a tough call for the judges, but Dematteo’s character Ashley Madison was incredible. A young, rich social media queen, she never left character and never stopped talking. Her props, including the doting stage mother,

Uptown Tavern’s Joey Dematteo, aka Ashley Madison, took the title of Miss Tantrums 2019

really added to her personality. With 10- foot selfie sticks, a wandering red carpet back drop (that her mother pushed around), and dancing boys lifting her in the air, Madison was absolutely a force to be dealt with. The only time she stumbled was during the ball gown competition when she dropped a diss to the fabulous host Babette Schwartz, who promptly hit back, and left the ditzy Madison speechless for once. You think she would know better than to go heel to heel with Babette, but it was all in drag fun and added to the show.

Competing for the title that night was Adro, representing Flicks; Ethan Kilgore, representing The Rail; Andrew & Keanu, representing Mo’s Bar and Grill; and Ricardo Sousa, representing insideOUT. And represent they did. All of the contestants had never performed before and were thrown into the fire of full drag, with only some having the experience of playing around with their mom’s clothes in the closet growing up. But that did not stop them from putting everything that they had into each performance. Although Madison took home the tiara and the title, there were some significant moments from the other contestants.

Ethan Kilgore (The Rail) had the most unique costume theme of the evening. He started by rising from the grave during the bathing suit competition, and his character transformed through the entire event. By the time she hit the evening dress competition, she was a stunning, fierce, red-headed witch (literally, hat and all) who commanded the stage just by her mere presence.

Andrew & Keanu (Mo’s Bar and Grill) were literally joined to the hip from beginning to end. The Siamese twin duo played well off of each other and the battle of sisters was an integral and hysterically funny part of the evening. And they too never

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(l to r) Ethan Kilgore, representing The Rail; Adro, representing Flicks; Joey Dematteo, representing Uptown Tavern; Ricardo Sousa, representing insideOUT; and Andrew & Keanu, representing Mo’s Bar and Grill (Photos

by Albert H. Fulcher)

left their dual personalities.

Adro (Flicks) brought his pet hog in for the competition, then tried to serve it up to Schwartz later for dinner.

Ricardo Sousa (insideOUT) balanced a towering crown of plumes all through the night in every category — a victory for him for sure.

In the midst of all the fun, “Tantrums & Tiaras Battle of the Bar Queens” raised money for the San Diego LGBT Community Center.

The Cockettes not only got the crowd in an uproar before and in between performances, but also spent the night going through the crowd collecting tips, taking in checks, and ferociously going after everyone’s purses and wallets.

Caroline (Cara) Dessert, Esq., CEO of The San Diego LGBT Community Center, said that the fundraiser was incredible.

“This annual community

ICSD Easter Bunny Show – Join the Imperial Court de San Diego and help raise money for kids on Easter Sunday. $10 suggested donation or a wrapped Easter basket. 4–7 p.m. at the Redwing Bar and Grill. 4012 30th St. bit.ly/2H4Emb7

Monday, March 11

LGBTQ+ Training – South Bay Pride invites anyone interested in understanding and becoming a better supporter and ally to meet at the First United Methodist Church Rec Center in Chula Vista. 7–9:30 p.m.

Seating is limited. $20 donation to register. 1200 East H St. bit.ly/2UaNqPj

event benefitting The Center’s services and programs was truly outrageous, hilarious and fabulous,” Dessert said.

“With a sold-out crowd of over 700 guests and one of the largest crews of over 100 performers, thank you all so much for making Tantrums & Tiaras a success! We’d also like to thank the brave and beautiful contestants from Urban MO’s, The Rail, Uptown Tavern, insideOUT, and Flicks that made the night so much fun. Tantrums & Tiaras is organized in collaboration with the MO’s Universe Group and we can’t thank them enough for their longtime generous support of The Center. Thank you!

Mil gracias!”

Cat Video Fest – A compilation reel of the latest, best cat videos culled from countless hours of unique submissions and sourced animations, music videos, and of course, classic internet powerhouses. It is a joyous communal experience, only in theaters, and raises money for cats in need through partnerships with local cat charities, animal welfare organizations and shelters to best serve animals in the area. Playing at Landmark Hillcrest Cinemas. $15. 7 p.m. 3965 Fifth Ave. bit.ly/2RIiZTE

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(l to r) Mr. San Diego Eagle 2018 Jody Mitchell and Mr. San Diego Eagle 2019 Myles Ramos. Ramos was selected by local judges to represent The San Diego Eagle after a tough competition.

Ramos said he decided to run to prove to himself that someone that is as socially awkward as he is can do anything as long as they are willing to grow and expand themselves, even when situations make them uncomfortable.

“This year I am looking forward to meeting new people, hearing their stories and welcoming new friends,” Ramos said.

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