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Sunday Oct., 25, at 11, Goleta Beach - Area D. (Rain relocates to Encina Royale clubhouse in Goleta). See Independent obituary from 10/1/15.
Betty Ellen Dilkey 03/15/29-09/15/15
Betty Ellen Dilkey was born on March 15, 1929, in Los Angeles, CA, and passed away peacefully at home in Citrus Heights, CA, on September 15, 2015. Her parents were Joseph Francis LaBarge and Hallie Hortense Triplett LaBarge. As an infant her family moved to Santa Barbara, where Betty grew up with her four older brothers. Betty attended local schools and graduated from Santa Barbara Business College. Betty excelled as a homemaker. She was proficient in gardening, cooking, knitting, crocheting, and sewing. She also enjoyed reading and traveling. She loved animals and doted on her pets. Betty is survived by her husband of 62 years, Glenn Dilkey of Citrus Heights; and four children: Cheryl Day White (Charles), Sunnyvale; Dale Gehr (Nancy), Scottsdale, AZ; Bonnie Dilkey Gusman, Citrus Heights, and Michael T. Dilkey (Nancy) Auburn. She leaves six grandchildren: Kerri Gehr Maxwell (Sam); Kristi Gehr; Amy White Foy (Steven); Bryan Gusman (Jessica); Michael Ryan Dilkey (Kim) and Jamison Dilkey; 10 great grandchildren; many nieces and nephews; sister-in-law, Donna LaBarge, and lifelong friend, Ken Morgan. A graveside service will be held at Goleta Cemetery on Friday, October 23, at 11:00 am.
Winifred VanDeSteene
Winifred VanDeSteene died on September 12, 2015. Win was the mother of S.B. resident Cheryl Kelmar, and grandmother of Ryan Johnsen Kelmar. Win raised 3 kids as a single mom on a secretary’s salary while 20
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only accepting subsidized housing. Win left behind 3 kids, 6 grandchildren and 8 great grandchildren and her 2nd husband of 20 years. Win met her husband Bob VanDeSteene at her high school reunion at the age of 62 and spent her elder years having fun after raising 3 kids on her own. Thank you to Bob VanDeSteene. Cheryl’s intent is to start the Fund for Single Parents in memory of her mother.
Darrian Leanne Lee 07/23/51-10/08/15
many great friendships along the way. If you knew her, you loved her; there was no exception. Darrian was forced to retire early from S.B. County when she was diagnosed with Alzheimer’s in 2006. Refusing to give up, Darrian valiantly fought the insidious disease for nine years, until she succumbed. Before becoming ill, Darrian enjoyed crafts, reading, gardening, and spending time with her friends and family. She loved to go to Las Vegas, and she was always very lucky when she went. Her personality was truly infectious; she never spoke ill of anyone, and she always chose to see the best in everyone. A beautiful soul, kind, generous, loving, and strong until the very end. She will certainly be missed by all and forgotten by none. The funeral mass will be conducted by Monsignor Richard Martini, Friday, October 16, at 1:00 p.m. at St. Joseph’s Church, 1532 Linden Ave, Carpinteria, CA 93013; (805) 684-2181. A gravesite service will immediately follow at Carpinteria Memorial Cemetery, 1501 Cravens Lane, Carpinteria. A reception will be held at Darrian and Mike’s house, 1322 Sterling Ave., (805) 453-2916. In lieu of flowers, the family asks that donations be made in Darrian’s name to the Alzheimer’s Association, 1528 Chapala St, Santa Barbara, CA 93101; (805) 892-4259.
Michael Candy
The heavens received another angel as Darrian Leanne Lee, age 64, died Thursday, October 8, 2015, at her home in Carpinteria after a gallant nine-year battle with Alzheimer’s disease. She was born July 23, 1951, in Los Angeles, CA. Her family moved to Riverside CA, in 1953, where she graduated from Riverside City College in 1971. Darrian met her future husband, Mike, in 1970, and they married in 1973. Darrian, Mike, and son Scott moved to Carpinteria in 1976. Darrian’s spirit is carried on by her husband of 43 years; Mike Lee, her son; Scott Lee and his wife Dajixa, her sister; Lana Henifin and her husband Richie, her nieces; Sheila Mangum and her husband Scott, and Allison Davis and her husband Pat, Sandra Austin, nephews; Chris Baumstark, Steven Henifin, and Brandan Grovier, grandniece; Lilly Baumstark, grandnephews; Ryan Davis, and Dashiel Mangum; and by an extended family of relations and friends from every walk of life. She is preceded in death by mother; Dorothe Parker-Grovier, dad; Lester K. Grovier, sister; Marta Baumstark; and brother David Grovier. Throughout her life Darrian was able to touch the lives of many. She worked as teacher’s aide at Canalino School in Carpinteria from 1976-1982, before beginning her career of almost 18 years, serving as Senior Administrative Assistant to S.B. County Treasurer Tax Collector while developing
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Michael was born in Santa Monica, CA. He graduated from The Catalina Island Boys School; he moved to Santa Barbara in 1973 where he attended UCSB and SBCC, earning his degree in marine technology. The ocean was his passion, and for many years he was an abalone and sea urchin diver and avid fisherman. Michael was a very special person to all that had the opportunity to meet him. His big blue eyes, sense of humor, kindness, strength, caring for others and big heart will be missed by all. Michael was the best father, brother and son, and is survived by his three sons, whom he loved, cherished and was so proud of: Cooper, Bryce and Trae. He is also survived by his father, Walter W. Candy, his mother, Joan M. Candy, and his sisters, Linda and Katie Candy. A fisherman’s memorial for family and friends will take place on October 30, 2015, at 11:00am at the Santa Barbara Harbor, where family and friends will gather to release his ashes, as he requested, into the sea, which he loved so much.
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Michael had a 3-year battle with stage 4 pancreatic cancer. Our heartfelt thanks go to: The Visiting Nurse and Hospice Care, Solvang office, for their loving care. In lieu of flowers, he would want any donations to go to: Childrens Cancer Fund www.childrenscancer.com OR: Gateway for Cancer Research: www.gatewaycr.org
Ann Lee
Ann Lee settled in Santa Barbara in 1958 with her husband Donald Lee, the year they became husband and wife. Once when Don was teaching her to drive in a used stick shift Morris Minor, a mountain lion ran along beside the car on Camino Cielo. Ann was a devoted wife and mother. She was on friendly terms with half of Santa Barbara, waitressing at Petrini’s on Calle Laureles for 27 years to help support the family. She used to cook breakfast for Don before he left for work in the morning as a mail carrier for the U.S. Postal Service. Then she walked her kids to grade school. As a child Ann learned to swim on the coast of Aberystwyth, Wales, where she was born. Her first language was Malayan, which she forgot, but she went on to learn French. Her father was a biologist who wrote the first set of textbooks specifically for the tropics. Her mother was a lady teleprinter operator. Ann’s parents sent her home from Singapore to the countryside in the beautiful Wye Valley. Her parents remained and were interred in separate concentration camps by the Japanese from 1942 to 1945. Her mother escaped harm swimming away from a sinking transport ship the Japanese torpedoed and strafed with machine guns. Her mother died of a second bout of malaria just at the end of the war. Ann left England at 17 and went to France before immigrating to the United States, working for the British Embassy in Washington, D.C. In Santa Barbara, she became a U.S. Citizen. Ann read a lot, from Rudyard Kipling to Tony Hillerman, and her children became big readers, too. She encouraged them to become educated and play sports, particularly swimming. She got Tony into surfing, buy buying him a Yater surfboard and driving him to El Capitan for his first surf. She took her family on many hikes in San Roque, Mission San Ysidro and Rattlesnake Canyons. She liked beach combing to collect sea-shells. Nobody
in the family tree was particularly musical, but Ann encouraged her children to play instruments and sing. She loved music, from Yma Sumac to The Band. She loved cats, dogs and rabbits and was quite fond of the many furry pets the Lees had over the years. She welcomed many family friends and visitors to the Lee house where she often served them black tea. She baked excellent shortbread. She knitted cable sweaters and beautiful red and green Christmas stockings for the family. Ann and Don hosted exchange students from France and Japan. Before her health declined, Ann attended the Episcopal church at All Saints-by-the-Sea while George Hall was the rector. She died at home with her children present, Antony Lee, Noelle McGivern and John Lee. Her beloved granddaughter Ellen McGivern spent the summer helping Tony, and hospice care for Grandma. She is also survived by a grandson Owen McGivern, and her older brother and sister Elisabeth Gourdie and John Daniel. With sadness and joy, Ann Lee’s family and friends buried her at the Santa Barbara Cemetery.
Frederica Yamin “Fritzie” 07/08/32-09/29/15
Died Sept. 29, 2015, age 83, at Casa Dorinda, Santa Barbara, California, and was interred at Santa Barbara Cemetery. Fritzie was born in Cincinnati, Ohio, on July 8, 1932. She moved to Santa Barbara in the early 1980s, first as co-owner of radio station KBLS, then taking up philanthropic work. She was a founding member of the Women’s Fund of Santa Barbara, served on the Community Relations Committee of the Santa Barbara Foundation, and was a member and former president of the Woman’s Board of the Santa Barbara Museum of Art. Fritzie also traveled the world with her husband of 62 years, Robert, enjoying jazz festivals and collecting antiques and Mason ironstone. She is survived by her husband; children Michael Yamin (Wendy), Nancy Yamin, Linda Glaser (Jeffrey) and Wendy Enderle; grandchildren Tyler Yamin (Jessica), Shelby Yamin (Jamie), Olivia Glaser and Zoey Enderle; and her brother William Ziv. In lieu of letters of condolence, donations may be made to the Women’s Fund of Santa Barbara, c/o Santa Barbara Foundation, 1111 Chapala Street, Suite 200, Santa Barbara, CA 93101, www.womensfundsb.org.