San Joaquin Parents Magazine May 2019

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4. Catchin’ Catfish

Kick off June with a splash at the annual Catfish Derby!

4. Four Days of Fun at the San Joaquin County Fair

Nothing says summer quite like a day spent at the county fair.

6. Summer Skin

Find solutions to some of summer’s biggest skin issues!

8. Q&A: New Mom Edition

Answering some of the biggest questions new moms have regarding their body after birth.

10. Saving Green

Tips for saving money and the planet by creating less waste.

12. 5 Things to Do in L.A. That Aren’t Amusement Parks

Next time you board a flight to LAX, skip the obvious destinations and do a little city-exploring as a family.

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14. How To: Plan a Family Vacation with Kids in Mind

Summer is just around the corner— have you started planning your family vacation yet?

16. Going for Gold

Catching up with Stockton’s own karate kid.

18. Mother’s Day Special: All About Mom

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Answers to those burning questions, tips for enjoying “me time,” and more!

22. Baby Names What is in a name?

24. Summer Reading List

Check out our teacher recommendations for the best books for summer for every age.

26. The Heart of Hapkido

Working towards one’s “Optimal Self” at Apex Martial Arts.

28. 10 Great Dates 30. Last Word

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ACTIVITIES

Catchin’ CATFISH  BY CAITLIN HAMER

FOUR DAYS OF FUN AT THE

SAN JOAQUIN COUNTY FAIR  BY CAITLIN HAMER

Kick off June with a splash! If you’ve got any young anglers in your family who are eager to take their fishing gear for a spin, then you might just want to bring them out to Oak Grove Park for the annual Catfish Derby! And if the whole family loves to fish, bring everyone!

Over 2,000lbs of catfish will be planted prior to the derby, which is open to anglers of all levels and ages. If anyone happens to have a competitive streak, then take note: there will be prizes awarded for the top three heaviest catfish in the youth and adult categories!

Registration is free, but a fishing permit and valid California fishing license are required for participants age sixteen and older. While this is a catch and release event, anyone who catches a catfish is welcome to take it home with them. Gates open at 6:15AM, with the final catfish weigh in at 12:30PM. And don’t worry about being hungry – if you don’t want to pack your own food, you can purchase hot lunch items on site!

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Nothing says summer quite like a day spent at the county fair. An ongoing tradition for many San Joaquin families, these fun-filled, sun drenched days have been helping families make memories for over two hundred years.

There’s something for everyone at the fair, and that includes the food selection. Feast on traditional fair grub like corn dogs, cotton candy, and deep-fried Oreos (amongst other deep-fried delights). Up for some carnival attractions? Go for a spin on the Ferris wheel for a bird’s eye view of the festivities or get your thrills on one of the faster rides. There are kid friendly rides, too!

Looking for entertainment? There are games aplenty at the fair, but don’t forget to check out the concert lineup, too. And not only is there fun and food to be had, but the fair is also a tremendous show of county pride, with the best of the best on display, from art exhibits to livestock shows.

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KID'S HEALTH

SUMMER SKIN

moisturized by using hand lotion throughout the day and a lotion after every bath or shower. Wet skin lotion works great for many as it’s applied before drying off and is designed to lock moisture in. Oatmeal baths—try a combination soak such as Spinster Sisters Co.’s Eczema Relief Soak—can help relief dry itchy skin.

POISON IVY. Talk about itchy skin!

Summer activities like camping and hiking can bring you closer to poison ivy. Remember the catchy phrase: leaves of three, let them be! Identifying what poison ivy looks like and teaching your kids to steer clear is the best way to prevent this rash.

If it happens, immediately wash with rubbing alcohol or warm, soapy water to reduce the likelihood and severity of the rash. If you have IvyX on you or can get to a drugstore fast, this product can help prevent the rash-causing oil from penetrating the skin. Once the rash comes, treat the itching with oatmeal baths, cold compresses, cortisone creams, and calamine lotion.

It should clear up in one to three weeks.

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Warmer weather brings different skin issues that affect our kids. Find solutions to some of summer’s biggest skin issues below.

PREVENTING A SUNBURN. The biggest culprit of nasty sunburns is incorrect sunscreen use. Even with the best intentions kids can end up with peeling, aching burns. Be sure to follow sunscreen protocol and re-apply every two hours (more often if you’re swimming or sweating). Also make sure application happened 15 minutes before going into the sun. Don’t forget spots, either. The hair part and ears can burn easily.

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TREATING A SUNBURN. Start treating the burn as soon as it’s noticed.

Apply a soothing lotion like aloe vera to the burn (keep it cool in the fridge for extra comfort) or a cold compress. If your child is in pain, offer Tylenol or another over-the-counter pain reliever. Staying hydrated can also help.

In most cases sunburns resolve themselves in two to seven days.

DRY SKIN. The Central Valley can certainly get dry, which can cause dry, itchy skin. In some cases this occurs all over. In other cases a condition such as psoriasis or eczema may cause small, itchy patches to pop up. Keep skin

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Q&A

Q&A: NEW

Moms Edition  BY NORA HESTON TARTE

If you’ve just had a baby, your body has gone through many changes in the past year. Trying to handle these changes while also taking care of your bundle of joy is a balancing act, to be sure. To make things easier, we sat down expert Debbie Maltbie, a Registered Nurse and Director of Maternal Child Services at St. Joseph’s Medical Center, here to answer some of the biggest questions new moms have regarding their body after birth.

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“Shedding baby weight is one of those things that’s on the back of most every new mom’s mind.

While weight loss varies greatly from person to person, it is generally expected that you can lose around 10 lbs of baby weight per year.

One great way to shed pounds is to breastfeed your baby. At St. Joseph’s, we are a certified Baby-Friendly hospital, which means we provide breastfeeding support to all of our new moms, and we help to educate them on the benefits of breastfeeding, one of which can be postpartum weight loss.”

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“There are so many products on the market promising to get rid of stretch marks, but in my experience, one of the best remedies is time. Over time most stretch marks will fade on their own, however they may not completely go away. Creams and treatments may help to improve the appearance of stretch marks, but also are not likely to completely remove them.”

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“While having a baby can be one of the most joyous times in a woman’s life, it can also be one of the most challenging. At St. Joseph’s, we screen all of our new moms for signs of post-partum depression, and communicate closely with their doctors to help support their mental wellbeing. If a new mom is battling the baby blues, I absolutely recommend reaching out to their doctor or a mental health professional for help.”

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ENVIRONMENT

SAVING GREEN

TIPS FOR SAVING MONEY & THE PLANET BY CREATING LESS WASTE  BY NORA HESTON TARTE

Being environmentally friendly doesn't have to cost you a fortune. In fact, it could actually save you some green! Read on.

REDUCE ENERGY USE. Summer in the central valley is HOT. Use fans instead of the air conditioner whenever possible, utilize window treatments to keep your home cool, and lower the temperature on your water heater over summer. Each of these will lower monthly electricity bills while also reducing the size of your family’s carbon footprint.

Get kids involved: Kids can save energy, too. Remind kids of all ages to turn off lights when they aren’t in use, as well as other electronics that get plugged into a wall outlet.

DO LESS CHORES. Wait, what?! You heard us. Run the dishwasher less (waiting until it’s truly full helps) to lower the monthly water bill.

Get kids involved: Assign dishwashing duties to the kids.

They will be thrilled the chore doesn’t have to be completed every night, but rather only when the dishwasher is full.

Teach the habit by putting them in charge of deciding when it is ready to run. It might even encourage your family to use less dishes.

BUY REUSABLE. Sure, a plastic water bottle costs about $1 (less when bought in bulk), but over time those dollar

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bottles add up. Stop buying plastic utensils and paper plates, too. Instead invest in inexpensive plastic options for lunchboxes and beyond. This applies to Ziplocs, too. Cute, reusable options are better for the environment and your wallet.

Get kids involved: Get each child their own reusable water bottle. It also helps to buy washable plastic utensils for lunchboxes. Make sure kids are using the reusable items when packing snacks and lunches for school, and explain why these items are better for the environment.

DITCH THOSE PLASTIC STRAWS. The campaign to save the sea turtles (and other sea life) is going strong. Invest in a set of metal straws for the family to use, or at the very least buy paper straws.

Get kids involved: Buck the habit in public, too. Keep straws in the car to use at restaurants and encourage kids to stop using plastic straws all together.

DRIVE LESS. This habit is good for your health, too. Using less gas saves money, and car emissions aren’t good for the environment. Mother Earth will thank you.

Get kids involved: When possible, walk or bike places such as the local park or library. This will get kids in the habit of exercising, which creates positive habits and healthy bodies for the future.

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MINI ESCAPE

5 Things To Do

IN L.A. THAT AREN'T AMUSEMENT PARKS  BY NORA HESTON TARTE

Los Angeles is California’s theme park hub. Between Disneyland, California Adventure, Universal Studios Hollywood, Knott’s Berry Farm, Magic Mountain, and a plethora of water parks, it’s easy to visit the city multiple times without ever stepping foot outside of a park. It’s no surprise that outside of the theme park gates lies a whole city filled with family-friendly excursions and experiences. So next time you board a flight to LAX, skip the obvious destinations and do a little city exploring as a family. Here are the top 5 things to do in L.A. that don’t involve roller coasters or adults in animal costumes.

RIDE A GIANT SLIDE. If you’re standing in downtown L.A., look up. You may notice a glass slide hanging 1,000-feet above you, from a skyscraper. It’s called Skyspace LA, and it’s basically terrifying, but also a must for thrill seekers. Ride the slide from the 70th floor to the 69th floor, a total distance of about 45 feet.

TAKE IN A KIDFRIENDLY SHOW. Which sounds more appealing, pirates or knights? In Buena Park, Medieval Times hosts dinner shows for families that include jousting and real horses. Pick a team and root for your knight, then stay to see if he wins the competition. Dinner is a classic medieval times meal, too—and it’s encouraged to eat with your hands, which kids will love! If pirates sound more entertaining, attend the Pirate’s Dinner Adventure instead.

Like This? Try this: If your kids enjoy the medieval times show, consider hitting a renaissance fair while in town.

HIT THE BEACH. This one is pretty obvious, and there is no shortage of beaches to choose from

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in the Greater Los Angeles Areas. Try out Venice Beach to fill an afternoon.

It’s a great place to stroll the boardwalk, take photos under the iconic Venice sign, and do a little local shopping. Street performers are there seven days a week playing music and performing tricks. Plus the area is known for its giant murals painted by local artists.

You can often catch them in action, putting up new pieces right on the beach.

For lunch, stop over at The Waterfront for delicious (and cheap!) tacos on homemade tortillas. You can grab a spot inside or out with views of the water without ever leaving the boardwalk. For dessert, grab famous mini donuts from Zelda’s Corner, located down Westminster Avenue right off the boardwalk.

VISIT A LIVE TELEVISION SET. One of the best parts of this excursion is that it’s free. Interested parties can apply for tickets to be part of a live studio audience (note age restrictions do occur).

In some instances, you may even get a cameo filling the crowd on set of a movie.

These experiences take place in Hollywood, Culver City, Studio City, and Burbank.

Check out online sites such as On Camera Audiences or 1iota to apply for tickets.

Some shows require you to contact the studio directly.

PLAY TOURIST FOR A DAY. Living so close to Los Angeles it can be easy to overlook the big Hollywood attractions that everybody comes for. Don’t miss out.

Head to Hollywood and hit all the main tourist spots before you leave.

The big ones can be completed in just one day!

Start with a tour of Grauman’s Chinese Theatre. This historic landmark is still the place to catch a flick (and they play current films).

Tours are pretty inexpensive and take visitors inside the theatre while explaining its history. The theatre still plays host to movie premieres, special events, film festivals, and more. When you’re done, stroll down Hollywood Boulevard to see the stars.

Also on Hollywood Boulevard is Madame Tussauds Hollywood, the wax museum featuring life-like statues of your favorite celebrities.

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Snap photos with Justin Timberlake, Patrick Swayze, E.T., Lady Gaga, and more. Kids get a kick out of posing with the different celebs, and photos make the best souvenirs.

Last up on the agenda, take a tour.

This might be the most touristy thing to do in all of Los Angeles. Hollywood Boulevard Tours is just one of the companies that offers driving tours of stars’ homes. Or, opt for the double-decker bus tours and check out famous Hollywood landmarks instead.

Like This? Try This: The Hollywood sign is one of Southern California’s most epic landmarks, and you can hike right to it. Hit the Santa Monica Mountains and get walking. Hike along Griffith Park for some of the best views—but remember, hands off! No one is allowed to touch the sign.

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SUMMER VACATION

HOW TO: PLAN

A Vacation

with kids in mind  BYNORA HESTON TARTE

Summer is just around the corner—have you started planning your family vacation yet? Planning a vacation is enough work on its own, but putting together an itinerary that pleases the whole family can feel downright impossible.

Don’t stress. Follow these tips for planning a vacation not just for the family, but with the family.

Involve everyone in the decision-making.

Don’t put all the pressure on yourself to come up with the perfect vacation.

Vote on locations, talk about activities and interests together, and make kids feel like they have a say in the summer plans. You can start with narrowing your search by location— such as a beach or the mountains— and then getting specific on where to stay, etc. If you’re flexible, take a silent vote and let the majority win.

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Family members often have different interests, and that’s okay! My favorite rule on vacation is that everyone gets to pick one activity to do and everyone must participate. This includes parents, too! So if one child wants to hit a water park but dad wants to check out a museum, schedule both and make the rule that everyone participates with no complaints.

Cherish the memories.

Collect mementos from your trip such as seashells and ticket stubs and create a scrapbook together when you get back home.

Book accommodations that make sense.

Spring for the hotel with the pool, and book flights around nap schedules and bed times. It’s easier to avoid snafus if kids aren’t staying up late to fly. If you can encourage sleep on the plane, booking flights during nap times can

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help with the youngest travelers—but be wary of possible delays.

Make it about you, too.

Family vacations are all about togetherness, but that doesn’t mean you can’t carve out some adult time if you like. Many resorts or bigger hotels in large locales offer kids club hours during the day. Drop the little ones off for a few hours while you grab lunch together, or do an activity the kids won’t enjoy.

Don’t over schedule.

It can be tempting to fill every minute of every day with activities. Depending on what type of vacation you’re taking there may be little outside planning involved—like if you were to go to an amusement park. Regardless of the vacation, leave room for downtime.

Sometimes the best memories are made when you don’t have any plans at all.

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GOING FOR GOLD CATCHING UP WITH STOCKTON'S OWN KARATE KID  BY ALEXANDRA KRUEGER

Shortly after winning all five of his matches at the Karate championships in Reno and bringing home the USA National Champion Title, 15-year-old Noah Helsby was chosen to represent the USA in the Jr. Pan-American Karate Championships in Rio De Janeiro, Brazil. It was a huge honor for the young martial artist.

The trip, however, required a parent or legal guardian to accompany Noah to Brazil. The cost was in the thousands, threatening to keep him from going. Thankfully, Noah’s a student at Tibon’s Goju Ryu Fighting Arts—an environment that not only fosters discipline, respect, and impressive skill in martial arts, but also community: Together, Noah’s friends, instructors, and community supporters raised $7,000 for Noah and his father to make the trip to Brazil.

For Noah, it was the experience of a lifetime. “It was such an honor walking in with the American flag around my shoulders representing my country,” he says. “The fundraising prior to the trip was also eye-opening: I got to see how many people donated to me, even though I had never met them…

It showed me how much a family we are and how martial arts brings people together.”

Not only has Noah become one of the best in the United States in his black belt age-division, his Sensei Eugene Tibon, owner of Tibon’s Goju Ryu Fighting Arts, says his other accomplishments

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are wildly impressive for a young man of his age: Noah maintains a 4.2 GPA with AP classes in Biology and Chemistry, trains in CrossFit, practices fencing, plays the guitar, and works as an employee at Tibon’s as an assistant karate instructor. “At such a young age he not only has demonstrated the understanding of Goju Ryu Karate but applies its philosophy to his personal life,” says Gene. “I don’t think there is anything that could hold Noah Helsby back from being successful.”

Noah is a prime example of how children can benefit from the discipline taught Tibon’s Goju Ryu Fighting Arts.

It’s an excellent workout, sure—but there’s more to fighting than physical strength. “It is a mind game and at my level,” explains Noah. “It doesn't come down to skill because everyone is equally skilled—it comes down to who is smarter in the ring.”

Since they opened, Tibon’s has taught and developed skilled national champions and even Olympic hopefuls—but Noah puts it best, getting to the core of the sport: “I would recommend that anyone learns martial

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It’s Mother’s Day, and as our gift to you we’ve got answers to some of moms’ biggest questions including makeup tips, skincare secrets, tips for finding alone time, and more!  BY NORA HESTON TARTE

ANSWERS TO THOSE BURNING QUESTIONS, TIPS FOR ENJOYING "ME TIME," AND MORE!

Beauty How can I use makeup to look younger?

Believe it or not, this is one of those situations where less is more. Wearing too much makeup can age you. Instead pick a few of the right products to achieve that youthful glow. First step, switch out powder makeup for liquid. The caked-on powder can amplify wrinkles, while liquid helps smooth things out. A good primer can also help makeup go on smooth.

Keep these products on hand: blush, mascara, white eyeliner, and a light eye shadow or highlighter. A little rosy color on the apples of cheeks helps mimic a healthy glow. That white eyeliner and highlighter helps your eyes look bigger and more awake (not like you stayed up all night with a screaming toddler).

Too much dark eye makeup can actually make eyes look smaller, which isn’t good at any age.

Can I prevent gray hair?

As we age, both men and women need to accept the idea that gray hair is going to come. Enjoy as many years of natural hair color as you can before those monthly salon trips become mandatory!

There are however some theories on foods and vitamins that could prevent—or at least stave off—gray hairs. For example, eat more Indian food. Curry could have ingredients that help fight grays. Other options include chewing on curry leaves or opting for hair products that include curry as an ingredient.

Shellfish is another option. The iodine and copper in shellfish are good for skin and nails. Want a topical solution? Women’s Fitness posted an article that suggested scalp massages with butter made from cow’s milk could help your hair keep its pigmentation thanks to some enzymes in the butter.

If that doesn’t work, give in to the salon. Make it fun by experimenting with new colors.

Or, embrace the gray. Aren’t young girls dyeing their hair gray now, anyway?

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Skin Care What is the best product I can use to reduce signs of aging?

Sunscreen! Sunscreen offers more benefits than any other skincare product. Instead of reducing signs of aging, sunscreen actually prevents skin issues that make everyone look older because too much sun exposure can dry out skin, cause discoloration, and lead to fine lines and wrinkles or even that crepey-feeling skin you’ll dread.

Aside from sunscreen invest in two good moisturizers, one for wearing overnight and another for daytime to wear under makeup. Eye cream is also a must—and no, it isn’t the same thing as a facial moisturizer.

I’m over these stretch marks and OTC creams aren’t working, what can I do?

Unfortunately there is no easy cure-all for stretch marks. They seem to just linger for many women, while others seem genetically blessed and never develop them at all. If coconut oil and other natural remedies haven’t helped, there are more intense solutions.

Laser removal of stretch marks is possible.

Using high-energy light, the appearance of stretch marks can be minimized over several treatments. The color of your stretch marks determines which type of laser will benefit you most, so make sure to go in for a consultation before committing to the procedure.

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of other moms—or at least one or two—that you can go to for support may help you make peace with those overwhelming thoughts.

It’s also important to participate in selfcare. Don’t let motherhood consume you. Find hobbies and interests outside of your family.

Exercise or working creatively can help. Test your limits by trying a new workout trend, or ask a girlfriend to meet you for a wine and paint night to unwind.

Summer is just around the corner, but I don’t feel comfortable in a bathing suit.

Mental Health I need a break! How can I find me time without relying on my spouse?

Look, whether you are a single mom or your spouse is struggling to find alone time, too, raising kids doesn’t have to be a two-person job. Invite more people to help with child rearing—after all, it takes a village, right?

If a grandparent or aunt or uncle lives nearby, this may be the best person to ask for a little reprieve. Whether it is date night, girl’s night out, or even a chance to go to the grocery store without your personal shadow, these are people in your life who likely want to help (and spend time with their youngest family members). If this isn’t an option, hire help! The biggest thing you need to do is let go of the guilt.

Having a nanny come by a couple days each week, or even hiring a monthly babysitter for a scheduled night out is completely acceptable—and you should do it!

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I’m overwhelmed by motherhood. What can I do?

Feeling overwhelmed is a normal part of being a parent. There are a lot of moving parts. If you’re feeling anxious or depressed, it may be necessary to consult a doctor. Your OB/GYN or family physician can make recommendations based on your personal history and current feelings.

For many, talking to someone can help. Either seek out therapy, or find support in a mom’s group or trusted friend. Having a group

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How many of us do feel comfortable in bathing suits? The truth is, every person has something they would change about their body. For me, the rule of thumb is to not miss out on experiences with my children because of how I’m feeling about my appearance on any given day.

Invest in a suit that complements your body. The days a two-piece was an option may be out the window, but luckily one-piece suits are having a moment right now! Choose one with cutouts in the best places for your body, or with a lace detail that makes it still look a little sexy even if you aren’t baring it all. If your lower abs are the problem, cover those without covering up completely. Those high-rise bikinis are having a moment, too, and they perfectly cover the pesky lower stomach while still looking on trend. You can always play with colors and shapes to complement your body type, too.

Need a little tummy tuck? Spanx now makes swimsuits. You’re welcome.

Overall Health What is the best multi-vitamin for women?

Many OB/GYNs actually recommend prenatal vitamins for all women of childbearing age, whether you’re pregnant or not. The levels in these vitamins are optimized for women and offer additional nutrients that other multivitamins may not have.

The brand matters less. Mostly pick one that works for you, is affordable, and available nearby. Some brands may be harder on the stomach but taking them at night can help. The purer the vitamin, the better.

Drink This!

Have boxes of Girl Scout cookies taking up space in your pantry? (We know you ordered extras so your daughter could get the 500-box prize her entire troop was vying for). Unwind at the end of the day with a cookie and wine pairing, or sip on a cocktail inspired by your favorite box.

Here is the breakdown: Tagalongs – Rosé Make it local: Buy a bottle of Scotto Family Cellars’ Dry Sangiovese Rosé.

ScottoFamilyCellars. com Do-si-dos – Malbec Make it local: The estate-grown Malbec from Burlington Chandler is a treat.

Enjoy wine made from local grapes from the former executive director of the Lodi Winegrape Commission.

Thin Mints – Cabernet Sauvignon Make it local: Mettler’s rich cabernet tastes of dark cherry, cola, and cedar with earthy characteristics. The long finish pairs well with this minty delight.

Thanks-a-lot – Zinfandel Make it local: Can you go wrong with a zin in Lodi? Klinker Brick’s 2015 Old Ghost is a good choice, classified as the winery’s best zinfandel of the year.

Trefoils – Chardonnay Make it local: Harney Lane’s 2017 Chardonnay features bright fruit flavors including apple, pear, and white peach.

Samoas – Tawny port Make it local: NV OVZ makes a dessert wine that mimics a tawny port. It’s made from 40-year-old brandy originally owned by Korbel Winery and features flavors of almonds, walnuts, raisins, and caramel.

Cocktails: A distillery out of Humboldt, Humboldt Distillery, decided to get creative with their Girl Scout cookie drinks. Use these recipes if you’ve already run through your stash and want to mimic your favorite cookie’s taste.

Samoas Scout Recipe:

1) 2 oz Humboldt Distillery Organic Vodka (or another organic vodka) 2) .5 oz dark creme de cacao 3) .5 oz toasted coconut syrup 4) .5 oz heavy whipping cream Rim a martini glass with high quality chocolate syrup and use toasted coconut flakes for rim.

To create the syrup, start with sweetened coconut flakes, and toast them in the oven at 350 degrees until nicely golden. Add to a pot with equal parts sugar and water, and bring to a boil. Place everything into a heatproof container and let cool overnight. Once cooled the next day, strain through a fine mesh strainer.

T he T hin Mintini Recipe:

1) 1 oz Humboldt Distillery Organic Vodka (or another organic vodka) 2) 1 oz Creme de Menthe 3) 1/4 cup Chocolate Ice Cream Thin Mint Cookies Rub rim of glass in melted ice cream and dip in crushed Thin Mints cookies (if you have some) for garnish. Blend vodka, mint liqueur, and chocolate ice cream in electric blender until smooth.

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FUN FACTS

Pick A Name, Any Name  BY NORA HESTON TARTE

What is in a name? It seems silly to define somebody when they don’t have any say in it at all. Regardless, a person’s name is their first impression on the world.

So, as parents, it’s pretty important to pick a good one for our offspring, right?

The Social Security Administration announced its list of the top 10 baby names for 2019, and most would say they are unexpected. We compare that list to 2017’s list, looking at the change in trends, and a list from the 1980s, a decade when many parents choosing names today were born.

So, what has changed? Is it strange to think that the Jessicas and Michaels of the past will soon become Reigns and Everleighs?

We may notice a few trends on these lists. For example, celebrity culture has some influence. Teen Moms have named their babies Ensley and Lincoln while a Kardashian name makes the list with Reign.

In addition to trendy baby names it is possible that Mila gained popularity alongside the actress Mila Kunis. In the 1990s we might have had Michael Jordan to credit for that name peaking.

Sometimes it’s a sound that is trending. Notice on the 2019 list that all of the boys’ names end in N while names ending in A are still popular amongst girls. The latter trend has been going strong for a few years now. In fact, it’s even more prevalent on the 2017 list.

See if you spot your name on any of these lists. And hopefully no one in 2019 stole the creative baby name you’ve been hoping to use!

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2019 Top Baby Names Girls:

Ensley Luna Adeline Oaklynn/Oaklyn/Oaklee Amora Aurora Mila Yara Selene Everlee/Everleigh

Boys: Bryson Greyson Lincoln Reign Kashton Caspian Gatlin Roman Easton Carson

2017 Top Baby Names Girls: Emma Olivia Ava Isabella Sophia Mia Charlotte Amelia Evelyn Abigail

Boys: Liam Noah William James Logan Benjamin Mason Elijah Oliver Jacob

Top Baby Names of the 1980s Girls:

Jessica Jennifer Amanda Ashley Sarah Stephanie Melissa Nicole Elizabeth Heather

Boys:

Michael Christopher Matthew Joshua David James Daniel Robert John Joseph

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BOOK SMART

Summer READING LIST  BY NORA HESTON TARTE

Summer is just around the corner, and kids are excited to give up homework for a few months. However, summer vacation shouldn’t equal a vacation from reading. Studies show that kids who read over summer do better in school the next year. Check out our teacher recommendations for the best books for summer for every age.

Entering TK/Kindergarten

story, Pete is rocking in his school shoes and discovers the library, the lunchroom, the playground, and lots of other cool places at school.

“Kindergarten Rocks!” by Katie Davis.

Dexter Dugan isn’t afraid of starting kindergarten because his big sister, Jessie, told him all about it. Dexter’s stuffed dog, however, is afraid. Could Dexter be projecting his feelings onto his pal? As the story unfolds, Rufus (and Dexter) learns he has nothing to fear because kindergarten rocks!

Grade School

“Look Out Kindergarten, Here I Come!”

by Nancy Carlson This story tackles sensitive topics related to starting kindergarten. Henry, a mouse, deals with anxiety related to his first day of school. The good news is that anxiety goes away when he sees other children engaging in the exciting activities within the classroom and the warm greeting received from his teacher.

Read these aloud, or let young readers read them to you.

“The Night Before Kindergarten”

by Natasha Wing. Children may recognize the cadence of this story, similar to “Twas the Night Before Christmas.” Themes includes visions of items they will need such as backpacks and pencils, plus activities they will engage in at school.

“The Princess & The Pit Stop”

by Tom Angleberger.

This story has girl power written all over it. Young readers can try to tackle the book themselves, or enjoy listening to it read to them. Cameos from nursery rhyme characters make it fun for readers of all ages.

“Pete the Cat Rockin’ in My School Shoes” by James Dean. Throughout the

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however, everything changes. The story takes kids on fun adventures where they learn about conclusions, rhyme and reason, and, having a positive attitude.

8th Grade+

Middle School

“It Came in the Mail” by Ben Clanton.

A little boy loves getting mail, so he asks his mailbox to send him things, but what is the little boy to do when the mailbox sends him too much? This story tackles themes of greed and giving.

“Ramona the Pest” by Beverly Cleary.

Anything by Beverly Cleary is a good choice for this age group. Ramona can’t seem to keep herself out of trouble. From fights with classmates to a crush that doesn’t like her back, Ramona deals with a lot of the same trials and tribulations young readers are facing, too, which makes her a relatable character to follow.

“The Phantom Tollbooth”

by Norton Juster.

In this story, Milo is bored with life. When a strange tollbooth appears in his room,

“Wonder” by R.J. Palacio.

Gabriela Galindo, an 8th-12th-grade teacher at one.Discover, a school in Stockton that is part of the SJCOE one.

Program, says this is a book for all ages and actually recommends it to older readers, too. “It deals with deformities, bullying, standing up for your beliefs, friendships, and family dynamics,” she says. An added bonus is that there is a movie based on the book so families can watch it together after reading the book.

“A Monster Calls” by Patrick Ness.

This scary tale deals with mature themes, and a 13-year-old protagonist middle school readers can relate to. Conor has suffered from nightmares since his mother got sick, so imagine his surprise when the monster that comes to his backyard isn’t the one from his dreams.

The novel balances spooky themes with humor.

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"The Help" by Kathryn Stockett.

This book gives students a historical lesson about a specific time period and how prevalent racism was in the community. The bonus, however, is that it isn’t a dry read. “This book is very entertaining while at the same time very realistic about the time period it is set it in,” Gabriela says. “It deals with racism, community, and rising above it all.”

Students often like when a book has a movie component, too, like this one does.

"Of Mice and Men" by John Steinbeck.

“Everyone I know remembers reading this book at one time or another in their school days,” Gabriela says. This is more of a classic and may land on a required reading list during high school. Kids who have already read it might have a leg up once it is assigned for homework.

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FAMILY VALUES

THE HEART OF Hapkido

 BY NORA HESTON

 BY MEGAN MEINTASIS

The benefits of children taking Hapkido Martial Arts go beyond the physical: students are taught to have respect both for themselves and those around them, all while being trained to practice self-discipline on and off the mat. Not to mention, the kids have a blast!

“It’s all about working toward becoming one’s ‘Optimal Self,’ while having fun at the same time,” says Master Tan, instructor and owner of the Academy.

At Apex, the curriculum is designed to be developmentally appropriate for each age group based on both physical and cognitive levels of development. Classes last 45-50 minutes long and begin with a five-minute “Mat Chat” focusing on the life skill that will be emphasized to students that week. This is followed by a warm up session, then it’s onto practicing kicks and punches. Each

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lesson of the day consists of exercises varying from self-defense techniques to simply learning how to cartwheel.

Each class ends with a time of closure to reflect on what students learned that day.

“We also focus on social development so students learn to build rapport with their peers,” says Master Tan. At Apex Martial Arts Academy, students are taught how to respectfully greet instructors and interact with classmates.

“It’s so important because often times when parents are busy with work or when kids are addicted to video games, they don’t always develop the social skills and confidence they need,” adds Master Tan. Taking Hapkido classes also provides kids with the confidence and selfdefense skills they need to deal with others around them that may not be treating them right—not that they’re

encouraged to break out the karate chops. Instead, students are taught that getting physical should be the last resort when confrontation arises. Hapkido Martial Arts emphasizes that feeling strong on the inside is just as important as being strong on the outside.

“Kids simply having the confidence and knowledge to communicate to a bully that they are not going to be a victim anymore… It really changes things. It’s very rare that a student has to get physical with a bully,” he says, adding that a lot of times students will even defend others. “We teach them to be leaders,” concludes Master Tan.

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STOCKTON PORTS

MAY 1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 13, 14, 15, 16, 17, 18, 19, 27, 28, 29 The Stockton Ports are back to swing away and obliterate the competition at Banner Island Ballpark. Take the family out to the ballgame to indulge in America’s favorite pastime in the heart of San Joaquin’s Port City!

With classic concessions to nosh on and special promotions to accompany several home games, this season is bound to be the most exciting one yet! Grab your tickets today and keep an eye out for their theme nights! Banner Island Ballpark, 404 W. Fremont St., Stockton, MILB.com

LODI STREET FAIRE

MAY 5

Bring family and friends out for a full day of shopping and fun! With more than 500 vendors throughout the 14-square block area of Lodi, you can peruse and purchase to your heart’s

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desire. Everything from antiques to arts and crafts will be for sale at this biannual Lodi event. Once you’ve worked up an appetite from all the shopping, stop by one of the 25 food vendors for lunch!

Downtown Lodi, (209) 3677840

LIL MUD RUNNER KIDS & FAMILY MUD RUN

MAY 11

What better way to get the kids excited about exercising than signing them up for a mud run? This year’s annual event features a 1-mile trail course filled with new obstacles, and even has a giant waterslide!

If that’s not enough to get them excited, there will be carnival games and prizes, free hayrides, mini golf, bounce houses, tube rides on the lake, a Food Truck Frenzy, and more! Eagal Lakes Resort, 12 W. Lorenzen Rd., Tracy, EagalLakes.com

THE CHILD ABUSE PREVENTION COUNCIL’S ANNUAL DUCKY DERBY

MAY 11

Rubber ducky, you’re the one… You’re making more than bath time fun!

This year’s Annual Ducky Derby will consist of thousands of individually numbered rubber duckies floating through a watercourse in a race to the finish line. The first ten ducks to finish the race will have earned an exciting prize for the contestants they share a number with. First place receives $1,000. All proceeds from the race benefit the CAPC of San Joaquin County. McLeod Lake at Weber Point, 221 N Center St., Stockton, (209) 4644524, CAPCDucks.com

SECOND SATURDAYS AT THE HAGGIN MUSEUM

MAY 11, JUNE 8

Looking for somewhere both educational and entertaining to take the kiddos? Bring your favorite little artists out to the Haggin Museum on the second Saturday of each month for a fun and educational art event specially designed for kids. Activities will complement the temporary

exhibitions on display. Kids between the ages of 5-12 are welcome. No reservations are required, but it’s first come, first serve, so don’t be late! Events start at 1:30 PM. The Haggin Museum, 1201 N. Pershing Ave., Stockton, (209) 940-6315, HagginMuseum.org

GOLDEN STATE PINBALL FESTIVAL

MAY 17, 18, 19

Talk about a Pinball extravaganza!

Featuring hundreds of pinball machines on free play, this fun event is sure to draw game lovers from near and far. The event will include drawings for a pinball machine, tournaments for every age group, a silent auction, pinball workshops and speakers, machine and board repair on site, and much more. If you love the game, don’t miss out on this one stop everything pinball shop! Lodi Grape Festival Grounds, 413 E. Lockeford St., Lodi, (209) 368-0969, VisitLodi.com

LINDEN CHERRY FESTIVAL

MAY 18

You don’t want to miss out on this year’s Linden Cherry Festival! From delicious fresh cherries, to live music, a parade, car show, vendors, games for the kids and more, there is something for everyone to enjoy. The best part is admission is free!

This magical day starts off with breakfast fit for a Queen – a Cherry Queen to be exact. Come ready to eat, be entertained, and make memories that will last a lifetime.

Linden Elementary School Grounds, 18100 E. Front St., Linden, (209) 547-3046, VisitStockton.org

SUMMER OF SCIENCE CAMPS

JUNE 10 – 14, 17-21, 24-27

If you’re on the lookout for the perfect summer kids’ activity, look no further than this! WOW Science Museum is offering fun, hands on art and science classes for children ages Pre-K through 3rd grade. Classes last between 45 minutes to an hour, and kids can stay and play at the Museum before or after class for a discounted rate. Advanced registration is required, so be sure to sign up now! WOW Museum, 2 N. Sacramento St., Lodi, (209)368-0969, WOWScienceMuseum.org

SKY TOURS AT DELTA COLLEGE

JUNE 7

When you wish upon a star, dreams come true! The Stockton Astronomical Society is inviting the public to join with them for a tour of the sky. Volunteers will have multiple telescopes set up for the public to use, free of charge. Viewing begins at 8:30 PM and will include focus on the moon, Mercury at sunset, Jupiter, M13, and a Whirlpool Galaxy. Don’t miss out on this fun and educational experience for the family! San Joaquin Delta College, 5151 Pacific Ave., Stockton, (209) 471-1674, VisitStockton.org

LUPUS AWARENESS COLOR WALK

JUNE 8

Bring the whole family out to Victory Park for a color walk in support of Lupus awareness and improving the lives of families with a parent suffering from the disease. The L for Lupus foundation funds activities like sports and music for kids, as well as uniforms, books, groceries, improved living conditions, and much more. Platinum admission includes a custom team logo T-shirt, a snack and drink, and color bag. Register online today! Victory Park, 1001 N. Pershing Ave., Stockton, (916) 640-6188, VisitStockton.org

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LAST word

SHOULD I STAY OR SHOULD I GO?  BY NORA HESTON TARTE

Being a parent is such a grand, albeit strange, adventure. I swear on most days my kid drives me to raise my voice at least once (and I’m not even a yeller!) and nine days out of ten we’re fighting each other on the way to school already. I ask him repeatedly (like ten times a day every day) not to scream in the car or the house. He tells me he has to scream otherwise he’ll become consumed by the thought of screaming—how is this even a thing? It’s one incident after another every day on a loop.

And then this strange thing happens where I get a break. Either the kid has a play date or he’s staying overnight at a grandparent’s house, and I have a full 24-48 hours by myself. The weirdest feeling is when I have a threeday work trip or he spends a week

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with his dad. These long stretches of alone time sound like exactly what every mother craves, until they come. I can enjoy a solid 6-8 hours by myself, sometimes 12, before this strange feeling kicks in. I miss him.

Why is it that when we’re with our kids sometimes all we want is a break, but the second they leave we’re overcome with melancholy over wishing they were around? I know if he’s home he’s going to argue with me and scream when I ask him not to. I know that if we run errands together I’ll be batting sugary cereal boxes out of his hands as he sprints down the aisles like some sort of awkward game of basketball. But for some reason the lack of chaos does nothing for me except make me miss the chaos.

I’m sure we need the breaks from each other. I’m sure it’s healthy to spend time apart and pretend I have a life that doesn’t involve being a mother, but I swear it’s sometimes hard to remember those benefits on day three of a work trip when all I want to do is sprint home as fast as my legs will take me. When I get there I’ll soak in the cuddles for 30 minutes before being reminded why it is I wanted my space in the first place, but the cycle continues without fail. Being a parent is basically just a loop of wanting a break from your child and then missing them the second they aren’t around.

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