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This April the festival is back to serve up more asparagus-centric dishes and family fun than ever before. Check it out April 20-22 at the San Joaquin County Fairgrounds.

6. Tea Time

Anna, Elsa, Ariel, Aurora, Belle, and Cinderella are ready to enjoy afternoon tea with local families at Case For Kids’ 5th annual fundraiser event, Princess Tea Party!

8. What you Need to Know About: Pregnancy Nutrition

Pregnancy is a time to focus more on what you eat, not less. Babies need vitamins and nutrients to thrive, and not just what is found in your prenatal.

10. Childcare with Culture

14. Have a WILD Time

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16. Mommy Me Time

Instead of burning out while fulfilling roles, replenish your spirit with frequent breaks from the chaos around you. Mommy me time is necessary for sustaining the (mostly) unselfish life you live.

27. Make a Smaller Family Footprint

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Whether you’re tuning into the radio, watching the news, or running errands around town, it’s obvious that everyone is going green.

If your childcare provider is a little lackluster and you find yourself wishing you were able to show your child the world beyond the screen, hosting an au pair might be the right choice for your family.

20. Make Tech Time Count

12. Tough Talks-Discussing Divorce with Kids

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If you’re getting ready to have a tough talk about divorce with your kids, keep these expert tips in mind.

Kids may respond with a range of confusing emotions, but it’s to be expected.

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asparagus  BY FAITH LEWIS

Ever been so desperate to get your kids to eat their vegetables that you’ve considered resorting to veggie-based desserts?

This year’s Asparagus Festival has the solution to your woes: asparagus churros and asparagus ice cream.

This April the popular festival is back to serve up more asparaguscentric dishes and family fun than ever before. Taking place April 2022 at the San Joaquin County Fairgrounds, the Asparagus Festival is anticipated to draw 70,000 people over the three days.

“Our overall goal with the festival is to keep it family friendly and a part of Stockton,” says Heather Chambers, the festival’s Executive Assistant. “It’s a tradition. Stockton has a huge crop of asparagus and we want people to be aware that it’s here.”

To maintain that family friendly reputation, there will again be a Kids’ Zone with bounce houses, carnival games, and trackless train rides dedicated to keeping the youngest attendees occupied.

The main stage will see a lineup of tribute bands and performers such as the Uptown Funk Bruno Mars Tribute Band, The Unauthorized Rolling Stones, and The Penny Breakers.

Meanwhile the community stage will showcase local talents ranging from dance studio performances to local bands.

If you just can’t get your mind off the tantalizing tastes and smells coming from the food vendors, stop by the cooking demonstrations to get some inspiration for your next homecooked meal.

And if you still haven’t had your fill of Stockton’s favorite green veggie, sign up for the asparagus eating competition for your chance to win $250.

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HEALTH

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 BY NORA HESTON TARTE

Too often women take pregnancy as a chance to throw diets out the window. Away goes careful calculation of calories or focus on the five food groups. Instead, eating for two means double the intake and “I’m pregnant,” means I’ll eat what I want.

Not to shame the hungry and hormonal, but pregnancy is a time to focus more on what you eat, not less. Babies need vitamins and nutrients to thrive, and not just what is found in your prenatal.

“There’s this feeling that pregnancy is a free license to eat whatever you want so people tend to overdo it on unhealthy foods,” says Eugenia Hurlbut, D.O. with Gill OB/GYN Medical Group, Inc.

Dr. Hurlbut’s List of Pregnancy Nutrition Dos and Dont's

DON’T eat hot dogs, lunchmeats, cold cuts, or refrigerated meat spreads as they can put you at increased risk for listeria

DO eat from all five food groups

DO look at supplements.

Some patients need more than a standard prenatal, such as extra folic acid. Moms of multiples will take multiple supplements. And those who like gummy vitamins will likely need to add extra iron.

DO make healthy oils and fats a part of your diet DON’T consume more than 200 mg of caffeine (or about one 12 oz. cup of coffee) per day DON’T eat raw meats including fish DO make sure everything is thoroughly cooked DON’T eat high-mercury content fish (Tuna fish is okay at one serving per week)

DO pair diet with good, safe exercise DON’T overeat. Increase daily caloric intake by zero in the first trimester, 340 in the second, and 450 in the third. If you are over or under weight, consult your doctor.

DO consult your doctor if you are obese

“Healthy food is what’s fueling you and growing your baby,” – Eugenia Hurlbut, D.O. with Gill OB/GYN Medical Group, Inc.

Pregnancy Weight Gain All women are different and should consult with their physician about weight gain. However, the rule of thumb says women should gain 25-35 pounds while pregnant. The rules change for women who are obese. “If you’re in the obese category it should be about 11-20 pounds maximum,” Dr. Hurlbut says.

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CULTURE

CHILDCARE with CULTURE  BY FAITH LEWIS

If your childcare provider is a little lackluster and you find yourself wishing you were able to show your child the world beyond the screen, hosting an au pair might be the right choice for your family.

Following a growing trend of au pairs living and working in Europe in the decades after World War II, the US established an official au pair program in the late 1980s. This allows men and women between the ages of 18 and 26, from around the world, to live with a host family in the US, while providing up to 45 hours a week of childcare.

The program is designed to facilitate an exchange of cultures that benefits both the host family and the au pair.

Au pairs can offer flexible hours to fit the family’s need and because au pairs are required to complete a course on child safety and development, parents can rest assured that their children will receive attentive care. In return, the au pair will gain an understanding of American culture, improve their English, and have the opportunity to travel during time off.

“The cultural exchange aspect of the au pair program is unique, so you cannot make an apples-to-apples comparison

on costs,” says Cristina Barraza, the Marketing Manager at AuPairCare, an agency that facilitates au pair placement.

“Host families are responsible for the application and program fees, the au pair’s weekly stipend, room and board, an education allowance, and providing two weeks of vacation time.”

But au pairs are more than an employee or simply a live-in childcare provider. An integral element of the au pair program is that the au pair is accepted as a member of the family. The

family and au pair build a relationship that allows them to learn about each other’s culture and world views.

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TALKS DISCUSSING DIVORCE WITH KIDS  BY NORA HESTON TARTE

“Honey, we need to talk.” The statement is rarely followed by good news. And while that phrase is likely the one that started divorce talks between you and spouse, it’s a good one to re-use when it’s time to tell the kids what’s going on.

“Being honest and keeping it simple and age appropriate can limit the effects of divorce on children,” says Cathy Mangaoang-Welsh, a licensed clinical social worker and outpatient care coordinator for St. Joseph’s Behavioral Health Center.

If you’re getting ready to have a tough talk about divorce with your kids, keep these expert tips in mind. Kids may respond with a range of confusing emotions, but it’s to be expected. After all, for them, this is a confusing time.

“Divorce is a difficult process for the whole family,” Cathy acknowledges. “Several changes are happening and the children may feel as though their whole world has crashed.”

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BE A TEAM.

Just because you’re choosing to go your separate ways romantically doesn’t mean your partnership should end. In fact, for the sake of the children, maintaining a positive relationship is key. Co-parenting is still your job.

“Breaking the news of divorce to children is best done together, if able with the ex-partner. By communicating divorce together it can symbolize that although the dynamics of the family are changing, the family will continue to support each other,” Cathy says. If kids press as to why this is happening, don’t point fingers.

Acknowledge a mutual understanding of an unhealthy, unhappy relationship. Children don’t need the details.

COMMUNICATE.

Ongoing communication is important. Let children have their feelings and respect their space but frequently check in. “Don’t pressure them to talk,” Cathy says. “Check in with them, ask how they are feeling, what do they think of their new room, let them know that both parents will have routines. Ask for any ideas that could be helpful for them during this difficult time.”

“We don’t want to ignore children’s thoughts or feelings, so allow them to share however they can safely.”

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STRIVE FOR CONSISTENCY.

Divorce represents a time of change. Some kids handle it better than others but it’s never easy. Kids often have to move, or start splitting time between two homes. Their schedules are not the same.

Keep consistency where you can. Let kids stay in their same school or same activities as before. While they are going through your divorce they may rely on those close to them to cope and taking those relationships and hobbies away can hurt. It’s also important that consistency exist between homes.

Communicate with your ex to maintain a standard or rules that are similar to the rules kept before, and ensure that rules are not vastly different from one household to another.

“Parents must work at rebuilding new family dynamic,” Cathy says.

LET CHILDREN BE CHILDREN.

While you’re hurting, it may be tempting to make your child your confidant but this is never appropriate. Vent to your friends, DO NOT complain to children about your

(former) spouse. You could truly harm the relationship between them and their other parent, and that’s not fair.

“Do not speak poorly of the ex-partner,” Cathy warns. “We don’t want children to feel they have to choose a side.”

SHOW LOVE.

Children have a tendency to blame themselves when a parental relationship goes awry.

Obviously your divorce is not your children’s fault, but how do you let them know that?

Cathy says to emphasize this fact early and often. Tell them often how loved they are and reiterate that mommy and daddy both love them the same as always.

SEEK COUNSEL.

Some children may express a desire to talk to someone. A professional may be the right call, especially if they are demonstrating difficulty adjusting to the change or if the divorce is particularly messy or complicated. An outside grownup skilled at helping adolescents process their feelings could make a big difference in your child’s life. Children from divorced homes are more likely to have psychological problems than children who lose a parent to death.

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HAVE A WILD Time  BY NORA HESTON TARTE

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JUST A HOP, SKIP & A JUMP AWAY Check out these other animal encounters close to home: Sacramento Zoo – Sacramento A large zoo featuring 140 kinds of native, exotic, and endangered animals Lindsey Wildlife Experience – Walnut Creek A family museum and wildlife rehabilitation center Camp Kindness – Sacramento A kid’s camp experience designed to foster awareness about companion animals

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Kids love animals. Expand your child’s knowledge and exposure to animals in the San Joaquin Valley (and beyond) with exciting animal encounters for families.

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mother’s job so often is to take care of everyone around her. But let’s not forget self care—you can’t pour from an empty cup and all that.

Instead of burning out while fulfilling roles as housekeeper, short-order cook, and full-time caretaker of tiny humans, replenish your spirit with frequent breaks from the chaos around you.

Mommy me-time is necessary for sustaining the (mostly) unselfish life you live.

We know, we know. Me time?! How am I supposed to find time for myself without the world imploding? It can feel impossible when you’re a mother, especially of young ones, and it’s even harder when you also have commitments outside of the home.

Well, here’s the challenge. Whether it’s five minutes or five hours, make time to refuel.

Rested moms with lives that exist outside of their families are healthier, happier beings. And you’re less likely to lose your cool when chocolate milk spills on beige carpet.

Taking time away allows you to come home feeling more prepared to take on life and all its expectations.

PUT IT INTO PERSPECTIVE

Reframing the situation can make taking me time easier to stomach. Instead of seeing an hour at the gym as time you’re neglecting your kids, remember you are modeling for them the importance of exercise and living a healthy life. You are also caring for your body so you can continue to be around for them and keep up. And if you don’t have childcare, the gym daycare exists for a reason.

So often there are times leaving our children in the care of others feels like a selfish decision.

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The first time you drop your firstborn off at sports camp or an enrichment class that isn’t mommy-and-me, it’s easy to feel you’re abandoning them. Remember, your children are learning independence while you’re away. It may not be easy to walk out that door but the benefit is as much for them as for you.

Apply the same tactic to new scenarios. A weekend away with your husband nourishes the relationship your children look up to. A united front from the two of you serves your family well. It’s ok to miss them, but don’t feel guilty for making your marriage a priority. You’re showing your children that it should be. And your child is building a relationship with whomever they are staying with. If this is a close friend of family member, those early experiences are the foundation for a positive connection going forward.

Once you’ve ditched the guilt, be honest with yourself. We all love our kids but I don’t believe you if you say you’ve never wanted a break from them.

20 CHANCES FOR ‘ME TIME’ FIND A NEW HOBBY. Having a go-to activity makes the transition from mommy mode to me time easier.

SPEND TIME WITH FRIENDS. If you don’t already have a group of mom friends nearby, join a group that shares a local interest such as a book club.

TAKE A CLASS. Delta College has enrichment classes. You don’t have to get a degree, but you could take a creative writing class. Prefer to focus on fitness?

Join a gym.

CREATE A ROUTINE. Try hitting the same CrossFit session every week. Building a routine will help me time come more naturally (and stop you from creating excuses to skip it).

GO ON VACATION. Not all moms can jet off for a week in Hawaii (however if you can, perhaps you should). Even if it’s a day trip to Sacramento or an overnight in Tahoe, a little away time can recharge you for the week ahead.

HAVE A GIRL’S DAY. Wine & Roses in Lodi offers massages, facials, and après treatment wine in a gorgeous wine country setting. The Heavenly Meltdown Pedicure offers a foot soak in butter brulée whole milk with a sweet cream polish.

SCHEDULE DATE NIGHT. Hire a babysitter once each month to watch the kids while you and your husband dine around SJ County. Start the tradition with a stop at De Vega Brothers, one of Stockton’s most romantic dinner spots.

WAKE UP EARLY. As a mom the idea of cutting sleep short may sound akin to water torture, but savoring 30 minutes of you time before the day starts to sip coffee, catch up on news, or read a book is a great way to begin the day.

NETFLIX AND CHILL. After the kids go to sleep, let the laundry sit. Pour a glass of wine and start up a show you can’t watch while they are awake.

RUN ERRANDS ALONE. How do you manage this insane proposition?! It’s not as difficult as it sounds. Put kids in a weekly drop-off class and tackle the grocery store sans mini-me.

HIRE A BABYSITTER FOR NO GOOD REASON. We tend to see babysitters as a last resort, like when a last minute meeting pops up or we’re really sick. Why not pay someone to watch the kids just because? Get your nails done, get your haircut, go shopping. Everyone deserves a break.

TRY SOMETHING NEW Microblading is the semi-permanent makeup you didn’t know you needed. A fierce brow can transform your face, and as a mom, not having to apply filler daily saves precious minutes we need. You can also say bye-bye to painful monthly waxes or at-home tweezing. The Lash Bar & Beauty Studios in Lodi has technicians on hand to work their magic. Plus you can check out eyelash extensions while you’re there.

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SPLURGE ON YOURSELF. Buy a magazine subscription or a monthly delivery box of beauty goods and set aside time to enjoy them without interruptions.

DON’T OVER THINK IT. If your blood is boiling or you feel like you might snap the next time a small hand touches you, head out. Leave your spouse with the kids and go to Target. Roaming those aisles alone is sometimes all the therapy we need.

BE ALONE. Many women have a fear of dining alone or seeing a movie by themselves. If you need a break but no one is free to join you, go anyway.

Eat at the restaurant you’ve been eyeing; Happy’s Indian Kitchen just opened in Ripon!

ENJOY A BATH. Light candles, pour bath salts, sip wine, and lock the door!

HAVE BRUNCH. Grab a gaggle of girlfriends and enjoy a meal. Besitos in Manteca just opened in January and word is the waffles are to-die-for.

DE-STRESS. Moms’ stress levels build up quickly. Avoid a blow-up by engaging in relaxing activities. Yoga, guided mediation, reiki, running—the list is endless. Whatever you find de-stresses you, do it often.

INVEST IN YOUR APPEARANCE. Don’t grab for the same pair of yoga pants and oversized sweatshirt you’ve been wearing all week. Sometimes a new outfit, or a full face of makeup, is the quickest way to put a little oomph in your step.

PAMPER YOURSELF We only drink coffee until it’s appropriate to fill our glasses with wine, right? Well, at Perfect Balance Day spa in Lodi moms can combine their two biggest vices with the Warm Coffee Body Buff and Wine Mud Wrap.

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FEEL SEXY. This doesn’t have to be any more involved than getting a new trim (check out Stockton’s The B Hive).

Confidence does something wonderful for your mood.

REDISCOVER AN OLD PASSION. Sometimes the simplest pleasures fall by the wayside when we’re overloaded. Make time for the activities you enjoyed before motherhood to reconnect with who you were (and still are).

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Want to learn more? Pick up our parent publication San Joaquin Magazine for tips on where to go and what to do. Every issue is packed with details on the area’s best restaurants, newest trends, and worthy causes.

THE MOTHER LOAD The mental workload of a mother may have started off as a joke, a way to one-up your partner.

Turns out science backs the idea that mothers are mentally worn out.

It’s not just juggling schedules and managing homework, which is a lot on its own. It’s lending emotional support, cleaning the house, getting kids from point A to point B, and filling in the blanks with taxes, doctor’s appointments, and school fundraisers— oh my! Mothers are constantly burdened by a never-ending list of todos. The mental load is pervasive, and that makes taking breaks a necessary part of every mother’s life.

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KNOWLEDGE

IS POWER I don’t know why as adults we sometimes get trapped in this idea that we can’t learn anything new. Like, if you didn’t master a skill by the time you were 25 it’s too late.

That’s garbage thinking.

Mastering new skills boosts confidence and creates a domino effect. If you pick up one new hobby and thrive at it, you’ll suddenly feel like you can do it again. Until you’re 40 years old and realize this old dog has learned more new tricks than 20-year-old you ever did. Luckily for moms in San Joaquin County, our hometowns are full of opportunities for personal growth through classes you can enroll in with a friend or by yourself.

Learn to cook at Cheese Central in Lodi, tinkle the ivories at A & J Music Association, or learn to ice skate at Oak Park Arena.

Go full speed ahead by enrolling in college at University of the Pacific. Or, enrich your life with arts education at the Tracy Grand Theatre (AtTheGrand.org/ ClassCatalog).

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MAKE Tech Time COUNT  BY NORA HESTON TARTE

MAKE RULES

TODDLER TECH

For the youngest kids, the AAP recommends family media use. Engage in media together. Sit side by side to play games or cuddle up for family movie night. This way technology becomes a bonding experience instead of an isolating one.

THE MOM GUILT IS REAL.

Letting kids watch television or play games on tablets is taboo in some circles.

So when moms give in to electronics, guilt can overwhelm us. The good news is not all tech time will rot your child’s brain.

Kids can learn from educational apps or watching Sesame Street, as long as it’s part of a well-balanced home life.

STRIKE A BALANCE

“Screen time should not get in the way of reading books, playing outside, practicing sports or musical instruments, or family

conversation time,” says Karin Compise, a teacher at John McCandless STEM Charter School in Stockton and mom of two.

The key is to use tech time in addition to other meaningful activities. A little TV here and there lets kids recoup and relax.

Engaging in interactive media presents learning opportunities and introduces children to technology they will be expected to navigate in the future.

It is, however, as much about what kids are watching as how much they are watching. Educational apps, technology for research, FaceTime with family and friends—these all have positives for kids.

Karin calls the rest “fluff.”

“Screens aren’t going anywhere.

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In Karin’s house the rules are simple: no phones or tablets at the dinner table; all homework, piano practice, reading, chores, and other responsibilities must be completed before using phones, tablets, and computers; and video games are only for the weekend. In her home, mature video games and gun violence have no place.

Her children also have their own sets of rules, tailored to fit their personalities and personal tech habits.

Those who are likely to become addicted to screens or who are bucking physical activity and social interaction for screen time are good examples of kids who need more limits. Others will fair fine with less intervention. It’s a parent’s call, but as adults, they will need to be prepared to manage their own tech time.

PROS WEIGH IN In 2016, the American Academy of Pediatrics dumped its “no tech before two” suggestion for a new approach, providing parents a list of age-appropriate recommendations and encouraging family media use.

Check out AAP.org for more.

EDUCATION

PROFILES OUR AREA'S FINEST SCHOOLS & EDUCATION PROGRAMS There are many local San Joaquin County schools that offer dynamic education programs that lead to graduation and adult success. Check out the incredible opportunities that are available to students locally, ranging from scholarships to enrich programs in the arts.

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HARP LEARNING INSTITUTE Harp Learning Institute in Lodi, CA helps students reach grade level success through our research based, five-step program. Students with dyslexia, dysgraphia, dyscalculia, autism, ADD/ADHD, and other learning disabilities thrive in our after-school program or by enrolling in our private school.

One of the hardest things to watch is your smart child struggling in school. Learning disabilities come in many different forms, but rest assured, there is hope! Many students are misdiagnosed with ADD/ADHD or other learning disabilities when they really suffer from dyslexia, visual processing disorders, or issues with processing auditory information.

Harp Learning Institute goes to the root of the problem. First, we offer a free learning evaluation.

From there, we pinpoint the exact problem(s) and form an individualized learning plan for the student that is rich in his/her specific needs. Each one-hour session includes brain training, visual and auditory processing skills, memory building, brain building exercises, and academics taught in a multi-sensory manner allowing students to reach their true potential. Every skill is taught to mastery and the student moves through the program at his/her own pace.

Learning moments are celebrated, encouraged, and reinforced! Ask about our new private school for students with learning disabilities!

FOR MORE INFORMATION: Harp Learning Institute 322 W. Lodi Ave., Lodi (209) 365-0950 HarpInstitute.com

LODI CHRISTIAN SCHOOL

At Lodi Christian School, we believe it is our purpose to provide a sound academic education integrated with a Christian view of God and the world based on the authoritative, infallible Word of God. We are committed to maintaining high academic standards ensuring our students are prepared for high school. A qualified Christian faculty assures the instruction and promotion of strong academic rigors coupled with the teaching of moral and social truth based on Biblical principles, reinforced by Christ-centered living.

The culture of LCS is one of service. The school strives to be a positive force in our community. Our students are challenged to see their world locally and beyond as a platform to serve. We want our students to see themselves as givers, not takers.

Students are encouraged to participate in service projects on and off campus. LCS provides a variety of activities; sports, music, drama, student government and mentoring, all promote godly character and encourage students to explore and develop their Godgiven talents and skills. It is the goal of LCS that students leave well rounded, with a strong foundation and tools for success in high school and life.

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Why choose Lodi Christian School?

We believe the most important thing in a child’s education is the partnership between the home and school. What you, the parent, desire for your child is what we desire too. Our passion and zeal is to connect with our parents at such a deep level that we become a natural extension of the home. Take a

moment to check us out. You will be glad you did!

FOR MORE INFORMATION: LODI CHRISTIAN SCHOOL 751 Lower Sacramento Rd. Lodi, (209) 368-ROAR LodiChristianSchool.com Instagram/Facebook @ lodichristianschool

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FIRST BAPTIST CHRISTIAN SCHOOLS At First Baptist Christian School, we work to ensure our students possess the knowledge and skills necessary to engage today’s culture with a biblical worldview. Utilizing classical teaching methods and curriculum which promote critical thinking, active learning, and reallife application of knowledge our students are taught how, not what to think. Our experienced teachers are passionate about each lesson, purposefully integrating technology, hands-on projects, and class trips to excite and motivate students to learn.

This education goes beyond textbooks as students learn to become active members of society through local and national study trips, service projects, and interactions with public officials and community leaders.

Weekly chapels led by staff members and local church leaders teach biblical life lessons which are

further reinforced in all areas of instruction.

FBCS offers numerous extra-curricular opportunities and electives, such as music/ performing arts, athletics, and student government. Get a taste of what FBCS offers at our 6-week Summer Club program, open

SYLVAN LEARNING CENTER OF STOCKTON Sylvan is about giving your child the skills and confidence for success.

From Pre-K to 12th grade, we’re ready to guide and support your child whether he is having a tough time with schoolwork or needs an advanced challenge to stay engaged. We follow these 5 ideals:

to the community! o learn more or schedule a tour, contact our office today!

FOR MORE INFORMATION: FIRST BAPTIST CHRISTIAN SCHOOLS 3535 N. El Dorado St., Stockton (209) 466-1577, Fbcschools.com

Education is everything. We build a love of learning and develop the confidence and skills to be successful.

• Learning is personal. We offer a personalized approach that works best for your child at the right pace and in the right style.

• Great teachers inspire. We have certified teachers who know today’s teaching methods so you don’t have to be the expert.

• Technology accelerates learning. Our proven tutoring approach with SylvanSync™ technology on the iPad® blends well for a truly engaging education.

• Results matter. Over 35 years, Sylvan has provided great service and great results to millions of students and counting!

• Sylvan Learning of Stockton recently opened last January 15, 2018 and is now ready to serve the areas of Stockton, Lodi and Galt.

FOR MORE INFORMATION: SYLVAN LEARNING OF STOCKTON 526 W. Benjamin Holt Dr., Ste. C Stockton, (209) 910-0074 SylvanLearning.com/stocktonca Stockton.Ca@sylvanlearning.com

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SNELL’S PREKINDERGARTEN SCHOOL Voted 2017 Best of San Joaquin for Pre-Schools, Snell’s Pre-Kindergarten, the oldest privately owned pre-school in California, will begin its 112th year this August! Snell’s teaching style combines old-fashioned values, new educational philosophies, and skills for the challenges children will face in the 21st Century. We are continually developing innovative, specialized programs keeping in mind current academic standards and skills needed for entering Kindergarten.

We continue to offer our traditional Pre-Kindergarten half day programs and also offer a before-and-after-school extended Educare program. In addition, we offer a 5 half-day program for parents wanting more class time for their child.

Snell’s is a happy, loving, and busy learning environment.

Using a defined yet flexible curriculum, along with our renowned music and movement in our 4s program, we help each child learn according with his/her needs and interests.

We strive to make each child feel secure in school; to be responsible; to be independent; to use and expand his/her knowledge and vocabulary; and to be happy in learning and being with other 3, 4, and 5 year olds.

FOR MORE INFORMATION: SNELL’S PRE-KINDERGARTEN SCHOOL 9371 Lower Sacramento Rd., Stockton (209) 478-6161, SnellsPreK.com

SYLVAN LEARNING OF MANTECA Sylvan of Manteca was started in 2003 and has served families in Manteca, Ripon, Lathrop, Tracy, Escalon and Stockton under the leadership of Executive Director Sachin Ambulkar.

Sylvan believes that true learning – the kind that makes your child smarter and more motivated- calls for a personal approach. That is why Sylvan has the four step approach.

Sylvan Assessment gives you unique insight. Sylvan creates a custom learning plan and identifies exactly where children should be placed along Sylvan’s Learning Progression to get the best results.

This is where things really start to click! Sylvan combines expert, personalized instruction with digital tools to accelerate learning. In a one on one or small group setting certified teachers guide, motivate, and encourage children in a way that makes learning personal, rewarding, and fun. Results are extremely important to you and sylvan. Sylvan measures and tracks the progress after each lesson, including how well your child is applying their new skills.

Sylvan offers math, reading, writing, STEM, and college prep programs. Financial aid and scholarships are available to families that qualify.

FOR MORE INFORMATION: SYLVAN OF MANTECA & RIPON 295 Commerce Ave., Manteca (In Spreckels Park) (209) 823-9252, SylvanManteca.com

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TEAM CHARTER SCHOOL TEAM Charter Schools opened its doors to students on September 12, 2011, and is located within the boundaries of the Stockton Unified School District. We currently serve 1000 students from Pre-Kindergarten to Eighth Grade at our 3 locations, 600 East Main Street, 540 East Main Street, and 1016 East Bianchi Rd. The TEAM mission is “To cultivate healthy bodies, minds, and spirits based on compassion and love for all humanity.”

We offer small class sizes, highly qualified teachers, high expectations for academic achievement, a nurturing environment, free after school program (ASES), parent involvement, anti-bullying program, daily breakfast and lunch for students, PTO, art/P.E. program and “Leader In Me” student/parent curriculum. TEAM was also the 2017 Action on Behalf of Children Award Recipient.

The academy is committed to achieving individual and community success and teamwork by bridging cultural norms from a variety of diverse and often misunderstood settings. Emphasis will be on integrating into all subject matter, a non-biased, multicultural, socially just, quality environment embracing the rich cultural diversity of our country, leading to successful student learning outcomes.

FOR MORE INFORMATION: TEAM CHARTER SCHOOL 600 E. Main St., Stockton, (209) 462-2282, Team-charter.org

YMCA OF SAN JOAQUIN COUNTY Honesty, Caring, Respect and Responsibility are the core values of the YMCA of San Joaquin County and the very essence of our programs. Our goal, our passion and what we strive for is to teach these values to all youth. We instill these values during field trips, on the court, in the pool, on the field and everywhere else.

The Y is a positive force in this community. Every day, the Y strengthens our community through programs and services focused on youth development, healthy living, and social responsibility.

Together, we take on the challenges that shape San Joaquin County’s future. From tackling the achievement gap to teaching healthy habits for a lifetime to giving people the chance to strengthen our community through volunteering, everything the Y does is in service of building a stronger us.

PROGRAMS WE OFFER:

• Day Camps (Grades: K-8th) • Preschool • Youth Sports (Ages: 3-17) • Teen Leadership Camps • Child Care • Summer Swim Lessons

FOR MORE INFORMATION: YMCA OF SAN JOAQUIN COUNTY 2105 W. March LN., Ste. 1, Stockton, (209)472-9622, YmcaSjc.org

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CATHEDRAL OF THE ANNUNCIATION SCHOOL Cathedral of the Annunciation School, located in central Stockton, has served the community as a dynamic K-8 Catholic grammar school since 1956. Annunciation School is part of the Roman Catholic Diocese of Stockton and is fully accredited by WASC and WCEA. Our school wide learning expectations emphasize quality academics, faith formation, problem solving, and effective communication skills.

Inspired by the message and teaching of Jesus Christ, the faculty and staff at Annunciation School is dedicated to educating the “whole” student. The students are guided to achieve a healthy balance spiritually, physically, intellectually, socially, and emotionally. We strive to produce ambitious students who use their faith-based values to reach their full potential while never losing sight of the call to serve others.

Integral to learning at Annunciation School are the numerous opportunities for cooperative learning: hands-on activities, public speaking, field trips, and exposure to theater and music. Additionally, Annunciation School has a fully equipped computer lab and 1:1 Chromebooks and iPads for most classrooms. Our dynamic curriculum challenges the students to achieve their personal best and develop a strong foundation for success at the high school and college levels.

FOR MORE INFORMATION: CATHEDRAL OF THE ANNUNCIATION SCHOOL 1110 N. Lincoln St., Stockton (209) 444-4000, Annunciation-School.org

Annunciation School Annunciation School

Learning | | Serving | Achieving Learning Serving | Achieving 1110 N. Lincoln Street | Stockton, CA 95203 | (209) 444-4000

Celebrating 61 years of teaching academic excellence and faith based values • K (full day) - 8th Grade

Helping to

EDUCATE OUR READERS Since 2003

• Fully accredited by WASC and WCEA • Graduates are active Christians, quality academic producers, effective communicators, and problem solvers.

• Progressive and comprehensive curriculum includes science lab, in-class Chromebooks and iPads, performing arts, and many enrichment activities throughout the year • The Annunciation community has long-standing, generational ties and a welcoming, supportive "family" atmosphere 1110 N. Lincoln St. • Stockton, CA • 209.444.4000

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FAMILY FOOTPRINT  BY PAIGE SMITH

The message is crystal clear.

Whether you’re tuning into the radio, watching the news, or running errands around town, it’s obvious that everyone is going green. And why shouldn’t you? After all, recycling that Kombucha bottle is much better for mother earth than the landfill. But even if the world is trying to do its part, how should you? Fret not! We’ve organized top tips that you and your family can follow to create less waste!

RECYCLE

Obvious, and yet so overlooked!

Organizing your trash and taking that extra step to separate your recyclables will not only reduce waste in your community, but your home. Need some ideas on how to get the kids in on this easy, but ultimately boring chore? For once, technology is your friend and not a time-drain! Turn to your favorite social media sites such as Pinterest to uncover creative ways to make recycling fun!

REUSE

Like saving money? Love coffee and other caffeine-riddled beverages?

You’re not the only one. Instead of ordering from Starbucks and tossing those one-use cups, purchase a reusable coffee travel mug and hand it over to the barista when you order. Not only are you investing in sustainability, you’re also getting yourself a nice discount for bringing in a reusable mug! Going to the grocery store? The same concept applies. Purchase a reusable bag and save yourself the extra five cents per plastic bag. Who knows? You may end up saving enough to buy yourself that extra shot of espresso.

GO PAPERLESS

Between phones and computers, everything is at your fingertips.

Literally. Forget to pay a bill? Get to typing, because there’s no need to spend the extra fuel to drive to the

business in question. Got a check that needs cashing? Many banks offer mobile deposit, making bank-runs a thing of the past. Opt-in for paperless statements, bills, and newsletters and find yourself clutter-free! The future is alive, and it’s gone paperless.

UPDATE APPLIANCES

Tired of seeing wallet-crunching electricity bills? Take a close look at

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those appliances you’ve been holding onto since college, because they might be sapping more energy than their newer, energy-efficient successors.

Consider LED lighting to save money, and unplugging certain devices during peak hours. After all, peak hours bring in higher prices, and those few hours may be the perfect time to press off on all the power strips and head outside.

Don’t forget to hit the lights when you’re heading out the door!

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STOCKTON HEAT HOME GAMES

MAR 7, 11, 14, 16, 17, 28

 COMPILED BY COPPER WILLIAMS

Time to take things up a notch at the Stockton Arena! Grab some nachos with the kids and find your seats as the Heat takes to the ice! Themed nights are booming, with Pucks & Paws, LEGO / STEM Night, Stockton Heat Hockey Goes Green, Faith & Family Night, Girl Scout Night, providing unique opportunities to win some cool prizes! Stockton Arena, 248 Fremont St., Stockton, (209) 938-1555, StocktonHeat.com

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KUDOS CHILDREN’S THEATRE PRESENTS: PYRAMID ROCKS! AN EGYPTIAN CINDERELLA STORY

MAR 7 - 10

This isn’t your typical Disney classic! Scoop up the kids and settle into a tale along the ancient Egyptian lands, where our heroine Shemayet needs the help of her own Fairy “Rock” Mother to win the music contest in Pharoah Kufu’s palace! A delight for all ages! KUDOS Children’s Theatre, 1943 W. Lucile Ave., Stockton (209) 507-6996, KudoSCT.com

ALICE IN WONDERLAND TEA PART AT THE GRAND

APRIL 7

The Children’s Dance Theatre of Tracy is ready to apply their skills in another show-stopping good time!

Enjoy a fabulous tea party alongside the Mad Hatter and his friends, including the Queen of Hearts, the Tweedles, the Cheshire Cat, and Alice herself! The fun begins at 11:00 AM! Grand Theatre Center for the Arts, 715 S. Central Ave., Tracy (209) 8316858, AtTheGrand.org

SHOWBIZ THEATRE COMPANY PRESENTS: A MIDSUMMER NIGHT’S DREAM

AMAZING BUBBLE MAN

MAR 13

Who doesn’t love the beautiful splendor of bubbles? Louis Pearl, expert bubble-ologist is ready to take your kids on a spectacular demonstration of bubbles in all shapes and sizes! Enjoy this fun-tastic performance at 5:00 PM! Grand Theatre Center for the Arts,

APRIL 13 – 15, 20 – 22, 27 – 29

William Shakespeare’s hilarious classic arrives center stage to bring laughter along the Mile! Join four lovers on their journey through the forest and straight into a feud between the king and queen of the fairies! If that wasn’t cause enough for concern, the clever and mischievous Puck arrives on the scene to cause more mayhem for all! Showbiz Theatre Company, 1744

715 S. Central Ave., Tracy (209) 831-6858, AtTheGrand.org

MAD HATTER TEA PARTY AT THE HAGGIN

MAR 24

Everyone’s a little mad around here! But whatever for? Why, the Mad Hatter Tea Party, of course! This annual event is a mustattend for little ones and parents alike, with visits from all your favorite cast of whimsical characters! Come dressed up and enjoy treats and engaging activities! Haggin Museum, 1201

Pacific Ave., Stockton (209) 938-0447, ShowbizTheatre.org

KUDOS CHILDREN’S THEATRE PRESENTS: THE STORY OF HANSEL & GRETEL

N. Pershing Ave., Stockton (209} 462-2300, HagginMuseum.org

APRIL 18 – 21

EASTER BUNNY AT LINCOLN CENTER

Follow the poor plight of siblings Hansel and Gretel in a brand new take on the storytime classic! When the children are sent into the woods, they are met with many fascinating creatures, and a horrific witch in a candy-encrusted cottage. KUDOS

MAR 24, 25, 30, 31

It’s bound to be a hopping-good time at Lincoln Center, what with the Easter Bunny paying everyone a visit! Enjoy shopping along the many boutiques and catching lunch before snapping some picture-perfect shots of the little one with their favorite furry friend! Lincoln Center, 345 W. Lincoln

Children’s Theatre, 1943 W. Lucile Ave., Stockton (209) 507-6996, KudoSCT. com

Rd., Stockton, (209) 477-4868

CATAPULT AT HUTCHINS STREET SQUARE

SAN JOAQUIN ASPARAGUS FESTIVAL

Trust us. This is more than meager hand puppets across your bedroom wall. Follow the talents of Catapult Entertainment, the group her made it all the way to the finals in America’s Got Talent. Their skill in mimicking life through shadows provides an incredible new way for you and your family to enjoy art and simultaneously be entertained. The show begins at 8:00 PM. Hutchins Street Square, 125

Get ready to dive into those greens!

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LAST word

LEARNING to SPEAK, AGAIN  BY NORA HESTON TARTE

Cleaning up your vocabulary is part of getting pregnant.

It’s like the day you learn you are with child you start actively avoiding the expletives that probably found their way into your conversations more often than you’d like to admit. And then, you get lucky, because you have at least a year before you really have to stop dropping bombs. Before then, your kids are too young to pick up on it.

I make a conscious effort and I’d like to think I do pretty well. I won’t pretend I’ve never accidentally dropped a foul word in front of my son—because I have and I’ve heard him repeat it—but most of the time, I keep it pretty PG. The problem is, I didn’t realize how many other words I’d have to drop from my vocabulary to raise a well-mannered kid.

It’s words we don’t think twice about using: stupid, dumb, kill,

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dead. I used to call stuff stupid all the time. Now I can’t because my son started calling people stupid and that’s frowned upon on the playground. He still says it occasionally when he’s mad but when I say it, in any context, I’m corrected. “We don’t say stupid, Mom! That’s mean!” I don’t know who is doing the parenting.

I never really put much thought into the words dead or kill either. Obviously violence is too much for a toddler but I used to tell my son, “you kill me!” when he’d make me laugh. Then I had a twoyear-old who walked around laughing and telling people he kills them, or

he kills mom. It wasn’t a good look. Short of becoming Mary Poppins I’m not sure how to be 100 percent politically correct in the preschool world. My son attends a religious preschool so I’ve had to go as far as to teach his nana that we can’t say “Oh my God!” anymore. It’s “oh my gosh,” or “oh, goodness.” The day my son dropped a “God Bless America!” out of frustration in his preschool classroom (a phrase that sounds like a 65-yearold man would say it because he learned it from his papa, a 65-year-old man), his teachers could barely contain their laughter.

As a defense, I’ve added new phrases to my vocabulary that a four-year-old can say at the park without getting side eye from the nearby parents. Nothing is stupid, it’s all silly and the dog isn’t dumb (even though he is), he’s goofy.

Some days I feel like I’m the one learning how to speak.

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