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kids and parent: tidbits

Positive Games for Kids

Children’s Theatre Company Whether your child prefers to take center stage or work behind the scenes, Kudos Children’s Theater Company in Stockton gives kids the chance to work together and build their confidence in a fun and creative atmosphere. The company offers production classes, which are roughly ten weeks long and culminate with a live show (eight per year); and workshops, which are shorter and cover topics like acting and vocal performance. The company even has a popular theater makeup class, where kids learn to use professional materials like latex and spirit gum to create monstrous makeup effects.

The company was started by Sarah and Richard Rushton, and Rob and Ria Kroff, who wanted to provide local kids with a creative outlet that had previously been missing in San Joaquin. Working with the Parks and Recreation Department, they were able to found Kudos in 2003.

“Kids run everything here,” says co-founder Sarah Rushton.

“They’re onstage, back stage, doing lighting, microphones, stage managing, ushering, running the deck, helping with scene shifts.

They all rely on each other to pull this off.” Kudos classes are available for kids as young as 3 and as old as 19 years old. Classes and workshops run throughout the year, and can be viewed on the Kudos website. —Katy Berry For more information: Kudos Children’s Theatre Company 1943 W. Lucile Ave., Stockton (209) 507-6996, kudosct.com

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BY KATIE DONAHUE Two years ago, the Lodi Unified School District was forced to lose its band program due to budget cuts. As a response, Bear Creek High School music teacher, Joe Sandoval, created the Bruin Elementary Bands program in an effort to keep music alive for local kids. Today, more than eighty elementary school students gather at Bear Creek High School each Tuesday afternoon to participate in Sandoval’s program.

Sandoval began playing the clarinet when he was in fifth grade and has been teaching music for twenty-five years. Today, the saxophone is his primary instrument, though he is required to play all of the band instruments in order to teach. Sandoval combined forces with Kathy Evans of Manilo Silva Elementary in order to organize the current after-school program.

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Two Bear Creek alumni also participate as band director and percussion instructor. The turnout for the program was much higher than Sandoval expected, and children from local public, private, and charter schools are all welcome to participate. “I have to admit I was surprised that we had such an overwhelming response given the economic climate,” says Sandoval, adding that the number of kids involved says a lot about local families and their commitment to their children’s education.

To encourage new students to join, the program occasionally hosts a ‘Meet the Instruments Night’ in which a variety of instruments are put on display for students to test. “That’s always an amazing evening, to see the kids having so much fun,” says Sandoval. “A lot of kids come in with an idea of what they want to play and come away with something completely different.” Music not only benefits a child’s development in terms of cognitive ability, small motor coordination, and eye scanning, but it benefits them socially as well. “When you’re in a band, it’s like you’re in a family. You have a place where you belong.” Sandoval says that band participation helps students develop leadership

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skills, cooperation, and personal responsibility.

Sandoval says he hopes that every student who participates in the program will develop a lifelong love of music, and a participation in music that extends beyond high school and college. The students held their winter concert in December, and Sandoval is looking to hold future performances at some of the larger elementary schools. In May, a final spring concert will be held at Bear Creek High School.

Though the budget cuts have been a disappointing reality, the school district is doing the best they can with what they have to work with, Sandoval says, adding that they have had to make tough decisions. “I’m hoping and crossing my fingers that it will get better,” he says. Ultimately, Sandoval says he’d like to see music programs taught by band teachers in local schools again, thereby eliminating the need for his program. Until that day comes, he is committed to providing this resource to local students. “I will do it as long as it’s necessary,” he says.

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Greening our Babies’ Bottoms

BY KATY BERRY

Nowadays, everyone seems to be getting organic and earth-friendly, including new moms. It’s no wonder the old-school cloth diaper method is becoming en vogue.

Besides the fact that they look cute and have funny names like Cutie Poops or Pooters, parents are also switching over for health concerns and monetary reasons.

Still, for many, the idea of reusing diapers elicits a cringe. So are cloth diapers really better than disposables?

The biggest reason why moms are switching over to cloth diapers is due to proposed health risks. Since the diaper industry is self regulating, it’s not required to list diaper ingredients on the label.

Disposable diapers contain a variety of plastics, adhesives, glues, elastics and lubricants, some of which can cause irritation. In 2010 Pampers was the subject of two lawsuits that connected their “dry max” technology with serious rashes, though Pampers denied allegations in both cases. Two particularly eye-raising ingredients include polyacrylate, the “super absorbent gel” which has been linked 12

to toxic-shock syndrome; and dioxin, a carcinogenic chemical which comes from the diapers being bleached white with chlorine. However, according to a study by the US EPA, “exposure to dioxins from the diet is more than 30,000-2,200,000 times the exposure through diapers.”

Still, parents are finding peace of mind by eliminating these risk factors from their bundle of joys’ bottoms.

Another reason parents are choosing cloth diapers is to save money. Despite a start-up cost of roughly $125 or more, boxes of disposables can be narrowed down to one drawer of cloth diapers that is replenished with every wash load. The saving can be anywhere from $25-$55 per month, depending on how rigorous the parents’ cleaning and sanitizing methods are. The savings definitely add up, but it’s also more time consuming for parents who must wash, prepare, and change the cloth diapers, which require more finesse than disposables. Along with the issue of convenience is the question of how one cleans cloth diapers. It’s basically

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done exactly how you imagine it, and yes, sometimes a designated spatula is necessary. This reason alone is enough to have parents saying, no thanks.

But the eco-conscious angle is undeniable. According to an article on thenewparent.com, “Roughly 5 million tons of untreated waste and a total of 2 billion tons of urine, feces, plastic and paper are added to landfills annually.” The disposable diaper industry argues that increased wash loads aren’t better for the environment either, but their argument falls flat next to those numbers.

At the end of the day, every baby and parent is different. What is healthy for your child, convenient for you, and cost effective for the household varies from family to family. So do your research, and pick whichever feels right. One thing is for sure though, cloth diapers are undeniably cuter.

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Raising Readers

BY JENNIFER THORNTON

Video games, apps, and gadgets that begin with the letter “i,” oh my! Bound and determined to increase your kids’ love of books? Read all about it.

Make it the kids’ choice

A common mistake parents make is expecting their kids to love the same books that snag their attention. Kids have interests that don’t always jive with adults (you might love American Girl books, for example, but your little adventurer leans more towards Scholastic’s I Survived series), so hand over the decision-making. Kids who have ownership of their reading material—and a library card—are more likely to read simply for pleasure. And parents, not every book needs to be educational.

The surest way to capsize your kid’s enthusiasm is to over-stress the learning curve. So table the edification, and keep the focus on fun.

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Read aloud

Carving out time to read to your child is one of the most nurturing acts a parent can give. So, no matter how harried the schedule, take a calming ten minutes before bedtime to snuggle close together and read—kids enjoy taking turns (you pick a book, I pick a book; you turn a page, I turn a page). And don’t just blather on—engage interest; Pause to look at the pictures, ask for your child’s thoughts about what is happening in the story, ask them to predict what will happen next, talk about how the story makes them feel, and what they might do differently. Doing so brings characters to life and fosters conversation.

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Set the example

Want your kids to be readers?

Turn off the tube, stash the laptop, and shut off your cell. The most effective way to get your kids to become enthusiastic readers is to be one yourself. Go to story time with your kids, schedule a family reading circle at home, and make a weekly library date for the entire tribe.

Over dinner, ask everyone which books they checked out, and why. And by all means, take five and read for yourself!

Incorporate technology

Leverage your kids’ insta-interest in technology to increase their love of books. Surf the websites of their favorite authors to build anticipation for their newest releases, have them join an online book club for kids (clubs.scholastic.com), or track their reading minutes online (SoarwithReading.com). PBSkids. org is a virtual trove of educational games, writing contests and activities that invite kids to safely explore the interactive world of books.

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“Mom, Dad—I have a question.” Oh jeez, you think, here it comes. Your brain freezes, your heart races, and you brace for the inevitable freak out. Yes, kids say the darndest things, but they ask the darndest questions too— and usually when you are least prepared to answer them.

No matter what, you can’t avoid the sweat-inducing inevitable.

As long as there are kids on Earth, awkward questions will be posed. But according to noted psychologist Susan Bartell (drsusanbartell.com), author of The Top 50 Questions Kids Ask, you can and should prepare yourself to respond to any tricky inquiry, and the hotbutton issue lurking behind it.

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not retreat. Take your child’s question seriously, even if it seems absolutely absurd to you (which in the early years is often). Doing so signals to your child that you take him seriously, fostering parental-child trust that opens up conversation later on in adolescence, when the questions become more serious—and so do the discussions.

So, from the merely curious (“Do dogs understand English?”) to the most unbelievble OMG moment you can imagine (“Why is Daddy on top of you?”), here’s what to say when your kids ask…

WHERE DO YOU GO WHEN YOU DIE? THE REAL ISSUE: Death—what’s it all about? For starters, it is a part of life universal to the human experience. And yet, perhaps due to their own spiritual conflicts

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or grieving process, many parents are either unwilling or unable to discuss it with their kids, choosing in some way to “shield” them from the pain. Although, developmentally, many kids have trouble grappling with the complexities of loss, it is a comfort to them when their parents openly talk about their feelings surrounding it, thereby encouraging them to do the same and dispelling their fears.

THE RESPONSE: “Your response should be another question—Where do you think?” says Dr. Bartell, who adds that because there is no right or wrong answer, it is best to just validate your child’s feelings. “Allow them to explore their own emotions and let them know that you respect the way they feel.”

TEEN TALK: For most teens the underlying issue is more spiritual in nature. For example, a query might mask itself as more of a statement—“I’m not sure I believe in heaven.” Similar to younger children, it

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is important to let your teen show interest and to freely explore his feelings. “This is not a time to force your own belief system or opinions, it will simply make your teen rebel even more,” explains Dr. Bartell.

“Encourage him to keep exploring and to talk to many people to learn different viewpoints. But at the same time, articulate your beliefs because your teen will eventually incorporate it into what he believes.”

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much they pry. Instead, advises Dr. Bartell, “focus on generalities and your teen’s life now. Resist the urge to explain further, which at this point won’t be helpful—no matter what your answer.”

WHY DON’T YOU LIVE HERE ANYMORE—DON’T YOU LOVE US? THE REAL ISSUE: Divorce. Too often kids of divorce are caught in the middle of their parents’ conflict, not only causing emotional confusion,

“Mom, Dad– I have a question.”

THE REAL ISSUE: Sex. (Gulp.) First of all, don’t panic. Kids are first and foremost curious. It’s natural for them to want to know how they got here.

Usually, at the early stages, that’s all this question means, no more, no less.

but also resentment and mistrust.

They may internalize the split, and sadly, take the blame.

THE RESPONSE: For young kids, keep it about the “birds and the bees.” Be clear—give an honest, concrete answer. “And don’t,” suggests Dr. Bartell, “give more information than your child actually wants. Talk a bit, then ask if your discussion has answered his question or if he needs more information. Stop when he says, ‘That’s enough.’ This is often a

not connected,” says Dr. Bartell.

multipart talk.”

key is to not try and change their opinion. Instead, explains Dr. Bartell, acknowledge and take ownership of the hardship that the divorce has caused. “Apologize but explain—as often as need be—how the marriage was irreconcilable. Remind your child of a time when they broke up a friendship that wasn’t good. Be sure to keep teens out of the fighting or problems.”

IF DRINKING IS BAD FOR YOU, THEN WHY DO YOU DO IT? THE REAL ISSUE: Substance use. Media images, marketing campaigns and parental use of these substances give a kind of greenlight to kids that drinking, smoking, or using drugs is “cool” or

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THE RESPONSE: “It is best to focus the conversation on how adults may fall out of love but parents never stop loving their kids—the two are TEEN TALK: Divorce is often much harder on teens whose question may be, “How can you do this to me?”

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TEEN TALK: It’s tricky for teens. And of course, the question is completely different and more likely to manifest in this form: “So, how old were you when you first had sex?” In today’s highly-charged sexualized society, parents are hearing this question earlier than they probably asked it.

So, feign calmness and be open to their inquiry, but not as open with your own private life, no matter how

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acceptable—especially those with fragile selfesteems who are struggling to find their own identities.

The Three Things Parents Should Never Say or Do… “You don’t want to shut your child down or make them feel that they can’t ask you questions,” explains Dr. Bartell. With that in mind, never…

• Freak out. Don’t get angry or cry.

• Say, “You’re wrong.”

• Tell your child that you don’t believe him or her; keep exploring.

Creating a “Let’s Talk” Environment “Please, feel free to ask.” How many times have you uttered that phrase to random strangers? And yet many parents never say these powerful words to their own children. Here, Dr. Bartell tips off parents to ways they can foster a trustworthy environment that will encourage their kids to discuss with them their innermost concerns and questions—for the long haul (teen years included).

• Don’t judge your child or their peers.

• Don’t talk too much; listen instead.

• Allow your child to talk about topics that seem trivial to you—they’ll never ask questions about important things if they don’t think you care about what’s less important.

• Resist the urge to ask too many questions yourself— save this for “once in a while.”

• Don’t make fun of any question your child asks, and don’t laugh either.

• Don’t let older siblings make fun of questions asked, thereby seeming to dismiss the issue—and the child posing the questions.

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THE RESPONSE: Start by clearly differentiating what is legal age and what is not. Then, says Dr. Bartell, “Explain the difference between drinking one glass and getting drunk.” Do this for younger kids by using the analogy of eating one piece of candy versus a whole bag and getting a stomach ache. Give them a full picture of what is responsible and what is excessive.

TEEN TALK: Underage drinking and, more commonly, recreational to serious drug use, is an issue that many kids face, even those with so-called “good upbringings.” Also, teens are always trying to test the limits and jockeying for control—usually this means that they will try and prove you wrong. In verbal form this appears as, “Did you drink when you were my age?” Don’t take the bait. “Typically, it’s best not to engage this question,” Dr, Bartell affirms. “But if you must, then focus on how you only tried it briefly, didn’t continue, and that you regret it.” Follow this up with a consequence that will clearly resonate with them (i.e. “I got kicked off the team” or “I lost my driving privileges and my car.”)

WHY DIDN’T I GET INVITED TO THAT PARTY? THE REAL ISSUE: Social Ostracism. As kids get older they start to align with certain groups— some children are “in,” and some are “out.”

Kids on the fringes of the inner circle feel bad and so do their parents, who must never attack another child or their parents, no matter how miffed.

THE RESPONSE: “Resist the urge to blame the other person,” Dr. Bartell says. “Focus instead on the friends your child does have. Remind him that not everyone can be everyone’s friend—it’s not realistic.” If he is having a hard time socially, emphasize behaviors he may need to change to help fit in. This may involve social skills training that will help him identify and adapt to social cues.

TEEN TALK: “If your teen is being left out, discuss with him why this may be the case,” says Dr. Bartell, adding that perhaps he is behaving in a way that is sabotaging social situations.” Like a younger child, he may need help from a trained professional.

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Have you ever wondered what California’s coastal geography looked like 400 years ago?

If you have, consider a visit to Channel Islands National Park, comprised of five islands located in a serene eight-island archipelago. Established in 1980, the trip requires a short but exciting boat or plane ride to get there, but it’s worth the extra effort to visit this magnificent national treasure. Since there are only minimalist campsites available, we recommend staying nearby in the welcoming, nextdoor-neighbor beach cities of Ventura or Oxnard.

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What to see and do: Channel Islands National Park: The most popular and largest island to visit is Santa Cruz, which offers visitors plenty of exploratory options. You can get there by private boat or through a charter, but we highly recommend the primary transporter: Island Packers, which is licensed by the National Park Service and will get you there in about an hour. The boat also makes efforts to slow down if dolphins or whales are spotted. (islandpackers.com) Once on the island, your options include hiking, birding, snorkeling, scuba diving, swimming, backpacking, kayaking and exploring. Our personal hiking trek through the rolling hills

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and near the cliffs provided unbelievable vistas of the California coastline. (nps.gov/ channelislands) Our kayaking experience was the best guide-led ocean kayak venture we’ve had in years. We explored a variety of other amazing tunnels and grottos, including a 400 foot paddle into Cavern Point Cave. (kayaksb.com)

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Although Ventura is not nearly as well known as other California coastal communities, it should be. Great beaches, exciting surfing spots, a beautiful harbor and wonderful walking/biking trails along the water are welcome surprises. Shopping stops at the world renowned Patagonia headquarters will entice the outdoor aficionado and

Cheap Sports is nearby for those seeking sporting goods bargains. (patagonia.com, realcheapsports.com) Buenaventura Art Gallery concentrates on featuring talented local artists, (buenaventuragallery.org) and the Erle Stanley Gardner Building— the “birthplace of Perry Mason mystery literature and TV shows”—is slated to be developed into a dramatic special events venue. For all things Ventura: ventura-usa. com

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Maybe even less known than Ventura, Oxnard also offers many pleasant surprises, especially their Channel Islands Harbor and numerous un-crowded, well-maintained beaches.

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Automotive Museum, a display of the world’s largest collection of stunning Bugatti and French race cars. (mullinautomotivemuseum.com) Ventura County Maritime Museum presents one of the country’s best collections of model tall ships and other nautical exhibits. (vcmm. org) Jim Hall Kart Racing School and Track have been highly touted by Motor Trend Magazine. (jimhallkartracing.com) Try renting a popular Duffy Electric Boat and enjoy a quiet excursion throughout the picturesque harbor channels. (hopperboatrentals.com) Sign up for a sport fishing trip to the islands and expect great catch results including sole, sand dabs, rock fish, red snapper, lobster and crab. (hookslanding.net)

of all their suites should only enhance their reputation. Dining in their Capistrano Restaurant offers California cuisine and their Sunday brunch has been voted the county’s best. (embassymandalay.com) For other dining picks, La Dolce Vita is a local fave located in a restored historic residence in Heritage Square, and features Italian/Mediterranean fusion cuisine. (theldv.com) SeaFresh Restaurant at the harbor is a delightful casual al fresco dining experience. (seafreshci.com) Cabo Seafood Grill and Cantina, a very popular hangout for local’s, features authentic Mexican fare and homemade tortillas.

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Where to stay and dine: Oxnard: Our first choice for lodging when visiting the area is Mandalay Bay Resort, an Embassy Suites property. We’ve stayed here at least four times over the past twenty years and have never been disappointed. Lush landscaping and a dazzling beach-side location make it a no-brainer. Current ongoing renovations 24

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Monster Jam January 20-22, Sacramento Professional drivers will amaze with the power of their trucks and their amazing stunts. This mix of racing and showmanship draws more than four million fans into arenas and stadiums every year, making it one of the largest touring family shows in the world. Show times vary. $22.50-$52.50. Powerbalance Pavillion, One Sports Parkway, Sacramento, (916) 928-6900, powerbalancepavillion.com

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Harlem Globetrotters January 17, Stockton For 85 years, the Harlem Globetrotters have been wowing audiences with their impeccable athletic ability, sense of humor, and undeniable skills with a basketball. Not only do they know how to run opponents up and down the court, but these mavericks will impress you with their amazing tricks as they spin balls, slam dunks, and keep you guessing throughout their 2012 world tour. Come see the team’s new rookies this year, including the shortest Globetrotter ever, the tallest pro basketball player, and the first female Globetrotter in 19 years. 7 p.m. $16-$83. Stockton Arena, 248 W. Fremont St. Stockton, (209) 373-1400, stocktonarena.com.

Monster X Tour January 6-7, Stockton For the first time ever, Stockton will be the motorsport entertainment epicenter, as the nation’s most competitive Monster Trucks and Metal Mulisha FMX Stunt Riders invade the Stockton Arena for this exciting, family-friendly event. See the biggest performers on four wheels weighing in at 10,000 pounds as they compete in racing, wheelie contests and much more. Then rock the house with amazing freestyle action during the Metal Mulisha FMX! Plus, you can meet the drivers and see the trucks up close at the pre-event Autograph Pit Party. 7 p.m. $7-$32. Stockton Arena, 248 W. Fremont St. Stockton, (209) 373-1400, stocktonarena.com 26

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The Allure of Water Through January 22, Stockton This exhibit features over 100 new paintings by on-location painters from across the country. Members from the Plein-Air Painters of America and other guest artists will display their depictions of water in all of its forms, from rain and glaciers, to oceans and swamps. This multifaceted natural resource has captivated artists since the earliest times, and viewers will delight in its variety of moods, colors, and textures. Hours vary. Adults $5, seniors/students/kids $2.50. Free to museum members and children under 10. The Haggin Museum, 1201 N. Pershing Ave., Stockton, (209) 940-6300, hagginmuseum.com

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January 21, Lodi Creepy-crawly experts from the Bohart Museum of Entomology at UC Davis and the Lodi Serpentarium will be bringing their fascinating displays and other surprises to share with fellow bug lovers at the WOW Science Museum. Kids and parents will have much to explore and discover as they learn all about their favorite insects from the experts. Insectfest will also have free face painting, arts and crafts, and games for all ages. 10 a.m.-3 p.m. $6 adults, $4 kids. World of Wonders Science Museum, 2 North Sacramento St., Lodi (209) 368-0969, wowsciencemuseum.com

Disney on Ice: Toy Story 3 February 8-12, Stockton Join Woody, Buzz, and all their pals in this new ice spectacular.

Watch as your favorite toys escape from the toddlers of Sunnyside Daycare and try to find their way home. Relive memorable moments from the original Toy Story and Toy Story 2 movies, and get acquainted with new faces like Lots-O’Huggin’ Bear and Barbie’s new beau, Ken. It will be a night of adventure, friendship and fun! Dates and times vary. $14-$65.

Stockton Arena, 248 W. Fremont St., Stockton, (209) 373-1400, stocktonarena.com

Stockton Thunder January 27, Stockton Come support Stockton’s own hockey team and get rowdy with the Thunder mascot as you watch our boys battle the Alaska Aces on ice. You don’t need to know much about hockey to take in the energy and excitement of this sport. The Thunder will also be giving away a free adult black replica jersey to the first one thousand fans (ages 18+) to arrive, so you can sport your team pride all year long. 7:30 p.m. $7-$28. Stockton Arena, 248 W. Fremont St., Stockton, (209) 373-1400, stocktonarena.com

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Cinderella February 9-12, Sacramento This ballet tells the classic story of love, humor, pumpkin coaches, and midnight deadlines. Ron Cunnigham’s take on this beloved fairytale has graced stages across the world with its phenomenal dancing and beautiful music, but hasn’t been seen in Sacramento since 1997. Come see the familiar characters you know and love—with a twist—or, shall we say, pirouette? Show times vary. $17-$68. Community Center Theater,

McKee Student Art Contest & Exhibition

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February 2-April 12, Stockton Join the Haggin Museum for their 81st annual McKee Student Art Contest & Exhibition, the longest running student art contest in the nation. The exhibition was the vision of founding patron Robert T. McKee, and features the artwork of students from kindergarten through 12th grade. Hours vary. Adults $5, seniors/students/ kids $2.50. Free to museum members and children under 10. The Haggin Museum, 1201 Pershing Ave., Stockton, (209) 940-6300,

February 9-18, Stockton This comic book musical spoof offers singing superheroes, dancing villains, and lots of laughs. Stanley Leonardo Sappovitz, a janitor at Wonder Comics, dreams of becoming a comic book artist. When a set of magical pens brings the staff’s creations to life, mayhem ensues and Stanley’s own superheroes must save the day. Show times vary. $10.

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Dangerous Dinos February 17-18, Tracy Join three pre-historic superheroes, Ty Rex, Rocko Gecko, and Bubby, as they share with you their mission to be earth-friendly, resist violence, and follow the 4 D’s: “Dinos Don’t Do Drugs!” These adventurous dinosaurs will take you on a fun journey filled with music and surprises, as you learn about respecting yourself and others. Friday at 7 p.m., Saturday at 2 p.m.

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Jacqueline Kurtzer I’m a new mother of a very busy 10-month-old boy named Aiden and the wife of Tyler Kurtzer, an amazing husband. I am a woman with ambition, drive, and the desire to make positive contributions to my community while at the same time being the best mother and wife that I can be.

Aiden was born in March 2011 and from the first time I looked into his eyes, I felt an unconditional love and bond that can neither be explained nor broken. His smile makes my heart melt and his laugh brings tears to my eyes. I feel so lucky to have been blessed with such an amazing little boy. I was fortunate enough to spend the first five months of Aiden’s life at home with him. Then the reality started setting in that soon I’d have to go back to work and wouldn’t be able to spend my days playing peek-a-boo or taking countless pictures of him sleeping, eating or even playing with his newly found toes. And yes, I really do have albums full of these things.

The idea of going back to work made me extremely nervous. I feared that no one could possibly take care of Aiden and care for him the way I did. The Lord blessed me again, with my mom volunteering to watch him when I returned to work. What really surprised me was that after I dropped him off, I was never overly concerned with how he was doing. I never worried if he was getting enough hugs and kisses throughout the day or if she sang little songs to him as she changed his diaper, like I did. I worked my eight hours then hurried home to see my happy little angel. My mom cares for him as though he was her own. It’s truly heartwarming to watch the two of them together.

Married to: Tyler Kurtzer Apart from someone caring for Aiden during the Kids: Aiden Kurtzer day, my second concern was family/career time.

How would Tyler and I balance the two? Finding a harmonious balance between career and home life was a little tough for us in the beginning. Tyler works out of town for Apple and his schedule is very inconsistent; combine that with my events schedule and you’ve got one hectic calendar. We sat down and agreed that we would always take at least two family outings a week. Let it be walks around Oak Park, trips to the zoo, a day in San Francisco, or even a weekend in Lake Tahoe, we will always make weekly time for our family. I also always make sure Aiden has the equally important ‘Mommy and Aiden’ time. No matter how chaotic or busy I get, each evening we always share what I call the 4B’s: Bath, Bottle, Book, and Bed. I’ve never missed a 4B’s night and I never will!

I’ve always considered myself a very strong and ambitious person, but having Aiden has really made me want to reach for the stars in order to provide the best life possible for my son. My main motivation, inspiration and desire for life comes from the love I give and receive daily from my son and husband. And I wouldn’t change it for the world!

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Delta Charter National Junior Forensic League Students: University of the Pacific recently held the 32nd annual Jon Schamber High School Forensics Tournament. The event was a great success (as it always has been) but this year there was something different about the event, for the first time the event hosted its first National Junior Forensics participants (middle school students in grades 6-8 were allowed to participate in the competition). One local charter school, Delta Charter School, was among the only schools in the central valley who entered middle school students into the competition; in fact Delta Charter is among the only public schools in California’s Central Valley that is offering National Junior Forensics. Recently Delta Charter School launched the Central Valley’s first National Junior Forensic Team (grades 6-8) that will begin competing on a National level in the 2011-12 school year. The development of the Junior Team is a result of Delta’s strong showing in National High School Forensic Competitions. Delta has moved into

the top tier (top 10%) nationwide in the area Forensics and it only makes sense that Delta begins preparing students even sooner to participate in this great student growth opportunity.

According to the National Junior Forensic League (NFJL) participation in competitive speech and debate provides a highly effective way for middle level students to build communication skills including speaking, listening, and writing. These critical skills translate into significant advantages in school and later, the workforce. In fact, studies show that students who are trained in speech and debate tend to earn higher grades and score higher on standardized tests. In addition, students who are trained in forensics typically demonstrate superior critical thinking skills, which enable them to be judicious consumers of information and powerful voices of logic.

Additionally, NJFL builds confidence in young speakers. Early exposure to public speaking may help obviate

stage fright in young orators; giving them a significant advantage over their respective student peers and adults alike (most folks would rather see a doctor for a medical procedure rather than speak in front of others). Equally important, forensics gives junior high school students a place to belong.

Forensics also helps students develop social skills involving empathy and conflict. According to Adam Jacobi of the NJFL, the National Middle School Association profiles needs of the young adolescent for success in the middle grades. It discusses cognitive development for problem solving and abstract thinking, as well as the social/ emotion development for awareness of self and others.

Education of young adolescents through participation in speech and debate activities provides them an opportunity to apply their developing thinking and social awareness through communication. In fact, fostering these skills at a younger age solidifies stronger

roots by which students can flourish in high school and beyond. There is a growing raft of research that indicates those students who hold the rank of Speech and Debate Captain are much more likely to enroll and finish when it comes to college coursework. There is also a body of evidence that indicates these students are prepared to be tomorrow’s leaders in the classroom, the courtroom or the floor of the legislature!

The NJFL extends the opportunities of participating in speech and debate to junior high students. Regional junior high tournaments begin training youth for leadership. The National Forensic League is expanding its dedication to its NJFL program, to build a stronger foundation for our Nation’s Future Leaders by supporting an earlier start to participation in forensics. Delta Charter School has made the same commitment to support early participation in forensics to grow strong student leaders.

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Bumble-Ardy by Maurice Sendak When a little pig named Bumble-Ardy is adopted by his aunt Adeline, he gets to celebrate his birthday for the first time.

But when his aunt goes to work, Bumble-Ardy’s birthday fun gets a bit out of hand.

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