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Sarah Lyons
Teagan (5 mos.) and big brother Trent (3) of Carmel Valley
Helping a child transition to the
role of older sibling is exciting and challenging. While adding another child to the family provides kids with a lifelong friend and playmate, the soon-to-be big brother (or sister) may feel reluctant to share his turf. Many parents worry about how their child will react to a new baby and do their best to reassure their big kid that he is an important part of the family. There are additional things parents can do to make the transition easier. Here are dos and don’ts for each stage of adjusting to a new baby.
18 • SanDiegofamily.com • March 2019
During Pregnancy What to expect: Your child may anticipate that a change is coming as he watches you prepare the nursery and get things in order. He may start to act up because he doesn’t understand what’s going on. The idea of a new baby seems abstract. DO: • Put off big changes like potty training or transitioning to a big kid bed. • Get a baby doll for big brother or sister to practice baby care.
• Read books about families who have a new baby. • Answer questions. • Take a siblings class at a local hospital, if offered and age appropriate. • Spend extra time with your child and reassure him that you love him. Do NOT: • Blame your limitations on the baby or pregnancy, which creates negativity associated with the baby. • Promise an instant playmate.
