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Contents April 2025
Planning for Your Future Part 1
Dinner Recipe: Coconut Curry Chicken
Grumpy But Grateful
Event: Hadestown at Gogue Performing Arts
Event: We Shall Someday at ASF
Event: April Walking Tours
Event: Menopause the Musical 2 at MPAC
Event: Caregiver of the Month
Event: 6th Annual Music and Mudbugs
Event: Leonid & Friends
Event: NAMI Walk
Event: Masterworks 4: Gershwin
Event: 2025 Herb Day
Word Search Contest
Housing During Retirement
Publisher’s Letter
Spring Forward and Laugh On!
Founder Jim Watson (1950-2024)
Publisher
Jason Watson
334.328.5189 cell/text jason@riverregionboom.com
Editor
DeAnne Watson
334.462.0225 cell/text
Contributing Writers
Jeff Barganier
Greg Budell
Anna Champagne
Rebecca Hastings
Randi Mazzella
Pam Molnar
Susan Moore
Nick Thomas
Cover Photography
Photography by DiAnna Paulk photographybydiannapaulk.com
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Spring is here—and in Alabama, that means one thing: we’re balancing sunny hope with storm watches and a pollen count that could take down a grown man. But even through the sneezing and the sideways rain, this season has a way of waking us up. There’s something about the light lasting longer, the grass turning greener, and the Easter promise of renewal that nudges us toward new beginnings—or at least toward hosing off the pollen-covered porch furniture.
In this issue, we celebrate the spirit of spring—messy, meaningful, and sometimes hilarious.
Greg Budell kicks things off with his signature wit in STUFF!, taking a comical look at our collective obsession with spring cleaning. Turns out, most of us have enough “stuff” tucked away in garages and closets to supply a small village— or at least a very confused episode of Antiques Roadshow. Whether it’s rogue socks stolen by a cat or a long-lost science project turned biohazard, Greg reminds us that a little laughter can go a long way, even when armed with Windex and a garden hose.
If you're more into birds than brooms, our guide to Creating a Backyard Bird Sanctuary will show you how to turn your patio or yard into a feathered oasis. It’s practical, inspiring, and a good excuse to procrastinate yard work in the name of “habitat building.”
And if you’re looking for a spring escape without leaving the state, don’t miss Jeff Barganier’s Travel Experiences feature, Fiddler’s Green. Nestled in the hills near Jacksonville, Alabama, this enchanting property is part history lesson, part wedding venue, and all heart. You’ll meet Chris and Heather Dempsey, whose love for music, antiques, and family have transformed their land into a slice of Celtic heaven. Trust me—after reading this, you’ll be checking your calendar for a road trip.
Speaking of heart, our cover profile shines the spotlight on Cassandra Wheeler— educator, caregiver, dancer, and all-around powerhouse. Her story is one of faith, resilience, and redefining what it means to age with joy and purpose. Cassandra’s wisdom, humor, and honesty will resonate with anyone who’s ever faced change, embraced challenge, or danced through a storm.
And if you need a good laugh (and maybe a little validation for that pickle-jar struggle), don’t miss this month’s Grumpy but Grateful. Let’s just say that grocery store gymnastics should be an Olympic sport.
As we enter this season of growth, may we all take time to clean out the clutter—not just in our closets, but in our minds and schedules. May we notice the birdsong, honor the laughter, and remember the deeper renewal that Easter brings.
Here’s to a fresh start, a few wildflowers, and maybe even a clean grill.
Age Well, My Friends,
The mission of BOOM! is to serve the folks of the River Region age 50 plus with information and ideas to inspire new experiences, better quality of life and new beginnings.
Planning For Your Future (Part 1)
In planning for your financial and healthcare future, several issues must be considered. Start by analyzing your current situation and determining your goals for the future. Below are a few things to contemplate:
Who are you planning for?
• Yourself, your spouse, your children/ grandchildren, your parents, others?
• Are the legal documents for the individuals in your plan in order? (Financial and Medical Powers of Attorney, Advance Directive, Trusts, Wills, etc?)
• If your plan includes others, are any of the individuals underaged, have special needs, substance abuse issues, moneymanagement challenges, medical or mental challenges, etc.?
Do you or individuals in your plan have long-term-care insurance (“LTC”)?
• If so, what are the policy requirements that must be satisfied for the LTC to provide financial support and to reimburse for healthcare assistance for a facility (up to your daily limit)?
• If not, should a LTC policy be purchased?
• Alternatively, do you plan to self-insure for your LTC needs?
Are you or individuals in your plan eligible for veteran benefits?
• Did you or any of the individuals in your plan serve in the military?
Will you or individuals in your plan possibly need Medicaid?
Once you start planning for the future, you may wish to consult with an attorney. At the initial meeting, he or she will ask whether you have Powers of Attorney (financial and medical). [1] These are the most important documents while you are living.
Your attorney may also give you a workbook that will assist you in organizing your assets. The following are some questions that may be asked when completing your workbook:
• How each of your bank accounts, real property, and any of your other assets are titled is very important in determining what transfers, if any, happen automatically upon death. (Your attorney will further discuss with you the pros and cons of how you have titled your accounts for all of your current assets and what changes, if any, you want to consider.)
• Do you have beneficiaries and/or contingent beneficiaries for retirement accounts, life insurance, etc.?
• Do you have long-term care insurance? [2]
• Did you or your spouse serve in the military? [3]
• Another consideration in determining your path is whether you may need Medicaid [4] in the future.
When you analyze your assets, you and your attorney will have a better idea
of what your paths may be and how to accomplish your goals. You and your attorney can discuss options “legal documents”: wills, trusts (revocable, irrevocable), special needs trusts, pooled trusts, etc. based on your goals and your beneficiaries’ situations.
In June, Part 2 of this article we will highlight some of the legal documents mentioned in this article in more detail and how they may fit into planning for your future.
Senior Law Solutions, LLC offers a variety of opportunities to assist individuals and their families with aspects of Elder Law Care, Estate Planning, and Life Care Planning with individualized plans. If you have questions or want to learn more, visit www.seniorls.com or call 334. 758.9400.
Alabama State Bar Requires the Following: “No representation is made that the quality of the legal services to be performed is greater than the quality of legal services performed by other lawyers.”
Responsible Attorney: Anne Elizabeth McGowin.
[1]Powers of Attorney-See June 2023 Boom Article
[2] Paying for Aging in Place Support: Part 1. Long-Term Care Insurance-See April 2024 Boom Article
[3] Veteran Service Office. See February 2024 Boom Article
[4] Paying for Aging in Place Support: Part 2. Medicaid-See June 2024 Boom Article
Coconut Curry Chicken
1000x better than takeout! Tender chicken + veggies in a heavenly curry sauce. Serve over rice to sop up everything!
Ingredients:
1 cup basmati rice
1 ½ pounds boneless, skinless chicken thighs, cut into 1-inch chunks
Kosher salt and freshly ground black pepper, to taste
1 ½ tablespoons olive oil
1 medium shallot, diced
3 tablespoons tomato paste
3 tablespoons red curry paste
3 cloves garlic, minced
1 tablespoon freshly grated ginger
1 (12-ounce) can unsweetened coconut milk
½ cup chicken stock
1 medium red bell pepper, chopped
1 medium yellow bell pepper, chopped
3 tablespoons chopped fresh cilantro leaves
1 tablespoon chopped fresh Thai basil leaves
1 tablespoon freshly squeezed lime juice
In a large saucepan of 1 1 /2 cups water, cook rice according to package instructions; set aside. Season chicken with 1 teaspoon salt and 1/2 teaspoon pepper. Heat olive oil in a large stockpot or Dutch oven over medium heat. Add chicken and shallot, and cook, stirring occasionally, until chicken is evenly browned, about 6-8 minutes. Stir in tomato paste, red curry paste, garlic and ginger until fragrant, about 2 minutes. Stir in coconut milk and chicken stock; season with salt and pepper, to taste. Bring to a boil; reduce heat and simmer until slightly reduced, about 7-10 minutes. Stir in bell peppers until softened, about 5-8 minutes. Stir in cilantro, basil and lime juice; season with salt and pepper, to taste. Serve warm over rice.
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Spring! It's America's favorite season. Cool mornings. Warm days. Aside from a dozen or so tornado watches and warnings, what's not to love?
A poll by Home Depot found the top three springcleaning projects we've got planned are washing the windows, cleaning the grill, and getting our yard in order.
The same Home Depot survey said 2/3 of us are excited to get started. I guess I'm in the minority. I'm dreading it. Life is an ongoing process of accumulating stuff. Most BOOMers have garaged and stored a (literally) ton of stuff.
STUFF!
2. Cleaning the grill. Memorial Day in May is considered the start of "grilling season." But 62% of people said they grill year-round, even in winter. I brush the grill surface regularly, but I read that metal brushes can shed strands that, if digested, can kill you. So, I hose it down, too, and the death toll from my backyard grilling remains zero!
By
Still, the same poll found that 80% feel a sense of accomplishment, and 85% say it improves their mental health. Anticipating the project is killing mine!
79% of people polled were homeowners, so that might skew the results a bit. But according to the poll, here are the top three spring-cleaning projects we're planning to tackle this year:
1. Washing the windows and window screens. You might Windex the insides more than once a year. But maybe not the outside glass. (I don't do windows. I don't care if anyone has a clear view inside my house. Isn't that why drapes were invented?)
3. Getting your yard in order. Everything from mowing and weeding to adding flowers and mulch. I work 60 hours a week so that I can pay someone to do that! Coming home to a freshly mowed lawn is good for my mental health. I used to do the week's feed thing but now pay for that service, too. (Careful- some of these operations have contracts that can obligate you into the afterlife!)
I recently solicited listeners (NewsTalk 93.1FM) to share their spring cleaning adventures and heard some great stories. One listener,
Janet, decided to spring-clean her laundry room. She never expected to uncover a sock conspiracy. As she moved the washer and dryer, she found a hidden stash of mismatched socks, enough to outfit a small football team. It turns out her cat had been collecting them for years, creating a treasure trove of lost footwear. Jane couldn't stop laughing as she imagined her cat playing sock thief, and she spent the rest of the day pairing up long-lost socks.
A guy named Tom embarked on his spring cleaning mission, determined to declutter his attic, a place that hadn't seen daylight in years. As he sifted through boxes, he stumbled upon an antique vase he couldn't remember purchasing. It was beautifully crafted but had a peculiar odor. After some investigation, Tom realized it was his childhood science experiment gone wrong—a mixture of chemicals he'd forgotten about. The vase had become a home for a strange, moldy substance. Tom laughed at the absurdity and decided that some mysteries were better left unsolved.
Protect your under-bed from dust bunnies by blocking them with- stuff.
Dust bunnies hide everywhere! Kathy's spring cleaning took a turn for the hilarious when she discovered an army of these creatures under her bed. Armed with a vacuum cleaner and a broom, she decided to face the invaders headon. As she swept under the bed, she inadvertently created a dust storm that sent her sneezing and scrambling for cover. Her dog, Max (a
Closet stuff, unused and rarely worn.
Golden retriever), thought it was a game and started chasing the airborne dust bunnies, turning the whole event into a chaotic comedy. Kathy couldn't help but laugh at the sight of Max triumphantly catching dust bunnies and parading around the room. See? Good for mental health!
How about the oven?
I don't buy Easy-Off; I look for Easy Out or a good excuse to do it another day.
BOOMer Emily's spring cleaning in the kitchen turned into a comedy of errors. While scrubbing the oven, she realized she had forgotten about a frozen pizza from months ago. The pizza had transformed into a rock-hard relic. Determined to clean
and pulling, the pizza finally dislodged, sending Emily tumbling backward and knocking over a stack of pots and pans. The ensuing racket sounded like a marching band had crashed into her kitchen. She didn't say if it improved her mental health, but she was laid up for a couple of days for violating the "No Somersaults after 65" rule!
Here's some more stuff about stuff from the Home Depot survey.
• The average American says 34% of the junk they own is stuff they don't really need or rarely use. But it depends on how you define the word "use."
• 21% of it is stuff we don't want but haven't gotten rid of yet, 10% is other people's stuff we somehow ended up with, and 13% is "pure junk."
• But 27% is stuff we're hanging onto for sentimental reasons. And 29% of them are collectibles or other items that "spark joy." So that's not really "junk."
• The average person said they'd pay $1,300 to have all their unwanted junk magically disappear.
I'm offering $1400, and you can keep the change!
Greg Budell has lived in Montgomery for 20 years. A 50+ year veteran of radio, TV and writing, Greg hosts the Newstalk 93.1FM Morning Show with Rich Thomas, Susan Woody, and Jay Scott, 6-9 AM Monday - Friday. He returns weekday afternoons from 3-6 PM for Happy Hour with
There's stuff up there! To pull or not to pull?
The Kentucky Derby is held on the first Saturday in May. This year, May 3rd will be the 151st race date. Nicknamed “the most exciting two minutes in sports”, you don’t want to miss the excitement of watching the 20 best horses in the nation running to the roses. The traditions of this event are unique, fun and the perfect opportunity to gather your friends or family for a fun Derby Day Party at home.
Decorations
The official colors of the Kentucky Derby are red, black and gold. You will find a lot of cute Derby related decorations online on Amazon or Oriental Trading. Be sure to include an area for your guests to place bets and set up a photo booth area with a racetrack backdrop and photo booth signs. Fill your tabletops with horseshoe confetti, display roses in vases and jockey silks along the wall.
The Hat
The Derby is well known for the spectators’ elaborate hats. Have your guests make their hat much like they would at an Ugly Christmas sweater party. Provide inexpensive straw hats from Dollar Tree or OrientalTrading.com. Decorate with ribbons, flowers, feathers and netting. Give prizes for the biggest, silliest, most unique or most colorful hat.
Don’t forget to take a group picture of everyone rocking their Derby Day hats.
The Horses
If your party will include little jockeys, you might want to provide materials for each jockey to make a hobby horse. You will need a pool noodle, yarn, felt, large
and mane from felt and glue in place. Add eyes and felt nostrils and you are ready for the races!
Place your Bets
google eyes and a hot glue gun. Fold the pool noodle over (about ¼ of the way down) to make the head and secure it with hot glue gun and yarn. Create ears
Unlike the usual win, place or show, it is easier to just have the players determine the winner. This can be done in a few ways. The easiest way is to determine how much money each player will put into the pool. The players choose their horses and the pot is split with the number of people who chose the winning horse. Or, you could have all the players pick a horse (or two depending on how many people are at the party) and that is their horse. Again, determine how much the wager is and the winner will get the whole pot.
Food
What’s a sporting event without food? Traditional race food includes hot brown
sliders, which are made with turkey, bacon, mornay (white cheese) sauce and tomatoes on a slider bun or Hawaiian roll. Add the sandwiches to a buffet of hush puppies, deviled eggs and a watermelon salad with feta, mint and cucumbers. Dessert options include pecan pie, peach cobbler or even mint ice cream.
Drinks
Additional Games
Everyone knows that Mint Juleps, made with bourbon, simple syrup and mint leaves, is a staple at the Derby. You can also make a non-alcoholic version in which you replace the bourbon with lemonade. Sweet tea is also a hit for a Derby Day party.
Since the Derby goes so fast, you might want to keep the party going with a few games. Simple ideas include horseshoes or Pin the Tail on the Horse, but in the spirit of competition, we thought we would include another idea.
The Kentucky Derby is also known as the Run for the Roses. You could
Travel Experiences with Jeff Barganier
Photography provided by Jeff Barganier
Fiddler's Green
Celtic mythology speaks of a place bereft of toil where old sailors go after death—a bountiful green valley full of mirth and beauty called Fiddler’s Green. And cloistered in scenic hills near Jacksonville, Alabama, Chris and Heather Dempsey have developed their own place of mirth and beauty. Chris is an Emmy Award-winning fiddler who plays in a band that performs Celtic and Irish music. Thus, when the Dempsey’s cleared a hill for their homesite and gazed into the beautiful valley below, they were moved to proclaim, “This is our Fiddler’s Green.” Cindy and I visited them to learn more.
there’s about fifteen or sixteen of us that still live on the property.” Chris points at a high hill.
“My Aunt Dot is in her nineties. She lives up there in my greatgranddaddy’s old house. You can go up there and see Mount Cheaha and the Square in Jacksonville. It’s a beautiful area.”
“Yeah, we’re in a valley,” Chris began. “This is a hundred and twenty-five acres. It was my great-granddaddy’s farm. And
“From our front porch, we can see the library,” Heather adds. Their home is higher than the JSU library, and they can see the library tower’s red lights at night.
We step inside their home. “It’s not an old house. Well, it’s beginning to be an old house.” Chris laughs.
“It’s about seventeen, eighteen years old. But most people think it was built two hundred years ago. The driveway is an old field road, so the trees are large and hanging over, giving the appearance that the house has been here for a long time. But this was an apple orchard up here and a watermelon patch that my grandaddy used to farm. So, we chose to put the house here. We love old architecture. And we’ve traveled a lot and seen a lot of historical things.” Heather and Chris
are history buffs and retired teachers of English and American literature. They wanted their home to exude antiquity, so they salvaged architectural elements from the Lockett house (circa 1855) in Jacksonville when it was demolished, including its entrance frame and doors. The Dempsey’s floor plan also resembles Lockett House. Chris’ dad helped clean, repair, and reassemble its historic architectural antiques—staircase, spindles, trim—into the structure. Heart pine cabin-grade flooring from the former Lockett home makes their modern house feel old and authentic. Historic portraits adorn the walls. Chris points to Lockett’s. “Colonel Lockett lived in Jacksonville just two years. He was the first president of the university. General Forney fought with him at Vicksburg. General Forney was from here, and that’s how he (Lockett) came here. Lockett was an accomplished engineer and West Point graduate. He was born in Virginia but raised in Marion, Alabama. The LSU Engineering Department is named for him.” The Dempseys are walking/ talking history instructors, and the home has an almost museum quality to it, featuring a chair from Washington’s Mount Vernon, a sofa from a Revolutionary War era home in Camden, South Carolina, a replica of a historic flag, a 19th-century needlepoint, period oil paintings and wallpaper, a mantle from Jacksonville’s Greenleaf Mansion, an antique plate warmer in the dining room,
Dempsey home, Fiddler's Green
Jeff with the Dempseys
View of Banquet Hall from back of cabin.
a large and gorgeous 1840’s French mirror, and an 1850’s grandfather clock from Scotland. A picture of a family ancestor, John Chandler, who was a founding member of Jamestown Settlement in Virginia, hangs on the wall.
In the charming garden-like landscape behind the main house are other structures, including a carriage house where brides get ready for weddings, a quaint chapel complete with a bell, a greenhouse, restrooms, a general store with souvenirs, a “gristmill” banquet structure, and a heated and cooled log cabin that rents for $250 per night or $350 for a two-night stay (when weddings are not happening). The cabin sleeps two and has a full bathroom, kitchen, and upstairs bedroom, plus, of course, a great fireplace. “My great-great-grandfather lived in it, and my great-aunt and uncle
lived in it. It was built in the 1850’s,” Chris says. And it’s not too distant from the Chief Ladiga Bike Trail that passes close by. The property also has hiking trails for guests to enjoy.
A rooster is crowing in the distance as we tour the hill. “We hang lights and chandeliers in these trees for weddings,” Chris says. “During weddings, people mill around in every building, shopping and purchasing keepsakes. They want to stay.” And it’s easy to understand why once you’re here. Cindy told me all about Fiddler’s Green, but words don’t do it justice. It’s something you must experience in person. As we chat, I’m looking around for a trail off up the mountain to explore.
The Dempsey’s are flexible when working with brides’ wedding ideas. “We tell them, just whatever you can come up with,” Chris says. And the Dempsey’s make it happen. His granddaddy’s old cotton wagon sits under a lean-to roof. It was last used in 1955. “We pull it out and make a hot chocolate bar out of it, or it’s been used in dozens of ways—tubs of drinks on the back. We had a shrimp boil out here, and they put tubs of crawfish on it. At night, it’s really pretty. We have chandeliers all over the place.”
They do about two dozen weddings per year. “It’s like a movie set,” Cindy says. Indeed, a couple of movies have been filmed here.
“It has all been a labor of love,” Heather says. Reservations may be made on the website at: www. fiddlersgreenweddings.com.
Jeff Barganier is a novelist, travel writer and speaker. He travels far and wide upon the slightest excuse for something interesting to write about. His
include Lawson’s
The
He also manages Cindy Barganier Interiors LLC (www.cindybarganier.com) at The Waters in Pike Road, Alabama. Contact Jeff at Jeffbarganier@knology.net. You may print out his features at www.jeffbarganier.com and take them with you when you travel!
novels
Bluff (2021);
Slash Brokers (1998).
Chapel at Fiddler's Green
Cabin for guests to rent
Gardening for Birds
While bird feeding stations are a great resource, it's the native plants in your backyard that truly form the backbone of a bird-friendly habitat. By incorporating native trees, shrubs, grasses and flowers,
you're enhancing the beauty of your landscape and creating a safe haven for birds.
A native plant is a plant that occurs naturally in a specific region. These plants grow or attract the berries, seeds, and insects that birds need to survive. The best plants for your yard will depend on where you live, the soil type, precipitation levels, the amount of sun and shade you have, the types of birds you want to attract and other variable factors.
When it comes to trees and shrubs, you may want to look for species that provide shelter, support nesting birds, or grow seeds, nuts, or berries that native birds like to eat. Vines and flowers should also produce bird-friendly seeds or nectar. Many annuals and perennials in the Asteraceae family, such as zinnias, sunflowers and coneflowers, fall into this category. Colorful nectar-producing plants with tubular flowers, such as cardinal flowers, trumpet vines and bee balm, are especially well-suited for hummingbirds.
You can find bird-friendly native plants for your zip code using the native plant database from the National Audubon Society or the native plant finder from the National Wildlife Federation.
Attracting Nesting Birds
In addition to providing cover and food, native shrubs and trees attract nesting birds to your yard. Most North American birds nest in late spring and early summer. Many birds like to make their nests on the branches of shrubs and trees, and others like to make their nests in natural hollows in trees and stumps. Some birds, like wrens, are less discerning and make their nests in flower pots, mailboxes, old boots or anything else they find in the yard.
If you lack the shrubs and trees birds may want to nest in, you can install one or more birdhouses in your backyard. Birdhouses should be made of untreated, unpainted wood (cedar, pine and cypress are best). They should also have sloping roofs to keep out rain and predators and three or four small holes drilled in the floor for drainage. It
is also essential to ensure the house's entrance hole is neither too big nor too small for the nesting bird you're trying to attract.
You can learn about nesting birds, get free birdhouse plans, identify bird eggs and sign up to become a certified NestWatcher for the Cornell Lab of Ornithology on NestWatch.org.
Reducing Threats
More than one billion birds are killed annually by environmental threats in their habitat. You can make your backyard safer for birds by eliminating broadspectrum pesticides, keeping cats indoors and hanging bird feeders in sheltered areas.
Assessing your windows for bird collision risk is also a good idea. Birds are less likely to collide with windows that have screens or blinds. Windows with translucent films, UV adhesive decals and other inexpensive products applied to the outside glass are also more visible to birds. You can learn more about preventing threats to birds from the American Bird Conservancy.
Maintaining Your Backyard Bird Sanctuary
To keep backyard birds healthy, most bird feeders should be cleaned at least twice monthly and even more often in hot, humid or rainy weather. Feeders should be washed with soap and water, sanitized with a dilute bleach solution (one part bleach to nine parts water) and
rinsed with clean water. Nectar feeders should be cleaned every two to three days.
Monitoring Bird Activity
Watching the bird activity is one of the enjoyable aspects of having a backyard bird sanctuary. Seeing and hearing birds lowers stress levels and positively impacts our mental well-being. It is also entertaining. Birds can be cute, clever, funny, moody and dramatic. Watching them is like seeing a soap opera play out in the backyard.
If you'd like to learn how to identify and keep track of the birds you see and hear in your backyard bird sanctuary, a good field guide or a free birdwatching app like Merlin Bird ID can help. If you'd like to share your observations with scientists, you can join a citizen science project like eBird, Project FeederWatch or the Great Backyard Bird Count.
Water in bird baths and drinking dishes should be replaced every two days to control mosquitoes and eliminate potential pathogens. Avoid soaps and bleach, and instead, use a dilute vinegar solution (one part white vinegar to nine parts water) to clean the bath/dish and rinse it with fresh water. Synthetic cleaners can damage bird feathers.
When maintaining your native plant garden, focus on watering new plants, removing invasive weeds, and pruning shrubs and trees to keep them healthy. Outside of this, consider taking a lessis-more approach. For example, you can leave seed heads on plants in the fall rather than deadheading them so that overwintering birds have a food resource. You can also rake less and use crushed fallen leaves as natural mulch around your plants. These leaves will also provide a habitat for the invertebrates that birds eat.
Article courtesy of nextavenue.org.
"Grocery Store Gymnastics"
The grocery store: a place where dreams of a quick, stress-free trip go to die.
You walk in with a plan. A short list, a firm resolve, and just enough caffeine in your system to stay civil. “In and out in 15 minutes,” you say to yourself. Rookie mistake. The grocery store has other plans.
The first obstacle? The carts. You grab one, only to discover it has a wonky wheel that screeches like a dying banshee. Now you’re pushing it like a drunk driver in a demolition derby, apologizing to strangers as you veer into displays of canned beans. “It’s the cart!” you shout, as if that makes it better.
Then there’s the layout. Who designs these stores? It’s like they hired a labyrinth architect and told them, “Make it inconvenient.” You need bread? That’s aisle 1. Milk? That’s in the back corner by the employee breakroom. And eggs? Oh, those are hiding—probably behind a box of oatmeal you didn’t even know they sold.
You wander through the aisles like a lost explorer, clutching your list and trying to decipher whether “Quinoa” is a food item or a magic spell. Just when you think you’ve found what you need, you’re confronted by the worst of all enemies: The High Shelf.
Ah yes, the high shelf—a cruel joke for anyone under six feet tall. There’s your jar of pickles, perched like a king on a throne, mocking you from its lofty position. You stand there for a moment, considering your options. Do you jump? Do you climb? Do you awkwardly ask a stranger for help?
You opt for jumping. It doesn’t work. Now you’re balancing on the bottom shelf like a grocery store gymnast, praying you don’t end up in a viral video titled, “Boomer Takes Down Entire Pickle Display.”
And don’t get me started on the checkout line. No matter which one you pick, it’s the wrong one. You think you’ve found the shortest line, but the person ahead of you is writing a check. Who writes checks anymore? Is this 1983?
Meanwhile, the selfcheckout is no better.
“Please place the item in the bagging area,” the robot intones. It’s already in the bagging area, Brenda, you growl, wondering if the machine is gaslighting you.
But the pièce de résistance? The parking lot. It’s a war zone. Carts are scattered like landmines, cars are vying for the same spot, and there’s always that one person who’s parked diagonally across two spaces. You load your bags, vowing never to return—at least until you realize you forgot the bread.
And yet, I’m grateful. Why? Because grocery shopping reminds me of life itself: chaotic, unpredictable, and full of small victories. Like finding your favorite ice cream on sale or snagging the last rotisserie chicken.
So here’s to the grocery store—the ultimate test of patience and agility. You’ve driven me to the brink, but you’ve also made me a champion of perseverance.
Now, if you’ll excuse me, I need to go Google “How to get pickles off a high shelf without a ladder.”
- Archie Grumbleton
Hadestown Comes to Gogue Performing Arts Center
Monday, April 28, 29 and
30 * 7 p.m. * Woltosz Theatre
Presented as part of our 2024–25 Broadway Series Welcome to Hadestown, where a song can change your fate. Winner of eight 2019 Tony Awards, including Best Musical, and the 2020 Grammy Award for Best Musical Theater Album, this acclaimed new show from celebrated singer-songwriter Anaïs Mitchell and original director Rachel Chavkin (Natasha, Pierre & The Great Comet of 1812) is a love story for today . . . and always. Hadestown intertwines two mythic tales—that of young dreamers Orpheus and Eurydice, and that of King Hades and his wife Persephone—as it invites you on a hell-raising journey to the underworld and back. Mitchell’s beguiling melodies and Chavkin’s poetic imagination pit industry against nature, doubt against faith and fear against love. Performed by a vibrant ensemble of actors, dancers and singers, Hadestown is a haunting and hopeful theatrical experience that grabs you and never lets go. Visit https://goguecenter.auburn.edu/hadestown/ for tickets.
We Shall Someday
Alabama Shakespeare Festival * April 24 - May 4
Three Generations. One journey towards justice. Uplifted by a sweeping, jazz-infused score, We Shall Someday is an original musical following three generations of a southern Black family, as they each encounter and confront acts of racial injustice. Offering an exploration of our past to propel us forward with conviction and hope, We Shall Someday examines how we continue the fight for freedom and justice. Get tickets at www.asf.net.
2025 April Walking Tours April 5th through 26
Tours begin at 10 a.m. * Kress Building/Prevail Union
The Alabama Tourism Department’s annual April Walking Tours will take place at 31 locations across the state. Community leaders and volunteers will guide the free tours through historical areas that display art and culture of the city. The tours will start at 10 a.m. on April 5, 12, 19 and 26. https://alabama.travel/trail-details/april-walking-tours
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Menopause The Musical 2
Saturday, April 19, 2025 * Montgomery Performing Arts Center
All aboard, sisters! The hysterical sequel to the smash-hit Menopause The Musical® is finally here! Five years after their chance encounter in a department store, we set sail with our beloved ladies for more high jinks on the high seas. Menopause The Musical 2: Cruising Through ‘The Change’® is a hilarious and heartfelt look at the joys of menopause and friendship — plus hot flashes, mood swings, and memory lapses! Join us on a trip of self-discovery, backed by a new soundtrack of toe-tapping parodied hits from the 70s, 80s and 90s. For these four ladies, menopause was not the end, but the beginning of a beautiful friendship where love conquers all, and friendships never fail. Visit mpaconline.org.
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Caregiver of the Month Spotlight: Hadassah Labatte
We are thrilled to announce Hadassah Labatte as our April Care provider of the Month! Joining us in August 2024, Hadassah has been an absolute blessing to our team and clients. Her exceptional caring nature shines through in every task, and she effortlessly fits into any role. Hadassah approaches every situation with love and a smile, consistently going above and beyond. Her professionalism and dedication to her clients’ needs are truly remarkable.
Thank you, Hadassah, for your invaluable contributions! For more information visit www.homecareassistancemontgomery.com.
6th Annual Music & Mudbugs
Friday, April 25 * 6 PM to 10 PM * Union Station Train Shed
By Greater Montgomery Home Builders Association Union Station Train Shed, 210 Water Street Montgomery, AL 36104
Welcome to the 6th Annual Music & Mudbugs event! Get ready for a day filled with live music, delicious mudbugs, and good times at the Union Station Train Shed. Join us for a fun-filled evening of music and mudbugs with friends and family. Don't miss out on this exciting event! Visit https://montgomerymusicfest.com/ for tickets.
Leonid and Friends in Concert
Montgomery Performing Arts Center * April 11, 7:30pm
LEONID & FRIENDS have blown the minds of legions of fans with their uncanny ability to capture the spirit, musicality, and fire of American supergroup Chicago. They have since expanded their repertoire to include Earth Wind & Fire, Blood Sweat & Tears, Ides of March, Stevie Wonder, Steely Dan, Deep Purple, and new original material. Get tickets at https://www.ticketmaster.com/.
NAMI Walks Alabama 2025
Join us for our annual 5k Walk for NAMI Alabama on April 19th, 2025
8:00 a.m. - 1:00 p.m. CT Registration Opens: 8:00 a.m. CT Warm Ups: 9:45 a.m. CT Walk Begins: 10:30 a.m. CT Event Ends: 1:00 p.m. CT All funds raised through this event helps NAMI Alabama create a world where all people affected by mental illness can experience hope, recovery, wellness and freedom from stigma. Register your team here at www.namiwalks.org
The Great Gatsby Centennial Extravaganza Party
6:00 PM - 9:00 PM * The Scott and Zelda Fitzgerald Museum
Join us for a roaring good time at the Scott and Zelda Fitzgerald Museum as we celebrate the 100th anniversary of F. Scott Fitzgerald’s classic novel. Get ready to step back into the glitz and glamour of the 1920s with a night full of jazz, dancing, and decadence. Don your best flapper dress or Gatsby-inspired suit and immerse yourself in the world of Jay Gatsby and Daisy Buchanan. Enjoy live music, themed cocktails, and a chance to mingle with fellow fans of this iconic novel. https://www.eventbrite.com
Masterworks 4: Gershwin Centennial Celebration featuring Jeffrey Biegel
7:00 pm – 9:00 pm * April 28, 2025
In a continued commitment to American Classical Music, the MSO features the iconic music of George Gershwin in the jazz-inspired symphonic poem which inspired the 1951 film of the same name, An American in Paris. Internationally renowned pianist, Jeffrey Biegel joins us for the Alabama premier of Peter Boyer’s Rhapsody in Red, White, and Blue and Gershwin’s Rhapsody in Blue in celebration of the legendary piece’s centenary. Held at Davis Theatre for Performing Arts. Visit https://www.montgomerysymphony.org/ for tickets and more information.
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28th Annual Herb Day Festival
April 26th, 2025 * 8am to 3pm *
Grounds of Grace Presbyterian Church
Come stroll thru the pecan trees and feast your eyes on the many handcrafted items from vendors all over. We will celebrate Earth Day and all the wonderful herbs for both medicinal and culinary excitement. There will music, food and fun for all. Family friendly events. Dogs on leashes are welcome but please be mindful of their manners. Located at 5 Bell Road, Montgomery, AL 36117.
By Nick Thomas
Hot Springs National Park
Strolling along the footpath on the east side of Central Avenue in downtown Hot Springs, Arkansas, it’s easy to forget you’re in a National Park. Cross the street, and you’ve officially stepped out of Hot Springs National Park and into the city of Hot Springs that’s surrounded by the park’s more than 5,500-acres, established by Congress in 1921.
By that same decade, a series of public baths had materialized on the Avenue where tourists flocked for the supposedly therapeutic waters provided by the region’s abundant mineral-laden thermal springs. Eight historic bathhouses still stand displaying all their original architectural splendor, but only two – the Quapaw and the Buckstaff – continue to offer bathing experiences for visitors. The others have been repurposed and now serve as a brewery, a hotel, or as facilities for National Park resources such as the Visitor or Cultural Centers. Bathhouse Row and the half-mile walkway behind it, known as the Grand Promenade, were designated as a National Historic Landmark District in 1987. If you’re setting out on foot to explore some of the 26 miles of paths within the park trail system, a walk along these historic routes provides a gentle introduction to this most unusual of U.S. National Parks. We began by walking north along Central Avenue, passing the bathhouses, each showcasing its own unique design that
reflects popular architectural styles from the late 19th and early 20th centuries in the U.S., including Spanish Colonial Revival, Neoclassical, and Renaissance Revival.
The Grand Promenade can be accessed from either the north or south entrance. Near the northern entrance where Central Avenue meets Fountain Street, a spring feeds two connected decorative ponds – a popular photo spot for tourists. Armed with my trusty thermometer (which any respectable traveling scientist carries), I measured the water temperature to be 125 degrees Fahrenheit (52 degrees Celsius) –just a bit too toasty for more than a finger dip.
Behind the pond, steps lead to the elegantly paved Grand Promenade brick walkway that took more than 20 years to complete. Surrounded by vegetation and the occasional steaming hot spring spilling over rocks, the hustle and bustle of the Downtown area peeps through the lush trees but is barely noticeable along the path as it leads to the
south entrance and the site of the historic Noble Fountain on Reserve Street.
The elegantly designed drinking fountain was named after John W. Noble, the U.S. Secretary of the Interior from 1889 to 1893, who secured funds for improvements to Hot Springs Reservation (as it was called before becoming a National Park). The fountain has been moved several times over the years and once sat outside the park’s nearby yellow Admin building that sports the familiar brown National Park logo on its street corner sign.
While there are many other short trails to attempt in the park’s mountainous areas, be sure to drive up to Hot Springs Mountain Tower. The 216-foot-tall structure is 1,256 feet above sea level and provides an excellent 360-degree view, including downtown Hot Springs and the surrounding Ouachita Mountain range.
With the aid of a telephoto lens from the tower’s summit, I was delighted to spot an old sign adorning a distant weathered building that read “Uneeda Biscuit.” Although the brand has long been discontinued, I was immediately flooded with childhood memories of the company’s ‘biscuits’ – large, Saltine-like soda crackers – that my mother slathered with peanut butter and became welcome additions to my school lunches.
A 7-hour drive from Montgomery, Hot Springs National Park makes a great weekend trip and is full of surprises. You just have to look.
Nick Thomas teaches at Auburn University at Montgomery in Alabama and has written features, columns, and interviews for many newspapers and magazines. His hiking column describes short trails, hikes, and walks from around the country that seniors might enjoy while traveling. See www. ItsAWonderfulHike.com.
Palm Sunday
April 13 | Worship Center
8�30 and 11 AM
Stations of the Cross
April 16-20 | Wesley Hall
Hours can be found on the Frazer website Via Crucis disponible en Español
Good Friday Service
April 18 | 7 PM | Worship Center
Easter Sunday
April 20 | Worship Center
Throughout their marriage, my parents argued a lot. Sometimes, it was constant under-breath bickering about little things, while other times, their fights were louder and could escalate to the point that they didn't speak to each other for several days.
As a kid, I wasn't quite sure if what I witnessed between them was "normal" marital discord or something more (for the record, they remained married until my father passed away at 82.) All I knew was that I wished they got along better, or at least faked it a little more in front of my brothers and me.
Witnessing the discord in my parents' marriage, as a kid, I vowed that when I got married, I wouldn't fight with my spouse or let my kids be privy to any disagreements between their parents. I hoped to emulate my marital role models, Carol and Mike Brady of the 1970s show, "The Brady Bunch." They were able to solve their disagreements amicably, never raising their voices or going to bed angry. Those were my goals for marriage.
But of course, Mike and Carol Brady are fictional characters; most real-life couples fight and fighting isn't necessarily bad for a relationship. If you have the tools, fighting can help couples connect to one another.
Such is the premise of the new book "Fight Right: How Successful Couples Turn Conflict Into Connection" by couples therapists Drs. Julie and John Gottman. The book is based on 50 years of research with over 3,000 couples. They will also be participating in Ted2024, "The Brave and the Brilliant," in April.
In an interview, Dr. Julie Gottman says, "There are successful, happy couples who employ an avoidance style in handling conflict and never fight. But most couples fight and done right, fighting can lead to greater intimacy and connection."
Let Go of Gender Bias
Books like "Men Are from Mars; Women Are from Venus" put men and women on opposite sides, perpetuating the myth that it's impossible for them to understand one another.
Gottman says, "Generally, women are taught that expressing themselves is wrong. They are told they are 'too emotional' or labeled by society as 'angry bitches' if they speak up for what they want. Conversely, many men feel unable
to express their feelings for fear of being labeled 'weak' or 'vulnerable.'"
"Everyone of every gender has needs and vulnerabilities," says Gottman. "For many, admitting this has been difficult, especially if their emotions have been dismissed in the past."
When couples fight right, they allow both partners to communicate their needs safely without alienation or judgment.
Beware of the 'Four Horsemen'
Gottman explains that when it comes to fighting right, there are "four horsemen of the apocalypse" to avoid when communicating with a partner:
Stonewalling Criticism Contempt Defensiveness
"When you employ any of these communication styles, you make it harder for your partner to understand what is bothering you and more difficult to get what you need," says Gottman.
Instead of being critical, offer your partner a way to shine for you. For example, rather than saying, "Why can't you ever load the dishwasher?" say, "It would help me if you could load the dishwasher tonight."
Employ a 5 to 1 Ratio
Couples should employ what Gottman calls a "5 to 1" ratio when discussing an issue. She explains, "Discussions between partners should have five positive interactions to each negative. Positive interactions include things like a smile, a nod, an affectionate touch, humor or signs of listening. A negative interaction includes saying something critical, a frown or ignoring what a partner says."
Let Go of Winning
In a boxing match, the participants are opponents looking to win the fight. But in a fight with a romantic partner, "winning" should never be the objective. Gottman says, "When partners engage in an argument to win, they become locked into a destructive situation."
Change the focus of an argument to both partners understanding one another
rather than one partner being victorious. "Arguments should be productive and enriching, not hurtful," says Gottman.
Communicate Better
Being an "active listener" isn't just letting your partner speak and repeating what they have said to prove you heard them. "If you repeat back, 'So what you are saying is I am a loser,' it defeats the purpose," explains Gottman. "All the person heard was the criticism. Active listening fails because it doesn't include the importance of how the speakers express themselves."
The same is true for using "I" sentences. The idea is to put the onus on yourself. But if you say, "I feel angry when you don't bring in the groceries," your partner may only hear the negativity and not take in the sentiment. "Using 'I' in a positive way, such as, "I'd appreciate if you brought in the groceries,' is a more effective way of getting your point across," explains Gottman.
Another fighting no-no is using generalizations. Words like "always" and "never" are seen as criticisms and work to inflame tense situations.
The Art of Apologizing
Sometimes, a partner will apologize without really being sorry to end the fight. Or they will apologize without genuinely knowing why their partner was upset. Either way, an apology without real meaning isn't helpful.
If you have yet to discuss the issue and the impact of the behavior, the apology is meaningless. "Many fights are a red flag signal to 'dig here,'" says Gottman. "You can't just apologize and think everything will go away. The odds are that the issue will continue resurfacing because it still needs to be addressed and understood."
She continues, "It's not about discussing the issue, it about processing how the communication about an issue went wrong and the impact of the poor communication on the partner."
Only once that is done can a partner make an impactful apology. And even if the apology is genuine, it may take time for one partner to forgive another, depending on the situation's intensity.
In long-time relationships, it is easy to forget to voice gratitude. Positively acknowledging your partner can make a big impact on a relationship. For example, Gottman and her husband John have been married for over 35 years. John brings Julie a cup of coffee every morning and Julie says, "Thank you" each time.
"This small daily gesture matters deeply and I want him to know that I appreciate this simple act in the morning," says Gottman.
Don't Give Up
With approximately 50% of marriages ending in divorce, many people haven't had role models for healthy, intimate relationships. But don't let that statistic deter you from working toward improving communication in your relationship.
"It can take time to break bad habits and unhealthy fighting styles," explains Gottman. "But don't give up and think you can't change. Through our workshops, we have seen that people can make breakthroughs and improve their relationships if they want to change."
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Progress has begun to develop the recently expanded Montgomery Botanical Gardens Phase II. MBG Phase II is the additional parcel of land along Forest Avenue in front of the Parks and Recreation Building that extends from the vehicle entrance to the vehicle exit. Plans to develop Phase II include a Japanese Maple Garden, a Pedestrian Entrance on Forest Avenue, the installation of the Janney-Crane historical fountain, an Arboretum and other pathways, garden beds, and seating.
The great generosity of Mr. Lee Moore has made it possible for MBG to take the first step in developing Phase II by donating and helping to install 27 Japanese Maple trees. A significant amount of preparation was necessary before the planting that included upgrading and expanding the irrigation system for that area; creating the design for the arrangement and placement of
Mr. Lee Moore Donates 27 Japanese Maple Trees for MBG Phase II
each tree and its protective edging; digging each hole for planting each tree; and coordinating the delivery and planting. Mrs. Fairlie Rinehart, the MBG Designer, coordinated each of those steps to ensure all was ready for planting day. Her son, James Rinehart, assisted with tasks throughout the project.
Holes for planting were prepared the day before, and on Thursday, February 20, 2025, a cold, windy day, Mrs. Rinehart, Mr. Lee, Mr. Darrell Heisler of Jackson Landscaping, and the planting crew arrived to begin the daunting task. Lee also generously provided a specific mixture of soil to place around the tree roots as each was planted and plans to donate additional Japanese Maples to expand this garden. Mr. Jack Jackson joined the group to complete the planting day. Mr. Moore’s wife, Sarah, and his mother, Becky, visited the site to watch the process and admire the results of the planting of these special trees that Lee nurtured for several years.
Mr. Lee Moore’s significant donation of these specimens to begin the MBG Japanese Maple Garden. The MBG Board of Directors greatly appreciates for Mr. Moore’s generosity.
This first step in developing Phase II of the Montgomery Botanical Gardens by adding a Japanese Maple Garden is an exciting new beginning. We also look forward to establishing the Pedestrian
Japanese Maple trees, Acer Palmatum, are a beautiful addition to the garden. Each one is different from the others, and they all will provide striking colors in the changing seasons. Some are showier in spring, and others during the fall season. Each Japanese Maple will be identified by its botanical and common names on plant identification signs when they arrive. So, visitors will be able to identify which ones they may have in their landscapes and which they may want to seek to purchase. A sign will be placed in this location to acknowledge
Entrance in Phase II that will provide a sign designating the location of the gardens and will create a safer, more accessible entrance for all to come see the Japanese Maple Garden and the other gardens of MBG, i.e., the Phase I Entrance Gardens, Sensory Garden, Bulb Garden, Daylily Garden, Pollinator Gardens, Lion Terrace and the Betty Fitzgerald Biblical Garden.
As spring is beginning to paint the gardens in seasonal colors, with the first blooms of many plants and emerging leaves of various shades of green and red, the gardens are a must-see. Plan to visit the gardens to stroll the pathways and rest on the benches as you welcome the hope and beauty of spring. For more information, visit: www. montgomerybotanicalgardens.com and MBG on Facebook and Instagram.
Cassandra Wheeler
Cassandra Wheeler’s journey is one of passion, perseverance, and purpose. Her deep connection to her roots has guided her path, from teaching in local schools to influencing education on a broader scale. Beyond her professional achievements, Cassandra’s unwavering faith has been a cornerstone in navigating life’s challenges, including her role as a full-time caregiver for her mother. She also finds strength and joy in her lifelong friendships and her involvement in Alpha Kappa Alpha Sorority, Inc., where she has built a powerful sisterhood that continues to uplift and inspire her. In this interview, she shares insights on her career evolution, the impact of faith, and her perspective on aging with purpose and joy.
BOOM: You have deep roots in Montgomery and an impressive career path. Can you share your journey— where you’re from, your education, and what has kept you connected to this community?
Cassandra: I’m originally from Camden, AL, in Wilcox County, where both sides of my family have deep roots. My parents met in New York, though they grew up in Camden and had similar
backgrounds— my dad was the quarterback and my mom was a majorette, but they didn’t really connect until years later. After moving all over with my dad’s military career, we finally settled in Montgomery when I was just one year old. I grew up on Maxwell AFB and attended schools like Peter Crump Elementary and Sidney Lanier High School, though I still find it weird that those schools no longer exist.
I went to UAB for college, following in my sister’s footsteps, and there was no doubt that I’d become a teacher. After college, I wanted to stay in Birmingham,
but things took a different turn. My dad, working as a mail carrier, helped me land my first teaching job when the principal at Morningview Elementary recognized my last name. From there, I worked my way up, becoming a reading specialist and moving to the Alabama State Department of Education. Now, I’m working in educational publishing, which still impacts children’s education every day.
Cassandra as a Golden Girl at UAB’s first ever football game.
Everything I’ve done has led me right here to this moment.
BOOM: Faith plays a central role in your life. How has your relationship with God shaped your journey, especially through challenges like caregiving and career shifts?
Cassandra: I don’t even move without God. Faith is the core of everything for me—my family, career, and personal journey. I don’t believe in happenstance; I believe in God’s perfect timing. His guidance and favor are evident in every part of my life. From the people I’ve met to the career shifts I’ve made, it’s all been orchestrated by God. I’ve been blessed with a purpose, and I know I’m here to fulfill it. I’ve learned not to
take anything for granted, from small encounters to significant moments. Everything has meaning.
BOOM: Being a full-time caregiver for your mother is a profound responsibility. How has this experience changed you, and what advice would you offer others navigating similar challenges?
Cassandra: Caregiving is not for the faint of heart. When I transitioned to full-time caregiver for my mom in 2020, everything changed—especially since I had been traveling constantly for work before. Suddenly, I was grounded at home, adjusting to a role I had never expected. Being a caregiver has taught me so much about patience, sacrifice, and the importance of a support system. My mom’s illness progressed quickly, and I had to advocate fiercely for her care, navigating doctor visits and arranging home health care.
It was hard, but it’s also been a journey of growth. I never imagined I’d be in this role, but God had prepared me for it, and I’m grateful for the lessons I’ve learned. My advice to others facing caregiving challenges is to have a plan. It’s crucial to have a solid longterm care plan and discuss it with your loved ones while you can. Life is unpredictable, and it’s important to be ready for whatever comes.
BOOM: When your time is so devoted to caring for a loved one, it can be easy to lose yourself. How do you carve out time for self-care, and what brings you joy outside of your caregiving role?
Cassandra: Finding time for myself is tough, but I make it work. I love being social, so I stay active in my circle of friends, but caregiving comes first. It requires a lot of planning. If my mom’s not doing well, I stay home. But when I can get away, I do what makes me happy—whether it’s going out to eat, line dancing, or hanging out with friends. Self-care has been a challenge, but I’ve learned to give myself grace when I fall short.
On my 50th birthday, I had an epiphany that shifted my focus toward my health and longevity. I’m committed to staying healthy and active, which means monitoring what I eat, staying moving, and controlling my mindset. Aging is a mindset, and I want to show up at full capacity in every area of my life, and that takes intention.
BOOM: You began in education and transitioned into publishing, and you are now working in mergers and acquisitions. What inspired this shift, and what has been the most rewarding part of your career?
Cassandra: After 21 years in corporate educational publishing, I can say that every role I’ve taken has been a stepping stone to the next. The most rewarding part of my career was building a team from the ground up during a merger, which was a unique challenge. I had the privilege of handpicking professionals who were new to the corporate world and
Cassandra as a Bandanna professional cheerleader for the Birmingham Bandits (Continental Basketball Association).
Shooting the promo reel for the inaugural Science of Reading Week at Lexia.
All lit up for her finale performance for her beloved Alpha Kappa Alpha Sorority, Incorporated as an International Soaring Dancer.
guiding them through the transition. The team we built together became one of the most successful and highprofile divisions in the company. Looking back, my career path makes sense now. My experiences in the classroom, at the state level, and in corporate settings all prepared me for where I am today. And even though I’m no longer in a classroom, I’m still teaching every day—just in a different way.
BOOM: You’re actively involved in Alpha Kappa Alpha, including the Southeastern region dance team. How has your sorority—and the lifelong friendships it has fostered—enriched your life over the years?
Cassandra : I’ve been a proud member of Alpha Kappa Alpha for over 30 years, and it’s been a life-changing experience. I pledged at UAB in 1992, and the bonds I’ve built with my sorority sisters have shaped who I am today. Being part of this sisterhood has introduced me to countless women who inspire and uplift me.
My sorority journey has not only deepened my sense of community but also taught me the power of service and the impact we can have on others. What’s amazing about AKA is the support and love we give each
Getting some screen time while performing as an International Soaring Dancer for her beloved Alpha Kappa Alpha Sorority, Inc.
other, and I’m proud to be part of such a powerful group of women.
BOOM : You’re not just involved—you’re performing with AKA’s international dance team! When did dance become a passion, and how has staying active contributed to your overall well-being?
Cassandra : Dance is in my blood. Growing up with a dad who was a DJ and a mom who was a majorette, music and movement were always part of my life. I’ve always loved performing— whether it was as a Golden Girl at UAB or leading dance routines for my sorority. I even danced for the Birmingham Bandits CBA team when I was 19! Dancing brings me joy, and I’ve carried that passion with me throughout my life.
Two years ago, I joined my sorority’s national dance team at the age of 50— proving you’re never too old to chase your passions. I’m still performing, and it’s one of the most fulfilling parts
of my life. I also love line dancing, and I’ll stay on the dance floor all night if I can. It’s a great way to stay active and have fun, and it’s a wonderful reminder that life’s too short to sit on the sidelines.
BOOM : You recently moved to Pike Road, one of Alabama’s fastest-growing areas. How has it felt to be part of this evolving community, and what excites you most about its future?
Cassandra : I never thought I’d live in Pike Road, but when I made the move, I fell in love with the community. It’s a place where neighbors truly look out for each other. After moving to Pike Road in 2009, I found a group of friends
who became like family. We support each other through life’s challenges, and it’s a blessing to have such a tightknit neighborhood.
Pike Road is growing fast, and I’m excited to see how the area develops. It’s a place where people are genuinely invested in one another, and that sense of community makes it feel like home.
BOOM : You love to travel, but you’ve also mentioned that it can be tricky. What are some of your most memorable trips, and how do you make travel work despite the challenges?
Cassandra : Travel has been a huge part of my life, especially with my 20 years of work that kept me on the road or in the air. I had my travel routine down to a science—three sets of everything, carry-on bags for flexibility, and a bag full of comfort items. After the pandemic, though, travel became more difficult with my caregiving responsibilities, so I’ve had to adjust.
While I no longer travel as frequently, I’ve learned how to make it work with the help of my support system. My upcoming cruise for my 35th high school reunion is a big deal, and I’m excited to reconnect with my classmates. It’s a reminder that even as a caregiver, I can still find ways to enjoy life.
BOOM : You’ve built strong, longstanding relationships with other women. What is the key to maintaining deep, meaningful friendships as life changes and responsibilities grow?
Cassandra : Female friendships are everything to me. My sister and my close friends are the people who know me best and bring out the best in me. These relationships have taught me the importance of support, trust, and mutual respect. As we go through different phases of life—marriage, children, career changes—true friends evolve with you.
I’ve learned that friendships, like any relationship, require effort. But the ones that last are the ones that allow you to be your authentic self. I cherish the bonds I’ve built with women who get me, who I can laugh with, cry with, and share life’s ups and downs.
BOOM: Your journey has included singleness, caregiving, and faith. What perspective has this given you on living a full, purpose-driven life, and what do you wish more people understood about this season?
Cassandra: I didn’t plan on being single at 52, but I’ve come to embrace it. I’ve realized that I lack nothing. Being single is a gift, and I’ve learned to trust God’s plan for my life. I’ve had the opportunity to accomplish so much, and I’ve been able to pour into my career, caregiving, and personal growth. I don’t feel incomplete—I feel whole.
People often ask me why I’m single, but I don’t feel like I’m missing out. God is in control of my life, and I trust His plan. Singleness has allowed me to focus on my personal journey and live a fulfilling life, even if it’s not what I expected.
BOOM : What does “aging well” mean to you, and what advice would you give to others seeking to thrive in their later years?
Cassandra: Aging well starts with the right mindset. It’s about accepting where you are in life, embracing it, and being kind to yourself. Aging doesn’t mean slowing down—it’s about maintaining vitality, staying active, and making healthy choices. I drink water, get moving, detox regularly, and prioritize good sleep. It’s about taking care of my body so I can enjoy life to the fullest. I believe I can stay vibrant and energetic as I grow older.
joy, and I still enjoy being part of the entertainment world in small ways.
Whether I’m leading a dance routine or recording a training video, I’ve always loved performing and using my voice in different ways. It’s a passion that keeps me engaged and brings a sense of fulfillment.
BOOM : Looking ahead, what are some personal goals, dreams, or aspirations you’re excited to pursue? What’s next for Cassandra Wheeler?
BOOM : You have a love for music and cinema. What role have these played in your life, and do you have any all-time favorite songs, movies, or performances that have left a lasting impact?
Cassandra : Music and cinema have always been part of my life, from DJing in the 90s to acting in TV shows and movies. Growing up with a dad who was a DJ, I’ve always had a love for music. I was the go-to DJ for every house party, and I even tried my hand at voiceover work and karaoke. It’s a creative outlet that brings me
Cassandra : I’m excited for what the future holds. I trust that God’s plan for me is unfolding exactly as it should. I want to continue growing, learning, and fully embracing every opportunity. There’s so much left to accomplish, and I’m ready to take on whatever comes my way. The best is yet to come.
We want to thank Cassandra for sharing some of her story with us this month. If you have comments or suggestions about our cover profiles, including nominating someone, please text Jason Watson at 334.328.5189 or email jason@ riverregionboom.com.
Cassandra in her second web commercial as a grandmother with her husband, son, daughter-in-law and grandchildren enjoying Thanksgiving with Milo’s Tea.
Cassandra performing background acting as a bicycle pedestrian in the major motion picture “The Fabulous Four.”
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Imagine a trip that includes parents, grandparents, and kids of all ages. It may seem impossible, but multigenerational travel is a great way to spend time with family and experience new things together. Traveling with multiple generations can be a rewarding experience, offering the chance to strengthen family bonds, create lifelong memories, and enjoy quality time together.
1) Start by Choosing the Perfect Destination.
Selecting a destination that caters to all ages is the key to a successful trip. The best destinations offer a balance of adventure and relaxation, ensuring that both young children and older adults can enjoy themselves. The destination doesn’t have to be everyone’s number one choice, but it should have something that each member of the family will look forward to.
All-inclusive resorts are a great choice for families who want a stress-free vacation with meals, entertainment, and activities all in one place. Cruises provide a similar convenience, allowing family members to explore different locations while enjoying a variety of onboard amenities.
For those who love the outdoors, national parks offer breathtaking scenery, hiking trails, and opportunities for wildlife spotting. Beach destinations provide the perfect mix of relaxation and fun water activities, while cities offer cultural experiences, museums, and historical sites that can be fascinating for all generations.
Sometimes, it’s less about the destination and more about being together. In this case, find a house that fits everyone and plan your activities around spending time together.
2) Make a Plan that Works for Everyone.
With different personalities, interests, and energy levels in play, balancing the desires of a diverse group can be tricky. Communication is key. Before finalizing plans, talk to each family member about their expectations and interests. This way, everyone feels heard, and you can find common ground when planning activities.
It’s also important to create a flexible itinerary that includes a mix of group activities and downtime. Some family members might enjoy packed days of sightseeing and adventure, while others prefer leisurely mornings and relaxation. By scheduling both structured outings and free time, everyone gets the experience they’re looking for. Additionally, be mindful of different schedules—early risers and night owls may need separate activity options so no one feels rushed or left out.
Remember, you don’t have to do everything together. Allow people to choose the activities they want to participate in. Sometimes this means giving people space to be on their own for the day or offering childcare so parents get some time off. The best thing you can do is communicate.
3) Find the Right Lodging.
Where you stay can make or break the trip, so choosing accommodations that provide both comfort and convenience is essential. Vacation rentals, such as Airbnb or VRBO, are an excellent choice for large families who want communal spaces while still maintaining privacy. These often come with full kitchens, which can help with meal planning and budget management.
Hotels with suites or adjoining rooms provide the benefits of on-site dining, pools, and easy access to nearby attractions. For those who prefer a hassle-free experience, all-inclusive resorts handle the details, allowing family members to focus on enjoying their time together. Multi-room cabins or condos in scenic locations provide the perfect mix of family togetherness and private space for unwinding. If the family opts for a cruise, booking cabins close to each other ensures that everyone stays connected while still having their own space.
4) Consider a Balanced Trip with Activities for All Ages.
One easy way to do this is to plan rest days and sightseeing or activity days. You can follow whatever schedule works for your
group, but be sure to include days that are blocked out for relaxing and days that are for specific activities.
Alternating works well because it gives everyone a day to rest after a fun day of activity.
Final Tips for a Smooth Trip
Planning ahead and good communication help the trip go smoothly. It’s also a good idea to discuss budget expectations upfront to avoid any financial misunderstandings. Factor in hidden costs like resort fees, transportation, and meals so that there are no surprises along the way.
Planning a multigenerational vacation may require extra effort, but the joy of spending quality time with loved ones makes it all worthwhile. With thoughtful preparation and open communication, you can create an experience that is enjoyable for every member of your family, leaving everyone with unforgettable memories.
Rebecca is a former teacher who is passionate about authenticity, faith, and family. She has been featured on sites such as The Washington Post and Parents and her books are available on Amazon. Connect at RebeccaHastings.net.
Your Go-Go Years, Your Slow-Go Years and Your No-Go Years
Housing During Retirement
When people think of retirement, they often envision the couple walking on the beach, sailing the sailboat, or playing golf. It is easy to picture the active part of retirement that is free of the stresses of work and career. However, with many retirees living as long as 30 years in retirement, the reality is that their retirement ends up having three phases: the go-go years, the slow-go years, and finally, the no-go years.
Most people do not think about advanced retirement, where they will live, and what it will cost in their 70s, 80s, and 90s. Housing is both a major financial asset on the balance sheet and a significant expense in the household budget. Housing may also be the largest expense component of retirement income; the time for planning is in advance of a major health event and before advanced age takes its toll. Where to live should be proactively thought through in advance of a health crisis, even if the intent is to “age in place” and remain in your home. Mobility limitations, a chronic illness, or a catastrophic health crisis may give way to a housing move, reshape the bestlaid plans, and disrupt your financial preparedness.
Susan Moore of Moore Wealth Management, Inc. (MWM) in Montgomery, AL, conducts a free workshop every year in April on planning for housing expenses during retirement. Legg Mason produced the workshop in conjunction with the Johns Hopkins School of Nursing.
Financial Thoughts with Susan Moore
By Susan Clayton Moore, J.D. Principal of Moore Wealth Management, Inc.
Attendees receive a comprehensive set of worksheets that help them evaluate whether or not it is financially feasible to “age in place” and stay in their homes for the rest of their lives. What renovations would be required for them to remain in the home in the event that they had mobility limitations? They also receive worksheets that enable them to compare and contrast other options, including independent living, assisted living, and skilled nursing facilities, as well as continuing care retirement communities (CCRCs) that offer the entire spectrum of choices in one place. The April 2025 workshop will be conducted in an online webinar format on Wednesday, April 23rd at 12 p.m. Please call 334.270.1672, or email Sarah@moorewealthmanagement.com for more information and reservations.
We conduct a variety of workshops and seminars at MWM. The mission statement of MWM is very simple: “and then some.” We attempt to do what is expected, what is required, “and then some.” The Planning for Retirement workshop is part of our monthly “and then some” workshops. In addition, MWM conducts daily current events and market updates that attempt to explain what is going on in the financial world. If you would like to be on the mailing list or receive email notifications of upcoming webinars, please call 334.270.1672 or email Sarah@ moorewealthmanagement.com.
Susan Clayton Moore, J.D., is a financial advisor and wealth manager of Moore Wealth Management, Inc., with offices Montgomery and Alexander City, AL. Susan has over $150 million in assets (as of 9.1.24) under management through Kestra Financial and has been a financial planner for over 40 years. Contact Susan at 256.234.2761. Email contact is susan@ moorewealthmanagement.com.
The opinions expressed in this commentary are those of the author and may not necessarily reflect those held by Kestra Investment Services, LLC or Kestra Advisory Services, LLC. This is for general information only and is not intended to provide specific investment advice or recommendations for any individual. It is suggested that you consult your financial professional, attorney or tax advisor regarding your individual situation. Securities offered through Kestra Investment Services, LLC (Kestra IS), member FINRA/SIPC. Investment Advisory Services offered through Kestra Advisory Services, LLC (Kestra AS), an affiliate of Kestra IS. Kestra IS or Kestra AS are not affiliated with Moore Wealth Management, Inc. https://www. kestrafinancial.com/disclosures
