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Events

39 NORTH MARKETPLACE: The street fair showcases art and crafts and highlights produce, health and wellness and specialty food vendors. The event also features cooking demos, food/health tutorials and the Kids Connect

Zone. Th, 4-9pm through 7/30; Th, 4-9pm through

8/20. Opens 8/13. Free. Victorian Square, 14th Street and Pyramid Way along Victorian Ave., Sparks, www.39northdowntown.com.

ADVENTURE SPORTS WEEK: Challenge yourself in one of many competitive events around Lake

Tahoe, including trail running, mountain biking, triathlon, stand-up paddle boarding and swimming. Then relax in the evening while exploring North Lake Tahoe’s communities and mountain villages. Catch a live concert by the lake, or bring the whole family out for a movie on the beach. M-Su through 6/28. Call or visit website for details, (530) 546-1019, http://adventures portsweektahoe.com.

ARTHRITIS LECTURE: Renown Health

Rheumatologist Carolyn Dennehey with Renown Health discusses types of arthritis and treatment options. RSVP requested. Th, 6/25, 12-1pm. Free. Neil Road Recreation Center, 3925 Neil Road, (775) 982-5400.

EL RENO APARTMENT HOMES TOUR: Visit the origi-

nal site of these charming and unique homes and view seven of them at their new locations. Other examples of the Sierra Vista Addition architecture will be seen. Reservations required. Tu, 6/30, 6-7:30pm. $10, free for HRPS members. Statewide Lighting Center, 1311 S. Virginia St., (775) 747-4478; www.historicreno.org.

FEED THE CAMEL: The family-friendly food truck event features mobile food purveyors, libations and arts. W, 5-8pm through 9/30. McKinley

Arts & Culture Center, 925 Riverside Drive, (775) 450-0062.

GREAT WESTERN MARKETPLACE BOOK SALE: More

than 10,000 items will be for sale including books, CDs, DVDs and VHS tapes. Sales help benefit Volunteers of America. 6/26-6/27, 10am-5pm. Free. Great Western Marketplace, 4855 Summit Ridge Drive, (775) 624-1800, http://greatwesternmarketplace.com.

IMBIB CUSTOM BREWS GRAND OPENING: The new

brewery celebrates its grand opening with self-guided tours that include beer pairings with cheese, chocolate and other appetizers. There will also be live music, food trucks and beer. Sa, 6/27, 11am-11pm. IMBIB Custom Brews, 785 E. Second St., (775) 303-3385, www.imbibreno.com.

NEVADA HUMANITIES CHAUTAUQUA: The weeklong

Chautauqua celebration features workshops, roundtable discussions and other daytime events hosted by community partners throughout northern Nevada. Local musical performances at 6pm are followed by Chautauqua presentations at 7pm. Tu-Th, 5-9pm through 6/25. Opens 6/23. $25 general

admission seat, $10 lawn. Robert Z. Hawkins Amphitheater, Bartley Ranch Regional Park, 6000 Bartley Ranch Road, (775) 784-6587, www.nevadahumanities.org. California and Arlington where many of Reno’s families lived, some for more than 50 years. Today the neighborhood is a blend of family homes along with businesses. Reservations required. Sa, 6/27, 9-10:30am. $10, free for HRPS members. Old Southwest Neighborhood, corner of Arlington Avenue and Court Street, (775) 747-4478, www.historicreno.org.

RAIL CITY FARMERS’ MARKET: The market will

offer fresh produce and products from local farms and food purveyors, including Snyder Family Farms, Workman Farms, Sand Hill Dairy, the Bakery Gallery and Mitchell Pickle Packing Company. Su, 10am-2pm through 9/27.

Free admission. Rail City Garden Center, 1720 Brierley Way, Sparks, (775) 355-1551; www.railcitygardencenter.com.

RENO RODEO: The 96th annual “Wildest, Richest,

Rodeo in the West” features mutton bustin’, steer wrestling, barrel racing, drill team competition, carnival rides and other attractions.

M-Su through 6/27. $7-$25 with discounts for children, seniors and military. Reno-Sparks

Livestock Events Center, 1350 N. Wells Ave., (775) 329-3877, www.renorodeo.com.

RENO STREET FOOD: PARTY IN THE PARK: The

gourmet street food event features more than 25 gourmet food, craft desserts, beer, wine and mixed drinks vendors and live music weekly through Oct. 2. Relax in the park and bring your lawn chairs and a blanket. F, 5-9pm through 10/2. Free admission. Idlewild Park, 1900 Idlewild Drive, (805) 795-0539.

RODEO DECOMPRESSION: Intero Real Estate

Services hosts this fundraiser to benefit

Achievement Beyond Obstacles, a local nonprofit that supports high school students who have overcome enormous life challenges while being nominated most improved students in their class. Select students receive scholarships to attend college and pursue their goals after high school. The event features gourmet barbecue, music and dancing, raffle prizes and more. Su, 6/28, 4-8pm. $65 in advance or at the door. The Grove at South

Creek, 95 Foothill Road, (775) 825-1178; http://goo.gl/3p6Nld.

SANDS FARMERS’ MARKET: Eighty vendors under a 10,000-square foot tent will sell fresh produce and more from the area. Bring the kids to join the fun and activities in the Kids Zone.

Live bands perform every week. Th, 4-9pm through 8/27. Free. Sands Regency Casino

Hotel, 345 N. Arlington Ave., (775) 348-2295, www.shirleysfarmersmarkets.com.

SPARKS FOOD TRUCK DRIVE-IN: Local food trucks

and specialty vendors will have food and treats available for purchase, followed by a free movie in the newly renovated St. Mary’s Outdoor Amphitheater. Sa, 6/27, 6-9pm; Sa, 7/11, 6-9pm; Sa, 7/25, 6-9pm; Sa, 8/15, 6-9pm; Sa, 8/29, 6-9pm; Sa, 9/12, 6-9pm; Sa, 9/26, 6-9pm.

Free admission. Victorian Square, 14th Street and Pyramid Way along Victorian Ave., Sparks; https://www.facebook.com/foodtruckdrivein.

VALHALLA ART, MUSIC AND THEATRE FESTIVAL:

The 34th annual festival celebrates music, theater and the visual arts with concerts, exhibits, events and activities through August. The events occur in the Boathouse Theatre, The Valhalla Grand Hall and the Grand lawn. M-Su through 8/26. Prices vary. Tallac Historic Site, 1 Valhalla Road, off Highway 89 in South Lake Tahoe, (530) 541-4975, http://valhallatahoe.com.

VILLAGE WINE WALK SERIES: The Village at

Northstar hosts a Wine Walk Series the last Saturday of each month from June to August. An array of wine and food sampling stations will greet participants from 4 p.m. to 7 p.m. Sa, 6/27, 4-7pm; Sa, 7/25, 4-7pm; Sa, 8/29, 4-7pm.

$25 before event, $30 at event. The Village at Northstar, 3001 Northstar Drive, Truckee, (530) 562-1010; www.northstarcalifornia.com

Beyond Thunderdomes

I have a great circle of female friends, but one of “the group” has a way of making backhanded comments about my appearance that make me feel bad about myself. Her latest topic is my breasts and how much smaller they are than hers. Incredibly, she manages to work this into any conversation—exercising, fashion, shopping, camping. If I confronted her, I know she’d act as though she’s been paying me compliments. (“But you’re so lucky to have small boobs!”) How can I get her to stop? Stopping her would be easier if you two were guys: “I don’t like the way you’re talking about my boobs, Marjorie. Let’s take this outside.”

But while men will sock each other in the bar parking lot (and can sometimes go back in and have a beer), women engage in what anthropologists call “covert aggression”—attacks that are hard to pinpoint as attacks, like gossip, social exclusion, and stabbing another woman in the self-worth.

Psychologist Anne Campbell, like others who study female competition, explains that women seem to have evolved to avoid physical confrontation, which would endanger their ability to have children or fulfill their role as an infant’s principal caregiver. (Ancestral Daddy couldn’t exactly run up to the store for baby formula.) So while guys will engage in put-down fests as a normal part of guy-ness, even women’s verbal aggression is usually sneaky and often comes Halloween-costumed as compliments or concern: “Ooh, honey, do you need some Clearasil for those bumps on your chest?”

The tarted-up put-down is a form of psychological manipulation—a sly way of making a woman feel bad about herself so she’ll self-locate lower on the totem pole. And because men have visually driven sexuality, women specialize in knocking other women where it really hurts—their looks. Like those supposedly minuscule boobs of yours.

The next time that she, say, turns a trip to the mall into a riff—“Har-har …Victoria’s Secret is that they don’t carry your size!”—pull her aside. (In a group of women, conflict resolution is most successful when it’s as covert as female aggression—as in, not recognizable as fighting back.) By not letting the others hear, you remove the emotionally radioactive element of shaming. This helps keep your defense from being perceived as an attack on her—yes, making you the bad guy.

Simply tell her—calmly but firmly: “These mentions of my boobs are not working for me. You need to stop.” Be prepared for the antithesis of accountability—a response like “Gawd … chill” or “I have no idea what you’re talking about.” But she’ll know exactly what you’re talking about, which is that you’ve just become a poor choice of victim. She may float a remark or two to test your resolve, so be prepared to repeat your warning—calmly but firmly—until she starts acting like just one of the girls instead of yet another breast man.

Tinder mercies

I’m a successful lawyer in my late 40s doing online dating. I’m active in the Republican Party and philanthropic causes, so I often go to benefit dinners, for which I typically buy two tickets in advance. I’ve asked two women I met online to come to these as a first date, but both canceled by text at the last minute. (The dinner yesterday was $1,000 a plate and for a political cause that means a lot to me.) Maybe I’m just attracting rude women, but I’m beginning to wonder whether I’m doing something wrong. You can learn a lot about a woman on the first date—like that she still hasn’t worked out her drinking problem and that she doesn’t always like to wear panties. Ideally, you find these things out while seated across from her at Starbucks, and not after she climbs on the table at a benefit and starts doing some sort of fertility dance with the centerpiece.

Sure, it seems convenient when your need for a plus-one coincides with your desire to go on a first date with some online hottie. But you’re better off coming up with a list of attractive female friends you can take or even male friends who share your politics or just enjoy free meals enough to not challenge your tablemates to a duel over theirs. Not taking a woman you barely know is also an important business safeguard—so that when some conservative client of yours turns to your date and asks, “So how do you two know each other?” he won’t hear something like, “We met in the ‘Republicans Who Like Hot Wax Play’ chat room on Christian Mingle.” Ω

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