MuseuMs FOURTH WARD SCHOOL MUSEUM: The Comstock Through Time. This exhibit highlights some of the history of the Comstock through photographs and personal accounts. Then-and-now photographs help to emphasize the changes in the community and surrounding area. Books, journal entries and oral histories will give the visitor a first-hand account of daily life. M-Su, 10am-5pm through 10/31. $5 adults, $3 for children ages 6-16, free for children age 5 and younger. 537 S. C St., Virginia City, (775) 847-0975.
LAKE MANSION: Free Guided Tours at the Lake Mansion, The Lake Mansion is one of the few residences in the area that is listed on the Nevada State Register of Historic Places and the National Register of Historic Places that is also open to the public to explore. F, noon through 12/31. Free admission, donations accepted. 250 Court St., (775) 826-6100.
NEVADA MUSEUM OF ART: Leiko Ikemura:
Poetics of Form, W-Su through 1/15; Ugo Rondinone: Seven Magic Mountains, W-Su through 5/11; Anthony McCall: Swell, W-Su through 1/8; Dennis Parks: Land, Language and Clay, W-Su through 1/8; Ai Weiwei— Circle of Animals/Zodiac Heads: Gold, W-Su through 10/23; Robert Adams: Around the House, W-Su through 12/11; Trevor Paglen: Orbital Reflector, W-Su through 12/31; Tilting the Basin: Contemporary Art of Nevada, W-Su through 10/23; Andrea Zittel: Wallsprawl, W-Su through 12/31; Contemporary Nevada: State of the State, W-Su through 10/23. $1-$10. 160 W. Liberty St., (775) 329-3333, www.nevadaart.org.
WILBUR D. MAY MUSEUM, RANCHO SAN RAFAEL REGIONAL PARK: Married to Adventure, The safari-themed exhibition tells the story of Martin and Osa Johnson—daring naturalists, filmmakers, photographers, explorers and American heroes of the 1910s-1930s. This exhibition is on loan from the Safari Museum in Chanute, Kansas and features more than 100 original photographs, movie posters and artifacts that capture the romance and adventure that characterized Martin and Osa’s life together. W-Su through 10/30. $8-$9. 1595 N. Sierra St., (775) 785-5961.
FilM WHAT WE DO IN THE SHADOWS: Artemisia Moviehouse presents a showing of the 2014 comedy/fantasy/horror film directed by Jermaine Clement and Taika Watiti. Four vampire roommates squabble over things like household chores and rent money, yet still find time to antagonize the neighborhood werewolves. In English, German and Spanish with English subtitles. Tu, 10/18, 7-9pm. $7 general, $6 seniors, students, $5 members. Good Luck Macbeth Theatre Company, 713 S. Virginia St., http://artemisiamovies.weebly.com.
Music AUSTIN LOUNGE LIZARDS: The self-proclaimed “Most Laughable Band in Show Business” are known for pointed lyrics, precise harmonies and instrumental expertise. F, 10/14, 7pm. $25. Piper’s Opera House, 12 N. B St., Virginia City, (775) 843-5887.
MYTH AND ROMANCE: The Reno Chamber Orchestra performs works by Mendelssohn, Dvorák and Beethoven. Sa, 10/15, 7:30pm; Su, 10/16, 2pm. $5-$50. Nightingale Concert Hall, Church Fine Arts Building, University of Nevada, Reno, 1335 N. Virginia St., (775) 348-9413.
PIPES ON THE RIVER: The Friday lunchtime concert series features guest artists performing on the church’s Casavant pipe organ. F, noon. Free. Trinity Episcopal Church, 200 Island Ave., (775) 329-4278.
sPorts & Fitness GALENA CREEK GUIDED HIKE: Join a naturalist along one of the Galena Park trails and learn about the area. Bring water, sunscreen and hiking boots. Sa, 10am. $5 donation. Galena Creek Visitor Center, 18250 Mt. Rose Highway, (775) 849-4948, www.galenacreekvisitorcenter.org.
tive walks are designed to offer people in all stages of Alzheimer’s and their carepartners an opportunity to get outdoors, get some exercise and socialize with their peers. The walks begin and end at the Truckee Meadows Parks Foundation Office, across from the California Building in Idlewild Park. Every other Tu, 10-11am
through 12/13; Tu, 10-11am through 1/24. Opens 1/10. Free. Idlewild Park, 1900 Idlewild Drive, (775) 453-0698.
SIERRA FALL COLORS & ECOLOGY HIKE: Enjoy the fall colors and learn more about our High Sierra ecology. The event benefits the Sierra Nevada Alliance. Visit website to register. Sa, 10/15, 10am-1pm. $20-$25 suggested donation. Sagehen Creek Trail, 7 miles north of Truckee on Highway 89 North, http://sierranevadaalliance.com.
onstage DINNER MURDER MYSTERY: Funtime Theater present its dinner murder mysteries. The show starts at 6:30pm with dinner service starting at 7pm. Visit website for dinner selections. Third Sa of every month, 6pm through 11/18. $50. Lili’s, 2325 Kietzke Lane, http://funtimetheater.com.
GRAND CONCOURSE: Restless Artists’ Theatre presents Heidi Schreck’s play which navigates the mystery of faith, the limits of forgiveness and the pursuit of something resembling joy. Th, 10/13, 7:30pm; F, 10/14, 7:30pm; Sa, 10/15, 7:30pm; Su, 10/16, 2pm. $15 general admission, $12 students, seniors, military, $20 at the door. Restless Artists’ Theatre, 295 20th St., Sparks, (775) 5253074, http://restlessartiststheatre.org.
MONTY PYTHON’S SPAMALOT: Lovingly ripped off from the classic film comedy, Monty Python and Holy Grail, Spamalot retells the legend of King Arthur and his Knights of the Round Table. F, 10/14, 7-9pm; Sa,
10/15, 7-9pm; Su, 10/16, 2-4pm; F, 10/21, 7-9pm; Sa, 10/22, 7-9pm; Su, 10/23, 2-4pm.
$20 general, $18 students, seniors, $16 BAC members. Brewery Arts Center, 449 W. King St., Carson City, (775) 883-1976, www.breweryarts.org.
HICKR’Y SWITCH: The Americana/indie grass
group performs. Sa, 10/15, 7-9pm. $18 general admission, $13-$15. Brewery Arts Center Performance Hall, 511 W. King St., Carson City, (775) 883-1976.
by AMY ALKON
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Wealth care crisis A female friend of mine just broke up with her billionaire boyfriend. She told me she wasn’t happy. The guy is super-picky about whether you put things back in exactly the right spot and doesn’t have the greatest sense of humor. Still, I think she’s making the biggest mistake of her life. Doesn’t she know how hard it is to find a decent and wealthy man? I’m a happily married woman, so why does this make me so mad? The way you see it, your friend found that mythical leprechaun with the pot of private jets and beachfront property—and she was all, “Too short! Too green! Next!” OK, you concede, she was a little miserable, but hey—happiness can’t buy money! And no, money isn’t unimportant—and it’s especially vital when you don’t have enough to get lunch from the grocery store instead of from the Dumpster. But even money is subject to what economists call “diminishing marginal utility.” This is a term for how the benefit (“utility”) we get from each “unit” of a thing we’re consuming—like a good or service—decreases for us once we’ve filled our basic need for it. Norman Li, an evolutionary psychologist who started out in economics, explains this pretty simply: “Enough oxygen to breathe is a lot better than no oxygen, but extra (“marginal”) oxygen is not much better than enough.” Thus, oxygen has diminishing marginal utility. Li, helpfully, took an economist’s look at mating preferences. He tested which attributes people would consider necessities (versus luxuries) in a long-term relationship by giving subjects either a tight budget or a generous one to “spend” on various qualities they’d want in a partner. When women (the child bearers and carers of the species) had limited mate-shopping dollars, they allocated most of them to having a Mr. Provider—a man with status and resources. Men on a tight budget disproportionately allocated their mating dollars toward hotitude—not surprising, because beautiful features are like a flashing “Fertile Myrtle!” sign. However, even on a constrained budget, women and men each saw kindness as a must-have—ranking it a close second to their top priority.
Getting back to your friend, who’s dumping what you see as a perfectly serviceable billionaire, consider that his pickiness and humorlessness may play out as unkindness. Apparently, for her, having, oh, 100 bedrooms on four continents to cry herself to sleep in doesn’t make up for that. To stop being mad, focus on what you have to be grateful for instead of what she’s, uh, squandered—a lifetime of 26-hour arguments about how she failed to use the micrometer calipers to return the loofah to its rightful position.
Plenty of fishing I’ve been with my girlfriend for over a year, and I love her and think she’s beautiful. However, she is very insecure about her looks, and she asks me all the time whether I think she looks pretty. It’s getting tiring constantly reassuring her. Is there some tool I could be using to help her feel more secure? Yes, it is important for you to reassure her—but, in doing that, motivation counts. Social psychologist Shelly Gable finds that relationships tend to be happier when those in them are guided by “approach” rather than “avoidance” goals. In normal-person terms, this means striving for positive outcomes rather than trying to avoid negative ones. In this case, an avoidance goal would be telling your girlfriend she’s beautiful in order to keep her from nagging you, but taking the “approach” approach would be doing it because you want her to feel good. And here’s a secret: Break out the compliments before she asks and you might keep her from starting to worry that she needs “extra-coverage” makeup—the kind that involves scaffolding, three workmen and $200 worth of drywall.
Got a problem? Write Amy Alkon, 171 Pier Ave., No. 280, Santa Monica, CA 90405, or email AdviceAmy@aol.com (www.advicegoddess.com).
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