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FOURTH WARD SCHOOL MUSEUM: The

ComstockThroughTime. This exhibit highlights some of the history of the Comstock through photographs and personal accounts. Then-and-now photographs help to emphasize the changes in the community and surrounding area. Books, journal entries and oral histories will give the visitor a first-hand account of daily life. M-Su, 10am-5pm through 10/31. $5

adults, $3 for children ages 6-16, free for children age 5 and younger. 537 S. C St., Virginia City, (775) 847-0975.

LAKE MANSION: FreeGuidedToursatthe

LakeMansion, The Lake Mansion is one of the few residences in the area that is listed on the Nevada State Register of

Historic Places and the National Register of Historic Places that is also open to the public to explore. F, noon through 12/31.

Free admission, donations accepted. 250 Court St., (775) 826-6100.

NEVADA MUSEUM OF ART: LeikoIkemura:

PoeticsofForm, W-Su through 1/15; Ugo

Rondinone:SevenMagicMountains, W-Su through 5/11; AnthonyMcCall:Swell, W-Su through 1/8; DennisParks:Land,Language andClay, W-Su through 1/8; AiWeiwei—

CircleofAnimals/ZodiacHeads:Gold,

W-Su through 10/23; RobertAdams:Around theHouse, W-Su through 12/11; Trevor

Paglen:OrbitalReflector, W-Su through 12/31; TiltingtheBasin:ContemporaryArt ofNevada, W-Su through 10/23; Andrea

Zittel:Wallsprawl, W-Su through 12/31;

ContemporaryNevada:StateoftheState,

W-Su through 10/23. $1-$10. 160 W. Liberty

St., (775) 329-3333, www.nevadaart.org.

WILBUR D. MAY MUSEUM, RANCHO SAN RAFAEL

REGIONAL PARK: MarriedtoAdventure, The safari-themed exhibition tells the story of Martin and Osa Johnson—daring naturalists, filmmakers, photographers, explorers and American heroes of the 1910s-1930s. This exhibition is on loan from the Safari Museum in Chanute, Kansas and features more than 100 original photographs, movie posters and artifacts that capture the romance and adventure that characterized Martin and Osa’s life together. W-Su through 10/30. $8-$9. 1595 N. Sierra St., (775) 785-5961.

FilM

WHAT WE DO IN THE SHADOWS: Artemisia

Moviehouse presents a showing of the 2014 comedy/fantasy/horror film directed by Jermaine Clement and Taika Watiti. Four vampire roommates squabble over things like household chores and rent money, yet still find time to antagonize the neighborhood werewolves. In English, German and Spanish with English subtitles. Tu, 10/18, 7-9pm. $7 general, $6 seniors, students, $5 members. Good Luck Macbeth Theatre Company, 713 S. Virginia St., http://artemisiamovies.weebly.com.

Music

AUSTIN LOUNGE LIZARDS: The self-proclaimed

“Most Laughable Band in Show Business” are known for pointed lyrics, precise harmonies and instrumental expertise. F, 10/14, 7pm. $25. Piper’s Opera House, 12 N. B St., Virginia City, (775) 843-5887.

HICKR’Y SWITCH: The Americana/indie grass group performs. Sa, 10/15, 7-9pm. $18 general admission, $13-$15. Brewery Arts

Center Performance Hall, 511 W. King St.,

Carson City, (775) 883-1976.

Orchestra performs works by Mendelssohn, Dvorák and Beethoven. Sa, 10/15, 7:30pm; Su, 10/16, 2pm. $5-$50.

Nightingale Concert Hall, Church Fine Arts Building, University of Nevada, Reno, 1335 N. Virginia St., (775) 348-9413.

PIPES ON THE RIVER: The Friday lunchtime

concert series features guest artists performing on the church’s Casavant pipe organ. F, noon. Free. Trinity Episcopal Church, 200 Island Ave., (775) 329-4278.

sPorts & Fitness

GALENA CREEK GUIDED HIKE: Join a natural-

ist along one of the Galena Park trails and learn about the area. Bring water, sunscreen and hiking boots. Sa, 10am. $5 donation. Galena Creek Visitor Center, 18250 Mt. Rose Highway, (775) 849-4948, www.galenacreekvisitorcenter.org.

IDLEWILD HEALTH WALKS: These interpreta-

tive walks are designed to offer people in all stages of Alzheimer’s and their carepartners an opportunity to get outdoors, get some exercise and socialize with their peers. The walks begin and end at the Truckee Meadows Parks Foundation Office, across from the California Building in Idlewild Park. Every other Tu, 10-11am through 12/13; Tu, 10-11am through 1/24.

Opens 1/10. Free. Idlewild Park, 1900 Idlewild Drive, (775) 453-0698.

SIERRA FALL COLORS & ECOLOGY HIKE: Enjoy

the fall colors and learn more about our High Sierra ecology. The event benefits the Sierra Nevada Alliance. Visit website to register. Sa, 10/15, 10am-1pm. $20-$25

suggested donation. Sagehen Creek Trail, 7 miles north of Truckee on Highway 89 North, http://sierranevadaalliance.com.

onstage

DINNER MURDER MYSTERY: Funtime Theater

present its dinner murder mysteries. The show starts at 6:30pm with dinner service starting at 7pm. Visit website for dinner selections. Third Sa of every month, 6pm

through 11/18. $50. Lili’s, 2325 Kietzke Lane, http://funtimetheater.com.

GRAND CONCOURSE: Restless Artists’ Theatre presents Heidi Schreck’s play which navigates the mystery of faith, the limits of forgiveness and the pursuit of something resembling joy. Th, 10/13, 7:30pm; F, 10/14, 7:30pm; Sa, 10/15, 7:30pm; Su, 10/16, 2pm. $15

general admission, $12 students, seniors, military, $20 at the door. Restless Artists’ Theatre, 295 20th St., Sparks, (775) 5253074, http://restlessartiststheatre.org.

MONTY PYTHON’S SPAMALOT: Lovingly ripped

off from the classic film comedy, Monty PythonandHolyGrail, Spamalotretells the legend of King Arthur and his Knights of the Round Table. F, 10/14, 7-9pm; Sa, 10/15, 7-9pm; Su, 10/16, 2-4pm; F, 10/21, 7-9pm; Sa, 10/22, 7-9pm; Su, 10/23, 2-4pm.

$20 general, $18 students, seniors, $16 BAC members. Brewery Arts Center, 449 W. King St., Carson City, (775) 883-1976, www.breweryarts.org.

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Wealth care crisis

by AMY ALKON

A female friend of mine just broke up with her billionaire boyfriend. She told me she wasn’t happy. The guy is super-picky about whether you put things back in exactly the right spot and doesn’t have the greatest sense of humor. Still, I think she’s making the biggest mistake of her life. Doesn’t she know how hard it is to find a decent and wealthy man? I’m a happily married woman, so why does this make me so mad? The way you see it, your friend found that mythical leprechaun with the pot of private jets and beachfront property—and she was all, “Too short! Too green! Next!”

OK, you concede, she was a little miserable, but hey—happiness can’t buy money! And no, money isn’t unimportant—and it’s especially vital when you don’t have enough to get lunch from the grocery store instead of from the Dumpster. But even money is subject to what economists call “diminishing marginal utility.” This is a term for how the benefit (“utility”) we get from each “unit” of a thing we’re consuming—like a good or service—decreases for us once we’ve filled our basic need for it. Norman Li, an evolutionary psychologist who started out in economics, explains this pretty simply: “Enough oxygen to breathe is a lot better than no oxygen, but extra (“marginal”) oxygen is not much better than enough.” Thus, oxygen has diminishing marginal utility.

Li, helpfully, took an economist’s look at mating preferences. He tested which attributes people would consider necessities (versus luxuries) in a long-term relationship by giving subjects either a tight budget or a generous one to “spend” on various qualities they’d want in a partner.

When women (the child bearers and carers of the species) had limited mate-shopping dollars, they allocated most of them to having a Mr. Provider—a man with status and resources. Men on a tight budget disproportionately allocated their mating dollars toward hotitude—not surprising, because beautiful features are like a flashing “Fertile Myrtle!” sign. However, even on a constrained budget, women and men each saw kindness as a must-have—ranking it a close second to their top priority.

Getting back to your friend, who’s dumping what you see as a perfectly serviceable billionaire, consider that his pickiness and humorlessness may play out as unkindness. Apparently, for her, having, oh, 100 bedrooms on four continents to cry herself to sleep in doesn’t make up for that. To stop being mad, focus on what you have to be grateful for instead of what she’s, uh, squandered—a lifetime of 26-hour arguments about how she failed to use the micrometer calipers to return the loofah to its rightful position.

Plenty of fishing

I’ve been with my girlfriend for over a year, and I love her and think she’s beautiful. However, she is very insecure about her looks, and she asks me all the time whether I think she looks pretty. It’s getting tiring constantly reassuring her. Is there some tool I could be using to help her feel more secure?

Yes, it is important for you to reassure her—but, in doing that, motivation counts. Social psychologist Shelly Gable finds that relationships tend to be happier when those in them are guided by “approach” rather than “avoidance” goals. In normal-person terms, this means striving for positive outcomes rather than trying to avoid negative ones. In this case, an avoidance goal would be telling your girlfriend she’s beautiful in order to keep her from nagging you, but taking the “approach” approach would be doing it because you want her to feel good. And here’s a secret: Break out the compliments before she asks and you might keep her from starting to worry that she needs “extra-coverage” makeup—the kind that involves scaffolding, three workmen and $200 worth of drywall.

Got a problem? Write Amy Alkon, 171 Pier Ave., No. 280, Santa Monica, CA 90405, or email AdviceAmy@aol.com (www.advicegoddess.com).

SILENCE! THE MUSICAL: Good Luck Macbeth

Theatre Company presents this musical parody of the 1991 film TheSilenceofthe Lambs. Th, 10/13, 7:30-9:30pm; F, 10/14, 7:30-9:30pm; Sa, 10/15, 7:30-9:30pm; W, 10/19, 7:30-9:30pm; Th, 10/20, 7:30-9:30pm; F, 10/21, 7:30-9:30pm; Sa, 10/22, 7:30-

9:30pm. $15 in advance, $18 at the door. Good Luck Macbeth Theatre Company, 713 S. Virginia St., (775) 322-3716.

STAGE KISS: Brüka Theatre opens its 20162017 season with Sarah Ruhl’s romantic comedy about what happens when lovers share a stage kiss—or when actors share a real one. All tickets are $10 on

Artist Night, Oct. 19. Th, 10/13, 8pm; F, 10/14, 8pm; Sa, 10/15, 8pm; W, 10/19, 8pm; Th, 10/20, 8pm; F, 10/21, 8pm; Sa, 10/22, 8pm.

$18-$25. Brüka Theatre, 99 N. Virginia St., (775) 323-3221.

Classes

LOOM WEAVING: In this beginner class, students will get to know the basics including how to warp a loom, plain weave, create triangles, soumak (fishtail or braid) and rya (fringe). All students will take home their own tabletop, fully assembled wooden loom, shuttle and comb. F, 10/14, 11am-3pm. $82. Atelier

Truckee, 10128 Donner Pass Road, Truckee, www.ateliertruckee.com.

SUGAR LOVE UNIVERSITY: Learn about the

origins of chocolate, its role in commerce and culture and its transformation throughout culinary history. Each session will feature limited-edition chocolate flavors, complimentary wine, beer or spirits and light hors d’oeuvres. Students must be at least 21 years old. Tu, 10/18, 7-9pm; W, 11/16, 7-9pm; Th, 12/15, 7-9pm; Tu, 1/10, 7-9pm; W, 2/8, 7-9pm; Th, 3/9, 7-9pm; Tu, 4/4, 7-9pm; W, 5/10, 7-9pm;

Th, 6/15, 7-9pm. $28 for early bird tickets. Sugar Love Chocolates, 50 S. Virginia St., Ste. 11, (800) 479-9830.

Community

BEGINNING WEST COAST SWING LESSON: West

Coast swing dancing sponsored by High Sierra Swing Dance Club. Preceded by a lesson by Tim Renner in beginning West Coast swing at 6pm. No partner necessary for either activity. Tu, 6-8pm through 12/1. $8. El Charro Avitia, 4389 S. Carson St., Carson City, www.hssdc.org.

CANCER SUPPORT GROUP: This group is for

patients and families facing cancer. Participants can share experiences and express feelings and concerns. The support group meets in the Orthopedic Conference Room on the third floor of the Roseview Tower. Th, 11:30am-1pm. Free. Renown Regional Medical Center, 1155 Mill St., (775) 982-6831.

CLICKETS KNITTING GROUP: Jean Peters

guides this class for knitters of all ages and levels. Yarn and needles are available. First and Third Su of every month,

1:30-3pm. Free. Spanish Springs Library, 7100A Pyramid Lake Highway, located at Lazy 5 Regional Park, Spanish Springs, (775) 424-1800.

CROCHET CONNECTION: Learn to crochet or

share tips with other crochet enthusiasts. Th, 4-5:45pm. Free. Spanish Springs Library, 7100A Pyramid Lake Highway, located at Lazy 5 Regional Park, Spanish Springs, (775) 424-1800. 10/14:Lily Afshar The Iranian-American classical guitarist and Europe with the cultural heritage of blends Persia. her The formal training first woman to in the United States receive a doctoral degree in classical guitar, Afshar directs the classical guitar program at the University of Memphis. Contemporary classical composers have sought after her for creative collaborations resulting in notable world premieres, including works by Carlo Domeniconi, John Baur, Reza Vali, Garry Eister, Gerard Drozd, among others. She also performs arrangements of Persian and Azerbaijani pieces and occasionally plays the sehtar, a traditional Persian instrument that evolved into the guitar. Afshar’s performance begins at 6 p.m. on Friday, Oct. 14, at the Wells Fargo Auditorium in the Mathewson-IGT Knowledge Center at the University of Nevada, Reno, 1664 N. Virginia St. Tickets are $20. Visit www.cgwest.org.

NORTHERN NEVADA ENVIRONMENTAL

PROFESSIONALS: This networking group meets monthly. Second Th of every month,

6-8pm. Desert Research Institute, 2215 Raggio Parkway, (775) 828-1991.

SOUTH VALLEYS BRIDGE GROUP: Join Jill and

meet new friends. Basic bridge knowledge preferred. F, 1-4pm. Free. South Valleys Library, 15650A Wedge Parkway, (775) 851-5190.

SPARKS LIBRARY KNITTING AND CROCHETING

CIRCLE: Join the Sparks Library every Thursday and learn the techniques to start your masterpiece. Th, 4-6pm. Free. Sparks Library, 1125 12th St., Sparks, (775) 352-3200.

TICC, TRANSGENDER SUPPORT IN CARSON

CITY: The group’s goal is to have a safe place for anyone that identifies as LGBTQIAP, their allies and advocates to get together in a social setting to promote equality and full acceptance of LGBTQIAP people through support, education and advocacy. Second F of every month, 6-8pm through 12/9. Free. Comma

Coffee, 312 S. Carson St., Carson City, (775) 721-8135, www.commacoffee.com.

THE TUESDAY NIGHT YARN CREW: All skill

levels and yarn-crafts are welcome. Bring your project to this “sit and knit” gathering. Tu, 5:30-7pm. Free. South Valleys Library, 15650A Wedge Parkway, (775) 851-5190.

Volunteer

APPLICATION DEADLINE EXTENDED: The

Alliance with the Washoe County Medical Society (AWCMS) is accepting applications from local non-profit organizations. AWCMS awards grant money to community agencies operating within Washoe County that benefit residents of all ages. Grant money requests are reviewed by the Community Action Fund Committee and must promote health related educational, creative or prevention programs. Grant applications are available at www.awcms.org. Applications must be postmarked on or before Oct. 15, 2016 to be eligible. Through 10/15. Alliance with the Washoe County Medical Society, 3660 Baker Lane, (775) 829-1303, www.awcms.org.

BLOOD DONATIONS: Give the gift of life and donate blood. Donors must be healthy, weigh at least 110 pounds and be at least 17 years old. Call to make an appointment. M-Su. United Blood Services, 1125

Terminal Way, (775) 324-6454.

ECLECTIC EVENING BOOK CLUB: This month

the book club discusses ThePictureof DorianGrayby Oscar Wilde. W, 10/19, 5-6:30pm. Free. Northwest Reno Library, 2325 Robb Drive, (775) 787-4100.

GRIEF SUPPORT GROUP: Renown Hospice

Care offers a grief support group for those who have experienced the loss of a loved one. Third W of every month, 6:30-

8pm. Free. Washoe County Senior Center, 1155 E. Ninth St., (775) 982-2817.

INTERMEDIATE WEST COAST SWING LESSON:

West Coast swing dancing sponsored by High Sierra Swing Dance Club. No partner necessary for either activity. M, 6-9pm through 12/5. $8. El Charro Avitia KNITTING & CROCHET CLUB: This group is

open to who enjoys knitting or crocheting. Second Sa of every month, 1-3pm; Third Sa of every month, 1-3pm. Opens 10/15.

Free. Northwest Reno Library, 2325 Robb Drive, (775) 787-4100.

KNITTING GROUP: The group is open to all knitters, crocheters, loom artists and people who enjoy the company of other yarn artists. Bring your project or start a new one. Tu, 4-6pm through 11/21. Free.

Atelier Truckee, 10128 Donner Pass Road, Truckee, (530) 386-2700. LIFESCAPES: The memoir writing program for seniors meets. Second and fourth Th of every month, 10:30am. Free. South

Valleys Library, 15650A Wedge Parkway, (775) 851-5190; W, 10/19, 1-3pm; M, 11/7, 1-3pm; M, 11/21, 1-3pm. Free. Northwest

Reno Library, 2325 Robb Drive, (775) 787-4100.

MAN TO MAN PROSTATE CANCER SUPPORT

GROUP: This support group is designed to help men cope with prostate cancer by offering education and support for patients during their cancer journey. The group meets in the Orthopedic Conference Room on the third floor in the Roseview Tower. First and Third M of every month, 5:30-7pm. Free. Renown