PURSUING PURPOSE AS A MINISTRY DWN PURPOSE Magazine October 2020

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Purpose In Ministry

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When feelings of being lost and uncertain turn into clarity, revelation, inspiration, and confidence

BY DESTINY WALKERS NETWORK

Empowering Purpose Through Magazine 35 Slay Doubt With Confidence

Confidence is the feeling, belief, or a firm trust in yourself, your abilities and talent that you can perform them.

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Founders Note

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A Personal Journey

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EXCLUSIVE! Purpose After Domestic Violence

PURPOSE Magazine is to help women gain empowerment from various cover stories, articles Membership movement open enrollment When I was a little girl, I remember having ideas of what I was supposed to be or who I was supposed

My transition from a seed to my entrance into this world began with the enemy trying to kill, steal

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Changing Your Mindset

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PURPOSE Magazine is to help women gain empowerment from various cover stories, articles, and the support of small businesses. It is important women walk in purpose even in these critical times of despair. With PURPOSE Mgazine thousands of women can keep a positive mindset, and even think about what their true purpose is. PURPOSE Magazine has been featured in ABC, CBS, NBC, and FOX NEWS.

AS SEEN ON I’d like to welcome you to the Destiny Walkers Network PURPOSE Magazine. This magazine will serve as an extension of my Destiny Walkers Network business innovations. DWN PURPOSE Magazine has articles written by phenomenal contributer writers. We are a community of diverse women with expertise from a wide array of professional business industries.

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Editorial DAWN ANDERSON Editor-In-Chief

Contributors

Candace Joseph Raven J. Williams Dawn J. Anderson Dr. Ladera Carn Norma Stanley CARIS L. REED Tamuri Richardson

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To empower women of diverse backgrounds to rise up and embrace who they were created to be. To live life unapologetically in their skin. To walk boldly in their purpose and live fulfilled lives.

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To spread DWN PURPOSE Magazine to African American women & women of diverse backgrounds. Giving lifestyle, finance, health/wellness, culture business, family and personal development to women in worldwide communities.

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Walk In Purpose Your Destiny Is Waiting For You

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Editor In Chief Always remernber to fall asleep with a dream and wake up with a purpose.

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his quote is one of my favorites.

It seems that it becomes very easy to have to deal with the harsh reality of life when we fail to dream. We become so concerned with what other people think that we become susceptible to haters' thoughts. We tend to fool ourselves into thinking that if I stay within the status quo and don't rock the boat, all will be well.

Let's be friends Dawn J. Andersen.

The Media Monetization Strategist

The truth of the matter is those who set out to change the world dream big, very big. The dreams that are larger than life are the dreams that change the world. Haters will hate; people will have opinions, but the reality is that if we want to change the world, we have to dream big. Waking up with purpose, making a plan, and taking action will move us into our greatness.

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Pursuing Purpose as a

MINISTRY

When feelings of being lost and uncertain turn into clarity, revelation, inspiration, and confidence; then you start to use that as a driving force to push you into a presence far beyond what you can ask or ever think of. That very presence created a shift in my mind and began to guide me and align things so that I would be able to meet the needs of so many other people who started off with those same feelings. This was the push that I needed early on in pursuit of my purpose.

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t wasn’t enough anymore for me to sit back and be a “behind the scenes” change in the world. If I wanted change, I had to openly be the change.

I always tell people that my life’s scripture says, “Before I formed you in your mother’s womb, I knew you. I set you apart; I appointed you as a prophet to the nations.” I knew that this scripture was for me when I first read it as a child, and even through to today, it’s confirmation to me of why I am purposed.

I knew that I had a story to tell and a mission to seek which is why premature birth couldn’t take me out, challenges that I faced in my personal life couldn’t hold me down, and the many other storms that came my way couldn’t prosper. Those things added with everyday life can truly weigh a person down, but the weight of all of that simply made me stronger. You see, the beautiful thing about understanding and knowing WHO you are and WHOSE you are allows you to put those things aside and focus on the light that shines so brightly around you.

It’s important to note that roadblocks may come along your journey, but I encourage you to find ways to leap over them with joy. Take advantage of every opportunity that comes your way, and to be honest, I have found that every opportunity is in direct relation to YOUR purpose! Just think about it, the world is huge. It no coincidence that you’re sitting next to a particular person or standing next to someone in line. That was predestined. How will you use those few minutes for greatness?

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I used to be very shy and I would never say much to people, but now I enjoy learning about others in hopes that God will lead me to offer an encouraging word to them either based on my life’s experience, because those few minutes of interaction could be the missing piece in their own journey that they have been praying for. Not knowing If I’ll ever see that person again, my peace is knowing that my purpose has been fulfilled. Let me give you a short story, one night, we went to the grocery store, and while in the checkout line we noticed that a few employees were sitting there laughing and discussing an elderly woman that was sitting by the door with her bags of food. The store was about to close, and they were just about ready to call law enforcement to have her removed.

The elderly lady was not bothering anyone, she just kept saying that her taxi was supposed to be there hours ago but got stuck in traffic. We walked up to the lady and started listening to her story. She had walked to the store, from her home because her children were out of town, but it started to rain, and she didn’t want to walk with all of her bags in the rain. She was one of the sweetest persons we’ve met. My husband and I looked at each other and said, we will take you home. The store personnel were shocked by our reaction. During the ride, she said that she had been sitting there praying and God told her not to worry that He would send someone, and she was so thankful. We talked about the local church that she attended, she bragged on her pastor, her children, what she likes to cook, and so much more. She encouraged us, and we offered a word of encouragement to her along the way, and she was grateful. You see, it wasn’t our intent to go to the store that night, we were just riding and decided to stop. But a simple conversation with the lady, and a whisper from God made a difference in the outcome of her evening. For us, this was ministry.

I’ve held many different positions within the church itself from teacher, to dancer, to teacher, to choir director, to assistant youth director, to minister, to being on various leadership teams, and I loved them all; but my greatest ministry has been to take all of that and operate in my purpose outside of the walls of the church. In my prayer time, I always ask God to put me in the position where He wants me to be for His purpose. Now, The funny thing about God is when you ask Him something you have to be ready mentally, physically, and spiritually; Because it’s not always going to be a walk in the park, and people are going to be upset and not understand when you walk away or tell them no, but as long as God is leading and directing you He will always give you peace, provision, and comfort. I had to learn these things along the way.

The other great thing about pursuing purpose as a ministry is knowing that through it all, beside me would always be grace and mercy. Whether it be in church, out of church, through community service, through a dance, through a book, or through a business, God has never left me and He never will, and I encourage you to take the time to find your purpose, run with it and don’t look back. Someone is always watching, listening and learning from your daily walk to move in their own purpose. So, enjoy the ride, smile often, encourage yourself, and leap for joy because you will win, you will change lives, and you will know that it’s your purpose.

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Exclusive Interview

Who is RAVEN J. WILLIAMS? Humble Beginnings

Where Were You Born And Raised?

My family roots are pretty widespread however, I was born and raised in Lake Charles, Louisiana, which sits in the Southwest corner of the state.

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I was primarily raised by my mother, which is where I gained my strength, drive, and determination while observing her daily walk when I was a child. As an adult, I often reflect on the many days that I watched her pray for me, encourage me, and teach me the many lessons that she knew I wouldn’t fully understand until I became a mother and wife myself.

I also remember watching her work long hours as a housekeeper just so that I can have the things that I needed to survive in life. We didn’t always have everything, but we had exactly what we needed. In the midst of all of that, my mother always kept a humble heart and spirit and she was and still is proud to let people know that I am her daughter. It sounds simple, but it was the most amazing feeling now that I think about it. When I was younger, it seemed a bit embarrassing, but it was her way of setting the tone and creating conversation with others that would greatly impact my life in the future. She would always tell me that you never know who you will cross paths with down the road, so be kind, always learn who people are, and remember that it’s no coincidence that you met them, it’s always for a purpose.

Purpose was a word used quite often in our conversations while growing up. I didn’t always understand the full meaning of it, but I know that my mom would say that you are here for a reason. Life wasn’t always great and grand on our end, we went through quite a lot from living in poverty, to moving from place to place frequently,

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to dealing with other things that life would throw at us, but my mother would always say, never forget to pray and believe; and God will take care of us. Growing up as an only child, I was very quiet and learned to become very observant to the world around me. I set a goal to take in as

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much information as I could, often times when others never knew I was listening, all the lessons being taught was settling in. This is why I feel like it’s so important to be mindful how we speak to, and what we do in front of the younger generation because they are listening very closely and watching

our every move as an adult. This generation of young people not only do what we say, but they mimic what we do. If we are going to plant seeds of purpose within them, then we have to make sure that we are stirring the soil in the right direction. That is wisdom that has been planted within me by all of my ancestors; and it helped me to develop into who I am today.

I spoke a lot of my mother, but my father, remained an important part of my growth in my life also. He was a

U.S. Marine, and he taught me mental and physical strengthening techniques and the tougher side of life. He and my mother shared the spotlight of being my number one fan. They were true parents who lived, loved, and cared for their daughter.

How Do You Remember Yourself As A Child?

Creative. For as far back as I can remember, I was always coming

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up with something new or trying something out. I always wanted to work in creative arts with an ultimate goal of teaching others because I wanted to help them bring their creativity to life. Since my earlier years, I went on to become a dancer and choreographer. I have been a dance choreographer for over twenty years, and I continue to train and help to build other dancers, choreographers, and leaders so that they can help build the next generation.

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Midlife Experience WHO ARE YOU NOW? If I had to sum up my life in one word, it would be “Inspiration”. As I reflect on where I’ve been, to where I am now, I see that the journey I’ve been on allowed me to inspire so many along the way. There are so many people who only come into your life for a season, therefore, it’s important to make every moment count. You never know if that season is for a day, a week, or a year; so uplifting and inspiring others are an important part of my life goals and purpose with others. While doing so, I’ve made connections that have helped me along my own personal journey and have stretched my mind and thought process to become a stronger woman physically, mentally, and spiritually.

I love to sit back and reflect on where I am now as a wife, mother, daughter, mentor, and friend; and I feel so blessed. God could have chosen anyone else to be in this position but for this particular set of assignments, in this season, I am so grateful and humbled that He chose me. Many times, I will find myself setting aside

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time to turn everything off, take a deep breath, and simply love the moment; and I encourage you to do the same.

It’s kind of like a loud, unspoken thank you God moment.

Who Are You Now? Today, I stand more confident in who I am. Life has taught me a lot of lessons and one of the most important lessons has been to love yourself and boldly be who you were purposed to be. In everything that I do, I have the full support and backing of my family; who cheers me on every step of the way, just as I cheer them on. As a mentor, I teach individuals all the time to be their own biggest cheerleaders, be bold, be positive, and be confident. As a coach to emerging authors, I teach them to learn the business for themselves. As a leader, I lead by example and train others to become leaders as well. All of this is near and dear to my heart because I love to see others succeed and if I can help them along the way, then I will certainly do what I can do encourage, inspire, and motivate them to step out of their comfort zone and push them into their destiny. This

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is part of ministry for me. It gives me peace knowing that I’ve helped someone along the way. I never ask for any type of recognition because it’s what I love to do; and it’s ultimately their time to shine. One of my favorite things to do is coach individuals into starting their own business and teach them to be the leader that they were destined to be. I love to sit back and watch their growth and success.

That’s my internal reward.

What Life Experiences Have Led You To Where You Are Now As A Ceo? During my journey in business, I think I’ve tried just about everything. (Lol) The one constant thing that I’ve always been and have maintained is a leadership role. I’ve tried just about every aspect of leadership so that I can learn as much as possible on different levels. Doing this allowed me to look at business from both a management and consumer level. I believe that it’s important not to just jump into the role of leadership or head of a company and you haven’t

fully prepared yourself behind the scenes. How can we possibly tell someone that we want things a certain way if we haven’t been educated or hands-on with it ourselves. Doing so also strengthened me mentally and spiritually. Yes, the two went hand in hand for me because I’ve also learned that you must be mentally strong to handle what lies ahead, but you also have to be spiritually at peace enough to accept that the decisions being made are for a purpose. I’ve had more than enough of my share of failures along the way, which in my opinion are just learning experiences that led me to where I am today. One thing I can say is that never stopped trying.

I probably pouted for a day, but then quickly picked myself up and came up with a new plan the next day. That was the joy of having a creative mind.

Education/ Business Info Educational Background/ Certificates/Licenses My formal education comes in the form of a degree in Business Administration at Northwestern State University. Since then, I make it my goal to either learn something new or teach someone something new every day; which is why I am self-taught in many areas and have received certifications in the areas of graphic and website design, training and development, mentorship, entrepreneurship, publishing, and organizational leadership, ; and I can say that I am still learning and plan to obtain more formal education in the near future. I am truly appreciative of my educational background.

BUSINESS INFO Being in business for myself is one of the greatest things that I could have done. I have been writing for almost ten years but have started to publicly brand myself a couple of years ago. It was all a result of me taking the stop to stop hiding from myself; but that’s a story for another day.

It is such an honor to be able to help others grow in their own journey in life.

My brand is Raven J Williams, which

Raven J. Williams Beautiful & Blessed Family

comes in the form of two areas, Raven, the Author and Raven, the CEO.

Raven J Williams, The Author My goal as an author and motivational speaker is to Inspire Others to Believe, when they Don’t have the Strength to do so. I am committed to Inspire, Write, and Empower others through Speaking Engagements, Workshops, Books, Blogs, and Mentoring. This is where my brand began.

Raven J Williams, The CEO As I continued to mentor others regarding their business, individual and non-profit organizational goals, I realized that there was a common

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factor which is, that many people have a vision and a message to give to the world, but they don’t necessarily have a clear direction; therefore, my job is to provide the solutions that they need, in the form of a BluePrint. Thus, BluePrint Coaching Solutions was birthed. One of our main goals is to assist the many emerging entrepreneurs who have chosen to lead in the areas of nonprofit organizations. This area is very important because nonprofits capture every age group and genre, depending on the mission of the organization. What I have found is that many nonprofit leaders begin their journey in efforts either be a strong community advocate or just to be a

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THE BOSS CHICK CEO

Author, Speaker, Empowerment Coach Raven J. Williams blessing to others. I’ve also noticed that many have the desire to lead, but need help organizing and training their peers that work beside them which is why I focus on operational development of leaders and their team, because when everyone works together, we make a greater impact.

Not only do we assist with leadership development and training, but we also provide “the BluePrint” through Individual Business Coaching, Group Webinars, Author Bootcamps, Book Publishing, Teen Leadership Workshops and Conferences, and Public Speaking.

Both businesses under the brand allow me to establish opportunities for others that they didn’t have before. One of my main focuses is to create opportunities for the next generation, which is why I offer rotating short-term internships within both areas of my business to others as young as middle school to

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aide them in beginning their business and creative thinking journey in hope that they will one day, pave the way for others.

One of the greatest feeling of knowing that you are truly operating in your element and fulfilling your purpose is to watch those whom you’ve helped along the way succeed and have them come back and simply say thank you, then pull someone else with them to learn. At this point, we are teaching them to shift generational curses into transformational changes. That has kept me going over the years.

Community Community Service Contributions Giving back in the form of community service is important. The first community service organization that I worked with, I began serving with when I was in middle school, which was an organization called Top Teens of America. Working with this organization helped to develop my love and development with working with others. Not only did we work with many nonprofit organizations, helped to keep our community beautiful, we also learned the value of leadership, determination, positive peer interaction, and what it’s like to have a strong mentor. This organization helped me so much that I wanted to do the same for our young people, so as an adult, I became a member of its nationally sponsored organization, Top Ladies of Distinction, Incorporated, in which I held various positions including local chapter president recently.

Working in community service allows you to volunteer and use your gifts in a positive manner on many levels, that make a huge impact in the lives of those who you touch. It is an amazing platform to show who you truly are inside, knowing that your reward will come from a higher place.

Future Endeavors My goal in business is to continue to lead, train, and aide others into believing in themselves, being confident, and live life to the fullest

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while loving what you do. That is a key component in business. You have to love what you do.

Being able to travel to various states all over the country to speak in the form of keynote and workshops has allowed me to connect with many people; but the journey is not complete yet; so as a motivational speaker, I plan to continue to travel and deliver words of encouragement and inspiration.

As a businesswoman, please be on the lookout for our company evolving into and helping more businesses, individuals, and nonprofits nationwide.

Open Discussion It is very important for each of us to know the reason why you were created and gifted with your unique set of gifts.

That is your purpose. Listen, the road is not going to always be easy, but it will definitely be worth it if you don’t give up. You have to test and try things to get to where you need to be. That’s all part of the journey.

I’ll share something with you all. I used to be so afraid of failure or what people would think of me that it took me years to openly publicize any gift that I had within me. No one knew that I was a writer, unless they subscribed to my blog (that I didn’t promote). I didn’t publicize being a choreographer, but it was a gift that only those who I taught knew about. I didn’t publicize my other businesses that failed, yes, I said that failed. But one day… God whispered to me and asked me why am I hiding?

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He reminded me that storms would come, but they wouldn’t prosper. Tests will come, but they would result in a testimony. He told me to be bold and confident and do what He called me to do. My certifications didn’t matter.

The fact that my master’s degree didn’t come from an accredited school, He said it didn’t matter! He reminded me that He didn’t call me to walk in this purpose because I was “that” qualified, yet He had a purpose that was designed just for me. So, I say this to all of you today. Don’t be afraid to step out and do what you were gifted to do. If it’s your purpose, then make it happen and not worry about anything else. THE TIME IS NOW! And don’t worry if someone else is doing the same thing as you. Do you realize that the world is huge and there’s enough food for everyone to eat at the table?

Connect with someone who is doing the same thing with you and PARTNER TOGETHER. Make your works even greater. There’s no greater move of confidence than to move in partnership with someone else. And when we support each other, and we move at the same beat; nothing and no one can stop us. Let’s be the change that our children need to see. Let’s teach the next generation to be powerful, bold and amazing. THIS is what we were called to do. Let’s do this together.

Start your journey to entrepreneurship and open that business, write that book, be that leader that we need today! Now if you need a BluePrint to guide you along the way, call or message me. I am here to help in any way that I can. In either case, you will be great, you will be successful, and you will walk in purpose.

Contact Info Raven J Williams, Author Raven J Williams, Author/Speaker @ravenjwilliams Raven J Williams RavenJWilliams.com Raven J Williams, CEO BluePrint Coaching Solutions @theblueprintcoach blueprintcoachingsolutions.com

In Either Case, You Will Be Great, You Will Be Successful, And You Will Walk in Purpose.

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Maintaining a

HEALTHY Heart

BY CARIS L. REED

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ccording to the United Healthcare High cholesterol is a leading risk factor for coronary heart disease and strokes. By monitoring and controlling your cholesterol, you can reduce your risk and improve your risk and improve your health.

Eating a healthy history diet and exercising regularly are important for maintaining healthy cholesterol levels.

or palpitations.

Eating a healthy diet can help lower your cholesterol. Eating a balanced diet with plenty of vegetables. Fish, poultry without skin, leaner cuts of red meat, and foods that contain monounsaturated fats such as avocados, and nut. Remember maintain a healthy heart!

There are some things to consider in coronary heart disease. Family health history and ethnicity, advancing age, especially 55 and older, smoking, or excessive alcohol use. High blood pressure (at or above 140/90) and high cholesterol (below 200 is optimal).

Be sure to see your doctor regularly. You may need to be screened for heart disease more frequently as you grow older. Talk about the steps that may lower your risk of heart attack, such as exercise and more. Be aware of your body responses to stress, such as unusually fast heartbeat October 2020

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Personal

JOURNEY

By Tamuri LeAnne Richardson

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hen I was a little girl, I remember having ideas of what I was supposed to be or who I was supposed to be when I grow up. I was unsure of the path that I would take, but I knew I was NOT going to follow the world’s idea of traditional life for me as a girl and a future woman. I made up my mind a long time ago that I wasn’t going to cook and clean for any man, my brothers raised me to know that I was capable of doing anything and that I should not allow myself to be trivialized in my role as a significant other.

I knew I wasn’t going to be a housewife because my mother single

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handedly raised five children (4 boys and 1 girl) on her own with absolutely no additional parental help and she did it effortlessly, it taught me that it was important to have my own, not to rely on anyone for support and to be my biggest cheerleader. As I got older, I always understood that I was meant for greatness whatever that was, I worked harder, I was more ambitious, I had more ideas, I even foolishly loved harder.

As you get older though you realize that the world isn’t so black and white and that there is grey all over and that the ideas of young tend not to be the ideas of old.

It was not until I was a full-grown

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woman and had gotten out of an abusive, toxic relationship that I understood that I in fact did not follow my own path at all. Yes, I did some unique and adventurous things in my life, none as adventurous as marrying a completely damaged man that lacked the ability to exhibit love or show empathy, but some unique things. But I realized that I locked myself in a traditional way of living, following the teachings of organized religion by flawed and imperfect man, raising two children and centering my life around them and entering relationships with traditional values.

Had everything that I had been taught from my mother and brothers

I took the lemons in life that were thrown at me and I turned them into a nice large picture of Homestyle Country Lemonade. I soon understood after the smoke settled to life’s trauma that It was never about the path I took in life; it was about the journey. A journey has lessons to be learned, people to see and meet, places to go and experiences to have that will leave an everlasting footprint in our lives and teach us how to move more methodically.

been tossed out of the window to follow man’s misguided definition of happiness? It must have been, along the way I picked up the notion that marriage was the be all to happiness, sure it can be if you pick the right partner, but what if you don’t? I lived to focus on my children and their needs and what made them happy, but they are growing up now and so what happens when they no longer need as much from me as before. I’m a self-proclaimed fixer and the go to in my family and that no longer satisfied me or brought me joy. So, who am I now? What do I do? Who do I become?

I forsook everything that I was told NEVER to do for this exact reason. Does this make me a failure?

If you get a chance, step back for a moment and see if you are still on your path or if you are on your journey, and if not I would like to encourage you to make the necessary changes to put YOU first and get yourself on YOUR journey, and when you get there, let me know, I’ll have a big glass of lemonade waiting for you.

I learned one of the greatest things that you can do for yourself is to acknowledge and accept our failures in life and maybe even that we just didn’t know what we were doing. I deliberately sacrificed my happiness and purpose in life by placing things in place of my own happiness and giving them more value than I did my own peace of mind and happiness. I learned that its kay to focus on me even more than others because I have to have joy in the life I’m living, and it cannot be based on giving and others taking. I realized that its okay to be selfish and care about me and put me at the center point of every decision in my life, after all I’m responsible for me and my own personal happiness alone.

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LET YOUR FAITH BE BIGGER

THAN YOUR FEARS

BY CARIS L. REED Now faith is the substance of things hoped for, the evidence of things not seen. But without faith it is impossible to please him; for he that cometh to God must believe that he is a rewarder of them that diligently seek him.”(Hebrews 11:1;6).

KJV Let us not be overwhelmed by fear for it is just a mere illusion telling us what we cannot do. But we have the power through faith that whatever we believe will overcome those fears. Faith is a Biblical Principle it was spoken of repeatedly.

As a matter of fact, Jesus said, in Matthew 17:10 all it takes is the size of a mustard seed and you can tell a mountain to be moved from your life.

Faith is your belief system, and the internal hope of force and mental strength of something coming to pass. Always remember you are in control and not fear. Fear is your enemy and faith is your friend. Increase it with scripture, prayer, and actions. “LET YOUR FAITH BE BIGGER THAN YOUR FEARS”

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Matters Of The Heart

Forgiveness Is Our Healing

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elationships can be a gift, bring you joy and happiness, and become the best part of who you are. They last for years and become life memories and even marriages.

However, relationships can also become stressful, complicated, and lost due to unforgiveness. According to MindBodyGreen sometimes you have to forgive someone may times before you finally let go of all the emotional residue of the past.� “Every act of forgiveness and letting go is an act of healing

your own self.

Forgiveness has the power to heal, making you whole again and ultimately love again.

Many women carry the unnecessary burden of emotional bondage called unforgiveness.

The somehow believe that not forgiving an exhusband, or boyfriend will bring them justice in the wrong that was done to them.

When a man refuses to treat you with love always have boundaries in place. Be firm if he miss use or disrespect you. Holding on to grievance, resentment, hurt, and pain only brings emotional and psychological issues to your body. Your body produces adrenaline and cortisol which place your bodies hormones off

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track eventually leading to stress.

One of the oldest books in history is the Holy Bible which commissions us to forgive others, to be forgiven. Not only is forgiveness a spiritual requirement but, a gift to yourself to be free and happy. Many believe if they do not forgive the other party has the right to do what was done that caused the initial hurt or pain. But it is essential to forgive even if the other person is not aware, they have been forgiven.

The value of forgiveness is priceless, and there may always be in a season where you will have to forgive someone who hurt you .And the best part of it for you is having a peace of mind, restoration of love, and being able to enjoy healing of your heart. Forgiveness is our healing and you will heal once you forgive

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MATTERS OF THE HEART ADDITION

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How Walking In Purpose Got Me Out Of

DOMESTIC VIOLENCE

By Dr. Ladera Carn

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y transition from a seed to my entrance into this world began with the enemy trying to kill, steal, and destroy my existence.

But, thanks to being one of God’s chosen vessels, no weapon that has been made will truly prosper.

As I began to come of age, I was still faced with so many adversaries.

Things stemming from being ill as a child, molested at the age of one, going through child

abuse, and finally attracting that very spirit in my life in my first marriage what we know as Domestic Violence.

As we are in October, Domestic Violence Awareness Month, I want my story to be focused on this area. Domestic violence is any form of domestic abuse, and abuse is simply defined as power and control. One factor is the experience of such in one way or another; we can all relate. Due to inadequate education and the topic is a very uncomfortable but much-needed conversation, the percentage of domestic violence is increasing, especially during this pandemic.

One in four women experience domestic violence, yet we primarily address abuse mainly toward females; however, males are also victims but are sometimes quiet.

One in four women experience domestic violence destructive relationships, and many of these women sit in church every Sunday next to their abuser, the father of their children.

Due to fear and manipulation, many leave the church and either find a way to escape or remain in those unhealthy relationships. I was one of those women. I knew how to put on an act as if everything was great at home when all the while, I was being beaten to a pulp. The church was

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never a safe haven for me nor a place of refuge. This went on for 13 years until God delivered me from the hands of my enemy.

I Began To See Myself Living Out My Dreams.

I Have Now Changed My Title From Victim To Survivor.

As deliverance was taking place, so was a new vow, a new covenant that I have finally surrendered my will to his will, who was who we call “Our Father.”

I had finally gotten tired of being sick and tired. I wanted to see change, I wanted to see growth, and I also wanted to have a life without chains or bondage.

As I headed to my calling as a minister, I began to see things through a higher perspective while walking into my purpose.

Starting on this new path allowed me to have the things and knowledge that was already mine because of the association. I began to see myself living out my dreams. I have now changed my title from victim to survivor. I began to study to show myself approved. The more I got into the word of God, the more I began to transform from a caterpillar to a butterfly. I was shedding the old things and seeing myself in the newness of Christ. Education was my key to greatness. After completing my first degree in Human Science, I even found myself employed with Children’s Protective Services (CPS) to help those that I have once identified with.

It was God still ordering my steps and directing my path.

Finally, in June 2006, God sent my Boaz. Not long after, we were exchanging marriage vows. July 28, 2006, was the day we said our first “I do,” and July 27, 2019, we said “We Still Do” again. Here we are in 2020, and now I’m not only a 20year survivor, but also an advocate, educator, and have birthed my first domestic violence center called D’Vine Destiny Ministry & Crisis Center” - the center is for domestic violence and sex trafficking victims and their children. It was founded in 2009 and reinstated in April 2020.

Our mission is to stop all kinds of abuse and eventually open up transitional homes called “Marsheida’s House,” who is my bonus’ daughter who was killed in a domestic violence relationship. Her abuser stated that he has no remorse or regrets for taking

her life at 24. God had told me that my purpose is much greater than myself, but to help Marsheida’s death not be in vain, and how that now I am healed, to go back and save other victims.

On October 17, 2020, we will have a butterfly and balloon release, which shows my 20 years as a survivor and 20 years in ministry.

What sets my nonprofit 501(c)3 organization apart from the rest is that many people in the church are some of the many people who will not seek help or not talk to someone in ministry regarding the abuse. D’Vine Destiny (DD) decided that we will bring the church to them since they won’t come to the church. It’s better to walk in purpose and trust God through the process than continue to live in an environment that isn’t healthy to you or your children. Yes, Black Lives

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Matter, and so does your life.

Dr. Purposed Carn Founder of D’Vine Destiny Ministry & Crisis Center, Purposeful Outreach Community Center, Purposeful Warehouse Company, and Stretched Beyond Measures Spiritual Life Coach “Where Pushing Past Pain is turned into Purpose.”

You can find my books: You Told my Mother You’d Never Hit Me Again, Stretched Beyond Measures, Don’t Get It Twisted, Remember You’re Purposed, & How To Deal with Death, Dying, & Grief on Amazon and connect with me through all social media networks under Ladera Carn, DrPurposed Carn, Stretched Beyond Measures Spiritual Life Coach, D’Vine Destiny Ministry & Crisis Center, Dr_ PurposedCarn.

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It Is Very Important That You Stay True To Yourself

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Author's Spotlight

AYANNA MILLS GALLOW IS A 10X AMAZOM #1 Bestselling Author, and International Bestselling Author The Women behind the Book SAVING LIVES FIGHTING FOR MINE alone with 12 other powerful women.

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Ayanna Mills Gallow, M.B.A, is a Literary Strategist that Maximizes Success. Demonstratively known as a production leader and strategic marketer in the corporate world, she now has the same reputation in the publishing industry as she applies key principals to have an unmatched proven track record.

What motivated you to produce this book?

I was motivated to produce this book because so many women face pain appearing unbearable, but they conceal it as a result of shame. They suffer in silence and walk around wearing a mask of happiness while barely holding on. I want women to know it’s okay not to be okay and that they are not alone.

What do you hope readers will take from this book?

Readers will learn proven keys and steps to overcome their obstacles so that they can take back their power.

My goal is to empower women to win.

• Win in education • Win in motherhood • Win in educating their children • Win in their finances • Win in relationships • Win in employment • Win in their physical bodies • Win in their minds What has been your greatest lesson in producing this book? In this book, I learned more than I have from any other book. -I coach all the co-authors on crafting their stories and in this book, my mother is actually a first-time author. As I was coaching my mother I learned more about her childhood and my birth. Although I knew I was conceived in rape and born 6 weeks after my mother’s 13th birthday, I always viewed my mom as a teen mom. However, this book helped me to realize she was just a child while pregnant with me. She started being abused at 11 years old and became pregnant at 12. She was on bed rest in the hospital months leading up to my birth and she had an emergency c section because she fell while playing video games. This became a reality for me because I have a 12 year son right

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Saving Lives While Fighting for Mine: Stories to Empower Women to Win? From childhood through adulthood woman deal with depression and post traumatic stress?This book is a women’s empowerment book now who is in the 7th grade, which is the same grade my mother was in while pregnant with me. This evoked so many emotions in me; I went from shock and devastation, to appreciation and pure admiration for my mother.

Give 3 points, tips, secrets, or how to’s that would best describe this book?

1. Readers will learn tools to prepare for financial wealth to prevent living

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from paycheck to paycheck.

2. They will learn the dangers of seeking validation from the wrong sources 3. They will learn how to bounce back after discrimination, divorce, and sexual trauma and more.

How can readers connect with you? linktr.ee/ThanxAMillsInstagram. com/ThanxAMillsFacebook.com/ ThanxAMills

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Why Breakfast Learn Why Breakfast is The Important Part Of Your Day!

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ccording, to the Falafelhub, It is often known as the most important meal of the day and that for good reasons. The English word “dinner” came from an old French word “disner”, originally known to break a fast. But in the 13th century, the meaning shifted and the name changed to “the first meal of the day”. And by the 15th century, the word “breakfast” came into use, as the English used it to describe morning meal.

Many studies agreed with the health benefits of eating a morning meal. It can restore your supply of glucose to enhance your energy levels. But, probably the most appealing reason is that a healthy morning meal can increase your rate of metabolism. When you have your first meal, you’re supplying your body with plenty of calories.

Thus, your body won’t have to conserve any calories throughout the day. However, here we will discuss some more benefits of having a morning meal.

Your body’s energy source is glucose. It is broken down and consumed from carbohydrates.

The human body stores energy as fat and glucose as glycogen in the liver. During your sleep, the liver breaks down glycogen and releases it into your bloodstream to keep a stable blood sugar level.

Your brain almost entirely depends on glucose for energy. Having a morning meal will boost your

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energy levels and restores glycogen for your body. Your first meal is also full of essential vitamins and nutrients. In fact, people who eat breakfast are likely to consume their recommended vitamins and minerals than the people who don’t.

People who skip their first bite tend to be a culprit of overeating which ultimately causes unwanted weight gain. And Excessive weight can lead to high cholesterol and blood pressure. Numerous studies show that breakfast eaters have lower tendencies of having a heart disease. Overeating often leads to less nutritious meals that can harm the insulin levels. In a study, people who skip their morning meals had a 21% risk of becoming diabetic than those who did. There are also some instances where subjects who skip breakfast may be at risk of developing cardiovascular disease.

Older people do not get enough sleep for skipping morning meals which can cause other health issues. © 2020 falafelhub.net 149524422-32 This website was built by ForeShopGroup

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HEALTY HAIR MATTERS

Vegetables Sound Boring, Not For Your Hair What you eat and drink plays a role in the health of your hair. Many do not realize this important fact, but it will help you minimize hair breakage. Maintaining a healthy and balanced diet can help your hair stay healthy, strong and shiny. When you do not get certain nutrients from food, you might see the effects in your hair.

Protein is especially important for keeping your hair healthy; however, many people don’t get enough. Foods such as lean meats like fish and chicken, eggs, and soy products are good sources. Eat one serving every day to be certain you are adding it to your diet.

Let us not forget the essential fatty acids group, omega-3s, play a key role in the health of your skin, hair, and nails. Make a plan to eat some of these foods, which are rich in omega-3, every day. Foods such as: • Salmon, tuna, mackerel, and other fatty fish • Flaxseed oil • Walnuts and almonds Vitamins are always essential for healthy hair growth. You can substitute these foods with vitamin pills. Be sure they include vitamins B6, B12, and folic acid. Most popular foods with B6 include bananas, potatoes (both white and sweet), and spinach. Major sources of B12 include meat, poultry, fish, and dairy products.

Don’t forget the “greeny greens” another important source for the hair no wonder we had to eat them as a kid, right? You get folic acid with plenty of fresh fruits and vegetables, especially citrus fruits and tomatoes. Wholegrain and fortified-grain products, beans, and lentils also have it.

Finally, one of the most ultimate sources for healthy hair growth is H2O yes W.A.T.E.R, water gives your hair moisture. The hair needs to be hydrated because it can get dry and brittle from chemicals, sun, dandruff, and other unhealthy hair conditions. The average person should drink at least eight glasses or bottles of water a day.

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CONFIDENCE

SLAY DOUBT WITH

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onfidence is the feeling, belief, or a firm trust in yourself, your abilities and talent that you can perform them. It is having the assurance rising from one appreciation of your qualities, it is self-confidence. Confident people feel they are ready to take on everyday challenges, performances, competitions, job interviews, speaking engagements, relationships, and executive CEO businesses.

Confidence is a powerful source of energy that should be carried proudly within ourselves. It should be worn like the clothes on your back, proud and boldly. Oftentimes it can be seen in you before you speak, and it shows others that you are the source who they can confide in. This is how you slay doubt with confidence

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you wear it as the smile on your face, the assurance in your heart, and the stature in your stance and be the best version of you.

You must declare that the sun will shine tomorrow, not so much as the actual sun. I am talking about the sun of positive and life changing events of manifestations in your life.

Confidence gives you the strength to conquer obstacles you would have not accomplished had you kept talking yourself out of them.

All you must do is align your mind with the vision of your completed goals. Vision cast by visualizing your future desires as they pertain to confidence. Refuse to allow fear and doubt overtake your ability to excel in your industry. Confidence is the power you own on the inside. It is what harnesses your full potential however at times it is numbed by fear and doubt. You must tell yourself that you will slay doubt with confidence.

According to a national research 75% population suffers from feelings of helplessness, hopelessness, worthlessness, and broken confidence. When you take back your confidence you can own your power and stand tall against all odds. It is time you regain power over your self-worth and self-confidence so that you can proclaim boldly that which you have set out to accomplish in your life. You were not created to remain silent, ashamed, or hidden. Rather to share your voice, strength, and stature like that of a BOLD LION and SLAY DOUBT WITH CONFIDENCE.

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Changing Your Mind

POSITIVE OR NEGATIVE? W

hen it comes to changing your mind, do you view that as a negative? In other words, do you have the perception of someone changing his or her mind as being indecisive or weak? Well, there are several reasons why changing your mind can, in fact, be a positive event.

From childhood, there are many stories we tell ourselves as we absorb the environment around us. For some of us, we might believe that our siblings are older, wiser, and smarter, and that we simply cannot match up with their intelligence. For others, there may be a mindset of living small because every time we did not succeed we were praised and accepted anyhow instead of encouraged and motivated to do better. Doing better may have somehow been viewed and interpreted as wrong and unaccepting.

We all want our children to succeed and, as such, we may or may not set the bar too low and not encourage a growth mindset. We may instill in them that

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they are set in their ways and there is no chance for growth, and by the way, we do this inadvertently.

Labels Sometimes we are given labels and, all too often, we have no clue that we do not have to accept or even identify with those labels. We may be taught that Johnny is the math genius while Suzy is the musician in the family – a limiting mindset that is more or less fixed. Did you know that you could change those labels by working harder to be whatever it is you wish to be in the world of academics?

How is this possible?

• Start with recognizing that you are capable and have the ability to change your mindset. This is the first step in changing your mind.

• Recognize that you can change your label at any time. All you have to do is choose to do so.

• Next, it’s time to get to work. No change comes without work involved.

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Practices to Take on If you are a parent, there are certain steps you can take in order to facilitate a growth mindset.

Start by giving your child a way and a means to reach higher goals rather than labeling them as “not good in math,” or “better in art.”

• Don’t set the bar too high, as unrealistic expectations and goals are not beneficial.

• Don’t set the bar too low so that no challenge or growth is initiated.

• Offer constructive criticism in order to have your child reach and grow, which sends the message that they are most certainly capable of doing great things as long as they choose to. A growth mindset is for everyone.

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Create an Unstoppable Stream of Passive Income by Selling your Knowledge in

A BOOK OR A COURSE

By Dawn J. Anderson

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popular passive income stream that doesn’t require a lot of start-up capital is selling your knowledge in the form of a book (digital or physical) or through an online course or training program.

Some of the best digital content types are “how-to” books that teach people specific skills that improve their lives somehow. It literally can take up to

30 days to write this type of book, but I have seen some do it inside of a weekend.

Create a Course

You can write your book without lifting a pen! Voice typing (as I’m doing with this article that you’re reading), transcribe a podcast or video that you created, or you can hire a ghostwriter.

Another form of creating passive income is creating a course. You’ll want to invest in a professional microphone, and you’ll need a room where you won’t be interrupted by outside noise while you’re recording your lessons.

Next, all you need now is eye-popping book-cover graphics and an attentiongrabbing title to create your book.

Many different microphones will help you create clear, pitch-perfect audio files, but my favorite is the Blue Yeti.

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It runs for around $100 and is one of the best microphones you’ll find at this price point. You should also consider grabbing a pop filter that will help block out background noise when you’re recording.

You’ll need a good platform to host your course and process payments. There are many to choose from, but the most popular ones are Teachable, Udemy, Thinkfic, Kajabi, Podia, and Miestro.

When it comes to screen recorder software, I highly recommend ScreenFlow if you’re a Mac user. You’ll be able to create high-quality videos in a matter of minutes using this one tool. However, If you’re on a PC, check out Camtasia.

When choosing the topic for your online course, consider:

You can either create a “talking head” video course or use a slideshow with a voiceover if you like. I’ve seen both types of courses work well.

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• What are you most passionate about?

• What do you enjoy doing when you have free time?

• What skills have you learned over the past year?

Remember, everyone is an expert at something!

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ARE YOU FINANCIALLY FIT? The Importantace Of Saving

By Caris L . Reed

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he importance of saving money is rarely discussed. Saving is one of the most important aspects of financial advice. Despite the importance of saving money, many aren’t following through on the advice.

When it comes to saving financially, just knowing you should save isn’t enough. Oftentimes saving money is easier said than done especially with a lot of recent job losses however one

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can save even on the most modest budget. Just $20 a paycheck can begin an emergency fund. Remember never look at how small you start, just start.

But it can be tough to do something consistently without understanding why you should save money and put in all that effort in the first place. After all, saving money takes discipline. When

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you have the to save money it can be an easy process if you want to stick with a savings plan for the long term.

Write down the importance of saving money for you consider the goals, future expenses, children, etc. key reasons why you should save money now.

It can be tough to allocate money to a savings account if you don’t have a set

goal for that money. Saving gives you the possibilities are endless. Also, it’s critical to have money for emergencies and unexpected situations as they come up.

“It has nothing to do with the money and everything to do with giving yourself flexibility and choice in your life,” - Eric Roberge Money is a known reason for problems in relationships causing stress. But If you’re working together on a savings plan and why you should save money, you’re giving yourselves freedom to choose what you want to do as a family.

Feeling stuck in a particular situation or position because you rely on the paycheck is never a healthy financial balance. Many however are living paycheck to paycheck without a savings goal or plan to get out of that cycle.

Being with a financial number to save, how much you should save depends on your personal financial goals. In that case, you want to estimate how much you’ll need save, but also to cover regular living expenses. you can set a specific amount aside each month according to what you can afford to save. Try to put something in the retirement and emergency

fund accounts. If is ever a resistance to put into these accounts because you want something now, go back to the ultimate goal for saving “To be Financially Fit” Being self-discipled in saving money gives you financial self-control to say no to things that you want but do not need. You can spend modestly and only when you really need to replace what is needed.

Never allow a job to prevent you from saving to build up your emergency, retirement, and savings account. You have control on what and how much you can save. Take any small amount and begin that is the key BEGIN.

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