Do your work! 21 Day Healing Devotional

Do your work!

21 day Healing Devotional to take you from

Breakup to Breakthrough

Complete with journal prompts, action steps, and affirmations

Marcee Woodard

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Hey Sis, Believe it or not, God wants you to reach every single relationship goal that you have. He created you to be loved by a man who represents his love for the Church.

But just as God has plans for you, so does the devil. He wants to keep you discouraged, depressed, and distracted by pain so that you never fully enjoy God's blessings.

Your job is to recognize when God is working His plan versus what the devil is doing. Even though God can use heartbreak and rejection to make you stronger, it's not His will for you! Don't accept it and run with it as if it's supposed to be the story of your life. You can rewrite your story at any time.

I'm truly sorry this has happened to you. But you'll get through this if you keep pushing.

I'm here to hold you accountable for facilitating your own healing. You owe it to yourself to shake the devil off and move forward so you can do what God created you to do.

This is your moment. Now, what are you going to do with it?

Will you continue to drown in self-pity? Will you keep checking his social media feeds, wondering, "How could he do this to me?" Will you run away from God or into His loving arms? The choice is yours.

If you're choosing to move forward, it's time to do your work.

Marcee

Day 1

He wants to heal you

’

by Jesus

stripes you are healed. (Isaiah 53:5)

Bible scholars believe that Jesus took 39 lashings or stripes on His body when He was crucified. It's no coincidence that the World Health Organization updated their system to include 39 classifications of illnesses and diseases!

Every stripe on Jesus' back represents a major disease classification, including emotional and psychological trauma. That means He was crucified to save you from emotional pain.

Most of us are comfortable asking God for physical healing. But how many Christians neglect to pray for emotional healing?

We put him in a box when we make the decision that our heartache is not important to Him or it's punishment for something we did.

Jesus has already done the work for you to be healed. Now it's your turn. Cry out to Him, today.

He's listening.

Do your work!

Print , cut, and post these scriptures everywhere you'll see them often.

II Corinthians 2:14

Matthew 6:25

Thanks be to God who always

I cannot add a single hour to my

causes me to win!!

life by worrying!

Romans 8:37

Psalm 34:17

In spite of all these things,

When I cry for help, the Lord

overwhelming victory belongs to

hears and delivers me out of all

me through Christ.

my troubles.

Psalm 5:12

Hebrews 13:5

The Lord blesses me and

God will never leave or abandon

surrounds me with his favor as

me.

with a shield.

Jeremiah 29:11

Relevation 21:4

God has plans to prosper me and

God will wipe every tear from

do me no harm; plans to give me

my eyes.

hope and a future.

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Do your work!

Use this space to write through your tears and your fears. What areas do you need God to heal and why?

God is closest to those with

broken hearts.

Psalm 34:18

Take an Affirmation Break (using the mirror, look into your eyes and say it 10 times

I'm not a victim; Christ has set me free!

Day 2

Forgiveness If you do not forgive others, God will not forgive your sins. (Matthew 6:15)

The last thing you want to hear when you're hurting is, forgive, forgive, forgive.

How can you be expected to forgive after everything you've gone through?

Forgiveness is more beneficial to you than the person you're holding a grudge against. It keeps your prayers from being hindered and it qualifies you to receive forgiveness from God when you need it. Not only that, but it actually starts the healing process in your mind and body.

According to Dr. Steven Standiford of the Cancer Treatment Centers of America, "61% of cancer patients have trouble forgiving." There's a strong connection between physical illness and unforgiveness.

When you consider the total risk of holding on to bitterness, resentment and unforgiveness, it's not worth it.

But when you consider the freedom and healing that comes from letting go, it's priceless!

Do your work!

Make a list of everyone you need to forgive and why. When you're finished, speak your forgiveness out loud using this script: "I forgive ____ for ______."

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Do your work!

If you're still struggling to forgive someone, write them a letter expressing your hurt and disappointment. This is your safe space to say everything you want to get off your chest. When you’re done, you can either destroy it or read it to a trusted friend who will support you by listening.

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Forgiveness

leads to healing;

unforgiveness leads to

imprisonment.

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Take an Affirmation Break (using the mirror, look into your eyes and say it 10 times

I forgive others the way Christ forgives me

Day 3

Focus on what matters

Whatever is true, honorable, right, pure, and lovely...focus on these things.

(Philippians 4:8).

When you experience a deep emotional wound, the natural response is to attempt to make sense of it. Over and over again, you may ask: How could this happen to me?

What did I do wrong?

Am I being punished for something?

You replay the events in your head so much that you feel like you have no control over your mind.

Your thoughts are so powerful that every time you recall a painful event, you reopen the wound and do more damage. Your brain and body respond the same way they did when it first happened. Instead of being betrayed once, you're betrayed as often as you relive the events.

You've already been hurt by someone else. Don't make the pain worse by continuing to focus on things you can't change.

Just as your thoughts bring trauma, they also bring healing. The more you focus on positive, life-giving messages, the quicker you'll heal.

Do your work!

Use this checklist to help change your focus and give your mind an opportunity to detach from trauma and the people associated with it.

Clean your house Go through your house and remove all photos, souvenirs or personal property that reminds you of your EX or anyone else who's causing distress.

Purge Stop following your EX, his friends and his family on social media. Avoid the apps for a few days after the purge.

Block 'em If he doesn't need access to you to discuss the kids or other business, block his number in your phone.

Get physical Do 30 minutes of intense, high-impact exercise whenever uncontrollable, painful thoughts flood your mind.

Set boundaries

Inform mutual friends and family that you're no longer interested in hearing updates about the EX. Excuse yourself from the conversation if it occurs in your presence.

Get a new life

Replace old habits, routines, and hobbies that used to revolve around the EX with new ones.

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Whatever you feed your mind the most will lead your life.

Take an Affirmation Break (Using the mirror, look into your eyes and say it 10 times)

Positive thoughts breed positive emotions

Day 4

Reframing rejection Rejection is often a redirection to something better.

Rejection makes you feel like you're not good enough or not worthy of being loved.

When you're feeling rejected, the first thing you want to do is question your value, your attractiveness, and whether or not you could have done things differently in order to make it work out. Rejection deceives you by making you think everything was your fault!

It may hurt in the moment, but think about what it means in the long run.

Maybe God is protecting you from something worse that could have happened. Or maybe God is saving you for something better in your future.

Right now, you may not know the reason God allowed this situation, but He promises that all things will eventually work together for your benefit.

That means He'll eventually use this situation to your advantage. He can use it to teach you something, to develop your trust in Him, or to give you a ministry helping other women heal.

This heartbreak did not come to break you; it came to make you.

Instead of grieving over what was or what used to be, try celebrating what's next.

Because what's coming is greater than what's gone.

Do your work!

What lies have you believed about yourself as a result of rejection?

What do you think God is protecting you from?

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Human rejection can be

God's divine protection.

~

Paula Hendricks

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Day 5

You are worthy Do not become a slave to the opinions of men (I Corinthians 7:23)

There are two factors that determine the value of products in society: 1. the person who created it, and 2. the price buyers are willing to pay for it.

In order to determine the value of a new car, Honda takes into consideration the time, energy, and materials used to make it. They also consider how much consumers are willing to pay for the Honda brand. Only Honda knows how much their product is worth – not Ford or Mitsubishi.

Somehow, we've been conditioned to base our worth on whether or not other humans see value in us. We equate our worth with likes, fans, and followers.

Fortunately, it doesn't matter what people think about you. Your value isn't based on their opinion. It's based on the fact that God created you and the fact that Jesus was willing to pay the ultimate price for you. He exchanged His life for yours.

No matter what you’ve done or will do in the future; no matter what people say about you or how many times you’ve failed; you're worthy of being loved and forgiven!

Do your work!

List 5 positive words to describe yourself

What are your proudest accomplishments?

What are you good at?

What makes you unique?

What are your favorite physical features?

What are your character strengths?

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What do you deserve in your relationships, and why?

Self-worth

is knowing the difference

between what you're getting and

what you deserve!

Have you accepted less than what you deserve? If so, why?

Take an Affirmation Break (Using the mirror, look into your eyes and say it 10 times)

I am worthy of healthy love!

Day 6

Desperate for a miracle All things are possible if you only believe.

(Mark 9:23)

Luke 8 provides an excellent example of what it means to be desperate. A woman, who's often identified by her "issue of blood," was determined to get healed. After spending all of her money on healthcare, she decided that Jesus was the only answer.

She humbled herself; got as low to the ground as possible; and pushed through a crowd to touch the bottom of His robe. She wasn't satisfied just being in His presence. She had to touch Him. She didn't care about the noise or the crowd that had surrounded Him, on all sides.

When you're desperate for a miracle, you'll do whatever it takes. You don't care who's looking or what they say about you. You may not necessarily have to crawl or press through a crowd to get to Jesus. But you may have to press through distractions from your phone, television, kids, or anything else that interferes with your pursuit.

It may be hard, but it's worth it.

Do your work!

What daily habits can you form that will help you get closer to Jesus?

SUNDAY

MONDAY

TUESDAY

WEDNESDAY

THURSDAY

FRIDAY

SATURDAY

NOTES

Do your work! .

What distractions will keep you from sticking to your daily habits and how will you press through them?

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Only Believe!

Take an Affirmation Break (Using the mirror, look into your eyes and say it 10 times)

All things are possible when I believe

Day 7 God doesn't judge you

’

’

You've had five husbands, and you aren t married to the man you re living with now. (John 4: 18)

Toxic relationships can leave you feeling damaged, used up, and unworthy. You may even ask yourself: “Who would want a woman with five kids?” or “Who would want a woman who’s been married five times?”

The answer is simple: Jesus.

In the fourth chapter of John, Jesus talks to a Samaritan woman who had a colorful past. Not only had she been married five times, but she was living with a completely different man.

Yet Jesus didn’t judge her. Instead, he said if she would only ask, he would give her a drink of living water or a relationship with Him that would leave her (spiritual) thirst quenched forever!

You’re never too old, damaged, used up, or whatever you’re thinking for God. While humans may hold your past against you, God doesn’t. If you only ask, He will fulfill your thirst for forgiveness, validation, worth, unconditional love, eternal life, and more.

Just ask.

Do your work! .

Is there any part of your past that makes you feel like damaged goods?

What voids have you been expecting other people to fill in your life?

Write a prayer asking God to fill you with whatever you need.

When they

judge you,

it doesn't define you;

it defines them.

Take an Affirmation Break (Using the mirror, look into your eyes and say it 10 times)

I forgive myself and so does God

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Day 8

Faith and works Your faith has healed you

(Mark 5:34)

On several occasions in the Bible, Jesus didn’t have to do anything, yet people were healed. Their faith had already made them whole before He could touch them or perform a miraculous act.

They believed Jesus could heal them and they acted in faith by simply pursuing Him. Faith and works are all you need in order to see God move on your behalf.

If you believe Jesus can heal you, you must do something that demonstrates your belief.

For instance, if you need a job and you believe God can bless you with one, you can't just sit there and wait on a phone call. You must fill out the application and show up for the interview.

Your faith opens doors, but your works prove to God that you're expecting the situation to turn out on your behalf.

Do your work!

What do you need from God today??

What action can you take in order to show God that you trust him?

What areas do you need more faith?

Faith without works is dead.

(James 2:26)

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Take an Affirmation Break (Using the mirror, look into your eyes and shout it 10 times)

My faith will open doors that no man can shut!

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Day 9

Loving you You must love your neighbor the same way you love yourself. (Mark 12:31)

All of us were created with the deep desire to be loved and accepted by other humans. We people please and go out of our way to support others, prove loyalty, and meet their every need in order to earn love.

At the same time, we do very little to “earn” our own love. We work for others to give us something that we can’t or won’t give ourselves.

In order to love your neighbor, you must first love yourself— simply because you deserve it.

You don’t have to earn love or be perfect in order to be worthy of love.

You were born worthy. You are one of God’s creations.

That’s all.

Nothing else you do can make you any more or less worthy.

QUIZ: How much do you love yourself?

0

1

2

RARELY TRUE

SOMETIMES TRUE

OFTEN TRUE

1. You refuse to tolerate disrespect over and over again.

2. When you're complimented, you receive it without making up excuses for why you don't deserve it.

3. While looking into a mirror, you can look into your eyes for more than 3 seconds without looking away.

4. You are comfortable saying 'no' when the time, money, or other circumstances aren’t right.

5. You are comfortable spending time alone.

6. Your self-talk is mostly positive.

7. You refuse to compare yourself to others.

8. You are motivated to pursue your own dreams and goalsregardless of your age.

9. You show gratitude for the small things.

0 - 10 Be more compassionate and forgiving of yourself. You don't have to be perfect.

10 - 14 You're almost there. Keep affirming yourself. w w

14 - 18 Keep up the good work! w . p r e p a r i n g t o l o v e . c o m

Do your work!

What's one thing you've always wanted want to do for yourself, but have been afraid to try?

Write the baby steps that it takes to get it done, and a date you will commit to doing it.

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No one deserves your love more than you

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Take an Affirmation Break (Using the mirror, look into your eyes and say it 10 times)

I love myself more and more Everyday!

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Day 10

Finding the one For your maker is your husband. (Isaiah 54:5).

God is so jealous over you (2 Corinthians 11:2)that He wants you to marry Him first.

If you commit to someone else before making God a priority, He can never fill the voids or the broken places.

God doesn’t mind you being in love and having healthy relationships. In fact, He’s the one who created the concept of love and marriage. He wants you to have a man who will love you the way he loves the Church.

But you’ll never know what that looks like unless you fall in love with God, first.

He can teach you the meaning of true love.

Before you spend time with anyone else, Before you commit to anyone else, Before you love anyone else, Allow God to be the one.

Do your work!

Who taught you how to love?

What does love mean to you?

What do you need God to teach you about love?

What mistakes have you made in past relationships and what have you learned from them?

You become "the one" by allowing "the one" God to love you

I, the Lord your God, am a jealous God. (Exodus 20:5)

Do your work!

THE LIST Make a list of the most important qualifications that you look for in "the one."

Take an Affirmation Break (Using the mirror, look into your eyes and say it 10 times)

I

refuse to

compromise my standards for anyone else

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Day 11

Who are you?

The greatest compliment to God is to become who he created you to be.

Our lives are the sum total of the people and the things we listen to, see, or read the most. Everything our minds consume has the power to shape who we are.

This is scary for a few reasons.

For one, listening to the wrong people can get you off track of the plan that God has set for your life. It’s easy to become who others want you to be when you don’t know your true identity. You’ll change the way you dress, walk, or talk in order to please them.

In Matthew 16, Jesus asked His disciples, “Who do men say I am?” Regardless of who they thought He was, He knew He was the son of God, called to save the world. He wasn’t distracted by their beliefs or their desires. He didn’t adapt to who they wanted Him to be.

You’ll only know who you really are and what you’re capable of, after you get a true revelation of who Jesus is. When Simon got the revelation in verse 16, Jesus gave him the identity: Peter the rock, through whom He built an entire spiritual movement.

You can be who God says you are no matter what people say about you or who they think you are.

Do your work!

List the top 3 people you have spent the most time with over the last 3 years.

1.

2.

3.

In what ways do you talk or behave like them?

Do your work!

Have you ever changed yourself in order to make others happy? If so, how?

What do you want God to reveal about your true identity?

You have to be

true to yourself

before you can be

true to anyone else

Take an Affirmation Break (Using the mirror, look into your eyes and say it 10 times)

I'm a unique, one of a kind masterpiece created by the master himself

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Day 12

your Peace May the Lord of peace give you peace at all times. (II Thessalonians 3: 16)

Peace can be defined as the absence of stress or worry. Not because you have it all together and you know exactly how and when things are going to work out, but because you know that God is working all things out for your good.

When attacks from the enemy appear to be successful, God shows up just so that He can get the glory.

He wants to be your hero.

That’s what happened when Jesus was crucified. It appeared that the enemy’s plan to kill Him worked. But in the end, God got the glory. Jesus died, rose, and now lives so you can have peace.

Claim your peace, today.

Do your work!

Make a list of all the things you're worried about. Pray about them and scratch them off after God answers your prayers.

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Worry is a down payment

on a problem you may

never have

~Joyce

Meyer.

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Take an Affirmation Break (Using the mirror, look into your eyes and say it 10 times)

Today, I choose peace. Anything or anyone that doesn't bring me peace will not be allowed in my space.

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Day 13

You're right on time

’

A man s heart plans his way, But the Lord directs his steps.

(Proverbs 16:9)

It's not uncommon to have desires, dreams, and timelines that get derailed by life. If you put things in perspective, you'll see that many of your plans are the result of self-imposed pressure that God would never put on you.

Our timeline is usually different than His timeline for us. He intends for us to slow down, lean on Him, and grow along the journey. But we want to get to the destination as soon as possible, check it off our list, and start the next thing.

While it's good to have dreams and goals, it's even better to allow God to lead you on the journey so you'll arrive in His timing. None of your setbacks, detours, or roadblocks took Him by surprise. They may have slowed you down from being where you think you should be, but you’re right on time according to God’s plan.

He knows what's best; He knows what's next.

Do your work!

What have you been in a hurry to do and why?

What does God want you to slow down and learn while you're on the journey?

Pain teaches you lessons that you could never learn from pleasure.

Take an Affirmation Break (Using the mirror, look into your eyes and say it 10 times)

I will slow down and wait on God

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Day 14

Moving Forward Don't fight so hard for what you want that you lose sight of what you deserve..

When we're offended, our natural instinct is to perform hurt rehearsal: replaying the events over and over again, while staying stuck. It's paralyzing.

Staying stuck for an unreasonable amount of time is the same as making your pain bigger than your God. You may as well tell God that His strength and power are not enough for you.

Nothing could be further from the truth.

His strength is perfected when you’re weak. Instead of reflecting on what happened and how much it hurts, close your eyes and think about how strong He is.

Visualize Him with all the muscles you need to help you move forward. Ask Him to help you take the next step.

Do your work!

What’s one thing you can do today to move forward with your life?

Describe what your life looks like after you move past your pain? Where are you? Who else is with you and what are you doing?

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We may not be able to avoid heartache and disappointment, but we can avoid staying stuck.

Take an Affirmation Break (Using the mirror, look into your eyes and say it 10 times)

I leave the past in the past and look forward to a God-filled destiny with positive, fulfilling relationships.

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Day 15

Walking in purpose I have come to give you everything in abundance, more than you expect.

(John 10:10)

The enemy’s plan is to steal, kill and destroy in order to stop you from getting to the purpose and plan that God has for you. He'll use anything to break you and make you believe that it’s over; you can’t win; you may as well give up.

Jesus came to give you life more abundantly. But living with pain produces regrets, not abundance. Only when you shake the enemy off and move toward God’s plan and purpose for your life, can you enjoy an abundant life.

If you’re outside of God’s will for your life, ask Him to help you get back on track.

Do your work!

Answer the questions below to gain clues about how God wants to use you to do his will.

What are you passionate about?

What’s your testimony or what has God delivered you from?

What are your natural gifts and talents?

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Do your work!

Based on I Corinthians, 12, what do you think your spiritual gifts are?

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Do your work!

What are the dreams and desires that you have not fulfilled and why?

I know the plans I have

for you, declares the Lord.

Jeremiah 29:11

Take an Affirmation Break (Using the mirror, look into your eyes and say it 10 times)

God has awesome plans for my life

Day 16

Resolving loneliness God places the lonely in families; he sets the prisoners free and gives them joy.

(Psalm 68:6)

In this Internet age of super connectivity, we have more friends, fans, and followers than we know what to do with. Yet we are lonelier than ever.

The thing we crave the most – human companionship — has drifted further and further away.

God put us here to love and support each other. But the world is full of lonely people who are afraid to make the first move. Instead of using our gifts to connect with others, we are sitting on our gifts and taking our loved ones for granted.

Loneliness is not resolved by staying home and wishing to be found.

Loneliness is resolved when you recognize who you are and what gifts you have to offer to the people God put in your life.

Do your work!

Make a "to do" list of new things to try when you're feeling lonely.

Non-profits that need my help

New hobbies to learn

Side jobs or business ideas

Family members that need my help

New resturants to try

Places I would like to visit?

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Loneliness is not the lack of company, it's the lack of

purpose.

~Guillermo Maldonado

Day 17

He's just that into you But God shows his love for us in that while we were still sinners, Christ died for us. (Romans 5:8)

It's a fact that you are victorious through Christ Jesus. Refuse to accept overwhelm, insufficiency, rejection and discouragement.

None of those feelings originate from God and if He would never give them to you, you don't have to live with them. The Bible calls you: More than a conqueror; The apple of his eye; Fearfully and wonderfully made; A royal priesthood; Blessed and favored; The head, not the tail; Above, and not beneath!

You are an overcomer: born to succeed, built to last, and guaranteed to win! There’s no way possible for you to be anything but victorious with God on your side.

Do your work!

List the ways God has given you victory or shown you favor in the past.

Write a prayer thanking Him for what he’s done and what he will do next.

w w w . y o u r n a m e . c o m

Stop hating yourself

for everything you aren't

and start loving yourself

for everything you are

Take an Affirmation Break (Using the mirror, look into your eyes and say it 10 times)

Nothing can separate me from God's love

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Day 18

Trust God Do not worry about tomorrow for tomorrow will worry about itself.

(Matthew 6:34)

You have an opportunity every day to worry about people, things, and circumstances you can’t change. Although issues may persist, you can’t make them better by worrying.

You make them better by praying.

Praying is a sign that you trust God with all the small details. You stop trying to help God out; you shut off the racing thoughts and relax.

As believers, our job is to simply believe. If there are details we need to know, God will reveal them at the right time. Trusting Him is a guaranteed way to have peace, joy, and stability.

QUIZ: How much do you trust God? 0

1

2

RARELY TRUE

SOMETIMES TRUE

OFTEN TRUE

1. You feel God loves you and in spite of your mistakes, he's not mad at you.

2. You pray on a regular basis because you trust that God will make things better.

3. You believe that God has your best interest at heart even when struggling to make it.

4. You fully believe God cares about the smallest things that bother you.

5. After you pray, you have peace.

6. You pray first before asking others for their opinion.

7. You praise God before he answers your prayers because you know it's going to happen.

8. You praise God even when you don't get an answer because you know he's working things out for your benefit.

9. You show gratitude for the small things.

0 - 10 God doesn’t want to see you struggling. You are his daughter and he wants you to depend on him for everything.

10 - 14 14 - 18 You have a good idea of who You depend on God for all of God is, but there may be your needs and you're confident areas of your life that you that he loves you. w w w . p r e p a r i n g t o l o v e . c o m are holding back from him.

Do your work!

What areas of your life do you trust God the most? What do you trust God with the least?

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It's better to take refuge

in the Lord

than to trust in humans.

Psalm 118:8

Day 19

God will turn it around You meant evil against me, but God used it for good.

(Genesis 50:20)

If anyone had a reason to get revenge or be spiteful, it would be Joseph. In Genesis 37, he was beaten, sold into slavery, lied on, and falsely imprisoned.

The devil would have loved for Joseph to give up and quit before fulfilling his calling to save Israel from the famine.

But no matter what trials Joseph faced, he remained faithful to God. He refused to allow rejection and disappointment to distract him from purpose.

As a result, the Lord was with him everywhere he went. God promoted him over his enemies and prospered him greatly.

Everything the devil meant for evil, God turned around and used it for Joseph’s benefit.

He can do the same for you.

Every act of rejection, abandonment, fear, jealousy, and hatred against you can be used for you.

Do your work!

What people, situations, or circumstances has the devil used to cause evil in your life?

How did God turned it around to work in your favor?

Is there anything else that you would you like God to turn around to work in your favor?

God will achieve infinitely more than your greatest request, your most unbelievable dream, and exceed your wildest imagination!

Ephesians 3:20 TPT

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Take an Affirmation Break (Using the mirror, look into your eyes and say it 10 times)

No matter what it looks like, I'm going to win!

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Day 20

Don't stop praying

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Don t worry about anything; instead, pray about everything.

(Philippians 4:6)

According to the National Science Foundation, the average person thinks up to 60, 000 thoughts per day. Of those thoughts,85% are negative and 95% are repetitious.

That explains why most adults are tired, stressed, depressed, and anxious. Our thoughts dictate our feelings, and our feelings dictate our actions. If we're thinking negative thoughts most of the time, of course we feel horrible.

What would happen if you changed your negative thoughts into prayers or simple conversations with God? The same energy that it takes to think negatively can be used to pray without ceasing. That's exactly what the Bible instructs us to do instead of worrying, stressing, or thinking negatively without ceasing.

God gives you the power to change your feelings, actions, and overall health by communicating directly with Him anytime you want to.

What are you waiting for?

Do your work!

Create personal declarations to replace your negative thoughts. Repeat them over and over again, each time you get anxious or overwhelmed. See the example below.

Negative thoughts 1. I'm so embarrassed

Prayer / Meditation 1. My past doesn't define my future

Negative thoughts never

lead to positive results

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Take an Affirmation Break (Using the mirror, look into your eyes and say it 10 times)

The more I pray the more I win

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Day 21

Dont give up on love Perfect love drives out all fear. (I John 4:18)

Love is the one thing that every human absolutely needs from the time we're born until the time we die. We love being in love! But there's nothing worse than finding out you didn't mean as much to them as they meant to you.

Betrayal happens.

No one knows what that feels like more than Jesus. He gave his life to people He trusted, and in return He was betrayed. Yet, He continued to love.

Have you ever stopped to think: "What would have happened if Jesus had given up on love?" He would have allowed a few people's mistakes to ruin eternity for the rest of us. He never would have died to for us to have victory in every area of our lives, including relationships.

Because He didn't give up, neither should you. It's never too late to love and to be loved. When the time is right, ask God to give you wisdom and guidance to love the one he has chosen for you.

Do your work!

Set goals and the baby steps it takes to complete them that will help you feel more confident and prepared for love.

SPIRITUAL GOALS

STEPS

DATE

HEALTH / PHYSICAL GOALS

STEPS

DATE

FINANCIAL / CAREER GOALS

STEPS

DATE

FAMILY / SOCIAL GOALS

STEPS

DATE

Do you think it's possible for you to be in a fulfilling, Christ-centered relationship with the man of your dreams? Why or Why not?

The bravest thing you will ever do is love again.

~Madalyn Beck

Take an Affirmation Break (Using the mirror, look into your eyes and say it 10 times)

When the time is right, I will love again

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Marcee Woodard is a Christian Counselor, speaker, and author on a mission to help women heal + prepare + love so they can attract and keep the relationships they deserve. For more information, visit preparingtolove.com.

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