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CONTENTS JULY 2018 | VOLUME 4 | NUMBER 2

GARDEN PHARMACY What's growing in your backyard might be used to soothe summer skin

WORK AFTER 50 Job seekers might need to adjust their approach re-entering the workforce

SIGNS OF PARKINSON'S Learn to recognize some early symptoms and seek treatment

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12 HEART AND SOUL

The Whitneys continue to bring chamber music to the Peninsula

BICYCLE BUYING Want a new ride for the summer? We have advice for picking the right one

MUSIC FOR THE AGES VHOCC intern develops musical bond with patient, plus VHOCC changes

ROOM RENOVATIONS Empty-nesters can redo their kids' rooms for new purposes

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FAMILY BONDS Grandparent-grandchild relationships can have health beneﬁts

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Columnist looks in the mirror and addresses body image this summer

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Your garden pharmacy: Soothing summer skin

by NANCY SLICK Lookout! Here comes the summer sun, the drying air and the biting bugs. Lucky you, though! You are prepared with your garden pharmacy laid out in the yard, just waiting for you to march out there and slather yourself with plants. Which plants are those, you ask? Here is a start. Chickweed (Stellaria media) is a friendly little plant in the carnation family that you might recognize as a common “weed.” It looks nothing like a carnation, however, and instead sports tiny leaves that are opposite each other on the succulent stem. Miniscule white flowers adorn the tips of the trailing stems. You might stumble across chickweed in a shady corner of your yard or garden, where it tends to trail gently and spread out in any direction available. Loaded with nutrition, chickweed contains vitamin C, several B vitamins, vitamin A and minerals, such as magnesium, iron, calcium, potassium, zinc, phosphorus, manganese and selenium. It makes a great addition to salads and is delicate, crunchy and juicy. It contains saponins, however,

Chickweed can be used to soothe skin.

which can be harmful in large quantities. (Saponins also are found in many common food plants, such as beans, potatoes and tomatoes. They are poorly absorbed and are destroyed through cooking, though, and so tend to pass through without harm.) For summer use, chickweed makes a wonderful soothing treatment for irritations of the skin. It can alleviate itching and inflammation and is soothing. Adding it to a bath is a great way to

put it to work to help reduce inflammation and assist in tissue repair. You might notice it as one of the ingredients in skin care products. To grow chickweed — which might already be in your yard — allow it free range in an open, shaded part of the yard where its fragile stems won’t be trampled. It likes moist soil that is not saturated. It needs no tending. No weeding. No fussing. Just ignore it. GARDEN CONTINUES on page 7 >>

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And when you need it, break off some fresh greenery. For salads, rinse and add to your greens. To soothe irritated skin, crush the leaves and stem and apply the juice to the affected area. You can also apply the crushed or chopped plant directly to the skin and cover with a bandage to keep the poultice in place. Moisten the bandage either with water or additional chickweed juice before laying it over the plant; otherwise, the juices from the poultice will absorb instead into the dry gauze, away from the skin where it is needed. Another great summer plant for skin ailments is the common calendula flower (Calendula officinalis). Rather than the yellow, the orange flower is considered to be the most medicinal in this species, and it can be used for accelerating wound healing and for soothing bruises, rashes, boils and dermatitis. The triterpene saponins, triterpene alcohols and the flavonoids are the active ingredients, derivatives of which give it anti-inflammatory effects. Be aware that there is a small potential for skin sensitivity to this plant for some people, and it is not recommended for use on children younger than 6 years old. Calendula also is edible, and the petals can be used either raw, such as in a salad, or cooked, such as in a tea. You can even add them to rice or white puddings to change the color! The petals contain the carotenoids lutein — also found in egg yolks and might benefit eyes — as well as beta-carotene, which the body converts to vitamin A. If you have an allergy to marigolds, daisies, chrysanthemums, chamomile or other plants in the aster family, of which calendula is a member, use caution or avoid calendula altogether. To grow calendula, plant seeds in a full sun area that has well drained soil that is of poor quality. The plant is easy to grow and requires no maintenance. Dead heading the old flowers, of course, will promote additional flowering but is not required in order to have a healthy plant. It will tend to self-sow and will attract insects that eat aphids. It can be drought tolerant and in our climate can be a successful perennial. Harvest the petals in the morning on a sunny day, after the morning dew has evaporated. To make a poultice out of calendula, crush the petals with a mortar or pestle. Chopping the petals with a knife also will do. And add a little warm or cold water, which will act as a solvent, as the petals lack significant moisture. Mix to make a paste. Apply the paste to the affected skin in the same manner as you would a chickweed poultice, by covering with a moist bandage. Whichever plant you use for a poultice, leave it in place for a few hours. Then check the skin to determine whether you feel a renewed poultice would be soothing or whether you would like the skin to air dry for a while.

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For a quick online reference guide on how plants are used, look to “Plants For A Future,” a database of more than 7,000 plants. The site, operated by a nonprofit organization, provides information on edibility, nutritional content, medicinal uses, cultivation details, known hazards and related species. Photographs appear on plant pages, which can help you identify that you are reading about the right plant, as many unrelated plants share common names. Note that some wild plants, chickweed among them, should be avoided by women who are pregnant or nursing. The safety of calendula for pregnant or nursing women has not been sufficiently studied, so caution and avoidance are advised. Always study up on any wild plant you intend to use, making sure you have correctly identified it with the help of a reliable field guide and that you learn about its recommended uses and any cautions. Nancy Slick is an estate planning attorney and writer in the Sequim

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area. She has taught classes in wild edible and medicinal plant foraging in King, Pierce, Jefferson, Clallam and Kitsap counties, including for Peninsula College, the Kitsap County Park Department, the Kitsap County

fifth graders environmental education program, restaurants and as a consultant for the National Geographic television network. She can be reached at 360-626-3996 or at NancySlickLaw@gmail.com.

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Despite affecting roughly 10 million people worldwide, Parkinson’s disease, a neurodegenerative disorder, remains a mystery to many people. To people outside of the medical field with no personal or family history of Parkinson’s, the disease might only ring a bell because of some notable names attached to it. The late Muhammad Ali and actor Michael J. Fox are two household names that made their Parkinson’s diagnoses public. But even those who study Parkinson’s for a living do not know everything about this puzzling disease. According to the Parkinson’s Foundation, the cause of Parkinson’s disease is largely unknown. While there’s no cure for the disease, various treatment options can help those diagnosed with the disease live as normal and productive a life as possible. The Parkinson’s Foundation notes that understanding the disease and its progression is the first step to living well. Though the foundation also notes that people first start experiencing symptoms later in the course of the disease, learning to recognize some early symptoms might compel people to seek treatment. • Tremor: Many people might experience shaking after a vigorous workout or when they are dealing

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with stress or injury. But the foundation says that a tremor in a finger, thumb, hand or chin while at rest is a common early sign of Parkinson’s disease. • Small handwriting: Handwriting can change as people age, especially if they are experiencing stiffness in their hands or their vision is deteriorating. But micrographia, a disorder in which handwriting becomes abnormally small and cramped, is another early indicator of Parkinson’s disease. • Loss of smell: The foundation

advises people who are having trouble smelling foods, such as bananas, dill pickles or licorice, speak with their physicians about Parkinson’s disease. Temporary loss of smell due to something like the common cold, congestion or the flu is not an early indicator of Parkinson’s. • Difficulty sleeping: A significant other might notice their partner moving suddenly during sleep, and such movements might be indicative of Parkinson’s. SIGNS CONTINUES on page 11 >>

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Darlene and Chuck Whitney, through 50 years of marriage, have found the keys to delight and renewal. Music. And community. On their first date, the two went to the Melodyland Theatre in Anaheim, Calif., to see John Raitt in the musical “Oklahoma!” Especially for this night, Darlene and her mother had made her a bright pink satin dress. “It was a magical evening,” she said recently, her date sitting beside her. Fast-forward to Chuck and Darlene Whitney’s wedding reception, as they are about to drive off into their future. Darlene’s father hands them a gift of $250 in cash.

“Do not spend this,” he instructs, “on something you need.” Instead, he said, give yourselves a treat that brings you nothing but joy. The couple, who made their home in Menlo Park, agreed on the purchase: season tickets to the San Francisco Symphony. Going all the way into the city wasn’t practical, what with work and traffic, so the young Whitneys attended concert after glorious concert at Foothill College, where patrons sat on bleachers. It was thrilling, Chuck remembers, to see conductor Seiji Ozawa up close, and to be enveloped in music, music the full orchestra played especially for them. As their careers developed —

Darlene’s in electron microscopy at Stanford University and Chuck’s as an ophthalmologist — their love for live music deepened. Amidst demanding work schedules, they followed the spirit of Darlene’s father’s request, giving themselves nights at the opera and orchestra whenever they could. When the Whitneys retired circa 2000 — or tried to, before Chuck went back to work — in Port Angeles, they weren’t expecting a high-caliber symphony orchestra in the neighborhood. Soon after arrival on the Olympic Peninsula, Chuck began practicing medicine again, since the community sorely needed another eye doctor. MUSIC CONTINUES on page 13 >> Lifelong Journey • JULY 2018

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The couple were busy, too, with the construction of their new home off Mount Angeles Road. They hired builder Chris James, whose daughter Emily, a high school student, was dating a classmate, James Garlick, who played violin in the Port Angeles Symphony Orchestra. What? A symphony in Port Angeles? The Whitneys clambered up the local learning curve: The symphony, founded in 1932, gave grand concerts a few miles away at the 1,150-seat Port Angeles High School auditorium. Darlene and Chuck also met this James Garlick and discovered he played extraordinarily well. When the house was finished, they threw a party and hired Garlick to perform. Chuck remembers the fierceness in the teenager’s playing — and his joy in sharing music with an audience. Garlick was about to make a difficult decision: whether to major in science or music. “I told him: Do them both,” which he did, earning degrees in neuroscience and in violin performance at Ohio’s Oberlin College. Garlick then married Emily and got his master’s in music at Juilliard. “So he did OK,” Chuck said. The Juilliard School in New York City also counts among its alumni Richard O’Neill, an internationally known violist who grew up in Sequim. He and Garlick have been friends since they were kids; they used to play duets while riding the MV Coho to Victoria for music lessons. They kept in touch, and in February 2017, rendezvoused in Port Angeles as guest soloists with the Port Angeles Symphony. Long before this concert, Darlene and Chuck had become integral members of the symphony community. Darlene serves as an usher at concerts, of which there are now 13 per season, and hosts dinners and receptions for musicians. Chuck is the symphony’s board treasurer, as well as the guy who makes sure the lights and heat are on and the snacks laid out at orchestra rehearsals. He sets up the sound equipment, and is known for his “Attention, Lifelong Journey • JULY 2018

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Kmart shoppers!” call when testing the microphone. When guest soloists come to town — such as violinist Monique Mead of the Pittsburgh, Pa., Symphony or Seattle soprano Kristin K. Vogel — the Whitneys treat them like family members, having them over to the house, taking them out after the concert, or both. “For me, Chuck and Darlene rep-

resent the heart and soul of the symphony family,” said Jonathan Pasternack, the orchestra’s music director and conductor since 2015. Darlene is herself a musician, though she doesn’t trumpet the fact. In 2005 she inherited a gorgeous harp from her aunt Eugenia Kuhnle, a member of the Detroit Symphony. MUSIC CONTINUES on page 15 >>

SMART BIKES FOR SENIORS Finding the perfect set of wheels for the summer story and photos by LON ZIMMERMAN I found myself lying on the sidewalk entangled with my trusty bicycle. Getting on the bike was not a problem, but getting off had resulted in several embarrassing mishaps. My friend Dana was having a good laugh at my humiliation. That was the exact moment I decided to research smart bicycles for seniors. Bicycling is good for people of all ages. There are many reasons to continue to enjoy bicycling as you age. When you go into a bike shop, the salesperson is usually young, buff and enthusiastic about mountain biking, bicycle racing or touring. The salesperson might not be likely to have experience helping seniors with physical challenges find a smart bike. Let’s provide some specific equipment you can request in order to make bicycling safer and more comfortable as you age.

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Consider a “step-through frame” instead of the usual diamond frame bike. The “mixte” is a common step-through frame available. When the bike shop salesperson says something like, “Oh, you mean a girl’s bike,” encourage them to look up the meaning of “mixte.” In French, the term “mixte” means

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“includes members of both genders.” There are several kinds of step-through frames beside the mixte. I like the Berceau best because the frame is lower, making it is easier to step through and situate myself.

THE WEIGHT

Expensive titanium bike frames are not necessary, but look for a bike with a lighter frame if you must lift it at times. Provide your bike with a basket, a bell, a mirror and a lock for added portability and safety features. My Charge Grater bike weighs 26.5 pounds and has an aluminum frame, while my Novara Transit is a steel frame and weighs about 30 pounds. Bikes with carbon fiber frames would be about 11 pounds and cost around $2,600. Depending on your budget, you can get a bike weighing anywhere from 10 to 30 pounds. The aluminum frames seem to me to be a good compromise for moderate weight and reasonable cost.

THE TRANSMISSION

An internal geared hub (IGH) is a good choice if you detest cleaning and servicing derailleurs. Internal gear hubs are like an automatic transmission: you can shift even when standing still. They are available in two-, three-, five-, seven-, eightand 11-speed hubs. If local terrain is flat, a three-speed will work well. If you have hills to contend with, the seven- or eightspeed hubs will be nice. The price goes up with more speeds. I have a seven-speed IGH that I have used for years. It has required no maintainance and always shifts smoothly. For more information about internal gear hubs compared to derailleur systems, check out the website bootiebike.com/igh/igh.htm.

THE WHEELS

Lon's perfect bike is a Berceau step-through frame with trekking handlebars, ergon grips, internal gear hub and basket on the back.

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The instrument, when shipped to Port Angeles, arrived in less-thanexquisite shape, so the Whitneys searched for a restorer to make it playable again. When they got a steep estimate from a specialist in San Francisco, Chuck thought he might just polish it up himself as a decoration for the living room. “Please don’t do that. Please,” the restorer said. This harp is meant to be played. And so it is. After 18 months of restoration work, the instrument came home to Darlene, who has made music with it ever since. She continues to take lessons, these days on FaceTime with Megan Bledsoe Ward, a nationally known harpist who was a guest soloist with the Port Angeles Symphony in fall 2016. “I started in my late 60s; even though I read music well and play the piano, it has been challenging,” said Darlene, who has a bit of arthritis. “But I do like it,” and so does her husband. “I get to hear it,” he said with a smile. Darlene credits this graceful instrument with opening up a new phase of life. She lends it to students and professional harpists, noting that her aunt, after all, wanted it to be heard in concert. This summer the Whitneys look forward to another new thing: Music on the Strait, a chamber concert series cofounded by their friend James Garlick. Chuck is helping spread the word about the performances, which

“When I found out how much time the musicians — who are volunteers — spend in rehearsing, I don’t feel I’m donating that much time compared to them.” — Chuck Whitney, board treasurer, Port Angeles Symphony Orchestra feature pianist and MacArthur Foundation “genius” fellowship recipient Jeremy Denk; Seattle Symphony principal violinist Elisa Barston and Pacific Camerata cellist Ani Aznavoorian, along with Garlick and Richard O’Neill. They will play together at Peninsula College’s Maier Hall on Aug. 30 and 31 and at Port Angeles’ Holy Trinity Lutheran Church on Sept. 1. Chuck helped set up the website, MusicOnTheStrait.com. And in the printed programs for the Port Angeles Chamber Orchestra’s May concerts, he made sure there were inserts promoting the new festival. He brought his own paper for those inserts and spent hours helping put them together, Garlick noted. Chuck, Garlick said, is an “enabler”

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The music has been chosen not only because it sprung from the age when science indicates Wanda developed her music preference, but also for its healing powers. As Katie Harris unpacks her guitar, ukulele and ocean drum, a comfortable conversation about the week just past and about life in general takes place between the music therapist intern and the patient. The melody of Hank Williams’ “Hey Good Looking” starts to fill the homey room at St. Andrew’s Place in Port Angeles as Wanda, hands folded in lap, legs crossed and foot flexing to the beat, finds her way to crystal-clear memories of the past.

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A series of serendipitous occurrences brought these two together on Friday afternoons in Port Angeles. Harris, a graduate of Illinois State University, found her life’s calling at the bedside of her grandmother. The roommate assigned to the same nursing home also had a visitor — a woman who just happened to be the director of the music therapy program at ISU. A passing conversation developed into a mentorship, a degree program and a plan for the future. Seeking out a 2018 internship, Harris found her way to Encore, the adult day-care facility in Port Angeles. And a contact with Volunteer Hospice of Clallam County (VHOCC) provided a therapy option unavailable 40 years ago when Rose Crumb founded the local volunteer organization. Wanda was born in Hamilton, Ohio, worked 20 years as an operating room technician in Nashville and Memphis, and raised a house full of kids. She has been a VHOCC client for an extended time and looks forward to the volunteer visits.

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drum, a percussion instrument that can produce sounds mimicking ocean waves, a flowing river or a soothing gentle breeze weaving through trees. Wanda is intrigued, first appreciating the beauty of the instrument itself, then finding a rhythm in the movement of the metal beads. “Beautiful Dreamer” takes Wanda on a reminiscent journey of walking a Florida beach. Harris explains that there is science behind what we accept intuitively, that music is therapy. Although music therapy for hospice patients is a relatively new field, there is documented clinical proof that preemies, war vets and PTSD sufferers benefit from the treatments. Music therapists are trained to ensure patients have a successful musical experience, even if one has no musical background. And, following an assessment and the establishment of goals and objectives, a determination is made as to how the therapy will be focused. One patient with chronic pain falls

into a relaxing sleep during the sessions. Another has found the treatment cathartic, nostalgic and a peaceful life review opportunity. Harris is working with this patient to write a song to tell her life story. For Wanda the therapy sessions are mood enhancers, as witnessed by the smile that starts in her eyes, lifts her cheeks, widens on her lips and sets her foot to flexing. Admiring the view of Ediz Hook from the living room window, they compare notes on recent book reads. Wanda’s current read, “Breakfast at Sally’s” by Richard LeMieux, is perched atop a stack including a couple by John Grisham. Her interests are apparently eclectic. And though she has an interest in music — she in fact loves it — Wanda was told at a young age that she couldn’t carry a tune. So, try as she might, Harris can’t pull a whisper of a note from Wanda’s mouth. VHOCC CONTINUES on page 18 >> Lifelong Journey • JULY 2018

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Online resources: • sheldonbrown.com • bicycle-riding-forboomers.com • bootiebike.com were, the step-through frame is a great choice. The perfect bike for me has a Berceau step-through frame, trekking handlebars, ergon grips, internal gear hub and basket on the back. My second bike is a folding bike with an aluminum frame. I can fold it up in seconds and toss it in the back of the car when I wish to drive to a favorite bike trail. Hopefully our local Olympic Peninsula bike shops will take note and realize seniors love biking, but they might need different types of bikes that accommodate senior needs. Lon Zimmerman is an avid Port Townsend bicyclist. He has had a number of articles published in Small Craft Advisor and Good Old Boat. Reach him at zimco@ymail.com.

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Brad Pitt? Why do I doubt that? Well, because (a) I’ve been looking in mirrors for a really long time, and hen I was first approached (b) I’ve been on the planet for more to write a little somethan a week and have finally figured thing for this publication, out that life just doesn’t work that I inquired as to a suggested topic: way. “Well,” I heard, “since it’s the Most of us can remember ‘summer’ edition, how about a time when attracting a something on ‘body image’?” preferred member of the preI thought, “Body image? ferred gender was all imporWhat possible relevance could tant. ‘body image’ hold for this And we imagined that audience which, by the way, our relative success at such looks a lot like me?” attraction (or lack thereof) Then, I went and looked in hinged upon how we looked the mirror and realized that and, at least in part, it probwasn’t true. Mark Harvey ably did. But time marches Here’s something I hear, and time ravages and time with distressing regularity: tells the tale of a life, so here “You look just like Willie Nelson!” we are, looking like Willie Nelson. Oh, goodie. Alas. Have you seen a recent picture of I would like to think that I’m more Willie Nelson? ... Right. than that. Why is it that nobody ever says, I’d like to believe that experience “Wow! You look just like Brad Pitt!” and knowledge and wisdom have I know why: Because I don’t. made me more than a mirror denizen, Bummer. and in many ways, it has. So, it does matter, at least to me. I think I am a better human than I And if it matters to me, I project my used to be. own neuroses and conclude that it I know less, so I’m more patient. probably matters to a lot of you … And because I know less, I’m more and it’s probably been mattering as humble. long as most of us can remember. I’m more sympathetic and more When was the last time you looked empathetic, because I’ve been “there” in the mirror and thought, “Gee! I and I’ve felt “that.” look great!” ... Right. I’m less judgmental, because I know We’ve been looking in mirrors and I can’t afford to be judged, and I’m finding flaws since somewhere in more tolerant, because I’ve learned the neighborhood of puberty or the that the world has to tolerate me. Jurassic period, whichever came first. I’m less apt to declare myself to be We’ve always seen what’s wrong or the ultimate arbiter of right versus not symmetrical or too big or too little wrong, because I’ve been both, with an unfortunate emphasis on the lator too blemished or too plain or too … ter, and I’m more apt to admit that I human. don’t know, because I don’t. And, obviously, that’s all reinforced This would seem the appropriate by the incessant drumbeat of an juncture to observe that if most of us insistent media, dedicated to selling paid more attention to our health, us this or that product, procedure or instead of our appearance, we’d actuprogram: “If you just do (buy!) this, ally end up looking better. soon you, too, will look just like this That would happen because we’d gorgeous human that we’ve paid way feel better, could do more and generaltoo much to pretend to be you! You’ll ly be more engaged in this ever-enterlook just like …”

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