Eating Crow and deserving every bit of it! To My Now Ex-wife Who was the epitome of how a loving and supporting wife should be. That would be if she had a thoughtful, supporting and loving husband. So why put this out for everyone to read and know? I will explain: Many of you reading this story will have heard it (many times). You’ll know who I’m referring too as well as who I am. Those of you who haven’t heard should continue to read on. All of you can learn from my mistakes. Here’s goes! I was with my ex-wife for almost eighteen years. We were married almost eleven years. Have two wonderful children. Sounds good right? Now for the last three years of our marriage, I did everything completely wrong? We had some marital problems; mainly caused by me, dah! I was running away from it all. I quit communicating with her. I was never home, and if I was there, I was either working or out drinking. I did NOT make time for my kids. I trash talked her about everything. You think of it, I probably said or did it! I was a top notch jerk. Some may have better words for me but this is a published article. Not to say I don’t deserve it. During the past couple of years my ex-wife was building a very strong friendship with another woman. In my convoluted mind they were more than friends. I believed they were having a relationship, you know partners. Nothing wrong with that except she was my wife. So every time I went out I ended up telling someone the story (my perception of it anyway). I did not intend to trash talk my wife (at the time) but I was. All of our friends had heard the stories (several times). I was destroying her reputation. I was not thinking or acting clearly. I was being selfish and hurtful. Most of you who have heard this story now can probably guess who I am. Never did it cross my mind that they were just really close friends. The friend was emotionally supporting to my ex-wife, when I was emotionally bankrupt! My anger and embarrassment would not let me see this. I didn’t realize what I had done to my exwife, until a few weeks ago. I want to say to my ex-wife, “I’m
so very sorry to have drug your name through the mud like this!” I would
also like to say to her friend that” I’m sorry to you,” as well. I also need to tell those of you who heard my nonsense, “I’m sorry for perpetuating a lie that was made up in my delusional and drunken mind.” My Ex-wife deserves your respect, understanding and for everyone to stop talking about her. I on the other hand deserve whatever is sent my way! The harsher the better!!!!! So why do this publicly and now? I figured that I trash talked her publicly, I should apologize publicly. Why now? I have had time to reflect, and know what a %$#@! &* I had been. My ex-wife has probably heard this as well but never out like this. At the beginning, I stated “All of you can learn from my mistake.” I will give all of you some basic Don’ts, when you are having relationship problems. They’ll seem easy but believe me they can be very difficult to follow: • Don’t stop communicating. • Don’t run from or avoid the problems or real issues. • Don’t go to a bar, it doesn’t have the answers. What it does have is more problems. • Don’t go to another person(cheat) • Don’t start argument just to have a reason to leave. • Don’t focus on all the negative stuff. That makes it easy to forget why you were together in the first place. • Don’t forget the important things that make your significant other special to you. (If you do, they will end up with someone else. I don’t wish this on anyone) • Last but not least, don’t forget about the Kids (if you have them). I do and did push them away. That is another story to come. I would like to tell you what you need to do to repair your relationships, but I can NOT! I know how I handled it and it did NOT work. I would like to say to my ex-wife, our family, friends, mutual acquaintances, and anyone who knows of this story, “I am truly SORRY for misleading you!” Signed
Dumb-a@# ex-husband