September 2021 Tinklenburg has often taken schoolchildren from Nevis and Walker-HackensackAkeley on rides around his parklike farm, using this wagon that he built for safety and comfort.
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was such a need for good foster parents. So when we were in our 50s we started doing foster care.”
lmer Tinklenburg of rural Akeley has combined his love Finding a new purpose of children and woodworking Soon after going through the by helping children do special process to become licensed in projects in classrooms for over 30 foster care they got two boys, years. brothers whom they later Tinklenburg grew up on a adopted. Eventually, they fostered farm in southwest Minnesota. “I approximately 20 kids, some of learned carpentry from working them only briefly. with relatives,” he said. “It was “It worked out quite well being something I learned by doing.” foster parents, because my wife, After working in Alaska as a big Patricia, took early retirement game guide and doing maintenance from her job at Ah-Gwah-Ching at a radar site in the Arctic, he soon after we started, so we were came to Akeley to visit relatives. both able to be home with the “That’s where I met my wife children,” he said. Patricia over 50 years ago,” he said. “Once in a while we run into one “She had just lost her husband of our foster kids who has stayed a short time before that and had Tinklenburg uses the wooden in the area,” he said. “One time, two children. We eventually got form at the bottom to hold a my wife was in a store and saw a married, so I started out with a child's toolbox upside-down while young man we took care of when family right away with kids who he was in foster care. She told him were 9 and not quite a year old. We he hammers it together in his he grew up to be such a nice man also had two children together after workshop. He typically drills the and he said, ‘You helped me.‘“ nail holes to make it easier for that and adopted two more.” Now in their 80s, the couple first graders to pound the nails in. still has a heart for helping kids He worked at Warner’s Wood Factory in Akeley for 27 years. although they are no longer a When the factory was sold to Wicks, he took an early licensed foster care home. retirement and started taking care of foster children. “A lady from social services had told us there ELMER’S JOY: Page 9
Art Beat Inside this issue... 2 The fruiting shrub you didn’t know you needed 3 Does Medicare cover home health care? 4 Vision check ups detect early symptoms 10 Fantastic fish
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Honeyberries The fruiting shrub you didn’t know you needed MICHAEL VOSBURG / FORUM PHOTO EDITOR
Honeyberry is a winter-hardy fruit that grows on shrubs well-adopted to all soil types.
t’s my pleasure to introduce Bethany Anderson, who is writing a guest column this week. The Harvey, N.D., native and agricultural education major is a summer intern in the Cass County Extension Office at North Dakota State University. ~ Don Kinzler By Bethany Anderson You’ve heard of honey, and you’ve heard of berries, but have you heard of honeyberries? Honeyberries are similar to blueberries in taste, health benefits, uses and color, although they’re not related, instead being in the same family as honeysuckle shrubs. These oblong berries have a slightly different flavor than blueberries, but they’re widely adapted to the varying soil types of the Upper Midwest, and blueberries require a highly acidic soil. Honeyberries are fully winter hardy far into Canada and can survive summer heat as well. Sometimes used interchangeably, honeyberries are also called haskaps. The two different names resulted from varieties originating in Russia being referred to as honeyberries, and the varieties originating in Japan being called haskaps. Types originating in
Growing Together BY DON KINZLER Gardening Columnist Russia and Japan have some key differences. Most research on the Russian varieties has been done at Canada’s University of Saskatchewan, where cultivars have been developed that are much sweeter than the originals. Research on Japanese varieties began in Oregon, and tend to produce larger berries than those from Russian origins, although they ripen two weeks later. How do we grow honeyberries? They are fairly low maintenance. Unlike blueberries, they thrive in the alkaline soils common in many parts of the Upper Midwest. Honeyberry shrubs will fruit best if planted in full, all-day sunshine, or at least six hours of direct sunshine. The shrubs fit into home landscapes well. Two differently named cultivars of honeyberry are needed that bloom at the same time for pollination and fruiting. Plant shrubs about five to six feet apart. Mulch is recommended for
weed control and for moisture conservation. Honeyberries grow best with one-to-two inches of moisture per week during the growing season, so supplementing rain with additional water might be necessary. Avoid overhead sprinkling, because leaves staying wet or damp for long periods of time can cause the leaves to develop disease. A drip system that keeps the soil moist and the foliage dry is a better option. Honeyberry shrubs begin producing berries in two to three years. Depending on the variety, the shrubs will grow 4 to 6 feet high. Yellowish-white funnel-shaped flowers appear in early spring with berries following in early summer, usually June into early July. Berries will turn dark blue, appearing to be ripe, but shouldn’t be picked at that stage, since honeyberries turn color about two to three weeks before they are fully ripe. A better way to know if
berries are fully ripe for picking is how easily they come off the stem. When ripe, berries will fall from the branches. In fact, a common method of harvesting is to place a tub or tarp underneath the shrub and shake it, allowing the berries to fall and be caught. Ripening honeyberries are especially susceptible to theft from birds. Shrubs can be protected by covering with bird netting as the berries begin turning color. How can berries be used, once the shrubs have started producing? Honeyberries have a flavor that some people compare to a cross between a blueberry and a raspberry or black currant. Like other characteristics of honeyberries, the sweetness largely depends on the cultivars planted. Even if some are slightly tart for fresh eating, they are wonderful in pies, bars, jam, wine, smoothies, ice cream or dried like raisins. Honeyberries can be substituted into nearly any recipes calling
for blueberries. The fruits are high in vitamin C, antioxidants and minerals like potassium. Now that you know about honeyberries, the next step is to visit your local garden center, looking for potted honeyberry shrubs. You’ll see honeyberry cultivar names like Tundra, Aurora, Borealis, Indigo Gem, Berry Smart, Boreal Beast and Boreal
Beauty. Be sure to check the descriptive tags so the varieties are listed as being good pollinators for each other, and remember that two or more different cultivars are needed for pollination and fruit. Don Kinzler, a lifelong gardener, is the horticulturist with North Dakota State University Extension for Cass County. Readers can reach him at kinzlerd@casscountynd. gov or call 701-241-5707.
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Does Medicare cover home health care? The Savvy D ear Savvy Senior, How does Medicare cover in-home health care? My husband has a chronic health condition that makes it very difficult for him to leave the house, so I’m wondering if he could qualify for Medicare home health care. ~ Seeking Help Dear Seeking, Medicare covers a wide variety of parttime or intermittent in-home health care services to beneficiaries in need, if they meet Medicare’s criteria. Here’s how it works. In order for your husband to secure coverage for home health care, Medicare first requires that he be homebound. This means that it must be extremely difficult for him to leave home, and he needs help doing so either from another person or medical device like a cane, wheelchair, walker or crutches. He will then need to have a face-to-face meeting with his doctor to get a home health certification confirming that he needs skillednursing care or skilledtherapy services from a physical or speech therapist on a parttime basis. His doctor can also request the services of an occupational therapist and a personal care aide to assist with activities of daily living such as bathing,
BY JIM MILLER Columnist dressing and using the bathroom. His doctor must renew and certify his home health plan every 60 days. He will also need to use a home health agency that is certified by Medicare. If he meets all of the requirements, Medicare should pay for his in-home health care. But be aware that Medicare will not pay for personal care aide services (for bathing, dressing, using the bathroom, etc.) alone if he does not need skillednursing or skilledtherapy services too. Homemaker services, such as shopping, meal preparation and cleaning are not covered either. If your husband has original Medicare, you can locate a Medicarecertified home health agency by calling 800-633-4227 or by visiting Medicare. gov/care-compare. If he has a Medicare Advantage plan, you should contact his plan directly and ask which home health agencies
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If your husband does not qualify for
Medicare home health care coverage, there are other coverage options depending on your situation. Here are several that may apply to you: ► Insurance: If you happen to have longterm care insurance, check to see if it covers in-home care. Or if you have a life insurance policy, see if it can be utilized to pay for care. ► Medicaid: If your income is low, your husband may qualify for Medicaid, which offers different home and community-based services that can pay for in-home care. To investigate this, contact your local Medicaid office.
► PACE – which stands for “Programs of All-Inclusive Care for the Elderly” – is available in your area (see NPAonline.org). PACE provides in-home care, including help with activities of daily living, such as meals, dental and medical care, among other benefits. ► Veterans benefits: If your husband is a veteran, the VA also offers some benefits that can help. Two programs to inquire about are “Aid and Attendance or Housebound Allowances” and the “Veteran-Directed Care” program. Both programs provide monthly financial benefits to
eligible veterans that can help pay for in-home care. To learn more, contact your regional VA benefit office (see Benefits.va.gov/benefits/ offices.asp or call 800– 827–1000). To look for these and other programs in your area that can help pay your husband’s home care, go to PayingForSeniorCare. com and click on “Find Financial Assistance for Care” to access their Eldercare Financial Assistance Locator tool. Send your senior questions to Savvy Senior, P.O. Box 5443, Norman, OK 73070 or visit SavvySenior.org. Jim Miller is a contributor to the NBC Today show and author of “The Savvy Senior” book.
The Silent Thief of Sight
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Glaucoma offers no warning, symptoms or cure It can come with no warning and no noticeable symptoms. It is the second most common cause of blindness in the United States. “It” is glaucoma, the silent thief of sight. January is National Glaucoma Awareness Month and we encourage all people, especially those at higher risk for this disease, to familiarize themselves with the potential symptoms and need for regular eye examinations. A regular eye examination is especially critical since a person with early-stage glaucoma may not notice any symptoms at all. While the early-stage symptoms may not be noticeable, a person with more advanced glaucoma may notice blurred vision, the presence of halos around lights, loss of peripheral vision and difficulty focusing on objects. Glaucoma affects an estimated four million American s. Some people are more at risk than others.
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Those at higher risk include: • People over the age of 60 • African-Americans over the age of 40 • People with diabetes • Individuals who have experienced serious eye injuries • Anyone with a family history of glaucoma While there is no cure for glaucoma, early detection and treatment can slow or prevent further vision loss. First and foremost in the process is a comprehensive eye health exam by your family eye doctor.
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s we age, our vision changes. The ability to see up close can become challenging. Distinguishing colors, such as blue and black, can be tricky and if you didn’t need glasses before, you will probably be having this conversation with your optometrist soon. Protecting our eyes by having regular eye exams is a good start in keeping eyes healthy. Early detection of an eye problem can help prevent or slow down vision loss. Many people do not recognize vision changes in the early stages. Because many vision problems happen gradually, people learn to adjust and adapt. An eye exam where the eyes are dilated, may be the only way to find some common eye diseases. It is in the early stages that they are easier to treat. Another reason for having your vision checked is to make sure your glasses prescription is right for you. If your prescription no longer corrects your vision, you are at an increased risk of falls, more frequent headaches and tired eyes. You can help keep your eyes healthy by
BY CONNIE TROSKA Columnist following these tips from the National Institute on Aging: ► Protect your eyes from sunlight by wearing sunglasses that block ultraviolet (UV) radiation and a hat with a wide brim when you are outside. ► Stop smoking. ► Make smart food choices. ► Be physically active and maintain a healthy weight. ► Maintain normal blood pressure. ► Manage diabetes (if you have it). ► If you spend a lot of time at the computer or focused on one thing, take a break every 20 minutes to look about 20 feet away for 20 seconds to prevent eye strain. Minnesota State Services for the Blind offer’s services for low vision and agerelated vision decline. Through their Aging Eyes Initiative, they work with community programs and organizations to help older adults adjust to vision loss by providing low-vision
aids, free of charge. The organizations, which are found throughout the state and include churches,
senior centers, and civic groups, are able to make referral back to State Services for the Blind to help those with age-related vision decline or vision loss to remain more independent and active. For more information on State Services for the Blind and to find an organization near you, call 651-5392300.
Vision problems and disorders are common in older adults. Treatments exist to address some of these aging-related conditions, but the key is early detection. Make sure you have regular eye exams to help you live more independently.
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Find new studios, artists at Art Leap 2021
rt Leap, an “open studio event” featuring artists and guest artists, will offer 21 sites and feature more than 80 artists at studios and other locations in Hubbard and Becker counties. The event will be held Saturday and Sunday, Sept. 25 and 26. Studios will be open from 10 a.m. to 5 p.m. Saturday and 11 a.m. to 5 p.m. Sunday. Hop from studio to studio, learn process, appreciate skill and support the artists. Let fall’s natural beauty as you pass lakes and travel country roads inspire you as it does the artists. Brochures will be available in mid-August at the Park Rapids Lakes Area Chamber of Commerce Visitor Center, Park Rapids Area Library and other locations and at www.heartland arts. org. Seven new sites will be part of this year’s event, including two new murals in Downtown Park Rapids. Studio 176, a small art and event gallery on 3rd Street, features the work of regional
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Marsha Wolff’s mosaics are always popular with Art Leap visitors. Art Leap 2021 will offer a variety of artistic expression: sculptures, paintings, mixed media, pottery, photography, turned wood, fiber arts and more. artists: Elisa Boushee, Laura Grisamore, Dawn Rossbach and Jeremy Simonson. At 2nd Street and Main, Park Rapids’ new brew pub will feature the artwork of Debbie Center, best known for her northern lights photography,
but a versatile artist in other media. Jill Lucas invites visitors to her home to see her threedimensional work and watercolors and meet guest artists Toby Lucas, Dave and Sue Melhus. To help visitors
Alec Soth: Paris / Minnesota; Rachel Collier: Soft Landing at Nemeth Art Center Headwaters Center for Lifelong Learning: Farm Conservation Practices and Bluebirding Farm to Fiber Festival at the Fairgrounds Headwaters Center for Lifelong Learning: Hobos of the Great Depression Headwaters Center for Lifelong Learning: The Land That Feeds Us, Body and Soul Art Leap 2021 Northern Light Opera Company 20th Anniversary Celebration Headwaters Center for Lifelong Learning: 10 Warning Signs of Alzheimer’s Disease Headwaters Center for Lifelong Learning: For Love of a River: Minnesota Headwaters Center for Lifelong Learning: Humorous Tales of Poachers Caught in the Act Headwaters Center for Lifelong Learning: Images of Mexico Headwaters Center for Lifelong Learning: An American Refugee in Canada - A Different View of 9/11
navigate, this year’s newly designed brochure features a driving loop north and west and another south and east. New on the north and west loop will be the Tamarac National Wildlife Refuge Discovery Center with guest photographers Jim Sinclair, Robert Larson, Lee Kensinger and others as well as mini workshops and
suggestions on best sites on the Refuge to take your own fall photos. Artists Merrily Karel, Dona Wilkerson and Patty Minehart will show their skills in paper folding, fiber and visual arts at the Osage Schoolhouse. On the south and east loop, Chuck Weygand visitors will find functional wooden bowls made from Minnesota trees. In
2020, Weygand was awarded a Region 2 Arts Council Individual Artist grant. In addition to new locations, several studios who have participated in past years will host new guest artists and new works that will interest first time and returning visitors. At 7 p.m. Saturday, Sept. 25 join us as Northern Light Opera Company celebrates 20 years of bringing musical theater to the area. The show will be held at the Park Rapids Area High School Auditorium, 401 Huntsinger Ave. Heartland Arts (formerly Park Rapids Lakes Area Arts Council) sponsors Art Leap with funding provided, in part, by Itasca-Mantrap’s Operation Round Up and the Park Rapids Downtown Business Association. This activity is also funded by a Region 2 Arts Council Grant through an appropriation by the Minnesota State Legislature and the Arts and Cultural Heritage Fund passed by Minnesota voters on Nov. 4, 2008.
An artist explains: Why buy original art? By Dawn Rossbach Artist and co-owner of Studio 176
such as shirts, bags and cards. It’s fun! But, with that being said, if you’re looking for something that is going to be a part of your home, work space or commercial space, you might want to look at buying something that is totally unique. I’ve been in several homes with all original
can find a piece of art that looks pretty good at the discount store!” Fair enough! And you can absolutely do that for a very reasonable cost. In fact, artists at Studio 176 have some of their original artworks reproduced on Lakes products, Heartland blueROSSBACH: 173963 Page 7
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Arts programming enriches lives of DAC clients
Grants from the Region 2 Art Council and the Minnesota State Arts Board have allowed Hubbard County DAC artists to continue to learn new skills and work with a variety of teaching artists this summer. Participants have discovered a passion for artistic endeavors in visual and theater arts and are interested in exploring and developing their talents. Erin Nelson continues to hold weekly workshops to develop skills in the elements of art and working to introduce new media and techniques. Bemidji artist Alice Blessing taught three workshops in June to share her method of acrylic painting with her fingers. The workshop covered the basics of color mixing. Blessing believes people respond to colors that help them feel strong, happy and relaxed. She strives to empower others and help them overcome the tendency to be selfcritical. Throughout the workshops she helped artists create their own version of flowers and a bird. Visiting Artist Jill Odegaard returned for her second year to use paper shredded in the DAC workshop to instruct artists in making their own pieces of paper, creating
Bemidji artist Alice Blessing worked with DAC artists on her method of acrylic painting with her fingers. In one session she helped them create their own version of a bird. personal visual art pieces that were transformed into books. Odegaard is a professor at Cedar Crest college in Allentown, PA, but returns to Park Rapids each summer to participate in a community engagement project. She envisioned this project to be a visual narrative and storytelling, allowing artists to create images in the pulp of
the paper while wet. Giving participants a place to have their own voice, create their own stories, bring them to life and celebrate that voices. A celebration was held at the DAC so everyone could share their story with the group. The final part of our summer programming will include screen printing workshops with artist Hannah Spry, who also has ties to the local area. Spry has majored in printmaking and will lead workshops to teach artists how to transfer their art to T-shirts, bags or other items that can be worn or sold in DAC stores. Watch for announcements of the second DAC musical to be performed this fall. Director Jennifer Geraedts will share her talent to lead a theater workshop to help create a production that can be presented for the community. “We hope to partner with the Armory Arts and Events Center to give our actors the feel of working in a real theater,” said DAC Executive Director Laura Johnson. This activity is made possible by the voters of Minnesota, through a grant from the Region 2 Arts Council, thanks to a legislative appropriation from the Arts and Cultural Heritage Fund.
Nemeth Art Center offers exciting exhibits
The Nemeth Art Center (NAC) held its first artist reception since 2019 at their gallery in the historic Hubbard County Courthouse Saturday, July 10. More than 90 guests came to meet painter and sculptor T.L. Solien, view his extensive body of work spanning a quarter-century, socialize with friends, and pose questions directly to the artist. Born and raised in the FargoMoorhead area, Solien has had his work exhibited internationally. He recently retired from teaching at the University of Wisconsin in Madison. The evening’s discussion was moderated by the show’s curator, Christopher Atkins. NAC continues its 2021 season through Oct. 2 with a full slate of gallery shows. Two Minnesota artists with works on exhibit during September are photographer Alec Soth and interdisciplinary artist Rachel Collier, both based in Minneapolis. Alec Soth is a member of Magnum Photos and a Guggenheim Fellow whose work has been shown in
London, Paris, Berlin, New York and San Francisco, as well as the Walker Art Center. His series of photos Paris, Minnesota, originated as a fashion shoot in 2007 and focuses on numerous local residents and scenes in and near Hubbard County. Several of the images are being shown in a gallery setting for the very first time. Rachel Collier is an emerging artist who received her Bachelor of Fine Arts from the Art Institute of Chicago and has had her work shown in multiple locations across the United States. Her show Soft Landing at NAC utilizes multicolored woven fabrics and hand-dyed wool to create abstract works in a painterly style. Much of the show’s installation is specific to the Nemeth’s gallery location. The Nemeth Art Center is a non-profit contemporary art space in Park Rapids. Galleries are open and free to the public Thursday, Friday and Saturday from 10:30 a.m.to 4:30 p.m. through Oct.2. Exhibits are made possible in part by grants from the Region 2 Arts Council, through a legislative appropriation from the Minnesota Legacy Arts
Treat your artistic self Park Rapids Community Education is offering opportunities for creativity and experiences this fall. Enroll in a class for some hands-on enjoyment. Choose from our wide variety of classes such as Music Lessons, Stained Glass, Jewelry Making, Light Plate Mosaics, Croissants and Pastry Dough, Crocheting, Rug Making, Outdoor Evergreen Planters and more. Is theater more your style? Travel to Footloose at the Chanhassen Dinner Theatre to grab dinner and a show. Community Ed programs are back on the road with other day trips Park Rapids Community Education as well as extended trips. Check out offers a variety of classes, what’s available at www. including music lessons, and other parkrapidscomed.com or call 218experiences this fall. 237-6600 for more information.
Painter and sculptor T.L. Solien and curator Christopher Atkins answer questions during the Nemeth Art Center’s first artist reception since 2019. and Cultural Heritage Fund. Find out more at www. nemethartcenter.org.
Heartland Concerts will resume in February
The Heartland Concert Association (HCA) invites you to renew or become a new 202122 season ticket member and join your friends for this opportunity to see and hear exceptional entertainment: five concerts, still for only $45! Sadly, because of the coronavirus, the 2020-21 season had to be cancelled. Although hopeful health conditions will continue to improve, as a precaution the HCA board elected to delay the start of the 2021-22 concert schedule until February 2022. All five performances are scheduled in February, March and April. “We appreciates your patience and understanding as we strive to navigate the pandemic to the best of our ability,” said Jennie Anderson, board chair. Performers this season will be: Duo
Baldo, Monday, Feb. 7; Chipper Experience, Sunday, March 6; Barron Ryan, Sunday, March 13; Ball In The House, Sunday, March 20; Crocodile Rockin’, an Elton John Tribute, Wednesday. April 27. Please consider becoming a sponsorship donor. Your name will be listed as a contributor in the series program booklet if you wish. Also, consider giving a Gift Membership for a relative, cleaning person, senior citizen friend, wedding/birthday gift or special “thank you.” It’s a gift that gives all year long – each time the recipient uses it, they will think of you! Visit heartlandconcertassociation. org for season ticket and gift membership information or becoming a sponsor. We’ll see you at the show!
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artwork and it’s fascinating to see how it completely transforms the space. Ah, I hear you. You’re thinking, “how do I know if the original piece is quality artwork?” A good starting point is visiting your local galleries or galleries when you travel. Trust me, they will be happy to talk about the work and guide you through. Do you know the artist or is the gallery owner able to talk about the materials the artist uses? If the artist is new to the gallery, the owner/curator can certainly find out more. Take a closer look. Is it a work on canvas, is it oil, acrylic paint or mixed media (more than one art material)?. All types of mediums have their pros and cons for the artist and the quality of the paint or materials being used can vary. For example, we know that oil paintings that are taken care of have lasted for hundreds of years- and those artists mixed their own oil paint! The jury is still out on acrylic paint. Having only been developed in the early 1950s, generally speaking it is rated for an estimated 50 to 60 years. The only difference between the two mediums is the binder (the thing that holds the paint together); both use the same pigments. One uses oil for the binder and acrylic uses a polymer synthetic resinbasically a plastic. Both types use the same pigments. The amount of pigment being mixed with the binder usually increases the cost of the paint but the quality is better with more pigment. Another example to indicate quality is you might experience a painting where the richness of the color draws you in more than other paintings in the gallery or space and seems to have a luminescence unlike anything else. This effect could be an oil painting and pigment mixed with linseed oil which imparts a bit of a glow or the artist could have varnished it to seal and protect it from the environment such as smoke, dust, light, etc. As you start looking at works, you’ll start to notice those small nuances that make a quality painting. What about photographs? What should you look for? How is the one from a chain store any different from what is in a gallery? Naturally, to display photographs they have to be printed on a surface - this is where artists who use the camera as their media of choice decide on the size, substrate (canvas, metal, fine art print, etc) the image is printed on and the quality of the inks. The typical at-home inkjet printer is probably not going to be in the running. The artist also has control over how many of the images will be printed, and might decide to have a limited edition,-for example producing only 10 prints of one image to sell versus the tens of thousands of one image reproduced and sold in national chain stores. Most of us, regardless of what type of camera we are using, utilize
a “point and shoot” method and subjects are kids, family pets, sprinkled with the social media photos. However, photographers, who cross over into the artistic realms of this art form, will spend hours scouting out places and observing light at different times during the day to achieve optimal conditions in order to capture their artistic vision. Once the photographer starts shooting the work doesn’t end there. They upload their images into the digital darkroom and can endure countless hours of post production/ editing work to bring the work to the point of their desired artistic expression. Some photographers create composites, manipulating their photographs into completely new works which reference collage, but others fine tune, slightly enhancing the natural beauty captured in the moment and scene. When assessing the quality of an original photograph, again, take a closer look. If you see pixels (the small squares that make up a digital work) the photograph has been enlarged too big - the overall quality and aesthetic suffer. Ask if the photograph is printed on an acid free archival surface with archival ink–most are rated to last for 100 years. Think how newspapers yellow and age quickly - that’s from the acid in the paper, so an acid-free paper designed to use archival inks is ideal. Fine art papers for photo reproduction vary from velvety surfaces to super glossy to textured and all have their place in adding to the aesthetics of the photograph. The artist will know what to recommend if you are unsure. Another great quality print medium for photographs is metal which should be printed with archival ink, and has a variety of finishing surfaces from glossy to matte. Most metal is printed on aluminum so it is lightweight and extremely durable. It is waterproof and UV proof, so this artwork is ideal for spaces exposed to water, humidity or smoke/grease from cooking, making it possible to hang artwork in unconventional spaces, even outdoors! One last and important thing to note, when buying original artwork: there’s an old myth that people who are not artists or art critics, don’t understand the particular meaning of a work or the deeper concept behind it. But you don’t have to. If you like it, it’s something that will fit your space and will be something you enjoy for years, by all means, consider purchasing the artwork! That being said, if you do know something about the work, whether it’s the process of how it was made, the deeper meaning of it or better yet, a conversation with the artist, it only enhances the personal value you will attach to it. No one has a better opinion than you about what you’re attracted to. You can have and afford original art in your home. Even if it’s only one work, odds are in your favor that you will enjoy it for generations to come. Dawn Rossbach is an artist and co-owner of Studio 176, located at 176 3rd St W, downtown Park Rapids, open Thursday through Saturday, 11 a.m.-3 p.m. and by appointment. Studio 176 showcases and sells original artwork and photography by local and area artists.
Reunion art show draws crowd
The Blank Canvas Gallery Union Art Show drew visitors to the Armory Arts & Events Center the weekend of Aug. 13-15. Judy Wegenast (left) and Bickey Bender welcomed visitors to an opening reception. The works of 19 artists were featured along with a special tribute to Janine Merrick and June House. The event was sponsored by a gift from the Bella Sanders estate with support from Heartland Arts Council.
LABOR DAY WEEKEND
Sat., Sept. 4 - 9-5 pm Sun., Sept. 5 - 10-4 pm ~Rain or Shine~
Watch for the official Art Crawl signs and numbers
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NLOC completes 3 ambitious projects New Play Workshop This new, week-long project June 12-18, led by playwrights Greg Paul and Melanie Goodreaux, led aspiring writers to create their own original short play. Beginning with an empty page, these writers created a 10-minute play which was read/performed by live actors for an engaged audience who expressed hopes for another workshop next year. NLOKids Theater Camp The original musical created by NLOKids this summer was titled “A Whistle in the Dark,” inspired when elder Mike Swan told the kids a story of Nanaboozhoo and the Wendigo. During theater camp June 21 through July 16, the kids wrote the story and created costumes with the assistance of NLOC directors. They also had fun painting and creating the rather complicated sets and props. Their musical was presented for family and friends both at the Pine Point Community Center and the Armory Arts and Events Center in Park Rapids. They celebrated by all piling
in the school bus and going to the DQ for lunch and ice cream after the show. ‘Pippin’ The creative, talented, lively cast, crew and directors gifted audiences of NLOC’s main stage production of “Pippin” July 29 through Aug. 7 with their joy at being able to again perform in a live theater setting. The theme of “Pippin discovering what to do with his life” resonated with many after having the past year plus contemplating that same issue. NLOC’s family was grateful for the opportunity to again be together and create. The journey of creating Pippin began when virtual auditions were held in April, first choral rehearsals were mid-May at Calvary, tech crew began building the sets, full cast music rehearsals began June 7, first readthrough June 22, choreography and staging began early July and orchestra added July 21 and first public performance July 30.
To create an NLOC production involves much planning, time and energy shared by many. Celebrating 20 years 2021 is the year the NLOC celebrates 20 years of producing musical theater in the Park Rapids Heartland Lakes area. “When reflecting on this journey, many fond memories flood our thoughts,” said Pat Dove, who along with husband Paul Dove, founded NLOC. “Each show has had its own unique joys and challenges, and when remembering, smiles appear on our faces.” To commemorate this journey, plans are to have a celebration at the Park Rapids Area High School Auditorium at 7 p.m. Saturday, Sept. 25. Former cast/crew members will be invited to return and reprise a favorite song or role. More information will be available at a later date. You are invited to help celebrate and visit with current and former cast and crew members.
Visitors enjoy new Pioneer Park mural A new mural in Pioneer Park adds vibrancy and enjoyment to the shopping and dining experience in Downtown Park Rapids. The artwork, by Greg Preslicka of Savage, MN, is the second mural in the shopping district. Minneapolis artist, Lili Lenox, completed the first in August 2020 on the north wall of Aunt Belle’s Confectionary. Heartland Arts agreed to sponsor the project as Steph and Karl Carlson were negotiating purchase of the building and expressed interest in adding a mural on the south wall of the building facing the small city park. They opened the new Enjoy candy store at 215 Main Ave. So. in May. “Their contributions to the mural project, including lighting, along with their enthusiastic support were priceless,” said Lu Ann Hurd-Lof, arts council grants manager. A steering committee for the mural project selected Preslicka from nine proposals that were submitted. Preslicka has completed nearly 100 murals and worked with large and small groups on murals for cities, schools, state parks, community centers, aquatic centers and libraries. The steering committee also met several times to discuss what they wanted to see depicted and came to a consensus the theme should celebrate the beauty and nature that surround us as a bridge that speaks to people of all ages, cultures and backgrounds. Park Rapids Lions Club members and friends painted the base coat for the project Saturday, June 19 and
Children seem to enjoy “petting” the critters in the new mural. Preslicka started painting the mural the morning of Monday, June 21. A mural celebration was held Friday and the artist finished the work the morning of Sunday, June 27 Those who engaged with Preslicka as he worked learned about the techniques he uses to design and create such a large mural. After the mural was completed, visitors are frequently seen interacting with the art as background for photos and enjoying the work as they walk through the park. Children “pet” the bear, fish and loon.
In surveys visitors from Austin, MN, and Stillwater, MN, commented Park Rapids is lucky to have a mural like this. Another said she is amazed by people who can make something so large. “A generous community and grants are so helpful in beautifying an area,” another visitor said. “It is a wonderful addition to Downtown.” The Heartland Arts Council’s goal for this project is that other artwork in Pioneer Park, the mural at Aunt Belle’s and nearby sculptures that are part of the Park Rapids Sculpture Trail send a message the community supports artists and artistic endeavors. Steering Committee members were Bickey Bender, Steph Carlson, Paul Dove, Kent Estey, Laura Grisamore, Cynthia Jones, Julie Kjenaas, Cathy Peterson, Elmer Schoon and Elizabeth Stone. In addition to the building owner, steering committee members represent Heartland Arts Council, the Downtown Business Association, City Parks and Beautification Board, City Arts and Culture Advisory Commission and artists. The project was made possible, in part, by the voters of Minnesota, through a grant from the Region 2 Arts Council, thanks to a legislative appropriation from the Arts and Cultural Heritage Fund. Other contributions were received from the Park Rapids Community Fund; Hedeen Charitable Fund, a Donor Advised Fund of U.S. Charitable Gift Trust; Itasca Mantrap’s Operation Round Up, Cwikla Ace Hardware and Benjamin Moore, and the Carlsons.
HCLL programs return to Armory Arts & Events Center In March 2020, when the entire world came to a halt because of the mysterious Covid-19 virus, Headwaters Center for Lifelong Learning (HCLL) in Park Rapids was also forced to cancel the remainder of its spring session. Thanks to modern technology, our programs are all recorded, which made it possible to post past presentations on YouTube for both fall 2020 and spring 2021, but many people agree that hearing live speakers is still more enjoyable than watching a video. In April, the HCLL board voted to return to live programs in September. All of the speakers whose presentations were postponed in 2020 have agreed to return to Park Rapids, along with a couple of local residents. One major change is the programs will return to the Armory Arts and Events Center, rather than the
Park Theatre where they have been held. This will allow for more physical distancing, if it becomes necessary during the eight-week season. Kicking off the series Sept. 7 will be a program by Mary and Bill Bailey, voted 2015 Tree Farmers of the Year, introducing us to the conservation practices that permeate their professions of farming and “bluebirding.” The following weeks will include: Connie Lounsbury on Sept. 14, speaking on “Hobos of the Great Depression;” Marcie Rendon, Sept. 21, author of a novel-Murder on the Red River-speaking on “The Land Feeds Us, Body and Soul;” and Laurel Hed on Sept. 28, speaking about warning signs of dementia and Alzheimer’s. On Oct. 5, the audience will meet Geri and Darby Nelson, aquatic ecologists who recount their journey of paddling the
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entire length of the Minnesota River; Oct. 12, Tom Chapin will recall some dramatic and often humorous experiences from his 30-year career in poaching enforcement with the Minnesota Department of Natural Resources; Oct. 19, join local photographer Lowell Wolff for his collection of stunning photos taken during his winters in Mexico. Finally, the season will end Oct. 26 with Marilyn Dreessen, who talks about her experience on Sept. 11, 2001, when the plane she was on had to be diverted from its original destination to Canada when air travel was shut down after the terrorist attack on New York City. The HCLL board is excited to welcome you back to Lifelong Learning. Brochures were sent in August and more information in the Park Rapids Enterprise. See you soon.
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“We have a man in his early 20s living with us now,” he said. “One of the social workers came to us and asked if we could take him in. If we wouldn’t have taken him he would have had to stay in jail. So he’s here. He does some jobs for me. He’s a good boy and always willing to help. He takes my old van and drives to classes in Park Rapids twice a week and is working two half-days a week. He also buys some groceries to help us out. He just needed some support.”
Tinklenburg keeps very active with his projects and helping others. “He’s always on the go,” Patricia said. “It’s hard to keep track of him.” Making simple tool boxes for children is one of his biggest projects. He donates both the materials and his time to assemble them. “I think I’ve made and given away 500 this year at a cost of about $400,” he said. “It’s something for me to do, especially in the winter.” He estimates it takes
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Tinklenburg uses the wooden form at the bottom to hold a child's toolbox upside-down while he hammers it together in his workshop. He typically drills the nail holes to make it easier for first graders to pound the nails in. a day for him to cut out and put together 30 boxes.
The first box project came about when one of his foster children was
attending Head Start in Walker. “One of his teachers asked if I had any simple projects for their class to do,” he said. “I went home and made miniature tool boxes for them. The next year, I made some for students in the elementary. I asked the principal if they needed help at school too and became a room helper in third grade. “We always did a projects when I was a helper. First graders did tool boxes, second graders made bird houses, and third graders made bird feeders. This went on until that teacher went to Solway, and I brought some projects there and kept doing them at Walker School too. “We used to build the boxes in school and paint them in school, and it took a couple of days. The kids are so proud of the boxes they help make. It makes them happy, and that’s great.” Last year during the pandemic, Tinklenburg brought his box projects to Park Rapids and Nevis Schools. He has also done projects with students in Menahga. • FULL SERVICE CONSTRUCTION • CONCRETE/MASONRY
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Chelsie Weeding is a first grade teacher at Century Elementary School in Park Rapids. “Elmer was kind enough to build around 200 wooden caddies that the students at Century painted and decorated for their moms for Mother’s Day,” she said. “We were so thankful that he was willing to donate all of these projects to many of the first grade students. The children were so excited that he took the time to create the wooden boxes that they could then use for Mother’s Day gifts. It was a great lesson on spreading kindness.” Tinklenburg also shares his boxes with children throughout the area. “I keep them in my vehicle,” he said. “When I go to town, if I see children at a store, I give them boxes. I was driving by In We Go Resort and saw some little kids outside with their parents and gave them boxes too. They said ‘Thank you’ and
away they went. I don’t know who they are.” He said very young children enjoy carrying toys around in the boxes, while older children use them to store craft materials or tools.
Tinklenburg said he would welcome others to join in his school woodworking projects. “There are so many people who retire early,” he said. “If they have saws, drills and other tools in their little shop, they could be doing projects like this in the schools too. Teaching kids how to build and learn things outside of books is important. I think more people could do that, help give kids projects they can accomplish. It helps a child grow and develop and feel good about himself. I’d welcome people to help me with projects in the schools.” Lorie Skarpness can be reached at lskarpness@ parkrapidsenterprise.com
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SARAH’S SAVORY SALMON CAKES 2 lbs. salmon fillet 1/2 cup real mayonnaise 1/4 cup Dijon mustard 6 dashes Tabasco 7 dashes Worcestershire sauce 2 eggs 2/3 cup orange bell pepper, small-diced into ¼-inch pieces 2/3 cup red onion, finely chopped Juice of 1 lemon 1 tsp. garlic powder 2 tsp. Old Bay Seasoning 2-1/2 to 3 cups panko breadcrumbs 3/4 tsp. kosher salt 1/2 teaspoon ground pepper Vegetable oil for frying Preheat oven to 400 degrees and position the oven rack in the center. Line a baking sheet with aluminum foil and drizzle lightly with olive oil. Place the salmon fillets on the baking sheet and rub each side in the oil until lightly coated. Sprinkle the top of each fillet with kosher salt and ground pepper. Bake the salmon in the oven until white droplets of fat appear and the fillet is fully opaque and flaky in the center,
CAROL BRADLEY BURSACK Columnist evenings. I’m also trying to do things to slowly restart my own life, but I still feel guilty about his placement. It doesn’t help that some of my friends who have never been in such a situation think that I should feel devastated by having to “give up.” I miss him terribly and placing him was awful, but after all these years I’m worn out. How do I stop feeling guilty that I also feel relieved? ~ AT
about 16 to 20 minutes. Let the salmon cool for 30 minutes. Meanwhile, in a large bowl, use a whisk to combine all the remaining ingredients except the breadcrumbs. Once the salmon is cool, use your hands to break the fish up into small pieces about ½-inch in size, adding it to the bowl as you break it. Add 2 cups of breadcrumbs to the mixture and use a rubber spatula to gently fold the ingredients together until well-combined. Test the mixture by squeezing some in your hand: If liquid leaks out, it is too moist, so add more breadcrumbs, 1/4 cup at a time, until the liquid appears fully absorbed and the mixture begins to clump together. Expect to use 2-1/2 to 3 cups of breadcrumbs. The mixture is ready when it can hold the form of a cake. Refrigerate the mixture for 30 minutes so that it can firm up before forming the cakes (this step can be skipped if short on time). To form the cakes: Use your hands to pat the mixture into round cakes about 1 inch high and place on a baking sheet lined with foil or wax paper. Heat ½ cup of oil in a 10-inch pan over medium-high heat.
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Test for readiness by tossing in a few breadcrumbs. If they sizzle, the oil is ready. Place the cakes in the pan, being careful to leave a little space between each cake. Saute on each side until golden brown, about 2 to 3 minutes each side. Place the finished salmon cakes on a plate or baking sheet lined with paper towels. Serve immediately or place in an airtight container and refrigerate for up to 4 days. The cooked cakes can be served at room temperature or reheated in the microwave or oven until heated through. To freeze: Fish cakes can be frozen either cooked or uncooked. Place on a baking sheet lined with foil, wax paper or parchment (let cooked cakes cool to room temperature before freezing). Freeze for 2 hours until firm and frozen. Wrap each cake in plastic and store in a freezer bag or airtight container in the freezer for up to 3 months. Thaw to room temperature before reheating or cooking. Makes about 3 to 3-1/4 pounds of salmon cake mixture (12 to 13 four-ounce large cakes, or 24 to 26 two-ounce medium cakes, or dozens of small cakes).
If these “friends” don’t make an effort to enhance their shortsighted views and truly support you, limit the time you spend with them. If necessary, don’t see them at all for the time being. Move forward at your own pace, expanding your own life in a way that feels comfortable. Soak up the positives of what you and your husband have gained from this change. Remain an active part of his life. Most of all, understand that while caregivers seem to carry tons of guilt, 99 percent of it is unearned. Society does this to us. We do it to ourselves,
as well. It’s time to let this go and take care of yourself while you continue to take care of your husband in a way that works under current circumstances. The fact that this also allows you to develop interests of your own is a benefit for you both and no reason to feel guilty.
Carol Bradley Bursack is a veteran caregiver and an established columnist. She is also a blogger, and the author of “Minding Our Elders: Caregivers Share Their Personal Stories.” Bradley Bursack hosts a website supporting caregivers and elders at www. mindingourelders.com. She can be reached through the contact form on her website.
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his is so difficult. When people we care about are hurting we want to make it better for them so we often say things like “It will be fine,” “I know just how you feel” and “You will get over this in no time.” The best gift you can give this person is the gift of time. That may mean just sitting with them in silence, just being present. Don’t try to fill the silence with small talk or tell your story of grief and loss. This is their grief, their story, unlike anyone else’s. This time of grief is an emotional roller coaster and your friend/ family is going through uncharted waters. They need your love and patience as they go through this journey.
The Family Circle BY LAUREL HED Columnist Listen, acknowledge the loved one who has died, and refer to them by name. Acknowledge the need to be alone but also be available to help with the little things like making coffee, doing dishes and just being available and alert to things you can do. Often the grieving person can’t tell you what they need because they really don’t know, so being alert to simple day-to-day
needs not being met and just helping will be appreciated. Several years ago, our 18-month-old godson passed away from a heart condition. His parents lived just down the street from us, and I was at a loss of how to help them. They had a little girl who had been older than their son and she was with grandma and grandpa much of the time during those early days. So, I started to walk
When people we care about are hurting we want to make it better for them ... Being present with no judgment or recommendations will be your greatest gift of all. down to their place once our children were off to school and I would start the coffee and check for phone messages and cards. I would write in a tablet who had called and sent cards/notes and food. Pretty soon my friend would get up from bed and come out and have coffee and we would just be together. This was healing for me as well. We loved that little one like one of our own.
I remember the day that I came over and my friend was up and dressed and just appeared more peaceful. She told me about how the night before she had been sitting in their living room in the dark just praying for God to help her feel that their son was OK, at peace. Suddenly, a bird landed on their windowsill and looked in at her. It was completely dark outside. Rarely do you see birds flying around
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at that time of night, but this one just sat for the longest time looking at my friend. She felt that God was answering her prayer and that this bird was telling her that all was well, and she could know that her son was in God’s loving arms. Being present with no judgment or recommendations will be your greatest gift of all. Thank you for being a friend. Laurel Hed, LSW GCM, works for Security First, SBC Adult Care Management Services.