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May is always a month I have cherished. Not only do I enjoy spring weather, but I enjoy celebrating the important things: my mother, grandmother, and other women that have had a profoundly positive role in my life. There are so many amazing stories you can learn from if you take the time to listen to the remarkable women surrounding you in your life. I know I have certainly learned valuable life lessons from my mom, of course, but also my grandmother. Determination, empathy, caring, and generosity are all traits I have learned from my mother and grandmother. I am truly blessed that both are still with me and I am still able to enjoy them. So, please take the time this month to honor the important mother figures in your life. A gift truly does come from the heart. But, if you do want to share your time, love and a gift, please remember the various local options you can utilize for the purchases and restaurant options.

Also, this month is important because it signifies remembrance. So many of our soldiers have served our country so gallantly and have given their life to help maintain our freedom and way of life. Let us take time to remember them and even visit some of the scheduled events within our community this month. There are so many great organizations within our community that

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2017 CONTRIBUTING WRITERS: Marianne Clyde Robin Earl Debbie Eisele Dr. Robert Iadeluca Andreas Keller Michelle Kelley Aimée O’Grady Rachel Pierce Nicolas Sicina

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Charlotte Wagner Maria Massaro Steve Oviatt Fauquier County Public Library Staff Fauquier Health Nathan Gilbert Katie Fuster

reach out to honor the fallen this month.

On a sad note, we also remember and honor George Rowand. We were blessed to know George and also fortunate to have him part of our team of writers.

He will not only be remembered for the amazing stories he contributed over the years, but also for his generous, fun-loving soul. He will truly be missed and will never be forgotten. Thank you, George, for sharing a part of you with us over the years.

This month, I know I will take the time to remember all that is good and precious in life: my mother, grandmother, daughters, husband, friends, all the country’s heroes, and a community that is warm and welcoming.

Sincerely,

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Contents 06 The Best of Warrenton This year’s categories and how to vote

08 Pay Attention ADHD experts share their story and offer assistance to others

BY KATIE FUSTER

12 In Memoriam: George Rowand Beloved friend, writer, and Warrenton Lifestyle contributor

BY ALICE FELTS

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14 Connect with your Sons Raising emotionally healthy young men

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HOMES

BY MICHELLE KELLEY

18 Families 4 Fauquier

38 Home Profile

Local family events

A home with elegance and efficiency

20 A Hero Among Us

BY MARIA MASSARO

D-Day veteran shares his memories

42 Do My Summer “Toys” Need Insurance?

BY AIMÉE O’GRADY

28 Summer Reading (& Listening!)

For long-distance travel entertainment or beach reading

BY LISA PAVLOCK AND DAWN SOWERS

32 Charity Furness

46 Maidstone Meadery

58 Fauquier Health

What is and what is not covered under your home policy

Creating one of mankind’s oldest beverages

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BY GEORGE MAUTZ

BY STEVE OVIATT

44 Curb Appeal

48 Mother’s Day Feature

Mom, Wife, Nuclear Engineer & Leader of FISH

Showcase your home with bright flowers on your front porch

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60 Photo Contest Winner Congratulations to Chrissy Beavers Kovalchuk

Warrenton mother Jillian Morris shares her story

62 Chamber Member Read & Greet

BY JILLIAN MORRIS

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PAY ATTENTION! ADHD experts share their story and offer assistance to others

BY KATIE FUSTER

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eil Swanson knew that his brain operated differently from other people’s. Sometimes this worked to his benefit. His distractibility helped him notice even the smallest imperfections in structures as he went about his work as a home inspector. At other times, these differences frustrated and confused Neil and those closest to him.

His wife of 48 years, Linda Swanson, says, “From practically day one, I was looking for why this guy, who has so many wonderful qualities has no sense of time, is always late, can never tell me how long something is going to take – just all these things that had massive impacts on our lives.”

For many years, Neil thought he just needed more self-discipline. He set out on self-improvement schemes that only led to more disappointment and confusion. Meanwhile, Linda

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served as what she calls his “executive function machine,” enabling him to better perform his work.

The Swansons never stopped searching for the key to Neil’s atypical brain. “We went to The Lab School in DC and got him tested, but they couldn’t identify a problem,” Linda says. “We went to psychologists, but we never found an answer.”

Then one night, the couple was at a restaurant when the word “attention” came up. “This lightbulb went off,” Linda says. “Wasn’t there a thing called Attention Deficit Disorder? We went online and found one of those online screening devices, and darned if every one of those boxes wasn't a check for Neil.”

Linda laughs. “It was like somebody interviewed him to come up with those questions!” Neil was properly diagnosed with Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder, or ADHD, at 60 years old. Linda explains that the older a person is, the

less likely they are to have gotten a diagnosis.

“When Neil was a child, nobody was diagnosing ADHD,” she says. “That was back in the time when it was called ‘minimal brain dysfunction.’ Nowadays, between seven and 11 percent of children have been diagnosed with ADHD, and maybe four to five percent of adults. Something like 85 percent of adults living with ADHD don't know they have it.”

It’s important for people with ADHD to be properly diagnosed, and receive treatment. Those who have not been diagnosed have higher rates of depression, anxiety, alcohol and drug abuse, and have lower rates of high school and college graduation, and overall life satisfaction than the general population.

TREATMENT Part of the recommended treatment for ADHD is trying to find the right medication at the right dose to improve cognitive function, or the way mind processes information, learning, memory, and perception.

“ADHD medications are like eyeglasses—they don't change you or cure you, but they can help you,” Neil says. “They can put you in a frame of mind that works better in our culture, in our schools, and at work. But the recommended treatment is what they call ‘multimodal.’ It's not just medicine, because as we often tell people, ‘Pills don't teach skills.’ So some kind of behavioral therapy or coaching is recommended along with the medication.”

“For some, medication can be life changing. Also extremely beneficial in reducing the impact of ADHD is proper sleep, exercise, and good nutrition,” Linda says. “In addition, experts are now suggesting that recreation and time in nature reduce ADHD symptoms.”

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they could put the challenges the disorder caused behind them. “I thought there would be life before ADHD, and life after ADHD,” she says. “Boy, was I wrong! We both had a lot of learning to do.”

Neil and Linda, who met while earning their master’s degrees at Union Theological Seminary, went on to receive training in ADHD coaching, mental health first aid, and personal transformation.

Together, the Swansons began Free to Be Coaching in an effort to use what they have learned to help others. Each meets with clients to help them understand the ways their minds work and maximize their given strengths and talents. The Swansons also give their clients a toolkit of skills and a good foundation to build on.

The Swansons are also active with the national nonprofit organization Children and Adults with ADHD, or CHADD. “We hold two CHADD support groups, one in Warrenton and one in Haymarket, for parents of kids with ADHD,” Linda says.

In addition, the couple partners with the Fauquier County Library for a yearly showing of the film 'ADD and Loving It.' “We do it in October because that's ADHD awareness month,” Linda says.

Something like five times the number of people in prison have ADHD as compared to the frequency in the general population “One of the people in the movie just makes you cry because he goes back to his grade school classroom, and he talks about what it was like to be a student with ADHD forty years ago. His teacher would say, “Everybody, I want you to know, Patrick did not try, and that is why he failed!'”

“That’s an attitude that’s still prevalent in our culture today,” Neil says. He and Linda see their job as educating people

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Neil is the co-chair of the Partners for Community Resources and a consulting member of the Special Education Advisory Committee for Fauquier schools.

Linda is on the boards of CHADD of Northern Virginia and DC and the ADHD Resource Group of Northern Virginia.

“Lately we’ve also been seriously exploring how we might help those kids who get in trouble because of their ADHD,” Neil says. Linda concurs that this is a particular passion for the duo. In fact, she recently received an MA with a concentration in Restorative Justice from the Center for Justice and Peacebuilding at Eastern Mennonite University.

As Linda explains it, “Certain brain functions are as much as 30 percent delayed in developing in those with ADHD, so if you can imagine a 16-yearold driver whose brain is functioning in some ways more like a 12-year-old, and the policeman comes up to the car after he pulls him over…” She shakes her head.

The impulsivity of some with ADHD sends them careening into contact with the criminal justice system, and once begun, the spiral can be difficult to pull out of. “Something like five times the number of people in prison have ADHD as compared to the frequency in the general population,” Linda says.

There is also another component to ADHD that many are not aware of. There is an ability with those who have this disorder to focus very intently on tasks or subjects that are of interest to them, so much so that these individuals may be able to “shut out” everything else around them. This type of behavior can affect the ability to complete important responsibilities and may even impact personal relationships.

It will take dynamic, knowledgeable people like the Swansons to affect the change the couple hopes to see, bringing compassion and long-desired changes to fruition as they work with the ADHD community. ❖

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“The best part of George Rowand writing a story about someone was that he didn’t view it as an assignment but as an opportunity to tell someone’s story and, hopefully, make their business or organization more successful. With George, it was always about what he could do for another person.”

In Memoriam: George Rowand Beloved friend, writer, baker, and Warrenton Lifestyle contributor

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Left: George with his son, Michael Rowand.

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BY ALICE FELTS

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hen the state chose the slogan “Virginia is for Lovers,” it had to be thinking of people like George Rowand. George was a lover of many things: family, neighbors, horses, books, worldwide travel, and many, many friends. He will be missed for his boundless energy, his fascinating stories, retelling of historic events, and his endless supply of homemade cookies. And nothing pleased George more than to share his cookies with others.

No one was more optimistic than George when it came to his health.

So when a regular check-up revealed he had stage IV lung cancer, George

and his family were shocked. After all, he was a non-smoker, and always had been. Besides a persistent cough, he felt good. He had just painted the exterior of his house almost single-handedly.

Physicians were also surprised at their new, non-symptomatic patient. But they didn’t know George. During his battle with the disease, George was optimistic, encouraging, and ever so hopeful.

No matter the tumult, he was strong.

He told his wife once, while they were dating, “I am good in a crisis.” And he was. For others, for himself.

But George didn’t think in terms of crisis. He thought of good times. Horse

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racing was his true love, and he was the happiest when he was retelling the stories of the wins of his favorite horse, Miss Josh, or favorite college fraternity stories.

He loved to kid me about dropping by for dinner when I was “in the neighborhood,” and one never knew who would be around the dinner table. Guests may be a couple of Russian professors, the founder of a community theatre, or a dedicated researcher attempting to save all of the elephants in the world.

I will miss George calling me “Malice,” a nickname rhyming with my name, but opposite of my disposition, or “Catfish,” a southern favorite dish of mine. I will miss his imitating his mother’s southern accent and his father-in-law’s German one. I will miss George making dozens of doughnuts and beignets on his annual Doughnut Day at Christmas. I will miss eating his homemade ice cream and listening to his past adventures. I will miss George’s strong, warm hugs and his big smile. But that goes for anyone who knew George.

Everyone has something about George they will miss.

We miss you, George! ❖

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ociety has changed in a way that supports girls in breaking free from gender-role stereotyping. Girls finally have more power to be true to themselves. But what about boys? They still face their own different set of gender-role challenges too.

Is society’s support of traditional male characteristics of being strong and tough and not showing emotions having a negative effect on our boys, much as society’s support of traditional female gender characteristics did not serve to help girls attain their full potential?

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Boys who do not learn to accept and express emotions may grow up to be men who have problems in adulthood with relationships and marriage. Men are just as human and just as emotional as women, but men who can’t acknowledge and express emotions may have a difficult time relating to women, who generally can. When discord develops in marriages, many times it is because the man is not able to comprehend their partner’s feelings.

Emotional disconnect can also lead to depression. While girls are perceived to be more prone to depression and anxiety, boys can be affected too. The difference is in how those feelings are expressed: girls’ depression manifests covertly with sadness, crying, or other symptoms, while males usually act out their feelings and tend to get in trouble, still silently suffering with their emotional pain. Counseling can be very valuable, but difficult for men to accept. Females will seek counseling because they are hurting. Males will generally obtain counseling only when they are in trouble, a big difference. In my practice, girls far outnumber boys.

While we want our boys to be self-sufficient and able to make their way in this world, we also want them to connect in healthy and appropriate ways with girls and with their own emotional selves.

Can boys break out of traditional stereotypes of toughness without being called a sissy, a girl, a wimp, or worse? Yes. The question is how to go about doing this.

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Parenting Styles Parents can make a difference!

Parenting style matters. The Authoritarian Parenting Style focuses on the power dynamic and the parent being in charge. Parents may get cooperation but they will not get respect, which is a key element of a healthy relationship.

The Connection Parenting Style focuses on the relationship; children will cooperate because they value the relationship.

When boys are raised with authentic connection, emotional validation and accountability (behavioral and emotional), they grow up to be men who are not afraid to acknowledge emotions and difficulties in their lives and relationships, and are not afraid to ask for help. The greatest human need is a deep and authentic connection with another human being.

A big difference is how we go about seeking connection.

Girls are encouraged to seek connection through relationships and communication. Alternatively, boys are encouraged to be less connected and be more emotionally self-sufficient. Boys need to be raised to believe it is okay and healthy for us to learn to rely on others for support, guidance and validation. It is important for males to develop emotional savvy and true confidence (not just an inflated ego) to prepare them to deal with life and relationships.

Message to Parents I know you love your boys, so by all means connect with them. Here are some ideas: •

Go ahead and play ball, fish, hike (or dance) with them. In your time together include the language of connection: I love you, I treasure our time together, I can see you’re hurting, etc.

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Show them how to authentically connect to and respect their mothers, sisters, and other women in their lives.

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Be in their presence and be quiet. Much connection occurs through the non-verbal.

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Show affection, and don’t stop when they become teens.

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At the very least SHOW UP. Be there, even when they are in their rooms with the door shut.

No child ever truly wants to shut out a parent; it is a last resort option. They want to feel heard and feel connected; it’s your job to help them.

I always say it’s a great time to be a girl. Let’s make it a great time to be a boy! The next frontier of change will be for the boys. ❖

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Please join us for fun and laughter at the Annual Red Nose Ice Cream Social.

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FIESTA FAUQUIER Saturday, May 6 from 1:00 p.m. to 4:00 p.m.

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Bring your children to our Bicycle Rodeo with the Fauquier Sheriff’s Office held at PB Smith Elementary School. The children will learn bike safety and ride on a very fun obstacle course. Participants will be entered into a new bike raffle. Registration is posted on our website.

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A Hero Among Us As Memorial Day approaches, a D-Day veteran remembers his time in battle and those who fell for our freedom

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“Live each day to its fullest, because once it’s gone, it’s gone forever.” At 93 years old, Vito Monteleone offers sage advice that he has taken to heart. No matter how challenging the days may seem, or how relentless the memories of the past—the wounded, the horrible injuries, the amputations he performed, and the deaths he witnessed on the front lines of World War II—Vito has lived each day to its fullest.

Monteleone, a World War II Army medic, only began sharing his experiences during World War II three years ago when Tim Nosal, Commander (VFW Post 9835), encouraged him to speak at Taylor Middle School. Kelly Smith at St. John the Evangelist School then invited Monteleone and former POW, the now late John Urban, to speak to students in her third-grade class. The St. John’s students were part of a nationwide history competition to commemorate the 70th anniversary of the war.

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Monteleone can be seen in this photo as American troops march down the Champs Elysees during the Liberation of Paris.

Monteleone was living on Long Island, New York, working as a truck driver when he turned 18 in 1942 and received his draft notice, and says, “If I wasn’t drafted, I would have enlisted. I wanted to fight.” Monteleone, who thought he was going to go overseas to drive a truck, was assigned to the Army medics.

“They needed medics, they didn’t need truck drivers at the time.”

After completing basic training at Camp Pickett, Fort Bragg, and Walter Reed National Military Medical Center, he boarded the Queen Elizabeth bound for England.

“We had no escort,” he recalls, “and moved in a zigzag pattern to evade German submarines.”

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then moved on to Salisbury, England where hospital tents and Quonset huts were set up.

He was there in England on D-Day when the Americans landed on the beaches of Normandy.

Monteleone doesn’t hide his emotions as he tells his story.

He doesn’t shield the listener from what he witnessed. Tears roll down his cheeks as he recalls his buddy, Bob, who died in his arms after stepping on a landmine. Monteleone believes the younger generations need to know what happened. Monteleone is aware that when all the World War II veterans have died, the firsthand knowledge of the war will die with them. Through the telling of his story, the phrase most often repeated was, “It was a horrible war.”

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On the morning of June 6, 1944, Monteleone was stationed in England. He walked out of his hut to the distinct sound of airplanes transporting paratroopers headed for Normandy.

When he looked to the sky, the sight was stunning and unforgettable. The sky was teeming with aircrafts, a swarm of planes and gliders [engineless planes which were towed by planes and released near the planned landing location] flying in unison, so tightly together there wasn’t any room for more aircrafts to join. “Even if I had had access to a glider or plane, I wouldn’t have been able to fit it up in there, they were packed so closely together.”

He spoke of what the pilots faced when they arrived on

the beaches. The Germans, who were aware of D-Day, flooded the fields where the gliders were scheduled to land.

“The gliders would usually flip over when they hit the flooded field; the paratroopers and crew were in great danger of drowning. They had four clips to open to get out of their harness, if they didn’t unclip in time, they drowned.”

So Monteleone remained in England and cared for the wounded when they were brought back. After eight weeks, he requested to be reassigned to combat, where he cared for injured soldiers on the front lines. Medics were just as much at risk of injury as soldiers. “We only had a small cross on our sleeve and the Germans couldn’t see it,” he says. Medics, who didn’t carry

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“We would look for a schoolhouse to use as an aid station, or if we couldn’t find that, we would use a bar and grill. That’s how I became hooked on cognac,” he says with a smile.

With the 28th Division, Monteleone cared for the wounded at the Normandy Breakout, the Liberation of Paris, the drive into Belgium, the fighting in the Hürtgen Forest, the Battle of the Bulge, the fighting in the Rhineland, and the surrender of Germany. He offered aid to concentration camp victims. “We tried to help them in any way we could; they were so sick we could count their bones. We treated as many people as we could.”

As a medic, he carried two pouches; his left pouch was filled with bandages, in the right pouch he carried morphine, needles, sulfathiazole, iodine, and tags.

“I would write whatever was wrong with the victim on the tag, but for amputees.

I would put iodine on their forehead.

The tourniquets needed to be opened every few minutes to let the wound bleed or gangrene would set in,” he says of amputations. “There was no time to read the tags. The iodine would let the next medic know what to do.” Although it was unusual for a medic, Monteleone performed amputations when the need became great. “Amputations were very simple. Amputations were so heavy the Captain pulled me off the line and said, ‘you see that table over there? It's yours.’ When I did my first amputation, I used iodine to mark where I was going to make my incision, cut the bone, and sewed the patient up. Captain looked at my work and said ‘you're on your

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“Vito is one of the few World War II veterans that you can thank today” own.’ I did what I did. We did that and then went right into combat to take care of the wounded.” Amputees would often have to wait three days to reach England for treatment: the day they were wounded, one day in the field tent, and then one day for transportation to England.

In the field, Monteleone worked with a team of five other soldiers. “We were like brothers. Whatever I said, they did.” One soldier in his litter squad, Robert, was shot through the muscle of one arm. “I told Robert to get to an aid station and he told me, ‘I ain’t going back there, I’m staying right here with you guys, I still have one good arm.’ And he stayed and continued working on the wounded.”

The casualties at the Battle of the Bulge were very heavy on both sides.

“The German medical officer came over with a white flag,” says Monteleone.

“He asked for a two-hour cease fire so both sides could care for their wounded.

After the two hours, the combat ensued.”

While most of his experiences convey the brutality of the war, Monteleone does have some light-hearted memories

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of his time overseas. “Everyone had their Fräulein,” he says with a sly smile, “and I had two, Esther and Frieda.” Monteleone also recalls the swimming pool in the German town of Kaiserslautern. The soldiers repaired the pool for the villagers and then swam several times each week while they were stationed there.

He remembers the Liberation of Paris like it was yesterday. The intense joy and relief of the Parisians was profound, and they celebrated accordingly. “After the liberation, the wine, champagne, and cognac flowed in the streets [were consumed liberally],” he recalls. The iconic moment of the American soldiers marching down the Champs Elysees was captured by a photographer and ultimately used on a commemorative 3-cent stamp 50 years after the August 29, 1944, liberation. Monteleone can be seen on the right-hand side of the first line of soldiers walking in front of the Arc de Triomphe in Paris. He is the soldier with two arm bands.

When he returned to the United States in September, 1944, Monteleone, who didn’t have the money to pursue a medical degree, returned to Long Island where he worked as a teamster and joined the union. His war days behind him, he focused on the future.

He met his wife, Mahala, in 1948 on a blind date at a Corn Party at the Elmont Fire Department where he was a volunteer fireman. The two would go on to have four sons, and today have ten grandchildren and four great-grandchildren. A bookcase in their home lined with family albums from RV trips taken over the years stands as a testament to the full life Monteleone went on to lead. “Vito is one of the few World War II veterans that you can thank today,” Mahala says, “many others have gone before him.”

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Clockwise from left: Mahala and Vito on a cruise. Mahala and Vito with their great granddaughter Aria. Mahala and Vito with their son Doug Sr. and his family in Myrtle Beach.

Courtesy of the Monteleone Family

After the war, Monteleone collected new stories, such as the one about Jimmy Hoffa, who he knew. “I told Jimmy ‘you listen to your father,’ and when I saw him a few years later, he told me that he was doing just that.” Like many combat soldiers, Monteleone kept his war experiences to himself, choosing to focus on the present rather than relive the past.

Monteleone now believes that today’s youth need to know the truth about the war and is sharing his stories.

For three years, Monteleone fought for freedoms enjoyed today in the United States; he is aware of how the world would be different if the United States had not entered the war after Pearl Harbor. He shakes his head at today’s youth being sent overseas to fight for other nations.

“Where were they when we were fighting?” he asks rhetorically.

Inspired by his sense of selflessness and dedication to service, his sons all became part of the brotherhood of firemen, three as volunteers and one as a career fighter. His grandson, Douglas Jr., is a volunteer fireman

in Manassas working on becoming a career fireman. “I heard enough from him to know I didn’t want to join the Army, but wanted to serve somehow,” he says of his grandfather’s influence on him.

Today, Vito and Mahala live quietly in Warrenton with their son, Douglas Sr., a retired Fauquier County Sheriff, daughter-in-law Joann, and grandchildren Douglas Jr. and Jessica, a senior at Kettle Run High School. Vito enjoys woodworking in a shed behind his house. The day we met for our interview, Mahala was preparing corned beef and cabbage for St. Patrick’s Day for an unknown number of guests, explaining, “I

never know who is coming with my grandchildren bringing their friends over!” The food bubbled on the stove and the kitchen door stood ajar to let in the cool earlyspring air. Vito sat at the kitchen table with his 28th Division album, assembled by the military, in front of him, as well as several other photos and documents from his wartime years. The dichotomy of the life as an old man with decades of memories and experiences behind him versus the lives of so many cut short is never far from his mind. In his heart, he carries the memories of all his fallen brothers, like Bob, who made the ultimate sacrifice for freedom during World War II and changed history. ❖

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She learns more and more about our rich county with every interview she conducts. She and her husband are happy with their decision to raise their four children in Warrenton.

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About the AUTHORS Dawn Sowers (left), public services manager, has been with the Fauquier County Public Library for 18 years. In addition to reading, Dawn enjoys gardening, spending time with her grandchildren, and touring the countryside on the back of a Harley. Lisa Pavlock (right), public information coordinator and Pennsylvania transplant, has called Fauquier County home for over 20 years. Her idea of a perfect day includes time spent with her husband, two teenager children and a good book.

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Many will be getting ready for their family vacation. Long distances in cramped vehicles are the perfect time to listen to an audio book together, giving everyone something to focus on besides who is breathing on whom and the “are we there yet” laments.

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At my house, the unofficial starting point of summer is the last day of school. With two students and a teacher in the family, it is a natural marker that we all looked forward to. Another sure sign of summer’s start is the annual summer reading program, hosted by the Fauquier County Public Library.

The 2017 program, Reading by Design, will officially start on Thursday, June 1 when registration opens. You can register online at fauquierlibrary.org or stop by any library location. Weekly programs and special events begin Saturday, June 10.

The program, which encourages children and their parents to read during the hiatus from school, is sponsored by the Friends of the Library and several local businesses.

With programs and activities for children, teens, and adults, the summer reading program truly is a family event.

This summer’s activities will include Wildlife Ambassadors, a singing cowgirl, SPLAT (Science, Play, Language, Art and Technology), and family movies for children up to 6th grade. Teens will enjoy programs on money management and financial literacy, car care, art by design, and movie night. Programs for adults will include monthly Sunday with the Library presentations, as well as Older Wiser Learners (OWLs), DIY crafting, and monthly book clubs.

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FISH. HOW DID THAT HAPPEN? A. The volunteer time I donated added up. I had ideas to contribute. I didn’t have a lot of money to give, but I did have time. Before my involvement with the Weekend PowerPack Program and FISH, I would drop my daughter off at preschool and shop for three hours. There was a better use for that time.

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YOU AND HELPED SHAPE YOUR WORK WITH FISH. A. I love traveling with our kids. We will often just jump in the car and go somewhere. In the summer of 2014, my husband had work in Detroit, so I drove out with Timmy and Julie to spend some time together. We wanted to visit the ballpark. Detroit is beautiful city with impressive architecture, but I couldn’t get past the boarded-up skyscrapers. The first three floors of every building were boarded up. There were literally tumbleweeds rolling through the streets. It was practically deserted. I couldn’t believe that this was a major U.S. city. We finally found where the people were. There was a white van with a card table and people handing out lunches in paper bags, with a line of people waiting for them.

We made our way to a park where there were more people, and we noticed that a lot of families were just sitting in their cars. That’s when we realized they were probably living in them.

These images made a huge impact on me.

When we returned home, I saw a message on Families 4 Fauquier about starting a program to help feed children in our community, and the problem-solving skills I learned in school perked up. I thought, “I can do that.” I went to the meeting and began the Weekend Power Pack Program.

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A. A group of volunteers pack school backpacks with enough food to feed a family of four over the course of a weekend. School counselors identify the children in need, and they go home with the discreet bag. We pack bags for about 150 students on a weekly basis (the numbers change each week) and prepare bags for snow days. The Weekend Power Pack is a program of Fauquier FISH.

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A. We have a generous community. Our residents will come together when there is a need for it.

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A. Thanks to the Northern Piedmont Community Foundation (NPCF)’s assistance grant from PATH Foundation funding, we are launching a Mobile Food Pantry in collaboration with the Salvation Army and the Fauquier Community Food Bank and Thrift Store. The Mobile Pantry will have two locations, Remington in the south and Marshall in the north, to reach residents in need throughout the summer. We also hope to connect with some of our Weekend Power Pack students while on summer vacation this way. Once the kinks are ironed out, we will add more locations. We also have programs for seniors that are being expanded. I have a goal to see the end of hunger in our community by the end of 2018.

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A. We can always use money. FISH is a 100 percent volunteer

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f walls could talk, they would likely express their appreciation for people like Tully and Lauren Krastins, owners of a truly unique home in which beauty, utility, and ingenuity come together in a most welcoming way.

Completed in 2003, the 4,800-square-foot stone and stucco house has two levels, six rooms, and 73 framed windows, each capturing a view that is redolent of a Wyeth painting. The Krastins worked with builder Calvert Clark of Warrenton and architect John Tingley of Nokesville to design a home that combined the styles of Frank Lloyd Wright and Sarah Susanka, bestselling author of The Not So Big House: A Blueprint for the Way We Really Live. “Her specialty in architecture is using the eye to deceive the concept of space.

As a result, she uses texture to draw things out and to minimize the feeling of boxes and walls,” said Lauren of Susanka’s knack for designing a dwelling to perfectly suit the way its occupants live.

Bookended by personalized private areas, the sleek common area holds a mammoth Wrightinspired fireplace composed of 22 tons of stone and mortar. The clean, spacious, and efficient design of the house extends to the kitchen and walk-through pantry, both of which Lauren customized to facilitate her culinary feats and alleviate the aftermath of formal meals: “It takes fifteen minutes to clean up the kitchen, even after a major dinner. That’s how fast you can clean it up. That was one of the joys of moving in.”

Constructed with convenience in mind, the home also has wheelchair access, extra-wide hallways and doorways, and whole-house vacuum and air filter systems. Moreover, its many windows and soffits keep the place cool in summer and warm in winter. “The home was designed to be what we would call an ‘easy keeper,’” said Lauren. “It’s designed to be enjoyed, to be simple to keep clean and keep up. It’s just very easy living, and it all flows. Since we’ve been here, it’s just been incredibly comfortable.”

With serendipity playing a role, Lauren’s contented home life was actually sparked by a sense of constraint. With a business requiring ample and fertile ground, Lauren and her late husband felt they had outgrown the land on which they were breeding Missouri Fox Trotter

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horses. “We thought of ourselves as refugees from Loudoun County,” she explained. “We had a farm up in Hamilton, and it was getting terribly crowded. Many of our friends were looking for other property, and so were we. Things came together, and we found this property, which was the right place at the right time.” Good luck, good timing, and a lot of research guided them to Delaplane and an ideal spot to relocate their farm, aptly named Arbormont (Latin for “a quiet place of trees and mountains”).

Not ones to simply adapt to a spec home, the couple was intent on creating a utilitarian yet organic abode that was in harmony with their personalities and surroundings. “When we sat down with the architect, he insisted we do bubble diagrams,” Lauren continued. “That kind of diagram is where you just draw a circle of where you spend time—in the bedroom, in the kitchen, in the library, on the patio. Then you go back to this every day for about three weeks to a month, and the more hours you spend in a room, the larger you make the circle. Well, at the end of the month, what you have—and it’s really not as intuitive as you think—is a diagram of how you live your life in your home. And that’s how we came up with this home.”

Now semi-retired, Lauren devotes herself to meaningful and rewarding projects that reflect her flair for business development and her love of nature. She splits her time between outreach work for Hospice Support of Fauquier County and two home-based businesses that she comanages with Tully, her husband of two years. Also

segueing into retirement, Tully remains just as busy as his wife, maintaining the grounds and making repairs as needed on the couple’s 53-acre property, which now doubles as a tree farm and horse boarding facility. “It’s a rhythm,” remarked Lauren on the rewards of farm life.

“If someone likes to be an observer, this is a good place to be, because after a while you sense a different rhythm, a rhythm that engulfs you.

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Adjacent to Route 66 and nestled in between three wineries, the bucolic property is the epitome of prime Virginia real estate, a huge perk that is not lost on Lauren. “I love that it’s in the middle of horse and wine country in northern Fauquier. It doesn’t get better than that,” she says.

And with a 1,400-square-foot patio encircled by a panorama of pristine pasture, the residence also serves as an ideal venue for the socials the Krastins host to benefit veterans and their families. With their last event attracting over 200 people, they are primed to hold another one in the summertime and are currently working with neighboring Miracle Valley Vineyard to organize a barbeque and wine tasting fundraiser on behalf of the Wounded Warrior Project and Hospice Support of Fauquier County.

While charity may begin at home, the Krastins show it also begins with a home.

When asked about particularly special memories attached to the house, Lauren thoughtfully noted, “the abiding laughter and joy of all the people we’ve been able to share this with. When people start driving up the driveway, there is a sense of tranquility right off the bat, even before they see the house. We felt that way as well, which is one reason we have always felt a commitment to share the house and the land, because people need that.”

And upon entering this remarkable residence, visitors are reminded that a home is more than a carefully constructed edifice of stone and stucco; it is also a manifestation of our values, a catalyst for our greatest work, and a means for expressing our best selves. For the Krastins, home is indeed where the heart—and soul—is. ❖

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Do you own a canoe, or maybe a small kayak? Breathe easy as these items are covered under your policy. Additionally, small john boats and small sailboats are generally covered as well.

terms of liability insurance in case there is a boating accident of some type and someone is hurt, since your typical homeowners policy will not provide coverage for that.

What’s not covered under your homeowner’s policy?

Summer is a great time to enjoy the outdoors, whether it is using a trampoline in the backyard, renting a golf cart for fun, or enjoying your ATV. There are certain considerations you should think of in terms of insurance policies.

First, ATVs may typically be covered under a policy that offers physical damage coverage. This is great in case you are out and about

There are several fun “toys” not covered under a traditional home policy. ATVs, boats (motor and sailboats 26 feet and larger), jet skis, and waverunners all require a separate insurance policy.

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on your vehicle and roll or damage it in some way.

Second, golf cart rentals are something many homeowners wouldn’t think about, but it is important. If you roll one and there is damage, you could be held liable. So how is that covered? It is typically covered under your homeowner’s policy, but it is always best to check.

Next, what if you have a trampoline for fun and exercise? In Virginia, typically a homeowner’s policy covers trampolines, but each company varies in its requirements regarding location and fencing that is necessary for coverage in case of an injury.

Insurance for vacations and rental homes.

Some “toys” do not have motors, but instead have a roof.

If you rent out a second home as a vacation rental, you need a separate, different type of policy than your homeowners.

If you are renting someone else’s vacation home, you may want to consider a travel insurance policy.

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What to look for in an insurance company.

When selecting an insurance company to work with, be sure the organization has a good, solid reputation. Research the company to see if claims are paid on a “hassle free” basis and if there is someone to talk to about your policy. Many people don’t realize that when you call the 800 number of a company with just a question, a claim may be started and will attach to your policy whether or not it was even paid out.

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Creating Curb Appeal Showcase your home with bright flowers on your front porch or steps so your home’s first impression is a hit

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Start by selecting the plants for the project. Most covered porches are going to be shaded, or at best, provide partial sun exposure. So it is important to make sure you pick plants that are shade-tolerant. The problem with using full-sun plants in partial sun is the flowers will quickly lose their blooms if they are placed in the shade.

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Start with the large plant. Remove from the grower’s pot and gently loosen the roots before placing it in your container. Place the large plant in the back of the pot. Now repeat for the medium and creeping plants. You will place the medium plants and the creeping plants around the sides of the large plant.

Fertilize on top of the soil with the Plant-Tone fertilizer.

Place some stone on top of the soil—this will help keep the soil in the pot when you water.

Water your plants, and continue to water as needed.

Now you are done. Stand back and admire the art you just created!

If you need help with designing your front porch colorscape, visit a local garden center or nursery, such as Lee Highway Nursery, and you can work with professionals on a flower design. For more information on Lee Highway Nursery, call them at 540-347-5640 or visit their website at leehighwaynursery.com. ❖

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had a completely normal pregnancy. In fact, I think my doctor said it was “perfect.” Looking back, the only indicators that Vaughan was different was the incredible amount of hair visible on the ultrasound (a key feature of babies with Bohring-Opitz Syndrome) and the fact that he kept his hands clenched with his thumbs tucked (a sign of possible neurological problems) while he remained in the womb.

He was born healthy and had a large heart-shaped birthmark on his forehead (also another sign of Bohring-Opitz Syndrome). After about four hours, he started having significant problems: he had severe reflux, trouble regulating his body temperature, he couldn't pass his newborn hearing screening, and he had developed sepsis.

I had called the nursery three times before a NICU doctor came in and broke the news to me. She started telling me how he “looked different” and that he had “dysmorphic features.” Then she just came right out and said, “I think he has an underlying genetic syndrome.” I was in complete shock, as you can imagine. To me, he was just Vaughan. He was perfect to me!

We had tests completed to look for all the known alterations, additions, and deletions in genes, and they all came back totally normal. We were finally able to bring Vaughan home, but after four days we took him to the pediatrician and he had not gained enough weight. His pediatrician called Children's Hospital in DC and talked to a geneticist who recommended admitting him. He was put in the NICU for three days while we saw every team of doctors: gastroenterologists, neurologists, geneticists, cardiologists, audiologists, and more. After having an MRI, they determined he had

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Opposite page: Vaughan and I enjoying some play time together on the floor. He loves light up toys, being outside and looking at books. He also enjoys going to preschool and interacting with his classmates. His teachers and therapists share he is a very hard worker and is very affectionate.

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Almost all children with Bohring-Opitz Syndrome have a g-tube or another type of feeding tube.

Vaughan can eat by mouth but still has trouble chewing, so he enjoys eating purees. One of his favorite things to eat is yogurt.

a complete agenesis of the corpus callosum (bundle of nerve fibers that allows the right side of your brain to communicate with the left side, and vice versa). We also were told he had hypoplasia of the cerebellum (which causes difficulty with motor skills).

The doctors couldn't tell us what that meant, or how much it might affect him. I had a geneticist hold my hand and look me in the eyes and promise me we wouldn't leave without an answer. Even so, four days later, after spending time on a regular children's floor, we were discharged with more questions than answers.

When he was four months old we were told he had high myopia— extreme near sightedness. He cannot see further than six inches in front of his face without his glasses.

He also had surgery to stop his reflux when he was about 15 months old, after we had been pleading with his GI doctor to please help us since he was about three or four months old.

He would vomit and spit up literally 80-100 times a day, sometimes whole

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Vaughan wasn’t diagnosed until he was almost two years old. The geneticist told us they had found something. Vaughan’s condition was caused by a random genetic mutation that occurs on the ASXL1 gene on chromosome 20q11, which results in Bohring-Opitz Syndrome (BOS). The actual mutation was found in 2011 and Vaughan’s test was in 2014, so the fact that we had been diagnosed was incredible. If Vaughan had been born in 2011 or earlier and had had the whole exome sequence, they wouldn't have found anything and it would have come back normal. The geneticist told us that it was extremely rare and that Vaughan has a more mild to moderate case. He proceeded to hand us five sheets of paper … it was the only study that had ever been published about BOS, since only 40 known cases had been diagnosed at that time.

Today there are 84 and the number continues to grow as awareness becomes more prevalent.

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answer, there was no prognosis. After receiving the diagnosis, I rushed home that night and googled BOS. HUGE MISTAKE. While there was more information on the internet, the more I read, the more shocked and worried I became. All the stories I read about BOS were of children who had passed away, typically before the age of two because of respiratory infections or complications due to surgeries.

I remember turning to my then husband and asking, “Do they all die?” I was panicked and I couldn't sleep for nights on end. By that time, though, Vaughan was already two and seemed like he was out of the “critical period,” so that was a huge blessing.

During the time we were getting diagnosed, we had been going to appointment after appointment since Vaughan had been out of the hospital to make sure he stayed healthy. He got glasses when he was four months old and his first set of hearing aids when he was about six months old. Later, he had ear tubes inserted and no longer needed hearing aids. Today, on

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Above: From a very early age, we noticed Vaughan responded positively to music. I sing to him all the time and he loves to touch the keys on his piano.

average, we have between one and three specialist appointments per month in addition to other appointments, including durable equipment vendors, orthotists, and his pediatrician.

Looking back, the only way I think I survived the first two years was because of the help of my parents and my faith. I think a lot of people would agree that no one would ever choose to have a medically complex child, but for some reason I was chosen by a higher power to be the keeper of Vaughan's soul for however long he is here with me. At first, I think it's normal for people to think “why me?” but in my case, it's more like “why NOT me?”

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I literally try to take every day one step at a time. Finding caregivers to care for Vaughan when I am working is a constant struggle. My mom is such a blessing and assists me with his care. But because of regulations, my mom, and anyone else I hire, can only work 35 hours a week. I find we are constantly going over hours, and I cannot afford to pay for additional hours.

Going to the grocery store is even a difficult task. Because he is so small, he still fits in the front basket. He weighs 30 pounds, and the AFOs (foot/ankle braces) he needs to wear add additional weight, so when I lift him and take him from the car to the entrance, it is a workout. Then, when I get the cart, it's tough for me to get him into it without the assistance of another person.

Stares and looks from other people are something I typically encounter at the store.

Sometimes individuals come up and try to say hi to him, but faces are difficult for Vaughan and are actually very complex to him. Generally this challenge, coupled with his high myopia, results in Vaughan not looking at anyone speaking to him. It's easier for me to tell people “he's a very special five-year-old.” This allows me to let them know he has some challenges other children may not have. Usually that does the trick, and the quizzical looks change to looks of understanding. Occasionally, we experience the whispers of those who do not try to say hello.

There is one day I'll never forget. Vaughan was in the shopping cart and two young girls were standing behind me in the checkout line. I heard one of them whisper, “I wonder

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what's wrong with him?” I was stunned. To me, there's nothing “wrong” with Vaughan. He just happens to have been born with a random genetic mutation that has given him lots of challenges most people never have to think about facing. He is who he is and he was made this way. I just wish instead of whispering and staring, people would smile and ask questions. I want people to ask me about his challenges or ask about HIM as a person.

“What does your son like to do? What school does he go to?

Where did you get his glasses?” are the type of questions I would love to answer. I'm like any other mom, and he is like any other little boy.

Since I don't know what the future holds for Vaughan, I try to exercise and to eat right. I make a conscious effort to be as healthy as I can so I can be around longer to take care of him, since he will need to be cared for his entire life. That's something most parents don't have to worry about: what will happen to their children when they are gone.

Having Vaughan has made me a better person. I try very hard to not judge others because you never really know what other people are struggling with in their lives. I have learned to let go of trying to have a spotless house and to be perfect. Although difficult for me, I have also realized it is necessary to lean on others. I am an expert on my child, and if I don't agree with what a doctor or specialist is saying I'm not afraid to express disagreement and take action to seek out a second opinion.

I have also learned to be more selfless, and to actively help other people. I feel comfortable being emotional because that's my way of showing how much I care. Most of all, I've learned that I have an overwhelming capacity for patience and love.

There's nothing I wouldn't do for Vaughan and the great thing is, I know there's nothing he wouldn't do for me.

Advocating For Vaughan “Can I really make a difference?” That was the question I asked myself as I stood in the hallway outside of Senator Warner’s office during Rare Disease Week on Capitol Hill.

I looked at the hopeful faces of the advocates around me, including parents who had lost children and those currently diagnosed with rare conditions. I looked down into my bag at the 8” x 10” picture I had been carrying with me for the past 24 hours and saw the sweet smiling face of my son. I touched his pink pudgy cheek through the glass and thought, “I have no choice. I am his mother and I am his voice. I was chosen, for a reason, to do this.”

Although I have lived in Virginia almost all my life and have seen the Capitol building and its many adjacent buildings dozens of times, I had never actually been a part of the lawmaking process. I have voted in the past three presidential elections and tried to keep up with politics as best as I can.

I work full time, am a single mom, and care for a child with multiple disabilities. These responsibilities take up the majority of my time. So when I was personally asked by the chair of Top: In addition to Vaughan’s high myopia, his eyes are very sensitive to sunlight. He has been diagnosed with a very blonde fundus (ocular albinism) so we make sure his glasses are transition lenses and that he almost always has a hat on during really sunny days to protect him. Bottom: Vaughan and his grandmother have a special bond. Without her, I wouldn’t be able to work and he wouldn’t have come as far in his development without her constant love and devotion.

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Fast forward to the first meeting I attended with Senator Warner—it didn’t go so well.

While we didn’t get to meet Senator Warner in person, the 20 advocates did get to meet a member of his staff. As a first-

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Rarely does anyone ever get to meet their actual representative.

Silly me!

The staffer didn’t seem genuinely interested in our particular “asks,” which included: more funding for the National Institute of Health and FDA to further advance research, therapy, and potentially lifesaving technology; support of the Open

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Act to successfully repurpose drugs; changes to the Affordable Care Act to make it better for all families; and an invitation to the Rare Disease Caucus being held the next day. I never actually spoke during the meeting, but I did find strength in the fact that we were one of the largest groups of people lobbying that day.

However, I couldn’t help but feel a little deflated as well.

If there’s one thing I have learned as a mom of a child with special needs, it’s to not give up. So I marched the distance equivalent to the length of three or four football fields to the House of Representatives side of the Capitol with all the other advocates to continue on our quest.

Other functions during Rare Disease Week included a meeting with the staff of Congressman Garrett, Congressman McEachin, and Senator Tim Kaine. All of these meetings were much more successful. We were warmly invited into the offices for our meetings. The staffers themselves were much more personal and a lot less intimidating.

I openly shared the story of my son and how he is one of 84 children in the world currently diagnosed with BOS. I educated them on the fact that during the first two years of life, 50 percent of the children who have BOS pass away due to respiratory infections and pneumonia, and the oldest living person with this syndrome is 27 years old. Over the course of these meetings, I explained that the future is so uncertain without proper healthcare, and further research desperately needs to be conducted. I looked into the eyes of the young 20-somethings dressed in their suits and made them listen to my pleas for more, not just for my son, but for all those with rare diseases. To my amazement, they listened. I learned that two of the four staff

members we met with were in one way or another affected by someone with a rare disease. The staffers were genuinely excited to take our stories to their bosses and make them listen, too.

I don’t know how far up the chain our requests will get, but I can’t help but feel that my story is part of a much greater whole.

Looking back, yes, I advocated for change. Yes, I spread awareness about my son and his rare syndrome, but my favorite part wasn’t about having my voice heard or about potentially changing laws or legislation. My favorite part was talking to the people I was surrounded by and hearing their stories of strength and hope.

My fellow constituent and partner from district 5, Brian, is an amazing father and husband who has a rare, incurable tumor and cell disorder. Carolyn, a retired Army veteran and wounded warrior, has a rare disease that makes her skin blister. Amelia, the beautiful all-American girl who was misdiagnosed over the course of 15 years and is living with Lymes disease was also in attendance.

Meeting these individuals was the highlight of my whole experience. Their humor and fortitude is something I will always remember, and I will always keep their friendships close to my heart. While the future of those with rare diseases, especially in our current political climate, is uncertain, I do know one thing for sure. Rare disease is not just an issue affecting one person or one family. It’s not about Republicans versus Democrats. It’s an issue that may affect us all. In the words of my new friend Brian, “There is always hope and if we can slowly chip away at the problems we face today, our seemingly small efforts can and will pay off for future generations. Hope is on the horizon.” ❖

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One in two women and up to one in four men will break a bone in their lifetime due to osteoporosis. For women, the incidence is greater than that of heart attack, stroke and breast cancer combined. Although a woman’s risk of osteoporosis is greater than a man’s, men’s risk of breaking a bone due to osteoporosis is higher than being diagnosed with prostate cancer.

The risk of hip fracture is especially worrying. Twentyfour percent of hip fracture patients age 50 and over die in the year following the fracture. Six months after a hip fracture, only 15 percent of patients can walk across a room unaided. Every year, of nearly 300,000 hip fracture patients, one-quarter end up in nursing homes and half never regain previous function.

Fauquier Health’s Total Joint Replacement program Recertified The Joint Commission has recertified Fauquier Health’s Total Joint Replacement program. Julie Ross, director of Rehabilitation Services, said that the surveyors who were reviewing the program highlighted its many strengths.

They noted that: All patients interviewed were very happy with their care and experiences; the physician who was interviewed, Dr. James Ramser, was supportive and took pride in the program, and said he had all the equipment and support he needed at the hospital; there is great teamwork between departments; total hip replacements are being done consistently, using an anterior approach, and surgical site infection rate is outstanding.

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There is good news, however. According to Elena Dwyer, PT at Fauquier Health Physical Medicine & Rehabilitation, eating a healthy diet and exercising regularly can help slow or stop the loss of bone mass and help prevent fractures. Here are some steps to take today to prevent or slow osteoporosis in the future.

Get enough calcium, magnesium and vitamin D every day. Most people know that yogurt, milk and cheese offer good sources of calcium, but so do leafy green vegetables like broccoli and kale, almonds, rhubarb, canned salmon or sardines, and figs. Foods high in magnesium include fish, leafy greens, and even dark chocolate. Vitamin D is not as easy to get in your diet, but your body makes vitamin D when you get sunshine on your skin—just another good reason to venture outside and enjoy the spring weather. Take a calcium, magnesium or vitamin D supplement if you are deficient, but don’t take more than you need. Talk to your doctor about the proper dosage for you.

Strengthen your bones with weight-bearing exercises. You don’t need heavy weights or fancy equipment. Body weight exercises are great for preventing bone density loss. Start slow and when you are ready, you can start to make exercises more challenging with dumbbells or resistance bands.

Walking is the best exercise of all. Dwyer said, “Even if you can’t do anything else, you can walk.”

For those who weigh less than 125 pounds, she also suggested a weighted vest to wear while walking.

Stop smoking and limit your alcohol intake.

Smoking and drinking alcohol are risk factors for osteoporosis—just one more reason to give these up.

Talk to your doctor to see if it’s time for a bone density test. Screenings (a bone density test of the hip and spine using a central DXA machine) recommended for women over 65 and men over 70, if they have no other risk factors. Your doctor can determine whether you should be screened earlier.

Improve your balance to prevent falls. Exercises that strengthen your core muscles can help your balance. Take a tai chi or yoga class, or ask your doctor about balance exercises you can do at home.

For patients diagnosed with osteoporosis or osteopenia, Dwyer is certified in The Meeks Method, a comprehensive program designed to prevent, arrest and/or reverse the common patterns of postural change as people age.

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How does your business serve the local community?

My company provides nutraceuticals backed by peerreviewed scientific medical journals. These products promote wellness and fight the effects of aging. The business model I use allows me to educate and mentor people in the aging process.

I have lived in Fauquier County for over 30 years.

What is your favorite season in this area, and why?

When and why did you decide to start your own company?

During my career as a healthcare provider, I developed concerns with conventional treatments, medications, and potential toxicities as we age. There are over 200 possible conditions that can affect how we age and I started my research in nutrigenomics (the study of the effects of foods and supplements on gene expression and how they affect the human genome). This all led me to start my own company, LifeVantage.

Are you from this area?

Please share one of the greatest moments you’ve experienced in your current profession.

When I was working with a family dealing with dementia, the primary caregiver (the daughter) was trying to care for her father. She had so many mixed feelings because her father was an abusive alcoholic but she still wanted to do right by him, and I was able to help her break through her toxic emotions. I witnessed a moving transformation when her father, in a brief moment of lucidity, gave me permission to pray. I saw this man transformed before my eyes. Peace filled the room, and he returned to daughter’s home and lived two more weeks in perfect peace. I will never forget that moment.

Tell us about your experience with the Fauquier Chamber.

How has it supported you in your local business?

Spring–it’s so beautiful here in the Piedmont and the events are plentiful in this season.

I have met and developed a close business relationship with leaders and business owners in my community. This has facilitated a strong base of support and referrals.

Swimming and reading with a nice hot cup of good coffee!

What are the top three business tips and tricks can you offer other professionals?

First, never judge people-don’t form opinions of them too quickly. Always first assume that a person is good until proven otherwise. Second, if you can’t be generous when it’s hard, you won’t be when it’s easy. Third, build relationships in every area of your life, especially in business, by cultivating good communication to prevent misunderstandings.

What are some hobbies you enjoy?

What is your favorite restaurant?

Claire’s at the Depot

What is your favorite local high school sports team?

Liberty Eagles Football and Basketball.

What was your first job, or your most interesting job prior to your current profession?

Working as a nurse’s aide in a private hospital. That is where I realized my gift as a healer. ❖

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Fauquier Health welcomes Dr. Raj Manchandani to the Center for Cancer Care, now a Commission on Cancer Accredited Program.

You can get treatment anywhere, but compassionate, patient-centered care makes a difference. I’m happy to join an excellent team of physicians that know our patients on a personal level.

Raj Manchandani, M.D. Hematology/Oncology

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