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This guy I met online seemed so perfect when we talked on the phone. We then had the perfect date—talking into the wee hours and ending up in bed. Then, poof! He was gone. Not even a return phone call. I’d understand if we’d had a so-so time. But, we had great fun— the most I’ve had in ages. So...was he on a different date than I was...or what?—Slammed
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Here’s a man you could’ve been with forever—if only you’d taken the liberty of cuffing him to the chair in your front room. But, it seemed like the perfect date! Well, maybe his idea of perfection is romancing the hell out of a woman, getting her into bed and getting outta Dodge. Or maybe, he decided to never see you again, but figured he’d see you naked first. You want to believe “This is love!” not “This is yet another guy who wants to get some while his girlfriend’s on business in Boston.” But, because of a common human cognitive error called “confirmation bias,” you’re prone to pay attention to stuff that suggests “We’re meant for each other!” and ignore stuff that suggests he’s thinking “For about five-and-a-half hours.” The human brain is a shifty little critter. Some evolutionary psychologists believe early humans would’ve been paralyzed by a clear picture of harsh (sometimes sabertoothed) reality, so we evolved the ability to shut down information-processing accuracy in the face of scary or ugly. So, you take in information—wow, funny guy...nice Mercedes!...hmmm, 11am and he smells like gin. Your brain arranges the positive stuff in lit glass showcases in the front of your consciousness and dumps what you don’t want to know behind boxes in some dusty storeroom...leaving you shocked when you finally hear “those three little words,” and they’re “That’s All, Folks!” Beyond your brain’s tendency to say “Gee, that’s depressing. I think I’ll believe this instead!” if you’re like many women, finding love isn’t enough; you need a great story behind it: “We were childhood sweethearts, then we never saw each other again— until that day in the Peace Corps when we literally bumped into each other in the jungle.” When your story’s something like “He ‘winked’ at me on AmishMatch.com,” and especially if you’re on the lonely/desperate side, it’s tempting to fab it up with “Love at first sight! We just knew!” As opposed to “We found lots to like but thought we’d get to know each other before calling it more than a consistently good time.” When things get really intense really fast, it can feel like you burned through the entire relationship in a single date. The faster things move, the more likely a guy is to feel you’re just dates away from fitting him with his electronic dog collar. Plus, it’s a downer to a guy if it’s no work to win you—if he immediately has you eating out of his hand like a deer. Now, if you don’t care if you ever see a guy again, and think it’s unlikely he buried his last date behind his garage, go ahead and have sex on the first date. Otherwise, cross your legs for at least a few dates, and swap use of the P word, as in Mr. Perfect, for the other P word, Mr. Perhaps. Look only to have a good time, and you’re less likely to find yourself “On a date with destiny!” while the guy across the table from you is on a date with...wait, is it LuvNLife777 or gurl4u29?
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My boyfriend has a strange fetish: He gets very turned on seeing me in soaking wet blue jeans and likes me to wear them in the tub. My sister says I should dump him and find someone normal. However, he treats me great and sex is great...just add water.—Drenched
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“Just add jellyfish,” and you’ve got a problem. Yeah, it’s a little unusual: “Honey, I’m drawing you a bath. Wanna get dressed?” But, if it doesn’t creep you out or cost you your job, what’s the big deal? You’re consenting adults. It’s not like he’s demanding you hold the cat underwater while he’s filling the tub. In relationships, people do all sorts of things to please their partners: change their religion, drive a hybrid, regrout the bathroom. It’s when the request is sex-related that other people get all eeked out. Frankly, with the crazy letters I get about where people are putting spikes in other people’s bodies, your boyfriend’s fetish is most noteworthy for how G-rated it is. Just go into any sex shop, ask for their rack of pre-shrunk, bootcut Levis and they’ll laugh you out of the place—all the way to that famous sexual fetishwear purveyor, otherwise known as The Gap. < © Amy Alkon, all rights reserved. www.advicegoddess.com. Got a problem? E-mail AdviceAmy@aol.com or write to Amy Alkon, 171 Pier Ave. #280, Santa Monica, CA 90405.
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997 All Other Legals NOTICE OF PETITION TO ADMINISTER ESTATE OF: WYNN WYMAN OLIVER, AKA WYNN OLIVER, WYNN W. OLIVER. Case No. PR-1001328. To all heirs, beneficiaries, creditors, contingent creditors and persons who may otherwise be interested in the will or estate, or both, of WYNN WYMAN OLIVER, AKA WYNN OLIVER, WYNN W. OLIVER. A PETITION FOR PROBATE has been filed by: JANN M. AANESTAD in the Superior Court of California, County of MARIN. THE PETITION FOR PROBATE requests that JANN M. ANESTAD be appointed as personal representative to administer the estate of the decedent. THE PETITION requests authority to administer the estate under the Independent Administration of Estates Act. (This authority will allow the personal representative to take many actions without obtaining court approval. Before taking certain very important actions, however, the personal representative will be required to give notice to interested persons
unless they have waived notice or consented to the proposed action.) The independent administration authority will be granted unless an interested person files an objection to the petition and shows good cause why the court should not grant the authority. A HEARING on the petition will be held in this court as follows: April 19, 2010 at 8:30 a.m. in Dept.: K, Room: K, of the Superior Court of California, Marin County, located at Superior Court of California, County of Marin, 3501 Civic Center Drive, San Rafael, CA. IF YOU OBJECT to the granting of the petition, you should appear at the hearing and state your objections or file written objections with the court before the hearing. Your appearance may be in person or by your attorney. IF YOU ARE A CREDITOR or a contingent creditor of the decedent, you must file your claim with the court and mail a copy to the personal representative appointed by the court within four months from the date of first issuance of letters as provided in section 9100 of the California Probate Code. The time for filing claims will not expire before four months from the hearing date noticed above. YOU MAY EXAMINE the file kept by the court. If you are a person interested in the estate, you may file with the court a Request for Special Notice (form DE-154) of the filing of an inventory and appraisal of estate assets or of any petition or account as provided in Probate Code section 1250. A Request for Special Notice form is available from the court clerk. Attorney for Petitioner: JULIA P. WALD, 1108 FIFTH AVENUE, SUITE 202, SAN RAFAEL, CA 94901. (415) 482-7555. (Publication Dates: March 19, 26; April 2, 2010). NOTICE OF PETITION TO ADMINISTER ESTATE OF: DOROTHY P. KELLY, aka DOROTHY PAIGE KELLY, aka DOROTHY KELLY, aka DOROTHY RITA KELLY, aka DOROTHY R. KELLY. Case No. PR-1001378. To all heirs, beneficiaries, creditors, contingent creditors and persons who may otherwise be interested in the will or estate, or both, of DOROTHY P. KELLY, aka DOROTHY PAIGE KELLY, aka DOROTHY KELLY, aka DOROTHY RITA KELLY, aka DOROTHY R. KELLY. A PETITION FOR PROBATE has been filed by: PETER JOHN KELLY and KEVIN FRANCIS KELLY in the Superior Court of California, County of MARIN. THE PETITION FOR PROBATE requests that PETER JOHN KELLY and KEVIN FRANCIS KELLY be appointed as personal representative to administer the estate of the decedent. THE PETITION requests the decedent’s will and codicils, if any, be admitted to probate. The will and any codicils are available for examination in the file kept by the court. THE PETITION requests authority to administer the estate under the Independent Administration of Estates Act. (This authority will allow the personal representative to take many actions without obtaining court approval. Before taking certain very important actions, however, the personal representative will be required to give notice to interested persons unless they have waived notice or consented to the proposed action.) The independent administration authority will be granted unless an interested person files an objection to the petition and shows good cause why the court should not grant the authority. A HEARING on the petition will be held in this court as follows: April 26, 2010 at 8:30 a.m. in Dept.: K, Room: K, of the Superior Court of California, Marin County, located at Superior Court of California, County of Marin, 3501 Civic Center Drive, San Rafael, CA. IF YOU OBJECT to the granting of the petition, you should appear at the hearing and state your objections or file written objections with the court before the hearing. Your appearance may be in person or by your attorney. IF YOU ARE A CREDITOR or a contingent creditor of the decedent, you must file your claim with the court and mail a copy to the personal representative appointed by the court within four months from the date of first issuance of letters as provided in section 9100 of the California Probate Code. The time for filing claims will not expire before four months from the hearing date noticed above. YOU MAY EXAMINE the file kept by the court. If you are a person interested in the estate, you may file with the court a Request for Special Notice (form DE-154) of the filing of an inventory and appraisal of estate assets or of any petition or account as provided in Probate Code section 1250. A Request for Special Notice form is available from the court clerk. Attorney for Petitioner: TAMARA M. POLLEY, SBN 151738, GIANELLI, POLLEY & HADELL, 27 SOUTH SHEPHERD STREET, SUITE â œAâ ù; PO BOX 458, SONORA, CA 95370, (209) 5332233. (Publication Dates: March 26; April 2, 9, 2010)
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